WEBVTT - CHICK CHAT | How Long Should You Wait Between Relationships?

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<v Speaker 1>Really it is so time for it. Let's go girls,

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<v Speaker 1>let's do this.

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<v Speaker 2>That was newsreader Abbey just doing some moves, some Britney moves.

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<v Speaker 3>I presume was that the knives around the pole Instagram?

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<v Speaker 4>What it was?

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<v Speaker 1>Just that's that's what can happen.

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<v Speaker 3>We told you about bringing machines.

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<v Speaker 5>Sort wants you to be absent from our party to

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<v Speaker 5>not because you've got a nipple injury.

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<v Speaker 1>Watch this space.

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<v Speaker 2>If you do see Abby at the French yes tonight,

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<v Speaker 2>make sure you check on their welfare for nipples nobody. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>that brings us to chick chat. So we've got news

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<v Speaker 2>reader Abbey Singer this week.

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<v Speaker 1>Or we hooked up the General and I are together now.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right, okay, our security peacock for the Saga day,

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<v Speaker 2>have a last day and stay for an AFL for

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<v Speaker 2>my bread.

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<v Speaker 3>Producers.

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<v Speaker 2>Are we happily single and very career driven and super

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<v Speaker 2>successful at it?

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<v Speaker 3>I have to say, in your twenties, aren't you?

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<v Speaker 6>Del I am how much midur I'm mid right now?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm twenty five.

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<v Speaker 3>Twenty five, yeah you can still be mid to what

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<v Speaker 3>twenty six?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I've got one more year before In my late

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<v Speaker 6>twenties and that makes me feel real.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and you had a conversation with some girlfriends. You

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<v Speaker 3>had a little week and a work I did.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the girls in Brisbane.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the girls.

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<v Speaker 6>I went to a busy for an engagement party with

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<v Speaker 6>about six girlfriends. So it was lots of chicks and

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<v Speaker 6>lots of chatting. And we stayed in therevy and being

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<v Speaker 6>you know, we'd had a couple of sherbets and we

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<v Speaker 6>were chatting all things relationships. Going through a pretty recent breakup,

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<v Speaker 6>so they were asking how I'm going bah, And the

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<v Speaker 6>subject came up of how long should you wait after

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<v Speaker 6>a relationship to start dating other people, specifically to get

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<v Speaker 6>in your next relationship, And we had really different opinions

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<v Speaker 6>amongst the six of us, Like it was quite a gap,

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<v Speaker 6>I guess.

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<v Speaker 1>And we're all the same age, sort of similar stage.

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<v Speaker 1>So I thought I'd better ask.

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<v Speaker 3>Michel's So where do you sit with it all?

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<v Speaker 6>Well?

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<v Speaker 1>I very much believe you need to give it some time.

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<v Speaker 6>I think, do whatever you want, you know, for a hobby,

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<v Speaker 6>but when it comes to an actual relationship, I think

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<v Speaker 6>you've got to give it some time because you've got

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<v Speaker 6>to fix yourself before you can love.

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<v Speaker 5>Someone else, Like fishing or something like. Hobbies.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, you know, you just get dressed up, few drinks.

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<v Speaker 2>Hobbies Yeah, yeah, like sewing classes, that sort of thing showing.

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<v Speaker 5>Some people do that.

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<v Speaker 7>You throw the line out and you just see.

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<v Speaker 1>See what comes. See if you get a ni.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes you get a carp. Sometimes you get a mackerel.

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<v Speaker 1>Who's sometimes you get a crab.

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<v Speaker 5>A lot of calf out there, a lot of calf

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<v Speaker 5>out there.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what's wrong with right now?

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<v Speaker 3>Where do you sit with it?

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<v Speaker 1>Abs?

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<v Speaker 3>How long do you have to wake from from a

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<v Speaker 3>serial data?

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<v Speaker 7>Okay? So there's a thing out there that says you

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<v Speaker 7>should wait half the time of your how long your

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<v Speaker 7>relationship went for. So for example, if you if you

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<v Speaker 7>were together with someone for a year, you should wait

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<v Speaker 7>six months.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you don't like that.

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<v Speaker 5>It depends on the circumstances. That's a long time.

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<v Speaker 3>That's marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 7>And I think, like you said, if you're just going

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<v Speaker 7>for a bit of a fish and a bit of

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<v Speaker 7>a hobby and to see what carp's out there, yeah fine, whatever,

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<v Speaker 7>a few weeks cool. If you're looking for a relation,

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<v Speaker 7>yeah then yeah maybe, And like you said, you need

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<v Speaker 7>to do the work. You need to get your head clear,

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<v Speaker 7>because as we know, going through a break up his crap,

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<v Speaker 7>and it really throws your self confidence, your self worth

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<v Speaker 7>and all of the things, and you need to work

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<v Speaker 7>on those two them be able to attract a better

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<v Speaker 7>caliber human. So, but you know there is the other

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<v Speaker 7>saying that to get over someone, you get under someone.

