Speaker 1: Hello, I'm torri Archbold. For two decades, I've nurtured the
Speaker 1: world's top performing retail brands and celebrities. Now I'm asking entrepreneurs,
Speaker 1: CEOs and influencers to share their own secrets to success.
Speaker 1: They're high as their lows, the game changing moments, and
Speaker 1: how they got to where they are today. It's a
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Speaker 2: Talk about stories, Yes, story, We have got the Queen
Speaker 2: of stories herself. We have got torri Archbold at our
Speaker 2: back fence. And a little bit about Tory. She's an
Speaker 2: absolute dynamo.
Speaker 3: And I'll tell you what.
Speaker 2: My heart is happy because she's the Queen of Happy
Speaker 2: Hats too, started her own business at the age of
Speaker 2: twenty four and now she's the founder of Powerful Steps,
Speaker 2: which is an online community and platform for women making
Speaker 2: global impact. And she can just women to own this story,
Speaker 2: step into their power and take careers to the next level.
Speaker 3: Who stories, talk about stories, powerful stories, and we want
Speaker 3: to hear your story, Tories, So welcome to the Batory.
Speaker 1: Tory. I that that's very Catchyer, it's so catchy. Do
Speaker 1: you know what I was growing up? Everyone was like, Tory, Tory,
Speaker 1: tell me a story, and who knew I'd have a
Speaker 1: power company that I just thought of that.
Speaker 2: We're welcome.
Speaker 4: I just have to first show you my notes that
Speaker 4: it's number twenty four. If anyone gets to see this
Speaker 4: part of our body that Mike, I lost my glasses,
Speaker 4: so I was laughing my head off this morning printing
Speaker 4: twenty four to se. So anyway I can read without
Speaker 4: glasses while I'm talking to which is pretty amazing. And
Speaker 4: so I know I'm going to throw this out. It's
Speaker 4: like you're going to shoot a rocket over to you.
Speaker 4: Zero to hero with self belief tell us about that one.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm sure that you have both experienced this as well.
Speaker 1: I feel like at some point in our lives we
Speaker 1: reach rock bottom. But rock bottom is actually where you
Speaker 1: want to be, because then you can go sky high.
Speaker 1: So my journey began when I was in my early
Speaker 1: twenties and really no one believed in me. I mean,
Speaker 1: I was a terrible student at school. I was definitely
Speaker 1: the talker, the disruptor, the one that was always sent
Speaker 1: outside dio. What I recognized was it was actually my superpower.
Speaker 1: I love that you snort because I.
Speaker 4: Sna you too. So sorry. Some people think we're doing
Speaker 4: something else work, we're laughing, we're laughing.
Speaker 1: We're definitely laughing. And so self belief struck me at
Speaker 1: a really young age because I reckoned that when no
Speaker 1: one else was going to believe in my pathway, that
Speaker 1: I had the choice that I could believe in myself.
Speaker 1: And so what I decided to do after falling in
Speaker 1: love with, you know, storytelling, a meetia and entertainment, when
Speaker 1: I backed myself and went across to the UK and
Speaker 1: got to work with some pretty amazing entertainment companies like MTV, Columbia, TriStar,
Speaker 1: George Lucas Films, and I was like bigger names, big names.
Speaker 1: It was like the Spice Girls. I got to watch
Speaker 1: them as they were coming out, you know, and Howard Stern,
Speaker 1: who was the biggest shock jock you probably remember in America, Yes,
Speaker 1: the cusp of I was on the cusp bit of it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And you know, obviously reading rapidly all the magazines and
Speaker 1: I'm in the studios with these incredible challenge and I
Speaker 1: come back to Australia and I recognized that it's not
Speaker 1: really happening and I need to work out how I
Speaker 1: can actually build a business that sets my heart on fire.
Speaker 1: So I went around and I started coffee dating because
Speaker 1: I had absolutely no money in the bank.
Speaker 4: Was that your I did coffee dating or well?
Speaker 1: My dad always said to me everyone loves a long
Speaker 1: lunch in Australia, and of course they do overseas as well,
Speaker 1: and in those days that's how you basically did business.
Speaker 1: But I didn't have the money to take people to
Speaker 1: lunch and drink you know, bottles of Ballinger as you
Speaker 1: see on ab fab. So it was like, find a
Speaker 1: really good coffee shot where you're going to be seen,
Speaker 1: you're going to be heard, ask people for coffee, and
Speaker 1: really build a sense of community and a business purpose
Speaker 1: around that. So I did, and I started committing to
Speaker 1: three coffee dates a week and I was, yeah, really good,
Speaker 1: it's a connection. It is out of connection. So it
Speaker 1: was one with someone I knew, one with someone I
Speaker 1: wanted to partner with, and one with someone completely outside
Speaker 1: of my comfort zone.
Speaker 4: Oh, every week you listening to it, let's just can
Speaker 4: we just repeat that one that was someone possibly with
Speaker 4: that you can partner with.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, the second one is someone you want to partner, we.
Speaker 4: Partner with us in relationship, well business.
Speaker 1: Business relationship like partnership.
Speaker 4: And then and the friendship was the first.
Speaker 1: One tribe community, so someone in. And then the third
Speaker 1: one is someone completely outside your comfort zone. That was
Speaker 1: the intention, but that's the framework that actually launched my business, because.
Speaker 2: When framework isn't it my second.
Speaker 1: Business as well? And I truly believe like a lot
Speaker 1: of rejection came from those coffee dates. I don't want
Speaker 1: to just say it was all glossy, because the idea was,
Speaker 1: you know, I want to start a brand communications agency.
