WEBVTT - When Zac Efron’s Face Polarises The Group Chat

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to a MoMA Mia podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Mamma Mia acknowledges the traditional owners of land and waters

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<v Speaker 2>that this podcast is recorded on Hello and Welcome to

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<v Speaker 2>Mama Mia out Loud. It's what women are actually talking

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<v Speaker 2>about on Monday, the eighth of July.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Holly Wainwright, I'm Mia Friedman.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm Jesse Stevens.

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<v Speaker 2>And on the show today, Mia gave me the challenge

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<v Speaker 2>of making the UK election results interesting and relevant to Australia.

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<v Speaker 2>Watch Me Die Trying. Also, there's a new Nicole Kidman

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<v Speaker 2>movie out, and as usual, everyone's talking about what's been

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<v Speaker 2>done to a face, but it's not her face. And

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<v Speaker 2>what is a high value woman clue? It's a dog whistle.

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<v Speaker 2>Let us explain.

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<v Speaker 4>But first, Jesse, I'm a recovering victim of eyebrow blindness.

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<v Speaker 3>In case you missed it, Apparently we're all experiencing eyebrow blindness,

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<v Speaker 3>coined by TikTok creators as everything is eyebrow blindness for

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<v Speaker 3>to our habit of shaping our eyebrows according to the

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<v Speaker 3>latest trends rather than what actually suits us, meaning that

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<v Speaker 3>we inevitably look back in horror. Essentially even now we

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<v Speaker 3>are blind to whether our eyebrows look good or not

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<v Speaker 3>every now and then. I don't know if you guys

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<v Speaker 3>have experienced this. I feel as though I get a

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<v Speaker 3>moment of clarity where I look in the mirror and

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<v Speaker 3>I go, no, you do look ridiculous. You look ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 3>And I've gone this far because of an Instagram reel

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<v Speaker 3>I watched that told me to fill in my eyebrows

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<v Speaker 3>a lot. I think I'm still a little bit stuck

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<v Speaker 3>on the Kara Delavine moment when we had the really

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<v Speaker 3>bold eyebrows and you brush them up and try and

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<v Speaker 3>give more and more volume. And I remember thinking this too.

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<v Speaker 3>With the eyebrow lamination trend. I saw an influencer do

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<v Speaker 3>it once and I just went, it's two months. We'll

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<v Speaker 3>look back and go, you look ridiculous because you look

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit like you've been electrocuted, because it's all

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<v Speaker 3>up up and like stuck to your face. And it

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<v Speaker 3>happens very very quickly. Do you guys have eyebrow blindness?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm in a full blown eyebrow crisis. So eyebrows are

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<v Speaker 4>not usually something that I notice, but my eyebrows have

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<v Speaker 4>become really sparse and I don't pluck them. I haven't

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<v Speaker 4>pluck them for years, except for you know, the stray

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<v Speaker 4>ones that are going down towards my.

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<v Speaker 1>Eyelashes for a party.

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<v Speaker 4>But I am just finding that they're getting really sparse,

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<v Speaker 4>and so I've been thinking about microblading.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm finding that they.

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<v Speaker 3>Require microblading feels through permanent tattooing.

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<v Speaker 4>It's like semi permanent tattooing, so it basically just draws

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<v Speaker 4>on your eyebrows.

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<v Speaker 1>So you don't have to do everything.

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<v Speaker 2>Cause I don't have eyebrows because I'm fair naturally, my

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<v Speaker 2>eyebrows are invisible, and yet they are the bushiest body

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<v Speaker 2>hair I have. And now that I'm bolding like you

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<v Speaker 2>Mia in my eyebrow department, I'm like one of those

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<v Speaker 2>men who combs over the bolding bits. So I take

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<v Speaker 2>the really long curly ones and I get the eyebrow

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<v Speaker 2>gel and I try to stick it over the bits,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I tend them and I die.

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<v Speaker 5>The lot.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a whole lot of eyebrow comb over.

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<v Speaker 2>A comb over that.

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<v Speaker 3>Is me is a microblading thing. I feel like you'll

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<v Speaker 3>do whatever's trendy now and then in five years when

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<v Speaker 3>no eyebrowses are the cool thing, Holly. I mean, all

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<v Speaker 3>she has to do is not die hers for a minute,

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<v Speaker 3>and she's going to be the coolest person at the party.

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<v Speaker 3>It's true.

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<v Speaker 4>It's why I say to all young women, don't laser

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<v Speaker 4>off all your pubes because when the bush comes back.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you think we have bush blindness?

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<v Speaker 4>Well? No, I think everyone's fairly aware of their bush.

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<v Speaker 4>If I asked you to describe your bush now, like

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<v Speaker 4>I imagine you could do it.

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<v Speaker 3>But are we blind to what actually looks good on

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<v Speaker 3>our particular bush? And are we instead just going with

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<v Speaker 3>the trends?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe?

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't it with your bush? It bore suits your personality

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<v Speaker 2>than your body a little less personality forward, bushes are

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<v Speaker 2>very specific.

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<v Speaker 3>Landing strip still a thing because I think a landing

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<v Speaker 3>strip looking back was very a mustache for your bits

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<v Speaker 3>like you look back, and that was never cool. But

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<v Speaker 3>we did it because I think sex and the City

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<v Speaker 3>told us to.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, the bush won't be able to make a comeback

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<v Speaker 4>when all the gin Z's and millennials have lasered everything

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<v Speaker 4>to oblivion. Then when they all need mercans, maybe I

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<v Speaker 4>need an eyebrown merkin.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I definitely do so if you stammer there thanking

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<v Speaker 2>and greeting the supporters, the beaming smile as he shakes hands.

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<v Speaker 6>I have just returned from Buckingham Palace, where I accepted

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<v Speaker 6>an invitation from His Majesty the King to form the

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<v Speaker 6>next government of this great nation.

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<v Speaker 2>The UK has a new Prime minister and nobody cares

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<v Speaker 2>at all. At least that's what Mia told me in

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<v Speaker 2>our funning meeting this morning. But it's so relevant and

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<v Speaker 2>so interesting and so canarian a coal mine. I said,

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<v Speaker 2>we're going to have an election here next year.

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<v Speaker 4>I said, Look, and I said, I am so deep

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<v Speaker 4>in panic and rage the US election. I don't have

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<v Speaker 4>time to care about the elections in other countries that

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<v Speaker 4>I also don't live in.

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<v Speaker 2>But this is why you need to write. Because we're

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<v Speaker 2>having an election next year. France is having one right now,

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<v Speaker 2>America's having one. Politics is sexy at the moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I would say politics is drunk and it needs

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<v Speaker 1>to go hard.

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<v Speaker 2>That is also true, and that's why when I was

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<v Speaker 2>telling you this, she just started taking pictures of the

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<v Speaker 2>cuff of Jesse's jeans and jangling her shoe jewelry. I

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<v Speaker 2>was so good here are my three attempts to get

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<v Speaker 2>mea to care about international politics and by extension, everybody else.

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<v Speaker 3>I will give you one point to start with, which

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<v Speaker 3>is that I keep reading this stat that almost half

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<v Speaker 3>of the world's population is going to the polls this

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<v Speaker 3>year twenty twenty four. Watershed moment will change the course

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<v Speaker 3>of history. Because of how many elections are happening, we

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<v Speaker 3>should be keeping a closer It.

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<v Speaker 2>Makes me terrify a close eye. Okay, first thing, although

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<v Speaker 2>Kirstarmer and Labor did win a massive landslide victory, the

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<v Speaker 2>shit skirt, which is the analogy we invented when Theresa

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<v Speaker 2>May got that job a long time ago, and basically

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<v Speaker 2>means that yes, you win, but you end up wearing

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<v Speaker 2>a whole lot of stinky mess that the other people

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<v Speaker 2>left behind is definitely what Kia is going to be

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<v Speaker 2>modeling this season, because Britain is still in a right

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<v Speaker 2>mess and the Tories might have a very long way back.

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<v Speaker 2>But he's got a lot to do for me.

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<v Speaker 3>Here.

