WEBVTT - A (Not So) Practical Guide To Toilet Training 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:03.080 We acknowledged the traditional custodians of the land we're recording 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:03.720 on today. 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:11.800 I have been singing to rue Party, Party, Party, Party, Party, Party, 0:00:12.119 --> 0:00:14.640 thinking I'm an absolute lunatic, but you've just made me 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:16.120 feel like an absolute genius. 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:22.400 Hello, and welcome to eat, sleep, shit Repeat. This is 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:25.920 the Unhinged Podcast, all about the madness that is motherhood 0:00:25.920 --> 0:00:29.040 and everything in between. I'm Kelly mccaren and I'm Key 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:31.280 re cels And in case you missed it, last week, 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:34.760 we kicked off season four with Kell sharing her experience 0:00:34.760 --> 0:00:37.280 with Lynn as a newborn. We talked about the difference 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:39.959 between a crying baby and one that never stops, and 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:41.760 knowing when to advocate for your baby. 0:00:41.920 --> 0:00:47.240 This week, we are finally talking about party training. Thank goodness, 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:52.559 because I have been begging yay Kelly McCarran to do this. Yeah, 0:00:53.280 --> 0:00:56.480 I've been begging you wear this for months and you'd 0:00:56.600 --> 0:00:59.000 rather bury your head in the sand than spend three 0:00:59.040 --> 0:01:01.480 days at home picking up poos and weez Is that right? 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:05.440 It's absolutely right? I just I don't care. We'll be 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:07.920 chatting through all of the trends in the shitter, responses 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:10.679 on their potty training experiences and a big thank you 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:14.080 to those who responded because it was so helpful. I'm 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:17.000 not even kidding. I have gone and purchased a few 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:18.320 of the things that they recommended. 0:01:18.520 --> 0:01:20.920 Key froths on this sort of stuff too, like just 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:22.640 that fucking love getting in there. 0:01:23.080 --> 0:01:27.080 Helpful, mumshit, helpful, Mumshit's my jam girlfriend. And then we 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:30.000 chat to our shitter, Sarah, who has over ten years 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:33.080 experience in early childhood working with many many families to 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:35.560 help support the process of toilet training. She's going to 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:38.480 be showing her advice, her tips, her tricks to help 0:01:38.560 --> 0:01:39.600 us get through this shit. 0:01:40.319 --> 0:01:46.720 Literally, oh god botom shee wow dad joke over here, 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:47.880 All right, over to you. 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:49.880 Kel four Peak and pittance you this week. 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:53.320 It is, indeed, and they're sort of tied in together. 0:01:53.640 --> 0:01:57.840 Peak was a really bloody good weekend. On Friday night, 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:01.160 my sister and I took Mum to see and Juliette, 0:02:02.360 --> 0:02:04.720 I really want to see this. It was my second 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:06.960 time Key and you know that I'm not a musical person, 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:07.600 That's how much. 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:09.480 I loved it. Shocking, but the music's so good, right 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:10.800 because it's like our era of music. 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:12.880 It's not even the music like to be honest. I 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:14.920 do still get sick of the singing. I just can't 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:17.280 sit still and listen to people fucking sing for that long. 0:02:17.440 --> 0:02:19.920 But it's so good. I love it. All the characters 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:23.040 are so good. Okay, I love Doug. Are they paying 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:23.720 you for this plug? 0:02:23.880 --> 0:02:24.079 No? 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:28.360 Everyone should go and see Ajuliet while it's still in 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:30.679 Sydney because it'll be moving somewhere next I don't know 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:34.240 if it's going to Melbourne or shows. Go to Brisbane, 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:36.520 agam on, go on. 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:39.560 Yeah, all right, we've got stuff. Okay, we're actually quite 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:40.399 cool anyway. 0:02:40.720 --> 0:02:43.399 So Friday night was and Juliet, and then because Mum 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.680 was in Sydney, she was looking after lenn on Saturdays. 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:50.280 It's like so and like as in help. 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:54.359 Literally we had our third night away from Lenny since 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:54.880 he was born. 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:59.440 That is grim. It's grim. 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:01.959 And one of those times it was for Luke's dad funerals. 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:08.320 It doesn't really count. So second time, whoo. Yeah, so 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:11.080 we could go to our beautiful friend's wedding. 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:14.320 You know who does love a wedding? Luke Lou that man. 