WEBVTT - Parents Anonymous: When You Fail At Year 2 Math

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to another MIA podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Mumma Mea acknowledges the traditional owners of the land. We

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, it's Anal's Todd here from this Glorious Mess, introducing

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<v Speaker 3>hot Pod Summer, one hundred hours of curated listening across

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<v Speaker 3>the Mummamere network, just for you to escape the chaos

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<v Speaker 3>and enjoy with the kids at home and the weather

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<v Speaker 3>warming up. We've got episodes of Parents Anonymous to share.

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<v Speaker 3>Parents Anonymous is part game show, part church confessional. You

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<v Speaker 3>share your deepest parenting shame and myself and Stacey Hicks

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<v Speaker 3>rate you, but the worst parenting wins the most points,

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<v Speaker 3>so really you can't lose. And if you want more,

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<v Speaker 3>there's a link in the show. Enjoy Parents Anonymous. Welcome

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<v Speaker 3>to this Glorious Mess. I'm Analyst Todd, single parent to

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<v Speaker 3>two tween aged sons, and despite the busy schedule, I

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<v Speaker 3>still managed to prioritize and fit in impromptu dance sessions

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<v Speaker 3>around the living room I love.

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<v Speaker 1>That for you. And I'm Stacey Hicks.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm the deputy editor at MMA MIA and the mum

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<v Speaker 4>of a three year old girl who looks exactly like

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<v Speaker 4>her dad.

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<v Speaker 5>Which is just rude the worst when that happened.

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<v Speaker 4>But she has inherited my daggy dance moves and insane

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<v Speaker 4>clumsiness from me, so Apple doesn't for far.

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<v Speaker 5>Good luck to her.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, So welcome back to Parents Anonymous.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, so you know the deal by now, but just

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<v Speaker 4>in case you've somehow found yourself here for the first

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<v Speaker 4>time and I am wondering what exactly is going on.

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<v Speaker 4>Parents Anonymous is part church confessional, part game show where

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<v Speaker 4>you tell us your confessions and get the guilt of

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<v Speaker 4>your chest, and we give you points based on our

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<v Speaker 4>very serious grading system.

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<v Speaker 3>Some would say, yes, we do like to kick off

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<v Speaker 3>with a little confession of our own, because it would

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<v Speaker 3>just be awful for us to sit here on our

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<v Speaker 3>high heel looking down and rating people's confessions without disclosing

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<v Speaker 3>one of our own. Yeah, coming up, my sons have

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<v Speaker 3>a dance recital like an official. The school is making

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<v Speaker 3>them do it. This is not something voluntary. They have

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<v Speaker 3>to do it. Oh, okay, otherwise they.

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<v Speaker 5>Wouldn't do it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I am more invested and excited about this than

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<v Speaker 3>any other extracurricular sporting achievement that they've ever done in

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<v Speaker 3>their life.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course you are you are.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a dance mom, Jenna of this place, so of

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<v Speaker 4>course you are excited.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm a dance mom.

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<v Speaker 3>Finally, after nine and twelve years of raising sons, I

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<v Speaker 3>finally get to be a dance mom.

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<v Speaker 5>I love Thank you.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, Well, I actually think that that's great. There's nothing

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<v Speaker 4>to confess there. That's just fabulous and it just aligns

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<v Speaker 4>with who you are.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, unpaired, that's what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Because the confession is because the anting is more about

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<v Speaker 3>me than them, and they like sport more so it's

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<v Speaker 3>kind of not ideal parenting.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, they need to learn to give back to their mum.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, yeah, it is about me. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>So look, I think that's great. I think you get

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<v Speaker 4>a nine out of ten. Thank you, absolutely fine, thank you. Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>now I'll confess mine. Okay, So my daughter three learning

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<v Speaker 4>to ride a bike, or I'm trying to teach her

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<v Speaker 4>to ride.

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<v Speaker 5>A bike with training wheels.

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<v Speaker 4>With training wheels, yeah, just a pedal on a bike,

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<v Speaker 4>like she doesn't get the concept of pedaling on a bike.

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<v Speaker 1>But as you know, I'm a tall gal. She's also

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<v Speaker 1>very tall, so leaning.

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<v Speaker 4>Down to hold the little bike quite annoying and uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 4>for me.

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<v Speaker 1>And she winsered a lot if I let go.

