WEBVTT - 5 Expert Tips For Shopping With Intention (And Zero Regret) 0:00:10.705 --> 0:00:15.385 You're listening to Amma Mia podcast. Mama Miya acknowledges the 0:00:15.425 --> 0:00:18.545 traditional owners of land and waters that this podcast is 0:00:18.585 --> 0:00:22.785 recorded on. Whoever said orange is a new pink with 0:00:22.945 --> 0:00:27.505 seriously disturbed laurels for spraying groundbreaking? Oh my god, you 0:00:27.705 --> 0:00:32.305 have to do it. You live for fashion. Hello, and 0:00:32.345 --> 0:00:35.465 welcome to Nothing to Wear, the podcast that solves fashion 0:00:35.545 --> 0:00:38.665 problems and levels up your wardrobe. I'm Lee Campbell, and 0:00:38.825 --> 0:00:41.425 every week I talk to an expert who helps us 0:00:41.465 --> 0:00:43.465 work out how to get more out of the clothes 0:00:43.505 --> 0:00:46.425 we already own and tells us exactly what is and 0:00:46.585 --> 0:00:50.505 isn't worth adding to our wardrobes. Tina Abbi Seika is 0:00:50.545 --> 0:00:54.585 the founder of Style on Purpose, a platform dedicated to 0:00:54.625 --> 0:00:59.385 helping women build a wardrobe they love intentionally. She's all 0:00:59.425 --> 0:01:03.105 about shopping smarter, making your clothes work harder, and creating 0:01:03.145 --> 0:01:06.585 a personal style that actually fits your life. Now. The 0:01:06.625 --> 0:01:08.985 lovely Tina has joined me a few times before, but 0:01:09.065 --> 0:01:13.985 on this episode we are talking about mindful shopping, intentional shopping, 0:01:14.185 --> 0:01:18.465 not emotional shopping and impulse shopping, which I am really 0:01:18.465 --> 0:01:20.505 trying to lean away from. So her two by two 0:01:20.625 --> 0:01:23.225 rule and her rule of three and all her other 0:01:23.305 --> 0:01:26.985 wonderful tips are going to help all of us. Tina Lee, 0:01:27.185 --> 0:01:29.025 I feel like you're coming back to Australia more and 0:01:29.065 --> 0:01:32.905 more now, and I make sure you come here every 0:01:32.945 --> 0:01:36.105 single time. So thank you. Today's a big topic and 0:01:36.185 --> 0:01:38.625 one I think a lot of people need me included. 0:01:38.705 --> 0:01:43.065 But first, a couple of questions. Do you have something 0:01:43.105 --> 0:01:45.185 that comes to mind when I ask about your biggest 0:01:45.225 --> 0:01:47.345 fashion purchase? I do. 0:01:47.465 --> 0:01:51.385 Actually it's my vintage Chanel bag that. 0:01:51.545 --> 0:01:54.665 Did you get in Japan? Yes, I remember some My god, 0:01:54.745 --> 0:01:58.025 it's like you're at TV show I watch. I was 0:01:58.105 --> 0:02:00.065 so invested. Please share. Okay. 0:02:00.105 --> 0:02:03.145 So I was in Osaka in twenty seventeen and I 0:02:03.225 --> 0:02:05.785 had no idea that day. I've been a long time, 0:02:05.865 --> 0:02:08.545 it's teen a long time. I had no idea that 0:02:08.825 --> 0:02:12.025 there was a place called Orange Street in Asaka which 0:02:12.105 --> 0:02:16.625 has all of these vintage handbags and items. And Japan's 0:02:16.705 --> 0:02:20.985 quite known for having good quality vintage pieces. And someone 0:02:21.025 --> 0:02:24.105 DMed me and said you're going to Orange Street right? 0:02:24.345 --> 0:02:28.585 And then I wasn't, but I did, and there it was. 0:02:28.985 --> 0:02:33.185 I found this one. It was just the medium fla classic. 0:02:32.905 --> 0:02:35.505 And back then, I mean that's an investment, it's basically 0:02:35.545 --> 0:02:39.065 like you bought shares were a lot, I do. 0:02:39.185 --> 0:02:41.665 I do use her a lot. That's how I kind 0:02:41.705 --> 0:02:45.545 of positioned it to my then boyfriend now husband. But 0:02:45.625 --> 0:02:47.705 I said, this is going to go up in value 0:02:48.065 --> 0:02:48.705 and what that was? 0:02:48.745 --> 0:02:49.625 What eight years ago? 0:02:49.865 --> 0:02:50.385 Seven? 