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<v Speaker 2>Kiir Sarma, they said he ran a ming var's campaign,

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<v Speaker 2>meaning like fragile, don't touch it, like it just low target,

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<v Speaker 2>small target, don't look at me. Let's just stand here

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<v Speaker 2>and let the others just lose it.

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<v Speaker 3>And then we discussed last week that he has Friday

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<v Speaker 3>nights off.

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<v Speaker 2>And he has Friday nights off, etc. Anyway, he and

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<v Speaker 2>his party, the Labor Party, won a historic four hundred

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<v Speaker 2>and twelve seats, which is a lot more than they needed.

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<v Speaker 2>So greedy. But also when you consider that the Tories,

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<v Speaker 2>who were the party who had been in power and

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<v Speaker 2>they're the next major party, only won one hundred and

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<v Speaker 2>twenty one seats.

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<v Speaker 4>Why were people so angry with them? Apart from you know,

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<v Speaker 4>Boris Johnson.

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<v Speaker 2>Which was because they'd had fourteen years in power and

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<v Speaker 2>Britain is in a terrible state, remember that whole Brexit situation.

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<v Speaker 2>M He's in the toilet, a whole lot of stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>public services are failing. So on the surface it looks

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<v Speaker 2>like wow, amazing, right, Keir Starmer and the Labor Party

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<v Speaker 2>killed it. But only fifty nine percent of the people

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<v Speaker 2>eligible to vote voted, so it's not compulsory. Almost half

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<v Speaker 2>of the people who could vote in Britain just went

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<v Speaker 2>neither of these two thanks, and of those people who did,

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<v Speaker 2>only thirty four percent of them actually voted for Labor.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just that the way that the electoral system vote

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<v Speaker 2>works there, which I won't tell you about because please

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<v Speaker 2>don't stab me with her cake knife necklace. There's just

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<v Speaker 2>a general apathy summed up by this.

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<v Speaker 5>Dude serious invob I mean you put another pickhead in

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<v Speaker 5>charge with a great smiley space when he's one life wrilliant.

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<v Speaker 5>But for a year we're back to pits por agan

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<v Speaker 5>I mean serious hipov And honestly it's a joke. It's

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<v Speaker 5>a fing joke. So like I said, you see ai Lot, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>who would have win the votes get the Ai Lot

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<v Speaker 5>to run the country.

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<v Speaker 2>This ardly points to the point that we've got it

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<v Speaker 2>right with forcing people to vote here, because you end

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<v Speaker 2>up with a more representative result. Let's free will. That's

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<v Speaker 2>the takeaway. Number two. Holly Valance had a good night?

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<v Speaker 3>Did she?

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<v Speaker 2>She did?

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<v Speaker 3>I would have thought she was the poster girl for

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<v Speaker 3>the he had a good night.

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<v Speaker 2>So we talked a while ago about how one of

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<v Speaker 2>the biggest movers and shakers in UK right wing politics

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<v Speaker 2>used to be a literal mover and shaker from the

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<v Speaker 2>two thousand and two banger Kiss Kiss also Melbane's own Flicksculli. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>she gave the Reform UK Party a massive check and

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<v Speaker 2>then helped them to raise another one point five million

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<v Speaker 2>pounds to bring Nigel Farage back from America where he

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<v Speaker 2>was running around like picking up after Donald Trump because

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<v Speaker 2>he was the Brexit guy I remember, although he's never

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<v Speaker 2>actually been a member of parliament in Britain. They got

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<v Speaker 2>him to come back. We talked about this on the

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<v Speaker 2>show a while ago. Come back oust the leader of

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<v Speaker 2>the Reform Party, which is the sort of ozim getting

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<v Speaker 2>bored far right party.

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<v Speaker 3>No I care about this because I've heard his name.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot and stand so Holly is a massive fan

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<v Speaker 2>of Nigel's and she raised all the money to get

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<v Speaker 2>them to do it. So Reform UK are like a

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<v Speaker 2>Brexit party, but now that they can't blame Europe for

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<v Speaker 2>everything anymore, they're a bit unsure of who to blame.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's definitely the immigrants, so that she'd right, they're

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<v Speaker 2>hard right. She also held a big fancy fundraiser for

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<v Speaker 2>Donald Trump in London last week and raised lots of

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<v Speaker 2>money for him too, which is nice anyway. The point being,

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<v Speaker 2>with Holly's help, Reform only won four seats, but the

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<v Speaker 2>reason that you're seeing them everywhere is because Farage got

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<v Speaker 2>voted into Parliament for the first time, which means that

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<v Speaker 2>in there he can hassle and effect change. And because

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<v Speaker 2>of the aforementioned voting system that I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 2>go into. Are about four million people voted for them.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a lot by people, right, So now that they're

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<v Speaker 2>free to organize influence from the inside, the big fear is, well,

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<v Speaker 2>it depends on way. It might not be a fear.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not a fear for Holly.

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<v Speaker 4>We're not going to have to do deals like Labor's

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<v Speaker 4>not going to have to do deals with them if

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<v Speaker 4>they've got a massive.

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<v Speaker 2>Not what they're worried about. What people are worried about

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<v Speaker 2>is that Farag's point and Reform UK's point is that

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<v Speaker 2>they're going to infiltrate the Tories and take it over

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<v Speaker 2>so they will become like.

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<v Speaker 1>Donald Trump has with the Republic of Party.

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<v Speaker 2>So basically Labor would have to do deals with anyone.

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<v Speaker 2>As you say, they've got massive majority, but it validates them,

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<v Speaker 2>It brings them into Parliament where they weren't before, and

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<v Speaker 2>it means that they can start influencing the Tories because

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<v Speaker 2>the Tories, who are all going we've all just lost

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<v Speaker 2>our seats.

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<v Speaker 1>I see, what are we going to do?

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<v Speaker 2>Where's the future?

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<v Speaker 1>It's over here, apparently it's over here on the hard right.

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<v Speaker 2>And very like what happened at the Australian election when

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of the more sort of centrist and liberal

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<v Speaker 2>Liberals lost their seats to teals, that's kind of what's

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<v Speaker 2>happened at the UK election, which brings me to the

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<v Speaker 2>third point, which is remember when we used to only

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<v Speaker 2>have like three TV channels or four TV channels and

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<v Speaker 2>now we have a bitch of million. Yeah, that's what

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<v Speaker 2>politics like. I reckon, there's going to be a time

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<v Speaker 2>when we were going to go Can you remember how

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<v Speaker 2>we just used to have to choose from these two

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<v Speaker 2>big parties. Because what happened in Britain, even though it

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<v Speaker 2>looks on the surface again like a landslide, the independence

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<v Speaker 2>and the smaller parties cleaned up, so the Libdems who

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<v Speaker 2>are like their third party, So think of like the Democrats.

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<v Speaker 2>Right when the Democrats were a thing in Australia, they

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<v Speaker 2>won seventy one seats as in seventy one more than

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<v Speaker 2>they had in the last election. They cleaned up in

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<v Speaker 2>the South of England, like all the Tory voters who

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<v Speaker 2>couldn't bring themselves to vote conservative anymore. They're not the

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<v Speaker 2>far right people who wanted to vote for Farach, so

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<v Speaker 2>they got all of those people.

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<v Speaker 3>So what you're.

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<v Speaker 4>Saying is that the old two party system is sort

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<v Speaker 4>of collapsing everywhere in the world. I mean, we're seeing

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<v Speaker 4>over the weekend in France as well. People thought that

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<v Speaker 4>it was going to go far right, but now there's

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<v Speaker 4>been a coalition among the Greens and the left and

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<v Speaker 4>it looks like maybe.

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<v Speaker 1>They'll take power. People don't want that binary choice anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>Just like we want more tvgions.

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<v Speaker 1>What will personalization curate everything curation?

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<v Speaker 3>I was reading that the same thing is a threat

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<v Speaker 3>to Biden in the US in terms of the people

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<v Speaker 3>who might vote for him are instead looking at other

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<v Speaker 3>parties the more represent their interests.

