WEBVTT - Britt Is Planning Her Funeral 

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<v Speaker 1>High Scrollers is produced on Gadigal land.

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<v Speaker 2>We pay our respects to the traditional custodians of this

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<v Speaker 2>country and elders past and present.

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<v Speaker 3>Always was, always will be Aboriginal land. I want to

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<v Speaker 3>start out this Closed Friends episode by talking about funerals.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. Lovely. What about them?

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<v Speaker 1>Which, by the way, we got a comment on, not

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<v Speaker 1>that this is R-rated, we got a comment on last

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<v Speaker 1>week's pod saying, stop talking about R-rated subjects.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I will admit the confession section was fucked up.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>We could talk about that as well. The aftermath.

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<v Speaker 2>The aftermath of the confession session. I know. Was wild.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, anyway, before we get to that, I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about something that I've had written in my notes

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<v Speaker 1>for ages. It was a video that I saw of Um,

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<v Speaker 1>and we all know Amber from influencer updates. She has

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<v Speaker 1>a sister named Kayla who used to have a business

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<v Speaker 1>called tribe skincare back in the day. Uh, if you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and anyway, she sold that business and now

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<v Speaker 1>she has another business and she posts, um, videos, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>on that account now. And I think it was on

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<v Speaker 1>Kayla's business account. I'm not entirely sure. But sadly, their

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<v Speaker 1>mom passed away and she's kind of done a few

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<v Speaker 1>videos talking about the grieving journey.

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<v Speaker 3>And one video that stood out.

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<v Speaker 1>To me, and this was like months ago, I've had

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<v Speaker 1>this written in my notes for ages, but she spoke

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<v Speaker 1>about something that they did for the funeral that I

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<v Speaker 1>thought was.

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<v Speaker 3>Such a good idea.

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<v Speaker 1>And she said, basically, Her and Amber, they, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>were obviously devastated. And a funeral is like such a,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's a celebration, but it's also sad, right?

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<v Speaker 3>Like you're going through a lot of emotions.

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<v Speaker 1>And she was just basically talking about what they did

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<v Speaker 1>was they sat down together and they filmed a video

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<v Speaker 1>talking about their mum. And they played that at the funeral,

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<v Speaker 1>like on a big screen in front of everyone. instead

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<v Speaker 1>of doing the typical getting up in front of everyone.

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<v Speaker 1>She was just talking about how positive of an experience

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<v Speaker 1>that was because they could sit down together at home

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<v Speaker 1>in their own time.

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<v Speaker 3>They could write things out.

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<v Speaker 1>They could stop and start the camera and chop it

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<v Speaker 1>all together and reflect on all the happy memories and

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<v Speaker 1>be together, just the two of them. That way, they

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<v Speaker 1>didn't have to get up and you know, do a

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<v Speaker 1>speech when they're obviously emotional. And I just, I wrote

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<v Speaker 1>that down when I saw it because I thought that's

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<v Speaker 1>such a good idea because let's be honest, public speaking

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<v Speaker 1>is like not many people enjoy doing that on a

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<v Speaker 1>regular day. No.

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<v Speaker 3>Let alone when you're mourning the loss of someone that

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<v Speaker 3>you love.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. You know, like some people would just literally rather

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<v Speaker 1>not do it because, you know, they, number one, public speaking,

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<v Speaker 1>not a fan of, but then number two, highly emotional.

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<v Speaker 3>Can't get your words out, so upset.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I just kind of thought I would, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, I've never heard of anyone doing that.

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<v Speaker 3>And I just thought it was such a good idea.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you think of it?

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<v Speaker 2>I love it. I mean, you do anything you need

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<v Speaker 2>to do to get through that day and that process.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've never heard anything about anyone doing anything like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Does that make sense? But it's a good idea. I

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<v Speaker 2>thought it was a really good idea.

