Speaker 1: Really it is so time for it. Let's go girls,
Speaker 1: let's do this.
Speaker 2: That was newsreader Abbey just doing some moves, some Britney moves.
Speaker 3: I presume was that the knives around the pole Instagram?
Speaker 4: What it was?
Speaker 1: Just that's that's what can happen.
Speaker 3: We told you about bringing machines.
Speaker 5: Sort wants you to be absent from our party to
Speaker 5: not because you've got a nipple injury.
Speaker 1: Watch this space.
Speaker 2: If you do see Abby at the French yes tonight,
Speaker 2: make sure you check on their welfare for nipples nobody. Okay,
Speaker 2: that brings us to chick chat. So we've got news
Speaker 2: reader Abbey Singer this week.
Speaker 1: Or we hooked up the General and I are together now.
Speaker 2: That's right, okay, our security peacock for the Saga day,
Speaker 2: have a last day and stay for an AFL for
Speaker 2: my bread.
Speaker 3: Producers.
Speaker 2: Are we happily single and very career driven and super
Speaker 2: successful at it?
Speaker 3: I have to say, in your twenties, aren't you?
Speaker 6: Del I am how much midur I'm mid right now?
Speaker 6: I'm twenty five.
Speaker 3: Twenty five, yeah you can still be mid to what
Speaker 3: twenty six?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I've got one more year before In my late
Speaker 6: twenties and that makes me feel real.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and you had a conversation with some girlfriends. You
Speaker 3: had a little week and a work I did.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the girls in Brisbane.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the girls.
Speaker 6: I went to a busy for an engagement party with
Speaker 6: about six girlfriends. So it was lots of chicks and
Speaker 6: lots of chatting. And we stayed in therevy and being
Speaker 6: you know, we'd had a couple of sherbets and we
Speaker 6: were chatting all things relationships. Going through a pretty recent breakup,
Speaker 6: so they were asking how I'm going bah, And the
Speaker 6: subject came up of how long should you wait after
Speaker 6: a relationship to start dating other people, specifically to get
Speaker 6: in your next relationship, And we had really different opinions
Speaker 6: amongst the six of us, Like it was quite a gap,
Speaker 6: I guess.
Speaker 1: And we're all the same age, sort of similar stage.
Speaker 1: So I thought I'd better ask.
Speaker 3: Michel's So where do you sit with it all?
Speaker 6: Well?
Speaker 1: I very much believe you need to give it some time.
Speaker 6: I think, do whatever you want, you know, for a hobby,
Speaker 6: but when it comes to an actual relationship, I think
Speaker 6: you've got to give it some time because you've got
Speaker 6: to fix yourself before you can love.
Speaker 5: Someone else, Like fishing or something like. Hobbies.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you know, you just get dressed up, few drinks.
Speaker 2: Hobbies Yeah, yeah, like sewing classes, that sort of thing showing.
Speaker 5: Some people do that.
Speaker 7: You throw the line out and you just see.
Speaker 1: See what comes. See if you get a ni.
Speaker 3: Sometimes you get a carp. Sometimes you get a mackerel.
Speaker 1: Who's sometimes you get a crab.
Speaker 5: A lot of calf out there, a lot of calf
Speaker 5: out there.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's wrong with right now?
Speaker 3: Where do you sit with it?
Speaker 1: Abs?
Speaker 3: How long do you have to wake from from a
Speaker 3: serial data?
Speaker 7: Okay? So there's a thing out there that says you
Speaker 7: should wait half the time of your how long your
Speaker 7: relationship went for. So for example, if you if you
Speaker 7: were together with someone for a year, you should wait
Speaker 7: six months.
Speaker 1: Oh you don't like that.
Speaker 5: It depends on the circumstances. That's a long time.
Speaker 3: That's marriage.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 7: And I think, like you said, if you're just going
Speaker 7: for a bit of a fish and a bit of
Speaker 7: a hobby and to see what carp's out there, yeah fine, whatever,
Speaker 7: a few weeks cool. If you're looking for a relation,
Speaker 7: yeah then yeah maybe, And like you said, you need
Speaker 7: to do the work. You need to get your head clear,
Speaker 7: because as we know, going through a break up his crap,
Speaker 7: and it really throws your self confidence, your self worth
Speaker 7: and all of the things, and you need to work
Speaker 7: on those two them be able to attract a better
Speaker 7: caliber human. So, but you know there is the other
Speaker 7: saying that to get over someone, you get under someone.