0:02:50.545 --> 0:02:50.945 Wow? 0:02:50.945 --> 0:02:52.345 Good on you, thank you. 0:02:52.465 --> 0:02:54.905 She's a dream for me. Another quick question before we 0:02:54.905 --> 0:02:58.345 get into the topic, who, if anyone, or what is 0:02:58.385 --> 0:02:59.545 your style muse? 0:03:01.225 --> 0:03:06.825 I would say I have style news brands, so Dish 0:03:07.745 --> 0:03:11.465 comes to mind. I'm actually wearing Dish today and also 0:03:11.545 --> 0:03:16.345 odd Muse, which is a British brand doing big things. 0:03:16.865 --> 0:03:20.905 Both brands have very classic, timeless styles that mix and 0:03:20.985 --> 0:03:23.865 match in with their previous seasons as well. So I 0:03:24.025 --> 0:03:24.945 love that ethos. 0:03:25.385 --> 0:03:27.705 I love coming at it from a brand perspective that's 0:03:27.825 --> 0:03:30.785 very fresh, and it feels less tunnel vision than a 0:03:30.825 --> 0:03:32.825 person if that makes sense. It's a little bit more broad, 0:03:32.825 --> 0:03:34.305 but still you get a picture in your. 0:03:34.265 --> 0:03:38.425 Head exactly, and brands are starting to storytell. 0:03:38.025 --> 0:03:41.225 Yes and have some personality exactly. Now, Tina, I want 0:03:41.225 --> 0:03:43.385 to set the scene for anyone that doesn't know you. You've 0:03:43.265 --> 0:03:46.785 been on the show a losh and you are obviously. 0:03:46.905 --> 0:03:48.785 I mean, I feel like I followed you a long 0:03:48.825 --> 0:03:51.505 time before. The Japanese have known you for a We 0:03:51.585 --> 0:03:53.185 have known each other for a long time. But you 0:03:53.345 --> 0:03:55.985 started when you had a day job on Instagram as 0:03:56.025 --> 0:03:59.265 Trash to Treasured, and you were all about helping people 0:03:59.305 --> 0:04:01.625 buy great affordable clothing. Was it under one hundred and 0:04:01.665 --> 0:04:04.425 fifty dollars? Was that your caveat? Yes, and you've evolved 0:04:04.465 --> 0:04:06.185 over time and you're here to talk about that a 0:04:06.185 --> 0:04:11.105 little bit. But did you ever come up against people thinking, well, 0:04:11.185 --> 0:04:13.825 everything's under one hundred and fifty, so trash to Treasure, 0:04:13.825 --> 0:04:17.385 it's all about fast fashion, crappy quality, blah blah blah. 0:04:17.425 --> 0:04:19.145 I had a friend saying, you know, is that Teina 0:04:19.145 --> 0:04:21.025 girl all about fast fashion? This was ten years ago? 0:04:21.105 --> 0:04:24.185 But how did that start? And tell us that it 0:04:24.265 --> 0:04:25.905 wasn't And where's the evelation taking you? 0:04:26.625 --> 0:04:29.145 Well, the way it started was I didn't have a 0:04:29.145 --> 0:04:32.225 lot of disposable income and I just started my big 0:04:32.225 --> 0:04:35.305 girl job in my career back then, and I needed 0:04:35.345 --> 0:04:37.985 to look the part, and so I was looking for 0:04:38.065 --> 0:04:42.265 items that I could wear multiple times to work. But 0:04:42.305 --> 0:04:44.625 it wasn't going to blow the budget either, So I 0:04:44.665 --> 0:04:47.505 started to get really savvy about cuts and colors that 0:04:47.545 --> 0:04:52.065 went together that looked expensive but weren't really. And then 0:04:52.065 --> 0:04:55.065 I started to get invested in fabrics and start learning 0:04:55.145 --> 0:04:57.425 about all of that, and just started to learn how 0:04:57.465 --> 0:04:59.545 do you actually wear pieces day to day. It's all 0:04:59.545 --> 0:05:01.545 well and good if it's on a mannequin and all 0:05:01.585 --> 0:05:03.385 of that, and or if it was on sale, but 0:05:03.705 --> 0:05:05.825 how does it live? Like, how does it move with you? 0:05:06.065 --> 0:05:08.825 Yes? And how do you keep it and keep wearing it? 0:05:08.905 --> 0:05:11.745 And just because it's affordable, you can find good quality. 