Speaker 1: I want to attract the world's top performing brands, celebrities
Speaker 1: and influencers. And of course there are a whole lot
Speaker 1: of chuckles and snorting as well. And I remember, in particular,
Speaker 1: this guy that I'd been dating many years before I
Speaker 1: went and I took him for a coffe date because
Speaker 1: he worked in advertising, was bills in Crown Street, Surry Hills,
Speaker 1: and he literally was like, Tory, I don't think this
Speaker 1: is a very good idea. You need to go off,
Speaker 1: get married, have a white pick of fence, just like
Speaker 1: in your picture over there, and join a few clubs
Speaker 1: and a man's going to really look after you and
Speaker 1: you're gonna have a really fabulous life. And I remember
Speaker 1: walking out of there going well, fuck you. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: am the leader of my own destiny. I just said
Speaker 1: to myself, I know that I'm here for a high
Speaker 1: purpose and I know that I can make a difference,
Speaker 1: and so I did. And no one in Australia, once
Speaker 1: I decided that I wanted to launch Torstar, would give
Speaker 1: me a go great name too, Yeah, Torstar. Yeah. So
Speaker 1: that came from, you know, me calling up a colleague
Speaker 1: and an advertising agency and I said, I've actually quit
Speaker 1: my job and I'm starting this business. I don't know
Speaker 1: what to call it, and he goes, well, we always
Speaker 1: called you Tori's a little star, so why do you
Speaker 1: call it toll Star. So that's where the name came from.
Speaker 2: And I just asked you there, where did you get
Speaker 2: your confidence at the age of twenty four to do this?
Speaker 2: Was it with your dad backing behind you? Was it
Speaker 2: from already life experience for traveling and you had.
Speaker 4: That behind you self?
Speaker 2: Belated Yeah, because you know, I'm guessing you hadn't hit
Speaker 2: rock bottom at that stage, but you had that confidence,
Speaker 2: so a lot of kids don't so necessari people that
Speaker 2: kids between twenties. Yes, So where did you think that
Speaker 2: came from?
Speaker 1: And it just came from the fact that I knew
Speaker 1: that I could create something. And just because someone says no,
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean that you have to say no. You
Speaker 1: can say yes. So I just started saying yes. Some
Speaker 1: the doors of opportunities started opening up. But I want
Speaker 1: to say, when I turned forty four, I decided that
Speaker 1: I was going to create powerful Steps and I did
Speaker 1: go and see quite a few people and I did
Speaker 1: the same coffee date and Larry edmore, if you're listening
Speaker 1: to this, you told me not to start powerful steps
Speaker 1: as well, Larry, I said, I'm not sure that that's
Speaker 1: a really good idea. It was like it was the
Speaker 1: same process that I went through. But again, I could
Speaker 1: have chosen to believe those people that this business would
Speaker 1: not create an impact, but the opposite happened because I
Speaker 1: backed myself again. So I really feel that if you
Speaker 1: really believe in something, you're passionate about it, and you
Speaker 1: step into it, with you know, some really strong values
Speaker 1: that are anchored to all of your decision making. You
Speaker 1: can attract whatever it is that you put out there
Speaker 1: into the universe and you can actually have that impact.
Speaker 1: So in answer to your question, I think rejection is
Speaker 1: really important because rejection actually allows you to believe in
Speaker 1: the possibilities yourself of what you can create.
Speaker 4: But how many times when you were rejected you'd you go,
Speaker 4: maybe they're right, because it's only human nature at times
Speaker 4: to say or feel yeah, or think, of.
Speaker 1: Course, do you know what? If I counted, we'd be
Speaker 1: here all day. So I really think that you've just
Speaker 1: got to push that aside and go what is it
Speaker 1: that I want. I don't have any competition, None of
Speaker 1: us have any competition. It's about staying in your own
Speaker 1: lane and owning what you want to do and just
Speaker 1: going for it.
Speaker 4: And that is clear vision, clevision, and passion.
Speaker 1: Clear intent, and also anchor everything to your value. So
Speaker 1: throughout my my entire career has been based on three
Speaker 1: so passion, creating and building brands, and now creating and
Speaker 1: building powerful brands for women. Yes, integrity because I don't
Speaker 1: like assholes, who does, honestly? And the third one is delivery.
Speaker 1: You'r own these God, is this podcast child? Or paying
Speaker 1: for you knowledge to someone else? And so through passion,
Speaker 1: integrity delivery, what you do is you get a golden
Speaker 1: thread of decision making. So if people want to reject that,
Speaker 1: that's okay. But maybe they're not anchored to that value set.
Speaker 1: Maybe they're not meant to be on that right of
Speaker 1: life with you. Maybe you're not meant to take them
Speaker 1: on your journey. So what happens is the higher you
Speaker 1: vibrate and the so what that means. Yeah, So the
Speaker 1: higher you vibrate, it's like, Okay, you can walk into
Speaker 1: any room anyway, anywhere in the world, and you can
Speaker 1: get someone say yes to you because you're magnetizing and
Speaker 1: you're in your complete power, because you believe in what
Speaker 1: you're doing. You're anchor to your truth. You work with integrity,
Speaker 1: and you know the importance of paying for your wisdom.
Speaker 4: And I think that was us for the podcast, really,
Speaker 4: wasn't it.
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: Absolutely? You know we're always straight away with let's do
Speaker 2: a podcast. You know what do you think Gyanta's gone
Speaker 2: straight back bang with the list this big and it
Speaker 2: just happened because we just new straight away do what
Speaker 2: you love, love what you do.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's the moss.
Speaker 2: It really is that for us. So even when we start,
Speaker 2: so if we can help one person, yeahhoochieved God alone
Speaker 2: ourselves because we enjoyed Jay's company and we did from
Speaker 2: our very first podcast. It was just and so then
Speaker 2: it's just like we're on the path.
