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Speaker 1: Hello, I'm torri Archbold. For two decades, I've nurtured the

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Speaker 1: world's top performing retail brands and celebrities. Now I'm asking entrepreneurs,

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Speaker 1: CEOs and influencers to share their own secrets to success.

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Speaker 1: They're high as their lows, the game changing moments, and

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Speaker 1: how they got to where they are today. It's a

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Speaker 1: podcast equivalent of opening the best Little Black Book of

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Speaker 1: Contacts Ever. If this resonates with you and you're ready

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Speaker 1: to step outside of your comfort zone and into your

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Speaker 1: power zone, I invite you to join my exclusive community

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Speaker 1: via our website, the Powerful dash Steps dot com.

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Speaker 2: Talk about stories, Yes, story, We have got the Queen

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Speaker 2: of stories herself. We have got torri Archbold at our

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Speaker 2: back fence. And a little bit about Tory. She's an

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Speaker 2: absolute dynamo.

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Speaker 3: And I'll tell you what.

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Speaker 2: My heart is happy because she's the Queen of Happy

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Speaker 2: Hats too, started her own business at the age of

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Speaker 2: twenty four and now she's the founder of Powerful Steps,

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Speaker 2: which is an online community and platform for women making

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Speaker 2: global impact. And she can just women to own this story,

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Speaker 2: step into their power and take careers to the next level.

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Speaker 3: Who stories, talk about stories, powerful stories, and we want

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Speaker 3: to hear your story, Tories, So welcome to the Batory.

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Speaker 1: Tory. I that that's very Catchyer, it's so catchy. Do

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Speaker 1: you know what I was growing up? Everyone was like, Tory, Tory,

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Speaker 1: tell me a story, and who knew I'd have a

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Speaker 2: We're welcome.

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Speaker 4: I just have to first show you my notes that

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Speaker 4: it's number twenty four. If anyone gets to see this

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Speaker 4: so I know I'm going to throw this out. It's

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Speaker 4: like you're going to shoot a rocket over to you.

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Speaker 4: Zero to hero with self belief tell us about that one.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm sure that you have both experienced this as well.

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Speaker 1: I feel like at some point in our lives we

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Speaker 1: So my journey began when I was in my early

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Speaker 1: I was a terrible student at school. I was definitely

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Speaker 1: the talker, the disruptor, the one that was always sent

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Speaker 1: I love that you snort because I.

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Speaker 4: Sna you too. So sorry. Some people think we're doing

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Speaker 1: We're definitely laughing. And so self belief struck me at

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Speaker 1: And so what I decided to do after falling in

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Speaker 1: So I went around and I started coffee dating because

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Speaker 1: My dad always said to me everyone loves a long

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Speaker 2: And I just asked you there, where did you get

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Speaker 1: And it just came from the fact that I knew

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Speaker 4: And I think that was us for the podcast, really,

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Speaker 2: It really is that for us. So even when we start,

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Speaker 1: step back into it. Yeah, this is who I am.

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Speaker 4: That's really admirable and so many ways, because I'm sure

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Speaker 4: there's people that are born and lived and died and

435
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Speaker 4: never actually felt that flow. Do you know what I mean?

436
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Speaker 4: And I'm sure the people listening go, what is that?

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Speaker 3: This?

438
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Speaker 4: Read Matthew's book for starters. It is red light.

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Speaker 2: With this toury, so believe, whether it's in a business

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Speaker 2: or not. So you've got listeners there who might be

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Speaker 2: interested in building their businesses or doing that just.

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Speaker 4: The flow of life. But that's sort of the thing too.

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Speaker 2: It's very true there friends sometimes that might have dropped away,

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Speaker 2: maybe ones that should drop away at that stage of

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Speaker 2: your life, and the other ones will flowing.

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Speaker 4: It's true. It's a thing.

447
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Speaker 1: They're like nature, real life lesson.

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Speaker 2: I've got to ask you now with George Clooney because

449
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Speaker 2: now you're the coffee one there.

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Speaker 1: Have you met me or not? Because I want to

451
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Speaker 1: hear a really funny story. I was appointed to look

452
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Speaker 1: after Fossil Group in Australia with a really beautiful lady

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Speaker 1: called Anime. And if she's listening to this podcasts, in fact,

454
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Speaker 1: to Anime, I'll send you the link because you're absolutely

455
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Speaker 1: roar with laughter. So in those days, we used to

456
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Speaker 1: take the magazines overseas with us, as you know, and

457
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Speaker 1: we go and do the big media events. And there

458
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Speaker 1: was an event that was going on in Milan, and

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Speaker 1: so everyone because she was the only female and she

460
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Speaker 1: was surrounded by all these men, George Clooney is going

461
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Speaker 1: to be at this party outside of Milan. We need

462
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Speaker 1: to organize pr you need to bring your team over.

