WEBVTT - WHAT IS YOUR BODY COUNT? 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.680 I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming. 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:06.040 She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of 0:00:06.080 --> 0:00:07.000 my kissing. 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:10.680 Style boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:13.480 He's in a trash bin. He's non recyclable catching. 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:19.160 I loved being loved. I love love. On today's episode 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:21.840 of Where's Your Head At, we'll be discussing body counts, 0:00:21.960 --> 0:00:24.160 which means the number of people you have slept with. 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:27.600 We will also discuss when you can ask what someone's 0:00:27.640 --> 0:00:30.800 body count is and whether or not you should tell 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:33.319 your partner how many people you slept with. 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:34.200 Stay tuned. 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.519 Where's Your Head At is a podcast that talks all 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:46.960 things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between. 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:49.960 This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip, 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:56.120 intimate details, advice, and much more. 0:00:57.280 --> 0:00:59.960 Hello Matt, Hello Anna. 0:00:59.680 --> 0:01:02.760 I've been dying to talk to you about this. 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:04.880 And I can't believe this is the first time we're 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:05.679 discussing this. 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:10.080 Everyone's been waiting for this. Give us an update on 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:11.319 Magical Date Girl. 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:14.160 Ah okay, so the Magical Date Girl and I have 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:17.480 been for a better time before. It's plodding on quite well. 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:21.320 Now we are. We're exclusive. So that was a big step. 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:23.679 Congratulations, thank you, thank you. 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:27.399 I mean, I don't really think the exclusives are massive step. 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:30.000 Like it sort of comes to a point where you're like, Okay, 0:01:30.040 --> 0:01:31.759 I'm not interested in anyone else right now. 0:01:31.760 --> 0:01:32.639 You weren't doing it anyway. 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:34.880 I wasn't doing it anyway. That's just you know, having 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:37.880 the conversation, which I guess is something that we talk about, 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:39.000 is a step in the relationship. 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:40.720 It's a necessary step, it is. 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:44.080 Yeah. Look, I'm very happy with how it's going to 0:01:44.120 --> 0:01:46.560 the point almost where I think there could be a 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:48.480 chance I could ask her to be my girlfriend soon. 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:49.280 I don't know. 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:52.600 I don't want to say anything too soon, but my goodness, 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:55.440 yeah I don't. Yeah, let's just play it cool and 0:01:56.760 --> 0:01:57.919 oh see where it goes. 0:01:58.000 --> 0:02:01.400 Look, it's a question, how are you gonna ask her 0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:04.120 to be your girlfriend? Like in your mind, have you 0:02:04.280 --> 0:02:05.919 like conjured up a plan. 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:11.720 I'm thinking about taking her down to like somewhere, a 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.480 nice place, maybe somewhere maybe by the lake, I don't know, 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:16.880 something nice on the nazy scenery, nice scenery. 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:22.239 The next episode, can we potentially have our fingers crossed 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:24.320 that maybe you have a girlfriend officially. 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:26.280 I mean a lot could happen in a week. I 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:28.480 don't want to get anyone's hopes up. Let's just see 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:29.200 where the week goes. 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:30.399 We'll see where the week goes. 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:33.480 How about you, Anna, How are you and Michael traveling? 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:36.040 How was he after his appearance on Where's Your Head At? 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:40.200 I mean, look, you've met Michael many times. He's super confident, 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:44.040 very charismatic, and I think he killed it. Like he 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:47.840 doesn't do like the whole getting up in front of 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:51.240 cameras or anything like this. So I was honestly so 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:53.760 proud of him. I thought he did an amazing job. 0:02:54.200 --> 0:02:58.040 He obviously always speaks really well and eloquently. And yeah, 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:02.240 things are going well between us, deeply into that honeymoon phase. 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:04.960 I just don't want it to end. Like we're having 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:09.920 so much fun together. We love hanging out with each other. Yeah, 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:10.880 I'm really happy. 