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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I want to hear from you if you've got like

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Speaker 2: a really cutesy thing that you do in your relationship

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Speaker 2: just to show how you love each other, and it's

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Speaker 2: just a special thing that.

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Speaker 3: The two of you get just between the two of you. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: nobody else knows that means.

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Speaker 2: I mean, maybe people do and they envy you from afar, like,

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Speaker 2: oh my god, they have such cute gestures of love.

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Speaker 4: This. I want to say that this is cute because

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Speaker 4: I do.

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Speaker 2: Love love, and it is the week of the Singles

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Speaker 2: Ball and all of that stuff. But this cutesy sign

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Speaker 2: of love in this relationship could also be the most

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Speaker 2: annoying thing in the world. There's a woman. She's married

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Speaker 2: to Clifford the Big Red Dog, and they have this

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Speaker 2: thing where he I mean, they've been married for forty

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Speaker 2: one years, so they are doing they're doing okay. I know,

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Speaker 2: you spoke to someone on air this morning who'd been

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Speaker 2: married for twenty and you thought that was impressed. Forty

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Speaker 2: one years. Apparently she has made his lunch for work

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Speaker 2: every day of that forty one years. It's amazing and

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Speaker 2: it's still here to deal the tale. And one day

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Speaker 2: she took a bite of his little sandwich that she

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Speaker 2: made and popped it in his lunch box, and he

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Speaker 2: toddled off to work. And then he got to work

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Speaker 2: and he thought someone had had a little nibble at

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Speaker 2: his lunch.

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Speaker 3: Little mouse in the house.

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Speaker 2: He's like, somebody's eating my lunch. And at the end

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Speaker 2: of the day she said, no, telling that was me.

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Speaker 2: I was just so peckish when I was cooking your lunch.

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Speaker 2: And I do remember that one day you said to me,

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Speaker 2: lunch shared with you. My darling, whatever her name is,

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Speaker 2: Tracy is always the best lunch of all. So she

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Speaker 2: now does that every day, so that in some ways

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Speaker 2: it feels as though they've shared lunch, even though she's

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Speaker 2: at home and he's at work.

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Speaker 4: And it's just so cute. Thirteen twenty four ten.

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Speaker 2: If you've got something like that, it's all stoken around

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Speaker 2: the house.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. Connection of the lips as well, isn't it. It's

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Speaker 5: like a kiss. She's touched the sandwich last, and then

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Speaker 5: I'm going to bite into it next.

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Speaker 6: I know.

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Speaker 3: When I sat down my lunch break fits and I

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Speaker 3: open my food for the day and I look in

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Speaker 3: and someone's taken a bite out of a sandwich. I reckon,

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Speaker 3: I'm that wrapped half. If it's missing, missus has taken

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Speaker 3: my bite.

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Speaker 2: I think it's cute to start with, but don't you

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Speaker 2: think that on some days you sit down for your

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Speaker 2: lunch and somebody's taken a bite out of your egan lettuce?

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Speaker 4: How annoying?

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Speaker 2: Come just let me have my lunch.

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Speaker 4: I'm a grown up.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I can have my lunch without you having the

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Speaker 3: first bite.

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Speaker 2: But also if she's making it, I think she deserves

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Speaker 2: to be able to have a bite. I mean, as

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Speaker 2: somebody who's had their lunch made for them for work

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Speaker 2: for forty one years, maybe give us a call if

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Speaker 2: you've had that, if you never made your own lunch,

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Speaker 2: if you dare to go.

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Speaker 7: I still have.

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Speaker 5: I mean, this is off, it's a little bit different,

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Speaker 5: but I've still got BJ in my phone as BJ

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Speaker 5: too Hotty, which was when I first started courting her.

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Speaker 5: Coat A friend of hers came over and said, do

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Speaker 5: you want her number? And I said I would love

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Speaker 5: her number, and she said give me your phone, and

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Speaker 5: her friend put BJ's number in my phone as BJ

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Speaker 5: too Hotty.

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Speaker 2: That is that's exactly what I'm looking for.

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Speaker 4: That is so nice, beautiful man.

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Speaker 5: I haven't changed it since mainly because I'm very lazy.

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Speaker 4: But you don't know how to do it? No, I

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Speaker 4: frigging I've got a BlackBerry and I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Shaves and castle Roy. Hello, okay, guy, what do you

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Speaker 3: do for your husband? That's a bit of a sign

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Speaker 3: of love every.

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Speaker 8: Day with them he has twelve years and every day,

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Speaker 8: depending on my mood, I'll google I love your poems,

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Speaker 8: I appreciate your poems and screezehot it and then.

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Speaker 4: So nice?

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Speaker 2: What time of day does he get them? Like when

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Speaker 8: Works away, so he doesn't get home until Saturdays, so

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Speaker 8: many of the morning or an afternoon.

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Speaker 9: I do it.

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Speaker 4: I do that, But.

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Speaker 3: I'll send a song through quite often you've recorded. No,

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Speaker 3: I'll send a song that I really like, that's a

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Speaker 3: love song, and I just mess.

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Speaker 4: It to the song to her Tom.

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Speaker 5: Tom also sends through screenshots, but there are a lot

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Speaker 5: different to that.

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Speaker 3: That's really a sign of love. Tom, you actually call

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Speaker 3: that a poem? Can Can I speak on behalf of

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Speaker 3: Tom Cave?

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Speaker 8: Oh?

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Speaker 3: You do well. I'd like to say a couple of

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Speaker 3: examples of what Tom does. For one, he bought a

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Speaker 3: plastic container to housing his banana in so it wouldn't

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Speaker 3: get squashed when she took her to work.

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Speaker 2: That must have been very uncomfortable for it.

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Speaker 5: That's a good gift.

