WEBVTT - Divine Or Delulu? The Bezos Wedding Post Mortem

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<v Speaker 3>On Welcome to Mama Mia out Loud, where women come

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<v Speaker 3>i'mm Vernon filling in for Holly and here is what

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<v Speaker 3>is on our agenda for today, Monday, the thirtieth of June.

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<v Speaker 3>The Liberal Party is in a world of pain and

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<v Speaker 3>some people think they know how to fix it. We

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<v Speaker 3>way into the debate that has been going on for

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<v Speaker 3>more than thirty years.

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<v Speaker 1>Jesse came in very hot this morning, desperate to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about the viral documentary that she watched on the weekend,

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<v Speaker 1>which I will never watch. So she's going to tell

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<v Speaker 1>us everything that we need to know about it.

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<v Speaker 2>And are we witnessing the downfall of dating apps? I

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<v Speaker 2>have a lot of personal.

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<v Speaker 1>Feelings, But first, if you were anywhere near the Internet

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<v Speaker 1>on the weekend, you couldn't have missed the site of

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<v Speaker 1>Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sanchez getting married in Venice.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like you fell down that rabbit hole. I

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<v Speaker 3>really did.

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<v Speaker 1>I watched it like I would watch an Awards ceremony,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like the red carpet, but the red carpet

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<v Speaker 1>went on for three days and involved boats.

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<v Speaker 2>So everything I know about this wedding was against my

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<v Speaker 2>consent because I just looked at my Instagram on a

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<v Speaker 2>lovely Saturday morning, and not even just my Instagram, but

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<v Speaker 2>my sub stack feed, my Facebook feed, my group chats.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone was so obsessed with this wedding. I struggle to

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<v Speaker 2>think so deeply about something that I know no one

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<v Speaker 2>will care about in like a few weeks except for

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<v Speaker 2>the people who are just so so angry about it.

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<v Speaker 3>I was harassed by a wedding to me I wasn't

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<v Speaker 3>invited to, and if I was out a virus, VP

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<v Speaker 3>no thank you?

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<v Speaker 2>Well are you would have gone?

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people would have VP no thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>but two hundred people said yes please. The groom wore

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<v Speaker 1>new muscles in a spray tann, the bride wore boobs,

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<v Speaker 1>and festivities began with a phone party and ended with

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<v Speaker 1>a pajama and lingerie.

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<v Speaker 3>Hardy guests my personal health well guests.

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<v Speaker 1>Included Oprah, Avunka Trump, Lachlan and Sarah Murdoch, Sydney Sweeney,

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<v Speaker 1>Bill Gates, Leonardo DiCaprio and my favorite description of the

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing. I read a lot over the weekend about it,

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<v Speaker 1>because a lot of people had a lot of feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>My favorite was a series of Kardashians walk down a

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<v Speaker 1>series of jetties wearing a series of ten thousand dollar bras.

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<v Speaker 1>Some more quick numbers. The cost of the wedding was

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<v Speaker 1>rumored to be around fifty million. There were, as I said,

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<v Speaker 1>two hundred guests who arrived on ninety private jets.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I have a comment on that, Yeah, because I'm

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<v Speaker 3>not a mathematician, but that means that for each private jet, like,

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<v Speaker 3>there's two people of private jet yees.

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<v Speaker 1>So I did that match too, And at first I thought, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>why would they only? But then I remembered the whole

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<v Speaker 1>point of a private jet is that it's private. So

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<v Speaker 1>if you're rich enough to have a private jet, it's

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<v Speaker 1>your jet.

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<v Speaker 3>But private let pool uber pool.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I went to a wedding recently. There was a

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<v Speaker 3>bit of a drive. We got a minibus, you know

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<v Speaker 3>what I mean. That was like, get a private jet

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<v Speaker 3>and put twenty people on it. But the idea that

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<v Speaker 3>the private jets are landing with two people on them

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<v Speaker 3>I guess it's also their entourage, the hair and makeup.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes to a group of five. I read that those

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<v Speaker 2>two Rivera jets were the same amount of emissions as

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<v Speaker 2>twenty seven thousand cars in one day.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm not buying any new clothes this year. And

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<v Speaker 3>let me tell you watching that, I just went fuck

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<v Speaker 3>it there.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you know who did buy some new clothes. Lauren Sanchez.

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<v Speaker 1>She wore twenty seven different outfits, including adult chain ger

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<v Speaker 1>bying a wedding dress that took nine hundred hours to

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<v Speaker 1>make and reportedly cost several one hundred thousand dollars. We

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<v Speaker 1>know this because Vogue covered it. They did a digital

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<v Speaker 1>cover that they dropped over the weekend of her wedding dress,

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<v Speaker 1>which you might have seen was the most covered up

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<v Speaker 1>thing I think she's ever worn. It was very fitted.

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<v Speaker 1>She said she didn't wanted to go bling bling. She

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to be classic. And she said this occurred to

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<v Speaker 1>her after she went up in Space and she said

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<v Speaker 1>she wanted to last minute dress. I know. She said

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<v Speaker 1>she really changed everything after Space because she was good

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<v Speaker 1>to do the traditional sort of mermaid strapless look that

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<v Speaker 1>she wears a lot, where her sort of bezongers are

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<v Speaker 1>out the top and up high. But she said, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be classic and.

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<v Speaker 3>More low key with my dress that took eight hundred

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<v Speaker 3>thousand hours to make and sorry dresses. How many dresses

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<v Speaker 3>did she put on?

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<v Speaker 1>There were about twenty seven. We saw a few wedsses

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<v Speaker 1>like the movie.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why she did it, base change. I have a

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<v Speaker 2>fashion question, please. I know you briefly talked about this

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<v Speaker 2>last week, but is this not a bit of a

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<v Speaker 2>tacky wedding for Vogue to jump on the.

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<v Speaker 1>Vogue thing is really interesting because we're going to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about all the big feelings first, and then we're going

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about the scurollous gossip, because yes, it was

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<v Speaker 1>a massive spectacle. And what I noticed the most about

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<v Speaker 1>the coverage is that the people who were upset about

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<v Speaker 1>it were really upset, and there was a weird kind

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<v Speaker 1>of inverted snobbery where a lot of people who aren't

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<v Speaker 1>rich we're turning up their noses and saying that the

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<v Speaker 1>rich people were very tacky, as though there was some

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<v Speaker 1>you know, arbiter of what's good taste and what's bad taste.

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<v Speaker 1>The definition of good taste is just someone who shares

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<v Speaker 1>whatever taste you have, and.

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<v Speaker 3>I read that in terms of the incentive for Vogue

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<v Speaker 3>to do this, a lot of the big designer houses

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<v Speaker 3>are not doing so well at the moment financially right,

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<v Speaker 3>and so you need the zero point zero zero zero

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<v Speaker 3>one percent. Spent a lot of money at them, so

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<v Speaker 3>it was like good publicity for adult chain, Gabana or

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<v Speaker 3>whatever to go look at this dress and basically like

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<v Speaker 3>it's a big ad and they've got to kind of go.

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<v Speaker 3>It doesn't matter whether we endorse Lauren Sanchez. She is

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<v Speaker 3>a vehicle now for us to sell our clothes.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not just that though we're talking about it now.

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<v Speaker 1>Something that I've read an interview with Anna Wintour recently,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've read her biography, and it was a big

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<v Speaker 1>weekend for her because she is stepping away from her

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<v Speaker 1>role as editor in chief of Vogue.

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<v Speaker 3>There were some funny jokes that were like, she put

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<v Speaker 3>Laurence Sanchez on the cover of Vogue, and.

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<v Speaker 1>People were really snobby in the same way that they

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<v Speaker 1>were very snobby the first time she put the cut

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<v Speaker 1>Ashians on the cover. I've read an interview with her

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<v Speaker 1>where she talks about being on a plane and she

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<v Speaker 1>was flying somewhere and sitting next to a man who

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<v Speaker 1>was talking about I can't remember who was at the time,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was a particular celebrity, and he said, oh, she'd

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<v Speaker 1>never be on the cover of Vogue because that's just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, that wouldn't be what Vogue is. And she said,

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<v Speaker 1>I landed, and I booked that person straight away, because

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<v Speaker 1>if someone's in the cultural conversation, the only way for

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<v Speaker 1>these legacy media brands like Vogue to stay relevant is

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<v Speaker 1>to be part of the cultural conversation. You don't have

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<v Speaker 1>to agree with it, but if everybody's talking about Lauren Sanchez, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Vogue got the scoop.

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<v Speaker 3>See I could baland the TACKI conversation quite telling or interesting, right,

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<v Speaker 3>because I was probably one of those people who felt

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<v Speaker 3>sick watching this unfold over the weekend. The display of wealth,

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<v Speaker 3>the vulgarity of the whole thing, the private jets. I

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<v Speaker 3>found that horrific. But it's like, what, so if her

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<v Speaker 3>dress was less tacky. I don't have a single opinion

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<v Speaker 3>on that dress. I don't care about the dress at all.

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<v Speaker 3>But if the dress was less tacky, then we could

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<v Speaker 3>justify the exorbitant costs, Like I think our issue is

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<v Speaker 3>with the money, and we have to place this within

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<v Speaker 3>the context of a US right now that is giving

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<v Speaker 3>tax breaks to billionaires at a time when they are

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<v Speaker 3>wanting to cut health care for working people. That's why

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<v Speaker 3>this event sort of transcended everything and kind of was

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<v Speaker 3>so significant in the zeitgeist. I think that people horrified

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<v Speaker 3>by billionaires and it felt as though it was being

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<v Speaker 3>rubbed in our faces. It felt like the Hunger Games,

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<v Speaker 3>where you've got these really rich people going. I know

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<v Speaker 3>there's a cost of living crisis and you guys can

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<v Speaker 3>barely afford rent right now, but I'm gonna wear this

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<v Speaker 3>dress and come on my private jet. And it was

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<v Speaker 3>this ekey like was it felt so tone deaf, but

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<v Speaker 3>it felt intentional. It felt like an intentional performance of

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<v Speaker 3>just like we are has and we want the have nots.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you're completely right. I think a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>people get tacky mixed up with loud yes. For me, like,

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<v Speaker 2>back in my day, I never I didn't know a

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<v Speaker 2>single billionaire, and now I know so many of them. Personally,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know anything, but I didn't know a name

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<v Speaker 2>of a single billionaire, and now I know so many

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<v Speaker 2>of them.

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<v Speaker 1>So which billionaires do you know what other billionaires do

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<v Speaker 1>you know?

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<v Speaker 2>I know Musk, I know Gates, it's JK Rowling. Still

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<v Speaker 2>wantld did she donate that away?

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<v Speaker 3>She did donate some. That's a good point yeeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know who has donated almost twenty billion dollars

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<v Speaker 1>over the last few years is Mackenzie Bezos? Yeh, first

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<v Speaker 1>wife of Jess.

