WEBVTT - Posh Wasn't At Sporty's Wedding & Non Parents Need Holidays Too

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, and welcome to Mamma Mia out loud.

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<v Speaker 2>It's what women are actually talking about on Monday, the

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<v Speaker 2>twentieth of July.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm Pollywayen, Rightnham.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Amelia Lester, and here's what's on our agenda for today.

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<v Speaker 2>There was only really one place to be this morning,

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<v Speaker 2>and it wasn't here in the studio with us, which

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<v Speaker 2>is unfortunate. It was watching the football with Madonna and Trump.

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<v Speaker 2>And depending on who's where you were sitting and who

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<v Speaker 2>with you, either had a great time or a cringey time.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll be talking you through everyone who is there hair

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<v Speaker 1>not wait.

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<v Speaker 3>Plus a theory that human interaction is fading due to

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<v Speaker 3>a device that's actually not a.

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<v Speaker 4>Smart fooh, and an Australian parental leave policy is making

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<v Speaker 4>some people very happy and some people very angry.

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<v Speaker 3>But first, Emily Vernon, in case you missed it, it's

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<v Speaker 3>the season of celebrity wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>It really is, isn't it. I guess it's because it's

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<v Speaker 2>the northern summer. Oh and so so you know, normally

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<v Speaker 2>the northern summer isn't that hot, although in recent years

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<v Speaker 2>climate change has put paid to that. So more summer

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<v Speaker 2>weddings than the Spring wedding.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, Melsey, also known as Sporty Spies, recently got married

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<v Speaker 3>over the weekend to one of us and Australi. His

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<v Speaker 3>name is Chris Dingwall and he is an Australian model.

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<v Speaker 3>They got married, I think in an intimate it's been

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<v Speaker 3>reported has been an intimate wedding in England. All the

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<v Speaker 3>Spice girls were there except Vicki b but she did

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<v Speaker 3>make the gap.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>I congratulations, congratulations Sporty. I do not want to rain

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<v Speaker 2>on your beautiful parade. It looked amazing. I'm so happy

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<v Speaker 2>for you. This is the first time she got married. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>which is impressive. I guess is it?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll stop talking, but I won't stop talking because I

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<v Speaker 2>questioned the vickib exclusion.

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<v Speaker 1>Because she was at the football.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So the reason she wasn't there is she's in New York.

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<v Speaker 2>She was at the final today with the rest of

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<v Speaker 2>the Beckham family. But she doesn't know to be there.

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<v Speaker 4>She does though, because because England weren't in it, they

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<v Speaker 4>weren't in it. But we learned last week, and we

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<v Speaker 4>talked about on the podcast last week that David Beckham

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<v Speaker 4>had a very prominent role this year's World Cup. It's

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<v Speaker 4>all part of a partnership with FIFA. He is what's

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<v Speaker 4>known as a vvi IP, very very important person and

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<v Speaker 4>it's estimated that he's going to make upwards of thirty

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<v Speaker 4>million dollars from the brand exposure that he got at

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<v Speaker 4>the World Cup.

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<v Speaker 2>Because not everybody loves FIFA, as we'll get to a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit later, and so it's good to happen. So

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<v Speaker 2>do you think it was in his contract Posh be there?

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<v Speaker 4>Of course? Well, even if not in his contract, I

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<v Speaker 4>think that the way he sells stuff is by being

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<v Speaker 4>David Beckham inc Like married to Posh looking handsome in

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<v Speaker 4>a suit at the soccer game. Like, that's all part

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<v Speaker 4>of how he sells things.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So in that case, this was a scheduling error

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<v Speaker 2>on Melsey's part.

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<v Speaker 4>And I think Melsey gets it like she gets it.

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<v Speaker 4>VICKI designed a beautiful dress for her. I thought it

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<v Speaker 4>was really lovely.

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<v Speaker 3>I just hope she got to FaceTime in while she

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<v Speaker 3>was watching the game, going, I really don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>be here. I wish I could be.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it was on Saturday, right, which was the day

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<v Speaker 2>that England did play that amazing like third place game.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know what.

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<v Speaker 2>This isn't a sports show, but anyway, so she may

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<v Speaker 2>have been busy. My other question is they got married

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<v Speaker 2>on Saturday in England today, which is Monday our time.

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<v Speaker 2>Photos are all in vogue.

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<v Speaker 3>She did what the girls needed, That's what I mean

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<v Speaker 3>release of photos.

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<v Speaker 2>There is a certain other celebrity whose wedding pictures are

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<v Speaker 2>still somewhere lost between the camera shop and there right

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<v Speaker 2>going on.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like if Taylor Swift does release her photos,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to be angry.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, we do have to mention that Maddy Healy, her ex,

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<v Speaker 4>got married over the weekend as well.

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<v Speaker 3>Aberanti shots. So far, no release of photos.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, but quite clear paparazzi shot. It's not that we

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<v Speaker 4>can join that on this show, and not that I

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<v Speaker 4>even looked at them. The wedding was, I am told

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<v Speaker 4>in Los Angeles in front of the Hollywood Sign, so

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<v Speaker 4>very West Coast glam of the very interesting counterpoint to

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<v Speaker 4>the East Coast of Taylor's wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, no one of these people paid enough attention to

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<v Speaker 2>the football fixtures, like if England had made it to

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<v Speaker 2>the final, Maddi, heally would have had to call his

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<v Speaker 2>wedding off like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Is what would have happened.

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<v Speaker 4>That's true.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, I'll try and stop mentioning they took hers. We're

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<v Speaker 2>happy for Melver she was in here last year. The

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<v Speaker 2>office lost his mind when Melsei was in Sydney last

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<v Speaker 2>year filming the Voice. She came in and did an

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<v Speaker 2>interview for No Filter. And I have never seen so

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<v Speaker 2>many of my cool millennial colleagues losing their fricking mind.

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<v Speaker 4>She was the coolest spice girl. I'm saying it. She

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<v Speaker 4>was the coolest spice girl on icon Is.

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't know, No, I'm kidding the girls girls. And

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<v Speaker 3>it was a big deal because Stacy asked our producer

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<v Speaker 3>Grace if she could be the one to bring Melseie

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<v Speaker 3>a glass.

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<v Speaker 1>That's hilarious. She's like running the website, but she's like.

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<v Speaker 2>Hold on a minute, I just need to be the

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<v Speaker 2>person who carries a glass of water into the studio.

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<v Speaker 1>And she did it perfectly.

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<v Speaker 4>The Australian fashion brand did is giving staff with children

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<v Speaker 4>under twelve and extra two weeks of paid parental leave

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<v Speaker 4>per year. This was just announced last week. Hurrah, the

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<v Speaker 4>female Vana company says the policy is designed to support

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<v Speaker 4>working parents if they're managing school pickup, sickness, important school events,

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<v Speaker 4>and it's also and I thought this was interesting to

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<v Speaker 4>help close the financial gap facing women in the workforce.

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<v Speaker 4>Dish wrote that they are arguing ambition and motherhood are

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<v Speaker 4>not opposing paths. This has been a very polarizing move.

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's safe to say. I was reading comments

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<v Speaker 4>on a Reddit forum for the child free and people.

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<v Speaker 4>Here are just some samples of what people were saying

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<v Speaker 4>from there. They describe it as a parental supremacy mindset.

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<v Speaker 4>This is a direct quote. Why don't child free people

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<v Speaker 4>get the same extra time off to spend time on

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<v Speaker 4>what we enjoy? Someone described it as workplace discrimination. Someone

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<v Speaker 4>else said I'd start talking about my imaginary children who

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<v Speaker 4>happen to be my cats.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, such a good idea, and I think there.

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<v Speaker 4>Are some Look, I'm really happy that Dish is doing this,

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<v Speaker 4>but I think that it is possible to see some

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<v Speaker 4>of these arguments as valid. And I wanted to first

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<v Speaker 4>throw to you Am to see what you, as a

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<v Speaker 4>child free person, thinks of this.

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<v Speaker 3>I want my two weeks as well. If parents are

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<v Speaker 3>getting two weeks. If mums are getting two weeks and

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<v Speaker 3>it's not just it's not parental leave, it's annually no.

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<v Speaker 2>But it is parental leave like as in the way

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<v Speaker 2>that this is framed in the parental.

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<v Speaker 3>Leave, but it's taking place within twelve years, so they

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<v Speaker 3>get two extra weeks of leave until their child is

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<v Speaker 3>twelve years old.

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<v Speaker 4>On top of dishes four weeks of annually.