0:03:10.919 --> 0:03:13.320 As you know, he got a lot of positive feedback 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:15.840 for his episode. But even better, it's happy that I'm 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:17.360 happy that you guys are happy. I can see it 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:20.120 on you, guys. I love being around you guys. You're 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:22.680 cute and it's good to see. Thank you, mat But 0:03:22.800 --> 0:03:29.000 it brings us to our topic of today. Yeah, well, 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:31.040 I'm going to straight up ask you. Have you had 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:34.600 the conversation about your body count with him or his 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:36.280 body count? Have you asked him? 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:39.240 Hmm. Let's jump into the episode and we'll find out. 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:47.000 Okay, okay, Anna, So today we're talking about body count 0:03:47.080 --> 0:03:50.240 for people listening at home, what exactly does a body 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:50.800 count mean? 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:53.920 Okay? So, I mean, I guess it started from the army. 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:57.520 It's the count of bodies that a soldier has killed 0:03:57.720 --> 0:03:58.640 from the enemy. 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:02.960 But some how in our twenty first century world, it. 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:08.720 Has transformed into being the number of people you've slept with. Matt. 0:04:09.000 --> 0:04:12.360 So, my mum would say, your notches in your bed head? 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:15.680 In your bed head, have notches in the bell? 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:16.640 In the bell? 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:18.120 That the same one? 0:04:18.480 --> 0:04:20.280 I think that is? That's around the same thing. 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:22.040 She's a notch in my belt. 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:23.000 Yeah, exactly. 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:29.880 So, Matt, would you reveal your body count to a 0:04:29.920 --> 0:04:31.240 partner if they asked you? 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:35.159 Okay, great question. I love that straight up I have 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:39.080 in the past. Yes, yeah, I would not now Okay. 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:42.839 So second day with Magical Date Girl, we're on a 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:45.239 walk and she asked me straight up what my body 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:45.680 count was. 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:49.040 Wow, big question for a second day. 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:52.920 And I said, look, I have been in relationships where 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:56.720 I've expressed it. It's backfired, it's been used against me, 0:04:56.839 --> 0:05:00.119 it's been thrown in my face. I'm not going to 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:02.800 openly say it. It's by no stretch of the imagination, 0:05:02.920 --> 0:05:04.920 am I saying I've got hundreds, Like, that's not what 0:05:05.000 --> 0:05:05.800 I'm saying. 0:05:06.040 --> 0:05:07.040 I'm not twelve hundred. 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:10.200 Well, yeah, so what I what I said to it 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:14.000 was I said so on national television. I said that 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:15.479 I had slept with one hundred and six women. 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:19.359 You did so love island, and you got crucified for it. 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:22.719 I did. The one thing my old man said to 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:24.360 me was when I got off the show was he said, 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:27.080 proud of you. You killed it amazing on there. Just 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:29.440 you should not have expressed your body or how many 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:32.160 women you've slept with. He said, that's just a gentleman 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.479 doesn't do that. So I took that on board. 0:05:34.720 --> 0:05:37.840 And we've spoken about this as well, and you said 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:41.560 to me it was your biggest regret. But let's dive 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:44.640 into that. Why is that a regret of yours? Like, 0:05:44.680 --> 0:05:48.159 why is it so bad having people know how many 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:49.080 people you've slept with? 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:52.159 I think there's a massive stigma around it. Like the 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:57.039 greater the number, the more people think are you're just slack? 0:05:57.320 --> 0:05:59.000 And I hate to say because I don't believe in it, 0:05:59.080 --> 0:06:00.720 but like you're more of a tar, you're more of 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:03.000 a sleep around all that sort of stuff. Boy, yeah, 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:05.040 fuck boy, And I don't believe in that sort of stuff. 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:08.560 I mean, everything is like situational. I guess when I 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:12.680 was younger, it was more of like something to be 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:15.440 proud of to your mates. When I was immature and younger, 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:17.279 it was like, oh, I've slept with X amount. But 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:19.720 now you grow up and you realize it's not like 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:21.839 it's just you know what I mean, It's not the 0:06:22.279 --> 0:06:24.240 be all and end all. It's just like You've been 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:27.240 in a lot of situations where I've been able to 0:06:27.279 --> 0:06:28.239 sleep with different women. 