WEBVTT - I Made A Woo Woo Deal With The Universe... And It Answered

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I'm Am A mea podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello and welcome to Unleashed, a podcast for gen X

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<v Speaker 2>women who need a laugh. If your brain is full

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<v Speaker 2>and the world is doing your head in, come sit

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<v Speaker 2>with us.

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<v Speaker 3>Who's on the sofa this week?

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<v Speaker 2>Hi?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm Mary Kustis. I'm an actress and rider.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi I'm Sally hit Worth. I'm an author.

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<v Speaker 5>Hire our great slam fashion.

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<v Speaker 3>Stylist Katmahony comedian.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So, wherever you are listening, unclencher jaw, clinch your

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<v Speaker 2>pelvic floor, and get.

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<v Speaker 3>Ready to unleash.

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<v Speaker 5>Let's go.

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<v Speaker 3>In my hand, I have the talking stick.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, So for those new to the show, the talking

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<v Speaker 2>stick means that if you have it in your hand,

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<v Speaker 2>you can talk about anything, any subject.

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<v Speaker 3>And nothing is off limits.

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<v Speaker 2>We will, however, probably interrupt and maybe take the piss

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<v Speaker 2>who wants to start?

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<v Speaker 6>I'll start?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, here we go, Stary Worth.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Cath, I hope you don't mind me speaking for you.

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<v Speaker 1>But to everyone who's listening, Kath went on a date

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<v Speaker 1>this week.

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<v Speaker 2>Cat.

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<v Speaker 3>That is big news. This is big news.

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<v Speaker 1>This is very big news. And the reason I know

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<v Speaker 1>about this is that Kath and I are in a

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<v Speaker 1>group chat together that actually, sorry, you guys aren't in fine,

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<v Speaker 1>they're good, but in fact it's a group chat for writers,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's usually very boring, very rightly. But this week

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<v Speaker 1>Kath who was quite excited about her date. She said

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<v Speaker 1>the date had gone very well. Everyone was very excited

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<v Speaker 1>because the content, as we've said, is not particularly good

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<v Speaker 1>in this chat, and she had some queries about whether

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<v Speaker 1>or not she needed to text him, and the group

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<v Speaker 1>was divided, do you want to walk us through it?

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<v Speaker 2>So I went on this lovely brunch date, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>two hours fifteen minutes. It was fabulous.

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<v Speaker 5>I want to know what does he look like? How

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<v Speaker 5>was the conversation?

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<v Speaker 3>Great hair, oh good.

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<v Speaker 2>Handsome from the UK, So immediately we had all those

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<v Speaker 2>reference points funny, warm, interested, interesting, good style. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>we had like a kiss on the cheek and a

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<v Speaker 2>little squeeze of the hand. But it's I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>been a long time since I've had one of those

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<v Speaker 2>dates where that energy just felt lovely.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so that was a bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Exciting, and you know, I just I'm not chill, so

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to be straight in. Yes, I really

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to text him straight away, but I dropped in

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<v Speaker 2>the group chat to see what the vibe would be

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<v Speaker 2>from the others.

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<v Speaker 4>Nice work.

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<v Speaker 1>So Mons came in strongly producer, mons, do not text

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<v Speaker 1>him first.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm with Mons, Yeah, I agree.

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<v Speaker 1>And then there was the Sally Hipworth side, which was

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<v Speaker 1>saying that we could just thank him for the date,

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<v Speaker 1>make it clear that you're interested, and leave it from there.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you guys think post a good date? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you ever respond or text first?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't like to seem desperate. I just say guys

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<v Speaker 4>like to chase. Let them chase for a minute, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>I think if you're going to text back on the

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<v Speaker 5>same day, it has to be at least a few hours,

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<v Speaker 5>not straight away, because that is too desperate.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think it's about just showing who you are

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<v Speaker 1>from the start to save lots of Have you metcalf?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean she she whill tax him like one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>times in five minutes.

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<v Speaker 5>That's what I'm worried about.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I was also saying that she shouldn't do that,

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<v Speaker 1>so there's a middle ground.

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<v Speaker 2>All I wanted to say to him was are you in?

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<v Speaker 2>I just need to know you're in, So I texted,

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<v Speaker 2>what did you say?

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<v Speaker 4>Mons?

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<v Speaker 3>Are Producer's not happy.

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<v Speaker 1>No, would we agree then that Sally won.

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<v Speaker 6>I think what we need to do. I feel my

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<v Speaker 6>case is being misrepresented. I produce them here. What I

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<v Speaker 6>said to you was do not text him? Yes, capitals,

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<v Speaker 6>do not text him.

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<v Speaker 1>My favorite bit was where you referred to Kath as

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<v Speaker 1>an elusive deer.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I think it's simple psychology. People attribute more value to

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<v Speaker 6>things that are scarce, So scarcity mindset for this man.

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<v Speaker 6>Men are hunters. I know I sound like I'm in

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<v Speaker 6>the nineteen seventies, but I do. I think this particular man,

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<v Speaker 6>he looks like a spear fisherman. He looks like he

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<v Speaker 6>belongs on an episode of Bear Grills. Right, you need

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<v Speaker 6>to be an elusive deer. You need to be mysterious,

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<v Speaker 6>very busy. He needs to feel the thrill of the hunt.

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<v Speaker 6>You need to make yourself scarce so that he attributes

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<v Speaker 6>more value to you. It's simple psychology.

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<v Speaker 1>Bullshit, Man, do you get hunted?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay?

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<v Speaker 6>Deer flee?

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<v Speaker 1>Cath is not a deer a dog. When somebody hunt

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<v Speaker 1>catches a puppy is a rescue puppy. She needs love,

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<v Speaker 1>she needs reassurance, she needs tender heartedness.

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<v Speaker 6>But when a hunter catches a deer sally. They catch

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<v Speaker 6>the deer.

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<v Speaker 3>And journey.

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<v Speaker 6>They mount them above their fireplace, and they go to

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<v Speaker 6>look at my beautiful deer. They go look at my

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<v Speaker 6>prized possession.

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<v Speaker 1>But puppies get love and affection.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you want to be mounted?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sure she does want.

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<v Speaker 5>I just think that you jump in too quickly to yes.

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<v Speaker 5>I think so you have to slow it down and observe.

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<v Speaker 3>I've been single for a long time.

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<v Speaker 5>It's not the point, not with this guy.

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<v Speaker 6>You're busy, you're beautiful, you're brilliant, you're glamorous. Don't be needy,

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<v Speaker 6>don't need I'd.

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<v Speaker 1>Like to pull back to one of my very well

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<v Speaker 1>made points. I think if you don't mind, the fact

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<v Speaker 1>remains hunters often enjoyed the chase more than the relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>The goal isn't to be elusive, It's to be her

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<v Speaker 1>warm hearted self without handing over her whole nervous system.

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<v Speaker 1>By date three, there is a middle ground here. I

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<v Speaker 1>rest my case.

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<v Speaker 6>I agree. I'm not saying you have to be cold

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<v Speaker 6>or elusive. I'm saying just.

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<v Speaker 4>Delay the communication a little bit and don't be the

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<v Speaker 4>person that seems to be needing, you know, a response

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<v Speaker 4>quickly well.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't have to theorize, because in fact, Kath did

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<v Speaker 1>pick a.

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<v Speaker 6>Side because I knew she would.

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<v Speaker 5>She wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>She can't help can end of the day, Let's be clear,

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<v Speaker 2>the whole tide turned Holly Wayne right from Mamma Mia

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<v Speaker 2>out loud is on this group switch switched side.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, I think Sally makes some very good points.

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<v Speaker 2>Mom.

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<v Speaker 1>Sorry, I'm going to have to step away, and I

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<v Speaker 1>will say I did. I was really hard on you, Kat,

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<v Speaker 1>and I pulled it back.

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<v Speaker 6>I said, Kath, you do what makes you happy. It's

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<v Speaker 6>in writing. I'd like to say it's in writing. Can

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<v Speaker 6>you read it out?

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<v Speaker 1>When I said please, you said, if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>sleep with this guy, follow Sally's advice. If you want

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<v Speaker 1>him to marry you, follow mine.