463
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Speaker 1: So anime, can I get on the plane. I set

464
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Speaker 1: up all the media. We're going to be meeting George

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Speaker 1: and we're going to be doing all these amazing things.

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Speaker 1: It was a joke.

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Speaker 4: Oh are you kidding me?

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Speaker 1: I am not kidding you. No, I am not kidding.

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Speaker 1: I am not kidding. Yeah, to a castle with the

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Speaker 1: managing director of Fossil At the time.

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to find the here and the stores here.

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Speaker 4: So who's the joke on?

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Speaker 1: You know, the joke was supposed to be on us

474
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Speaker 1: and the man in the business had you know, she's

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Speaker 1: still in the business and she is an exceptional leader,

476
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Speaker 1: like she's extraordinary. But back in the day, that's what

477
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Speaker 1: men in businesses used to do with it.

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Speaker 4: Interesting yeah, so funny. I bet you made the most

479
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Speaker 4: of it, knowing exactly I read forty two you slightly

480
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Speaker 4: bored and thinking this isn't exactly going the way I planned.

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Speaker 4: At the moment where am I at? And you redesigned

482
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Speaker 4: your sense of purpose? Can you explain that to us?

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Speaker 1: What starts with the green lights? So I got those

484
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Speaker 1: three brands, but then what I learned from each of

485
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Speaker 1: those brands was something about myself, something that I wanted

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Speaker 1: and something that I didn't want. So when I was

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Speaker 1: at the Victoria's Secret Show in New York, my role

488
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Speaker 1: was to get all the interviews with the supermodels over there,

489
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Speaker 1: and what I recognized backstage then was were all the same.

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Speaker 1: Because one of them had a really big panic attack,

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Speaker 1: and like any good pr girl, you have love and

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Speaker 1: oil in your bag, and I saved her from the

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Speaker 1: panic attack. And I recognized that you might be in

494
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Speaker 1: a really privileged position to be working with all of

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Speaker 1: these brands, in these celebrities, but at the end of

496
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Speaker 1: the day, we're all human, and if you can show

497
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Speaker 1: empathy and compassion to someone else and allow them to shine,

498
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Speaker 1: then that's a really good business model.

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Speaker 4: So a light bulb went on your head in my

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Speaker 4: head and what happened from there.

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Speaker 1: So from there we then launched Steve Madden into Australia.

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Speaker 1: Then we had Drew Barrymore and I was listening to

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Speaker 1: Drew speak about, you know, her whole adventurous life, and

504
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Speaker 1: I thought, well, gosh, I've had an adventurous life as well.

505
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Speaker 1: But she wanted to get a talk show when she

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Speaker 1: left Australia, and she was really waiting for that call

507
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Speaker 1: to come through. And I really wanted a different life.

508
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Speaker 1: So I just met my soon to be husband. My

509
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Speaker 1: daughter was happy, like everything was just like everything was.

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Speaker 1: I was in a really good place and I'd had

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Speaker 1: the green lights on those three brands. And I saw

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Speaker 1: her speak and I was like, you know what, I

513
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Speaker 1: think my pr crews over.

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Speaker 4: And I never had a.

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Speaker 2: Photo's interesting affected by Drew, like you know, you brought

516
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Speaker 2: it the energy and then she's helped you.

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Speaker 4: And she was waiting for that phone call.

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Speaker 1: So she was waiting for the phone call for that.

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Speaker 1: And then what had happened was because we'd partnered with

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Speaker 1: Mary Clare Magazine to you know, promote her because I

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Speaker 1: loved Nicki Briger and Nicki had said to me toy,

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Speaker 1: can I do a story on you. We've never done

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Speaker 1: a story on you, but it's going to be on

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Speaker 1: single moms with global careers. And something inside of me said,

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Speaker 1: that's not my story, and that's an.