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:17.240 He loves an event. Yeah, he loves an event. 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:19.600 He's the first one on the dance floor at a 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:23.680 wedding absolutely froths it. So that was really fun, and 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:26.760 it was just nice. It was just a really great weekend. 0:03:26.800 --> 0:03:29.560 And Lenny obviously had so much fun staying with his nan, 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:32.800 having a slumber party at cousin's house, so cute. So 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:38.560 my pit is so grim. I've lost my piss fitness. 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:42.320 Oh, Kelly, for fuck's sake, I thought it was something serious. 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:44.960 Can you can you something serious? 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:48.920 No? I thought it was something like call the ambilarious 0:03:48.920 --> 0:03:49.680 wheel Wheel. 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:53.200 We've I worked so hard to get as fit as 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:59.560 I was for my alcoholic consumption, consumption, enjoyment, and it 0:03:59.680 --> 0:04:00.520 is gone. 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.760 And it's not sad. It's lovely to be a cheap day. 0:04:03.920 --> 0:04:05.560 You don't have to drink not you don't have to 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:09.040 drink as much to get the same buzz I like drinking. 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:13.160 Just drink soda water and pretend it's a buddy. It's boring. 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:16.279 Oh my god, I'm actually so upset about this. Oh God, 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:18.400 I'm still recovering from the fact that it's not something 0:04:18.400 --> 0:04:18.960 more serious. 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:23.719 You're serious. I didn't even lose it through pregnancy. My 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:26.000 first night out post. 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:28.480 We just clarify you weren't drinking. I had a glass 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:32.640 here all there. Yeah, but you won't like absolutely not clarify. 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:34.479 But that's what I mean. Like I didn't even lose it. 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:36.800 Like my first night out, I was still the last 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:40.159 person standing. Yeah, one of the last people standing. Wasn't 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:43.400 that bad? The next day, like I had my fitness 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:45.480 go girl, it is gone? 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:46.400 Where did it go? 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:47.080 Well? 0:04:47.160 --> 0:04:47.960 I cut back. 0:04:48.279 --> 0:04:50.000 My doctor told me in order for one of my 0:04:50.040 --> 0:04:52.719 medications to work, I had to cut back because alcohore 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:56.359 really affects him. Yeah, okay, so about seven months ago 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:59.800 I cut back, and I cut back a lot, Like 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.360 my face got so less puffy and people are like, oh, 0:05:02.400 --> 0:05:04.400 you've lost weight. I'm like, no, I really didn't know. 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:06.800 Just yeah, don't have a puffy face. And if I 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:09.280 didn't realize how bad it was anyway, So I cut 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:12.760 back about seven months ago. I still drink, but nothing 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:14.480 like what I was before. I never had a problem, 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:17.160 but I was drinking a lot. Yeah always, you know, 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:17.839 really enjoyed a. 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:19.320 Tipple or two. Ten. 0:05:19.839 --> 0:05:26.160 I now get drunk really easily, and I get horrible hangovers. Yeah, 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:28.960 half a bottle of wine and I feel cranky all 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:34.200 day the next day and I feel tired. So it's awful. Key, Yeah, 0:05:34.240 --> 0:05:37.400 this is what I'm saying. It's a horrible pit. Just 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:40.680 spent thirty five years or have long. I've been drinking 0:05:41.080 --> 0:05:45.719 since out of the woom, working on my fitness. Yeah, 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:50.080 to live up to my idol Paris Hilton the party girl. 0:05:50.520 --> 0:05:53.160 Now gone, gone gone, God. 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:55.520 Next minute, I'm going to be a bloody wellness influenza. 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:59.000 Last week I talked about my crystals, be making green 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.120 smoothies and going for jogs soon. 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:04.599 Not the job, not the jogs. 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:06.560 You know how I feel about people who run where 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:09.120 itose you used to run every day? 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:13.760 Anyway? That was my peek and pitch. Well, thanks, but 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:16.920 can you please just don't scare me next time? 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:22.479 Oh? 0:06:22.800 --> 0:06:24.839 Today is a good day, finally getting my way on 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:28.400 this bloody podcast training Kelly, I just want to know, 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:31.520 first and foremost, why were you so against this topic? 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:34.000 What is actually the issue here? Because a lot of 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:35.080 people requested this. 