WEBVTT - Holding Space For My 'Wicked' Vulva

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<v Speaker 2>Mama Mia out loud. Well women are actually talking about

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<v Speaker 2>On Wednesday, the twenty seventh of November. I'm Holly Waynwright.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Meya Friedman, and I'm holding space. To my co.

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<v Speaker 3>Hosts, I'm Jesse Stevens, and I am sitting in my

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<v Speaker 3>power of defying gravity. That makes sense later I can.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell on the show Today, the world's in tears and

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<v Speaker 2>holding both space and fingernails for one movie musical? So

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<v Speaker 2>why all the big feelings about Wicked? So a woman

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<v Speaker 2>has waited six years to be able to call one

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<v Speaker 2>of the most famous men in the world her rapist,

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<v Speaker 2>but he's not going to jail, the story of Connor

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<v Speaker 2>McGregor and the Keita Hand and, in an abrupt change

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<v Speaker 2>of direction, why puffy is the adjective women are taking

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<v Speaker 2>to plastic surgeons about their labbya what the actual? But

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<v Speaker 2>first mea Friedman?

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<v Speaker 1>In case you missed it, Donald Trump has a new

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<v Speaker 1>assistant who runs behind his golf card with a portable printer,

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<v Speaker 1>shouting out positive things people have said about him on

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<v Speaker 1>social media.

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<v Speaker 2>Can I get one?

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<v Speaker 1>I've told my assistant to lift her game, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>actually quite fit, so I think she could do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to get myself a golf card. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>we find a portable printer.

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<v Speaker 3>The people you have employed over the years, you've not

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<v Speaker 3>found one person who will chase you with printed positive

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<v Speaker 3>I think they can't find any.

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<v Speaker 4>So.

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<v Speaker 1>A New York Times story this week by the impeccably

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<v Speaker 1>sourced Maggie Haberman and Jonathan Swann has reported that thirty

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<v Speaker 1>three year old Natalie Harp used to be on a

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<v Speaker 1>far right cable channel as a kind of personality. She's

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<v Speaker 1>been by his side for a while now, probably a

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<v Speaker 1>good five or six years, even when he was a

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<v Speaker 1>bit out in the wilderness before he ran for reelection

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<v Speaker 1>and won back the presidency. She has a unique role.

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<v Speaker 1>She acts as an informal information conduit to Trump. She

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<v Speaker 1>has no official title, but significant influence. This report says

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<v Speaker 1>part of her duties involved being his social media handler.

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<v Speaker 1>He's not very good with the technology, so he likes

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<v Speaker 1>everything in hard copy, which has earned her the nickname

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<v Speaker 1>among his circle of the human printer, because during the campaign,

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<v Speaker 1>colleagues literally called her this because she'd trail Trump with

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<v Speaker 1>a portable printer and a battery pack, ready to hand

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<v Speaker 1>him hard copies of information.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what she is. She's a hype girl. We

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<v Speaker 3>all have one in our hype girl in our lives.

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<v Speaker 3>You're doing great, great, Look at all the great Sweden.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't listen to those nasty people.

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<v Speaker 2>I just hate this.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a little strange, though, because there are a whole

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<v Speaker 1>lot of letters, devotional letters that she wrote him that

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<v Speaker 1>had been seen by his aides and by the New

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<v Speaker 1>York Times. That raised a few eyebrows because there were

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<v Speaker 1>lines in there like you are all that matters to me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just want to bring you joy. So a

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<v Speaker 1>few people have been a little bit unnerved about that.

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<v Speaker 1>And she also is a bit of a social media

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<v Speaker 1>chaos agent because she helps Trump post his most impulsive thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>So she'll be the one he'll go blah blah blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah, and she'll be the one that posts it

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<v Speaker 1>to true social or Twitter or wherever it goes. She

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<v Speaker 1>credited Trump with saving her life through a law called

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<v Speaker 1>the right to Try law that he enacted when he

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<v Speaker 1>was president. Last time that was about experimental drugs. She

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<v Speaker 1>said she had bone cancer, and she went on TV

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<v Speaker 1>to say Donald Trump saved my life, which is how

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<v Speaker 1>he heard about her and met her and then employed her.

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<v Speaker 1>But no one can find any details about this cancer

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<v Speaker 1>that she had or any treatment that she actually had.

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<v Speaker 3>She sounds like she's in the right job. Friends. Have

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<v Speaker 3>you been holding space for defying gravity this week?

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<v Speaker 2>It's a lot of words I don't understand.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you feeling power in that? Well? Someone who has

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<v Speaker 3>been holding space as a journalist named Tracy E. Gilchrist,

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<v Speaker 3>who recently interviewed Cynthia Arrivo and Ariana Grande, the stars

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<v Speaker 3>of the new film Wicked. This is definitely one of

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<v Speaker 3>those all or nothing stories. You either know everything about Wicked,

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<v Speaker 3>you've read the nineteen ninety five book it's based on,

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<v Speaker 3>which is a reimagining of the nineteen hundred book The

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<v Speaker 3>Wizard of Oz, which was made into a nineteen thirty

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<v Speaker 3>nine film with Judy Garland, and then Wicked became a

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<v Speaker 3>Broadway musical and now it's a number one movie in

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<v Speaker 3>the world. A bunch of you will know that.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know any of that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, a lot of people are talking about it.

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<v Speaker 2>How all is Wicked the musical?

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<v Speaker 1>The musical twenty years?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, about twenty of those. So it's been around a

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<v Speaker 2>long time, playing on Broadway, playing in the West End, playing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and it's been to Australia. I think I've seen

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<v Speaker 3>it once in Australia, but I think it's been here

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<v Speaker 3>all the months. Or you are someone who's been biting

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<v Speaker 3>your tongue for the last few weeks because you don't

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<v Speaker 3>know what an alphaba is. You don't know why everyone

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<v Speaker 3>is crying. You'd love to hold space. We all love

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<v Speaker 3>holding space, for defying gravity, but you don't know how

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<v Speaker 3>that is done.

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<v Speaker 1>What space should I hold?

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly? The space? And what is defining gravity? The press

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<v Speaker 3>tour for Wicked has captured worldwide attention, and I've been

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<v Speaker 3>theorizing that this signals the end of cynicism and a

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<v Speaker 3>new dawn of total earnestness. But the press tour reached

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<v Speaker 3>peak press tour with this exchange, and I'd like you

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<v Speaker 3>to both help me decode it. Here's what happened.

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<v Speaker 2>I've seen this week people are taking the lyrics of

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<v Speaker 2>defying gravity and really holding space with that and feeling

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<v Speaker 2>power in that.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know that that was happening. I've seen that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's really powerful.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why I wanted I don't know that was happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that the one where I've seen the meme where

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<v Speaker 1>Ariana Grande is holding Cynthia Arrivo's long fake fingernail while

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<v Speaker 1>they're talking.

