WEBVTT - The Embarrassing Reason I'm In Therapy Now 0:00:08.234 --> 0:00:10.953 You're listening to I'm am a MIA podcast. 0:00:19.634 --> 0:00:23.314 Hello and welcome to Unleashed, the podcast for gen X 0:00:23.354 --> 0:00:27.154 women who need a laugh. If you remember waiting for 0:00:27.194 --> 0:00:30.514 a specific day of the week to watch the next 0:00:30.554 --> 0:00:33.554 episode of the show that you loved, then you found 0:00:33.594 --> 0:00:37.114 your people. Okay, who is on the sofa this week? 0:00:37.394 --> 0:00:41.034 Grace bam bam lamb fashion stylers, Welcome to Unleashed. 0:00:41.193 --> 0:00:43.873 Hi. I'm Sally Hitworth and i am an author. 0:00:43.754 --> 0:00:46.833 I'm Jinny Mersberg, I'm a GP and I'm Kath Mahony, 0:00:46.913 --> 0:00:47.674 a comedian. 0:00:48.114 --> 0:00:52.553 So wherever you're listening, unclench you your clench your pelvic 0:00:52.593 --> 0:00:58.754 floor and get ready to unleash who. Okay, who is busting? 0:00:58.874 --> 0:01:00.914 Busting busting to start us off? 0:01:01.074 --> 0:01:03.434 That's me? Okay, I have news. 0:01:03.154 --> 0:01:04.874 All right, Sally Hapwors. What have you got? 0:01:05.034 --> 0:01:09.474 I presented to manage and our idea to have a 0:01:09.874 --> 0:01:16.274 spring fling? Well, just calm down, yes, okay, if you 0:01:16.274 --> 0:01:19.474 were just catching up on this at home, unleashes Cath, 0:01:19.914 --> 0:01:23.634 our darling. Cath has never been to a form and 0:01:24.994 --> 0:01:27.554 we think that's unacceptable. Yes, and so we've decided to 0:01:27.634 --> 0:01:30.634 throw her one called the spring Fling. Now we decided 0:01:30.674 --> 0:01:35.034 that without checking with management, and so we found ourselves 0:01:35.074 --> 0:01:37.314 in a position. Well, I found myself in a position 0:01:37.594 --> 0:01:38.874 that I was going to have to do that. 0:01:38.994 --> 0:01:39.274 Now. 0:01:40.034 --> 0:01:42.794 I have never worked in an office, that's true. I've 0:01:42.834 --> 0:01:46.434 never presented anything at a boardroom before. Okay, but I 0:01:46.474 --> 0:01:51.474 have been on the view and I've told a lot 0:01:51.514 --> 0:01:53.994 of stories to people. So I thought, you know what, 0:01:54.074 --> 0:01:58.434 I've got this nailed. So I made my PowerPoint. Oh 0:01:58.474 --> 0:01:59.394 it was two slides. 0:01:59.634 --> 0:01:59.954 Yes. 0:02:00.794 --> 0:02:04.994 More importantly, I decided to go in costume, Yes, addressed 0:02:04.994 --> 0:02:09.394 as Madonna. Yes, in desperate seeking Susan. I did a 0:02:09.394 --> 0:02:13.394 power pot. I walked in. I had my two cheerleaders 0:02:13.434 --> 0:02:18.074 here beside me, Calf and Grace, and you guys stood 0:02:18.074 --> 0:02:20.834 outside when I went into the lions Den. And here 0:02:21.154 --> 0:02:24.714 is how it went. I am about to walk in 0:02:24.754 --> 0:02:29.394 to a very intense office space, a boardroom full of 0:02:29.514 --> 0:02:32.514 swinging chairs. Okay, I am an author. I don't know 0:02:32.594 --> 0:02:35.394 much about that. So I've worn my best outfit, my 0:02:35.594 --> 0:02:39.353 ra ra skirt, very big eighties hair, lots of pearls, 0:02:39.834 --> 0:02:43.994 and I have prepared by listening to Tony Robbins and 0:02:44.034 --> 0:02:46.994 mel Robins and you know all of the Robins. So 0:02:47.034 --> 0:02:48.754 I am going to go in there and I'm going 0:02:48.834 --> 0:02:52.714 to get a spring fling for my girl CAF. Thank 0:02:52.754 --> 0:02:56.674 you everyone for meeting with me today. I've got something 0:02:56.794 --> 0:03:00.073 very serious to discuss with you about one about unleaded posts. 