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Speaker 1: You're listening to a MoMA Mia podcast.

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Speaker 2: Mom and Maya acknowledges the traditional owners of land and

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Speaker 3: On Unpredictable, Chaotic, hard fun magical.

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Speaker 1: The Baby Bubble with Claire and Jesse Stevens.

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Speaker 2: It's definitely not a parenting advice podcast. Jesse, something I've

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Speaker 2: been really surprised by since having a child is how

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Speaker 2: quickly you can tell their personality, like you know who

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Speaker 2: they are pretty soup. Well, maybe it's like confirmation bias,

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Speaker 2: but like Matilda's almost nine months now, and I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: you were you when you came charging charging out of

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Speaker 2: the van. You looked around and you said, to my

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Speaker 2: the drama and everyone said a little bit, a little bit,

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Speaker 2: And that's why you're my everything. And we've often said

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Speaker 2: that our two girls, despite being technically half half siblings

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Speaker 2: because of their DNA with identical twins, as mums mums,

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Speaker 2: they are very different people. And the thing about Luna

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Speaker 2: and Matilda is that we are able to look at

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Speaker 2: them and be like, Okay, in life, you have Lunas

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Speaker 2: and you have Matilda's.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're only two types pop.

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Speaker 2: There are only two types people, and they are it

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Speaker 2: and so one kind of litmus test I had recently

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Speaker 2: was Matilda goes through a cafe. She gets a baby

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Speaker 2: Chino four cream milk and a pastry.

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Speaker 1: That's the kind of gal. She is like a.

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Speaker 2: Croissan, like a brownie, like a brownie. Okay, all right,

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Speaker 2: yep do Luna Luna? Yeah one, she's like Toserin or

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Speaker 2: she was. She's working through it. So she can't have

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Speaker 2: the foot greenment. No, So Luna has a long black

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Speaker 2: which is wrong a lot for it's heaped because she's

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Speaker 1: I have a long black is you know? One a day?

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Speaker 1: I'm sure it's fine. Yeah, it's not. And a cigarette. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she has sick because she's very her energy is very.

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Speaker 2: It is and she's also I've had this ye she

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Speaker 2: I've spoken to some experts about it who've said she's

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Speaker 2: just not driven by food. We've got some issues with

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Speaker 2: her lack of enthusiastic. She's very like she's very Parisian

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Speaker 2: in that way, whereas Matilda is like a cake.

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Speaker 1: How about pasta?

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Speaker 2: So hang on, they go out to a restaurant, like,

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Speaker 2: is Matilda ordering a steak? So Matilda could order I

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Speaker 2: think like a big creamy pasta, Yeah, a big creamy

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Speaker 2: pasta and a coke, whereas Lunar has a glass of

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Speaker 2: red wine. Yeah, and like she really likes a hot ship. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: like definitely, just aside she's not ordering a mate.

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Speaker 2: And you were saying the other day just in terms

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Speaker 2: of holiday preferences, you we used to play this game. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you can do it with celebrities, with people, you know,

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Speaker 2: I highly recommend. It's called would they holiday to Kuda?

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Speaker 2: And you would choose people in Australia and you'd go

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Speaker 2: Kyle Sandalance for example, he'd love he'd love Koda. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Sofi Munk love Cooter And then you go, okay, how

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Speaker 2: about I was going to say Larry Emda he'd love Cooda.

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Speaker 1: How about how.

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Speaker 2: About like then you go carry bigmore. She wouldn't love Koda, No,

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Speaker 2: Matilda love Cooter. So the thing this is the thing,

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Speaker 2: bintang sing she would, whereas Luna would not be caught

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Speaker 2: deaddah nah, She'd hate it. She'd be like too much noise.

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Speaker 2: I'm more of a Semenyak Galley, Yeah, or Changu.

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Speaker 2: Matilda's still stuck in Kuda having a dance, having the

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Speaker 2: time of her life. Our guest this week is Sam Mack.