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<v Speaker 2>Is she still a billionaire?

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<v Speaker 1>Though she still is because she got a lot more

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<v Speaker 1>than that, Yeah, so you know her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. And it almost felt like if you're a billionaire,

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<v Speaker 2>you had to kind of be a bit embarrassed about it,

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<v Speaker 2>like you didn't want that many people to know, and

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't want you were just really secretive about your money.

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<v Speaker 2>And now you have these guys who, like, we know

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<v Speaker 2>that the phone for the phone party helicopped it in

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<v Speaker 2>because they had photographers, yea. Or the phone party. They

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<v Speaker 2>want you to know every single part of what went

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<v Speaker 2>on during that weekend exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't you find that part a little bit ugly?

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<v Speaker 1>Mayn well to play Devil's advocate. People have always had

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<v Speaker 1>over the top weddings, and not just rich people, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>in terms of people of all different socioeconomic groups. Have

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<v Speaker 1>always spent a huge amount of money compared to perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>what they could otherwise do with that money on weddings,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's not new. Also, rich people have always been rich.

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<v Speaker 1>They've always had fancy things, they've had fancy jewelry, they've

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<v Speaker 1>had ostentatious displays of their wealth. Now we're certainly seeing

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<v Speaker 1>a reaction to the quiet luxury movement of the last

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<v Speaker 1>few years. And that's what's so in a way fascinating

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<v Speaker 1>to me about this. And it's not that I don't

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<v Speaker 1>share your feelings, Jesse, but it's more the flagrant display.

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<v Speaker 1>I find that interesting and I think.

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<v Speaker 2>That it's no shame.

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<v Speaker 1>No, there was always the sense of if you were

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<v Speaker 1>really wealthy, it was very tacky to show displays of

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<v Speaker 1>your wealth. That's what's quiet luxury. That's why it's always

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<v Speaker 1>been something that you do behind closed doors, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>more sheic. But the world has also changed. Firstly, you've

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<v Speaker 1>got Donald Trump in charge, and he likes the gold toilet,

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<v Speaker 1>and he likes everything gold, and even the whole Maga

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<v Speaker 1>beauty ideal. It's not minimalist, and so I find that interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>And I also find something about Lauren Sanchez interesting in

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<v Speaker 1>that she genuinely isn't trying to impress and a winter

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<v Speaker 1>really you know, like she has got a certain aesthetic

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<v Speaker 1>that she likes, which is boobs out, huge amount of work, plastic, fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>She owns that she's not trying to be someone that

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<v Speaker 1>she's not. If anything, he has changed to meet her

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<v Speaker 1>kind of aesthetic, and he's now you know, jacked and

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<v Speaker 1>fake tanned. And what struck me most about the picture

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<v Speaker 1>that they posted. It was also so interesting to me

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<v Speaker 1>that she wiped her Instagram clean and changed her handle

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<v Speaker 1>to Lauren Sanchez Bezos.

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<v Speaker 2>Like an hour after yeah, at.

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<v Speaker 1>Like an album release, like talk about a rebranding, and

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<v Speaker 1>then just had that photo. And the photo that they

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<v Speaker 1>released of the two of them, what struck me was

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<v Speaker 1>that neither of them were looking at each other, and

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<v Speaker 1>he was so airbrushed and filtered he looked like a fetus.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really interesting, Like I found the whole thing

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<v Speaker 1>just a really rich text.

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<v Speaker 3>It is such a rich text, but it just says

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<v Speaker 3>a lot about where we are. And I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>that you can subtract the Trump element, right because Bezos,

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<v Speaker 3>let's remember, donated a million dollars to Trump, who is

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<v Speaker 3>now rounding up immigrants in the US and deporting them,

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<v Speaker 3>and so to see the celebrities, And I've grappled with

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<v Speaker 3>this all weekend, where the celebrities attending a wedding is

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<v Speaker 3>a tacit endorsement of the bride and groom and everything

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<v Speaker 3>they believe. Because I'm sure I've been to weddings where

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how they voted. I don't know what

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<v Speaker 3>they do in their spare time. But you can't go

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<v Speaker 3>to Jeff Bezos's wedding and not know he's the Amazon dude.

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<v Speaker 1>But what if he's a nice person. I'm not talking

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<v Speaker 1>about the business side of what he does. That's a

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<v Speaker 1>different thing. And what if by all accounts that I

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<v Speaker 1>hear from anybody who knows anybody who knows Lauren Sanchez

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<v Speaker 1>is that she's a really good time.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I supp it's like I should be a good time.

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<v Speaker 3>I just saw a lot of conflicting ideologies. In one place,

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<v Speaker 3>I found Oprah's presence unusual. I found Leonardo Dicaprioj, I know,

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<v Speaker 3>has done an enormous amount for climate change. And you've

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<v Speaker 3>got the stark contrast in our image, you know, based

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<v Speaker 3>media of wildfires in Europe right now, which are climate

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<v Speaker 3>change related. And then you've got what is descending upon Venice.

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<v Speaker 3>You have the Amazon, like what that has done to

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<v Speaker 3>the environment, to fossil fuels, to all of it. And

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<v Speaker 3>then for Leonardo.

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<v Speaker 1>DiCaprio to rie Co sign I know all the values

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<v Speaker 1>of the bride and groom. Every time you're invited to

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<v Speaker 1>a wedding.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder if you do you are in the spectacle

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<v Speaker 3>in the way that they are.

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<v Speaker 2>Wouldn't there be more dangerous if they didn't go? Just

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<v Speaker 2>as we've seen the election and how much of these

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<v Speaker 2>guys contributed to the election. These guys have all these

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<v Speaker 2>celebrities in their pocket. Like if I was a Leonardo DiCaprio,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, well, this guy could like shut down

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<v Speaker 2>my next movie. I have to go.

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<v Speaker 3>And I also wondered, if I'm Leonardo DiCaprio and I'm

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<v Speaker 3>trying to get funding and save this animal from going extinct,

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<v Speaker 3>then Bezos's money is injecting a lot into that right now.

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<v Speaker 3>Because remember I had to go deep because I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I need to know how Leo and Jeff know each other.

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<v Speaker 3>This is my Roman empire, A weaken I remembered, do

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<v Speaker 3>you remember a clip from years ago at an event,

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<v Speaker 3>we don't know what the event was, and Laurence Sanchez

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<v Speaker 3>is between Jeff and Leo and she's looking at Leo

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<v Speaker 3>like she's trying to kiss him, like she's just enamored.

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<v Speaker 3>And then Jeff Bezos tweeted and was like, hey, Leo,

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<v Speaker 3>want to hang out And it was a thing about.

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<v Speaker 1>A cliff didn't remember that.

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<v Speaker 3>So they go to a lot of events stuff together.

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<v Speaker 3>The one I can't work out is Sydney Sweeney. That

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<v Speaker 3>is just I can't work that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a bit of a mystery. I'd like to move

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<v Speaker 1>to scarless gossip. Briefly, what was she doing there?

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<v Speaker 2>Can someone come up?

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<v Speaker 1>She's with Ai, a twenty six year old up and

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<v Speaker 1>coming actress. It's unclear whether she's connected to the bride

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<v Speaker 1>or the groom. And what was interesting to me is

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<v Speaker 1>that with two hundred people, they had a guest list

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<v Speaker 1>of two hundred because they said they wanted it to

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<v Speaker 1>be intimate. And people have rolled their eyes about two

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<v Speaker 1>hundred being intimate. But when you two adult people, both

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<v Speaker 1>on your second marriages, with grown up children, even just

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<v Speaker 1>your families, would you know, blow out the guest list

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<v Speaker 1>and various business people and friends you've accumulated through your life.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder if they said two hundred and it became

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<v Speaker 3>three hundred. Yeah, because the amount of celebrities that's true.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know whis people forget?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that did she hook up with Tom Brady?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, weddings have a specific job, like the bride and groom.

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<v Speaker 2>Their job is not only to get married, but they

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<v Speaker 2>owe it to their single friends to set them up.

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<v Speaker 2>Because a single person is there at a wedding. They've

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<v Speaker 2>done all the like, hey, do you need help dressing

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<v Speaker 2>up the table? Do you need help organizing the hotel?

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<v Speaker 2>And there'll be one single person there. I reckon it

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<v Speaker 2>had been like Jeff's cousin who's been single for his

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<v Speaker 2>whole life. Yeah, and he's like, don't I man, I've

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<v Speaker 2>got you. I'm gonna invite all of these girls for

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<v Speaker 2>you to meet to Sydney Tom Brady.

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<v Speaker 3>That's where Sydney came in. And there was theories that

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<v Speaker 3>they paid people to come. I don't think they had

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<v Speaker 3>to pay people to come. But is it a coincidence

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<v Speaker 3>that Orlando Bloom had this in the calendar and he went,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to relaunch at the wedding, because I think

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<v Speaker 3>there's going.

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<v Speaker 1>To be just a few days confirming that he'd split

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<v Speaker 1>from Katy Perry, which is interesting because Katy Perry was

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<v Speaker 1>at the bachelorette do in Paris for Lauren Sanchez went

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<v Speaker 1>up in space of course, starting her astronaut career, but

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<v Speaker 1>she's in Australia so she couldn't make it. And they

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<v Speaker 1>obviously hang out together quite a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>As a couple, exactly, and Orlando when they were a couple,

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<v Speaker 3>he seemed to have a good time.

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<v Speaker 1>Did he get custody of the couple Sanchez?

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<v Speaker 3>I believe from reports and because I think we've all

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<v Speaker 3>got to agree that the best part about a wedding,

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<v Speaker 3>put that aside is the next day. It's when you

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<v Speaker 3>wake up and you go who hooked up with her?

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<v Speaker 3>What happened? What Auntie picked a fight with that person?

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<v Speaker 3>Orlando had a glow, he did He's like with someone.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know who it was, but I believe that

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<v Speaker 3>Sydney and Tom Brady definitely something happened there. They were

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<v Speaker 3>walking around Venice the next day together. Orlando was kind

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<v Speaker 3>of like coming. I think he also maybe liked to

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<v Speaker 3>see me.

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<v Speaker 1>Both Sydney Sweeney and Tom Brady know the value of

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<v Speaker 1>a good pet walk. They do, and so if they

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<v Speaker 1>had actually hooked up, I don't know. I think that

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<v Speaker 1>they probably wouldn't have done that pet pork. I think

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<v Speaker 1>the papwork was pretty calculated and worked very effectively.

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<v Speaker 3>Won both Derif Oprah had to come because Gail had

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<v Speaker 3>to go because of the time eleven minutes in space,

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<v Speaker 3>Opra doesn't have to do any So then I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like Gayale was like, Oprah, please, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>go on my own.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, she's the automatic plus one.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she's I think that she's the plus one.