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<v Speaker 3>So for me, that comes into the annual leave area

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<v Speaker 3>where I get less annual leave than women who have children.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think that this is just going to make

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<v Speaker 3>a huge divide in workplaces between women who have children

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<v Speaker 3>and women who don't, especially coworkers who have the same job,

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<v Speaker 3>who are doing the same amount of work, who have

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<v Speaker 3>the same salary. It is discrimination if one of them

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<v Speaker 3>is getting extra leaved.

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<v Speaker 1>And the other.

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<v Speaker 4>So you were quite annoyed by I was annoyed.

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<v Speaker 2>So you mean it will create division in workplaces if

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<v Speaker 2>this became a more common thing, Because a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people who are in the parental leave space are really

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<v Speaker 2>celebrating this. They're saying this is people need to realize

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<v Speaker 2>that parenthood, like making parenthood and work compatible, is much

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<v Speaker 2>more than just giving you a few weeks pay when

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<v Speaker 2>you have a baby, right, And I think that's why

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<v Speaker 2>this is being celebrated by those who see that. I

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<v Speaker 2>would personally very much celebrate it because I think that

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<v Speaker 2>that is absolutely true.

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<v Speaker 3>The thing is, there's.

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<v Speaker 2>No such thing as a perfect way to do this,

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<v Speaker 2>but your everything changes about your life when you have

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<v Speaker 2>a kid, right, and you whether your kid is a

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<v Speaker 2>newborn or whether your kid is eight and at school,

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<v Speaker 2>the demands on your time are different, right, recognizing that

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<v Speaker 2>and trying to make little headway into how to basically

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<v Speaker 2>keep hold of your workforce, because that's what this is about.

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<v Speaker 4>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>Some bosses will say this is an unattainable standard for

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<v Speaker 2>most businesses to be able to pay for an extra

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks leave for their workforce. But Dish is a

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<v Speaker 2>small ish, female run, female founded business. Ninety four percent

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<v Speaker 2>of their staff are women, so they know what they're

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<v Speaker 2>doing and the reason they're doing this is to stop

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<v Speaker 2>the attrition that you inevitably get when people have kids,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe then have another kid, think that they can come

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<v Speaker 2>back to work and all is dandy, but actually it

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<v Speaker 2>is exhausting and impossible, and then you put school holidays

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<v Speaker 2>into the mix and people quit and they go part time,

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<v Speaker 2>or they work for themselves, or they go and get

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<v Speaker 2>a job that's more flexible, or all those things. This

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<v Speaker 2>is a smart move for businesses who recognize they've got

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of parents on their books and they want

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<v Speaker 2>to keep hold of them because they've invested a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of time in training them having them in the business.

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<v Speaker 2>The other thing about that, of course, is that you

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<v Speaker 2>only ever see the world through your lens in a way.

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<v Speaker 2>So I would see those parents leaving early in my estimation,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't know whether they would get back online later.

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't in a position of management then in that

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<v Speaker 2>way to get back online later or whatever. And I

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<v Speaker 2>know that at different times in my life since I've

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<v Speaker 2>been a parent, having the flexibility to be able to

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<v Speaker 2>do that is much more important than lots of other stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>And parents are often working weird hours, early in the morning,

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<v Speaker 2>late at night, different things in order to try and

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<v Speaker 2>make all these competing priorities merge.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's the same in the sense where they're getting

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<v Speaker 3>extra leave over a personal choice. And I completely agree.

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<v Speaker 3>I think parents need more leave to look after kids,

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<v Speaker 3>but I think you can't just give it to one

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<v Speaker 3>group of people and not the rest of your company.

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<v Speaker 3>I've been a huge advocate for menstrual leave. That's something

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<v Speaker 3>that happens to women that we don't have a choice,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's happening to us.

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<v Speaker 2>And to be clear on this particular issue for this

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<v Speaker 2>particular business, we don't know if that is a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're talking about this generally like.

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<v Speaker 3>This is being and a law. Then I think there

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<v Speaker 3>are so many ways you can give women leave for

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<v Speaker 3>things that are completely out of their control. But I

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<v Speaker 3>think when you do it over a choice that they're

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<v Speaker 3>making and one group don't get that choice, it's just

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<v Speaker 3>going to create conflict in the workplace.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I hear you on the conflict point. I think

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<v Speaker 4>one sort of very zoomed out perspective on this. We've

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<v Speaker 4>talked a lot on this show about the fertility crisis

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<v Speaker 4>and about how young people are choosing not to have children,

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<v Speaker 4>and the people who are very worried about that are politicians.

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<v Speaker 4>And the reason why politicians are worried about it is

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<v Speaker 4>because children aren't just children. Children are also future tax

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<v Speaker 4>payers who then fund Medicare, they help fund the age pension,

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<v Speaker 4>they help fund the roads and the schools and all

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<v Speaker 4>the other things that we depend upon as a society.

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<v Speaker 4>So if not enough people have children, there aren't enough taxes,

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<v Speaker 4>society falls apart. So I hear you on the choice idea.

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<v Speaker 4>But the problem is this is a choice that ultimately

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<v Speaker 4>benefits everyone in Australian society, and the fact that some

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<v Speaker 4>people are putting up their hand to do it and

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<v Speaker 4>to throw themselves into that work of raising good, productive

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<v Speaker 4>members of society is worth recognizing and trying to make

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<v Speaker 4>it easier for them. It's not a choice to get

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<v Speaker 4>a manicure.

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<v Speaker 2>It's also interesting because I think, and I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 2>this is the right way to do it, but there

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<v Speaker 2>was a time in my career when my kids were

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<v Speaker 2>a little ware this is what I negotiated. So at

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<v Speaker 2>the time when it was pay increased time like negot

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<v Speaker 2>you know, yearly review and all those things, I said,

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<v Speaker 2>I know this sounds weird, but I'm just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>illustrating how important time becomes. I was like, I would

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<v Speaker 2>much rather have another week's leave than a pay rise,

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<v Speaker 2>Like time had become much more important to me at

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<v Speaker 2>that particular moment than the incremental pay rise I was

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<v Speaker 2>going to get. Now, that obviously is something that everybody

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<v Speaker 2>can or should do. And you know, money and the

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<v Speaker 2>ability to feed your family is at the top of

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<v Speaker 2>the tree, but time becomes such a different resource when

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<v Speaker 2>you're trying to juggle work and family. And so I

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<v Speaker 2>get it that you could be that anyone else someone

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<v Speaker 2>who isn't doing that, although I would and I know

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<v Speaker 2>this is also an annoying and inflammatory thing to say,

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<v Speaker 2>I would probably say, isn't doing that? Yet I think

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<v Speaker 2>that you don't really see that value in the same way.

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<v Speaker 3>But I could use time to do things you could,

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<v Speaker 3>and I think a lot of women could use it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think there are also women who want to be

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<v Speaker 3>parents and can't be parents, and there are also women

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<v Speaker 3>who are caring for their parents, And I think it's yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I obviously there's like fine print to this that we

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<v Speaker 3>can't really dissect. It will be different for everyone, but

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<v Speaker 3>I think there are those like kind of little areas

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<v Speaker 3>that will will make people like me just be really

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<v Speaker 3>angry at the situation, because there are so many different

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<v Speaker 3>situations where time is valuable and it's not always taking

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<v Speaker 3>care of kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, I entirely respect that. Of course, we don't know

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<v Speaker 2>what the rest of the careers leave situation is like.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's the fairest way to do that is to

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<v Speaker 2>make there be a bucket of care as leave, and

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<v Speaker 2>you use it for whatever caring you need. What is

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<v Speaker 2>interesting is in the reporting about Dish's decision to do

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<v Speaker 2>this again. They are one small small business. They say

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<v Speaker 2>that actually it's no surprise that since they've implemented it

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<v Speaker 2>there's been one hundred and forty percent boost in job applications.

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<v Speaker 1>It's smart business.

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<v Speaker 2>It's smart business because even though and I hope that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm always very mindful of the idea that, of course

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<v Speaker 2>not every woman wants to be a mother, and of

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<v Speaker 2>course not everybody should follow that path, but the reality

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<v Speaker 2>is it still is the path that most women follow.

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<v Speaker 2>So when they're coming to that time in their life,

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<v Speaker 2>this becomes incredibly important.

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<v Speaker 3>I know what you mean about the division.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what the answer is about that, except

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<v Speaker 2>to make sure that there are maybe you're flexible about

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<v Speaker 2>other kinds of negotiations only.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I also feel like if this became a thing, like,

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<v Speaker 3>let's say, in the future, this becomes a great incentive

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<v Speaker 3>for the government to implement to get that baby boost.

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<v Speaker 3>It could also have the opposite effect, where companies do

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<v Speaker 3>have a bias against women with children and won't hire

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<v Speaker 3>them because I know they'll end up paying more for

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<v Speaker 3>the parental aide.