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<v Speaker 3>He's just grabbing it. She's just holding clutching out for

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<v Speaker 3>safe Holly, you haven't seen the movie. What do you

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<v Speaker 3>think it means to hold space for define gravity?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't understand it, any of it. Okay, nothing, No,

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<v Speaker 2>I do. I'm being facetious because I did want to

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<v Speaker 2>understand because I've seen it everywhere, and everybody's been crying

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<v Speaker 2>a lot, including people in the Mama Mer office have

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<v Speaker 2>been crying a lot. And I don't have a connection

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<v Speaker 2>to Wicked This is the thing about musicals is you're

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<v Speaker 2>either really connected to a musical or you're not. And

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<v Speaker 2>I understand the emotional connection because I love a musical

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<v Speaker 2>and they are sentimental by nature, and they are earnest

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<v Speaker 2>by nature, because we don't really go around singing our feelings,

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<v Speaker 2>but in a musical you do, right, So I understand

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<v Speaker 2>all that, but I personally don't have a connection. But

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<v Speaker 2>when I read an interview with the journalist Tracy Ilgilchrist,

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<v Speaker 2>because my god, we've got very sort of story within

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<v Speaker 2>a story within a story. Now. She was interviewed by

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<v Speaker 2>a variety about that viral interview, and she explained that

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<v Speaker 2>it was also about the time because Trump had just won,

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<v Speaker 2>Queer people feeling very frightened of what's the head. Musical

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<v Speaker 2>theater very important in queer community, and so she wrote,

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<v Speaker 2>when Cynthia sings I'm through accepting limits, there's power in that.

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<v Speaker 2>And she's playing a character who's othered and one who

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<v Speaker 2>comes into a power when she's exiled by a charlatan

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<v Speaker 2>and a cruel leader.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's all like.

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<v Speaker 2>Being imposed on our on what's going on in the world.

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<v Speaker 2>And that made more sense to me. Is that way

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<v Speaker 2>everyone's crying.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, But the other element is that what's so funny

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<v Speaker 3>about that interview is that she basically admitted that she

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<v Speaker 3>she'dn't bungle it. But has anyone ever got halfway through

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<v Speaker 3>an interview question realize you don't know where you're going

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<v Speaker 3>and just said something that's weird and then just hoped

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<v Speaker 3>that they pick up. Yeah, that's what happened, because then Cynthia,

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<v Speaker 3>she had this amazing reaction. Gil Christ has said, I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't expect that reaction, and then she said, I've been

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<v Speaker 3>seeing a few things on social she actually did, and

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<v Speaker 3>it was just a friend of.

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<v Speaker 1>What's confusing is what she's reacting to. So let's just

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<v Speaker 1>go back a few steps for people who were like,

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<v Speaker 1>what is going on? Yeah, and why do I need

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<v Speaker 1>to care? The movie is like a prequel to the

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<v Speaker 1>Wizard of Oz, and it's about Glinda the Goodwitch and

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<v Speaker 1>Alpha bar the Wicked Witch who is green in the

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<v Speaker 1>Wizard of Oz movie, and it's their origin story.

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<v Speaker 2>And so the Wicked Witch in the Wizard of Oz,

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<v Speaker 2>the one that I was really scared of as a kid,

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<v Speaker 2>is Alpha Bay.

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<v Speaker 3>And so what the person did this is a fun fact.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like Darth Vader.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like how Alphaba went evil?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, So the person who wrote the book in

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<v Speaker 3>nineteen ninety five, he was very influenced by the James

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<v Speaker 3>Bolger case in the UK, which was this horrific case

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<v Speaker 3>where two boys took a little boy and killed him,

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<v Speaker 3>and that made him question nature versus nurture and the

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<v Speaker 3>origins of evil. And so he took Alphaba, who was

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<v Speaker 3>seen as this wicked witch, and went, what would happen

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<v Speaker 3>if we reappraise this character? We made her the central

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<v Speaker 3>character and looked at was it a self fulfilling prophecy?

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<v Speaker 3>Calling her evil from the beginning? And that's what Wicked

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<v Speaker 3>is all about.

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<v Speaker 1>So Ariana Grande, of course, is the world famous pop star.

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<v Speaker 1>Cynthia Arrivo is a Tony Award winning, Grammy Award winning

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<v Speaker 1>Musical theater recording artist, actor, but less known. And this

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<v Speaker 1>movie has been in development for a really long time.

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<v Speaker 1>Took them two years to film because they filmed part

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<v Speaker 1>one and part two. So the movie that's out now

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<v Speaker 1>is just part one.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's three hours long.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and part two comes out next November. An we'll

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<v Speaker 1>have another tool now. Jesse and I went to see

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<v Speaker 1>it I knew nothing about Wicked, like really nothing, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm always interested in hype, and I wanted to understand hype.

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<v Speaker 1>So Jesse and Claire took their cousin Simon to see it.

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<v Speaker 1>I went with Coco, my daughter, who was seeing it

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<v Speaker 1>for the second time. She's a massive Wicked fan, so

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<v Speaker 1>she was one of those people who had felt very emotional.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to look at my phone a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>and go outside and maybe get some snacks. She kept

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<v Speaker 1>getting cross with me when I would do.

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<v Speaker 3>Two hours in, we had to leave and get a.

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<v Speaker 1>Snatch a memory of text Holly saying we're still here.

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<v Speaker 2>I went to bed and he was still there.

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<v Speaker 1>Was long and what's happened is the sort of there's

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<v Speaker 1>a whole lot of gossip around the making of the

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<v Speaker 1>movie because that was when Ariana Grandez. It took them

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<v Speaker 1>two years, but arian and Grande's marriage broke down. She

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<v Speaker 1>then started a relationship with one of her co stars

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<v Speaker 1>in the film, Ethan Slater, who plays back from munchkin Land,

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<v Speaker 1>And that wasn't expected. And he was married at the

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<v Speaker 1>time and he had a child, or he'd previously separated

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<v Speaker 1>from his wife and he had a child, so that

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of a whole drama. But the press, too, interestingly,

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't been about any of that. It's been very much

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<v Speaker 1>about the friendship between Ariana and Cynthia. And as you say, Jesse,

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<v Speaker 1>what struck me is the earnestness, the earnestness of the fans,

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<v Speaker 1>the earnestness of the actors, the earnestness of this journalists

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<v Speaker 1>who were usually cynical, and everybody crying and it's easy

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<v Speaker 1>to kind of mock that, but one of the people

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<v Speaker 1>who was crying was our head of entertainment here at

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<v Speaker 1>Mamma Mia, Laura Nick, who hosts our podcast, The Spill,

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<v Speaker 1>and I actually wanted her to explain why she was crying.

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<v Speaker 3>I needed that, like the tears explained, because everyone said

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<v Speaker 3>there was a scene that was making them cry, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't have a heart. So I walked out, going

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<v Speaker 3>what scene now?

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to make fun of people exactly

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<v Speaker 1>loved it. I just want to understand it. So dragged

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<v Speaker 1>her into the studio after she dried her eyes and

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<v Speaker 1>we just had a little chat about it so she

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<v Speaker 1>could explain. And here's a bit of our conversation.

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<v Speaker 5>As the Wizard and I which is so early in

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<v Speaker 5>the musical came on. I just felt uncontrollable. Sobs start

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<v Speaker 5>in my body, like not a pretty cry, like a

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<v Speaker 5>one tier, but like your whole net goes round, your

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<v Speaker 5>face goes red. And I continued for the two hour

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<v Speaker 5>and forty minutes of the rest of the movie.

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<v Speaker 1>And what were you crying about?

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<v Speaker 5>This is the thing. It's not the movie itself, although

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<v Speaker 5>that's really beautiful, but it's the history of it, I think,

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<v Speaker 5>is why people are getting so emotional.

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<v Speaker 1>History isn't that long. It's not like it's from.

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<v Speaker 5>Twenty years that's more than half my life.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it is a long time for you. What

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<v Speaker 1>is it about the history that feels like it's some

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<v Speaker 1>triumph over adversity. Isn't it just a movie that's been

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<v Speaker 1>in development for a really long time. And no, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not the.