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<v Speaker 2>I spent the afternoon with the phone in the other

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<v Speaker 2>room so that I didn't text him. I'd already started

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<v Speaker 2>to make him in my head a music playlist on Spotify.

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<v Speaker 3>Because I was.

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<v Speaker 1>Neither mons nor I thought that was a good idea.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm just gonna so the last few dates that you've

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<v Speaker 6>been on, you've asked the guy what his star sign was.

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<v Speaker 3>In the first birth time location of birth Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>On date one this guy, you want to make a

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<v Speaker 6>mixed playlist, like like, what if you just did it

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<v Speaker 6>differently next time.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to do it differently.

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<v Speaker 2>But this is going on text him when it's like today,

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<v Speaker 2>I've not texted him like I wanted to just check

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<v Speaker 2>in this morning.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't text him.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm doing it differently. I'm doing calf bless calf.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's exactly what we're aiming for. And you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>Mon's it was really nice that in the end, after

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<v Speaker 1>you lost that you were able to come to the

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<v Speaker 1>table with a nice offering, which was she can't help

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<v Speaker 1>being her labrador self.

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<v Speaker 3>It's true.

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<v Speaker 6>Don't listen to me. I'm very old fashioned. You follow

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<v Speaker 6>your pure labrador, crystal loving heart and we're all behind you.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, we want love for you this year.

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<v Speaker 6>This is your year of love, my year of the

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<v Speaker 6>fire Horse. Yes, the year of Cat's love.

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<v Speaker 3>Labradia.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I did in the chat, did my Labridia?

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<v Speaker 5>Can I just stick please? So as you're not I'm

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<v Speaker 5>a very petty person. I'm going to talk about something

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<v Speaker 5>really petty. Do you ever jump in in a public

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<v Speaker 5>setting situation when someone annoys you? And what would you

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<v Speaker 5>do or do you just sit there and let it

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<v Speaker 5>festa and see patient. I'm opposite as you can tell.

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<v Speaker 5>So I flew from Sydney to Melbourne last week and

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<v Speaker 5>I was in a man sandwich, which I was not

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<v Speaker 5>happy about. Being in the middle seat on my left.

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<v Speaker 5>I had my Asian fellow brother on my right. It

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<v Speaker 5>is like a white dude. Fine, of course I was

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<v Speaker 5>mask arp you know, double mask wipe everything, and they

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<v Speaker 5>looked at me like really weird. Do I give a fuck? No?

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<v Speaker 5>So then the guy my Asian brother starts sniffing from

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<v Speaker 5>but he's not your actual brother. No, no, no, I

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<v Speaker 5>couldn't strike anybody Asian, my brother sisters. So he's he

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<v Speaker 5>has a runny nose, and as you know, I'm gemophobic.

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<v Speaker 5>So I was just like, okay, just just ignore him.

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<v Speaker 5>Put your ear you know, your earphone, so on, listen

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<v Speaker 5>to a podcast, just ignore him. He's fine, he's fine.

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<v Speaker 5>So then after maybe like forty five minutes, I couldn't

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<v Speaker 5>deal with it anymore. I gave him a tissue. I

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<v Speaker 5>got into my bag. Oh, I was like looking for

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<v Speaker 5>the tissue and I gave one to him, and he

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<v Speaker 5>just looked at me like as if I was crazy.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like, he was like, what's this for? And

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<v Speaker 5>I said, for your nose. You've got a running nose,

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<v Speaker 5>have a tissue. So he didn't use it. He just

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<v Speaker 5>put in his pocket and that was it.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 5>I took the tissue and put it in his put

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<v Speaker 5>in his pocket and kept sniffing.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh you been enjoying it.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh my god. I mean it's disgusting. People, Come on, grace.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't give a random man a tissue. He's not

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<v Speaker 1>three year old, he's not your three year old. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you hold it up to his nose and say blow?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 5>But I mean one thing you don't know that do

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<v Speaker 5>you carry tissue around Asian people do?

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<v Speaker 3>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>Then clearly if he was Asian, he had his own tissues,

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<v Speaker 1>so you didn't need to passive aggressively give him a tissue.

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<v Speaker 5>I would call it caring rather than passive.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think.

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<v Speaker 2>So.

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<v Speaker 5>Do you get annoyed, yes, easily, And what happened.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe not easily. But I always look for opportunities to

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<v Speaker 4>make myself laugh, like I like to amuse myself.

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<v Speaker 3>Today.

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<v Speaker 4>On the way here, I was standing at the lights.

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<v Speaker 4>There was a woman on a call. She had her

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<v Speaker 4>headphones in and she was talking so loudly next to

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<v Speaker 4>me that I literally said I was looking forward. She

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<v Speaker 4>was right beside me, and I went louder.

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<v Speaker 5>I love that, man.

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like saying, you've been screaming. Firstly, there's a

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<v Speaker 4>microphone attached just right there where your mouths. Why are

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<v Speaker 4>you screaming? It sounded like the wogs in the old

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<v Speaker 4>days when they would call internationally and scream down. I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, why are you screaming? Do we really need

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<v Speaker 4>to hear your conversation? And do you understand the idea

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<v Speaker 4>of volume and you can be heard and technology is

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<v Speaker 4>working for you, But this isn't working for any of us.

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<v Speaker 5>Or they put on speaker film so that everyone can hear,

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<v Speaker 5>so I don't want to hear your conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the kind of thing that would be funny for

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<v Speaker 1>the people around saying louder, especially if they didn't hear.

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<v Speaker 1>But you could bake eye contact and all not and

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<v Speaker 1>be like, yeah, we all feel the same way about this.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, like I'm trying to make a point, but

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<v Speaker 4>I'm trying to make it with a joke.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Look, there have been times where I've seen stuff that

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't like, like aggression, yes, and things like that

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<v Speaker 4>where I hate myself if I don't say any Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>like I think I'm pathetic for not having said it.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, sometimes you've got to step in and say

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<v Speaker 4>something that we just don't know where people's heads are at.

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<v Speaker 5>So yeah, I did that once in Hong Kong. I

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<v Speaker 5>was in a lift. So what happens when I was

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<v Speaker 5>a vote? We have an executive left and you need

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<v Speaker 5>to fop to go up. If you don't have it,

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<v Speaker 5>you can't use it. So one day I went into

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<v Speaker 5>this lyft and I saw this guy, this British guy,

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<v Speaker 5>screaming at the poor little girl who does not speak English.

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<v Speaker 5>So basically he didn't have a fob, so he shouldn't

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<v Speaker 5>use that lyft, but he wanted to use it. So

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<v Speaker 5>he was screaming her so much that I had to

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<v Speaker 5>step in. So I start saying to him, what are

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<v Speaker 5>you doing? And he said, well, you know, do you

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<v Speaker 5>know who I'm I said, I don't fucking know who

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<v Speaker 5>you are. I said, don't scream in my people, and

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<v Speaker 5>then I just went I won't even repeat what I said,

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<v Speaker 5>but I went all out right and then we kicked

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<v Speaker 5>him out. Then the next day when I went into

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<v Speaker 5>the office. All this stuff who worked there start clapping.

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<v Speaker 5>As I was like walking along, I'm like, yeah, I

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<v Speaker 5>see you. I'll protect all of you. And then I

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<v Speaker 5>saw that damn guy. I saw him. Guess what he

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<v Speaker 5>asked me for my number?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, your phone number? Yes, as a romantic interest. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I know What's he like?

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<v Speaker 5>No? And you know what I said to him, Fuck

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<v Speaker 5>off you, dick, and I I just left.

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<v Speaker 3>Was it?

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<v Speaker 5>So sometimes you do have to step in, like Bruce Lee.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, sporting events really get up my nose.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why that's when I stepped in. I'll tell you

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<v Speaker 3>about that.

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<v Speaker 2>We had to drive to like Wollongong when I was

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<v Speaker 2>like a schoolholiday for lou to play against this team

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<v Speaker 2>and Low's team were getting smashed and there was this

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<v Speaker 2>kid who wasn't even playing, who was just sort of

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<v Speaker 2>stood behind the goalpost. It's rugby league this game, and

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<v Speaker 2>our team scored a try, we were like maybe sixty

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<v Speaker 2>to four, you know, like it was a thrashing, and

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<v Speaker 2>this kid, this teenage grop bag, was just hurling abuse

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<v Speaker 2>at Lewis who was trying to take the goal in

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<v Speaker 2>front of the goal, and I just yeah, I just

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<v Speaker 2>did the whole where's your sportsmanship?

