WEBVTT - The Mid-Year Reset: Hacks To Finish 2025 With A Promotion!

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to amm with mea podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello and welcome to biz your work life sorted. Last

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<v Speaker 2>week we covered the essential workplace hacks you need to

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<v Speaker 2>know for twenty twenty five. It was those foundational skills

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<v Speaker 2>to set you up for success. But now it's time

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<v Speaker 2>to level up because we all know that the second

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<v Speaker 2>half of the year is where things actually get really intense.

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<v Speaker 2>Tax time is looming, performance reviews are on the horizon,

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<v Speaker 2>and your to do list has more dues than done.

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<v Speaker 2>That is for me personally. So today we are hitting

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<v Speaker 2>you with Part two, the exact strategies you need to

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<v Speaker 2>finish twenty twenty five strong when everyone else is burning out.

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<v Speaker 2>Like always, no fluff, just practical hacks to maintain momentum

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<v Speaker 2>when your motivation has completely ghosted you. We are covering

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<v Speaker 2>how to sound more confident by simply saying less, the

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<v Speaker 2>exact phrases to shut down condoce sending colleagues without getting fired,

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<v Speaker 2>networking techniques for people who'd rather be anywhere else, and

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<v Speaker 2>why your mental strategy might need a complete overhaul. But first,

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<v Speaker 2>let's tackle the number one skill for the second half

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<v Speaker 2>of any year, how to stay motivated when motivation has

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<v Speaker 2>completely left the chat. We've all done it. Your boss

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<v Speaker 2>asks a simple question and suddenly you're delivering a ted talk,

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<v Speaker 2>complete with the backstory, three examples, and a disclaimer about

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<v Speaker 2>why your answer might be wrong. And then you see

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<v Speaker 2>their eyes glaze over and realize that you've completely lost them.

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<v Speaker 2>Over explaining is the silent killer that most of us

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<v Speaker 2>don't even realize we're doing. It's a nervous tick. The

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<v Speaker 2>next hack completely transformed how I communicated work, and it

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<v Speaker 2>all comes down to one brilliant metaphor.

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<v Speaker 1>There is one tool that I teach when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to over talking or over explaining, and it's this mindset,

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<v Speaker 1>be a waterfall, be a well. So rather than feeling

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<v Speaker 1>like they have to give you have to give all

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<v Speaker 1>the information, there's this feeling we have to give all

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<v Speaker 1>the context. What happens when we over explain. It's almost

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<v Speaker 1>the opposite effect, this idea of the more words it

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<v Speaker 1>takes to tell the truth, the more it sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>a lie. The more you explain, the longer it takes

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<v Speaker 1>you to get to the point, the more it sounds

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<v Speaker 1>like you may not know exactly what you're talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>So instead you want to think of yourself as a well.

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<v Speaker 1>That means short responses, and if somebody else has a question,

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<v Speaker 1>they will ask. I teach this to when I prepare

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<v Speaker 1>my clients through depositions and cross examinations. I say, when

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<v Speaker 1>you answer, only answer the question. Keep it short and

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<v Speaker 1>brief and sweet, because the longer your answer, I can

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<v Speaker 1>be rest assured the more questions they're going to get. So,

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<v Speaker 1>rather than being a waterfall, be a well.

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<v Speaker 3>My god, it's so true, especially when you are communicating

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<v Speaker 3>with any leaders. We feel nervous. They ask us a

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<v Speaker 3>question after our presentation and will want to talk for

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<v Speaker 3>like three paragraphs. And really they wanted like it's launching

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<v Speaker 3>in June, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know exactly, they wanted three words, that was it.

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<v Speaker 2>Less really is more when it comes to sounding like

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<v Speaker 2>you know your stuff. In a world where everyone's fighting

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<v Speaker 2>to be heard, speaking less actually gives your words more

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<v Speaker 2>weight and people instinctively trust your expertise more. This tiny

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<v Speaker 2>shift in communication style can be the difference between being

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<v Speaker 2>seen as a junior talent or leadership material. Okay, can

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<v Speaker 2>we please talk about those colleagues who speak to you

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<v Speaker 2>like you somehow miss the adult orientation day. You know

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<v Speaker 2>exactly who I mean it's that person who's just popped

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<v Speaker 2>into your head, who explains your own job to you,

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<v Speaker 2>or uses that tone that makes you want to change

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<v Speaker 2>careers just to avoid them. Being patronized at work is infuriating.

