WEBVTT - Did Someone Get Engaged? Oh Look, Mia Just Barged In

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to Amma Mia podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Mamma Mia acknowledges the traditional owners of land and warders

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<v Speaker 2>that this podcast is recorded on Hello and welcome to

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<v Speaker 2>MoMA Mia. Out loud what women are actually talking about

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<v Speaker 2>on Wednesday, the twenty seventh of August.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a hard day to put the show together, isn't it, Hallywayen.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, it really is. I am Holly Wayne Right.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm Jesse Stevens, and I'm Amelia Lester and friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Today little girls everywhere got a reminder on blast that

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<v Speaker 2>no matter what greatness you achieve in your life, nothing

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<v Speaker 2>will be more celebrated than the moment a man choose.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh Holly, come on, is that notthing? Sorry, let me buffer,

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<v Speaker 2>let me try that again, Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Squire.

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<v Speaker 2>Taylor Swift and Travis Kelc a engaged twenty five exclamation marks.

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<v Speaker 3>Woot.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course, we've been up since dawn curating all the

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<v Speaker 2>hot takes for you. If only Infamous Swifty Mia Friedman

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<v Speaker 2>was here for this historic man I'd.

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<v Speaker 1>See only we unpacked the shocking news from Canberra about

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<v Speaker 1>state sanctioned terrorism in Australia.

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<v Speaker 3>And Northwest went out for a lovely dinner with her

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<v Speaker 3>mother Kim Kardashian in Rome.

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<v Speaker 4>But all anyone can talk.

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<v Speaker 3>About is what North chose to wear and how it's

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<v Speaker 3>all Kim's fault.

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<v Speaker 2>But first, people, Taylor Swift is getting married. It's a

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<v Speaker 2>love story. And she said, yes, Etta, I thought we've

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<v Speaker 2>got rid of you.

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<v Speaker 3>That might be Taylor's sweating dress.

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<v Speaker 4>What you're wearing.

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<v Speaker 5>Because this to her concert. And I actually thought that

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<v Speaker 5>this was like an NFL jersey. Apparently it's baseball.

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's ice hockey. Yeah, some kind of hockey

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<v Speaker 4>is thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Ladies and the very few gentlemen want me. Hello, she

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<v Speaker 2>was gonna sit this in. You didn't even know.

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<v Speaker 6>Happy Taylor Engagement Day for those who celebrate you and

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<v Speaker 6>me pretty.

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<v Speaker 2>Much how she feel, not really me? This morning at

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<v Speaker 2>three a high school. This morning, at three am Eastern

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<v Speaker 2>Standard time, an Instagram post appeared on the accounts of

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<v Speaker 2>both Taylor Swift and someone called Killer Trav. The imagery

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<v Speaker 2>is peak flower arch and amid the blooms stands Taylor

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<v Speaker 2>Swift with American Football's titust end Travis Kelcey kneeling before

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<v Speaker 2>her as he should, with four other gorgeously smiling kissy

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<v Speaker 2>pictures to follow. And the caption that simply reads, your

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<v Speaker 2>English teacher and your gym teacher are getting married Stick

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<v Speaker 2>of dynamite and the world imploded.

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<v Speaker 4>Go Maya, how do you feel today?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel good. I knew.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not surprised. I knew this was happening.

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<v Speaker 6>I think it is a good thing. I always thought

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<v Speaker 6>they were endgame. Really yeah, yeah, I think they are

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<v Speaker 6>so perfectly suited. And if there was ever any doubt

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<v Speaker 6>I think it was very much locked and loaded when

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<v Speaker 6>they rolled out formally rolled out there. I don't want

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<v Speaker 6>to say brand because that sounds cynical. They rolled out

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<v Speaker 6>themselves as a couple on the podcast a couple of

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<v Speaker 6>weeks ago, on the Kelsey Brothers podcast, and I looked

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<v Speaker 6>at it and I just thought, oh, they are so perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>And what did you think of the actual announcement? She

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<v Speaker 3>appears to be in a forest. I mean it is

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<v Speaker 3>in August, which is allegedly a song that hard.

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<v Speaker 2>Does anyone know what the stick of dynamite?

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<v Speaker 4>I know what it means? Oh good, TNT Travis.

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<v Speaker 3>And Taylor, Yeah yeah, yeah, Travis and Taylor give us

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<v Speaker 3>an analysis of that.

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<v Speaker 4>They're in the flowers.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, so the thing to understand I have a friend

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<v Speaker 6>who is a swiftie who has never liked Travis for

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<v Speaker 6>Taylor and has always thought that he was too basic,

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<v Speaker 6>too much of a buffhead. The thing about Travis and

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<v Speaker 6>the reason that I think he's so perfect for her

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<v Speaker 6>on so many levels, the most important thing is how

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<v Speaker 6>much they've got in common. I mean, as he said

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<v Speaker 6>on the podcast, they're both stadium entertainers. Now, who else

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<v Speaker 6>in the world can really understand what that's like. A

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<v Speaker 6>few people, not many people we've played.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we can call it of those places state.

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<v Speaker 6>So they're both incredibly successful and competitive in their own fields.

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<v Speaker 6>They're not in the same field, which is interesting, and

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<v Speaker 6>she's obviously on a whole other level. But family is

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<v Speaker 6>incredibly important to both of them.

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<v Speaker 5>And they're both daggy.

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<v Speaker 6>And I say that with the greatest respect and affection,

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<v Speaker 6>because Taylor has always been a bit cringe and cheese

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<v Speaker 6>and she's owned that like that's part of her charm.

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<v Speaker 1>I always remember, after what we believed to be their

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<v Speaker 1>first date, or the first public date, because their first

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<v Speaker 1>date may have been before that, when she went to

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<v Speaker 1>see him play football. He took her for a ride

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<v Speaker 1>afterwards in his convertible. Do you remember this detail? And

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<v Speaker 1>on the roof of the convertible it has the stars

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<v Speaker 1>because he wanted a reminder to always reach for them. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>if that's Taylor coded, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 6>They're both very earnest in their way, but also very goofy,

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<v Speaker 6>Like she's always really embraced the daggy dancing.

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<v Speaker 5>She's not she's not Beyonce, she's not incredibly slip.

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<v Speaker 2>She's very relatable and so is he today as everybody's

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<v Speaker 2>losing their minds. There's lots of narrative that you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I have a problem with, but we'll get to that later.

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<v Speaker 2>That Like, we've seen her through all these relationships that

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<v Speaker 2>weren't right and this is the right one. Do you

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<v Speaker 2>think that the tortured poets, all that stuff, all those

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<v Speaker 2>bad boys she was dating, all the ones who wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to go under the radar, or do you think she

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<v Speaker 2>was pretending or do you think she's evolved into this

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<v Speaker 2>version of herself. Like I don't mean pretending for the audience,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean you know how sometimes you bury bits of

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<v Speaker 2>yourself in relationships. So what you're saying is they're perfect

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<v Speaker 2>for each other because they meet each other in ambition

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<v Speaker 2>and she yeah, and like all American dagginess. Do you

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<v Speaker 2>think that's who she's always been? But she was trying

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<v Speaker 2>to convince herself, Oh no, I'm like, I'm more Maddy. Heally,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm more.

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<v Speaker 4>That's interesting.

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<v Speaker 6>I think that we all visit different versions of ourselves

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<v Speaker 6>depending on I don't know if guys do this, but

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<v Speaker 6>I know I did it depending on who I've dated.

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<v Speaker 6>And I think that the most important thing about Travis

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<v Speaker 6>is that for the first time since I've she hasn't

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<v Speaker 6>had to dim her light because she hasn't had to

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<v Speaker 6>worry about emasculating a man. And I completely understand, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>Joe awhen which was a really formative relationship for her,

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<v Speaker 6>And certainly thank you Joe for some amazing music, even

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<v Speaker 6>to Jake Gillenhole, Harry Styles, all of those we got

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<v Speaker 6>John Maye, We've got some great music Travis, because she's happy,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, he's so high School's probably not Taylor's best

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<v Speaker 6>but as someone who thinks she's an amazing artist, but

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<v Speaker 6>she's also just a person, She's also just a woman who's.

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<v Speaker 3>What's around my age. There are some concerns in the

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<v Speaker 3>office by single girls that they're going, I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>an album about a joint mortgage. I don't want an

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<v Speaker 3>album about yeah, you know, little petty fights. Like hasn't

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<v Speaker 3>her best music been during those tumultuous years. But I

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<v Speaker 3>think that two thousand and eight Love Story came out,

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<v Speaker 3>which was for the basic among us, that was kind

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<v Speaker 3>of when Taylor Swift burst onto the scene. That was

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<v Speaker 3>the year that I graduated high school. It was everywhere.