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<v Speaker 3>I just feel like it depends if you're the dumper

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<v Speaker 3>or the dump pee. Also good if you've been dumbed,

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<v Speaker 3>go your hardest, do what you want to do.

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<v Speaker 2>You have no obligation or responsibility to the person who

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<v Speaker 2>dumped you. However, if you were the dump pee, then

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be a little conscious of how you're going to make.

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<v Speaker 6>That other person feel, especially in an age of social

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<v Speaker 6>media and such where you find out pretty quickly if

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<v Speaker 6>you know all that sort of game.

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<v Speaker 7>If your ex is yeah on dating apps, stuff isn't

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<v Speaker 7>a nice feeling at all, especially if you've been together

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<v Speaker 7>for a significant amount of time.

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<v Speaker 2>Thirteen twenty four ten. Let's do this this morning. How

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<v Speaker 2>long do you have to wait to enter a new

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<v Speaker 2>relationship just.

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<v Speaker 3>Before you go abs? Like, what sort of bait do

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<v Speaker 3>you use when you go fishing? I'm curious with the peacock.

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<v Speaker 7>It was just I've put a bit of my hair

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<v Speaker 7>on way road and threw it out there, made sure

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<v Speaker 7>I smelled nice, yep, and that got him over the line.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah yeah, hag you on Brisbane catchingy toadfish up there.

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<v Speaker 1>I came across carboard two.

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<v Speaker 3>Just a little nibble.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess what, mate, you've been the car oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I just all bones.

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<v Speaker 5>When's it okay to move on from a relationship, Cursy, Kirsty.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes you have to wait when a relationship ends before years.

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<v Speaker 8>I think, I don't know. I think we all know

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<v Speaker 8>emotionally when we're ready, don't we. But you do have

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<v Speaker 8>a bit of fun to start off with, and I

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<v Speaker 8>think that's important as well after a long relationship. So

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<v Speaker 8>I met my partner five months after and we've been

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<v Speaker 8>together for eleven years and have a daughter together. My

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<v Speaker 8>previous relationship was fifteen years and I was married.

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<v Speaker 3>So wow, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I do think you can some people when you hear

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<v Speaker 2>this quite often, Cursey, don't you where some people just

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<v Speaker 2>start out with the intention of just I'm not interested

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<v Speaker 2>in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just having a bit of fun bah bahlah. But

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<v Speaker 3>then it can quickly turn into something.

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<v Speaker 8>I agreed. You just got to be open minded to it.

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<v Speaker 8>I think I think originally a lot of people are

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<v Speaker 8>so scorned, which I definitely was for a while, but

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<v Speaker 8>you get over it, and then if you meet the

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<v Speaker 8>right person, they help you to heal, don't they.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, absolutely, cur what a beautiful message calls.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to throw you under the bus here,

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<v Speaker 2>but you were just a bit blase when you met Krawa.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you're just like, I'm not really keen on anything

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<v Speaker 3>too serious.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>She was coming out of a pretty very long relationship

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<v Speaker 5>as well, so we're both in a space where it

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<v Speaker 5>wasn't forced. So I think that's I wasn't like, oh

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<v Speaker 5>now I'm looking for a girlfriend, So it was.

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<v Speaker 3>A yeah, it was just organically was organic.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was absolutely organically.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's nice.

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<v Speaker 7>Are you saying that you both went fishing and caught

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<v Speaker 7>a catch?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, a catch of the day.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, she caught a delicious carp and I caught a

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<v Speaker 5>really really prime bacro.

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<v Speaker 3>You've got a salmon. She's elite.

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<v Speaker 2>There's something not quite right in that fishery analogy, and

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<v Speaker 2>she's she's done a hell of a lot.

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<v Speaker 5>Worse than times. Sometimes a carp and a samic can

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<v Speaker 5>swim in the same bowl.

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<v Speaker 3>Tracy, how long do you have to wait?

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<v Speaker 1>Trace?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I agree with Kirsty. Actually I came out of

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<v Speaker 4>a marriage and I kind of found my partner also,

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<v Speaker 4>and then we waited three years and now we've been

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<v Speaker 4>together seventeen years and we've got two beautiful children.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's perfod, that's beautiful, Thank you, Tracy.

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<v Speaker 5>I think what the message here is that our true

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<v Speaker 5>love is blind and you never know where it's coming from,

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<v Speaker 5>and there's no rules.