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<v Speaker 2>But before you start drafting up resignation emails, here are

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<v Speaker 2>some brilliant responses that shut it down without making you

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<v Speaker 2>the office villain.

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<v Speaker 3>Example, some things you can say is like a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of young people get patronized for being young right in

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<v Speaker 3>the workplace. So it might be like someone might say, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>because you learned that at UNI, and you can be like,

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<v Speaker 3>I did learn this at UNI, but why did you

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<v Speaker 3>say it like that? So you can just want to

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<v Speaker 3>ask them a question, and if you can get a

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<v Speaker 3>tone that is genuinely curious, like I'm genuinely curious as

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<v Speaker 3>to why you said it that way, that can be

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<v Speaker 3>really good. Then you can go a little bit stronger

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<v Speaker 3>and you can kind of give them an opportunity to

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<v Speaker 3>course correct if they maybe didn't mean it that way.

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<v Speaker 3>It sounds like your colleague did intend to be brud

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<v Speaker 3>to you, though, But you can say something like, the

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<v Speaker 3>way that you said that actually sounded a bit patronizing.

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<v Speaker 3>Is that how you meant it to sound and then

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<v Speaker 3>people might be like, oh, no, I didn't mean it

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<v Speaker 3>to sound like that. And one you've let them know that,

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<v Speaker 3>like you're onto them, even if they did mean to

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<v Speaker 3>say it like that, but it can give them an

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<v Speaker 3>opportunity course correct. And sometimes people will do that. They'll

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<v Speaker 3>kind of know when they'll stop if they keep doing it.

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<v Speaker 3>So for example, if someone's like really in the workplace,

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<v Speaker 3>patronizing you about you're so young, whatever, say they're like

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<v Speaker 3>over explaining something to you a lot, and you you

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<v Speaker 3>can kind of say, you know, it's cool. I am

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<v Speaker 3>actually pretty familiar with this topic. I'm keeping up with

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<v Speaker 3>what you're saying. You don't need to over explain it.

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<v Speaker 3>Or it might be something like, you know, I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>sure you know this, but I have actually got a

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<v Speaker 3>year of experience doing this in my previous job. Is

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<v Speaker 3>there something in the way that I'm doing it that

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<v Speaker 3>makes you think that I don't know how to do

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<v Speaker 3>it or something like that, So you can kind of

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<v Speaker 3>just like start to bring in language.

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<v Speaker 2>That's so good. I also have one that I think

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<v Speaker 2>it's a bit sneaky, but I've used it a few

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<v Speaker 2>times now and it's worked every time. If someone makes

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<v Speaker 2>a snarky comment towards you in like a big meeting

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<v Speaker 2>or with a group of people, I pretend I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>hear it, and I ask them to repeat themselves. I'm like, sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>what was that? And they never do. They always change

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<v Speaker 2>up the language. These techniques are gold professional but powerful.

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<v Speaker 2>I especially love the sorry what was that?

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<v Speaker 3>Move?

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<v Speaker 2>It forces people to either own their rudeness or backtrack completely.

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<v Speaker 2>These responses work for everyone, from man explaining colleagues to

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<v Speaker 2>condescending leaders, letting them know you won't create drama, but

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<v Speaker 2>you also won't be spoken down to. Let's talk about

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<v Speaker 2>that moment when your manager drops another quote unquote quick

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<v Speaker 2>task to your max out plate and somehow you still

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<v Speaker 2>hear yourself saying yeah, sure, no problem. We have all

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<v Speaker 2>been there. That cycle of taking too much on isn't

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<v Speaker 2>just exhausting, it's actually hurting your career. Quality always suffers

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<v Speaker 2>when quantity takes over. So how do you say no

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<v Speaker 2>without looking uncommitted? This technique completely changed how I managed

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<v Speaker 2>to workload conversations.

