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Speaker 3: What's your cheat code for life? The thing you swear
Speaker 3: by that opens doors makes everything easier and you wish
Speaker 3: you knew earlier. There is a Reddit thread going viral
Speaker 3: where people share their insights, and some are pretty obvious,
Speaker 3: from looking people in the eye to learning to say
Speaker 3: no to getting enough sleep. Here are some other popular
Speaker 3: examples I came across. Get everything in writing, So if
Speaker 3: you're in a meeting and your manager promises you something,
Speaker 3: then make sure you get them to email it to you.
Speaker 3: Or let's say your accountant assures you of something and
Speaker 3: it just sounds a bit like I would want to
Speaker 3: just confirm that, get it in writing. Another one is
Speaker 3: you can make more friends in two months by becoming
Speaker 3: interested in other people than you can in two years
Speaker 3: by trying to get other people interested in you.
Speaker 2: That's very good advice.
Speaker 3: I love that one. And no one stops someone carrying pizza.
Speaker 3: You can get backstage at concerts. Now we don't can
Speaker 3: don't trespassing, but think about it. If someone came to
Speaker 3: this off and they just had a few things of
Speaker 3: pizza and it smelt good, I'd let them in if
Speaker 3: you were backstage, if we were backstage at Out Loud,
Speaker 3: back to go on stage for our show.
Speaker 1: Don't give people ideas unless they have pizza in which
Speaker 1: come on after the.
Speaker 3: Show you're allowed. We asked people in the Mummeya office
Speaker 3: what their cheat code to life is and here's what
Speaker 3: they told us.
Speaker 4: My life pack is don't put the email address of
Speaker 4: the person you're emailing in until you've written and table
Speaker 4: checked your email. It really saves any unedited or unfinished
Speaker 4: emails being sent accidentally.
Speaker 5: The biggest lesson it was actually from my dad that
Speaker 5: my dad ever taught me was always admit when you've
Speaker 5: made a mistake. If you can do anything in life
Speaker 5: is always admit when you're wrong and when you've made
Speaker 5: a mistake, because that way, you're always going to reflect
Speaker 5: on your behavior and your role in something, and it
Speaker 5: also makes you look at the other side of things.
Speaker 1: When I'm feeling overwhelmed, I try to take a moment and.
Speaker 2: Take five deep breaths.
Speaker 1: I think this helps me process what has happened and
Speaker 1: to not overreact.
Speaker 6: When I'm talking to someone new, I try to remember
Speaker 6: one personal fact about them. If I know that I'm
Speaker 6: going to see them again, like the name of their
Speaker 6: dog or what suburb they live in, I can ask
Speaker 6: them about it the next time I see them. Then
Speaker 6: they know that I've listened to them and that I
Speaker 6: care what they're saying, and hopefully they can become more
Speaker 6: trusting of me after that.
Speaker 7: So if I'm ever in a situation where I'm asked
Speaker 7: for my opinion about something that's important or a big
Speaker 7: decision or something that I just know is going to
Speaker 7: take a lot of thoughts just in the moment saying hey,
Speaker 7: let me just sleep on this and get back to
Speaker 7: you tomorrow. I used to think that I needed to
Speaker 7: sort of have an answer straight away ready to go,
Speaker 7: but sleeping on something just always gives me so much
Speaker 7: more clarity.
Speaker 3: Okay, so my friend has this great cheek code. She
Speaker 3: always looks smart at the airport, and she reckons that's
Speaker 3: the secret to getting upgraded to business class.
Speaker 8: One of the best things I got from a parenting
Speaker 8: book is just add water. So if your kid is
Speaker 8: losing their shit, you either put them outside with the sprinklers,
Speaker 8: throw them in the bath, or give them a drink
Speaker 8: of water. I've actually started doing that myself and it
Speaker 8: is a game changer. So if I've got a tough
Speaker 8: decision to make, or if i want to go and
Speaker 8: yell at someone, I'll take a shower first, I'll drink
Speaker 8: a glass of water. It always calms me down, and
Speaker 8: it always works.
