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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Seize the Yay Podcast.

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Speaker 2: Busy and happy are not the same thing. We too

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Speaker 2: rarely question what makes the heart seeing. We work, then

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Speaker 2: we rest, but rarely we play and often don't realize

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Speaker 2: there's more than one way. So this is the platform

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Speaker 2: to hear and explore the stories of those who found lives.

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Speaker 1: They adore, the good, bad and ugly, the best and

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Speaker 1: worst day will bear all the facets of Seizing your Yea.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sarah Davidson or a spoonful of Sarah, a lawyer

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Speaker 1: turned funentrepreneur whos walped the suits and heels to co

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Speaker 1: found Matcha Maiden and matcha Milk Bar. Ces the ya is.

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Speaker 3: A series of conversations on finding a life you love

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Speaker 3: and exploring the self doubt, challenge, joy and fulfillment along

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Speaker 3: the way. Hi Veer hi Vim.

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Speaker 4: We suck her militia sitting in the same state, in

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Speaker 4: the same city, but we decided to do this over

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Speaker 4: zoo in the same room.

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Speaker 1: Also, I bought and a fancy microphone for this exact

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Speaker 1: purpose in case we would ever need to record remotely,

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Speaker 1: which actually we've been pretty good this year. We've hardly

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Speaker 1: recorded like our episodes remotely anyway. She sends me a

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Speaker 1: voice note like two minutes ago. That's the crispus audio

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Speaker 1: I have ever heard, going, hey, just testing for our

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Speaker 1: episode mic working. She put it in for at least

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Speaker 1: three other episodes, and it's it's never worked. It's just

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Speaker 1: never You just never turned it on.

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Speaker 4: All through COVID, because we did this through COVID, remember,

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Speaker 4: and that's why you bought it. And I was like, oh,

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Speaker 4: this microphone shit because the end result was really pooh.

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Speaker 4: And then I was like, oh, and then today I

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Speaker 4: had time to like set up and I was like,

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Speaker 4: in my computer is changing the input. I was like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I'll click that, and then lo and behold. It was

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Speaker 4: the most crisp thing I've ever heard. So all through

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Speaker 4: you were just hearing my microphone from my computer with this,

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Speaker 4: just like for show.

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Speaker 5: I'm such an idiot, just as a prom such a

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Speaker 5: big bird.

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Speaker 1: It actually sounds like we're in the same like your

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Speaker 1: mic sounds like it normally does when we're in the

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Speaker 1: same room.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's good. I can't believe for three hole years.

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Speaker 4: We're using my three years later, we're using my computer microphone.

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Speaker 1: You know, we've come a long way for our like

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Speaker 1: four and a half anniversary, we finally made it to

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Speaker 1: making the microphones work.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god.

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Speaker 5: You know what you don't have is your mic fluffer.

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Speaker 1: I don't have my mic fluffer and that's hard because okay,

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Speaker 1: you don't have it either. Hello. Yeah, maybe we should

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Speaker 1: do it as our New Years We'll do it as

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Speaker 1: our New Year's episode when we're in the same room.

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Speaker 5: Our rebrand, our rebrand.

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Speaker 1: So our incredible editor Sam from the podcast Butler surprised

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Speaker 1: me a couple of days ago? Was it last week?

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Speaker 1: He isn't Melbourne based and as part of our we

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Speaker 1: have so much to catch you guys up on.

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Speaker 5: It's also so to to intrude on your story.

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Speaker 4: But your this is where sirs timescale is actually pooh,

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Speaker 4: a couple of.

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Speaker 5: Days ago, it was like more than a week ago.

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Speaker 1: It was last Friday. That's like a week ago.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, actually true, so you can delete that.

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Speaker 1: So the long Winter version of this story, we should

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Speaker 1: have totally not left it this late to record in

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Speaker 1: the year because our.

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Speaker 5: Brains not.

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Speaker 4: This.

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Speaker 1: What's the Sululu? There isn't onelu, there's no Solulu. So

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Speaker 1: we planned to do Seize the a Christmas party, which

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Speaker 1: would just be the two of us, and then it

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Speaker 1: ended up because of timing. The plan was to do

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Speaker 1: surprise activities where each of us would plan an activity

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Speaker 1: for the other, and we couldn't manage to make it

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Speaker 1: on the same day. So then somehow it blew out

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Speaker 1: to like a three part three different days sees the

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Speaker 1: a Christmas party, and we have since canceled two of

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Speaker 1: the three activities because we are unhinged and tired, so

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Speaker 1: they've been rescheduled to January.

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Speaker 4: There's just memes where it's like, oh, you don't want

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Speaker 4: to be the one that canceled, but you want someone

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Speaker 4: else to cancel, so you kind of like wait for

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Speaker 4: the other's counsel and then you're like, oh, oh no.

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Speaker 5: That's a good idea. You should rest.

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Speaker 4: Like Sarah was like, oh, I'm a bit tired, and

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Speaker 4: I had been tired for days and I actually ended

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Speaker 5: And I was like, oh, I.

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Speaker 4: Might be a bit tired tonight and what we were doing,

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Speaker 4: and you were like, I'm exhaus and.

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Speaker 5: I was like, let's cancel. You're too retired for this

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Speaker 3: And then we both feel bad. So then we're like no, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 3: I'm good now, let's do it.

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Speaker 1: I'm good. And then the other one's like, no, I

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Speaker 1: really want to cancel, but you don't want to say it.

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Speaker 1: So you're like, oh, okay, cool, Actually nah, are you sure?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: You're being pregnant is the best thing I know.

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Speaker 1: But except I still then I feel even more guilty,

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Speaker 1: so I try and uncancel, even though you actually are

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Speaker 1: more pregnant than me in your energy at the moment.

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Speaker 1: So actually we did this is literally six minutes of

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Speaker 1: absolute rubbish already. Sorry. So we did one part of

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Speaker 1: our activities, which was dry felting in the city. We

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Speaker 1: had an amazing fun time making Christmas decorations and doing

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Speaker 1: arts and crafts. So we did that and we were

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Speaker 1: absolutely like if you guys think we're chaotic on these episodes,

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Speaker 1: we were beside ourselves delirious, like so tired, which is

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Speaker 1: why we canceled the next day's activity. But Ang had

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Speaker 1: canceled her surprise the next morning, but then said, but

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Speaker 1: we have to have brunch, and I was like, no,

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Speaker 1: was like, no, we have to go to brunch and

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Speaker 1: I was like, dude, I'm with you right now, Like why,

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Speaker 1: I don't need to see you tomorrow. I'm seeing you

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Speaker 1: right now, Like what? And then I realized obviously there

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Speaker 1: we couldn't cancel the other person and and had surprised

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Speaker 1: me with our amazing editor, Sam, who is not Melbourne based,

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Speaker 1: had flown down. They had hidden it somehow. I speak

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Speaker 1: to Sam every day. I speak to Ange every day.

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Speaker 1: That hidden that he was going to be in Melbourne,

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Speaker 1: and he surprised us not only with brunch, but these

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Speaker 1: on Friday, which we also canceled, so we have video

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Speaker 5: Do you know we almost canceled this.

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Speaker 1: I was so close.

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Speaker 4: We started, Sarah so it was like, oh, next week

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Speaker 4: So it's what has to be today and then literally

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Speaker 4: five minutes before they started, I get this message on stair,

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Speaker 4: which I know is like a like, what are the

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Speaker 3: I was like, no, so just to quick one just

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Speaker 3: because then I was like, oh, what a fun holiday.

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Speaker 3: I was sort of like, well, if you're back before

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Speaker 3: so why don't we just cancel it together? So basically

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Speaker 3: moral of the story is we've canceled like eight things.

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Speaker 4: So more of the stories that we require, well at

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Speaker 1: I've got a paper cut. I don't think I can

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Speaker 1: record on cancel. Well, so I'm really proud of us

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Speaker 1: for being here today. I don't think anyone's gonna really

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Speaker 4: Just and we literally dinning in thirty minutes apart from

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Speaker 1: So the idea for this episode was to answer some

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Speaker 1: also to do as we do every year, like a

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Speaker 1: little rap on what twenty twenty three was like, and

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Speaker 1: we'll do a twenty twenty four New Year's resolution type

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Speaker 1: I love these reflections episodes because then in a year's

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Speaker 1: did I do any of those things? Did it turn

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Speaker 1: out how I expected? So, Bim, firstly, what are your

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Speaker 1: plans for the holidays? You leave tomorrow? And secondly, how

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Wow, Well plans for the holidays are five am tomorrow.

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Speaker 4: We're driving to Brisbane. Oh myit the dog and I

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Speaker 4: Capbin would have been teenager. It would have been very young.

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Speaker 1: I was going to say, how many hours is it?

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Speaker 1: Is it like fifteen hours.

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Speaker 4: Say totally twenty hours? Yeah, around the eighteen to twenty hours.

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Speaker 1: You guys are splitting it up for sure.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we'll probably go to our beautiful friends in Ui.

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Speaker 4: They're not even going to be there, but they're left

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Speaker 4: like they're like, just stay, which is such a blessing.

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Speaker 4: So we'll fang it up to you.

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Speaker 1: This is the Yesterday family, the family where you do

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Speaker 1: the Yesterday with the kids.

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Speaker 5: Yes Day family we love so much. Yeah, and then

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Speaker 4: Up the coast over the next two days and sleep

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Speaker 4: We're going to just take my car, but we're coming

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Speaker 4: down with another car like her family's giving passing down

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Speaker 4: another one where it just like kind of should actually

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Speaker 4: just keeps going for you, although you also kind of

441
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Speaker 4: you both live your life in a way where you

442
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Speaker 4: always leave doors open to be able to continue to grow.

443
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Speaker 4: Like it's like it's never like you hit a point

444
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Speaker 4: where you're like, I've kind of exhausted that whole thing.