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<v Speaker 1>I really looked like she was having a great time.

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<v Speaker 3>She did, and I also know that like Lauren Sanchez's cousin,

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<v Speaker 3>who is I see as myself right went what the

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<v Speaker 3>fuck do I wear to this wedding? And then she

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<v Speaker 3>was like Sidney Sweeney's coming, She's like, what the fuck

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<v Speaker 3>do I want?

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<v Speaker 1>Like, well, Jesse, it's funny you should say that because

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<v Speaker 1>the guests weren't told anything about any of the events

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<v Speaker 1>for security reasons, so it was just like you've got

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<v Speaker 1>to be here at this time. You'll be picked up

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<v Speaker 1>from your hotel, and that's kind of all they were told,

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<v Speaker 1>but they were given mood boards because there was a

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<v Speaker 1>series events over the three days. The mood board.

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<v Speaker 2>You would have loved that outfit.

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<v Speaker 3>Which I wouldn't have understood, but that's incredibly helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why all the guests kind of were dressed similar

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<v Speaker 1>for each.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how to read a mood book.

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely know Kim Cuttsian and wa what you wanted?

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<v Speaker 2>Did not see the mood.

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<v Speaker 1>She's her own mood board, But did you see? I

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<v Speaker 1>loved the bit where they all had to wobble on

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<v Speaker 1>and off jetties. That was great.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of them are like being lifted.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, some of them weren't that thrilled about that?

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<v Speaker 3>Can I get a private jet to my job?

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<v Speaker 1>Just the Kardashians alone, I think were about ten people,

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<v Speaker 1>which is what ten people in two hundred? Someone do

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<v Speaker 1>the mass that's like five percent five percent with Kardashians.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, someone should have done the matter.

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<v Speaker 3>In a moment. Does the Liberal Party need quotas for women?

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<v Speaker 3>And the viral documentary I watched so you don't have to.

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<v Speaker 4>We must be a liberal party that is proudly for

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<v Speaker 4>women and made up of women. Our party must pre

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<v Speaker 4>select more women in winnable seats so that we see

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<v Speaker 4>more Liberal women in federal Parliament.

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<v Speaker 3>The Liberal Party in Australia, we know, not only lost

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<v Speaker 3>women in this year's election, but kind of lost everyone.

0:18:46.302 --> 0:18:49.901
<v Speaker 3>Liberal Party leader Susan Lee says she will be as

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<v Speaker 3>zelot for women's representation in the party, but says she

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<v Speaker 3>is agnostic about how they get there. Friends, do you

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<v Speaker 3>have a sense of how bad the Liberal Party's women

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<v Speaker 3>problem is right now? Like you know, you hear it,

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<v Speaker 3>but do you kind of know just how bad it is?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I thought they had a lot of other problems

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<v Speaker 2>that they had to saw through.

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<v Speaker 3>That is a fair point.

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<v Speaker 1>And I also just think that's such a disingenuous thing

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<v Speaker 1>for her to say. It's like, I really believe in this,

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<v Speaker 1>but I have no opinion about how we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>get there. Yeah, Like that's just paying lip service, isn't

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<v Speaker 1>it exactly?

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<v Speaker 3>And look just some facts. Of the twenty eight Liberal

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<v Speaker 3>MPs in the Lower House, six of them are women.

0:19:28.821 --> 0:19:31.701
<v Speaker 3>Of all Liberal MPs, only a third are women. The

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<v Speaker 3>Liberals have their lowest number of women in Parliament since

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<v Speaker 3>nineteen ninety three, which was a year before Labor adopted

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<v Speaker 3>its first gender quotas. You want to take a guess

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<v Speaker 3>as to how what percentage of labor MPs in our

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<v Speaker 3>women sixty fifty six percent.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's going to say.

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<v Speaker 2>It's yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>After the nineteen ninety three election for Labor andps it

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<v Speaker 3>was eleven percent, and that's when they looked in the

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<v Speaker 3>mirror and went, okay, I think we need quotas, which

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<v Speaker 3>brings us to now. So Angus Taylor, he's the Opposition

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<v Speaker 3>Defense spokesperson. He said last week, the Labor Party will

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<v Speaker 3>do things their own way about quotas, and they do

0:20:09.661 --> 0:20:11.782
<v Speaker 3>subvert democracy, and that's a matter for them at the

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<v Speaker 3>end of the day. If you're going to have quotas,

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<v Speaker 3>it means you are going to subvert democratic processes. So

0:20:17.661 --> 0:20:20.502
<v Speaker 3>he and a lot of other Liberal Party men say

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<v Speaker 3>that it is fundamentally undemocratic. It goes against all their principles, which.

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<v Speaker 1>Is so untrue because there are already so many quotas.

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<v Speaker 1>There are quotas about left factions and right factions. There

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<v Speaker 1>are quotas about National Party versus Liberal Party MPs. They

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<v Speaker 1>already have quotas.

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<v Speaker 3>This is just lie they kind of talk about, like

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<v Speaker 3>the merit Defense like Tony Abbott has always talks about

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<v Speaker 3>merrit and it's like you don't have to know a

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<v Speaker 3>lot about politics to know that it's about alliances, it's

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<v Speaker 3>about you being in bed with you and like all

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<v Speaker 3>the different politics that happens is not simply like always

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<v Speaker 3>the best person for the job and for context. In

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<v Speaker 3>twenty fifteen, the Liberal Parties set a target when it

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<v Speaker 3>came to female representation. They love a target that they're

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<v Speaker 3>not accountable for. They're very good at those. Then again

0:21:01.982 --> 0:21:05.141
<v Speaker 3>in twenty twenty two they were like fifty percent female representation.

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<v Speaker 1>We promise a target means nothing if you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>a plan to get to that target.

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<v Speaker 3>All that's happened is that the party room has fewer

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<v Speaker 3>women than ever. So quota's big topic. They're instituted in

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<v Speaker 3>some boardrooms, in workplaces and of course in politics. Mia

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<v Speaker 3>is it time for the Liberal Party to establish quotas.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course it is. It was time twenty years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>It was time after the last election when women resoundingly

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<v Speaker 1>rejected a party that was led by a man in

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<v Speaker 1>Scott Morrison, who was wildly unpopular with women, who was

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<v Speaker 1>seen as really being out of step with the way

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<v Speaker 1>women see themselves in the way modern men see women

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<v Speaker 1>and just completely out of touch. And they seem to

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<v Speaker 1>learn nothing from that. They seem to learn absolutely nothing.

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<v Speaker 3>It seems like bad politics not to how about you M.

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<v Speaker 2>See for me when it comes to quotas, I struggle

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<v Speaker 2>to see the difference between what is a quota and

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<v Speaker 2>what is just ticking boxes. And I come at this

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<v Speaker 2>from a personal perspective because I remember so specifically twenty

0:22:09.942 --> 0:22:12.462
<v Speaker 2>twenty when George Floyd died, who was a black man

0:22:12.502 --> 0:22:16.382
<v Speaker 2>that was brutally murdered by police and Minneapolis. That's why

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like where everyone learned about the Black Lives

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<v Speaker 2>Matter movement. And then that movement started in twenty thirteen,

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<v Speaker 2>but it became very popular in twenty twenty, and I

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<v Speaker 2>just remember so many people who hadn't heard from in

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<v Speaker 2>years reach out to me, going, Hey, can you be

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<v Speaker 2>on this panel, can you give this talk? Can you

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<v Speaker 2>host this event very last minute? And you can so

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<v Speaker 2>tell when you're a quota versus when it's actually a

0:22:38.702 --> 0:22:43.502
<v Speaker 2>genuine opportunity. And I wonder if, like we established quotas

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<v Speaker 2>in the Liberal Party, will these women go in with

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<v Speaker 2>the public always thinking that there was a specific reason

0:22:49.502 --> 0:22:51.542
<v Speaker 2>why they were chosen versus if they're actually good at

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<v Speaker 2>their job.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's interesting you say that, because when Labor instituted quotas,

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<v Speaker 3>five liberal women came out, This was in nineteen ninety

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<v Speaker 3>three or nineteen ninety four, and they came out and

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<v Speaker 3>they delivered a statement about what they thought about it,

0:23:04.821 --> 0:23:08.181
<v Speaker 3>and they said, it is effectively a vote of no

0:23:08.302 --> 0:23:11.142
<v Speaker 3>confidence in women's own nobilities, and it is a reverse

0:23:11.222 --> 0:23:14.181
<v Speaker 3>form of discrimination. It only treats the symptoms, not the

0:23:14.222 --> 0:23:16.821
<v Speaker 3>cause of the problems. So they felt offended at the

0:23:16.901 --> 0:23:20.862
<v Speaker 3>idea that someone would go, you're just there to kind

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<v Speaker 3>of be a quota. But on your point, m I

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<v Speaker 3>wonder if your example is actually an argument for quotas,

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<v Speaker 3>because what people were doing in that was going off vibes.

0:23:30.661 --> 0:23:33.742
<v Speaker 3>They were going, the vibe is that we need diversity

0:23:33.782 --> 0:23:37.981
<v Speaker 3>and representation, let's throw m on or whatever, whereas a

0:23:38.101 --> 0:23:41.941
<v Speaker 3>quota is more of a promise and a process and

0:23:41.982 --> 0:23:46.262
<v Speaker 3>a system that has to be like instituted and upheld.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think that the problem with twenty twenty was

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<v Speaker 3>that all of those gains were very easily able to

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<v Speaker 3>then be rescinded because there were no.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm not being asked to host of ens anymore.

0:23:56.341 --> 0:23:59.262
<v Speaker 3>Yes, that's exactly right, Like I think that the process

0:23:59.621 --> 0:24:01.582
<v Speaker 3>wasn't properly instituted.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think it's interesting. All the research shows that

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<v Speaker 1>people when they're younger, Certainly I've noticed in my experience

0:24:08.341 --> 0:24:10.381
<v Speaker 1>younger women are like, no, I want to get there

0:24:10.422 --> 0:24:13.221
<v Speaker 1>on my merit, and you can be very idealistic. And

0:24:13.262 --> 0:24:14.821
<v Speaker 1>then as you get older and you see that nothing

0:24:14.942 --> 0:24:17.181
<v Speaker 1>changes and things actually go backwards, as we've seen with

0:24:17.182 --> 0:24:20.621
<v Speaker 1>the Liberal Party, you start to say, well, merit doesn't

0:24:20.661 --> 0:24:23.941
<v Speaker 1>seem to actually matter. Yeah, because if you are a

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<v Speaker 1>believer as I am, that merit is equally divided in

0:24:28.621 --> 0:24:33.941
<v Speaker 1>the population between men and women, in terms of intellectual ability, intelligence, talent,

0:24:34.061 --> 0:24:35.141
<v Speaker 1>all of those things.

