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Speaker 1: Welcome back Bim, Welcome back Yeighborhood to June.
Speaker 2: This is going to be our first episode of June.
Speaker 3: It feels like the first episode of the year, because
Speaker 3: we haven't done one in so long.
Speaker 1: I know, I was going to say, we've got to
Speaker 1: kick off with the weekly rap that's kind of turned
Speaker 1: into like a monthly quarterly.
Speaker 2: Rap because it was so bad.
Speaker 1: Although okay, not only have we both been losing our
Speaker 1: voices taking turns which we can cover, but we've been
Speaker 1: kind of like otherwise, just having lots of general random
Speaker 1: life stuff going on and serving up the ya's in
Speaker 1: like all weird orders and odd structures. But I thought
Speaker 1: of a quote of the ya for this episode that's
Speaker 1: kind of on that whole note that I saw the
Speaker 1: other day and I thought was such a good reminder
Speaker 1: because I needed it, so maybe some of the neighborhood
Speaker 1: might need it too, which is that if you're getting
Speaker 1: worried that you're kind of not sticking to the timeframe,
Speaker 1: or you know, for whatever reason, you get to the
Speaker 1: nearly middle of the year and start to think, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I haven't done all the things that I
Speaker 1: really want to do, or I'm not where I thought
Speaker 1: I would be. My quote for you is it is
Speaker 1: impossible to fall behind in your own life because your
Speaker 1: pathway is on its own timetable isn't that such a
Speaker 1: nice quote?
Speaker 3: I really like that. BIM also really relevant too, because
Speaker 3: I feel like we're all feeling a little bit fidgety
Speaker 3: at the minute.
Speaker 2: Isn't everyone fidgety? I agree?
Speaker 1: And I also feel like the speed at which June
Speaker 1: has approached and where suddenly like people are talking about
Speaker 1: end of financial year staff and it's just I mean, God,
Speaker 1: if everyone on the show had a doll for every
Speaker 1: time I start the episode by winging about how quickly
Speaker 1: time is going, you don't be millionaires. I feel like
Speaker 1: time is going so quickly, but you know, that kind
Speaker 1: of mid year milestone really makes you stop and think,
Speaker 1: am I where I wanted to be? And I think,
Speaker 1: like that's when we need the reminder, like there is
Speaker 1: no timetable, there's no schedule. The fact that anyone's getting
Speaker 1: anything done after the past couple of years is a miracle, honestly.
Speaker 3: You know when sometimes you're like, I want time to
Speaker 3: go by quickly because I'm excited for something, But when
Speaker 3: you're fidgety and you're kind of in between or in
Speaker 3: cross grows, you almost want more time to think about it,
Speaker 3: And then time happens so quickly and you're like, oh shit,
Speaker 3: I like make a decision, but you.
Speaker 2: Really, I like got my head together.
Speaker 3: Yeah, genuinely, that's been me. I'm like, ah, damn, I
Speaker 3: really want to look forward to my holiday at end
Speaker 3: of the year. But I'm also kind of like, oh wait,
Speaker 3: I wanted a little bit more time to kind of
Speaker 3: just live in this moment right now when things are
Speaker 3: like happening or brewing or whatever it is. It's all happening,
Speaker 3: isn't it.
Speaker 2: It's all happening.
Speaker 1: I also feel like, just from conversations over the past
Speaker 1: couple of weeks, it's also like we've kind of been
Speaker 1: able to get back to a bit of normality, Like
Speaker 1: life is a little bit more resembling pre pandemic kind
Speaker 1: of life. But I think because we've had so much
Speaker 1: emotional upheaval, everyone's tired and they're being so hard on
Speaker 1: themselves that things look normal, but they're capacity maybe still
Speaker 1: is not up to normal or their energy or their
Speaker 1: like togetherness. Like I just constantly am dropping the ball
Speaker 1: on dates and meetings and replying emails and stuff, and
Speaker 1: I'm so hard on myself because I'm like I'm applying
Speaker 1: normal standards again because life looks a little bit normal.
Speaker 1: But then you've got to remind yourself like we've just
Speaker 1: been through years worth of such a huge, like unique experience, Like,
Speaker 1: don't worry if you're not back to exactly hat.
Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean? Do you kind of
Speaker 2: feel that too?
Speaker 3: Yeah, bim. Also, who are you going on dates with?
Speaker 2: Well? I had my husband back, which was really nice,
Speaker 2: so we can talk about that.
Speaker 1: But before we get into our weekly monthly wrap or whatever,
Speaker 1: I just also have to say to the neighborhood, I
Speaker 1: hope you've been enjoying our Seek mini series so far.
Speaker 1: We're interrupting the flow of the mini series with a
Speaker 1: couple of episodes in between.
Speaker 2: I'm so glad.
Speaker 1: I've had some lovely messages that it's given some of
Speaker 1: you the kick up the butt that you've been needing
Speaker 1: to take advantage of the great job boom, which is
Speaker 1: so exciting. We do have one more episode to come,
Speaker 1: but because of this kind of lack of normality, everyone
Speaker 1: losing their marbles, recording schedules all over the place, there's
Speaker 1: a little break. So we have one more episode to come,
Speaker 1: but we're just squeezing in a few episodes in between.
Speaker 1: Like I said, better to do something imperfectly than nothing flawlessly.
Speaker 2: That's my vibe at the moment.
Speaker 1: Oh you, Bim, tell me about your past couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: And also, guys, we haven't had an actual catch up
Speaker 1: call at all. This is thet we're doing our catch
Speaker 1: up live. I started to say, how is your week?
Speaker 1: How was camping?
Speaker 2: And you were like, should we preach record?
Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, because we just asked to say I
Speaker 1: feel honored that you're part of our relationship, or.
Speaker 3: Just feel like annoyed that the fact that we're using
Speaker 3: this as a means to catch up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Bim, tell me what's your wrap? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Bill, I've got the biggest ever cold saw on my
Speaker 3: lip right now and I don't ever really get cold sauce,
Speaker 3: So I think that's just testament to how cold it
Speaker 3: is at the minute and how sore I'm feeling.
Speaker 2: It is cold. We're in it.
Speaker 1: What did they call it an icy snap or a
Speaker 1: chili snap or something the big chill?
Speaker 3: I don't know, but I'm currently eating pea snaps. So
Speaker 3: that's all I can contribute. Last couple of weeks, Spim,
Speaker 3: we went camping.
Speaker 1: That was also just quickly I need to check are
Speaker 1: you going to charge me extra for the guest appearance
Speaker 1: of your cold saw.
Speaker 2: I don't get it, like it's got its own postcode.
Speaker 2: Dude is an allucial guest for this episode you.
Speaker 3: Can live rent free. It just wants to say something.
Speaker 2: What's is that, Patricia?
Speaker 3: It's actually Katt. It's hot. You look so hot today
Speaker 3: like a sun rise.
Speaker 2: Okay, so did coutut go camping?
Speaker 3: Nod came after camping because it's a bit considerate like
Speaker 3: that nice. No, we went camping last week, So me
Speaker 3: and two friends and workwhiles and lads decided that we
Speaker 3: ordered a break. So we booked this probably I don't know,
Speaker 3: two months ago. I felt like that we didn't really
Speaker 3: take into consideration that would be probably arctic weathers. So
Speaker 3: we went and we're like, oh it's cold. So we
Speaker 3: literally could filled up a whole huge as for drive
Speaker 3: of just doners. Like we were such not like some
Speaker 3: would say it's between a lamp and a camp but
Speaker 3: I just say we went wild camping, but we really
Speaker 3: we were at a caravan park and it had amenities
Speaker 3: and we had a fire and the kitchen and showers
Speaker 3: and toilet.
Speaker 2: Okay about BM, were you roughing it or no.