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<v Speaker 2>That's often business owners argument about pushing too hard on

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<v Speaker 2>generous parental leave programs is that it will backfire on

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<v Speaker 2>women and that it makes it it can make it

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<v Speaker 2>less appealing to have a female heavy workforce.

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<v Speaker 4>It's interesting that in the articles around this, I was

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<v Speaker 4>surprised to learn that one third of Australian companies do

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<v Speaker 4>not have any kind of paid parental leave program even still,

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<v Speaker 4>so it's clearly something that companies are continuing to grapple

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<v Speaker 4>with as they think about their bottom lines as well.

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<v Speaker 2>After the break at the football with Madonna discuss so

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<v Speaker 2>the World Cup finish today, I'm sure there's a portion

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<v Speaker 2>of out louders who will be like, thank God for that,

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<v Speaker 2>because I keep hearing them talk about it. It's everywhere

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<v Speaker 2>I look on the internet. I'm done with it. How

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<v Speaker 2>do you feel about the World Cup finishing?

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<v Speaker 3>Him? My walk to work was very difficult because they

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<v Speaker 3>had a big viewing station up in Darling Harbor and

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<v Speaker 3>I have to walk through Darling Harbor to get to work,

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<v Speaker 3>and I got here late and it was a football

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<v Speaker 3>as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Because this morning, for context, it was the World Cup final,

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<v Speaker 2>so the last game. The World Cup has been going

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<v Speaker 2>on for I think six weeks. It's a long time.

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<v Speaker 2>It goes on a long time. Obviously, I like it

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<v Speaker 2>because I like football. I know Amelia's been enjoying it.

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<v Speaker 2>We've been discussing it every morning. But what everyone's discussing

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<v Speaker 2>today is not so much the football or though Spain

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<v Speaker 2>one and some people like myself are pretty happy about that,

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<v Speaker 2>but all the celebrity sparkle and spangle that went alongside

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<v Speaker 2>it today because the World Cup was in America, it

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<v Speaker 2>was in America, and Canada and Mexico they like co

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<v Speaker 2>host it. But the finale was in New York and

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<v Speaker 2>so every famous person new sorry it was in New Jersey.

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<v Speaker 2>Every famous person went. It was like Taylor Swifts wedding

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<v Speaker 2>all over again, all like the nixt game. And I

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<v Speaker 2>tried to do, Yes, what they tried to do because

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<v Speaker 2>this was an American World Cup is they tried to

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<v Speaker 2>make it more small American because the halftime show is

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<v Speaker 2>not a thing in football, right football? And when I

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<v Speaker 2>say football, I mean soccer, but I mean football. It

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<v Speaker 2>isn't a thing. The halftime in soccer is fifteen minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>Top, that's it.

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<v Speaker 2>Fifteen minutes, tight little circle, that's it right. Not today

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<v Speaker 2>it wasn't It was twenty seven minutes because Madonna had

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<v Speaker 2>to come on in a car, singing music car. It

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<v Speaker 2>looked like she started in a basement, but she got

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<v Speaker 2>out onto the pitch.

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<v Speaker 3>It was great.

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<v Speaker 1>She was supported by.

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<v Speaker 2>Driving the car was Ronaldinho, who's like a really famous

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<v Speaker 2>footballer who's quite past his prime, and he's just there

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<v Speaker 2>like beast by driving Madonna.

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<v Speaker 1>Then BTS came on and sang, oh they were so good.

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<v Speaker 2>Then at Ted Lasso brought Justin Bieber on as a sobacas.

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<v Speaker 4>Is having a big summer because he went to Taylor's wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>He did, and so he they did this little thing

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<v Speaker 2>him and his mate were they And I love Teddler

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<v Speaker 2>so as you know, but I thought this was a

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<v Speaker 2>bit cringe.

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<v Speaker 3>And they held up a.

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<v Speaker 2>Big like blabe JB suck. And then Justin Bieber came

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<v Speaker 2>on with his guitar and in Hallelujah.

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<v Speaker 1>That was kind of lovely.

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<v Speaker 3>It was was very slow, but then and.

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<v Speaker 2>Then Shakira came on, I'm going to have Shakira, and

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<v Speaker 2>then just as I was getting really cynical, it all

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<v Speaker 2>fell in a puddle because when Chris Martin came on

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<v Speaker 2>and sang with this big choir of school kids, and

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<v Speaker 2>then all the other celebrities came on at New Jersey kids,

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<v Speaker 2>it was actually New York, New York's God, look I

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<v Speaker 2>keep getting the New.

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<v Speaker 4>York school island.

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<v Speaker 3>That's right. It was actually quite touching.

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<v Speaker 4>It was that Chris Martin.

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<v Speaker 2>He always knows how to tug at your heartstrings, so

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<v Speaker 2>that was all very fabulous. In the crowd, we had

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<v Speaker 2>Chalameaie who never misses a sporting occasion, to canoodle with

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<v Speaker 2>his missus.

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<v Speaker 1>Tom Cruise spoke before it.

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<v Speaker 4>Why was he there?

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<v Speaker 2>Robbie Williams sang, Jennifer Hudson did the national national anthem.

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<v Speaker 2>Matt Damon and Luciana Barrosso his wife, were there in

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<v Speaker 2>the audience. Jay Z and Beyonce were there.

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<v Speaker 4>Lad Lively Girls squad. Who's in her new Girl We

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<v Speaker 4>don't know, but she's going everywhere with three other women.

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<v Speaker 2>Sarah, Jessica Parker, Jua Lipa. All the famous people were there,

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<v Speaker 2>but Amelia. What happened when Trump tried to borrow some

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<v Speaker 2>of this sparkle from the biggest sporting event in the world,

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<v Speaker 2>because let's remember, billions and billions of people watch the

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<v Speaker 2>World Cup Final. There is some great viral content going

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<v Speaker 2>on of like street interviews with Americans saying, what do

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<v Speaker 2>you think the difference in viewership is between the Super

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<v Speaker 2>Bowl and the World Cup Final? And they're all like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, twenty five thousand and no, like twenty

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<v Speaker 2>five billion. I'm exaggerating anyway.

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<v Speaker 3>So Trump tried to borrow a bit of the sparkle.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, just like, let's remember that the only thing Trump

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<v Speaker 4>has said about this glorious international sporting event happening on

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<v Speaker 4>his home turf the entire time has been to attempt

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<v Speaker 4>and then get a red card rescinded from a teen

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<v Speaker 4>USA player.

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<v Speaker 3>So after admitting that he didn't know how the game

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<v Speaker 3>worked a happening.

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<v Speaker 4>He's not exactly been throwing himself into the fandom thing here.

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<v Speaker 4>So then he turns out a greater final. He's a

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<v Speaker 4>great athlete, he turns up for the and he walks

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<v Speaker 4>onto the pitch after the game with FIFA President Gianni Fantino.

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<v Speaker 1>Who is not a very popular guy in the football

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<v Speaker 1>in world just saying.

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<v Speaker 4>No, and Holly has written in the notes and the

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<v Speaker 4>crowd couldn't decide who to boom more loudly. And that is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's true because fun I mean, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>get to inside football. But Fantino is a bit unpopular

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<v Speaker 2>because he's very into the money grabbing element of the

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<v Speaker 2>World Cup. So they've had dynamic pricing that's meant tickets

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<v Speaker 2>been going for thousands and thousands of dollars. He's expanded

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<v Speaker 2>the program to have more teams, which some people actually

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<v Speaker 2>argue has been great, but others say it's too hard

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<v Speaker 2>for the players exhaustion, Da da, da da. There's some

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<v Speaker 2>question marks about who he has agreed to let host

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<v Speaker 2>the World Cup, like in Saudi Arabia, and they've turned

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<v Speaker 2>it into four courts instead of too hard.

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<v Speaker 4>And of course he decided to give out the inaugural

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<v Speaker 4>Fee for Peace prize to Donald Trump, which people thought

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<v Speaker 4>was a bit on the nose because Trump keeps starting wars.

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<v Speaker 4>So anyway they come on the field, everyone boos them

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<v Speaker 4>and then Trump tries to sort of revel in the

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<v Speaker 4>in the in the Spain team's glory. Now Spain is

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<v Speaker 4>notoriously anti Trump, like they probably be the most anti

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<v Speaker 4>Trump European country, whereas Argentina had Argentina one. Argentina's president

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<v Speaker 4>is like a little like wanna be mini me Trump type,

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<v Speaker 4>so he was probably disappointed that Spain won, but then

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<v Speaker 4>Spain kind of didn't want anything to do with him.

