1 00:00:10,705 --> 00:00:15,385 Speaker 1: You're listening to Amma Mia podcast. Mama Miya acknowledges the 2 00:00:15,425 --> 00:00:18,545 Speaker 1: traditional owners of land and waters that this podcast is 3 00:00:18,585 --> 00:00:21,825 Speaker 1: recorded on Hey you biz Lee here. Now I know 4 00:00:22,185 --> 00:00:25,505 Speaker 1: you love Spendy Saby. It's the most popular segment. But 5 00:00:25,625 --> 00:00:27,865 Speaker 1: did you know over on Nothing to Wear, we have 6 00:00:28,145 --> 00:00:29,185 Speaker 1: the version. 7 00:00:28,905 --> 00:00:29,745 Speaker 2: For your clothes. 8 00:00:29,825 --> 00:00:32,705 Speaker 1: It's called Bougie and Budget and it's my favorite part 9 00:00:32,785 --> 00:00:34,905 Speaker 1: of the Nothing to Wear podcasts. To have a listened 10 00:00:34,905 --> 00:00:36,425 Speaker 1: to this episode and let me know what you think 11 00:00:36,465 --> 00:00:40,465 Speaker 1: of my Bougie and Budget. Whoever said orange is a 12 00:00:40,505 --> 00:00:42,145 Speaker 1: new pink but seriously. 13 00:00:41,745 --> 00:00:44,705 Speaker 3: Disturbed Laurels for spraying groundbreaking? 14 00:00:44,945 --> 00:00:47,265 Speaker 2: Oh my god, you have to do it. You live 15 00:00:47,345 --> 00:00:52,465 Speaker 2: for fashion. Hello, and welcome to Nothing to Wear, the 16 00:00:52,505 --> 00:00:56,025 Speaker 2: podcast that solves fashion problems and levels up your wardrobe. 17 00:00:56,225 --> 00:00:59,705 Speaker 2: Longtime listeners of the podcast might remember me. I'm Tamara Holland. 18 00:00:59,785 --> 00:01:02,265 Speaker 2: I'm the contributing fashion editor here at Mamma Mia, and 19 00:01:02,265 --> 00:01:05,785 Speaker 2: today I'm joined by the fabulous and so stylish listening 20 00:01:05,825 --> 00:01:06,265 Speaker 2: to Picket. 21 00:01:06,265 --> 00:01:09,545 Speaker 3: Hello, my friend, Hello tam it is so lovely being back. 22 00:01:09,705 --> 00:01:10,465 Speaker 3: Thank you, Tam. 23 00:01:10,545 --> 00:01:13,225 Speaker 4: Our lovely host Lee Campbell is actually away for the 24 00:01:13,265 --> 00:01:15,545 Speaker 4: next couple of episodes, so Tam and I are taking 25 00:01:15,585 --> 00:01:18,225 Speaker 4: over the pod, and today we thought we'd discussed our 26 00:01:18,265 --> 00:01:21,225 Speaker 4: biggest shopping mistakes and how we can cure them. We've 27 00:01:21,305 --> 00:01:23,785 Speaker 4: all made them, we still make them to this day. 28 00:01:24,785 --> 00:01:27,145 Speaker 4: So we've actually come to the pod with three different 29 00:01:27,185 --> 00:01:28,585 Speaker 4: mistakes and how we can fix them. 30 00:01:28,585 --> 00:01:30,185 Speaker 3: So how about we start with your one and kick 31 00:01:30,265 --> 00:01:31,265 Speaker 3: us off with your number one? 32 00:01:31,425 --> 00:01:33,865 Speaker 2: Okay, let's do it. So the first one I'm going 33 00:01:33,905 --> 00:01:36,385 Speaker 2: to talk about, Lucinda, is something I actually wrote an 34 00:01:36,425 --> 00:01:38,825 Speaker 2: article about this for Mamma Mia the other week. I 35 00:01:38,865 --> 00:01:42,065 Speaker 2: was very passionate about it. It's something I'm calling buying 36 00:01:42,105 --> 00:01:45,105 Speaker 2: the Consolation Prize. What I kind of want to flesh 37 00:01:45,105 --> 00:01:46,825 Speaker 2: out the scenario for you a bit because it's a 38 00:01:46,865 --> 00:01:48,705 Speaker 2: little bit hard to describe, but I think it's something 39 00:01:48,785 --> 00:01:51,905 Speaker 2: we've all done, right. So picture this. You have an 40 00:01:51,945 --> 00:01:54,425 Speaker 2: item in your head. You've maybe seen it on Instagram 41 00:01:54,625 --> 00:01:57,025 Speaker 2: or you know you've seen it on an influencer you love, 42 00:01:57,105 --> 00:01:59,385 Speaker 2: or maybe it's just a designer bag or something like that. 43 00:01:59,465 --> 00:02:02,865 Speaker 2: Design a bag, a shoe, something that feels aspirational to 44 00:02:02,945 --> 00:02:06,945 Speaker 2: you and potentially out of reach financially. So rather than 45 00:02:07,105 --> 00:02:09,865 Speaker 2: buying that item like you're fixated on it on a 46 00:02:09,905 --> 00:02:13,385 Speaker 2: subconscious level, you kind of end up buying like cheaper 47 00:02:13,465 --> 00:02:16,905 Speaker 2: versions of it, less good quality versions of that item 48 00:02:16,985 --> 00:02:20,305 Speaker 2: to sort of echo or get the look. But you're 49 00:02:20,385 --> 00:02:23,105 Speaker 2: actually potentially better off in the long run if you 50 00:02:23,145 --> 00:02:25,745 Speaker 2: think about something like cost per wear on that item, 51 00:02:25,825 --> 00:02:27,785 Speaker 2: you might have been better off buying me original in 52 00:02:27,825 --> 00:02:31,065 Speaker 2: the first place, rather than spending money on you know, 53 00:02:31,145 --> 00:02:33,585 Speaker 2: a subpar duplicate. I have you done this? 54 00:02:33,665 --> 00:02:35,945 Speaker 4: I do this a lot, and it is those big 55 00:02:35,985 --> 00:02:38,065 Speaker 4: ticket items that when you see at the price, you 56 00:02:38,105 --> 00:02:40,225 Speaker 4: sort of gork at it. So, for example, a trench 57 00:02:40,785 --> 00:02:43,105 Speaker 4: or jeans, I do it with denim, Like instead of 58 00:02:43,185 --> 00:02:45,905 Speaker 4: just buying the good pair of jeans, I might buy 59 00:02:46,025 --> 00:02:48,745 Speaker 4: like a pair from cotton On, which, yeah, they get 60 00:02:48,785 --> 00:02:50,745 Speaker 4: you through maybe a season, but they're not going to 61 00:02:50,825 --> 00:02:53,585 Speaker 4: have that longevity totally. And the same with trenches. I 62 00:02:53,585 --> 00:02:55,905 Speaker 4: would always love like the Camilla and mark you know, 63 00:02:56,025 --> 00:02:57,625 Speaker 4: eight hundred nine hundred, It could even. 64 00:02:57,465 --> 00:02:58,745 Speaker 3: Get that's such a good example. 65 00:02:58,945 --> 00:03:01,945 Speaker 4: Yeah, but I just can't bite and I end up 66 00:03:01,945 --> 00:03:03,945 Speaker 4: getting something that's you know, maybe two hundred dollars. 67 00:03:04,105 --> 00:03:07,065 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, cool. It just doesn't have that quality factor, 68 00:03:07,105 --> 00:03:08,025 Speaker 3: does it exactly? 69 00:03:08,025 --> 00:03:10,225 Speaker 2: And you can't keep it for a long time. And 70 00:03:10,425 --> 00:03:12,545 Speaker 2: when I shared this, I actually did a reel about 71 00:03:12,585 --> 00:03:14,825 Speaker 2: it on Instagram as well. I said, stop buying or 72 00:03:14,865 --> 00:03:18,785 Speaker 2: don't buy the consolation prize, and so many women commented 73 00:03:18,825 --> 00:03:21,065 Speaker 2: to say that they've done this too. They're really identified 74 00:03:21,065 --> 00:03:23,265 Speaker 2: with it, and they said, ultimately they usually end up 75 00:03:23,265 --> 00:03:25,825 Speaker 2: coming back to the original item, you know, spending the 76 00:03:25,825 --> 00:03:28,065 Speaker 2: money on the jupe, and then in the end they 77 00:03:28,145 --> 00:03:30,345 Speaker 2: end up spending that money on the piece that was 78 00:03:30,385 --> 00:03:32,505 Speaker 2: more expensive in the first place. So you're actually out 79 00:03:32,545 --> 00:03:34,985 Speaker 2: of pocket even more money by the time you've completed 80 00:03:34,985 --> 00:03:36,745 Speaker 2: that journey and realized that you were right in the 81 00:03:36,745 --> 00:03:37,305 Speaker 2: first place. 