WEBVTT - David Homes Was Harry Potter's Stunt Double... And Then He Was Paralysed

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to a MoMA Mia podcast. Mama Mea acknowledges

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<v Speaker 2>You know this is a No Filter podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to share that story on the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>me and Rosie had two quadriplegics having the best sex

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<v Speaker 1>of our life, so there is hope that you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>lost that sexual relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, I'm Katelinebrook and welcome to No Filter. At just

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<v Speaker 3>twenty five years old, David Holmes was living the dream.

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<v Speaker 3>He was working on the biggest film franchise in the world,

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<v Speaker 3>out partying and fully immersed in a life of sex,

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<v Speaker 3>drugs and rock and roll. A former gymnast turned stunt man,

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<v Speaker 3>David was Daniel Radcliffe's stunt double in all the Harry

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<v Speaker 3>Potter films, literally going up alongside the cast, almost like

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<v Speaker 3>a big brother to a group of preteens who would

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<v Speaker 3>go on to become global stars. But while rehearsing a

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<v Speaker 3>stunt for the final Harry Potter film, a move he'd

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<v Speaker 3>done many times before, something went terribly wrong. David was

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<v Speaker 3>flung into a wall and broke his neck. He remembers

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<v Speaker 3>the sound, the feeling, and staying completely conscious as emergency

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<v Speaker 3>services arrived. He now refers to his injury as the

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<v Speaker 3>gift that keeps on taking Over fifteen years later, David

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<v Speaker 3>has the use of only one arm, but as you'll

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<v Speaker 3>hear in this conversation, he doesn't see himself as a victim. Life,

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<v Speaker 3>he says, guarantees nothing. It's what you do with what

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<v Speaker 3>you've got that counts, and David is doing a lot,

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<v Speaker 3>from writing a novel to producing a documentary with his

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<v Speaker 3>friend Daniel Radcliffe, hosting a podcast, advocating for disability rights,

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<v Speaker 3>and yes, having the best sex of his life. This

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<v Speaker 3>man truly has no filter and why should he. From

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<v Speaker 3>the moment this conversation began, I was laughing because David

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<v Speaker 3>Holmes is someone who brings a spark of silliness and

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<v Speaker 3>honesty to every moment. Hello, Kay, I didn't realize that

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<v Speaker 3>the extension of your skills had now spread to doing

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<v Speaker 3>acting and a little falsetto.

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<v Speaker 1>You'd be surprised what I've managed to achieve in my

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<v Speaker 1>life despite the fact of the barriers that are in

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<v Speaker 1>front of me. I've got very secret projects that I

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<v Speaker 1>can't publicly announce, but it involves acting and really very much.

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<v Speaker 3>So man, Yeah, well, you know, your talents not really

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<v Speaker 3>that secret, given that you have written a book. You

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<v Speaker 3>have written a book, The Boy Who Lived When Magic

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<v Speaker 3>and Reality Collide My story, which is an extraordinary story,

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<v Speaker 3>and a docco The Boy Who Lived. Now the journey, right,

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<v Speaker 3>what a journey, an epic one, an odyssey really. But

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<v Speaker 3>I've got to tell you I had an extraordinary day

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<v Speaker 3>with you that, of course you on the other side

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<v Speaker 3>of the world would have been unaware of. But I

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<v Speaker 3>watched the documentary about you with my son. I've got

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<v Speaker 3>three sons, like your mum. I've got three sons, and

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<v Speaker 3>my number two son is seventeen. Yeah, Ok, the same

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<v Speaker 3>age that you were when you started being the stunt

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<v Speaker 3>double for Daniel Radcliffe in the Harry Potter movies. And

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<v Speaker 3>so we were this dooco together and you know, with

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<v Speaker 3>a seventeen year old, you just don't know a teenage boy,

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<v Speaker 3>You don't know what they're thinking. He didn't peel off

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<v Speaker 3>at any point during it. Yeah, he's stayed fixed with it.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean we all were. It's extraordinary. And at the

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<v Speaker 3>end he stood up and he went hmm, legend our

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<v Speaker 3>blessed and walked out of the room.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, blessed. Yeah, that's whole.

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<v Speaker 3>How's that?

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<v Speaker 1>But to know that in a society where young men

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<v Speaker 1>are trying to navigate what it is like masculinity and

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<v Speaker 1>to be a man, to know that for your son

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<v Speaker 1>at that moment there that I showed him certain aspects

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<v Speaker 1>of my life and my journey through the documentary that

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<v Speaker 1>might help him get a grip of that.

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<v Speaker 2>What a gift day is.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm very grateful to share my story to the

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<v Speaker 1>journey that I've had because if it hasn't knock on

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<v Speaker 1>effect for so many others, then it's start a good thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, it's also very appealing, I think because because you're

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<v Speaker 3>a stuntman, ye and outside of on a film set,

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<v Speaker 3>aside from either movie, there's the movie stars. We get that,

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<v Speaker 3>But then if you're going to go for who the

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<v Speaker 3>next alpha men are on a film set, it's the stunties.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I believe it is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean the director's assistant directors that we're all

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<v Speaker 1>justling for, like our mark.

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<v Speaker 2>On the creative experience.

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<v Speaker 1>But some performers get to be the young sum heroes

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<v Speaker 1>and tell the story with their physicality and to make

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<v Speaker 1>the impossible possible, and for many years I did that,

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<v Speaker 1>and then it's you know, it's part of who I

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<v Speaker 1>was as a child, and it's part of who I

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<v Speaker 1>am now as an adult. Despite the fact I'm now quadriplegic,

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<v Speaker 1>I still perform stunts something last year I set my

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<v Speaker 1>head on fire, right, and every day I get wonderful

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<v Speaker 1>messages just like what you had with your son, where

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<v Speaker 1>people saying this, you know, really helped me gain perspective

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<v Speaker 1>and understanding on the journey that I'm on and some

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<v Speaker 1>of the difficulty or the trauma that I've navigating.

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<v Speaker 3>So well. It's such an interesting thing because you yourself,

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<v Speaker 3>i'man aside from the accident and who physically you are

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<v Speaker 3>compared to who you were, you know at the start.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that there's many lessons that can be learnt,

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<v Speaker 3>that can be extrapolated to different circumstances that aren't necessarily

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<v Speaker 3>to do with physicality.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, of course, yeah, yeah, life's hard for all of us.

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<v Speaker 3>This life is hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Broken neck or no broken neck, it's hot. We're given

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<v Speaker 1>this lesson, like this gift, and then you have to

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<v Speaker 1>understand it's a lesson of loss. I learned that lesson

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<v Speaker 1>the hardest way at twenty five with my accident, and

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<v Speaker 1>I continue to have to navigate that lesson now with

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<v Speaker 1>changing in neurology, or elderly dogs that are just shitting

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<v Speaker 1>everywhere in my house, or you know, seeing my parents'

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<v Speaker 1>age and stuff like that. So it's I learned that

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<v Speaker 1>lesson at twenty five and it made me make my

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<v Speaker 1>peace with the facts.

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<v Speaker 2>It teaches you gratude. All right.

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<v Speaker 1>I am here today now where I'm going to be

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<v Speaker 1>in ten years time in my body, I can't tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>No one can tell you that. You can't tell me

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<v Speaker 1>with yours. But with what I'm going through, with the changes,

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<v Speaker 1>with the journey, with what I've lost, it forces me

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<v Speaker 1>to be here now, to like take in the day

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<v Speaker 1>and it's a really crappy gray day in England, but

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<v Speaker 1>still the world presents gifts. Spring has happened, there's leaves

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<v Speaker 1>on the true I've had a visit by a greenwood

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<v Speaker 1>paper in my garden today. I've got I've made a

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<v Speaker 1>really good show on the steam room. I've done toilet routine,

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<v Speaker 1>which as a quadriplegic is very hard to navigate. Can

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<v Speaker 1>I be really crude in this podcast?

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<v Speaker 3>Please? You can be what however you are no filter.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no filter? Right, so are you ready for this strapping? Okay, So,

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<v Speaker 1>as I go into detail in the book, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>have control of my bower routine. Yes, so my routine

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<v Speaker 1>involves in certain responsibitories in my house. Now I have

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<v Speaker 1>no act to do that. So that means I've had

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<v Speaker 1>more hands up my ass than the cast of the Muppets.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, you soon learn to think. All right, that's

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<v Speaker 1>just a process. That's what we got doing. Once that's done.

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<v Speaker 1>At the start, it's horrifying, it's really bad, it's degrading,

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<v Speaker 1>it's all of those things. And anyone who goes through

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<v Speaker 1>medical issues will navigate this at some stage.

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<v Speaker 2>And when you get older, you're going to navigate this.

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<v Speaker 3>And there is a handing over of things that we

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<v Speaker 3>consider to be innate sort of rights, like the right

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<v Speaker 3>to autonomy or the right to privacy over our bodies.

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<v Speaker 3>And of course you forfeited that in a really sudden way.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I always say to people, never neglect the fact you're

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<v Speaker 1>sitting on a socially conscious asshole, because it tells you

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<v Speaker 1>when it needs to part, and mine doesn't. So I've

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<v Speaker 1>crapped myself everywhere top of Mountains film premieres. You name

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<v Speaker 1>it at about accident, and it never gets easier, but

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<v Speaker 1>if you can find the joy and humor after it,

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<v Speaker 1>it gets a little bit more digestible.

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<v Speaker 2>So I always just laugh at myself. Shit happens to us.

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<v Speaker 3>So this accident that you refer to that will be

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<v Speaker 3>discussing happen in two thousand and nine. So you've lived

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<v Speaker 3>in this new incarnation of your body, yeah, for quite

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<v Speaker 3>some time. But before then you describe yourself as arrogant

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<v Speaker 3>and self centered and a bit of a knob. And

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<v Speaker 3>so this was when you were like flying high as

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<v Speaker 3>a Stundy. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>The ego is so easy to creep in when your

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<v Speaker 1>number one s on call sheet, working on the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>kids franchise, driving a fast Mercedes, and you know, prowling

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<v Speaker 1>for sexual partners.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I mean? I say prouding, that's not

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<v Speaker 2>that's the work, you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, She's a different word. Yeah, but yes, you were

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<v Speaker 3>enjoying the array of gifts that life has to offer.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I had a lot, and I was enjoying

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<v Speaker 1>a lot and whether if that was you know, sex,

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<v Speaker 1>drugs and sausage rolls.