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<v Speaker 4>They were too fixated on the World Cup. And then

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<v Speaker 4>he just sort of hovers on stage during his like YMCA,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm drying my back with a towel down, and then

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<v Speaker 4>finally Gianni himself has to basically lead Trump off stage

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<v Speaker 4>because he won't go.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a bit embarrassing. It actually perfectly encapsulated what it's

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<v Speaker 3>like to score a goal in a World Cup game,

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<v Speaker 3>where the whole team is celebrating together and the goalie

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<v Speaker 3>is just back there.

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<v Speaker 4>I like that as a sporting metaphor. Yes, that's exactly

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<v Speaker 4>what it was like.

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<v Speaker 2>So go have a look at all the pictures of

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<v Speaker 2>all the celebrities at the World Cup. We need to

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<v Speaker 2>very heavily analyze who played Lively was with. She obviously

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<v Speaker 2>has cred to be there because Ryan Reynolds owns a

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<v Speaker 2>football team. I think maybe he owns two football teams now,

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<v Speaker 2>so she at least knows the rules, unlike Trump.

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<v Speaker 3>She was like, that's a red card.

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<v Speaker 2>When the Spaniard got sent off, she was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>know that is a red card.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a question.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really worried about this segment because you know how

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<v Speaker 2>your phone listens to you and then serves you all

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<v Speaker 2>the videos. I feel strongly about this. My question to

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<v Speaker 2>you too, is are you a popper holic. I'm about

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<v Speaker 2>to explain what that is, but I have a feeling

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<v Speaker 2>you are one. I'm a huge oh my god, all

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<v Speaker 2>I just need to reiterate, do not serve me the

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<v Speaker 2>videos I'm about to talk about, do not serve them

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<v Speaker 2>to me. Poppa Hollick is the name for the devotees

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<v Speaker 2>of the gross that is Dr pimple Popper. Sandra Lee.

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<v Speaker 2>Not saying that she's gross, her content is gross. There

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<v Speaker 2>was a big New York Times profile this week about

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<v Speaker 2>Dr pimple Popper. She's a dermatologist. Of course, she's based

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<v Speaker 2>in LA and she makes those videos. You've all seen

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<v Speaker 2>them again my phone. I don't want them of people

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<v Speaker 2>having things squeezed out. And it may have started, it

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<v Speaker 2>may start with a little like entry level blackhead situation,

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<v Speaker 2>but before you know it were into cists, We're into

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<v Speaker 2>all kinds of.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, am why why do you like these videos?

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<v Speaker 3>It's so so good. I was actually really happy to

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<v Speaker 3>see this profile because I've been following doctor pimple Popper

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<v Speaker 3>since like my school days. I would get home from school,

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<v Speaker 3>get on my laptop, my old laptop, and go to

0:23:00.640 --> 0:23:04.040
<v Speaker 3>her YouTube channel and then filter by popularity and watch

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<v Speaker 3>the most viewed pimple popping video she posts, which are

0:23:07.400 --> 0:23:09.840
<v Speaker 3>like the big Gnally ones. I'd go on for about

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<v Speaker 3>like fifteen minutes. I'm not one.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to get to what it says about you

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<v Speaker 2>as a person, Okay, but just a bit of detail

0:23:15.920 --> 0:23:18.119
<v Speaker 2>about why we're talking about her. What was revealed in

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<v Speaker 2>this article was kind of the scale of her business

0:23:21.920 --> 0:23:24.760
<v Speaker 2>and an empire. Because she's a dermatologist from la She

0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:28.400
<v Speaker 2>still operates there out of this kind of nondescript office.

0:23:28.560 --> 0:23:29.840
<v Speaker 3>People travel to see her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, in her office, there's a neon sign in blue

0:23:33.040 --> 0:23:35.480
<v Speaker 2>cursive that demands popperholics you nite.

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<v Speaker 3>Apparently.

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<v Speaker 2>She says that one day, several years into her experiment

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<v Speaker 2>of seeing if people would like to watch these things,

0:23:42.280 --> 0:23:44.560
<v Speaker 2>she posted a video on which she removed an enormous

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<v Speaker 2>blackhead known as a paw of winer. I don't want

0:23:47.960 --> 0:23:51.000
<v Speaker 2>to think about that. People were either disgusted or obsessed,

0:23:51.040 --> 0:23:53.960
<v Speaker 2>but either way, they tagged a friend and take off

0:23:54.160 --> 0:23:56.119
<v Speaker 2>was not instant, the New York Times reports, but it

0:23:56.160 --> 0:23:58.520
<v Speaker 2>was pretty close. The first month she tried to YouTuber,

0:23:58.760 --> 0:24:01.960
<v Speaker 2>she tried to monetize her YouTube videos. In twenty fifteen,

0:24:01.960 --> 0:24:04.879
<v Speaker 2>she made about thirty dollars. Now she makes six figures

0:24:04.880 --> 0:24:11.080
<v Speaker 2>a month easy. What She has seventeen million people following

0:24:11.160 --> 0:24:14.000
<v Speaker 2>her on TikTok. That is more than Beyonce and Britney

0:24:14.040 --> 0:24:19.520
<v Speaker 2>Spears combined, an additional thirteen million watching her on YouTube

0:24:19.720 --> 0:24:20.560
<v Speaker 2>and Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>So she is killing it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, And are these videos just pimples being popped?

0:24:26.640 --> 0:24:31.240
<v Speaker 3>It's like pimples being popped. Black Heads removal, cysts removal,

0:24:31.720 --> 0:24:35.800
<v Speaker 3>so any kind of like body, kind of little spot

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<v Speaker 3>gets removed. She's also she also taught me a lot

0:24:39.200 --> 0:24:43.840
<v Speaker 3>about my own removal processes. So you know, when you

0:24:44.680 --> 0:24:48.000
<v Speaker 3>remove a black head and like the whole thing just

0:24:48.080 --> 0:24:49.480
<v Speaker 3>comes up in one like glorious.

0:24:49.600 --> 0:24:54.640
<v Speaker 4>No, I assume I know nothing, So you're actually not done.

0:24:54.440 --> 0:24:56.640
<v Speaker 3>Because you also have to get the sack out otherwise

0:24:56.640 --> 0:24:58.000
<v Speaker 3>then you'll get another black head.

0:24:57.840 --> 0:24:59.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm worried about. I'm worried about as I say.

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<v Speaker 3>Black head out and then just go for one more

0:25:02.320 --> 0:25:04.639
<v Speaker 3>squeeze and there's like a little white thing that pops

0:25:04.720 --> 0:25:06.400
<v Speaker 3>up after it, and then you're done.

0:25:07.040 --> 0:25:09.879
<v Speaker 1>Where do you stand on poperholics, Amelia? I think I know.

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<v Speaker 4>You are you?

0:25:12.359 --> 0:25:13.680
<v Speaker 1>Are you watching these videos?

0:25:14.080 --> 0:25:17.639
<v Speaker 4>No, I'm watching the World Cup like a normal person.

0:25:18.000 --> 0:25:20.639
<v Speaker 3>I don't Jude beelling and wearing his gardening hats.

0:25:20.800 --> 0:25:23.159
<v Speaker 4>The thing I'm interesting I love Drew Belling. And the

0:25:23.280 --> 0:25:27.000
<v Speaker 4>thing I'm interested in is why we like the gross

0:25:27.200 --> 0:25:29.720
<v Speaker 4>disgusting thing, Like why.

0:25:29.640 --> 0:25:30.720
<v Speaker 3>Are we drawn to that?

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<v Speaker 4>Do you think?

0:25:31.880 --> 0:25:35.840
<v Speaker 3>I think with pimple popping and like all these kind

0:25:35.880 --> 0:25:38.560
<v Speaker 3>of like even earwax removals.

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<v Speaker 4>And I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>About it.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if there's there's.

0:25:42.720 --> 0:25:45.520
<v Speaker 3>Like earwax doctors and then they take a little camera

0:25:45.600 --> 0:25:48.720
<v Speaker 3>into ears that they're cleaning out and they remove all

0:25:49.280 --> 0:25:50.960
<v Speaker 3>we see it. But it has to be done in

0:25:51.000 --> 0:25:53.600
<v Speaker 3>a particular way that's satisfying, which means that it has

0:25:53.680 --> 0:25:57.400
<v Speaker 3>to end. The video has to end when everything's cleared out,

0:25:57.800 --> 0:26:00.080
<v Speaker 3>when you know that there's still some things like to

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<v Speaker 3>happen that just like leaves me distress. I'm anxious. I

0:26:05.440 --> 0:26:09.520
<v Speaker 3>feel very like safe when I watch these videos because

0:26:09.560 --> 0:26:12.960
<v Speaker 3>it's like I'm watching something really gross happen and it's

0:26:13.080 --> 0:26:15.359
<v Speaker 3>very pleasing to my eyes, but I know it's not

0:26:15.640 --> 0:26:17.080
<v Speaker 3>actually personally affecting me.