Speaker 3: We were roughing at I did about twelve bushwheez, so
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure there was a lot of shaking up
Speaker 3: the bottom air drying or roughing it happening. So yes,
Speaker 3: we definitely rubbing up with the kettle that we brought.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: So guys we have this in joke about roughing it
Speaker 1: because like once upon a time I said I've totally
Speaker 1: roughed it, when I had like not really roughed it
Speaker 1: at all. I just like, I don't know, camped one
Speaker 1: time with beautiful facilities and I was like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: rouffed it.
Speaker 3: Like the whatever. Yeah, and t tricked in bags.
Speaker 2: Six kilogram of luggage.
Speaker 3: So meanwhile, me and my eight killers and carry on. Only, yes,
Speaker 3: we've been camping. It was I don't know. I think
Speaker 3: for people that even don't camp and don't consider them
Speaker 3: an outdoorsy people don't don't consider themselves an outdoorsy person.
Speaker 3: It's the cold saw. It's making my lips heavy.
Speaker 2: Contour far.
Speaker 3: So yeah, don't think that. Honestly, I'm just gonna have
Speaker 3: to yell, I'm gonna have to have a word with tonight.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, can't please take this offline? Just quickly. Do
Speaker 2: you guys need a minute or.
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: So yes, but no we are Yes. I highly recommend
Speaker 3: Campus for anyone that just wants to get away. I
Speaker 3: think it was so nice. We brought these canvases and
Speaker 3: we bought these paints from Kmar that we it is
Speaker 3: a game that we love playing man lows. It's listally
Speaker 3: four dollars for the campus, four dollars for the paint,
Speaker 3: and it's actually quite good. And you have a timeframe
Speaker 3: and so you have five to seven minutes, and every
Speaker 3: five minutes or whatever time you said, you've got to change,
Speaker 3: you've got to swap the canvas.
Speaker 2: So it's this guy you told me about this game.
Speaker 3: And it is so much fun because you just don't
Speaker 3: know what you're going to get back. So it starts
Speaker 3: looking nice and it ends up looking like I don't know,
Speaker 3: you know, you know. The TikTok was like very nice picastle.
Speaker 1: It was just like I don't mean to like speak
Speaker 1: before I finish, but it's like a masterpiece.
Speaker 3: It's like the cattle. So we did that. We went
Speaker 3: hiking all days. Every day. We had no plan. I
Speaker 3: think that was one of the best things. Everything was
Speaker 3: just what we felt like doing on the day, and
Speaker 3: I think there's something to say about having friends that
Speaker 3: are easy. I think that was a big topic of
Speaker 3: conversation in the last couple of weeks, because like the
Speaker 3: week before I went down to Ocean Grove to see
Speaker 3: laws and in laws as well. But we're just talking
Speaker 3: about easy friendships and how valuable they are and the
Speaker 3: fact that we, you know, all decided to go camping,
Speaker 3: but even two days before that, we didn't really know
Speaker 3: where we're doing or where we were going. We kind
Speaker 3: of just were like, Okay, let's go key, and everyone
Speaker 3: was like okay, let's go there, and like, so what
Speaker 3: are you bringing? What are you bringing? It wasn't so stressful,
Speaker 3: whereas if you go I say, with a different group
Speaker 3: of people, then it becomes an actual another stress and
Speaker 3: you're constantly thinking about if the other person will enjoy
Speaker 3: it or they will enjoy it, it ll if everyone's in agreement.
Speaker 3: Whereas for us, it was a really it's our friendship
Speaker 3: is really easy. So we just chatted about random stuff
Speaker 3: for four days straight on the car trips and the hikes,
Speaker 3: and I don't even know how you can have that
Speaker 3: much to talk about, but it was just random things.
Speaker 3: But it'd be like, so when you go to the toilet,
Speaker 3: do you use two squares or eight squares? And those
Speaker 3: are like the copies of my conversation. And then one
Speaker 3: would be like I used to.
Speaker 2: Like, okay, name your top five vegetables.
Speaker 3: Go literally I was like, okay, get alive five people
Speaker 3: you have dinner with? And the other two were like,
Speaker 3: are you serious? This is an intense question. And then
Speaker 3: they go like full out, full on like games, yeah,
Speaker 3: and so we chat about things like you know what.
Speaker 2: You know I always do top five?
Speaker 3: Yeah, top five? When you go to the shower, do
Speaker 3: you face towards the shower away from the shower? Like
Speaker 3: like what makes a good far? Like did you far? No?
Speaker 3: I fired it haha, so smelly. Like that was literally
Speaker 3: our whole four days of just being out there, like
Speaker 3: honestly testament to the easiness of our friendships. But I
Speaker 3: think afterwards we were like we did this thing. We
Speaker 3: were like, say any things that you're grateful for, you know,
Speaker 3: just as a reflection of the days we had off
Speaker 3: because it's just been really mental at the hospital. It's
Speaker 3: really hard to kind of catch a break. And I
Speaker 3: think just the fact that it was just so easy. Genuinely,
Speaker 3: I could say that. I feel like I've said that
Speaker 3: so many times, but I feel like you could. Everyone
Speaker 3: has those easy friendships where it's no effort to be around.
Speaker 3: You're not overthinking, you're not thinking about what they might
Speaker 3: be thinking about, what you'll think. What they're thinking is
Speaker 3: just like straight up and if you're bothered by something
Speaker 3: you say, and if you're not, then you're don't. But yeah,
Speaker 3: it was really really lovely. So highly recommend that, And
Speaker 3: I think that was the kind of the main things
Speaker 3: I've done in the last few weeks. I feel like
Speaker 3: you've been around the world and back though.
Speaker 2: I've I'm so glad you had a nice time.
Speaker 1: Let you guys sound like at the hospital, because you're
Speaker 1: all like these rows and laws of colleagues from the hospital.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you guys have just been so intense
Speaker 1: lately and you really need to find ways to decompress.
Speaker 1: And I feel like effortless friendships where you're not filtering
Speaker 1: yourself through any kind of expectation or fear or eggshells
Speaker 1: or whatever it is, that's so restorative. And then to
Speaker 1: do it in nature, it's funny, like you put off
Speaker 1: things like this over and over, but then when you get.
Speaker 2: There, you're like, why don't I do this all the time?
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think everyone would have been like, oh,
Speaker 3: it's so uncomfortable because it's so cold. But we kind
Speaker 3: of just like because we didn't stress about it, it didn't
Speaker 3: become a stressor like, it just didn't become a big
Speaker 3: deal because we didn't overthink it. We kind of just
Speaker 3: got there and we were like, Okay, well we'll wear
Speaker 3: more clothes tonight, or we'll sit with the fire tonight,
Speaker 3: or and then we slept and we woke up like
Speaker 3: it just because all three of us were just chill
Speaker 3: about it, it just became a chill thing, Whereas I
Speaker 3: think if you had, you know, a group of people
Speaker 3: where half are like, oh, it's so cold all the time,
Speaker 3: it becomes like a real kind of brings down the
Speaker 3: vibes a bit. So yeah, it kind of was just
Speaker 3: like I think we all just needed it. We had
Speaker 3: a really great time. I was very spontaneous and a
Speaker 3: very just because I smashed out all my work before,
Speaker 3: which meant that when I was there, I was there
Speaker 3: like previously, I probably would have done a little bit
Speaker 3: of work here a little bit of work there, whereas
Speaker 3: we kind of were all really nicely switched off, which
Speaker 3: was really great too.
Speaker 2: But how was you you you went to Bali?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I feel like when once we knew that
Speaker 4: travel was back on, we're like, okay, oh my god,
Speaker 4: make the most of it, Ah, And it's been amazing.
Speaker 4: Similar to you, it's sort of like you don't really
Speaker 4: break your own circuit.