0:03:00.074 --> 0:03:01.234 I'll cut right to the chase. 0:03:01.554 --> 0:03:04.754 Cat has never been to a formal. 0:03:06.034 --> 0:03:07.314 What's that got to do with that? 0:03:07.394 --> 0:03:11.034 We should throw calf a formal? 0:03:11.714 --> 0:03:14.554 So we don't have time or budget to. 0:03:14.554 --> 0:03:17.674 Be throwing a fIF you're a woman. Just think of 0:03:17.794 --> 0:03:22.394 the frocks, think of the decorations, the sequence, Think of 0:03:22.514 --> 0:03:25.834 the fun. So don't just throw frogs in to get 0:03:25.874 --> 0:03:29.674 mea on board, think spring slem. 0:03:30.114 --> 0:03:33.434 Just don't have the budget for this, Okay. 0:03:33.594 --> 0:03:36.114 Hack has never had a formal. Let's give us something 0:03:36.154 --> 0:03:36.634 fun to do. 0:03:36.714 --> 0:03:38.074 She's saying she's out for it. 0:03:38.154 --> 0:03:41.794 Let's go co. 0:03:43.754 --> 0:03:44.514 So proud. 0:03:44.634 --> 0:03:49.714 Okay, So we haven't got a firm yes at this point? 0:03:49.994 --> 0:03:50.354 Why not? 0:03:50.954 --> 0:03:55.914 The response I found was not underwhelmed exactly. It wasn't overwhelmed. 0:03:56.074 --> 0:04:02.634 I probably put it in the whelmed kind of category. 0:04:03.394 --> 0:04:05.314 I may have got maya across the line when I 0:04:05.314 --> 0:04:11.274 mentioned sequence. Yes, nothing yet has been finalized. So look 0:04:11.794 --> 0:04:12.634 I'm not giving up. 0:04:12.754 --> 0:04:16.394 Yeah, it's not a no, right if it's not a no, yes, yes, 0:04:16.553 --> 0:04:17.594 it's about yes. 0:04:17.674 --> 0:04:20.194 So I've waited for fifty one years for a formal 0:04:20.274 --> 0:04:24.914 I can wait another week. 0:04:25.073 --> 0:04:27.154 I have got my hyper focus on this. 0:04:27.274 --> 0:04:27.474 Yes. 0:04:27.633 --> 0:04:30.834 I can already see the streamers, I can see the balloons, 0:04:30.953 --> 0:04:33.633 I can see the taffeta. This is the only thing 0:04:33.674 --> 0:04:34.154 I care about. 0:04:34.154 --> 0:04:41.513 For kind, I think we need to put some pressure 0:04:41.553 --> 0:04:41.914 on them. 0:04:42.073 --> 0:04:46.674 I think so too, So I would say any Unleashes 0:04:46.753 --> 0:04:49.313 at home who are listening and who loved the idea 0:04:49.553 --> 0:04:51.594 of coming to Kat's spring fling. 0:04:51.993 --> 0:04:56.674 In other words, everyone, everyone follow us on our Instagram 0:04:56.714 --> 0:05:02.113 account at Unleashed Show, and we'll be putting updates in 0:05:02.154 --> 0:05:04.193 there about what is happening. 0:05:04.474 --> 0:05:07.513 Campaign write in the comments tell us that you to go. 0:05:07.914 --> 0:05:08.634 We're going to make this. 0:05:08.553 --> 0:05:10.794 Happen hashtag spring Fling. 0:05:10.753 --> 0:05:10.993 Is a go. 0:05:12.674 --> 0:05:16.033 Okay, So that's not the only excitement that's been happening 0:05:16.073 --> 0:05:18.314 at the moment, Because Ginny, you've had a pretty big 0:05:18.313 --> 0:05:18.954 month as well. 0:05:19.073 --> 0:05:19.474 I have. 0:05:19.633 --> 0:05:21.034 Do you want to tell us about why. 0:05:21.154 --> 0:05:27.793 I actually released a book, the Women's Longevity Handbook, which 0:05:27.914 --> 0:05:31.433 is almost tailor made for the Unleashes, because who is 0:05:31.474 --> 0:05:32.834 not after a bit of longevity? 