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Speaker 4: Interesting She repeated that to you back to you. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: and you listened to that, and when that's not my story,

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Speaker 4: that's not sitting right with me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So what had happened was four months before Drew

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Speaker 1: had come out, I'd worked with this amazing journalist called

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Speaker 1: Ali Pasco, and for some reason, I just opened up

532
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Speaker 1: and I'd never ever actually opened up to anyone, and

533
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Speaker 1: she gave me that sacred space and then she said

534
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Speaker 1: to me, this is Jeff, not a single mom's story

535
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Speaker 1: in the global business. She said, it's something bigger. Would

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Speaker 1: you be interested in the feature?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 1: They wrote three pages, and they interviewed Bella, they interviewed me,

539
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Speaker 1: but I said to them, can you please put the

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Speaker 1: story on hold because it's not just my story, it

541
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Speaker 1: was my daughter's story. And I really needed her buy

542
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 1: in because there's a lot of shame around what goes

543
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Speaker 1: on when you are stalked for as intimidated, you know,

544
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Speaker 1: by a partner or a father or a friend or

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Speaker 1: whatever it is. And we've never publicly spoken about that

546
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Speaker 1: before because my life was you know this glamorous publicists thinking.

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Speaker 4: A whole lot of this truth is surface, it's just

548
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Speaker 4: coming push it down.

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Speaker 2: This life, this internal part of your life, there's a

550
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Speaker 2: lot of suffering. There's a lot of hiding things as

551
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Speaker 2: well and also protecting things.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to, absolutely, and you were really crossroads.

553
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Speaker 1: I was on Complain which runway down and so so yeah,

554
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Speaker 1: it's a really powerful time in your life. So four

555
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Speaker 1: months later we decided yes, and then Mary Claire was like, oh, well,

556
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Speaker 1: you know, we'll put it in the issue with Drew,

557
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Speaker 1: and I said, no, it needs to be after Drue

558
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Speaker 1: because Drew's the star. And then yeah, so she got

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Speaker 1: her talk show and I got my new life and.

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Speaker 4: What is the new life?

561
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Speaker 1: So I ended up meeting my soulmate and within ten

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Speaker 1: months he proposed, we got married. We've now got a

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Speaker 1: blended family, we're out in business together, we travel the world.

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Speaker 1: Powerful Steps Okay, so.

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Speaker 4: What is Powerful Steps?

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Speaker 1: It is an online platform for women just like you

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Speaker 1: and I like all the things I've gone through. You know,

568
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 1: you're at across the road in life.

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Speaker 4: What do you do.

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Speaker 1: You've had great success in your life, but you say

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Speaker 1: there's more.

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Speaker 4: Who do I want to become?

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Speaker 1: What I want to step into? Exactly why you guys

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Speaker 1: have started this podcast. You've got something to give and

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Speaker 1: you've got wisdom to pay forward. So I now work

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Speaker 1: with women all around the world, you know, from entreprene

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Speaker 1: to you know mums had really successful careers and then

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Speaker 1: decided that, you know, my kids have now left school,

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Speaker 1: what do I do? I'm going to watch a multimillion

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Speaker 1: dollar business to CEOs board directors. And on top of that,

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Speaker 1: we just launched another business called her World International. World

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Speaker 1: her World International with a friend of mine, with a

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Speaker 1: TV show out of New York and our first event

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Speaker 1: is in la in.

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Speaker 4: October, Yaho. That's exciting, that's really exciting.

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Speaker 1: I want to be able to give Australian female leaders,

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Speaker 1: entrepreneurs or women that just need to get that little

588
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Speaker 1: bit of love in the room from a powerful community

589
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Speaker 1: and access to other markets and.

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Speaker 4: Age because we're really like fifty plus target market. But

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Speaker 4: quite honestly, you talk about Antonia Kidman like my god,

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Speaker 4: she had am I right, six kids and she went yes,

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Speaker 4: like tell us about that. That's pretty remarkable at that

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Speaker 4: age of six kids to say it's about me. Now

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Speaker 4: I'm going to go and study law.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I had a coffee date with and in Singapore again,

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Speaker 1: a nice coffee date. So she was in my tribe

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Speaker 1: and she was studying when she had those kids. And

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Speaker 1: now she's a family lawyer, and you know, she's had

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Speaker 1: an extraordinary journey. But she just said I've got something

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Speaker 1: more as well. And it was her passion, I guess

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Speaker 1: because of what she'd gone through with her ex to

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Speaker 1: actually help other.

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Speaker 2: People, you know what that's now it's so good hearing

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Speaker 2: more and more stories like that because there's more and

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Speaker 2: more people like even Jodie Spears, you know, to Ben Fordham,

607
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Speaker 2: successful TV presenter and aka she's now studying to.

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Speaker 3: Be all lawyer herself.