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<v Speaker 5>Movie that people are crying over. I'm sure some people are.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not the kind of person who cries in a

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<v Speaker 5>movie because you've only spent a few hours with the characters,

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<v Speaker 5>and while it can be a bit emotional, you get

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<v Speaker 5>like a bit of a tear in the eye. I

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<v Speaker 5>think that sobbing has to come from years of build up,

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<v Speaker 5>and so it's actually from the stage show and people

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<v Speaker 5>remembering the first time they saw it, or the first

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<v Speaker 5>time they travel to see it with family, or playing

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<v Speaker 5>the soundtrack three moments of their life. Like, that's what

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<v Speaker 5>it is for me. When I had my first job

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<v Speaker 5>and I was earning no money, I use pretty much

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<v Speaker 5>my entire paycheck to fly to Melbourne to see Wicked

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<v Speaker 5>on stage for the first time, and I had no

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<v Speaker 5>money for the rest of the month, and I had

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<v Speaker 5>to steal a piece of bread from the newspaper I

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<v Speaker 5>was working at every day to toast on the way home.

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<v Speaker 5>But like, no regrets because that was such an incredible experience.

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<v Speaker 1>There are lots of musicals around though I saw La

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<v Speaker 1>Mis when I was young. I saw Rent. I love

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<v Speaker 1>a musical, But like when I saw the movie of Lems,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't sam uncontrollably well.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I think that's between you and your musical.

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<v Speaker 4>God.

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<v Speaker 5>Everyone has a different emotional reaction to something, but I

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<v Speaker 5>think with Wicked there's a few different layers there. One

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<v Speaker 5>is that the story is so good, and I think

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<v Speaker 5>people really relate to that. It is mea don't pull

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<v Speaker 5>that through.

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<v Speaker 1>What's so good about it? Though?

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<v Speaker 5>It's a story I think that centers a really complex

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<v Speaker 5>female friendship in a way that we really don't see,

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<v Speaker 5>not in theater, but also rarely in movies and TV shows.

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<v Speaker 5>Also the love story that kind of unexpected enemies to lovers.

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<v Speaker 5>And also Alphabet is just a character that I think

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<v Speaker 5>so many people relate to because she is such an outsider.

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<v Speaker 5>She is green, but more so than that, she is

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<v Speaker 5>an outsider, she's an underdog. And she doesn't have a

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<v Speaker 5>makeover and become a different person. She just becomes a

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<v Speaker 5>hero from a different way. I understand how it becomes

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<v Speaker 5>more witchy. Yes, well, she becomes a like a champion

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<v Speaker 5>for the people. But all that's making it sound so worthy,

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<v Speaker 5>I think like in a way that you feel writing

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<v Speaker 5>an essay about why you would like Wicked. But I

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<v Speaker 5>think most people who love it don't love it because

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<v Speaker 5>of that. They love it because of the story and

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<v Speaker 5>the characters. And it's one of the rare musicals where

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<v Speaker 5>you could take the song which I wouldn't recommend because

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<v Speaker 5>the songs are amazing, but it stands alone without the songs.

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<v Speaker 5>It's about the characters.

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<v Speaker 2>I totally get all that right. I do cry when

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<v Speaker 2>I watch le Mith. Oh, I cry when I watch Hamilton.

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<v Speaker 2>Think about all the people you know who have like

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<v Speaker 2>outsize connections to kind of Disney musical songs and stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a marriage of nostalgia and the sort of bold

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<v Speaker 2>strokes storytelling that you get in musicals, like very simplistic

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<v Speaker 2>good bad. How to push emotional buttons with sounds and

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<v Speaker 2>songs and lyrics totally makes sense. And you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>was thinking about because, as I said before, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>have an emotional connection to Wicked, because I just don't

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<v Speaker 2>have one. But if they made a live action version

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<v Speaker 2>of Hamilton, which I've seen a million times. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I've listened to Hamilton in the Car a million times.

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<v Speaker 2>I've watched the live show a million times. If they

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<v Speaker 2>dramatized it into a seven hour movie experience, I would

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<v Speaker 2>be deeply invested. Who's going to play Angelica, Who's going

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<v Speaker 2>to play Lafayette? I would be deeply into it, And

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<v Speaker 2>I'd cry when they sang burn and I would be

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<v Speaker 2>a million times you've.

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<v Speaker 3>Been looking for the Easter eggs, which is the other

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<v Speaker 3>element of this is the way you can watch it.

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<v Speaker 3>Depending on your level of investment in Wicked. Law is variable.

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<v Speaker 3>But the other reason I think this is different is

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<v Speaker 3>because of what it says about bullying, an ostracization, like

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<v Speaker 3>good story, if you've ever felt ostracized, if you've ever

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<v Speaker 3>felt like you look different or you're marginalized, like an outsider.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is what that journalist was saying about. Yeah, everybody's

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<v Speaker 2>laughing about holding space for defying gravity, but in a

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<v Speaker 2>moment where you feel like being an outsider is very

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<v Speaker 2>much a dangerous place to be, this feels validating.

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly, And to have someone extend their hand to you

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<v Speaker 3>who does have some sort of social currency can feel

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<v Speaker 3>life changing, like it made me feel like a girl.

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<v Speaker 2>The cynic in me, though, does want to know how

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<v Speaker 2>you take a two hour stage musical and turn it

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<v Speaker 2>into a two part three hour even a time that

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<v Speaker 2>goes on over two years, because the cynic in me says,

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<v Speaker 2>for one very simple reason, yes, to make lots and

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<v Speaker 2>lots and lots and lots of money.

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<v Speaker 3>So the thing that I compared this to when Claara

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<v Speaker 3>and I walked out was Harry Potter. So Harry Potter,

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<v Speaker 3>remember the last movie they split it into two Harry

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<v Speaker 3>Potter fans were satisfied by that and wicked fans will

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<v Speaker 3>be satisfied by this. It felt very Harry Potter in

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<v Speaker 3>the development of the world. This adds more than what

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<v Speaker 3>the stage production does because the book is long, there

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<v Speaker 3>are so many threads, and it goes into the background

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<v Speaker 3>of Alpheber's life and pads it out more so imagine

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<v Speaker 3>watching a Hamilton musical, but it gives you more like

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<v Speaker 3>it's something that you know, adds extra.

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<v Speaker 2>Scenes, and it's got more backstory for certain characters. But

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<v Speaker 2>I really admired the commitment of the press tour. I

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<v Speaker 2>admired the fact that they were always apparently addressed in character. Yep,

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<v Speaker 2>they pretty much stayed in character it appeared, and they

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<v Speaker 2>were deeply invested in the experience in a way that

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<v Speaker 2>I understand if you spent like five years of your

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<v Speaker 2>life rehearsing, filming making the thing, you'd want to hope

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<v Speaker 2>that shit.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm in awe of how it's worked because this might

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<v Speaker 3>look on paper like a sure thing, but the success

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<v Speaker 3>of Wicked was not a sure thing. Remember Cats. It

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<v Speaker 3>was also by Universe Musicals, a cotal flop. I think

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<v Speaker 3>West Side Story didn't do what they wanted it to do.

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<v Speaker 3>This had an enormous budget, it needed to work, and

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<v Speaker 3>I reckon, you know, they've sat in a room and gone,

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<v Speaker 3>how can we make this go viral? And the press tour,

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<v Speaker 3>I think that that's contributed enormously to the success.

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<v Speaker 2>They've been working hard for their money, because my god,

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<v Speaker 2>that tour feels like it's been going on for six months.

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<v Speaker 1>There are two things that I took away from it.