82 00:03:37,385 --> 00:03:39,905 Speaker 4: So would you suggest just saving up, so deciding what 83 00:03:39,945 --> 00:03:41,865 Speaker 4: it is that you want, and then just saving and 84 00:03:41,905 --> 00:03:42,945 Speaker 4: getting the actual piece. 85 00:03:43,145 --> 00:03:46,425 Speaker 2: I think there's two scenarios here. If it's within your means, 86 00:03:46,465 --> 00:03:49,785 Speaker 2: potentially do the budget, see how much you need to save, 87 00:03:49,905 --> 00:03:52,225 Speaker 2: See if you can make a few other sacrifices potentially 88 00:03:52,225 --> 00:03:55,025 Speaker 2: in your wardrobe or elsewhere in your like lifestyle. Spend 89 00:03:55,105 --> 00:03:57,585 Speaker 2: potentially for the month or you know, if it's a 90 00:03:57,625 --> 00:04:00,065 Speaker 2: designer handbag, it might be six months that you're planning 91 00:04:00,065 --> 00:04:02,225 Speaker 2: to buy this item right or longer. But if you 92 00:04:02,265 --> 00:04:04,425 Speaker 2: can do the maths and it's within budget. With that 93 00:04:04,585 --> 00:04:07,865 Speaker 2: in mind, absolutely wait for the item that you want. 94 00:04:08,065 --> 00:04:10,145 Speaker 2: But if you can't and it's not within means, I 95 00:04:10,185 --> 00:04:12,785 Speaker 2: think that's just the point we have to recognize. You 96 00:04:12,825 --> 00:04:15,745 Speaker 2: don't need a duplicate. You don't necessarily and of course, 97 00:04:15,825 --> 00:04:18,145 Speaker 2: like if you find a great dupe and you love 98 00:04:18,185 --> 00:04:20,225 Speaker 2: it by all means, get it, but just know that 99 00:04:20,225 --> 00:04:21,705 Speaker 2: you're not going to have the payoff that you would 100 00:04:21,745 --> 00:04:22,305 Speaker 2: with the original. 101 00:04:22,505 --> 00:04:26,105 Speaker 4: Yeah, and you won't feel proud wearing it. I tea 102 00:04:26,305 --> 00:04:28,665 Speaker 4: and someone asked, where is it from? Oh, this is it. 103 00:04:28,665 --> 00:04:30,385 Speaker 4: It's Camilla mark and you look proud of it. You 104 00:04:30,385 --> 00:04:31,705 Speaker 4: don't really have that same effect. 105 00:04:31,785 --> 00:04:34,225 Speaker 3: So yeah, I get exactly what you mean. So saving 106 00:04:34,305 --> 00:04:37,225 Speaker 3: up if you can, no consolation prize. 107 00:04:37,265 --> 00:04:40,465 Speaker 2: No consolation prize is that's it, my friend. All right, 108 00:04:40,585 --> 00:04:43,185 Speaker 2: let's jump into yours. What's your shopping mistake? 109 00:04:43,745 --> 00:04:46,585 Speaker 4: My number one is and I'm still here. I actually 110 00:04:46,625 --> 00:04:50,305 Speaker 4: did it last night. It's late night shopping. So I 111 00:04:50,345 --> 00:04:51,065 Speaker 4: was up with my. 112 00:04:51,185 --> 00:04:52,385 Speaker 3: One year old. I was going to call her a 113 00:04:52,385 --> 00:04:54,705 Speaker 3: newborn she's not anymore, but she was just ah. 114 00:04:54,745 --> 00:04:56,665 Speaker 4: But I was just not well at the moment, and 115 00:04:56,705 --> 00:04:58,705 Speaker 4: I was feeding her and to stay awake. 116 00:04:58,865 --> 00:05:02,265 Speaker 3: There I was scrolling online shopping and the irony. 117 00:05:02,305 --> 00:05:04,745 Speaker 4: I knew we were talking about it today that I 118 00:05:04,905 --> 00:05:07,425 Speaker 4: was doing it myself. So it's this late night shopping. 119 00:05:07,425 --> 00:05:10,505 Speaker 4: It started for me when I was feeding my newborns. 120 00:05:10,745 --> 00:05:13,545 Speaker 4: And to stay awake the three am feeds, you know, 121 00:05:13,585 --> 00:05:17,145 Speaker 4: the four am, five am. I'm up scrolling and buying online. 122 00:05:17,185 --> 00:05:18,905 Speaker 2: But that's what you do to get through it. I've 123 00:05:18,905 --> 00:05:20,625 Speaker 2: been here too, I've got a two year old. But 124 00:05:20,665 --> 00:05:22,625 Speaker 2: at the start, I remember like I bought things I 125 00:05:22,665 --> 00:05:25,505 Speaker 2: don't even have like the package arrived than the next week, 126 00:05:25,545 --> 00:05:27,185 Speaker 2: and I don't even have any memory of ordering it 127 00:05:27,225 --> 00:05:29,425 Speaker 2: because you're in this sleep deprived state. 128 00:05:29,305 --> 00:05:30,625 Speaker 3: And you have to stay away. 129 00:05:30,745 --> 00:05:33,825 Speaker 4: Yeah, and it might be it could be just you're 130 00:05:33,865 --> 00:05:36,625 Speaker 4: at home, you're exhausted from work and you're doom scrolling 131 00:05:36,625 --> 00:05:39,025 Speaker 4: and shopping and you're just looking for that dopamine hit. 132 00:05:39,145 --> 00:05:42,065 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not like a healthy shopping experience. 133 00:05:42,185 --> 00:05:44,585 Speaker 4: And like you said, you either end up with something 134 00:05:44,665 --> 00:05:47,905 Speaker 4: that's really out of your style. I remember buying something 135 00:05:47,945 --> 00:05:49,545 Speaker 4: and sending it to a friend and she goes, what 136 00:05:49,625 --> 00:05:52,145 Speaker 4: are you on? And it was like this brat girls 137 00:05:52,185 --> 00:05:55,625 Speaker 4: summer miniskirt four years ago when Brat Girls one wasn't 138 00:05:55,625 --> 00:05:58,945 Speaker 4: even a thing, so it's that. But also it's out 139 00:05:58,945 --> 00:06:00,945 Speaker 4: of budget as well, so it might be you just think, 140 00:06:00,945 --> 00:06:04,065 Speaker 4: oh whatever, you're not thinking rationally. But also what I've 141 00:06:04,105 --> 00:06:06,625 Speaker 4: done in the past is bought like the wrong order, 142 00:06:06,705 --> 00:06:08,945 Speaker 4: so the wrong size, or I bought multiple of something 143 00:06:08,985 --> 00:06:10,745 Speaker 4: because I'm just not thinking you put. 144 00:06:10,625 --> 00:06:11,505 Speaker 2: In the wrong address. 145 00:06:11,705 --> 00:06:12,665 Speaker 3: Yeah. 146 00:06:12,745 --> 00:06:15,385 Speaker 4: Yeah, So trying to really get over that late night 147 00:06:15,425 --> 00:06:19,225 Speaker 4: shopping and I think we're all victim to it. But 148 00:06:19,385 --> 00:06:22,665 Speaker 4: what I'd say to get out of that is just 149 00:06:22,705 --> 00:06:24,705 Speaker 4: be aware of it and sleep on it. I know 150 00:06:24,785 --> 00:06:28,025 Speaker 4: it's easier said than done, but it's really not going anywhere, 151 00:06:28,025 --> 00:06:30,665 Speaker 4: And don't fall for the marketing of you know, it's 152 00:06:30,705 --> 00:06:32,985 Speaker 4: selling out fast or you know, getting quick, or even 153 00:06:33,025 --> 00:06:35,745 Speaker 4: the pre orders. Just wait and hold until the next morning, 154 00:06:35,745 --> 00:06:37,865 Speaker 4: because sometimes I find that, Yeah, like people will say 155 00:06:37,905 --> 00:06:40,105 Speaker 4: about the style, it's not my style. 