Speaker 1: I mean we say this all the time. It's harder
Speaker 1: to break your own circuit in your normal environment, in
Speaker 1: your normal home, where your normal obligations and your normal
Speaker 1: day to day stuff is, and your work. And you know,
Speaker 1: when you work from home, you're kind of in the
Speaker 1: same environment that you work and you sleep and you
Speaker 1: live in. And yeah, it's been really really great for
Speaker 1: the brain and the soul to get out of that,
Speaker 1: you know cycle and then come back to. And Bali
Speaker 1: was so random, it was. I think we booked it
Speaker 1: really early in the year, before the year kind of
Speaker 1: had any like, we had no idea if we were
Speaker 1: actually going to be able to travel or not. And
Speaker 1: Leah and my so Nick obviously is my husband, and
Speaker 1: he's really good friend. And our really good friend is
Speaker 1: Ramsey who's Leah's partner, and they actually just announced their
Speaker 1: pregnancy today, which is so exciting. But we were at
Speaker 1: a stage where the boys were traveling a lot and
Speaker 1: we were just at home, and we were like, Oh,
Speaker 1: we're going to just book a girl's trip and just
Speaker 1: not actually expecting we'd be able to do it. And
Speaker 1: it's funny if we in how we were saying before,
Speaker 1: like it's really hard to make time for downtime, or
Speaker 1: really hard to make time for things that aren't essential
Speaker 1: or that aren't work trips.
Speaker 2: And I usually travel for work trips.
Speaker 1: But because we'd booked it so far in advance, you
Speaker 1: kind of just build your life around it.
Speaker 2: You just block out the time.
Speaker 1: And suddenly it got to May tenth and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, we're actually going away. And it was
Speaker 1: same as you. Really, we were all Leah brought a
Speaker 1: good friend of hers, Alex with her, who I'd only
Speaker 1: met once before, but we were all on the same
Speaker 1: page about what the trip was for and same thing.
Speaker 1: It was just effortless. It was just this random seven
Speaker 1: days that we had no reason to be there. There
Speaker 1: was no work backing to it. It was just like
Speaker 1: the pure purpose of getting some sun, getting some good
Speaker 1: food into us, like eating healthily, having some like green smoothies,
Speaker 1: just stuff. It's so funny how quickly you can get
Speaker 1: out of your good routines. I've stopped taking like my vitamins.
Speaker 1: I've just been in a weird kind of chaotic mindset.
Speaker 1: So to get away to do yoga every day, to read,
Speaker 1: to nap when we felt tired, to swim when we
Speaker 1: felt like swimming, like it was just beautiful to be
Speaker 1: like you away with two other people who were just
Speaker 1: so chill, who didn't need to get anything out of
Speaker 1: the trip. None of us had an agenda. Not having
Speaker 1: like plans for each day for a prolonged amount of
Speaker 1: days is so good for your brain.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think like the takeaway I K well, I
Speaker 3: think we went on ours after you went on yours,
Speaker 3: and you had the whole reflection of oh, like it
Speaker 3: was not a random coupling of people. But also it's
Speaker 3: like they're not you know, like your whole circle and stuff,
Speaker 3: and same with like you know, Bals and was like
Speaker 3: loss of Nights is one of my closest mates now.
Speaker 3: But in us our trio as a trio kind of
Speaker 3: we're quite newly formed in probably in the last you know,
Speaker 3: nine months, but it kind of just worked really well.
Speaker 3: And then it's kind of refreshing actually to have like
Speaker 3: new people into your life and kind of spend more
Speaker 3: on other people and things like that. But I think,
Speaker 3: as you know, we can't always get to Bali. But
Speaker 3: I my recommendation would on a recommendation would be for
Speaker 3: everyone to book out of weekend of nothing but something,
Speaker 3: if that makes sense. Totally.
Speaker 1: It's like a play to ya weekend, like a weekend
Speaker 1: for forgetting what time it is.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think we're all like, oh, but it's
Speaker 3: so much effort to fly into state for two days,
Speaker 3: but it actually is really refreshing, you know, Like I
Speaker 3: spoke to a friend network who's going to Tazzy next
Speaker 3: weekend just for the weekend. And like the stuff that
Speaker 3: you can put in when you're actually away, you do
Speaker 3: so much more than when you kind of sit at
Speaker 3: home and do nothing. I feel like when I'm traveling totally,
Speaker 3: the days go on forever because you're just doing stuff
Speaker 3: and having a lot of fun. You wake up early
Speaker 3: and you sleep late and all that jizz and it's
Speaker 3: just a bit of spice in your life, which is nice.
Speaker 2: But the other thing that you know before it enough
Speaker 2: sorry enough.
Speaker 1: But yeah, like I was saying before with BALI like,
Speaker 1: if I tried to plan that closer to it, I
Speaker 1: would have found reasons why I couldn't do it, you know,
Speaker 1: I would have been like, no, this came up, and
Speaker 1: that came up. But because we booked it so early
Speaker 1: when there was no you know, nothing was booked in May,
Speaker 1: you just quarantine those times, you know, you just book
Speaker 1: it far enough in advance that then you plan everything
Speaker 1: around that, and it's it's so much easier to make
Speaker 1: time forlor And yeah, I think I also realized one
Speaker 1: of the things I really really love it is such
Speaker 1: a plata for me is getting people like Leah and
Speaker 1: Alex who I don't spend a lot of time day
Speaker 1: to day with but really enjoy the company and having
Speaker 1: a bit of a blank slate to be like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, let's play the top five game. Like we
Speaker 1: had so much fun for hours just lying there being
Speaker 1: like what is your favorite fruit and why?
Speaker 2: What are your top favorite beverages and why? And like
Speaker 2: TLL mean while you love.
Speaker 3: Me in three words or less?
Speaker 1: Yeah, make at twenty five words or less. Poem about
Speaker 1: the sunset right now?
Speaker 2: Tell me?
Speaker 3: Why?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Me?
Speaker 2: And but you know what I mean, Like, I don't.
Speaker 1: Think people make a lot of time to talk to
Speaker 1: other people when there's not an objective in the conversation.
Speaker 2: There's always something you're trying to get.
Speaker 1: And to just hang out with people and talk about
Speaker 1: why you guys prefer watermelon to berries is such a
Speaker 1: point less exercise in the scheme of goals or hustling.
Speaker 1: But I don't know, it just did something really nice
Speaker 1: to my brain, and I realized that's why I always
Speaker 1: play would you rather or do the top five?
Speaker 3: Thing?
Speaker 2: Because it's just such a silly, like time waster, but
Speaker 2: you learn something new. I don't know. We laughed so much.
Speaker 2: It was just so nice.
Speaker 3: This was one of the most important questions that we
Speaker 3: asked in our camping trip. Would you rather have an
Speaker 3: extra toe on each foot or an extra nipple? Oh?
Speaker 1: I think an Oh? I mean I was gonna say, oh, Paul,
Speaker 1: that was Paul. Everyone he says an extra nipple.
Speaker 2: That's his contribution.
Speaker 1: I would say I was going to say an extra
Speaker 1: toe because you would be wearing shoes, but then you're
Speaker 1: also going to be wearing a bra with your nipples,
Speaker 1: but you'll be wearing open toe shoes, so that's.
Speaker 2: A really hard one.
Speaker 1: Also, while we're on this, I feel like like a
Speaker 1: really fun thing for the neighborhood for this years of
Speaker 1: our live segment should be that they every week should
Speaker 1: submit their top five question like and we have to
Speaker 1: drusus what are out?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Or would you run? Oh my god, guys, please submit
Speaker 2: would you rathers? Every week for us?
Speaker 3: Yeah? And in the comments on this post of whenever
Speaker 3: you post it, please comment just to like, but not
Speaker 3: with no context. But everyone gets really confused. Just write
Speaker 3: nipples or toe?