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<v Speaker 1>The first is that we always laugh at things that

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<v Speaker 1>women and girls enjoy. We always mock them, we always

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<v Speaker 1>deride them, whether it's you know, fandom and people who

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<v Speaker 1>go to concerts, whether they were screaming for the Beatles

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<v Speaker 1>or crying about Taylor Swift or one direction. And the

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<v Speaker 1>other thing is it's made me see how the downside

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<v Speaker 1>of it is calling it earnestness, but you could also

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<v Speaker 1>say it's genuine. It's not cynical. It's like people are

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<v Speaker 1>just not going and trying to be clever and they're

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<v Speaker 1>not trying to be Oh yeah, it was a movie

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<v Speaker 1>and it was this and blah blah. It was like

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<v Speaker 1>everyone's like, no, I loved this, I loved making this,

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<v Speaker 1>and people are like I loved watching this. I love this,

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<v Speaker 1>And there's no satire or wink or wanting to be cool,

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<v Speaker 1>like there's no cool girl about it at all.

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<v Speaker 3>I like that, Yeah, yeah, very you know what it is.

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<v Speaker 3>It's also the full embrace of the theater kid. It's

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<v Speaker 3>like the theater kid has felt marginalized and ostracized. And

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<v Speaker 3>I think this is why it struck such a chord

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<v Speaker 3>with the queer community as well, because it's not cool

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<v Speaker 3>to try it, because it's not cool to try And

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<v Speaker 3>when you look at Cynthia and Ariana and the way

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<v Speaker 3>that they speak to people, it is so theater kid.

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<v Speaker 3>Like some of us who are not theater kids, because

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<v Speaker 3>we can't sing to save our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems silly.

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<v Speaker 3>We just go why is everyone crying? Which I think

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<v Speaker 3>is still a valid response, and that's why it does

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<v Speaker 3>feel earnest and I think I think the fan reaction

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<v Speaker 3>is genuine. I think that these two women are vaguely

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<v Speaker 3>still character I think that there is something about them

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<v Speaker 3>that works. They've seen the disaster of the It Ends

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<v Speaker 3>with Us press tour, Madam Webb was when Dakota Johnson

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<v Speaker 3>went on tour and basically admitted to hating the movie.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think they're fans. I mean, that's what's really clear.

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<v Speaker 1>And is Arianna was saying, people in my team said

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<v Speaker 1>I shouldn't have to audition because you know, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh no, you don't understand. Everyone has to audition,

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<v Speaker 1>and everyone did have to audition.

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<v Speaker 2>But she's been singing those songs since she was a child,

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<v Speaker 2>because I've seen the videos. She's literally been singing those

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<v Speaker 2>songs since she was a child. So it meant a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>So it wasn't just another gig.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah out loud as.

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<v Speaker 4>Lastly, I wanted to tank my door Freyer, who I'm

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<v Speaker 4>most grateful for. She has given me so much strength

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<v Speaker 4>and courage over the last six years throughout this nightmare

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<v Speaker 4>to keep on pushing forward for justice. I want to

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<v Speaker 4>show Freyer and every other girl I'm by that you

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<v Speaker 4>can stand up for yourself if something happens to you,

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<v Speaker 4>no matter who the person is, and justice will be served.

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<v Speaker 2>A thirty five year old Irish hairdresser speaking outside Dublin's

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<v Speaker 2>High Court after a civil case ruled that she had

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<v Speaker 2>been sexually and physically assaulted by Connor McGregor, an MMA superstar. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't know who he is, a very top

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<v Speaker 2>line view. He is a boxer and a mixed martial

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<v Speaker 2>arts fighter whose fame has reached the kind of level

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<v Speaker 2>that means he now stars in Hollywood movies. Earlier this

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<v Speaker 2>year he was in Roadhouse with Jake Chillenhall, which was

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<v Speaker 2>a remake of the classic Patrick Swayzey movie, and he

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<v Speaker 2>and Jillenhall did all the usual promotional rounds. They went

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<v Speaker 2>on big note podcasts like Armchair Expert, and they were

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<v Speaker 2>interviewed playing with puppies on BuzzFeed, and they were very

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<v Speaker 2>much like Connor was very much sort of being morphed

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit into he's a Hollywood superstar. Now you

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<v Speaker 2>could imagine him being in action movies like Jason Staith

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<v Speaker 2>and you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know that kind of stuff, like a Dwayne the Rock Johnson.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's kind of johnsena The Vision. A couple

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<v Speaker 3>of years ago, he was ranked the highest paid athlete

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<v Speaker 3>in the world by Forbes, bringing in a reported one

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<v Speaker 3>hundred and eighty million dollars. He is a major draw

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<v Speaker 3>card for MMA, and that industry is becoming increasingly successful

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<v Speaker 3>and important in the manosphere. Bros like Joe Rogan love it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a business worth around twelve billion and he is

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<v Speaker 3>one of the biggest deals within that business.

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<v Speaker 1>So is MMA Mixed martial arts? Is it like a

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<v Speaker 1>more full on form of boxing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, because you can kick, you can although you can

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<v Speaker 2>fly at people like it's it's sort of more dynamically.

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<v Speaker 1>Boxing rules faster, and it's a big deal.

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<v Speaker 2>Nikita Hand, by contrast, was a young single mum in

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<v Speaker 2>twenty eighteen when she was out at a Christmas party

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<v Speaker 2>and was invited back to McGregor's hotel to kick on

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<v Speaker 2>after last drinks. She knew him a little bit in Dublin,

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<v Speaker 2>her family knew his partner's family, she alleges, and the

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<v Speaker 2>civil case judge now agrees that at those drinks she

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<v Speaker 2>rejected his sexual advances that night, but he pinned her

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<v Speaker 2>to a bed, placed in a chokehold, and assaulted her.

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<v Speaker 2>She went straight to emergency. A paramedic who examined Nikita

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<v Speaker 2>in the aftermath told the court that she had not

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<v Speaker 2>seen someone so bruised in a long time. McGregor has

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<v Speaker 2>always said that the sex was consensual. In the six

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<v Speaker 2>years since, prosecutors declined to bring charges against McGregor on

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<v Speaker 2>this case, citing insufficient evidence and unlikely chance at conviction,

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<v Speaker 2>I just don't understand.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I'm not a lawyer or a judge, and

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<v Speaker 1>I also understand that different people like different types of sex.

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<v Speaker 1>But in terms of just basic logic and plausibility, for

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<v Speaker 1>a woman to have allegedly had consensual sex and be

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<v Speaker 1>so bruised that she had to go to a hospital,

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<v Speaker 1>what woman would have consented to that?

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<v Speaker 2>Indeed, Nikita has been labeled a fraud, a gold digger,

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<v Speaker 2>and she even had a gang of masked men break

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<v Speaker 2>into her home, smash her windows, and stab her boyfriend. Still,

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<v Speaker 2>over these six years, she chose to keep fighting and

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<v Speaker 2>the only option left to her was to bring a

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<v Speaker 2>civil case against McGregor, which she did and she won.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's where we are. That's what you heard her

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<v Speaker 2>talking about that at the beginning of this Now what's

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<v Speaker 2>interesting to me is that we're seeing more and more

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<v Speaker 2>sexual assault cases going to civil trial. Donald Trump and

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<v Speaker 2>Bruce Lehman are two other high profile men found guilty

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<v Speaker 2>in those circumstances, and I want to know if it

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<v Speaker 2>kind of has the same impact. Obviously, the reason that

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<v Speaker 2>a civil case might be successful criminal case might not

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<v Speaker 2>is that it does not need to be proven beyond

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<v Speaker 2>a reasonable doubt, but on the balance of probabilities that

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<v Speaker 2>it happens. So, for example, Mia, what you just said about, like,

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<v Speaker 2>if this woman was this badly hurt like that is

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<v Speaker 2>more likely to be considered closely in a civil case

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<v Speaker 2>than in a criminal case.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, and criminal case you go to prison yep, and

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<v Speaker 3>civil case yet Okay, So.