156 00:06:39,865 --> 00:06:41,745 Speaker 2: And I wake up in the morning fresh eyes on it. 157 00:06:42,265 --> 00:06:42,545 Speaker 3: Yeah. 158 00:06:42,665 --> 00:06:44,665 Speaker 2: You could even like something I've done in the past 159 00:06:44,745 --> 00:06:47,105 Speaker 2: has taken a screenshot and then return to that the 160 00:06:47,145 --> 00:06:50,025 Speaker 2: next day. So I don't forget, like I can see 161 00:06:50,065 --> 00:06:51,905 Speaker 2: the item. I'm like, I can look at it with 162 00:06:51,945 --> 00:06:54,225 Speaker 2: fresh eyes. And I can consider it in the light 163 00:06:54,265 --> 00:06:56,145 Speaker 2: of day if it's something that I actually, you know, 164 00:06:56,465 --> 00:06:58,265 Speaker 2: is fulfilling a gap in my wardrobe, or it is 165 00:06:58,345 --> 00:07:00,985 Speaker 2: something that I really have been coveting or feeling like 166 00:07:01,025 --> 00:07:02,905 Speaker 2: I need, or it was just like a desperate middle 167 00:07:02,945 --> 00:07:03,905 Speaker 2: of the night. Hey, that'll do. 168 00:07:04,145 --> 00:07:06,305 Speaker 3: That's a really good tip. Term. I did that as well. 169 00:07:06,345 --> 00:07:08,905 Speaker 4: Just screenshot everything, put it in an album called want 170 00:07:08,945 --> 00:07:11,265 Speaker 4: to Buy, and that's what I end up scrolling out. 171 00:07:11,745 --> 00:07:13,825 Speaker 2: I have it on Instagram as like it just says 172 00:07:13,865 --> 00:07:16,425 Speaker 2: shopping nice and I just returned to it sometimes and 173 00:07:16,505 --> 00:07:18,425 Speaker 2: like to look at the things and sometimes that's enough, 174 00:07:18,985 --> 00:07:21,225 Speaker 2: just looking at the item rather than having the gratification 175 00:07:21,305 --> 00:07:21,865 Speaker 2: of buying it. 176 00:07:22,145 --> 00:07:25,185 Speaker 3: Yeah, so late night shopping is my number one mistake. Okay, 177 00:07:25,225 --> 00:07:26,145 Speaker 3: I still trying to. 178 00:07:26,345 --> 00:07:28,505 Speaker 2: I'm guilty as well. My friend, we're in it together. 179 00:07:29,225 --> 00:07:30,385 Speaker 3: What's your number two tap? 180 00:07:30,945 --> 00:07:35,665 Speaker 2: So this is a trap I've definitely fallen into many times. 181 00:07:35,705 --> 00:07:39,305 Speaker 2: It's buying what I call like fantasy pieces. What I 182 00:07:39,345 --> 00:07:41,105 Speaker 2: mean by that is like, and I think you and 183 00:07:41,185 --> 00:07:42,905 Speaker 2: I are in the same boat, like when you really 184 00:07:42,945 --> 00:07:44,945 Speaker 2: love fashion or you're just like a sucker for a 185 00:07:44,985 --> 00:07:47,665 Speaker 2: beautiful cut or a beautiful piece. You kind of want 186 00:07:47,665 --> 00:07:49,945 Speaker 2: to collect it just to own it, but you're not 187 00:07:49,945 --> 00:07:53,745 Speaker 2: necessarily considering like the end use of that piece. You're 188 00:07:53,785 --> 00:07:56,945 Speaker 2: just acquiring something. And like, we're not celebrity. I mean, 189 00:07:57,065 --> 00:08:01,185 Speaker 2: maybe you're a minor celebrity on Instagram bringing up the 190 00:08:01,225 --> 00:08:04,185 Speaker 2: rear a little bit a few thousand followers, but look, 191 00:08:04,185 --> 00:08:06,665 Speaker 2: we're not celebrities. We don't have archives and other rooms, 192 00:08:06,665 --> 00:08:10,225 Speaker 2: you know, with specific community controlled air conditioning. We're now closed. 193 00:08:10,225 --> 00:08:13,025 Speaker 2: We're not all like Sarah Jessica Parker with you know, 194 00:08:13,185 --> 00:08:15,865 Speaker 2: with an archive of clothes. But like sometimes I think 195 00:08:15,905 --> 00:08:17,065 Speaker 2: of it that way and I'm like, oh, I just 196 00:08:17,065 --> 00:08:19,345 Speaker 2: want to have it, but I'm not thinking about the 197 00:08:19,385 --> 00:08:22,185 Speaker 2: lifestyle that I actually lead. And I think this is 198 00:08:22,225 --> 00:08:24,105 Speaker 2: a big like I think you and I can relate 199 00:08:24,145 --> 00:08:27,065 Speaker 2: on this because we're both like city girls who've gone 200 00:08:27,145 --> 00:08:30,265 Speaker 2: like regional regional girlies. Now I live in the South Coast. 201 00:08:30,705 --> 00:08:33,425 Speaker 2: You live, you know, in the Southern Highlands, so the 202 00:08:33,545 --> 00:08:37,145 Speaker 2: lifestyle is very different to like I used to work 203 00:08:37,145 --> 00:08:39,265 Speaker 2: in the city and I used to need blazers and 204 00:08:39,345 --> 00:08:41,305 Speaker 2: heels and all these pieces that you know, were for 205 00:08:41,385 --> 00:08:44,345 Speaker 2: my corporate life here and I should say in Sydney 206 00:08:44,385 --> 00:08:47,345 Speaker 2: where we're recording this podcast. But you know, back home, 207 00:08:47,505 --> 00:08:49,585 Speaker 2: I live by the beach, I've got a two year old, 208 00:08:49,625 --> 00:08:51,585 Speaker 2: I've got a dog I take for walks every day. 209 00:08:51,625 --> 00:08:55,185 Speaker 2: I work from home. Like the reality is I was shopping. 210 00:08:55,305 --> 00:08:57,425 Speaker 2: I found myself in this trap of like shopping for 211 00:08:57,465 --> 00:09:00,625 Speaker 2: a fantasy life that I don't lead. Ye, and I 212 00:09:00,665 --> 00:09:03,305 Speaker 2: think a lot of things fall into this category. You know, 213 00:09:03,425 --> 00:09:08,225 Speaker 2: you might find yourself buying like elevated pieces, or if 214 00:09:08,225 --> 00:09:10,745 Speaker 2: you love shoes, and it doesn't mean that you can't 215 00:09:11,065 --> 00:09:13,625 Speaker 2: buy beautiful shoes and wait for an occasion to wear them, 216 00:09:13,625 --> 00:09:16,025 Speaker 2: but you might be better off using that budget that 217 00:09:16,065 --> 00:09:18,065 Speaker 2: you have for those shoes towards something more practical. I 218 00:09:18,105 --> 00:09:19,785 Speaker 2: feel like this is like a really boring tip, but 219 00:09:19,825 --> 00:09:22,625 Speaker 2: it's just like it's been an awakening for me personally 220 00:09:22,665 --> 00:09:25,945 Speaker 2: because I don't wear those clothes. I don't wear blazers 221 00:09:26,225 --> 00:09:26,945 Speaker 2: by the beat. 222 00:09:26,785 --> 00:09:29,785 Speaker 4: You're still attracted to that like glitz and shiny product 223 00:09:29,825 --> 00:09:30,425 Speaker 4: that you want. 224 00:09:30,465 --> 00:09:30,985 Speaker 3: I'm the same. 225 00:09:31,105 --> 00:09:32,985 Speaker 4: There's these bags that I always want to Like, I'm 226 00:09:32,985 --> 00:09:34,585 Speaker 4: not wearing these bags around town. 227 00:09:34,745 --> 00:09:35,545 Speaker 2: Yeah already the. 228 00:09:35,505 --> 00:09:37,905 Speaker 3: Bags that I have I don't wear in the country. 