Speaker 4: Of absolutely and I just believe. And it's funny. I
Speaker 4: couldn't help but think about years ago when I was
Speaker 4: in New York and I had Wendy, my sister, Wendy
Speaker 4: Heather was a designer at her range over my arm
Speaker 4: and I'm running around New York and no, no, no,
Speaker 4: you can't come in. And I walked in to Sexith
Speaker 4: Avenue and I went, Hi, I have an appointment. I
Speaker 4: didn't have an appointment. And they said who with? And
Speaker 4: someone had told me a name and I said with
Speaker 4: some and so I said, but I'm running late, rang
Speaker 4: straight through, went up there and they said who are you?
Speaker 4: I said, walked in. There was five people and I said,
Speaker 4: I'm from Australia. I've got a range. You've got to said.
Speaker 4: I was hanging up. Where they're all going, who's this woman?
Speaker 4: They ended up buying the stuff. They couldn't believe my
Speaker 4: how bolshie I was and go ozzy ossie whatever. But
Speaker 4: I was determined this was great and it was going
Speaker 4: to work. But it's funny, it's like it's a mindset,
Speaker 4: isn't it a mindset?
Speaker 1: And it's getting out of your own way. And also
Speaker 1: you saw an opportunity and you thought, no one's opening
Speaker 1: a door, so I'm going to open it myself.
Speaker 2: That's exactly that's true, very powerful. And also I guess
Speaker 2: too if someone may think shut that door or said no,
Speaker 2: you would have found another door.
Speaker 4: Absolutely.
Speaker 2: What tips would you say for people to build that
Speaker 2: resilience because still is not everyone has that thing of going.
Speaker 2: You can get knocked back and they can really take
Speaker 2: it personally, And even though, what sort of tips would
Speaker 2: you say for people to sort of like really get
Speaker 2: that resilience so you don't sort of like really take
Speaker 2: it too badly and they fall in a heap.
Speaker 1: No, No, it's a great question. So you know, when
Speaker 1: I had Torsa, we were attracting all of these incredible brands,
Speaker 1: but quite often there would be brands that we wouldn't attract,
Speaker 1: and I'd send to myself for why. But then I
Speaker 1: had to switch my thinking to that door's not meant
Speaker 1: for me, that doors meant for someone else, and I
Speaker 1: wish them every success and something bigger and better is
Speaker 1: going to land in my lap. Bing go ye as that.
Speaker 1: So if you switch your mindset and second bit of
Speaker 1: advice in and it does revolve around marinading and shit,
Speaker 1: which I'm sure that lots of people will actually really
Speaker 1: it is a bit of a come to Jesus moment.
Speaker 1: But when I was having me it literally is when
Speaker 1: I was having my transformation, I was like, get out
Speaker 1: of your own way, toy. I sat with this Buddhist
Speaker 1: monk in Thailand and he said to me, you got
Speaker 1: three choices. You've got a really big challenge at the moment.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure a lot of people going through divorces
Speaker 1: or separations on your podcast will relate to this like
Speaker 1: that's stuck. I was stuck in the biggest pile of
Speaker 1: shit ever and I could not maneuver my way out
Speaker 1: of it. And he said to me, You've got three choices.
Speaker 1: You're at the halfway back of your life. You can
Speaker 1: either marinate in this challenge and this situation for another
Speaker 1: forty five years in which you're going to be living
Speaker 1: life sniffing shit. And I was like, oh, and is
Speaker 1: that in this pristine office, in this you know, in
Speaker 1: this close they're like, oh my god, you're talking about
Speaker 1: marinating shit. Second thing is he said, you can look
Speaker 1: at the challenge and you can be in it for
Speaker 1: forty five minutes. You can kind of struggle, you can
Speaker 1: make a few mistakes. It's okay within those forty five minutes.
Speaker 1: But you're going to sniff the ship not as badly
Speaker 1: as forty five years because you're not getting out of
Speaker 1: your own way. And he goes, you will be in
Speaker 1: your complete power when you don't even sniff the ship
Speaker 1: and that challenge comes your way and within forty five
Speaker 1: seconds you've made up your mind. Doesn't matter if it's
Speaker 1: right or wrong, but you're on your path.
Speaker 4: Well that's a lot. There's something else you was saying, Sorry,
Speaker 4: we're back to shit. I mean you're saying that there's
Speaker 4: a pile of shit. If there's a pile of shit
Speaker 4: over there, it's your choice whether some problems are like
Speaker 4: a pile of shit was it's your choice whether you
Speaker 4: choose to step in that or not. And I know
Speaker 4: that's back to shit. But it really made a lot
Speaker 4: of sense to me, Like we all have proble.
Speaker 1: You've got the three options, but it's the same as
Speaker 1: like doors are opening, so you've got to make your
Speaker 1: mind up in forty five seconds. What door are you
Speaker 1: going to want through? Are you going to say yes?
Speaker 1: Are you going to say no?
Speaker 2: And sometimes is it as simple as that, you know,
Speaker 2: like just with the mind shift there. So I think
Speaker 2: it's good for just listeners to hear that that sometimes
Speaker 2: it really is just that mind shift of going flick
Speaker 2: you know there, stay.
Speaker 4: There because everyone complicates it and you got to lose,
Speaker 4: but try and go there.
Speaker 1: That's exactly right, That is exactly you've got to try no.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I'll try again tomorrow exactly.
Speaker 1: And that's the beauty of it because he said to me,
Speaker 1: if you make a mistake in your mind, right, yeah,
Speaker 1: if you make a mistake in your mind, don't beat
Speaker 1: yourself up about it. Just give yourself forty five years,
Speaker 1: forty five minutes, or forty five seconds. And also, mistakes
Speaker 1: are good. We all make them. We make them every day.
Speaker 2: The lessons in life, aren't they, No, So we have
Speaker 2: to be people appreciate honesty to you truth. That's a
Speaker 2: really positive way of saying I love that positive way
Speaker 2: of rejection too, is that it actually wasn't meant for
Speaker 2: me or maybe not this timing now, and wish them
Speaker 2: the best as well. I think that's a good thing.