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<v Speaker 3>And I just had never heard of anyone doing that before.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And they still sat there with everyone and watched the

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<v Speaker 1>video that they'd made at home. But I just thought,

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<v Speaker 1>what a good idea for someone that isn't confident with

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<v Speaker 1>public speaking or just doesn't want to get up and talk,

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<v Speaker 1>but still wants to say everything that they want to say.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just thought that was a really good idea.

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<v Speaker 1>And I hope they don't mind me sharing that.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, this is an influencer updates updates. That's fun, isn't it?

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly right.

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<v Speaker 2>I went to a funeral and it was really... quite

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful as most funerals are. But like, uh, one of

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<v Speaker 2>the really nice things that happened is this man whose

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<v Speaker 2>funeral I went to, he was a big gardener. And

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<v Speaker 2>at the end he loved succulents and had like hundreds

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<v Speaker 2>of succulents and hundreds of plants in his garden. And

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<v Speaker 2>when we went to the wake on the way out,

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<v Speaker 2>it was like, take one with you. And, um, we

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<v Speaker 2>took home like the succulents and they're still in the

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<v Speaker 2>house and we look after them. And I just wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to share that because it was such a lovely, like,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, wow, like we get to take something

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<v Speaker 2>that he loved and cared for. We now get to

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<v Speaker 2>love and care for that. And I thought that that

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<v Speaker 2>was really beautiful. One of the nicest things I've ever

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<v Speaker 2>like seen at a funeral. And, um, I just love

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<v Speaker 2>that every time I look at the succulent, I think

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<v Speaker 2>of him and it's like my job to take care

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<v Speaker 2>of something that he used to take care of.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think, um, like we've spoken a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>about like, death and funerals and stuff on the pod.

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<v Speaker 3>And we spoke about the coffin confessor, right? That was

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<v Speaker 3>ages ago. I love him. We still need to get

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<v Speaker 3>him on big business.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know we've spoken about like how I had

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<v Speaker 1>my will made up. And I think I already said

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<v Speaker 1>this like ages ago. And I know a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people will say like don't talk about that because, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>some people might want to avoid the topic of death.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm one of those people where like we need

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about it because it's absolutely going to happen

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<v Speaker 1>to every single one of us. I know that like

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<v Speaker 1>might be absolutely terrifying, but I think the more that

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<v Speaker 1>we talk about it, like the more we are okay with.

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<v Speaker 3>It because in 80 years we're all going to be dead.

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus, this is heavy.

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<v Speaker 3>No, but I'm being serious. In 80 years we're all

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<v Speaker 3>going to be dead.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is kind of why I'm also being Tiffany

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<v Speaker 1>lately because I'm like literally in 80 years, every single

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<v Speaker 1>one of us is going to be dead.

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<v Speaker 3>Sorry, I know that's grim.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I have the mental capacity to

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<v Speaker 2>have this conversation today.

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<v Speaker 3>I did tell you that we were talking about it

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<v Speaker 3>at the start.

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<v Speaker 1>But one thing I really want to do, which I

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<v Speaker 1>keep saying I want to do is right now, I

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<v Speaker 1>know I'm only 33, but no one's promised tomorrow. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to write down what I would want at my funeral.

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<v Speaker 1>In the case of me, you know, dying earlier than expected,

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<v Speaker 1>I want.

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<v Speaker 3>To write it out.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. Where would you start? What would be on your list?

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<v Speaker 3>Um, I would want it to be, uh, fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh huh.

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't want it to be.

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<v Speaker 2>Big piss up?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>We're all going hotel Jesmond and.

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<v Speaker 3>Jesmond primary school.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I just think like.

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<v Speaker 1>I think when it comes to like planning your funeral

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<v Speaker 1>and like I talk to my nan about this all

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<v Speaker 1>the time because my nan is very, like my nan's

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<v Speaker 1>in her 80s and she's very realistic.

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<v Speaker 3>Like she's like, we need to talk about these things.

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<v Speaker 3>We need to have these conversations.

