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Speaker 2: Mumma Mea acknowledges the traditional owners of the land. We

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Speaker 3: Hi, it's Anal's Todd here from this Glorious Mess, introducing

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Speaker 3: hot Pod Summer, one hundred hours of curated listening across

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Speaker 3: the Mummamere network, just for you to escape the chaos

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Speaker 3: and enjoy with the kids at home and the weather

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Speaker 3: warming up. We've got episodes of Parents Anonymous to share.

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Speaker 3: Parents Anonymous is part game show, part church confessional. You

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Speaker 3: share your deepest parenting shame and myself and Stacey Hicks

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Speaker 3: rate you, but the worst parenting wins the most points,

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Speaker 3: so really you can't lose. And if you want more,

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Speaker 3: there's a link in the show. Enjoy Parents Anonymous. Welcome

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Speaker 3: to this Glorious Mess. I'm Analyst Todd, single parent to

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Speaker 3: two tween aged sons, and despite the busy schedule, I

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Speaker 3: still managed to prioritize and fit in impromptu dance sessions

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Speaker 3: around the living room I love.

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Speaker 1: That for you. And I'm Stacey Hicks.

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Speaker 4: I'm the deputy editor at MMA MIA and the mum

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Speaker 4: of a three year old girl who looks exactly like

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Speaker 5: Which is just rude the worst when that happened.

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Speaker 4: But she has inherited my daggy dance moves and insane

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Speaker 4: clumsiness from me, so Apple doesn't for far.

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Speaker 5: Good luck to her.

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Speaker 3: Yes, So welcome back to Parents Anonymous.

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Speaker 4: Yes, so you know the deal by now, but just

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Speaker 4: in case you've somehow found yourself here for the first

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Speaker 4: time and I am wondering what exactly is going on.

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Speaker 4: Parents Anonymous is part church confessional, part game show where

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Speaker 4: you tell us your confessions and get the guilt of

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Speaker 4: very serious grading system.

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Speaker 3: Some would say, yes, we do like to kick off

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Speaker 3: with a little confession of our own, because it would

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Speaker 3: one of our own. Yeah, coming up, my sons have

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Speaker 3: a dance recital like an official. The school is making

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Speaker 3: them do it. This is not something voluntary. They have

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Speaker 5: Wouldn't do it.

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Speaker 3: And I am more invested and excited about this than

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Speaker 3: any other extracurricular sporting achievement that they've ever done in

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Speaker 4: I'm a dance mom, Jenna of this place, so of

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Speaker 4: course you are excited.

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Speaker 5: I'm a dance mom.

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Speaker 3: Finally, after nine and twelve years of raising sons, I

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, I actually think that that's great. There's nothing

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Speaker 5: Yeah, unpaired, that's what I mean.

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Speaker 3: Because the confession is because the anting is more about

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Speaker 1: Well, they need to learn to give back to their mum.

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Speaker 5: Well, yeah, it is about me. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So look, I think that's great. I think you get

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Speaker 4: now I'll confess mine. Okay, So my daughter three learning

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Speaker 4: With training wheels, yeah, just a pedal on a bike,

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Speaker 1: And that's how she's pattle on a bike.

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Speaker 1: While I said on my phone, it's heaven. Oh that's brilliant,

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Speaker 3: It doesn't exist without your guilty confessions, Like we love

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Speaker 3: hearing them from you. It is our source of joy.

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Speaker 3: It is in our other very bleak world that we

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Speaker 3: You can completely stay anonymous. Yeah, we'll read out the

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Speaker 3: confessions for you. No one will ever know. It cannot

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Speaker 3: be traced back to you and all of the anonymous and.

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Speaker 1: You're trying really hard not to say the word is I.

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Speaker 3: Still can't say anonymity. All of the confession options are

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Speaker 4: Yes, and Analys and I have both submitted anonymous confessions

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Speaker 4: before to test the theory and haven't known that the

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Speaker 1: So and it works, we promise it does.

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Speaker 4: And on today's show, our mystery confessions are called homework

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Speaker 4: only punishes parents, divorce, celebration, relater toy homicide.

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Speaker 1: I love that one. It's very law in order.

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Speaker 3: As for you, confession number one, I am going to

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Speaker 3: read out on behalf of our anonymous person. I wish

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Speaker 3: schools didn't give homework because it's actually just yet.

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Speaker 5: Another job for parents.

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Speaker 3: Maybe some parents like that time with their child, but

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Speaker 3: Can't they do homework in class and just call it work?