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<v Speaker 3>How do you feel? And you're not even on the field.

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<v Speaker 2>Who were you to shout those like I really went

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<v Speaker 2>it in a British no swearing way. I mean he

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<v Speaker 2>actually looked shocked, and then some of his other mates

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<v Speaker 2>just gave me a gobfull in swear words, which was

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<v Speaker 2>obviously what they spoke at that team.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's when I will step in.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know, when you just go, are you right?

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<v Speaker 2>They're getting smashed?

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<v Speaker 3>Pull your head in ye? So, yes, sporting events really

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<v Speaker 3>get up my nose.

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<v Speaker 5>I remain convinced that I was doing a community service.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you very much.

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<v Speaker 2>Your well, all right, I want you to think of

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<v Speaker 2>a time where you've really had to eat your words,

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<v Speaker 2>when you would have died on a hill for something

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<v Speaker 2>and then you realized it.

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<v Speaker 3>Was the wrong hill.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, because that's just happened to me recently.

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<v Speaker 2>So I live in a beautiful Art deco apartment block.

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<v Speaker 2>It's run very tightly by the guy who's on the

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<v Speaker 2>strata board. He runs a tight ship and we have

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<v Speaker 2>a very beautiful quiet home. So we have a WhatsApp

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<v Speaker 2>group chat, and we were having some maintenance in the building,

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<v Speaker 2>so we'd been, you know, notified a week before that

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<v Speaker 2>the back fire stairs were going to be off limits

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<v Speaker 2>and that the painters were coming in. Okay, and then

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<v Speaker 2>the lovely two Irish painters come in and block off

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<v Speaker 2>the backstairs.

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<v Speaker 3>All good.

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<v Speaker 2>I go off to work, happy as Larry. All is

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<v Speaker 2>good in the hood anyway. So I get home from like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, my morning's work, it's the afternoon, and I

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<v Speaker 2>met by one of the guys in the building who

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<v Speaker 2>asked to see the soles of my feet, and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, right, so I show my shoes.

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<v Speaker 1>Is this one of the tradees or is this one

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<v Speaker 1>of the residents?

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<v Speaker 3>This is one of the residents.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the WhatsApp sort of you know Chap who

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<v Speaker 2>said I knew it wouldn't be you. In fact, we

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<v Speaker 2>know who it is. We're pretty sure. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>hang on, back track, what's gone on? Someone has gone

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<v Speaker 2>from the top floor where I live down the backstairs

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<v Speaker 2>that are off limits. Already bad because that's prints down

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<v Speaker 2>a painted stairwell, gets worse the bottom floor carpet they've

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<v Speaker 2>walked through. Oh my gosh. So everyone is blowing up.

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<v Speaker 2>We're all talking about it. We know that it's our

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<v Speaker 2>new neighbor who has moved in on the top floor

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<v Speaker 2>because one of them has already broken the window, apparently

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<v Speaker 2>killing a cockroach.

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<v Speaker 3>So they've been in a week.

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<v Speaker 2>They've been in an art deco, glorious building for a week,

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<v Speaker 2>and they're causing trouble. I hear them all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>and so I am ready to take them down.

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<v Speaker 4>So there's no surveillance, there are no cameras anywhere.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're just no, we're just going off, you know

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<v Speaker 2>the fact that we're just gonna.

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<v Speaker 1>Just a vibe.

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<v Speaker 3>Blame the new people anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm there going yeah, well, you know, I just

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<v Speaker 2>got home and I could hear them moving around. It

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<v Speaker 2>was definitely them. So I'm like, so I've got totally involved.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm loving this. People want them evicted.

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<v Speaker 2>There is war anyway, the group WhatsApp chat because this

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<v Speaker 2>has all been word of mouth, the point in the fingers.

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<v Speaker 2>So the WhatsApp chat is now out full of the

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<v Speaker 2>photos with the footprints in the carpet and.

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<v Speaker 3>Fess up, we know it's from the top floor.

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<v Speaker 2>Basic tone, And then I read what's been put in

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like at approximately eleven am today. Then I

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<v Speaker 2>look at my phone because it's school holidays. And Lewis

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<v Speaker 2>called me when I was doing my voiceover work and

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<v Speaker 2>so my phone was on silent and I look at

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<v Speaker 2>it and Lewis has left the building at eleven oh one.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, oh no, it's him.

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<v Speaker 2>To text me that he's forgotten to take the rubbish.

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<v Speaker 2>And all I want to do is vomit in my

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<v Speaker 2>mouth because this is already going to cost a fortune

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<v Speaker 2>to repaint the backstairs. But not only that, I have

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<v Speaker 2>to fess up that it was my son, not the

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<v Speaker 2>cockroach smashing window.

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<v Speaker 3>New couple that have moved in in Canada.

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<v Speaker 4>All the people on the WhatsApp group gluding the new

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<v Speaker 4>people are on the water.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm having to I take this off the WhatsApp chat.

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<v Speaker 2>Just take it off the WhatsApp chat.

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<v Speaker 5>Did we know what he'd done?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 4>Well did he?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know because I called him. He was at Dad's.

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<v Speaker 2>It's now ten pm and I'm hyperventilating and I'm like, did.

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<v Speaker 3>You go through the no go through sign? Did you

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<v Speaker 3>walk paint through the car? No?

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, Lewis, someone might get evicted if this was

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it was me.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, ma'am.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously it was him, and so I'm like, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know how much this is going to cost to repaint,

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<v Speaker 2>like the backstairs and the carpet.

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<v Speaker 3>So he's just panicing, going.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I've got money on my sprigging, and I'm it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to cover the backstairs repaint.

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<v Speaker 3>So I fess up, which is the best thing that

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<v Speaker 3>you can do? This is off the group chat. Don't worry.

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<v Speaker 3>It's actually it's straight.

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<v Speaker 2>To the head of And the good thing is we've

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<v Speaker 2>had these lovely painters in our building quite a lot

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<v Speaker 2>over the past four years. They're lovely. I've always been polite.

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<v Speaker 2>Lewis has been polite with them. When this was explained

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<v Speaker 2>to them, they basically said, if she can just get

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<v Speaker 2>us a couple of slabs of beer, we'll.

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<v Speaker 3>Touch up the blackstares.

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<v Speaker 2>So at ten am I'm at BWS buying beer, which

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<v Speaker 2>felt a little bit early for me on a Friday morning.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt so bad that. Just sharing that with my

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<v Speaker 2>unleash gang, I just feel a lot better. Yeah, glare

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<v Speaker 2>we good help?

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you?

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<v Speaker 5>Who as the stick? I'll have it, Mary Chriscus.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes. I recently have been touring a stage show a

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<v Speaker 4>he's called Frigid to.

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<v Speaker 3>Ferrel, which is fabulous.

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<v Speaker 5>We love it.

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<v Speaker 4>I just love the fact that all of us have huge,

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<v Speaker 4>busy lives and that, you know, everyone turned up to

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<v Speaker 4>this show. Bruna had been doing a Forbe summit with

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<v Speaker 4>Asha Ketty and then they both jumped in a new

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<v Speaker 4>and came to my show. I looked out. Mia was there,

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<v Speaker 4>Kath was there, Everyone was there, and it was such

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<v Speaker 4>a moving thing for me to hit that stage with

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<v Speaker 4>my big hair on at my high heels. Do you

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<v Speaker 4>Brad dancing? Yeah, it was great to look at it

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<v Speaker 4>and see those big, beaming, unleashed faces looking back at me,

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<v Speaker 4>sitting innocently in that auditorium, not knowing what the hell

0:20:32.154 --> 0:20:34.994
<v Speaker 4>they're about to wag. It may be so happy because

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<v Speaker 4>it made me realize how important it is that we

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<v Speaker 4>show up for each other. It's easy to be a

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<v Speaker 4>good friend when someone's going through a hard time. We

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<v Speaker 4>know how to do that right. We turn up, We

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<v Speaker 4>take soup, we give advice, we check in, we do

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<v Speaker 4>all of that stuff. Someone close to me once said,

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<v Speaker 4>you don't judge friends by how willing they are to

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<v Speaker 4>be there in the tough times, but how willing they

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<v Speaker 4>are to celebrate your good Yes, and I was very,

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<v Speaker 4>very touched by that, and we ended up having a

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<v Speaker 4>great night.