Speaker 1: You've got to pay for with gratitude, because gratitude breeds gratitude,
Speaker 1: happiness breeds happiness. But also when you're in flow and
Speaker 1: you don't look at what other people haven't say I
Speaker 1: want that, but you're actually in flow because you know
Speaker 1: that something better is coming your way. That's actually the
Speaker 1: ultimate way to live life.
Speaker 4: When you say flow, what does flows be?
Speaker 1: In complete alignment? So you know you hear about Matthew
Speaker 1: mcconachey in The green Light Process. Yeah, it's such a
Speaker 1: great book. He's the only one that I've ever asked
Speaker 1: for an autograph and he rejected me. No, but you
Speaker 1: know what we've got, she's so beautiful. That was not
Speaker 1: a green light.
Speaker 4: And that's funny talking about alignment and what I don't
Speaker 4: know what that means. What's alignment alignment means?
Speaker 1: I'll give you an example. So when I was running
Speaker 1: my agency, I pulled back because for personal reasons. I
Speaker 1: just want to spend more time with my family and
Speaker 1: I wanted to get out of that forty five years, right,
Speaker 1: So I was really focusing on what was my flow,
Speaker 1: what was my way forward. But what happened during that
Speaker 1: process was I allowed other people to run my business
Speaker 1: in which I wasn't as involved, right, so I'm not
Speaker 1: out there, no one really knows what I'm doing. So
Speaker 1: we were launching Kate Spade into Australia and my team
Speaker 1: were like, Tory, you got to get up early. I
Speaker 1: know you don't like getting up early, but you need
Speaker 1: to come along and meet all these people. It's really
Speaker 1: important for the business. So up, I get put MSCA
Speaker 1: on fur coat going and I learned that this company
Speaker 1: that also licenses Kate Spade licenses a whole lot of
Speaker 1: other brands that were on my manifestation board, right, but
Speaker 1: they have no idea who I am. So they said
Speaker 1: to me, who are you? And I said, I'm Tory
Speaker 1: and this is my agency. And they're like, oh, we
Speaker 1: don't know anything about you. Tell us about your company.
Speaker 1: And so I literally had less than sixty seconds to
Speaker 1: make an impact because guess what, they were launching Victoria's
Speaker 1: secret in this market. Six weeks later, so I said
Speaker 1: to them, m'd be very interest I staid in pitching
Speaker 1: for that business. And they said to me, no, guess what,
Speaker 1: there are three other agencies. We're down to the wire.
Speaker 1: And I said, look, why don't I descend through my credentials.
Speaker 1: Let's just see what happens. I've got nothing to lose.
Speaker 1: Maybe you can gain something. And she said, okay, no problem.
Speaker 1: So I explained to them that I launched Zara into Australia.
Speaker 1: I explained to them what I've done with other Australian
Speaker 1: businesses and taking them launches.
Speaker 2: Just throw exactly, that's massive, that is how well is
Speaker 2: a good one?
Speaker 1: Ah in my early thirties. Yeah, so as a single mama.
Speaker 1: But it was teamwork. It was teamwork with Interdex, which
Speaker 1: is actually the number one retail brand in the world now.
Speaker 1: So I just I mean, I reminded them with those credentials.
Speaker 1: I went back to the office and I said, we're irrelevant.
Speaker 1: I don't know how this has happened, but we need
Speaker 1: to go back and find our power. So we use
Speaker 1: the case studies of like, you know, twenty two thousand
Speaker 1: people in the day of launch for Czara a million
Speaker 1: dollars in sales, and then we gave other examples and
Speaker 1: about four or five hours later I sent it off.
Speaker 1: So it was early evening. They're in New York, and
Speaker 1: I just said to myself, whatever's meant to be will be.
Speaker 1: And this is where the green lights come into process,
Speaker 1: right because they're like, no way, three agencies are shortlisted.
Speaker 1: You can send it through, but whatever, You're one of
Speaker 1: two agencies. At eleven o'clock that night and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, we are in. But guess what. These
Speaker 1: people probably have been speaking and building a relationship for many,
Speaker 1: many weeks and months before me. So we got onto
Speaker 1: Instagram and I did flashbacks to all of my hero things.
Speaker 1: So we've been at the time looking after Sea Folly,
Speaker 1: we Shigi Ha did and you know, Miranda coernel these things.
Speaker 1: So flashback to when we did this campaign, flashback to
Speaker 1: when we did Sarah don't dn't dun't. So then I
Speaker 1: got on LinkedIn. I thought, who do I know that
Speaker 1: can give this girl in New York a coffee? Because
Speaker 1: an Espresso is my client. So I thought, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: lie myself up in the morning. I'm gonna have an espresso,
Speaker 1: She's gonna have a Starbucks? What does she drink? And
Speaker 1: who's going to put it on her desk before she
Speaker 1: gets on zoom with me. That's how I won the business.
Speaker 1: But this is the really interesting thing about the Green Lights.
Speaker 1: While I got Victoria's secret and I got to go
Speaker 1: to the last show in New York, I then got
Speaker 1: a call from Steve Madden's office. We've been looking for
Speaker 1: an agency in Australia. How come we don't know about you? Again,
Speaker 1: I'm irrelevant because I wasn't putting myself out there. Put
Speaker 1: yourself out there. So they said, okay, no pitch nothing.
Speaker 1: You're launching Steve Mudden into Australia. So I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: second one. This all happened within weeks. And then, because
Speaker 1: of my coffee dating every time I went to the States,
Speaker 1: I always for my partnership coffee date met with an
Speaker 1: agency out there that I thought had the best influences,
Speaker 1: the best connections, and I said, I look after Australian brands.
Speaker 1: How can we connection and work together? So out of
Speaker 1: the blue, I get an email from an agency in
Speaker 1: La Toy. My friend's launching a beauty brand in Australia
Speaker 1: would you be interested in launching it? And I was
Speaker 1: just like yes, no problem. Didn't ask her, it was
Speaker 1: just was like yes, next one, Drew Barrymore Flower Beauty.