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<v Speaker 2>I've consumed them all.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's it was that was me then, and that

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<v Speaker 1>was me at the height of where I was with

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<v Speaker 1>the success that I was given. But that success wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>just handed out for free. There were years of gymnastics

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<v Speaker 1>and hurt and pain and turmoil and bullying that got

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<v Speaker 1>me to that point of success.

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<v Speaker 3>The bullying. The bullying is interesting. Was the bullying because

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<v Speaker 3>of your height?

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<v Speaker 1>Or yeah, man, you've been in society we screw small men,

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<v Speaker 1>We give small men a bad wrapping life, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>that we're off on us foot. But mac milligates it right.

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<v Speaker 1>Why would you want to look down on people your

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<v Speaker 1>whole life? Looking up to people is the way like

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<v Speaker 1>aspiring looking up like never never being ashamed of your

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<v Speaker 1>height or your stature, or your social position or your wealth,

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<v Speaker 1>like because if you've got something to look up to,

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<v Speaker 1>whether that's physically or mentally, it gives you aspirations for

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<v Speaker 1>your life and it gives you a grounding to say,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I want to be there or I want

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<v Speaker 1>to And I'm not saying like extended my legs and

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<v Speaker 1>get taller. I'm saying right that the humbling experience of

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<v Speaker 1>what it is to be smaller, to have people call

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<v Speaker 1>you half prime and ditch and all that lot and

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<v Speaker 1>some minute breaks. But for me, I learned to embrace

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<v Speaker 1>it and then eventually use it, and it turned me

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<v Speaker 1>into it very successful young man as a gymnast.

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<v Speaker 3>Incredibly because you're are you five foot two?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Five foot two one in three quarters, but I

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<v Speaker 1>take five foot right. Picking yourself up that extra each

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<v Speaker 1>always makes a difference, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So I've heard.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>But here's the thing with that turned out actually to

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<v Speaker 3>be to your advantage because when you first met Daniel Radcliffe,

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<v Speaker 3>he was eleven and it started filming the Harry Potter films.

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<v Speaker 3>You were seventeen. But you could be a perfect stunt

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<v Speaker 3>double for him because you had that physicality, not just

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<v Speaker 3>that all of the kids.

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<v Speaker 1>In the first two films, I'm the Hermione when the

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<v Speaker 1>troll smashes through the bathroom doors.

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<v Speaker 2>I am the.

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<v Speaker 1>Ron sitting on the back of the horses. He gets

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<v Speaker 1>hit on the chest piece. I am the Malfoy in

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<v Speaker 1>the quidditch match, flying off with his broom. I am

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<v Speaker 1>the Malfoy flying on the table. And Harry Potter two

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<v Speaker 1>in the dueling sequence, there was I doubled pretty much

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<v Speaker 1>most of the young cars Neville in the first two films,

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<v Speaker 1>and then all of Dale grew up, and then Dan.

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<v Speaker 1>Thankfully he's only grew to five foot five. So Harry

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<v Speaker 1>lifts in my shoes. I could stay it's stunt double yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, right. And then you So during the course of

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<v Speaker 3>those movies, you became incredibly close.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I was just pe teacher.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So twice three times a week he comes to the

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<v Speaker 1>stunt department. We'd shut the doors and we do things

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<v Speaker 1>that were giving Insurance Company an absolute heart attack. I'd

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<v Speaker 1>get him doing some sorts off and trampoline, jumping off

0:14:04.285 --> 0:14:09.325
<v Speaker 1>a pork cabin, swinging swords around, doing judo, keeping fit, exercise.

0:14:10.605 --> 0:14:13.325
<v Speaker 1>It was all part of being a gymnast growing up,

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<v Speaker 1>having coaches in plant, their coaching and their physical gifts

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<v Speaker 1>to me, learning how to be a good gymnast. I

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<v Speaker 1>was able to just do that for Dank, and now

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<v Speaker 1>whenever I see his body in a film or a

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<v Speaker 1>TV program, or if I see him do something that's

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<v Speaker 1>a sun element, I'm always very proud that I contributed

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<v Speaker 1>to that, to the man that he is on camera now.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'd like to say, and I'm sure I'm not overreaching.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure he would say that I contributed to the

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<v Speaker 1>man that he is in life as well, which.

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<v Speaker 3>Is well, he does say that, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a good things. You got to watch him grow

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<v Speaker 1>up on the camera. I got to watch him grow

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<v Speaker 1>as a human being, and I could not be proud

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<v Speaker 1>of who he is, whether that is his willingness to

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<v Speaker 1>stand up for what he believes in over certain issues,

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<v Speaker 1>or seeing him as a younger father and how the

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<v Speaker 1>joy that brings to his life. He's a great human

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<v Speaker 1>being and will sacrifice his life to make sure other

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<v Speaker 1>people stay employed. You know, Like recently he was on

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<v Speaker 1>a Broadway show and it was going to close down

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<v Speaker 1>and he's looking around and if he was to leave

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<v Speaker 1>his contract. They asked for an extension, and he looked

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<v Speaker 1>around and he's like, well, if I don't do the extension,

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<v Speaker 1>then all these people become unemployed. So he went back

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<v Speaker 1>and he'd done eight extra shows a week for three months.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Like that's commitment to others, not commitment to himself.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's the mark of who he is.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know him very well because the reading your book,

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<v Speaker 3>it really imparted a lovely sense of course, we all

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<v Speaker 3>know the Harry Potter movies. But for you guys, it

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<v Speaker 3>was almost like an annual summer camp. Yeah, because you

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<v Speaker 3>saw each other every year for ten years.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, pretty much. There was the longest break between the

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<v Speaker 2>films was maybe.

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<v Speaker 1>Four arms in total, So we were always interacting with

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<v Speaker 1>each other and we were able to because it was

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<v Speaker 1>Hogwarts Express was a runaway train after the second film.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just massive.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think keeping the continuity of crew helps keep

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<v Speaker 1>those young adults in an environment where they felt safe

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<v Speaker 1>to explore becoming better actors, that felt safe to grow

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<v Speaker 1>up without the prime eyes. And I'm a bit nervous

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<v Speaker 1>because they're redoing it now, and then the young cast

0:16:49.445 --> 0:16:52.845
<v Speaker 1>members are also now exposed to social media and the

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<v Speaker 1>damage that that is doing to our society. Now.

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<v Speaker 2>I use it as a tool like it's a worktool,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>I use it to help promote an image of disability

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't frame us as a victive. For young people

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<v Speaker 1>who are very impressionable that trying to work out who

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<v Speaker 1>they are. I think it's very damaging to be able

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<v Speaker 1>to click a button and put a filter on and

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<v Speaker 1>change your face.

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<v Speaker 3>After this short break, David tells me what he remembers

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<v Speaker 3>about the day of his accident. Don't go anywhere well, interestingly,

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<v Speaker 3>because your physical body was your ultimate work tool, and

0:17:34.565 --> 0:17:39.325
<v Speaker 3>you sustained so many injuries as stunties do in the

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<v Speaker 3>course of your work. Before I'm going to call it

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<v Speaker 3>a fateful day. How do you think of that day

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<v Speaker 3>in two thousand and nine, You know, the day that sent.

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<v Speaker 1>Me down with different roads, that put me on a

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<v Speaker 1>different path. And it's a day that's hard. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>every time the analysty comes around, it's always that very

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<v Speaker 1>soon I'm going to be in a.

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<v Speaker 2>Wheelchair longer than i was on legs, you know, that's.

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<v Speaker 1>Always or when look, you know, time passing is hard,

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<v Speaker 1>and I try to enjoy the passing of time as

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<v Speaker 1>best I can. But at the same time, when you're

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<v Speaker 1>going through physical changes like I am, it is some

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<v Speaker 1>of those important data are quite difficult to navigate.

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<v Speaker 3>When is when is the anniversary days?

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<v Speaker 2>Right towards the end of January.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't say it because yes, yeah, funny enough, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just certain aspects of my life, like Wikipedia's got my

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<v Speaker 1>birthday wrong and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 2>It puts me down as forty three. I'm actually forty one.

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<v Speaker 2>So and also now I'm a public person.

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<v Speaker 1>There is just a few vula benities that are trying

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<v Speaker 1>to protect myself from.

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<v Speaker 3>And how do you recall the events of that day.

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<v Speaker 2>Fully conscious throughout the whole thing? I remember it. I

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<v Speaker 2>know the noise.

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<v Speaker 1>What noise makes when your neck breaks, I know is

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<v Speaker 1>that I recover of breath. I sometimes relimit with posed

0:19:06.405 --> 0:19:09.005
<v Speaker 1>to make stress when a falling asleep. So funny enough,

0:19:09.005 --> 0:19:12.685
<v Speaker 1>I listen to podcasts when I'm falling asleep. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that was something that I learned in hospital as I'm

0:19:15.685 --> 0:19:19.525
<v Speaker 1>slipping into sleep that I can go for pts and

0:19:19.565 --> 0:19:22.965
<v Speaker 1>relive that moment, like we live the plug socket that

0:19:23.125 --> 0:19:25.765
<v Speaker 1>was looking at to fix my eyeline and you know

0:19:25.845 --> 0:19:27.125
<v Speaker 1>the noise of the wire.

0:19:26.925 --> 0:19:27.885
<v Speaker 2>Pulling and all that lot.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just find a coping strategy and know how

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<v Speaker 1>to use it.