229 00:09:37,945 --> 00:09:41,065 Speaker 2: It's right peculiar to be said it. 230 00:09:40,905 --> 00:09:41,625 Speaker 3: Is, wouldn't. 231 00:09:41,705 --> 00:09:44,105 Speaker 4: So yeah, it's almost like you've got to remind yourself. 232 00:09:44,145 --> 00:09:46,385 Speaker 4: Hang on a minute, I don't need this. I also 233 00:09:46,545 --> 00:09:48,825 Speaker 4: think I try and trick myself. Oh maybe I'll keep 234 00:09:48,865 --> 00:09:49,545 Speaker 4: it for my daughters. 235 00:09:49,585 --> 00:09:50,065 Speaker 3: They'll love it. 236 00:09:50,065 --> 00:09:53,345 Speaker 2: It's like, oh, that's a good one. That's a good excuse. 237 00:09:53,545 --> 00:09:55,105 Speaker 2: I have a daughter too, I can use that. 238 00:09:55,305 --> 00:09:58,745 Speaker 3: Yeah. So no, I absolutely understand that one. 239 00:09:58,825 --> 00:10:02,145 Speaker 4: And my second actually follows on from the Fantasy Shop. 240 00:10:02,465 --> 00:10:05,345 Speaker 4: It's the Fantasy bod. So I don't know if you've 241 00:10:05,345 --> 00:10:08,665 Speaker 4: done this, m but buying for your dream bobbed or 242 00:10:08,865 --> 00:10:12,065 Speaker 4: you know, buying this when you're really a size twelve, 243 00:10:12,185 --> 00:10:15,625 Speaker 4: or buying something for postpartum, or buying something for summer. 244 00:10:15,465 --> 00:10:17,505 Speaker 2: Like I'll wear it one day, yeah, or. 245 00:10:17,425 --> 00:10:19,905 Speaker 4: With the intention of getting to that size for summer, 246 00:10:19,945 --> 00:10:22,345 Speaker 4: which is just so dangerous. It just feeds into that 247 00:10:22,425 --> 00:10:24,945 Speaker 4: diet culture. I think we need to stop that. I 248 00:10:24,945 --> 00:10:27,105 Speaker 4: feel like I do that. My friends are not anymore, 249 00:10:27,145 --> 00:10:29,785 Speaker 4: but my friends used to do that as well, and 250 00:10:29,825 --> 00:10:32,225 Speaker 4: it's like we just buy these things that sits here 251 00:10:32,225 --> 00:10:34,465 Speaker 4: in our closet that we just don't end up wearing. 252 00:10:34,945 --> 00:10:37,305 Speaker 4: I've done that with bikinis when I was pregnant. It's 253 00:10:37,385 --> 00:10:40,345 Speaker 4: just an absolute waste of money and it's a toxic 254 00:10:40,385 --> 00:10:41,865 Speaker 4: way of thinking about clothes. 255 00:10:41,985 --> 00:10:44,625 Speaker 2: Absolutely, you need to buy for the body you have 256 00:10:44,785 --> 00:10:47,665 Speaker 2: now and the lifestyle you have now, and those two 257 00:10:47,705 --> 00:10:49,905 Speaker 2: things can work together. Like I think for me it 258 00:10:49,985 --> 00:10:54,185 Speaker 2: was leaning into clothes that you know. Also, perhaps I 259 00:10:54,225 --> 00:10:57,105 Speaker 2: was buying more oversized things after I had my baby 260 00:10:57,505 --> 00:10:59,305 Speaker 2: because I was comfortable in them. I had to be 261 00:10:59,345 --> 00:11:01,505 Speaker 2: crouching down on the ground all the time picking her up. 262 00:11:01,505 --> 00:11:03,865 Speaker 2: I had to be lying down, you know, with a baby, 263 00:11:03,985 --> 00:11:06,385 Speaker 2: rather than like wearing rigid dinnim or wearing And I 264 00:11:06,385 --> 00:11:09,505 Speaker 2: think for me, accepting that it was okay to buy 265 00:11:09,705 --> 00:11:12,705 Speaker 2: different size to your point, and that's just just accepting 266 00:11:12,705 --> 00:11:15,105 Speaker 2: it doesn't matter what the label, what the label says 267 00:11:15,105 --> 00:11:16,465 Speaker 2: on the on the tag. I feel like it sounds 268 00:11:16,505 --> 00:11:19,025 Speaker 2: really cliche, but it was. It was like a kind 269 00:11:19,025 --> 00:11:21,185 Speaker 2: of big moment for me to realize that it doesn't 270 00:11:21,185 --> 00:11:23,945 Speaker 2: really matter. Like if I'm comfortable, I feel better in 271 00:11:23,945 --> 00:11:28,585 Speaker 2: my clothes anyway. So having the pile of maybe I'll 272 00:11:28,625 --> 00:11:30,625 Speaker 2: wear than one day, whether it's for an urban me, 273 00:11:30,785 --> 00:11:33,185 Speaker 2: that's a fantasy that doesn't exist anymore, whether it's for 274 00:11:33,225 --> 00:11:36,185 Speaker 2: the pre baby body that I no longer have like 275 00:11:36,225 --> 00:11:37,505 Speaker 2: that was just wasn't serving me. 276 00:11:37,705 --> 00:11:38,305 Speaker 3: That's right. 277 00:11:38,385 --> 00:11:41,225 Speaker 4: Yeah, So for me, it's just stop buying things. It 278 00:11:41,265 --> 00:11:43,505 Speaker 4: has to fit you right now. I like the mindset 279 00:11:43,545 --> 00:11:46,385 Speaker 4: shift of your body doesn't need to earn your clothes 280 00:11:46,545 --> 00:11:48,865 Speaker 4: like you just buy for you now. You don't need 281 00:11:48,905 --> 00:11:50,425 Speaker 4: to earn or try and fit into it in a 282 00:11:50,505 --> 00:11:51,105 Speaker 4: few months. 283 00:11:51,225 --> 00:11:53,225 Speaker 3: It's right here, right now. What's going to fit me, 284 00:11:53,625 --> 00:11:54,625 Speaker 3: and that's what I'm going to buy. 285 00:11:54,745 --> 00:11:56,785 Speaker 2: Can you say that again? Your body doesn't need. 286 00:11:56,825 --> 00:12:00,545 Speaker 4: Your body doesn't need to earn your clothes. I love that, 287 00:12:00,785 --> 00:12:01,785 Speaker 4: and it's so true. 288 00:12:01,825 --> 00:12:05,305 Speaker 3: There's dresses. I remember it was twenty seventeen. I bought 289 00:12:05,345 --> 00:12:06,825 Speaker 3: this Zimmermann dress and. 290 00:12:07,465 --> 00:12:09,585 Speaker 4: I still it's in my wardrobe, still doesn't fit me 291 00:12:09,705 --> 00:12:12,425 Speaker 4: because size, extra, extra swar because I. 292 00:12:12,385 --> 00:12:13,785 Speaker 3: Had this idea of wearing it. 293 00:12:13,905 --> 00:12:17,105 Speaker 4: It was just it's silly, it's wasteful, and it's just 294 00:12:17,145 --> 00:12:19,065 Speaker 4: feeding into that toxic diet culture. 295 00:12:19,105 --> 00:12:22,785 Speaker 2: Absolutely. So my advice from personal experience to fix that 296 00:12:22,865 --> 00:12:25,905 Speaker 2: mistake of buying for a fantasye you is just to 297 00:12:25,985 --> 00:12:29,105 Speaker 2: ask yourself when you're shopping first and almost think of 298 00:12:29,145 --> 00:12:31,905 Speaker 2: the end use of the item. Like I said, not like, oh, 299 00:12:31,945 --> 00:12:33,945 Speaker 2: it'll look great hanging in my wardrobe, Like what do 300 00:12:33,985 --> 00:12:37,265 Speaker 2: I need it for? And then ask yourself, are you 301 00:12:37,345 --> 00:12:40,345 Speaker 2: buying it because you wear it, you need it, it 302 00:12:40,385 --> 00:12:42,505 Speaker 2: fills that gap in your wardrobe, or just because you 303 00:12:42,545 --> 00:12:44,985 Speaker 2: love it, Because if it's just because you love it, 304 00:12:45,265 --> 00:12:47,225 Speaker 2: you might need to let it go. That's right, Yeah, 305 00:12:47,265 --> 00:12:54,105 Speaker 2: that's a good one. Okay, moving on, I want to 306 00:12:54,145 --> 00:12:56,865 Speaker 2: talk about buying things because they're on sale, because I 307 00:12:56,905 --> 00:13:00,265 Speaker 2: feel like this is like the most common mistake that 308 00:13:00,345 --> 00:13:02,865 Speaker 2: I make, that my friends make, my mum, everyone, we've 309 00:13:02,905 --> 00:13:05,985 Speaker 2: all been there. So you just have to remember it's 310 00:13:06,025 --> 00:13:09,025 Speaker 2: on sale for a reason. It's marked down for a reason, right, 311 00:13:09,065 --> 00:13:11,425 Speaker 2: they want to get that stock out of their warehouse whatever. 