Speaker 1: How that is Hollywood's enthusiastically agreeing with almost all of
Speaker 1: those shoes, Like, yep, yep, that works, Yep, I agree,
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 2: I don't do them all, but they're all very good.
Speaker 3: I also asked the out louders if they had any
Speaker 3: and here are some that they came up with. I
Speaker 3: really like this one from Brooks. She says, I'm a
Speaker 3: big fan of don't put it down, put it away,
Speaker 3: So you're not allowed to, like just put your bag down.
Speaker 3: It's got a place, put it away. Another one from Kirby.
Speaker 3: Every Sunday I make uniform packs for each kid, so
Speaker 3: school uniform undie sox, roll it up and put a
Speaker 3: rubber band around it. They go in baskets in our buffet,
Speaker 3: and each morning kids go and grab their own pack
Speaker 3: and get dressed. I wish I was like her, I'm
Speaker 3: not too. Another one that I really liked was from Chloe.
Speaker 3: This is again for kids, which is every time you're
Speaker 3: giving medication, text your partner what time because you forget,
Speaker 3: you know how it's got to be like four or
Speaker 3: six hours away. But if you don't have a partner,
Speaker 3: text anyone, text yourself. Yeah, make a note of it, Liz,
Speaker 3: good quality roboback. I would really like a robovacum. My
Speaker 3: other one actually is, and I've started doing this, I
Speaker 3: never regret it is taking a photo of where I
Speaker 3: parked that body.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I have just doing that.
Speaker 2: And then I also take a photo of if you're
Speaker 2: in the shopping center, the place that you enter the
Speaker 2: shopping center, because it's all very well knowing you're on
Speaker 2: C seven, but you can't remember where C seven is
Speaker 2: exactly right, And if you know that, you came in
Speaker 2: next to T two.
Speaker 3: Then you're fine, Yes, yes, Maya. You had a birthday
Speaker 3: this week, so i'd hope that you'd learned a few lessons.
Speaker 3: What are some of your cheat codes?
Speaker 1: I have written down four I could just think of
Speaker 1: off the top of my head.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: The first is if you are someone who has to
Speaker 1: have daily medication but you sometimes can't remember if you've
Speaker 1: had it or not. I now have a pill box
Speaker 1: with the days, and I just dispense all my pills,
Speaker 1: you know, every couple of weeks into this pill box.
Speaker 1: But the other way to do it is to say
Speaker 1: out loud, I'm having my pill now on Tuesday. As
Speaker 1: you have it, I say it out.
Speaker 3: You'd be so annoying to live with. I know you're
Speaker 3: annoying to live.
Speaker 1: Yeah you did.
Speaker 3: Where do you buy those pill boxes?
Speaker 1: Chemist?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Or Amazon? Chemists?
Speaker 3: You think you know, and then you get into bed
Speaker 3: and you go, no, no, I took that pill.
Speaker 1: Ye was that yesterday? And it's like, I think I
Speaker 1: have a memory of taking that pill. I'm always living
Speaker 1: in my head and half the time I'm on an
Speaker 1: automatic pilot. I don't remember what I've done or what
Speaker 1: I haven't done. It might not be a pill It
Speaker 1: might be if you always forget to turn off your
Speaker 1: hair straight now and you know you're driving to work
Speaker 1: and you're like, did I turn it up? And you're like, so, like,
Speaker 1: I'm turning off my hair straightener today on Tuesday.
Speaker 3: I love it. It's so weird.
Speaker 2: Moving on my next.
Speaker 1: To lie.
Speaker 2: That's like how you tell come live with me, knock
Speaker 2: your head up three times on the pillow, and go,
Speaker 2: I will not have a bad dream tonight.
Speaker 1: I've found another cheak code. If you don't want to
Speaker 1: have a bad dream, just before you go to sleep,
Speaker 1: imagine white color white, like white, like looking at a
Speaker 1: white sheet, like with your eyes closed, a white wall
Speaker 1: or something like that. If you just think white, white, white,
Speaker 1: and then you won't have a bad.