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:40.440 I know, even though this is a parenting and lifestyle podcast, 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:43.920 I don't care about a lot of parenting stuff. 0:06:43.960 --> 0:06:48.520 You don't care about not having to wipe his ass? No, okay, 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:51.320 well I really really don't. I reckon you're the first 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:51.960 parent ever. 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:54.159 I just don't care, and it just seems like a 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:56.280 lot of work, and I know that makes me sound 0:06:56.320 --> 0:07:00.440 incredibly lazy. I also just like, oh, we got overcomplic it, 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:03.560 like when he wants to shit on the toilet, he will. However, 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:06.920 I'm always very pleased for people when they're like, oh 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:09.760 my god, like when you're like, oh, Ruth basically potty trained. 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:13.040 I'd never said that I go before too. Okay, look 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:15.240 the records set. I never frecking said that. Well she 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:18.080 was though, so a little bit. Okay, well that's fair, 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:20.080 but can you please feign interest for the next forty 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:20.600 five minutes? 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:26.480 I'm interested, excellent, No, I'm very excited to talk to 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:27.640 Sarah because she's an expert. 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:29.480 Yeah, she's fab. So I thought it might be a 0:07:29.520 --> 0:07:32.360 good spot to kick off the episode with where we're 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:36.080 currently at with our kids, and someone's si, I guess 0:07:36.160 --> 0:07:39.040 you have you attempted any form of potty training at all? 0:07:39.440 --> 0:07:43.360 Well, he started showing interest at Christmas time? 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:45.880 Okay, what were the signs? 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:49.960 So he was often without an happy because we're in 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:52.720 the pool summer summer. Yeah, and he was always very 0:07:52.760 --> 0:07:54.840 conscious of needing to wee, So he'd look at me 0:07:54.880 --> 0:07:57.240 and be like wee wee yeah, and holding his duty, 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.200 and I'd be like, hey, go over to the grass. 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:01.600 He'd go over to the lovely do a wee yeah. 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:03.800 And then he also get very embarrassed and upset if 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:05.080 he did it on the floor, But I was like, bro, 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:06.280 who cares, It's just a wee. 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:06.920 Yeah. 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:09.800 So my sister in law bought him as part of 0:08:09.840 --> 0:08:13.240 his birthday present one of those potty training books with 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:14.040 the charts. 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:14.320 And everything else. 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:16.960 Yeah, never opened it, of course, And I went to 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:20.880 Kmart got the potty. My sister already had the little seat, yeah, 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:24.720 resting on the covered in dust, yeah, resting on the 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:26.560 wall of the toilet, caring. Oh yeah, and I haven't 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:30.480 done anything. He sits on it like I'll offer it up. Yeah, 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:34.720 I say, would you like to use the potty? And 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:38.000 he likes to sit on it without pants yep, and 0:08:38.160 --> 0:08:38.640 just chat. 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:39.800 Has he done anything in it? 0:08:39.880 --> 0:08:40.000 No? 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:42.080 All right, okay, so that's where we're at. But he 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:43.200 likes to sit on it. 0:08:43.520 --> 0:08:47.840 But yeah, in terms of encouraging it, he's very aware, 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:50.640 Like he knows when he's doing a pooh, yeah, you know, 0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:52.520 he laughs and giggles if he's doing a wei in 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:54.160 the bath, so I know that he's ready. 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:57.080 Oh, it's me being lazy. You both have to be ready. 0:08:57.200 --> 0:08:58.760 A lot of the shit have said that makes sure 0:08:58.880 --> 0:08:59.720 you're both ready. 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:01.840 I do want to know what you did, because you 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:05.360 did it very quickly and pretty seamlessly with rue, whereas 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:07.559 I know so many people it's like years. 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:11.719 Well, the thing is I didn't want to rush it. It 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:13.680 wasn't really on my radar of things. I haven't read 0:09:13.720 --> 0:09:14.880 one thing about how to do. 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:17.520 It, and she wasn't even two. Can we just clarify again? 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:24.920 So around the super mom, super rude Sony will be 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:28.200 three and I still wouldn't have in for us the putty. 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:32.160 Oh one other thing no one in his class is. Oh, 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:35.080 and it's not even as finine. It's fine, there's no 0:09:35.160 --> 0:09:36.800 right or wrong. Every kid is different. 