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<v Speaker 4>That's not the way the US election works so much

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<v Speaker 4>in that third party candidates have always split the vote

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<v Speaker 4>depending on where we get left right. I think the

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<v Speaker 4>biggest problem in the US is what old Mates said

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<v Speaker 4>in the beginning, which is just that disaffected politics is broken.

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<v Speaker 4>If we've got two elderly men, one is a liar

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<v Speaker 4>and one is not fit for office, anymore clearly, how

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<v Speaker 4>is our system so broken?

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<v Speaker 1>And why should I vote for either of them?

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<v Speaker 3>So that speaks to two trends that I've kind of

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<v Speaker 3>noticed a lot of analysis about lately. The first is

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<v Speaker 3>Ezra Kline, who is one of my favorite political commentators,

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<v Speaker 3>says that the big divide isn't between left and right,

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<v Speaker 3>it's between people who are interested in politics and people

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<v Speaker 3>who aren't. So what we heard in that clip is

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<v Speaker 3>that there is this disaffected majority who won't vote, who

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<v Speaker 3>don't feel represented by anyone, who were just tapping out.

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<v Speaker 3>And then almost the laughter of the journalist represented the

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<v Speaker 3>other class, which is this you know, often portrayed as

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<v Speaker 3>almost an intellectual elite who were kind of fighting at

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<v Speaker 3>the top, where it's like the average person doesn't give

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<v Speaker 3>a shit about this because they don't have their capacity.

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<v Speaker 3>Their lives are full and complicated and this is just

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<v Speaker 3>not at the top of their priorities.

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<v Speaker 2>Also explains why the average person who doesn't give a

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<v Speaker 2>shit about politics, isn't watching insiders, isn't reading the political

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<v Speaker 2>analysis and all that stuff on the ABC will generally

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<v Speaker 2>tune into politics about two weeks before they have to vote,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe a month generously, and then they're just looking around

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<v Speaker 2>for like what's what right. And one of the things

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<v Speaker 2>that was interesting after the UK election, which you know

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<v Speaker 2>had been hailed as this big historic shift, is that

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<v Speaker 2>the most memorable moments from the campaign were all gaffes,

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<v Speaker 2>like memes, the moment of Rishi Sunak, you know, announcing

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<v Speaker 2>the election in the rain that we talked about on

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<v Speaker 2>the show. The Lib Dems, thellier decided to be like

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<v Speaker 2>Boris Johnson and just do lots of crazy stunts. So

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<v Speaker 2>it's like bungee jumping off shit and you know, sort

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<v Speaker 2>of paddle boarding on the Thames and anything that gets

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<v Speaker 2>the cameras gets the memification going. Because most people, as

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<v Speaker 2>you say, Jesse, who are just kind of like whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>These people are all idiots as far as I can see,

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<v Speaker 2>are just tuning in at the last minute and looking

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<v Speaker 2>for color and movement, and that is the game you

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<v Speaker 2>got to play now that I think had also this

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<v Speaker 2>real fragmentation which we're also seeing here in Australia of

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<v Speaker 2>like the broad churches so called of the left and

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<v Speaker 2>the right aren't broad enough now. We want them more fragmented,

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<v Speaker 2>more small and more personalized.

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<v Speaker 4>We saw that with Fatima Payman in Australia last week,

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<v Speaker 4>where she was part of the Labor government. She didn't

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<v Speaker 4>agree with their policy on Gaza and on Israel, so

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<v Speaker 4>she left the party and is now an independent.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's interesting because.

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<v Speaker 4>Political parties used to always be, as you say, wholly

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<v Speaker 4>a broad church, and there would be things that you

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<v Speaker 4>would agree with in things that you wouldn't. For example,

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<v Speaker 4>when Penny Wong was part of the ALP and the

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<v Speaker 4>official was against marriage equality and at the time, and

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<v Speaker 4>as a gay woman, that was obviously very difficult for

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<v Speaker 4>her personally, but she understood that as part of the

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<v Speaker 4>party you have to back the party's position. Now it's

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<v Speaker 4>not like that in every political party. Some parties in

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<v Speaker 4>Australia let you cross the floor. The Liberals are more

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<v Speaker 4>relaxed about it. In the ALP they're not. And there's

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of talk about whether with this more fragmented

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<v Speaker 4>niche approach of both voters and MPs, is politics splintering and.

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<v Speaker 3>A focus on true representation and diversity in politics actually

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<v Speaker 3>having people who represent the electorate, whereas you know, not

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<v Speaker 3>that long ago it was only white men, so it

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<v Speaker 3>might have been easier to reach a consensus because they

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<v Speaker 3>weren't even attempting to represent the entire election.

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<v Speaker 2>This is why people get so disaffected though, Right, is

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<v Speaker 2>that in order to reach a consensus, that's often why

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing deals. Right, So you're saying, if you will

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<v Speaker 2>back us on this, then I'll give you a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of that. And you know, we see that in

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<v Speaker 2>American politics all the time when actually Congress kinds of

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<v Speaker 2>gets locked and can't move anymore, gets paralyzed by its

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<v Speaker 2>deal making and it's giving too much and taking too much.

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<v Speaker 2>And the thing is is that it's very hard to

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<v Speaker 2>reach consensus if you're not going to stand behind a

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<v Speaker 2>party line and say I'm always going to be true

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<v Speaker 2>to my values, which is absolutely admirable, and we all

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<v Speaker 2>know we live in a more personal, brand, values driven world.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you get big movements happening and get change

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<v Speaker 2>across the line?

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<v Speaker 3>I read this analysis that it's not the job of

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<v Speaker 3>the politician to generate favorability anymore, but to cast the

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<v Speaker 3>other in a negative light, which goes to Joe Biden

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<v Speaker 3>and Trump. I wonder if that is Biden's only strategy.

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<v Speaker 3>Give Donald Trump enough room and he'll kind of be

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<v Speaker 3>responsible for enough gaffs that he won't even have to

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<v Speaker 3>be favorably.

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<v Speaker 4>It's actually the opposite. That's exactly what Donald Trump's doing.

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<v Speaker 4>He's actually been very quiet since the debate, and now

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<v Speaker 4>all everybody's talking about is not all the lies that

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<v Speaker 4>Donald Trump told, the fact that he's a convicted fell

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<v Speaker 4>and a lunatic. They're talking about Biden and this is

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<v Speaker 4>the problem. And as we record this, he's still the

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<v Speaker 4>candidate and refuses to step down. Now the rest of

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<v Speaker 4>the campaign, all the oxygen is going to be about

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<v Speaker 4>whether Biden's fit for office, which is hilarious given that

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<v Speaker 4>he's running against the truck.

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<v Speaker 3>He knows how to use a news cycle. And the

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<v Speaker 3>prolonged result of this, I suppose digital media has been

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<v Speaker 3>fifteen twenty years clickbait, headlines, anger, all of those things

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<v Speaker 3>happens with an algorithm, means that this negative political environment.

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<v Speaker 3>The result of that is that we've just lost faith

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<v Speaker 3>in the political process and no one wants to vote.

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<v Speaker 3>That's how we end up, which is quite sad. Our

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<v Speaker 3>News podcast The Quickie is going to talk more about

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<v Speaker 3>the French election on Wednesday, after the polls have closed

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<v Speaker 3>and we have all the results. Claire Murphy will explain

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<v Speaker 3>how all of this will tie into the Olympics, which

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<v Speaker 3>is being held in Paris starts this month.

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<v Speaker 2>This is madness.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, yeah, this is your mom and your boss.

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<v Speaker 1>Who you hate.

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<v Speaker 3>It's weird mom. Over the weekend, I found myself having

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<v Speaker 3>several arguments about one man's face. You might have seen

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<v Speaker 3>a new movie on Netflix called A Family Affair, starring

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<v Speaker 3>Nicole Kidman, Joey King, and Zac Efron. And while women's

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<v Speaker 3>faces are often the subject of much speculation and chatter,

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<v Speaker 3>and I must say, in this film, Nicole Kidman's face

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<v Speaker 3>has come up, but we're going to leave that to

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<v Speaker 3>the side this time. It's thirty six year old Efron's

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<v Speaker 3>appearance that has attracted a great deal of commentary. Here's

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<v Speaker 3>what the Internet is saying. Netflix fans all have the

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<v Speaker 3>same complaint about the new Nicole Kidman and Zac Efron movie.