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh that is our oyster? What are those things called?
Speaker 1: When you drop a thing? And the thing and then
Speaker 1: easter egg? Easter egg, golden egg? Oh my god, what
Speaker 1: was yours?
Speaker 3: What did I say? I think I didn't even get
Speaker 3: to mind because we were laughing at so much that
Speaker 3: the other two responses because Ras kind of like confume,
Speaker 3: well almost was implying that he confused nipple for a
Speaker 3: whole breast, and we're like, no, we're not seeing a
Speaker 3: whole breast, it's just a whole just a single nipple
Speaker 3: where Well, I think that's up to you really, but
Speaker 3: it's a cople.
Speaker 2: Of Also, I'm such a lawyer.
Speaker 1: I'm like specifically where though next to the other in
Speaker 1: the middle in your belly, but like, where is it?
Speaker 3: I think I would rather a toe extra toe, because.
Speaker 2: I think that because you're anefort though.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why I'm an toes. But I think from
Speaker 3: like a physiological standpoint, you're you're more likely to find
Speaker 3: people actually living with extra toes than with an extra nipple.
Speaker 1: As in, you would have more of a community if
Speaker 1: you had an extra toe.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, have you met Crenandoler bowl?
Speaker 3: Missando la Bong wonderful is coming out here anyway. The
Speaker 3: other thing we did also recently was we went to
Speaker 3: Harry Potter and the Curse Child.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I forgot what a play to YEA
Speaker 4: was that big?
Speaker 3: That was a major plate toy. That was really fun.
Speaker 1: It was like, guys, I can't even I can't even
Speaker 1: expet Blaine. So we are both obsessed with Harry Potter.
Speaker 1: That aside, if you'd never read a Harry Potter book
Speaker 1: or never seen a Harry Potter movie, you would still
Speaker 1: be in awe of how they did the special effects.
Speaker 1: How on earth could they make spells work on stage,
Speaker 1: and we had no idea how they did it.
Speaker 3: Like that bed thing.
Speaker 2: Okay, obviously I don't want to give any spoilers, but
Speaker 2: the bed.
Speaker 3: Bit fomore dies alert. Sorry you had to say the
Speaker 3: other way around swell and let A Lendon said a spoiler.
Speaker 1: Everyone knows that right though.
Speaker 3: That was from the books.
Speaker 1: Okay, it was glasses they're round, spoiler alert, spoiler alert,
Speaker 1: but it was in say I cannot recommend him highly.
Speaker 2: I think one of the not deterrents.
Speaker 1: But you had to find originally for the stage show
Speaker 1: like a full day because it was three hours and
Speaker 1: then a big to our interval, so there was a
Speaker 1: lunch and then you had a break and you went
Speaker 1: and got dinner, and then he came back and watched
Speaker 1: the other three hours. They've condensed it into one three
Speaker 1: hour show now so you can do it in a night.
Speaker 1: And it was magical, like we were play to ya
Speaker 1: Heaven you just escapism. It was so beautiful, Escaapism.
Speaker 3: I went to work next the next day and I
Speaker 3: was flushing so hard.
Speaker 2: I was like, you need to go, and you need
Speaker 2: to go, and you need it.
Speaker 3: And I think people, a lot of people had actually
Speaker 3: already watched the two parts, which I have come to
Speaker 3: realize is from a magical standpoint, I think all of
Speaker 3: the magic that's in the condensed version was also in
Speaker 3: the long version, So I would say you, your wow
Speaker 3: factor is very very much to be the same or similar,
Speaker 3: but I hear this slightly more magic regardless though it's
Speaker 3: just I expected. Well. First of all, I was like,
Speaker 3: is this a musical? I don't even know, And then
Speaker 3: they didn't start singing, and I was like, it's definitely
Speaker 3: not a musical, and I realized it's probably the first
Speaker 3: play that I've been to, and I just was on
Speaker 3: the edge of my shit the whole time because I
Speaker 3: was like, just how they utilize stage choreography and just
Speaker 3: everything was so refreshing, Like the story was really quite progressive.
Speaker 3: Actually the actors were quite young, like it has Harry
Speaker 3: Potter themes throughout the whole thing, but also kind of
Speaker 3: like it's almost like a twenty first century, very modernize. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's quite cool. And also I think you literally messaged
Speaker 3: me two days before like what are you doing Thursday?
Speaker 3: And I was like nothing, You're like, okay, let me
Speaker 3: check my schedule. Yeah, let me check my schedule of
Speaker 3: the things I do not do. And then we went
Speaker 3: and because I I think, I just said yes and
Speaker 3: I was so busy, I just said yes, and I
Speaker 3: say I'll see you there at the time that we
Speaker 3: need to be there. And even that I feel was
Speaker 3: the best decision, because you don't you're not looking into things,
Speaker 3: You're not like hyping you stuff. You kind of just
Speaker 3: rock up and then you surprised by whatever happened. Like
Speaker 3: we were there at the premiere and there was like
Speaker 3: cool as booths and fire a fire ring and the.
Speaker 2: Water was green and then and you put on flatform
Speaker 2: nine and three quarters.
Speaker 1: I went on to.
Speaker 3: A loser. May do you jump? So many there were
Speaker 3: people like col On, you know in there, like beautiful dresses,
Speaker 3: like you beautiful, and then like like really pretty and
Speaker 3: like lovely posts and then I'm here like trying to
Speaker 3: get my legs up as high as I can, and
Speaker 3: everyone around brought this chick and I.
Speaker 2: Was like, I just walked away. I was like not maybe.
Speaker 1: No, but we were like, guys, you can imagine anyone
Speaker 1: who's listened to gays of our lives before, wouldn't you
Speaker 1: can imagine what it is like to go to a
Speaker 1: play that has constant surprises with Ang, She's literally like
Speaker 1: and then something funny happens and she's like ha, and
Speaker 1: like the whole theater is staring at you.
Speaker 2: I'm shrinking into my seat like I'm not with her.
Speaker 3: So jobs or you'd.
Speaker 1: Like get the joke like one milli second after everyone else,
Speaker 1: so the whole crowd would go ha ha, and you
Speaker 1: go ah ha.
Speaker 3: Really or like something because I can't just control my excitement.
Speaker 3: Like when all the cool stuff happened around us, I
Speaker 3: was like whoa, whoa.
Speaker 2: Then everyone would look at you. Oh God, what a
Speaker 2: great time.
Speaker 3: So that's another recommendation. Everyone has to go. It's really affordable. Also,
Speaker 3: it was like one hundred and twenty fives where we went, so.
Speaker 2: Damn do you Halla halla hallaaa?
Speaker 3: Let me tell you. I literally hala la la la
Speaker 3: la la la la hella recommend.
Speaker 2: That's still so funny to me. I also Halla halla
Speaker 2: halaa halla hola recommend.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Paul is literally like not okay with me right now.
Speaker 1: It's like shut up, mom, vivid. Nick and I were
Speaker 1: back in the same state for like three days, the
Speaker 1: same state and country for three days and we had
Speaker 1: the cutest date weekend this past weekend in Sydney at Vivid,
Speaker 1: which just opened, and it was again one of those
Speaker 1: things you know how you were talking about, make time
Speaker 1: to go on a little adventure, no matter where it is,
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be Balley, can just be somewhere that
Speaker 1: isn't your suburb or area. Going to Sydney, it puts
Speaker 1: you in a frame of mind as if you're a tourist,
Speaker 1: when you're like I love playing a tourist in your
Speaker 1: own country, but like in a different city. And if
Speaker 1: I was at home and you told me go and
Speaker 1: see this amazing light show, but it's going to be crowded,
Speaker 1: and like you know, the roadsbey and you can't get
Speaker 1: an uber blah blah, and it was cold, you know
Speaker 1: I'd probably be like no, but we went. And the
Speaker 1: magic of like seeing something as if you're a tourist,
Speaker 1: just not only admiring like such an iconic Australian background,
Speaker 1: but seeing people's faces, like kids and families out enjoying
Speaker 1: just on the streets, walking around mass crowds, enjoying free
Speaker 1: artwork like projected onto the Harbor Bridge and the Upper House.
