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Speaker 1: Coming up on Relatables.

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Speaker 2: Recently, I snooped through his phone and found he still

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Speaker 2: has almost two hundred photos of her, including one nude.

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Speaker 1: She was dude. The Relatable podcast is hosted by myself,

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Speaker 1: Addie Clark ak Mummy, and my partner in crime, mister

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Speaker 1: Jake Craig ak Daddy. That's me. Can I take this?

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Speaker 1: Jake is daddy because he's like Sam Wise Gamsey. That's

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Speaker 1: that's an insult. You know, I don't like him. What

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Speaker 1: you told you. We have arguments about We've had arguments

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Speaker 1: about Samu Game. I think is so annoying. Oh he's

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Speaker 1: a great friend.

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Speaker 2: Like I understand, he's a great friend. I don't know,

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Speaker 2: he just like get some my nurvese bro.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it's a good depiction of you. He's from the

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Speaker 1: but you love Sam Wise. I was gonna I was

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Speaker 1: trying to give you a compliment, but then you took

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Speaker 1: it the wrong way. And I also saying I also

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Speaker 1: think Proto is mad annoying. I think they're both annoying.

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe not us a couple of annoying dudes. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I actually have a bone to pick with the baddies.

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Speaker 1: Oh shit, I thought it was gonna be me, be

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Speaker 1: me a lot later and all women out there, yeah,

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Speaker 1: bring me this man. It's with the Lord of the

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Speaker 1: Rings hate. I was listening to Sarah J. Mass's podcast

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Speaker 1: of Call Her Daddy, and to me, it seems like

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Speaker 1: she's based every single one of her books off lat

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Speaker 1: of the Rings. To be fair J J. J R. R.

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Speaker 1: Tolkien or J. R. R.

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Speaker 2: Tolkien, he's like, obviously one of the most famous fantasy

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Speaker 2: riders ever. Kind of I don't think he invented fantasy,

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Speaker 2: but like he made a bit.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I get. I think he did, at least I know.

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Speaker 1: I was listening to this and I was like everybody,

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Speaker 1: all the girls like I won't like my girlfriends, like

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Speaker 1: I want to watch a lot of the Rings. She's like, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I'll watch anything else. It's so good. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Beth also hates I don't know what, she hates anything that.

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Speaker 2: So she loves an action movie, but like John Wick,

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Speaker 2: so it's like it's unrealistic, but it's like there's no

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Speaker 2: superpowers involved. Like she doesn't like superhero movies because like

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Speaker 2: it's just so utterly fake.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I love it. I get Akatar has some

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Speaker 1: sexy men. We love sexy men on this podcast re

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Speaker 1: sand Legoalless is in Lord of the Rings. He's a

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Speaker 1: sexy man. He's a great bloke, Orlando Blue. And then

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Speaker 1: what's the little Dwarf's name? Wait, you're talking about the

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Speaker 1: little redhead dwarf or some bad It's like shawt Kings.

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Speaker 1: Is that true? I don't think anybody likes I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I've been watching it a baddies, and I wanted to

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Speaker 1: get that off my chest because I was thinking about

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Speaker 1: the whole time.

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Speaker 2: And they're like they become heaps good friends, legaliss and freakin'

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Speaker 2: yeah yeah, because.

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Speaker 1: In the Hobbit, because Legalists is mad old. In the Hobbit,

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Speaker 1: this is so boring. In the Hobbit, Legalist meets this

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Speaker 1: guy's that's he's like, that's me. We lad he meets

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Speaker 1: the GHIMBLI. Yeah, Jake is daddy because he's Gimli what

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Speaker 1: And clearly I would be Legalless actually you know who

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Speaker 1: I am, mummy, because he finds absolutely anyone in Lord

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Speaker 1: of the Ring you are strata, You're not, you're anyway. Baddies,

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Speaker 1: I'm hoping you got that joke, baddies, But if you

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Speaker 1: didn't go watch a lot of the rings. I wanted

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Speaker 1: to last start the podcast with how much are they

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Speaker 1: pay you? By the way, lord of the Rings, how

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Speaker 1: chhould they pay you? I wish they were paying me

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Speaker 1: because you're not worth it. Yeah, I wanted to start

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Speaker 1: the podcast with on this podcast, the baddies know that

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Speaker 1: I struggle a little bit with the English language, and

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Speaker 1: usually you're there to help me, but recently you've been

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Speaker 1: fucking digging me a hole and then pushing me into it.

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Speaker 1: And a baddie has corrected us on a couple of

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Speaker 1: terminologies we have been saying wrong, or words we've been

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Speaker 1: saying wrong. I mean, okay, we need that, and I

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Speaker 1: wanted the correction, and both times I've been right, and

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Speaker 1: then you take me on this rigamarole and then confuse

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Speaker 1: the funk out of me, and then I think I'm wrong.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty good at manipulating. So there we go.

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Speaker 3: Hey, I am listening to the most recent episode of

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Speaker 3: the podcast, and I wanted to put you both out

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Speaker 3: of your misery with how you say these words. And

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Speaker 3: the word is jeopardy. So Artie was right the first time,

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Speaker 3: but then he started saying it wrong.

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Speaker 4: But it's definitely Jeopardy if not Jeopardy Jake confused me and.

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Speaker 3: Not Jeff Pardy.

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Speaker 1: Definitely, it just felt like that was an idiot.

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Speaker 3: And also the word that Ottie said the other the

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Speaker 3: episode before that meant praise was commend, which definitely is right.

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Speaker 3: But then in this most recent episode, Jake was saying condemn,

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Speaker 3: which is not good. So if you condemn something, it's negative.

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Speaker 3: If you commend something, you're like clapping for them, praising them. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I started breaking down. Yeah, so that's command and Jeff.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Lucy. Jake's making me feel like absolutely idiot.

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Speaker 1: Usually you are to be fair. Hey, I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: uplift this podcast and bringing out.

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Speaker 2: So commend and condemned opposite meanings. Change them. Yeah, its different,

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Speaker 2: make the words much more different. And then the Jeopardy thing.

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Speaker 1: Like don't get me started.

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Speaker 2: Okay, the Jeopardy thing is like wigging me out, and

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Speaker 2: I'm like convinced it's a Mendela effect.

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Speaker 1: What's a Mandela effect?

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Speaker 2: So Mendela effect is the reason it's called a Mendela

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Speaker 2: effect at least is because a lot of people, so

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Speaker 2: Nelson Mendela is super famous and he was in prison

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Speaker 2: and a lot of people remember him dying in prison,

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Speaker 2: but then a lot of people also remember him coming

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Speaker 2: out and getting that out of prison and becoming like

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Speaker 2: the president or something like that of a country. Sorry,

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Speaker 2: not super versed in my Mendela South Africa, I believe,

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Speaker 1: But they're like just the whole world's divided and I'm

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Speaker 1: remembering on. So it's called the Mandela effect. And like,

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Speaker 1: have you heard of a show called The Bandstein Bears.

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Speaker 1: Now it's an old cartoon and everyone thinks it's called

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Speaker 2: It's actually called something different. It's a Mandela effect. Like

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Speaker 2: it's about waking up in different universes.

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Speaker 1: Or some shit. Tomato tomato pretty much. So this Nana banana,

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Speaker 1: this melpety milk, this Jeopardy thing is like I am

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Speaker 1: convinced that I have I must have woke up one

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Speaker 1: Jeopardy was actually Jeep Ruddy and in my new universe

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Speaker 1: it's Jeopardy. I've been waiting for this moment. There's a

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Speaker 1: red pill man to my right. Why admit that you're wrong? This, yeah, man,

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Speaker 1: don't affect my old universe. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Here's the thing, is like, so I am wrong, and like,

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Speaker 2: but I was like so shocked that I was, and

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm still like so confused.

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Speaker 1: I was like, it was like it's for some reason,

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Speaker 1: for something. I don't know why. I thought it was

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Speaker 1: Jeopardy and Jeopardy and then you just confuse me. So

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Speaker 1: moving forward, I think we should just assume that I'm

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Speaker 1: always right. Is that safe? Yeah? As safe as the

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Speaker 1: pull out method is. Okay?

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Speaker 2: Anyway, bad he is. We've got i g question of

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Speaker 2: the week. We're gonna rattle these ones off nice and quick.

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Speaker 1: Smart. It is key signs the date is over. Have

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Speaker 1: you ever been on a date quickly before you get

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Speaker 1: into it where you've wanted the date to be over? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You went for ice cream, didn't you? No? What about

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Speaker 1: that girl? Come on? Even start? What do you mean,

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Speaker 1: what about that girl? Remersible? She was a woman. She

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Speaker 1: probably still is. I assume she's alive, So let's not

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Do you know the one

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Speaker 1: I'm talking about? You went on one day we were

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Speaker 1: dates now I remember that. Yeah, Oh sorry, I remember.

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Speaker 2: That on that date. So no, I think I asked

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Speaker 2: her on the date. Okay, okay, I'm pretty confident I

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Speaker 1: We went on a date.

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Speaker 1: She goes on a date with me, and I was like, cool, cool, cool,

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Speaker 2: She goes, yeah, I'm gonna go to Europe for two

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Speaker 2: Maybe I don't know, but I was just like, yeah, well,

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh sick first of all, and this

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Speaker 1: To be fair, key signs the date's over. She tells

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Speaker 1: she had fun, don't have fun? Yeah anyway, Key signs

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Speaker 1: the data is over. You resort to talking about the weather.