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<v Speaker 3>Fans alarmed by zac Efron's face, zac Efron fans confused

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<v Speaker 3>by dramatic transformation, and so on. So if you haven't

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<v Speaker 3>seen Efron lately, we've posted a picture on the mummea

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<v Speaker 3>out loud in Instagram. But the shape of his jaw

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<v Speaker 3>has changed considerably and his lips his.

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<v Speaker 2>Whole face and his forehead and his eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>He looks like David Hazelhoff.

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<v Speaker 4>Now.

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<v Speaker 3>While fans were asking what Efron did to his beautiful face,

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<v Speaker 3>a story resurfaced about an accident Efron had more than

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<v Speaker 3>ten years ago. In twenty thirteen. Efron says he was

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<v Speaker 3>running through his house in socks and he slipped, hitting

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<v Speaker 3>his chin on a granite fountain.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so much to unpack just about the statement.

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<v Speaker 3>Why you've never tripped on her granite house?

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<v Speaker 2>Celebrity house problem.

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<v Speaker 3>He was rendered unconscious and when he woke up, his

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<v Speaker 3>chin was, to quote Efron, hanging off his face. Following

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<v Speaker 3>the incident, his massacres, which are the muscles located on

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<v Speaker 3>each side of your jaw, just grew. He was meant

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<v Speaker 3>to be having like Phisio to sort it out, but

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<v Speaker 3>then he had to go and shoot something and it

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<v Speaker 3>got interrupted and he said, they got really, really big.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's a thing.

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<v Speaker 3>He told Men's Health magazines.

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<v Speaker 1>Apparently I'm a doctor, and I think that's a lie.

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<v Speaker 3>Injury was really serious, and he nearly died afterwards. He

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<v Speaker 3>also had no idea that people were talking about his

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<v Speaker 3>face until his mother alerted him to it.

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<v Speaker 4>He had said, no idea, like a completely different person.

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<v Speaker 3>If I valued what other people thought of me to

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<v Speaker 3>the extent that they may think I do, I definitely

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<v Speaker 3>wouldn't be able to do this.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do people gasolate us like you do?

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<v Speaker 4>You want to your face, but don't make up silly

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<v Speaker 4>stories or tell us it's not what we sell I do.

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<v Speaker 3>So he has had an accident, you can see he

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<v Speaker 3>was in I've got a.

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<v Speaker 4>Little scar under my chin and from what I had

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<v Speaker 4>fell off my trike when I was five.

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<v Speaker 3>So I have friends who you know, have been in

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<v Speaker 3>an accident or have a scar, or have had health

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<v Speaker 3>issues that mean that they look different.

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<v Speaker 1>Completely reconstructed facial surgery.

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<v Speaker 3>I know one person who did, and I remember she'd

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<v Speaker 3>been in a car accident and she'd had quite serious,

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<v Speaker 3>like reconstructive surgery, And the comments were one of the

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<v Speaker 3>hardest things, because you actually do need plastic surgery because

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<v Speaker 3>of what happened. It just felt like everyone had the

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<v Speaker 3>right to comment on how her face had And this

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<v Speaker 3>is exactly the same rhetoric we've seen around Efron is

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<v Speaker 3>like you've messed up your face, as though you own it.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I understand that he's a movie star and that

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<v Speaker 3>we watch him for two hours, so you're gonna have

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<v Speaker 3>some thoughts. But if we take his word for it

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<v Speaker 3>for a moment and go, you had an injury where

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<v Speaker 3>you nearly died ten years ago. The story is that

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<v Speaker 3>he wasn't seen in public for a really long time

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<v Speaker 3>because he was really upset.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I always see him. No, there wasn't in Australia

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<v Speaker 2>for a hundred years and I saw him every day

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<v Speaker 2>with his nice girl friend from Byron.

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<v Speaker 4>Different and that was only a few years ago, and

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<v Speaker 4>he looks different again since then.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, the story though with physio, if he didn't do

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<v Speaker 3>that properly, and if he's saying that the muscles grow

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<v Speaker 3>and grew, then the idea would be that he's.

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<v Speaker 4>Muscles don't just grow and grow like they don't just go, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>you know what, my biceps and my triceps and my pecs.

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<v Speaker 4>Because have you seen Zacha Fron lately? He used to

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<v Speaker 4>be like a not like a rodent boyfriend, but like

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<v Speaker 4>a you know, a light guy in high school, musical

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<v Speaker 4>sweet looking guy, but not like muscly leading man, alpha,

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<v Speaker 4>Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt, George Clooney kind of not that

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<v Speaker 4>vibe and now he is that vibe.

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<v Speaker 3>And he appeared in The Iron Claw, so that was

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<v Speaker 3>another thing. It's not marveled on a lot of he

0:22:31.007 --> 0:22:33.447
<v Speaker 3>looks like he's wearing a Marvel movie. He's like, now, Chris,

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<v Speaker 3>hem'sworth that kind of body. So that can also change

0:22:37.367 --> 0:22:39.607
<v Speaker 3>the way that your face appears, right, Like your muscle mass,

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<v Speaker 3>your weight, all of that can change how your face appears.

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<v Speaker 3>But what I want to know is do we all

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<v Speaker 3>need to leave the man alone. He's got his story,

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<v Speaker 3>He's told us his story. What doesn't matter what we

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<v Speaker 3>think about his story.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's the tricky bit, right because I am a bleeding heart.

0:22:53.327 --> 0:22:57.127
<v Speaker 2>I'm like pau Zac. Whether it's true or not about

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<v Speaker 2>the jaw, I don't really care. There is no question

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<v Speaker 2>that his face has changed. And the thing is is

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<v Speaker 2>Mia said last week, because we're talking about watching this

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<v Speaker 2>film and I was like, can't wait to watch it,

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<v Speaker 2>and she said, he looks like he's been created by

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<v Speaker 2>AI and is exactly what he looks like. It's entirely

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<v Speaker 2>up to him what he wants to do to his face,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's entirely up to him what story he wants

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<v Speaker 2>to tell us about it. The reason everyone's talking about

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<v Speaker 2>it is because it's very distracting, and it's not good

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<v Speaker 2>for movies, for acting, for careers to not be able

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<v Speaker 2>to see a human when you're looking at the screen.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's really.

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<v Speaker 4>Difficult because of course men are also subject to beauty standards,

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<v Speaker 4>and anyone in Hollywood, my heart goes out to them

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<v Speaker 4>in terms of how hard it must be to be

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<v Speaker 4>scrutinized in that way and have your face and body

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<v Speaker 4>talked about.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a shame. That's difficult.

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<v Speaker 4>There's other difficult things that other people have to deal

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<v Speaker 4>with in other professions. But what I think this is

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<v Speaker 4>and what I push back on, is when we are

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<v Speaker 4>being gas lit and told there's nothing to see here.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a little bit like Joe Biden's saying, God, she

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<v Speaker 4>is so up, a little bit like Joe Biden's saying

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<v Speaker 4>I've just had a bad night.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm fine, I'm fine, I'm fine. It's actually it's not fine.

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<v Speaker 3>Zac Efron isn't saying there's nothing to see here. He's

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<v Speaker 3>saying there is something to see here.

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<v Speaker 4>This comes back to we're not comfortable with people being

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<v Speaker 4>honest and saying I had all this surgery because I

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<v Speaker 4>didn't like the way I looked, or I wanted to

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<v Speaker 4>get different roles, or I was trying to look more.

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<v Speaker 3>Like especially from a man, Christ's no way I'm mad

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<v Speaker 3>for anyone.

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<v Speaker 4>Like women can't say it either, Like every Kardashian has

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<v Speaker 4>had to go I did nothing to my face, and

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<v Speaker 4>other actresses have said I just used sunscreen, and j

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<v Speaker 4>Lo says, I just use olive oil, and it's like,

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<v Speaker 4>come on, and the reason that we push back and

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<v Speaker 4>I think that we get angry, and it's a shame

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<v Speaker 4>that that anger is at that individual. It's more stop

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<v Speaker 4>treating us like we're idiots, because it's not just his

0:24:46.527 --> 0:24:49.407
<v Speaker 4>jawline that's different. It's his lips, it's his eyes, it's

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<v Speaker 4>his forehead, it's his hairline, it's his body, it's everything,

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<v Speaker 4>like it didn't all crash into the fountain.