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<v Speaker 5>It was wicked. It was so good. So can I

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<v Speaker 5>just tell you the incident that happened during that show.

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<v Speaker 5>I went by myself and the people sat next to me.

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't know that they knew you, but the lady

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<v Speaker 5>who's on my right, I was laughing so hard at

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<v Speaker 5>one point that we did a headbang. Basically, I banged

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<v Speaker 5>my head onto her head, absolutely accidentally because we were

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<v Speaker 5>both leaning forward and just went boom. And we loved

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<v Speaker 5>even more because it was so funny. And I don't

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<v Speaker 5>know any comedian, right, You're my first comedian friend, and

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't know what to expect because I'm not from here,

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<v Speaker 5>so I grew up in the UK, so I am

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<v Speaker 5>not used to iffy. The minute you started dancing, I

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<v Speaker 5>almost pee my pants because I didn't know what to expect,

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<v Speaker 5>and it was so good and the whole thing was

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<v Speaker 5>just so amazing that I just thought, Wow, isn't it

0:21:54.634 --> 0:21:58.034
<v Speaker 5>crazy that I know this person. It's on another level

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<v Speaker 5>of reality check of like how fucking talented you are.

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<v Speaker 5>And I'm not just saying this, I really mean it

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<v Speaker 5>because it's something I'm so unfamiliar with, and it was

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<v Speaker 5>just it was so damn funny.

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<v Speaker 3>Mary.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah. So I just want to say thank you for

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<v Speaker 5>inviting me, and I would definitely show up for more

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<v Speaker 5>good times for you.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh You're the best.

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<v Speaker 3>I love it.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, it's hard because for many many years when

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<v Speaker 4>I was struggling to be a mum, I went to

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of kid's birthday parties and after a loss

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<v Speaker 4>someone else, you know, I had a child, and there

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<v Speaker 4>was a lot of that sort of stuff. But here's

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<v Speaker 4>the thing, this is what I know for a fact.

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<v Speaker 4>I've never been the type of person that looks to

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<v Speaker 4>unknown people to get my inspiration. I always look within

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<v Speaker 4>reach of my world, you know, real heroes, real people

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<v Speaker 4>that I know intimately to get my inspiration. And there

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<v Speaker 4>were many many times where I was so low and

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<v Speaker 4>I'd go to a movie opening of Brunner's, or I'd

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<v Speaker 4>watch our best friend who's a rock star do a gig,

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<v Speaker 4>and it would fill me with such joy and inspiration

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<v Speaker 4>and it would actually help me feel better and feel

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<v Speaker 4>more equipped.

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<v Speaker 3>To move forward.

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<v Speaker 4>Certainly, I know that for me, if I'm in my

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<v Speaker 4>friendship group, I know that it's almost like a multi

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<v Speaker 4>vitamin that I can gain what I'm deficient in, even

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<v Speaker 4>though others might be over abundant in something in that moment.

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<v Speaker 4>And life's a horse race. Sometimes you're out front and

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<v Speaker 4>sometimes you're behind trying to catch up, you know, and

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<v Speaker 4>you've got to play the long game. I think, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>we can talk ourselves out of turning up for things

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<v Speaker 4>all the time. Oh i'm feeling like this, or i'm

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<v Speaker 4>feeling lower, this has happened. But when you push yourself

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<v Speaker 4>out of your own head and back into your life

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<v Speaker 4>and towards the light of someone that you love, I

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<v Speaker 4>think that's where inspiration truly lives. That's just my way

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<v Speaker 4>of looking at it. I mean, when you're in a friendship,

0:23:54.674 --> 0:23:59.274
<v Speaker 4>a healthy, loving, secure friendship, you turn up for everything. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>the good, the bad, the boring, the mundane. Or i'm

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<v Speaker 4>moving house, I'll come over. We'll open a bottle of wine,

0:24:04.554 --> 0:24:07.074
<v Speaker 4>we'll pack some boxes. You turn up, You just turn up.

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<v Speaker 4>But I think that it's really a lot easier to

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<v Speaker 4>turn up when you know someone else is going through

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<v Speaker 4>a hard time. Then turning up when you're going through

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<v Speaker 4>a hard time and they're not, That is that is much.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're not having a good time.

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<v Speaker 2>Look, I think as we get older, you know, we

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<v Speaker 2>curate our friendships a bit more and you have the

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<v Speaker 2>people that are there for the good times and the

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<v Speaker 2>bad times. But what I know I'm really bad at,

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<v Speaker 2>and a lot of my girlfriends are, is celebrating our wins.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I can celebrate everyone else's, but I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>very good at blowing my own horn. And we've got

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<v Speaker 2>a beautiful friend, Carl who's sort of curated a group

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<v Speaker 2>of about eight of us, got us together just before Christmas.

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<v Speaker 3>And the silly season.

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<v Speaker 2>And what she did, and this was probably the best

0:24:50.194 --> 0:24:52.513
<v Speaker 2>gift I've ever been given, and it would probably have

0:24:52.594 --> 0:24:55.793
<v Speaker 2>cost her eighty cents per gift, was she made an

0:24:55.834 --> 0:24:58.914
<v Speaker 2>award that was for each of us to celebrate our

0:24:59.074 --> 0:25:02.394
<v Speaker 2>thing and had it laminated. So mine was, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>congratulations to Catherine Mahoney taking over the world.

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<v Speaker 3>One showed a time and laminate.

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<v Speaker 2>It and we were like all really teary, and like

0:25:10.234 --> 0:25:12.034
<v Speaker 2>we went up it was like the awards, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we were not one at a time and kind of

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<v Speaker 2>all clapped and I'm not joking the joy on these

0:25:16.434 --> 0:25:19.234
<v Speaker 2>women's faces that we all came away with something laminated.

0:25:19.354 --> 0:25:20.394
<v Speaker 3>Mine's still on my fridge.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think for me, it's being able to celebrate

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<v Speaker 2>yourself as well as as the people that you love.

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<v Speaker 2>Who would like the talking stick, I would like the

0:25:31.114 --> 0:25:33.674
<v Speaker 2>talking stick, Sally Hapworth, talking stick coming at you.

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<v Speaker 5>I make deals with the universe.

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<v Speaker 1>It's my little teeny little bit of woo whoop. And

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<v Speaker 1>I have got quite a few things that make absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>zero sense, but they're things that I do. So for example,

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<v Speaker 1>one of my favorite ones that I've done for a

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<v Speaker 1>long time is if I have to do something that

0:25:51.314 --> 0:25:55.074
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to do, phone call an errand you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes work I will. I've got to deal with the

0:25:58.754 --> 0:26:01.314
<v Speaker 1>universe that when I do those things, the universe gives

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<v Speaker 1>me a little treat. So might be and I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what it could be. And so as soon as

0:26:06.074 --> 0:26:08.554
<v Speaker 1>I start to do a thing, I get a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of excitement in the pit of my stomach because

0:26:10.514 --> 0:26:12.314
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what is going to happen?

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<v Speaker 5>And it always shows up.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>It can be something really small, like a really interesting

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<v Speaker 1>conversation I have with someone that I bump into at

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<v Speaker 1>the supermarket, you know, when I forced myself to do

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<v Speaker 1>that grocery shop, or it might be something big. And

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<v Speaker 1>I actually did this when I was in America this time,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'd been there for about a week and I

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't done any exercise. I'd been you know, eating all

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<v Speaker 1>the burghers and the thing, and I just wasn't feeling

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<v Speaker 1>good about myself. And I told myself, I am going

0:26:43.754 --> 0:26:45.634
<v Speaker 1>to get up tomorrow and go for a walk before

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<v Speaker 1>my early flight. If I do that, I'm going to

0:26:48.914 --> 0:26:49.594
<v Speaker 1>get a little treat.