445
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Speaker 4: Now what do I do? There's always like things, so yeah,

446
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Speaker 4: I feel like that whole year feel your reflection was

447
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:02,200
Speaker 4: about the baby, but you've also got a house fully renovated,

448
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 4: but to two international weddings.

449
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:08,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've fitted in so much. But I think just

450
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Speaker 1: the difference in my mind is that even if on

451
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 1: the outside a lot of things looked the same as

452
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Speaker 1: they might have a different year in terms of travel

453
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Speaker 1: and work and kind of achievements, it's funny that they

454
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Speaker 1: all had to fit in around my personal priorities for

455
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Speaker 1: the first time in a really long time. Like even

456
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Speaker 1: I don't know, I look at this year and the

457
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Speaker 1: big highlights are like there's been so many amazing career highlights,

458
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Speaker 1: but the big highlights for me have been a family

459
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Speaker 1: home and getting pregnant and getting so excited to start

460
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Speaker 1: this new chapter as a mum and not feeling scared

461
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Speaker 1: about that. Like obviously there's like small freakouts, like normal

462
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Speaker 1: level freakouts about the uncertainty of a new chapter, and

463
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Speaker 1: I know it's going to be a magical and a

464
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Speaker 1: total shit show all at once, but also feeling ready

465
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Speaker 1: for a new chapter, like not being totally scared that

466
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Speaker 1: I'm going to fuck it all up or that it's

467
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Speaker 1: going to change my life or it's going to cost

468
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 1: me things like I feel really lucky that I sort

469
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Speaker 1: of think I gave it a really good crack, like

470
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Speaker 1: I gave pre motherhood life a really good crack, And

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Speaker 1: now I'm really excited for this new chapter where I'm

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Speaker 1: actually okay that I have to go a little bit

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Speaker 1: slower next year. I'm actually okay that I don't know what.

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Speaker 1: I have no idea what next year is going to

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Speaker 1: be like. And that's like less idea that I even

476
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Speaker 1: normally have, And I kind of like that. It's really

477
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Speaker 1: weird how balanced and chilled I've been about not knowing,

478
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Speaker 1: because normally I'm not.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I almost want to go into the questions because

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Speaker 4: I feel I remember there was a question in one

481
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Speaker 4: of my question boxes that was revolved around you taking

482
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Speaker 4: leave blah blah blah. Should we go into them do? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I totally forgot we had questions do you have a reflection.

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Speaker 4: So do you have any nays to your year? Beyond

485
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Speaker 4: obviously the miscarriage?

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Speaker 1: I think it tested. It was again, it was one

487
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Speaker 1: of those years that was different to any I've had

488
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Speaker 1: in a really long time. The challenges were new and

489
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Speaker 1: different and bigger than I ever could have imagined. Like

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Speaker 1: I think I have learnt. I am stronger in ways

491
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Speaker 1: that I didn't know. I knew I was strong in

492
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Speaker 1: a career sense or a mental or hard work challenge

493
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Speaker 1: kind of way, but in terms of like a health, physical,

494
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Speaker 1: emotional challenge, I haven't been tested like that in a

495
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Speaker 1: really long time. But I also haven't felt like intense

496
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Speaker 1: joy in a family way in a really long time.

497
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Speaker 1: I'm so settled and ready to nest, and it's just

498
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Speaker 1: this whole.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: It's just so different suddenly, but not in a scary way,

501
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Speaker 1: which is lovely. Yeah, I'm just kind of on this

502
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 1: weird rollercoaster now where I've never done any of this before,

503
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Speaker 1: and I'm okay with it being different every day. It's

504
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Speaker 1: kind of weird to just surrender completely like I thought

505
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Speaker 1: i'd surrendered before, and now I'm like, I actually have

506
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Speaker 1: no idea and it's the best.

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Speaker 4: And the weirdest thing is also you and your mama

508
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Speaker 4: going through brignancy the first time.

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Speaker 1: So special, and it's been lovely to like let myself

510
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Speaker 1: create space for that. So the days that we have scans,

511
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Speaker 1: I take her and then I don't work for the

512
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Speaker 1: rest of that day so that we can like rewatch

513
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Speaker 1: the videos and unload on how weird it is that

514
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: mom never had ultrasounds. I thought I'd struggle more to

515
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Speaker 1: like fit it in, if that makes sense, Like, oh,

516
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Speaker 1: it works so busy, like, oh, I've got to fit

517
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Speaker 1: in being pregnant, where it's kind of been the other

518
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Speaker 1: way around. I'm like, I'm pregnant that takes up as

519
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Speaker 1: much time and energy as it needs to, and then

520
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Speaker 1: work kind of fits in around that, which is so

521
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Speaker 1: weird for me. It just happened really naturally, and I

522
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Speaker 1: think it's the perspective of pregnancy loss has given me

523
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Speaker 1: even nausea and stuff this time, I've just been like,

524
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Speaker 1: it's so worth it. Any symptom you can throw at me,

525
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 1: I don't even care if the baby's healthy, like whatever.

526
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Speaker 1: It just kind of gives you this different gratitude that

527
00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:51,240
Speaker 1: cancels out anything else that you might have felt it's weird.

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Speaker 1: It's been a really amazing especially this last six months,

529
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Speaker 1: new house, new baby, Like, it's just been beautiful. I'm

530
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Speaker 1: so excited.

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Speaker 4: I'm so excited my home here next year's revolved around

532
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Speaker 4: my best friends are having babies. Genuinely, I was, I

533
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:09,800
Speaker 4: can't not be here for you and Chris both within

534
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Speaker 4: a month of each other.

535
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Speaker 5: But it's genuinely is revolved around, like.

536
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Speaker 4: Even for ages, I might want to do a stint

537
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Speaker 4: on the Sunny coast, and I said, whatever happens, we

538
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Speaker 4: probably I wouldn't be ready into a twenty twenty five

539
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Speaker 4: because there's a very strong chance that between new Laws

540
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Speaker 4: and Chris, like one of you will get pregnant and

541
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Speaker 4: I really need to be there for that.

542
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Speaker 1: And now it's like at least two out of three

543
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Speaker 1: for now.

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Speaker 4: And really back to the first question, yeah, some much

545
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Speaker 4: we'll go to these corrections is what are your holiday plans?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you guys know, we've had like a couple

547
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Speaker 1: of years of being back and forth from Tazzy a

548
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Speaker 1: lot with my late father in law, so we have

549
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Speaker 1: spent pretty much three years of Christmas in Tazzy, and

550
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Speaker 1: normally we kind of swap between our family. So this year,

551
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Speaker 1: we're just staying here and the kitchen just got finished

552
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Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago, so we're actually having Christmas

553
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 1: dinner with our whole family at our place. So that'll

554
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Speaker 1: be like the first so cool family dinner in the house,

555
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 1: all our aunties. Like it'll be really really nice and

556
00:27:12,440 --> 00:27:14,440
Speaker 1: like it's kind of like our version of a housewarming,

557
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 1: just having the whole family over for Christmas and then

558
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Speaker 1: we're just we're just hanging around. We're actually nesting. It's

559
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Speaker 1: really nice.

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Speaker 5: That's nice. I'm kind of jealous, like I don't want

561
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:24,360
Speaker 5: to be there for your first Christmas.

562
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Speaker 1: But no, I know there's a scene at the table

563
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 1: for you and your bedroom is open and ready.

564
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Speaker 5: I know.

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Speaker 4: I haven't even sept in a years. Okay, now back

566
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Speaker 4: to the pregnancy, because I suck at being the MC

567
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Speaker 4: for this. Someone had actually asked a more underscore and

568
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Speaker 4: thirty one asked, how will she manage her leave? And

569
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Speaker 4: I'm hoping that she gets a lot of time before

570
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Speaker 4: for herself and after the baby.

571
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Speaker 1: Oh that's lovely. I love Anna. Thank you so much

572
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 1: for the question. It's a really really interesting one, and

573
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Speaker 1: I've spoken actually quite a lot to friends and to

574
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Speaker 1: Nick and Mum about it. I was so worried when

575
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Speaker 1: I left corporate about kind of the sacrifice of maternity leave.

576
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: I really thought that I would feel. You know, that

577
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 1: is one of the biggest challenges of working for yourself

578
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:17,239
Speaker 1: is you don't have inbuilt leave and you don't have

579
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Speaker 1: the structure of those kind of periods to deal with

580
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 1: the financial implications of taking time off and all that

581
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 1: kind of thing. But interestingly, now that I'm getting closer

582
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Speaker 1: to when I would have taken matt leave if I

583
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 1: was in a company, I actually feel so lucky that

584
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:39,560
Speaker 1: I've almost landed in a lifestyle where I don't need it,

585
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Speaker 1: if that makes sense, Like I've kind of got such

586
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Speaker 1: a flexible like you were talking about earlier, are such

587
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Speaker 1: a flexible working structure where I don't work from an office.

588
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: Everything is quite not spontaneous. But thing, you know, job

589
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 1: briefs come in and you can ramp them up if

590
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,479
Speaker 1: you really want, or you can ramp them down if

591
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Speaker 1: you need to create space for yourself. And I mean,

592
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Speaker 1: I'm so fortunate that the market also allows that. Right now,

593
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 1: the podcast I can do from home, all the radio

594
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: gigs you don't need to be presentable, you know, and

595
00:29:11,520 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 1: wear makeup to do those and there are a couple

596
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 1: of hours here and there. Like everything's very friendly towards

597
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,680
Speaker 1: having a little one, and I feel very, very lucky

598
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 1: that it's not the concern that I thought it would be.

599
00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 1: That I have sort of sat down with my manager

600
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Speaker 1: and we've made a plan around when the due date is,

601
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Speaker 1: and we're quarantining a couple of weeks before and a

602
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: couple of weeks after to create the space for this

603
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:38,560
Speaker 1: whole new experience. And who knows what kind of recovery

604
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Speaker 1: I'll have or what you know the baby will be

605
00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 1: like when they're firstborn, Like, there's so many question marks,

606
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Speaker 1: so we have created we've built in sort of maternity

607
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Speaker 1: leave around that little bit of time. But I'm also

608
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Speaker 1: fortunate in that I don't think it would have suited

609
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Speaker 1: me to have six months of no work or twelve

610
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Speaker 1: months of no work and then go all the way back.

