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Speaker 1: City and with Kate Ritchie podcast. This is a parenting discussion.

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Speaker 1: I want your opinion on.

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Speaker 2: Oh I've got one.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, I know you have an opinion on them.

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Speaker 3: Well, in fact, I don't really need to hear from you,

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Speaker 3: but I want you to get involved. There's a dilemma

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Speaker 3: with this woman who has allowed her young daughter, who

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Speaker 3: is only eleven years old, to do something that she's

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Speaker 3: probably way too young for. Okay, so get involved thirteen

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Speaker 3: twenty four ten. No, but it's also hard. It's also

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Speaker 3: it's very hard to parent your children in a particular

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Speaker 3: way when you know that other kids of the same age,

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Speaker 3: their friends at school, are allowed to do things that

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Speaker 3: perhaps you wouldn't want your child to do, whether that's

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Speaker 3: heading out, staying over at other.

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Speaker 2: Houses, these are the rules under this roof.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know you're turning into your parents when you

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Speaker 3: start saying things like, well, if if you know such

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Speaker 3: and such as mother will let them do it, why

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Speaker 3: don't you go and live there. I mean, I haven't

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Speaker 3: used that one yet, but it's coming. This woman has

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Speaker 3: come up against like a huge amount of criticism. Unfortunately.

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Speaker 3: I do think she does it for a little bit

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Speaker 3: of publicity, which is quite sad to hear when her

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Speaker 3: you know, her.

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Speaker 1: Young daughter's life or well being is at stage. Sure,

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Speaker 1: she calls herself a bad mother. She's on TikTok and Instagram.

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Speaker 4: If it's not a snake and dagger, I tatoo on

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Speaker 4: her back or something like that as it.

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Speaker 3: No, it's not, but it is getting her belly pierced

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Speaker 3: quite like a belly button. Yeah, so the daughter is

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Speaker 3: eleven years old and she's allowed her daughter to get

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Speaker 3: the belly button pierced. Prior to this, though, she's also

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Speaker 3: let her maybe ten nine ten year old daughter go

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Speaker 3: and get acrylic nails. So big fate nails. Which are

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Speaker 3: you know you file the whole nail bed back you're

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Speaker 3: putting on the the acrylic. They were far too long.

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Speaker 3: There were videos I think of even the daughter in

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Speaker 3: tears on so because they got infected and broken.

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Speaker 1: Were way way too long.

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Speaker 2: This is a disaster. Well, I think it's where's the dad?

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Speaker 1: Well, we don't need a dad.

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Speaker 3: It is nice to have a dad, but I don't

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Speaker 3: think it's always the dad who steps in and straightens things.

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Speaker 2: Getting the job done.

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Speaker 1: Are you doing this to press buttons.

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Speaker 2: Because you are Mum's not getting the job done.

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Speaker 1: Well, she is getting the job and.

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Speaker 2: Now she's going to get a belly button ring. Where

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Speaker 2: is the dad?

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Speaker 5: Now?

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Speaker 4: The question I asked, did the young lady want that?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 3: She did, But I do think the mum kind of

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Speaker 3: pushes this as well, because you know, I mean we're

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Speaker 3: talking about it now.

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Speaker 4: Let's not talk about the influencer side of thing.

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Speaker 1: No, No, let's just talk.

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Speaker 4: About when your kid is ten years of age and

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Speaker 4: wants to get their epieced. What my son wanted to

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Speaker 4: do that at a shopping center, just the one or both,

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Speaker 4: just one and he wanted like a cubics of corny

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Speaker 4: like a diamond and there's someone.

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Speaker 1: In the press who has that or is there a

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Speaker 1: sports them kind of yeah.

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Speaker 4: So I so my mother and father were there with us,

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Speaker 4: and my mom goes.

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Speaker 2: Oh, pay for it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, let's go get it done. And I was like,

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Speaker 4: I initially went oh, but then I went, if he

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Speaker 4: wants to do it, and we went and got it done.

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Speaker 2: On the spot.

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Speaker 1: How old he was?

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Speaker 2: Nine? When he was nine?

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Speaker 1: What do you think about that?

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Speaker 2: It's your rules, it's your kid, it's your house. You

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Speaker 2: call it.

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Speaker 4: Well, you're either going to get it done like you did.

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Speaker 4: You went and got your ease piece when your dad

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Speaker 4: said no, I didn't. I did it myself. Dad didn't

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Speaker 4: say no.

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Speaker 2: I did it myself and learnt the hard way sticking

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Speaker 2: a the needle through the top of my ear because

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Speaker 2: the cool kids had it in year eleven and I

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Speaker 2: don't know something.

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Speaker 1: That's old enough to be piercing.

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Speaker 2: But the other thing is too. There's an element of

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Speaker 2: learn from your mistake. So very quickly I knew, but

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Speaker 2: I would hide it because I had longer hair. And

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Speaker 2: then when I showed dad, wasn't a good day.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, which is what you would say to your boys now.