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<v Speaker 3>It was Romeo and Juliet, and it's her coming out

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<v Speaker 3>just basically professing her position as a hopeless romantic, which

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<v Speaker 3>kind of wasn't the vibe then. And she was a

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<v Speaker 3>very earnest millennial figure, right, And so to watch her now,

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<v Speaker 3>seventeen years later, having finally it feels like there's this

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<v Speaker 3>arc or this plot that's very I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like we have been rooting for her and she

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<v Speaker 3>had these really low moments with the awful Jake Jillenhole.

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<v Speaker 2>You're upsetting me, Jesse.

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<v Speaker 1>What I think you're saying here, which is something that

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<v Speaker 1>I've been feeling today. For millennials, this is the end

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<v Speaker 1>of an arc. It's the end of an era. And

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<v Speaker 1>I know that Holly will tell us that the happy

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<v Speaker 1>ending is the whole rest of your life, and that

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<v Speaker 1>that's the work in progress. But for millennials in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>it does feel like this is the moment that we

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<v Speaker 1>see the culmination of our youth.

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<v Speaker 3>And we all know the feeling of watching a friend

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<v Speaker 3>who has dated total duds and has had really difficult

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<v Speaker 3>moments finding their person.

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<v Speaker 4>And I will lie you upset. I just think that's

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<v Speaker 4>a lovely thing.

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<v Speaker 5>Why are you reigning on.

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<v Speaker 2>Taylor's pat I don't want to rain on her parade.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very happy for her, But I want to say

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<v Speaker 2>to all the single girls crying in their lattes this morning,

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<v Speaker 2>and there are some, there are some in this office

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<v Speaker 2>who are like, fuck another fucking happy couple, Like here

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<v Speaker 2>we go. This isn't the ending of anything. Weddings and

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<v Speaker 2>engagements are not the endings of anything. There's no happy ending.

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<v Speaker 2>Almost done, now, well done, dusting her hands. Ask anyone

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<v Speaker 2>who's been married for more than five minutes if the

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<v Speaker 2>wedding and the marriage is the end. There is a

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<v Speaker 2>lot to go. Taylor's got a lot of life left

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<v Speaker 2>to live. We all know people whose marriages didn't work out,

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<v Speaker 2>So let's not get too caught up in the happy

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<v Speaker 2>ending of it.

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<v Speaker 5>That's romantic.

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<v Speaker 6>She's not up here for me, not someone who's ever

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<v Speaker 6>been like I need a man to complete me.

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<v Speaker 1>Like.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think there's anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't every single one of her songs about that?

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<v Speaker 6>No? I think that looking for great love is not

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<v Speaker 6>retro or something to be embarrassed about or ashamed about.

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<v Speaker 5>But it doesn't have to define you, Like she's been

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<v Speaker 5>very clear that, Yeah, she's pretty complete.

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<v Speaker 6>Her own, and she's got goals to kick, and she's

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<v Speaker 6>kicked all all of the ones that you can think of,

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<v Speaker 6>and she continues to kick more.

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<v Speaker 3>And what she always wanted, like even from that two

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<v Speaker 3>thousand and eight thing, which which I don't relate with

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<v Speaker 3>but I respect, is a loud love. She wanted someone

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<v Speaker 3>who professed their love for her and this, yeah, Travis

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<v Speaker 3>is loud live.

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<v Speaker 1>But me, I do have to say that her greatest

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<v Speaker 1>music has been about looking for love. Are you worried

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<v Speaker 1>that her music now is going to suffer with happiness?

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<v Speaker 6>No, because what we saw with Folklore and Evermore and

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<v Speaker 6>she said she's going to do this again. Not with

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<v Speaker 6>Life of a Show God, because that's about behind the

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<v Speaker 6>scenes of when she was doing the ears tool, but

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<v Speaker 6>she said with those two albums she really enjoyed writing

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<v Speaker 6>songs from the perspective of characters, and that was the

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<v Speaker 6>first time she'd done that because you know, before that

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<v Speaker 6>she'd always mind her life and often her love life.

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<v Speaker 6>But some of her greatest songs are about being betrayed

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<v Speaker 6>in business, you know as well and being betrayed. You know.

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<v Speaker 6>The whole Reputation album was extraordinary, and that wasn't about love.

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<v Speaker 6>That was about being canceled.

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<v Speaker 2>Can I ask you Mia as a resident you know,

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<v Speaker 2>obviously swifty but also pr expert.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh tree Pain, Big day for tree Pain.

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<v Speaker 2>One of the things that marks this relationship very much,

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<v Speaker 2>as we've already touched on, is how public it is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's very public, this relationship and this engagement announcement is

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<v Speaker 2>very public. The way that it was said it was

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<v Speaker 2>for the fans, like the English teacher and the gym teacher.

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<v Speaker 2>It's gorgeous, but it's for the fans. Right, what's the

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<v Speaker 2>wedding going to be? Like, I am obsessed now about it.

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<v Speaker 2>This is a royal wedding. This is America's royal wedding,

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<v Speaker 2>and I am now obsessed that maybe they should lean

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<v Speaker 2>into that and down the streets of Kansas City. We

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<v Speaker 2>should have an open topped rainbow carriage pulled by unicorns,

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<v Speaker 2>and all the girls and the gays can be out

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<v Speaker 2>applauding it. That would be brilliant. Donald Trump has made

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<v Speaker 2>a stake.

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<v Speaker 3>A lot of fans are saying, I'll buy tickets. They

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<v Speaker 3>went to the Eras tour. This is their Eras tour.

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<v Speaker 3>They'll watch well they get married at the Super Bowl.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it possible to have a private wedding if you're

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<v Speaker 2>the most famous woman in the world.

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<v Speaker 6>I think so, because when Taylor Swift wants to disappear,

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<v Speaker 6>she disappears, knows how to disappear.

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<v Speaker 5>She's disappeared for years at a time.

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<v Speaker 6>So I think that sharing this with the world is

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<v Speaker 6>lovely and it's in large part of service to her fans,

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<v Speaker 6>who were very, very invested. But she has always done

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<v Speaker 6>things on her terms. I don't think we should be

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<v Speaker 6>worried about her.

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<v Speaker 5>I must say.

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<v Speaker 6>Part of me was like, oh, we should have kept

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<v Speaker 6>this private, But then I'm like why, like for the

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<v Speaker 6>first time she's with someone who's not emasculated, or like, oh,

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<v Speaker 6>we mustn't be seen together on a red carpet. We

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<v Speaker 6>mustn't be seen in public, Like for six or seven

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<v Speaker 6>years with Joe Alvin, she had to hide, she had

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<v Speaker 6>to like sneak in and out.

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<v Speaker 5>Of cars, and like, how would that make you feel?

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<v Speaker 3>There's a theory which I think you'll really like that

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<v Speaker 3>the announcement was a homage to tree pain because she

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<v Speaker 3>was surrounded by train trees.

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<v Speaker 1>See.

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<v Speaker 5>I loved that.

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<v Speaker 6>I think about your proposal, Jesse, because I had a

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<v Speaker 6>friend who's like, he was wearing shorts and loafers with

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<v Speaker 6>new socks and ooh and yuck, And.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, is that about that?

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<v Speaker 6>You know what your betrothed was wearing when he proposed

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<v Speaker 6>to you, what you were wearing. None of that matters,

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<v Speaker 6>None of it matters.

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<v Speaker 5>And there was something.

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<v Speaker 6>Really daggy about it in the most over the top way,

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<v Speaker 6>of course, which I absolutely loved, which made it feel

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<v Speaker 6>very real to me.

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<v Speaker 2>They're a world in which, you know how you said,

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<v Speaker 2>Taylor does everything on her terms, and we all know

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<v Speaker 2>that she loves to trick us, Queen of the missed direction.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it possible that they're already married?

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<v Speaker 6>No, but I do think this happened a couple of

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<v Speaker 6>weeks ago like, I think that there's been time. I

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<v Speaker 6>don't think it happened yesterday.

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<v Speaker 3>And there were hints over the weekend, quotes from Travis

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<v Speaker 3>Kelsey's parents that suggested they knew.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, absolutely, I think you know, just like with

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<v Speaker 6>your proposal, there were people around them that were clued in,

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<v Speaker 6>and I'm sure Tree knew.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Theory among just the Out Loud team is that Travis

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<v Speaker 3>Kelcey did ask Tree pain one hundred percent Taylor's.

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<v Speaker 6>For Scott, her father, he would have had to go

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<v Speaker 6>and ask Tree and fair enough.