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<v Speaker 3>And between all demographics.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, exactly. Then our parliament should reflect our society,

0:24:41.782 --> 0:24:45.702
<v Speaker 1>and the fact that it doesn't is bad for our parliament.

0:24:45.782 --> 0:24:50.061
<v Speaker 1>It's bad for our society because we know that companies

0:24:50.061 --> 0:24:53.861
<v Speaker 1>that have more diverse boards, that are more reflective of

0:24:53.901 --> 0:24:57.262
<v Speaker 1>their customers or their audience or their shareholders, are more

0:24:57.422 --> 0:25:00.582
<v Speaker 1>likely to do better, to perform better because it's helpful

0:25:00.581 --> 0:25:03.141
<v Speaker 1>to have those different voices in the room.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. An example of that is in sort of mid

0:25:06.702 --> 0:25:09.302
<v Speaker 3>nineteen nineties, just after all of this talk about quotas

0:25:09.341 --> 0:25:13.101
<v Speaker 3>was do you remember Alexander Downer. Alexander Downer, you would

0:25:13.222 --> 0:25:17.581
<v Speaker 3>form an infant and Howard, I think yes. And so

0:25:17.942 --> 0:25:20.461
<v Speaker 3>this was at the time when women's representation was really low,

0:25:20.502 --> 0:25:22.542
<v Speaker 3>and it was talking about whether they needed quotas, and

0:25:22.661 --> 0:25:26.061
<v Speaker 3>he was talking about a policy on women's safety and

0:25:26.101 --> 0:25:29.381
<v Speaker 3>domestic violence, and he made a joke that it should

0:25:29.422 --> 0:25:32.581
<v Speaker 3>be titled the Things that Better Like rather than the

0:25:32.581 --> 0:25:36.982
<v Speaker 3>Things that Matter. That's an example of something that likely

0:25:37.302 --> 0:25:39.622
<v Speaker 3>wouldn't be said in the company of women. I think

0:25:39.661 --> 0:25:42.302
<v Speaker 3>sometimes you need the quotas to get the right people

0:25:42.302 --> 0:25:44.901
<v Speaker 3>in the room to solve the problems. I don't think

0:25:44.982 --> 0:25:48.702
<v Speaker 3>that you can even start doing that until you have

0:25:48.742 --> 0:25:51.821
<v Speaker 3>that representation, because it's not fair to an electorate whether

0:25:51.861 --> 0:25:54.182
<v Speaker 3>you vote for the Liberal Party or not. You need

0:25:54.222 --> 0:25:58.702
<v Speaker 3>two competitive parties. And this is they're in a pathetic position,

0:25:59.022 --> 0:26:02.101
<v Speaker 3>and surely, surely this is just good for democracy.

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<v Speaker 2>So there's this thing going around where everyone is sharing

0:26:06.341 --> 0:26:09.661
<v Speaker 2>their most unhinged group chat name. So you know, when

0:26:09.661 --> 0:26:11.781
<v Speaker 2>you have like a consistent group of people you talk

0:26:11.821 --> 0:26:15.262
<v Speaker 2>to online on Facebook, Messenger, Instagram. You can name that group.

0:26:15.302 --> 0:26:16.381
<v Speaker 1>It's my favorite thing to do.

0:26:16.621 --> 0:26:19.421
<v Speaker 2>Everyone is sharing their names. I have a really good

0:26:19.462 --> 0:26:21.821
<v Speaker 2>one that I've had for years, two and a half Indians.

0:26:22.022 --> 0:26:23.181
<v Speaker 3>Okay, who is group?

0:26:23.302 --> 0:26:26.382
<v Speaker 2>Two of my cousins, one of them, her dad is British.

0:26:26.422 --> 0:26:29.542
<v Speaker 3>Oh, I love it. So that's so good.

0:26:29.821 --> 0:26:34.181
<v Speaker 1>There's a lot of very inappropriate humor in group chat names.

0:26:34.422 --> 0:26:37.061
<v Speaker 2>We asked our Instagram. So if you don't follows on Instagram,

0:26:37.061 --> 0:26:39.981
<v Speaker 2>please do mum me out loud flaps to the wind.

0:26:40.422 --> 0:26:42.941
<v Speaker 2>I like that. It's a bit naughty. In case I

0:26:42.982 --> 0:26:45.221
<v Speaker 2>need an organ donor. Yeah, that's a good one.

0:26:45.222 --> 0:26:47.061
<v Speaker 1>It's a good one for a family group chat.

0:26:46.982 --> 0:26:48.061
<v Speaker 2>Or for a craft group.

0:26:48.182 --> 0:26:50.702
<v Speaker 3>Stitch and bitch Yep, that's got tone.

0:26:50.942 --> 0:26:55.061
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, haggs in the hood, the outlaws, so the partners

0:26:55.101 --> 0:26:55.702
<v Speaker 2>of the family.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I've got a question about changing group names. Yeah,

0:26:58.861 --> 0:27:02.061
<v Speaker 1>so something. I've got a few group chats where one

0:27:02.061 --> 0:27:05.381
<v Speaker 1>in particular and we're all sort of writery, wordy people,

0:27:05.702 --> 0:27:08.342
<v Speaker 1>and sometimes there'll just be a phrase that comes up

0:27:08.381 --> 0:27:11.941
<v Speaker 1>that just has everybody in hysterics, and someone will change

0:27:11.942 --> 0:27:13.022
<v Speaker 1>the name of the group chat.

0:27:13.182 --> 0:27:13.821
<v Speaker 3>But then, do you.

0:27:13.861 --> 0:27:15.102
<v Speaker 1>Do you think that's okay? Now?

0:27:15.141 --> 0:27:16.182
<v Speaker 2>You remove them from the group.

0:27:17.141 --> 0:27:18.302
<v Speaker 1>It can be a bit tricky.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that it's funny. I looked at my group

0:27:21.821 --> 0:27:24.702
<v Speaker 3>chat names and I was like, I forget the context

0:27:24.742 --> 0:27:26.862
<v Speaker 3>of every single one of theirs. They just I think

0:27:26.901 --> 0:27:29.061
<v Speaker 3>six months lady, You're like, what was that about? I

0:27:29.101 --> 0:27:29.782
<v Speaker 3>don't understand.

0:27:29.821 --> 0:27:32.222
<v Speaker 1>There's also I've had the issue of some people who

0:27:32.222 --> 0:27:35.462
<v Speaker 1>have little children and their phones around, or they've got

0:27:35.901 --> 0:27:40.022
<v Speaker 1>announced messages. And I had a group called servant with

0:27:40.141 --> 0:27:43.181
<v Speaker 1>a k oh because I was explaining to the group

0:27:43.262 --> 0:27:47.621
<v Speaker 1>that the expression serving is a compliment. So someone changed

0:27:47.621 --> 0:27:50.421
<v Speaker 1>the group name to servant with a k I ALWASO

0:27:50.502 --> 0:27:52.302
<v Speaker 1>found myself. I was going to a dinner with that

0:27:52.341 --> 0:27:54.381
<v Speaker 1>group of people and I was in the car and

0:27:54.422 --> 0:27:59.181
<v Speaker 1>I was like, hey, Siri, message Serven.

0:27:59.661 --> 0:28:07.741
<v Speaker 3>No, you can't take everyone's phone. You've ruined people's Mondays.

0:28:08.141 --> 0:28:11.022
<v Speaker 2>After the break, our dating apps done, I'll get you

0:28:11.061 --> 0:28:13.061
<v Speaker 2>up to speed with the reality of what it's like

0:28:13.101 --> 0:28:16.182
<v Speaker 2>to find love and sex in twenty twenty five out

0:28:16.222 --> 0:28:16.581
<v Speaker 2>loud As.

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0:28:29.861 --> 0:28:35.142
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0:28:35.861 --> 0:28:38.542
<v Speaker 2>Dating app Bumble has laid off thirty percent of its

0:28:38.582 --> 0:28:43.022
<v Speaker 2>staff after losing three hundred and fifty thousand users last year.

0:28:43.142 --> 0:28:44.181
<v Speaker 1>Maybe they got married.

0:28:44.302 --> 0:28:45.781
<v Speaker 2>Well, I was going to say, if you think three

0:28:45.862 --> 0:28:47.981
<v Speaker 2>hundred and fifty thousand people found their love of the

0:28:48.022 --> 0:28:51.262
<v Speaker 2>live last year, you would be wrong. When I read

0:28:51.302 --> 0:28:54.822
<v Speaker 2>this headline, nothing, not even like one percent of it

0:28:54.902 --> 0:28:59.181
<v Speaker 2>surprised me. I one hundred percent can believe that this

0:28:59.302 --> 0:29:01.142
<v Speaker 2>many people have been off the dating app.

0:29:01.182 --> 0:29:02.542
<v Speaker 3>Have you deleted Bumble?

0:29:02.742 --> 0:29:06.302
<v Speaker 2>I just redownloaded it, so I'm helping them out. I

0:29:06.342 --> 0:29:08.302
<v Speaker 2>think I talked about it in this podcast. I deleted

0:29:08.382 --> 0:29:13.462
<v Speaker 2>dating apps in December last year after an unfavorable breakup

0:29:13.742 --> 0:29:16.022
<v Speaker 2>where a man messaged me saying that he found someone

0:29:16.022 --> 0:29:19.102
<v Speaker 2>else took a break so much happened in my life.

0:29:19.142 --> 0:29:23.062
<v Speaker 2>Redownloaded them. First person pop up was said man with

0:29:23.142 --> 0:29:27.421
<v Speaker 2>a little message from Hinge saying most compatible. No, And

0:29:27.462 --> 0:29:29.622
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, now I know why people will delete these apps,

0:29:29.702 --> 0:29:30.342
<v Speaker 2>So tell.

0:29:30.142 --> 0:29:33.302
<v Speaker 3>Me why they think this is Because it's not just

0:29:33.661 --> 0:29:36.862
<v Speaker 3>Bumble is across the board. They're saying that every dating

0:29:36.902 --> 0:29:39.662
<v Speaker 3>app is down, dating app usage is on the floor,

0:29:39.702 --> 0:29:42.462
<v Speaker 3>and some people might go, this is quite hopeful. Maybe

0:29:42.502 --> 0:29:45.102
<v Speaker 3>people are meeting in person again. Why do you think

0:29:45.182 --> 0:29:48.022
<v Speaker 3>it is that dating apps kind of on the nose

0:29:48.022 --> 0:29:48.502
<v Speaker 3>at the moment.