Speaker 2: Scientific take away.
Speaker 1: My next cheak code for life is when I'm feeling
Speaker 1: really emotional and I'm having big feelings that seem out
Speaker 1: of proportion to the thing that's happening.
Speaker 3: That that doesn't happen very often, so I don't know
Speaker 3: why you would need a cheat code.
Speaker 1: Thanks so much, happy except I always forget this cheat code,
Speaker 1: but please from mine. I had a therapist who used
Speaker 1: to do this and she would say, how old do
Speaker 1: you feel right now? Pet? She would say, and that
Speaker 1: sounds passive aggressive, but she was never being passive aggressive.
Speaker 1: She like, I didn't mind her calling me pet, but
Speaker 1: it was very clarifying. It immediately tunes you in or
Speaker 1: tunes me into, going, I feel six years old? What
Speaker 1: was going on in my life when I was six
Speaker 1: years old? What does this feel like to me? And
Speaker 1: if you literally say to yourself, either out loud or
Speaker 1: in your head, particularly if you're having an argument with someone,
Speaker 1: if you just are like, how well do you feel
Speaker 1: right now? Pet? So here's something I warn against. He's
Speaker 1: asking your partner bash because I've tried that with my
Speaker 1: partner and he's tried that with me because we were
Speaker 1: at the therapist together and we both found it pretty useful.
Speaker 1: But anyway, that can make things a bit worse. But
Speaker 1: I find that to me to be really clarifying because
Speaker 1: at the time, you genuinely do believe that your big
Speaker 1: feeling is about this thing, but it feels like you've
Speaker 1: been a bit taken over and you don't understand why
Speaker 1: you're so upset. Anyway, So that helps my next one.
Speaker 1: And I've got so many Okay, this is a really
Speaker 1: good one. How to make a decision. So you know,
Speaker 1: when you're a bit like I don't know, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. Sometimes you can overthink it,
Speaker 1: you can over intellectualize it, and you just need to
Speaker 1: get in touch with your gut. And your gut is
Speaker 1: actually not we will, it's actually just the accumulation of
Speaker 1: all the experiences that you've ever had. And your gut
Speaker 1: is good. So what you do is you say to yourself,
Speaker 1: should I go to this part? I don't know if
Speaker 1: I want to go to this party or not. I
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know. Can I be bothered? Say
Speaker 1: to yourself, I'm definitely going to this party. I'm definitely going,
Speaker 1: as if you've made the decision, and see what emotion
Speaker 1: comes up in you. And it might be relief, it
Speaker 1: might be dread, dread, it might be nausea, exciting, and
Speaker 1: then just observe that for a second and then just go, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm definitely not going to this party. And observe what
Speaker 1: And it might be relief, it might be disappointment. It
Speaker 1: might be And someone taught me that when I didn't
Speaker 1: know whether I should move overseas to New York, or
Speaker 1: take your job as editor of Cosmo. And I was
Speaker 1: really torn because they were both pretty exciting opportunities, and
Speaker 1: she talked me through that, and it's something that I've
Speaker 1: used a lot of times since and it never gets
Speaker 1: me wrong. And then the last one is something I
Speaker 1: learned from this podcast many years ago. Instead of saying
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, say thank you for your understanding, and then
Speaker 1: you kind of manipulate someone into not being mad with you.
Speaker 3: So like in emails or like in meetings.
Speaker 1: Or like I'm so sorry I'm late, it's like, thank
Speaker 1: you so much for understanding I've just had the worst morning,
Speaker 1: or yes I couldn't kind of part.
Speaker 3: You've said as well. When I say i'm sorry, I
Speaker 3: then put some responsibility on you to make me feel better,
Speaker 3: which is really annoying for the person who's been.
Speaker 1: Saying like I'm so sorry and they're just like yeah.
Speaker 1: But if you just go thank you so much for
Speaker 1: understanding or for not leaving or whatever, it is like
Speaker 1: it flips it and it gives the person a compliment
Speaker 1: and some status for being a good person and kind
Speaker 1: of tricks them into being less mad with you.