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<v Speaker 4>So I saw a hack and I now do this

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<v Speaker 4>when I'm too tired to take her to a park

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<v Speaker 4>to teach her to ride her bike, I just put

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<v Speaker 4>the little training wheels. You just prop them up on

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<v Speaker 4>some shoes or some books, and they just sit and

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<v Speaker 4>pedal and the bike doesn't go anywhere in your living room,

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<v Speaker 4>and you just put on a little YouTube video of cycling.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's how she's pattle on a bike.

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<v Speaker 5>That's kind of a bit like a spin class.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she's doing a spin class at home.

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<v Speaker 5>That's genius.

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<v Speaker 1>While I said on my phone, it's heaven. Oh that's brilliant,

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<v Speaker 1>And I wish I'd thought of green time.

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<v Speaker 5>But it's a movement like peloton.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, she's on a peloton.

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<v Speaker 5>Aligned she's having a great time. This show.

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<v Speaker 3>It doesn't exist without your guilty confessions, Like we love

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<v Speaker 3>hearing them from you. It is our source of joy.

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<v Speaker 3>It is in our other very bleak world that we

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<v Speaker 3>coexist in, so we would love to hear from you.

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<v Speaker 3>You can completely stay anonymous. Yeah, we'll read out the

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<v Speaker 3>confessions for you. No one will ever know. It cannot

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<v Speaker 3>be traced back to you and all of the anonymous and.

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<v Speaker 1>You're trying really hard not to say the word is I.

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<v Speaker 3>Still can't say anonymity. All of the confession options are

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<v Speaker 3>in the show notes. There's a link there and you

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<v Speaker 3>can please share with us overshire.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, and Analys and I have both submitted anonymous confessions

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<v Speaker 4>before to test the theory and haven't known that the

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<v Speaker 4>other one did that, not even our producer Grace that

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<v Speaker 4>they were us.

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<v Speaker 1>So and it works, we promise it does.

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<v Speaker 4>And on today's show, our mystery confessions are called homework

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<v Speaker 4>only punishes parents, divorce, celebration, relater toy homicide.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that one. It's very law in order.

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<v Speaker 3>As for you, confession number one, I am going to

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<v Speaker 3>read out on behalf of our anonymous person. I wish

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<v Speaker 3>schools didn't give homework because it's actually just yet.

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<v Speaker 5>Another job for parents.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe some parents like that time with their child, but

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<v Speaker 3>I would rather spend time with them doing literally anything else.

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<v Speaker 5>I'll be honest.

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<v Speaker 3>The main reason I hate it is because it makes

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<v Speaker 3>me feel very stupid, like where have all my basic

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<v Speaker 3>maths or geography skills gone? The other night, I helped

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<v Speaker 3>my seven year old with their homework, only to realize

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<v Speaker 3>the next day that we did half of it completely wrong.

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<v Speaker 5>I really can't be bothered redoing it.

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<v Speaker 3>I have my own actual paid work homework to do.

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<v Speaker 3>Can't they do homework in class and just call it work?

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<v Speaker 5>Preach, preach and praise, be love this.

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<v Speaker 3>I would just like to say that my children are

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<v Speaker 3>still in primary school. Yea, we are a homework free

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<v Speaker 3>school kind of a person.

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<v Speaker 5>Drink.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I enroll my daughter at your children's school immediately.

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<v Speaker 3>Because it's beautiful and you know, when they're little, they

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<v Speaker 3>don't need to do extra things high school. I'm very

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<v Speaker 3>scared about next year because that will get real what

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<v Speaker 3>I realized in the very traumatic period of our lives,

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<v Speaker 3>which was lockdown. I realized in that time that I

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<v Speaker 3>don't have year two level maths skills.

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<v Speaker 5>It is beyond me.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sure that I'm in the same boat because I

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<v Speaker 4>struggle with basic basic math skills.

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<v Speaker 3>Here, I don't think that we are meant to help

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<v Speaker 3>our children with homework. I think the whole point is

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<v Speaker 3>a resilient skill that they should know how to do

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<v Speaker 3>it themselves or ask Siri, ask chat GBT. There are

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<v Speaker 3>many resources available to them, unlike there were to us

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<v Speaker 3>in the days of encyclopedia, where they could actually fact

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<v Speaker 3>check this.