312 00:13:11,465 --> 00:13:13,625 Speaker 2: And I think this is something we all fall victim to, 313 00:13:14,065 --> 00:13:16,505 Speaker 2: Like when you see a further thirty percent off of 314 00:13:16,545 --> 00:13:19,265 Speaker 2: the sale edit online and you're like, ooh, even more 315 00:13:19,345 --> 00:13:21,665 Speaker 2: money off that piece, But that's actually just like, if 316 00:13:21,705 --> 00:13:24,185 Speaker 2: you think about it, the retailer really needing to shift 317 00:13:24,185 --> 00:13:26,785 Speaker 2: the item and offering you even more of an incentive. 318 00:13:27,065 --> 00:13:28,745 Speaker 2: So you get that urgency and you get that little 319 00:13:28,785 --> 00:13:30,785 Speaker 2: pang in your tummy that's like, oh, I need it now, 320 00:13:31,625 --> 00:13:34,345 Speaker 2: and am I just buying it because it's on sale. 321 00:13:34,465 --> 00:13:36,225 Speaker 3: Yeah, I do this all the time. 322 00:13:36,585 --> 00:13:38,625 Speaker 4: And it's a brand that maybe it is one of 323 00:13:38,625 --> 00:13:40,985 Speaker 4: those higher price brands that you don't often buy from, 324 00:13:40,985 --> 00:13:43,385 Speaker 4: so you're excited to own a piece from that brand. 325 00:13:43,465 --> 00:13:46,105 Speaker 3: Yes, I did this recently with bear Park. They had 326 00:13:46,105 --> 00:13:47,665 Speaker 3: a sale. And the thing with. 327 00:13:47,665 --> 00:13:50,905 Speaker 4: Sales as well, it's either the really really small sizes 328 00:13:50,985 --> 00:13:54,425 Speaker 4: left or the bigger sizes, so they never have my size. 329 00:13:54,465 --> 00:13:56,465 Speaker 3: I'm buying the wrong size either. 330 00:13:56,625 --> 00:13:58,985 Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll get the size you know, fourteen, and I'll 331 00:13:58,985 --> 00:14:01,065 Speaker 4: get it tailored and it's just never going to fit right. 332 00:14:01,225 --> 00:14:03,385 Speaker 4: Or I've done the opposite where I buy the size 333 00:14:03,425 --> 00:14:06,665 Speaker 4: six and still don't wear them because it's just again wasteful. 334 00:14:06,785 --> 00:14:08,585 Speaker 2: You're compromising, You're compromising. 335 00:14:08,825 --> 00:14:10,185 Speaker 3: Yeah, so I get that. 336 00:14:10,265 --> 00:14:12,985 Speaker 4: The sales just in general, we all get caught up 337 00:14:13,025 --> 00:14:13,825 Speaker 4: in that excitement. 338 00:14:13,825 --> 00:14:15,985 Speaker 3: You're sending it and sharing it with friends or around 339 00:14:15,985 --> 00:14:18,905 Speaker 3: the office. Just take a beat. What do you actually 340 00:14:18,985 --> 00:14:19,825 Speaker 3: need as well? 341 00:14:19,945 --> 00:14:22,305 Speaker 4: Correct rather than just feeling your wardrobe because it's on 342 00:14:22,385 --> 00:14:26,185 Speaker 4: sale and yeah, almost like before you open up the website, 343 00:14:26,185 --> 00:14:28,385 Speaker 4: what do I actually need? Because I feel like you 344 00:14:28,425 --> 00:14:30,425 Speaker 4: get sucked in and you see all these things and 345 00:14:30,665 --> 00:14:32,945 Speaker 4: like maybe you see the Blazers. You've got, you know, 346 00:14:32,985 --> 00:14:35,625 Speaker 4: four Blazers already, you don't really need another one, yeah, 347 00:14:35,705 --> 00:14:36,745 Speaker 4: but you just but it's. 348 00:14:36,665 --> 00:14:38,905 Speaker 2: There in front of you. This is it. So like 349 00:14:38,945 --> 00:14:41,665 Speaker 2: I think we all still want, you know, and potentially 350 00:14:41,705 --> 00:14:43,585 Speaker 2: need to shop things when they're on sales. And that's 351 00:14:43,585 --> 00:14:45,785 Speaker 2: a financial reality for a lot of people. We wait 352 00:14:45,825 --> 00:14:48,785 Speaker 2: for sales, right, but potentially instead and this is something 353 00:14:48,865 --> 00:14:51,665 Speaker 2: I know I do wait for the sale events like 354 00:14:51,785 --> 00:14:55,185 Speaker 2: Black Friday, Cyber Monday, that kind of thing, because generally 355 00:14:55,225 --> 00:14:59,065 Speaker 2: the retailers are offering like a generic discount across the 356 00:14:59,145 --> 00:15:03,105 Speaker 2: full range, right, thirty percent off everything, not just thirty 357 00:15:03,145 --> 00:15:05,425 Speaker 2: percent off the pieces that we want to mark down 358 00:15:05,505 --> 00:15:08,065 Speaker 2: that aren't sally right, because you have to remember, like 359 00:15:08,545 --> 00:15:10,505 Speaker 2: you know, the pieces that are on sailor like no 360 00:15:10,545 --> 00:15:13,785 Speaker 2: one bought them, so you're like not having your pick 361 00:15:13,865 --> 00:15:15,385 Speaker 2: of what you want, You're having your pick of what 362 00:15:15,425 --> 00:15:16,145 Speaker 2: the retailer wants. 363 00:15:16,225 --> 00:15:20,025 Speaker 4: They just shifted exactly. People probably aren't necessarily thinking that 364 00:15:20,065 --> 00:15:20,865 Speaker 4: when they. 365 00:15:20,585 --> 00:15:22,625 Speaker 2: We're not that discerning, are We were just like, oh, 366 00:15:22,705 --> 00:15:25,705 Speaker 2: big shiny red number, like I've got to get in there. 367 00:15:26,545 --> 00:15:29,545 Speaker 2: So yeah, and I'd say another thing that falls into 368 00:15:29,545 --> 00:15:34,465 Speaker 2: this category, is buying something because it's cheap on a discounted, 369 00:15:34,545 --> 00:15:38,105 Speaker 2: say designer retailer. Let me explain a little bit because 370 00:15:38,145 --> 00:15:40,865 Speaker 2: I did this not too long ago. There's a retailer 371 00:15:40,905 --> 00:15:46,825 Speaker 2: called Cosette that does like marked down designer handbags and accessories, shoes, 372 00:15:46,825 --> 00:15:49,865 Speaker 2: that kind of thing, And I ended up buying myself 373 00:15:50,025 --> 00:15:53,505 Speaker 2: a Gucci handbag because it was like, I can't remember 374 00:15:53,545 --> 00:15:55,905 Speaker 2: the exact numbers, but I think it was like fifteen 375 00:15:55,985 --> 00:15:58,305 Speaker 2: hundred dollars instead of two k. And I was like, oh, 376 00:15:58,305 --> 00:16:01,665 Speaker 2: I'm saving five hundred dollars, but I was saving money 377 00:16:01,705 --> 00:16:04,425 Speaker 2: on Like the edit of styles they have on Cosette 378 00:16:04,465 --> 00:16:07,065 Speaker 2: are the markedown styles that haven't sold in the boutiques. 