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<v Speaker 3>For those who don't know, you were doing a stunt

0:19:37.245 --> 0:19:41.885
<v Speaker 3>that involved you being on a wire and then fired

0:19:42.245 --> 0:19:45.285
<v Speaker 3>pulled rapidly towards the wall, and you'd rehearsed at the

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<v Speaker 3>day before.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah you got it. Yeah, so we was doing Harry

0:19:49.325 --> 0:19:52.365
<v Speaker 2>battling the Guini and for the snake.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so as we as we should have been doing

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<v Speaker 1>as some performers. In the Harry Potter series, we saw

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<v Speaker 1>so many spelled reactions that were used by a wire

0:20:03.525 --> 0:20:05.445
<v Speaker 1>and it's our job to always try and push the

0:20:05.445 --> 0:20:08.685
<v Speaker 1>boundaries of the action. And as the film's got more

0:20:08.765 --> 0:20:13.045
<v Speaker 1>intense and more serious and what, we were always trying

0:20:13.085 --> 0:20:16.285
<v Speaker 1>to make the spells a bit more serious, reactive, speedy

0:20:16.285 --> 0:20:17.085
<v Speaker 1>out and all that lot.

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<v Speaker 3>And you succeeded, by the way, because those movies, I

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<v Speaker 3>think changed changed the way movie making is told with

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<v Speaker 3>any element of magic.

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<v Speaker 1>Very few franchises continue to hold their own as they

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<v Speaker 1>progress through each different film, and Harry Pottery is one

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<v Speaker 1>of those things.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Raised the day before, and then the suggestion was made

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<v Speaker 1>short in the distance and to put a slack line

0:20:49.685 --> 0:20:51.965
<v Speaker 1>in so the snatch off the floor was too quick.

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<v Speaker 1>That was two vital mistakes that sent me into a

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<v Speaker 1>wall SINNI mile an hour on my chest folding into

0:21:01.365 --> 0:21:05.685
<v Speaker 1>my nose that my spinalcle separated at the C six

0:21:05.765 --> 0:21:08.325
<v Speaker 1>c cent vertebrae, just at the bottom of your neck

0:21:08.405 --> 0:21:12.565
<v Speaker 1>before your thought rack starts. And I was instantly paralyzed

0:21:12.565 --> 0:21:14.885
<v Speaker 1>from that moment. And I knew that I'd done it.

0:21:15.245 --> 0:21:17.765
<v Speaker 1>I knew what a boken. Brain felt like and I

0:21:17.805 --> 0:21:21.525
<v Speaker 1>felt my whole body, and once I'd recovered my breath,

0:21:22.405 --> 0:21:28.125
<v Speaker 1>I kept consciousness, made some very good, smart suggestions about

0:21:29.285 --> 0:21:31.925
<v Speaker 1>making sure a camera was safe, that I had the

0:21:31.965 --> 0:21:34.645
<v Speaker 1>footage because I knew Health and Safety would have to

0:21:34.685 --> 0:21:39.245
<v Speaker 1>review that, and then told my best mates don't call

0:21:39.285 --> 0:21:43.765
<v Speaker 1>my mum to worry her, and then slipped into unconsciousness.

0:21:44.525 --> 0:21:46.885
<v Speaker 1>And then you come back to consciousness again. And then

0:21:46.965 --> 0:21:49.365
<v Speaker 1>it was the full rig more of a slow ambulance,

0:21:49.485 --> 0:21:51.845
<v Speaker 1>and I always gutted. I was then putting a helicopter,

0:21:51.885 --> 0:21:56.205
<v Speaker 1>you know, but yeah, the rigmar of snow ambulance, one

0:21:56.245 --> 0:21:58.845
<v Speaker 1>hospital and then onto the spinal lord. And then a

0:21:58.885 --> 0:22:01.445
<v Speaker 1>couple of days later, I woke up and some nurse

0:22:01.565 --> 0:22:04.325
<v Speaker 1>was rolling me over, saying you need to evacuate out

0:22:04.405 --> 0:22:04.885
<v Speaker 1>your bows.

0:22:04.965 --> 0:22:08.245
<v Speaker 2>And then I realized I don't fill my arn, you know.

0:22:08.365 --> 0:22:10.005
<v Speaker 2>When she was telling me what you doing, I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, ah, and I'll feel that so and then you

0:22:13.845 --> 0:22:18.325
<v Speaker 1>have to learn to rebuild your up. And it's when

0:22:18.525 --> 0:22:22.205
<v Speaker 1>everything's taken away like that. It starts from scratch, you know,

0:22:22.405 --> 0:22:25.565
<v Speaker 1>you know, you're stripped back to how you are as Otoba,

0:22:26.085 --> 0:22:29.285
<v Speaker 1>so vulnerable, so needy, so you know, people needed to

0:22:29.285 --> 0:22:32.205
<v Speaker 1>feed me, people needed to dress me, wash me, you

0:22:32.325 --> 0:22:36.605
<v Speaker 1>name it. So and then grueling rehabilitation. And I'm thankful

0:22:36.645 --> 0:22:40.925
<v Speaker 1>for the gifts of gymnastics and my physical prowess to

0:22:41.045 --> 0:22:45.045
<v Speaker 1>understand that nothing's gained without hard work. So I worked

0:22:45.205 --> 0:22:49.445
<v Speaker 1>tirelessly at the hospital to try and regain as much

0:22:49.565 --> 0:22:54.205
<v Speaker 1>function as possible above my level injury. And then just

0:22:54.245 --> 0:22:57.805
<v Speaker 1>before discharge, I had developed a spinal series, which is

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<v Speaker 1>why I'm going through changes now, which.

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<v Speaker 3>Which is apparently quite rare.

0:23:02.845 --> 0:23:05.805
<v Speaker 1>Very rare, Yeah, very rare, right in the beginning. So

0:23:05.925 --> 0:23:10.165
<v Speaker 1>it's assists within this final called that mine actually board

0:23:10.285 --> 0:23:12.885
<v Speaker 1>up to the C one vertebrae because it was it

0:23:12.965 --> 0:23:15.325
<v Speaker 1>was just growing so quick, and that's the problem with

0:23:15.525 --> 0:23:18.965
<v Speaker 1>where I was so healthy and fear so many white

0:23:18.965 --> 0:23:21.965
<v Speaker 1>blood cells went to the area to sort the bruising out,

0:23:22.325 --> 0:23:25.965
<v Speaker 1>and they were they were trapped in so it was

0:23:26.365 --> 0:23:29.685
<v Speaker 1>a it was one of those things that doctor says,

0:23:29.685 --> 0:23:31.565
<v Speaker 1>if you don't go surging, now you're going to die.

0:23:31.765 --> 0:23:34.885
<v Speaker 1>It's going to stop your breathing. So big surgery, and

0:23:34.885 --> 0:23:37.045
<v Speaker 1>then I had to redo my rehabilitation again.

0:23:37.125 --> 0:23:40.445
<v Speaker 2>So bad hard luck on top of bad hard luck.

0:23:40.725 --> 0:23:44.085
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, and that's now because it goes up to

0:23:44.125 --> 0:23:48.405
<v Speaker 1>C one that's where independent breathing, speech and swallow is.

0:23:48.605 --> 0:23:51.765
<v Speaker 1>So as I get older, there's a good chance that

0:23:52.085 --> 0:23:55.485
<v Speaker 1>I won't be able to keep hold of those things.

0:23:55.845 --> 0:23:59.485
<v Speaker 3>So the cyst I gather can't be removed, and it's

0:23:59.565 --> 0:24:01.925
<v Speaker 3>kind of like waiting for you, like Voldemort.

0:24:02.285 --> 0:24:02.845
<v Speaker 2>You got it.

0:24:02.965 --> 0:24:05.725
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So it's inside my spinal cord. He's got a

0:24:05.805 --> 0:24:09.365
<v Speaker 1>shunk that's draining the pressure. If that shump blocks, and

0:24:09.485 --> 0:24:13.125
<v Speaker 1>it's back into the surgery again. And I two ninety

0:24:13.285 --> 0:24:15.285
<v Speaker 1>went from out a surgery to see if I can

0:24:15.965 --> 0:24:19.325
<v Speaker 1>check the status of the the pressure of the cysts,

0:24:19.445 --> 0:24:22.005
<v Speaker 1>shave back some scar tissue, and then I had some

0:24:22.045 --> 0:24:25.605
<v Speaker 1>really bad complications that it killed me. In twenty ninety,

0:24:27.005 --> 0:24:31.165
<v Speaker 1>was fighting for my life for surgeries, another little brain surgery,

0:24:31.325 --> 0:24:37.205
<v Speaker 1>and then came out and just about recovered to get

0:24:37.325 --> 0:24:40.405
<v Speaker 1>on a plane to go to Thailand. Got to Thailand,

0:24:40.485 --> 0:24:44.445
<v Speaker 1>and then COVID happened. And then when I was in Thailand,

0:24:44.485 --> 0:24:47.005
<v Speaker 1>I realized, hang on a minute, I'm still going through changes.

0:24:47.125 --> 0:24:50.525
<v Speaker 1>That surgery didn't work, so I had that to deal with,

0:24:50.805 --> 0:24:54.245
<v Speaker 1>and then COVID, and as a vulnerable individual, I was

0:24:54.245 --> 0:24:56.565
<v Speaker 1>asking myself is my last worthit? When I have to

0:24:56.645 --> 0:25:00.285
<v Speaker 1>risk covers to come to work. You know, like a

0:25:00.285 --> 0:25:02.565
<v Speaker 1>lot of people in the same spectrum, we're doing that,

0:25:03.085 --> 0:25:05.085
<v Speaker 1>which is not a nice place to be. Could have

0:25:05.125 --> 0:25:08.125
<v Speaker 1>done with a bit more support from our governments and

0:25:08.205 --> 0:25:10.605
<v Speaker 1>all that lot. But I was very grateful at one

0:25:10.645 --> 0:25:14.085
<v Speaker 1>of my best friends with me and look after me,

0:25:14.405 --> 0:25:16.645
<v Speaker 1>and we just got through it like weel did.

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<v Speaker 3>It is extraordinary, both in the book and in the

0:25:20.605 --> 0:25:24.565
<v Speaker 3>documentary and just speaking to you now that when I

0:25:24.605 --> 0:25:27.605
<v Speaker 3>think there's a great physical trauma or a great loss

0:25:27.645 --> 0:25:32.565
<v Speaker 3>of any kind, or a debilitating condition, and this is

0:25:32.605 --> 0:25:35.245
<v Speaker 3>really spoken about, I think people like to have this

0:25:35.325 --> 0:25:38.805
<v Speaker 3>idea that people are just kind of like peacefully wasting

0:25:38.845 --> 0:25:41.525
<v Speaker 3>away or whatever. But often there's a lot of bitterness,

0:25:41.525 --> 0:25:43.525
<v Speaker 3>and there's a lot of anger, there's a lot of resentment.