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<v Speaker 2>A criminal case can send a man to jail and

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<v Speaker 2>a civil case cannot. And also a criminal case has

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<v Speaker 2>to be brought kind of by the state or the crown,

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<v Speaker 2>and a civil case is brought by the accuser. So

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<v Speaker 2>Nakida hand has brought this case against Conor McGregor, right,

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<v Speaker 2>But in the case of McGregor, who has been accused

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<v Speaker 2>of sexualisconduct at least three times before, I want to

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<v Speaker 2>understand if a finding like this has a similar level

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<v Speaker 2>of impact on his reputation, because if he's had this reputation,

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<v Speaker 2>everyone's known this case is hanging around. We know these

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<v Speaker 2>other allegations have been hanging around it. Obviously, wasn't stopping

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<v Speaker 2>his advancement into a Hollywood career and stuff, or impacting

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<v Speaker 2>his fireding credentials, or stopping him from opening a brewery,

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<v Speaker 2>owning lots of businesses, all the things he does. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't care personally about this man's ability to remain an

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<v Speaker 2>incredibly wealthy and influential person, But I want to know

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<v Speaker 2>if this is an effective recourse when we know how

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<v Speaker 2>difficult criminal charges are to get up. Is this a

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<v Speaker 2>good option and does it change everything for econom McGregor Jesse.

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<v Speaker 3>They probably won't. I'm thinking back to the civil case

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<v Speaker 3>that Amber heard won. Remember she won a civil case

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<v Speaker 3>against Johnny Depp before the other case that we saw

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<v Speaker 3>that played out all over TikTok, and that was basically

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<v Speaker 3>barely a footnote in any of it. Look, it's made

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<v Speaker 3>an immediate difference for Conor McGregor in that he has

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<v Speaker 3>been dropped by the whiskey company he co owns, which

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<v Speaker 3>is a significant financial hit. That's where a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>his money has come from. And he's been removed from

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<v Speaker 3>a video game he was featured in.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is big business. It's worth noting that we might

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<v Speaker 2>go like, oh, video game that's not like a movie,

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<v Speaker 2>but actually bigger, there's more money in it. There's a

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<v Speaker 2>character based on him that looks like him and is

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<v Speaker 2>him in a game called Hitman, and that's a big

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<v Speaker 2>deal way that people make money.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, when I went to IMDb to look at his

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<v Speaker 1>you know, acting credits and stuff, most of them, apart

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<v Speaker 1>from Roadhouse, most of them were for video games, including

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<v Speaker 1>Call of Duty, and so I didn't realize what a

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<v Speaker 1>big deal that was. That's really interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>It also a great Crisis organization in Ireland called for

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<v Speaker 3>the Whiskey Company to separate themselves from him because to

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<v Speaker 3>walk in and see Conor McGregor's face everywhere, when he

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<v Speaker 3>has now been found in a court of law, in

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<v Speaker 3>this civil court, to you know, have done this to

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<v Speaker 3>a woman that obviously says something, well, it's a.

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<v Speaker 1>Little bit hard to expect any kind of justice for

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<v Speaker 1>Nikita or any kind of consequence for Connor when the

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<v Speaker 1>current President of the United States, newly elected, was found

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<v Speaker 1>liable of the same thing. The thing a civil case

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<v Speaker 1>in America.

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<v Speaker 3>The thing this does do for victims, which I think

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<v Speaker 3>is signal, is that financial compensation means that if you

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<v Speaker 3>are suffering from PTSD, if you have likely you can't work.

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<v Speaker 3>When you're doing a court case like this, you can't.

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<v Speaker 3>You absolutely can't work. She's trying to raise a daughter

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<v Speaker 3>on her own. She has suffered enormously.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the costs of a cookcase.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I hope that that is some sort of you know,

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<v Speaker 3>renumeration for.

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<v Speaker 2>Watching interestingly, So she got awarded around the equivalent of

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<v Speaker 2>four hundred thousand Australian dollars, which obviously is a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of money, but it's not an enormous amount of money

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<v Speaker 2>in the scheme of things. And McGregor obviously has continues

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<v Speaker 2>to deny it and say he's going to appeal. And

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<v Speaker 2>he said, oh, the modest amount that was given to

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<v Speaker 2>her shows how the case was a bit you know,

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<v Speaker 2>that's his position, right. It's a very fair point Mia

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<v Speaker 2>that when the President of the United States was found

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<v Speaker 2>liable in a very similar circumstance, it's hard to imagine consequences,

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<v Speaker 2>but it does have more serious reputational damage than just

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<v Speaker 2>the allegation sloating around, do you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Like if Roadhouse was coming out now, it would be

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<v Speaker 2>hard to imagine watching him playing with puppies on BuzzFeed

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<v Speaker 2>or sitting down with big names like Dax Shephard or whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>In an interview situation, you would imagine the calls to

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<v Speaker 2>the publicist would be a bit more like, we don't

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<v Speaker 2>want Connor and that, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>It would be hard to not ask him about this.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're a credible journalist or media company, the money

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<v Speaker 1>itself is never going to be enough to make up

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<v Speaker 1>for you know, Nikita's had a house set on fire.

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<v Speaker 2>She said she fared for her life and the life

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<v Speaker 2>of her family for a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>You can only imagine. But what I thought was interesting,

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<v Speaker 1>which I sort of hadn't registered, is that in a

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<v Speaker 1>criminal case, that's up to the state, Whereas so much

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<v Speaker 1>of what the victims of crime will say is that

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<v Speaker 1>the powerlessness that they feel. And I've had some small

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<v Speaker 1>experience in this myself, and I would echo that feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you take a civil action, you've got the power.

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<v Speaker 1>And the problem is that people will say she's just

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<v Speaker 1>doing it for the money, because that's the criticism that

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<v Speaker 1>can be leveled in a civil case. But at what cost,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, well.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, the fact that she kept going after all of

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<v Speaker 3>those threats. And the other thing about a civil case

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<v Speaker 3>is that there are now details on the public record, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>that I think we will never forget. There are details

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<v Speaker 3>in this case that Holly, you didn't read out because

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<v Speaker 3>they're quite distressing, but they are damning and I can't

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<v Speaker 3>look at Connor McGregor's face without thinking about them.

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<v Speaker 2>His supporters, and you'll see some of these headlines around

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<v Speaker 2>now are saying the cancelation of Connor McGregor has begun.

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<v Speaker 2>It's witch hunt, blah blah blah. But actually, in this case,

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<v Speaker 2>the reputational damage obviously from where I sit, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>bring it on.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. And he was sitting in the witness stand and

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<v Speaker 3>some journalists described it as watching his mask slip. You

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<v Speaker 3>could see moments where the rage came out, where he

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<v Speaker 3>said horrific things. The same thing happened actually with Mike Tyson,

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<v Speaker 3>who was found guilty of a criminal case. He was

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<v Speaker 3>convicted of rape in nineteen ninety two. I think he's

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<v Speaker 3>an important case study because he wasn't caussed in the hangover.

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<v Speaker 3>Five months after he got out of prison, he served

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<v Speaker 3>time for this. Five months after that he was fighting

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<v Speaker 3>again and just recently and.

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<v Speaker 1>Acting again in a funny, lovable role in a family

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<v Speaker 1>kind of a film.

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<v Speaker 3>Recently, he fought Jake Paul in what was one of

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<v Speaker 3>the most watched I think sporting events of all time.

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<v Speaker 3>In all of my reading and all of the coverage,

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<v Speaker 3>you barely even saw. Oh, this man is a convicted

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<v Speaker 3>rapist that barely barely came up and he has also

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<v Speaker 3>been accused by his ex wife of violence. Yes, so

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<v Speaker 3>there are a lot of men you know walking among us.