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<v Speaker 1>And when often we think of like planning our funeral,

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<v Speaker 1>you do think of doing it when you're like 70.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's like if you're lucky enough to live to

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<v Speaker 3>that age.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people may die unexpectedly and then you

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<v Speaker 1>haven't got a plan. So I kind of want to

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<v Speaker 1>write out what I would want it to be like.

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<v Speaker 1>But I would just want it to be fun and

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<v Speaker 1>a celebration. Which I feel like every funeral honestly is.

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<v Speaker 3>But I don't know. I'm thinking big party. Get dressed up.

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<v Speaker 2>Just a lovely little Saturday Arvo. Get the girls around.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's all write down what our funerals are like. We'll

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<v Speaker 2>do a girl dinner.

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<v Speaker 3>Honestly.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know that's grim. And I know a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people really avoid this topic. But I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>why people avoid this topic when it is... something that

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<v Speaker 1>is absolutely going to happen to every single person. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's why I just don't give a shit about what

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<v Speaker 1>anyone says about me and the things that I do

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<v Speaker 1>in life. We are all so held back from doing

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<v Speaker 1>things because we have a fear of what others say.

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<v Speaker 1>That's like the number one thing that holds anyone back.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't want to do that. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>post that video. I don't want to do this.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm too scared, too worried about what other people think.

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas I just feel completely opposite to that. Like we're

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<v Speaker 1>literally definitely going to die. So why are we worrying

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<v Speaker 1>about what other people think?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Well, on this note.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a really interesting conversation recently with one of

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<v Speaker 2>my friends who we're both just going through a bit

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<v Speaker 2>of a moment where we're both just like, oh, a

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<v Speaker 2>bit flat, all the rest of it. And we both

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<v Speaker 2>said to each other, like, we're just in our ugly

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<v Speaker 2>phase at the moment. Like we just feel ugly. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very confident. I've come to terms with who I am,

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<v Speaker 2>what I look like, whatever. And it's like, life is

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<v Speaker 2>too short to worry about that sort of stuff, you know?

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<v Speaker 2>We were having a conversation recently and we were just

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<v Speaker 2>like admitting to each other, like, we just feel ugly.

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<v Speaker 2>We just feel ugly. We're just in an ugly little

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<v Speaker 2>moment in our lives. And I said, what is so

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<v Speaker 2>wrong with being ugly? Like what is wrong with being

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<v Speaker 2>ugly and leaning into I'm in an ugly face. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>ride the ugly face out. I'll be back in my

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<v Speaker 2>hot girl era at some point, but right now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to be ugly and I'm going to sit in

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<v Speaker 2>the ugly and I'm just going to accept that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>ugly and and just be ugly.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, as long as you're happy, that's what matters.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that really helped me be a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit more happy is when I, I, cause I was

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<v Speaker 2>just like, I just was going through a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>of a phase a few weeks ago where every outfit

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<v Speaker 2>I put on, I went, hate it. Doesn't look right

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<v Speaker 2>on my body. Not. And these are clothes that I

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<v Speaker 2>wear all the time. And all of a sudden I'm like, nah,

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<v Speaker 2>my hair won't sit right. I'm like looking at my

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<v Speaker 2>face in the mirror. I'm going, what's going on? Like this,

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<v Speaker 2>these sorts of feelings haven't happened to me for years

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<v Speaker 2>and years and years. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep.

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<v Speaker 2>And, um, like I want to say like pre pandemic

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<v Speaker 2>vibes since I've kind of looked at myself and picked

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<v Speaker 2>myself apart and yeah, I don't know what it is.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know whether it's like the season, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>everything's a bit gloomy at the moment. I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if like the world is a bit gloomy at the moment.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if being on social media is a

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<v Speaker 2>bit gloomy at the moment. I just am in one

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<v Speaker 2>of those phases where I have started like picking myself

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<v Speaker 2>apart again and just like, looking at myself in the

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<v Speaker 2>mirror and being like, oh, what's going on here? You

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean? And then I just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>flipped the narrative on that. And I went, okay, similar

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<v Speaker 2>to what you just said. I could die tomorrow. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>be ugly. Let's just be ugly. Do you know what

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<v Speaker 2>I mean? Why not just be, what is so wrong

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<v Speaker 2>with being ugly? Let's just be ugly, sit in that

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<v Speaker 2>moment and then get over it eventually. Do you know

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean? And move on and we'll be hot again.