0:05:32.873 --> 0:05:35.273 Whether you're woo wooing with your. 0:05:35.154 --> 0:05:39.193 Stack like Sally, or you're manifesting a lot of prayers 0:05:39.393 --> 0:05:42.313 or sort of manifesting a whole lot of good vibes 0:05:42.433 --> 0:05:45.354 like Cath or you're like really getting your functui on 0:05:45.633 --> 0:05:48.674 like Grace. There is something for everybody in there. Well 0:05:48.834 --> 0:05:50.633 just hinting here, there's none of that stuff. It's actually 0:05:50.674 --> 0:05:57.073 all just it's all just science. Yeah, it's actually yes, 0:05:57.993 --> 0:06:00.953 there's no manifesting in here, but hopefully there is something 0:06:00.953 --> 0:06:03.433 for everyone. And I love you guys. You guys have 0:06:03.513 --> 0:06:07.394 been so like my sisters. You are so supportive as always. 0:06:07.674 --> 0:06:08.794 This group is so cool. 0:06:08.794 --> 0:06:11.433 And thank you to all the unlaciers as well, because they've. 0:06:11.193 --> 0:06:14.794 Been sending me so many dms. They've been really really supportive, 0:06:14.834 --> 0:06:16.993 and I'm just sending love back out to the Umlasia crew. 0:06:17.274 --> 0:06:19.914 So for people that haven't seen the book out they yet, 0:06:20.193 --> 0:06:22.073 what's in there? What are the juicy bets that we 0:06:22.113 --> 0:06:22.954 need to listen to? 0:06:23.234 --> 0:06:27.474 It is literally everything that midlife women, because this period. 0:06:27.154 --> 0:06:28.714 Is pivotal for the rest of your life. 0:06:28.753 --> 0:06:32.594 So it's about sleep, brain health, heart health, muscle health. 0:06:32.633 --> 0:06:35.193 Do you need to give up your work and actually 0:06:35.274 --> 0:06:37.073 eat your body weight and cottage cheese. 0:06:37.193 --> 0:06:38.673 All the answers are inside here. 0:06:38.953 --> 0:06:42.913 Do you need to worry about rheumatoid arthriters, autoimmune disease, 0:06:42.993 --> 0:06:47.354 everything in your vagina, skin, hair, teasse, everything, It is 0:06:47.393 --> 0:06:48.434 all in there, so. 0:06:48.633 --> 0:06:53.194 Dr Genie in the Batta, Which chapter was the hardest 0:06:53.193 --> 0:06:53.713 to write? 0:06:53.993 --> 0:06:56.953 Actually, weirdly enough, it was the menopause chapter, because I 0:06:57.073 --> 0:06:59.914 feel like I could and wait, I have written a 0:06:59.914 --> 0:07:03.553 whole book about menopause, and trying to condense this thing 0:07:03.953 --> 0:07:06.194 into a small number of words like I was not. 0:07:06.154 --> 0:07:09.113 Allowed to give you a I had to actually really. 0:07:08.873 --> 0:07:11.554 Condense this book, and the hardest thing was cutting it back, 0:07:12.074 --> 0:07:14.954 but actually particularly menopause, like, getting this into a small 0:07:15.034 --> 0:07:16.593 chapter was really really tough. 0:07:16.874 --> 0:07:21.354 Oh, Bet Ginney, this book is about longevity, and we 0:07:21.393 --> 0:07:24.953 are all obsessed with living longer. What's the magic bullet? 0:07:25.194 --> 0:07:25.473 Okay? 0:07:25.554 --> 0:07:28.754 I was really fascinated by this because I spent enough 0:07:28.794 --> 0:07:32.033 time on TikTok and Instagram that I was convinced that 0:07:32.074 --> 0:07:34.074 there was some stack out there that I should definitely 0:07:34.114 --> 0:07:38.634 be on. Same it turns out that sadly, all of 0:07:38.674 --> 0:07:41.874 the Woo Woo staff seems to be just complete garbage, 0:07:42.194 --> 0:07:44.833 and the more research. We do, like, it's really good 0:07:44.834 --> 0:07:47.793 if you do a study of seventeen people for three hours, 0:07:48.194 --> 0:07:49.834 but beyond that, it actually just. 0:07:49.794 --> 0:07:52.393 Falls off a cliff. And what actually really works and 0:07:52.434 --> 0:07:54.634 the evidence just gets stronger is. 0:07:54.514 --> 0:07:59.233 Your diet, your exercise, all of your good clean living. 0:07:59.514 --> 0:08:02.754 We not that clein, but like good living. And I 0:08:02.794 --> 0:08:05.074 just want to just share, like what I've learned on 0:08:05.114 --> 0:08:05.714 this journey. 