Speaker 1: So within a month to six weeks, I had the
Speaker 1: biggest brands in America saying what you're say if.
Speaker 4: You're back to Alignment and green Light? My god, yeah,
Speaker 4: you had you and Flow. So it was just circulating
Speaker 4: coming back to you, coming back to.
Speaker 1: But I had to step back into what I knew
Speaker 1: I was good at, and I had to tap into
Speaker 1: my connections because your connections are always going to endorse
Speaker 1: and advocate for you, and I had to stay true
Speaker 1: to what it was that I wanted to create for
Speaker 1: these brands, but I had to show them that I could.
Speaker 4: But the motivation for all of that, ultimately you were
Speaker 4: coming back because you said I was a line. So
Speaker 4: that's self belief that I have this potential I could
Speaker 4: do that.
Speaker 1: Because when someone says you're irrelevant and they don't know
Speaker 1: who you are, that kind of is a bit of
Speaker 1: a yes stab in turn, because especially in a Korea
Speaker 1: that you've worked so hard for, but I'd also chosen
Speaker 1: to step away from, so it was my choice to
Speaker 1: step back into it. Yeah, this is who I am.
Speaker 4: That's really admirable and so many ways, because I'm sure
Speaker 4: there's people that are born and lived and died and
Speaker 4: never actually felt that flow. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: And I'm sure the people listening go, what is that?
Speaker 3: This?
Speaker 4: Read Matthew's book for starters. It is red light.
Speaker 2: With this toury, so believe, whether it's in a business
Speaker 2: or not. So you've got listeners there who might be
Speaker 2: interested in building their businesses or doing that just.
Speaker 4: The flow of life. But that's sort of the thing too.
Speaker 2: It's very true there friends sometimes that might have dropped away,
Speaker 2: maybe ones that should drop away at that stage of
Speaker 2: your life, and the other ones will flowing.
Speaker 4: It's true. It's a thing.
Speaker 1: They're like nature, real life lesson.
Speaker 2: I've got to ask you now with George Clooney because
Speaker 2: now you're the coffee one there.
Speaker 1: Have you met me or not? Because I want to
Speaker 1: hear a really funny story. I was appointed to look
Speaker 1: after Fossil Group in Australia with a really beautiful lady
Speaker 1: called Anime. And if she's listening to this podcasts, in fact,
Speaker 1: to Anime, I'll send you the link because you're absolutely
Speaker 1: roar with laughter. So in those days, we used to
Speaker 1: take the magazines overseas with us, as you know, and
Speaker 1: we go and do the big media events. And there
Speaker 1: was an event that was going on in Milan, and
Speaker 1: so everyone because she was the only female and she
Speaker 1: was surrounded by all these men, George Clooney is going
Speaker 1: to be at this party outside of Milan. We need
Speaker 1: to organize pr you need to bring your team over.
Speaker 1: So anime, can I get on the plane. I set
Speaker 1: up all the media. We're going to be meeting George
Speaker 1: and we're going to be doing all these amazing things.
Speaker 1: It was a joke.
Speaker 4: Oh are you kidding me?
Speaker 1: I am not kidding you. No, I am not kidding.
Speaker 1: I am not kidding. Yeah, to a castle with the
Speaker 1: managing director of Fossil At the time.
Speaker 4: I'm trying to find the here and the stores here.
Speaker 4: So who's the joke on?
Speaker 1: You know, the joke was supposed to be on us
Speaker 1: and the man in the business had you know, she's
Speaker 1: still in the business and she is an exceptional leader,
Speaker 1: like she's extraordinary. But back in the day, that's what
Speaker 1: men in businesses used to do with it.
Speaker 4: Interesting yeah, so funny. I bet you made the most
Speaker 4: of it, knowing exactly I read forty two you slightly
Speaker 4: bored and thinking this isn't exactly going the way I planned.
Speaker 4: At the moment where am I at? And you redesigned
Speaker 4: your sense of purpose? Can you explain that to us?
Speaker 1: What starts with the green lights? So I got those
Speaker 1: three brands, but then what I learned from each of
Speaker 1: those brands was something about myself, something that I wanted
Speaker 1: and something that I didn't want. So when I was
Speaker 1: at the Victoria's Secret Show in New York, my role
Speaker 1: was to get all the interviews with the supermodels over there,
Speaker 1: and what I recognized backstage then was were all the same.
Speaker 1: Because one of them had a really big panic attack,
Speaker 1: and like any good pr girl, you have love and
Speaker 1: oil in your bag, and I saved her from the
Speaker 1: panic attack. And I recognized that you might be in
Speaker 1: a really privileged position to be working with all of
Speaker 1: these brands, in these celebrities, but at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, we're all human, and if you can show
Speaker 1: empathy and compassion to someone else and allow them to shine,
Speaker 1: then that's a really good business model.
Speaker 4: So a light bulb went on your head in my
Speaker 4: head and what happened from there.
Speaker 1: So from there we then launched Steve Madden into Australia.
Speaker 1: Then we had Drew Barrymore and I was listening to
Speaker 1: Drew speak about, you know, her whole adventurous life, and
Speaker 1: I thought, well, gosh, I've had an adventurous life as well.
Speaker 1: But she wanted to get a talk show when she
Speaker 1: left Australia, and she was really waiting for that call
Speaker 1: to come through. And I really wanted a different life.
Speaker 1: So I just met my soon to be husband. My
Speaker 1: daughter was happy, like everything was just like everything was.
Speaker 1: I was in a really good place and I'd had
Speaker 1: the green lights on those three brands. And I saw
Speaker 1: her speak and I was like, you know what, I
Speaker 1: think my pr crews over.
Speaker 4: And I never had a.