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<v Speaker 5>So this particular day I got.

0:26:53.474 --> 0:26:56.513
<v Speaker 1>I went a little, very short walk by the way, Like,

0:26:56.594 --> 0:26:58.554
<v Speaker 1>you really don't have to do much for the universe

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<v Speaker 1>to deliver.

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<v Speaker 4>Honestly, does the treat reveal itself within the thing that

0:27:03.514 --> 0:27:04.154
<v Speaker 4>you didn't want to.

0:27:04.154 --> 0:27:07.474
<v Speaker 1>Do, generally speaking, or at least within that day. And

0:27:07.594 --> 0:27:09.754
<v Speaker 1>it sometimes requires you to look back and go, oh,

0:27:09.874 --> 0:27:12.234
<v Speaker 1>that was the little treat, Like it doesn't always depending

0:27:12.274 --> 0:27:13.354
<v Speaker 1>on where your mind is.

0:27:13.754 --> 0:27:16.514
<v Speaker 4>Showing, might not notice it at the time, then later

0:27:16.594 --> 0:27:17.114
<v Speaker 4>it makes sense.

0:27:17.194 --> 0:27:19.514
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, So this day I went for my walk.

0:27:20.034 --> 0:27:23.754
<v Speaker 1>During that walk, which was incredibly short, I got chatting

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<v Speaker 1>to two people randomly. One of the men was a

0:27:27.034 --> 0:27:29.954
<v Speaker 1>jazz singer and he started to sing. He'd said hello

0:27:30.034 --> 0:27:34.274
<v Speaker 1>and then he started to sing, so and I thought

0:27:34.394 --> 0:27:36.474
<v Speaker 1>core memory being made here, Like, how glad am I

0:27:36.594 --> 0:27:38.154
<v Speaker 1>that I went for this walk. I never would have

0:27:38.194 --> 0:27:41.114
<v Speaker 1>met this man. I then was about to get an

0:27:41.194 --> 0:27:43.874
<v Speaker 1>uber to the airport, and I found out just as

0:27:43.914 --> 0:27:45.714
<v Speaker 1>I was going in that there was a shuttle that

0:27:45.914 --> 0:27:49.754
<v Speaker 1>was taking people to the airport from this hotel, which

0:27:49.834 --> 0:27:52.554
<v Speaker 1>wasn't an airport hotel. I get in the shuttle, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>the only person in it, and it's this lovely man,

0:27:56.434 --> 0:28:00.353
<v Speaker 1>and we ended up having this wonderful conversation. So by

0:28:00.394 --> 0:28:02.474
<v Speaker 1>the time I get on the plane, I'm already thinking, oh, well,

0:28:03.114 --> 0:28:05.874
<v Speaker 1>lots of little treats have already happened, but I'm sending

0:28:05.954 --> 0:28:08.474
<v Speaker 1>the energy out. Couple of hours later, got the call.

0:28:08.994 --> 0:28:12.594
<v Speaker 1>I was number seven in the New York Times bestseller list.

0:28:15.794 --> 0:28:18.954
<v Speaker 1>You go, girl, we can reverse engineer this any way

0:28:18.994 --> 0:28:21.354
<v Speaker 1>you want. But I have lots of things like that

0:28:21.554 --> 0:28:24.434
<v Speaker 1>that I That's probably my biggest one that has followed

0:28:24.474 --> 0:28:28.754
<v Speaker 1>me throughout my life. Do you guys have deals with

0:28:28.874 --> 0:28:31.513
<v Speaker 1>the universe? Do you have woo woo things that you do?

0:28:32.154 --> 0:28:34.513
<v Speaker 1>What about you, Mary, Like, do you have things that

0:28:34.634 --> 0:28:36.714
<v Speaker 1>don't make any sense that you just live by?

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<v Speaker 4>In the lead up to meeting my husband, I had

0:28:40.794 --> 0:28:42.714
<v Speaker 4>said to myself, I know who I am in the

0:28:42.754 --> 0:28:46.954
<v Speaker 4>wrong relationship, because I've done plenty of that. I wonder

0:28:47.314 --> 0:28:50.434
<v Speaker 4>who I am in the right relationship. I wonder how

0:28:50.514 --> 0:28:54.794
<v Speaker 4>I love when there are no excuses or limitations or fear.

0:28:55.474 --> 0:28:57.674
<v Speaker 4>So that had been something I'd sort of planted and

0:28:57.834 --> 0:29:01.994
<v Speaker 4>thrown out into the world, and then two weeks later

0:29:02.034 --> 0:29:05.314
<v Speaker 4>I met my husband. So sometimes, obviously I wish for

0:29:05.354 --> 0:29:08.474
<v Speaker 4>a good parking spot, all of those smaller everyday things,

0:29:08.514 --> 0:29:13.034
<v Speaker 4>but sometimes on the bigger things, I really I suppose

0:29:13.074 --> 0:29:17.274
<v Speaker 4>I'm asking for the picture to reveal itself, so a

0:29:17.354 --> 0:29:19.194
<v Speaker 4>bit of that. I don't know what about you, Grace.

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<v Speaker 5>So I as Chinese and I'm very superstitious. So when

0:29:24.154 --> 0:29:27.074
<v Speaker 5>we left Hong Kong and of twenty nineteen, I was

0:29:27.194 --> 0:29:30.434
<v Speaker 5>so anxious of leaving that I actually did say to universe,

0:29:31.034 --> 0:29:33.314
<v Speaker 5>please let us leave, because this is not good. You know,

0:29:34.114 --> 0:29:36.594
<v Speaker 5>everything about living there is not good anymore. We need

0:29:36.634 --> 0:29:38.714
<v Speaker 5>to leave. Please let us leave. The minute I got

0:29:38.754 --> 0:29:42.194
<v Speaker 5>on a flight, I started bawling like crazy because I thought,

0:29:42.194 --> 0:29:44.754
<v Speaker 5>oh my god, the universe have answered me to let

0:29:44.834 --> 0:29:48.474
<v Speaker 5>my little family leave in a very turbulent time. And

0:29:48.554 --> 0:29:51.354
<v Speaker 5>then my assistant, who I've known for since she was sixteen,

0:29:51.394 --> 0:29:54.834
<v Speaker 5>and she's like, I don't know, thirties. Now in the thirties,

0:29:55.194 --> 0:29:57.634
<v Speaker 5>she wrote me this amazing letter just to thank me

0:29:57.834 --> 0:29:59.874
<v Speaker 5>for being in her life, and I just thought, oh

0:29:59.914 --> 0:30:03.194
<v Speaker 5>my god, this is my gift. This is my gift completely.

0:30:03.794 --> 0:30:07.634
<v Speaker 5>But recently, I mean, even up until before we moved Melbourne,

0:30:08.114 --> 0:30:12.194
<v Speaker 5>I stop being superstitious and I just want to take control.

0:30:13.074 --> 0:30:16.714
<v Speaker 5>And weirdest thing is that as soon as I stop

0:30:16.834 --> 0:30:22.194
<v Speaker 5>being superstitious, everything happened organically and everything worked out. So

0:30:22.274 --> 0:30:26.634
<v Speaker 5>I stopped going to a clairvoyant or fortune teller even

0:30:26.634 --> 0:30:28.914
<v Speaker 5>though until five six years ago, and I thought, you know,

0:30:28.914 --> 0:30:31.714
<v Speaker 5>I'm gonna take control. And it feels so much better

0:30:32.114 --> 0:30:34.474
<v Speaker 5>not to have to look at my charts, you know,

0:30:34.594 --> 0:30:36.714
<v Speaker 5>and and look at my starsign. I mean, I still

0:30:36.754 --> 0:30:39.034
<v Speaker 5>do now and then it's interesting to me, but I

0:30:39.114 --> 0:30:42.594
<v Speaker 5>definitely don't base everything on none of those anymore.

0:30:42.674 --> 0:30:45.354
<v Speaker 1>But how does that play with your Around Chinese New Year,

0:30:45.434 --> 0:30:47.874
<v Speaker 1>we were talking about some of the things about cutting

0:30:47.914 --> 0:30:50.954
<v Speaker 1>your hair and wearing the red, but that's just tradition.