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<v Speaker 3>I think a lot of people think it's up to

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<v Speaker 3>my manager to prioritize my work for me, and it's

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<v Speaker 3>actually not it's everyone's responsibility to protect not just their focus,

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<v Speaker 3>but to protect the focus of their whole team by

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<v Speaker 3>pushing back and saying no. So this is sort of

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<v Speaker 3>the whole point of the thing that I'm going to

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<v Speaker 3>share with you. Let's bring it back to our gen

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<v Speaker 3>z and millennial friends listening to You're sitting there thinking, so,

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<v Speaker 3>how do I actually do less? How do I say no?

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<v Speaker 3>And how do I push back? So internalize this. People

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<v Speaker 3>are going to keep piling work on top of you

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<v Speaker 3>until you can't take it anymore. It's not that they're

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<v Speaker 3>trying to hurt you. It's just human nature. And I

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<v Speaker 3>think it is harder when you're more junior because you've

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<v Speaker 3>just got all this stuff coming down and you're not

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<v Speaker 3>in that position to sort of be pushing back in

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<v Speaker 3>and making big decisions. So learning to protect your focus

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<v Speaker 3>and push back is like top three core skills that

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<v Speaker 3>you need to learn, and it is extremely hard. But

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<v Speaker 3>come with me. I'm going to give you one really

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<v Speaker 3>simple thing that you can start doing today that's going

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<v Speaker 3>to help you. So that is saying no to your

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<v Speaker 3>manager with respect. And here's the secret. You might actually

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<v Speaker 3>be better placed to make decisions about certain things than

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<v Speaker 3>your manager, because you are closer to the work. You're

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<v Speaker 3>the person on the tools, you're the person in the details,

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<v Speaker 3>and you actually know how long things take, how much time,

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<v Speaker 3>and how much effort tasks actually take, and your manager

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't always know that. So it's not like they're trying

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<v Speaker 3>to overload you with tasks. It's just that they don't

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<v Speaker 3>have that information. So it's sort of your responsibility and

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<v Speaker 3>it's in your power to push back. But it is

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<v Speaker 3>really difficult. So you know, has this ever happened to you?

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<v Speaker 3>Your manager says this should take about twenty minutes, it

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<v Speaker 3>should be easy, right, and in your head you're thinking

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<v Speaker 3>like that actually takes two to three hours. But then

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<v Speaker 3>out loud you're like, no, worries, I can do it.

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<v Speaker 3>What you want to do instead is you want to

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<v Speaker 3>position it as a trade off. And that's the thing, right.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not like the ideas and tasking your manager is

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<v Speaker 3>giving you are bad. It's just that there's a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of other things in your plate and everything, in a

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<v Speaker 3>way is a trade off. So this script I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to share. It's from a global work expert and entrepreneur.

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<v Speaker 3>Her name is wes Ko. I don't want to give

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<v Speaker 3>her credit. She's brilliant and this is her favorite way

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<v Speaker 3>to say no to a manager. So imagine your manager

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<v Speaker 3>has just like throwed another bloody idea of task you.

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<v Speaker 3>So thanks for the idea. I've added it to my

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<v Speaker 3>list quick heads up. A task like this usually takes

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<v Speaker 3>two to three hours. We had talked about prioritizing this

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<v Speaker 3>other task because it was going to help us hit

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<v Speaker 3>this big goal of block. I can refocus on the

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<v Speaker 3>new task, but we'll probably need to make some trade offs,

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<v Speaker 3>and you drop those in, for example, some other things

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<v Speaker 3>that you're going to delay. My recommendation is that I

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<v Speaker 3>work on the new task after the other task is done.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me know if that sounds good or if you're

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<v Speaker 3>thinking about it differently. And that last point is really

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<v Speaker 3>important because you are showing respect to your manager. You

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<v Speaker 3>know more details about the time and effort, but they

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<v Speaker 3>might be more exposed to some of those conversations withining

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<v Speaker 3>your leadership or other types of priorities. So if they say, well, actually, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>I do see it differently, you do need to respect

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<v Speaker 3>them and it's a conversation, but this is a way

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<v Speaker 3>to do it that's going to make you feel good

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<v Speaker 3>and it's not going to feel like you're saying I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not going to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I love this approach. It refrains saying no, from confrontational

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<v Speaker 2>to strategic. The surprising truth is that managers respect this

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<v Speaker 2>thoughtfulness more than blind agreement, and people who master this

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<v Speaker 2>boundary setting actually gets promoted faster because they deliver excellent work,