0:05:11.745 --> 0:05:13.625 And I've always loved following you for that. It's been 0:05:13.665 --> 0:05:17.025 such an inspiration. So your approach to fashion is all 0:05:17.065 --> 0:05:21.065 about being intentional, and this is important more than ever. 0:05:21.905 --> 0:05:26.225 What are some common mistakes people make me when shopping 0:05:26.265 --> 0:05:29.465 for clothes and how can they shop smarter when they're 0:05:29.465 --> 0:05:32.985 not being intentional? For example, I'm an emotional shopper, an 0:05:33.025 --> 0:05:36.105 impulse shopper, So how do we be more intentional? And 0:05:36.145 --> 0:05:38.025 what are the mistakes people are making when they're not 0:05:38.105 --> 0:05:38.945 thinking with intention? 0:05:39.705 --> 0:05:43.705 So speaking to your point, like you know you've identified 0:05:43.745 --> 0:05:47.145 that you're emotional shopper, I would say, you know, scratch 0:05:47.225 --> 0:05:48.105 that itch. 0:05:47.865 --> 0:05:51.065 Yes if it's a bit or pop a few things 0:05:51.105 --> 0:05:54.625 in a bag confronting to you know, go, well, what's 0:05:54.665 --> 0:05:56.025 going on? Why am I doing that? 0:05:56.265 --> 0:05:58.225 But you know, pop a few things in a bag 0:05:58.305 --> 0:06:01.545 and give yourself twenty four hours. Yes, because I did 0:06:01.545 --> 0:06:03.985 this last year. I wanted to test myself because I 0:06:04.185 --> 0:06:07.425 had moved countries and I felt really lonely. 0:06:07.185 --> 0:06:08.705 And yeah, you were going through it. 0:06:08.785 --> 0:06:09.545 I was going through it. 0:06:09.745 --> 0:06:11.305 They call it retail therapy for a reason. 0:06:11.425 --> 0:06:13.905 Exactly. So I was buying a lot of stuff I 0:06:13.945 --> 0:06:16.225 just didn't need, and I had easy access to Amazon, 0:06:16.345 --> 0:06:17.225 and it was. 0:06:17.345 --> 0:06:20.185 Like retail in America, like it's hard to say. 0:06:19.945 --> 0:06:23.665 No, exactly. I identified that I was doing it as well. 0:06:23.945 --> 0:06:25.905 So I started a list on my notes app on 0:06:25.905 --> 0:06:27.905 my phone. So every time I saw something, I just 0:06:27.945 --> 0:06:30.625 like save the link. It gave me this comfort that 0:06:30.665 --> 0:06:31.625 I wasn't going to lose it. 0:06:31.705 --> 0:06:32.665 Yeah, you wouldn't forget. 0:06:32.705 --> 0:06:35.065 I wouldn't forget. I've got it in my notes app. 0:06:35.705 --> 0:06:37.945 And then you know, I never went back. I think 0:06:37.945 --> 0:06:40.465 I bought one thing off that list of twenty that 0:06:40.505 --> 0:06:42.425 I saved over a couple of weeks. 0:06:42.585 --> 0:06:46.745 Yes, And so did that reinforce to you that intentional 0:06:46.785 --> 0:06:49.105 is important? And then the things that are intentional in 0:06:49.145 --> 0:06:51.545 your wardrobe do you wear the most? 0:06:52.265 --> 0:06:55.065 Yes? So I would say the other way to combat 0:06:55.105 --> 0:06:58.265 this is if you're looking at a piece, always think 0:06:58.305 --> 0:07:00.225 how can I style it three ways? 0:07:00.345 --> 0:07:02.065 Yes? I wanted to ask that you've got the rule 0:07:02.185 --> 0:07:05.225 of three? Is that wearing an item three different ways 0:07:05.225 --> 0:07:06.385 before you purchase. 0:07:06.505 --> 0:07:07.265 That's a styling. 0:07:07.425 --> 0:07:10.265 That's a styling. Getting too that a second. So I'm 0:07:10.305 --> 0:07:14.385 looking at this beautiful item online. You want me to think, 0:07:14.465 --> 0:07:16.945 how can I wear that three different ways. 0:07:16.585 --> 0:07:21.065 With something you already have? If you need to. For example, 0:07:21.105 --> 0:07:23.825 I'm wearing C three pants right now, so I need 0:07:23.865 --> 0:07:27.545 a longer shirt to kind of cover some areas. 