0:25:44.245 --> 0:25:49.805
<v Speaker 3>But you seem to have consciously made the decision to

0:25:50.445 --> 0:25:52.165
<v Speaker 3>focus on the positives.

0:25:52.565 --> 0:25:54.645
<v Speaker 1>Well, what's worse than breaking your neck, It is in

0:25:54.925 --> 0:25:57.685
<v Speaker 1>your pain, in your loved one's eyes. What's worse than

0:25:57.685 --> 0:26:01.365
<v Speaker 1>getting a diagnosis is having to tell your family and

0:26:01.445 --> 0:26:06.205
<v Speaker 1>holding on to those emotions, those vacuous emotions, you actually

0:26:06.325 --> 0:26:11.605
<v Speaker 1>hurt yourself the most first. So if you can go, okay,

0:26:11.845 --> 0:26:15.325
<v Speaker 1>that's you have to let go of the things I

0:26:15.325 --> 0:26:18.685
<v Speaker 1>can't got, you know what I mean. Like I'm not religious,

0:26:18.765 --> 0:26:21.205
<v Speaker 1>my dad is. But there's a prayer there. I will

0:26:21.245 --> 0:26:21.885
<v Speaker 1>always say.

0:26:21.925 --> 0:26:24.805
<v Speaker 2>It's a good prayer, and it's God grant me the

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<v Speaker 2>grace to accept the things that I can't control, embrace

0:26:28.605 --> 0:26:30.325
<v Speaker 2>the things that I can. And I think that's a

0:26:30.365 --> 0:26:32.965
<v Speaker 2>really nice way of just going.

0:26:33.085 --> 0:26:36.085
<v Speaker 1>You know, life is going to happen, and asteroids could

0:26:36.165 --> 0:26:38.525
<v Speaker 1>come and fucking wipe us out right now, we have

0:26:38.645 --> 0:26:40.405
<v Speaker 1>no control over that.

0:26:40.685 --> 0:26:43.365
<v Speaker 3>I hope. I hope not not before our interview.

0:26:44.325 --> 0:26:46.005
<v Speaker 2>No fingers crossed, not now.

0:26:46.205 --> 0:26:48.725
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean yeah, if I saw one, I might

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<v Speaker 1>be sticking my hands down my shorts just so in

0:26:51.845 --> 0:26:55.965
<v Speaker 1>case my body's you know, like the blokes in Pompeii's Yeah,

0:26:56.045 --> 0:26:57.005
<v Speaker 1>I masturbated in.

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<v Speaker 2>Lying on his side. That's the guy I want to be.

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<v Speaker 3>They got they got done instantly.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, done instantly. But his body was preserved in that position.

0:27:05.925 --> 0:27:07.845
<v Speaker 1>So he's just lying on his side, having a way

0:27:07.885 --> 0:27:11.645
<v Speaker 1>because like, yeah, wicked. No dignity, Yeah no, there's no dignit.

0:27:11.725 --> 0:27:15.925
<v Speaker 1>He was final point injury, not just like living with

0:27:16.285 --> 0:27:21.845
<v Speaker 1>like with the barroutines addressing there's the other. But I mean,

0:27:21.885 --> 0:27:24.485
<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you now, I'm in a relationship and my

0:27:24.605 --> 0:27:28.645
<v Speaker 1>girlfriends are four quadriplegic, so she's got less function than

0:27:28.685 --> 0:27:32.285
<v Speaker 1>I have. But we don't connect over our injuries. We

0:27:32.405 --> 0:27:35.445
<v Speaker 1>connect over our love for each other and how shared

0:27:35.565 --> 0:27:39.765
<v Speaker 1>experience of being loved by great families and friends and

0:27:40.325 --> 0:27:42.245
<v Speaker 1>committed care teams. How did you?

0:27:42.565 --> 0:27:43.405
<v Speaker 3>How did you meet?

0:27:43.925 --> 0:27:47.245
<v Speaker 1>She owns the property that I rented in Spain, and

0:27:47.445 --> 0:27:51.925
<v Speaker 1>she was emailing me quite a few times about my requirements,

0:27:52.125 --> 0:27:55.325
<v Speaker 1>and it was very just email exchanges, and then it

0:27:55.405 --> 0:27:58.725
<v Speaker 1>went to voice notes, just going back. Do you know

0:27:58.805 --> 0:28:01.765
<v Speaker 1>it's how being disabled them it's the other? And then

0:28:02.445 --> 0:28:06.605
<v Speaker 1>she'd never stayed at anyone else's house after a hospital

0:28:06.725 --> 0:28:10.165
<v Speaker 1>discharge because she went to a mom and dad's house

0:28:10.205 --> 0:28:12.645
<v Speaker 1>and she couldn't and she had her accident in the

0:28:12.685 --> 0:28:16.245
<v Speaker 1>same year as me, and I said, well, I built

0:28:16.285 --> 0:28:18.925
<v Speaker 1>this house and I can accommodate for you here and

0:28:19.045 --> 0:28:21.845
<v Speaker 1>your care team, and next time you're in London, why

0:28:21.845 --> 0:28:24.045
<v Speaker 1>don't you come and see my house? Because I knew

0:28:24.045 --> 0:28:26.725
<v Speaker 1>that she was building her own property up in Sheffield,

0:28:27.285 --> 0:28:29.885
<v Speaker 1>which is you know, three hundred miles away annoying me.

0:28:31.045 --> 0:28:34.205
<v Speaker 1>And because this house is a smart home, all the

0:28:34.365 --> 0:28:38.045
<v Speaker 1>doors are controlled, all the lights to controlled, the TV,

0:28:38.245 --> 0:28:42.565
<v Speaker 1>everything by by boys and thirteen years ago. I'm very,

0:28:42.805 --> 0:28:46.485
<v Speaker 1>very independent in this property, like to the degree that

0:28:46.645 --> 0:28:49.805
<v Speaker 1>I'm probably more able in this environment than most people

0:28:49.925 --> 0:28:52.805
<v Speaker 1>that are able bodied, just because I know how to

0:28:52.965 --> 0:28:55.805
<v Speaker 1>navigate it and control it with the technology.

0:28:56.085 --> 0:28:59.125
<v Speaker 3>I must sound very admiring of the fact that you

0:28:59.525 --> 0:29:01.245
<v Speaker 3>get technology to work for you.

0:29:02.285 --> 0:29:04.765
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, yeah.

0:29:05.525 --> 0:29:08.765
<v Speaker 1>And I wanted her to incorporate those things in her

0:29:08.845 --> 0:29:10.805
<v Speaker 1>life because I know what it does for me, and

0:29:10.925 --> 0:29:12.605
<v Speaker 1>I would want every person.

0:29:12.485 --> 0:29:15.645
<v Speaker 2>In with his final cord injury to have an environment.

0:29:15.365 --> 0:29:17.445
<v Speaker 1>Like this, because the most the saving thing about and

0:29:17.565 --> 0:29:20.605
<v Speaker 1>being a wol Che user is the environment you interact with,

0:29:21.245 --> 0:29:24.365
<v Speaker 1>you know, like so in here, it's not like that.

0:29:24.645 --> 0:29:27.485
<v Speaker 2>So she came down. She was going to a gas

0:29:27.605 --> 0:29:32.045
<v Speaker 2>like Anthont gig in London, and she stayed the night

0:29:32.125 --> 0:29:32.925
<v Speaker 2>for the first night.

0:29:33.205 --> 0:29:36.125
<v Speaker 1>And her function is she can bring her arm to here,

0:29:36.565 --> 0:29:38.685
<v Speaker 1>but she hasn't got the shoulder function to lift it

0:29:38.725 --> 0:29:39.405
<v Speaker 1>out right.

0:29:39.645 --> 0:29:42.405
<v Speaker 2>So we was outside sitting in the sun.

0:29:42.325 --> 0:29:44.725
<v Speaker 1>In my garden and the wind blew her hair in

0:29:44.885 --> 0:29:48.605
<v Speaker 1>her face, and I saw her trying to blow it

0:29:48.685 --> 0:29:50.805
<v Speaker 1>out and I was like, do you want me to

0:29:50.845 --> 0:29:52.565
<v Speaker 1>get that for you? And as I brushed the hair

0:29:52.605 --> 0:29:55.245
<v Speaker 1>out of face, I was like, we're really beautiful. And

0:29:55.365 --> 0:29:58.685
<v Speaker 1>then you know, I went to a place in Spain.

0:29:59.445 --> 0:30:01.805
<v Speaker 1>She I had a week where there was space at

0:30:01.845 --> 0:30:03.685
<v Speaker 1>the end, and obviously it's her house, and I was like,

0:30:03.805 --> 0:30:06.045
<v Speaker 1>why don't you come out for that last week and

0:30:06.285 --> 0:30:08.365
<v Speaker 1>we can get a bit of time together. And then

0:30:09.845 --> 0:30:12.605
<v Speaker 1>I just looked at her, was like the world's unfair

0:30:12.645 --> 0:30:15.925
<v Speaker 1>in it, but if we were able bodied people, we'd

0:30:15.965 --> 0:30:18.725
<v Speaker 1>be doing something very different right now. And she's really

0:30:19.365 --> 0:30:22.245
<v Speaker 1>really shy, like shocking me shy. She could barely look

0:30:22.325 --> 0:30:24.805
<v Speaker 1>up look at me. She just she raised her eyes,

0:30:24.885 --> 0:30:26.685
<v Speaker 1>she looked at me and she gave me a nude

0:30:27.285 --> 0:30:30.605
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, oh, it's on. And then we've

0:30:30.765 --> 0:30:37.605
<v Speaker 1>been able to achieve connection despite what we can't feel,

0:30:37.965 --> 0:30:42.165
<v Speaker 1>what we can feel is phenomenal. What we can embrace

0:30:42.405 --> 0:30:44.045
<v Speaker 1>and what you know, it takes a team of people

0:30:44.205 --> 0:30:46.565
<v Speaker 1>for us to another couple the kiss together, but it

0:30:46.685 --> 0:30:48.965
<v Speaker 1>makes it mean more when we have to work so.