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<v Speaker 3>One more tidbit I need to share, please, Blake Lively

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<v Speaker 3>has not at the time of recording lying to the post.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very upset about that.

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<v Speaker 4>And what does that tell us?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I just think she's not going to be made

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<v Speaker 3>of honor.

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<v Speaker 5>I think it's messy.

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<v Speaker 6>I think that we all have friendships that we've left

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<v Speaker 6>behind for various reasons, usually not as high profile as

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<v Speaker 6>lawsuits and things like that, but we all do. And

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<v Speaker 6>it's kind of a bittersweet when someone that you were

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<v Speaker 6>super close to has this life milestone, whether it's a

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<v Speaker 6>happy one like this or a sad one like losing

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<v Speaker 6>a parent, you sort of feel like you should reach out.

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<v Speaker 6>Just because she didn't like it on Instagram does not

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<v Speaker 6>mean she didn't necessarily text. But I think probably her

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<v Speaker 6>number is blocked. I think Tree would have seen to that.

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<v Speaker 5>Guys, there's so much to talk about.

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<v Speaker 6>There's the ring, There's whether or not she was surprised,

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<v Speaker 6>There's a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>Of There was the nearly twelve months ago to the day,

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<v Speaker 3>there was a leaked breakup plan, which was a big

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<v Speaker 3>topic of discussion, and I just want to go back

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<v Speaker 3>to that, revisit what we said.

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<v Speaker 5>And there are a lot of clues.

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<v Speaker 6>I've been diving deeper. We shocked to hear about a

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<v Speaker 6>lot of clues. The Swifties have done their work, and

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<v Speaker 6>there are a lot of clues in the announcement, in

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<v Speaker 6>the photo. There's a lot still to talk about. So

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<v Speaker 6>I'm sure you've probably got other topics to talk about.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know what they are, sure they'll be great.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't really want to talk about anything else today, Okay,

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<v Speaker 6>So I think I'll excuse myself and go do some

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<v Speaker 6>more research and maybe see you in a subs episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I that would be amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Sounds good.

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<v Speaker 3>I have one more thing to say about the announcement

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<v Speaker 3>Kill a Trav.

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<v Speaker 4>So the first thing I thought I won't.

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<v Speaker 3>I checked Instagram because that's how it goes, and I

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<v Speaker 3>saw kill a Trav and I went home follow Killer Trav.

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<v Speaker 3>Who the hell is that she can't marry kill a Trap?

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<v Speaker 3>He has to change his Instagram handle and then maybe

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<v Speaker 3>she will follow him, because she still doesn't follow him

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<v Speaker 3>on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 4>Change it to Travis Kelsey.

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<v Speaker 3>It just screams he made it when he was twelve,

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<v Speaker 3>didn't realize he'd become so famoure. Now he's marrying Taylor

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<v Speaker 3>Swift and he is Killer Trav on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm horrified over to a different kind of Royalty. I

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<v Speaker 2>have generously been given one whole minute. This is very

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<v Speaker 2>troubling for me to bring you up to speed on

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<v Speaker 2>what's been happening in princess business this week. Okay, which,

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<v Speaker 2>to be honest, since this week one of my tailors,

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<v Speaker 2>Megan Markle, launched an show and did a whole, big,

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<v Speaker 2>long form interview. This is very cruel, but I understand

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<v Speaker 2>we've been usurped by the way at Royalty. So here's

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<v Speaker 2>my quick rundown of what's been happening in Princess business

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<v Speaker 2>this week? Season two as ever, Sorry with love, Megan,

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<v Speaker 2>Why isn't it called the same thing? It's bad for?

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<v Speaker 2>Brand has dropped? And what's weird about it? Considering that

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<v Speaker 2>season one we had to sit through lots of people

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<v Speaker 2>we've never met before making candles, is that this season

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<v Speaker 2>it's got cred right. Episode one has got David Chang

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<v Speaker 2>on it. Now, you might not know who he is

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<v Speaker 2>Jesse because you don't like food, but here is a

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<v Speaker 2>big deal. He's the momo fuku guy. He is a

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<v Speaker 2>big deal.

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<v Speaker 4>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>Is he the one who makes a lobster? I've seen

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<v Speaker 3>a clip no no no.

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<v Speaker 2>Episode two has Chrissy Tagan and episode eight with the lobster,

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<v Speaker 2>that's jose Andres. He is massively famous and he's the

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<v Speaker 2>founder of World Central Kitchen. Like he is a massive deal.

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<v Speaker 2>So why did she keep all the good people for

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<v Speaker 2>the second season? I am very confused about that. Same day,

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<v Speaker 2>Meg sits down for a long form interview with Bloomberg

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<v Speaker 2>Emily Chang in a bookstore. Presumably this is where she

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<v Speaker 2>chose to be interviewed in a bookstore. You like books,

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<v Speaker 2>says Emily Chang, looking around. What are you reading right now?

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<v Speaker 2>Reading says Megan. Oh, I read to my kids. I

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<v Speaker 2>read self help, but mostly Emily. She says this, and

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<v Speaker 2>then my late.

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<v Speaker 5>Night indulgence now is just a lot of duolingo?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you ever do know?

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<v Speaker 5>That's great when I could find the time. What are

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<v Speaker 5>you do olingoing? I'm dual lingering French.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I committed to relearning it.

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<v Speaker 2>And so yeah, me too, megs me too. As you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm naturally we are basically the same person. Meanwhile, over

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<v Speaker 2>in that place that Megan's not allowed to go to anymore,

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<v Speaker 2>Princess Catherine got the world momentarily obsessed with the fact

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<v Speaker 2>that she had dyed her hair blonde. Now, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>really explain to you how I know, deep in my

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<v Speaker 2>soul she did not dye her hair blonde. Princess Catherine

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<v Speaker 2>is no more allowed to dye her hair blonde than

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<v Speaker 2>she is to pick her undie's out of her But.

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<v Speaker 3>I saw those pictures of her in the limousine or something,

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<v Speaker 3>and they think that it's blonde.

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<v Speaker 4>Is it just light the lighting?

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<v Speaker 2>It's a pat picture right through a car window that

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<v Speaker 2>looks like she's gone proper blonde blonde. But a strategic

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<v Speaker 2>leak has already been placed with the Daily Mail that says,

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<v Speaker 2>this is just yacht tad. She has spent the summer

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<v Speaker 2>in Greece and she's slowly been lightning her brown from

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<v Speaker 2>chestnut to more caramelli and there's just a bit of

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<v Speaker 2>summer sun on it. And that is worth a thousand headlines?

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<v Speaker 2>Did I do well on my princess update? I updated

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<v Speaker 2>very well.

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<v Speaker 3>You missed the part where I saw that Meghan got

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<v Speaker 3>gifted by Harry the big portrait.

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<v Speaker 4>Have you seen this?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, on her Instagram today, a big black and white

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<v Speaker 3>portrait of her laying in a field with her dog.

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<v Speaker 4>I think it might be her late dog.

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<v Speaker 1>One more thing too. You missed something else We learned

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<v Speaker 1>from the season two of this TV show that for

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<v Speaker 1>Harry's fortieth birthday had hats printed that said P forty

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<v Speaker 1>for his friends to wear. I just want to emphasize

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<v Speaker 1>to you that that means that they ask their friends

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<v Speaker 1>to call him Prince Harry.

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<v Speaker 2>PH Prince Harry. Look, if this was a different day,

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<v Speaker 2>if Taylor Swift had not made her announcement, we would

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<v Speaker 2>be talking for hours and you would be under sufferance

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<v Speaker 2>at me talking about that all of this Easter eggs

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<v Speaker 2>in the as Ever with Love Megan, So just count

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<v Speaker 2>yourself lucky that we're not doing that.

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<v Speaker 3>Now one's watching that season, Hollywayen right, No One.

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<v Speaker 1>In a moment. A shocking announcement from the PM about

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<v Speaker 1>terrorist attacks on Australian soil. So yesterday we had some

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<v Speaker 1>shocking and pretty surprising news from Canberra. Prime Minister Anthony

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<v Speaker 1>Albanezi stood in the courtyard at Parliament House and he

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<v Speaker 1>pinned last year's anti Semitic attacks that happened in Melbourne

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<v Speaker 1>and in Sydney on a foreign power, and that foreign

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<v Speaker 1>power is Iran. The revelation hinges on intelligence from Australia

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<v Speaker 1>spy agencies. And the way that you know this is

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<v Speaker 1>a big deal is when the head of AZIO, the

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<v Speaker 1>super secret spy agency, actually comes out to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>the press, and that happened yesterday. His name is Mike Burgess.