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Speaker 1: To be fair, I like to start there really a

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Speaker 1: Like just like, oh, maybe I don't. Maybe I do,

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Speaker 1: but I feel like it's a good place to start.

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Speaker 1: And then the conversation starts to flow. How do you start? Hey,

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Speaker 1: how's it going? What do you say? This weather? Though?

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Speaker 1: Good day? In that got lucky anymore? In key signs

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Speaker 1: the date is over when the silence is loud. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: I've never had that luckily.

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Speaker 2: I've experienced too much awkward silence neither. Key signs of

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Speaker 2: good date if you went that far and both finish.

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Speaker 1: Do you both make each other finish?

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Speaker 2: That's a dumb Key signs of data is over when

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Speaker 2: a great time.

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Speaker 1: What do you do then? Though? Oh yeah, that's a

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Speaker 1: good point. Just I mean, hey, yeah, me too much

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Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do this again?

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Speaker 1: Yeah all right, this one's an action. Key signs of

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Speaker 1: data is over. Ah yeah, people do that? Have you

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Speaker 2: it's great to see you, blah blah blah blah blah,

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Speaker 1: contemplating my life. I'm like, what am I doing for

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Speaker 1: assume you haven't been on the second one. Well obviously not,

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure if I've been on a.

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Speaker 2: Double date and that wasn't Like I had a girlfriend

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Speaker 1: I've been on another one with the same friend.

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Speaker 2: You just loved double dates, mate, No, you love so much,

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Speaker 2: Like why don't we have two dates in one?

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Speaker 1: I'm the ultimate wingman, mate, geez, I remember I went

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Speaker 2: The common denominator in this is that you just don't

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Speaker 1: It sounds like you just don't fancy anyom. No, this

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Speaker 1: it you me, Beth and Cassie. We no wrong, I've

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Speaker 4: and like because like you're kind of trying to impress them,

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Speaker 1: He tries to be like the monny guy. Yeah, this

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I think so.

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Speaker 2: And so what she was saying is like in her

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Speaker 1: I kind of disagree that. I was like, that's kind

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Speaker 1: I gesture, I see it. I kind of like, okay.

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Speaker 1: I was kind of like, that's kind of like I

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Speaker 1: well stay. I mean yeah, that's like maybe, but I

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Speaker 1: dollars on the uber, so I may as well just stay,

428
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,359
Speaker 1: have dinner, yeah, and then go. You could feel I know,

429
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,480
Speaker 1: I feel about it. I don't know. I kind of

430
00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:26,520
Speaker 1: fucking like it. Like I think if you got if

431
00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 1: you live in a city and a man asks you

432
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 1: on a date and like actually is like, I want

433
00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,760
Speaker 1: to take you here, I've booked the restaurant blah blah blah,

434
00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 1: and he doesn't like he expects you to get yourself

435
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 1: bore being ah him. Would you say, playing Devil's advocate,

436
00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:43,359
Speaker 1: if a girl asked you on a date, would you

437
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 1: expect her to buy you and uber? No? Probably not. No,

438
00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:48,600
Speaker 1: I would tell you.

439
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:50,240
Speaker 2: I would tell her like if she asked me on

440
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:52,120
Speaker 2: a date, I think I would probably either say I'll

441
00:22:52,119 --> 00:22:52,639
Speaker 2: pick you up.

442
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, Yeah, but like that exact reason that you

443
00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:57,040
Speaker 1: don't want to find out where you live.

444
00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that the only reason that a different

445
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 2: the Devil's advocate in that is because as a man,

446
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,879
Speaker 2: not once I ever questioned my safety when it comes

447
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 2: to a woman or even another man. And so it's

448
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 2: like the reason that like that question just isn't really

449
00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 2: a question, the same way you can't be racist towards

450
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:22,960
Speaker 2: white people, or you can't be misogynistic towards men or

451
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:23,639
Speaker 2: whatever it's called it.

452
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:25,960
Speaker 1: There's like a word for it. So I think that

453
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 1: that doesn't it's like, that's not a valid question in

454
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:30,159
Speaker 1: that scenario. I don't think. I don't think that you

455
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 1: can play Devil's advocate in that way in my opinion. Yeah,

456
00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 1: I'm thinking more of a sense of like I can't

457
00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 1: get into words what I'm thinking. The safety thing is

458
00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:43,679
Speaker 1: obviously not the right question. But there's like a I

459
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 1: don't know, it's like a hierarchy thing that you shouldn't

460
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 1: expect that, you should go on the date anyway, and

461
00:23:49,720 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 1: it's nice if he does it, but you shouldn't expect it,

462
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:54,440
Speaker 1: and if he does it, it's really really good. Yeah maybe, yeah, yeah,

463
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 1: I mean I was just when she said it, I

464
00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 1: was just kind of like, that's like kind of fucking boss.

465
00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 4: Yeah.

466
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:02,199
Speaker 1: I think if you expect it, that's what's wrong. You

467
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:04,800
Speaker 1: think expecting it's wrong. Yeah, you shouldn't expect that. I

468
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:07,639
Speaker 1: don't think, because you are an independent person and you

469
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:11,440
Speaker 1: want him to be an independent person, expecting it's wrong.

470
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:13,159
Speaker 1: I don't think you should expecting it wrong. I know

471
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 1: I wouldn't. It might be a hot take. I wouldn't

472
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:18,200
Speaker 1: want a woman to expect me if she said I'm

473
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:20,720
Speaker 1: in the city, I'll meet you there, and she expected

474
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 1: me to say that. I don't think I would want

475
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,160
Speaker 1: to go on a date with her. Really, I don't

476
00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: think so. No, she's already I don't think so. He

477
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 1: is playing his hierarchy role in the relationship already, which

478
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:31,680
Speaker 1: I don't really like. I like two independent people coming

479
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:33,560
Speaker 1: together and you show me about your life and I

480
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 1: get to experience that with you. Not you already expected

481
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:38,120
Speaker 1: me to do something from you, if that makes sense,

482
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,679
Speaker 1: from you or do something for you for you, well,

483
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,440
Speaker 1: you know you are expecting something from me straight away.

484
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,919
Speaker 1: But is she Yeah, she expects that. She has an expectation.

485
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 2: I suppose where it's like if I'm asked on a

486
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:50,960
Speaker 2: date and I expect him to get me there.

487
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I disagree. I don't like it. You don't like it, Dang,

488
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 1: I think that's a I don't think that's it. I

489
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: think that's a valid expectation agreed to do. Yeah, baddies,

490
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:05,159
Speaker 1: what are your thoughts? That's an interesting is an interesting one,

491
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 1: and I do see two point of views, and I

492
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:09,200
Speaker 1: understand why you would want it, but also I don't

493
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,880
Speaker 1: think I would personally want that fair and I can

494
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:21,200
Speaker 1: see it being a hot take. It's time for dilemmas.

495
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 1: If you want to get a dilemma read by us, firstly,

496
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: get yourself into a situation with a man, and then

497
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,679
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure you will have a dilemma, but no

498
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: bad his fingers crossed. You will have a good relationship

499
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 1: in your life. But otherwise dilemmas is pinned in the

500
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:40,760
Speaker 1: comments and they're all anonymous. All right, this one is crazy. Okay.

501
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 1: I've been dating my boyfriend for nine months, nine and

502
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:50,840
Speaker 1: he still hasn't told me he loves me. That's a

503
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: long time. It is. Now before everybody jumps through conclusions.

504
00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 1: The confusing part is that he actually treats me incredibly well,

505
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 1: like I feel very loved by him. He cares about me,

506
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:06,439
Speaker 1: supports me, shows up for me, does all the right things.

507
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:11,640
Speaker 1: His actions scream I love you. The words just never

508
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 1: seem to leave his mouth. Okay. Meanwhile, I said I

509
00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 1: love you first about five months in his response, I know,

510
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 1: not I know, I love you too, just I know.

511
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 1: Then about a month later, we're in bed saying good

512
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 1: night and I said it again. Instead of saying it back,

513
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 1: he just gave me a massive hug and started absolutely

514
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 1: smothering me with kisses like an aggressive amount of affection.

515
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 1: It honestly felt like he was overcompensating for not saying

516
00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 1: the words. Then another month later, I said it again

517
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 1: and he literally said thank you. Thank You's freezy gosh,

518
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 1: she said it again, thank you. Anyways, fast forward another

519
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 1: month and things have seemed to escalate because it was

520
00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 1: Australia Day and all of my four brothers decided it

521
00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 1: was their civic duty to interrogate him about why he

522
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 1: hasn't told me he loves me yet. And when I

523
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 1: say interrogate, I mean they absolutely tore him to shreds

524
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 1: in front of everyone. Oh that's not great. So now

525
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: it's turned into this whole thing like an actual war

526
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 1: has happened between my family and him, and somehow I

527
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 1: ended up stuck in the middle of it, even though

528
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:20,160
Speaker 1: I didn't ask for any of that to happen, which

529
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: now makes the whole topic super super sensitive because I

530
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,879
Speaker 1: can't even bring it up with him without feeling like

531
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: there's pressure on the situation. And the last thing I

532
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:30,199
Speaker 1: want for him to say is I love you, just

533
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,520
Speaker 1: because he feels pressured or because he knows it's what

534
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 1: I want to hear. But also, it has been nine

535
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 1: months and at this point I feel like I'm living

536
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:42,400
Speaker 1: some sort of weird psychological experiment. I know he cares

537
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 1: about me, but the words are just permanently stuck in

538
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 1: his throat. Funny, Well, no, sorry, not funny. That is

539
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:55,640
Speaker 1: a very hard dilemma. Yeah, that is very very why

540
00:27:55,680 --> 00:28:02,480
Speaker 1: hasn't he said it? That is like do we let's actually,

541
00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 1: before we get into the dilemma, do we like what

542
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 1: the brothers did or not? I don't know.