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<v Speaker 4>So you're just removing yourself from the homework scenario entirely,

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<v Speaker 4>like don't go to mum, no, go to Siri. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>I like it. Well that's going to be my strategy too. Look,

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<v Speaker 4>I think that this person is just saying what every

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<v Speaker 4>single parent is thinking. I'm not at this point, yes,

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<v Speaker 4>but I know I'm going to feel the same way.

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<v Speaker 4>I barely know the answers to the questions that my

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<v Speaker 4>three year old ask me now, like why does it

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<v Speaker 4>take the fans so long to stop spinning?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, darling, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 5>The Newton law of physics.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, I'll send it to you next time. Then

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<v Speaker 4>what do the powerpoles do? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>I never give her a proper answer. I just kind

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<v Speaker 1>of make up.

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<v Speaker 3>That's fine, cause remember we've talked about this before for

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<v Speaker 3>before five no core memories.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, okay, So I can just lie absolutely now until

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<v Speaker 4>she's five.

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<v Speaker 5>I love that. For me, it's fine.

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, I think this person's just saying what we

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<v Speaker 4>all think. Like they're going to school. There are trained

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<v Speaker 4>professionals who are teaching them this stuff. They are much

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<v Speaker 4>better at it than us. That's why we are not teachers.

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<v Speaker 3>No, And when in doubt, as Siri, yep, what are

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<v Speaker 3>we rating it? I don't even think it's a confession.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's just a chat yep, that I would

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<v Speaker 3>have with you with any other friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Ye.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you deducting points for this? Or are you

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<v Speaker 1>adding points for this?

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<v Speaker 3>Add points to it because not many people would admit

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<v Speaker 3>to it. Yeah, yeah, but it's what we're all thinking

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<v Speaker 3>and saying. So I'm going to give this eight series

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<v Speaker 3>out of ten.

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<v Speaker 1>Love that.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just going to go rogue and instead of going

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<v Speaker 4>with the point system, go with the grading system. Ah good,

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<v Speaker 4>And she gets an AS.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, which is really good. That is really good.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. So this one says.

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<v Speaker 4>I love being divorced because every second weekend.

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<v Speaker 5>Relatable on ground from me.

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<v Speaker 4>I love being divorced because every second weekend I get

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<v Speaker 4>time to myself and away from the kids. Don't get

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<v Speaker 4>me wrong, I adore my children. But the forty eight

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<v Speaker 4>hour window of peace is like a mini vacation. I

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<v Speaker 4>can actually finish a cup of coffee while it's still hot,

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<v Speaker 4>or binge watch something that isn't animated. The guilt creeps

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<v Speaker 4>in sometimes, but then I remember the chaos that awaits

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<v Speaker 4>on Monday morning. Honestly, those weekends might just be saving

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<v Speaker 4>my sanity.

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<v Speaker 5>Aligned to proof.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, this one isn't from me, because I actually have

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<v Speaker 3>fifty to fifty custodys, So I.

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<v Speaker 5>Don't say breaks another confession. No, I have more breaks

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<v Speaker 5>than this person.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, forty eight hours is the perfect break.

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<v Speaker 5>There's two chunks. I get.

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<v Speaker 3>One of them is forty eight hours, and then I

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<v Speaker 3>get them back again, and then the next chunk is

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<v Speaker 3>I would say it's too long. It's the five nights,

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<v Speaker 3>six days, and I'm at the very end of that.

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<v Speaker 3>This is my last day today. I do miss them

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<v Speaker 3>after that giant stretch. Sure, it's a lot, but the

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<v Speaker 3>forty eight hours is a refreshing reprieve.

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<v Speaker 5>She gets half her life back.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, you said, I looked like I'd had work

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<v Speaker 4>done when I came back from one weekend away from

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<v Speaker 4>my child.

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<v Speaker 3>So I thought well, she's jumped on the bowie train.

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<v Speaker 3>She's glowy and fresh, and yeah, this is.

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<v Speaker 4>Why you look younger than meat even though you're older

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<v Speaker 4>than meat, because you get weekends alone sometimes.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>This is why I figured it out.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I need to chat to my husband, and I think, Look,

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<v Speaker 4>it's natural to feel guilt because we do feel like

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<v Speaker 4>we want to be around our kids all the time,

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<v Speaker 4>but now so drive us nuts. So it's fine to

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<v Speaker 4>have your time alone. I think i'd go as far

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<v Speaker 4>as to say, you're probably the envy of a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of your friends that you get a little bit of

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<v Speaker 4>that regular me time, and you probably go back in

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<v Speaker 4>as a lot better mum because you've had a little

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<v Speaker 4>bit of time out.