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Speaker 2: You know Sam Mack as Sunrise's beloved weather man, traveling

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Speaker 2: He's also an author. He has a debut book called

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Speaker 2: Suddenly One and it is a celebration of the milestones

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Speaker 2: from a baby's first year of life. It is out

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Speaker 2: now and you should definitely go and get it. And

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Speaker 2: most crucially, he's very much back in the baby bubble

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Speaker 2: Welcome Sam, Hello, good, how are you really well?

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Speaker 2: Can you please describe for our listeners what your family

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Speaker 3: Chaos. We are in transition.

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Speaker 4: We've gone from one beautiful daughter to two beautiful daughters

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Speaker 2: Oh God, you're in the newborn bubble again right now.

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Speaker 1: I need to know what you had forgotten, because I

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Speaker 4: to make two videos to make reality. So expectation was, Yes,

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Speaker 4: So eventually, like a lot of parents who just go

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Speaker 4: reality of parenting. It's not what you've planned. You might

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Speaker 2: Can, exactly, and in terms of those kind of expectations

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Speaker 2: a line about babies first fall, and I.

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Speaker 1: Was like, I'm a terrible mother. They got me.

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Speaker 3: How old are your little ones?

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Speaker 2: Mine's eight months, yeah, and Luna is fourteen months?

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, cool, Yes, I'm that book park, Yes, exactly.

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Speaker 2: What we want to know is my little girl loves books, right,

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Speaker 2: Like I think if I ever wrote a children's book.

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Speaker 2: It would blow her little mind when you showed your daughter,

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Speaker 2: look at what daddy has done. Can you even believe

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Speaker 2: it was? She just blown away by your talent and skill.

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Speaker 3: Oh where do I start?

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Speaker 4: I'm glad we've hit on this expectation because well, I'll

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Speaker 3: The backstory first.

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Speaker 2: And everybody should buy suddenly one. Just brace yourself because

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Speaker 1: That's what I like. The ones that are sentimental for me.

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Speaker 4: Well you haven't done this one yet, but soon you'll

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Speaker 2: but that's no. She'll point to the fall one. You

431
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Speaker 2: be like, that's why I've got a booboo on my head. Yeah, yeah,

432
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Speaker 2: I'll be like.

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Speaker 3: Shut up until I look forward to their.

434
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Speaker 2: They'll jump on good Reads, They'll have something to say

435
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Speaker 2: as I always do.

436
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Thank you really nice to chat guys.

437
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Speaker 3: Thanks for having me on Crab Crap Crap Advice.

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Speaker 2: Jesse, it's time for our advice segment. Aham, are you ready?

439
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Speaker 1: Yes.

440
00:20:55,269 --> 00:20:58,989
Speaker 2: My sister looks after my seven months old three days

441
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Speaker 2: a week while I go to work, and I've been

442
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Speaker 2: back at work for a couple of months now. I'm

443
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Speaker 2: so grateful for her help, and I genuinely don't know

444
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Speaker 2: what I would do without her. But she doesn't follow

445
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Speaker 2: any instructions about my baby's day. She feeds her whatever

446
00:21:17,189 --> 00:21:20,589
Speaker 2: she's eating, which isn't usually appropriate for a baby, and

447
00:21:20,669 --> 00:21:22,829
Speaker 2: won't put her down for a nap until she starts

448
00:21:22,829 --> 00:21:26,469
Speaker 2: crying and is clearly overtired. She also makes a huge

449
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Speaker 2: mess in my house, and when I get home, I

450
00:21:28,669 --> 00:21:30,669
Speaker 2: have to clean it up and deal with a baby

451
00:21:30,749 --> 00:21:33,949
Speaker 2: who is out of her routine. How do I tell

452
00:21:33,989 --> 00:21:41,869
Speaker 2: her I need her to try more? Just a quick

453
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Speaker 2: question before we get into it. What do you think

454
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Speaker 2: the food is it isn't appropriate for a baby? And

455
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Speaker 2: why is the first thing that came to my mind

456
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Speaker 2: o Porto. I was more thinking ogarlo. Okay, thinking like

457
00:21:54,829 --> 00:21:57,869
Speaker 2: a burger. M. I think a burger is not appropriate.

