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Speaker 1: Citsy and with her with Kate Ritchie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I don't watch a lot of TikTok, but I did

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Speaker 2: get bogged down with one video in particular overnight by

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Speaker 2: a lovely young woman from the US called Jea, and

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Speaker 2: she said, she's very young, she's in a really solid,

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Speaker 2: really solid she kept in a really solid relationship where

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Speaker 2: they really really really trust each other and they really

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Speaker 2: really don't have any issues. Everything so fine.

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Speaker 3: It's on the rocks, isn't it?

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Speaker 2: By the sounds well, well, they have a very long

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Speaker 2: list of rules. And I think if you have to

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Speaker 2: have too many rules around things and not a lot

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Speaker 2: of conversation and communication dealing with things as they happen,

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Speaker 2: if you've got to structure a relationship so that certain people.

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Speaker 4: Can't do this and you're not allowed to do this,

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Speaker 4: I think that.

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Speaker 5: There are cracks all read already appearing. Yeah, well this

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Speaker 5: is like Jonah Hill. Remember recently Jonah Hill, and he

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Speaker 5: said to hes surfing Gilf, that's right, he said, I

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Speaker 5: don't like it when you're putting up too many bikini

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Speaker 5: shots on your Instagram account, and I don't like it

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Speaker 5: when you put other male surfers in the shot.

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Speaker 3: With you.

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Speaker 4: That's right, and she was.

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Speaker 2: I think she wasn't even allowed to have particular friends

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Speaker 2: from her past. There is no point me going through

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Speaker 2: the long list of rules. I will let Jia run

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Speaker 2: you through them herself.

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Speaker 3: He she is Number one.

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Speaker 6: We both have to have our locations on always. Number two.

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Speaker 6: He's not allowed to go to strip clubs. Number three.

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Speaker 6: I'm okay with him going on boys trips and he's

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Speaker 6: okay with me going on girls trips. Number four. We

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Speaker 6: don't like like random thirst chops on Instagram. Number five,

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Speaker 6: we don't follow Instagram models of the opposite sex. Number six.

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Speaker 6: We can both have friends of the opposite sex, we

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Speaker 6: just can't be like best best friends with them. Number seven.

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Speaker 6: We're both okay with each other going to clubs. Number

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Speaker 6: eight we both know each other's passwords. Number nine not

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Speaker 6: cool with horn. And number ten we won't get married

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Speaker 6: until we're financially free.

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Speaker 2: Oh too many, Like, I mean so many rules? I

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Speaker 2: mean thirteen twenty four to ten. If you agree with

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Speaker 2: a bit of the password action sharing things like that,

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Speaker 2: knowing the location of your partner all the time, because

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Speaker 2: I just think it's ringing alarm bells for me that

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Speaker 2: they're so fine with their partner doing things, but if

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Speaker 2: they do things, they have to know exactly where they

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Speaker 2: are when they're there, you know.

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Speaker 4: And I found it funny that.

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Speaker 2: She she kind of explained a way out of all

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Speaker 2: of them and made it almost sound like it was reasonable. So,

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Speaker 2: you know, I know the location of my boyfriend all

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Speaker 2: the time, and he knows mine because you know what,

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Speaker 2: if we're meeting up after work and so if I've

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Speaker 2: got to wait for him, I can basically track him

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Speaker 2: like it's Indian being delivered on a Thursday line.

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Speaker 5: Maybe we realize BJ tracks me, and you know, the

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Speaker 5: iPhone has this thing where, you know, I find my

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Speaker 5: iPhone where I get a message that says BJ will

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Speaker 5: be contacted when you leave Gore Hill, which is Huey's

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Speaker 5: training session. So then she knows when to bring dinner

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Speaker 5: out and when we're going to arrive at home. So

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Speaker 5: she gets a notification when I leave a certain spot

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Speaker 5: every week.

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Speaker 2: Now, Okay, let me have a little think about that

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Speaker 2: on air on the Spot. Okay, when you explain it

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Speaker 2: like that, it sounds reasonable because when you're picking the

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Speaker 2: kids up from footy practice, for example, and you're trying

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Speaker 2: to get him in the car and maybe dropping a

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Speaker 2: friend up in the next suburb and then heading home.

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Speaker 2: You don't really well, you shouldn't be texting and driving,

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Speaker 2: and at least then a notification goes home to say, oh,

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Speaker 2: you know, we'll be home in twenty minutes. It all

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Speaker 2: seems as though it's adding to a seamless evening for

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Speaker 4: But that's fine, FITZI, if you're innocent.

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Speaker 2: What about all these poor people will poor people out

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Speaker 2: there who are trying to do the wrong thing and

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Speaker 2: their partner is saying, you know what we should do?

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Speaker 4: Be Jay who's married to FITZI.

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Speaker 2: They've just got this thing where it notifies me every

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Speaker 2: time you leave somewhere, I'll.

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Speaker 3: Get a notification.

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Speaker 4: How do you get out of that?

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Speaker 2: If you don't want to be tracked without sounding as

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Speaker 2: though you are doing the wrong thing, Maybe you just

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Speaker 2: don't want to feel as though you've got somebody looking

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Speaker 2: over your shoulder all the time, all having an affair.

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Speaker 5: You can get a notification if your partner goes within

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Speaker 5: two hundred meters of an ex ex's house.

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Speaker 3: I wonder if you could set it up that way.

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Speaker 3: I mean, he is going to end in disaster.