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<v Speaker 3>I would say Mike Tyson is the most famous convicted

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<v Speaker 3>rapist and that has barely damaged his reputation. If this

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<v Speaker 3>has raised any issues for you, or if you feel

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<v Speaker 3>like you need to speak to someone, help is available.

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<v Speaker 3>Please take care and contact Lifeline or Respect. We will

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<v Speaker 3>pop links to those resources in our show notes.

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<v Speaker 1>In case you missed it. Chat GPT is helping you

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<v Speaker 1>figure out what to buy your family or friends or

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<v Speaker 1>teacher at school for Christmas. If you don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>to get someone as a Christmas gift. I always find

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<v Speaker 1>this so hard, and the default of a cented candle

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<v Speaker 1>just doesn't cut it. After this many years of scented candles,

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<v Speaker 1>no one wants I love.

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<v Speaker 2>But only if they're fancy, don't check on.

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<v Speaker 3>I always end up googling lists and I end up

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<v Speaker 3>on some website that probably has affiliate links that goes,

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<v Speaker 3>you should buy your husband a beard oil, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>that's beard oil, a beard oil, and I'm like, this

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<v Speaker 3>isn't right. So chat GPT I feel like could be

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<v Speaker 3>a step up.

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<v Speaker 1>Also because gifts I love language, I don't care about them.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like buying gifts for people. I prefer buying

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<v Speaker 1>gifts and myself, and you don't need chat GPT for that.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyway, what people are doing is going to chat GPT,

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<v Speaker 1>which you can download as an app, and.

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<v Speaker 3>You can also use it just as a website, which

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<v Speaker 3>I do.

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<v Speaker 1>So you need to describe what the person is like,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe what they're interested in. I also put in price

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<v Speaker 1>point for you too, so.

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<v Speaker 3>The prompt was a sorry point.

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<v Speaker 1>The prompts that I.

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<v Speaker 3>Did for you both under twenty dollars, well, that was awkward,

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I said, what should I buy for Christmas for

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<v Speaker 1>my female friend who is fifty three, lives in regional

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<v Speaker 1>New South Wales and loves gardening. I want to spend

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<v Speaker 1>less than one hundred dollars fifty two. I'm sorry no,

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<v Speaker 1>but by Christmas. Yeah, they will be correct. And some

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<v Speaker 1>of the things that it suggested, like some of them

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<v Speaker 1>were fairly predictable. Gave me maybe twenty ideas right with subheadings, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>with subheadings under like practical gardening gifts. Some of them

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<v Speaker 1>were very boring, like gardening tool set or gardening gloves

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<v Speaker 1>or no personalized garden tool tote. What. Then there were

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<v Speaker 1>like decorative gifts like garden wind chimes and plant markers, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>books and inspiration, unique and fun ideas, experience or subscription gifts.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so many different things.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm smarter than you because what I typed in is

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<v Speaker 3>my prompt was what should I buy Holly Wainwright?

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I did. I said, what should I buy?

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<v Speaker 4>Beer?

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<v Speaker 3>Freedman, I watched I buy Holly wayIn Wright and GPT

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<v Speaker 3>know who we are? Well, I thought they did, but

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<v Speaker 3>it said. Holly Wainwright is a well known Australian author

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<v Speaker 3>and podcast host, particularly recognized for her work with Muma

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<v Speaker 3>Maya and her books including The Mummy Bloggers and I

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<v Speaker 3>Give My Mummy a B plus.

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<v Speaker 2>This is why we can't entirely trust the robots.

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<v Speaker 1>That's one of lessons in the world. Now it's just

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit wrong because GPT is really good, but

0:34:00.687 --> 0:34:02.127
<v Speaker 1>not really really good.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just to be clear. That book's called I Give

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<v Speaker 3>My Marriage a Year, but it gave me some really

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<v Speaker 3>good idea.

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<v Speaker 5>Plus, that's my next book.

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<v Speaker 3>It sounds really interesting, like you've got a subpar money. Okay,

0:34:16.527 --> 0:34:19.367
<v Speaker 3>so a custom weather journal I think you wouldn't mind it,

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<v Speaker 3>a writer's retreat voucher, oh yeah, luxury skin cassette, Yes,

0:34:25.287 --> 0:34:29.927
<v Speaker 3>literary themed home decoor, or a framed print with a

0:34:30.007 --> 0:34:32.767
<v Speaker 3>quote from one of her favorite authors. It also said,

0:34:32.847 --> 0:34:34.367
<v Speaker 3>rather specifically on a link.

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<v Speaker 2>Or actually, that I would be into that.

0:34:36.807 --> 0:34:38.767
<v Speaker 1>It's funny if she's a basic fifty two year old.

0:34:38.927 --> 0:34:40.207
<v Speaker 1>I had been exactly the same.

0:34:40.247 --> 0:34:42.167
<v Speaker 2>I said what should I buy mere Freedman, and they

0:34:42.207 --> 0:34:44.567
<v Speaker 2>gave me all me as credentials. I didn't really check

0:34:44.567 --> 0:34:48.127
<v Speaker 2>to see if they were right. They say things like,

0:34:48.247 --> 0:34:52.087
<v Speaker 2>because Mia is a busy professional mother, she would enjoy

0:34:52.527 --> 0:34:54.767
<v Speaker 2>a chance to unwind. I was like, this is where

0:34:54.847 --> 0:34:57.847
<v Speaker 2>chat GPT doesn't know mea at all, because he thinks

0:34:57.847 --> 0:35:00.807
<v Speaker 2>she should have a wellness retreat or a spa day.

0:35:01.327 --> 0:35:03.367
<v Speaker 2>And they also think that you should have tickets to

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<v Speaker 2>an event. I was like, no, you really really don't

0:35:06.207 --> 0:35:09.007
<v Speaker 2>need that, or suggested buying you tickets to your own

0:35:09.047 --> 0:35:13.607
<v Speaker 2>s tickets still alive podcast recording, perhaps a Mom and

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<v Speaker 2>mea podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, she would have liked that. That would be bad. Guys,

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<v Speaker 1>you should buy me that you might be able to

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<v Speaker 1>get mates rates. That was interesting was my prompts for you, Jesse,

0:35:24.407 --> 0:35:26.847
<v Speaker 1>because I sat there for a really long time. I

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<v Speaker 1>started with gift ideas for my thirty three year old

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<v Speaker 1>female friend, and then I was thinking of what your

0:35:32.447 --> 0:35:35.247
<v Speaker 1>hobbies were? Can I sat there for so much and

0:35:35.287 --> 0:35:39.887
<v Speaker 1>I was like, she doesn't understand fashion. No, So I

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<v Speaker 1>settled on my friend who likes true crime and has

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<v Speaker 1>an eighteen month old daughter called Luna.

0:35:46.687 --> 0:35:49.807
<v Speaker 3>Think about you, Yeah, how old is she? Sixteen months?

0:35:50.207 --> 0:35:52.087
<v Speaker 3>Didn't come up with anything good? What are you getting me?

0:35:52.247 --> 0:35:55.887
<v Speaker 1>A true crime puzzle? And then there's a sub section

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<v Speaker 1>true crime themed candle Who knew there were such things?

0:35:58.767 --> 0:36:01.647
<v Speaker 2>Oh wow, murder candles.

0:36:01.167 --> 0:36:06.007
<v Speaker 1>With fun names like forensic files and Chill Jesus. And

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<v Speaker 1>then there was a section on for you and Luna

0:36:07.887 --> 0:36:09.167
<v Speaker 1>matching pajamas, which I thought was.