543
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 2: I don't like what the brothers did because it puts

544
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:18,680
Speaker 2: their sister in a weird situation. Yeah, it's very they're

545
00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 2: getting into their relationship then like.

546
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:24,439
Speaker 1: Brotherly the is Yeah, it's injecting them in the situation.

547
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 1: I don't think that I would hate that. Yeah, Like

548
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 1: I think that our relationship is ours. Like you can't

549
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: be talking to people that have bias towards one party, yeah,

550
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: and then having at it, Yeah, start questioning the party

551
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 1: they don't have bias towards. So I just feel bad

552
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 1: for the sister really so so the girlfriend for what

553
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:50,520
Speaker 1: the brothers did, like the question question the boyfriend, Yeah,

554
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 1: I did. That didn't need to happen. That was a

555
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 1: bit that's a bit immature on their part. Do you

556
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 1: think it's a case of he does actually love her

557
00:28:57,560 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 1: or he doesn't. That's why he hasn't said it, honestly,

558
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 1: Like if he in my opinion, like if he loved her,

559
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: would he not say it? Yeah? And it comes back

560
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 1: to men have this weird ideology that if they say

561
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: I love you or will you be my girlfriend, they

562
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: have this weird commitment issue where like they're locked in

563
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 1: and they can't get out. I don't know why.

564
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 2: Where was it such a nice gesture, very very very

565
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 2: hard one. So in Beth and myself's relationship. So I like,

566
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 2: I knew at a point from I knew I loved

567
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 2: her at one point, and then I actually didn't say.

568
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 1: It straight away. Yeah, I didn't say it straight away.

569
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 2: I can't really like, I no excuse or no no valid,

570
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:56,760
Speaker 2: real valid reason. I just I knew it and I

571
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 2: didn't say it, and I knew I was going to

572
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 2: say it very soon, but she ended up saying it first,

573
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 2: and I said it back straight away because I knew.

574
00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 1: So I'm not saying what I did was right or

575
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 1: what I did was wrong.

576
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 2: But all I am saying is that when she said it,

577
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 2: I said it back because I knew. But I'm trying

578
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 2: to think about how I would feel. Is if I

579
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 2: was to tell my girlfriend I love her five months

580
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 2: in and she says I know, and then doesn't say

581
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 2: it back. Hmm, Yeah, I wouldn't like that at all.

582
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:37,520
Speaker 2: I think honestly, I think I would like, I'd be pissed.

583
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 2: I think i'd but I think i'd break up with

584
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 2: someone if they didn't love me, do you I think, like,

585
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 2: thinking about it from this perspective, I don't know how

586
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 2: I would really feel in the moment, but I kind.

587
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: Of would just feel stupid. I agree, like do you

588
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 1: love me or not? But it's so hard too because

589
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 1: actions speak loud in words and he's such a perfect boyfriend.

590
00:30:56,280 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 2: Actions do speak louder than words, but also words fucking

591
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,480
Speaker 2: sometimes matter a lot.

592
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 1: Like nine months is a long time. If she said

593
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 1: like three or six, i'd be chilling, But nine is

594
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: almost a year obviously. But yeah, but okay, so.

595
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 2: The nine months of not saying it, it's a long time.

596
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:18,200
Speaker 2: But if neither one of them had said it, I

597
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 2: would be thinking, okay, like maybe this is a little better.

598
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 2: But the fact that you've said it multiple times he goes.

599
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 2: One of the times he says I know, the next

600
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 2: time he says thank you, like he's deflecting.

601
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 1: I think I'm actually gonna agree with you. I think

602
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 1: this is one hard conversation to have. Ask him, why

603
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 1: you haven't said I love you yet? If he doesn't

604
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 1: have a very very valid reason I would break up

605
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 1: with him, say, I don't see what would be a

606
00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 1: valid reason if he said, oh, I'm still not sure,

607
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,120
Speaker 1: but what it's been nine months, I'm breaking up with you. Yeah.

608
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 2: Also, here's the thing is, I don't want to jump

609
00:31:55,760 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 2: to any conclusions here, but I am gonna. I'm assuming

610
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 2: that the reason your brother pepping him with the question

611
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 2: is because you've told your brothers that you've said I

612
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 2: love you and he hasn't.

613
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 1: Obviously.

614
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I think that what you should just one

615
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 2: thing you should take from that is like the fact

616
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 2: that although you should talk to someone, it shouldn't be

617
00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:15,160
Speaker 2: someone with that it shouldn't be a direct family member.

618
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:18,320
Speaker 2: Maybe it shouldn't, you know what I mean, Like in

619
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:21,920
Speaker 2: them getting involved, if it did make it more complicated.

620
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: I agree, But it's also it's not a fault because

621
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 1: like you probably were just venting and then they took

622
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:30,120
Speaker 1: it to the next step. So valid, And also I

623
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 1: don't know, they've kind of shot you in the foot

624
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 1: there because now when you bring it up, he's just

625
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 1: going to be like, oh, that was so fucking annoying,

626
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: be like, oh I was so painful. Look three times too,

627
00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 1: three strikes and you're out fucking I just can't. I

628
00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 1: don't know the guy, I don't know. You put me

629
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 1: on the spot, ask me why I haven't let me

630
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 1: see what I say. Why haven't you said I love

631
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:58,360
Speaker 1: you back? Because my last relationship I said it and

632
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 1: really call so much damage And I just don't know

633
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:03,719
Speaker 1: if I'm ready to say it again. Yeah. First thing

634
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: that came to mind. If that is what someone said

635
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: to me, I would break up with them. I'd be like, well, okay,

636
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 1: well then why you like, why do you waste my time? Exactly? Yeah?

637
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 1: And then I guess actually, and every individual is different.

638
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: So the BADDI listening right now? We nine months is

639
00:33:23,200 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: too long for us. Set a boundary of yourself. Might

640
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 1: be nine months, might be yeah, it might be a

641
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 1: year and a half. But there should be a set

642
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 1: period of time. I think with this motherfucker should say it.

643
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: And that is a very individualized preference, but for us,

644
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 1: nine months is enough. For most people, I think nine

645
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: months is enough. But you make that how, don't you know? Yeah?

646
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 1: I reckon, you need six weeks, break up with him,

647
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:51,239
Speaker 1: don't have sex with him anymore. Yeah, there you go,

648
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 1: hold out? Yeah, see if he says that then, and

649
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: he's like, I really want to fuck you, and you're like, thanks,

650
00:33:58,200 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 1: I know, I know you do.

651
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 2: Fuck off fucker all right. Anyway, I've got to preface

652
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 2: the people, or sorry, not the people. The this battie

653
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 2: is from Hawaii because, like she says.

654
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 1: Something about mainland and stuff, wakiki is that in Hawaii?

655
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:15,360
Speaker 1: Is in Hawaii?

656
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 2: She says at the end of it, Aloha from Hawaii.

657
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 2: As also said, it's not Hawaii like you do say

658
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:26,640
Speaker 2: it differently. It's like I don't want to butcher it anyway, okay.

659
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 1: Oh. Also, she says at the end, you guys are

660
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: funny for Australians or Australians. How sorry.

661
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 2: I've been with my boyfriend for two years and he's amazing,

662
00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:41,320
Speaker 2: but I recently discovered he still has nearly two hundred

663
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:44,720
Speaker 2: photos of his ex two hundred they dated for six years.

664
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:48,359
Speaker 2: This bothers me for a few reasons. It should girl,

665
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 2: I've told him I feeling secure about her. She's a model, student, pilot, wealthy, tall, blonde,

666
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 2: very different from me. A couple months into the relationship,

667
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 2: I saw a photo of him and her on his

668
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:04,080
Speaker 2: homescreen widget. I said, I understood the breakup was fresh

669
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:06,839
Speaker 2: and I wasn't asking him to delete everything right now,

670
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:09,640
Speaker 2: but seeing them later would really hurt me. After a

671
00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 2: year and a half together, I see another photo on

672
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:15,359
Speaker 2: his home screen widget. I told him how it made

673
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 2: me feel, and he said he'd delete them. He's generally

674
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 2: been honest early on, so he's generally been honest early on.

675
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 2: Before we officially started dating, he told me he had

676
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 2: just broken up with her. She doesn't live with him anymore,

677
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,839
Speaker 2: but she will be coming back to finish moving her

678
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 2: things back to the mainland or as you Ossis call it,

679
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 2: the States. He even told me that when she came

680
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 2: back to pack her things, they were sleeping in the

681
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:43,239
Speaker 2: same bed temporarily, but insisted nothing happened. I chose to

682
00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:45,879
Speaker 2: trust him because I'm thinking he didn't have to tell

683
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,400
Speaker 2: me this and could have just lied. Maybe I'm just

684
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:51,919
Speaker 2: being naive. Recently I snooped through his phone and found

685
00:35:51,960 --> 00:35:54,160
Speaker 2: he still has almost two hundred photos of her, including

686
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 2: one nude she was food. She was fully naked, but

687
00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:00,720
Speaker 2: just covering her private parts with her hands. The tricky

688
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,400
Speaker 2: part is he did delete the photos that showed up

689
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 2: on the widget, and he has well over a thousand photos,

690
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,839
Speaker 2: mostly of cars, so he may not realize these are

691
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:09,399
Speaker 2: still there.