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<v Speaker 1>He explained that the December attack on a Melbourne synagogue

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<v Speaker 1>and the October attack on Sydney's Lewis Continental Kitchen were

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<v Speaker 1>ordered by Iran. So he stressed that Iran themselves, Iranian diplomats,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't conduct these attacks. They likely engaged a third party

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<v Speaker 1>criminal organization to do them for them. I also want

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<v Speaker 1>to mention that Iran denies the allegations. Iran's Foreign minister

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<v Speaker 1>has said that there are dozens of synagogues in Iran

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<v Speaker 1>and it made zero sense for Iran to attack these

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<v Speaker 1>sites in Australia. But I do have to say that

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<v Speaker 1>these allegations are so extraordinary, so unusual, so out of

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<v Speaker 1>left field, that Alberesi and the Australian intelligence authorities had

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<v Speaker 1>to have been absolutely certain in what they said yesterday.

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<v Speaker 1>There would be no doubt when they announced this. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's hear what Alberanzi did have to say.

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<v Speaker 7>These were extraordinary and dangerous ects of a Russian orchestrated

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<v Speaker 7>by a foreign nation on Australian soil. They were attempts

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<v Speaker 7>to undermine social cohesion and so discord in our community.

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<v Speaker 7>It is totally unacceptable and the Australian government is taking

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<v Speaker 7>strong and decisive action in response.

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<v Speaker 1>So in response, what has Albanezi done. He has expelled

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<v Speaker 1>Iran's ambassador to Australia. That hasn't happened since World War II,

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<v Speaker 1>and three other Iranian diplomats were photographed late last night

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<v Speaker 1>in a car fleeing the country. There's so much that

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<v Speaker 1>we still don't know about this story. There's so many

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<v Speaker 1>questions about it. But one unexpected development to come out

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<v Speaker 1>of it is that Iran and Israel, who has sworn enemies,

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<v Speaker 1>now agree on one thing, and that one thing is

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<v Speaker 1>they do not like Australia. Last week, Albanzi was sparring

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<v Speaker 1>with Benjamin Netanyahu, who's Israel's Prime minister and now Iran's

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<v Speaker 1>foreign minister, posted on x overnight that Netanya, who is

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<v Speaker 1>right about one thing, Australia's Prime minister, is indeed a

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<v Speaker 1>weak politician.

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<v Speaker 2>I bet that Albernezi is wishing he could change the subject.

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<v Speaker 2>I have one question why Australia, Like why would Iran

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<v Speaker 2>use Australia as a particular target for this.

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<v Speaker 1>It's such a good question and I don't think we

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<v Speaker 1>know the answer. So Iran has been linked to terra

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<v Speaker 1>plots in other countries in the US and Mark, Belgium, Albania,

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<v Speaker 1>but the last big report on that activity came before

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<v Speaker 1>October seven, and as far as we know, as far

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<v Speaker 1>as I know, there hasn't been a direct specific link

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<v Speaker 1>made of this kind to terrorist activity in the West

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<v Speaker 1>since then.

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<v Speaker 3>Australia has the seventh largest Jewish population in the world,

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<v Speaker 3>so I mean it's significant, but it's it's not the largest, like,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's obviously outside of Israel. But reading all of

0:21:53.222 --> 0:21:55.821
<v Speaker 3>this and reading the details of you know, the text

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<v Speaker 3>messages and stuff they've got from the planning, what's remarkable

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<v Speaker 3>and so lucky is that no one was her Like,

0:22:05.061 --> 0:22:07.702
<v Speaker 3>there was someone hurt. Actually there was someone injured during

0:22:07.742 --> 0:22:10.061
<v Speaker 3>the arts and attack, And of course they're saying that

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<v Speaker 3>they think a few of the other targeted attacks on

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<v Speaker 3>Jewish businesses and stuff, Iran was behind that. But the

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<v Speaker 3>fact that no one was hurt is pretty incredible.

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<v Speaker 2>Just to use real layman's terms, and please correct me,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean yeah, but is that because not I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>not their lack of casualties, But is that because when

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<v Speaker 2>you say they didn't carry out these incidents, but they're

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<v Speaker 2>literally organizing and paying like petty criminals or organized.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't seem to have any really.

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<v Speaker 2>Like no deep affiliation, but to do this for them, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and then how effective they are is kind of beyond

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<v Speaker 2>Iran's control. But what it certainly succeeds in doing is destabilizing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think, Yeah, the funny thing is too that

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<v Speaker 1>Australia by some measures, has fallen behind other Western nations

0:22:57.581 --> 0:23:00.581
<v Speaker 1>in sanctioning Iran so quick. Bringing you up to speed

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<v Speaker 1>on many many years of irun in history is that

0:23:02.502 --> 0:23:06.861
<v Speaker 1>it has been ruled by this extremist religious regime since

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen seventy nine. Since its revolutions of Western countries have

0:23:11.141 --> 0:23:15.462
<v Speaker 1>taken steps to sanction and to punish that extremist religious regime.

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<v Speaker 4>In various ways.

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<v Speaker 1>Australia has really been behind the rest of the park

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<v Speaker 1>in terms of doing that. So Albinizi just said that

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<v Speaker 1>he's going to sanction the Iran's Revolutionary Guard Corp. They're

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like the secret religious police there. But for instance,

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<v Speaker 1>the US and lots of other Western countries had already

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<v Speaker 1>said that that group was a terrorist organization. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>almost like by doing this, Iran's kind of goading Australia

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<v Speaker 1>into coming up to speed with the rest of the

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<v Speaker 1>West in sanctioning them.

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<v Speaker 3>It's very odd, and what it did achieve was its

0:23:45.942 --> 0:23:48.101
<v Speaker 3>goal of terrorizing the Jewish community.

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<v Speaker 4>Like it said, it's horrific.

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<v Speaker 3>There are just to know that these attacks were so

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<v Speaker 3>targeted and by a foreign power. I think is terrifying

0:23:59.542 --> 0:24:04.022
<v Speaker 3>and it continues to compromise social cohesion. There's an incredible

0:24:04.141 --> 0:24:07.222
<v Speaker 3>article by Kylie Moore Gilbert in the Sydney Morning Herald

0:24:07.262 --> 0:24:10.861
<v Speaker 3>in the Age where she right about she was.

0:24:10.861 --> 0:24:11.861
<v Speaker 4>Imprisoned in Iran.

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<v Speaker 3>She's an Australian academic and she says that in twenty

0:24:16.182 --> 0:24:19.782
<v Speaker 3>twenty she was being interrogated by the Revolutionary Guard Corps

0:24:19.942 --> 0:24:22.821
<v Speaker 3>and they were presenting her with a paper with the

0:24:22.901 --> 0:24:25.942
<v Speaker 3>names and addresses of multiple synagogues in Melbourne and wanted information.

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<v Speaker 3>So what she's trying to say is that her, along

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<v Speaker 3>with lots of members of Iranian Diaspra, have been saying

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<v Speaker 3>for a long time these are really dangerous people, basically

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<v Speaker 3>call them a terrorist organization, and now Australia has come

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<v Speaker 3>to the table and kind of acknowledged just how dangerous

0:24:43.262 --> 0:24:46.542
<v Speaker 3>they are. This operation as well has been so interesting

0:24:46.542 --> 0:24:49.581
<v Speaker 3>because what Australia needed to do was get their diplomats

0:24:49.581 --> 0:24:52.221
<v Speaker 3>out of Iran before they did any of this to

0:24:52.302 --> 0:24:55.821
<v Speaker 3>keep everyone everyone safe. So yeah, we are just going

0:24:55.901 --> 0:24:58.061
<v Speaker 3>to learn a lot more about this in the coming

0:24:58.542 --> 0:25:03.181
<v Speaker 3>weeks and months after the break Northwest, the daughter of

0:25:03.262 --> 0:25:05.821
<v Speaker 3>Kim Kardashian and Kanye West went to dinner in a

0:25:05.901 --> 0:25:07.942
<v Speaker 3>corset and everyone is clutching their pearls.

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<v Speaker 4>Holly needs a moment to puff fish.

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0:25:31.542 --> 0:25:35.662
<v Speaker 3>This week, Northwest and her mother, Kim Kardashian were spotted

0:25:35.702 --> 0:25:39.382
<v Speaker 3>in Rome, having no doubt a very lovely meal. Paparazzi

0:25:39.422 --> 0:25:43.181
<v Speaker 3>pictures began to circulate, which North has been experiencing her

0:25:43.182 --> 0:25:46.382
<v Speaker 3>whole life, but this time the commentary was very different.