611
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Speaker 1: I like the idea that as soon as I feel

612
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Speaker 1: like we have a little bit more balance and flexibility

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Speaker 1: and a bit of a routine, that I can start

614
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Speaker 1: to do one job here and there or two jobs

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Speaker 1: here and there and dip my foot back in the water.

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Speaker 1: And then I also have a husband whose work is

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Speaker 1: equally as flexible, so he can work from home, and

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00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 1: even if he's working, there are two sets of hands

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Speaker 1: to just help me have a shower, And you know,

620
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Speaker 1: like we're set up in a way that makes it

621
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Speaker 1: a lot less overwhelming. There's not one of us in

622
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Speaker 1: an office all day and the other one earning zero.

623
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Speaker 1: We're kind of both in the middle where we can

624
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Speaker 1: juggle that whole period depending on what how needy our

625
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 1: needs end up being. And I just sort of didn't

626
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Speaker 1: appreciate how amazing that is that I don't feel like

627
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Speaker 1: I've lost maternity live now. I feel like I can

628
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Speaker 1: create as much of it as I need. But I

629
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Speaker 1: think my brain will also enjoy going back to smaller jobs,

630
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Speaker 1: probably quicker than I might have if I took maternity

631
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Speaker 1: leave officially, if that makes sense. So short answer, yes,

632
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 1: creating some space around that and also so leaving it

633
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Speaker 1: open to when we let work trickle back in a

634
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 1: little bit and how much just like play it by ear.

635
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Speaker 4: I think the coolest thing is that you and Nick

636
00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 4: get to be at home with Bob. That's my I've

637
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 4: spoken to some family and friends who did join Pat

638
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 4: Matt leave or both. Yeah, somehow we're able to be

639
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 4: at home together. That like, it was the best decision

640
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 4: we could have made because it was.

641
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 5: That first period.

642
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Speaker 4: Even though the baby doesn't remember much, it was so

643
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 4: great for all of them.

644
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 1: And we're so lucky that that doesn't have to involve

645
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 1: Nick not working, like he can do his job from home,

646
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:41,360
Speaker 1: so financially, it's not like we cease two incomes in

647
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 1: order to have that. We have the flexibility to have

648
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,040
Speaker 1: at least him working, you know, as much as he

649
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 1: is now. And we've also kind of planned around that

650
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Speaker 1: knowing that there will be a couple of months where

651
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Speaker 1: I not income producing. So if anyone has noticed that

652
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 1: I have not slowed down in this trimester, that's probably why,

653
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 1: because I'm making the most of the time when I

654
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Speaker 1: can still move around freely and do as many jobs

655
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Speaker 1: as I can physically fit in, because you know, you

656
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Speaker 1: plan ahead for that knowing that then I will also

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Speaker 1: get you know, I'll go one thousand percent now and

658
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Speaker 1: then I can calm down sort of next year, if

659
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 1: that makes sense.

660
00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 5: Yeah.

661
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, the year was so dismissive. I was not dismissing

662
00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 4: the whole answer. I was looking at the next question

663
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 4: because I was like, I'm going to stick to the

664
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Speaker 4: baby theme and then we'll go into other themes.

665
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 1: To make it nice categorization.

666
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 5: Thank you.

667
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 4: I had a question coming to my own box saying, well,

668
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 4: my eaty bitty titties finally grow if I get pregnant.

669
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:42,640
Speaker 5: Yes, oh my god, yours are huge.

670
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 1: They are like huge for me, not huge for like society, yeah,

671
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,880
Speaker 1: and huge for me yeah, like huge for us. So

672
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: the funnest bit is that I don't know about everyone,

673
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 1: but a lot of my friends in the Eaty Bitty

674
00:32:56,560 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 1: Titty committee had their boobs grow before their tell me grows,

675
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,840
Speaker 1: and that bit is so cool. It's just like, I

676
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: don't know, I feel like all of us sort of

677
00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 1: have little things where we're like I could be like

678
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 1: a little bit bigger, or I could this could be

679
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 1: a little bit different. You know, we all have those

680
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 1: little tweaks we would make in an ideal world, like

681
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 1: not that it's super confidence crushing or anything, but I

682
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: was like, you know, I'd probably like go up like

683
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:22,440
Speaker 1: one cup size and then it just happens, but before

684
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 1: you get a tummy. So I was just like, like,

685
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: everyone's like his nick being like loving it. I'm like,

686
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,560
Speaker 1: I play with them more, like I am so excited

687
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 1: because I've never had boobs before, Like it is so

688
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 1: much fun. And then now I obviously have.

689
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 3: A belly, but the boobs have kept growing.

690
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:40,719
Speaker 1: And then apparently when you start breastfeeding, it's just like

691
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 1: next level but joggers and it's a real For some point,

692
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 1: I always never had boobs. It is actually a really

693
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: fun time to just be like because normally if I

694
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 1: do have boobs, it's padding, so they're not real. So

695
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 1: now I'm just like.

696
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 5: And then your nipples will be like sauces hugemongus.

697
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:02,960
Speaker 1: Which they're not, and they're nonsters. They've grown a little bit,

698
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 1: but the main change has been this is such a teammate.

699
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 1: The main change has been they've gone so much darker,

700
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:11,880
Speaker 1: which okay. One of the things about pregnancy for me,

701
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:15,120
Speaker 1: at least in my particular strange brain, is that every

702
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:19,239
Speaker 1: day I can't believe the magic of nature that my

703
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,439
Speaker 1: body has never built a human before, and it knows

704
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 1: how to do it. It knows how to cope with

705
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 1: two hearts, two livers, like to everything, we have different

706
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 1: heart rates, and it knows how to do that and

707
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 1: like it's growing a human from scratch Like that blows

708
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:36,400
Speaker 1: my mind. But also the fact that my nipples have

709
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:41,360
Speaker 1: gone darker because when the baby's born, it makes it

710
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 1: easier for them to find the food sauce like that

711
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 1: is why, Like, but how cool is that that your

712
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 1: body figures that out? Like that is so wild?

713
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 5: A mine dark already because so that my partners can

714
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 5: find me.

715
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: I think it's a lesbian thing. I think that's actually

716
00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,919
Speaker 1: like lesbian nature, lesbian side.

717
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, must feel like same sex relationship stuff like everything

718
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 4: born so dark. Next question, Colour at Purple says, congratulations

719
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:10,800
Speaker 4: firstly when you do, and what prim are you're getting?

720
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 1: So we're due first week of April, and that makes

721
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:17,919
Speaker 1: so much sense because Nick's dad and grandfather were both

722
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 1: born on April Fools, which really explains a lot of

723
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 1: their sense of humor. So we're gunning for the first

724
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:27,759
Speaker 1: pram interestingly. So one of the things that happened, I

725
00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 1: think because of having a loss immediately before this pregnancy

726
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 1: is that we were a lot more conservative firstly in

727
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 1: announcing we waited till eighteen weeks, but secondly in allowing

728
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:42,320
Speaker 1: ourselves to get excited enough to buy things. So our nursery,

729
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:44,319
Speaker 1: I'm sitting in it right now, there's nothing in it.

730
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 1: We haven't sort of started that setup process because it

731
00:35:49,239 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: always felt a little bit early, and we just have

732
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,360
Speaker 1: that layer of hesitation that we probably wouldn't have had otherwise,

733
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 1: which is fine, it's just part of the journey. It

734
00:35:58,200 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 1: has meant a little.

735
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:02,880
Speaker 3: Bit of extra anxiety at certain times, but we have

736
00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 3: literally I'm twenty four weeks yesterday and I.

737
00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 1: Figured we still have enough time to do all that.

738
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,319
Speaker 1: So I actually don't know what PRAM. I still am

739
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:14,319
Speaker 1: very very new to even all the brand names, like

740
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,320
Speaker 1: it's a whole new lingo. I don't know the cot brands,

741
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:19,319
Speaker 1: I don't know pram brands. I don't know anything. The

742
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 1: only thing we have bought is wall decals because I

743
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:27,680
Speaker 1: saw the cutest Safari animals ever. But otherwise we will

744
00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 1: have to do an updated episode on all the actual

745
00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:34,839
Speaker 1: purchases a little bit further along, because YE had no idea.

746
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 4: Remember those years ago when I was running Match Maiden

747
00:36:37,560 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 4: and I did those.

748
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 1: Quizzes Pramney bus everyone. So one of the questions was

749
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: what is PRAM short for perambulator, parram something else and

750
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 1: then pramney bus and everyone said pramney bus.

751
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 5: It was the funniest thing, and it was like a

752
00:36:57,239 --> 00:36:59,040
Speaker 5: voting thing, and it was like eighty percent of people

753
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 5: said pramnibus and I was in hysteric. So now I

754
00:37:02,200 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 5: just would think pans with primary buses.

755
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 1: Nick, and I use the word primary bus all the time,

756
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:08,239
Speaker 1: like all the time since that day.

757
00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:10,360
Speaker 5: I feel like I can't unsee it.

758
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 4: Yeah, we had a few questions about this baby names.

759
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I actually did a poll on my page

760
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:20,680
Speaker 1: for people to guess to see if anyone guessed it,

761
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 1: and I have screenshot of them all so I can

762
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 1: give the people a prize who did or did not

763
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:29,879
Speaker 1: guess it. We've had some very close guesses and some

764
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:32,759
Speaker 1: correct guesses for the second name, but not the first name.

765
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 4: WHOA.