0:07:27.625 --> 0:07:29.385 Yeah, yeah, you've still got the sheer going on. 0:07:29.345 --> 0:07:32.345 But not flashing exactly. But I already have long shirts. 0:07:32.385 --> 0:07:33.945 So I was like, you know what, this makes sense? 0:07:34.185 --> 0:07:37.185 Yes? Okay, so how can you work it back with 0:07:37.225 --> 0:07:38.665 the items you already own? 0:07:39.585 --> 0:07:41.905 If you can justify it in three ways? I like 0:07:41.945 --> 0:07:43.225 that you can go for it. 0:07:43.265 --> 0:07:45.585 Okay. So that's how we can start to be more intentional. 0:07:45.825 --> 0:07:50.665 Can you explain some styling rules or methods or are 0:07:50.665 --> 0:07:53.065 their methodologies? You've got the two x two rule and 0:07:53.105 --> 0:07:55.385 the rule of three. You must seem really good at maths. 0:07:56.425 --> 0:07:59.985 My background is science, so I thought so, so I 0:08:00.065 --> 0:08:02.545 think this is why I accidentally make formulas. 0:08:02.585 --> 0:08:05.185 Well, my background is saying, oh that practically free, and 0:08:05.305 --> 0:08:08.385 yeah it's not. So what are these formulas? How are 0:08:08.425 --> 0:08:10.745 these frameworks going to help you? I don't like saying 0:08:10.745 --> 0:08:14.345 their rules, their suggestions like a formula, because it kind 0:08:14.385 --> 0:08:15.745 of helps you figure. 0:08:15.465 --> 0:08:18.505 It out exactly. We need a framework and it really 0:08:18.545 --> 0:08:20.745 helps us overcome the whole Oh my gosh, what do 0:08:20.825 --> 0:08:23.745 I even put with this? Yes, so for two by 0:08:23.785 --> 0:08:25.825 two I think I've spoken about it before, but it's 0:08:25.905 --> 0:08:27.585 quite I come back to it a lot. But it's 0:08:27.665 --> 0:08:30.825 two pieces of tailored and two pieces of casual, so 0:08:31.025 --> 0:08:33.305 kind of like a tailored shirt. 0:08:33.425 --> 0:08:35.705 And it's always both reminding going into a new season. 0:08:35.825 --> 0:08:38.505 So we're just coming out of summer here, everyone's starting 0:08:38.505 --> 0:08:41.345 to think autumn winter, all the new cloes eating stores. 0:08:41.385 --> 0:08:45.465 So this is a good time to refresh on these methodologies, 0:08:45.505 --> 0:08:49.185 these frameworks, because we might be thinking we might need 0:08:49.225 --> 0:08:50.345 to go to the shops and get a few things, 0:08:50.345 --> 0:08:52.065 but we want to be intentional. So remind me of 0:08:52.065 --> 0:08:55.465 the two by two two so casual. 0:08:55.145 --> 0:08:59.465 Two like tailored structured pieces and two more casual pieces, 0:08:59.505 --> 0:09:02.345 and when you put that together, it actually gives a 0:09:02.385 --> 0:09:07.425 really nice balanced look. So let's go. We give me 0:09:07.465 --> 0:09:10.865 to say, say we're wearing our tailored pants to work 0:09:11.505 --> 0:09:14.345 with a cotton T shirt at the moment. Yeap, cotton 0:09:14.425 --> 0:09:16.985 T shirt is kind of more casual. Yep, you got 0:09:16.985 --> 0:09:19.945 your tailt pants. Yes, Now we're going into autumns. 0:09:19.505 --> 0:09:20.505 So let's add a layer. 0:09:20.705 --> 0:09:24.145 So let's add something that is structured. So maybe like 0:09:24.145 --> 0:09:27.225 a trench coat. All right, so you got your structure 0:09:27.225 --> 0:09:29.545 and your tailored in your trench coat and then in 0:09:29.585 --> 0:09:32.665 your tailored pants. Yes, So for your shoes, let's go 0:09:32.745 --> 0:09:35.305 something fun, like a casual sniker, like a white sick 0:09:35.505 --> 0:09:37.345 It's okay, can you imagine that? 0:09:37.425 --> 0:09:39.665 I can? And as you're talking, I flipped it. I 0:09:39.705 --> 0:09:41.825 was going to go like sort of a slouchy knit 0:09:42.105 --> 0:09:44.505 that's a big casual, but with a loafer that's a 0:09:44.545 --> 0:09:45.265 bit more struck. 