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<v Speaker 3>I think we can criticize a performance and ultimately, you

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<v Speaker 3>know where the consumers and the reviewers and we can

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<v Speaker 3>say whether we liked that film or whether we thought

0:25:02.967 --> 0:25:08.327
<v Speaker 3>the performance was believable. But trolling people and saying what's.

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<v Speaker 1>The difference between troll and saying.

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<v Speaker 3>Abstrawed Parkward and saying like that's cruel.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree with that's incredibly cruel. That's incredibly cruel.

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<v Speaker 4>I agree, But how much of this is a recalibration

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<v Speaker 4>where it's a bit the m prisoner closed where we're going, Hey,

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<v Speaker 4>we can see this.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's me.

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<v Speaker 3>Doing that lately. We've been doing this. We did it

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<v Speaker 3>to Amy Schumer. I say that we as in like

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<v Speaker 3>the culture, because this is what all the websites do.

0:25:36.887 --> 0:25:39.487
<v Speaker 3>Fans say Amy Schumer looks different, and then they just

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<v Speaker 3>post a whole lot of horrible stuff. And she came

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<v Speaker 3>out and said, actually, I have a health issue which

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<v Speaker 3>has changed the shape of my face. We did it

0:25:46.527 --> 0:25:49.207
<v Speaker 3>to Christina Applegate who came out and said, actually, I

0:25:49.247 --> 0:25:51.007
<v Speaker 3>have MS and it has changed the shape of my

0:25:51.047 --> 0:25:53.407
<v Speaker 3>face and I have put on weight and things have changed.

0:25:54.207 --> 0:25:56.887
<v Speaker 3>Like how many times does that need to happen? Do

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<v Speaker 3>we need a medical certificate?

0:25:58.767 --> 0:25:58.847
<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 3>Or can they just put up a flag and go, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>stop commenting on my appearance. I've got a story.

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<v Speaker 4>We will always comment on the appearance of people who

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<v Speaker 4>were paid for what they look like. I mean, and

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<v Speaker 4>I think we also call bullshit on this idea that

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<v Speaker 4>remember when Jennifer Aniston or I can't remember what celebrity was.

0:26:14.607 --> 0:26:16.167
<v Speaker 4>I think it was her, But a lot of celebrities

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<v Speaker 4>who've clearly got different noses say I had to have

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<v Speaker 4>it corrected for a deviated septum. I know people who

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<v Speaker 4>had deviated septums, yes, Or Tory Spelling who said that

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<v Speaker 4>she had a different nose because she got attacked on

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<v Speaker 4>the nose by her pet parrot.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, guys, come on.

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<v Speaker 3>What do we do once they tell us that? Because

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<v Speaker 3>when I was in primary school, there was a kid,

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<v Speaker 3>a young boy who had really bushy eyebrows, right, and

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<v Speaker 3>he came to school one day and he pretty much

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<v Speaker 3>shaped them off. Everyone gave him a really hard time, right,

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<v Speaker 3>and he said, I stepped on my razor in the

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<v Speaker 3>shower and it flipped up. So every kid has a

0:26:49.727 --> 0:26:52.447
<v Speaker 3>choice in that moment to look at that kid and go,

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<v Speaker 3>do I keep pushing you and making fun of you,

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<v Speaker 3>or do I just move on? Because clearly there's some pain.

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<v Speaker 3>We move already there and then we move on. And

0:27:02.167 --> 0:27:02.767
<v Speaker 3>that's my point.

0:27:02.927 --> 0:27:04.967
<v Speaker 2>But my concern is, because I agree we move on.

0:27:05.007 --> 0:27:08.967
<v Speaker 2>If jack Efron jack Efron Zach Cafron wants to tell

0:27:09.007 --> 0:27:11.567
<v Speaker 2>us about his jaw and his fountain. That's fine with me.

0:27:11.807 --> 0:27:15.447
<v Speaker 2>My concern is more, we're going to get so used

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<v Speaker 2>to seeing people only people who look like they have

0:27:19.687 --> 0:27:25.887
<v Speaker 2>been generated by a mixture of digital retouching surgery AI.

0:27:26.087 --> 0:27:28.487
<v Speaker 2>I mean, my daughters showed me AI imagery of celebrities

0:27:28.487 --> 0:27:30.607
<v Speaker 2>all the time that isn't real, like some celebrity doing

0:27:30.607 --> 0:27:32.567
<v Speaker 2>some TikTok dance and all those things, and you're looking

0:27:32.607 --> 0:27:35.087
<v Speaker 2>and looking for the clues. Right, We're going to get

0:27:35.127 --> 0:27:38.567
<v Speaker 2>so used to it that it entirely desensitizes us to

0:27:38.607 --> 0:27:41.167
<v Speaker 2>what real faces look like and what real emotions look like.

0:27:41.207 --> 0:27:43.927
<v Speaker 2>And I know that's like a spectrum of an argument

0:27:43.927 --> 0:27:46.047
<v Speaker 2>that's been going on since the first needle went into

0:27:46.087 --> 0:27:49.847
<v Speaker 2>somebody's face. But I'm more concerned about that. I'm all

0:27:49.887 --> 0:27:52.567
<v Speaker 2>for zac Efron having his privacy, having his own reasons

0:27:52.607 --> 0:27:55.047
<v Speaker 2>why he wants to look the way he looks and

0:27:55.087 --> 0:27:57.207
<v Speaker 2>what he wants to tell us about it. But watching

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<v Speaker 2>that film and thinking that we were supposed.

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<v Speaker 4>To be pretending that he didn't it was so I

0:28:01.767 --> 0:28:05.727
<v Speaker 4>think you named the word whole, which is distracting. It's

0:28:05.887 --> 0:28:09.407
<v Speaker 4>really really distracting. And I find this all the time

0:28:09.487 --> 0:28:12.367
<v Speaker 4>when I'm watching, particularly women of a certain age and

0:28:12.407 --> 0:28:13.647
<v Speaker 4>the technology.

0:28:13.087 --> 0:28:14.967
<v Speaker 1>That's used, plus the surgery that they've had.

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<v Speaker 4>I find it really really distracting, and I can't watch

0:28:18.687 --> 0:28:20.567
<v Speaker 4>these films because it looks like they're not human.

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<v Speaker 2>If the movie's got enough, you sort of shel it

0:28:22.807 --> 0:28:24.567
<v Speaker 2>and you get past it. So the first ten minutes

0:28:24.567 --> 0:28:27.367
<v Speaker 2>of this movie, I was like, whoa, we're in a

0:28:27.407 --> 0:28:30.047
<v Speaker 2>new world here. And then I sort of went, Okay,

0:28:30.087 --> 0:28:32.087
<v Speaker 2>shut up, Polly, Like you're telling yourself to shut up

0:28:32.127 --> 0:28:34.687
<v Speaker 2>and start investing in the show. If we're not even

0:28:34.727 --> 0:28:36.887
<v Speaker 2>allowed to call it out a little bit, it just

0:28:36.927 --> 0:28:39.487
<v Speaker 2>feels that we're as fake as that image on the screen.

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<v Speaker 3>Out Louders jump into the Mumma out Louders Facebook group

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<v Speaker 3>and tell us what you think. Have you watched the movie?

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<v Speaker 3>Did you notice and do you reckon that we just

0:28:47.727 --> 0:28:49.487
<v Speaker 3>accept the story and move on. Yes, yes we do.

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<v Speaker 2>Out Louders.

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<v Speaker 7>A woman that has value is not going to put

0:29:13.247 --> 0:29:15.047
<v Speaker 7>herself on the Internet for any man to just be

0:29:15.087 --> 0:29:16.927
<v Speaker 7>able to comment and say, oh, you're beautiful or this

0:29:16.967 --> 0:29:20.367
<v Speaker 7>year that them compliments don't flatter her, they don't make her.