692
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 1: Now.

693
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,399
Speaker 2: I'm torn between admitting I snooped and bringing it up

694
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 2: or saying nothing and dealing with it myself. By the way, Hello,

695
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 2: helloa from White Love the podcast. You guys are fine,

696
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 2: frustratas two years risky. You got to break up with

697
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 2: this guy, not brokey so bad? You got to break

698
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 2: up with this ah.

699
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:30,719
Speaker 1: Hell not that is so breakup worthy one hundred percent.

700
00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 1: I think you should break up him right now, but

701
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 1: not that it matters. How did the widgets work? I

702
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. Yeah, I don't give a but

703
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 1: I think that answers her question because it seems to

704
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: me that he's gone onto her. The widgets are selected,

705
00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 1: and man, sure pictures of the X doesn't come up anymore,

706
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 1: and he's kept him and gone off and wanked to him.

707
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:55,759
Speaker 2: She said she noticed that in the photos the widgets,

708
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 2: the photos she saw of the widgets were deleted, so

709
00:36:57,960 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: he deleted those ones.

710
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:02,640
Speaker 1: Oh, but he hasn't deleted the other two hundred he's got,

711
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 1: and like having.

712
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 2: Over a thousand photos in my opinion, also not that many, like.

713
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 1: Literally photos, I have seven thousand, a thousand photos is

714
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:13,720
Speaker 1: not has like thirty thousand.

715
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, bethany same thing. I have sixteen eight hundred and

716
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 2: seven item K in my library, sixteen k items that's videos.

717
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:25,839
Speaker 1: And photos, still so many one thousand. I just it's

718
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:29,720
Speaker 1: been too long. I don't like it. And then also

719
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: just we made a clip actually and we said you

720
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 1: should delete everything from your previous partners, and some people

721
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 1: really don't agree with us. I fully, wholeheartedly believe that

722
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:46,080
Speaker 1: you should delete everything. I agree, And then some people

723
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:49,360
Speaker 1: that justification is oh, but I've had such good memories

724
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:51,919
Speaker 1: with them. I don't care why.

725
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 2: And his thing is like thinking right now, God forbid

726
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:59,240
Speaker 2: Beth and I were ever to break up, Like, I

727
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 2: obviously love Henry like nearly as much as I love Beth.

728
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:10,840
Speaker 1: Yeah you know your dog, yeah yeah, yeah, And but Henry, if.

729
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 2: Beth and I broke up, he is beth dog. He

730
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 2: would go with Beth and Darcy would stay with me. Yeah,

731
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 2: And I'm sure she would love to keep photos of Darcy,

732
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 2: and I would love to keep photos of Henry. I

733
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,480
Speaker 2: would love to keep seeing Henry. But I'm also not

734
00:38:20,520 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 2: the type to do that, like.

735
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:26,759
Speaker 1: I it sounds so harsh right now, but like if

736
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: Beth and I were to break up, there would be

737
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 1: a point in time before I was like once I knew,

738
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 1: I was ready like moved on and ready to start

739
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:38,560
Speaker 1: dating again, Like I would delete everything. Yeah. To me,

740
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:41,919
Speaker 1: it shows you've healed, and this guy's never really healed. Yeah.

741
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:46,760
Speaker 2: But again, I guess like people being like I had,

742
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 2: you know that was so it was a very happy

743
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:50,279
Speaker 2: time of my life, Like, that's lots. I have lots

744
00:38:50,280 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 2: of great memories with that person. I think I can

745
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 2: also see that now.

746
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 1: I think I can.

747
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 2: I think I have a you all, like a non

748
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 2: binary mindset what non binary means multiple correct, Like I

749
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 2: don't have a binary mindset?

750
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, pretty much, I have.

751
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 2: I have a Yeah, I don't have a binary mindset

752
00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:15,399
Speaker 2: on this because I wouldn't probably want to be with

753
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 2: someone that keeps photos, but there.

754
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,680
Speaker 1: Is people that wouldn't care. I agree.

755
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 2: So I'm just not the right person for the type

756
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 2: of person that wants to keep photos.

757
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 1: And I don't know if it's an insecurity thing or not.

758
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,319
Speaker 1: I don't, I really don't. I guess it's the way

759
00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:32,759
Speaker 1: you show love and receive love. To me, it's black

760
00:39:32,800 --> 00:39:34,439
Speaker 1: and white that you're still in love with your ex.

761
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: I recognize what it mal whoa hard say you used

762
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 1: to love this person at one point, you had sex

763
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 1: of him, you had the best time of your life

764
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 1: with him, and keeping photos of him that means something.

765
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: It's not because all I just want to look back

766
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:50,440
Speaker 1: and think of such a good time. But now I

767
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 1: love you fuck off.

768
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 2: It's hardest, isn't it, Because it's like, well, I understand

769
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 2: you had a great time with them, but you're not

770
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:56,800
Speaker 2: with them.

771
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 1: Anymore, exactly like, and you're not with them for a reason.

772
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:02,399
Speaker 1: They friend, they aren't your friends, they're not family. You're

773
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 1: not with them for a reason because you guys didn't

774
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 1: work out, So why do you need to keep all

775
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 1: that like that? Like I am more on that side

776
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:12,839
Speaker 1: of the fence. Yeah, yeah, piece of people straight up,

777
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:15,440
Speaker 1: Like I keep photos, keep photos the only reason I

778
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: could like But also, you broke up for a reason.

779
00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 1: Obviously it didn't work out. Why didn't work out? Because

780
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 1: he was a bad person, she was a bad person.

781
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 1: Don't keep photos of them? Different mindsets? Was wrong person,

782
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 1: right time, right wrong time, right person. I didn't really

783
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:33,799
Speaker 1: like it. Break up with him two years too long too,

784
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 1: I would understand like, how long was the period of

785
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 1: time between these two relationships?

786
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:42,880
Speaker 2: Oh, I don't think it was too long. He dated

787
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 2: his ex girlfriend for six years and then I think

788
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 2: it wasn't very I think I'm going to say it

789
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:49,759
Speaker 2: was half a year, maybe a time a bit longer,

790
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:50,399
Speaker 2: maybe a little bit.

791
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:53,320
Speaker 1: I'm going to give it six months. That's my max.

792
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: I'm keeping photos and stuff if it's after six months. Yeah,

793
00:40:56,719 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 1: like look my I because here's my thinking as well

794
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:06,840
Speaker 1: as like, Okay, but you were with someone for six years, Okay,

795
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:08,840
Speaker 1: you've had a great time, like.

796
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 2: You you you you were broken hearted?

797
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:13,720
Speaker 1: You want to keep the photos cool.

798
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 2: It's like, what are you going to do when you

799
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 2: meet someone new? Who is now? This person's the perfect person, right,

800
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 2: this person you you're fully healed, You meet them, you

801
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,720
Speaker 2: fall in love. It's the deepest STFF you've ever been in. Yeah, Okay,

802
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 2: you get married.

803
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:33,839
Speaker 1: What are you keeping all these old photos of your

804
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 1: past six year relationship for? Because you still in love

805
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,840
Speaker 1: of them? But that's exactly that's what I'm saying. It's like,

806
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 1: unless you've got like children with them, Yeah, what are

807
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 1: you keeping them for? Is it also the same as

808
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 1: imagine like, so your partner hasn't kept any photos of them.

809
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:51,279
Speaker 1: But one day you walk in the living room and

810
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:54,880
Speaker 1: your partners on the couch scroll having a coffee with them. No,

811
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 1: imagine that scroll. Yeah that's even worse. But they're on

812
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 1: their Instagram and just have a scroll and you're like,

813
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 1: what are you doing?

814
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 3: Oh?

815
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 1: I was just checking. There's such good memories. Sure that

816
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:07,360
Speaker 1: is the best question.

817
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 4: You'd be like, fuck, what fuck are you doing?

818
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 1: It? A the fucking out? I had such good memories

819
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: with him for fucking six years. Fuck, that's the best question.

820
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 1: Leave me alone a nude one too? Do you subscribe

821
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: to our only fancis?

822
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 3: Hyeah?

823
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:36,919
Speaker 1: Fuck god, that's better a comment. It might have even

824
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 1: been an Instagram DM, and we get it quite frequently,

825
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 1: and it was how do we start the podcast? Why

826
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 1: did we start it? How do you get into it?

827
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 1: And we thought it's been a while, or about three

828
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 1: and a half.

829
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:53,080
Speaker 2: Years, nearly four four shit, during like twenty second or something.

830
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 1: Four is four years of us doing the Relatables podcast together.

831
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:00,239
Speaker 1: So a lot of you are probably new don't know

832
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 1: how we started where we started, unless he went back

833
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:04,919
Speaker 1: to the very very start. But we're also awkward, little

834
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 1: losers back then. Yeah, I couldn't go back then, so

835
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:11,320
Speaker 1: I reckon we could just give a little rundown debrief

836
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 1: of how Relatables came to be what it is to

837
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 1: this day.

838
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:21,360
Speaker 2: Well, it's kind of funny, I guess, like I personally didn't.

839
00:43:22,400 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 2: I don't think it ever crossed my mind to start

840
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:27,480
Speaker 2: a podcast. And but at the time we started the podcast,

841
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 2: I would say podcasts had blown up, like big time.