379 00:16:07,065 --> 00:16:09,585 Speaker 2: I don't know how they get them, what bootleg is 380 00:16:09,745 --> 00:16:11,825 Speaker 2: going on there, I don't really need to know. But 381 00:16:11,945 --> 00:16:14,545 Speaker 2: I didn't have my pick of going into a Gucci 382 00:16:14,585 --> 00:16:17,745 Speaker 2: boutique and choosing meticulously what I'm going to spend my 383 00:16:17,785 --> 00:16:20,705 Speaker 2: fifteen hundred dollars on. So I spent fifteen hundred bucks 384 00:16:20,745 --> 00:16:22,505 Speaker 2: on a bag that I'm not even sure if I 385 00:16:22,545 --> 00:16:24,665 Speaker 2: really loved or wanted, just because I was getting five 386 00:16:24,705 --> 00:16:28,345 Speaker 2: and in the life of that item and my life right, 387 00:16:28,425 --> 00:16:30,825 Speaker 2: that five hundred dollars would have come out in the wash. 388 00:16:30,985 --> 00:16:33,985 Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, that's a really great point. Yeah yeah, So. 389 00:16:34,025 --> 00:16:38,585 Speaker 2: Don't do that. Fucks all right, what have you got it? 390 00:16:38,825 --> 00:16:42,305 Speaker 4: My last one here is buying too early for an event. 391 00:16:42,585 --> 00:16:45,305 Speaker 4: So I reckon there's two types of people where you're 392 00:16:45,345 --> 00:16:47,545 Speaker 4: either type A and you just want to sort of 393 00:16:47,545 --> 00:16:48,145 Speaker 4: tick the box. 394 00:16:48,185 --> 00:16:50,105 Speaker 3: You bought the dress for the event, done, you don't 395 00:16:50,105 --> 00:16:52,945 Speaker 3: have to think about it again, or someone like I 396 00:16:53,065 --> 00:16:54,985 Speaker 3: do this for I get overly excited. I just want 397 00:16:55,025 --> 00:16:55,665 Speaker 3: to buy the dress. 398 00:16:55,665 --> 00:16:58,785 Speaker 4: I'm excited for the event, but it's months away, and 399 00:16:58,825 --> 00:17:01,425 Speaker 4: by the time the event rolls around, you know, news 400 00:17:01,465 --> 00:17:04,665 Speaker 4: styles are out, it's feeling slightly dated or done, or 401 00:17:04,705 --> 00:17:06,225 Speaker 4: you see something else that might be better. 402 00:17:06,385 --> 00:17:09,225 Speaker 2: That's a tragedy, my friend. I hate when that happened. 403 00:17:09,745 --> 00:17:11,825 Speaker 4: The problem with this is that you can often change 404 00:17:11,825 --> 00:17:13,825 Speaker 4: your mind closer to the day with all the new 405 00:17:13,865 --> 00:17:16,225 Speaker 4: styles coming out. So and also, again what I was 406 00:17:16,225 --> 00:17:18,785 Speaker 4: saying about the marketing before, try not to get suckered 407 00:17:18,785 --> 00:17:22,385 Speaker 4: into you know, limited order or pre order now or 408 00:17:22,425 --> 00:17:24,945 Speaker 4: like sold out three times getting quick, because that's where 409 00:17:24,945 --> 00:17:27,385 Speaker 4: I've fallen short, where I try and think, oh I've 410 00:17:27,425 --> 00:17:29,225 Speaker 4: got to get it now, otherwise I'd never be able 411 00:17:29,225 --> 00:17:30,905 Speaker 4: to get it because a lot of the time, if 412 00:17:30,945 --> 00:17:35,305 Speaker 4: something is selling, they will release it again, restop, they'll restop, 413 00:17:35,465 --> 00:17:38,105 Speaker 4: or other brands will create something similar. So try not 414 00:17:38,185 --> 00:17:40,905 Speaker 4: to get caught up in that frenzy. Hold don't buy 415 00:17:40,985 --> 00:17:43,385 Speaker 4: too early. I always say maybe three to four weeks 416 00:17:43,385 --> 00:17:45,345 Speaker 4: out from an event is when you should be looking 417 00:17:45,345 --> 00:17:45,785 Speaker 4: at buying. 418 00:17:45,945 --> 00:17:47,385 Speaker 2: Is that your is that your thinking? 419 00:17:47,425 --> 00:17:47,665 Speaker 3: Does? 420 00:17:47,665 --> 00:17:50,665 Speaker 2: That's like feel so down to the wire for me really, yeah, 421 00:17:50,705 --> 00:17:53,025 Speaker 2: but I feel like I need to take that advice 422 00:17:53,065 --> 00:17:54,265 Speaker 2: because I've made this mistake and. 423 00:17:54,265 --> 00:17:56,865 Speaker 4: Then you've got all the new arrivals, you've got something fresh. 424 00:17:56,905 --> 00:17:59,625 Speaker 4: There's nothing worse than when like a fabric's been around 425 00:17:59,625 --> 00:18:01,385 Speaker 4: for a while and you turn up to an event 426 00:18:01,425 --> 00:18:03,825 Speaker 4: and maybe a couple of people wearing it or they go, oh. 427 00:18:03,745 --> 00:18:06,905 Speaker 3: That's sir, Like everyone's familiar with the presure. 428 00:18:06,825 --> 00:18:10,185 Speaker 2: Like the police say, movement of a couple of years ago. 429 00:18:10,465 --> 00:18:12,425 Speaker 2: So when we all had the same set, bless I 430 00:18:12,465 --> 00:18:14,185 Speaker 2: loved it. I still love it. I don't know shade 431 00:18:14,185 --> 00:18:16,185 Speaker 2: to please say, but yeah. 432 00:18:16,465 --> 00:18:19,985 Speaker 4: Something fresh that people haven't seen before, So just try 433 00:18:20,025 --> 00:18:21,505 Speaker 4: and hold and wait. 434 00:18:21,585 --> 00:18:22,505 Speaker 3: Closer to the event. 435 00:18:22,745 --> 00:18:25,945 Speaker 4: Yeah, so with things being on sale and you buy 436 00:18:25,985 --> 00:18:28,465 Speaker 4: it because it's on sale. I do this as well. 437 00:18:28,545 --> 00:18:32,425 Speaker 4: I fall victim when I'm shopping on Deepop or Vestia 438 00:18:32,665 --> 00:18:35,945 Speaker 4: or any of those secondhand stores. When I see something's 439 00:18:35,985 --> 00:18:38,905 Speaker 4: on sale or it's really cheap because it's secondhand, I 440 00:18:38,985 --> 00:18:41,505 Speaker 4: buy it when it's really something I don't need just 441 00:18:41,585 --> 00:18:44,265 Speaker 4: because it's secondhand, just because it's ultra cheap on deep Hop. 442 00:18:44,345 --> 00:18:46,585 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like keeping something in the cycle of where 443 00:18:46,625 --> 00:18:48,945 Speaker 2: it's it feels good, but you're still buying things you 444 00:18:48,945 --> 00:18:51,265 Speaker 2: don't need. Like it's the answer to that. Do you 445 00:18:51,265 --> 00:18:54,425 Speaker 2: think how do we stop well about just asking for 446 00:18:54,465 --> 00:18:54,865 Speaker 2: a friend. 447 00:18:54,985 --> 00:18:58,185 Speaker 4: Let's say it's some practical things, but we can take 448 00:18:58,225 --> 00:19:01,465 Speaker 4: away from this again the sleep on it or keeping 449 00:19:01,505 --> 00:19:03,185 Speaker 4: things in your basket. 450 00:19:03,185 --> 00:19:06,505 Speaker 2: Yeah so that's good, or sharing. 