0:36:09.327 --> 0:36:11.087
<v Speaker 3>H you got that for us last year you got

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<v Speaker 3>a snatching pajamas.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Then there's like relaxation and fun for mum, A cozy blanket,

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<v Speaker 1>a soft throw for smuggling up during true crime binge

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<v Speaker 1>s Oh my gosh. Okay, we don't need chutching to

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<v Speaker 1>tell us this stuff.

0:36:23.207 --> 0:36:25.527
<v Speaker 3>I wrote in what do I get my mother in law?

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<v Speaker 4>For me?

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<v Speaker 3>It suggested customized jewelry, A customized calendar with pictures of

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<v Speaker 3>the family. So January is my faith, my faith, but

0:36:37.087 --> 0:36:37.807
<v Speaker 3>this is my favorite.

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<v Speaker 1>There's lots of pitches of Jesse, not lunar, just Jesse.

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<v Speaker 3>This was my favorite. A memory jar. Fill a jar

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0:36:52.087 --> 0:36:55.087
<v Speaker 3>you're a bitch, the other time you're a bit.

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<v Speaker 1>That time you came and throughout all my daughter's clothes. Yeah,

0:37:00.287 --> 0:37:02.207
<v Speaker 1>at that time you got a fringe when I was

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<v Speaker 1>in labor to pull focus.

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<v Speaker 2>We have actually got one serious gift suggestion for all

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<v Speaker 2>We are actually all chat GPT assistance aside putting together

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe Eura.

0:38:06.567 --> 0:38:09.407
<v Speaker 3>Then coming off sign.

0:38:10.047 --> 0:38:12.567
<v Speaker 1>Hold onto your labbier friends because someone wants to inject

0:38:12.607 --> 0:38:15.447
<v Speaker 1>it with filler stop it, or you can hold onto

0:38:15.447 --> 0:38:16.887
<v Speaker 1>a friends LaBier if you prefer.

0:38:17.207 --> 0:38:20.087
<v Speaker 3>Let's just say is lip filler. Yes, we've been getting

0:38:20.087 --> 0:38:21.767
<v Speaker 3>an alley your other lips kind.

0:38:22.087 --> 0:38:25.807
<v Speaker 1>I learned all about this this week. It's called labbier puffing,

0:38:26.527 --> 0:38:28.487
<v Speaker 1>and it is. I don't want to say it's a

0:38:28.487 --> 0:38:30.647
<v Speaker 1>beauty trend because I don't only give it that power.

0:38:30.887 --> 0:38:32.527
<v Speaker 1>It's a thing that some people are doing.

0:38:32.767 --> 0:38:35.327
<v Speaker 3>It's on the rise. I looked into this because you

0:38:35.367 --> 0:38:38.207
<v Speaker 3>know how I feel about giving women in securities hy securities.

0:38:38.207 --> 0:38:41.047
<v Speaker 3>But then I was looking at it and it originated

0:38:41.047 --> 0:38:43.047
<v Speaker 3>in kind of the early two thousands, and it is

0:38:43.207 --> 0:38:45.967
<v Speaker 3>on the rise. And there's a reason. They think it's why.

0:38:45.727 --> 0:38:47.847
<v Speaker 2>Do we need our labia to be puffy?

0:38:47.887 --> 0:38:51.047
<v Speaker 1>Well, let me first tell you what labbier puff is.

0:38:51.807 --> 0:38:54.247
<v Speaker 1>They call it a non surgical I think that means

0:38:54.247 --> 0:38:57.007
<v Speaker 1>there's no cutting with a scalpel. But it's an injection

0:38:57.087 --> 0:39:01.607
<v Speaker 1>of filler, as you say, into the labbia labia majora.

0:39:02.487 --> 0:39:04.727
<v Speaker 1>And the reason for it is to plump and smooth

0:39:05.007 --> 0:39:08.167
<v Speaker 1>the outer labbia labia majora, to give it a more

0:39:08.207 --> 0:39:12.127
<v Speaker 1>youthful and volution appearance, which is a relief, frankly, because

0:39:12.167 --> 0:39:14.087
<v Speaker 1>my biggest concern in this year of our Lord twenty

0:39:14.127 --> 0:39:16.367
<v Speaker 1>twenty four has been my deflated labia.

0:39:16.687 --> 0:39:19.927
<v Speaker 2>I thought, so just looking a bit sad and saggy

0:39:20.127 --> 0:39:21.247
<v Speaker 2>and sort it out.

0:39:21.527 --> 0:39:24.127
<v Speaker 3>Well, Apparently the reason that this is on the rise

0:39:24.407 --> 0:39:27.407
<v Speaker 3>is because a generation of women got all their hair

0:39:27.487 --> 0:39:29.567
<v Speaker 3>laysered off, and now they are looking in the mirror

0:39:29.607 --> 0:39:33.247
<v Speaker 3>and they can see it. Whereas our grandmothers, our great grandmothers,

0:39:33.327 --> 0:39:33.967
<v Speaker 3>they didn't.

0:39:33.767 --> 0:39:36.047
<v Speaker 1>Know, No, they had a bush. It was a bushy.

0:39:36.167 --> 0:39:38.887
<v Speaker 3>I saw someone describe it as like a deflated sock,

0:39:39.087 --> 0:39:41.847
<v Speaker 3>Like that's what they felt like their labbia.

0:39:41.527 --> 0:39:42.367
<v Speaker 1>Couple of fish fingers.

0:39:42.487 --> 0:39:44.887
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, looked like that. They were just kind of dangling

0:39:44.927 --> 0:39:47.767
<v Speaker 3>in the wind because they were saying that collagen, our

0:39:47.807 --> 0:39:50.687
<v Speaker 3>collagen and our ELASTI didn't whatever, all the things we're

0:39:50.687 --> 0:39:53.127
<v Speaker 3>trying to do with our face to try and keep

0:39:53.127 --> 0:39:56.847
<v Speaker 3>the collagen going, you also lose it from your little labia.

0:39:57.047 --> 0:40:00.807
<v Speaker 3>And to be clear, labbia maturer, because that would be weird.

0:40:01.047 --> 0:40:01.887
<v Speaker 3>We're outer lips.

0:40:02.007 --> 0:40:05.447
<v Speaker 1>I was confused because I thought it was the inner bits. Yeah,

0:40:05.487 --> 0:40:07.647
<v Speaker 1>I know more about this than I probably did a

0:40:07.647 --> 0:40:10.247
<v Speaker 1>couple of weeks ago, because what land on my desk

0:40:10.527 --> 0:40:13.207
<v Speaker 1>over the last few days is a coffee table book

0:40:13.247 --> 0:40:14.927
<v Speaker 1>called Flip Through My Flaps.

0:40:15.127 --> 0:40:18.127
<v Speaker 3>I love this book. A meeting that we go in

0:40:18.207 --> 0:40:19.687
<v Speaker 3>we just look at it and go look.

0:40:19.527 --> 0:40:22.447
<v Speaker 1>At out loud as Mama Maya is not a normal workplace.

0:40:22.967 --> 0:40:26.087
<v Speaker 1>We do in meetings we flip through a coffee table

0:40:26.087 --> 0:40:30.927
<v Speaker 1>book of close up photos of Volvers by Volver photographer

0:40:30.967 --> 0:40:34.007
<v Speaker 1>Ellie Sedgwick, who intued on No Filter a little while ago.

0:40:34.407 --> 0:40:37.007
<v Speaker 1>When she was growing up, she felt insecure about her

0:40:37.367 --> 0:40:41.927
<v Speaker 1>labya because she was, as she says, an outi because

0:40:41.927 --> 0:40:45.447
<v Speaker 1>there are outis and innies. And her doctor was like,

0:40:46.127 --> 0:40:48.607
<v Speaker 1>let me see, and he's like, there's nothing wrong with you.