0:26:17.280 --> 0:26:20.200
<v Speaker 2>There is some theories, some scientific theories about it tell

0:26:20.320 --> 0:26:24.359
<v Speaker 2>us so why people love it. Benign masochism is one

0:26:24.400 --> 0:26:26.440
<v Speaker 2>of the words, one of the terms for it, which

0:26:26.520 --> 0:26:30.080
<v Speaker 2>is that you kind of enjoy watching the suffering of

0:26:30.200 --> 0:26:32.320
<v Speaker 2>the person, but you know it because you know it's

0:26:32.359 --> 0:26:34.480
<v Speaker 2>not serious, you know what I mean, Like, you know

0:26:34.600 --> 0:26:37.640
<v Speaker 2>that there is a little bit of pain being inflicted there,

0:26:38.200 --> 0:26:41.720
<v Speaker 2>but it's not it's not a dangerous level of pain,

0:26:41.920 --> 0:26:42.639
<v Speaker 2>so you enjoy that.

0:26:42.840 --> 0:26:47.280
<v Speaker 3>The other else falls into this category. I'm watching tattoo removals. Oh,

0:26:47.480 --> 0:26:49.040
<v Speaker 3>like the laser I guess.

0:26:49.119 --> 0:26:49.159
<v Speaker 4>So.

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<v Speaker 2>The other theory is our deep seated grooming instinct that

0:26:53.400 --> 0:26:56.400
<v Speaker 2>we all have from evolution, Like the reason why monkeys

0:26:56.440 --> 0:26:59.280
<v Speaker 2>pull things out of each other's hair and stuff is

0:26:59.359 --> 0:27:02.160
<v Speaker 2>that some people have that more than others, the instinct

0:27:02.200 --> 0:27:05.440
<v Speaker 2>to groom. And another was that which I think is

0:27:05.440 --> 0:27:09.080
<v Speaker 2>where you fit in probably is the pleasure of completion, Like,

0:27:09.200 --> 0:27:12.120
<v Speaker 2>here's a problem. Dr Sandra Lee is going to fix

0:27:12.200 --> 0:27:14.680
<v Speaker 2>that problem. We're going to be here at the beginning.

0:27:14.720 --> 0:27:16.399
<v Speaker 2>We're gonna be here at the end. It's sorted, and

0:27:16.480 --> 0:27:17.640
<v Speaker 2>it's nice to be sorted.

0:27:18.240 --> 0:27:18.440
<v Speaker 1>And that.

0:27:18.560 --> 0:27:21.520
<v Speaker 2>There's that, and then the reason why some people hate

0:27:21.560 --> 0:27:24.560
<v Speaker 2>it like me, and maybe I really really hate it.

0:27:24.640 --> 0:27:26.440
<v Speaker 2>If I even see them coming up on my fortube,

0:27:26.520 --> 0:27:28.159
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, soe you page I want to throw my

0:27:28.280 --> 0:27:31.560
<v Speaker 2>phone into a bottle of water. Is I must have

0:27:31.680 --> 0:27:34.879
<v Speaker 2>a high disgust sensitivity, which apparently is a thing that

0:27:34.960 --> 0:27:35.520
<v Speaker 2>is set in you.

0:27:35.720 --> 0:27:38.159
<v Speaker 4>But do you think, like would you have thought that

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<v Speaker 4>about yourself beforehand?

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<v Speaker 2>I'd like, I don't mind, I mean too much information,

0:27:44.800 --> 0:27:47.640
<v Speaker 2>But like like anyone, I quite like squeezing a black head.

0:27:48.119 --> 0:27:50.199
<v Speaker 2>But I've always drawn the line, and you know there

0:27:50.240 --> 0:27:52.720
<v Speaker 2>are people who like squeezing other people's black heads. Yeah,

0:27:53.359 --> 0:27:55.560
<v Speaker 2>Like my mom used to chase me around when I

0:27:55.760 --> 0:27:58.000
<v Speaker 2>was a teenager and she'd be like, I'll pay fifty

0:27:58.040 --> 0:27:58.879
<v Speaker 2>p if you let me get it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's amazing. I'm exactly like your mom.

0:28:03.920 --> 0:28:07.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, no other people's business. I don't want it

0:28:07.600 --> 0:28:08.480
<v Speaker 2>anywhere near me.

0:28:08.800 --> 0:28:10.719
<v Speaker 3>But don't you like want like when you look at

0:28:10.760 --> 0:28:13.040
<v Speaker 3>someone and you know they have something on their back

0:28:13.119 --> 0:28:17.000
<v Speaker 3>and you just anate with And this is when I

0:28:17.080 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 3>really had to check myself and about my habits of

0:28:19.080 --> 0:28:21.000
<v Speaker 3>watching these videos. I want to an un date with

0:28:21.040 --> 0:28:24.200
<v Speaker 3>the guy park date getting coffee, sitting in a park

0:28:24.720 --> 0:28:29.000
<v Speaker 3>and without even thinking, I just leant over and squeezed

0:28:29.040 --> 0:28:29.880
<v Speaker 3>a pimple on his side.

0:28:30.560 --> 0:28:30.720
<v Speaker 4>Oh.

0:28:30.880 --> 0:28:33.080
<v Speaker 3>I didn't even ask for consent. You did, and he

0:28:33.280 --> 0:28:35.200
<v Speaker 3>was just like oh, And I was like, oh, I

0:28:35.280 --> 0:28:35.520
<v Speaker 3>got it.

0:28:36.280 --> 0:28:41.520
<v Speaker 4>Is the second datepe You got that guy's on your fingers,

0:28:41.960 --> 0:28:44.080
<v Speaker 4>crushed it off on some grass, or you like put

0:28:44.120 --> 0:28:45.920
<v Speaker 4>it back on them. Do you know? I think you

0:28:45.960 --> 0:28:48.080
<v Speaker 4>can also change over the course of your lifetime. We

0:28:48.120 --> 0:28:50.920
<v Speaker 4>were talking before about child free people. I have a

0:28:51.040 --> 0:28:54.880
<v Speaker 4>child free friend who the thing that she cannot get

0:28:54.960 --> 0:28:58.160
<v Speaker 4>over with kids is, you know, when little kids are eating,

0:28:58.560 --> 0:29:02.760
<v Speaker 4>they tend to smear food everywhere, and she is really

0:29:02.920 --> 0:29:07.520
<v Speaker 4>repulsed by that idea of like a little kid's smearing there.

0:29:07.520 --> 0:29:09.560
<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of goo involved in the early years

0:29:10.480 --> 0:29:11.600
<v Speaker 1>if you can't escape.

0:29:11.960 --> 0:29:14.600
<v Speaker 4>And so I wonder if, like also your tolerance can

0:29:14.680 --> 0:29:16.680
<v Speaker 4>kind of ebb and flow depending on where you're at

0:29:16.760 --> 0:29:18.920
<v Speaker 4>in life. Because that would never occur to me to

0:29:19.000 --> 0:29:20.120
<v Speaker 4>be grossed out by that.

0:29:20.400 --> 0:29:24.040
<v Speaker 2>But also it maybe explains why I didn't used to

0:29:24.720 --> 0:29:26.120
<v Speaker 2>mind it as much as I do now.

0:29:26.240 --> 0:29:27.720
<v Speaker 1>Maybe I've reached my tolerance.

0:29:28.440 --> 0:29:30.200
<v Speaker 2>When my kids were little and you're dealing with all

0:29:30.280 --> 0:29:32.320
<v Speaker 2>kinds of things, gooey things that you just have too

0:29:32.320 --> 0:29:34.920
<v Speaker 2>you've got no choice. But now that I don't have

0:29:35.040 --> 0:29:38.760
<v Speaker 2>to do that anymore, I'm just like, absolutely cap absolutely not.

0:29:39.320 --> 0:29:42.000
<v Speaker 2>There's this stuff called Exfoliant, Go for your lives, kids,

0:29:42.080 --> 0:29:42.360
<v Speaker 2>off you.