0:30:49.085 --> 0:30:49.765
<v Speaker 3>Hard for it.

0:30:50.365 --> 0:30:52.965
<v Speaker 1>You know, our shared life experience, when we go on

0:30:53.125 --> 0:30:56.125
<v Speaker 1>holiday together it means more because we have to work

0:30:56.165 --> 0:30:59.485
<v Speaker 1>harder for it. And then, you know, every orgasm that

0:30:59.645 --> 0:31:03.245
<v Speaker 1>we both give each other it means more because we're

0:31:03.245 --> 0:31:05.845
<v Speaker 1>having an orgasm below our level of injuries, something that

0:31:06.005 --> 0:31:10.085
<v Speaker 1>most people say it's unachievable. I'm like, no, I don't

0:31:10.205 --> 0:31:13.965
<v Speaker 1>accept that reality. So yeah, I'm a prime numbers man.

0:31:14.325 --> 0:31:17.565
<v Speaker 1>I ain't happy until she said at least eleven, maybe thirty.

0:31:18.765 --> 0:31:21.085
<v Speaker 1>But I tell you a really funny story. And she

0:31:21.205 --> 0:31:23.725
<v Speaker 1>doesn't mind me saying this. Asked her for a permission.

0:31:23.885 --> 0:31:27.205
<v Speaker 3>What's her name? By the way, her name is Rosy Rosie.

0:31:27.325 --> 0:31:29.405
<v Speaker 1>But anyway, this is a great story. So we was

0:31:29.485 --> 0:31:34.125
<v Speaker 1>in Thailand two years ago and we got both got

0:31:34.245 --> 0:31:37.205
<v Speaker 1>hoisted on a couch. We're watching a film together. We've

0:31:37.205 --> 0:31:40.205
<v Speaker 1>already had our first kiss. We're sitting under the couch

0:31:40.965 --> 0:31:46.085
<v Speaker 1>and we used our phones to call people. So do

0:31:46.205 --> 0:31:49.925
<v Speaker 1>we Yeah, but we have to use voice control to

0:31:50.165 --> 0:31:51.685
<v Speaker 1>ask someone to come and help us.

0:31:51.805 --> 0:31:52.565
<v Speaker 3>Okay, yes.

0:31:53.045 --> 0:31:55.845
<v Speaker 1>So her phone's on the armrest next to her, My

0:31:56.005 --> 0:31:59.605
<v Speaker 1>phone's on my leg next to me, and I'm sitting

0:31:59.645 --> 0:32:02.485
<v Speaker 1>there and she's got a skirl and I've got a

0:32:02.605 --> 0:32:04.525
<v Speaker 1>carecter cut and nickers off because they were just getting

0:32:04.565 --> 0:32:07.925
<v Speaker 1>in the way, and I was just fuck it on

0:32:08.045 --> 0:32:11.325
<v Speaker 1>going for it. So I leant over to perform our sex,

0:32:13.405 --> 0:32:17.725
<v Speaker 1>not realizing half an hour later that both her phone

0:32:17.845 --> 0:32:21.085
<v Speaker 1>is falling off the sofa and down by the cushions,

0:32:21.285 --> 0:32:24.085
<v Speaker 1>and my phone is falling down by the cushions. So

0:32:24.725 --> 0:32:27.925
<v Speaker 1>I've only got one arm, like with half a muscle

0:32:27.965 --> 0:32:32.285
<v Speaker 1>on it. So now I realized that I'm stuck. So

0:32:32.645 --> 0:32:34.885
<v Speaker 1>my first portal call is but we've got to call someone.

0:32:35.045 --> 0:32:37.725
<v Speaker 1>We were laughing about it. It's funny, and I'm.

0:32:37.565 --> 0:32:40.525
<v Speaker 2>Stuck, so we go like, hey, Siri, Like so we're

0:32:40.565 --> 0:32:44.965
<v Speaker 2>asking Siri, and it's not hearing us.

0:32:45.485 --> 0:32:48.885
<v Speaker 3>Oh all right, because it's smothered in the cushions.

0:32:48.725 --> 0:32:51.805
<v Speaker 2>Because it's smiling in the cushions. So now I was

0:32:51.845 --> 0:32:53.205
<v Speaker 2>stuck on my partner like.

0:32:53.285 --> 0:33:00.925
<v Speaker 1>This, oh, trying like literal we breatheing through her never

0:33:01.045 --> 0:33:04.765
<v Speaker 1>regions like a scuba diver while simultaneously trying to shout

0:33:04.805 --> 0:33:07.045
<v Speaker 1>from my phone. And we were stuck there for like

0:33:07.525 --> 0:33:11.325
<v Speaker 1>forty five minutes before or just one of our candygivers

0:33:11.445 --> 0:33:15.085
<v Speaker 1>just open the door upstairs, like you guys are. Rose

0:33:15.125 --> 0:33:19.045
<v Speaker 1>is softly spoken, and she was like no kind of

0:33:19.125 --> 0:33:21.365
<v Speaker 1>needs to help when they come down and rescue me.

0:33:21.765 --> 0:33:24.205
<v Speaker 1>And as I was pulled up by the candgiver that

0:33:24.445 --> 0:33:27.005
<v Speaker 1>all I said was tell missus Huggs, he died the

0:33:27.045 --> 0:33:27.885
<v Speaker 1>way he wanted to.

0:33:28.485 --> 0:33:32.205
<v Speaker 3>You know that we find.

0:33:31.965 --> 0:33:35.045
<v Speaker 2>Ourselves in situations like that all the time.

0:33:35.725 --> 0:33:39.365
<v Speaker 1>Now we can ever make light of it and embrace

0:33:39.485 --> 0:33:43.085
<v Speaker 1>it as a comedic moment, or we can let it

0:33:43.325 --> 0:33:48.085
<v Speaker 1>really break us down and dehumanize us. And I refuse

0:33:49.005 --> 0:33:53.685
<v Speaker 1>to not find shit funny because everything in life is

0:33:53.965 --> 0:33:56.205
<v Speaker 1>laughable because if you don't, you forget it.

0:33:56.725 --> 0:33:59.405
<v Speaker 3>That reminds me of something that you said when you

0:33:59.645 --> 0:34:03.685
<v Speaker 3>said after the accident to your family and your friends,

0:34:04.885 --> 0:34:08.965
<v Speaker 3>try and hope for me to be happy like I am, ye,

0:34:09.605 --> 0:34:13.325
<v Speaker 3>happy like you want me to be, which was so

0:34:13.805 --> 0:34:18.965
<v Speaker 3>powerful for people at many levels in how we love people.

0:34:19.365 --> 0:34:22.565
<v Speaker 1>Everybody looks at my story and goes, eat a musk's

0:34:22.605 --> 0:34:25.165
<v Speaker 1>going to get you walking again, you know, or you know,

0:34:25.845 --> 0:34:28.685
<v Speaker 1>let's we're going to end paralysis and all that. And

0:34:29.205 --> 0:34:32.645
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, yeah, great, we should pursue that because it's

0:34:33.565 --> 0:34:37.685
<v Speaker 1>like a life changing, life sentencing thing. But we should

0:34:37.725 --> 0:34:42.445
<v Speaker 1>also try and accept and push for a society that

0:34:42.685 --> 0:34:44.725
<v Speaker 1>does see me and accept me for who I am,

0:34:45.045 --> 0:34:47.605
<v Speaker 1>because regardless of spinal cord injury being fixable or not,

0:34:48.085 --> 0:34:51.125
<v Speaker 1>there will always be children born into wheelchairs. There will

0:34:51.165 --> 0:34:55.365
<v Speaker 1>always be elderly people needing wheelchairs to navigate society you

0:34:55.445 --> 0:34:59.645
<v Speaker 1>know yourself, including disability is not if, but when for

0:34:59.925 --> 0:35:03.845
<v Speaker 1>all of us. And we're all focusing on these silly

0:35:03.925 --> 0:35:09.045
<v Speaker 1>little issues right now that talk about very important for

0:35:09.565 --> 0:35:14.365
<v Speaker 1>marginalized people in society. But my community is the ones

0:35:14.525 --> 0:35:19.725
<v Speaker 1>that you know governments always think less than. And I

0:35:19.765 --> 0:35:22.805
<v Speaker 1>will say to everyone, if you are able to live

0:35:22.965 --> 0:35:25.965
<v Speaker 1>like this, then you are more that because you are

0:35:26.045 --> 0:35:29.645
<v Speaker 1>a great problem solver. You've been able to navigate great

0:35:29.725 --> 0:35:34.525
<v Speaker 1>difficulty and you've still been able to remember that their

0:35:34.725 --> 0:35:37.645
<v Speaker 1>happiness can be found leaving in the darkest of places.

0:35:38.605 --> 0:35:42.445
<v Speaker 3>You know, because you had always lived a life that

0:35:42.765 --> 0:35:47.245
<v Speaker 3>was characterized by is it a lack of fear that

0:35:47.365 --> 0:35:49.605
<v Speaker 3>a stuntman has? No?

0:35:50.205 --> 0:35:50.685
<v Speaker 2>Not at all?

0:35:50.885 --> 0:35:54.365
<v Speaker 1>I thought, is it it was the ability to embrace

0:35:54.525 --> 0:35:56.125
<v Speaker 1>the fear and overcome it.

0:35:56.405 --> 0:35:56.685
<v Speaker 3>It's not.

0:35:57.645 --> 0:36:01.885
<v Speaker 1>It's definitely the ability to say, all right, that's scary,

0:36:02.205 --> 0:36:05.965
<v Speaker 1>but I'm confident enough in who I am and my

0:36:06.085 --> 0:36:10.725
<v Speaker 1>ability and my conviction to be able to achieve the impossible.