766
00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:37,640
Speaker 1: Yes, we do know. We chose our girl and boy

767
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 1: names like five six years ago because we have common

768
00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 1: names in both genders on both sides, So as soon

769
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 1: as we knew that there was a common boy name

770
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:48,800
Speaker 1: and a common girl name on both of our families,

771
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: it just was sort of automatic. But they're quite traditional,

772
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 1: and I think a lot of people thought they'd be

773
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:58,719
Speaker 1: more quirky, but they're not.

774
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:01,840
Speaker 4: Okay, that really explains one of these questions, because I

775
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 4: was like, well, I don't understand the question was Elliot

776
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:06,359
Speaker 4: John Peter Ivy Lee.

777
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 1: Oh, I think they put it in the wrong book.

778
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 5: I have no idea. I have no idea what this

779
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:15,280
Speaker 5: is about.

780
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:20,240
Speaker 4: Another maybe related one is will you be having godparents?

781
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 6: Oh?

782
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:26,080
Speaker 1: Interesting? So I don't think we'll have official like I

783
00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 1: know some of our friends have very formal godparent appointments.

784
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's in the church, sometimes it's like a on

785
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: a naming day or I don't think we'll have that,

786
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:40,880
Speaker 1: but we will probably have some nominated godparents. Again, we

787
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:42,399
Speaker 1: haven't really thought about that.

788
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't really know what a godparent even does.

789
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 1: But you know, I mean, I think the idea behind

790
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:50,839
Speaker 1: it is that if anything happened to you, they would

791
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:53,240
Speaker 1: be the people who took over guardianship of your child.

792
00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 1: I think that's the Oh, well, obviously it's going to

793
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 1: be the gay auntes, the guarantees, the guarantees.

794
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:03,359
Speaker 5: What a silly question.

795
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 1: So silly. I mean, obviously it would be obviously you

796
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 1: would be one of them. I think we'll probably have

797
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:12,319
Speaker 1: like a god group rather than just like often there's

798
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:14,839
Speaker 1: like one godmother and one godfather, which is what.

799
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 4: As in god aunties as in me.

800
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

801
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 7: I mean gay aunties. No, I know, it's are we connecting?

802
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:31,279
Speaker 7: Are we connecting? Are we not?

803
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:31,800
Speaker 1: Really?

804
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 5: But that's cool, Okay. Next bub question.

805
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,719
Speaker 4: There's a lot of bub questions this question, but I

806
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 4: think it was already answered in the miscarriage pregnancy episode.

807
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 4: But the question is was there any difference between your

808
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:51,320
Speaker 4: first and pregnancy and your second pregnancy?

809
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:54,800
Speaker 1: Oh? I don't know. Yeah, maybe I did answer.

810
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 5: That, but I think we did touch on it.

811
00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess a little bit further along now. So

812
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,879
Speaker 1: the first pregnancy was only nine weeks and we never

813
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,200
Speaker 1: had a heartbeat, so there was a big physiological difference

814
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: in terms of like we didn't get to most of

815
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: the stages we've gotten to this time, and the fetus

816
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 1: were sort of never viable, so some physiological things didn't happen.

817
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 1: But overall that nine weeks in terms of nausea, food

818
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: versions were pretty much the same this time around. But

819
00:40:30,040 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 1: I think the big difference from zero to nine weeks

820
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 1: and then or four to nine weeks or whenever it

821
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:39,360
Speaker 1: starts and onwards has been as I just touched on

822
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 1: was the extra level of hesitation to celebrate, I think

823
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 1: was the biggest difference, And like being a bit more

824
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:52,600
Speaker 1: circumspect about sharing the news, buying things, allowing yourself mentally

825
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:56,839
Speaker 1: to fully embrace the idea of your pregnancy as a

826
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 1: child as well. And now we're at twenty four and

827
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 1: he's kicking wildly and he's got all the organs and

828
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 1: we know his gender, it's a lot easier to embrace that.

829
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 1: But earlier on, I think the biggest difference was definitely

830
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:15,839
Speaker 1: that concern, or that extra level of anxiety. I think

831
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 1: I said before in that episode that as much as

832
00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 1: it's beautiful to have a completely unhindered, beautiful pregnancy where

833
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 1: you can take it off for granted and just enjoy

834
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 1: each step for what it is, I'm not sad that

835
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,440
Speaker 1: we've been more anxious this time, because I also think

836
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 1: maybe it is better if you do have a little

837
00:41:34,160 --> 00:41:36,440
Speaker 1: bit more awareness around the statistics as well, so that

838
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 1: you kind of self protect yourself a little bit. Like

839
00:41:40,239 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 1: I think it's a healthy anxiety if you don't let

840
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 1: it consume you and you still allow yourself to have

841
00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 1: joy at the same time, if it's balanced, if.

842
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:49,360
Speaker 5: That makes sense. Yeah, and it's because you've got a

843
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 5: good opie and stuff as well.

844
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: It's totally supportive and it hasn't ruined the joy at all.

845
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:56,799
Speaker 1: Like we've still been incredibly excited. But you can have

846
00:41:56,840 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 1: two emotions at the same time.

847
00:41:58,160 --> 00:42:02,120
Speaker 4: I think last pregnancy kind of related one, but then

848
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 4: it's a good segui into the next Sigi SIGHIII by

849
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 4: missus Jen Lucas.

850
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:10,799
Speaker 5: I'm really inconsistent with saying who these questions are wrong

851
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:11,840
Speaker 5: to apologize?

852
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:16,200
Speaker 4: Are you worried about your friendship changing when bubb arrives?

853
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 5: No time for yourself, let alone friend?

854
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 1: Great question. I think a lot of new mums do

855
00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 1: struggle with this in that they but you know, obviously

856
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,400
Speaker 1: you become a lot more physically isolated because you're not

857
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:29,160
Speaker 1: out and about as much. I feel very lucky that

858
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 1: I'm not as worried, particularly because we're not the first

859
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 1: or anywhere near the first in a lot of our

860
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:37,799
Speaker 1: friendship groups to have babies. I think that makes it

861
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 1: a lot easier because your friends automatically know what you're

862
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 1: going through. They remember what it's like. They have their

863
00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:49,560
Speaker 1: own kids, you know, so they kind of understand. Yeah,

864
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 1: just the situation that you find yourself in and can

865
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 1: help by dropping in or making kid friendly dates to

866
00:42:59,360 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 1: you know, it's hard when you're the first one and

867
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 1: the only one in a friendship group that has children.

868
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:07,440
Speaker 1: So I'm a lot less worried about that because we

869
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 1: have such amazing friends and we're very lucky to have

870
00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 1: to be surrounded by a lot of fellow parents, And

871
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 1: that's also just been amazing. In asking questions like the

872
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:17,879
Speaker 1: whole pregnancy, it's been a lot easier because a lot

873
00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 1: of my friends have done it before. I think that

874
00:43:20,520 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 1: is much more of an anxiety if you're the first

875
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 1: one and you worry that your friends just won't understand

876
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 1: the life stage. That you're right, And even my friends

877
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,880
Speaker 1: who don't have kids, they're ang who's obsessed with babies.

878
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 1: So I feel very lucky. Yeah, And I think the

879
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 1: other thing is as well. With Nick working from home

880
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 1: as well, it's not like I'll be at home physically alone,

881
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 1: if that makes sense. And that's also something that I

882
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 1: feel very lucky about because I have a lot of

883
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:51,480
Speaker 1: friends whose partners are in an office out of the

884
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:54,360
Speaker 1: house for like long stretches of the day, which is

885
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:56,720
Speaker 1: a lot more isolating than at least having another adult

886
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 1: in the house with you. I feel very lucky at

887
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 1: that setup. And then Mum lives around the corner, so

888
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:05,520
Speaker 1: I think I'm very very lucky in that regard.

889
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 4: I'm like forcing my friendship at once, sir, because I

890
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:10,799
Speaker 4: need to spend time with this baby, because I feel

891
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:12,400
Speaker 4: like some people like I need to see them often,

892
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 4: and they say that, but I don't know how to

893
00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 4: stress how how really I do mean that?

894
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 6: I need like I'm just going to pop up, And

895
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 6: so I was like, yeah, anytime I was like no, no,

896
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:25,600
Speaker 6: I think you need to really consider saying yes or

897
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 6: no because I actually am going to just be there.

898
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,279
Speaker 1: I think I already understand that there is no me

899
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:33,040
Speaker 1: saying yes or no. Since you've had a key to

900
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 1: the other house since yeah, seven years ago and have

901
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 1: never announced your arrival.

902
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 5: It's quite true.

903
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:43,040
Speaker 4: Actually, yeah, and I'm going to that question publicly. That's great.

904
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:44,400
Speaker 5: It's on the record.

905
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 4: It's on the record if you're listening. Okay, great, and

906
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 4: then ah, there's another question about Oh. This kind of

907
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:57,640
Speaker 4: takes us into like friendship questions, the first one being

908
00:44:57,880 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 4: how do you know?

909
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:01,359
Speaker 1: And just quickly we just got a group text from

910
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 1: Nick saying, why was that so loud? My nipples have

911
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:08,640
Speaker 1: gotten so dark? Said our neighbors on every side heard that,

912
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 1: and they're at work in the city and they still

913
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:17,160
Speaker 1: heard it. I just want people to know, you know,

914
00:45:19,640 --> 00:45:22,400
Speaker 1: I'm actually surprised how often every time we do a

915
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,360
Speaker 1: question box people ask how we know each other.

916
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 5: Like, if you want this, if you really want the story,

917
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 5: this is this true street.

918
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 1: We need a laminated handout.

919
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 4: In twenty seventeen, Sarah adopted me from the public toilets

920
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:36,479
Speaker 4: at Princess Park.

921
00:45:37,360 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 5: She said, this girl looks sad.

922
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:40,919
Speaker 1: She looks like a hobo, and.

923
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 4: Then she said I need toilet paper and I was

924
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:45,400
Speaker 4: in the next few books, So here you go, miss

925
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:48,600
Speaker 4: She said, Wow, let's be friends.