Speaker 2: It was so special. Like Actually, I said in my
Speaker 2: caption that I posted.
Speaker 1: That I got tiary, and I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: you sound like such a winker, But I actually got emotional,
Speaker 1: Like at night with lights, I was doing a U
Speaker 1: I was getting triggered by all the night lights and
Speaker 1: the city skyline, but then also seeing children's faces running around,
Speaker 1: smiling like kids who haven't been able to run around
Speaker 1: for years, and seeing people just so happy and in
Speaker 1: awe of like these incredible creations projected onto buildings and
Speaker 1: everyone just outside like it was so magical. It's on
Speaker 1: till June eighteenth. There's like so many free installations. The
Speaker 1: light shows paired often with like custom created music tracks
Speaker 1: from famous DJs.
Speaker 2: It was magical. I can't even say hala la la haigh.
Speaker 2: I recommend it. We had the best time. I also
Speaker 2: highly recommend being in the same state as your spouse.
Speaker 2: It's kind of nice.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was gonna say, we spoke at this the
Speaker 3: other week. I have seen I recoon that five times
Speaker 3: this year and it's quite sad.
Speaker 2: And I two out of five have been at stage
Speaker 2: shows legit.
Speaker 3: And I remember messaging you being like, Hi, what are
Speaker 3: you doing? And so I was like, oh, I'm quite tired.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, cool, so.
Speaker 2: I'm just going over.
Speaker 1: You and You're like, but only if you want to,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I just didn't say anything, and
Speaker 1: then I was like.
Speaker 3: Okay, on my way. I'm on my way, but only
Speaker 3: if you're like we don't. I don't have to. I'm
Speaker 3: on my way.
Speaker 1: No house key, so you can't even pretend you're I'm
Speaker 1: not home because I'll just come inside.
Speaker 3: You've been cleaning this weekend. And I was like, yes,
Speaker 3: I assure I am.
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Speaker 1: Soh so our main theme thirty two minutes in, we
Speaker 1: totally have forgotten what our actual thing was that we
Speaker 1: were going to start with. Our episode today is dedicated
Speaker 1: to pla pl eh, which is a concept that has
Speaker 1: been very helpful in our friendship and I feel like
Speaker 1: could benefit some of the neighborhood as well. Basically, one
Speaker 1: day and chet me a message. We were just having
Speaker 1: our normal chats and one of us, you know, like
Speaker 1: we often go through either synchronized or not synchronized. Synchronized, yeah,
Speaker 1: synchronized or not synchronized phases of just not coping.
Speaker 2: Like we go from highly.
Speaker 1: Functioning doing all the things, blah blah blah blah. But
Speaker 1: it's only possible because every now and then we have
Speaker 1: a complete and art and meltdown. And one day and
Speaker 1: was going through one of hers. They're either at the
Speaker 1: same time, which is a disaster, or they're separate. Also
Speaker 1: a disaster, and she sends me this message going plare,
Speaker 1: and I was like googling. You know, I'm old, right,
Speaker 1: So I was on Urban Dictionary, like what is plaire?
Speaker 1: I was googling like what does player mean? Had no idea,
Speaker 1: and it brought up all these weird things and I
Speaker 1: was like, no, none.
Speaker 2: Of them work. What is plait?
Speaker 1: It's help backwards and it is how we now describe
Speaker 1: when you just can't when you just cannot, you can't reply,
Speaker 1: You're shit at messages and emails, you're off the grid,
Speaker 1: you're a terrible friend. You just don't want to do anything.
Speaker 1: You know, we all have those like days and weeks
Speaker 1: where just it's too much. And plaire as our like
Speaker 1: code word. Don't you think it's been the most useful?
Speaker 3: Oh bim? We also plat came from an episode in
Speaker 3: Friends and Your Friends that was out there Joey. They're
Speaker 3: all stuck in like side of somewhere and there was
Speaker 3: like snowing. I don't know if it's snowing, but there
Speaker 3: was dirt, and he tried to get help, like support
Speaker 3: from a helicopter, and he wrote in the ground play
Speaker 3: and Chandler's like what is and he's like, it's so
Speaker 3: the helicopters can read it. So that's where we got
Speaker 3: play from me just try to help backwards anyway. Sorry, No,
Speaker 3: I think that's one of the best things we did
Speaker 3: in our friendship for communications standpoint of really, I guess
Speaker 3: quantifying or qualifying like how how down and out you were,
Speaker 3: because you know you can say, oh, like, no, I'm
Speaker 3: really sad, like really is so like it's not it's
Speaker 3: not very definite. It's kind of whatever you want to
Speaker 3: take from it. Whereas we kind of both define player
Speaker 3: as player is our last resort almost you know, like
Speaker 3: you're really not in a good space where it's like
Speaker 3: intervention is needed, kind of level of help needed, and
Speaker 3: we were strictly between us have only ever used it
Speaker 3: for that, which is why it's been so effective. I
Speaker 3: feel like if you if you say that between friends
Speaker 3: and then you kind of use it sometimes in stages
Speaker 3: where you're not that player, and then you kind of
Speaker 3: get blurred lines of what player really means. So for us,
Speaker 3: we can't. We kind of defined it as a we
Speaker 3: kind of hit close to bottom in terms of where
Speaker 3: we are energy levels. It could just be from a burnout,
Speaker 3: could be from this actual mental health. It could be
Speaker 3: from just arrange whatever it is. We could be player
Speaker 3: or pre player or whatever it is.
Speaker 2: Pre player. We also do pre player.
Speaker 1: Pre player because it's not quite there yet, and we
Speaker 1: also know pre player is like I might make some
Speaker 1: decisions that are level, but just understand that it's so
Speaker 1: I can prevent the full player coming on.
Speaker 2: That's right, that's right, that's right. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 3: My other analogy of play is, you know how everyone
Speaker 3: has one thing that is the epitome of a promise,
Speaker 3: like if I pinky promise, yes, like for me and
Speaker 3: you pinky promise, I've never broken one. It's the highest
Speaker 3: level of promising. It's legitimate, it's all that's like for loss,
Speaker 3: for example, if Lots has to wear in my life,
Speaker 3: that's her ultimate, the ultimate, and for me it's pinky promise.
Speaker 3: And you know everyone has one with their mates who
Speaker 3: that is the top, like the penultimate of promises or
Speaker 3: whatever it is.
Speaker 2: The ultimate penultimate is second second highest, the second last.
Speaker 3: Yeah, pen pen ultimate.
Speaker 2: Is it pen pen ultimate ultimate or penultimate penultimate?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah?
Speaker 1: Plus plus is also when we're like something is that
Speaker 1: but dire It's like imppy plus plus or I'm like
Speaker 1: gonna wet my pants.
Speaker 2: Plus plus means pullover well.
Speaker 3: Plus plus is from our hospital how we document hospital notes,
Speaker 3: and it could be something that you know, patient was tired,
Speaker 3: plus plus like ROTI obviously I can't write in my
Speaker 3: medical notes recommends, so I write recommend sorry, and then
Speaker 3: so plaire is our version of you know, they hit
Speaker 3: and play. You know, you can set a player with
Speaker 3: your friends however you want, but play for us very
Speaker 3: much looks like like Sarah was saying, we become maybe unresponsive.