0:36:11.205 --> 0:36:15.845
<v Speaker 1>Now that goes the same for gymnastics, Formula one drivers,

0:36:16.365 --> 0:36:19.805
<v Speaker 1>anybody that has to navigate something that's quite sketchy, even

0:36:19.885 --> 0:36:22.605
<v Speaker 1>people in Australia that get in the water with a

0:36:22.685 --> 0:36:25.605
<v Speaker 1>sharp you know, you know you're getting in and you know, oh,

0:36:25.685 --> 0:36:29.605
<v Speaker 1>there could be could be the day that I lose,

0:36:29.965 --> 0:36:32.485
<v Speaker 1>But you still get in because the ocean is a

0:36:32.525 --> 0:36:38.045
<v Speaker 1>beautiful thing and you know you can't compartmentalize the risk

0:36:38.485 --> 0:36:43.565
<v Speaker 1>and you take navigated, calculating risks to achieve.

0:36:45.085 --> 0:36:46.885
<v Speaker 2>You know, the storytelling process.

0:36:47.245 --> 0:36:50.845
<v Speaker 1>So I take great comfort in the fact that despite

0:36:51.125 --> 0:36:55.045
<v Speaker 1>where I am in my life because of Harry Potter,

0:36:55.845 --> 0:36:59.765
<v Speaker 1>my contribution to those films brings comfort and joy to

0:36:59.885 --> 0:37:01.325
<v Speaker 1>people every.

0:37:01.085 --> 0:37:02.525
<v Speaker 2>Single day around the world.

0:37:02.925 --> 0:37:06.925
<v Speaker 1>There are kids in conflict zones right now, petrified their

0:37:07.325 --> 0:37:09.525
<v Speaker 1>part of their parents. Put Harry Potter on a own

0:37:09.565 --> 0:37:12.645
<v Speaker 1>in front of them and it helps them escape their reality.

0:37:12.805 --> 0:37:16.405
<v Speaker 1>There are people struggling with mental health issues right now

0:37:17.005 --> 0:37:22.645
<v Speaker 1>that are always like turning to those films to help

0:37:22.685 --> 0:37:24.125
<v Speaker 1>them get through a tough time.

0:37:24.805 --> 0:37:28.965
<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I'm very very grateful.

0:37:28.565 --> 0:37:32.085
<v Speaker 1>That I was able to contribute to that fact for

0:37:32.565 --> 0:37:35.405
<v Speaker 1>tons and tons of people, and say with this podcast

0:37:35.525 --> 0:37:38.685
<v Speaker 1>now right I get to share my perspective and hopefully

0:37:38.805 --> 0:37:42.045
<v Speaker 1>someone goes, you know what you know that's helped me

0:37:42.165 --> 0:37:45.645
<v Speaker 1>today and wicked, I think you came for that and

0:37:45.925 --> 0:37:49.205
<v Speaker 1>for me and the people that helped love me to

0:37:49.325 --> 0:37:50.485
<v Speaker 1>being the person I am.

0:37:53.725 --> 0:37:57.205
<v Speaker 3>That's not all of my conversation with David Holmes coming up.

0:37:57.765 --> 0:38:01.245
<v Speaker 3>We talk about the close and enduring bond that David

0:38:01.285 --> 0:38:05.125
<v Speaker 3>has with Daniel Radcliffe and Tom Felton. We'll be right back.

0:38:08.645 --> 0:38:12.165
<v Speaker 3>At what point did you and I don't imagine it

0:38:12.285 --> 0:38:15.045
<v Speaker 3>was a critical defining moment. I imagine that it was

0:38:15.125 --> 0:38:18.845
<v Speaker 3>maybe a gradual realization, But at what point did you

0:38:19.965 --> 0:38:24.885
<v Speaker 3>realize that your approach to physical fear you would now

0:38:25.125 --> 0:38:31.365
<v Speaker 3>have to turn into a different approach for your life

0:38:31.565 --> 0:38:32.605
<v Speaker 3>as you now know us.

0:38:33.925 --> 0:38:36.445
<v Speaker 2>I think that's a gradual process that's always tested.

0:38:37.925 --> 0:38:40.605
<v Speaker 1>I think, you know, someone asked me on social media

0:38:40.805 --> 0:38:43.525
<v Speaker 1>recently or I put up a post about me being

0:38:43.565 --> 0:38:46.085
<v Speaker 1>in a Liz Holy film and it just got picked

0:38:46.165 --> 0:38:49.405
<v Speaker 1>up by just like the land of misogyny on social

0:38:49.485 --> 0:38:52.805
<v Speaker 1>media and someone I was trying to defend it. I

0:38:52.965 --> 0:38:55.085
<v Speaker 1>was like, come on, can we just be a little

0:38:55.125 --> 0:38:58.605
<v Speaker 1>bit respectful? You know, we've all got wives or partners

0:38:58.725 --> 0:39:01.885
<v Speaker 1>or sisters or daughters in our life. And just think

0:39:01.925 --> 0:39:04.845
<v Speaker 1>if someone was talking about your loved one like that,

0:39:05.525 --> 0:39:08.085
<v Speaker 1>and then all the boys that were saying all these

0:39:08.125 --> 0:39:10.725
<v Speaker 1>several things jumped on top of and someone said you

0:39:10.805 --> 0:39:13.085
<v Speaker 1>knew here. I was like, Well, to be honest, I'm

0:39:13.085 --> 0:39:14.125
<v Speaker 1>a new person every day.

0:39:14.845 --> 0:39:15.485
<v Speaker 2>We all are.

0:39:16.325 --> 0:39:18.565
<v Speaker 1>Every single day the sun comes up, We've got the

0:39:18.605 --> 0:39:22.485
<v Speaker 1>opportunity to be a new person. And I feel that

0:39:23.445 --> 0:39:28.605
<v Speaker 1>in society where we've championed the rights of others and

0:39:28.765 --> 0:39:35.285
<v Speaker 1>women especially, we should always realize that when one gains

0:39:35.325 --> 0:39:38.445
<v Speaker 1>another one doesn't have to lose another, one doesn't.

0:39:38.205 --> 0:39:39.685
<v Speaker 2>Have to be threatened, you know.

0:39:40.005 --> 0:39:43.365
<v Speaker 1>And there's a team of young men right now, I

0:39:43.485 --> 0:39:46.245
<v Speaker 1>say team, there's a generation of young men right now

0:39:46.805 --> 0:39:50.925
<v Speaker 1>that are looking to outside sources to try and work

0:39:50.965 --> 0:39:54.405
<v Speaker 1>out what it is to be a map. So I

0:39:55.365 --> 0:40:00.205
<v Speaker 1>would always say that conviction of who you are comes

0:40:00.245 --> 0:40:05.205
<v Speaker 1>from accountability. Are you accountable for who you are to

0:40:05.325 --> 0:40:07.525
<v Speaker 1>this day? Are we accountable?

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<v Speaker 3>On? This conversation interesting because I know Daniel Radcliffe and

0:40:12.925 --> 0:40:19.045
<v Speaker 3>Tom Felton described you as an older brother to them. Yeah,

0:40:20.085 --> 0:40:22.205
<v Speaker 3>Dan Radcliffe said, an older brother that had spent his

0:40:22.325 --> 0:40:26.725
<v Speaker 3>whole life wanting and then when you had the accident,

0:40:27.765 --> 0:40:33.925
<v Speaker 3>because you had that physical sort of prowess and superiority

0:40:34.085 --> 0:40:38.525
<v Speaker 3>taken away from you, how did that relationship change because

0:40:38.525 --> 0:40:40.965
<v Speaker 3>there's such deep affection and love there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:40:42.125 --> 0:40:45.645
<v Speaker 1>So they were young to have to see me like

0:40:45.765 --> 0:40:48.565
<v Speaker 1>that with wied in me and stuff hanging out my

0:40:48.685 --> 0:40:52.365
<v Speaker 1>nose and you know, even some stage's fire for breath,

0:40:53.605 --> 0:40:58.365
<v Speaker 1>and they were my bedside between breaks and filming, and

0:40:58.765 --> 0:41:04.405
<v Speaker 1>they kept it together and they for me being brave

0:41:04.485 --> 0:41:08.165
<v Speaker 1>for them on camera all those years and help giving

0:41:08.245 --> 0:41:13.245
<v Speaker 1>them the some of the foundation on what it's like

0:41:13.365 --> 0:41:16.845
<v Speaker 1>to be a little bit older and to have a

0:41:16.925 --> 0:41:21.245
<v Speaker 1>little bit of success or whatever it is. They got

0:41:21.285 --> 0:41:24.165
<v Speaker 1>the opportunity to flip that and be braave for me,

0:41:24.885 --> 0:41:28.405
<v Speaker 1>and I look back on top of that while still

0:41:28.485 --> 0:41:32.405
<v Speaker 1>navigating the pressures of finishing off the biggest film franchise

0:41:32.525 --> 0:41:38.405
<v Speaker 1>in history. Well yeah, so, yeah, So I'm very grateful

0:41:39.005 --> 0:41:43.765
<v Speaker 1>for who they are that day and this day. They

0:41:43.845 --> 0:41:48.765
<v Speaker 1>are amazing human beings that carry the torch of what

0:41:48.885 --> 0:41:51.525
<v Speaker 1>they were part of and will do for the rest

0:41:51.605 --> 0:41:52.165
<v Speaker 1>of their life.

0:41:52.405 --> 0:41:58.285
<v Speaker 3>It's interesting because you're talking about people who had a

0:41:58.485 --> 0:42:03.285
<v Speaker 3>constancy to them and showed bravery for you as you

0:42:03.485 --> 0:42:05.605
<v Speaker 3>said when you needed it, as you had tried to

0:42:05.725 --> 0:42:09.485
<v Speaker 3>show in your role for them. But watching the DOCI

0:42:09.605 --> 0:42:14.005
<v Speaker 3>entry in particular, what I was so struck by was

0:42:14.045 --> 0:42:18.645
<v Speaker 3>the relationship with you and Greg Powell, who got you

0:42:18.845 --> 0:42:22.245
<v Speaker 3>into who was a father figure to you when you

0:42:22.405 --> 0:42:24.045
<v Speaker 3>were a young stunty, who.