926
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:51,319
Speaker 5: That's really sorry.

927
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't even remember which episode we spoke

928
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 3: about it in, but.

929
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 4: Do you know what? Do you know? What you know?

930
00:45:56,320 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 4: I remember where we filmed this one. It was my

931
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:02,880
Speaker 4: birthday episode. Were in lawn and we pulled up the

932
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 4: original message I sent you do you remember, and then

933
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 4: Sam had put this like funny music for funny story.

934
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 4: So I think find the episode from yeah in February

935
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:13,480
Speaker 4: two thousand and or.

936
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,440
Speaker 1: You find it and we'll put in the show notes

937
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 1: for ease.

938
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's true. Actually, I will do my job. I

939
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 5: will find it for you.

940
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:21,840
Speaker 1: Long story shot when not related?

941
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 5: Yes, that was another question. How are you related?

942
00:46:24,239 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, not related, not sisters as many people assume, but

943
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:30,840
Speaker 1: basically might as well be, is the answer. And Also,

944
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 1: I've known and since she was six.

945
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 5: So that age changes. Every time I knew she was two.

946
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 1: It's always six. That's one thing in my time scale.

947
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:46,440
Speaker 1: I get correct, It's always.

948
00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:49,839
Speaker 5: Six, No six or eight, it changes whatever.

949
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:51,959
Speaker 3: If I knew you when you were six, I would

950
00:46:51,960 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 3: also have known you anyway.

951
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:53,879
Speaker 5: It's true.

952
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:54,840
Speaker 1: They're not usually.

953
00:46:54,680 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 5: Exclusive, which leads a listen to the next question.

954
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,480
Speaker 1: This is the worst episode we've ever made.

955
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:10,480
Speaker 4: I think that every week, best lash, funniest friendship memory together.

956
00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, there are so many.

957
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:19,839
Speaker 4: Obviously has to be Christmas in Alex's.

958
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:23,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely, definitely the year that we

959
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:26,399
Speaker 1: all went to my late grandmother's house in the countryside

960
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 1: with a group of our friends and had Christmas and

961
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 1: Christmas and Newyears No just New Year's. We had New

962
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:34,800
Speaker 1: Years there, yep. And she is not a big drinker,

963
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 1: and we had been trying to get her drunk just

964
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,000
Speaker 1: so we could see drunk, and for like a really

965
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:42,319
Speaker 1: long time, and then this night she was like, you

966
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:45,160
Speaker 1: know what, let's do it. We played Gooner Fortune and

967
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:46,919
Speaker 1: then there was an extra sock and if the sock

968
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 1: landed on you, you had to do tequila shots. She

969
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:51,879
Speaker 1: has a lightweight at the best of times, but drunk,

970
00:47:52,000 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 1: like half a bottle of a tequila I drank.

971
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 4: I was like, screw your more if we're gonna go hard,

972
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 4: and we want to go hard now.

973
00:47:57,560 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 5: And it was like six pm. It was six pm,

974
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:02,240
Speaker 5: and then I was gone by like seven o'clock.

975
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 1: By seven point thirty, she was face planted like bum

976
00:48:06,760 --> 00:48:09,439
Speaker 1: in air, but face on grass with one gum boot

977
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:11,480
Speaker 1: where we have no idea where it came from a

978
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 1: knee brace avocado all over your face because you wouldn't

979
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 1: eat your dinner. And I have never been more angry.

980
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever been angry at you, except

981
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,520
Speaker 1: that dame like seven.

982
00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:26,000
Speaker 4: Pm, youd sport like I never I wouldn't it. I

983
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 4: barely call it a fight because it was only one

984
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:29,000
Speaker 4: party was involved.

985
00:48:29,920 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 1: It was not awake, and I am going to use

986
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: as the cover of this episode, the photo of you

987
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 1: with your like hilarious New Year's headband and your face

988
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 1: down on the grass.

989
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 4: I actually think the funnier one was me putting the

990
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:49,480
Speaker 4: torch in my face or trying to eat the avocado

991
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 4: or something. But I actually genuinely think one of them

992
00:48:52,320 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 4: I've realized probably one of the best memories was actually

993
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:56,320
Speaker 4: probably good Will hunting.

994
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:57,279
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, for sure.

995
00:48:57,320 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 5: We had weird like it.

996
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:01,239
Speaker 4: Was unpla and what we were going to do. We

997
00:49:01,320 --> 00:49:02,879
Speaker 4: kind of just had houses that we want to stand

998
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 4: and everything else. We were like whatever, We'll just figured

999
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 4: it out between three of us, and we were pretty

1000
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 4: fresh as friends and zan with Nick. But we had

1001
00:49:10,280 --> 00:49:11,880
Speaker 4: the best time.

1002
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:15,680
Speaker 1: We were really fresh. Yeah, we wrote so and wrote

1003
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 1: from Adelaide to Melbourne for charity, but it was so

1004
00:49:18,800 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 1: fun and we just came with you randomly staying at

1005
00:49:22,080 --> 00:49:23,799
Speaker 1: airbnb's all along the way.

1006
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:26,080
Speaker 4: And we didn't plan each day what each day was

1007
00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 4: going to look like, and we just it became this

1008
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:31,359
Speaker 4: little like weird gap like I was gonna say gap, yeah,

1009
00:49:31,360 --> 00:49:31,799
Speaker 4: but it wasn't.

1010
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:35,360
Speaker 5: But it was like eight days, got a little backpacking trip.

1011
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:38,800
Speaker 5: It was just so funny, like out in the wilderness.

1012
00:49:38,280 --> 00:49:41,040
Speaker 1: I also loved Cradle Mountain where we went together.

1013
00:49:41,160 --> 00:49:45,720
Speaker 4: I was just going to say second, second most mainly

1014
00:49:45,760 --> 00:49:50,480
Speaker 4: because that was really funny that I flew across by myself.

1015
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,239
Speaker 4: Afterwards their people from the airport and then we just

1016
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 4: did Cradle phrase see and at that time it was

1017
00:49:55,840 --> 00:50:00,200
Speaker 4: like literally was like you were a child, really beautifu.

1018
00:50:00,800 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1019
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 4: They had this beautiful accommodation that got off it, you know,

1020
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:09,319
Speaker 4: with a fras and a and has that netting that

1021
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 4: you can lie outside and then outdoor bath time you

1022
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 4: can look at them, oh.

1023
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 1: In tazzy like the honeymoon sweet thing. And then we

1024
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:18,520
Speaker 1: took the like school camp lodge so that we could

1025
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:21,880
Speaker 1: have our little baby and with us true.

1026
00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 4: Took the school camp lodge because I was gonna be there,

1027
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:27,799
Speaker 4: and we played trivial pursuit, got thumped by Nick, and

1028
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 4: then remember that we went to Crane. We were in

1029
00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 4: that we're in that hotel and I was in the

1030
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:33,400
Speaker 4: trundle in.

1031
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:35,480
Speaker 1: The corner of oh my god, yeah we did it.

1032
00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 1: We had a one room. It wasn't even too rude.

1033
00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:42,000
Speaker 4: It was weird on this like king bed and then

1034
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:44,360
Speaker 4: me on a camping trundle in the corner of the

1035
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 4: same room. And like you think that this was a

1036
00:50:47,280 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 4: story of when I was twelve, but I was twenty four.

1037
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 1: It was like two years ago.

1038
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:55,319
Speaker 4: It was funnies just like we didn't even think of

1039
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 4: it that we didn't even think that it was at

1040
00:50:57,200 --> 00:50:59,400
Speaker 4: all weird or we just did it and it was

1041
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:03,319
Speaker 4: really fun and it was very easy, and yeah, just

1042
00:51:03,360 --> 00:51:07,040
Speaker 4: like spontaneous a lot of road trips. We've had a

1043
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 4: lot of road trips. We bought it town.

1044
00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:10,759
Speaker 1: One of my other oh yeah, brought it town. One

1045
00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:12,839
Speaker 1: of my other favorites though, was when it was your

1046
00:51:12,880 --> 00:51:17,400
Speaker 1: birthday and you wanted like, well, all your favorite people,

1047
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:23,399
Speaker 1: we knew you just want to be together and then

1048
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: and then we knew that you loved it. Then we

1049
00:51:30,600 --> 00:51:34,759
Speaker 1: knew that you love like hills, Andrewly loves hills and

1050
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:40,520
Speaker 1: city skylights and also like being outdoors and picnic but

1051
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 1: being up high so you can see the city lights.

1052
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 1: But it was like a wet weather plan because it

1053
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:48,040
Speaker 1: was raining. So we found this like airbnb that was

1054
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 1: forest themed so that covered like nature and it was

1055
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 1: in a high rise. It was up high in the

1056
00:51:53,600 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 1: city so you could see the city skyline and then

1057
00:51:55,480 --> 00:51:58,200
Speaker 1: we could all have a picnic on the ground in

1058
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:02,720
Speaker 1: this forest and cl themed airbnb where everything was covered

1059
00:52:02,800 --> 00:52:07,400
Speaker 1: in like fake grass. The phone had like contact on

1060
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:10,120
Speaker 1: it that was like log colored, and there were log

1061
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 1: pillows everywhere. That was so weird to sorry.

1062
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:17,400
Speaker 4: That everyone could write like the public could write in

1063
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 4: about their experiences there and were it was like I

1064
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:22,359
Speaker 4: could tell it was funny, and then it just got

1065
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:24,000
Speaker 4: weirder and weirder, and then Nick was like.

1066
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:26,239
Speaker 5: I could tell. Nick was like, I'm believing he's trying

1067
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 5: to be very positive for my birthday, but he was like,

1068
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 5: what the heck is his point?

1069
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:36,440
Speaker 3: I'm pretty Oh god.

1070
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 5: Okay, on to the next question. Great question, very reminiscent.