451 00:19:06,185 --> 00:19:08,625 Speaker 3: It with friends as well. Do I really need this? 452 00:19:09,305 --> 00:19:11,985 Speaker 2: You got to really trustworthy friends for that, because I 453 00:19:11,985 --> 00:19:15,425 Speaker 2: feel like people just like I'm such an enabler that 454 00:19:15,465 --> 00:19:17,585 Speaker 2: I'll just tell you to mint too. I don't care 455 00:19:17,625 --> 00:19:19,265 Speaker 2: what it is. I'm like, yeah, girl, get. 456 00:19:19,185 --> 00:19:20,585 Speaker 3: That too, I know. 457 00:19:21,145 --> 00:19:23,265 Speaker 4: Do you know something else I used to do when 458 00:19:23,305 --> 00:19:25,545 Speaker 4: I was doing the late night feeds and shopping, I 459 00:19:25,785 --> 00:19:28,505 Speaker 4: allow myself to buy one piece a week, so I 460 00:19:28,545 --> 00:19:31,465 Speaker 4: get excited all week for that one piece. So you're 461 00:19:31,505 --> 00:19:34,025 Speaker 4: not stopping yourself from shopping, but just choose what that 462 00:19:34,105 --> 00:19:34,785 Speaker 4: one and then. 463 00:19:34,705 --> 00:19:37,265 Speaker 2: You have to be more focused, like a laser focused, 464 00:19:37,265 --> 00:19:39,905 Speaker 2: because you've only got one, so you really think about it. 465 00:19:39,985 --> 00:19:41,585 Speaker 2: I like that. Yeah. 466 00:19:41,625 --> 00:19:44,425 Speaker 4: And also maybe choosing the category so I find rather 467 00:19:44,465 --> 00:19:47,345 Speaker 4: than looking at clothing and blazers and trenches and whatnot, 468 00:19:47,745 --> 00:19:50,425 Speaker 4: choosing so active wear or swimwear where it is just 469 00:19:50,465 --> 00:19:53,945 Speaker 4: a lower price point so you're not breaking the bank necessarily. 470 00:19:54,065 --> 00:19:55,385 Speaker 3: You're just choosing, Okay, I'm. 471 00:19:55,265 --> 00:19:57,265 Speaker 4: Going to buy a sports bra and it's something that 472 00:19:57,465 --> 00:20:00,785 Speaker 4: is more affordable than your bigger ticket items and it's. 473 00:20:00,665 --> 00:20:04,065 Speaker 2: Really niche too. You're not just going address because that's 474 00:20:04,105 --> 00:20:07,385 Speaker 2: so broad. Yeah, right, Like it's impossible to narrow that down. 475 00:20:07,465 --> 00:20:09,385 Speaker 2: So you're going to give yourself lots of because I 476 00:20:09,385 --> 00:20:12,265 Speaker 2: think here's another mistake that you make. You tell yourself, oh, 477 00:20:12,345 --> 00:20:14,185 Speaker 2: I'm going to get a dress, and then you've got 478 00:20:14,225 --> 00:20:17,025 Speaker 2: all of the internet to shop from, right, and then 479 00:20:17,185 --> 00:20:19,025 Speaker 2: you just end up you can end up buying two 480 00:20:19,105 --> 00:20:21,585 Speaker 2: three dresses instead of just one because you're like, well, 481 00:20:21,625 --> 00:20:23,545 Speaker 2: I need this one and I need that one as well. 482 00:20:23,825 --> 00:20:26,865 Speaker 2: It's like you're not being narrow, you're actually giving yourself 483 00:20:26,905 --> 00:20:30,905 Speaker 2: so much, like and that's too much opportunity. 484 00:20:31,025 --> 00:20:34,345 Speaker 4: And with dresses as well, avoid buying occasion dresses, like 485 00:20:34,585 --> 00:20:36,625 Speaker 4: so often I have bought that many. 486 00:20:36,465 --> 00:20:37,985 Speaker 3: Dresses that are really one off parties. 487 00:20:38,025 --> 00:20:39,825 Speaker 4: It's a one off and they just sit in my 488 00:20:39,865 --> 00:20:41,625 Speaker 4: wardrobe and I stare at them and they just look 489 00:20:41,625 --> 00:20:44,265 Speaker 4: pretty sitting there. It's like, choose things that are practical 490 00:20:44,345 --> 00:20:46,825 Speaker 4: that you can match and mix off and actually style 491 00:20:46,865 --> 00:20:47,585 Speaker 4: in different ways. 492 00:20:47,625 --> 00:20:49,865 Speaker 2: But I guess for occasion dressing, then you know, like 493 00:20:50,385 --> 00:20:53,465 Speaker 2: hire it, borrow from a friend, Like, yeah, there's so 494 00:20:53,505 --> 00:20:55,825 Speaker 2: many ways that you can still have that new piece 495 00:20:55,905 --> 00:20:58,545 Speaker 2: to wear. But it doesn't mean buying brand new. Yeah, 496 00:20:58,785 --> 00:21:02,785 Speaker 2: I think we've sold it, We've solved it. I start 497 00:21:02,865 --> 00:21:03,265 Speaker 2: moving on. 498 00:21:10,145 --> 00:21:12,825 Speaker 1: It's very expensive, how wondred. 499 00:21:16,985 --> 00:21:19,945 Speaker 2: Let's jump into bougie and budget please, sinner, let you 500 00:21:20,025 --> 00:21:22,105 Speaker 2: start off. Okay, what's your foujie for the week? 501 00:21:22,185 --> 00:21:22,985 Speaker 3: Why bougie? 502 00:21:23,025 --> 00:21:27,305 Speaker 4: Back to not settling for the consolation prize is denim 503 00:21:27,305 --> 00:21:30,065 Speaker 4: and finding a really good piece of denim. I recently 504 00:21:30,105 --> 00:21:32,985 Speaker 4: bought the Daring Good Day Denim. 505 00:21:33,665 --> 00:21:36,185 Speaker 2: I loved good Day. She's doing such a good. 506 00:21:35,945 --> 00:21:39,985 Speaker 4: Style and her new denim she's only just released two 507 00:21:40,065 --> 00:21:43,265 Speaker 4: forty so it's actually not as expensive as say, and 508 00:21:43,345 --> 00:21:46,505 Speaker 4: a Goldie Pera jeans, but they fit really well, one 509 00:21:46,585 --> 00:21:49,505 Speaker 4: hundred percent cotton. They're just a nice straight leg fit, 510 00:21:49,905 --> 00:21:51,545 Speaker 4: amazing and yeah, I'm really. 511 00:21:51,425 --> 00:21:52,145 Speaker 3: Happy with those. 512 00:21:52,225 --> 00:21:54,785 Speaker 4: So that'll sort of get me through spring, summer and 513 00:21:54,825 --> 00:21:57,385 Speaker 4: beyond because they're just such good quality. But I just 514 00:21:57,425 --> 00:21:59,705 Speaker 4: committed to getting a good par of Janes rather than 515 00:21:59,825 --> 00:22:03,025 Speaker 4: just settling on something that would stretch out and that 516 00:22:03,025 --> 00:22:03,625 Speaker 4: I wouldn't become. 517 00:22:03,905 --> 00:22:06,025 Speaker 2: Ye to your point, now that you've spent that money, 518 00:22:06,145 --> 00:22:09,065 Speaker 2: you're going to actually invest back into them, You're gonna 519 00:22:09,105 --> 00:22:10,985 Speaker 2: get that weird out of it, right because you've put 520 00:22:11,025 --> 00:22:11,945 Speaker 2: that yeah time. 521 00:22:11,745 --> 00:22:13,985 Speaker 4: And look after them and take pride in them. So 522 00:22:14,065 --> 00:22:15,825 Speaker 4: the dering world, the good Day Jens. 523 00:22:15,825 --> 00:22:18,665 Speaker 2: These are such beautiful jeans. This is why I can't 524 00:22:18,665 --> 00:22:20,065 Speaker 2: talk to you because I want to buy everyathing that 525 00:22:20,145 --> 00:22:23,945 Speaker 2: you recommend. I bought all the other end of spectrum. 526 00:22:23,945 --> 00:22:25,385 Speaker 2: I feel like I just did the thing that you 527 00:22:25,425 --> 00:22:27,665 Speaker 2: said not to do. But I'm still going to recommend 528 00:22:27,705 --> 00:22:30,905 Speaker 2: them because I stand by it. I stand by it, 529 00:22:31,145 --> 00:22:33,545 Speaker 2: so my budget this week is denim as well. But 530 00:22:34,065 --> 00:22:37,865 Speaker 2: let me explain. I bought the Big W barrel jeans 531 00:22:38,265 --> 00:22:40,105 Speaker 2: Big W, like I was. I think I was in 532 00:22:40,145 --> 00:22:43,105 Speaker 2: there and like back in like April, shopping for my daughter, 533 00:22:43,585 --> 00:22:45,345 Speaker 2: buying her some clothes or books or whatever, and I 534 00:22:45,345 --> 00:22:47,105 Speaker 2: saw these jeans and I was like, these are really 535 00:22:47,145 --> 00:22:49,745 Speaker 2: good barrel jeans. In my opinion, they're thirty dollars. I 536 00:22:49,745 --> 00:22:52,385 Speaker 2: bought them in blue, and that was back in April, 537 00:22:52,425 --> 00:22:55,065 Speaker 2: may I think. And I've worn them like on repeat since. 