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Speaker 1: Like, wow, these are people top of their game. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: age is just a number. So I started my first

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Speaker 1: business at twenty four, my second at forty four, and

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Speaker 1: this will be the runway. And I just had a

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Speaker 1: lady who runs a billion dollar business joined my business

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Speaker 1: Attraction program. She's sixty six. Wow, there you go, and

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Speaker 1: she's she's sixty six pick up sticks and she said,

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Speaker 1: I've got more to give can you help me? And

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I absolutely can. Age is just a number.

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Speaker 2: Well there you go or listeners to hear that too,

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Speaker 2: So it's just great. And so can you tell us

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Speaker 2: about with your master classes that you offer and you

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Speaker 2: do and tell us a bit about that.

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Speaker 1: Well, we're going to offer something to your community. Actually,

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Speaker 1: I really believe that if you've got knowledge, you should

624
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 1: pay it forward. And if you have wisdom that can

625
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 1: actually help someone else step into their power, then you

626
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Speaker 1: should gift it, whether it's going on a podcast, showing

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Speaker 1: up on LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, whatever. So we have this

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Speaker 1: thing called network like a Pro which will help everyone

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Speaker 1: build out their own personal brand. And also it gives

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Speaker 1: you the framework further three dates a week to build

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Speaker 1: a global community of coffee dating. But I'm going to

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Speaker 1: give you a code. So in the show notes, that's

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Speaker 1: what we're going to do. Anyone that listens can have

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Speaker 1: access to that.

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Speaker 4: And it's a master.

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Speaker 1: It's an online master my master class and yeah, so

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Speaker 1: there's videos, workbooks, and then it also gives you access

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Speaker 1: to our community, the stories that we share with other

639
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: people of what they remember at dinner parties, on podcasts,

640
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 1: on coffee dates it's those little golden nuggets that actually

641
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 1: give you the golden thread in life that allow you

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Speaker 1: to step into whatever you're meant to be doing in

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Speaker 1: your forties, fifties and sixties. Because if Drew hadn't have

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Speaker 1: done that, I wouldn't have gone, you know what, shutting

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00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 1: it finding everyone else a job that's amazing and you know,

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Speaker 1: shut down a multi million dollars thank you.

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Speaker 4: To thank you Tory.

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Speaker 1: So this so listeners, come on out.

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Speaker 4: I mean, this isn't really grot it in the show,

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Speaker 4: thank you for that. You're interviewing an astrologer, and I

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Speaker 4: love when she said she mentions purpose and how your

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Speaker 4: purpose can change with time, you know, basically always stay

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Speaker 4: tuned to universal sign backs. But see a lot of

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Speaker 4: people think my sense of purpose is, oh, well, I'm

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Speaker 4: going to be a lawyer and architect and engine whatever

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Speaker 4: you are, and that's it. That's the end of the road.

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Speaker 4: Now you're a shunning example of somebody that just listened

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Speaker 4: to your body, mind and spirit and went, no, this

659
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Speaker 4: isn't working for me right now. Others will spurn them

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Speaker 4: selves out and continue through that journey. You know, I

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Speaker 4: think it's reassuring for a lot of people listening that

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Speaker 4: you know, that's not definitive for the rest of your life.

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Speaker 4: You know, if you're feeling low energy, you're not feeling inspired,

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Speaker 4: you can flip that and redirect your sense of purpose

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Speaker 4: where I used to think that my sense of purpose

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Speaker 4: is that, and that's what it was. Now you're a

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Speaker 4: walking inspiration because you listened and you changed, You went

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Speaker 4: flick and you went down this beautiful like spiritual road.

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Speaker 4: It was so running out of time before was permanently

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Speaker 4: running out to Was there.

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Speaker 2: A pivotal moment when you really got sick as well

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Speaker 2: that changed? Can you just share a little bit about

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Speaker 2: that toury.

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Speaker 1: So, like any good Jackie Collins novel, which we all

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Speaker 1: death experience, death experience, I had death experience. So I

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Speaker 1: was due on a plane to London for a high

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Speaker 1: profile UK brand and I was a single mom at

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Speaker 1: the time. I had twenty two staff, ten freelancers to assistants,

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Speaker 1: so one for me, one to help Bella and I

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Speaker 1: and of course a nanny. And there was shit flying

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Speaker 1: everywhere and my appendix burst unexpectedly before I hopped on

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Speaker 1: the flight. Thank goodness.

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Speaker 4: The body will always tell you, the.