0:29:48.542 --> 0:29:50.382
<v Speaker 2>I've been on dating apps for on and off for

0:29:50.382 --> 0:29:52.941
<v Speaker 2>a very very long time, and there was a time

0:29:53.142 --> 0:29:54.902
<v Speaker 2>in my life I think I would have probably been

0:29:54.942 --> 0:29:58.462
<v Speaker 2>like nineteen twenty where they were the best. I feel

0:29:58.462 --> 0:30:00.981
<v Speaker 2>like a lot of millennials met their long term partners

0:30:01.062 --> 0:30:04.662
<v Speaker 2>on dating apps, and they always talk about our producer

0:30:04.742 --> 0:30:08.222
<v Speaker 2>m talks about how great they were. That has changed completely.

0:30:08.382 --> 0:30:10.342
<v Speaker 1>Been a long time since someone's that they met their

0:30:10.342 --> 0:30:11.261
<v Speaker 1>partner on the apps.

0:30:11.422 --> 0:30:13.822
<v Speaker 2>It's a very millennial thing. It's a very millennial thing.

0:30:14.022 --> 0:30:18.142
<v Speaker 2>It's changed completely. Dating apps are a complete cess pit.

0:30:18.382 --> 0:30:21.582
<v Speaker 2>Why it's now turned into, I want to say, like

0:30:21.622 --> 0:30:24.582
<v Speaker 2>a social media app. Like I remember talking on the

0:30:24.582 --> 0:30:26.782
<v Speaker 2>podcast that I would use dating apps for a point

0:30:26.782 --> 0:30:29.022
<v Speaker 2>in my life where I just had them as dopamine hits.

0:30:29.342 --> 0:30:31.022
<v Speaker 2>So every time I felt like something was a bit

0:30:31.062 --> 0:30:33.702
<v Speaker 2>off at work or something, I'll just literally go into

0:30:33.742 --> 0:30:36.421
<v Speaker 2>my phone, do some swipes, see who liked me, and

0:30:36.422 --> 0:30:37.622
<v Speaker 2>that's all I needed, because.

0:30:37.382 --> 0:30:39.982
<v Speaker 1>It's like gambling. I imagine part of the attraction is gambling.

0:30:40.062 --> 0:30:42.701
<v Speaker 1>It's like at any time, I could swipe and find

0:30:43.222 --> 0:30:45.501
<v Speaker 1>that person. When I was single, I used to call

0:30:45.502 --> 0:30:47.262
<v Speaker 1>it single energy. I used to be able to stay

0:30:47.342 --> 0:30:50.902
<v Speaker 1>up much later in clubs or bars or whatever parties

0:30:51.262 --> 0:30:54.382
<v Speaker 1>because there was always that potential hope that I might

0:30:54.462 --> 0:30:55.342
<v Speaker 1>meet that person.

0:30:55.742 --> 0:30:58.582
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, well you're not even meeting people in person anymore.

0:30:58.661 --> 0:31:01.382
<v Speaker 2>So with like dating apps, I feel like, firstly, there's

0:31:01.422 --> 0:31:04.181
<v Speaker 2>so many options now with dating apps because they want

0:31:04.262 --> 0:31:06.941
<v Speaker 2>people to stay on them for longer. So what do

0:31:06.982 --> 0:31:09.941
<v Speaker 2>you mean, So Hina's slogan is made to be deleted

0:31:10.062 --> 0:31:10.982
<v Speaker 2>completely untrue.

0:31:11.062 --> 0:31:13.862
<v Speaker 1>People love stay to be deleted. Yeah, what does that mean?

0:31:13.902 --> 0:31:15.502
<v Speaker 2>Because it's like a play on, like you will find

0:31:15.542 --> 0:31:17.662
<v Speaker 2>the person you love, so then you'll delete the app.

0:31:17.702 --> 0:31:20.102
<v Speaker 2>So it's made for you to then delete the app.

0:31:19.942 --> 0:31:22.302
<v Speaker 1>Which is not a good business model for the app. Right, So,

0:31:22.582 --> 0:31:25.222
<v Speaker 1>it only occurred to me recently that all of these

0:31:25.262 --> 0:31:28.302
<v Speaker 1>apps are disincentivized to try and match people who are

0:31:28.342 --> 0:31:28.942
<v Speaker 1>good matches.

0:31:29.382 --> 0:31:31.382
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So I read some analysis and some of its

0:31:31.382 --> 0:31:34.582
<v Speaker 3>speculation because I don't believe that their algorithms are sort

0:31:34.622 --> 0:31:39.222
<v Speaker 3>of public knowledge, but there is pretty good intel that

0:31:39.262 --> 0:31:43.181
<v Speaker 3>suggests that they will know who would be really compatible

0:31:43.182 --> 0:31:44.982
<v Speaker 3>with them, and he's not going to be the first

0:31:45.022 --> 0:31:47.382
<v Speaker 3>person they give her, okay, so they'll sort of give

0:31:47.422 --> 0:31:50.262
<v Speaker 3>him a bunch of other people. And then when I

0:31:50.382 --> 0:31:52.182
<v Speaker 3>was on dating apps, there wasn't an option to pay,

0:31:52.702 --> 0:31:55.862
<v Speaker 3>but now it's like there's this top tier where they'll go, well,

0:31:56.022 --> 0:31:57.822
<v Speaker 3>m we'll give you him if you give a bit

0:31:57.822 --> 0:31:58.102
<v Speaker 3>of money.

0:31:58.182 --> 0:31:59.062
<v Speaker 1>What are you paid for?

0:31:59.222 --> 0:32:01.701
<v Speaker 2>Okay? So on some dating apps because you can swipe

0:32:01.742 --> 0:32:03.622
<v Speaker 2>and swipe and swipes, so now they've set limits for

0:32:03.702 --> 0:32:05.942
<v Speaker 2>free users, like you can only do ten swipes a day,

0:32:06.222 --> 0:32:08.182
<v Speaker 2>So you do your ten swipes and then you get

0:32:08.182 --> 0:32:10.502
<v Speaker 2>to your eleven swipe and you see love a pay well,

0:32:10.742 --> 0:32:13.102
<v Speaker 2>the hottest person you've ever seen in your life.

0:32:13.142 --> 0:32:16.782
<v Speaker 1>That's where they put ms perfectly paywall.

0:32:16.942 --> 0:32:19.382
<v Speaker 2>And I will admit I did pay seventy dollars for

0:32:19.462 --> 0:32:22.542
<v Speaker 2>Bumble Premium, and then I saw this option saying that

0:32:22.622 --> 0:32:24.421
<v Speaker 2>do you want your profile to be seen by the

0:32:24.422 --> 0:32:26.941
<v Speaker 2>people you've swiped right on? Straight away? Like of course,

0:32:27.022 --> 0:32:30.142
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, okay, I want that. That's a ticket premium

0:32:30.142 --> 0:32:34.102
<v Speaker 2>plus ninety dollars a month some month. Actually I think

0:32:34.102 --> 0:32:35.942
<v Speaker 2>it's one hundred dollars a month. A month, Yeah, I'm

0:32:35.942 --> 0:32:40.142
<v Speaker 2>paying seventy dollars a month. That is ridiculous. What's really

0:32:40.182 --> 0:32:42.382
<v Speaker 2>annoying about it is that they have the packages, right,

0:32:42.382 --> 0:32:44.421
<v Speaker 2>because if you pay monthly, it will be cheaper than

0:32:44.462 --> 0:32:46.302
<v Speaker 2>paying weekly. So in your head you have to be like,

0:32:46.582 --> 0:32:48.502
<v Speaker 2>how long do I plan on being single? Do I

0:32:48.502 --> 0:32:50.382
<v Speaker 2>get the three month package? Do I get the six

0:32:50.422 --> 0:32:51.182
<v Speaker 2>month package?

0:32:51.462 --> 0:32:53.982
<v Speaker 3>How optimistic am I that I will find someone? Because

0:32:54.022 --> 0:32:57.941
<v Speaker 3>I was listening to these researchers talk about this exact

0:32:57.942 --> 0:33:00.661
<v Speaker 3>phenomenon on a podcast called Plain English over the weekend,

0:33:00.982 --> 0:33:04.542
<v Speaker 3>and these researchers were saying that none of this indicates

0:33:04.582 --> 0:33:08.382
<v Speaker 3>that people are meeting in real life. That simply isn't happening.

0:33:08.622 --> 0:33:11.782
<v Speaker 3>People aren't doing the dating apps, and they're not approaching

0:33:11.822 --> 0:33:12.822
<v Speaker 3>people at bars.

0:33:12.862 --> 0:33:15.342
<v Speaker 1>It's just people have just given up. Yeah, they're their

0:33:15.382 --> 0:33:16.302
<v Speaker 1>home with their vibrator.

0:33:16.382 --> 0:33:18.142
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. The amount of people in their twenties who have

0:33:18.182 --> 0:33:21.462
<v Speaker 3>never dated is higher than ever. Right. They said that

0:33:21.622 --> 0:33:24.262
<v Speaker 3>the people who dating apps are still really good for

0:33:24.702 --> 0:33:27.502
<v Speaker 3>are people who are in their forties, their fifties, and

0:33:27.542 --> 0:33:29.981
<v Speaker 3>in the eighties. If that was you it was really

0:33:30.022 --> 0:33:32.302
<v Speaker 3>hard to date because you didn't know who else was single,

0:33:32.422 --> 0:33:35.382
<v Speaker 3>you didn't know who else was looking. But now it's

0:33:35.422 --> 0:33:39.741
<v Speaker 3>almost become their domain because they kind of like know

0:33:39.782 --> 0:33:42.502
<v Speaker 3>who they're looking for. You can set your age range whatever,

0:33:42.622 --> 0:33:45.221
<v Speaker 3>and so for gen Z's, I think that it's not

0:33:46.302 --> 0:33:48.102
<v Speaker 3>really the domain for young people anymore.

0:33:48.142 --> 0:33:51.542
<v Speaker 2>The marketing is just so interesting, especially the gendered marketing

0:33:51.661 --> 0:33:54.582
<v Speaker 2>for dating apps. And this is in heterosexual relationships. But

0:33:55.062 --> 0:33:58.062
<v Speaker 2>I had so many male friends who automatically would pay

0:33:58.102 --> 0:34:01.982
<v Speaker 2>for like Tinder premium, Hinge premium, because it is much

0:34:02.022 --> 0:34:04.181
<v Speaker 2>harder being a straight man on a dating app than

0:34:04.222 --> 0:34:06.741
<v Speaker 2>it is being a straight woman. Like they get no

0:34:06.942 --> 0:34:09.142
<v Speaker 2>matches at all, they'll have one. No one goes up

0:34:09.142 --> 0:34:10.861
<v Speaker 2>to a guy like heymate, let me get a photo

0:34:10.862 --> 0:34:12.582
<v Speaker 2>of you. You look really good. So they have the

0:34:12.622 --> 0:34:15.382
<v Speaker 2>worst photos from like twenty thirteen. So they're all paying,

0:34:15.942 --> 0:34:18.462
<v Speaker 2>and then Tinder and stuff for like how do we

0:34:18.502 --> 0:34:20.501
<v Speaker 2>get women to pay? So now you have to pay

0:34:20.701 --> 0:34:21.982
<v Speaker 2>if you want a hype preference?