0:08:05.714 --> 0:08:07.714 It was a really really interesing journey. 0:08:07.714 --> 0:08:10.754 I speket to heaps and heaps of experts that blew 0:08:10.834 --> 0:08:13.754 my mind with stuff like how can you tell whether 0:08:14.194 --> 0:08:16.953 your saw knee should make you stop running or whether 0:08:16.953 --> 0:08:17.393 you should go? 0:08:17.393 --> 0:08:19.394 Oh, this is a good sign my running is actually 0:08:19.434 --> 0:08:19.994 working for me. 0:08:20.634 --> 0:08:24.153 Whether losing weight will actually help hand us writers like 0:08:24.234 --> 0:08:26.674 things like that that were just so fascinating to learn. 0:08:27.114 --> 0:08:29.914 I have shared every tip from every expert in this book. 0:08:30.194 --> 0:08:32.394 Wow, we're going to start running cell. 0:08:46.434 --> 0:08:47.114 So ladies. 0:08:47.394 --> 0:08:50.394 Recently I saw on Instagram a later from Clad school. 0:08:54.114 --> 0:08:58.434 She lives in a building complex. One of her neighbors 0:08:58.514 --> 0:09:02.234 is always noisy every single freaking night, so no one 0:09:02.234 --> 0:09:04.834 can get any sleep. You know what she did? What 0:09:05.314 --> 0:09:08.394 She got a megaphone just before she went to bed 0:09:09.074 --> 0:09:13.994 and blast out Flat eight B. Can you please turn 0:09:14.074 --> 0:09:17.874 your music down? Everyone wants to go to bed, including me. 0:09:18.874 --> 0:09:22.674 So she basically shamed this person and I've done that, 0:09:22.794 --> 0:09:23.194 by the way. 0:09:23.434 --> 0:09:24.594 What Oh yes. 0:09:25.154 --> 0:09:26.794 So one of the places that I lived in in 0:09:26.794 --> 0:09:29.833 Holland Park in London, which is very close to where 0:09:29.874 --> 0:09:31.594 David Beckham is ill. 0:09:31.994 --> 0:09:34.554 It's fancy, it's very right, and you're saying people are 0:09:34.594 --> 0:09:37.434 decent there because it's a nice area. Oh no, not 0:09:37.594 --> 0:09:38.154 my neighbor. 0:09:39.274 --> 0:09:43.634 So my building was very small, short building, like not 0:09:43.674 --> 0:09:45.754 a tall building. It's like three floors. I was in 0:09:45.794 --> 0:09:49.154 the middle. New neighbor came in the top floor, this 0:09:49.314 --> 0:09:51.554 young couple. I mean I was in my twenties. I 0:09:51.634 --> 0:09:56.714 was also young. Every night the minute she moved in, 0:09:57.154 --> 0:09:58.994 every night rave news. I mean, don't get me wrong, 0:09:59.034 --> 0:10:02.154 I'm a raver too, but not every night three am, 0:10:02.274 --> 0:10:05.234 four am, and then she will have sex really loud. 0:10:05.514 --> 0:10:08.714 Oh it was just like so annoying for about a year. 0:10:09.954 --> 0:10:13.074 So you know what I did every night when she's 0:10:13.114 --> 0:10:16.114 that blasting her music, I will get my karaoke mic 0:10:16.154 --> 0:10:19.874 out and I will turn my speaker up upwards to 0:10:19.954 --> 0:10:22.994 the ceiling and I will blast my Chinese music and 0:10:23.274 --> 0:10:26.274 saying that at the same time, have you ever heard 0:10:26.274 --> 0:10:30.194 of Chinese opera? It's really loud and noisy and it's 0:10:30.274 --> 0:10:30.554 a lot. 0:10:30.634 --> 0:10:34.034 Wait, so did you ever before you retaliated, which I 0:10:34.074 --> 0:10:37.274 completely respected, by the way, and wouldn't expect anything less, 0:10:37.314 --> 0:10:41.314 But before you took to the Chinese opera, did you 0:10:41.594 --> 0:10:44.154 contemplate having a conversation? 