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:30.960 Yeah. I mean, so you think that when you're younger, 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:33.600 you kind of boast about it, and then maybe as 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:36.680 you get older and that number is probably higher than 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:39.680 you might like, you're a bit like embarrassed about it. 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:40.320 Would you say? 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:43.839 Yeah, I wouldn't say embarrassed, but I mean people can 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:45.840 use it against you. And that's what I said to 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:47.880 Magical date girl. I said, I've been in a relationship 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:51.320 where it was used against me. It wasn't me expressing 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:54.800 that honesty wasn't the best idea. I said, you can 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:57.920 tell me yours. I'm more than like she told me hers, 0:06:57.960 --> 0:06:59.919 And I was like, Okay, I just don't think that 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:04.600 it's healthy to know your partner's BodyCount. I don't think really, I. 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:07.080 Don't think I've always known all of my partners, and 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:08.640 I feel like they've always known mine. 0:07:08.800 --> 0:07:11.720 So you openly will share it if they asked, yes, okay? 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:13.280 And do they openly share it? 0:07:13.880 --> 0:07:18.160 Yeah, I mean reluctantly sometimes that I might like push 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:19.800 a little bit and I'll be like I really want 0:07:19.800 --> 0:07:23.360 to know, and then I'll get like a rough area. 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:26.360 But yeah, I mean most of the time people are 0:07:26.400 --> 0:07:28.400 willing to share, wouldn't you say? 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:30.680 Yeah? I was until, like I said, it was thrown 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:32.840 in my face and used against me, And now I'm like. 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:37.080 That's more just like toxic relationship vibes as opposed to like. 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:40.000 I've been in healthy ones, and it's definitely been brought 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:42.400 up as well. Really okay, yeah, like where they've said, 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:44.320 well did you say this to all the X amount 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.680 you've slept with? That sort of stuff, and I'm just like, 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:48.480 it can leave for insecurities. 0:07:48.520 --> 0:07:53.600 I feel, yeah, So obviously personally for me, I'd say 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:58.320 that my body count has always been substantially lower than 0:07:58.360 --> 0:08:01.800 the guys that I've dated, looking like their's is ten 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:05.880 times twenty times more, And I'm like, WHOA, how is 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:10.760 this possible? Like that's common right, Like guys have a 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:14.080 way bigger body count than women generally speaking. 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:16.960 I feel like, I don't know how you thought you 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:19.520 think of this, but like I said, when you were younger, 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:21.360 it was like you'd go out with the boys and 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:23.440 you'd be like, all right, thriller, the kill who's picking 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:25.800 up tonight? Sort of thing, and you'd go out for 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:26.400 that reason. 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:27.320 So it was like a game. 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:30.880 It's not so much a game, but more like all right, 0:08:30.920 --> 0:08:32.920 Like that was the intention of going out. It was 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:35.079 to take someone home, and that was where it was. 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:37.839 And a lot of boys would do that, a lot 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:39.640 of my mates would do that. I would find myself 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:42.400 doing that if the opportunity arose. It was just how 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:46.199 it was. And obstantially that's happening, and you're like eight 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:49.200 a and going out a lot. That thing is continuously 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.320 rising to x amount of numbers that you're on. 0:08:51.600 --> 0:08:55.199 Yeah, Like, I know this sounds like a little bit silly, 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:58.640 but I was always really conscious to keep my number 0:08:59.120 --> 0:09:02.679 quite low. I feel like the societal pressures that I 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:06.360 felt like, you don't want to sleep with heaps of guys, 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:08.600 Like I always had this thing where I was like, 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:11.160 I don't want him to be able to say I've 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:11.960 slept with adder. 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:14.520 Yeah. I don't believe in the word slut. I don't 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:17.000 think that. No, I know, I don't think that's a thing. 