1071
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 1: Of I can't believe if anyone is still listening, they

1072
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 1: deserve a trophy because I'm not even listening at this point.

1073
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:52,200
Speaker 1: I'm going to do random quick fire questions, okay, and

1074
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:52,800
Speaker 1: I'll do cricket.

1075
00:52:53,080 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 5: I'm going to skim through random questions.

1076
00:52:55,040 --> 00:52:57,160
Speaker 3: I'm not very good at one one word answer, so.

1077
00:52:57,200 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 5: One last longer one, but is how to keep spark alive.

1078
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 4: To live slash work with your bestie as well as

1079
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 4: having long distance s becties?

1080
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 1: You or Nick?

1081
00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:11,839
Speaker 5: Is that about well, supposedly we live together. Well basically, please.

1082
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:15,879
Speaker 1: Oh how does SPA get the spark alive? I think

1083
00:53:17,400 --> 00:53:19,800
Speaker 1: the best thing about our friendship is we've never have

1084
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 1: to try. And I think that's because you are are

1085
00:53:22,680 --> 00:53:26,320
Speaker 1: a spark, Like the spark never dies. Really, it's just

1086
00:53:26,440 --> 00:53:27,759
Speaker 1: never been through a lull.

1087
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:29,280
Speaker 5: But I think it's also because.

1088
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:33,279
Speaker 4: We're both pretty communicative, Like we're both like if you're tired, like.

1089
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:39,279
Speaker 5: It's a very but yeah, we are very You're right

1090
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:41,520
Speaker 5: where it is going.

1091
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 4: I'm really sure I was going to get to the

1092
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:48,279
Speaker 4: point where I was going to say the best thing

1093
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:50,880
Speaker 4: about you for me is that I can be like

1094
00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:53,439
Speaker 4: we're going to do this random thing. You'll be like, yes, yeah.

1095
00:53:53,440 --> 00:53:56,200
Speaker 4: In that way, we can ever be very silly.

1096
00:53:56,000 --> 00:53:59,360
Speaker 5: And spontaneous, and it makes it fun and funny.

1097
00:53:59,680 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 1: I think also like you have to have a pinky promise,

1098
00:54:02,040 --> 00:54:03,719
Speaker 1: so you have to have like a line in your

1099
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 1: communication where it's like are you just saying that to

1100
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:08,479
Speaker 1: make me happy? Or is that actually how you feel?

1101
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 1: Like that has been a game changer in our friendship,

1102
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 1: is like pinky promise, Like are you really telling me

1103
00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:14,520
Speaker 1: how you feel? You're just saying that to make me

1104
00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:18,279
Speaker 1: happy because that gets really hard to double guess people

1105
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 1: who are people pleasers. Yeah, but I think also the

1106
00:54:22,040 --> 00:54:25,960
Speaker 1: most beautiful thing is being with someone who's really different

1107
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:28,840
Speaker 1: to you, but we both come each other's direction. Like

1108
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:30,920
Speaker 1: when you're like, I'm taking you to an activity and

1109
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 1: you won't know what it is and bring bathers and

1110
00:54:33,160 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 1: goggles and I usually am like no, I'll just be like, yes,

1111
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:40,839
Speaker 1: I trust you. And same as when I'm like, I'm

1112
00:54:40,840 --> 00:54:42,480
Speaker 1: going to make you wear makeup and we're going to

1113
00:54:42,520 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 1: go out somewhere fancy and you're like okay, cool, Like

1114
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 1: we kind of come each other's direction.

1115
00:54:46,400 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 5: It's true, it's true. Actually that's a good point again.

1116
00:54:49,080 --> 00:54:52,320
Speaker 4: Now, random questions, Yeah, which is more painful holding a

1117
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 4: pooh or we a pooh?

1118
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 1: Who's admitted that is a question?

1119
00:54:56,840 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 4: Was it you? No? It's odd.

1120
00:54:58,400 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 5: Well you can tell when it starts becoming people that

1121
00:55:00,600 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 5: asked on my change because it.

1122
00:55:01,960 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 1: Was a weird ad oh, I mean pooh yeah from

1123
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:06,479
Speaker 1: my marathon story.

1124
00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:09,080
Speaker 5: Definitely poo Sarah and your MBT.

1125
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 4: I I don't really know what that is.

1126
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:12,960
Speaker 5: I think it's like a sixteen personalities test, which we

1127
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:15,359
Speaker 5: probably should do and just put up the answer.

1128
00:55:15,120 --> 00:55:17,040
Speaker 1: Oh, haven't done it. Yeah, we should do that.

1129
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:19,520
Speaker 3: We'll do it live in our first episode next year.

1130
00:55:19,840 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 4: Someone ol mates brother in Brisbane ask how many milli

1131
00:55:23,760 --> 00:55:25,479
Speaker 4: liters of water can you hold in your mouth?

1132
00:55:25,760 --> 00:55:25,960
Speaker 3: Oh?

1133
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:28,160
Speaker 1: Okay, we have to test that live as well.

1134
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, we should play guests and we'll put up a

1135
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,680
Speaker 4: pole on what people think and then I'll go measure it.

1136
00:55:32,719 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 1: Okay, and then also like how many jelly beans can

1137
00:55:34,840 --> 00:55:35,480
Speaker 1: you fit in your mouth?

1138
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 2: Like?

1139
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 1: Because that's fun?

1140
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1141
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:37,560
Speaker 5: True?

1142
00:55:37,640 --> 00:55:41,440
Speaker 4: True? Actually, how are you so beautiful? Why is your

1143
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 4: girlfriend so hot? I don't know, it's natural. I was

1144
00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 4: born like this.

1145
00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:49,680
Speaker 1: Maybe it's believe true.

1146
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 5: Maybe maybe it's water and soap. Two questions passing any

1147
00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:57,359
Speaker 5: community events soon.

1148
00:55:57,480 --> 00:55:59,640
Speaker 4: We actually were organizing when we just couldn't larne up

1149
00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:01,360
Speaker 4: by the end of this year, but we'll probably have

1150
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:02,440
Speaker 4: it at the start of next year.

1151
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 1: Yes, we would definitely do at least one more yeahhood

1152
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:08,240
Speaker 1: event before bub arrives.

1153
00:56:08,640 --> 00:56:11,040
Speaker 5: What is the size of your boob in fingers?

1154
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:12,760
Speaker 1: What in fingers?

1155
00:56:12,920 --> 00:56:12,960
Speaker 4: Like?

1156
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:15,480
Speaker 1: Whose fingers?

1157
00:56:16,600 --> 00:56:18,120
Speaker 4: Well, this is obviously a question from Jen.

1158
00:56:18,880 --> 00:56:20,960
Speaker 5: What is your boob sized? And fingers like? Measure like

1159
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 5: your sister Jen?

1160
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:24,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I say like it's like.

1161
00:56:25,160 --> 00:56:27,640
Speaker 4: Oh no, no, no, sorry, sorry sorry. I know why

1162
00:56:27,680 --> 00:56:30,879
Speaker 4: she's asking this, because I've just clicked. When I was young,

1163
00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:33,279
Speaker 4: I used to walk around being like I have the

1164
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:36,000
Speaker 4: biggest boobies everyone, and then I used to lift them

1165
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 4: up with my two fingers like this and be like see.

1166
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:43,640
Speaker 1: I would say three at this point, Wow.

1167
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 5: That's big. I reckon, mind's still that too. The same

1168
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 5: as when I was telling how many photos such videos

1169
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:50,560
Speaker 5: do you have on your phone?

1170
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 4: On or eye cloud?

1171
00:56:52,040 --> 00:56:53,480
Speaker 5: Oh god, I'm scared.

1172
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 1: To look at So I cleaned mine out recently, bim,

1173
00:56:55,840 --> 00:56:59,600
Speaker 1: I cleaned it out after clean out, after clean out,

1174
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 1: thirty six thousand, six hundred photos and videos or just

1175
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:08,240
Speaker 1: photos videos three thousand, two hundred.

1176
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:13,680
Speaker 4: My photos and videos combined fifty three thousand, five hundred.

1177
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:16,680
Speaker 1: See my phone like gets to full before I have

1178
00:57:16,800 --> 00:57:17,480
Speaker 1: fifty thousand.

1179
00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 5: I feel like I've paid for like like unlimited terrbytes

1180
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:23,440
Speaker 5: or something stimulated.

1181
00:57:22,960 --> 00:57:25,120
Speaker 1: That you paid for something I know.

1182
00:57:25,240 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 5: Can you believe that's a subscription?

1183
00:57:27,160 --> 00:57:28,240
Speaker 1: What do you mean? I can't.

1184
00:57:29,720 --> 00:57:32,400
Speaker 4: It's one of the I'm the worst. I start subscriptions

1185
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:34,640
Speaker 4: that I never cancel them. When can we get some

1186
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:36,919
Speaker 4: Judy and Banoi content. I'm going to Vietnam in March

1187
00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 4: my sister's wedding, so probably then there is also if

1188
00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:44,960
Speaker 4: you could give one piece of advice to your younger self,

1189
00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:47,000
Speaker 4: what it would be and why.

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00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 5: That's a quick fire.

1191
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:49,800
Speaker 4: So that's been quick.

1192
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 1: I would say every chapter, like nothing is a waste

1193
00:57:54,320 --> 00:57:56,400
Speaker 1: if you learn from it. Every chapter is part of

1194
00:57:56,760 --> 00:57:59,560
Speaker 1: you getting to where you're supposed to be and you're

1195
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 1: not meanted what that is my news?

1196
00:58:02,800 --> 00:58:09,320
Speaker 5: Continue and always be unapologetically yourself.

1197
00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:10,920
Speaker 1: Can that be the snippet?

1198
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:15,760
Speaker 3: Always be buttlarly yourself?

1199
00:58:19,760 --> 00:58:27,120
Speaker 1: Hey, oh my god, we always be yourself.

1200
00:58:30,920 --> 00:58:31,520
Speaker 4: That's so good.