0:10:44.354 --> 0:10:44.794 I did? 0:10:45.514 --> 0:10:48.394 I mean, I'm contemplated or actually I actually did? I mean, 0:10:48.434 --> 0:10:50.794 before I became unreasonable, I was actually a very. 0:10:50.714 --> 0:10:52.034 Nice person to halized. 0:10:52.154 --> 0:10:52.354 Yeah. 0:10:52.434 --> 0:10:55.794 I went up to her. I gave her some cookies. Wow, 0:10:56.034 --> 0:10:58.634 that's nice iron people believe it or not. So I 0:10:58.674 --> 0:11:00.834 gave her some cookies as oh, you know, I'm your 0:11:00.834 --> 0:11:04.794 neighbor downstairs, nice to meet you. Would you mind turning 0:11:04.794 --> 0:11:07.514 down your music sometimes? You know, I understand, and we 0:11:07.594 --> 0:11:09.953 all have mus and blah blah blah. She's like okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:11:09.954 --> 0:11:13.754 but she was very unfriendly. Oh, very unfriendly. It got 0:11:13.794 --> 0:11:17.514 to the point that it was like war, basically war. 0:11:18.194 --> 0:11:21.994 I went food blown Chinatown, right, and then I had 0:11:21.994 --> 0:11:24.554 to live because it was just not it was just 0:11:24.594 --> 0:11:26.594 not good. Yeah, it was not Goodfore my own to 0:11:26.634 --> 0:11:28.434 health and I just don't want to get worked up 0:11:28.474 --> 0:11:31.874 every single night. Yeah, so my question is, ladies, has 0:11:31.914 --> 0:11:34.634 that ever happened to you or have you had a 0:11:34.674 --> 0:11:37.314 difficult neighbor that you had to deal with and what happened. 0:11:37.514 --> 0:11:40.874 It's a tough one. Apart, I've always loved apartment living. 0:11:41.194 --> 0:11:43.833 When I was single, I lived in apartments and then 0:11:43.874 --> 0:11:46.194 for my first few years of being married, and I 0:11:46.234 --> 0:11:49.594 think I always picture myself in an apartment towards the 0:11:49.674 --> 0:11:51.514 end of my life. I like the security of it, 0:11:51.754 --> 0:11:54.674 I like the low maintenance, all of those things. But 0:11:54.714 --> 0:11:57.954 you do obviously take the risks of the neighbors, which 0:11:57.954 --> 0:12:01.194 are much closer to you than if you have you know, 0:12:01.314 --> 0:12:04.514 the next door, but particularly the banging on the you know, 0:12:04.554 --> 0:12:08.394 the ones above you is always really bad. I am 0:12:08.514 --> 0:12:13.554 not one to retaliate. In fact, at my last house, 0:12:13.594 --> 0:12:16.434 I've just moved house. Thankfully. I lived next door to 0:12:16.514 --> 0:12:22.554 these Brazilian renters who were obscenely good looking, all of them. 0:12:22.794 --> 0:12:26.074 I don't understand that. There seemed to be multiple generations 0:12:26.194 --> 0:12:28.514 who were in the house, and they used to have 0:12:28.594 --> 0:12:32.994 these amazing parties with music. They'd have barbecues, sit all dancing, 0:12:33.314 --> 0:12:34.994 and my kids would love it. They would go and 0:12:35.074 --> 0:12:36.874 jump on the trampoline and they'd wave over the fen 0:12:36.874 --> 0:12:40.074 and they were lovely that they would play the music 0:12:40.434 --> 0:12:45.234 so loud until four five in the morning. And on 0:12:45.394 --> 0:12:46.794 that side of the house. My bedroom was on the 0:12:46.834 --> 0:12:49.034 other side, but on that side of the house where 0:12:49.074 --> 0:12:50.874 my kids slept, it was so loud that they could 0:12:50.994 --> 0:12:53.714 they would all come and jump into my bed so 0:12:53.794 --> 0:12:55.914 that they could get away. And did I live there 0:12:55.954 --> 0:12:58.514 for two and a half years. Did I ever say anything? 