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<v Speaker 5>You do, you have way more patience.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so what are we rading this one?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh? I mean, she's just on brand.

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<v Speaker 3>She's great, she's in her glow up era, she's loving life,

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<v Speaker 3>and she's relatable. And I'm going to give her nine

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<v Speaker 3>stilettos out of ten.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm giving her ten weekends away out of ten.

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<v Speaker 4>Love it for her.

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<v Speaker 5>Good on you, all right, let's bring it home space.

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<v Speaker 3>Confession number three toy homicide. I accidentally drove over my

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<v Speaker 3>toddler's beloved scooter, and I'm still hoping he won't notice.

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<v Speaker 3>I've stashed the mangled remains in the garage and will

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<v Speaker 3>put it in the red bin on bin night when

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<v Speaker 3>he is asleep.

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<v Speaker 5>He seems to be obsessed with.

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<v Speaker 3>Another toy at the moment, so I hope he doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>remember how he loved the scooter. If he asks, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>totally blaming my partner. Don't even care. Okay, bit to unpack.

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<v Speaker 5>M red bin. Would we recycle?

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<v Speaker 3>That's probably the most pressing matter.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that's the most important? Can we recycle

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<v Speaker 1>the scooter?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay? So I don't think so, all right, putting that

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<v Speaker 5>to the side.

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<v Speaker 3>I think the toddler will notice at some point scooter's

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<v Speaker 3>a pretty big thing in their day, Like let's go

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<v Speaker 3>to the park.

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<v Speaker 5>I want to scoot there.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but they're little goldfish at this age. Like, honestly,

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<v Speaker 4>my daughter will be gone to get a teddy and

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<v Speaker 4>come back later with ten different items that were nothing

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<v Speaker 4>to do with what she was getting at the first time.

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<v Speaker 5>Scooter is a mode of transport.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, true, true, it's quite a big item, but you

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<v Speaker 4>know what she giveth. She can take it away, like

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<v Speaker 4>she probably bought that scooter with her money.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, she can say it's gone. Now we're moving on

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<v Speaker 1>to the next thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I love as well, the pre planned lie, like you

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<v Speaker 3>could just pretend you don't know where it is, but

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<v Speaker 3>there's actually pre meditated lying and blaming of the partner.

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<v Speaker 5>That's quite intense.

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<v Speaker 4>She could even do one of those chalk outlines on it,

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<v Speaker 4>like a dead body on the driveway.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a scooter. Yeah, the last place that was seeing

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<v Speaker 1>daddy did this.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe she should write a confession in his handwrite it

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<v Speaker 4>coerce a confession out of him.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I think out of the three that we've heard today,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like this is the best worst.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, definitely, because.

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<v Speaker 3>You've completely murdered one of the favorite toys, which we've

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<v Speaker 3>discussed is a mode of transport and something that they

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<v Speaker 3>probably won't forget about, like a little toy car that

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<v Speaker 3>you push along with your hand. This is a mode

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<v Speaker 3>of transport. I think this is the best worst one

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<v Speaker 3>because there's also a premeditated lie ready to go where

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<v Speaker 3>we're blaming the child's are the parent.

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<v Speaker 4>I want details of how she's blaming him, Like is

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<v Speaker 4>she going to say he run it over intentionally, or

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<v Speaker 4>is she going to come up with another way that

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<v Speaker 4>the scooter disappeared, dropped from the sky. The possibilities endless.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like she should be more creative here. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't think she needs to blame the partner. I think

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<v Speaker 4>she can come up with some other way that it disappeared.

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<v Speaker 4>Blame it on him, toddler, don't remember, I won't traumatize him.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, but that's why I think this is the best.

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<v Speaker 3>Worst part is blaming the other parent. Yeah, okay, all right,

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<v Speaker 3>let's let's play this out.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, how would this go down?

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<v Speaker 3>So if you're the toddler yep, and I am the

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<v Speaker 3>murdering scooter parent.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, how would the conversation go?