0:09:45.345 --> 0:09:47.385 Shit, yes, you get it. 0:09:47.585 --> 0:09:49.825 Oh my gosh, I feel like my brain's that clueless 0:09:50.025 --> 0:09:52.665 outfit more droping. I've just thought of so many things. 0:09:52.785 --> 0:09:55.105 That's how it is in my brain. Yeah, and this 0:09:55.225 --> 0:09:56.105 is why I wrote this. 0:09:56.625 --> 0:09:59.865 Okay, that's so helpful, particularly when you're like, I need 0:09:59.905 --> 0:10:02.185 one more item, but I'm not sure because if you 0:10:02.265 --> 0:10:04.345 go all two structure, it can look like you're going 0:10:04.345 --> 0:10:07.145 to hectic corporate job if it's not, or you can 0:10:07.145 --> 0:10:09.505 look to your casual Yes, now, remind me of the 0:10:09.665 --> 0:10:11.945 all three because I've forgotten I was terrible at school. 0:10:12.905 --> 0:10:15.585 The rule of three. It's more like add a third element. 0:10:15.625 --> 0:10:20.385 So this is a very common design technique. So think 0:10:20.425 --> 0:10:22.625 about your base. Now you've got your jeans and you've 0:10:22.625 --> 0:10:25.905 got your T shirt. Let's add a third element that's 0:10:25.945 --> 0:10:31.225 going to give the personality outfit. Okay, okay, so let's 0:10:31.265 --> 0:10:34.785 go with that base. If you're more preppy, you might 0:10:34.785 --> 0:10:38.425 add the blazer, like an oversized, slouchy blazer. If you're 0:10:38.505 --> 0:10:41.425 more I don't know, edgy, you might go for like 0:10:41.425 --> 0:10:42.305 a moto jacket. 0:10:42.385 --> 0:10:46.225 Yeah, bomber a bomber, yeah exactly. You could do like 0:10:46.265 --> 0:10:50.145 a really colorful cardigan if you're maya yes exactly, sequence 0:10:51.265 --> 0:10:52.065 no exactly. 0:10:52.145 --> 0:10:54.705 And so that way everyone can have the same base. 0:10:54.785 --> 0:10:57.825 But then because you know your personal style, yes, you 0:10:57.865 --> 0:10:59.785 add your little flare with that third piece. 0:10:59.865 --> 0:11:01.905 It's kind of having bases you can fall back on 0:11:01.985 --> 0:11:05.265 with personality, like the icing. Okay, I'm going to stop 0:11:05.345 --> 0:11:07.145 ruining analogies. But I kind of like. 0:11:07.145 --> 0:11:09.865 That that's exactly it, and we can talk about it 0:11:09.945 --> 0:11:13.425 later as well. But you know, my intention is to 0:11:13.465 --> 0:11:17.985 shift capsule to curated because that is and. 0:11:17.905 --> 0:11:21.665 It's curated for you. Cor Ah Tina f like you're 0:11:21.665 --> 0:11:33.705 an expert in this field. Now, I want to talk 0:11:33.785 --> 0:11:38.665 fast fashion versus mindful investing because forgive me if I'm wrong, 0:11:38.705 --> 0:11:42.705 but you're still about value and affordability. You know, I 0:11:42.705 --> 0:11:44.385 don't think you've got one hundred and fifty dollars rule, 0:11:44.425 --> 0:11:46.505 but I don't see you popping out to Gucci and 0:11:46.505 --> 0:11:49.705 Amez on the daily, and I think there's a joy 0:11:49.785 --> 0:11:53.585 in people finding it themselves and helping other people find affordable, 0:11:53.705 --> 0:11:57.585 amazing items. How do we strike a balance between mindful 0:11:57.745 --> 0:12:02.585 and intentional versus fast fashion? If you know, not everyone 0:12:02.625 --> 0:12:04.545 has thousands and millions of dollars to spend on what 0:12:04.585 --> 0:12:06.385 they wear. What do we do? 0:12:06.425 --> 0:12:08.665 You have your budget and you know you work to 0:12:08.945 --> 0:12:09.625 that budget. 0:12:10.105 --> 0:12:14.625 Set a budget? We said, up, okay, no, Like I mean, 0:12:14.665 --> 0:12:17.785 I do roughly, but I don't set aside time to 0:12:17.865 --> 0:12:19.665 decide the budget of when I'm going to go shopping. 