Speaker 3: I just feel like it depends if you're the dumper
Speaker 3: or the dump pee. Also good if you've been dumbed,
Speaker 3: go your hardest, do what you want to do.
Speaker 2: You have no obligation or responsibility to the person who
Speaker 2: dumped you. However, if you were the dump pee, then
Speaker 2: I'd be a little conscious of how you're going to make.
Speaker 6: That other person feel, especially in an age of social
Speaker 6: media and such where you find out pretty quickly if
Speaker 6: you know all that sort of game.
Speaker 7: If your ex is yeah on dating apps, stuff isn't
Speaker 7: a nice feeling at all, especially if you've been together
Speaker 7: for a significant amount of time.
Speaker 2: Thirteen twenty four ten. Let's do this this morning. How
Speaker 2: long do you have to wait to enter a new
Speaker 2: relationship just.
Speaker 3: Before you go abs? Like, what sort of bait do
Speaker 3: you use when you go fishing? I'm curious with the peacock.
Speaker 7: It was just I've put a bit of my hair
Speaker 7: on way road and threw it out there, made sure
Speaker 7: I smelled nice, yep, and that got him over the line.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, hag you on Brisbane catchingy toadfish up there.
Speaker 1: I came across carboard two.
Speaker 3: Just a little nibble.
Speaker 2: I guess what, mate, you've been the car oh?
Speaker 1: I just all bones.
Speaker 5: When's it okay to move on from a relationship, Cursy, Kirsty.
Speaker 3: Sometimes you have to wait when a relationship ends before years.
Speaker 8: I think, I don't know. I think we all know
Speaker 8: emotionally when we're ready, don't we. But you do have
Speaker 8: a bit of fun to start off with, and I
Speaker 8: think that's important as well after a long relationship. So
Speaker 8: I met my partner five months after and we've been
Speaker 8: together for eleven years and have a daughter together. My
Speaker 8: previous relationship was fifteen years and I was married.
Speaker 3: So wow, okay.
Speaker 2: I do think you can some people when you hear
Speaker 2: this quite often, Cursey, don't you where some people just
Speaker 2: start out with the intention of just I'm not interested
Speaker 2: in a relationship.
Speaker 3: I'm just having a bit of fun bah bahlah. But
Speaker 3: then it can quickly turn into something.
Speaker 8: I agreed. You just got to be open minded to it.
Speaker 8: I think I think originally a lot of people are
Speaker 8: so scorned, which I definitely was for a while, but
Speaker 8: you get over it, and then if you meet the
Speaker 8: right person, they help you to heal, don't they.
Speaker 5: Yes, absolutely, cur what a beautiful message calls.
Speaker 2: I don't want to throw you under the bus here,
Speaker 2: but you were just a bit blase when you met Krawa.
Speaker 3: Are you're just like, I'm not really keen on anything
Speaker 3: too serious.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 5: She was coming out of a pretty very long relationship
Speaker 5: as well, so we're both in a space where it
Speaker 5: wasn't forced. So I think that's I wasn't like, oh
Speaker 5: now I'm looking for a girlfriend, So it was.
Speaker 3: A yeah, it was just organically was organic.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was absolutely organically.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's nice.
Speaker 7: Are you saying that you both went fishing and caught
Speaker 7: a catch?
Speaker 3: Yes, a catch of the day.
Speaker 5: Yes, she caught a delicious carp and I caught a
Speaker 5: really really prime bacro.
Speaker 3: You've got a salmon. She's elite.
Speaker 2: There's something not quite right in that fishery analogy, and
Speaker 2: she's she's done a hell of a lot.
Speaker 5: Worse than times. Sometimes a carp and a samic can
Speaker 5: swim in the same bowl.
Speaker 3: Tracy, how long do you have to wait?
Speaker 1: Trace?
Speaker 4: Well, I agree with Kirsty. Actually I came out of
Speaker 4: a marriage and I kind of found my partner also,
Speaker 4: and then we waited three years and now we've been
Speaker 4: together seventeen years and we've got two beautiful children.
Speaker 2: So that's perfod, that's beautiful, Thank you, Tracy.
Speaker 5: I think what the message here is that our true
Speaker 5: love is blind and you never know where it's coming from,
Speaker 5: and there's no rules.