0:29:42.440 --> 0:29:48.960
<v Speaker 3>Go after the break. The device that's not a smartphone

0:29:49.160 --> 0:29:53.440
<v Speaker 3>that's making us lose a sense of community. Writer markham

0:29:53.480 --> 0:29:56.160
<v Speaker 3>Hyde posted a sub sect about a theory that he

0:29:56.280 --> 0:29:59.280
<v Speaker 3>has on why it feels like we're collectively losing a

0:29:59.360 --> 0:30:02.800
<v Speaker 3>sense of unity. He calls it the air pod effect,

0:30:03.200 --> 0:30:05.880
<v Speaker 3>and he explains how he's noticed more people more often

0:30:05.920 --> 0:30:10.360
<v Speaker 3>than not, in public spaces are either wearing AirPod earphones headphones,

0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:13.600
<v Speaker 3>and in this article he writes about how those devices

0:30:13.760 --> 0:30:16.960
<v Speaker 3>act as a deterrent for spontaneous interactions that we go

0:30:17.120 --> 0:30:19.520
<v Speaker 3>through in day to day life, and he says that

0:30:19.720 --> 0:30:22.320
<v Speaker 3>they act as a way of people people look at

0:30:22.360 --> 0:30:25.480
<v Speaker 3>people who are wearing these earphones and think it's like automatic,

0:30:25.760 --> 0:30:29.440
<v Speaker 3>do not disturb me? So, yes, definitely they are, Amelia.

0:30:29.800 --> 0:30:32.320
<v Speaker 3>Are you a headphones and public kind of person?

0:30:32.720 --> 0:30:36.120
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I am. But this piece really made me question

0:30:36.360 --> 0:30:40.080
<v Speaker 4>what it's doing to me. It had some really interesting,

0:30:40.360 --> 0:30:43.959
<v Speaker 4>actually quite alarming tidbits in it. He quoted a study

0:30:44.040 --> 0:30:48.040
<v Speaker 4>that finds that Americans are speaking less words to each

0:30:48.080 --> 0:30:51.760
<v Speaker 4>other than they used to, and he draws a line

0:30:51.880 --> 0:30:56.560
<v Speaker 4>directly both to the smartphone and then even more to AirPods,

0:30:57.040 --> 0:31:01.400
<v Speaker 4>because basically, between two thousand and five in twenty nineteen,

0:31:02.040 --> 0:31:05.600
<v Speaker 4>the spoken words uttered by the average person fell by

0:31:05.680 --> 0:31:08.600
<v Speaker 4>twenty eight percent. He's and he says, since twenty nineteen

0:31:08.640 --> 0:31:10.840
<v Speaker 4>has gotten even worse because now you've got QR menu

0:31:11.120 --> 0:31:14.720
<v Speaker 4>ordering in restaurants, that's true, you've got at the supermarket,

0:31:14.760 --> 0:31:17.840
<v Speaker 4>you got to do your own checkout now, and air pods.

0:31:18.080 --> 0:31:20.560
<v Speaker 4>Unlike when you used to have the cord headphones. At

0:31:20.640 --> 0:31:23.800
<v Speaker 4>least then you could see, Okay, someone's listening to a song.

0:31:24.040 --> 0:31:26.480
<v Speaker 4>That's fine. But now AirPods are a way of life,

0:31:26.640 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 4>Like you're not just putting them in to listen to something.

0:31:29.440 --> 0:31:31.240
<v Speaker 4>I think a lot of people just wear them for

0:31:31.360 --> 0:31:32.920
<v Speaker 4>the sake of wearing them, right.

0:31:33.200 --> 0:31:35.000
<v Speaker 3>I one hundred percent. I'm the type of person to

0:31:35.080 --> 0:31:37.680
<v Speaker 3>wear air pods for the sake of wearing them. Why

0:31:38.280 --> 0:31:42.360
<v Speaker 3>Because I like to sometimes be outside and have no one.

0:31:42.440 --> 0:31:46.400
<v Speaker 4>Talked, so it's like a visual buffer. Yeah.

0:31:46.520 --> 0:31:47.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Okay.

0:31:47.280 --> 0:31:49.560
<v Speaker 2>My question about that is, who are you trying to

0:31:49.680 --> 0:31:52.840
<v Speaker 2>avoid talking to you? Because is this like a I

0:31:52.920 --> 0:31:55.720
<v Speaker 2>don't want creepy guys bothering me? Or is this a

0:31:56.080 --> 0:31:57.960
<v Speaker 2>I just don't want interactions of any kind?

0:31:58.040 --> 0:32:01.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, interactions of any kind. If I'm going grocery shopping

0:32:01.280 --> 0:32:03.480
<v Speaker 3>and I'm in one of those phases where I'm like,

0:32:03.840 --> 0:32:06.080
<v Speaker 3>I just want to go get my groceries, come home,

0:32:06.200 --> 0:32:07.760
<v Speaker 3>I don't want to talk to anyone. I don't want

0:32:07.800 --> 0:32:08.680
<v Speaker 3>to look at anyone.

0:32:09.280 --> 0:32:09.880
<v Speaker 4>I know that.

0:32:10.120 --> 0:32:13.120
<v Speaker 3>Like I feel safer with my AirPods in because I

0:32:13.840 --> 0:32:15.960
<v Speaker 3>it is like a deterrent, Like people are less likely

0:32:16.080 --> 0:32:18.760
<v Speaker 3>to come up and say hello or like look at you,

0:32:19.280 --> 0:32:22.680
<v Speaker 3>or even just kind of ask you about your day.

0:32:22.960 --> 0:32:25.200
<v Speaker 3>And I there is though, if I do go to

0:32:25.280 --> 0:32:28.040
<v Speaker 3>a grocery shop and I only keep my AirPods in

0:32:28.120 --> 0:32:30.959
<v Speaker 3>if I am going self checkout, but if I am

0:32:31.120 --> 0:32:34.000
<v Speaker 3>talking to someone and someone's serving me, I do take

0:32:34.040 --> 0:32:34.520
<v Speaker 3>them out.

0:32:34.520 --> 0:32:37.720
<v Speaker 4>Often, so I've had this experience, and I'm sure many

0:32:38.000 --> 0:32:40.040
<v Speaker 4>people listening have had the same experience. You go to

0:32:40.160 --> 0:32:44.080
<v Speaker 4>the supermarket, you check out at the machine. The only

0:32:44.240 --> 0:32:47.320
<v Speaker 4>time someone speaks to you is when they asked to

0:32:47.360 --> 0:32:49.680
<v Speaker 4>look inside your bag to check that you haven't shoplifted.

0:32:50.400 --> 0:32:54.640
<v Speaker 4>And I think that's creating like a really toxic dynamic

0:32:54.920 --> 0:32:57.040
<v Speaker 4>because it's like, the only person I've spoken to you

0:32:57.160 --> 0:32:59.680
<v Speaker 4>on this entire outing is checking to see that I'm

0:32:59.680 --> 0:33:03.040
<v Speaker 4>not a criminal. And it's so different from how you

0:33:03.240 --> 0:33:05.480
<v Speaker 4>used to go to the supermarket and have a chat

0:33:05.560 --> 0:33:08.640
<v Speaker 4>with the person who's checking you out and maybe someone

0:33:08.800 --> 0:33:10.560
<v Speaker 4>you talk to someone in the dairy aisle about what

0:33:10.640 --> 0:33:12.840
<v Speaker 4>they think about like this brand of cottage cheese. Like

0:33:12.960 --> 0:33:13.959
<v Speaker 4>everything's changed.

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<v Speaker 2>I find that so interesting because all of it. For

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<v Speaker 2>a start, the idea that the number of words we're

0:33:20.960 --> 0:33:23.920
<v Speaker 2>saying a day is chopping is fascinating because that must

0:33:24.040 --> 0:33:26.720
<v Speaker 2>also be to do with So that's to do with

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<v Speaker 2>this incidental interaction that we're talking about, but it probably

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<v Speaker 2>is also to do with the fact that even when

0:33:32.040 --> 0:33:37.480
<v Speaker 2>we're at home, we're often watching listening, like in putting

0:33:38.200 --> 0:33:40.040
<v Speaker 2>separate to the other people in our home.

0:33:40.120 --> 0:33:41.120
<v Speaker 1>If we live with other people.

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<v Speaker 2>So the very idea that we're saying less is kind

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<v Speaker 2>of fascinating because very often that part of the rise

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<v Speaker 2>of airpod's obviously their great technology blah blah, is attributed

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<v Speaker 2>to the rising popularity of podcasts right. So hey, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sure there are lots of people who listening to us

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<v Speaker 2>right now in order to avoid talk to someone that

0:34:00.720 --> 0:34:02.880
<v Speaker 2>don't want to talk to And audiobooks. Yeah, but that

0:34:03.080 --> 0:34:06.880
<v Speaker 2>means it's constant input but a lot less output. And

0:34:07.040 --> 0:34:10.920
<v Speaker 2>what does that do to us over time is really interesting.