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00:21:58,509 --> 00:22:03,589
Speaker 2: KFC isn't fully appropriate. Yeah, yeah, I'm saying that because

459
00:22:03,589 --> 00:22:04,709
Speaker 2: it's a CAFC near your place.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I have gone to KFC while looking after litit.

461
00:22:07,989 --> 00:22:11,429
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, Look, this is actually a really easy one

462
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Speaker 2: and I'm going to go full hure because that's what

463
00:22:14,149 --> 00:22:16,309
Speaker 2: you need to do. You need to put your sister

464
00:22:16,389 --> 00:22:17,549
Speaker 2: on what we call a PIP.

465
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Speaker 1: A PIP is.

466
00:22:19,109 --> 00:22:22,709
Speaker 2: A performance improvedment player gay and she requires one. So

467
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Speaker 2: put a meeting in a diary. Don't say anything face

468
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Speaker 2: to face, Just put a meeting in a diary via zoom.

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Speaker 1: Even if she's in the house.

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Speaker 2: You both have to join, yes, and you can be

471
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Speaker 2: with your baby, and you can be with your baby

472
00:22:33,629 --> 00:22:36,989
Speaker 2: and like change your background so it looks like you're

473
00:22:37,029 --> 00:22:40,189
Speaker 2: in a co working spacestairs. It's very much you and

474
00:22:40,229 --> 00:22:41,349
Speaker 2: your baby against her.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

476
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Speaker 1: Well I think that a complaint has been brought against it.

477
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Speaker 1: You're not there. It's the baby.

478
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Speaker 2: So then you talk about a PIP and you say

479
00:22:51,789 --> 00:22:55,029
Speaker 2: we need to work towards some clearer KPIs, you're being

480
00:22:55,029 --> 00:22:57,549
Speaker 2: performance managed because there are some issues with your performance,

481
00:22:58,189 --> 00:23:02,669
Speaker 2: as indicated by my baby. I would also say that

482
00:23:03,109 --> 00:23:07,029
Speaker 2: when you're being pipped, the surveillance really gets up. So

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Speaker 2: I think follow her around yelling what am I paying

484
00:23:09,469 --> 00:23:13,749
Speaker 2: you for? And from what I gleaned from this? But

485
00:23:15,069 --> 00:23:18,509
Speaker 2: money is changing hands, so I think you make a

486
00:23:18,589 --> 00:23:21,349
Speaker 2: sign a contract. I think you need an official contract,

487
00:23:21,349 --> 00:23:26,029
Speaker 2: and it's like remuneration, nothing but responsibilities.

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Speaker 1: Here are seventeen age.

489
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Speaker 2: And you're really exasperated all the time by your performance,

490
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Speaker 2: and you call it her performance. And then you start,

491
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Speaker 2: as you would in an office, giving bitching about her

492
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Speaker 2: behavior to colleagues. And by colleagues I mean obviously a baby,

493
00:23:39,829 --> 00:23:44,029
Speaker 2: but also like mom, dad, husband, friends. Yeah, start a

494
00:23:44,069 --> 00:23:47,269
Speaker 2: group chat where you just kind of gossip. I've got

495
00:23:47,269 --> 00:23:51,229
Speaker 2: real issues. I've got this employee who're okay, isn't it?

496
00:23:51,749 --> 00:23:52,549
Speaker 1: Isn't that your sister?

497
00:23:52,709 --> 00:23:52,949
Speaker 2: Yeah?

498
00:23:53,069 --> 00:23:54,829
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, Really that.