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<v Speaker 2>not rushed work. Next up, networking for people who'd rather

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<v Speaker 2>be doing literally anything else. Okay, let's talk about networking

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<v Speaker 2>events aka my personal nightmare. For years, I used to

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<v Speaker 2>break into a cold sweat literally just receiving the calendar invite.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd end up either stuck in endless conversations with the

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<v Speaker 2>wrong people or awkwardly clutching my drink like it was

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<v Speaker 2>a life raft. But I've learned this actually a science

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<v Speaker 2>to this madness, and it all comes down to where

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<v Speaker 2>you actually physically stand in the room. So get ready,

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<v Speaker 2>grab a pen and paper, because this is a really

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<v Speaker 2>good one.

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<v Speaker 4>So if you know someone at the event, and it

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<v Speaker 4>can feel so natural to just go and seek that

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<v Speaker 4>person out and find comfort in that existing relationship, but

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<v Speaker 4>it's going to hold you back. So a good idea

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<v Speaker 4>is to if you see someone you know, be like, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>great to see you. I'm just going to go and

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<v Speaker 4>chat to this person. I'm going to come find you later,

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<v Speaker 4>and just like park those ones and give yourself the

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<v Speaker 4>best opportunity to meet new people. The third zone, and

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<v Speaker 4>this is where you want to be existing. There's two options.

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<v Speaker 4>The first one is by the bar, so she says

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<v Speaker 4>that as people are leaving the bar, they've got their drink,

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<v Speaker 4>they're feeling settled, and they're ready for a conversation, and

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<v Speaker 4>a really easy in can just be like cheers, cheer someone,

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<v Speaker 4>introduce yourself and that's a good opportunity to start a

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<v Speaker 4>conversation where you're probably both ready. The second good zone

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<v Speaker 4>to be in is near the host. So going up

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<v Speaker 4>to the host, introduce yourself, thanking them for inviting you,

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<v Speaker 4>and then you could even ask them, is there anyone

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<v Speaker 4>here that you would suggest I speak to, and then

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<v Speaker 4>maybe they can help introduce you to someone else who's

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<v Speaker 4>in a similar space to you or someone that they

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<v Speaker 4>think might be a good connection for you. But by

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<v Speaker 4>the host, they're also going to have a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>people just around them, so it's also a good zone

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<v Speaker 4>to exist in.

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<v Speaker 3>Mind blown that is epic advice.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's so simple, but for someone who's a bit scared,

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<v Speaker 4>I also feel like by the host is also a

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<v Speaker 4>nice icebreaker as well, like this is someone who's there

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<v Speaker 4>to welcome you, is going to be down for a chat.

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<v Speaker 4>But she does make a point actually like only if

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<v Speaker 4>they're looking available, like you don't want to loiter around them.

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<v Speaker 4>So yeah, by the bar or buy the host. That's

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<v Speaker 4>how you're going to nail where you stand at a

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<v Speaker 4>networking event.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it, and one super quick build. If it

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<v Speaker 3>is a sit down dinner, often the people or like

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<v Speaker 3>the two people that you're chatting to write before everyone

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<v Speaker 3>goes to sit down will be the people you end

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<v Speaker 3>up sitting with. If it's not like a named they

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<v Speaker 3>haven't decided where people are sitting, because you'll end up

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<v Speaker 3>walking sort of into the seating area with those people.

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<v Speaker 3>So very strategically, if there's a particular person that you

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<v Speaker 3>really want to sit next to at dinner, try to

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<v Speaker 3>make sure that you are talking to them or close

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<v Speaker 3>to them right before they say okay, everyone come and

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<v Speaker 3>sit down.

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<v Speaker 2>The zone strategy is brilliant, such a simple lift, but

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<v Speaker 2>it completely transforms networking from random chance to strategic connection.

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<v Speaker 2>No more hiding in the bathroom to avoid talking to people.

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<v Speaker 2>We need to talk about work mentors because I've always

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<v Speaker 2>wanted one, but I didn't know where to start or

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<v Speaker 2>where to find them. Everyone would just tell me just

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<v Speaker 2>connect with people who inspire you. As if it was

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<v Speaker 2>so easy, I'd spend literal hours crafting these lengthy, overly

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<v Speaker 2>formal emails that I'd never actually send because I'm so embarrassed.