0:25:47.101 --> 0:25:50.302
<v Speaker 3>For context, North is twelve, She is the eldest of

0:25:50.502 --> 0:25:53.222
<v Speaker 3>Kim and Kanye's four kids. Kim and Kanye are divorced,

0:25:53.702 --> 0:25:56.661
<v Speaker 3>and she was wearing a black corset, a short skirt,

0:25:56.742 --> 0:26:00.502
<v Speaker 3>and chunky black boots, and the Internet swiftly decided that

0:26:00.581 --> 0:26:03.821
<v Speaker 3>this was not appropriate attire for child.

0:26:04.302 --> 0:26:05.341
<v Speaker 4>The thing about twelve year.

0:26:05.222 --> 0:26:07.462
<v Speaker 3>Old girls, as someone who was once a very awkward

0:26:07.502 --> 0:26:11.742
<v Speaker 3>twelve year old girl knows, is that some still look

0:26:11.861 --> 0:26:15.022
<v Speaker 3>like kids, and others have begun to change. And you

0:26:15.141 --> 0:26:18.901
<v Speaker 3>have no control over that west And I hate to

0:26:19.141 --> 0:26:23.341
<v Speaker 3>even say this, but unfortunately it's important context. She falls

0:26:23.341 --> 0:26:26.421
<v Speaker 3>into the latter category, so she might look different in

0:26:26.462 --> 0:26:28.861
<v Speaker 3>a corset to how another twelve year old may look

0:26:29.022 --> 0:26:33.102
<v Speaker 3>in a corset. Comments started flooding in about how inappropriate

0:26:33.182 --> 0:26:37.021
<v Speaker 3>North's outfit was, reminding Kim that her daughter was only twelve,

0:26:37.061 --> 0:26:40.381
<v Speaker 3>which I'm sure she'd forgotten. One comment read not a

0:26:40.422 --> 0:26:42.542
<v Speaker 3>fan of a busty air on a twelve year old.

0:26:42.702 --> 0:26:46.621
<v Speaker 3>Another said it's Kim's job to preserve her daughter's innocence,

0:26:47.022 --> 0:26:50.662
<v Speaker 3>and another said why does North look thirty two? Then

0:26:50.702 --> 0:26:53.222
<v Speaker 3>there were others who argued it's literally not up to

0:26:53.302 --> 0:26:56.341
<v Speaker 3>Kim to shield her children from weirdos. It's up to

0:26:56.381 --> 0:26:59.821
<v Speaker 3>the general public to not be weird. Look, there are

0:26:59.821 --> 0:27:01.581
<v Speaker 3>a lot of places to go with this story, but

0:27:01.621 --> 0:27:05.222
<v Speaker 3>I'll tell you why these pictures captured my attention. Yesterday,

0:27:06.061 --> 0:27:08.501
<v Speaker 3>I was a young teen with boobs that I did

0:27:08.581 --> 0:27:11.382
<v Speaker 3>not want. I didn't know how to dress. I knew

0:27:11.502 --> 0:27:14.821
<v Speaker 3>that me wearing a white singlet wasn't read the same

0:27:15.022 --> 0:27:17.622
<v Speaker 3>as the girl next to me wearing a white singlet,

0:27:17.782 --> 0:27:18.422
<v Speaker 3>or the way.

0:27:18.262 --> 0:27:20.782
<v Speaker 2>That it was read last year. When you're wearing a.

0:27:20.742 --> 0:27:21.942
<v Speaker 4>White singlet exactly.

0:27:22.061 --> 0:27:25.141
<v Speaker 3>And I can see now in hindsight how much my

0:27:25.302 --> 0:27:28.861
<v Speaker 3>mum must have struggled to not say anything. And I

0:27:28.901 --> 0:27:31.822
<v Speaker 3>remember fighting with her to buy a stunning brown singlet.

0:27:31.861 --> 0:27:33.941
<v Speaker 3>It was a crop top with white riding across the

0:27:34.022 --> 0:27:36.941
<v Speaker 3>chest that said naughty gal was from soup Prey. And

0:27:37.022 --> 0:27:39.821
<v Speaker 3>I suppose my question here is what is the role

0:27:39.982 --> 0:27:42.542
<v Speaker 3>of parents? And let's be real, it is always considered

0:27:42.581 --> 0:27:46.381
<v Speaker 3>the domain of mothers to police their daughter's bodies.

0:27:46.782 --> 0:27:47.861
<v Speaker 4>Holly, I'm going.

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<v Speaker 2>To try really hard not to get all high pitched

0:27:50.022 --> 0:27:53.461
<v Speaker 2>and screechy about this, because it is an absolute puffer

0:27:53.502 --> 0:27:58.262
<v Speaker 2>fish for me. I have had so many arguments about

0:27:58.262 --> 0:28:01.502
<v Speaker 2>this in general with people in my life. I wrote

0:28:01.502 --> 0:28:05.221
<v Speaker 2>a frickin' book about it. Largely, there is nothing that

0:28:05.262 --> 0:28:09.502
<v Speaker 2>irritates me more than people screaming stop sexualizing young girl

0:28:09.742 --> 0:28:13.381
<v Speaker 2>while they are sexualizing the young girls themselves by deciding

0:28:13.381 --> 0:28:15.302
<v Speaker 2>that once their body has changed, it is no longer

0:28:15.341 --> 0:28:19.061
<v Speaker 2>appropriate for them to wear certain things. Right. It is

0:28:19.462 --> 0:28:23.422
<v Speaker 2>so confusing for young kids, as you have already expressed, Jesse,

0:28:23.661 --> 0:28:27.581
<v Speaker 2>that there's this weird liminal time where you know, last

0:28:27.581 --> 0:28:29.462
<v Speaker 2>summer it was fine for you to run around in

0:28:29.502 --> 0:28:32.262
<v Speaker 2>a bikini and no one was bothered. And this summer

0:28:32.302 --> 0:28:35.061
<v Speaker 2>everybody's like, oh, could you cover up? And you can

0:28:35.101 --> 0:28:38.222
<v Speaker 2>read it like kids are not stupid, They're incredibly sensitive

0:28:38.262 --> 0:28:40.421
<v Speaker 2>to shame in particular, and they can pick it up

0:28:40.462 --> 0:28:43.142
<v Speaker 2>all around them that suddenly something that has happened to

0:28:43.182 --> 0:28:45.022
<v Speaker 2>them that has nothing to do with them. It wasn't

0:28:45.062 --> 0:28:48.342
<v Speaker 2>in their control, it wasn't their choice has changed everything,

0:28:48.702 --> 0:28:53.142
<v Speaker 2>and suddenly their body in clothes, in a bikini, in jeans,

0:28:53.182 --> 0:28:55.062
<v Speaker 2>in a crop top in of course, it is a

0:28:55.342 --> 0:28:59.902
<v Speaker 2>dangerous thing that needs to now be treated very differently,

0:29:00.822 --> 0:29:05.221
<v Speaker 2>And I just find it so infuriating that women in

0:29:05.262 --> 0:29:09.542
<v Speaker 2>particular buy into this and pile onto moments like this Northwest. Obviously,

0:29:09.661 --> 0:29:12.102
<v Speaker 2>she's not an ordinary twelve year old. Of course she's not.

0:29:12.582 --> 0:29:14.862
<v Speaker 2>But I've lived through this, right, and I have a

0:29:14.902 --> 0:29:16.741
<v Speaker 2>fifteen year old daughter, and I'm around a lot of

0:29:16.822 --> 0:29:20.662
<v Speaker 2>girls of those ages. Walk into a Brandy Melville, walk

0:29:20.742 --> 0:29:23.542
<v Speaker 2>into a soup prey, walk into any shop, and you

0:29:23.582 --> 0:29:26.822
<v Speaker 2>will see young girls who are ordinary in terms of

0:29:26.902 --> 0:29:30.221
<v Speaker 2>you know, their background whatever, who want to dress this

0:29:30.302 --> 0:29:34.022
<v Speaker 2>way corsets, crop tops, tight little shirts with big, baggy

0:29:34.102 --> 0:29:36.421
<v Speaker 2>jeans or little raw raskirts are what a lot of

0:29:36.462 --> 0:29:39.582
<v Speaker 2>girls this age want to wear. The only difference with

0:29:39.661 --> 0:29:42.742
<v Speaker 2>what Northwest is doing is that hers have designer labels

0:29:42.742 --> 0:29:45.302
<v Speaker 2>on them, and hers get photographed by the entire world

0:29:45.342 --> 0:29:47.302
<v Speaker 2>and sent around for everybody to pick up and judge.