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:38.720 You probably don't want to be wearing nappies in high school? 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:40.800 Well yeah, I mean that's a different thing, isn't it. 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:45.200 So it was around maybe the thirteen month mark, around 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:48.640 even when she was one ish, like twelve thirteen month mark. 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:52.400 She was super interested whenever we were on the toilet, like, 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:54.840 what are you doing looking in that poo pooh pooh, 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:58.120 poo pool. Do she find it really funny? So funny 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:00.000 and she wants to see it anyway, I don't want 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:02.280 to get too graphic. I was like, I'm just going 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:04.880 to buy her a potty. I'm not going to force 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:06.200 her to do anything, but I'm just going to have 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:08.000 it next to our toilets. So when we're sitting on 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:09.839 it and she's showing interest, I'm just like, hey, why 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:11.720 don't you sit on your potty and just like see 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:13.319 if anything happens. Question. 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:16.600 Yeah, if you're both home, do you leave the door open? 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:17.960 What? 0:10:18.280 --> 0:10:18.360 No? 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:21.480 Okay, thank god some people do well? No, no, no, we're 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:22.000 shutting it. 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:23.520 I don't shut it for a wi I don't even 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:24.640 shut it for a week when you're here. 0:10:24.880 --> 0:10:28.120 But I sit to do wiez obviously, but like, how 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:28.640 long does it take? 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:29.800 It takes a long time for a kid to get 0:10:29.800 --> 0:10:32.000 out of then happy all over the ladies, I'd see lazy. 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:35.200 I'd be like, no, no, no, no, no, this is the thing. 0:10:35.280 --> 0:10:37.920 Right, So this is over summer and she's naked all 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:41.760 the time at home, right, So she would just sit 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:44.400 on it, and then one day she just started winging 0:10:44.559 --> 0:10:47.320 in it. Oh my god, little baby genius, rude. And 0:10:47.320 --> 0:10:49.560 then one day she did a pooh and I was like, 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:53.800 without being bribed, no bribery, I haven't never heard of 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:54.440 a child. 0:10:55.080 --> 0:10:57.840 I think some kids just do it, just do it right. 0:10:57.960 --> 0:11:00.520 And then kids that are really potty trained, like they 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:03.600 still often for a very long time wait to pooh 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:04.720 when they have a nappy on. 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:07.480 Yeah, well this is the thing, right, is that, like 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:10.760 I have changed. I can count on one hand huey 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:14.120 nappies in the last six months. Like the first one 0:11:14.120 --> 0:11:15.440 was the other day when we were out and I 0:11:15.520 --> 0:11:17.480 was on the phone and the girls were watching her 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:19.280 and she was telling them poo poo, poo pooh. But 0:11:19.320 --> 0:11:21.319 they were like, well, I don't know what to do 0:11:21.360 --> 0:11:23.640 because they're not up to that yet, one of them is. 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:25.160 But she was also like, I don't know what to do, 0:11:25.480 --> 0:11:27.080 So she poohed in r nappy and that was the 0:11:27.120 --> 0:11:28.960 first one I've done all year. 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:31.680 People that get smug about that, though you're not a smug, 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:33.839 but they'll say, oh, when you not want to change 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:36.280 a dirty nappy, what is the difference between wiping a 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:36.920 dirty ass? 0:11:37.440 --> 0:11:39.880 Oh yeah, it's the same, Like it's just as gross. Well, 0:11:40.000 --> 0:11:41.960 it's a bit less a teeny bit less, but it's 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:43.360 the same thing, right, So isn't. 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:44.880 It hard with a little girl? Like do you have 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:46.360 to get it a proper leg up? 0:11:46.440 --> 0:11:48.920 Like I just make I just make her put her 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:51.000 forearms on the toilet and like pop out her buck, 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:54.680 but she hates it. It's actually quite annoying. But the 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:56.760 thing we struggled with the most with was wheeze, which 0:11:56.960 --> 0:11:59.800 I haven't heard of from anyone. Like, well, she started 0:11:59.800 --> 0:12:01.760 to regularly in the potty and I'm like, okay, cool 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:04.040 when she was doing wheeze and stuff. So then I 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:09.079 was like, all right, cool, let's try undies. And it 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:10.679 was right at the time where she thought it's funny 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:13.880 to piss everywhere. So that lasted for a hot minute 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:15.520 and I went, it's too soon, and I just took 