0:34:22.302 --> 0:34:23.822
<v Speaker 3>What do you mean by a high preference?

0:34:24.302 --> 0:34:26.381
<v Speaker 2>So if you want to date a man of a

0:34:26.422 --> 0:34:29.701
<v Speaker 2>certain height, you can change your preferences to only give

0:34:29.741 --> 0:34:31.862
<v Speaker 2>you men who are like above six feet or something,

0:34:32.302 --> 0:34:33.861
<v Speaker 2>and they will only show you men who are above

0:34:34.022 --> 0:34:35.102
<v Speaker 2>six feet in their profile.

0:34:35.302 --> 0:34:37.341
<v Speaker 1>I mean this is imagine if there was the equivalent

0:34:37.382 --> 0:34:39.981
<v Speaker 1>of that. I wonder if there is about men who

0:34:39.982 --> 0:34:44.181
<v Speaker 1>could say I want women of a certain BMI and

0:34:43.862 --> 0:34:45.942
<v Speaker 1>how upset people would be about that.

0:34:46.022 --> 0:34:48.701
<v Speaker 2>Well, you can put ethnicity preferences in there, you can

0:34:48.741 --> 0:34:51.941
<v Speaker 2>put height, you can put religious preferences, if they want kids,

0:34:51.982 --> 0:34:53.742
<v Speaker 2>if they don't want kids, if they want long term relationship,

0:34:53.741 --> 0:34:56.741
<v Speaker 2>if they want casual sex. You can literally form the

0:34:56.741 --> 0:34:57.901
<v Speaker 2>perfect person in your head.

0:34:57.942 --> 0:34:58.702
<v Speaker 1>Does it cost?

0:34:58.982 --> 0:34:59.102
<v Speaker 3>So?

0:34:59.221 --> 0:35:01.742
<v Speaker 1>For women? Is the only barrier that you've got.

0:35:01.582 --> 0:35:04.422
<v Speaker 2>To pay for heights, all of the preferences, all the payment.

0:35:04.582 --> 0:35:07.462
<v Speaker 2>But like men are more likely to pay because they

0:35:07.462 --> 0:35:09.221
<v Speaker 2>want their profile to be shown to more women. So

0:35:09.221 --> 0:35:11.341
<v Speaker 2>you have all these options of what payment will get you.

0:35:11.622 --> 0:35:13.422
<v Speaker 2>So this is what my researchers were telling me.

0:35:13.502 --> 0:35:16.261
<v Speaker 3>They were saying that in the dating app world, for

0:35:16.382 --> 0:35:21.542
<v Speaker 3>the top one percent, who are basically ridiculously attractive, it

0:35:21.582 --> 0:35:24.502
<v Speaker 3>works for them, but for everyone else, it's a market

0:35:24.582 --> 0:35:29.382
<v Speaker 3>that's too competitive and you're just gonna disappear. So whereas

0:35:29.422 --> 0:35:30.781
<v Speaker 3>if you meet someone at a bar, or you meet

0:35:30.822 --> 0:35:33.821
<v Speaker 3>someone in person. You are filtering, whether you know it

0:35:33.902 --> 0:35:36.062
<v Speaker 3>or not, for one hundred things at once, for how

0:35:36.102 --> 0:35:39.221
<v Speaker 3>they smell, for how they walk, for how they move

0:35:39.261 --> 0:35:39.662
<v Speaker 3>their body.

0:35:39.741 --> 0:35:40.982
<v Speaker 2>You can even put voice members in this.

0:35:41.102 --> 0:35:43.062
<v Speaker 3>You can hear their voice, and that's what dating apps

0:35:43.062 --> 0:35:44.781
<v Speaker 3>are trying to do. But really it is a two

0:35:44.822 --> 0:35:48.022
<v Speaker 3>dimension looking at your face. And what these people were

0:35:48.221 --> 0:35:53.102
<v Speaker 3>saying is that initial chemistry, what someone looks like, actually

0:35:53.181 --> 0:35:56.861
<v Speaker 3>has merely no bearing on the success of a long term,

0:35:57.022 --> 0:36:01.582
<v Speaker 3>happy relationship, and that is why the most successful relationships

0:36:01.622 --> 0:36:04.902
<v Speaker 3>often happen when people meet not only in real life,

0:36:05.022 --> 0:36:07.342
<v Speaker 3>but meet in situations where they meet again and again

0:36:07.382 --> 0:36:11.181
<v Speaker 3>and again. So the workplace friendship groups that kind of thing,

0:36:11.221 --> 0:36:14.181
<v Speaker 3>because you probably won't have love at first sight, but

0:36:14.382 --> 0:36:16.622
<v Speaker 3>you'll go slow burn, you'll do the scan and you'll

0:36:16.661 --> 0:36:18.181
<v Speaker 3>go no, and then they'll come back, and then you'll

0:36:18.181 --> 0:36:19.821
<v Speaker 3>get more data points and you'll go eh, and then

0:36:19.862 --> 0:36:22.422
<v Speaker 3>you'll get more data points and before you know it,

0:36:22.462 --> 0:36:24.582
<v Speaker 3>you're like, oh, maybe I'm attracted to this person. So

0:36:24.661 --> 0:36:26.902
<v Speaker 3>that's how we're wired, and dating apps if not.

0:36:27.062 --> 0:36:29.662
<v Speaker 2>So that's actually so true because when I was dating

0:36:29.781 --> 0:36:32.502
<v Speaker 2>my ex partner, I met him three friends and we

0:36:32.542 --> 0:36:34.142
<v Speaker 2>got on really really well, and we were dating and

0:36:34.181 --> 0:36:36.622
<v Speaker 2>then in our initial dating phase he showed me his

0:36:36.741 --> 0:36:38.862
<v Speaker 2>Hinge profile and I was like, there's no way to

0:36:38.902 --> 0:36:39.782
<v Speaker 2>swipe right on you.

0:36:39.822 --> 0:36:42.182
<v Speaker 3>No, of course not. The real world is not about

0:36:42.221 --> 0:36:44.661
<v Speaker 3>tens and twos. That's not how you work. I didn't

0:36:44.661 --> 0:36:46.582
<v Speaker 3>meet my partner and go, is he a ten? Or

0:36:46.661 --> 0:36:47.181
<v Speaker 3>like how would you?

0:36:47.261 --> 0:36:48.661
<v Speaker 1>And you wouldn't have never met him on.

0:36:48.622 --> 0:36:50.622
<v Speaker 3>The apps because he wouldn't have been in my age, he.

0:36:50.582 --> 0:36:52.421
<v Speaker 1>Wouldn't have been in your age, Ange, And can you

0:36:52.462 --> 0:36:55.582
<v Speaker 1>just explain the difference broadly between the different apps. So

0:36:55.582 --> 0:36:59.782
<v Speaker 1>there's like Hinge, Bumble Tinder, Like what's the difference?

0:37:00.062 --> 0:37:02.821
<v Speaker 2>So Tinder is like the og app. I feel like

0:37:02.902 --> 0:37:05.502
<v Speaker 2>that's the one everyone is across. That one has the

0:37:05.542 --> 0:37:09.421
<v Speaker 2>most users. It's also worldwide known, so it's just like one.

0:37:09.582 --> 0:37:12.302
<v Speaker 2>It's just completely honing in on the market. It turned

0:37:12.302 --> 0:37:14.221
<v Speaker 2>into a bit of a hookup app when the other

0:37:14.221 --> 0:37:16.781
<v Speaker 2>apps came on board. Tinder has now done a full

0:37:16.822 --> 0:37:20.302
<v Speaker 2>point eighty where people are actually finding relationships again on Tinder.

0:37:20.422 --> 0:37:22.422
<v Speaker 2>So if you're looking for relationship, give Tinder a go.

0:37:22.701 --> 0:37:24.902
<v Speaker 3>The difference with Bumble was that the woman reaches out first.

0:37:25.142 --> 0:37:28.341
<v Speaker 2>Women reaches out first, But now that's slightly changed. So

0:37:28.661 --> 0:37:30.942
<v Speaker 2>now you can have a set question on your bumble

0:37:30.942 --> 0:37:33.102
<v Speaker 2>profile where a man can answer if you don't want

0:37:33.102 --> 0:37:35.742
<v Speaker 2>to be the first one messaging. They also have bumble

0:37:35.741 --> 0:37:38.502
<v Speaker 2>bff from Bumble Business. I know a lot of friends

0:37:38.582 --> 0:37:41.781
<v Speaker 2>from overseas when they travel around, they meet a lot

0:37:41.781 --> 0:37:43.422
<v Speaker 2>of friends through bumble Bff.

0:37:43.661 --> 0:37:45.981
<v Speaker 1>I also know women who are downloading an app called

0:37:46.102 --> 0:37:51.542
<v Speaker 1>her for queer women, women who were interested in dating

0:37:51.582 --> 0:37:54.821
<v Speaker 1>other women and it is it successful? Yeah, I know

0:37:54.862 --> 0:37:57.421
<v Speaker 1>a few people who've met who've met women like that

0:37:57.542 --> 0:37:59.821
<v Speaker 1>or women who are curious or you know, there's a

0:37:59.862 --> 0:38:00.741
<v Speaker 1>whole lot of things.

0:38:01.142 --> 0:38:02.381
<v Speaker 2>And as grinder for men.

0:38:02.942 --> 0:38:07.941
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, hin just probably you could be on RAYA now I've.

0:38:07.862 --> 0:38:10.221
<v Speaker 2>Been on Ray's waiting list for seven you could meet

0:38:10.302 --> 0:38:13.862
<v Speaker 2>Orlando Sweet. But if like remember the Instagram.

0:38:14.462 --> 0:38:16.942
<v Speaker 1>Probably still there. So ray is for famous people. But

0:38:17.062 --> 0:38:18.542
<v Speaker 1>I interrupted you saying Hinge.

0:38:19.022 --> 0:38:21.422
<v Speaker 2>Hinge is like kind of a new ish one. It

0:38:21.462 --> 0:38:24.861
<v Speaker 2>doesn't have that many users, but it's probably the one.

0:38:24.982 --> 0:38:26.782
<v Speaker 2>I want to say. All the hot people are on Hinge.

0:38:27.142 --> 0:38:30.142
<v Speaker 2>Like they have this section on Hinge called the Rose Jail.