0:12:58.714 --> 0:13:01.554 Absolutely not. I just let the kids sleep in my 0:13:01.634 --> 0:13:04.034 bed on that night, and I prayed that someone else 0:13:04.034 --> 0:13:07.234 would call the police. But I've just accepted that I'm 0:13:07.234 --> 0:13:10.394 not a complainer. I really appreciate the complainers because I 0:13:10.394 --> 0:13:13.154 get to enjoy the benefits of having that noise reduction 0:13:13.234 --> 0:13:16.034 when you do complain. So thank you, Grace. But I 0:13:16.074 --> 0:13:18.114 have other qualities, and one of them is not stopping 0:13:18.114 --> 0:13:20.074 the noise. I look around for the adult to go 0:13:20.114 --> 0:13:22.034 and sort that shit out, because I just really wanted 0:13:22.034 --> 0:13:23.354 the Brazilian neighbors to like me. 0:13:23.994 --> 0:13:28.114 Well, I might need grace. In my current abode. I'm 0:13:28.154 --> 0:13:31.434 in a world of pain. Yes, I also think as 0:13:31.434 --> 0:13:33.914 I've become a bit older, and maybe it's perry, but 0:13:34.034 --> 0:13:37.514 I feel like I've got sonar like bats hearing, so 0:13:37.634 --> 0:13:43.114 I will hear noise when yeah, and it's really which 0:13:43.154 --> 0:13:45.314 is a real I don't even think it's a blessing. 0:13:45.354 --> 0:13:48.194 It's just a curse. Shits me now. 0:13:48.834 --> 0:13:50.754 So I've lived in my I'm on the top floor 0:13:50.794 --> 0:13:53.234 of an art deco block. I've lived there for four years. 0:13:53.474 --> 0:13:54.914 There's only fifteen apartments. 0:13:54.994 --> 0:13:56.714 I love it. I did love it. 0:13:57.314 --> 0:14:00.394 I share one common wall, which is my bedroom wall 0:14:00.554 --> 0:14:04.314 and my neighbor's open plan kitchen and lounge. There was 0:14:04.354 --> 0:14:07.994 always an older lady that lived in that apart until 0:14:08.114 --> 0:14:12.833 she moved, and now there's a young couple and it's 0:14:12.954 --> 0:14:13.394 the wall. 0:14:13.674 --> 0:14:14.434 So I've done. 0:14:14.674 --> 0:14:17.514 I've moved my bed head off the shared wall, so 0:14:17.554 --> 0:14:21.754 I've moved my bedroom around. I've bought five different sets 0:14:21.794 --> 0:14:25.354 of ear plugs. It's cost me a fortune. I've bought 0:14:25.354 --> 0:14:27.354 a sound machine to try and. 0:14:27.354 --> 0:14:28.314 Not hear the noise. 0:14:29.394 --> 0:14:32.274 And so now when my son isn't home and they 0:14:32.274 --> 0:14:34.034 have people over on a Saturday night because they're the 0:14:34.034 --> 0:14:35.994 two am as a thrich, I have to sleep in 0:14:36.034 --> 0:14:39.674 his room. So I am actually going to move out. 0:14:39.794 --> 0:14:42.634 My lace is up in November and I can't. 0:14:42.674 --> 0:14:43.594 I can't deal with it. 0:14:43.794 --> 0:14:47.394 And the downside is I hear him at five am 0:14:47.474 --> 0:14:49.994 when he wakes up to go to work, so that 0:14:50.234 --> 0:14:52.194 starts your day off at five. But if they've not 0:14:52.274 --> 0:14:54.514 gone to bed till like eleven thirty at night, which 0:14:54.554 --> 0:14:56.234 is so fine, people can have a life. 0:14:56.274 --> 0:14:58.354 I like to be in bed by nine thirty. 0:14:58.554 --> 0:15:01.154 Then I'm staying away till eleven thirty and I'm hearing 0:15:01.234 --> 0:15:02.914 him p at five am eleven a shower. 0:15:03.634 --> 0:15:04.634 So spoken to them. 0:15:05.074 --> 0:15:06.594 I have the first So. 0:15:06.674 --> 0:15:10.154 They move in, and they were really noisy, and by 0:15:10.234 --> 0:15:13.594 the second weekend that they were there, she smashed a window. 0:15:14.834 --> 0:15:18.114 It was so noisy, and the lady that lives underneath her, 0:15:18.154 --> 0:15:21.714 we were like, this is not okay. We've allowed them 0:15:21.714 --> 0:15:24.194 to move in and make moving in this is ridiculous. 