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Speaker 2: No, well, at the age of eight and seven, yeah,

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Speaker 2: i'd say that you're not doing that now. Still wouldn't

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Speaker 2: work for me. Want you need to be sixteen upwards. Okay,

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Speaker 2: level of maturity.

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Speaker 3: I wanted made it have her ears pierced when she

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Speaker 3: went to high school. So it was a bit of

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Speaker 3: a fun, you know, like growing up going to high school,

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Speaker 3: you can do that. That The decision to have her

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Speaker 3: ears pissed was taken out of my hands, but it

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Speaker 3: was a bit like she learnt the hard way because

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Speaker 3: she did have her ears pierced. Bummy wasn't very happy

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Speaker 3: about it. And then seven weeks into having them pierced,

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Speaker 3: they got so infected.

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Speaker 1: She woke up one morning.

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Speaker 3: And I hate to say I told you so, but

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Speaker 3: she woke up one morning and it was this as

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Speaker 3: if her ears her earrings.

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Speaker 1: Had fallen out in the night, because you couldn't see them.

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Speaker 3: But it was only because her ears had got so

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Speaker 3: increased over they had swollen up.

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Speaker 1: Over the start, so you couldn't see these.

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Speaker 3: So we had to go through the whole process of

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Speaker 3: I mean basically holding her down very gently and taking

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Speaker 3: them and removing them because there is no other option.

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Speaker 2: Donas in willaware. What are your thoughts on a denaise.

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Speaker 6: Hey guys, good morning morning. I wouldn't agree with us

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Speaker 6: as a ten year old or eleven year old gets

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Speaker 6: their billy Wotton chairs because I do have my partner's

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Speaker 6: daughter's ten and she went to get her ears double piers,

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Speaker 6: which was a part was okay, but is she asked

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Speaker 6: her billy Wotton piers to be a firm noll. Yes,

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Speaker 6: like I've then again at sixteen, like sixteen, I don't know,

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Speaker 6: would that be kind of a bitter age?

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Speaker 2: Have you got any Did you get anything early? On, Denise,

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Speaker 2: you got any tats or earrings early?

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Speaker 6: I do get tattoos when I was sixteen, but my

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Speaker 6: mom was with me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and I see you don't have a leg to

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Speaker 3: stand on when you've done it yourself. I just think

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Speaker 3: if you do things so early, you've got nowhere to go.

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Speaker 1: But I but you.

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Speaker 4: Loarn this is the thing. And your daughter learned that,

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Speaker 4: you know that the infection.

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Speaker 3: And then she went and had them done again. Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Aleah, Hey, guys, how you go on? What an interesting topic?

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Speaker 2: Isn't it very much?

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Speaker 3: So?

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Speaker 2: Why does it strike a chord with you?

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Speaker 5: I rose five kids, Miles is thirty four down to eighteen,

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Speaker 5: and the different things that go on. But I remember

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Speaker 5: my thirty four year old daughter wanted that belly ring,

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Speaker 5: and I'm like, oh no, I think she was fourteen

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Speaker 5: and she went out and done it, like they just

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Speaker 5: go out behind your back.

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Speaker 1: Tatoos are the worst because you can't undo them, can you?

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Speaker 2: What have your daughter?

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Speaker 5: My daughter's got a full sleeve and she never ever

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Speaker 5: asked my permission for one. You know, I love her

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Speaker 5: when she sits at the table talking to her friends.

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Speaker 4: And I'm like well, because they know where your answer

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Speaker 4: is going to be, Leah, and they're going to get

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Speaker 4: it done anyway.

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Speaker 1: This is the boys put.

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Speaker 5: My name on them. That makes me Happy's a.

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Speaker 3: Good way to get it over the line. I'm not

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Speaker 3: going to be happy about it unless I have her

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Speaker 3: face tattooed on.

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Speaker 4: My chest across I've got Leah tattoo this tiny little

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Speaker 4: one here in Cannibal Corpse on my back.

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Speaker 2: Remember that's beautiful, isn't it. I mean, Kate Richie, have

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Speaker 2: you ever done anything crazy like I don't know, had

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Speaker 2: your nipple pissed?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I did do that, but that's interesting.

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Speaker 3: But I was working and that was one of my

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Speaker 3: first cross no first days.

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Speaker 2: In Pine Radio.

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Speaker 3: I still have the little ring in a jar on

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Speaker 3: my bookshelf at home because I'm a hoarder and have

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Speaker 3: you know, order sentimental issues here. But thankfully because I

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Speaker 3: was working on home and away. When I was growing up,

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Speaker 3: I couldn't do anything crazy because I had to ask

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Speaker 3: for permission for everything. So I didn't have my ear

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Speaker 3: and I was the oldest of four, so I got

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Speaker 3: to do things much later. I wasn't even allowed to

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Speaker 3: shave my lengths until I was in year nine.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. So then he got out of home

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Speaker 2: and away and went straight for the nip.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I went crazy. I went mad. Thanks Mom. Vizzy

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