1201
00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:32,640
Speaker 5: That was really good.

1202
00:58:37,360 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 1: I feel like we need to cut ourselves off.

1203
00:58:40,800 --> 00:58:43,320
Speaker 5: Where there's a few more quick bites. I'm just cut

1204
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:45,760
Speaker 5: down to three tips on how to approach house innovations.

1205
00:58:46,280 --> 00:58:50,640
Speaker 1: Oh okay, good planning. So in terms of like, before

1206
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:53,600
Speaker 1: you go and lock someone in, do a little bit

1207
00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:56,960
Speaker 1: of research on different suppliers, ask people who have done

1208
00:58:56,960 --> 00:58:59,240
Speaker 1: it before, or use people before, like, do a lot

1209
00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:01,960
Speaker 1: of Pinterest boards research. I feel like being quite organized

1210
00:59:01,960 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 1: about what you want things to look like can make

1211
00:59:04,360 --> 00:59:07,200
Speaker 1: save you a lot of time later. Number two, be

1212
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:10,680
Speaker 1: really communicative with your if you're doing it with your

1213
00:59:10,720 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 1: partner or a housemate or whatever. Really open communication, because

1214
00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 1: it can be a really like everyone has really different expectations,

1215
00:59:17,880 --> 00:59:20,920
Speaker 1: and I think that's where things get stressful, is when

1216
00:59:20,960 --> 00:59:24,280
Speaker 1: you haven't communicated them. And then yeah, it can get

1217
00:59:24,320 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 1: really heated and budget always blows out. And I think

1218
00:59:28,320 --> 00:59:30,240
Speaker 1: if you're you have a really good strategy for like

1219
00:59:30,520 --> 00:59:34,520
Speaker 1: saying what you want out of it. Whose priorities are stronger,

1220
00:59:34,880 --> 00:59:36,560
Speaker 1: like there are some things I really cared about and

1221
00:59:36,640 --> 00:59:38,760
Speaker 1: some things I didn't, and vice versa, but nicks are

1222
00:59:38,760 --> 00:59:42,480
Speaker 1: working those out. And the number three would be always

1223
00:59:42,760 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 1: put more in your budget than you think, because it

1224
00:59:45,160 --> 00:59:47,880
Speaker 1: always ends up being more expensive. So don't like have

1225
00:59:48,080 --> 00:59:51,560
Speaker 1: your figure and then that's all you've got, Like add

1226
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:53,959
Speaker 1: a buffer and make sure you have that buffer, because

1227
00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 1: once you've started, you always uncover things that you didn't

1228
00:59:57,240 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 1: think you needed to do.

1229
00:59:58,920 --> 00:59:59,280
Speaker 4: That's good.

1230
00:59:59,320 --> 01:00:01,680
Speaker 5: One being actually okay, three more questions.

1231
01:00:01,720 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 4: Okay. One person asked, what was your meet you with

1232
01:00:04,640 --> 01:00:07,800
Speaker 4: your girlfriend? I'm assuming she's talking about me unless you

1233
01:00:07,880 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 4: have your friend. We met on the stroke ward. I

1234
01:00:11,320 --> 01:00:13,800
Speaker 4: always say this, and she gets really mad. Always say

1235
01:00:13,840 --> 01:00:16,120
Speaker 4: we met on the stroke ward and she was a patient.

1236
01:00:16,600 --> 01:00:20,840
Speaker 4: She's not a patient. We met on the stroke ward

1237
01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 4: at the hospital because we both worked there. We're both

1238
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:26,880
Speaker 4: in the Allied Health team and we work very closely together.

1239
01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:30,760
Speaker 4: And then one day I was like, well, she's really cute.

1240
01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:33,200
Speaker 4: This is after months of knowing each other, and then

1241
01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:37,680
Speaker 4: the rest is history. I shooted my shot. Okay, I

1242
01:00:37,720 --> 01:00:39,600
Speaker 4: think you can hear about it also in another podcast.

1243
01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:43,600
Speaker 4: We'll have to find that. And then just last question,

1244
01:00:43,680 --> 01:00:47,640
Speaker 4: I reckon what to round up this episode that has

1245
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:55,600
Speaker 4: gone very delulu very quickly, Solu is what is the

1246
01:00:55,680 --> 01:00:58,360
Speaker 4: most delightful thing to happen this year? And then the

1247
01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:01,480
Speaker 4: most cringe thing? Okay, that's a second last that's the

1248
01:01:01,480 --> 01:01:04,200
Speaker 4: second last question because I've just found another last good

1249
01:01:04,280 --> 01:01:04,720
Speaker 4: last one.

1250
01:01:04,920 --> 01:01:08,400
Speaker 1: Okay, My most delightful thing to happen this year is

1251
01:01:09,360 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 1: our little boy on the way, and specifically, I think

1252
01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:16,919
Speaker 1: the first time we heard his heartbeat and the first

1253
01:01:17,000 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 1: time Nick could feel him kick, they have been like

1254
01:01:20,800 --> 01:01:24,720
Speaker 1: just such special moments etched into my mind. The most

1255
01:01:24,960 --> 01:01:30,080
Speaker 1: cringe thing, God, there are so many, so many. One

1256
01:01:31,760 --> 01:01:35,480
Speaker 1: that's really hard. There's just too many with me around

1257
01:01:36,360 --> 01:01:38,080
Speaker 1: my whole life. I don't know. I can't even think

1258
01:01:38,120 --> 01:01:40,480
Speaker 1: of one. That's just you can probably think of one.

1259
01:01:40,520 --> 01:01:42,000
Speaker 4: It's probably just every time you have to do a

1260
01:01:42,080 --> 01:01:46,440
Speaker 4: skit like us bringing that obnoxious light and hose of

1261
01:01:46,520 --> 01:01:48,600
Speaker 4: electrical wire to the cafe.

1262
01:01:48,520 --> 01:01:50,760
Speaker 1: To a cafe. Yeah, but you know, it's really bad.

1263
01:01:51,200 --> 01:01:53,040
Speaker 1: I don't even cringe about that anymore because I'm just

1264
01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:57,400
Speaker 1: so used to being like obnoxiously in public, Like I'm

1265
01:01:57,480 --> 01:02:00,360
Speaker 1: just so my standards for what people think about my

1266
01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:04,120
Speaker 1: bavior is so low that I'm not even embarrassed anymore.

1267
01:02:04,120 --> 01:02:06,320
Speaker 1: I'm just like, eh, I don't even know. Yeah, I

1268
01:02:06,320 --> 01:02:08,600
Speaker 1: don't have any really standout like, oh.

1269
01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 5: God, cringe.

1270
01:02:09,840 --> 01:02:12,760
Speaker 4: Yeah. My only cringe one is that one time I

1271
01:02:12,920 --> 01:02:15,800
Speaker 4: went to pick up room is Pooh and I really

1272
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 4: was trying to get it and then the bag ripped and.

1273
01:02:19,680 --> 01:02:21,720
Speaker 1: Use did you have to use a cup?

1274
01:02:22,000 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 4: Was that you?

1275
01:02:22,800 --> 01:02:22,840
Speaker 2: No?

1276
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 4: That was one time with Paul I had to use

1277
01:02:24,760 --> 01:02:28,200
Speaker 4: a little protein bar because poo I didn't have a

1278
01:02:28,240 --> 01:02:32,360
Speaker 4: food bag. And the highlight is probably even like the

1279
01:02:33,680 --> 01:02:36,680
Speaker 4: like the runner up Best and Ferres, which is very unexpected.

1280
01:02:37,160 --> 01:02:40,320
Speaker 4: Yeah that was really cool. Yeah and then okay, so

1281
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:43,760
Speaker 4: now last question for real, I promise you guys our

1282
01:02:43,840 --> 01:02:46,360
Speaker 4: lovely Katie kill girl very.

1283
01:02:47,000 --> 01:02:48,960
Speaker 1: A listener, Yeah, we love Katie.

1284
01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:51,600
Speaker 4: Said, what is one lesson you were taking into twenty

1285
01:02:51,680 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 4: twenty four and one that's staying in twenty twenty three.

1286
01:02:54,760 --> 01:03:01,000
Speaker 1: Oh. I think the biggest thing that comes from twenty

1287
01:03:01,040 --> 01:03:03,800
Speaker 1: twenty three for me that I will take into twenty

1288
01:03:03,880 --> 01:03:09,959
Speaker 1: twenty four is how and I think I talk about

1289
01:03:09,960 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 1: all the time anyway on Cca, just how like your

1290
01:03:11,880 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 1: life unravels in chapters, and like I've been in the

1291
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:17,520
Speaker 1: same one for quite a while and then a really

1292
01:03:17,680 --> 01:03:20,920
Speaker 1: really different new one is starting, and that that involves

1293
01:03:21,000 --> 01:03:24,320
Speaker 1: so much uncertainty and discomfort, but it's kind of beautiful

1294
01:03:24,840 --> 01:03:27,360
Speaker 1: that at different stages of your life, different things will

1295
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:31,080
Speaker 1: matter to you differently. Everything has new meaning and all

1296
01:03:31,120 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 1: the old things have different meanings, And like, my priorities

1297
01:03:33,840 --> 01:03:36,880
Speaker 1: have changed so much already, and I think that's part

1298
01:03:36,920 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 1: of evolution, Like I think the reminders you're meant to

1299
01:03:39,720 --> 01:03:42,000
Speaker 1: be a different person at every different stage of your life,

1300
01:03:42,120 --> 01:03:45,240
Speaker 1: and that's lovely when you feel yourself changing and.

1301
01:03:45,280 --> 01:03:46,760
Speaker 5: Then something you're going to leave behind.