Speaker 3: Holly, what do you have Okay, you have some cheakcakes.
Speaker 2: I have no practical ones because my practical life is terrible.
Speaker 2: You know the people who are like like the lady
Speaker 2: with the school uniform. I wish I was that, but
Speaker 2: I'm never that, and I just can't get my shit
Speaker 2: together in that way. But I have like other ones
Speaker 2: this one. Who did we seal this from me? I'm
Speaker 2: always fuck first?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 1: Yes, that was from Dan Savage who has this podcast.
Speaker 2: This is very good advice.
Speaker 3: I find does mean that you should say with people
Speaker 3: all the time away.
Speaker 2: What it means. So this is particularly good advice for
Speaker 2: a phase in your life. Right, So imagine this. You
Speaker 2: and your partner have got a date night, and it's
Speaker 2: rare that you've got a date night because you know,
Speaker 2: you've got kids and you've got whatever. But maybe you
Speaker 2: find the kids out to their grandparents for the night,
Speaker 2: maybe whatever, and you go, it's gonna be great. We're
Speaker 2: gonna go out for a meal, we're gonna have cocktails,
Speaker 2: and we're gonna come home, we're gonna have sex. Gonna
Speaker 2: be great. No, you're not, you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 2: by the time you've gone out and you've had the
Speaker 2: cocktails and you've eaten the food, and what you want
Speaker 2: to do when you come back is lin on the
Speaker 2: couch and watch something stupidep.
Speaker 1: You feel bloated, you'll get sloppy.
Speaker 2: Fuck first. Always getting ready for a wedding, it's a
Speaker 2: sauning date. Fuck first, then go out, got a dinner date,
Speaker 2: Fuck first, always fuck first. That is the best.
Speaker 3: You got a big meal. You're not feeling.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: Late night sex is not it when you're not like
Speaker 2: it's different when you're in a different phase of your life.
Speaker 2: But when you're an established so they go you weren't
Speaker 2: expecting a sex cheek.
Speaker 1: Because then you have an empty stomach.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, And also about with the spring in your step,
Speaker 2: and then when you sit there at dinner, you're not like,
Speaker 2: it's just good. It's just always a good plan.
Speaker 1: It's very sound.
Speaker 2: I really like that one. You too, won't agree with
Speaker 2: me about this. Anyone who bitches to you is also
Speaker 2: bitching about you.
Speaker 1: That is a fine bitchy words to live by.
Speaker 2: You know how we often talk about how you need
Speaker 2: people in your life. You can bitch too, and you
Speaker 2: do right like generally, But people who always bitch to
Speaker 2: you about everybody. They are also bitching to everybody.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, without question, but I'm not bitching about everybody
Speaker 3: on my bitch about like two people to you, but
Speaker 3: I'm not bitching about you. Do you believe me?
Speaker 5: Oh my god, she doesn't.
Speaker 1: I realized that about when I used to get Brazilian
Speaker 1: bikini waxes and my waxa used to tell me things
Speaker 1: about her other clients. Yes, And I was a bit like, no,
Speaker 1: that's true.
Speaker 2: Right in professional settings, this is particularly true.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 2: Like, sometimes you'll interview someone for a job when I've
Speaker 2: been a manager, and actually me is terrible this because
Speaker 2: she always tries to get people to bitch in job interviews.
Speaker 2: But like if the person that you're interviewing will bitch
Speaker 2: about their current employer, but it's a test hire them.
Speaker 3: That's why I do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is.
Speaker 1: It's a and forgossip pos Thank you for your understanding,
Speaker 1: but I love it.
Speaker 2: Listening and changing your mind is a sign of strength,
Speaker 2: not weakness.
Speaker 1: One hundred Every time strong opinions lose me.
Speaker 2: Hell, people who are very much like you know, oh
Speaker 2: you used to think this, and no you think that,
Speaker 2: and you said that that time and all that stuff.
Speaker 2: They don't know what they're doing. Those people, they're silly.