842
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 2: They had blown up, and it was arguably like a

843
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:41,880
Speaker 2: saturated market, you know something. And I just remember so

844
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 2: basically Audie and I, okay, we met in year seven,

845
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 2: in grade seven or whatever, when I moved from my

846
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 2: school to his school, and then he actually moved from

847
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 2: a class like I got moved into this class, and

848
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:57,920
Speaker 2: then you know, stars aligned, and aud he moves into

849
00:43:57,960 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 2: same He moved from one class to another class. He

850
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 2: was already that school. And then you'd think, where I'm

851
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 2: about to go with this is.

852
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: We hit it off straight away, just like class hands,

853
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 1: like you and I are going to be fucking friends. Yeah,

854
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:13,520
Speaker 1: best buddies. And I mean, like I'm sure we got

855
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 1: introduced to each other and then just literally lived separate

856
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:21,920
Speaker 1: lives like I came to school having friends from primary

857
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:23,920
Speaker 1: school that went to that school, and obviously I went

858
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 1: hang out in them, same as addis like primary school

859
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:28,240
Speaker 1: went to the same school because like different primary schools,

860
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:33,719
Speaker 1: feeding in the high schools and just lived separate lives

861
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 1: with like acquainted friend groups or whatever. Literally throughout all

862
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 1: of school. Yeah, year seven and twelve, we weren't even

863
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 1: made throughout all school.

864
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:44,439
Speaker 2: Like someone could have said, what do you think Audio

865
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 2: would have been like, oh, yeah, like nice guy, I

866
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 2: got a few classes with.

867
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 1: Any and then I assume he would have said the

868
00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: same thing, or he would have been like, yeah, nice

869
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:52,319
Speaker 1: guy's got big cars or something. That's what I would

870
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:55,880
Speaker 1: have said. Again, that's like I wouldn't have said a

871
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 1: bad thing. No neither, no, and yeah exactly. And then

872
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 1: I think, like what happened, in my opinion was so

873
00:45:02,239 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 1: I actually I did.

874
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 2: I completed year ten, but then left. I didn't finish school.

875
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:09,200
Speaker 2: I went and did a carpentry apprenticeship. And then throughout

876
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:12,919
Speaker 2: like I think that that year, when everyone was doing

877
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:16,600
Speaker 2: year eleven, more people were leaving slowly. Yeah, it didn't

878
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:17,840
Speaker 2: like it's not as common as it used to be,

879
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:19,880
Speaker 2: but more people believing and I have a feeling that

880
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:24,320
Speaker 2: was like friend groups sort of once everyone left school

881
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:26,440
Speaker 2: and smaller, and then some morphed.

882
00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:28,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of friend groups morphed together.

883
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 2: And so a really really good friend of mine, JJ,

884
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 2: he like must have just morphed his way into your

885
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 2: friend group.

886
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:39,280
Speaker 1: JJ was a friend of everyone. He became the biggest

887
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,399
Speaker 1: friend of ours. But he was friends with everyone. Yet

888
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 1: I've never met someone that knows so many people. And

889
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:45,480
Speaker 1: if you catch JJ on a night out, he'll tell

890
00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:46,400
Speaker 1: everyone that he's the reason.

891
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:48,839
Speaker 2: If you met JJ on a night out when we

892
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 2: were like anywhere from nineteen to like twenty three, he

893
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:53,879
Speaker 2: would have added you to our friend group.

894
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:55,960
Speaker 1: He would have added you to the group chat I

895
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: was going. He would have added you to the group

896
00:45:57,719 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 1: chat if you met him on a night out. Now

897
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 1: you meet him on a night out, and he would say,

898
00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:08,839
Speaker 1: I'm the reason relatables And so JJ is kind of

899
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 1: like so school ends, and then I think I can't

900
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:17,320
Speaker 1: remember how it happened, but so I me and JJ

901
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 1: might have had We just like got a lot closer

902
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 1: via girlfriends, I believe, and then we were alway pretty close,

903
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:24,799
Speaker 1: but we got a lot closer that way. And then

904
00:46:24,800 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 1: at the same time, ODDI and JJ were also becoming

905
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 1: really good friends, just like separately. And then I think

906
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:35,400
Speaker 1: just over time, I started just like going out with JJ,

907
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 1: and JJ was part of this friend group where it

908
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 1: was JJ Otdie and then like four or five other

909
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:45,279
Speaker 1: of our friends, and I was like friends with some

910
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: of them from primary school and then also from high school,

911
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 1: so we all knew each other.

912
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:50,959
Speaker 2: And then I think JJ just started bringing me along

913
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:53,359
Speaker 2: to like nights out, and then I got brought into

914
00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 2: this like friend group called shit Cunts.

915
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:59,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, the most Australian name, so it's called Shitcunts. And

916
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:02,799
Speaker 1: then I was the last member to be added and

917
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, I'm on it, and no one

918
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:10,160
Speaker 1: got added everywhere. You were the last and then yeah.

919
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: So then basically just through like proximity, yeah, proximity. And

920
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 1: then this was probably when we were about nineteen, and

921
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 1: our friendship started to flourish a bit, I think because

922
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 1: we had a lot of i'm going to say morals

923
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 1: that were the same and we connected on that. We

924
00:47:26,520 --> 00:47:29,440
Speaker 1: had a lot of outlooks about life were very very similar.

925
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 1: And then we started there's a thing in Australia called

926
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 1: surf boat rowing, and we started rowing boats together. So

927
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:40,040
Speaker 1: the proximity thing again, we're hanging out three four times

928
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 1: a week. Like I said, the morals were very similar,

929
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: and we were both kind of like in a bit

930
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 1: of lostness. Jacob finished his carpentry apprenticeship. I'd tried Gunner

931
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 1: Uni like twice, maybe three times. At that point, I

932
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 1: was like, I'm just fucking lost, and I think we're

933
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:55,359
Speaker 1: both just a little bit lost. And we weren't even

934
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 1: like that good mates at the time. No, but we

935
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 1: somehow came to the conclude to travel up the East

936
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 1: Coast of Australia. Maybe it was because we both had

937
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 1: full drives. Maybe we all started going camping as a

938
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: group a lot.

939
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe just like over maybe just like hanging out

940
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:11,719
Speaker 2: a bunch of going camping and then just going out

941
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:13,759
Speaker 2: on weekends and stuff. Maybe we just started hanging out

942
00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 2: a lot more, and then a kind of feeling like,

943
00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:18,680
Speaker 2: because neither one of us would have just gone on

944
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 2: a fucking three month trip that we weren't like good friends.

945
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:22,759
Speaker 1: Yeah. True, So we must have just been good friends

946
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 1: at that point. I can't we remember, Yeah, never can I.

947
00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 1: But we went on a three month hiatus camping up

948
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:32,120
Speaker 1: the East coast of Australia out a jeep wrangler. Jake

949
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:35,640
Speaker 1: had a towyter troopy. What year nineteen eighty six? Yeah,

950
00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:38,719
Speaker 1: I think with a B we moved in slow motion

951
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:44,799
Speaker 1: fucking wherever. We didn't go that far. We got as

952
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 1: far as Early Beach. But what ended up happening was

953
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:51,680
Speaker 1: the friendship flourished even more. Yeah, and we did become

954
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:55,359
Speaker 1: like clearly best mates. And the conversations they started off

955
00:48:55,440 --> 00:48:59,320
Speaker 1: very surface level as guys to fucking chicks, feeling yeah, surfing,

956
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 1: drinking a bit of beer. At that time we both

957
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:04,239
Speaker 1: were still drinking a fair bit. It was fun then though,

958
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 1: because we didn't get hungover, and then we like going

959
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: to breweries. Yeah, it's cool. Yeah, and then we came

960
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:12,640
Speaker 1: back ready here. One one thing I want to say

961
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:17,280
Speaker 1: is literally, I think like the first week we were away,

962
00:49:18,160 --> 00:49:19,840
Speaker 1: because like you just spent so much time with someone,

963
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:22,040
Speaker 1: we just started being like I think one night we

964
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 1: were having dinner somewhere and we were just like, all right,

965
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 1: business plan, We're opening a bar, a bar when we

966
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:33,320
Speaker 1: get home, right, it's going to have arcade games. Were

967
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 1: like table but we're going to have this. We're like,

968
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 1: we're doing it we had a note in our like

969
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:41,080
Speaker 1: a shared note apple like things we needed for our bar,

970
00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:46,879
Speaker 1: and when we started just like thinking business. I yeah,

971
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:49,400
Speaker 1: I forgot about that. And we had heaps of business

972
00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:53,880
Speaker 1: ideas along the way, so many random ones. Podcasting wasn't one.

973
00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:54,799
Speaker 1: Here's what.

974
00:49:55,360 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 2: No, here's one of the reasons why I think that

975
00:49:57,840 --> 00:49:59,960
Speaker 2: we actually have good business ideas. It depends I don't

976
00:50:00,440 --> 00:50:03,120
Speaker 2: that bar would have been cool, but we both stopped drinking.

977
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:04,560
Speaker 1: Now.

978
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:10,240
Speaker 2: Second one, we were like, we need to get gummy

979
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:13,839
Speaker 2: bears or something that have either creatine in them.

980
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, we came up. Or we need to make it

981
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:18,319
Speaker 1: so you can have gummy bears that have like pre

982
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:20,480
Speaker 1: workout in them. This is in like what year was this?