0:29:20.487 --> 0:29:23.487
<v Speaker 7>Because she values herself hired than what men think of her.

0:29:23.807 --> 0:29:25.607
<v Speaker 7>She rates herself high value.

0:29:25.647 --> 0:29:31.887
<v Speaker 5>Woman does this, she prioritizes this compatibility over a chemistry.

0:29:32.447 --> 0:29:34.447
<v Speaker 5>I'm not a woman, but if I was a woman,

0:29:34.487 --> 0:29:36.567
<v Speaker 5>I'm not paying out a restaurant. I'm not choosing word

0:29:36.607 --> 0:29:37.087
<v Speaker 5>to go eat.

0:29:37.207 --> 0:29:39.527
<v Speaker 6>I'm not making the plans for the evening. If I

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<v Speaker 6>was a woman, I would.

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<v Speaker 3>The man the man that I be treated like a queen.

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<v Speaker 4>Earlier this year, a global study found that one generation

0:29:49.207 --> 0:29:52.407
<v Speaker 4>of men more than any other, thinks that feminism has

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<v Speaker 4>gone too far. If I asked you to guess, you

0:29:55.287 --> 0:29:57.687
<v Speaker 4>might think it was boomer men who might be nostalgic

0:29:57.727 --> 0:29:59.687
<v Speaker 4>for the days when you could pinch your waitress on

0:29:59.727 --> 0:30:02.727
<v Speaker 4>the bum and ask your female co worker to make

0:30:02.767 --> 0:30:05.407
<v Speaker 4>you a cup of tea oe for good days. But

0:30:05.487 --> 0:30:08.207
<v Speaker 4>it's actually not boomer men. It's jen Z men who

0:30:08.207 --> 0:30:10.527
<v Speaker 4>are pushing back the hardest. Sixty percent of young men

0:30:10.567 --> 0:30:14.287
<v Speaker 4>believe that the push for women's equality discriminated against men

0:30:14.407 --> 0:30:16.687
<v Speaker 4>and that life will be harder for men than women

0:30:17.127 --> 0:30:20.807
<v Speaker 4>twenty years from now. And it's interesting because these are

0:30:20.847 --> 0:30:23.287
<v Speaker 4>the guys that are growing up with me Too and

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<v Speaker 4>Australia's first female Prime minister and the coverage of domestic

0:30:27.327 --> 0:30:32.607
<v Speaker 4>violence protests. But they are the same guys that are

0:30:32.727 --> 0:30:36.807
<v Speaker 4>being attracted to misogynists like Andrew Tate, who are getting

0:30:36.847 --> 0:30:41.327
<v Speaker 4>this global following among young men and boys. And to

0:30:41.367 --> 0:30:43.727
<v Speaker 4>counter this interesting a few weeks ago there was a

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<v Speaker 4>government campaign that showed a young teenage boy on his

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<v Speaker 4>phone and all the hidden forms of disrespect that he's

0:30:49.727 --> 0:30:52.487
<v Speaker 4>exposed to on his phone, and it sort of shows

0:30:52.527 --> 0:30:55.647
<v Speaker 4>all the various forms of misogynistic content that young people

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<v Speaker 4>see and hear and how it can escalate to violence

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<v Speaker 4>and negative attitudes about women.

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<v Speaker 3>Life is a horror for a status what you be.

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<v Speaker 5>Called to control them?

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<v Speaker 2>Control?

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<v Speaker 6>As a man?

0:31:10.967 --> 0:31:11.527
<v Speaker 5>You're a vader?

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<v Speaker 4>Who are you texting?

0:31:12.447 --> 0:31:13.847
<v Speaker 3>I know you like me on scene.

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<v Speaker 1>A man with James James?

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<v Speaker 2>All right, yeah, smarting M So you're definitely right.

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<v Speaker 7>Well, do you know what's influencing your kids? Learn the

0:31:29.327 --> 0:31:32.007
<v Speaker 7>hidden trends of disrespect before they lead to violence.

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<v Speaker 4>Something that we wanted to drill into today is a

0:31:34.527 --> 0:31:38.127
<v Speaker 4>concept in a lot of these Andrew Tait style videos,

0:31:38.167 --> 0:31:41.407
<v Speaker 4>because it's not just him who's out there sprouting this stuff.

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<v Speaker 4>It's lots of other influencers who are reaching young men

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<v Speaker 4>and boys, and it's the concept of the high value woman.

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<v Speaker 4>There was an article written for the site The Adult

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<v Speaker 4>Man by a man called Joshua Sigaphus that was called

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<v Speaker 4>the fifteen traits of a high Value Woman and why

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<v Speaker 4>you shouldn't settle. So today we were just going to

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<v Speaker 4>go through some of those traits because it's not as

0:32:03.407 --> 0:32:05.967
<v Speaker 4>simple as just sort of if a woman is a

0:32:06.007 --> 0:32:09.207
<v Speaker 4>slush and has ever had sex, then she's a lot

0:32:09.487 --> 0:32:12.767
<v Speaker 4>value woman. It's not just that it sort of starts

0:32:13.887 --> 0:32:15.647
<v Speaker 4>in this way. If you've ever been on a date

0:32:15.767 --> 0:32:19.047
<v Speaker 4>or shared a bedroom with a contentious, argumentative, lazy, or

0:32:19.087 --> 0:32:22.647
<v Speaker 4>hateful woman, then you probably know exactly what I'm talking

0:32:22.687 --> 0:32:25.967
<v Speaker 4>about when I describe a high and a low value woman,

0:32:27.047 --> 0:32:30.687
<v Speaker 4>says this writer. Now, I'm just going to read you

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<v Speaker 4>a couple and I'm going to ask you guys to

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<v Speaker 4>read a couple more whole. One of them is she

0:32:35.447 --> 0:32:38.207
<v Speaker 4>cares about her appearance. What are the points under that?

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<v Speaker 2>So they say youth, beauty, and fertility are primary attractive

0:32:42.487 --> 0:32:48.407
<v Speaker 2>metrics for women. So depressing. I'm so depressed already. High

0:32:48.487 --> 0:32:51.247
<v Speaker 2>value women care about their appearents, take pride in being beautiful,

0:32:51.287 --> 0:32:53.647
<v Speaker 2>and put effort into their fertility cues.

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<v Speaker 3>What does that mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it means showing you that she is young

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<v Speaker 2>and plump of ovary for you as a man looking

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<v Speaker 2>for a high value woman. This really comes down to

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<v Speaker 2>one simple principle. Only entertain women who care about their

0:33:08.407 --> 0:33:11.407
<v Speaker 2>appearance and put work into making themselves as beautiful as possible.

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<v Speaker 2>When I think about this, I think about you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when you look at all the women in the public

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<v Speaker 2>eye and all kinds of different ways, right, and I'm

0:33:19.047 --> 0:33:21.367
<v Speaker 2>thinking about politics since we're just talking about that. All

0:33:21.407 --> 0:33:24.327
<v Speaker 2>the women who live in like Trump world have to

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<v Speaker 2>look a certain way. They have to be very groomed,

0:33:27.887 --> 0:33:30.967
<v Speaker 2>they have to be very like It's like Kelly from

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<v Speaker 2>the DCC's School of Womandom. Always have your makeupon, always

0:33:35.127 --> 0:33:38.247
<v Speaker 2>be groomed, Always be wearing type fitting closet, Show your

0:33:38.367 --> 0:33:41.367
<v Speaker 2>lovely figure that you work hard to maintain. Always be

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<v Speaker 2>pleasing to the eye of a male. Do not be

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<v Speaker 2>turning up to practice in your sweatpants with no makeupon

0:33:47.367 --> 0:33:50.247
<v Speaker 2>and you haven't brushed your hair? What are use lovenly? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Number three is that she's agreeable. So high value women

0:33:54.807 --> 0:33:58.527
<v Speaker 3>understand that being an agreeable, pleasant partner makes them more

0:33:58.527 --> 0:34:02.127
<v Speaker 3>attractive and valuable. They understand that if they want to

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<v Speaker 3>walk with a high value man, they need to relinquish

0:34:04.527 --> 0:34:08.087
<v Speaker 3>control of the frame of the relationship and trust him

0:34:08.287 --> 0:34:12.607
<v Speaker 3>to be the leader. So basically, agreeable is code for submissive.