Speaker 2: And if you don't have a better idea, shut the
Speaker 2: fuck up. That is something I was by a lot.
Speaker 2: You know, when you're just like I don't like that,
Speaker 2: that's wrong. Da da da da da, And you can
Speaker 2: get into a really negative cycle. You've got to ask yourself,
Speaker 2: have I got a better idea? Do I think?
Speaker 3: How would I do it? And is it honestly better?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Is it better? Always?
Speaker 3: Yeah? That's and can you be bothered to do it?
Speaker 3: Because you probably can't, in which case, forget about it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3: There are some Okay, mine are weird. Good one that
Speaker 3: I have is about memory. I've said it before, years
Speaker 3: and years ago, but this is something I did when
Speaker 3: I was studying at school, and I read this fact
Speaker 3: somewhere and the fact might not be true. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 3: If you want to remember something, memorize something, whether it's
Speaker 3: like a speech or a fact or notes. I'll print
Speaker 3: it on green paper. I read it once. Apparently if
Speaker 3: you read off green paper, it's a trigger for memory.
Speaker 2: Do you have green paper for that purpose?
Speaker 3: I used to. I haven't needed it recently, But if
Speaker 3: I was like doing a speech where I felt like
Speaker 3: I needed to know this completely off by heart, I
Speaker 3: would do it on green paper.
Speaker 1: I wonder if you can replicate that on your phone,
Speaker 1: because I mean, who's going to go out and buy
Speaker 1: green paper?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 7: See?
Speaker 3: I always do paper. I think phones very very different.
Speaker 3: I think that my brain is wired to forget everything
Speaker 3: I look at that's on a screen. I think when
Speaker 3: it's on paper, it holds totally different.
Speaker 1: So did you like print out all your school notes
Speaker 1: on green paper?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yep, and how green green that I'm still like,
Speaker 3: read it like that the black is still visible. But
Speaker 3: even if it's not, if I'm telling my brain this
Speaker 3: green paper means I'll memorize it, it's like pale green.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So that's always helped me. My rule for emails or
Speaker 3: messages or anything is do not open it until you
Speaker 3: can reply.
Speaker 2: That's a really good rule because I always forget that rule,
Speaker 2: and that's why I'm very bad on email. I've got
Speaker 2: a minute, I'm going to read it. I'll go. I'll
Speaker 2: get back to that later. No, I won't.
Speaker 3: Now, my memory is not good enough for that. I
Speaker 3: use the Pomodori method for just about everything.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So timing yep. I have a stop watch for everything
Speaker 3: I do. What it is, It's like, recently, I had
Speaker 3: this big ish project that I had to complete, and
Speaker 3: it was like pulling teeth. I just was not enjoying
Speaker 3: any I knew I needed to do it, but it
Speaker 3: was a job, and every time I sat down to
Speaker 3: do it, I would go, you're going to do twenty minutes.
Speaker 3: Look at the clock, time it now, and just get
Speaker 3: twenty minutes of it.
Speaker 1: So it's like you almost have to sneak up on yourself. Yep.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do that. I set thirty minutes on my
Speaker 2: phone and then I put my phone in a drawer
Speaker 2: somewhere away yep. And then when my thirty minutes goes off,
Speaker 2: that I focus. I'm allowed to play with my phone
Speaker 2: for four minutes.
Speaker 1: Then I have to put another timer on.
Speaker 3: It actually makes you satisfied because sometimes when you're doing projects,
Speaker 3: you can spend twenty minutes doing something and you've got
Speaker 3: no more words, and you actually don't feel like you've
Speaker 3: got anywhere, but you always have. So it's a way
Speaker 3: of measuring progress. Another one I have is when you're
Speaker 3: speaking to someone and they're telling you something, say you're right,
Speaker 3: rather than I know, like if I'm really engaged and hoy,
Speaker 3: you're telling me about the substance and your analysis of it,
Speaker 3: and I say, yeah, I know, yeah, I know. It's
Speaker 3: quite dismissive and it sounds like I think I know everything.