0:34:11.760 --> 0:34:14.920
<v Speaker 2>I understand that airports can be a really helpful do

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<v Speaker 2>not disturb for neurodiverse people.

0:34:18.320 --> 0:34:18.920
<v Speaker 1>People try to.

0:34:18.960 --> 0:34:22.120
<v Speaker 2>Avoid being harassed, like you know, young women will often say,

0:34:22.160 --> 0:34:25.360
<v Speaker 2>you know that kind of almost toxic interaction of smile

0:34:25.760 --> 0:34:27.719
<v Speaker 2>and like trying to chat you up and stuff. Great

0:34:27.800 --> 0:34:32.120
<v Speaker 2>deterrent for that, buttle all those little interactions in your

0:34:32.200 --> 0:34:33.759
<v Speaker 2>day if you just walk into the food court to

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<v Speaker 2>get noodles, Like, why are you so keen to avoid those?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, because I'm just like I have my agenda. Is

0:34:39.400 --> 0:34:42.640
<v Speaker 3>it about your social battery? Maybe it's my social battery.

0:34:42.719 --> 0:34:46.799
<v Speaker 3>I also think exactly what this article says when now,

0:34:46.880 --> 0:34:49.120
<v Speaker 3>when people do talk to me and it's like a

0:34:49.160 --> 0:34:52.080
<v Speaker 3>stranger and it's a daily interaction. My brain does malfunction,

0:34:52.800 --> 0:34:55.640
<v Speaker 3>like for me sometimes saying like if someone's like good morning,

0:34:55.719 --> 0:34:58.000
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, yeah, thank you, and then I just like

0:34:58.239 --> 0:35:00.520
<v Speaker 3>my brain doesn't comprehend what other peop people are saying

0:35:00.560 --> 0:35:02.080
<v Speaker 3>to me or why they would be talking to me

0:35:02.239 --> 0:35:05.240
<v Speaker 3>in the first place. I've also noticed it's so different

0:35:05.360 --> 0:35:08.560
<v Speaker 3>depending where you're located. When I go back home to

0:35:08.640 --> 0:35:10.759
<v Speaker 3>visit my parents in the Outer West and I go

0:35:10.920 --> 0:35:14.319
<v Speaker 3>for like a long walk, I notice that every single

0:35:14.400 --> 0:35:17.040
<v Speaker 3>person I walk past, it's like common knowledge within that

0:35:17.120 --> 0:35:19.120
<v Speaker 3>community that you just say good morning, yeah to the

0:35:19.120 --> 0:35:21.640
<v Speaker 3>person I live to for sure. It doesn't happen in

0:35:21.719 --> 0:35:22.440
<v Speaker 3>the city at all.

0:35:22.640 --> 0:35:22.960
<v Speaker 1>Different.

0:35:23.160 --> 0:35:25.560
<v Speaker 3>It's so different, and it's kind of like what you expect.

0:35:25.719 --> 0:35:28.600
<v Speaker 3>If I'm out where my parents are, I feel comfortable

0:35:28.719 --> 0:35:30.920
<v Speaker 3>taking my AirPods out because I know if I was

0:35:30.960 --> 0:35:32.960
<v Speaker 3>to say good morning someone, they'll say it. Back in

0:35:33.080 --> 0:35:34.960
<v Speaker 3>the inner city, I can say good morning someone and

0:35:35.000 --> 0:35:36.040
<v Speaker 3>I get completely blank.

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<v Speaker 4>So part of it is about I'm watching a World

0:35:38.120 --> 0:35:39.520
<v Speaker 4>Cup final please yes'.

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<v Speaker 3>Fear of embarrassment.

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<v Speaker 2>It's interesting that you say that, Amelia, because this morning

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<v Speaker 2>so I was walking. I drove in from from where

0:35:46.280 --> 0:35:48.160
<v Speaker 2>I live today, and then I was walking from apart

0:35:48.280 --> 0:35:50.719
<v Speaker 2>my car to the office, and I was watching the

0:35:50.800 --> 0:35:53.360
<v Speaker 2>World Cup final because it was literally happening in the

0:35:53.400 --> 0:35:55.840
<v Speaker 2>last few minutes, and so I had my AirPods in.

0:35:55.960 --> 0:35:56.719
<v Speaker 3>I was looking at my.

0:35:56.760 --> 0:35:57.960
<v Speaker 1>Phone while I was walking.

0:35:58.719 --> 0:36:00.800
<v Speaker 2>So are a lot of other And the thing that

0:36:00.920 --> 0:36:02.880
<v Speaker 2>was quite nice about that is you could kind of

0:36:02.960 --> 0:36:04.960
<v Speaker 2>look at someone and go, they're watching the football, like,

0:36:05.040 --> 0:36:07.560
<v Speaker 2>and there was something a bit there was some camaraderie there,

0:36:07.600 --> 0:36:09.279
<v Speaker 2>and you almost could look at each other and go

0:36:09.840 --> 0:36:12.840
<v Speaker 2>because connecting with other people is nice and that's exactly

0:36:12.880 --> 0:36:15.560
<v Speaker 2>what we're losing all the time. So I bumped into

0:36:15.600 --> 0:36:17.760
<v Speaker 2>someone I worked with though after the game had finished.

0:36:17.800 --> 0:36:20.200
<v Speaker 2>I bumped into someone I work with. She was wearing

0:36:20.239 --> 0:36:22.600
<v Speaker 2>ear pods. I was wearing air pods. We stopped at

0:36:22.640 --> 0:36:25.040
<v Speaker 2>the traffic lights together and I took my EarPods out

0:36:25.080 --> 0:36:26.640
<v Speaker 2>to say hello to her, and she did the same.

0:36:26.680 --> 0:36:29.480
<v Speaker 2>But she said, do you want to keep talking or

0:36:29.560 --> 0:36:31.000
<v Speaker 2>do you want to put your ear pods back in?

0:36:31.160 --> 0:36:36.759
<v Speaker 2>And that's now like a social contract. Well I said, no,

0:36:37.160 --> 0:36:37.839
<v Speaker 2>let's keep talking.

0:36:37.880 --> 0:36:38.759
<v Speaker 3>But what do you want to do?

0:36:39.040 --> 0:36:40.279
<v Speaker 1>Well, I was happy to.

0:36:40.520 --> 0:36:43.640
<v Speaker 2>But sometimes I would have said, Oh, I really need

0:36:43.719 --> 0:36:45.320
<v Speaker 2>to listen to this. That would be the other my

0:36:45.440 --> 0:36:48.359
<v Speaker 2>excuse for work for work, I really need to listen

0:36:48.400 --> 0:36:48.560
<v Speaker 2>to this.

0:36:48.960 --> 0:36:51.279
<v Speaker 3>But it's kind of sad, isn't it It is?

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<v Speaker 4>I was thinking. Also, this made me think about how

0:36:53.960 --> 0:36:57.360
<v Speaker 4>Apple's ads for their headphones have changed so much, because

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<v Speaker 4>back in two thousand and three, when iPods first came out,

0:37:02.120 --> 0:37:05.320
<v Speaker 4>there was a really iconic ad. It actually featured the

0:37:05.440 --> 0:37:07.919
<v Speaker 4>Australian band Jett song are You Going to Be My Girl?

0:37:08.040 --> 0:37:08.400
<v Speaker 2>Remember?

0:37:08.719 --> 0:37:11.720
<v Speaker 4>And it had a really bright background and it showed

0:37:11.719 --> 0:37:15.840
<v Speaker 4>a person dancing with the white cord of their Apple

0:37:15.960 --> 0:37:19.520
<v Speaker 4>earphone showing. And then you fast forward to last year

0:37:19.680 --> 0:37:21.880
<v Speaker 4>and there was an acclaimed Apple ad that I know

0:37:22.000 --> 0:37:23.680
<v Speaker 4>you were a fan of, Hollywod because you talked about

0:37:23.680 --> 0:37:27.319
<v Speaker 4>on the show, which showed Pedro Pascal walking through city

0:37:27.360 --> 0:37:30.160
<v Speaker 4>streets and it depicted four seasons passing as you walked

0:37:30.200 --> 0:37:33.080
<v Speaker 4>through the streets, not talking to anyone. And I thought,

0:37:33.360 --> 0:37:35.440
<v Speaker 4>we've come a long way in terms of what Apple

0:37:35.600 --> 0:37:37.920
<v Speaker 4>is selling to us, because back in two thousand and three,

0:37:38.080 --> 0:37:41.480
<v Speaker 4>it was like dance joyfully against a bright background with

0:37:41.560 --> 0:37:45.640
<v Speaker 4>your white headphone cord showing, and now it's become you

0:37:45.800 --> 0:37:48.000
<v Speaker 4>two can be like Pedro Pascal and walk through a

0:37:48.080 --> 0:37:51.160
<v Speaker 4>crowded city without having to interact with a single soul.