0:34:13.287 --> 0:34:15.927
<v Speaker 3>The first one here is actually she embraces femininity, which

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<v Speaker 3>is one of the ones I find most interesting because

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<v Speaker 3>I am seeing that a lot on social where people

0:34:22.487 --> 0:34:25.847
<v Speaker 3>say embrace or lean into your femininity. A lot of

0:34:25.847 --> 0:34:28.847
<v Speaker 3>women that I know who have been dating for ages

0:34:28.847 --> 0:34:34.247
<v Speaker 3>and haven't found a person get bunneled into this world

0:34:34.487 --> 0:34:37.767
<v Speaker 3>of you've lost your femininity, you've leaned too far into

0:34:37.807 --> 0:34:40.367
<v Speaker 3>your masculine, and you need to lean back into your

0:34:40.407 --> 0:34:43.887
<v Speaker 3>feminine and all those you're wearing. Yes, I keep trying

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<v Speaker 3>to work out exactly what it means, and I went

0:34:47.447 --> 0:34:50.847
<v Speaker 3>on a deep dive, and it means like you listen

0:34:50.887 --> 0:34:53.647
<v Speaker 3>to your intuition rather than using logic. So I guess

0:34:53.647 --> 0:34:56.167
<v Speaker 3>you don't use your brain, is what I'm reading there,

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<v Speaker 3>Things like.

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<v Speaker 1>That you should lean into your intuition and not logic.

0:34:59.807 --> 0:35:05.207
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, empathy and generosity and kindness and basically were very passive,

0:35:05.687 --> 0:35:09.287
<v Speaker 3>very very passive. Yeah, like you might go and be

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<v Speaker 3>a leader in your workplace, but you have to leave

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<v Speaker 3>that at work because a man is not going to

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<v Speaker 3>want that because it's not leaning into your feminine.

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<v Speaker 4>What's fascinating about this whole idea of the high value

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<v Speaker 4>women is a lot of the people who are espousing

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<v Speaker 4>this are also women, right, And this is where it's

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<v Speaker 4>so clever because it co opts women into the patriarchy

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<v Speaker 4>because who doesn't want to be a high value woman?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 4>Like I want to be a high value woman because

0:35:33.647 --> 0:35:36.047
<v Speaker 4>that sounds great. I'm not a low value woman. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>a high value woman. So when I look at what

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<v Speaker 4>it takes to be a high value woman, all of

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<v Speaker 4>those things are about submission and about reinforcing patriarchal standard.

0:35:47.807 --> 0:35:51.807
<v Speaker 4>So another one is she cares about her reputation? Does

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<v Speaker 4>she post nude or semi nude photos on Instagram? Or

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<v Speaker 4>is she the type of woman who takes her reputation

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<v Speaker 4>more seriously than that, as if equating how you present

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<v Speaker 4>yourself to the world cheapens your value.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, that is a tale as old as time.

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<v Speaker 3>So they've got she's always improving herself. She's a peacemaker,

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<v Speaker 3>she's not a victim. She saves her sexual power for

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<v Speaker 3>one man. I'm gonna push back, right, obviously there is

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<v Speaker 3>something incredibly sexist about this. But while I was away,

0:36:22.527 --> 0:36:24.767
<v Speaker 3>I listened to an episode of Mummy out Loud where

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<v Speaker 3>you talked about six or five blue eyes. Yeah, guy

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<v Speaker 3>who works in finance, tell me what the difference is.

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<v Speaker 1>There isn't one at all.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's the thing. There are certain circles of women

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<v Speaker 3>who would write a list of a high value man

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<v Speaker 3>and it would be just as reductive and just as

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<v Speaker 3>harmful and draw a box around Masculinity's just as suffocating.

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<v Speaker 2>Entirely true, but the parameters would be different. Because the

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<v Speaker 2>whole point about six ' five Finance Trust Fund is

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<v Speaker 2>buying into these ancient ideas that men it's about ambition

0:36:59.567 --> 0:37:02.447
<v Speaker 2>and money and status, and women it's about beauty, fertility,

0:37:02.527 --> 0:37:05.647
<v Speaker 2>submissive like. So the reason I pushed back on this

0:37:05.647 --> 0:37:08.247
<v Speaker 2>whole like, who's making the decisions.

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<v Speaker 3>About what the value is right, because the whole.

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<v Speaker 2>Point of this is you only get to choose if

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<v Speaker 2>you're in the position of power. And what we're being

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<v Speaker 2>told over and over again about young men in particular,

0:37:17.887 --> 0:37:19.887
<v Speaker 2>is that they're no longer in the position of power.

0:37:20.247 --> 0:37:23.607
<v Speaker 2>Women are graduating high school with better marks, taking up

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<v Speaker 2>more places at university, beginning to close the gap, taking

0:37:27.287 --> 0:37:30.327
<v Speaker 2>jobs from them, blah blah blah. So in theory, they're

0:37:30.367 --> 0:37:32.367
<v Speaker 2>now moving up into the power seat and they get

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<v Speaker 2>to choose. And I've listened to a million podcasts and

0:37:34.647 --> 0:37:37.527
<v Speaker 2>read things from guys telling guys how to also be

0:37:37.607 --> 0:37:40.407
<v Speaker 2>high status so that women want them rather than the

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<v Speaker 2>sort of schlubby loser.

0:37:42.087 --> 0:37:44.847
<v Speaker 1>But isn't that just purely about being rich.

0:37:45.327 --> 0:37:47.647
<v Speaker 2>It's still all about your values, Because if I was

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<v Speaker 2>riding my list, it wouldn't be about how much money

0:37:50.527 --> 0:37:52.567
<v Speaker 2>he earn, how tall he was, what color his eyes were.

0:37:52.607 --> 0:37:54.287
<v Speaker 2>It wouldn't be this. Do you know what I mean?

0:37:54.607 --> 0:37:56.487
<v Speaker 2>This is a very particular.

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<v Speaker 4>Kind of value system, But what it is is gender roles.

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<v Speaker 4>So saying gender quality is pushing both men and women

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<v Speaker 4>to feel nostalgic for gender roles.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I don't think women would.

0:38:07.687 --> 0:38:11.327
<v Speaker 1>Be looked after like traadois I reckon. I've change in finance.

0:38:11.447 --> 0:38:13.367
<v Speaker 3>I've changed my mind about this because we're talking about

0:38:13.407 --> 0:38:15.647
<v Speaker 3>it recently with the Julia Gillard thing, and I agree

0:38:15.727 --> 0:38:18.247
<v Speaker 3>feminism probably needs to do a better job of bringing

0:38:18.287 --> 0:38:22.127
<v Speaker 3>young men along with us. That's start evidently, but you'll

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<v Speaker 3>put that on a when there's a lack of social cohesion,

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<v Speaker 3>which we just saw in the previous segment.

0:38:28.487 --> 0:38:30.047
<v Speaker 2>Social cohesion is gone.

0:38:30.287 --> 0:38:31.407
<v Speaker 3>Social cohesion is gone.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's algorithm's rule.

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<v Speaker 3>Things now, we don't know. When we look at the

0:38:35.447 --> 0:38:39.487
<v Speaker 3>future five, ten, fifteen years ahead, things are very uncertain

0:38:39.967 --> 0:38:42.167
<v Speaker 3>and the ground is shifting beneath our feet. And I

0:38:42.207 --> 0:38:46.967
<v Speaker 3>think at moments at crossroads, we need to grip onto

0:38:46.967 --> 0:38:49.287
<v Speaker 3>something that we understand, and that is very simple. And

0:38:49.327 --> 0:38:51.407
<v Speaker 3>I wonder if that's to do with what we're seeing

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<v Speaker 3>with a bit of a regression when it comes to

0:38:53.647 --> 0:38:58.007
<v Speaker 3>traditional gender roles that they make us feel say safe,

0:38:58.207 --> 0:39:00.127
<v Speaker 3>that it's like, at least I can hold onto this

0:39:00.727 --> 0:39:02.887
<v Speaker 3>and I can mimic this, because there was a clear

0:39:02.887 --> 0:39:06.727
<v Speaker 3>distinction between the two, whereas everything else feels like chaos.