983
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:22,279
Speaker 1: Twenty twenty, this is twenty this is where we're on

984
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:24,640
Speaker 1: our trip. Yeah nine, this is twenty. No, it would

985
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:27,720
Speaker 1: be twenty twenty one, twenty twenty one or another idea.

986
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:32,799
Speaker 1: Caffeine gum. Guess what exists? Now? Yeah, that was I'll

987
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 1: give Jake. That was his. I think it may have

988
00:50:34,520 --> 00:50:37,000
Speaker 1: always existed, but it just wasn't that big. Ye caffeine gum.

989
00:50:37,120 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 1: AnyWho we've got we have some pieces you guys would

990
00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 1: be famous otherwise, but okay, So we went home COVID

991
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:47,759
Speaker 1: and then both got like really into the gym and

992
00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 1: just hanging out.

993
00:50:48,680 --> 00:50:51,799
Speaker 2: And then I just remember Audi coming to the gym

994
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 2: one day being like because I think everyone was in

995
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:58,080
Speaker 2: like a stagnant position in life because of COVID or

996
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:00,320
Speaker 2: do you. I remember him saying like, we should fucking

997
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 2: try a podcast, and it initially I was just thinking

998
00:51:02,719 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 2: like that is like I can't put myself out.

999
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:06,919
Speaker 1: There, Like I know why I came to you too,

1000
00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:10,040
Speaker 1: obviously our friendship, but you were trying a bit of

1001
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:13,640
Speaker 1: videography and you're posting years prior. Yeah, you're you're posting

1002
00:51:13,640 --> 00:51:16,359
Speaker 1: some fashion shit on Instagram a little bit. Yeah, And

1003
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 1: I remember, oh yeah at that point is yeah, because

1004
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:20,839
Speaker 1: you were very open minded where I had a lot

1005
00:51:20,840 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: of other friends too, and no one was as open

1006
00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:26,640
Speaker 1: minded as you were, like understanding and like most people

1007
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 1: have said start a podcast firstly wouldn't have the dog

1008
00:51:28,719 --> 00:51:29,840
Speaker 1: in him to do it, but they'd be like, oh,

1009
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:32,560
Speaker 1: it's such a fucking dumbo. Yeah, but I was like, yeah,

1010
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:36,640
Speaker 1: let's fucking do it. I remember initially being like that's scary,

1011
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:38,879
Speaker 1: that's scary, but being like okay, okay. And I think

1012
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:42,040
Speaker 1: initially I thought like, yeah, I said I'll do it,

1013
00:51:42,080 --> 00:51:44,479
Speaker 1: and then I was thinking, yeah, but it's not gonna happen.

1014
00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:48,600
Speaker 1: And then one maybe a couple of weeks later, like

1015
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 1: I think it was mentioned a few more times, and

1016
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:52,399
Speaker 1: audio goes yeah, Like we could think about it as

1017
00:51:53,400 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 1: people do a four year degree and come out of

1018
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:57,359
Speaker 1: it in debt and don't go and then they make

1019
00:51:57,440 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 1: no money because no one has them because they need experience,

1020
00:51:59,480 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 1: Like we could try doing a podcast for four years

1021
00:52:01,920 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 1: while we're just working and making money, but we're also

1022
00:52:04,719 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 1: doing this podcast and if in four years it doesn't work,

1023
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:08,200
Speaker 1: then we just like cut our losses and fucking get

1024
00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 1: out of it. And so we just thought, shit, yeah,

1025
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:13,800
Speaker 1: we'll go into the mindset of four years. And god,

1026
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:15,799
Speaker 1: well I think I think I had that mindset too

1027
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:17,719
Speaker 1: because I was trying to do union. I was like,

1028
00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:19,719
Speaker 1: this feels like the dumbest thing. We're giving up four

1029
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:21,719
Speaker 1: years of their life. Yeah, sorry if anyone's doing.

1030
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:24,360
Speaker 2: It also, And we also I remember we both thought

1031
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:26,360
Speaker 2: we both just hated working for a person.

1032
00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 1: I remember that, Yeah, And then same likewise of you

1033
00:52:28,760 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: like you did four years of being a carpenter. Yeah,

1034
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:32,400
Speaker 1: and then you were like, well, I don't want to

1035
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:35,759
Speaker 1: do that anymore. It planned to see a subconscious seed

1036
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:38,839
Speaker 1: in my mind and there. Yeah, one day I said

1037
00:52:38,880 --> 00:52:41,800
Speaker 1: to Jake, let's do it. We bought We initially started

1038
00:52:41,800 --> 00:52:44,319
Speaker 1: with these shitty little microphone from JB High five and

1039
00:52:44,360 --> 00:52:46,880
Speaker 1: they were like one hundred fifty bucks. Yeah, and they

1040
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: didn't work. And we tried to do like two episodes

1041
00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:51,359
Speaker 1: and no one will over here and we'll se walk

1042
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 1: and they're gone. Yeah, they're gone. We couldn't make it work.

1043
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,479
Speaker 1: I still have the laptop we did them on. Really. Yeah,

1044
00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:59,600
Speaker 1: you never know. And then one day bad is you

1045
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:03,000
Speaker 1: won't for leave this. So one day I messaged Jake

1046
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 1: and I was like how much was it?

1047
00:53:04,960 --> 00:53:06,759
Speaker 2: Odi just messages me and goes like, you owe me

1048
00:53:06,760 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 2: three hundred and fifty bucks.

1049
00:53:08,000 --> 00:53:12,920
Speaker 1: I was like okay, And I on Facebook Marketplace bought

1050
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:15,720
Speaker 1: if anyone that wants to know the tech a road

1051
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:21,040
Speaker 1: Caster pro and three microphones for what seven hundred dollars. Headphones, yeah,

1052
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 1: and some headphones and baddies. We are still using the

1053
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 1: same headphones, yeah, and the same road caster, which is

1054
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:34,040
Speaker 1: all your audio you heard for the last three and

1055
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:36,720
Speaker 1: a half years, four years. Yeah, we have new mics,

1056
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 1: we have new cameras, but like, yeah, we fucking it's

1057
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:42,400
Speaker 1: never failed us. Yeah, ever, but that's where it started.

1058
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 1: And I do remember being super nervous, but also I

1059
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:50,920
Speaker 1: felt it's weird because I feel like social media is

1060
00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:53,400
Speaker 1: a lot more normal these days for people to be

1061
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:55,799
Speaker 1: in the public eye a little bit bit, especially from

1062
00:53:55,840 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 1: where we are from and putting ourselves out there. I

1063
00:53:58,040 --> 00:54:00,520
Speaker 1: felt like an idiot. Same, I felt like an idiot.

1064
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:02,080
Speaker 1: Bro and my dad walking in this.

1065
00:54:01,960 --> 00:54:03,120
Speaker 2: One day, being like, what are you doing and we

1066
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 2: were like, we're recording a podcast and he goes cool,

1067
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:09,200
Speaker 2: It's like cool.

1068
00:54:09,640 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 1: Like yeah, I clearly remember feeling like an idiot, and

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00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:16,239
Speaker 1: I felt like an idiot for a long time. It

1070
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:17,920
Speaker 1: was honestly, I won't lie that it was kind of

1071
00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:19,719
Speaker 1: like a fakeacy make a situation. I was like, no,

1072
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:22,800
Speaker 1: this is fine, cool, like, and I felt like an idiot,

1073
00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:24,440
Speaker 1: and we couldn't do it about each other. I couldn't

1074
00:54:24,440 --> 00:54:25,960
Speaker 1: do it about you. Now, well, we both would stop. I

1075
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:27,960
Speaker 1: would stop stopped in it.

1076
00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:29,840
Speaker 2: And proof that it would have stopped is that we

1077
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 2: both Proof that we both would have stopped is that

1078
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:34,719
Speaker 2: we both tried just like small little personal endeavors that

1079
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:37,600
Speaker 2: like benefit the podcast and benefit our own personal brand

1080
00:54:38,239 --> 00:54:39,320
Speaker 2: didn't last.

1081
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:41,839
Speaker 1: I think it holds each other accountable, even though there

1082
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:43,719
Speaker 1: is an underlying bit of like I've got to do

1083
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:45,320
Speaker 1: this for Jake or you've got to do this. Yeah,

1084
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:47,640
Speaker 1: we just feel like we do. It's become a business.

1085
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 1: But there's also no like there was no magic moment

1086
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:54,239
Speaker 1: where like three episodes in we start to blow up.

1087
00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 1: I think we went was it a year and a half?

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00:54:57,280 --> 00:54:59,840
Speaker 2: So yeah, but I will say, okay, I remember already

1089
00:54:59,840 --> 00:55:01,719
Speaker 2: being like the call what I want the concept to

1090
00:55:01,719 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 2: be here? Remember had been so do you really like

1091
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,480
Speaker 2: the Inspirted on Employed podcasts at the time? And I

1092
00:55:06,480 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 2: also really I actually really like Shits and Gigs, And

1093
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,840
Speaker 2: I think I introduced audio to Shits and Gigs a

1094
00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 2: little bit then as well. And so those two podcasts

1095
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:19,839
Speaker 2: were massive, massive what's it called inspirations. It's just like

1096
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:22,839
Speaker 2: where like ideas came from. And so we really liked

1097
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 2: how like the Inspired Unemployed had like segments, how it

1098
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:27,800
Speaker 2: was like broken up and it just kept people listening.