0:30:51.194 --> 0:30:54.194
<v Speaker 5>That's more tradition, that's just tradition, you know. And but

0:30:54.354 --> 0:30:58.514
<v Speaker 5>now I al I always see signs around me, especially

0:30:58.674 --> 0:31:01.154
<v Speaker 5>number plates, like recently, because if I if I have

0:31:01.234 --> 0:31:04.434
<v Speaker 5>to go do something really difficult, I always ask, give

0:31:04.474 --> 0:31:05.834
<v Speaker 5>me a sign, Give me a sign, right, And it's

0:31:05.874 --> 0:31:09.474
<v Speaker 5>always number plate. You know, I'll always see three three, four,

0:31:09.554 --> 0:31:12.994
<v Speaker 5>four four nine nine nine. Especially when we were leaving

0:31:13.034 --> 0:31:15.954
<v Speaker 5>Puff to come here, it was all over me. I

0:31:16.074 --> 0:31:18.834
<v Speaker 5>think to me, how interpret it is? Like that means

0:31:18.874 --> 0:31:19.874
<v Speaker 5>you're making the right decision.

0:31:20.594 --> 0:31:21.474
<v Speaker 3>Well, I'm all up for that.

0:31:21.514 --> 0:31:23.794
<v Speaker 2>I have a sign diary, so I have lots of

0:31:23.874 --> 0:31:27.714
<v Speaker 2>different signs from the universe. One of the signs is

0:31:28.114 --> 0:31:31.234
<v Speaker 2>actually a dragonfly. I had sadly lost a friend and

0:31:31.314 --> 0:31:33.714
<v Speaker 2>so she comes through as a dragonfly. So when I

0:31:33.754 --> 0:31:35.674
<v Speaker 2>went on my date and I had my dragonfly broach,

0:31:35.954 --> 0:31:37.794
<v Speaker 2>the first thing he said was I love the dragonfly,

0:31:38.434 --> 0:31:40.314
<v Speaker 2>and he said one flew onto my hand. When I

0:31:40.394 --> 0:31:42.234
<v Speaker 2>was painting recently, and I was like, in my head,

0:31:42.234 --> 0:31:43.274
<v Speaker 2>I was going, thanks Bella.

0:31:43.954 --> 0:31:45.274
<v Speaker 3>But I write it down.

0:31:45.074 --> 0:31:47.594
<v Speaker 2>Because things, so many things happen, So if you keep

0:31:47.634 --> 0:31:50.274
<v Speaker 2>a diary, you can flick back and just go wow.

0:31:50.914 --> 0:31:55.074
<v Speaker 2>I'm the same with number plates. I do get sort

0:31:55.114 --> 0:31:57.434
<v Speaker 2>of messages through like that. And when I was recently

0:31:57.514 --> 0:32:01.434
<v Speaker 2>talking to a psychologist who said, you know, I had

0:32:01.434 --> 0:32:05.314
<v Speaker 2>an ADHD diagnosis. He asked me something and I said, oh, yeah,

0:32:05.314 --> 0:32:07.314
<v Speaker 2>I get a lot of messages from the universe. I

0:32:07.394 --> 0:32:09.314
<v Speaker 2>see a lot of things in number plates. He was like,

0:32:09.954 --> 0:32:13.114
<v Speaker 2>do you do you get messages through the television?

0:32:13.634 --> 0:32:16.074
<v Speaker 3>Do you hear voices people?

0:32:16.154 --> 0:32:17.514
<v Speaker 5>Oh my god, I.

0:32:21.034 --> 0:32:23.514
<v Speaker 3>Said, I'm just like a crystal in my bra type

0:32:23.554 --> 0:32:27.234
<v Speaker 3>of check. I'm not having a psychosis. Don't write that down,

0:32:27.354 --> 0:32:30.474
<v Speaker 3>give me the meds anyway. So that's how I roll.

0:32:30.554 --> 0:32:32.634
<v Speaker 2>But I always start the day with a gratitude list.

0:32:33.234 --> 0:32:35.154
<v Speaker 2>And I think when you were talking about your trade

0:32:35.234 --> 0:32:39.274
<v Speaker 2>with the universe, that just feels like an energetic manifestation.

0:32:39.474 --> 0:32:42.274
<v Speaker 2>It's like your energy changes. You go, I'm ready for it.

0:32:42.354 --> 0:32:43.754
<v Speaker 3>What have you got? And then you bring it in.

0:32:43.994 --> 0:32:45.274
<v Speaker 3>You bring it in pretty magic.

0:32:45.434 --> 0:32:49.434
<v Speaker 1>The one thing I wonder about the whole woo woo world,

0:32:49.554 --> 0:32:53.794
<v Speaker 1>and I say, this is a lapsed Catholic, very poor

0:32:53.874 --> 0:32:57.834
<v Speaker 1>Catholic to start with, but I wonder how much spirituality,

0:32:58.074 --> 0:33:00.314
<v Speaker 1>woo woo whatever, the little things we believe in have

0:33:00.434 --> 0:33:04.194
<v Speaker 1>become the new religion for the secular kind of people.

0:33:04.234 --> 0:33:07.034
<v Speaker 1>Because it's still you know, if you think about it,

0:33:07.314 --> 0:33:10.834
<v Speaker 1>even people who don't believe in any of My dad

0:33:11.114 --> 0:33:16.514
<v Speaker 1>is very you know, non believer, non religious. He bases

0:33:16.594 --> 0:33:19.754
<v Speaker 1>everything on science and so for him, his higher power

0:33:20.314 --> 0:33:23.114
<v Speaker 1>is science. And so we all kind of have got

0:33:23.554 --> 0:33:27.194
<v Speaker 1>something that we are placing our trust in. And for

0:33:27.314 --> 0:33:29.834
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people, historically it's been religion. But if

0:33:29.874 --> 0:33:33.274
<v Speaker 1>it's not that, you know, I wonder if it is

0:33:33.394 --> 0:33:38.274
<v Speaker 1>possible for the human being to just not genuinely believe

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<v Speaker 1>in anything, and where that would leave us.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know, but I know that the Greeks are

0:33:42.354 --> 0:33:45.834
<v Speaker 4>big on interpreting dreams. My mother if she dreams that

0:33:45.954 --> 0:33:49.034
<v Speaker 4>she's lost a tooth, the next morning, depending on whether

0:33:49.034 --> 0:33:51.234
<v Speaker 4>there was pain involved or not. If there was no pain,

0:33:51.554 --> 0:33:54.074
<v Speaker 4>she'll hear of someone she knows that has passed. It

0:33:54.194 --> 0:33:57.034
<v Speaker 4>might be just a you know, acquaintance. If there's pain,

0:33:57.114 --> 0:34:00.394
<v Speaker 4>it's going to be someone close. And then birds, a

0:34:00.514 --> 0:34:03.434
<v Speaker 4>bird doing you know, like coming onto the verandah or

0:34:03.674 --> 0:34:05.954
<v Speaker 4>trying to get into the house, or that they see

0:34:06.034 --> 0:34:08.834
<v Speaker 4>that those birds as symbols of you're going to hear

0:34:08.953 --> 0:34:12.194
<v Speaker 4>something like there's a message that's trying to get through.

0:34:12.354 --> 0:34:14.794
<v Speaker 4>Often my father in law as well, because my husband

0:34:14.834 --> 0:34:17.914
<v Speaker 4>lost his beautiful sister so they believe it's the spirit

0:34:18.074 --> 0:34:20.114
<v Speaker 4>coming back in the form of a bird. So there's

0:34:20.114 --> 0:34:22.913
<v Speaker 4>a lot of cultures that think along those lines. We've

0:34:22.954 --> 0:34:25.034
<v Speaker 4>got to try and make sense of all that's happening

0:34:25.074 --> 0:34:27.354
<v Speaker 4>in the world and that we matter and that there

0:34:27.434 --> 0:34:31.234
<v Speaker 4>are maybe clues to a greater reason for the things

0:34:31.274 --> 0:34:31.794
<v Speaker 4>that occur.

0:34:32.674 --> 0:34:34.954
<v Speaker 5>My sister came back as a moth the day that

0:34:35.074 --> 0:34:37.354
<v Speaker 5>she was supposed to come back and visit us after

0:34:37.474 --> 0:34:38.034
<v Speaker 5>she died. Yeah.