Speaker 2: Photo's interesting affected by Drew, like you know, you brought
Speaker 2: it the energy and then she's helped you.
Speaker 4: And she was waiting for that phone call.
Speaker 1: So she was waiting for the phone call for that.
Speaker 1: And then what had happened was because we'd partnered with
Speaker 1: Mary Clare Magazine to you know, promote her because I
Speaker 1: loved Nicki Briger and Nicki had said to me toy,
Speaker 1: can I do a story on you. We've never done
Speaker 1: a story on you, but it's going to be on
Speaker 1: single moms with global careers. And something inside of me said,
Speaker 1: that's not my story, and that's an.
Speaker 4: Interesting She repeated that to you back to you. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and you listened to that, and when that's not my story,
Speaker 4: that's not sitting right with me.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So what had happened was four months before Drew
Speaker 1: had come out, I'd worked with this amazing journalist called
Speaker 1: Ali Pasco, and for some reason, I just opened up
Speaker 1: and I'd never ever actually opened up to anyone, and
Speaker 1: she gave me that sacred space and then she said
Speaker 1: to me, this is Jeff, not a single mom's story
Speaker 1: in the global business. She said, it's something bigger. Would
Speaker 1: you be interested in the feature?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 1: They wrote three pages, and they interviewed Bella, they interviewed me,
Speaker 1: but I said to them, can you please put the
Speaker 1: story on hold because it's not just my story, it
Speaker 1: was my daughter's story. And I really needed her buy
Speaker 1: in because there's a lot of shame around what goes
Speaker 1: on when you are stalked for as intimidated, you know,
Speaker 1: by a partner or a father or a friend or
Speaker 1: whatever it is. And we've never publicly spoken about that
Speaker 1: before because my life was you know this glamorous publicists thinking.
Speaker 4: A whole lot of this truth is surface, it's just
Speaker 4: coming push it down.
Speaker 2: This life, this internal part of your life, there's a
Speaker 2: lot of suffering. There's a lot of hiding things as
Speaker 2: well and also protecting things.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to, absolutely, and you were really crossroads.
Speaker 1: I was on Complain which runway down and so so yeah,
Speaker 1: it's a really powerful time in your life. So four
Speaker 1: months later we decided yes, and then Mary Claire was like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: you know, we'll put it in the issue with Drew,
Speaker 1: and I said, no, it needs to be after Drue
Speaker 1: because Drew's the star. And then yeah, so she got
Speaker 1: her talk show and I got my new life and.
Speaker 4: What is the new life?
Speaker 1: So I ended up meeting my soulmate and within ten
Speaker 1: months he proposed, we got married. We've now got a
Speaker 1: blended family, we're out in business together, we travel the world.
Speaker 1: Powerful Steps Okay, so.
Speaker 4: What is Powerful Steps?
Speaker 1: It is an online platform for women just like you
Speaker 1: and I like all the things I've gone through. You know,
Speaker 1: you're at across the road in life.
Speaker 4: What do you do.
Speaker 1: You've had great success in your life, but you say
Speaker 1: there's more.
Speaker 4: Who do I want to become?
Speaker 1: What I want to step into? Exactly why you guys
Speaker 1: have started this podcast. You've got something to give and
Speaker 1: you've got wisdom to pay forward. So I now work
Speaker 1: with women all around the world, you know, from entreprene
Speaker 1: to you know mums had really successful careers and then
Speaker 1: decided that, you know, my kids have now left school,
Speaker 1: what do I do? I'm going to watch a multimillion
Speaker 1: dollar business to CEOs board directors. And on top of that,
Speaker 1: we just launched another business called her World International. World
Speaker 1: her World International with a friend of mine, with a
Speaker 1: TV show out of New York and our first event
Speaker 1: is in la in.
Speaker 4: October, Yaho. That's exciting, that's really exciting.
Speaker 1: I want to be able to give Australian female leaders,
Speaker 1: entrepreneurs or women that just need to get that little
Speaker 1: bit of love in the room from a powerful community
Speaker 1: and access to other markets and.
Speaker 4: Age because we're really like fifty plus target market. But
Speaker 4: quite honestly, you talk about Antonia Kidman like my god,
Speaker 4: she had am I right, six kids and she went yes,
Speaker 4: like tell us about that. That's pretty remarkable at that
Speaker 4: age of six kids to say it's about me. Now
Speaker 4: I'm going to go and study law.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I had a coffee date with and in Singapore again,
Speaker 1: a nice coffee date. So she was in my tribe
Speaker 1: and she was studying when she had those kids. And
Speaker 1: now she's a family lawyer, and you know, she's had
Speaker 1: an extraordinary journey. But she just said I've got something
Speaker 1: more as well. And it was her passion, I guess
Speaker 1: because of what she'd gone through with her ex to
Speaker 1: actually help other.
Speaker 2: People, you know what that's now it's so good hearing
Speaker 2: more and more stories like that because there's more and
Speaker 2: more people like even Jodie Spears, you know, to Ben Fordham,
Speaker 2: successful TV presenter and aka she's now studying to.
Speaker 3: Be all lawyer herself.
Speaker 1: Like, wow, these are people top of their game. Yeah,
Speaker 1: age is just a number. So I started my first
Speaker 1: business at twenty four, my second at forty four, and
Speaker 1: this will be the runway. And I just had a
Speaker 1: lady who runs a billion dollar business joined my business
Speaker 1: Attraction program. She's sixty six. Wow, there you go, and
Speaker 1: she's she's sixty six pick up sticks and she said,
Speaker 1: I've got more to give can you help me? And
Speaker 1: I'm like, I absolutely can. Age is just a number.
Speaker 2: Well there you go or listeners to hear that too,
Speaker 2: So it's just great. And so can you tell us
Speaker 2: about with your master classes that you offer and you
Speaker 2: do and tell us a bit about that.