1099
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:30,160
Speaker 2: And so we always wanted we thought, like we want

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00:55:30,160 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 2: to talk about like memories how things. We really like

1101
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 2: camping with our friends at that point in time. We

1102
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:37,359
Speaker 2: loved hanging out with friends, just like stories of our

1103
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:40,120
Speaker 2: life up until that point. And then we also wanted

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00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 2: to like have it be. We wanted to have moments

1105
00:55:43,600 --> 00:55:45,040
Speaker 2: if you guys have been around for a long time,

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00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:46,279
Speaker 2: we would have a thing where we'd be like, okay,

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00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:48,799
Speaker 2: we've got a deep segment, and we would just think

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00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:51,320
Speaker 2: of a topic, maybe like right before we started recording,

1109
00:55:51,400 --> 00:55:52,960
Speaker 2: or we'd have one for a week in mind of

1110
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 2: like how does it make you feel when this happens,

1111
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 2: and then we would intentionally try and get deep about

1112
00:55:57,760 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 2: a subject and talk about how it made us feel.

1113
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:02,360
Speaker 2: And we wanted to do that because we wanted to

1114
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:03,840
Speaker 2: have a bit of a takeaway from each episode. We

1115
00:56:03,880 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 2: actually also wanted it to be geared towards men talking

1116
00:56:06,600 --> 00:56:09,360
Speaker 2: about their feelings, and that didn't happen.

1117
00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:11,080
Speaker 1: No, it was good.

1118
00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 2: It is evidently geared towards women, which we love, which

1119
00:56:15,080 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 2: is actually like a way better outcome for us, and

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00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:20,880
Speaker 2: honestly we like you guys way better. But yeah, so

1121
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:23,280
Speaker 2: that's where it started. But yeah, yeah, again, where already

1122
00:56:23,280 --> 00:56:29,520
Speaker 2: was going was fuck, we just would post for we

1123
00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:32,160
Speaker 2: didn't really miss any episodes ever, and I think just

1124
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:34,440
Speaker 2: for the longest time we were getting maybe.

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00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: We got up to like three hundred listens per episode. Yeah,

1126
00:56:36,280 --> 00:56:38,279
Speaker 1: it was like three hundred listens for the longest time.

1127
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:41,240
Speaker 1: We went through different sets, and then it all changed

1128
00:56:41,280 --> 00:56:43,440
Speaker 1: for us. Was it Jack Conroy? Who it was he

1129
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:50,640
Speaker 1: told you to start bothing video names? This sucks? I

1130
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 1: know him Concrete? Yeah, what the hell? I feel really bad.

1131
00:56:54,719 --> 00:57:02,800
Speaker 1: I don't remember his name. Just someone that I'm friends with. Jordan, Yeah, Jordan, No, Jason, Jayden, Jordan,

1132
00:57:03,800 --> 00:57:08,640
Speaker 1: Joseph anyway, just a random dude. Yeah, really nice guy. Yeah,

1133
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:09,839
Speaker 1: not very good friends at all.

1134
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:12,080
Speaker 2: But he just like messaged me on Instagram one day

1135
00:57:12,120 --> 00:57:14,040
Speaker 2: and goes, oh, I've noticed that you started the pod.

1136
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: I love it. He goes.

1137
00:57:15,880 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 2: I tried doing TikTok for a bit, and one of

1138
00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:19,800
Speaker 2: the best bist advice that anyone ever gave me was

1139
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:22,240
Speaker 2: post every day. And so he goes, I noticed that

1140
00:57:22,280 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 2: like your TikTok clips, you girls will get maybe like

1141
00:57:24,120 --> 00:57:27,160
Speaker 2: one or two from the episodes and post them just

1142
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 2: maybe once or twice a week. You might see a

1143
00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 2: lot more growth if you try and post on every

1144
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 2: single day. From that moment, I took it as gospel.

1145
00:57:34,720 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 2: And now the only bit of advice that I have

1146
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 2: for anyone starting a podcast or doing anything social media

1147
00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:41,439
Speaker 2: is to post every day.

1148
00:57:41,600 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 1: And I have no other advice because I've learned nothing.

1149
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:47,320
Speaker 1: And honestly, though, at that point in time, TikTok was

1150
00:57:47,400 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 1: just done to blow up a lot, yeah, quite a

1151
00:57:49,360 --> 00:57:51,760
Speaker 1: bit more yeah, And there wasn't all these like you

1152
00:57:51,760 --> 00:57:53,800
Speaker 1: can go on TikTok now and everyone's saying like all

1153
00:57:53,800 --> 00:57:57,480
Speaker 1: these different shit. There wasn't that kind of like system there,

1154
00:57:57,840 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 1: and it was just like trial and error. And we

1155
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:02,480
Speaker 1: are everything to TikTok and social media because it blew

1156
00:58:02,560 --> 00:58:05,160
Speaker 1: up and showed people who we were and that like

1157
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:07,640
Speaker 1: our product is actually decent. There's no other way that

1158
00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:10,440
Speaker 1: can compare the exposure. And then we learn about gear

1159
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:13,280
Speaker 1: we've gone on. We upgraded our sets the more money

1160
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:16,440
Speaker 1: we made. We started with iPhones for cameras, those microphones

1161
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 1: lasted like fucking two years, went to one camera. Now

1162
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:23,360
Speaker 1: we've got three cameras. Saying with like just learning about

1163
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:25,720
Speaker 1: there's so much different things in the industry. And I

1164
00:58:25,720 --> 00:58:30,880
Speaker 1: think another reason we both love podcasting. Slash Whites worked

1165
00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 1: is a lot of podcasters. Famous people will come in talk,

1166
00:58:34,840 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 1: leave and they don't have a single hand in the

1167
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:39,280
Speaker 1: production side of things. Yea and I both fell in

1168
00:58:39,320 --> 00:58:42,080
Speaker 1: love with the production side of stuff. How cameras work,

1169
00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:44,400
Speaker 1: how to record and make it sound good, how to edit.

1170
00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:46,840
Speaker 1: We do all post productions. Yeah, we do everything. And

1171
00:58:46,840 --> 00:58:49,080
Speaker 1: like we've gone to places before where like if we

1172
00:58:49,080 --> 00:58:51,600
Speaker 1: were to hire a studio for when we luckily got

1173
00:58:51,640 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 1: that was a a pinchby moment. When we did a

1174
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 1: podcast with shits and gigs, shoots and gigs, and we

1175
00:58:56,240 --> 00:58:57,720
Speaker 1: go in there and we talk and we know about

1176
00:58:57,720 --> 00:58:59,880
Speaker 1: and everyone's like, oh shit, like how many people fucking

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00:58:59,880 --> 00:59:04,040
Speaker 1: know this? We've we've we've recorded podcasts where someone's sitting

1178
00:59:04,080 --> 00:59:06,440
Speaker 1: there as the producer and we'll just do a podcast

1179
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:08,640
Speaker 1: as we would normally do, and then they're like, that's

1180
00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:10,520
Speaker 1: the first time I've ever sat in on a podcast

1181
00:59:10,560 --> 00:59:12,320
Speaker 1: where someone hasn't looked over and said, what do we

1182
00:59:12,360 --> 00:59:15,680
Speaker 1: talk about now? Yeah? And we're like yeah, And that's

1183
00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:17,520
Speaker 1: one of the reasons as well. I guess too, like

1184
00:59:17,840 --> 00:59:21,400
Speaker 1: we've kept the podcast duo us because like, you love

1185
00:59:21,440 --> 00:59:23,959
Speaker 1: talking to each other. I see also like.

1186
00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:28,120
Speaker 2: I find that I want to put out what I

1187
00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:31,880
Speaker 2: would listen to, And I personally only listen to podcasts

1188
00:59:31,920 --> 00:59:33,960
Speaker 2: where it's a duo and they never have guests, like

1189
00:59:34,080 --> 00:59:35,920
Speaker 2: I like camaraderie. Yeah, like when She's and gigs have

1190
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:37,600
Speaker 2: guest episodes, I don't listen to them. Yeah, you know

1191
00:59:37,640 --> 00:59:40,000
Speaker 2: what I mean, Like I only like that's just that's

1192
00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 2: just me And I don't know if that's right or wrong,

1193
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:43,880
Speaker 2: but I can't. Yeah, no one can tell us to

1194
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:45,200
Speaker 2: do and we can't tell them us what to do.

1195
00:59:45,320 --> 00:59:47,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, so bad is I reckon? A lot of people

1196
00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:50,760
Speaker 1: like to think, Oh, I would love to do social media.

1197
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:52,200
Speaker 1: I'd love to start a podcast whatever it is. It

1198
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:54,240
Speaker 1: doesn't even have to be on social media. But like,

1199
00:59:54,560 --> 00:59:56,760
Speaker 1: it's this trial and error. There was no magic pill,

1200
00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:58,760
Speaker 1: there was nothing, no moment where it was just like

1201
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:02,320
Speaker 1: we made it, sticking at it day after day, turning

1202
01:00:02,400 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 1: up for each other and trialing. I think that's where

1203
01:00:05,480 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 1: we've worked. We trial so many different things.

1204
01:00:07,800 --> 01:00:10,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think, like being nearly four years in

1205
01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:14,160
Speaker 2: it just still I gotta say I still wouldn't say I.

1206
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:15,720
Speaker 1: Feel like.