499
00:23:57,069 --> 00:23:59,509
Speaker 2: In terms of surveillance, you've got a good point. So

500
00:23:59,549 --> 00:24:02,269
Speaker 2: when you're on a PIP, that's when they're like, oh,

501
00:24:02,309 --> 00:24:04,509
Speaker 2: we've got to keep an eye on this person to

502
00:24:04,629 --> 00:24:07,389
Speaker 2: know whether they're filling their KPIs. And in terms of

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00:24:07,429 --> 00:24:13,629
Speaker 2: surveillance by cameras. You need cameras in every corner. But

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00:24:13,709 --> 00:24:15,829
Speaker 2: even if you've got cameras in every corner and you're

505
00:24:15,869 --> 00:24:18,829
Speaker 2: sitting at work watching the cameras, at which point I

506
00:24:18,829 --> 00:24:21,549
Speaker 2: would say maybe you should just be at home. But

507
00:24:21,669 --> 00:24:23,309
Speaker 2: let's say you are just watching my cameras.

508
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Speaker 1: What can you do?

509
00:24:25,669 --> 00:24:27,589
Speaker 2: Oh, so you see her and she's not put the

510
00:24:27,629 --> 00:24:33,429
Speaker 2: baby down, or it's like that thing some people have

511
00:24:33,469 --> 00:24:35,589
Speaker 2: for their dog. Also, the baby needs a camera strapped

512
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Speaker 2: to it so that when she takes the baby out,

513
00:24:37,509 --> 00:24:39,669
Speaker 2: it's like from the baby's perspective.

514
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Speaker 1: It's like the dog thing.

515
00:24:40,229 --> 00:24:42,549
Speaker 2: Yeah, where you compress a thing and you're like God,

516
00:24:42,669 --> 00:24:45,349
Speaker 2: and you yell give her her snack.

517
00:24:45,909 --> 00:24:46,989
Speaker 1: Yeah, you go put her to.

518
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Speaker 2: Bird, you idiot, like you really you're communicating, and your

519
00:24:50,789 --> 00:24:54,269
Speaker 2: baby's gonna love that. She's where mummy, where's mummy? Where's

520
00:24:54,309 --> 00:24:55,229
Speaker 2: mmy coming from?

521
00:24:55,309 --> 00:24:56,189
Speaker 1: Yeah?

522
00:24:56,269 --> 00:24:59,629
Speaker 2: So I think definitely buying cameras. The other thing is

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00:24:59,709 --> 00:25:02,189
Speaker 2: just your idea of obviously you're on a zoom call,

524
00:25:02,309 --> 00:25:05,909
Speaker 2: you're having that HR meeting. I think baby needs to

525
00:25:05,909 --> 00:25:08,509
Speaker 2: give some feedback. I think you're like, look, I've been

526
00:25:08,909 --> 00:25:13,109
Speaker 2: as the both the complaints come to me yeah, but

527
00:25:13,429 --> 00:25:15,909
Speaker 2: I don't want complaints because then I have to act

528
00:25:15,949 --> 00:25:19,349
Speaker 2: on it. But I do want an open line of

529
00:25:19,349 --> 00:25:23,149
Speaker 2: communication in this work Yeah, where people feel they can

530
00:25:23,149 --> 00:25:27,109
Speaker 2: come to me. And so I'll give the floor to baby.

531
00:25:27,149 --> 00:25:30,069
Speaker 2: This is the complaint that was Because it depends on

532
00:25:30,069 --> 00:25:33,389
Speaker 2: the policy. In some workplaces, you wouldn't show the complaint

533
00:25:33,429 --> 00:25:35,629
Speaker 2: directly to the person that it's been made about. But

534
00:25:35,669 --> 00:25:40,509
Speaker 2: in this case, I think it's relevant. And so Baby says, yeah,

535
00:25:40,589 --> 00:25:44,989
Speaker 2: your baby would say My baby would say ga yeah,

536
00:25:45,029 --> 00:25:47,669
Speaker 2: And you say, oh, oh she didn't.