0:15:25.434 --> 0:15:28.674 And so I'm not very confrontational, so I did. 0:15:28.674 --> 0:15:29.314 I knocked the door. 0:15:29.354 --> 0:15:32.394 The next day, I was so frazzled and I just 0:15:32.434 --> 0:15:34.914 went I just was so shaky. Anyway, I just said, 0:15:35.114 --> 0:15:37.634 the noise travels, you guys, don't it's a wooden floor, 0:15:37.714 --> 0:15:39.554 you know, it's a really I was like, it's a 0:15:39.674 --> 0:15:40.634 quiet building. 0:15:40.874 --> 0:15:44.074 Yeah, quiet, It's like. 0:15:46.034 --> 0:15:48.554 She was just she had an un you know, can 0:15:48.594 --> 0:15:50.634 I say unhinged just slightly like. 0:15:50.754 --> 0:15:52.834 One of those looks, and she was. She sort of 0:15:52.834 --> 0:15:53.554 didn't apologize. 0:15:53.874 --> 0:15:56.114 If I had just moved into a block and not 0:15:56.154 --> 0:15:59.154 a deco like nineteen twenty s block and smashed a window, 0:15:59.674 --> 0:16:01.034 I would have been like, OD, I'm so sorry. 0:16:01.754 --> 0:16:01.994 Yeah. 0:16:02.234 --> 0:16:04.754 So so far we've got Grace who would complain, cath 0:16:04.874 --> 0:16:05.874 and I who would. 0:16:05.674 --> 0:16:12.274 Move, Yeah, have moved, And well, my entire neighborhood is 0:16:12.314 --> 0:16:12.794 at war. 0:16:14.594 --> 0:16:15.554 Yeah yeah, yeah. 0:16:15.594 --> 0:16:19.354 So there is a house I better not say too much, 0:16:19.394 --> 0:16:22.914 but like, very very very close to me where there 0:16:22.954 --> 0:16:29.354 was a protracted building project which the neighbors not only 0:16:29.394 --> 0:16:31.514 from my street but from like the street that backs 0:16:31.554 --> 0:16:36.154 onto us joined like it's it's a big war and 0:16:36.234 --> 0:16:40.434 to object against the correct and then evidently the people 0:16:40.474 --> 0:16:43.954 who were doing the building apparently are not very nice people. 0:16:44.514 --> 0:16:46.194 And so there was. 0:16:46.154 --> 0:16:50.554 A lot of words had across the neighborhood, and I 0:16:50.634 --> 0:16:53.354 moved in to the eye of the storm. 0:16:53.994 --> 0:16:59.474 I had to well, I don't do that. I don't 0:16:59.474 --> 0:17:00.474 do it in divorces. 0:17:00.954 --> 0:17:03.314 I don't do it when I've got patients where the 0:17:03.434 --> 0:17:05.234 husband comes in and tells me his side of the 0:17:05.273 --> 0:17:06.954 story and the life comes in and tells me do 0:17:07.394 --> 0:17:10.834 that I am. I am Switzerland. So when it comes 0:17:10.874 --> 0:17:13.513 to the neighbors, I am Switzerland. But they were getting 0:17:13.834 --> 0:17:18.834 pretty pissy that I was not joining the campaign at council. 0:17:19.474 --> 0:17:21.474 You've got to join the campaign. You need like you've 0:17:21.474 --> 0:17:23.594 got to pick aside. You're not a doctor anymore. This 0:17:23.674 --> 0:17:24.514 is in your neighborhood. 0:17:24.834 --> 0:17:26.994 This is and you know, but you know your dog 0:17:27.034 --> 0:17:29.994 could be poisoned. I don't know. So I have so 0:17:30.194 --> 0:17:32.634 figh neighborhood. 0:17:32.874 --> 0:17:34.714 It's a very lovely neighborhood. It is. 0:17:34.994 --> 0:17:37.994 Yes, it's very leafy with it's very quiet. 0:17:38.234 --> 0:17:40.674 But they're often the ones exactly right. 0:17:40.794 --> 0:17:43.114 They are the exact ones you've got to watch. And 0:17:43.234 --> 0:17:46.834 I am just hedging my beds. I'm remaining Switzerland. I 0:17:46.874 --> 0:17:47.714 don't know how long I'm going. 