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<v Speaker 2>But you actually don't need some perfectly polished message it

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<v Speaker 2>makes you sound impossibly impressive. You just need these five

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<v Speaker 2>honest lines.

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<v Speaker 3>Step one is to really ask yourself why am I

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<v Speaker 3>doing this? So what am I trying to get out

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<v Speaker 3>of it? And I thought it might be helpful to

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<v Speaker 3>give you a live example. So let's use the example

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<v Speaker 3>of someone who they currently work in sales and maybe

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<v Speaker 3>they want to go and work in marketing and they're

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<v Speaker 3>kind of thinking like do I do that now? Or

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<v Speaker 3>should I just say in sales a bit longer and

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<v Speaker 3>work my way out? So Step maulble one is asking yourself,

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<v Speaker 3>what am I trying to get out of it? And

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<v Speaker 3>why do I want to have these chats? Step number

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<v Speaker 3>two is to actually build yourself a short list of people.

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<v Speaker 3>So to do that, you're going to be looking at, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to pivot my career from sales to marketing.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me maybe try and find some people that have

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<v Speaker 3>done that. So you can first look at your internal network.

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<v Speaker 3>There might be people within your company that have done it.

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<v Speaker 3>You can then go and do a bunch of LinkedIn stalking,

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<v Speaker 3>so people have so much information about their careers. It's

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<v Speaker 3>actually so easy to find people who have done something

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<v Speaker 3>similar to what you're trying to do, and then also

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<v Speaker 3>just ask you around. You want to try and land

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<v Speaker 3>on three to five people who have done something similar

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<v Speaker 3>to what you're trying to do. Now on too. Step three,

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<v Speaker 3>which is the very simple five line email that you

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<v Speaker 3>were going to send them. So I wouldn't normally read

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<v Speaker 3>out an email live, but because it's so simple, actually

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<v Speaker 3>just wanted to share that with you. Now, if you're

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<v Speaker 3>up for it, love it. Let's go the five lines.

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<v Speaker 3>Line one is HI, person's name. I know you're busy

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<v Speaker 3>and you get a lot of emails. Part two you're

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<v Speaker 3>going to start with them. This is very important. So

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<v Speaker 3>you want to show I have spent time researching you,

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<v Speaker 3>I know something about you. And you're going to start

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<v Speaker 3>with them. So an example of that might be I

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<v Speaker 3>admired the way you pivoted your career from X to Y.

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<v Speaker 3>Or it might be I've been following your career for

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<v Speaker 3>a while now and I love the way you talk

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<v Speaker 3>about topic X. Part three you're going to link to

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<v Speaker 3>you and why you actually want to have that conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>So an example might be the reason I'm interested in

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<v Speaker 3>this is because I'm also trying to pivot my career

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<v Speaker 3>from sales to marketing. And you know I'm currently working

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<v Speaker 3>in this role at this company and it would really

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<v Speaker 3>help me to understand your process. Line four. It would

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<v Speaker 3>have a huge impact on my career if you're able

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<v Speaker 3>to give me twenty minutes on the phone or zoom

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<v Speaker 3>for a career chat so I can learn from your experiences.

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<v Speaker 3>And five give them an out so you say, I

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<v Speaker 3>know this is a long shot, and I understand you

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<v Speaker 3>might need to say no due to bandwidth. Even getting

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<v Speaker 3>a reply from you would make my day.

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<v Speaker 2>I love this. Networking isn't just about perfection, It's about

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<v Speaker 2>being specific and brief. I wasted years not reaching out

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<v Speaker 2>because I was terrified of rejection, when actually most people

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<v Speaker 2>are just happy to help if you make it easy

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<v Speaker 2>for them, keep it short, be genuine, and suddenly those

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<v Speaker 2>intimidating career connections actually feel possible. That is it. You

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<v Speaker 2>are now officially equipped with every workplace hack you need

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<v Speaker 2>to absolutely dominate the second half of twenty twenty five

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<v Speaker 2>while everyone else falls. Apart from pushing back on your

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<v Speaker 2>manager without getting fired to mastering the strategic networking zones,

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<v Speaker 2>You've got the complete toolkit to smash those ends of

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<v Speaker 2>your goals and glide into December as the only person

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