537
00:25:47,949 --> 00:25:48,669
Speaker 1: Did you hear that?

538
00:25:49,229 --> 00:25:56,709
Speaker 2: She's like ga dad dah yeah, dadda interesting mathilda, interesting insight.

539
00:25:56,989 --> 00:25:59,749
Speaker 2: The other thing is just you know, if we are

540
00:25:59,829 --> 00:26:02,269
Speaker 2: going to make this about the workplace as a whole,

541
00:26:02,549 --> 00:26:04,949
Speaker 2: if you've got a pet, the pet joins, you give

542
00:26:04,989 --> 00:26:05,509
Speaker 2: them a mic.

543
00:26:05,749 --> 00:26:09,949
Speaker 1: What have you seen? Oh wow, wow, it's a full intervention.

544
00:26:10,309 --> 00:26:13,509
Speaker 1: Actually it is. But you also need written warnings.

545
00:26:13,949 --> 00:26:18,069
Speaker 2: Oh great, quite publicly like a white Here's the issue

546
00:26:18,069 --> 00:26:21,989
Speaker 2: with the written warnings. You get to three and you

547
00:26:22,109 --> 00:26:26,149
Speaker 2: think still need it. It's time to go. The business

548
00:26:26,189 --> 00:26:28,829
Speaker 2: can't a forge to keep her on. You're not paying her,

549
00:26:29,509 --> 00:26:33,349
Speaker 2: you don't have a backup plan, No, so I feel

550
00:26:33,349 --> 00:26:34,949
Speaker 2: like that's the tricky thing.

551
00:26:35,069 --> 00:26:37,269
Speaker 1: That is a tricky thing. It doesn't mean don't give warnings.

552
00:26:37,349 --> 00:26:38,909
Speaker 2: It just means probably have a plan for what you

553
00:26:38,909 --> 00:26:42,069
Speaker 2: do when you've delivered seventeen of them and she's still

554
00:26:42,069 --> 00:26:47,109
Speaker 2: not changing. Your sister holds a power, unfortunately, unfortunately. Yeah,

555
00:26:47,109 --> 00:26:48,949
Speaker 2: but I do think the camera and you're just giving

556
00:26:48,989 --> 00:26:52,389
Speaker 2: live feedback, Yeah, is a great thing for your workplace.

557
00:26:55,269 --> 00:26:57,909
Speaker 2: We hope you enjoyed not just this episode of The

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Speaker 2: Baby Bubble, but this season and didn't in this entire

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Speaker 2: season of this podcast find anything that could pass as.

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Speaker 1: Helpful, because if you did, we failed. Yeah.

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00:27:10,149 --> 00:27:11,749
Speaker 2: I was going to say, leave it complaint. Please don't

562
00:27:11,789 --> 00:27:14,229
Speaker 2: leave it complaint. Only leave a five star review. Yah,

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Speaker 2: that's the rules here. Thank you so much to all

564
00:27:16,829 --> 00:27:19,389
Speaker 2: of our wonderful guests who have made this season of

565
00:27:19,429 --> 00:27:23,149
Speaker 2: The Baby Bubble so ridiculously fun. We've touched on everything

566
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Speaker 2: from traveling with babies to solo dadding, and even the

567
00:27:26,629 --> 00:27:30,069
Speaker 2: existential crises of the very hungry caterpillar Claire.

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Speaker 1: Have we become wiser? Absolutely not? But did we have fun?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? All episodes of both season one and season two

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Speaker 2: are ready for you to listen. Back to all in

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Speaker 2: the feed right now. If you have someone in your

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Speaker 2: life who's just had a baby needs a little bit

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Speaker 2: of a relief, may we suggest you send it along

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Speaker 2: to them. The Baby Bubble is produced by Taylor Strano

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Speaker 2: with audio production by Teagan Sadler.

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Speaker 1: Bye Bye