0:37:51.440 --> 0:37:52.120
<v Speaker 1>You're so right.

0:37:52.440 --> 0:37:55.520
<v Speaker 2>I thought about that ad today because I did like

0:37:55.560 --> 0:37:57.320
<v Speaker 2>it because of Pedro, obviously I'm a fan of his,

0:37:57.920 --> 0:38:00.439
<v Speaker 2>but the thing that AirPods sell you, that is a dream.

0:38:00.480 --> 0:38:02.239
<v Speaker 2>And in Australia, by the way, we have a very

0:38:02.360 --> 0:38:04.640
<v Speaker 2>high take up of AirPods because we are more Apple

0:38:04.760 --> 0:38:07.040
<v Speaker 2>infiltrated than lots of other countries include in the US,

0:38:07.160 --> 0:38:10.719
<v Speaker 2>so apparently seventy five percent of people who will use

0:38:10.760 --> 0:38:13.320
<v Speaker 2>them on their smartphone, which is amazing marketing when you

0:38:13.360 --> 0:38:16.320
<v Speaker 2>think about it, because they're really expensive, they're really inconvenient,

0:38:16.760 --> 0:38:21.200
<v Speaker 2>like very easy to lose. They're actually not a great thing.

0:38:21.680 --> 0:38:24.239
<v Speaker 2>They're actually bad for your years, they're bad for your hearing.

0:38:24.560 --> 0:38:28.279
<v Speaker 2>And yet we love the and I did exactly this

0:38:28.560 --> 0:38:30.640
<v Speaker 2>is I upgraded to the ones that do the noise

0:38:30.719 --> 0:38:34.840
<v Speaker 2>canceling because we all want that isolation. And when I

0:38:34.960 --> 0:38:37.360
<v Speaker 2>watched that Pedro pascalad, I was like, love Pedro, but

0:38:37.400 --> 0:38:37.759
<v Speaker 2>I was like.

0:38:37.800 --> 0:38:38.600
<v Speaker 1>That's kind of sad.

0:38:38.600 --> 0:38:39.279
<v Speaker 3>There's another one.

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<v Speaker 2>I was just TOPI Yeah, a woman walking through New

0:38:41.880 --> 0:38:45.040
<v Speaker 2>York City and she'd whether she had a noise cancelation

0:38:45.200 --> 0:38:47.400
<v Speaker 2>on or off, the city would come to life or

0:38:47.480 --> 0:38:48.040
<v Speaker 2>fade away.

0:38:48.680 --> 0:38:51.120
<v Speaker 3>And I get it, but it is so egom and

0:38:51.239 --> 0:38:52.760
<v Speaker 3>iya point of a city.

0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:53.120
<v Speaker 1>The energy.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, we're all sharing stories from my morning commute here,

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<v Speaker 4>I guess, because it's underscoring how these little advices have

0:39:01.000 --> 0:39:03.160
<v Speaker 4>come to reshape our world. But I was on a

0:39:03.239 --> 0:39:06.080
<v Speaker 4>crowded bus and it occurred to me that in years

0:39:06.200 --> 0:39:10.520
<v Speaker 4>gone by, there would have been much more verbal interaction

0:39:10.719 --> 0:39:14.200
<v Speaker 4>and negotiation around the limited space on the bus, people saying, oh,

0:39:14.320 --> 0:39:17.520
<v Speaker 4>excuse me, Oh you're welcome, that's fine, no worries, sorry,

0:39:18.000 --> 0:39:20.360
<v Speaker 4>Like none of those little words get said anymore. So

0:39:20.480 --> 0:39:22.799
<v Speaker 4>you're all jammed in like sardines, just like you were

0:39:22.880 --> 0:39:24.560
<v Speaker 4>in the past. But back in the past, there was

0:39:24.600 --> 0:39:27.960
<v Speaker 4>this social lubricant working between you all, which was in

0:39:28.040 --> 0:39:32.040
<v Speaker 4>the form of words, basically like apologizing or saying thank you.

0:39:32.680 --> 0:39:34.480
<v Speaker 4>And now we don't have any of that, and I

0:39:34.520 --> 0:39:37.200
<v Speaker 4>think it actually makes us more stressed, because you get

0:39:37.239 --> 0:39:39.560
<v Speaker 4>really mad at someone who's like, you know, blocking the door,

0:39:39.640 --> 0:39:41.480
<v Speaker 4>but you don't say anything to them because you figure

0:39:41.480 --> 0:39:44.040
<v Speaker 4>they probably can't hear you anyway, and then you don't

0:39:44.080 --> 0:39:45.960
<v Speaker 4>get to be gracious to someone and say thank you

0:39:46.120 --> 0:39:48.719
<v Speaker 4>as they like let you pass. We basically assume no

0:39:48.760 --> 0:39:49.920
<v Speaker 4>one can hear us speak anymore.

0:39:50.000 --> 0:39:50.439
<v Speaker 1>It's true.

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<v Speaker 2>We're moving through the world like that. I don't like

0:39:53.480 --> 0:39:55.759
<v Speaker 2>to be judging, but my one etiquete rule, you've got

0:39:55.840 --> 0:39:56.960
<v Speaker 2>to take them out. If you're talking to someone in

0:39:57.000 --> 0:40:00.320
<v Speaker 2>the shop, you just have to, yeah, get high. And

0:40:00.440 --> 0:40:02.440
<v Speaker 2>sometimes I'm busy and I don't own enough hands, and

0:40:02.480 --> 0:40:04.320
<v Speaker 2>I forget, and then I'm like, don't be a dickhead.

0:40:04.560 --> 0:40:04.799
<v Speaker 4>I think.

0:40:05.040 --> 0:40:06.160
<v Speaker 1>I think it's a dickhead move.

0:40:06.480 --> 0:40:09.040
<v Speaker 4>I think. Also the other thing that this article really

0:40:09.080 --> 0:40:11.520
<v Speaker 4>cracked open for me is the idea that an airport,

0:40:11.719 --> 0:40:15.520
<v Speaker 4>much more than a wide headphone, becomes an extension of

0:40:15.640 --> 0:40:18.839
<v Speaker 4>your own body. And this was underscored by the fact

0:40:18.920 --> 0:40:21.759
<v Speaker 4>that apparently they've done studies and they show that people

0:40:21.840 --> 0:40:24.320
<v Speaker 4>are more likely to like someone they hear in a

0:40:24.400 --> 0:40:27.600
<v Speaker 4>podcast if they hear them speaking through their ears rather

0:40:27.680 --> 0:40:30.200
<v Speaker 4>than through a speaker. And it's because if you hear

0:40:30.280 --> 0:40:33.400
<v Speaker 4>them through your ears, they become part of your internal monologue.

0:40:33.680 --> 0:40:36.439
<v Speaker 4>They become part of you, so you're much more likely

0:40:36.520 --> 0:40:39.040
<v Speaker 4>to extend warmths and empathy to them. And if you

0:40:39.120 --> 0:40:40.719
<v Speaker 4>heard them speaker, I have.

0:40:40.880 --> 0:40:43.520
<v Speaker 2>A party out louder is about that because they've got

0:40:43.640 --> 0:40:44.600
<v Speaker 2>us in their heads.

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<v Speaker 4>What a way to end things.

0:40:51.320 --> 0:40:54.319
<v Speaker 1>You're inner monologue is now got this strange northern accent, this.

0:40:54.440 --> 0:40:59.960
<v Speaker 4>Weird transpecific I love that. Also. Now the script called

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<v Speaker 4>for you to say, Holly, thanks out louders for having

0:41:02.320 --> 0:41:04.160
<v Speaker 4>us in your ears with.

0:41:04.280 --> 0:41:09.040
<v Speaker 1>It all the time and your brain out Louders, we

0:41:09.200 --> 0:41:11.239
<v Speaker 1>do love you. I hope you take AirPods out to

0:41:11.320 --> 0:41:12.200
<v Speaker 1>talk to the person you get.

0:41:12.560 --> 0:41:14.239
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, please don't put us back in.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, we'd love to know what your etiquette is about.

0:41:18.320 --> 0:41:18.360
<v Speaker 4>That.

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<v Speaker 2>A massive thank you to all of you've been here

0:41:20.880 --> 0:41:23.759
<v Speaker 2>with us on this Monday. Let's get ready for another week.

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<v Speaker 4>Bye.

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<v Speaker 3>Mamma May acknowledges the traditional owners of the lands on

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<v Speaker 3>which we recorded this podcast.