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<v Speaker 1>I think also like we are obviously all our own

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<v Speaker 1>worst critic. I found myself doing this on my Europe trip.

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<v Speaker 1>Usually when I go on holidays, I don't really give

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<v Speaker 1>a shit about what I look like. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>being in Europe and a lot of the venues that

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<v Speaker 1>we were going to, everyone was so dressed up.

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<v Speaker 3>Like what you see on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>Like all the girlies looking 10 out of 10 in

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<v Speaker 1>their outfits, that's what it's like over there. Well, at

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<v Speaker 1>the places we were going to anyway. And so I

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<v Speaker 1>started like having all these feelings of like I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>dressed up enough.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't look good enough.

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<v Speaker 1>And then when you go on holiday naturally, you just

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<v Speaker 1>eat and drink way more than you.

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<v Speaker 3>Do, you know, on a normal day.

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<v Speaker 1>So we were doing like breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks, drinking

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<v Speaker 1>every day. And then I started feeling like really bloated

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<v Speaker 1>and gross and I started like putting outfits on and

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<v Speaker 1>thinking I can't wear that because I look too bloated

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<v Speaker 1>or people can tell that I'm really bloated. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like continuously clocking myself on the trip because I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>why do I care?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. And so I guess my advice in this episode,

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<v Speaker 1>besides a funeral advice, is if you're going on a holiday,

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<v Speaker 1>don't give a fuck about what you look like. And

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<v Speaker 1>I actually want to play you a little video that

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<v Speaker 1>I saw from, do you know AJ? No.

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<v Speaker 3>Not AJ, my AJ, AJ Paps.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't think so, but I'm a face person.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, he's this guy.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the thing, I don't know anyone's names.

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<v Speaker 1>He's from Australia and he like works in a sex shop,

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<v Speaker 1>but he's just been in Europe and he posted this

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<v Speaker 1>one video and I went, yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me just play it out loud. One thing about

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<v Speaker 3>me on holidays, I make whatever the fuck I want.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care if I get chunky. I eat to

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<v Speaker 2>be happy. I don't eat for aesthetics and this and that.

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<v Speaker 3>If I want five fucking custard tarts, you can have

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<v Speaker 3>six wind up in front of me. So I want

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<v Speaker 3>to give a shout out to AJ.

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<v Speaker 1>Like his content at the moment is him like traveling overseas.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just saw that after I'd been to Europe

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, you know what? Yes, because I

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<v Speaker 1>got to the point on the trip where I started

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<v Speaker 1>then choosing the healthy thing or not having something.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, what am I doing? And I just saw

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<v Speaker 3>him saying, if I want to eat five custard tarts.

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<v Speaker 2>You better have six lined up in front of me.

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<v Speaker 2>And can I just say, bloating is like the biggest, weirdest,

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<v Speaker 2>like non-issue that has become an issue, in my opinion,

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<v Speaker 2>when it comes to the way that we look. Because

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to remind everyone, bloating is a normal

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<v Speaker 2>bodily function.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep.

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<v Speaker 2>That is how the body functions. And if you get

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<v Speaker 2>a bit bloated.

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<v Speaker 1>Like social media in society has made it a bad thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Like if your belly is bloated, like, and I do

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<v Speaker 1>it myself. I'm like, I can't wear that singlet.

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<v Speaker 3>It's too tight. And you can see that my stomach

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<v Speaker 3>is bloating, but why do I think that way?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, why do we care that our stomach is bloated? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>sorry that I ate a meal. Yeah. I'm physically don't bloat,

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<v Speaker 2>you know? So it's, it's my car. I never have bloated.