Speaker 1: Well, we're going to offer something to your community. Actually,
Speaker 1: I really believe that if you've got knowledge, you should
Speaker 1: pay it forward. And if you have wisdom that can
Speaker 1: actually help someone else step into their power, then you
Speaker 1: should gift it, whether it's going on a podcast, showing
Speaker 1: up on LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, whatever. So we have this
Speaker 1: thing called network like a Pro which will help everyone
Speaker 1: build out their own personal brand. And also it gives
Speaker 1: you the framework further three dates a week to build
Speaker 1: a global community of coffee dating. But I'm going to
Speaker 1: give you a code. So in the show notes, that's
Speaker 1: what we're going to do. Anyone that listens can have
Speaker 1: access to that.
Speaker 4: And it's a master.
Speaker 1: It's an online master my master class and yeah, so
Speaker 1: there's videos, workbooks, and then it also gives you access
Speaker 1: to our community, the stories that we share with other
Speaker 1: people of what they remember at dinner parties, on podcasts,
Speaker 1: on coffee dates it's those little golden nuggets that actually
Speaker 1: give you the golden thread in life that allow you
Speaker 1: to step into whatever you're meant to be doing in
Speaker 1: your forties, fifties and sixties. Because if Drew hadn't have
Speaker 1: done that, I wouldn't have gone, you know what, shutting
Speaker 1: it finding everyone else a job that's amazing and you know,
Speaker 1: shut down a multi million dollars thank you.
Speaker 4: To thank you Tory.
Speaker 1: So this so listeners, come on out.
Speaker 4: I mean, this isn't really grot it in the show,
Speaker 4: thank you for that. You're interviewing an astrologer, and I
Speaker 4: love when she said she mentions purpose and how your
Speaker 4: purpose can change with time, you know, basically always stay
Speaker 4: tuned to universal sign backs. But see a lot of
Speaker 4: people think my sense of purpose is, oh, well, I'm
Speaker 4: going to be a lawyer and architect and engine whatever
Speaker 4: you are, and that's it. That's the end of the road.
Speaker 4: Now you're a shunning example of somebody that just listened
Speaker 4: to your body, mind and spirit and went, no, this
Speaker 4: isn't working for me right now. Others will spurn them
Speaker 4: selves out and continue through that journey. You know, I
Speaker 4: think it's reassuring for a lot of people listening that
Speaker 4: you know, that's not definitive for the rest of your life.
Speaker 4: You know, if you're feeling low energy, you're not feeling inspired,
Speaker 4: you can flip that and redirect your sense of purpose
Speaker 4: where I used to think that my sense of purpose
Speaker 4: is that, and that's what it was. Now you're a
Speaker 4: walking inspiration because you listened and you changed, You went
Speaker 4: flick and you went down this beautiful like spiritual road.
Speaker 4: It was so running out of time before was permanently
Speaker 4: running out to Was there.
Speaker 2: A pivotal moment when you really got sick as well
Speaker 2: that changed? Can you just share a little bit about
Speaker 2: that toury.
Speaker 1: So, like any good Jackie Collins novel, which we all
Speaker 1: death experience, death experience, I had death experience. So I
Speaker 1: was due on a plane to London for a high
Speaker 1: profile UK brand and I was a single mom at
Speaker 1: the time. I had twenty two staff, ten freelancers to assistants,
Speaker 1: so one for me, one to help Bella and I
Speaker 1: and of course a nanny. And there was shit flying
Speaker 1: everywhere and my appendix burst unexpectedly before I hopped on
Speaker 1: the flight. Thank goodness.
Speaker 4: The body will always tell you, the.
Speaker 1: Body will and I knew I was dying before it happened.
Speaker 1: I knew it, but I ignored all the.
Speaker 4: Signs because you're too busy.
Speaker 1: I was too busy. And then what happened was my
Speaker 1: pan burst. I felt the snap, I heard the snap,
Speaker 1: and unfortunately I was deadlocked in my house and my
Speaker 1: daughter in those days, had actually changed the code on
Speaker 1: my phone.
Speaker 4: How old was your daughter then?
Speaker 1: Eight or eight would have been? And I had to
Speaker 1: wait for someone to call me.
Speaker 4: What w Yeah in your appendix have.
Speaker 1: Burst and I could feel my body dye and had
Speaker 1: to wait for someone to call me. And so it
Speaker 1: was an ex boyfriend that was down from Hong Kong
Speaker 1: and his dad was an ex heart surgeon who called
Speaker 1: the ambulance and got me out of I had to
Speaker 1: be revived on the way to the hospital.
Speaker 2: So you really had that full in and out of
Speaker 2: life experience.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So two am in the morning, I was operated
Speaker 1: on by an amazing surgeon who basically said to me,
Speaker 1: who's your next of kin? What's going to happen to
Speaker 1: your daughter? You're a single mom. Like all these questions
Speaker 1: I was unprepared for. Yeah, And so basically I did
Speaker 1: see the other side, and will you see a white
Speaker 1: tunnel and then it goes into darkness.
Speaker 4: The thing everyone, Yes, it's the same thing. Yeah, Kerry Packer,
Speaker 4: even Kerry Packer, same thing.
Speaker 1: So I came back for my daughter and she was
Speaker 1: there for me. I was there for her, and I
Speaker 1: lost eight kilos in five days. So I always say
Speaker 1: it's good to have a little bit of extra fat.
Speaker 4: Yes, body, and I'll run with it.
Speaker 1: Yes, I run with it every day. But honestly, that
Speaker 1: that saved my life.
Speaker 4: How did it change your life?
Speaker 1: It changed my life because I was given a six
Speaker 1: month recovery, but an actual factor was three or four years,
Speaker 1: and I ended up with a dreamal fatigue, chronic fatigue.