0:38:30.221 --> 0:38:32.462
<v Speaker 2>Well we call it the Rose Jail. Well they'll put

0:38:32.502 --> 0:38:35.261
<v Speaker 2>the hottest people you've ever seen in your life in

0:38:35.302 --> 0:38:39.381
<v Speaker 2>this little section where you don't just swipe right on them. No, no, no,

0:38:39.422 --> 0:38:41.821
<v Speaker 2>you have to put yourself out there and hand them

0:38:41.822 --> 0:38:44.701
<v Speaker 2>a rose, a digital rose, and you only get one

0:38:44.781 --> 0:38:47.022
<v Speaker 2>rose a week, so when you give them a rose,

0:38:47.062 --> 0:38:51.542
<v Speaker 2>they know it's so bad.

0:38:51.582 --> 0:38:54.421
<v Speaker 1>I have anxiety dreams about being on the apps. I've

0:38:54.502 --> 0:38:57.582
<v Speaker 1>met my partner before the apps were around, and so

0:38:57.661 --> 0:39:00.821
<v Speaker 1>I've never been on the apps before. And sometimes I'll

0:39:00.862 --> 0:39:03.261
<v Speaker 1>have recurring anxiety dreams about I have to get on

0:39:03.261 --> 0:39:04.662
<v Speaker 1>the apps and I've never done it before.

0:39:04.741 --> 0:39:07.461
<v Speaker 2>That is so unfortunate for you. I feel really bad.

0:39:07.622 --> 0:39:09.501
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, have you ever given a rose?

0:39:10.022 --> 0:39:11.781
<v Speaker 2>Look? There's been some dark times in my life.

0:39:12.622 --> 0:39:13.062
<v Speaker 3>It's late.

0:39:13.462 --> 0:39:16.461
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes you just see a guy on Hinge and he's

0:39:16.542 --> 0:39:18.982
<v Speaker 2>not only hot, but he also just has the right prompts. Right,

0:39:18.982 --> 0:39:21.941
<v Speaker 2>he's got like feminists in this profile. Yeah, he's got

0:39:21.982 --> 0:39:23.782
<v Speaker 2>I've only got sisters in this profile.

0:39:24.022 --> 0:39:24.822
<v Speaker 1>What's the prompt?

0:39:24.942 --> 0:39:27.382
<v Speaker 2>So Hinge has all of these, like probably a thousand

0:39:27.502 --> 0:39:29.582
<v Speaker 2>questions that you can choose from, and then you can

0:39:29.701 --> 0:39:31.661
<v Speaker 2>reply to them and have that on your profile. So

0:39:31.701 --> 0:39:34.142
<v Speaker 2>it's like my ideal date will look like right beach

0:39:34.302 --> 0:39:36.622
<v Speaker 2>and movies, and a lot of people are really witty

0:39:36.622 --> 0:39:37.861
<v Speaker 2>in that. The thing is you have to be really

0:39:37.862 --> 0:39:39.462
<v Speaker 2>funny because you have to show your sense of humor.

0:39:39.622 --> 0:39:42.342
<v Speaker 1>So you no longer have to write your own profile.

0:39:42.382 --> 0:39:43.862
<v Speaker 1>You take answer a few questions.

0:39:43.942 --> 0:39:46.062
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they make it easy for you. And then sometimes

0:39:46.062 --> 0:39:49.102
<v Speaker 2>when you're like three wines in two am, you just

0:39:49.102 --> 0:39:51.301
<v Speaker 2>want to give a rose. Sometimes you'll pay and give

0:39:51.342 --> 0:39:56.142
<v Speaker 2>two roses because you want to say, God pay. I

0:39:56.181 --> 0:39:58.741
<v Speaker 2>also pay for hinge, so it's around the same cost

0:39:58.741 --> 0:39:59.262
<v Speaker 2>as bumble.

0:39:59.462 --> 0:40:01.781
<v Speaker 3>I know you need to pay. You need to pay Rise.

0:40:03.582 --> 0:40:06.542
<v Speaker 1>Text talking about it, right, Rose, what happened?

0:40:06.741 --> 0:40:11.982
<v Speaker 2>Nothing happened? Because I look like a loser, sweetie. No

0:40:11.982 --> 0:40:13.142
<v Speaker 2>one wants to accept my rose.

0:40:14.542 --> 0:40:17.662
<v Speaker 3>There's a new documentary on Netflix called train Wreck Poop Cruise.

0:40:17.741 --> 0:40:19.741
<v Speaker 2>Can I just say something before we continue. I'm looking

0:40:19.781 --> 0:40:21.822
<v Speaker 2>at the script right now, and all your notes are bolded.

0:40:22.542 --> 0:40:25.502
<v Speaker 3>That's because they're all really important. Have some respect for

0:40:25.542 --> 0:40:26.022
<v Speaker 3>the content.

0:40:26.142 --> 0:40:28.702
<v Speaker 1>Netflix has been trying to get me to watch poop Cruise.

0:40:28.942 --> 0:40:31.102
<v Speaker 1>Keep serving me poop Cruise. Watch poop Cruise.

0:40:31.102 --> 0:40:32.821
<v Speaker 2>I think that says a lot about you, Alegorithm too.

0:40:33.302 --> 0:40:35.421
<v Speaker 3>I feel as though, em it's right up your Alley.

0:40:35.502 --> 0:40:37.222
<v Speaker 3>I feel like you'd love it. A bit of a geagle,

0:40:37.342 --> 0:40:40.102
<v Speaker 3>all right. I will never stop thinking about this documentary.

0:40:40.102 --> 0:40:41.582
<v Speaker 3>And I'll say, you don't need to watch it. It's

0:40:41.582 --> 0:40:45.062
<v Speaker 3>like an hour long. It's quite short. Now, if you're squeamish,

0:40:45.302 --> 0:40:47.422
<v Speaker 3>or if you really want to watch this documentary fresh

0:40:47.422 --> 0:40:49.981
<v Speaker 3>and really enjoy it for everything it has to give,

0:40:50.062 --> 0:40:52.542
<v Speaker 3>then maybe skip forward. But otherwise I would like just

0:40:52.582 --> 0:40:54.661
<v Speaker 3>two minutes of your time, okay, to tell you about

0:40:54.701 --> 0:40:56.941
<v Speaker 3>what happened on a poop cruise in twenty thirteen.

0:40:56.982 --> 0:41:00.542
<v Speaker 2>I'm so excited, all right, this is what happened thirteen.

0:41:00.741 --> 0:41:03.982
<v Speaker 3>That's when it was set by documentary. It's about history.

0:41:03.982 --> 0:41:05.861
<v Speaker 3>Some of us have some respect for history, all right.

0:41:06.862 --> 0:41:09.181
<v Speaker 3>Two hundred people get on a cruise Texas to Mexico.

0:41:09.661 --> 0:41:12.981
<v Speaker 3>Beautiful sunny day, sun's out, warm, lovely.

0:41:12.781 --> 0:41:13.542
<v Speaker 1>Nice, big pool.

0:41:14.422 --> 0:41:16.102
<v Speaker 3>In the doco, there are these women who are on

0:41:16.142 --> 0:41:18.462
<v Speaker 3>a hen's party. Right, they're having great time. They get

0:41:18.462 --> 0:41:20.422
<v Speaker 3>off in Mexico, they have a few drinks and a

0:41:20.422 --> 0:41:22.342
<v Speaker 3>lot of drinks. Actually, they get back on the cruise

0:41:22.342 --> 0:41:24.622
<v Speaker 3>and they're like, this is actually heaven. And then at

0:41:24.622 --> 0:41:27.301
<v Speaker 3>five am there's an alarm and they're like, oh, what's

0:41:27.342 --> 0:41:28.861
<v Speaker 3>this about. There's banging on the door.

0:41:28.942 --> 0:41:29.622
<v Speaker 2>Get up, Get up.

0:41:29.661 --> 0:41:31.501
<v Speaker 3>Everyone has to evacuate. You have to get on the deck.

0:41:31.741 --> 0:41:33.582
<v Speaker 3>So get on the deck and they see one of

0:41:33.622 --> 0:41:35.422
<v Speaker 3>the I don't know what you call it on a cruise.

0:41:35.542 --> 0:41:39.622
<v Speaker 3>It's like got a big titanic like boulder. Yeah, yeah,

0:41:39.622 --> 0:41:40.381
<v Speaker 3>smoke coming out.

0:41:40.502 --> 0:41:43.902
<v Speaker 2>Oh fine, like a chimney, like a chimney on my emergency.

0:41:43.422 --> 0:41:44.741
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, emergency emergency.

0:41:44.902 --> 0:41:45.941
<v Speaker 1>And they're in the middle of the ocean.

0:41:45.982 --> 0:41:47.741
<v Speaker 3>And they're in the middle of the ocean, so they

0:41:47.741 --> 0:41:49.781
<v Speaker 3>start panicking. But then they go, you know what, fire's out.

0:41:49.822 --> 0:41:51.822
<v Speaker 3>We're all good. Yeah, you just go get a coffee,

0:41:51.822 --> 0:41:53.941
<v Speaker 3>get a cocktail, whatever you want. They're like, great, great, great.

0:41:54.342 --> 0:41:56.182
<v Speaker 3>Some of them go to go back to bed. Boom,

0:41:56.261 --> 0:42:00.221
<v Speaker 3>lights out, air con out, power out, and they go,

0:42:00.342 --> 0:42:02.421
<v Speaker 3>this isn't good. We're on a cruise. They're like, don't worry,

0:42:02.462 --> 0:42:05.102
<v Speaker 3>engineers are going to go fix it. Engineers go downstairs.

0:42:05.622 --> 0:42:08.102
<v Speaker 3>Not good, everything is broken. They are now in the

0:42:08.142 --> 0:42:11.741
<v Speaker 3>middle of the ocean, loading with no electricity. They then

0:42:11.781 --> 0:42:16.142
<v Speaker 3>discover very quickly that the toilets will not flush a right,

0:42:16.661 --> 0:42:18.781
<v Speaker 3>and so the person who's like running the cruise, this

0:42:18.942 --> 0:42:21.221
<v Speaker 3>lady gets over the loudspeaker and goes, We're going to

0:42:21.302 --> 0:42:24.422
<v Speaker 3>need you to wei in the shower. Oh, and poop

0:42:24.942 --> 0:42:29.381
<v Speaker 3>in these red plastic bags that we're about to distribute. No, no,

0:42:30.181 --> 0:42:31.942
<v Speaker 3>and soep.

0:42:31.382 --> 0:42:33.741
<v Speaker 1>Just pooping the toilet and then just not flush it.