0:29:47.342 --> 0:29:49.382
<v Speaker 5>That is not the only difference between.

0:29:49.102 --> 0:29:51.342
<v Speaker 2>Them in this instance.

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<v Speaker 1>It is is Kim Kardashian. We cannot discuss this in isolation.

0:29:56.542 --> 0:29:59.181
<v Speaker 1>Kim Kardashian. Now, I'm not making any kind of comment

0:29:59.262 --> 0:30:01.982
<v Speaker 1>on her as a mother. She's going through a lot

0:30:02.022 --> 0:30:05.262
<v Speaker 1>with a very very difficult ex husband who is also

0:30:05.422 --> 0:30:07.982
<v Speaker 1>dealing with mental health challenges. So I'm setting that aside

0:30:08.422 --> 0:30:11.382
<v Speaker 1>and saying that Kim Ashing from a very early age,

0:30:11.742 --> 0:30:15.622
<v Speaker 1>was sexualized by her own mother, and you're acting like

0:30:15.702 --> 0:30:16.742
<v Speaker 1>that's not common.

0:30:16.542 --> 0:30:18.942
<v Speaker 2>Because I don't believe in it. Because I really don't

0:30:18.942 --> 0:30:21.582
<v Speaker 2>believe that Northwest is being sexualized. That is my thing

0:30:21.742 --> 0:30:24.022
<v Speaker 2>is that I think that it's And I don't want

0:30:24.022 --> 0:30:26.342
<v Speaker 2>to get personal, either about myself or anybody else in this,

0:30:26.502 --> 0:30:30.701
<v Speaker 2>but it's very easy in all areas of parenting before

0:30:30.742 --> 0:30:33.622
<v Speaker 2>you've got there to go like I would never I

0:30:33.742 --> 0:30:35.142
<v Speaker 2>have never let my daughter.

0:30:35.822 --> 0:30:39.222
<v Speaker 1>My favorite pastime is talking about parenting stages I'm yet

0:30:39.222 --> 0:30:41.622
<v Speaker 1>to reach, and the various rules that I will impose

0:30:41.661 --> 0:30:43.862
<v Speaker 1>at that stage, Just like when I was pregnant, I

0:30:43.862 --> 0:30:45.622
<v Speaker 1>said I would never use screens screen.

0:30:46.661 --> 0:30:49.382
<v Speaker 2>Have you met a tween? Have you met a particularly

0:30:49.422 --> 0:30:52.662
<v Speaker 2>precocious tween? Have you tried to make them do things

0:30:52.742 --> 0:30:54.622
<v Speaker 2>they don't want to do? Things they don't want to?

0:30:54.942 --> 0:30:57.822
<v Speaker 1>Say that what I'm doing is parent shaming. I'm saying

0:30:57.822 --> 0:31:01.181
<v Speaker 1>that there is context here that her mother's rise to

0:31:01.262 --> 0:31:04.181
<v Speaker 1>fame came from. And I'm not going to sugarcoat this

0:31:04.342 --> 0:31:07.782
<v Speaker 1>a sex tape that some people believe that is credibly

0:31:07.822 --> 0:31:09.862
<v Speaker 1>believed her mother had a hand in release.

0:31:09.942 --> 0:31:12.782
<v Speaker 3>Well, it's kind of an empire built on sexualization, isn't it.

0:31:12.822 --> 0:31:13.422
<v Speaker 4>Is that your point?

0:31:13.422 --> 0:31:14.582
<v Speaker 6>I think so.

0:31:14.702 --> 0:31:18.782
<v Speaker 2>You genuinely think that the reason Northwest is wearing that course,

0:31:18.822 --> 0:31:20.302
<v Speaker 2>it has nothing to do with what twelve year old

0:31:20.342 --> 0:31:23.262
<v Speaker 2>girls are wearing in the suburbs of Sydney. Everything to

0:31:23.302 --> 0:31:23.542
<v Speaker 2>do with.

0:31:24.342 --> 0:31:27.062
<v Speaker 1>This podcast about the fact that two things can be true.

0:31:28.782 --> 0:31:31.062
<v Speaker 2>I reject it. I thoroughly reject.

0:31:31.062 --> 0:31:33.422
<v Speaker 3>Okay, okay, I reckon that there are two things going

0:31:33.462 --> 0:31:35.261
<v Speaker 3>on right because, on the one hand, I think we

0:31:35.302 --> 0:31:40.382
<v Speaker 3>are in a moment of cultural reckoning of giving children

0:31:40.742 --> 0:31:45.102
<v Speaker 3>any sort of public platform, and North challenges that. For

0:31:45.342 --> 0:31:47.622
<v Speaker 3>a lot of people, North, as a twelve year old,

0:31:47.782 --> 0:31:50.862
<v Speaker 3>is all over TikTok. North has been put on a

0:31:51.102 --> 0:31:53.942
<v Speaker 3>song by her father, who in March, by the way,

0:31:54.102 --> 0:31:56.342
<v Speaker 3>came out and basically went, I'm so uncomfortable that my

0:31:56.462 --> 0:31:59.262
<v Speaker 3>daughters are wearing perfume and the clothes that they're wearing,

0:31:59.302 --> 0:32:02.461
<v Speaker 3>and they're wearing lipstick and blah blah blah. My puffer

0:32:02.542 --> 0:32:05.822
<v Speaker 3>fish is men who are not involved in parenting sitting

0:32:05.822 --> 0:32:07.382
<v Speaker 3>on the sidelines criticizing the mother.

0:32:07.622 --> 0:32:08.782
<v Speaker 4>That's my puffer fish.

0:32:09.022 --> 0:32:12.542
<v Speaker 3>But my point about that is that I think that

0:32:12.582 --> 0:32:17.982
<v Speaker 3>there is a growing discomfort about having young kids in

0:32:18.022 --> 0:32:23.102
<v Speaker 3>the spotlight. And Kanye just recently put Northwest on a

0:32:23.302 --> 0:32:29.382
<v Speaker 3>song with convicted sex felon PDDY exactly right. So there's

0:32:29.382 --> 0:32:32.062
<v Speaker 3>a big discussion that I think it's probably playing into

0:32:32.142 --> 0:32:35.421
<v Speaker 3>that a little bit, which is who is protecting Northwest?

0:32:35.742 --> 0:32:37.181
<v Speaker 2>But this is the thing is, I don't think that

0:32:37.222 --> 0:32:39.421
<v Speaker 2>is what anyone in the comments section is worried about,

0:32:39.462 --> 0:32:42.142
<v Speaker 2>because I think that what you think of Kim and

0:32:42.222 --> 0:32:45.742
<v Speaker 2>Kanye's parenting choices is one thing, right, And I entirely

0:32:45.742 --> 0:32:47.662
<v Speaker 2>agree with you about whether or not it's in any

0:32:47.661 --> 0:32:49.302
<v Speaker 2>way healthy for a twelve year old to have the

0:32:49.382 --> 0:32:53.342
<v Speaker 2>kind of plantchion platform that Northwest does. We are talking

0:32:53.382 --> 0:32:56.461
<v Speaker 2>specifically here about clothes, and the reason that it is

0:32:56.462 --> 0:33:00.382
<v Speaker 2>a pufferfish and a trigger is because that is something

0:33:00.462 --> 0:33:03.222
<v Speaker 2>we all relate to. Is I know you're not there yet,

0:33:03.262 --> 0:33:06.421
<v Speaker 2>but this is something that will suddenly happen where your daughter,

0:33:06.822 --> 0:33:09.221
<v Speaker 2>as I say, is wearing something that was fine for

0:33:09.222 --> 0:33:11.542
<v Speaker 2>her to six months ago, but suddenly they're like, how

0:33:11.582 --> 0:33:13.461
<v Speaker 2>could you let your daughter wear that? Okay, and so

0:33:13.502 --> 0:33:15.062
<v Speaker 2>what's the conversation you're going to hide?

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<v Speaker 1>I have an example. I don't want to make this

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<v Speaker 1>about our parenting choices, so I'm going to try and

0:33:19.702 --> 0:33:22.142
<v Speaker 1>step back and talk in more general terms about how

0:33:22.142 --> 0:33:24.902
<v Speaker 1>I felt recently when I saw a picture that made

0:33:24.902 --> 0:33:28.421
<v Speaker 1>me uncomfortable. I love the Dallas Cowboys cheerleaders, and I

0:33:28.462 --> 0:33:31.462
<v Speaker 1>love the Netflix documentary about them, which just finished its

0:33:31.462 --> 0:33:34.102
<v Speaker 1>second season. Highly recommend if you have not watched it,

0:33:34.702 --> 0:33:37.421
<v Speaker 1>because I'm now a super fan. I follow everything they do.