0:42:24.005 --> 0:42:24.845
<v Speaker 2>Was my film father.

0:42:25.085 --> 0:42:28.365
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, he was one of the men, like my

0:42:28.485 --> 0:42:32.365
<v Speaker 1>gymnastics coaches, that helped me and loved me to be

0:42:32.525 --> 0:42:35.245
<v Speaker 1>the man that I am. And despite the fact and

0:42:35.605 --> 0:42:39.165
<v Speaker 1>our relationship like had what happened to me in it,

0:42:40.085 --> 0:42:42.565
<v Speaker 1>I still love him like deaddy and look up to

0:42:42.685 --> 0:42:44.885
<v Speaker 1>him and aspire.

0:42:44.725 --> 0:42:47.485
<v Speaker 2>To always make him proud.

0:42:48.885 --> 0:42:53.165
<v Speaker 1>And there are worse things to have in your life

0:42:53.285 --> 0:42:58.325
<v Speaker 1>than good men that will always.

0:42:59.445 --> 0:43:00.925
<v Speaker 2>Have your back, you know what I mean?

0:43:01.245 --> 0:43:04.805
<v Speaker 3>It was it was knowing what the nature of your

0:43:05.325 --> 0:43:09.525
<v Speaker 3>relationship had been, and how paternal and beautiful and us

0:43:09.765 --> 0:43:12.205
<v Speaker 3>it was how he guided you through those stunts and

0:43:12.565 --> 0:43:16.005
<v Speaker 3>had such a deep love for you. And then he

0:43:16.205 --> 0:43:20.685
<v Speaker 3>said he was the last person to hold you when

0:43:20.725 --> 0:43:23.605
<v Speaker 3>you could walk, and he was the first person to

0:43:23.725 --> 0:43:25.165
<v Speaker 3>hold you when you couldn't walk.

0:43:25.965 --> 0:43:29.965
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, messed up so and.

0:43:30.085 --> 0:43:32.205
<v Speaker 3>He can't he can't handle it though.

0:43:32.685 --> 0:43:35.925
<v Speaker 1>No, I know, because that's that generation of men that

0:43:36.645 --> 0:43:41.165
<v Speaker 1>would bottle up emotion instead of being able to articulate it.

0:43:41.805 --> 0:43:46.245
<v Speaker 1>And as we are, I mean, there's a push now

0:43:46.845 --> 0:43:50.365
<v Speaker 1>for that idea of masculinity to come back a little bit.

0:43:50.645 --> 0:43:54.525
<v Speaker 3>And there is a point of Gars smoking. He's a

0:43:54.565 --> 0:43:55.885
<v Speaker 3>cigar smoker.

0:43:55.885 --> 0:44:00.285
<v Speaker 1>The Gars smoking, tony soprano, bad boy, gangster because of

0:44:01.205 --> 0:44:04.445
<v Speaker 1>his background. You know, his dad was a you know,

0:44:05.405 --> 0:44:09.325
<v Speaker 1>an unlicensed boxer and then licensed boxer and then celebrity.

0:44:09.365 --> 0:44:12.645
<v Speaker 2>He's some man and navigated some of the criminal.

0:44:12.405 --> 0:44:17.405
<v Speaker 1>Underworld in London and all of those things that make

0:44:17.605 --> 0:44:20.445
<v Speaker 1>him the man that he is and the life lessons

0:44:20.485 --> 0:44:23.045
<v Speaker 1>that make him the man that he is. But I

0:44:23.165 --> 0:44:26.525
<v Speaker 1>always take it back to we're all children, ones, right,

0:44:26.685 --> 0:44:29.485
<v Speaker 1>And if Greg and me were in a playground and

0:44:29.645 --> 0:44:34.285
<v Speaker 1>he accidentally knocked me over and I was crying and

0:44:34.525 --> 0:44:39.845
<v Speaker 1>then he got upset and me getting upset, then I

0:44:39.885 --> 0:44:43.565
<v Speaker 1>would want to comfort that child, you know what I mean,

0:44:45.245 --> 0:44:48.045
<v Speaker 1>so we will remember that we're all babies.

0:44:48.125 --> 0:44:54.085
<v Speaker 3>Ones. I find that your capacity to understand that incredible.

0:44:54.725 --> 0:44:59.525
<v Speaker 3>Thanks me, I really do, because it seems sometimes that

0:44:59.725 --> 0:45:01.685
<v Speaker 3>I think when you're in the situation that you're in,

0:45:01.805 --> 0:45:05.365
<v Speaker 3>aw I had a son who was bravely ill with leukemia,

0:45:05.885 --> 0:45:09.445
<v Speaker 3>and sometimes you find yourself cast in the role of

0:45:09.565 --> 0:45:12.085
<v Speaker 3>not only having to deal with the shiitthand that you've

0:45:12.125 --> 0:45:18.485
<v Speaker 3>been dealt, but also comforting the people around you. How

0:45:19.245 --> 0:45:20.205
<v Speaker 3>is that pressure?

0:45:20.965 --> 0:45:27.085
<v Speaker 1>It's can either embrace or you can try and run

0:45:27.125 --> 0:45:28.845
<v Speaker 1>away from it very head in this ad. But the

0:45:28.925 --> 0:45:31.205
<v Speaker 1>problem is still going to be that, you know what

0:45:31.285 --> 0:45:34.405
<v Speaker 1>I mean, Like, there's only so much avoidance. We will

0:45:34.445 --> 0:45:37.405
<v Speaker 1>go for our life trying to run away from pain,

0:45:38.365 --> 0:45:40.845
<v Speaker 1>but it's inevitable if your archae or not.

0:45:42.205 --> 0:45:43.165
<v Speaker 2>So you can.

0:45:44.765 --> 0:45:49.525
<v Speaker 1>Share your see others share your pain and come to

0:45:49.605 --> 0:45:52.645
<v Speaker 1>an understanding that you can work as a team to

0:45:52.725 --> 0:45:58.205
<v Speaker 1>get through it. Or you can't take someone's pain away

0:45:58.285 --> 0:46:01.965
<v Speaker 1>from them, but you can be there for them when

0:46:02.005 --> 0:46:04.245
<v Speaker 1>they're going through it, you know what I mean, Like

0:46:04.525 --> 0:46:07.645
<v Speaker 1>your son, you couldn't take that away from it. You know,

0:46:08.005 --> 0:46:12.045
<v Speaker 1>you are fighting your own voldemont in your family, your

0:46:12.085 --> 0:46:13.965
<v Speaker 1>own demon, and you couldn't stot it.

0:46:14.325 --> 0:46:17.005
<v Speaker 2>But you could just be.

0:46:18.605 --> 0:46:24.445
<v Speaker 1>And like as a mum should I say, it's your job,

0:46:24.485 --> 0:46:28.605
<v Speaker 1>It's not, it's you. It's your blessing.

0:46:29.405 --> 0:46:30.045
<v Speaker 2>That's what it is.

0:46:30.085 --> 0:46:32.525
<v Speaker 1>It's your blessing to be able to do that. It's

0:46:32.565 --> 0:46:35.725
<v Speaker 1>a blessing to be able to hold someone's hand when

0:46:35.765 --> 0:46:37.085
<v Speaker 1>they're going through something.

0:46:37.365 --> 0:46:39.645
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes it's a really painful blessing.

0:46:40.765 --> 0:46:45.405
<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah, But nothing's free in life, right, nothing? No,

0:46:45.805 --> 0:46:49.645
<v Speaker 1>nothing's for free. No, not in any like there's no

0:46:49.965 --> 0:46:54.205
<v Speaker 1>free mills. You know, we sit there reading stories about

0:46:54.285 --> 0:46:58.045
<v Speaker 1>horrendous things on these digital devices, going oh, that's shocking,

0:46:58.125 --> 0:47:00.805
<v Speaker 1>And then you've got realized that the digital device that's

0:47:00.885 --> 0:47:04.925
<v Speaker 1>in your hand is built and mind through people that

0:47:05.005 --> 0:47:07.365
<v Speaker 1>are working in horendous circumstances.

0:47:08.205 --> 0:47:12.925
<v Speaker 2>So you know, there's always a contradiction. Nothing is for free.

0:47:13.725 --> 0:47:16.485
<v Speaker 3>How futuristically do you think for yourself?

0:47:16.605 --> 0:47:16.765
<v Speaker 1>Now?

0:47:18.285 --> 0:47:20.485
<v Speaker 2>Try not to. I have to because I have to

0:47:20.565 --> 0:47:21.525
<v Speaker 2>navigate my life with.

0:47:23.165 --> 0:47:25.965
<v Speaker 1>A relationship with my partner and hurricane teams and just

0:47:26.165 --> 0:47:29.405
<v Speaker 1>trying to get together in a relationship that's three hundred

0:47:29.445 --> 0:47:34.925
<v Speaker 1>miles apart, and booking podcasts and writing books and going

0:47:35.005 --> 0:47:38.725
<v Speaker 1>on holiday and so I have to try and playing

0:47:38.765 --> 0:47:42.605
<v Speaker 1>ahead as much as possible. But the more you put

0:47:42.725 --> 0:47:45.805
<v Speaker 1>in front of it, the more present you can be

0:47:46.045 --> 0:47:49.645
<v Speaker 1>in the moment, you know what I mean. So this morning,

0:47:49.765 --> 0:47:53.605
<v Speaker 1>whilst I was playing puppeteer on the toilet sea while

0:47:53.725 --> 0:47:57.165
<v Speaker 1>playing with the puppet. I should say I was just

0:47:57.245 --> 0:47:59.565
<v Speaker 1>having to think of what did I want to share

0:47:59.645 --> 0:48:02.485
<v Speaker 1>with you today. You know this is a no filter podcast.

0:48:02.645 --> 0:48:05.245
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to share that story on the fact that

0:48:06.005 --> 0:48:09.725
<v Speaker 1>me and Rosie had two quadriplegics having the best sex life,

0:48:10.165 --> 0:48:13.965
<v Speaker 1>So there is hope that you haven't lost that sexual relationship.