0:42:33.862 --> 0:42:35.942
<v Speaker 3>Well, some people started doing that, and that's where we

0:42:35.982 --> 0:42:38.701
<v Speaker 3>come to the term poopler's on you, because what was

0:42:38.701 --> 0:42:41.622
<v Speaker 3>happening is someone was going toilet paper, going toilet paper,

0:42:41.661 --> 0:42:43.341
<v Speaker 3>going toilet paper, and they were like, no, no, no,

0:42:43.382 --> 0:42:44.781
<v Speaker 3>do it in your red bag. And everyone was like,

0:42:45.062 --> 0:42:47.261
<v Speaker 3>I'm not pooping in a red bag, surely not. What

0:42:47.422 --> 0:42:50.022
<v Speaker 3>happens to the red bags you have to throw them

0:42:50.062 --> 0:42:53.301
<v Speaker 3>out in bins that are in the corridor. So within hours,

0:42:53.302 --> 0:42:56.502
<v Speaker 3>the whole cruise smells of human excrement and everyone knows

0:42:56.502 --> 0:42:59.782
<v Speaker 3>what your bowel movements look like exactly. You're on your honeymoon. Oh,

0:42:59.822 --> 0:43:01.022
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to go get my red bag.

0:43:01.142 --> 0:43:01.661
<v Speaker 1>It's not hot.

0:43:01.942 --> 0:43:04.342
<v Speaker 2>Can I just talk about the location, because nothing okay

0:43:04.462 --> 0:43:06.902
<v Speaker 2>to get TMI. There are certain foods that make my

0:43:06.942 --> 0:43:07.622
<v Speaker 2>stomach go.

0:43:07.781 --> 0:43:09.542
<v Speaker 3>They had just come from Mexico, they've just come from

0:43:09.942 --> 0:43:12.901
<v Speaker 3>and also Texas meat. Yeah, and also how much they've

0:43:12.902 --> 0:43:15.142
<v Speaker 3>been drinking, right, so I think it's a particular brand.

0:43:15.302 --> 0:43:17.261
<v Speaker 1>When she has to poop in a bag, would you

0:43:17.382 --> 0:43:18.701
<v Speaker 1>sit on the toilet?

0:43:18.741 --> 0:43:21.902
<v Speaker 2>I think so, right, so you'd still I thought it

0:43:21.942 --> 0:43:23.502
<v Speaker 2>was like a nappy situation.

0:43:23.221 --> 0:43:26.982
<v Speaker 1>For anyone who's had to do an over fifties poop test,

0:43:27.342 --> 0:43:30.102
<v Speaker 1>which the government sends you in Australia. If you're listening

0:43:30.142 --> 0:43:32.381
<v Speaker 1>from Australia, that's kind of what you do.

0:43:32.542 --> 0:43:34.142
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you put it in the toilet. Yeah, right, So

0:43:34.142 --> 0:43:36.062
<v Speaker 3>that's what they start doing. A lot of people you poop,

0:43:36.142 --> 0:43:38.701
<v Speaker 3>think they're too good for bags, right anyway, so it

0:43:38.701 --> 0:43:40.781
<v Speaker 3>starts to smile really bad, and then of course it's

0:43:40.781 --> 0:43:43.701
<v Speaker 3>too hot, so everyone starts getting their mattresses and putting

0:43:43.701 --> 0:43:45.422
<v Speaker 3>them on the deck. But they're like, you know what,

0:43:45.542 --> 0:43:48.902
<v Speaker 3>we're going to get towed back to Mexico tomorrow. It's fine,

0:43:48.942 --> 0:43:51.542
<v Speaker 3>it's just one night. They wake up and they're like, okay,

0:43:52.422 --> 0:43:54.942
<v Speaker 3>just something bad happened, which is that the ship has

0:43:54.942 --> 0:43:57.502
<v Speaker 3>started drifting in the wrong direction because it's not it's

0:43:57.542 --> 0:43:59.022
<v Speaker 3>not working. So what we need to do.

0:43:59.102 --> 0:44:00.181
<v Speaker 2>It's the weight of the ship.

0:44:00.302 --> 0:44:02.701
<v Speaker 3>How many people on the on the four thy two

0:44:02.781 --> 0:44:05.341
<v Speaker 3>hundred people and you go what like three times? What

0:44:05.382 --> 0:44:07.542
<v Speaker 3>are they eating, there's no three times a day.

0:44:07.342 --> 0:44:10.261
<v Speaker 2>You have quite decent bowel movements. I take a to Metamucile.

0:44:10.902 --> 0:44:13.341
<v Speaker 3>There's no refrigeration, so they're having like these shitty sound

0:44:13.502 --> 0:44:17.702
<v Speaker 3>not literally shitty sandwiches, but they're having crap sandwiches.

0:44:18.261 --> 0:44:20.261
<v Speaker 2>And then are they having the crap sandwiches to make

0:44:20.302 --> 0:44:21.261
<v Speaker 2>them all constipated?

0:44:21.261 --> 0:44:22.821
<v Speaker 3>So no, no, no, just because they have no good

0:44:22.822 --> 0:44:24.661
<v Speaker 3>food because they have no refrigeration, so they're having to

0:44:24.701 --> 0:44:27.821
<v Speaker 3>throw everything out of god a tactic. So then they're like, look,

0:44:27.822 --> 0:44:29.942
<v Speaker 3>we're gonna be real, it's gonna be another four days.

0:44:30.382 --> 0:44:32.022
<v Speaker 3>It's gonna be four to eight on a hoop cruise.

0:44:32.741 --> 0:44:35.542
<v Speaker 3>Another cruise comes past to give them supplies because at

0:44:35.542 --> 0:44:36.981
<v Speaker 3>this point they're like, we don't even have any food

0:44:36.982 --> 0:44:37.461
<v Speaker 3>for these people.

0:44:37.701 --> 0:44:39.461
<v Speaker 2>Give them supplies, but you're not getting on as show.

0:44:39.502 --> 0:44:41.741
<v Speaker 3>No no, and they start getting Wi Fi so they

0:44:41.781 --> 0:44:44.261
<v Speaker 3>start posting about poop cruise and then the story goes

0:44:44.862 --> 0:44:46.542
<v Speaker 3>like it goes absolutely.

0:44:46.181 --> 0:44:47.261
<v Speaker 1>Why did we not hear?

0:44:47.462 --> 0:44:50.342
<v Speaker 3>But the time get worse because the cruise is like,

0:44:50.422 --> 0:44:51.902
<v Speaker 3>you know what, we're about having a good time. So

0:44:51.982 --> 0:44:53.422
<v Speaker 3>what I think we should do is open the bar

0:44:53.781 --> 0:44:56.982
<v Speaker 3>freebooze for everyone that did not go well. Someone poops

0:44:56.982 --> 0:44:58.941
<v Speaker 3>in a bag, they could throw it off the hedge.

0:44:59.221 --> 0:45:03.661
<v Speaker 3>The wind blows out lands on someone who can't.

0:45:03.502 --> 0:45:03.982
<v Speaker 1>Have a shower.

0:45:06.302 --> 0:45:08.661
<v Speaker 2>Shower jump in the ocean. At this point, I'm.

0:45:08.622 --> 0:45:09.301
<v Speaker 3>Jumping in the water.

0:45:09.902 --> 0:45:12.661
<v Speaker 2>They're swimming to Eventually.

0:45:12.622 --> 0:45:13.741
<v Speaker 3>The boat comes to tow them.

0:45:13.822 --> 0:45:14.102
<v Speaker 4>They need.

0:45:14.661 --> 0:45:14.781
<v Speaker 1>Now.

0:45:14.862 --> 0:45:18.102
<v Speaker 3>What happens is the boat imagine a towing The boat

0:45:18.221 --> 0:45:21.062
<v Speaker 3>kind of goes at an angle, and all the urine

0:45:21.102 --> 0:45:23.301
<v Speaker 3>in the showers, which hasn't been draining because it can't drain,

0:45:23.781 --> 0:45:28.622
<v Speaker 3>goes and it is raining urine down wall. It's there

0:45:28.701 --> 0:45:30.422
<v Speaker 3>is footage if someone getting out of their bed and

0:45:30.462 --> 0:45:33.622
<v Speaker 3>they are deep in urine. All the poop from the

0:45:33.701 --> 0:45:36.422
<v Speaker 3>bins falls out of the bins and goes in the hallway.

0:45:39.022 --> 0:45:43.221
<v Speaker 3>And people are on CNN going e COLI like this

0:45:43.462 --> 0:45:45.181
<v Speaker 3>is not caught, Like what are you going to do?

0:45:46.181 --> 0:45:49.221
<v Speaker 3>People who had children, they so many people were kids.

0:45:49.741 --> 0:45:53.181
<v Speaker 3>It was so so bad. And then eventually they got

0:45:53.261 --> 0:45:56.622
<v Speaker 3>back to the thing. They get off the cruise, they

0:45:56.701 --> 0:46:00.301
<v Speaker 3>tell this, so they all have pink ei. They must like,

0:46:00.382 --> 0:46:02.862
<v Speaker 3>can you imagine every time you would pooh in a

0:46:02.902 --> 0:46:05.382
<v Speaker 3>normal toilet, you would go, oh my god, trigger.

0:46:05.181 --> 0:46:06.142
<v Speaker 2>I would never shit again.

0:46:06.221 --> 0:46:08.022
<v Speaker 3>And I just think the moral of this story is

0:46:08.102 --> 0:46:11.661
<v Speaker 3>like the moral, I love the story no matter how

0:46:11.701 --> 0:46:14.301
<v Speaker 3>bad you were kids. Yeah, you're having a bad moment.

0:46:14.422 --> 0:46:16.701
<v Speaker 3>You feel how stress poolas aren't you? You just go

0:46:17.422 --> 0:46:19.142
<v Speaker 3>you know what, At least I'm not on the poop cruise.

0:46:19.542 --> 0:46:22.582
<v Speaker 3>That's my new mantra. Po needs meditation. At least I'm

0:46:22.622 --> 0:46:23.502
<v Speaker 3>not on the poop cruise.

0:46:24.502 --> 0:46:27.742
<v Speaker 1>Well, out louders, We've learned so much today in crazy

0:46:27.862 --> 0:46:30.022
<v Speaker 1>loads that m poops three times a day. I'd like

0:46:30.102 --> 0:46:33.221
<v Speaker 1>to know what the average amount of poos per day?

0:46:33.382 --> 0:46:35.582
<v Speaker 1>People do? I think she's got a last run today.

0:46:35.781 --> 0:46:38.502
<v Speaker 1>I think I think I've just looked it up as

0:46:38.542 --> 0:46:41.582
<v Speaker 1>we're talking. The average is once or twice a day.

0:46:41.661 --> 0:46:43.622
<v Speaker 2>So and you are officially on top of the poop

0:46:43.661 --> 0:46:45.462
<v Speaker 2>lady boy, I'm officially above average.

0:46:45.741 --> 0:46:47.462
<v Speaker 1>A big thank you to all of you the out

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<v Speaker 1>louders for listening to today's show, and our fabulous team

0:46:49.982 --> 0:46:52.542
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