1207
01:00:17,880 --> 01:00:22,280
Speaker 2: Fully I may Maybe the word is like secure, is

1208
01:00:22,280 --> 01:00:24,800
Speaker 2: that like a good word to use? Like I feel

1209
01:00:24,880 --> 01:00:28,760
Speaker 2: lucky I would say there is lots of great arguments

1210
01:00:28,760 --> 01:00:31,200
Speaker 2: that we are successful in our field, but like I

1211
01:00:31,280 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 2: still feel like.

1212
01:00:33,680 --> 01:00:35,760
Speaker 1: I'm not fully secure and I don't know if I

1213
01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 1: ever will imposter syndrome. Well, we'll live it on. The

1214
01:00:39,080 --> 01:00:42,480
Speaker 1: reason we signed with Nova was hopefully by the end

1215
01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 1: of this year or next year, we will feel secure. Yeah, hopefully,

1216
01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 1: and like, yeah, fingers crossed. It's kind of funny. It's like,

1217
01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:52,439
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, it's very.

1218
01:00:52,360 --> 01:00:54,120
Speaker 2: I mean I was flying when I was flying here

1219
01:00:54,640 --> 01:00:58,000
Speaker 2: to record, I remember just thinking, like, it's fucking pretty cool.

1220
01:00:58,040 --> 01:00:59,600
Speaker 2: I was just like looking at all these people in

1221
01:00:59,640 --> 01:01:02,200
Speaker 2: suits flying to Sydney for obviously going to work and stuff,

1222
01:01:02,240 --> 01:01:03,160
Speaker 2: and I was like, it's pretty cool.

1223
01:01:03,160 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 1: Like what we do it is, it's very cool. Yeah,

1224
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:09,640
Speaker 1: so we think all the baddis listening. We'll hopefully going

1225
01:01:09,680 --> 01:01:11,880
Speaker 1: to the moon. That's how old saying. Yeah, and you're

1226
01:01:11,920 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 1: coming with us, and we wouldn't be here without you guys,

1227
01:01:14,640 --> 01:01:16,840
Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean, look, tell a friend to tell

1228
01:01:16,840 --> 01:01:19,640
Speaker 1: a friend about the pod do Yeah, it would it

1229
01:01:19,640 --> 01:01:21,520
Speaker 1: would obviously help out so much. We want to.

1230
01:01:23,160 --> 01:01:25,640
Speaker 2: Well, we're like stretching into the time on the episode

1231
01:01:25,640 --> 01:01:27,960
Speaker 2: a bit. I may as well say if you're still here, obviously,

1232
01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:31,000
Speaker 2: thank you for listening this far. And we've got Patreon,

1233
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:33,400
Speaker 2: go sign up, use the link of the description. And

1234
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:35,520
Speaker 2: then one more thing was we want to do events

1235
01:01:35,560 --> 01:01:38,120
Speaker 2: this year. We did one for the Housemaid, the premiere

1236
01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:40,480
Speaker 2: of the Housemaid or like the advanced screening of the Housemaid,

1237
01:01:40,760 --> 01:01:43,880
Speaker 2: but I want to I want to do like fun events. Yeah, yeah,

1238
01:01:43,920 --> 01:01:45,440
Speaker 2: So I just wanted to kind of put that out

1239
01:01:45,480 --> 01:01:46,960
Speaker 2: there and just see what everyone thinks, like, get the

1240
01:01:46,960 --> 01:01:47,680
Speaker 2: community built.

1241
01:01:47,840 --> 01:01:55,920
Speaker 1: I like it. I love it. Time for comments, batties.

1242
01:01:55,920 --> 01:01:57,640
Speaker 1: If you want to get a comment read, simply comment

1243
01:01:57,680 --> 01:01:59,880
Speaker 1: on the episode you are listening to. I haven't up

1244
01:02:00,120 --> 01:02:04,840
Speaker 1: eight Steph Price Update boys in Bracket's Ocean Alley Dilemma.

1245
01:02:05,480 --> 01:02:08,080
Speaker 1: I ended it and told him I'll transfer him the

1246
01:02:08,080 --> 01:02:11,040
Speaker 1: money for the ticket. He transferred it to me straight away.

1247
01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:13,680
Speaker 1: I blocked him immediately and brought a and brought a

1248
01:02:13,720 --> 01:02:17,120
Speaker 1: friend FYI. Then new album Slaps, Oh Let's go.

1249
01:02:17,360 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 4: That was the advice we gave listen to us.

1250
01:02:21,000 --> 01:02:24,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I got it from A Dilemma's episode. Dilemas

1251
01:02:24,440 --> 01:02:29,200
Speaker 1: episode It's called Toxic Scarlet priv six eight seventy one

1252
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:31,600
Speaker 1: on YouTube. Set I was being in my in quotes

1253
01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:34,560
Speaker 1: being honest era, and I was too honest and basically

1254
01:02:34,560 --> 01:02:37,320
Speaker 1: told my ex that I wasn't sexually attracted him during

1255
01:02:37,680 --> 01:02:41,000
Speaker 1: attracted to him during our weekend away. He still wanted

1256
01:02:41,040 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 1: to stay together. Bless him. He was a good guy

1257
01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:46,920
Speaker 1: and didn't deserve that. Bless him. I could never hear that. Blessing.

1258
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:50,280
Speaker 2: I am like all for honesty, right, but I also

1259
01:02:50,320 --> 01:02:52,600
Speaker 2: think like if the truth is gonna hurt someone where

1260
01:02:52,600 --> 01:02:53,960
Speaker 2: it's like, let's say.

1261
01:02:55,520 --> 01:02:57,600
Speaker 1: I don't know anything, Like I don't know you think

1262
01:02:57,640 --> 01:02:58,520
Speaker 1: I have a big forehead.

1263
01:02:58,560 --> 01:03:00,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's obviously gonna hurt my feelings, Like I would

1264
01:03:00,800 --> 01:03:02,840
Speaker 2: assume that I know I have a big forehead.

1265
01:03:02,920 --> 01:03:05,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're not going to fucking be like you have

1266
01:03:05,240 --> 01:03:06,880
Speaker 1: a huge forehead. And I'm like, what the hell that's mean?

1267
01:03:06,960 --> 01:03:08,720
Speaker 1: Like I'm being honest to be honest, Like you're not

1268
01:03:08,720 --> 01:03:11,360
Speaker 1: gonna like I think honestly has the time of the play.

1269
01:03:11,520 --> 01:03:14,240
Speaker 1: So I should just like hand you a headband instead

1270
01:03:14,240 --> 01:03:16,440
Speaker 1: of saying anything, so you need this. Yeah, and then

1271
01:03:16,560 --> 01:03:18,320
Speaker 1: she should just break up of him without saying any

1272
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:18,760
Speaker 1: reason why.

1273
01:03:18,880 --> 01:03:20,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like if she's not attraction, should just be like

1274
01:03:21,480 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 2: I don't want to be with you anymore.

1275
01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that. I don't know bad is It's

1276
01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:26,800
Speaker 1: time for one of you to sign off the episode.

1277
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Speaker 1: The link will be in the description Jake, Yes, who

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Speaker 1: are we gonna call? Maddie?

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Speaker 5: Hello, Maddie speaking.

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Speaker 1: Hi Maddie. This is Jake and not from the relatables.

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 4: Oh good?

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Speaker 1: How are you? Very good? Very good?

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, I was not expressing this call all good.

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Speaker 1: All good. We thought we here up on a Saturday.

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Speaker 1: Keep the baddies on their finished. The stars have aligne

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Speaker 1: it was meant to be.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, yes, we would like to ask you if you

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Speaker 2: could sign off the episode for us.

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Speaker 5: Yes, I love to do that. I would like to

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Speaker 5: say that something that has always stuck with me is

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Speaker 5: that some people are in your life for a few weeks,

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Speaker 5: some people are in your life for a few months.

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Speaker 5: Some people are in your life for a few years

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Speaker 5: or forever. But it's always for a reason. So if

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Speaker 5: a friendship ends, or if a relationship ends, you always

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Speaker 5: learn something from it, and it's always for a reason.

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Speaker 1: I like that. I like that, And Mattie, can I

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Speaker 1: ask you one final question? Yes, if you break up

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Speaker 1: with someone, should you keep photos of them.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I'm guilty of doing it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's okay. Do you have a reason for it?

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Speaker 5: I just I think the reason why I only keep

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Speaker 5: the really special ones because it's the relationship ends. Like again,

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Speaker 5: they were there for a reason. You know, there's no

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Speaker 5: reason why you should be deleting them out of your

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Speaker 5: life completely, like you know they have a special place

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Speaker 5: in your heart and another what.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we'll take that as an answer.

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Speaker 2: When this episode comes out, you will see how we

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Speaker 2: feel about keeping photos before we call you.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to.

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Speaker 5: I'm so excited. I'm not to go.

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Speaker 1: I'm waiting for it. I think in like two weeks

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Speaker 1: you'll be able to hear it's coming out.

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Speaker 5: Early on the Patreol.

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Speaker 1: Said it to you personally.

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Speaker 5: You know, well, thank you so much for the call.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, stay bad bye bye. Never had I

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Speaker 1: never had a baddie in the call on us. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I was thinking my head, Okay, where have you got

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Speaker 1: to be? Are you busy? You said you're done work,

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Speaker 1: you don't have time for us. Always loves to have

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Speaker 1: the final say you do. I just like to be

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Speaker 1: the one to be like, well, we called you so

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Speaker 1: We'll end it like you're your dad's son, the center

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Speaker 1: of attention. She was good. I put on the spot too. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she didn't even blink. Bad. We love You'll stay bad.