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<v Speaker 1>They had a summer camp and they invited six year

0:33:40.222 --> 0:33:42.662
<v Speaker 1>olds to come along and learn how to cheerlead with them,

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<v Speaker 1>which is great because it is an athletic endeavor that

0:33:45.502 --> 0:33:48.142
<v Speaker 1>involves a lot of artistry. And I applaud that there

0:33:48.142 --> 0:33:51.622
<v Speaker 1>were six year olds on the field wearing modified Dallas

0:33:51.661 --> 0:33:55.622
<v Speaker 1>Cowboys cheerleaders outfits. And they were modified in the sense

0:33:55.661 --> 0:33:57.742
<v Speaker 1>that the chierleaders were very I think it's safe to

0:33:57.742 --> 0:34:01.022
<v Speaker 1>say skimpy outfits. They have little extreme crop tops with

0:34:01.102 --> 0:34:04.422
<v Speaker 1>a bow over the cleavage, and these six year olds

0:34:04.462 --> 0:34:07.622
<v Speaker 1>were wearing T shirts printed with that bow and the

0:34:07.661 --> 0:34:10.261
<v Speaker 1>little bedazzled jacket that they wear on top of it.

0:34:10.742 --> 0:34:13.261
<v Speaker 1>And I'd be lying if I said I wasn't made

0:34:13.342 --> 0:34:15.582
<v Speaker 1>uncomfortable by that. Now, does that mean that I am

0:34:15.661 --> 0:34:19.022
<v Speaker 1>sexualizing the six year olds? Maybe? Maybe it's my problem,

0:34:19.062 --> 0:34:20.542
<v Speaker 1>but I felt uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 2>I think there is a world of difference between a commercialized,

0:34:24.342 --> 0:34:27.022
<v Speaker 2>systematic kind of this is what the young girls who

0:34:27.102 --> 0:34:28.542
<v Speaker 2>dance have to look like. It's one of the reasons

0:34:28.582 --> 0:34:31.261
<v Speaker 2>why I genuinely was uncomfortable about my daughter and never

0:34:31.342 --> 0:34:33.982
<v Speaker 2>doing dancing is because there's no choice there. It's like

0:34:34.062 --> 0:34:37.022
<v Speaker 2>from six Lipstick Hair Foundation.

0:34:37.221 --> 0:34:40.741
<v Speaker 1>You just described it as a commercialized, systematic operation that is.

0:34:40.701 --> 0:34:45.142
<v Speaker 2>The Kardashian no. But what they have always buughted the boundaries,

0:34:45.142 --> 0:34:46.862
<v Speaker 2>because I agree with you about that those pictures of

0:34:46.942 --> 0:34:50.301
<v Speaker 2>Dallas cowboy cheerleader's made me really uncomfortable, right, But my

0:34:50.582 --> 0:34:53.341
<v Speaker 2>argument about why Northwest is being shamed for wearing a

0:34:53.382 --> 0:34:56.142
<v Speaker 2>corset is to me a completely separated well.

0:34:56.142 --> 0:34:58.422
<v Speaker 3>The irony of the corset, and in fact the irony

0:34:58.462 --> 0:35:00.901
<v Speaker 3>of the six year olds with the cheerleading as well,

0:35:01.302 --> 0:35:04.382
<v Speaker 3>is that they're just imitating what the older women in

0:35:04.422 --> 0:35:05.661
<v Speaker 3>their lives are doing. So if you look at the

0:35:05.661 --> 0:35:08.701
<v Speaker 3>picture of Kim and north not is just dress like Kim,

0:35:08.942 --> 0:35:10.902
<v Speaker 3>And it's like, how do you explain to a twelve

0:35:10.982 --> 0:35:14.542
<v Speaker 3>year old that their body is more sexualized than the

0:35:14.542 --> 0:35:16.462
<v Speaker 3>body of an adult woman, that you will never be

0:35:16.502 --> 0:35:19.781
<v Speaker 3>as sexualized as the moment you have curves.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to bring to you both something that

0:35:22.661 --> 0:35:26.661
<v Speaker 1>I've been thinking about a lot lately about clothing. I

0:35:26.741 --> 0:35:29.622
<v Speaker 1>love buying second hand clothes, and I especially love calling

0:35:29.622 --> 0:35:32.381
<v Speaker 1>them vintage because it makes it some more fancy. In fact,

0:35:32.422 --> 0:35:34.422
<v Speaker 1>I'm wearing a great top I got at Finney's today,

0:35:34.542 --> 0:35:36.662
<v Speaker 1>and you told me that you got yours.

0:35:36.542 --> 0:35:38.301
<v Speaker 3>At I think it was deep hop or it could

0:35:38.342 --> 0:35:39.942
<v Speaker 3>have been like a Red Cross store.

0:35:40.062 --> 0:35:42.542
<v Speaker 1>I'm wondering why you look like Sienna Miller.

0:35:42.701 --> 0:35:43.181
<v Speaker 5>I love it.

0:35:43.822 --> 0:35:45.701
<v Speaker 1>But the one thing that really trips me up in

0:35:45.781 --> 0:35:48.341
<v Speaker 1>buying secondhand and even an extending the life span of

0:35:48.342 --> 0:35:50.822
<v Speaker 1>my existing clothes is stains. Because you get a stain

0:35:50.902 --> 0:35:52.861
<v Speaker 1>and then you think I don't really want to wear

0:35:52.862 --> 0:35:54.781
<v Speaker 1>that anymore, You get self conscious, you think I've got

0:35:54.822 --> 0:35:56.341
<v Speaker 1>to take it to the dry cleaner. It goes in

0:35:56.342 --> 0:35:57.942
<v Speaker 1>a pile of clothes for the dry cleaner, which of

0:35:57.982 --> 0:36:00.462
<v Speaker 1>course never actually leaves your sofa or the chair in

0:36:00.462 --> 0:36:02.902
<v Speaker 1>your bedroom that you have designated for the dry cleaner.

0:36:03.582 --> 0:36:06.022
<v Speaker 1>So there's this real stigma around clothing stage. I think

0:36:06.062 --> 0:36:09.102
<v Speaker 1>that's safe to say. And there's a substacker called Isabelle

0:36:09.181 --> 0:36:11.741
<v Speaker 1>Slow who wrote recently that we all just need to

0:36:11.781 --> 0:36:13.462
<v Speaker 1>get over the stain problem.

0:36:13.542 --> 0:36:14.301
<v Speaker 3>Couldn't agree there.

0:36:14.462 --> 0:36:16.422
<v Speaker 1>She wrote a piece called on Loving My Clothes with

0:36:16.462 --> 0:36:19.341
<v Speaker 1>stains and Holes, and she talks about trying to actively

0:36:19.701 --> 0:36:23.262
<v Speaker 1>shift her mindset when it comes to imperfections in her clothing.

0:36:23.781 --> 0:36:26.062
<v Speaker 1>She says, a stain can end the life cycle of

0:36:26.102 --> 0:36:28.421
<v Speaker 1>a clothing item just too early, like you might still

0:36:28.462 --> 0:36:29.821
<v Speaker 1>love it. I think about the fact that I used

0:36:29.822 --> 0:36:32.301
<v Speaker 1>to love wearing silk shirts to work, and then I

0:36:32.342 --> 0:36:36.381
<v Speaker 1>realized that they all had awful yellow stains underneath them,

0:36:36.382 --> 0:36:37.862
<v Speaker 1>and then I just never wore them again.

0:36:38.102 --> 0:36:40.542
<v Speaker 3>I struggle with silk and sweating. I find that my

0:36:40.661 --> 0:36:42.702
<v Speaker 3>sweat I'm like, is my sweat different? Because I feel

0:36:42.701 --> 0:36:45.062
<v Speaker 3>like I ruin every the issues. I don't know how

0:36:45.062 --> 0:36:47.341
<v Speaker 3>to wash silk, which is a whole other thing no

0:36:47.342 --> 0:36:47.701
<v Speaker 3>one does.

0:36:47.741 --> 0:36:52.261
<v Speaker 1>And you mentioned gently agitate, but who is very complex?

0:36:52.342 --> 0:36:54.582
<v Speaker 1>And think about all those little silk worms who work

0:36:54.701 --> 0:36:57.301
<v Speaker 1>so hard for these things, and then we're just discarding them.