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Speaker 3: I would just like to say that my children are

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Speaker 5: Drink.

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Speaker 1: Can I enroll my daughter at your children's school immediately.

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Speaker 5: It is beyond me.

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Speaker 3: Here, I don't think that we are meant to help

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Speaker 3: it themselves or ask Siri, ask chat GBT. There are

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Speaker 4: So you're just removing yourself from the homework scenario entirely,

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Speaker 4: I like it. Well that's going to be my strategy too. Look,

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Speaker 4: I think that this person is just saying what every

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Speaker 1: I don't know, darling, I'm not.

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Speaker 5: The Newton law of physics.

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Speaker 4: All right, I'll send it to you next time. Then

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Speaker 1: I never give her a proper answer. I just kind

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I think this person's just saying what we

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Speaker 3: No, And when in doubt, as Siri, yep, what are

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Speaker 4: I love being divorced because every second weekend I get

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Speaker 4: me wrong, I adore my children. But the forty eight

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Speaker 5: Aligned to proof.

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Speaker 3: Now, this one isn't from me, because I actually have

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Speaker 5: Don't say breaks another confession. No, I have more breaks

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, forty eight hours is the perfect break.

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Speaker 5: There's two chunks. I get.

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Speaker 3: One of them is forty eight hours, and then I

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Speaker 3: I would say it's too long. It's the five nights,

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Speaker 3: This is my last day today. I do miss them

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Speaker 5: She gets half her life back.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you said, I looked like I'd had work

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Speaker 3: So I thought well, she's jumped on the bowie train.

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Speaker 3: She's glowy and fresh, and yeah, this is.

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Speaker 4: Why you look younger than meat even though you're older

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Speaker 5: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: This is why I figured it out.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I need to chat to my husband, and I think, Look,

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Speaker 4: it's natural to feel guilt because we do feel like

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Speaker 5: You do, you have way more patience.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so what are we rading this one?

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Speaker 5: Oh? I mean, she's just on brand.

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Speaker 3: She's great, she's in her glow up era, she's loving life,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm giving her ten weekends away out of ten.

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Speaker 4: Love it for her.

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Speaker 5: Good on you, all right, let's bring it home space.

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Speaker 3: Confession number three toy homicide. I accidentally drove over my

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Speaker 3: toddler's beloved scooter, and I'm still hoping he won't notice.

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Speaker 3: I've stashed the mangled remains in the garage and will

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Speaker 3: put it in the red bin on bin night when

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Speaker 5: He seems to be obsessed with.

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Speaker 3: Another toy at the moment, so I hope he doesn't

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Speaker 3: remember how he loved the scooter. If he asks, I'm

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Speaker 5: M red bin. Would we recycle?

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Speaker 3: That's probably the most pressing matter.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that's the most important? Can we recycle

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Speaker 5: Okay? So I don't think so, all right, putting that

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Speaker 3: I think the toddler will notice at some point scooter's

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Speaker 5: I want to scoot there.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but they're little goldfish at this age. Like, honestly,

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Speaker 4: come back later with ten different items that were nothing

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Speaker 5: Scooter is a mode of transport.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, true, true, it's quite a big item, but you

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Speaker 4: she probably bought that scooter with her money.

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Speaker 1: Yes, she can say it's gone. Now we're moving on

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Speaker 3: I love as well, the pre planned lie, like you

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Speaker 3: could just pretend you don't know where it is, but

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Speaker 3: there's actually pre meditated lying and blaming of the partner.

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Speaker 5: That's quite intense.

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Speaker 4: She could even do one of those chalk outlines on it,

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Speaker 1: It's a scooter. Yeah, the last place that was seeing

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Speaker 1: daddy did this.

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Speaker 4: Maybe she should write a confession in his handwrite it

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Speaker 4: coerce a confession out of him.

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Speaker 3: Well, I think out of the three that we've heard today,

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, definitely, because.

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Speaker 3: You've completely murdered one of the favorite toys, which we've

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Speaker 3: because there's also a premeditated lie ready to go where

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Speaker 3: we're blaming the child's are the parent.

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Speaker 4: I want details of how she's blaming him, Like is

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Speaker 4: is she going to come up with another way that

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Speaker 4: the scooter disappeared, dropped from the sky. The possibilities endless.

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Speaker 4: I feel like she should be more creative here. I

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Speaker 4: Blame it on him, toddler, don't remember, I won't traumatize him.

