WEBVTT - The Pep Talk You Need Before Doing A Hard Thing

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to i'mm mea podcast. Okay, So you've got

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<v Speaker 1>a big presentation or an event that's coming up, and

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<v Speaker 1>if you're being honest, you might be freaking out a little.

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<v Speaker 1>Your heart's racing, your mind's jumping to worst case scenarios.

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<v Speaker 1>What if I forget what I'm saying, What if I

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<v Speaker 1>mess up? What if everyone judges me? What if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>standing at the event like a total awkward loaner. Take

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<v Speaker 1>a breath, because, first of all, what you are feeling

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<v Speaker 1>right now, it's so normal. Public speaking and social anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>are some of the most common fears out there. You're

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<v Speaker 1>standing in front of people, being seen, being heard. It's

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<v Speaker 1>vulnerable stuff. And I say this as someone who's been

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<v Speaker 1>speaking in front of crowds and intending all sorts of

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<v Speaker 1>business events for over ten years, and I still get nervous.

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<v Speaker 1>So instead of trying to shut it down, let's work

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<v Speaker 1>with it. Step one, give yourself permission to freak out. Seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>don't pretend you're chill if you're not, Ask yourself, what

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<v Speaker 1>am I actually nervous about? Forgetting my words, tech, failing

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<v Speaker 1>talking to no one. Here's the truth. Every worst case

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<v Speaker 1>scenario you're imagining hasard solution. It's never as big of

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<v Speaker 1>a deal as your mind is making it out to be.

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<v Speaker 1>So we can let go of the perfectionism here. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to be perfect. You just need to be

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<v Speaker 1>present and be yourself. Now, I want you to remember

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<v Speaker 1>something really important. You are asked to do this talk

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<v Speaker 1>or show up to this event for a reason. You

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<v Speaker 1>bring value. Your voice matters, and you don't get given

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<v Speaker 1>opportunities you're not ready for. You are ready for this,

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<v Speaker 1>and those nerves, they're not a sign to run. They're

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<v Speaker 1>a sign that you're expanding. This is your capacity growing

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<v Speaker 1>in real time. So instead of thinking, I'm so nervous,

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<v Speaker 1>this is bad, try I'm nervous because I care, and

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<v Speaker 1>that means this matters. Let's get you out of your

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<v Speaker 1>head and into that body. Put on a song that

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<v Speaker 1>makes you feel like a million bucks. Move, breathe, shift

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<v Speaker 1>your energy. Because confidence isn't just a mindset, it's a feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>And you've felt this before. Think about a time you

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<v Speaker 1>were nervous and you got through it, maybe even crushed it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's proof. Proof that you can do hard things, proof

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<v Speaker 1>that you can move through discomfort, proof that you'll be

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<v Speaker 1>okay on the other side. Now, simplify your focus. Instead

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<v Speaker 1>of obsessing over every detail, ask yourself one question, how

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<v Speaker 1>do I want people to feel when I'm done with

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<v Speaker 1>this big thing that I was dreading? Ground into that

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<v Speaker 1>Because when you lead with intention and not perfection, everything

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<v Speaker 1>flows from there. And one more thing, give yourself space

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<v Speaker 1>before you step in. Protect your energy. For me, I

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<v Speaker 1>need a little cave time before I do something that

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<v Speaker 1>I know will make me anxious. No noise, no chaos,

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<v Speaker 1>just me getting grounded into what I'm about to do.

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<v Speaker 1>So don't overcrowd your schedule, create space to arrive, and finally,

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<v Speaker 1>trust your preparation. You've done the work, you know your stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>Now it's just about showing up. And when it's all over,

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<v Speaker 1>celebrate because once again you did the thing you were

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<v Speaker 1>scared of. You showed up anyway, you grew, you expanded,

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<v Speaker 1>and you became a greater version of yourself. Mamma Mia

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