538 00:22:55,145 --> 00:22:57,865 Speaker 2: So like, just because something's budget doesn't mean it's not good. 539 00:22:58,145 --> 00:22:59,905 Speaker 2: Warn them to death. So I was really excited when 540 00:22:59,945 --> 00:23:02,585 Speaker 2: I saw that Big W had brought out white pear 541 00:23:02,745 --> 00:23:05,865 Speaker 2: or sort of a cream pair in a crop, which 542 00:23:05,905 --> 00:23:08,065 Speaker 2: is good for me as a petite person. I love 543 00:23:08,105 --> 00:23:09,905 Speaker 2: a crop gene because it sits above my an core 544 00:23:09,985 --> 00:23:13,265 Speaker 2: other than drowning. And still thirty dollars, still thirty dollars. 545 00:23:13,545 --> 00:23:16,865 Speaker 2: So I wrote about them from Amamea and yeah, a 546 00:23:16,985 --> 00:23:19,185 Speaker 2: bunch of women told me they bought them to and 547 00:23:19,225 --> 00:23:22,265 Speaker 2: they love them. So it's the Big W cropped barrel 548 00:23:22,305 --> 00:23:24,025 Speaker 2: jean and cream, and yeah. 549 00:23:23,825 --> 00:23:26,625 Speaker 3: It is a nice way to experiment with styles and cuts. 550 00:23:26,625 --> 00:23:28,705 Speaker 3: Of jeans. I suppose, yes, so true. 551 00:23:28,785 --> 00:23:32,025 Speaker 4: Yeah, playing around with the barrel starting with a Big 552 00:23:32,145 --> 00:23:32,585 Speaker 4: W jean. 553 00:23:32,665 --> 00:23:34,385 Speaker 2: That's a great It's like a gateway. 554 00:23:34,505 --> 00:23:34,705 Speaker 1: Yeah. 555 00:23:34,785 --> 00:23:38,585 Speaker 2: Yeah. Like I've since, you know, bought other white jeans 556 00:23:38,665 --> 00:23:40,825 Speaker 2: like the ones I'm wearing today because I kind of 557 00:23:40,825 --> 00:23:42,905 Speaker 2: dipped a toe into it through a more affordable option, 558 00:23:42,945 --> 00:23:44,345 Speaker 2: and now I'm like, okay, well I'm going to spend 559 00:23:44,345 --> 00:23:46,625 Speaker 2: that money on a slightly more elevated pair because I 560 00:23:46,665 --> 00:23:48,585 Speaker 2: know now that I like the trend. I'm wearing this 561 00:23:48,665 --> 00:23:50,785 Speaker 2: piece regularly, so I'm going to like, I'm going to 562 00:23:50,865 --> 00:23:53,025 Speaker 2: take the punt. I love that quality. 563 00:23:53,105 --> 00:23:55,465 Speaker 3: Okay, check those out. Okay. 564 00:23:55,585 --> 00:23:58,505 Speaker 4: My budget is actually from Big W as well. Oh 565 00:23:59,785 --> 00:24:02,385 Speaker 4: and it's one of their silk scarves. So I was 566 00:24:02,385 --> 00:24:05,385 Speaker 4: in there the other day and I saw the scarves 567 00:24:05,385 --> 00:24:07,345 Speaker 4: and with the whole scarf trend and wearing it as 568 00:24:07,385 --> 00:24:09,305 Speaker 4: a belt, I thought, you know, they've got some great 569 00:24:09,385 --> 00:24:11,665 Speaker 4: color in there, and I got this red and white 570 00:24:11,665 --> 00:24:12,545 Speaker 4: one and it was beautiful. 571 00:24:12,665 --> 00:24:13,345 Speaker 3: Nine dollars. 572 00:24:13,345 --> 00:24:14,025 Speaker 2: This is cute. 573 00:24:14,145 --> 00:24:15,785 Speaker 4: I actually wore it last time I was in the 574 00:24:15,825 --> 00:24:17,705 Speaker 4: Mama Mer office and I did wear it as like 575 00:24:17,745 --> 00:24:21,025 Speaker 4: a little belt and it's great just for spring. Summer, 576 00:24:21,545 --> 00:24:23,985 Speaker 4: and yeah, it allows you nine dollars if you want 577 00:24:24,025 --> 00:24:26,785 Speaker 4: to play around with that trend. It's a great size 578 00:24:26,785 --> 00:24:28,705 Speaker 4: as well, so it's not too small, so it sort 579 00:24:28,745 --> 00:24:29,865 Speaker 4: of can go around the waist. 580 00:24:30,025 --> 00:24:32,345 Speaker 2: Amazing, because that's the trouble I've been having with the 581 00:24:32,465 --> 00:24:35,385 Speaker 2: bandanas and scarves, is like I fine with bandanas, I 582 00:24:35,425 --> 00:24:36,825 Speaker 2: want to wear them as a belt, but they don't 583 00:24:36,825 --> 00:24:39,145 Speaker 2: fit around my waist. Right with a scarf, you got 584 00:24:39,185 --> 00:24:41,305 Speaker 2: a little bit more room, yes, yes, So. 585 00:24:41,265 --> 00:24:43,145 Speaker 4: There's heaps of colors in there. I got the red 586 00:24:43,145 --> 00:24:45,025 Speaker 4: and white and there's a green and white as well. 587 00:24:45,345 --> 00:24:46,625 Speaker 4: So nine dollars, big w. 588 00:24:46,785 --> 00:24:49,665 Speaker 2: Good one, all right, my bougie. When I say I've 589 00:24:49,665 --> 00:24:52,905 Speaker 2: been writing about the thongs trend like flip flops for 590 00:24:52,985 --> 00:24:55,305 Speaker 2: a year, I have, like I have labored over this 591 00:24:55,385 --> 00:24:58,505 Speaker 2: topic and I think like somehow subconsciously it's entered my 592 00:24:58,585 --> 00:25:00,905 Speaker 2: brain that like I need a pair of elevated thongs, 593 00:25:00,945 --> 00:25:03,305 Speaker 2: and now it's all I can think about. So I 594 00:25:03,625 --> 00:25:05,945 Speaker 2: have decided on the thongs that I'm going to get. Okay, 595 00:25:05,945 --> 00:25:07,865 Speaker 2: there's a lot out there, but I am a big 596 00:25:07,945 --> 00:25:11,025 Speaker 2: fan of the brand Alias Mate. I've bought their footwear before. 597 00:25:11,105 --> 00:25:14,625 Speaker 2: I've worn their footbed sandals to death. So I really 598 00:25:14,665 --> 00:25:16,745 Speaker 2: trust this brand. So when I saw that they were 599 00:25:16,745 --> 00:25:19,425 Speaker 2: doing a leather thong. When I say leather thong, it 600 00:25:19,465 --> 00:25:21,665 Speaker 2: sounds like I'm saying underwear, but a leather flip flop, 601 00:25:22,025 --> 00:25:25,105 Speaker 2: I was like, that's the one. It's called the Charlie's Sandal. 602 00:25:25,745 --> 00:25:28,745 Speaker 2: It comes in lots of neutral colors, but I'm actually 603 00:25:28,785 --> 00:25:32,105 Speaker 2: loving the red patent leather for a little hit of red. 604 00:25:33,185 --> 00:25:36,425 Speaker 2: The Row coded it's very it's giving the Row absolutely 605 00:25:36,465 --> 00:25:38,985 Speaker 2: on a budget. So the shoes one hundred and eighty 606 00:25:39,065 --> 00:25:41,945 Speaker 2: nine to ninety five, which isn't like, you know, cheap cheap, 607 00:25:42,025 --> 00:25:44,745 Speaker 2: but I think for a leather shoe that's pretty good. 608 00:25:44,785 --> 00:25:46,905 Speaker 2: That's good and I trust the quality, so I'll be 609 00:25:46,905 --> 00:25:47,545 Speaker 2: wearing this to death. 610 00:25:47,625 --> 00:25:48,185 Speaker 3: The Red's fun. 611 00:25:48,345 --> 00:25:52,305 Speaker 2: Thanks friend, that's all we have time for today. 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