Speaker 1: I had to rewind myself. And what I realized was
Speaker 1: I was surrounded by takers, not givers. And so it
Speaker 1: was a big thing for me. And you'll hear me
Speaker 1: speak about a lot, a mutual exchange of energy. So
Speaker 1: anyone that comes into our community powerful steps. It's sure,
Speaker 1: I've got a lot to give, but what do you
Speaker 1: have to give as well? Because unless it's that energy match,
Speaker 1: it's not right for me.
Speaker 4: It's an even flower, it is.
Speaker 1: And so when you talk about how do you attract
Speaker 1: these high vibrational people and opportunities like being on this
Speaker 1: podcast with you today. It's because there's an energy match,
Speaker 1: because you know that you're sharing something. So my recovery
Speaker 1: was all about who do I want to share my
Speaker 1: life with? And so that's why I decided not to
Speaker 1: sell my business, downsize my business. That's how I became
Speaker 1: slightly irrelevant. It's how I won full custody of my
Speaker 1: daughter in the restraining order because I created the space
Speaker 1: to work out, what are those little ship pits that
Speaker 1: are all piled around me? And one by one, yeah,
Speaker 1: making me sick, and I just stepped out, and then
Speaker 1: one by one until I came in to complete alignment.
Speaker 2: What did your surgeons say to you?
Speaker 4: How magnificent? Because this is just we were talking about
Speaker 4: this beauty.
Speaker 1: My doctor said to me, toy, I'm going to read
Speaker 1: meet you to a hospital unless you get rid of
Speaker 1: all your toxic family members and friends who are not
Speaker 1: allowing you to heal. And I said, I don't want
Speaker 1: to go back to hospital, but I will say no
Speaker 1: to all of them. And the surgeon said to me
Speaker 1: the same thing, and he said, I know what your
Speaker 1: problem is. You're not happy, And he had to be
Speaker 1: a piece of paper, and he goes, A happy heart
Speaker 1: is a magnet for miracles. He said, that's the way
Speaker 1: you're going to live your life now. Happy heart is
Speaker 1: a magnet for miracles, and that is how you're going
Speaker 1: to live your life from now on in I teach that.
Speaker 4: So he was an angel that I needed.
Speaker 2: Two am in the morning and we just had a
Speaker 2: fabulous Roberts and he was kind of similar, Oh my god.
Speaker 4: Why we run out of time. Yeah, but it's just
Speaker 4: the hell out of me.
Speaker 1: That's like, you're men me. It is my mattress. So
Speaker 1: if something doesn't make my happiness, it's a clear no.
Speaker 4: I've got fifty two thousand questions for you, and we
Speaker 4: watch you don't have a few guys on my and
Speaker 4: we will continue the and I know we're going to
Speaker 4: wind up. You know what I love most of all
Speaker 4: is that you're when you thrive, you give to others.
Speaker 4: And that's the mancha we all need to do in
Speaker 4: our community over the back fence is give back very
Speaker 4: yourself the quickly.
Speaker 2: Because last time, that's.
Speaker 4: What does she do in the show.
Speaker 1: Sorry, oh this is this one came from the Buddhist
Speaker 1: monk as well, he said to me, to you need
Speaker 1: to learn how to meditate, and I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't have time. I think they're going for five minutes
Speaker 1: every day. So he said to me, who do you
Speaker 1: have a shower with? So I said, it's me and
Speaker 1: that's my sanctuary. So every morning, including this morning, three
Speaker 1: drops of labond oil in how ex how it anchors
Speaker 1: me to Mother Earth, but most importantly it taps into
Speaker 1: my intuition.
Speaker 4: It's brilliant.
Speaker 1: So you get a beautiful light that comes and flows
Speaker 1: throughout your body, and then at night time you do
Speaker 1: the same thing gratitude.
Speaker 4: So what you're saying, don't make excuses. Do it in
Speaker 4: the shower. There's always a moment in time when you can.
Speaker 2: I copy you. This morning, I've got some oil and
Speaker 2: rubbed it in and.
Speaker 4: Said we've got to do the questions. Here we go. Yes,
Speaker 4: first question, and I think I've sort of got an
Speaker 4: idea after listening to you today. But well, if you
Speaker 4: had the opportunity of saying something to your twenty one
Speaker 4: year old self, twenty year old self, twenty two year
Speaker 4: old selvent, what would you like to say to her
Speaker 4: do it all again?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 4: Because you were so young as I'm listening to him.
Speaker 4: Thank God, she's answering this question it all again, all.
Speaker 1: Right, yeah, yeah, absolutely, I would not change a single
Speaker 1: thing because through the rollercoaster of life, you learn about forgiveness,
Speaker 1: you learn about acceptance, and you learn that each challenge
Speaker 1: becomes a gift to make you a better person.
Speaker 2: That's beautiful.
Speaker 4: That's really sorry.
Speaker 2: Thank you for that is really beautiful. And if you
Speaker 2: could share a back fence with anybody on planet Earth,
Speaker 2: who would Besides, I'm.
Speaker 1: Actually thinking it's going to be the two of you
Speaker 1: on my podcast a neighbor.
Speaker 4: I want to learn more.
Speaker 1: I want to learn more. It's a fun to definitely
Speaker 1: do that parties last night. It all happens.
Speaker 4: Well, You're more than welcome.
Speaker 3: You're part of the tribe.
Speaker 2: And Bella, I'd like this is I love and you'll love.
Speaker 1: I can ask you the Ques.
Speaker 2: Boys will bring the gang over the.
Speaker 4: I mean, we started the Pocas because we want to
Speaker 4: inspire others. You are a walking, talking version of that.
Speaker 4: Thank you for what you do for the Earth, for
Speaker 4: everyone around you, because you are a giver.
Speaker 1: Thank you for being here with me today. I trust
Speaker 1: that you enjoyed listening to yet another powerful story. Sometimes
Speaker 1: we can forget just how incredible we are as women
Speaker 1: and how important it is to support each other. I'd
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Speaker 1: connecting with you again soon. Much love, Toy