0:36:57.382 --> 0:37:00.662
<v Speaker 1>So here's a proposal. What if we decide that stain's

0:37:00.701 --> 0:37:02.781
<v Speaker 1>a character, that they're kind of cool, and look, we

0:37:02.862 --> 0:37:05.181
<v Speaker 1>do this with other items. Think about the Burken bag,

0:37:05.261 --> 0:37:07.982
<v Speaker 1>the famous Umez Birken bag. They retail for tens of

0:37:08.022 --> 0:37:11.701
<v Speaker 1>thousands of dollars. It's named after this French style icon

0:37:11.822 --> 0:37:14.462
<v Speaker 1>named Jane Burkin. And the whole point of how she

0:37:14.542 --> 0:37:17.341
<v Speaker 1>used her bags is that she scuffed them, She wore

0:37:17.382 --> 0:37:19.701
<v Speaker 1>them to the ground, she puts stickers on them, she

0:37:19.741 --> 0:37:23.941
<v Speaker 1>stuffed bagets in them. And Kate Moss, who's another style icon,

0:37:24.462 --> 0:37:26.902
<v Speaker 1>was just recently seen on the beach with her burken

0:37:27.102 --> 0:37:29.142
<v Speaker 1>She took an eighteen thousand dollars bag to the beach

0:37:29.181 --> 0:37:30.422
<v Speaker 1>and put her beach towel in it.

0:37:30.661 --> 0:37:33.022
<v Speaker 2>So that's a status symbol though, right though, that's kind

0:37:33.062 --> 0:37:35.542
<v Speaker 2>of like saying, I know this bag is really expensive,

0:37:35.542 --> 0:37:37.701
<v Speaker 2>but to me, it's just like the green bag, you

0:37:37.701 --> 0:37:38.781
<v Speaker 2>know from the supermarket.

0:37:38.862 --> 0:37:41.301
<v Speaker 1>All you could say it's very sustainable of them. So

0:37:41.462 --> 0:37:44.022
<v Speaker 1>I want to say, let's stop being precious about the stains.

0:37:44.062 --> 0:37:46.221
<v Speaker 1>Let's stop do we judge people who have stains. No,

0:37:46.462 --> 0:37:48.702
<v Speaker 1>so let's accept that we can just wear the stains

0:37:48.741 --> 0:37:50.542
<v Speaker 1>and they're a sign of character and they're a sign

0:37:50.582 --> 0:37:51.022
<v Speaker 1>of age.

0:37:51.261 --> 0:37:54.502
<v Speaker 3>I think antique furniture like that has little stains on it,

0:37:54.542 --> 0:37:58.142
<v Speaker 3>and that's absolutely fine. I wear stains all the time

0:37:58.181 --> 0:38:01.142
<v Speaker 3>because my theory is no one's looking at you, no

0:38:01.221 --> 0:38:05.942
<v Speaker 3>one notices the things that you notice. They don't. And interestingly,

0:38:06.462 --> 0:38:07.981
<v Speaker 3>I went really deep on what you can and can't

0:38:07.982 --> 0:38:10.221
<v Speaker 3>donate recently. You can't donate a piece of clothing with

0:38:10.261 --> 0:38:12.622
<v Speaker 3>a stain on it, which is why so much of

0:38:12.661 --> 0:38:15.622
<v Speaker 3>it ends up in landfill and really good quality stuff,

0:38:15.982 --> 0:38:19.261
<v Speaker 3>which again they think is related to people don't know

0:38:19.302 --> 0:38:21.422
<v Speaker 3>how to wash their clothes anymore, like the skills of

0:38:21.462 --> 0:38:24.181
<v Speaker 3>our grandmothers, who could get a stain out of anything,

0:38:24.902 --> 0:38:28.701
<v Speaker 3>which you know was always baking, so like Vegga, I

0:38:28.741 --> 0:38:30.781
<v Speaker 3>don't know, they would do something and get the stain out.

0:38:32.022 --> 0:38:34.462
<v Speaker 2>A lot of influencers who are obsessed with that stuff.

0:38:34.542 --> 0:38:36.742
<v Speaker 3>I think we need to go back to like learning

0:38:36.741 --> 0:38:39.382
<v Speaker 3>how to wash our clothes, but also rock the stain.

0:38:39.661 --> 0:38:41.901
<v Speaker 3>Mayor Friedman would say, put a brooch over it.

0:38:42.022 --> 0:38:45.701
<v Speaker 2>I want to know how many years is acceptable to

0:38:45.701 --> 0:38:47.661
<v Speaker 2>have a piece of clothing or something like that. I

0:38:47.902 --> 0:38:49.781
<v Speaker 2>put a thing in the Outlouders Facebook group on the

0:38:49.781 --> 0:38:52.701
<v Speaker 2>weekend about towels on a similar vein right. I wrote

0:38:52.781 --> 0:38:54.902
<v Speaker 2>that because I wanted some tips and I knew the

0:38:54.902 --> 0:38:56.781
<v Speaker 2>outluders would help me out about where to buy a

0:38:56.862 --> 0:38:59.661
<v Speaker 2>job lot of new towels, because I suddenly looked at

0:38:59.701 --> 0:39:01.422
<v Speaker 2>the towels in my bathroom and realized that they were

0:39:01.422 --> 0:39:03.102
<v Speaker 2>all quite rady, and that some of them, quite a

0:39:03.142 --> 0:39:05.622
<v Speaker 2>lot of them were older than my children. And that's

0:39:05.661 --> 0:39:08.422
<v Speaker 2>all right, well this is the thing. But they were tatty, okay,

0:39:08.462 --> 0:39:10.342
<v Speaker 2>and some of them, you know, they the thing anyway,

0:39:10.422 --> 0:39:12.462
<v Speaker 2>So the Outlouders were full of really great ideas. They

0:39:12.462 --> 0:39:13.902
<v Speaker 2>were like, go and buy them from game. Aren't they

0:39:13.942 --> 0:39:16.662
<v Speaker 2>really good? And fluffy blah blah blah blah. But several

0:39:16.661 --> 0:39:20.702
<v Speaker 2>of them said, let's normalize having tails older than our children.

0:39:20.942 --> 0:39:23.142
<v Speaker 3>And I feel the same about tea taels. I have

0:39:23.261 --> 0:39:25.342
<v Speaker 3>had tea tails for a very long time with holes

0:39:25.342 --> 0:39:27.022
<v Speaker 3>in them and burns on them, and I'm like it

0:39:27.221 --> 0:39:30.902
<v Speaker 3>just it shows all the years I've been slogging away cooking,

0:39:30.942 --> 0:39:32.102
<v Speaker 3>which is not what's happened.

0:39:32.221 --> 0:39:33.262
<v Speaker 4>That's character.

0:39:33.382 --> 0:39:36.022
<v Speaker 2>I love it. And coffee steams. That is all we

0:39:36.102 --> 0:39:38.741
<v Speaker 2>have time for today. Out Loud is what a big day.

0:39:38.822 --> 0:39:41.102
<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for listening to our show, and

0:39:41.142 --> 0:39:43.742
<v Speaker 2>thank you to our wonderful team for putting it together.

0:39:43.862 --> 0:39:46.342
<v Speaker 2>We're going to be back in your ears tomorrow.

0:39:45.982 --> 0:39:48.102
<v Speaker 3>And out Loud as we may have teased it, but

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<v Speaker 3>tomorrow we are going to drop a very special subscriber

0:39:52.661 --> 0:39:55.381
<v Speaker 3>episode all about Taylor's engagement. There was so much more

0:39:55.382 --> 0:39:58.302
<v Speaker 3>that we wanted to say. Maya is our very special guest.

0:39:58.582 --> 0:40:01.542
<v Speaker 3>She's wearing ridiculous out hit and if you're not a

0:40:01.582 --> 0:40:04.102
<v Speaker 3>swifty feeling a bit left out, then may I suggest

0:40:04.382 --> 0:40:07.741
<v Speaker 3>you go back. You listen to yesterday's subscriber episode where

0:40:07.822 --> 0:40:10.901
<v Speaker 3>I made an apology because it turns out that I'm

0:40:10.902 --> 0:40:12.622
<v Speaker 3>wrong all the time, and I said something on this

0:40:12.701 --> 0:40:16.262
<v Speaker 3>show that I swiftly regretted thanks to an out louder

0:40:16.302 --> 0:40:18.661
<v Speaker 3>who called me out. She's now come back and said,

0:40:18.661 --> 0:40:21.861
<v Speaker 3>thank you Jesse for your lovely apology, and I she's

0:40:21.862 --> 0:40:22.542
<v Speaker 3>my new best friend.

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<v Speaker 5>We're always learning.

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<v Speaker 3>We are always learning. A link to that is in

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<v Speaker 3>our show notes.

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