0:09:17.040 --> 0:09:19.120 I don't I was always raised by my mom and 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:22.520 that not to give that word any attention. But I 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:24.839 do agree with what you're saying. Yeah, you didn't want 0:09:24.840 --> 0:09:27.280 people to think that they're because when you have SEXI 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:29.040 some one, you're opening yourself up to them and you're 0:09:29.320 --> 0:09:30.480 giving you your energy. 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:33.120 Yeah, and it is. It's an energy shade. 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:35.920 All right. And so what would your body count be 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.079 around then? I know you're not going to give it 0:09:38.240 --> 0:09:41.679 exact number. What what are we looking at? Is it 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:42.520 higher than twenty? 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:47.120 It's not higher than twenty? How can I give enough 0:09:47.200 --> 0:09:50.800 away without telling? When I met Josh, my body count 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:55.040 was at twelve. Okay, So I guess like people can 0:09:55.120 --> 0:09:56.840 kind of work out the math. 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:58.520 But it's lower than twenty. 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:01.200 So okay, I didn't I actually didn't know. I don't 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:02.839 know what your body count was actually, but. 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:06.480 Now you have a rough idea. What's your body count? 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:09.080 That, like I said, I'm not going to The biggest 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:12.200 regret was expressing the number. So when I was on Loveland, 0:10:12.240 --> 0:10:13.480 I was one hundred and six. 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:19.560 And since twenty nineteen heavy partying days had a bit 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:21.840 of a year relationship, and then you had some heavy 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:26.520 party days, I feel like it would have gone up substantially. 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:28.840 Yeah, I've put a couple of notches in my BedHead. 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:34.800 I mean, yeah, you've come off a show. It was 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:38.679 like a lot of partying, A lot of you saw firsthand. 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:41.040 You were there for a lot of it. Fortunately, Yeah, 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:43.680 and then you saw what I was up to. 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:46.000 Yeah. Do you think it matters? 0:10:46.120 --> 0:10:46.200 Like? 0:10:46.280 --> 0:10:46.880 Does it matter? 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:48.920 Is it just like this thing that we talk about 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.160 that really is irrelevant to everyone's lives? 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:55.600 It depends I've been told about. I got told by 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:59.400 a girl and hers was higher than I expected, and 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:02.079 it took me off by guard. 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:06.280 Question, was her body count higher than your body count? 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:06.959 No? 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:09.760 No, okay, okay, but I'm just gonna pause, you there, 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:15.000 because look at the social norms that we've been conditioned 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:19.000 to be accepting of men with a higher body count, 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:22.520 but then there was a girl who didn't even have 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.640 as high a body count as you, and it's caught 0:11:24.640 --> 0:11:27.480 you off guard like that just shows like such a 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:30.960 separation between what's accepted from men and women. 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:33.760 Right. Look, I didn't really care. I just was a 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.200 bit taken back by that. It was nothing about women 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:38.319 how much they're sleate with or guys how much devslate with. 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:41.600 It was just me trying to calculate stuff in my head. Yeah, 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:43.600 I have a friend who's a girl, and she's the 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:46.240 exact same as like any guy would be. She doesn't care. 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:49.640 She just she's totally fucked that stigma off and just 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:51.559 gone all right, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:53.520 what I want to do. And my hat off to 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:56.160 her because it's twenty twenty one and you have every 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:56.760 right to do that. 0:11:57.040 --> 0:12:01.640 Yeah, okay, Matt. 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:01.760 So. 0:12:01.920 --> 0:12:07.080 According to a twenty and eleven to twenty fifteen CDC data, 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:11.600 women between the ages of twenty five to forty four 0:12:11.720 --> 0:12:15.880 had a median of four point two sexual partners, while 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:19.199 men in that age group had a meeting of six 0:12:19.240 --> 0:12:20.760 point one sexual partners. 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:22.120 Does that seem low? 0:12:22.600 --> 0:12:25.360 What? That seems very low? 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:26.720 That seems very low to me. 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:28.760 I mean when we were on Love Island we did 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:31.679 a sexual education on Australians. 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:35.080 I remember that, and that's that start reminded me of 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:36.240 that bang on game. 