1302
01:03:47,760 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 1: I think the flip side of that, like the me

1303
01:03:50,760 --> 01:03:56,640
Speaker 1: who put a lot of other things before the things

1304
01:03:56,680 --> 01:04:01,320
Speaker 1: that now really matter to me, like health, and being

1305
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:04,920
Speaker 1: healthy enough to have a baby time with my family,

1306
01:04:05,240 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 1: especially now that we don't live with Mum, carving out

1307
01:04:08,160 --> 01:04:10,880
Speaker 1: time to spend with her, like maximizing those moments over

1308
01:04:10,960 --> 01:04:13,840
Speaker 1: anything else, which have always been a big priority for me,

1309
01:04:13,920 --> 01:04:16,760
Speaker 1: but probably not as much as suddenly since I'm like

1310
01:04:17,840 --> 01:04:19,920
Speaker 1: we're on the cusp of having our own family and

1311
01:04:20,080 --> 01:04:22,840
Speaker 1: realizing how I don't know how beautiful that is, and

1312
01:04:24,160 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 1: so much talk about adoption and stuff this year, Like

1313
01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:29,360
Speaker 1: I don't know, a lot of things have kind of

1314
01:04:30,600 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 1: reiterated themselves as the things that I really really care about,

1315
01:04:33,480 --> 01:04:35,520
Speaker 1: So leaving behind the me that is not the meat

1316
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:37,720
Speaker 1: that's like super career driven. I'm still really career driven,

1317
01:04:37,800 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 1: but that being like the only thing I really cared about.

1318
01:04:40,680 --> 01:04:45,400
Speaker 3: Leaving that kind of like hustle, not leaving it behind,

1319
01:04:45,520 --> 01:04:48,720
Speaker 3: but just making it in the passenger seat.

1320
01:04:48,800 --> 01:04:52,480
Speaker 4: Maybe Yeah, for a little while, I think mine would be.

1321
01:04:54,120 --> 01:04:56,800
Speaker 4: I think I'll probably always bring it with me. Is

1322
01:04:57,480 --> 01:05:00,480
Speaker 4: It's a weird one because it's definitely it has probably

1323
01:05:00,760 --> 01:05:03,760
Speaker 4: a net positive outcome, but also has negatives to it

1324
01:05:03,960 --> 01:05:07,760
Speaker 4: is for me to continue saying yes to doing cool things,

1325
01:05:08,760 --> 01:05:13,200
Speaker 4: I feel like it's only really benefited me or enriched

1326
01:05:13,280 --> 01:05:15,880
Speaker 4: my life in the past, you know, like being able

1327
01:05:15,920 --> 01:05:18,440
Speaker 4: to try new things and do cool things and then

1328
01:05:18,520 --> 01:05:23,760
Speaker 4: be adventurous continue saying yes to opportunities has been really

1329
01:05:23,800 --> 01:05:26,880
Speaker 4: great for me. And then weirdly at the same time

1330
01:05:26,960 --> 01:05:30,800
Speaker 4: that I'll leave in twenty twenty three is actually I

1331
01:05:31,760 --> 01:05:33,800
Speaker 4: was going to say, say, protect my time were but

1332
01:05:33,840 --> 01:05:35,240
Speaker 4: I feel like this year I've done that very well.

1333
01:05:36,040 --> 01:05:38,200
Speaker 5: Is probably I guess.

1334
01:05:38,080 --> 01:05:42,080
Speaker 4: Giving too much of my time to things that don't

1335
01:05:42,120 --> 01:05:45,160
Speaker 4: better me or something or something.

1336
01:05:46,440 --> 01:05:50,240
Speaker 5: Something like that in a more articulate way. I'm sure

1337
01:05:50,240 --> 01:05:53,800
Speaker 5: there's more aricula saying that anyway, that's probably is.

1338
01:05:54,280 --> 01:05:58,840
Speaker 1: I also think I'll have next year, like more dot

1339
01:05:58,920 --> 01:06:01,880
Speaker 1: points to add to the My priorities are changing. But

1340
01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:06,000
Speaker 1: I also think, and I hope I'll be a good

1341
01:06:06,040 --> 01:06:09,080
Speaker 1: example that, like you can completely embrace motherhood in a

1342
01:06:09,160 --> 01:06:11,240
Speaker 1: new chapter and not abandon your career if you don't

1343
01:06:11,240 --> 01:06:14,240
Speaker 1: want to as well. I think that blend will be

1344
01:06:14,320 --> 01:06:17,360
Speaker 1: really interesting because my priorities have changed, but I'm also

1345
01:06:17,480 --> 01:06:21,560
Speaker 1: still smashing work at the same time, so I think

1346
01:06:21,600 --> 01:06:23,760
Speaker 1: there'll be heaps of conversations.

1347
01:06:23,200 --> 01:06:24,840
Speaker 3: Around the whole, like can you have it all? Like

1348
01:06:24,960 --> 01:06:27,080
Speaker 3: what does balance look like like? What that means to

1349
01:06:27,200 --> 01:06:33,960
Speaker 3: me next year versus this year. I love how no

1350
01:06:34,000 --> 01:06:35,800
Speaker 3: one's gonna understand that joke except me.

1351
01:06:36,160 --> 01:06:37,040
Speaker 4: No, not at all.

1352
01:06:37,320 --> 01:06:39,400
Speaker 5: Well, we made it to the end. I'm very proud

1353
01:06:39,440 --> 01:06:39,600
Speaker 5: of you.

1354
01:06:39,760 --> 01:06:42,280
Speaker 1: I can't believe we actually did an episode. Yeah, it

1355
01:06:42,480 --> 01:06:44,760
Speaker 1: was a close, so close, it was like two and

1356
01:06:44,760 --> 01:06:47,000
Speaker 1: a half minutes more, and I would have canceled for sure.

1357
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:50,200
Speaker 1: In fact, now I'm like, maybe I just should have canceled.

1358
01:06:51,760 --> 01:06:54,520
Speaker 5: No, you know, you know, we always think it's silly,

1359
01:06:54,680 --> 01:06:56,640
Speaker 5: but it's a good road trip listen.

1360
01:06:56,920 --> 01:06:59,200
Speaker 1: And also I think it is a good example when

1361
01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:01,280
Speaker 1: people are like, do you guys ever have a lullin energy?

1362
01:07:01,360 --> 01:07:03,320
Speaker 1: It's like, just listen to the last episode of the year,

1363
01:07:03,360 --> 01:07:04,040
Speaker 1: because yes.

1364
01:07:03,880 --> 01:07:06,680
Speaker 5: Yeah every year, this time every year.

1365
01:07:07,120 --> 01:07:09,200
Speaker 1: I'm not God, I forgot to even talk about Richard Branson,

1366
01:07:09,280 --> 01:07:11,960
Speaker 1: so like separately we had an amazing I don't need

1367
01:07:11,960 --> 01:07:13,480
Speaker 1: to talk about it, but just quickly, like just so

1368
01:07:13,600 --> 01:07:16,720
Speaker 1: you know, that was so beautiful and so high energy,

1369
01:07:16,760 --> 01:07:18,400
Speaker 1: and I slept the entire rest of the day. So

1370
01:07:18,600 --> 01:07:20,439
Speaker 1: just never want to give the wrong impression that I'm

1371
01:07:20,480 --> 01:07:24,000
Speaker 1: not like crawling to the finish line. I mean, you

1372
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:27,120
Speaker 1: saw me, do you see that where I slept, like

1373
01:07:27,360 --> 01:07:29,160
Speaker 1: in the dress that I was wearing with all my makeup,

1374
01:07:29,200 --> 01:07:31,920
Speaker 1: I slept for four hours because I was just like, you.

1375
01:07:32,200 --> 01:07:35,280
Speaker 5: Cannot anyway beautiful but worth it.

1376
01:07:35,800 --> 01:07:40,320
Speaker 1: So we're de Lulu. Merry Christmas, Happy silly season, festive season,

1377
01:07:41,240 --> 01:07:43,840
Speaker 1: whatever you celebrate, Happy end of the year. I hope

1378
01:07:43,880 --> 01:07:48,840
Speaker 1: you're all reflecting on your year and ready to seize

1379
01:07:48,840 --> 01:07:51,640
Speaker 1: your yeah again in twenty twenty four. If you want

1380
01:07:51,680 --> 01:07:53,760
Speaker 1: anything new or different from us next year, we have

1381
01:07:53,840 --> 01:07:56,000
Speaker 1: no plans. Obviously, we have no idea what we're going

1382
01:07:56,040 --> 01:07:57,440
Speaker 1: to be doing. But we are taking a couple of

1383
01:07:57,520 --> 01:08:01,520
Speaker 1: weeks off from this week and we'll be interstate and

1384
01:08:01,880 --> 01:08:03,880
Speaker 1: we will be with family, and then we'll be back

1385
01:08:03,960 --> 01:08:07,080
Speaker 1: like mid Johan. I think so maybe we will have

1386
01:08:07,120 --> 01:08:10,560
Speaker 1: done our surprise activities. Maybe not, who knows. I feel

1387
01:08:10,560 --> 01:08:13,680
Speaker 1: like this whole the yeahborhood is just surprise and delight.

1388
01:08:13,800 --> 01:08:14,760
Speaker 1: It's like, will it.

1389
01:08:14,800 --> 01:08:17,360
Speaker 5: Happened on another community event?

1390
01:08:18,560 --> 01:08:23,120
Speaker 1: Who knows? Will we be back in January? Won't we?

1391
01:08:23,240 --> 01:08:29,439
Speaker 5: Who knows? Is she really? Who knows? Who knows?

1392
01:08:31,920 --> 01:08:33,600
Speaker 1: I hope you're all season you're Yeah, We'll see you

1393
01:08:33,640 --> 01:08:35,240
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four, And thank you so much for

1394
01:08:35,320 --> 01:08:38,080
Speaker 1: listening for this year. It's like a fourth year and

1395
01:08:38,160 --> 01:08:39,840
Speaker 1: I still can't believe people are still listening and we

1396
01:08:39,920 --> 01:08:40,599
Speaker 1: love you so much.