0:34:38.474 --> 0:34:42.194
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And do you have a connection to moths now

0:34:42.274 --> 0:34:43.434
<v Speaker 1>or do you see them around?

0:34:43.914 --> 0:34:47.154
<v Speaker 5>It's funny because since my kid was young, he knows

0:34:47.274 --> 0:34:49.913
<v Speaker 5>with the Chinese tradition, that means someone passing that came

0:34:49.954 --> 0:34:52.234
<v Speaker 5>back to visit you. So when never see even like

0:34:52.394 --> 0:34:55.234
<v Speaker 5>a mosquitoes, Oh, is that your sister? Is that your nanny?

0:34:55.354 --> 0:34:55.913
<v Speaker 3>Is it your dad?

0:34:55.994 --> 0:34:56.114
<v Speaker 2>Is that?

0:34:56.314 --> 0:34:56.474
<v Speaker 3>You know?

0:34:56.754 --> 0:34:58.873
<v Speaker 5>So we're very used to stuff like that. And I

0:34:58.954 --> 0:35:01.354
<v Speaker 5>think with religion, whether it's you know, wu wu stuff,

0:35:02.034 --> 0:35:04.794
<v Speaker 5>it's all about building a community. Yeah, I mean, I'm

0:35:04.834 --> 0:35:06.954
<v Speaker 5>not religious, but I do understand why people want to

0:35:06.994 --> 0:35:09.274
<v Speaker 5>be long. I think it's the sense of belonging for

0:35:09.314 --> 0:35:10.394
<v Speaker 5>everyone is really important.

0:35:10.834 --> 0:35:16.393
<v Speaker 1>Belonging and also a belief that something is behind all

0:35:16.474 --> 0:35:16.674
<v Speaker 1>of this.

0:35:17.034 --> 0:35:19.073
<v Speaker 3>And it's not just us. I just want to believe

0:35:19.114 --> 0:35:20.594
<v Speaker 3>there is something bigger than us.

0:35:20.914 --> 0:35:24.434
<v Speaker 1>Yes, and we're not just floundering through that. There is

0:35:24.514 --> 0:35:28.354
<v Speaker 1>always something that we can tune into for wisdom, or

0:35:28.434 --> 0:35:31.474
<v Speaker 1>for advice, or for come to try and get comfort.

0:35:31.634 --> 0:35:32.434
<v Speaker 3>Yes, love that.

0:35:44.594 --> 0:35:48.554
<v Speaker 1>All right, It's time for blast from the past, where

0:35:48.594 --> 0:35:51.834
<v Speaker 1>we go back in time and relive our youth.

0:35:52.154 --> 0:35:52.314
<v Speaker 5>Yes.

0:35:52.474 --> 0:35:54.834
<v Speaker 1>And this week I need to talk about something that

0:35:54.954 --> 0:36:00.393
<v Speaker 1>I cannot genuinely believe that I'm saying what smoking is back?

0:36:01.234 --> 0:36:04.594
<v Speaker 1>What do you guys know anything about this? Now?

0:36:04.914 --> 0:36:05.354
<v Speaker 6>What do you mean?

0:36:05.394 --> 0:36:05.834
<v Speaker 3>It's back?

0:36:05.914 --> 0:36:09.674
<v Speaker 4>It's back for you, back for society, It's back all

0:36:09.794 --> 0:36:10.474
<v Speaker 4>over the place.

0:36:10.714 --> 0:36:14.354
<v Speaker 1>Kyle frand Kylie Jenner was recently on the cover of

0:36:14.474 --> 0:36:18.434
<v Speaker 1>Vanity Fair smoking a cigarette. Sabrina Carpenter was on a

0:36:18.554 --> 0:36:20.154
<v Speaker 1>cover smoking a cigarette.

0:36:20.314 --> 0:36:23.154
<v Speaker 2>Actually, Dua Lipa was on Instagram the other day. Was

0:36:23.314 --> 0:36:25.234
<v Speaker 2>she running a light with a cigarette?

0:36:25.274 --> 0:36:26.834
<v Speaker 3>I was like, you really?

0:36:27.394 --> 0:36:31.393
<v Speaker 1>Apparently. Gwyneth Paltrow was also handing out slim cigarettes at

0:36:31.554 --> 0:36:34.394
<v Speaker 1>one of her launches at her home at a party.

0:36:35.794 --> 0:36:37.834
<v Speaker 1>And I have to say, as someone who is old

0:36:37.914 --> 0:36:41.114
<v Speaker 1>enough to remember when people smoked all over the place,

0:36:41.754 --> 0:36:45.434
<v Speaker 1>this kind of blows my mind and it made me

0:36:45.914 --> 0:36:48.114
<v Speaker 1>want to know what your memories are about smoking. But

0:36:48.274 --> 0:36:50.834
<v Speaker 1>before I get to that, I want to say my

0:36:50.954 --> 0:36:53.514
<v Speaker 1>all time favorite memory of smoking, and that's one that

0:36:53.634 --> 0:36:56.473
<v Speaker 1>producer Mons gave to me. That came from her mother

0:36:56.794 --> 0:37:00.754
<v Speaker 1>who said that her obstetrician had a cigarette hanging out

0:37:00.794 --> 0:37:03.393
<v Speaker 1>of his mouth as he caught Mons.

0:37:05.114 --> 0:37:10.433
<v Speaker 4>In the birthing suite lot smoking in Whoa.

0:37:10.794 --> 0:37:12.074
<v Speaker 1>So that was nineteen eighty.

0:37:12.314 --> 0:37:13.714
<v Speaker 5>Oh my god, that's so fun.

0:37:14.434 --> 0:37:16.754
<v Speaker 4>I do remember growing up. I grew up in Collingwood

0:37:16.754 --> 0:37:18.873
<v Speaker 4>and there was a doctor across the road. We would

0:37:18.914 --> 0:37:20.674
<v Speaker 4>go in for him to check on us, you know,

0:37:20.834 --> 0:37:24.473
<v Speaker 4>during flu season. He'd always be smoking. Greeks have never

0:37:24.554 --> 0:37:28.634
<v Speaker 4>stopped smoking. You go to Greece and they are smoking everywhere.

0:37:28.674 --> 0:37:30.954
<v Speaker 1>Cigarettes not vaping, No, no, I don't know.

0:37:31.114 --> 0:37:33.714
<v Speaker 4>Maybebe a bit of vaping, but no. Cigarettes are still

0:37:33.794 --> 0:37:37.074
<v Speaker 4>cheap in Greece, so they are smoking everywhere. And if

0:37:37.114 --> 0:37:38.994
<v Speaker 4>you were to say to them, look, I don't like that.

0:37:39.234 --> 0:37:41.754
<v Speaker 4>Can you just take it further? They look at you

0:37:41.954 --> 0:37:44.674
<v Speaker 4>like they've never heard anyone say that before. I remember

0:37:44.714 --> 0:37:47.354
<v Speaker 4>you used to get on the tube, remember the play

0:37:47.514 --> 0:37:50.434
<v Speaker 4>like Squashed. You all are on the escalator and it

0:37:50.514 --> 0:37:54.514
<v Speaker 4>was all wood and people would be smoking on the tube,

0:37:54.754 --> 0:37:58.314
<v Speaker 4>in the tube, on the escalator in the left. You'd

0:37:58.354 --> 0:38:02.114
<v Speaker 4>be in a tiny poky restaurant and everyone's smoking, like

0:38:02.154 --> 0:38:03.194
<v Speaker 4>could you imagine that now?

0:38:03.354 --> 0:38:06.714
<v Speaker 5>And on a plane, yes, trouble Yeah. I usually go

0:38:06.754 --> 0:38:09.674
<v Speaker 5>from home to back to UK for boarding school, people

0:38:09.834 --> 0:38:12.794
<v Speaker 5>just smoke right in my face. Disgusting.

0:38:12.994 --> 0:38:15.314
<v Speaker 4>It's funny when you go to those international airports and

0:38:15.354 --> 0:38:18.074
<v Speaker 4>they go into those like cone of silence and they're like,

0:38:18.514 --> 0:38:20.994
<v Speaker 4>you know, like a cylinder of smoke.