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:37.520 Because it felt lower than. 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:39.280 It should have been, and I remember thinking to myself, 0:12:39.320 --> 0:12:41.640 this just doesn't seem Yeah, it seems very low. 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:44.400 Yeah, I mean I reckon the median body count for 0:12:44.480 --> 0:12:47.920 guys I've dated, they normally say it's like around one hundred. 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:50.840 I feel like a lot of guys I know are 0:12:50.880 --> 0:12:57.480 around that at my age. What's Michael on guys you've 0:12:57.520 --> 0:12:57.960 done it? 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:00.880 I did ask him if I was allowed to divulge 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:05.200 this piece of information, and obviously he doesn't want that 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:08.360 number out there for everyone, which is totally fair enough. 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:11.640 I wasn't surprised by his number. I think it's like 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:13.079 pretty normal for a. 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:15.559 Guy like so it was around one hundred and something. 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:18.240 I mean, I'm not going to say would I have 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:21.440 liked it to be lower? Of course, like every girl 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:26.080 wants to feel like their boyfriend was a virgin when when. 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:33.000 They met them with all the experience with all the 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:34.600 still want the experience. 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:39.400 Yes, okay, Matt, So I have an interesting survey to 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:42.920 share with you. Out of two thousand people who were 0:13:42.960 --> 0:13:48.679 in relationships, forty percent hadn't disclosed their number, and of 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:50.360 the fifty eight percent who. 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:55.360 Had, nearly half shared information within three months of dating. 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:59.240 Is it weird and that didn't share that with their partner? 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:01.720 I mean, yeah, it is kind of weird, Like why 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:06.239 wouldn't you share that information? Like obviously those people feel insecure, 0:14:06.920 --> 0:14:08.920 maybe they feel like they're going to be judged. They 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:12.200 don't want their partner to have a negative opinion on them, 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:16.440 so they're keeping that information to themselves. Also, interestingly, when 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:19.920 it comes to sharing the numbers of past sexual partners, 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:25.400 thirty two percent of the respondents admitted to changing their digits, 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:28.760 with forty two percent of those being male and twenty 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:33.120 three percent being females. So the males are actually being 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:35.440 more dishonest with their partners. 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:36.440 What do you think of that? 0:14:37.800 --> 0:14:40.240 I could see a couple of blokes maybe going under 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:43.280 like less really play it down. Have you lied? 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:46.600 No, I've never lied about my body count. I've just 0:14:46.880 --> 0:14:51.120 always been honest and transparent. But I guess I probably 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:55.160 if someone asked me too soon, I might say I'm 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:57.080 not going to tell you, or like, yeah, I feel 0:14:57.080 --> 0:15:00.200 like it's too soon to divulge that type of information. 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:03.560 But yeah, like I actually. 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:05.200 Going back to what we were saying before, I reckon 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:08.640 that guys like amped up a little bit. Really Yeah, 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:10.760 Like I once had a guys tell me he had 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:14.640 slept with five hundred women, and I was like, how Like, 0:15:15.440 --> 0:15:18.840 I've done the math, you're a fuck boy, but like, 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:20.880 how on earth. 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:23.360 That's an extravagant amount. I think he's lying. There's no 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:25.400 way you can How old. 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:28.320 Was he thirty four at the time? 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:30.960 Who know? It's given benefit of the day. 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:37.400 Okay, let's jump into talking about what should you share 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:40.080 with your partner and what should you not share? 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:45.560 All right, guys, we're going to go through some things 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:47.440 you should share with your partner and some things you 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:48.720 shouldn't share with your partner. 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:50.920 Yeah, let's jump in that. So the first thing that 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:53.440 we think that you can share with your partner is 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:56.200 your cheating history. It's good to be open and honest. 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:59.200 I think if you've cheated and then you don't tell 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:02.280 your partner, that information could be found out later or 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:03.400 by an ex partner. 