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Speaker 3: And then he bought a little deck chair, a little

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Speaker 3: deck chair for her mobile phone to sit on, so

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Speaker 3: that's sort of a resting place.

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Speaker 2: That's really that's really thoughtful. I want to go back

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Speaker 2: to the thing about the I know we're still talking

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Speaker 2: about love songs and luckily gestures, but when you the

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Speaker 2: sending of songs, and I don't know if anyone else

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Speaker 2: has had this experience, your idea of what the song

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Speaker 2: means can sometimes has the song ever caused an argument?

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Speaker 2: Because you know, you might send through like a Taylor

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Speaker 2: Swift song, I don't know, And then you expect the

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Speaker 2: other person to listen to the song and they listen

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Speaker 2: to the lyrics, and then if they bother to listen,

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Speaker 2: I don't often listen to those things, they say, how

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Speaker 2: did you listen to it?

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Speaker 7: You never do?

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Speaker 4: And then.

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Speaker 2: You you start to break it down and then an argument

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Speaker 2: ensues because it's like which one am I? Or would

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Speaker 2: you think that I'm? What have I ever done that?

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Speaker 2: That's that which character am I? In the song?

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Speaker 3: The song is called have I Told you Lately that

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Speaker 3: I love you?

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Speaker 4: That's simple, Just accept it.

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Speaker 3: Small signs of love, the little things, not fighting over

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Speaker 3: the title name of a song. We want to know

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Speaker 3: what you do or your partner does for you?

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Speaker 5: A Ron on the line from what does your partner

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Speaker 5: do to tell you that they love you?

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Speaker 9: Well, she always dances for me on the ring camera,

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Speaker 9: so you always get the notifications coming up that you

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Speaker 9: know something's gone past your ring camera, that your front door,

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Speaker 9: but you know it's just a notification. And then comes

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Speaker 9: to smoke. Oh, and you look at the notifications and

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Speaker 9: she she's dancing for me.

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Speaker 5: Twirking that kind of stuff, Aaron, Or.

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Speaker 9: It's more like Napoleon dynam I, just like we need

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Speaker 9: crazy dancers all the time.

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Speaker 2: Human And he sounds really invigorated by calling and talking

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Speaker 2: about his partner.

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Speaker 3: That is nice to.

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Speaker 5: Johnny noys to Bay. How does your wife say I

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Speaker 7: She makes my lunch every single day for the last

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Speaker 7: forty three years, john What do you get?

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Speaker 4: What's your standard lunch?

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Speaker 7: Could be here and cheese and tomato. It could be

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Speaker 7: a magical wrap with you know, panory chicken? Oh?

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Speaker 4: John, do you get a message in there at all?

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Speaker 7: John? No, I just know what the message is. John.

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Speaker 3: What's your wife's name?

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Speaker 7: Vicky?

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Speaker 3: Vicky and John? What a beautiful, beautiful romance?

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Speaker 8: Tell me.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I've got nothing in the tank

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Speaker 3: for those two, But what a great story that is.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, isn't that a beautiful story?

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Speaker 7: It's a bit of a twist for you, John, Hang on, Jo,

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Speaker 7: I don't understand why she won't make my lunch for

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Speaker 4: A good question.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, John, it's a fair question.

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Speaker 2: She just wants to make sure you haven't had your

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Speaker 2: hands cut off if.

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Speaker 3: You're able to make lunch for John on a Saturday.

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Speaker 2: I actually like it. I poo poo these ideas, but

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Speaker 2: I think it's lovely.

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Speaker 5: That's great, John, Meghan and Harrington Park. How do you

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Speaker 5: say I love your eggs?

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Speaker 1: Well, my husband and I have been married seventeen years

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Speaker 1: on Saturday, kids and I put a little barbecue love

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Speaker 2: What's he having of the morning? Is it eggs and

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Speaker 1: Eggs on a muffin with a little sprinkle.

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Speaker 4: Yes, you know, Megan.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what I do too? There's like a

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Speaker 3: write it down so that we know to get it

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Speaker 3: from the shops. Sometimes I just add to the list

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Speaker 3: sweet kisses.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I know that is cute.

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Speaker 2: Yes, because Megan, that is credit to you. You've got

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Speaker 2: you've got four kids, hot chocolate. I bet they haven't

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Speaker 2: always been. My part's a bit sometimes it's.

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Speaker 5: Just an unfortunate that bum bum the cleaner comes with

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Speaker 5: your lips looking around the house like it's going to

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Speaker 5: Allison from Regentville. Allison, your hobby is what does he

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Speaker 5: do that's really cute?

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Speaker 4: And weed?

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Speaker 7: He on our first.

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Speaker 6: Wedding anniversary he put our first three wedding songs on

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Speaker 6: a CD, and every year since then he adds a

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Speaker 6: song to the CD on our anniversary.

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Speaker 5: Alison, give us some of the songs over the years

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Speaker 5: that have really hit a chord with you.

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Speaker 6: Oh We've got Without Your Love, Jimmy Barnes, unchained Melody.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's do you do a slow.

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Speaker 3: Dance with it? Alison?

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Speaker 8: Around the living room. Well we used to.

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Speaker 6: I lost my husband ten years ago, but yeah, right

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Speaker 6: up until he passed, he did that every year.

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Speaker 4: What a beautiful tradition.

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Speaker 3: And now you have those wonderful songs together forever.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and they mean so much.

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Speaker 2: It's so nice to hear thank you for calling.

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Speaker 4: Oh that was a beautiful call.

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Speaker 5: I didn't know he was gone.

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Speaker 3: But they're those sort of things where you can really

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Speaker 3: build the love forever because Allison has those fond memories

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Speaker 3: and has that fond connection with the music and that

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Speaker 3: lives on.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely, Lord Allison.

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