0:12:19.705 --> 0:12:23.305 I'm just like, oh, it's thirty nine ninety five. Okay, okay, 0:12:23.505 --> 0:12:24.225 you know what I mean. 0:12:24.305 --> 0:12:26.905 When you see that, then that comes back to Okay, 0:12:27.105 --> 0:12:29.105 why are you buying this? Is it going to pair 0:12:29.185 --> 0:12:32.465 back with what you already have? Yes, The whole thing 0:12:32.465 --> 0:12:35.665 with Presture Treasured was I was showing pieces that were affordable, 0:12:36.065 --> 0:12:38.745 but I've had people just buying everything I was showing. 0:12:39.225 --> 0:12:42.025 Yeah, that's not the point. That's not the point. I 0:12:42.105 --> 0:12:45.625 get it. So we're still about affordability, but we're not 0:12:45.665 --> 0:12:47.905 about fast fashioned burn and churn. We want to find 0:12:47.945 --> 0:12:51.145 a good quality piece that we love that we can 0:12:51.545 --> 0:12:54.585 wear enough in terms of quality and versatility for years 0:12:54.665 --> 0:12:58.065 to come exactly. Let's talk about the capture wardrobe. I 0:12:58.145 --> 0:13:01.305 agree the term capture wardrobe is overused, and I think 0:13:01.425 --> 0:13:05.065 thanks to a lot of flat lay. We see white shirt, jeans, 0:13:05.185 --> 0:13:07.825 trench coat, balet, flats or whatever, which is fine and 0:13:07.865 --> 0:13:10.105 a lot of people like. But it's not cut and 0:13:10.105 --> 0:13:14.505 paste for every single person. So we're talking curated wardrobe. 0:13:14.785 --> 0:13:16.545 Talk to me about that, and how would you help 0:13:16.545 --> 0:13:20.545 a client curate something? You know, everyone's different with clients. 0:13:20.585 --> 0:13:23.145 We always start with a mood board session. I ask 0:13:23.225 --> 0:13:25.105 a lot of questions and it's so much fun. 0:13:25.305 --> 0:13:28.465 And when we do that, I can really see the 0:13:28.585 --> 0:13:31.505 necklines that they're drawn to, the patterns, you know, patterns 0:13:31.585 --> 0:13:33.985 or patterns like there can be big ones, small ones. Yeah, 0:13:34.065 --> 0:13:36.505 and we see the textures that they're drawn to, so 0:13:36.825 --> 0:13:40.745 that that is the essence of their style. So, for example, 0:13:40.745 --> 0:13:43.305 I just had a client this week actually, and she's 0:13:43.425 --> 0:13:46.425 not a plain white T shirt girl. She likes a 0:13:46.465 --> 0:13:50.665 little bit of you know, interity, but she also works 0:13:50.665 --> 0:13:54.465 in a corporate environment. So we found this beautiful saturn. 0:13:54.625 --> 0:13:57.225 It's shaped like a white T shirt, but the fabric 0:13:57.625 --> 0:13:58.705 is saturn. 0:13:58.745 --> 0:14:00.425 So it's got a bit of personality, bit a point 0:14:00.425 --> 0:14:04.545 of different exactly. Okay, And so everyone's capsule is different, 0:14:04.625 --> 0:14:07.185 and then you can mix and match within your capsule 0:14:07.185 --> 0:14:10.865 because it's harmonious to you exactly, not cut and paste. 0:14:11.225 --> 0:14:13.945 So many women are stuck in a rut with their 0:14:13.985 --> 0:14:18.145 wardrobes and just find it really overwhelming. Are there easy 0:14:18.185 --> 0:14:22.705 ways to refresh your star without impulse buying? Please? 0:14:24.145 --> 0:14:26.825 Okay, I've promised you less is more, but you need 0:14:26.905 --> 0:14:29.185 to get rid of the things that are telling your 0:14:29.185 --> 0:14:31.025 brain you have nothing to wear. 0:14:31.105 --> 0:14:34.385 Yeah, okay, So we literally and emotionally can't see it 0:14:34.425 --> 0:14:36.465 because you feel frustrated and overwhelmed. 0:14:36.545 --> 0:14:39.185 Exactly. Our brains are actually trained to see things that 0:14:39.225 --> 0:14:41.905 are wrong, because our brains are there to keep us safe, right, 0:14:41.985 --> 0:14:43.985 So it just sees all the things that are wrong. 