0:17:47.714 --> 0:17:48.714 To be able to do it for. 0:17:49.274 --> 0:17:51.793 And you know, when somebody comes over to try and 0:17:51.834 --> 0:17:54.514 recruit me to their cause, I'm like, yep, absolutely, I'm 0:17:54.514 --> 0:17:56.874 there with you. And then the other side comes over 0:17:56.954 --> 0:17:58.434 and I do the exact same thing. 0:17:58.554 --> 0:18:00.954 You're the voter who takes every card, I am. 0:18:01.434 --> 0:18:03.994 I do that too, Yeah, I actually yeah, And your 0:18:03.994 --> 0:18:05.434 street could end up on a current affair. 0:18:05.634 --> 0:18:09.194 I reckon, come in. Yeah, I know, Sally, We've got 0:18:09.194 --> 0:18:10.874 to talk. I have just got so many stories. 0:18:10.994 --> 0:18:12.793 So the problem is that they get together and go, 0:18:12.914 --> 0:18:14.954 Ginny's on our side, and they're like, no, Ginny's on 0:18:14.994 --> 0:18:17.594 our side anyway. I'm just definitely I'm not going to 0:18:17.714 --> 0:18:18.674 make my numbers stuff. 0:18:19.034 --> 0:18:22.474 Yeah, it's basically it's coming to get me and I'm 0:18:22.794 --> 0:18:25.514 getting not at all anxious about it. I don't give 0:18:25.514 --> 0:18:25.754 a shit. 0:18:25.834 --> 0:18:28.434 I'm just like staying Switzerland and I'm not getting involved. 0:18:28.594 --> 0:18:30.634 I don't know, Grace, I feel like you would not 0:18:30.794 --> 0:18:32.954 be this calm in my situation. 0:18:33.114 --> 0:18:35.554 Oh I'm not a calm person. I mean, as you're no, 0:18:35.834 --> 0:18:38.234 but I think you do need to pick a side. 0:18:38.514 --> 0:18:43.914 So talking about crazy neighborhood stories, I almost had a 0:18:43.954 --> 0:18:46.553 big windfall on Facebook Marketplace this day. 0:18:46.954 --> 0:18:47.594 I mean almost. 0:18:47.954 --> 0:18:51.034 Well this is the story. So I, as you know, 0:18:51.074 --> 0:18:53.634 I've recently moved into a new house. I'm decorating on 0:18:53.674 --> 0:18:57.714 a shoe string and I've actually been obsessed with these 0:18:57.834 --> 0:19:01.954 nice hand blown glass sort of ornaments and I found 0:19:01.994 --> 0:19:06.034 these beautiful There's this beautiful bowl and plate dirt. Cheap 0:19:06.194 --> 0:19:08.834 was like twenty bucks both of them, and it was 0:19:08.874 --> 0:19:12.194 available right near my house, and so I went straight 0:19:12.194 --> 0:19:14.514 into the DMS. I wrung it up. I said, I'll 0:19:14.554 --> 0:19:17.394 take it, And then I started driving there on the 0:19:17.434 --> 0:19:20.513 way back from dropping my kids at school. And it 0:19:20.594 --> 0:19:23.593 was one of those neighborhoods that you know is nearby, 0:19:23.834 --> 0:19:27.074 but you haven't actually been there before. And suddenly you know, 0:19:27.114 --> 0:19:29.074 I live in a fairly nice kind of neighborhood, but 0:19:29.114 --> 0:19:30.994 suddenly it kind of drops off a cliff, and you're 0:19:30.994 --> 0:19:33.394 starting to like wind the windows up and think, what 0:19:34.114 --> 0:19:37.194 locked the door? Where are we now? And anyway, I 0:19:37.274 --> 0:19:40.434 pulled up in front of this house and there were 0:19:40.434 --> 0:19:43.274 a few other cars in the street, and I got 0:19:43.314 --> 0:19:47.793 out and outside this very nice, little suburban, blond brick home, 0:19:47.994 --> 0:19:51.674 there was a short line of people waiting outside, and 0:19:51.714 --> 0:19:53.794 so I joined the line and I got to chatting, 0:19:53.834 --> 0:19:56.754 and it turned out that this woman was selling her 0:19:56.794 --> 0:20:00.234 mother's goods. She her mother had passed away, and she 0:20:00.594 --> 0:20:04.033 was selling items, and she had a very strict system. 0:20:04.474 --> 0:20:06.714 So people would come to the door, they would knock, 0:20:07.114 --> 0:20:09.714