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:17.320 a step back. I was like, the undies are there 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:19.719 when we want to use them, YadA YadA, yadda. And 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:22.079 then that's kind of been it. But I've noticed that 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:24.880 lately she's been running to the toilet when she needs 0:12:24.920 --> 0:12:27.920 to do a wei. So this week I've taken nappy 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:29.880 off again. It's cold, but I just put her in 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:31.520 a jumper and she has socks on and she's find 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:34.520 our house is like pretty warm, and she's been taking herself, 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:36.840 so I think we may be ready to start the 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:40.559 toilet or the potties the potty. Okay, yeah, the toilet's 0:12:40.600 --> 0:12:43.040 too big for her, like she'd fall in. But yeah, 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:45.440 quite a funny sight her long limbs. 0:12:45.480 --> 0:12:46.400 Ah. 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:48.840 But yeah, that's kind of been an experience so far. 0:12:49.559 --> 0:12:53.200 I think just not having any expectation. I wasn't super 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:55.040 keen to do it. I wasn't trying to do it. 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:57.640 I literally just put it there and I hoped for 0:12:57.679 --> 0:13:00.520 the best. And I think that that has suited her personality. 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:04.280 She's very like I call her a follower. Oh, she 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:06.400 likes to follow what people are doing. She likes to 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:09.439 follow Goldie around whenever she's not super defiant or no. 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:12.360 So she's like into it. But look, there are moments 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:15.080 when she's kind of been better or worse. But I 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:17.200 think that now she's kind of about the age where 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:19.599 we can really do it. But honestly, reading all of 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:22.520 the Shitter's responses has been so helpful, I thought I 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:26.079 might pull out kind of just the top line themes 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:28.600 to the responses, so the average age that I should 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:31.920 have started potty training was two and a half. Okay, right, 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:35.480 so I'm fine, You're fine. The youngest was twelve months, 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:39.439 which I was like, wow, twelve month twelve months? Didn't 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.920 you say that? There was one lady the baby was 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:45.400 like a newborn. There was a shitter that responded who 0:13:45.440 --> 0:13:48.120 had her friends whose mum potty trained them. 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:51.000 At three weeks, which I was like, I was, I 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:54.360 also just don't believe it. I want to hear that story, 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:55.679 but I just do not believe it. 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:57.920 I mean, it seems far fetched, but we believe U 0:13:57.920 --> 0:14:00.640 shit is. But I made think that lady's lying. No, no, no, 0:14:00.760 --> 0:14:03.560 not the shit align the mom and mum exactly. That 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:08.000 was like a Karn at her PTA meeting, just being like, oh, 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:12.120 they leave it so long these days. I potty trained 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.280 mine at three weeks old. It's like they can't even 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:15.839 look their head. 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:17.360 They're still shitting their pants. Karen. 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:20.960 Yeah, the oldest was three and a half. That's still 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:23.600 a toddler. Still a toddler for sure. But the post 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:26.960 get bigger, the bigger they get reasons for starting showing 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:31.080 interest with the parents or siblings, siblings. Some people seem 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:34.360 to be quite good just awareness of like hating wearing 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:37.280 a wet or soiled nappy, or vocalizing when they would 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:38.560 be going to the loose. So they were just like 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:41.600 hyper aware of it. Talking about potty training maybe being 0:14:41.640 --> 0:14:44.440 at daycare and seeing other people do it a necessity. 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:46.080 A lot of people said it was due to necessity 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:49.080 of the child moving to the preschool room and they 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:51.160 have to and a lot of daycares they have to 0:14:51.160 --> 0:14:54.200 be potty trained by then, aren't necessity when another baby's 0:14:54.200 --> 0:14:56.480 on the way, not wanting to change two lots of diapers, 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:59.520 totally get that warmer weather, wanting to do it before 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:01.760 the next win, which is really true because a lot 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:04.680 of potty training, they say to Strip and Bear. A 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:06.920 couple of them said that their kids probably weren't ready, 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.480 but also thought that they may have never been so 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.880 really far from being ready, being dry overnight and in 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:16.320 between nappy changes. And then the last one was my favorite. 