0:38:23.714 --> 0:38:25.473
<v Speaker 1>So is it fashion grace? Is this one of those

0:38:25.514 --> 0:38:28.194
<v Speaker 1>things like everything old is new again and it's a cyclical?

0:38:28.474 --> 0:38:30.754
<v Speaker 1>You know, cigarettes are back in fashion again?

0:38:31.114 --> 0:38:33.394
<v Speaker 5>No? I mean it might be cool to young people,

0:38:33.554 --> 0:38:35.674
<v Speaker 5>but come on, smoking it's bad for you people. It

0:38:35.834 --> 0:38:38.874
<v Speaker 5>smells your close stanks. Do not smoke please.

0:38:39.074 --> 0:38:41.634
<v Speaker 4>If this is crazy, this is crazy. I just think

0:38:41.674 --> 0:38:44.073
<v Speaker 4>it's people are going against what the norm is. People

0:38:44.114 --> 0:38:47.234
<v Speaker 4>want to be seen as rebellious, and I think a

0:38:47.314 --> 0:38:49.794
<v Speaker 4>lot of these stars are just doing it just because,

0:38:49.914 --> 0:38:51.794
<v Speaker 4>you know, it seems to be a rebellious actor, or

0:38:51.914 --> 0:38:53.474
<v Speaker 4>it's a nice art directed photo.

0:38:53.754 --> 0:38:56.033
<v Speaker 5>Who listened to Kylie Jenner? Anyway? No? Thanks?

0:38:56.234 --> 0:39:00.154
<v Speaker 1>The interesting thing about smoking that I recall from when

0:39:00.194 --> 0:39:02.393
<v Speaker 1>I was younger is that it does force you to

0:39:02.474 --> 0:39:03.033
<v Speaker 1>do two things.

0:39:03.074 --> 0:39:04.314
<v Speaker 5>One you have to go outside.

0:39:04.954 --> 0:39:06.754
<v Speaker 1>In my day, I don't really have a lot of

0:39:06.754 --> 0:39:10.634
<v Speaker 1>recall of people smoking indoors. You know, maybe from when

0:39:10.674 --> 0:39:12.514
<v Speaker 1>I was very young, but my parents didn't smoke. But

0:39:12.914 --> 0:39:15.433
<v Speaker 1>when I smoked in my twenties, you had to leave

0:39:15.594 --> 0:39:18.393
<v Speaker 1>and go outside. And the other thing is that you

0:39:18.474 --> 0:39:20.754
<v Speaker 1>could you socialized. You know, you had your friends that

0:39:20.834 --> 0:39:23.234
<v Speaker 1>you smoked cigarettes with and you'd go outside. You had

0:39:23.274 --> 0:39:26.074
<v Speaker 1>to ask for a light. Like there were things that

0:39:26.154 --> 0:39:28.034
<v Speaker 1>I don't think vaping provides.

0:39:28.474 --> 0:39:33.873
<v Speaker 3>I'd like to bring the landline back. Bring the land

0:39:33.914 --> 0:39:35.274
<v Speaker 3>line back. It's better for your jack.

0:39:35.554 --> 0:39:37.674
<v Speaker 4>It doesn't have a mobile. She lives and dies for

0:39:37.794 --> 0:39:38.314
<v Speaker 4>the landline.

0:39:38.314 --> 0:39:38.594
<v Speaker 3>I love.

0:39:39.154 --> 0:39:40.234
<v Speaker 1>Is it an old dial up one?

0:39:40.394 --> 0:39:44.794
<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, she's cordless, but she's so funny. She's

0:39:44.834 --> 0:39:47.434
<v Speaker 4>so addicted to it. She talks on the phone NonStop.

0:39:47.634 --> 0:39:50.594
<v Speaker 4>And she's got one of those you know, international ones

0:39:50.634 --> 0:39:53.434
<v Speaker 4>where you can call any mobile, any landline, anywhere in

0:39:53.474 --> 0:39:57.154
<v Speaker 4>the world and it's right. So when we're having dinner

0:39:57.194 --> 0:39:59.234
<v Speaker 4>at her house, which is like a pretty momentous thing

0:39:59.234 --> 0:40:01.993
<v Speaker 4>because I don't live in Melbourne, you know, so that's

0:40:02.034 --> 0:40:03.874
<v Speaker 4>a big deal. When I go home to have dinner

0:40:04.394 --> 0:40:07.994
<v Speaker 4>and her phone will ring like tur three time during dinner,

0:40:08.274 --> 0:40:10.474
<v Speaker 4>and she'll go off into the powder room which is

0:40:10.674 --> 0:40:13.393
<v Speaker 4>next to the dining room, and would it acts like

0:40:13.474 --> 0:40:17.154
<v Speaker 4>an ampitheater and she's talking on the landline and then

0:40:17.234 --> 0:40:19.834
<v Speaker 4>if if someone calls her again, she just says one

0:40:19.914 --> 0:40:25.393
<v Speaker 4>thing very popular, very very popular, and she takes the

0:40:25.474 --> 0:40:27.674
<v Speaker 4>phone and then she goes she.

0:40:27.714 --> 0:40:30.433
<v Speaker 1>Could take it outside and light up a cigarette while

0:40:30.474 --> 0:40:34.513
<v Speaker 1>she's out there all night experience. What do you think

0:40:34.554 --> 0:40:36.594
<v Speaker 1>the next thing that's going to come back is going

0:40:36.634 --> 0:40:38.314
<v Speaker 1>to be? Like? Can we prepare for it and get

0:40:38.354 --> 0:40:39.154
<v Speaker 1>our things ready?

0:40:41.314 --> 0:40:42.234
<v Speaker 3>Please come back.

0:40:43.874 --> 0:40:44.114
<v Speaker 2>Tape?

0:40:44.514 --> 0:40:45.434
<v Speaker 3>I want a mixtape.

0:40:45.514 --> 0:40:46.354
<v Speaker 5>We'll hold on to them.

0:40:46.874 --> 0:40:53.074
<v Speaker 2>Actually, speaking of mixtapes, we have an unleashed Spotify playlist. Yes, honestly,

0:40:53.514 --> 0:40:55.554
<v Speaker 2>it's the closest thing to a mixtape. We're going to

0:40:55.634 --> 0:41:00.594
<v Speaker 2>get it is so good. It's eighties and nineties bangers

0:41:00.714 --> 0:41:01.274
<v Speaker 2>back to back.

0:41:01.554 --> 0:41:03.834
<v Speaker 3>Go follow it. The link is in the show notes.

0:41:03.994 --> 0:41:05.634
<v Speaker 2>Oh and if you've got a song that needs to

0:41:05.674 --> 0:41:08.714
<v Speaker 2>be on there sliding to our dms, yes, because we

0:41:08.834 --> 0:41:13.234
<v Speaker 2>take belting out songs here quite seriously. All right, that

0:41:13.514 --> 0:41:16.194
<v Speaker 2>is all we have time for this week. If you

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<v Speaker 2>have any messages that you want to send us or questions,

0:41:19.274 --> 0:41:22.873
<v Speaker 2>dm us at Unleashed dot show on Instagram because we

0:41:23.514 --> 0:41:25.234
<v Speaker 2>love hearing from you.

0:41:25.394 --> 0:41:27.114
<v Speaker 3>Don't we maya I love it, love it.

0:41:27.274 --> 0:41:29.394
<v Speaker 2>And if you are thinking about picking up a cigarette,

0:41:29.714 --> 0:41:34.634
<v Speaker 2>don't make us your new guilty pleasure instead, So follow

0:41:34.714 --> 0:41:37.114
<v Speaker 2>the show and share it with someone else you might

0:41:37.234 --> 0:41:38.594
<v Speaker 2>think needs that distraction.

0:41:39.594 --> 0:41:42.514
<v Speaker 3>What do we like to say? Ladies? See Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 2>Until then, stay unfiltered, stay unreasonable, Stay unleashed.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye.

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<v Speaker 3>Mamma.

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<v Speaker 2>Mia acknowledges the traditional owners of land and waters that

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<v Speaker 2>this podcast is recorded on