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Speaker 5: I would say every weekend that this contract would come

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Speaker 5: out between those two and they'll go, well, you broke

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Speaker 5: rule number four here say is that you're not allowed

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Speaker 5: to go to a.

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Speaker 3: Nightclub, and you did on the weekend.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Jessica and Tarmol, we're talking about weird relationship rules.

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Speaker 7: You got one, Jess, Well, the password thing, So in

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Speaker 7: some situations I agree with her on it. Like me

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Speaker 7: and my partner are looking for rental properties and all

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Speaker 7: of our passwords are very sick. So I actually applied

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Speaker 7: to him something situations and he does for me, so

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Speaker 7: he knows a lot of those type of passwords like that.

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Speaker 5: Jess have you ever right gone into his account because

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Speaker 5: you know he's password without him knowing?

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Speaker 6: Nah?

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Speaker 7: Never do that, seriously. Like, the only thing I've done

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Speaker 7: is gone onto the emails to confirm and verify his

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Speaker 7: details or house.

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Speaker 2: Okay, what if you saw the email address of someone

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Speaker 2: like hot Jenny at hotmail.

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Speaker 4: Follow would you click on that email?

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Speaker 7: Oh? No, yuck the answer to that?

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Speaker 5: Okay, all right, we're talking unusual relationship rules. Gaby's given

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Speaker 5: us skill from forest Field Unusual relationship rules.

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Speaker 3: Gab.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, Hey, guys, so I've been happily with my partner

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Speaker 8: for about seven years, and he presented me with a

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Speaker 8: bit of an unusual rule. When we got together. Okay,

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Speaker 8: he had some money saved, and he said, look, I've

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Speaker 8: got enough money saved. We can either get a house

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Speaker 8: or get married, but whichever one you picked, you're not

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Speaker 8: getting the other one for ten years.

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Speaker 5: Okay, okay, So we can get the house now or

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Speaker 5: we can get married now, but if you choose one,

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Speaker 3: Ten years is a long time, Gab.

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Speaker 4: It's very clear here it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm going to guess, Kate, and you can guess

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Speaker 5: as I'd say you'd take the wedding. Would you want

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Speaker 5: to get married first?

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Speaker 4: I think you got the house.

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Speaker 8: I'm currently standing in my beautiful backyard, do you know.

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Speaker 3: What I mean?

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Speaker 5: Obviously the right decision, knowing that real estate prices are

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Speaker 3: Go up so much. You've done well, Gab. And then

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Speaker 3: so has the wedding happened?

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Speaker 8: No, it has not happened.

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Speaker 4: And how many years away might that be?

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Speaker 8: That's a good point. I mean, I guess it was

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Speaker 8: like it's off the table for at least ten years.

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Speaker 8: I guess, you know, in about three years do we

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Speaker 8: have the chat?

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Speaker 3: See, that's a good role.

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Speaker 2: Though weddings can be a very very big waste of money.

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Speaker 5: It is, it is, And now she's got a house

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Speaker 5: that she's probably paid half the price that what you

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Speaker 5: could get one for now. Yeah, well I'm Stephen Bosley Park.

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Speaker 5: What did you think of these roles?

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Speaker 3: Steve?

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Speaker 1: Good morning guys, OK, your role?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we're going well, Steve, did you have any unusual

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Speaker 5: rules in a relationship?

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Speaker 2: Look?

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Speaker 1: I agree with all of them because the reason the

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Speaker 1: divorce lat is so high right now is because partners

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Speaker 1: don't know what each others are doing when they're apart,

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Speaker 1: so there needs to be I know they speak about

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Speaker 1: trust and stuff, you know marriage and marriage can't work

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Speaker 1: with a trust, but communications are very important as well.

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Speaker 1: And when two partners are apart, you know, and there's

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Speaker 1: lack of communication, that's when things go down.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Also, also sharing location can be important. It's not just safety,

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Speaker 1: but if something was to happen to that person, their

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Speaker 1: partner would know where they are, you know, and they

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Speaker 1: can help or go to them.

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Speaker 5: And Steve, it sounds a bit controlling, Steve. Are you're

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Speaker 5: in a in a relationship currently? No, Steve, what's the

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Speaker 5: longest that you've had How long have you been with

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Speaker 5: someone for two years?

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Speaker 3: Two years?

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Speaker 5: But Steve, you've got to turn the location off, mate,

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Speaker 5: That's why you can't last any longer than two years.

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Speaker 3: You want to know where they are all the time. Steve.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's not. It's not just, you know, like

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Speaker 1: a controlling way. You're just like I said, caring reasons.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I do think that people need their own time though,

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Speaker 2: you know, they do think that people can lose their

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Speaker 2: individuality sometimes when they get together. And if you're worried

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Speaker 2: about where someone is all the time and they're not

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Speaker 2: allowed to do this, and they're not allowed to do that,

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Speaker 2: maybe they're not the pert.

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Speaker 5: Steve, stitch the rules, mate. I reckon live your life

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Speaker 5: and not have a carefree in the world. And you

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Speaker 5: find ladies will come pouring to you, Steve. They will

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Speaker 5: be all over you.

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Speaker 3: Mate.

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Speaker 1: I'll take that on board.

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Speaker 3: Good on you, Steve. That's a beautiful call, isn't it.

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Speaker 4: I don't know what to say. I really don't. I

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Speaker 4: don't know. I don't know what to say. I do.

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Speaker 5: Well, look, Steve, when Steve finds someone he wants to

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Speaker 5: hold onto them, forever by tracking them wherever they.

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Speaker 4: Whether they like it or not.

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