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:20.080 I was ready to stop changing shitty nappies, fair so fair. 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:22.760 The number one resources that she has used was the 0:15:22.800 --> 0:15:25.560 Oh crap book that seemed to be really popular. I 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:27.120 wonder if that's the one that I got from my 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.480 sister in law that I haven't opened. Ye could have 0:15:29.520 --> 0:15:33.120 been that seconds was big little feelings course, like there's 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.960 a potty training course. A lot of people were like none. 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:38.640 I just trusted my gut and I trusted what my 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:42.360 kid was doing. It's not rocket science. No, educators at 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:46.080 childcare and other mums are really good. Good old Google. 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:48.840 And then a lot of those books and courses that 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:51.800 I mentioned, they used like reward charts to help set 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:53.240 up like a good behavior, so that was the other 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:56.000 kind of thing they did. The general consensus was poohs 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:58.360 are a lot harder than wheeze, which wasn't helpful for me. 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:01.000 Every kid is different, and the people who said they 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:04.440 started too early said that their kid has continued to struggle. 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:07.080 So I thought that was really really interesting. 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:09.760 There were so many good tips. I didn't want to 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:11.200 double up because we aren't going to be talking to 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:13.000 Sarah later, so we're gonna pop them on socials so 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:15.200 you can read through and by all of the recommendations 0:16:15.200 --> 0:16:18.480 that the shitters shared. Okay, so I've shared the shitter's responses. 0:16:18.560 --> 0:16:20.520 Cal talk to me about your friends, because I know 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:22.400 you've got friends with older kids who've been through it. 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:24.880 What I know, and I guess one of the reasons 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:27.320 why I've never worried too much. Like I'm making jokes 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:30.040 about being lazy, but he has the potty there to 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:32.200 sit on. He's very interested when Evelyn, I'm like, do 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:33.920 you want to use your potty? And he's like no, No. 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:37.480 It's like I'm talking same thing, like they're gonna walk. 0:16:37.680 --> 0:16:41.400 But they're all just so different. Like my girlfriend's child 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:46.280 were so advanced in so many different ways. Yes, speaking 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:50.400 the things that she would remember, but still has a chart, 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:52.720 and it's so cute to'll be like I tried, and 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:54.320 then there'll be like one stuff. 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:56.320 That's all that's really sweet. 0:16:56.680 --> 0:17:01.280 And then my girlfriend nat her child was three and 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:05.800 completely potty trained, even night wow, no night nappies. He 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:07.600 would go to the bathroom before I know. I'm like, 0:17:07.720 --> 0:17:10.680 how that seems so far away. I have another girlfriend, though, 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:13.959 who's eight year old, stills in a night nappy. Yeah, 0:17:14.000 --> 0:17:15.879 and she's kind of like, eh, I don't want to 0:17:15.880 --> 0:17:17.640 have to get up and change the sheets all the time. 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:19.120 Yeah, I got so sick of it. 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:22.920 At one point, he will be embarrassed and he will 0:17:23.040 --> 0:17:24.680 get his lazy ass out of bed and go to 0:17:24.720 --> 0:17:26.840 the toilet. Yeah, But she did have this thing. She 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:28.119 used to say to me. Oh, when he has his 0:17:28.200 --> 0:17:32.000 first sleepover, that's when I reckon he will give up 0:17:32.000 --> 0:17:34.080 the night nappy because he'll be embarrassed. But apparently his 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:36.840 friend came over and was like, they both had their 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:41.399 night nappies. Stop it. But you know he will stop 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:44.320 it when I guess he's Yeah. Yeah, so you're not 0:17:44.400 --> 0:17:47.120 a teenager or an adult wearing a nappy at all, Well, 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:49.520 not until you get so old you might need a nappy. Yeah, 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:55.000 there's no textbook, there's no rule. Everyone sort of just 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:58.240 does what's best for their kids. Yeah, and at the 0:17:58.320 --> 0:18:00.400 end of the day, the kid gets there the end 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:00.920 they do. 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:03.520 Some people can feel the pressure, but I do think 0:18:03.600 --> 0:18:07.840 like reading those responses, doing it too early, you just 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:09.439