Speaker 3: It makes you feel a lot smarter if I'm like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 3: you're right, you're right, it's true, which I think is
Speaker 3: helpful for relation.
Speaker 1: That's interesting. A tangent on that is that I found
Speaker 1: this particularly when I had little kids and everyone's giving
Speaker 1: you a lot of advice. Oh, and people like push
Speaker 1: it onto you, and I used to try and push
Speaker 1: back it, like I used to resent it, and then
Speaker 1: I realized they'll keep going until you say, what a
Speaker 1: great idea? Yeah, that will shut them up. Then they'll
Speaker 1: move on because they think that you're going to do
Speaker 1: it and you're not. But you just say that to
Speaker 1: make them star. You just go. That is such a
Speaker 1: if anyone's giving you advice you don't want to take.
Speaker 3: My last one is argue the point, not the person
Speaker 3: related to that, and never argue on the internet. But
Speaker 3: anyone I see, or even if I'm having a discussion
Speaker 3: or an argument with someone, there is a threshold by
Speaker 3: which they've completely lost me. And it's like any name calling,
Speaker 3: even in people that I really respect their opinion, it's
Speaker 3: like at that point, I've just write it off. And
Speaker 3: it's something that's really really hard to keep yourself accountable for.
Speaker 3: And I think I'm better at it now than I
Speaker 3: was five years ago. Oh and hopefully in five years
Speaker 3: I'll be much much better at it. But like playing
Speaker 3: the ball, not the player or whatever.
Speaker 1: So you mean, like the way the Internet's made everyone
Speaker 1: jump straight to you're a racist, you're a fascist, yere.
Speaker 2: Or even like the vice presidential debate this week, Roundly
Speaker 2: people are generally saying Jade Vance won that, and all
Speaker 2: the leftist people don't like him, right, including myself. But
Speaker 2: rather than admitting that he won that, you know, like,
Speaker 2: but that doesn't mean we should all go out and
Speaker 2: vote for him. They're all going look at his stupid
Speaker 2: way he looks stupid, Look at his stupid eyeline. I
Speaker 2: look at his stupid and it's not eyeliner. But that's
Speaker 2: not the point. But it's like petty name calling. I'm like,
Speaker 2: immediately I think a lot less of that person. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: I also think that if we're having an argument and
Speaker 3: you say something that I don't agree with, and then
Speaker 3: I go, well, you would think that because and I
Speaker 3: bring up something from your personal life, I've clearly lost
Speaker 3: my either train of thought or my point, because if
Speaker 3: my point's strong enough, then I don't need to start
Speaker 3: character assassinating you or making assumptions about your life. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's something that I try and hold myself too.
Speaker 1: Smart, because by calling someone a name, you just immediately
Speaker 1: shut down any possibility of conversation.
Speaker 2: Or making something personal that isn't personal. Do you know
Speaker 2: what I mean? Like, because then immediately just put somebody's
Speaker 2: back up and you don't. Yeah, I agree, good one.
Speaker 2: I've got one more sleep on it. Always, always, always
Speaker 2: everything I'm really really upset about. I nearly always feel
Speaker 2: better the next day. So unless you can't sleep on
Speaker 2: it because it's a decision that needs to be made
Speaker 2: right now.
Speaker 3: How about but everyone says about not going to bed
Speaker 3: angry with your partner. What do you think of that?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: No, Sometimes I'm not a grudge keeper, so I couldn't be.
Speaker 2: Like I've got friends who cannot speak to their partner
Speaker 2: for three days and live in the same house.
Speaker 3: I could never ever do that.
Speaker 2: It's just not my nature. It doesn't mean I'm particularly not.
Speaker 2: It's just like I'm more of a goldfish, do you
Speaker 2: know what I mean? So that's not so much of
Speaker 2: a problem.
Speaker 1: I think they sleep on it things interesting because I
Speaker 1: try to be that sometimes. But then I do sleep
Speaker 1: because you have to in the course of an argument,
Speaker 1: and then I just kind of lose interest.
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