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<v Speaker 1>In a pepper big voice, Mummy, where's my scooter?

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<v Speaker 3>Unfortunately, I've got some bad news. You need to come

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<v Speaker 3>and sit down because your dad murdered your scooter. It

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<v Speaker 3>was on purpose, it was intentional. He didn't like the

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<v Speaker 3>schoo In fact, I'm not sure if he even likes you,

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<v Speaker 3>and so we've got no one to blame but dad

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<v Speaker 3>on this. It's got nothing to do with me. You

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<v Speaker 3>can go and see your dead mangled scooter. It's in

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<v Speaker 3>the garage, and it's got chalk outlining it like a

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<v Speaker 3>murdered body.

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<v Speaker 1>And assigned confession next to it from your dad.

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<v Speaker 5>From your dad. Rip.

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<v Speaker 4>Look, I think he's thrown in a bit of unnecessary drama.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe using the word murdered. It's not a great idea

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<v Speaker 1>to explain it.

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<v Speaker 5>To the toddler.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, but because we set it up the actually, because

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<v Speaker 3>we set up like a true crime. So that's where

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<v Speaker 3>I went, murdered scooter.

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<v Speaker 1>Case closed the end. Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>So now that you've suggested that we tell the toddler

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<v Speaker 4>that the scooter was murdered by the toddler's father, yes,

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<v Speaker 4>and created a rift in the family and a crime scene,

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like we should role play my tactic, which

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<v Speaker 4>is blaming it on the toddler.

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<v Speaker 3>Gaslighting, gas lighting the toddler a much more whole Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I'll be the toddlers. Okay, Okay, Mummy, where's my scooter?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know why that the todd has become a

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<v Speaker 3>little chav but a bit more company than.

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<v Speaker 5>Mummy. Where's my scooter? Where's my scooter?

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<v Speaker 1>What scooter?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh? Like, there's the scooter, the red scooter. I used yesterday.

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<v Speaker 4>You have so many toys and belongings that it's hard

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<v Speaker 4>for me to keep track of all the things you have.

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<v Speaker 1>You're so lucky. Look at all the other things you

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<v Speaker 1>have to play with.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, I want the scooter, okay, But if you're insisting

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<v Speaker 3>on the scooter, you think you left it in the garage.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that where you think you left it, Darling.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a toddler. I don't have memory recalled. But I

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<v Speaker 3>just want my scooter.

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<v Speaker 4>I think you left it in the garage. So why

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<v Speaker 4>don't we just go out there and have a look

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<v Speaker 4>and see if we can find it. Okay, so let's

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<v Speaker 4>go out there. Cut scene, Peter Patter. I probably had

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<v Speaker 4>to carry you because you've tracked a tantrum mid mid

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<v Speaker 4>journey to the garage.

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<v Speaker 3>As you'll see, no scooter. I definitely have a scooter

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<v Speaker 3>and I want to use it now.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, honey, you probably imagined that you had a scooter.

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<v Speaker 4>You know how you imagine the monsters under your bed,

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<v Speaker 4>You imagine that they'll come to get you. I think

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<v Speaker 4>you've imagined the scooter.

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<v Speaker 1>But look, if you're really, really.

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<v Speaker 4>Good for the rest of the year, Santa might bring

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<v Speaker 4>you a scooter and then you'll have a.

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<v Speaker 1>Scooter to blame you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yours is better because I do. I feel ghasly,

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<v Speaker 3>like I literally just I wasn't sure.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel crazy.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, okay, gaslighting works.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, sadly.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that the murdering excuse was actually less traumatizing

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<v Speaker 3>than ghasoline. Yeah, more honest, except for the blaming of

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<v Speaker 3>the day added lie, which we agree.

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<v Speaker 5>Was amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Giving this one.

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<v Speaker 3>I think this one is getting. It's my highest squad.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the worst.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the best. Worst of the.

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<v Speaker 3>Day because of the blaming of the other parent is

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<v Speaker 3>so weird. But I'm here for it. I admire it,

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<v Speaker 3>and for that, I'm going to go ten murdered scooters

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<v Speaker 3>out of ten.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to go ten Dundun's out of ten. So

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<v Speaker 4>if you've got a confession, we would love to hear it.

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<v Speaker 4>Please send us your secret shame. All the details are

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<v Speaker 4>in the show notes.

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