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<v Speaker 2>Cause it's just always bloated. Sort of. I'm just permanently bloated,

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<v Speaker 2>so that's fine. But do you know what I mean? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like that's, like, a non-issue. Like, it's so

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<v Speaker 2>interesting why is, like, oh, I'm so bloated and, like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I look so bloated. Like, why is that an issue? Like,

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<v Speaker 2>bloating is a normal thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Because we're all fucked in the head.

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<v Speaker 2>I know. I know.

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<v Speaker 3>We're all fucked in the head.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just want you all to know, especially if

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<v Speaker 1>you're going on holiday but just in life in general–

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<v Speaker 1>No one gives a shit if you're bloated.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw this video as well that I wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 2>able to find now, but it was this girl critiquing

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<v Speaker 2>like Disney movies and saying like, why do we as

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<v Speaker 2>women act the way we are? Or maybe it's because

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<v Speaker 2>we watched these movies when we were younger. And it

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<v Speaker 2>was like all the princesses were, you know, having to

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<v Speaker 2>be saved by men. Ariel literally gives up her voice

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<v Speaker 2>for a man. All of the people with power, like

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<v Speaker 2>all the women who are powerful, other villains like Maleficent

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<v Speaker 2>and things like that. And, you know, Sleeping Beauty woken

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<v Speaker 2>up by a kiss of true love and blah, blah, blah. And, like,

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<v Speaker 2>she really broke down, like, all the Disney princesses and

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<v Speaker 2>all the reasons why, you know, Disney princesses are seen as, like,

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<v Speaker 2>such a girly thing. And it's, like, such a when

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<v Speaker 2>you're a little girl, like, you look up to these

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<v Speaker 2>Disney princesses. But realistically, if you break down the storylines,

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<v Speaker 2>the Disney princesses actually. And I think the only difference

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<v Speaker 2>is with Frozen, potentially.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think Frozen might be different altogether because it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, the story of sisters and things like that.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, she broke down all the Disney princesses and

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<v Speaker 2>it was like, okay, yeah, we think of Cinderella and like,

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<v Speaker 2>or Ariel and like all these fabulous like Disney princesses,

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<v Speaker 2>like role models for these little girls. But like, if

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<v Speaker 2>you actually break down the story, they like shouldn't be

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<v Speaker 2>role models at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's all actually male centered.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I love where this episode has gone.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that we started at funerals. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And now we're talking about Disney princesses.

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<v Speaker 2>This is what we do here at High Scrollers. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think lessons for today's episode. Lesson number one, figure

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<v Speaker 2>out what you want your funeral to look like.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, and don't be scared of it. Because if I

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<v Speaker 1>was to die tomorrow, I would rather have died with

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<v Speaker 1>a plan rather than my loved ones having.

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<v Speaker 3>To think of it for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Stress about it, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And they would do a great job. I'm sure you'd

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<v Speaker 3>be involved, Matt.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>But, you know, like I would rather have that planned.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And it can be anything you want.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Your funeral can be anything you want. I'd get the

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<v Speaker 3>coffin confessor there for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Really? What would you have to confess?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, if I died suddenly and didn't get a chance

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<v Speaker 1>to say what I really wanted to say.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, okay. So your coffin confessor would read out Tiffany's

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<v Speaker 2>list of problems with everyone.

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<v Speaker 3>Bill Edgar.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that guy. Look him up if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>remember that episode. Look up the coffin confessor on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>You can pay him to go to your funeral to

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<v Speaker 1>say anything you want.

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<v Speaker 2>Other lessons? Just be ugly. And be okay with that.

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<v Speaker 2>What's wrong with being ugly? Another lesson. Bloating is a non-issue. Normal.

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<v Speaker 1>Normal.

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<v Speaker 2>Bloating is normal. Okay? And the last lesson is India.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll see you next Tuesday.