Speaker 3: We may become we may withdraw, we may say things,
Speaker 3: we may be a bit more irritable. It's those things
Speaker 3: that you would do that afterwards you'd be like, you
Speaker 3: feel really guilty about. And it gets this vicious cycle
Speaker 3: of oh, I can't believe I said that to them,
Speaker 3: because I feel so guilty about it now. But because
Speaker 3: we have clare the stuff that I used to feel
Speaker 3: really guilty about doing, like you know, being irritable, being
Speaker 3: short and sharp and snappy and somewhat even like sometimes
Speaker 3: even rude or like I don't know, bitchy, stuff that
Speaker 3: I would previously feel really guilty about, I still feel
Speaker 3: guilty about. But I feel a little bit better about
Speaker 3: because I know that I've already told Sarah, I'm like, plare,
Speaker 3: so you know what to take and what not to take,
Speaker 3: which has really massively strengthen our friendship because we just
Speaker 3: as part of the reasons why we don't ever get
Speaker 3: into fights, it's because if I'm irritable, you can either
Speaker 3: sense it or you can you are kind of like
Speaker 3: are you play?
Speaker 1: I'll literally say are you player? Like if I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: something's off, I'm like, you play?
Speaker 2: Or are you just being a bitch today?
Speaker 3: That's right? You literally for real remember that truth?
Speaker 2: And I was like, ah, is this plaire because otherwise,
Speaker 2: like stop doing that legit.
Speaker 3: And more often than not, it's play.
Speaker 2: Every time it's been, except the other day when I
Speaker 2: was like, Wow, you're just a bitch.
Speaker 3: I just want to put on the side I'm not
Speaker 3: a bitch, and.
Speaker 1: So your play those are the symptoms of your player.
Speaker 1: And my play is when I'm like totally just don't reply,
Speaker 1: like just don't not on top of dates or like
Speaker 1: what's going on, and I'm like, I use player when
Speaker 1: I'm like.
Speaker 2: Can we please reschedule.
Speaker 1: That's why we haven't done our like regular episodes because
Speaker 1: at various times and different times, we've both been like,
Speaker 1: I'm play tonight. I just my brain is not gonna
Speaker 1: have a good chat.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And do you know what testament to us because
Speaker 3: we have never once questioned each other's player, and not
Speaker 3: once have I ever been annoyed at you, like are
Speaker 3: you being like I? Like, you know, I may fully
Speaker 3: be prepared and not go to dinner because we've got
Speaker 3: a podcast on. And if you're you know, if anyone else,
Speaker 3: i'd have been like, well that's really annoying. But if
Speaker 3: and it's like, I just have never I've reflected on it,
Speaker 3: and I've been like, well, every time serious is said play.
Speaker 3: I know that we use play quite sparingly, despite how
Speaker 3: much we use it. Honestly, we're a mess.
Speaker 2: How frequently we use it. We actually do use that
Speaker 2: very often.
Speaker 3: It's seldom used every day.
Speaker 2: I rarely use it every day every day.
Speaker 3: I always sometimes use it only.
Speaker 2: Scarcity of daily, but sporadically each minute.
Speaker 3: Oh. What I was saying was that we are very respectful,
Speaker 3: which questioned it stronger.
Speaker 1: No, But I think it has been really good because
Speaker 1: it does just distinguish I think in so many close friendships,
Speaker 1: particularly when you're quite like it in tune with each
Speaker 1: other and you want everyone to be happy, like when
Speaker 1: you're the kind of person who's like no, but really
Speaker 1: like often we will say no, I can I can
Speaker 1: do it. I can pull through even when like maybe
Speaker 1: you can't, because you you always want to do the
Speaker 1: right thing. And I think it's a good way to
Speaker 1: make sure between really close mates. You know, often you'll
Speaker 1: say no, I don't care where we go, but you
Speaker 1: actually care, but you just don't want to say that
Speaker 1: because you want to go with the flow and be easy.
Speaker 1: It's a good way to be like okay, really though,
Speaker 1: like really are you okay or are you just saying
Speaker 1: you're okay? And you need to have a safe word
Speaker 1: so that you can get to the guts of like
Speaker 1: is this really how you feel or are you just
Speaker 1: saying that?
Speaker 3: Yeah? And I think our player are so complex, and
Speaker 3: I think it's because we complex. It's complex. You and
Speaker 3: I know each other so well that I think I've
Speaker 3: not that I've tried play with other people, but when
Speaker 3: I've become when I am play and I'm around people,
Speaker 3: you know that I can really consider like my best
Speaker 3: maids or close friends as well they don't necessarily quite
Speaker 3: get it as quickly, and it takes a little of
Speaker 3: time because like, for example, I might do something that
Speaker 3: sounds completely contradictory to what I've just said, but it
Speaker 3: takes more effort for me to have to explain why
Speaker 3: that is the case, whereas I know with you, you
Speaker 3: just get it. If I I'm like no, but I
Speaker 3: I really need rest, And then I go to boxing,
Speaker 3: You're like, what the freak, Like, it's just I can't
Speaker 3: explain that, and I can't. It just is what happens.
Speaker 3: And then for someone to question that becomes even more
Speaker 3: like it triggers more irritability, you know, like oh, why,
Speaker 3: well you just told me you're tied. Why do you
Speaker 3: do that? So it becomes like it's quite tricky. So
Speaker 3: for us, like I know, I know that I'll say
Speaker 3: things at a contradictory but I know that you know that.
Speaker 3: I'm like, literally, I'm not in a place to even
Speaker 3: make rational decisions, and therefore I'll probably just go and
Speaker 3: do and say random things because I just can't be
Speaker 3: bothered having to explain that. And for you, yours is
Speaker 3: like a kind of full withdrawal, you know, postponing things
Speaker 3: but also inability to make a decision, like it'll be
Speaker 3: to the point where I know who's there that if
Speaker 3: the decision has to be made, it needs to be
Speaker 3: made for you. Yeah, even to the like so am
Speaker 3: I seeing you this week? Like you know you might
Speaker 3: have an answer, but really you don't actually have it.
Speaker 3: You can't make that decision. So I would just say
Speaker 3: something like I'm gonna come over this week and then
Speaker 3: you can say yes. So no, like you know, if
Speaker 3: you really don't want me to just say it, but
Speaker 3: think even little things like you know, even tonight, I
Speaker 3: was like, do you want to do the podcast?
Speaker 2: And you're like up to you and is like, I'm easy.
Speaker 2: That's my play. I'm easy. I can't no brain capacity,
Speaker 2: Just do you tell me what to do?
Speaker 3: Because we know that of each other. Though I genuinely
Speaker 3: think that's why we have We don't really regularly have
Speaker 3: really quite deep fights. We don't really have fights at all,
Speaker 3: to be honest.
Speaker 2: I don't think we've ever had a deep fight.
Speaker 1: We've just had silly things because you got drunk and
Speaker 1: Patricia came out, and also because I didn't not you know,
Speaker 1: the only reason why we had the other way direction
Speaker 1: fight was because we didn't have Plaire, so I couldn't
Speaker 1: use player and you couldn't say you should be plaire. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we didn't have Plaire. You know, there's a whole new
Speaker 1: teent of this podcast called plare too. Yeah yeah, first
Speaker 1: play Yeah, because plenty, But hopefully it can emit it.
Speaker 1: But hopefully hopefully the concept of player, as we've just
Speaker 1: explained it A makes sense to you guys, but b
Speaker 1: maybe is useful in some of your friendships. It really
Speaker 1: does just create so much space for us to just
Speaker 1: not have to use words to explain how we are.
Speaker 1: And for various reasons, I think both of us and
Speaker 1: everyone as we started the episode with, have been in
Speaker 1: various states of player, not really understanding why it's not
Speaker 1: just going and we're not just feeling normal. But a
Speaker 1: lot in this first six months of this first semi
Speaker 1: normal looking this year, and most of you will know
Speaker 1: vague details that you know, Nick has been in and.