0:39:06.767 --> 0:39:10.007
<v Speaker 2>But they didn't make women safe. They never did. That's

0:39:10.087 --> 0:39:13.127
<v Speaker 2>the big lie here, which is the same conversation that

0:39:13.167 --> 0:39:15.887
<v Speaker 2>we had really about that and about the opposite is

0:39:15.967 --> 0:39:18.207
<v Speaker 2>the women when they don't have power and they don't

0:39:18.207 --> 0:39:21.207
<v Speaker 2>have financial autonomy and they're being treated as a possession,

0:39:21.247 --> 0:39:24.207
<v Speaker 2>they're not safe, They're never safe, so they're being sold

0:39:24.247 --> 0:39:26.887
<v Speaker 2>a lie. I think really it's about pushing back on

0:39:26.967 --> 0:39:30.207
<v Speaker 2>both of these ideas that you know, there's a battle

0:39:30.247 --> 0:39:32.447
<v Speaker 2>for dominance here between the men and women, and maybe

0:39:32.487 --> 0:39:33.887
<v Speaker 2>the women are choosing, and what are they going to

0:39:33.927 --> 0:39:35.567
<v Speaker 2>want if they're the ones who get to make the choices,

0:39:35.567 --> 0:39:36.927
<v Speaker 2>and if the men are choosing, what are they going

0:39:37.007 --> 0:39:39.247
<v Speaker 2>to want? I know it sounds so polyanna, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>about back to the idea that we're all becoming less

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<v Speaker 2>human because we are living our lives on our phones

0:39:44.167 --> 0:39:47.007
<v Speaker 2>and we're watching people on our screens who don't even

0:39:47.047 --> 0:39:49.687
<v Speaker 2>look like humans anymore. Is don't we all just want

0:39:49.687 --> 0:39:52.087
<v Speaker 2>a good human? Don't we all just want our partners

0:39:52.087 --> 0:39:52.727
<v Speaker 2>to be good human?

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<v Speaker 4>I think that the bigger, more chilling aspect of all

0:39:55.447 --> 0:39:59.967
<v Speaker 4>of this is joining the dots between abortion rights being

0:40:00.007 --> 0:40:03.007
<v Speaker 4>round back in America. You can't have a quality for

0:40:03.047 --> 0:40:05.367
<v Speaker 4>women when women don't have bodily autonomy, and when women

0:40:05.367 --> 0:40:07.487
<v Speaker 4>don't have any control over how many children they have

0:40:07.607 --> 0:40:10.807
<v Speaker 4>or when they have them. So there's this idea on

0:40:10.887 --> 0:40:13.127
<v Speaker 4>the far right and on the right and conservative, and

0:40:13.207 --> 0:40:15.767
<v Speaker 4>some of it's religious and some of it's more idealistic

0:40:15.807 --> 0:40:19.047
<v Speaker 4>based that yes, things have gone too far and that

0:40:19.087 --> 0:40:21.407
<v Speaker 4>women need to get back in their place. And some

0:40:21.447 --> 0:40:25.127
<v Speaker 4>of the most chilling points here and not the expected ones,

0:40:25.167 --> 0:40:27.927
<v Speaker 4>about she has to look good and save her sexual

0:40:27.927 --> 0:40:31.647
<v Speaker 4>powerful one man, but things like she's a peacemaker. Now,

0:40:31.727 --> 0:40:33.607
<v Speaker 4>this goes on to say, is she the type of

0:40:33.647 --> 0:40:36.687
<v Speaker 4>woman who starts fights, arguments and drama or is she

0:40:36.727 --> 0:40:39.287
<v Speaker 4>the type of woman who builds, bridges men's relationships and

0:40:39.327 --> 0:40:42.007
<v Speaker 4>brings people together. There are plenty of dramatic women in

0:40:42.047 --> 0:40:44.847
<v Speaker 4>the world, but a truly high value woman will strive

0:40:44.927 --> 0:40:47.727
<v Speaker 4>to be a peacemaker, even when doing so isn't the

0:40:47.767 --> 0:40:50.767
<v Speaker 4>easiest thing. This is a trait to treasure highly in

0:40:50.807 --> 0:40:53.647
<v Speaker 4>a woman, and truth be told, there aren't very many

0:40:53.687 --> 0:40:57.727
<v Speaker 4>women nowadays who cultivate this skill. This is about sublimating

0:40:57.767 --> 0:40:59.847
<v Speaker 4>your opinions. It's about being a doormat.

0:40:59.527 --> 0:41:02.047
<v Speaker 2>Essentially, Although I would also like a man to be

0:41:02.127 --> 0:41:04.527
<v Speaker 2>a peacemaker, please, like I think that people who don't

0:41:04.927 --> 0:41:08.287
<v Speaker 2>deliberately go around antagonizing people to start fights and dramas.

0:41:08.367 --> 0:41:10.887
<v Speaker 2>Is something that's very appealing, and I on that.

0:41:11.007 --> 0:41:14.287
<v Speaker 3>I'm thinking back to when I was dating, say mid twenties,

0:41:14.327 --> 0:41:17.207
<v Speaker 3>and I would go on dates with men, and I

0:41:17.287 --> 0:41:20.967
<v Speaker 3>had internalized the idea, which I think was probably true.

0:41:21.007 --> 0:41:23.807
<v Speaker 3>I think I was responding to the evidence around me

0:41:24.367 --> 0:41:27.407
<v Speaker 3>that sitting there at dinner and talking about abortion rights

0:41:27.567 --> 0:41:31.447
<v Speaker 3>or about feminism wasn't very sexy, probably wasn't going to

0:41:31.487 --> 0:41:32.287
<v Speaker 3>get me a second date.

0:41:32.487 --> 0:41:35.087
<v Speaker 4>Remember there was that whole movement about you have to

0:41:35.087 --> 0:41:36.167
<v Speaker 4>be a low maintenance woman.

0:41:36.207 --> 0:41:38.407
<v Speaker 1>It's like, I'm a cool girl. I'm low maintenance.

0:41:38.447 --> 0:41:40.247
<v Speaker 3>I'm so like, I don't get fiery about things.

0:41:40.367 --> 0:41:43.607
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, no difficult, I don't have opinions, I don't have demands.

0:41:43.807 --> 0:41:45.967
<v Speaker 4>Because the next one is, she's not a victim. To

0:41:46.007 --> 0:41:48.007
<v Speaker 4>put it simply, a high value woman will always take

0:41:48.047 --> 0:41:49.407
<v Speaker 4>responsibility for herself.

0:41:49.687 --> 0:41:50.207
<v Speaker 1>Listen to this.

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<v Speaker 4>She'll never seek victimhood to gain the upper hand or

0:41:53.607 --> 0:41:55.087
<v Speaker 4>to make her life easier.

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<v Speaker 2>That's very convenient. That is all we've got time for

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<v Speaker 2>on our Monday. Mama, Mira, out loud, out louders, thank

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<v Speaker 2>you for being here with us. Thank you for joining us,

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<v Speaker 2>and thank you to our team for putting today's show together.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll be back in yours tomorrow and before.

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<v Speaker 3>We go if you would like some more of us.

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<v Speaker 3>Last week, I had a therapy dilemma that I needed

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<v Speaker 3>to talk through with Mayor and Holly, so I did

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<v Speaker 3>so in a subscriber episode. Here is a little taste.

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<v Speaker 3>I wish it was more of my voice, but I

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<v Speaker 3>hear my psychologist in my head a lot before I

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<v Speaker 3>make certain decisions about this inner child work, which sounds

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<v Speaker 3>really woo woo, but basically, like, listen to the deepest

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<v Speaker 3>part of you that's saying no, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>do that. No, I'm tired, No I'm sick, No I

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<v Speaker 3>want to hang out with my daughter. The more you

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<v Speaker 3>reject that, like, it's quite fracturing. A link to that

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