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Speaker 3: Yes, but that's why I think this is the best.

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Speaker 3: Worst part is blaming the other parent. Yeah, okay, all right,

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Speaker 3: let's let's play this out.

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Speaker 5: Okay, how would this go down?

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Speaker 3: So if you're the toddler yep, and I am the

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Speaker 3: murdering scooter parent.

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Speaker 5: Okay, how would the conversation go?

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Speaker 1: In a pepper big voice, Mummy, where's my scooter?

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Speaker 3: Unfortunately, I've got some bad news. You need to come

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Speaker 3: schoo In fact, I'm not sure if he even likes you,

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Speaker 3: and so we've got no one to blame but dad

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Speaker 3: on this. It's got nothing to do with me. You

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Speaker 3: can go and see your dead mangled scooter. It's in

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Speaker 3: murdered body.

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Speaker 1: And assigned confession next to it from your dad.

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Speaker 5: From your dad. Rip.

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Speaker 4: Look, I think he's thrown in a bit of unnecessary drama.

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Speaker 1: Maybe using the word murdered. It's not a great idea

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Speaker 1: to explain it.

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Speaker 5: To the toddler.

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Speaker 3: Yes, but because we set it up the actually, because

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Speaker 3: we set up like a true crime. So that's where

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Speaker 3: I went, murdered scooter.

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Speaker 1: Case closed the end. Okay.

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Speaker 4: So now that you've suggested that we tell the toddler

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Speaker 4: and created a rift in the family and a crime scene,

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Speaker 4: I feel like we should role play my tactic, which

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Speaker 4: is blaming it on the toddler.

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Speaker 3: Gaslighting, gas lighting the toddler a much more whole Okay,

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Speaker 3: I'll be the toddlers. Okay, Okay, Mummy, where's my scooter?

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Speaker 3: I don't know why that the todd has become a

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Speaker 5: Mummy. Where's my scooter? Where's my scooter?

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Speaker 1: What scooter?

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Speaker 5: Oh? Like, there's the scooter, the red scooter. I used yesterday.

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Speaker 4: You have so many toys and belongings that it's hard

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Speaker 4: for me to keep track of all the things you have.

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Speaker 1: You're so lucky. Look at all the other things you

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Speaker 3: Now, I want the scooter, okay, But if you're insisting

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Speaker 3: on the scooter, you think you left it in the garage.

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Speaker 1: Is that where you think you left it, Darling.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm a toddler. I don't have memory recalled. But I

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Speaker 3: just want my scooter.

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Speaker 4: I think you left it in the garage. So why

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Speaker 4: don't we just go out there and have a look

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Speaker 4: and see if we can find it. Okay, so let's

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Speaker 4: go out there. Cut scene, Peter Patter. I probably had

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Speaker 4: to carry you because you've tracked a tantrum mid mid

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Speaker 3: As you'll see, no scooter. I definitely have a scooter

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Speaker 3: and I want to use it now.

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Speaker 4: Oh, honey, you probably imagined that you had a scooter.

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Speaker 4: You know how you imagine the monsters under your bed,

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Speaker 4: You imagine that they'll come to get you. I think

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Speaker 4: you've imagined the scooter.

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Speaker 1: But look, if you're really, really.

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Speaker 4: Good for the rest of the year, Santa might bring

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Speaker 4: you a scooter and then you'll have a.

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Speaker 1: Scooter to blame you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yours is better because I do. I feel ghasly,

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Speaker 3: like I literally just I wasn't sure.

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Speaker 1: I feel crazy.

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Speaker 5: Yes, okay, gaslighting works.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sadly.

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Speaker 3: I think that the murdering excuse was actually less traumatizing

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Speaker 3: than ghasoline. Yeah, more honest, except for the blaming of

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Speaker 5: Was amazing.

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Speaker 1: Giving this one.

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Speaker 3: I think this one is getting. It's my highest squad.

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Speaker 3: It's the worst.

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Speaker 1: It's the best. Worst of the.

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Speaker 3: Day because of the blaming of the other parent is

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Speaker 3: so weird. But I'm here for it. I admire it,

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Speaker 3: and for that, I'm going to go ten murdered scooters

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Speaker 4: I'm going to go ten Dundun's out of ten. So

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Speaker 4: if you've got a confession, we would love to hear it.

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Speaker 4: Please send us your secret shame. All the details are

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Speaker 4: in the show notes.

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Speaker 5: See you next time, you next time.

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