0:40:48.767 --> 0:40:52.887
<v Speaker 1>And because she hadn't seen many others. Most straight women

0:40:53.127 --> 0:40:57.687
<v Speaker 1>don't see many other badgeres, she was comparing herself to

0:40:58.367 --> 0:41:02.247
<v Speaker 1>pawn and to the women perhaps that she'd seen in magazines.

0:41:02.247 --> 0:41:03.647
<v Speaker 1>And we did a big story when I was in

0:41:03.647 --> 0:41:07.647
<v Speaker 1>Cosmo about the fact that it was illegal for a

0:41:07.727 --> 0:41:12.087
<v Speaker 1>magazine to publish photos where you could see a protruding

0:41:12.207 --> 0:41:15.087
<v Speaker 1>labbia the inn lips, and so what they had to

0:41:15.127 --> 0:41:18.127
<v Speaker 1>do it was literally called seal to a single crease.

0:41:18.327 --> 0:41:20.847
<v Speaker 1>I had all these conversations with the male editors about

0:41:20.887 --> 0:41:22.767
<v Speaker 1>it because they thought it was terrible that they had

0:41:22.767 --> 0:41:25.447
<v Speaker 1>to do it. It was kind of the early days of retouching,

0:41:25.527 --> 0:41:27.287
<v Speaker 1>you know, otherwise they couldn't be on sale.

0:41:27.727 --> 0:41:30.967
<v Speaker 2>No wonder, we're all so weird. I want to shout

0:41:30.967 --> 0:41:33.887
<v Speaker 2>out the fact that recently I've discovered on some dark

0:41:34.007 --> 0:41:36.687
<v Speaker 2>corner of foxtail. Actually it's not that dark, it's quite bright.

0:41:37.047 --> 0:41:40.207
<v Speaker 2>A show called Naked Attraction. Have you ever seen that?

0:41:40.487 --> 0:41:42.327
<v Speaker 3>I have watched bits and pieces.

0:41:42.767 --> 0:41:47.127
<v Speaker 2>It's a British dating show where you have three four

0:41:47.487 --> 0:41:51.927
<v Speaker 2>naked people. They do all genders, naked people standing behind

0:41:51.927 --> 0:41:55.767
<v Speaker 2>a screen that's get slowly lifted, so it's like, let's

0:41:55.887 --> 0:42:00.567
<v Speaker 2>look at Betty's lower half and it lifts up to

0:42:00.647 --> 0:42:03.967
<v Speaker 2>her waist and then it closes in really tight on

0:42:04.047 --> 0:42:06.287
<v Speaker 2>Betty's vagina, and the person who's.

0:42:06.127 --> 0:42:09.207
<v Speaker 3>Chosen vagina labya for all of.

0:42:09.127 --> 0:42:11.127
<v Speaker 1>It, Yeah, closes up really tight.

0:42:11.407 --> 0:42:14.887
<v Speaker 2>Not actually your correct because not inside her labia revolva.

0:42:15.207 --> 0:42:17.407
<v Speaker 2>So far, they haven't gone with the internal camera that

0:42:17.447 --> 0:42:19.927
<v Speaker 2>could be coming. And then they ask the person who's picking,

0:42:19.967 --> 0:42:21.847
<v Speaker 2>the man or woman who's picking, like do you think

0:42:21.847 --> 0:42:22.847
<v Speaker 2>that's a good looking to think?

0:42:22.847 --> 0:42:24.047
<v Speaker 1>That's oh my god?

0:42:24.487 --> 0:42:26.927
<v Speaker 2>And the person who's picking goes like, yeah, I like

0:42:27.007 --> 0:42:29.527
<v Speaker 2>that one. They do the same with men, like they

0:42:29.607 --> 0:42:32.247
<v Speaker 2>do the same with penises. And so I'm sitting there

0:42:32.247 --> 0:42:34.047
<v Speaker 2>watching this show. I don't know why. When I was

0:42:34.047 --> 0:42:35.967
<v Speaker 2>away with my friends and we found ourselves watching it

0:42:36.367 --> 0:42:38.607
<v Speaker 2>and I started watching it and I was like, this

0:42:38.767 --> 0:42:41.247
<v Speaker 2>is the worst thing I've ever seen on television. And

0:42:41.247 --> 0:42:43.167
<v Speaker 2>then by the end of a couple of episodes, I

0:42:43.207 --> 0:42:45.407
<v Speaker 2>was like, no, this is the best thing I've ever

0:42:45.407 --> 0:42:49.167
<v Speaker 2>seen on television because the body shapes, the different diversity,

0:42:49.247 --> 0:42:52.607
<v Speaker 2>the different boobs, the different labbia, the different penises, the innies,

0:42:52.647 --> 0:42:55.767
<v Speaker 2>the audi's, the people who'd had surgery, the people who hadn't.

0:42:56.167 --> 0:42:58.407
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I've never seen this much variety of

0:42:58.527 --> 0:43:00.727
<v Speaker 2>naked bodies on television.

0:43:00.527 --> 0:43:02.487
<v Speaker 3>And that's the reality, right, Like when you.

0:43:02.647 --> 0:43:05.887
<v Speaker 2>All the labbya look different. Yeah, this puffy vagina business,

0:43:05.927 --> 0:43:10.327
<v Speaker 2>this puffy labbier business, is trying to make us all conform,

0:43:10.447 --> 0:43:12.407
<v Speaker 2>and my vagina will not come hob.

0:43:13.167 --> 0:43:13.807
<v Speaker 3>It will aide.

0:43:14.047 --> 0:43:17.807
<v Speaker 2>I don't think there's anything else to say anything today.

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<v Speaker 2>That was a big show and a very big thank

0:43:19.727 --> 0:43:21.167
<v Speaker 2>you to all of you for being here with us

0:43:21.207 --> 0:43:24.127
<v Speaker 2>out louders and to our team who have to listen

0:43:24.167 --> 0:43:24.927
<v Speaker 2>to us talking.

0:43:26.087 --> 0:43:27.847
<v Speaker 3>Well, if out loud as one a little bit more

0:43:27.887 --> 0:43:30.727
<v Speaker 3>from us. Yesterday, Holly and I went behind me as

0:43:30.767 --> 0:43:33.847
<v Speaker 3>back and we had a private conversation.

0:43:34.087 --> 0:43:35.967
<v Speaker 2>Last time you did that, I cried, Yes, I promise

0:43:36.047 --> 0:43:36.767
<v Speaker 2>you won't cry well.

0:43:36.807 --> 0:43:38.367
<v Speaker 3>One of the questions was whether we bitch about you

0:43:38.367 --> 0:43:40.167
<v Speaker 3>behind your back, and we answered honestly.

0:43:39.887 --> 0:43:42.767
<v Speaker 2>Answered honestly. There were other ones like if we did

0:43:42.807 --> 0:43:44.567
<v Speaker 2>have all the money and resources in the world, would

0:43:44.567 --> 0:43:45.727
<v Speaker 2>we have all the plastic surgery?

0:43:45.727 --> 0:43:46.247
<v Speaker 1>We got off that.

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<v Speaker 2>We got asked why there are some Internet stories that

0:43:48.567 --> 0:43:50.567
<v Speaker 2>we choose not to weigh in on. We talked about that.

0:43:50.447 --> 0:43:54.127
<v Speaker 3>One particular one, and we talked about our content decisions.

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<v Speaker 3>There is a link in our show notes bye bye

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