Speaker 2: Out of the state.
Speaker 1: We've been apart for a lot of the last few
Speaker 1: years with his dad's quite unwell, and that's been a
Speaker 1: huge player causer because you know, it's so up and
Speaker 1: down where we've had, yeah, so much dissonance and difficulty
Speaker 1: planning and lots of last minute and emotional up people,
Speaker 1: and it's it has it's been a lot on top
Speaker 1: of everything to sort of not be played. But it's
Speaker 1: been so helpful to have a word that when it
Speaker 1: is just getting all a bit much, to be able
Speaker 1: to just say it and then like everything is, I
Speaker 1: just know you're on the same page.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think the other reason why we wanted
Speaker 3: to bring that up was actually just kind of say
Speaker 3: that we're not like always okay. I think people assume
Speaker 3: that we're like really happy and whatever at the time,
Speaker 3: which we are, like actually, even when we're playing, we
Speaker 3: can still be happy, but we both hit pretty rock
Speaker 3: bottom like often and if not, like I'm not, I
Speaker 3: wouldn't say often, but we do do it, and then
Speaker 3: when it's bad, it is pretty bad, and like it
Speaker 3: is pretty and gloom for a period of time. So
Speaker 3: if anyone is feeling a little bit plait at the moment,
Speaker 3: I hope you have someone that you can talk to
Speaker 3: or figure out what it is or go on that
Speaker 3: little spontaneous week and that we was chatting about that
Speaker 3: sense of refresh people a lot. But whatever it is,
Speaker 3: we hope that you're okay too, because I think you
Speaker 3: and I had probably felt the full brunt of it recently.
Speaker 3: Well on this sart of this year, at least, I
Speaker 3: feel like I've been more play than I have been
Speaker 3: in a long time in this first six months.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think it's like so good as a
Speaker 1: tool even for me, like you kind of introduce me
Speaker 1: to the concept, but for my own brain to be
Speaker 1: able to even recognize when you're feeling that way then
Speaker 1: helps you know, Okay, this is temporary, it won't last forever,
Speaker 1: this is not my life. This is just how I
Speaker 1: feel right now because of a certain set of circumstances.
Speaker 1: And that also helps you navigate when you're in it
Speaker 1: as well, because you don't sort of, I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's just so human to have cycles of it being
Speaker 1: like you went for a couple of years without hardly
Speaker 1: saying play at all, and then you know, in a
Speaker 1: time of big change or big life decisions, it all
Speaker 1: comes thick and fast, and I think, I don't know,
Speaker 1: just having a word to navigate the whole ebbs and
Speaker 1: flows of feeling that you can tackle the world versus
Speaker 1: feeling like you can't.
Speaker 3: It's helped you.
Speaker 2: It's plaid a lot. It's very been, very playful.
Speaker 3: No, you've got to keep play first.
Speaker 1: Sad you can't, okay, except plenty Yeah, because it's not
Speaker 1: like yeah, it's not like yeah, it's not like yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm so excited. It's just like, yeah, we'll do a
Speaker 1: podcast one week and we're actually a player, and then
Speaker 1: you can actually know we have postponed every time that
Speaker 1: we're plaire. It would just not beyond brand. Like there's
Speaker 1: authenticity and then there's Plaire. Yeah, there's that's true, and
Speaker 1: then there's like I'm non verbal and you're just.
Speaker 2: A So it's just not a fun time.
Speaker 3: Talk to me, look to men, talk to me. No.
Speaker 1: But you're like, bitch, but passag bitch. You're like, so,
Speaker 1: I don't know, like who has you know someone in
Speaker 1: this room? And I'm not going to say who. I'm
Speaker 1: not resting right now. Yeah it's not looking after her
Speaker 1: mental health, but I'm not going to say who.
Speaker 3: You'd be like, oh, I never remember saying that it
Speaker 3: was eleven o'clock. Well, and then I'll just send nothing
Speaker 3: but a screenshot of you saying eleven o'clock.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, the screenshots. Sorry, just above refer above
Speaker 1: at eleven oh six, this is what you said anyway,
Speaker 1: whatever you are, as per my last email embodied so guys,
Speaker 1: because of play being a little bit more heightened recently,
Speaker 1: but also just life and travel and like so many
Speaker 1: exciting things. One of the really weird but beautiful parts
Speaker 1: of this year for me personally has been not having
Speaker 1: a plan. And I think that's you've probably heard me
Speaker 1: say quite a few times on the podcast that a
Speaker 1: silver lining of the pandemic was letting go of needing
Speaker 1: to have the whole year planned and really enjoying just
Speaker 1: kind of taking things as they go, which has continued
Speaker 1: to be amazing this year. But it also means that
Speaker 1: I haven't been planning very well, so with plant on
Speaker 1: top of that has meant things like big ideas that
Speaker 1: we had. We asked for bike stories recently and we
Speaker 1: have a few really good ones, and we also asked
Speaker 1: for expressions of interest to join us for a Pino
Speaker 1: and Picasso session, painting and doing the fun things. Those
Speaker 1: are probably now going to be next financial year July onwards,
Speaker 1: sit down and replan everything because.
Speaker 2: We're just going to get through the end of this
Speaker 2: financial year.
Speaker 1: Make it to the end of June and go gently
Speaker 1: when your plan I feel like you really need to
Speaker 1: go gently and not you know, you're not on anyone's schedule.
Speaker 1: There's no reason why those needed to happen by June,
Speaker 1: and so I think it's been lovely to remind ourselves
Speaker 1: of that and be like, Okay, they're big projects. We've
Speaker 1: got so many good ideas, but like they'll be TBC.
Speaker 1: But still, if you do have a bike story, please
Speaker 1: let us know because the planning is in motion.
Speaker 3: Yeah, bike stories plus please guys pulls hala hala la
Speaker 3: hala hala, recommend you send your bike stories. Yeah, because
Speaker 3: they've got cool things lined up, so how many cool things?
Speaker 3: Feels like someone else deserves a bike or loves bikes or.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just send your stories to neighborhood watch bike stories.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, legit. We should also do ceramics, but we
Speaker 3: will organize that and leader. I think the best probably
Speaker 3: way to plan it is probably by the Facebook page now,
Speaker 3: so people would get the Facebook page if they want
Speaker 3: to get involved. It's probably the easiest way to create
Speaker 3: events and things like that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, which I also need to be more on because
Speaker 1: I've been play on there as well, like the worst
Speaker 1: I'm the Actually.
Speaker 3: You can't use plays like that. Now, that's not play.
Speaker 2: I have been on that as in my player has
Speaker 2: been taken out on that page.
Speaker 3: Oh right right. I was like, God, now we just
Speaker 3: said now I'm playing.
Speaker 2: Has been player and you have woken up Claire.
Speaker 3: My poo has been a bit player. But we don't
Speaker 3: have to talk about that.
Speaker 1: So yeah, keep those coming, please send us, would you
Speaker 1: rathers for continuing episodes?
Speaker 2: Also? When will this come out? Like almost straight away?
Speaker 1: I don't know if we'll have time to do another
Speaker 1: one before I go away, but for the rest most
Speaker 1: of the rest of June, I'm going.
Speaker 2: Or now honeymoon. Where are you going?
Speaker 1: Well, I feel like people should guess and then I'll
Speaker 1: like do an episode about it because I think it'll
Speaker 1: be pretty insane. But Nick and I got married like
Speaker 1: nearly three years ago and it's been postponed a million times,
Speaker 1: and I'm so excited we're actually going and it's been like, yeah,
Speaker 1: a really hard time being together, so very much looking
Speaker 1: forward to that.
Speaker 3: Okay, quick question, then where are you going wrong? Answer?
Speaker 2: Only just one Afghanistan.