0:14:44.545 --> 0:14:46.865 So if you've got a whole bunch of things hanging 0:14:46.865 --> 0:14:49.025 in your wardrobe, and you've got some really great pieces 0:14:49.025 --> 0:14:52.225 in there, but they're amongst the things that you hate. 0:14:52.065 --> 0:14:54.785 That so much sands like primarily pretty much. 0:14:54.665 --> 0:14:58.065 Yes, exactly, you will just always look at your wardrobe 0:14:58.105 --> 0:14:59.665 and say, oh my gosh, I have nothing to wear. 0:14:59.745 --> 0:15:02.065 Okay, all right, so instead of going I've got nothing 0:15:02.105 --> 0:15:04.425 to wear. Looking in there freaks me out, so I'll 0:15:04.465 --> 0:15:06.705 turn and run to Westfield or jump online. 0:15:08.025 --> 0:15:08.705 What do we do? 0:15:08.825 --> 0:15:10.065 Be more intense at all. 0:15:10.425 --> 0:15:13.745 So I want you to go to your wardrobe, you lee, Yeah. 0:15:15.145 --> 0:15:18.385 I want you to take out ten to fifteen pieces 0:15:18.465 --> 0:15:21.025 okay that you know when you put that on you 0:15:21.065 --> 0:15:21.945 always feel great. 0:15:22.105 --> 0:15:24.305 Okay, oh good. So we're starting with the good stuff. 0:15:24.305 --> 0:15:27.265 We're starting with the positive. We're starting with the positive. 0:15:27.585 --> 0:15:30.465 Lay it out on your bed, all these pieces, and 0:15:30.545 --> 0:15:35.865 you'll start to notice similar silhouettes, similar necklines, similar bits 0:15:35.905 --> 0:15:36.545 of fabric. 0:15:36.705 --> 0:15:39.105 This sounds so much more fun than going, oh I 0:15:39.105 --> 0:15:41.065 haven't want it in that long Oh will I even? 0:15:41.305 --> 0:15:43.665 But yes, start that stuff you love. 0:15:43.985 --> 0:15:47.305 Start here, because this is your blueprint, this is your personal. 0:15:46.945 --> 0:15:48.625 Style, this is my curator. 0:15:49.025 --> 0:15:49.985 This is your curator. 0:15:50.345 --> 0:15:52.065 And then what can I walk away? No? 0:15:53.905 --> 0:15:56.345 Because then you've shifted your filters in your brain, because 0:15:56.345 --> 0:15:58.305 so you're like, Okay, this is what I love, and 0:15:58.345 --> 0:16:00.945 you know that the next time when you pull out 0:16:00.985 --> 0:16:04.145 that next item in your wardrobe, you will clearly see 0:16:04.185 --> 0:16:06.985 how it doesn't fit your print. Yes, and it makes 0:16:06.985 --> 0:16:08.425 it so much easier to get rid of. 0:16:08.545 --> 0:16:10.545 We do all of this before to buy anything else. 0:16:10.665 --> 0:16:10.945 Yes. 0:16:11.785 --> 0:16:14.865 Do you have a styling tip that instantly makes an 0:16:14.905 --> 0:16:16.385 outfit feel more polished? 0:16:16.785 --> 0:16:18.705 So, first of all, I mean, it's great to have 0:16:18.825 --> 0:16:20.985 that one piece that you know when you put it 0:16:21.025 --> 0:16:24.145 on you feel great. For me, it's like tailored shirts 0:16:24.185 --> 0:16:25.265 and tailored tops. 0:16:25.345 --> 0:16:27.105 You and I are very similar, yes, yes. 0:16:27.385 --> 0:16:30.425 And not everyone loves a shirt to a blazer. 0:16:30.585 --> 0:16:32.665 So I've got a girlfriend who's very sort of whimsical 0:16:32.705 --> 0:16:34.545 and romantic and tastes like a high necked dress and 0:16:34.585 --> 0:16:36.705 she always looks so classy, like she's going to high 0:16:36.705 --> 0:16:38.665 tea with the Queen, and I know that makes her 0:16:38.665 --> 0:16:41.145 feel amazing and I feel her energy in it, So 0:16:41.225 --> 0:16:41.985 that's her version. 0:16:42.105 --> 0:16:45.625 Yes, yes, exactly, And this is why curated matters because 0:16:45.945 --> 0:16:46.945 it's going to be different. 