0:48:14.605 --> 0:48:19.245
<v Speaker 3>Do you feel differently us having this conversation now than

0:48:19.285 --> 0:48:22.045
<v Speaker 3>you would have had before you met Rosie because there

0:48:22.165 --> 0:48:24.805
<v Speaker 3>was a period in your life that was yeah.

0:48:24.965 --> 0:48:31.765
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, definitely yeah. I didn't think that was on my journey.

0:48:32.525 --> 0:48:37.045
<v Speaker 1>I didn't think that sharing life and love outside of

0:48:37.245 --> 0:48:41.165
<v Speaker 1>my support network and friends was on my journey. But

0:48:41.725 --> 0:48:44.765
<v Speaker 1>in that song that I recommend to your lovely producer, Grace,

0:48:45.685 --> 0:48:48.765
<v Speaker 1>the song was by k Tempest and the song is

0:48:48.845 --> 0:48:51.725
<v Speaker 1>called Grace, and in it there's a line that said,

0:48:51.765 --> 0:48:55.965
<v Speaker 1>when I stopped looking for me, I found you, and

0:48:56.125 --> 0:48:59.245
<v Speaker 1>that for us, the two of us, we're constantly looking

0:48:59.405 --> 0:49:02.845
<v Speaker 1>for ourselves with living with a spinal cord injury. How

0:49:02.965 --> 0:49:05.885
<v Speaker 1>am I going to get through the hudhips today? How

0:49:05.925 --> 0:49:08.125
<v Speaker 1>am I going to navigate? Someone get me out of it?

0:49:08.405 --> 0:49:12.005
<v Speaker 1>Someone else with me goes toilet, someone helping me eat someone.

0:49:12.125 --> 0:49:16.405
<v Speaker 2>You know. But when you yield to all of that,

0:49:17.245 --> 0:49:20.325
<v Speaker 2>and yield to those pressures and yield to who am

0:49:20.405 --> 0:49:22.765
<v Speaker 2>I now? I've got a broken neck and my listener.

0:49:23.045 --> 0:49:26.165
<v Speaker 2>When you just let go of all that, then you

0:49:26.645 --> 0:49:30.765
<v Speaker 2>can embrace the gift of life. So the gift of

0:49:31.445 --> 0:49:35.885
<v Speaker 2>my life now is my rosing, and I'm very very grateful.

0:49:35.965 --> 0:49:39.085
<v Speaker 2>I love it dearly, and despite how hard it is

0:49:39.165 --> 0:49:44.365
<v Speaker 2>for both of us, it's the most beautiful spiritual thing

0:49:44.725 --> 0:49:48.285
<v Speaker 2>that I've experienced. And I grew up in a church

0:49:48.325 --> 0:49:53.125
<v Speaker 2>and my dad's a Baptist, so a Baptist minister, not

0:49:53.245 --> 0:49:55.405
<v Speaker 2>a full time minister. He's just a deacon.

0:49:55.885 --> 0:49:58.205
<v Speaker 1>So he has faith and he turns the scripture to

0:49:58.245 --> 0:50:01.685
<v Speaker 1>help him navigate his mental health. I have to hold

0:50:01.725 --> 0:50:04.485
<v Speaker 1>my breath underwater and do meditation for as long as possible.

0:50:05.045 --> 0:50:06.765
<v Speaker 3>Are you vevim halffing? Ah?

0:50:06.925 --> 0:50:10.925
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well I do, because breaming speed swallows on my radar.

0:50:11.165 --> 0:50:12.965
<v Speaker 1>I'm not just going to sit in that that happen.

0:50:13.405 --> 0:50:16.845
<v Speaker 1>So I do breath work, breathwork in a fifty degree

0:50:16.845 --> 0:50:20.445
<v Speaker 1>stem room every morning and every evening, and then in

0:50:21.005 --> 0:50:23.645
<v Speaker 1>twenty minutes, my physio turns up and I'm going to

0:50:23.685 --> 0:50:25.765
<v Speaker 1>sit at the bottom of my swimming pool. I sit

0:50:25.845 --> 0:50:28.765
<v Speaker 1>on a scuba bowl, and I will breathe and then

0:50:28.885 --> 0:50:32.565
<v Speaker 1>hold my breath for as long as physically possible. Now,

0:50:32.725 --> 0:50:36.085
<v Speaker 1>being that I have no intercostal muscles whatsoever, and I

0:50:36.165 --> 0:50:39.485
<v Speaker 1>only breathe from my diaphragm, you might be amazed that

0:50:39.645 --> 0:50:41.965
<v Speaker 1>my record's four minutes and twenty five seconds.

0:50:42.365 --> 0:50:42.605
<v Speaker 3>Wow.

0:50:43.365 --> 0:50:44.605
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because my brains.

0:50:44.765 --> 0:50:45.485
<v Speaker 3>I am amazed.

0:50:45.685 --> 0:50:49.485
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my brain is. Part of my brain's going you're

0:50:49.485 --> 0:50:51.685
<v Speaker 2>not breathing, You're not breathing, you're not breathing, And the

0:50:51.765 --> 0:50:54.965
<v Speaker 2>other part of me goes, I got you. You know,

0:50:56.445 --> 0:50:57.165
<v Speaker 2>you know I got this.

0:50:57.645 --> 0:50:58.805
<v Speaker 3>That's the stunt man.

0:50:59.005 --> 0:50:59.845
<v Speaker 2>That's the stummail.

0:51:00.165 --> 0:51:00.405
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:51:01.205 --> 0:51:04.205
<v Speaker 1>Today, I'm aiming to get past four minutes, and there

0:51:04.285 --> 0:51:06.485
<v Speaker 1>is not a world record set for a quintia bleeding,

0:51:06.645 --> 0:51:08.165
<v Speaker 1>So I think I'm going to push.

0:51:08.005 --> 0:51:09.085
<v Speaker 2>For a world record this year.

0:51:09.485 --> 0:51:10.325
<v Speaker 3>There's always a goal.

0:51:10.725 --> 0:51:13.205
<v Speaker 2>At least that one. Yeah, at least give someone something

0:51:13.245 --> 0:51:15.405
<v Speaker 2>to aim for. That's like me, you know what I mean.

0:51:15.965 --> 0:51:21.685
<v Speaker 3>Dave Holmes, Yeah, thank you for sharing yourself so much.

0:51:21.805 --> 0:51:25.525
<v Speaker 3>I think you've really taken no filter to another definition.

0:51:26.125 --> 0:51:29.725
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, of course, man, it's yeah, we get one chance.

0:51:29.965 --> 0:51:33.365
<v Speaker 1>In life to and the best thing he's sharing, I think,

0:51:33.925 --> 0:51:39.085
<v Speaker 1>to share the experience of being a dumb monkey on

0:51:39.165 --> 0:51:42.605
<v Speaker 1>a rock, spinning through space with a load of other

0:51:42.805 --> 0:51:44.725
<v Speaker 1>dumb monkeys on a rock, you know what I mean.

0:51:45.045 --> 0:51:48.125
<v Speaker 2>And yeah, it's like I get.

0:51:48.005 --> 0:51:50.165
<v Speaker 1>To do that with a broken neck, and there'll be

0:51:50.285 --> 0:51:54.085
<v Speaker 1>a generation of people behind me that have a spinal

0:51:54.165 --> 0:51:57.405
<v Speaker 1>cord injury that will be like that lost little boy

0:51:57.485 --> 0:52:00.605
<v Speaker 1>that I was in hospital feeling like hope is all gone.

0:52:00.885 --> 0:52:04.285
<v Speaker 1>And then maybe, just maybe they might find my journey

0:52:04.325 --> 0:52:06.245
<v Speaker 1>in my story and it might give them hope.

0:52:06.365 --> 0:52:10.565
<v Speaker 3>So you're not only the boy who lived, You're the

0:52:10.645 --> 0:52:12.045
<v Speaker 3>boy who.

0:52:12.125 --> 0:52:17.405
<v Speaker 1>Is living always yeah, always yeah, embrace the day, Carpe

0:52:17.525 --> 0:52:21.445
<v Speaker 1>dim and all that jazz, yeah and all else fowls.

0:52:21.445 --> 0:52:23.125
<v Speaker 1>You could just row a few fucks to the wind,

0:52:24.285 --> 0:52:28.285
<v Speaker 1>and you know what I mean, Yeah, what are you

0:52:28.325 --> 0:52:30.005
<v Speaker 1>going to do? Is the pride of our life?

0:52:30.045 --> 0:52:32.685
<v Speaker 2>Why you're just going to take it and get the

0:52:32.765 --> 0:52:33.325
<v Speaker 2>best out of it.

0:52:33.725 --> 0:52:35.445
<v Speaker 3>My son was right, You're a legend.

0:52:36.005 --> 0:52:37.045
<v Speaker 2>Oh, thanks very much.

0:52:40.405 --> 0:52:44.805
<v Speaker 3>I don't know what I thought I was expecting before

0:52:44.845 --> 0:52:48.045
<v Speaker 3>I spoke to David Holmes. When you know that you're

0:52:48.045 --> 0:52:51.045
<v Speaker 3>going to meet someone whose life has been identified by

0:52:51.125 --> 0:52:54.125
<v Speaker 3>their physical prowess, and they've had it all taken away

0:52:54.205 --> 0:52:57.965
<v Speaker 3>from them. It would be easy to expect a person

0:52:58.125 --> 0:53:03.405
<v Speaker 3>who is dour, or embittered or angry, and David Holmes

0:53:03.645 --> 0:53:08.365
<v Speaker 3>is none of those. He's uplifting, he brings joy. He's

0:53:08.445 --> 0:53:11.885
<v Speaker 3>quite brilliant, and if you'd like to read David's book

0:53:12.125 --> 0:53:15.365
<v Speaker 3>or watch his documentary, we pop links in the show notes.

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<v Speaker 3>The executive producer of No Filter is Nama Brown and

0:53:19.245 --> 0:53:22.965
<v Speaker 3>the senior producer is Grace Rufree. Audio production is by

0:53:23.045 --> 0:53:25.885
<v Speaker 3>Jacob Brown and I'm your host, Kate Lanebrook. Thank you

0:53:26.325 --> 0:53:26.885
<v Speaker 3>for listening.