Speaker 3: Well that Escalateddn's money. Okay, cool, cool man?
Speaker 2: Cool positive the Bermuda triangle.
Speaker 3: That's how your phone goes every time I text you.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's because I'm you can't go back in my face.
Speaker 3: I know, I'm sorry. I'm like, did you just throw
Speaker 3: your phone to triangle?
Speaker 1: And then I just make you feel bad because I'm like,
Speaker 1: I play leave me alone. Also, it's so many other
Speaker 1: dot points for this episode.
Speaker 2: But you know, whatever, I think we did, but I
Speaker 2: don't think we had.
Speaker 3: We don't really have any neighborhood watch things because we're
Speaker 3: not that organized. I'm sure we will have more watch
Speaker 3: things when you come back from your honeymoon in Saudi Arabia.
Speaker 2: My honeymoon in and.
Speaker 1: Oh no, actually we're going to Phillip Islands.
Speaker 3: Were just local is in Frankston.
Speaker 2: I feel like I did have one more thing I
Speaker 2: was supposed to say, but I forgot.
Speaker 3: Now I don't know, but I realized I wrote this
Speaker 3: little so sometimes you know how I journal and stuff.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I think too much in my brain and I
Speaker 3: can't write fast enough and it doesn't really fit a
Speaker 3: certain theme. I just want to get it out, so
Speaker 3: I've been like just typing things randomly.
Speaker 2: Right, cute, You're you going to read it out. Is
Speaker 2: it show and tell?
Speaker 3: It was showing tell because you know how the start
Speaker 3: we were talking about like not being on a plan. Yep,
Speaker 3: what was your first quote? Can you mean first quote again?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was it's impossible to fall behind in your
Speaker 1: own life. Your pathway is on its own timetable.
Speaker 3: Okay, great, So now wow, it's just like crazy that
Speaker 3: this was the similar thoughts that I was having recently,
Speaker 3: and I wrote a little thing for myself, good what
Speaker 3: are we waiting for? Sometimes I write these and I
Speaker 3: don't read it back until I obviously just read it
Speaker 3: back one day, so and I feel like it's on
Speaker 3: the same wavelength of like decision making and like feeling
Speaker 3: like you're on a time frame, but also not at
Speaker 3: the same time. Anyway, don't know if it's helpful for anyone.
Speaker 3: You can also cut it out if you want to.
Speaker 3: But we get in on this all right, Ready? What
Speaker 3: are we waiting for? The more I think about it,
Speaker 3: the more I realize that life is just a long
Speaker 3: ass waiting game. We're all just waiting, waiting for the
Speaker 3: next time we can go on a holiday, Waiting for
Speaker 3: the other person to break up with us, waiting for
Speaker 3: a sign to do something we've always wanted to do,
Speaker 3: Waiting because next year is probably going to be a
Speaker 3: better year, or waiting to get more professional experience in
Speaker 3: the job that we're probably never going to go back
Speaker 3: to anyway, Waiting for someone to pop the question, Waiting
Speaker 3: for an opportunity to come so we can jump ship safely.
Speaker 3: We're all just waiting for the next thing. Sounds cliche,
Speaker 3: but life is way too short to spend it waiting.
Speaker 3: I won't dismiss it waiting sometimes I actually need for
Speaker 3: some things. But waiting in the mulling kind of way, well,
Speaker 3: that's where we all get stuck. Life short. You can
Speaker 3: argue all you like, but each year April rolls around
Speaker 3: and we will have the same sentiments, Oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: it's already April or now June. The other week I
Speaker 3: had a woman come into the hospital whose main precipitating
Speaker 3: symptoms was a headache. Eleven days later she was palliated.
Speaker 3: She was thirty five years old. And it sounds a
Speaker 3: bit morbid, But we are guaranteed almost nothing in life.
Speaker 3: I say almost nothing because it's one thing that we
Speaker 3: can guarantee ourselves, and that is to live the hell
Speaker 3: out of life whenever we can. The huge thing that
Speaker 3: we mil over when making decisions, more often than not,
Speaker 3: seem so small in retrospect, but we spend ages mulling
Speaker 3: and waiting and prolonging our ability to live our lives
Speaker 3: because of it. No decision to change career is ever
Speaker 3: really permanent. There's always a way back, even if it
Speaker 3: isn't as easy as once was. No decision that makes
Speaker 3: it deeply happy and gives you purpose will ever be regretful.
Speaker 3: Sure it may not work, but in no way is
Speaker 3: it regrettable decision, because in that moment in your life
Speaker 3: is when you want it and need it at most.
Speaker 3: Maybe it's a catalyst for more change in your life
Speaker 3: and more joyful decision making. It doesn't mean you're throwing
Speaker 3: away financial stability, or any stability in that matter. This
Speaker 3: means that you're finny in more meaningful and purposeful ways.
Speaker 3: Sometimes we're bound by the status of a job, by
Speaker 3: how our parents are able to introduce us to our friends,
Speaker 3: by the feeling that you need to stick it out.
Speaker 3: But what if we weren't. What if less bound and
Speaker 3: more fueled fueled by desire, I want to be happy
Speaker 3: to do things We love to live the life we want.
Speaker 3: What if we truly made decisions that let us live
Speaker 3: the hell out of life? Or wouldn't that be a dream?
Speaker 3: Bam the end?
Speaker 2: You need to write a book, do not dab.
Speaker 3: No no, bim.
Speaker 2: That was so beautiful and profound. Oh my god, now
Speaker 2: she's like deflection section. Stop it.
Speaker 1: That was beautiful, beautiful way to end. Seriously, though, when's
Speaker 1: the book coming out?
Speaker 2: Can you write that.
Speaker 1: You pass around the painting? I think also instead of
Speaker 1: Pina pocaso, we should do that game. You should pass
Speaker 1: around the painting thing.
Speaker 3: Which.
Speaker 1: Yes, oh my god, I want to sit in a square.
Speaker 1: But whatever, be different, think outside the circle. But also
Speaker 1: I feel like you could finish, like you could write
Speaker 1: the cs A sequel, like you could finish my book
Speaker 1: that I started by finishing, like by oh my god,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, You write the sequel.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know what you mean. No, I reckon. I'll
Speaker 3: write something one day, not necessarily like my profound thoughts
Speaker 3: of me in the stars at night feeling vulnerable, but more.
Speaker 2: And Frank's diary.
Speaker 3: Yeah, one day I'll write about BNOI but that'll come sometimes,
Speaker 3: please do I I was about to start it the
Speaker 3: other day, so I probably will start it and get
Speaker 3: at the ball rolling public sphere.
Speaker 1: Yes, bim Okay, well, thank you so much, Bomby. That
Speaker 1: was a great catch up. We can do one more
Speaker 1: before I go away.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we will try to do another one before if not,
Speaker 3: have the best time in.
Speaker 1: I keep only being of war torn places like I
Speaker 1: need to stop Liberia, or just to be random things
Speaker 1: like Alexandra.
Speaker 2: Melton melt.
Speaker 3: Every time you say, every time anyone just Liberia. All
Speaker 3: I hear is Labia and it's not good, Bam, I may.
Speaker 3: It's just the sounds of the words, you know. Anyway,
Speaker 3: do you.
Speaker 2: Know Amy Barber worked in Liberia?
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's a freaking champ.
Speaker 2: She's amazing.
Speaker 1: I love Amy. I think I love Amy so much. Guys,
Speaker 1: if you haven't listened to Amy Barber's episode, go back to.
Speaker 2: Two years ago. Incredible human being. Incredible.
Speaker 3: I rate her as a real wife, human being and
Speaker 3: podcast human being.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, great a podcast human being.
Speaker 3: It's true.
Speaker 2: Iam, Thank you so
Speaker 1: Much, Love you bye, love you bye.