0:16:46.985 --> 0:16:48.585 Yeah, I would not, I'd feel like I was doing 0:16:48.665 --> 0:16:52.145 dress ups exactly. Okay, So is it having that fallback 0:16:52.305 --> 0:16:55.505 look or item when you're feeling overwhelmed or out of time? 0:16:55.745 --> 0:16:58.345 Exactly? So that's why you know, I always talk about 0:16:58.385 --> 0:16:59.465 throw on and go dressing. 0:16:59.545 --> 0:17:02.305 You do, you coin to the term, and now it's everywhere. 0:17:02.825 --> 0:17:05.425 So there's that, But you know, not everyone loves a dress, 0:17:05.505 --> 0:17:09.785 So what about a playsuit or a jumpsuit, or about. 0:17:09.545 --> 0:17:11.625 It to actually outfit if you've worked it out, you know, 0:17:12.465 --> 0:17:13.985 if it's fast enough to put it on. Doesn't have 0:17:13.985 --> 0:17:16.305 to be addressed, but just the thing that makes you 0:17:16.345 --> 0:17:16.785 feel good. 0:17:16.945 --> 0:17:17.425 Exactly. 0:17:17.505 --> 0:17:22.585 So with being more intentional, more mindful, having less, making 0:17:22.665 --> 0:17:27.185 it work harder, trends are always changing, so like, how 0:17:27.225 --> 0:17:31.185 did the everyday person go, Okay, I've found my blueprint 0:17:31.305 --> 0:17:33.705 or I'm trying to be more intentional, but my goodness, 0:17:33.745 --> 0:17:35.785 there's leper print, there's year, there's red, there's this and that, 0:17:35.865 --> 0:17:37.825 and how do we choose what to listen to? 0:17:38.825 --> 0:17:42.785 So I love the eighty twenty mindset when it comes 0:17:42.825 --> 0:17:45.905 to this, So eighty percent of my wardrobe is my blueprint. 0:17:46.145 --> 0:17:48.505 The twenty percent is fun because you know, some of 0:17:48.545 --> 0:17:50.585 us love shopping so smart. 0:17:50.705 --> 0:17:52.105 And then yeah, you're right, you're not going to be 0:17:52.145 --> 0:17:56.265 stuck with seven million trend pieces that don't go together exactly. 0:17:56.585 --> 0:17:58.865 I love that. Yeah, eighty twenty I'm going to go 0:17:58.905 --> 0:18:01.465 write these in my wardrobe on that. I think with 0:18:01.705 --> 0:18:05.105 the kind of intentional shopping, it's not fun to shop 0:18:05.185 --> 0:18:09.305 for underrated sort of essentials that do put it all together? 0:18:09.745 --> 0:18:12.985 Do people overlook those? Do people have enough of those? 0:18:13.745 --> 0:18:16.825 Sometimes people only go shopping for events or like they 0:18:16.865 --> 0:18:18.985 have something to shop for, and that's how you end 0:18:19.065 --> 0:18:22.145 up with a whole bunch of things but not outfit. 0:18:22.425 --> 0:18:25.705 Yes, yes, that is so true. And how do you 0:18:25.745 --> 0:18:28.425 approach shopping for special occasions? Like you say, people are like, 0:18:28.425 --> 0:18:30.145 oh quick, I've got this birthday party, I've got this 0:18:30.225 --> 0:18:33.865 event that happens. But we don't often go to a 0:18:33.865 --> 0:18:36.425 birthday party or an event seven days a week. So 0:18:36.505 --> 0:18:40.105 how do we suggest people dress themselves to those without 0:18:40.145 --> 0:18:41.945 ending up with the wardrobe of stuff. Therefore once or 0:18:41.945 --> 0:18:42.625 going to wear once. 0:18:42.825 --> 0:18:46.305 Hiring is a big thing right now, beautiful dresses that 0:18:46.345 --> 0:18:48.785 you can get. There's so many companies out there right now. 0:18:49.065 --> 0:18:52.825 If that's not an option, I would always suggest wear 0:18:52.825 --> 0:18:55.745 it during the day as well. Yes, bring it into 0:18:55.785 --> 0:18:58.745 your every day. Yeah, pair it back with those basics 0:18:58.745 --> 0:18:59.665 that you like. 0:18:59.665 --> 0:19:03.065 We're seeing sparkles everywhere you're wearing she wiring, she hands, 0:19:03.185 --> 0:19:04.905 which I love. Are they the Tocuba ones? 0:19:05.105 --> 0:19:05.705 Dish dish? 0:19:05.785 --> 0:19:08.385