0:16:04.040 --> 0:16:05.920 That's where we get into the red zone. I think 0:16:05.920 --> 0:16:08.080 it's good to be transparent and honest about that one. 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:11.200 Yeah, I agree. I think this one should go without saying. 0:16:11.680 --> 0:16:16.600 You should share your medical history, so Sti's medical health 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:19.960 and anything that could stop you from doing certain stuff. 0:16:20.240 --> 0:16:21.920 But they're going to pick up on it anyway, So 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:23.720 it's better to be honest and upfront about that sort 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:24.760 of stuff exactly. 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:28.800 We then have You should also be open about financial issues. 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:31.760 If you are joining partnerships with someone you're going to 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:34.240 be a couple, you know, it becomes a joint battle, 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:36.760 and I think if you're having issues, it's best to 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:37.440 be upfront. 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:40.120 How really do you bring financial stuff up? Because I 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:42.000 know a lot of people are private about that. What 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:43.960 would be recommended Tome? 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:47.800 I mean, look, I really find it uncomfortable and I 0:16:47.840 --> 0:16:50.120 would prefer not to talk about it for the first like, 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:52.680 say six months. And I think if you're in a 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:55.840 strong relationship for six months, then you can talk about it. 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:58.040 But of course, like finances come up here and there, 0:16:58.080 --> 0:17:00.320 like who's paying for this, who's paying for that? And 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:04.080 you can slowly get into it and kind of eventually 0:17:04.400 --> 0:17:07.800 start talking about those bigger sort of topics and questions 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:10.639 and future plans. But you know it doesn't have to 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:11.440 happen straight away. 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:12.240 I agree. 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.520 We then have anxiety and depression. I think it's good 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:18.919 in relationships. I suffer from anxiety. It's really good to 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:23.040 be upfront and open about that. Like I've had boyfriends 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:26.080 where they're really bad at dealing with it was about anxiety. 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:28.199 I was about to say, one hundred percent agree. You 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:31.040 need to know straight off how they're going to react 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:32.920 to that and how they're going to handle it, because 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:34.919 you need to be with someone that can handle your 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:36.160 anxiety and your impression. 0:17:36.359 --> 0:17:39.320 Yeah, and like you know, Michael also suffers from anxiety, 0:17:39.359 --> 0:17:42.440 and we're really good with dealing with each other's anxiety 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:44.880 because we know about it. You know, if we know 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:47.280 how to talk to someone with anxiety and how to 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:50.040 not belittle them or make them feel less that. 0:17:50.480 --> 0:17:53.239 I've dated people that did not have to know how 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:58.200 to deal with anxiety and fuck at least or some toxic. 0:17:58.359 --> 0:17:59.720 I mean that used to have these. 0:18:00.200 --> 0:18:03.320 So I'd be like, he doesn't he doesn't understand my anxiety, 0:18:03.359 --> 0:18:06.040 and he'd be like, same, she doesn't understand. 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:07.800 It to try and match my anxiety levels and like 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:08.919 fucking nasissy, don't do that. 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:11.800 Okay. 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:15.680 Past trauma's grief and life changing events, they're so important 0:18:15.720 --> 0:18:16.760 to share with your partner. 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:18.840 It brings a deeper sense of connection. 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:22.760 And with that, the perfect timing is you'll know, you'll 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:25.280 know when you're in the moment and you can express 0:18:25.320 --> 0:18:26.879 and share those moments with someone. 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:27.160 Yeah. 0:18:27.200 --> 0:18:29.120 And I think it's really important to make sure that. 0:18:29.119 --> 0:18:30.560 I just put it all out on the table on 0:18:30.640 --> 0:18:31.320 the first date. 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:36.119 No, yeah, no, And I think it's important to really 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:38.960 like see how your partner reacts to that, Like do 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:42.000 they acknowledge your feelings, did they ask you questions about it? 0:18:42.000 --> 0:18:43.120 Are they interested in it? 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:45.840 Or do they kind of brush those past traumas under 0:18:45.880 --> 0:18:48.800 the rug and pretend that they don't exist. And I 0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:50.840 mean those things can be deal breakers as. 0:18:50.760 --> 0:18:53.880 Well, exactly. And lastly, I think you should share how 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:56.720