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Speaker 1: Body will and I knew I was dying before it happened.

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Speaker 1: I knew it, but I ignored all the.

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Speaker 4: Signs because you're too busy.

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Speaker 1: I was too busy. And then what happened was my

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Speaker 1: pan burst. I felt the snap, I heard the snap,

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Speaker 1: and unfortunately I was deadlocked in my house and my

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Speaker 1: daughter in those days, had actually changed the code on

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Speaker 1: my phone.

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Speaker 4: How old was your daughter then?

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Speaker 1: Eight or eight would have been? And I had to

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Speaker 1: wait for someone to call me.

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Speaker 4: What w Yeah in your appendix have.

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Speaker 1: Burst and I could feel my body dye and had

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Speaker 1: to wait for someone to call me. And so it

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Speaker 1: was an ex boyfriend that was down from Hong Kong

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Speaker 1: and his dad was an ex heart surgeon who called

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Speaker 1: the ambulance and got me out of I had to

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Speaker 1: be revived on the way to the hospital.

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Speaker 2: So you really had that full in and out of

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Speaker 2: life experience.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So two am in the morning, I was operated

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Speaker 1: on by an amazing surgeon who basically said to me,

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Speaker 1: who's your next of kin? What's going to happen to

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Speaker 1: your daughter? You're a single mom. Like all these questions

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Speaker 1: I was unprepared for. Yeah, And so basically I did

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Speaker 1: see the other side, and will you see a white

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Speaker 1: tunnel and then it goes into darkness.

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Speaker 4: The thing everyone, Yes, it's the same thing. Yeah, Kerry Packer,

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Speaker 4: even Kerry Packer, same thing.

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Speaker 1: So I came back for my daughter and she was

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Speaker 1: there for me. I was there for her, and I

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Speaker 1: lost eight kilos in five days. So I always say

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Speaker 1: it's good to have a little bit of extra fat.

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Speaker 4: Yes, body, and I'll run with it.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I run with it every day. But honestly, that

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Speaker 1: that saved my life.

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Speaker 4: How did it change your life?

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Speaker 1: It changed my life because I was given a six

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Speaker 1: month recovery, but an actual factor was three or four years,

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Speaker 1: and I ended up with a dreamal fatigue, chronic fatigue.

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Speaker 1: I had to rewind myself. And what I realized was

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Speaker 1: I was surrounded by takers, not givers. And so it

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Speaker 1: was a big thing for me. And you'll hear me

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Speaker 1: speak about a lot, a mutual exchange of energy. So

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Speaker 1: anyone that comes into our community powerful steps. It's sure,

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Speaker 1: I've got a lot to give, but what do you

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Speaker 1: have to give as well? Because unless it's that energy match,

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Speaker 1: it's not right for me.

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Speaker 4: It's an even flower, it is.

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Speaker 1: And so when you talk about how do you attract

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Speaker 1: these high vibrational people and opportunities like being on this

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Speaker 1: podcast with you today. It's because there's an energy match,

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Speaker 1: because you know that you're sharing something. So my recovery

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Speaker 1: was all about who do I want to share my

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Speaker 1: life with? And so that's why I decided not to

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Speaker 1: sell my business, downsize my business. That's how I became

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Speaker 1: slightly irrelevant. It's how I won full custody of my

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Speaker 1: daughter in the restraining order because I created the space

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Speaker 1: to work out, what are those little ship pits that

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00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 1: are all piled around me? And one by one, yeah,

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Speaker 1: making me sick, and I just stepped out, and then

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Speaker 1: one by one until I came in to complete alignment.

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Speaker 2: What did your surgeons say to you?

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Speaker 4: How magnificent? Because this is just we were talking about

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Speaker 4: this beauty.

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Speaker 1: My doctor said to me, toy, I'm going to read

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Speaker 1: meet you to a hospital unless you get rid of

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Speaker 1: all your toxic family members and friends who are not

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Speaker 1: allowing you to heal. And I said, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to go back to hospital, but I will say no

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Speaker 1: to all of them. And the surgeon said to me

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Speaker 1: the same thing, and he said, I know what your

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00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 1: problem is. You're not happy, And he had to be

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Speaker 1: a piece of paper, and he goes, A happy heart

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Speaker 1: is a magnet for miracles. He said, that's the way

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Speaker 1: you're going to live your life now. Happy heart is

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Speaker 1: a magnet for miracles, and that is how you're going

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Speaker 1: to live your life from now on in I teach that.

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Speaker 4: So he was an angel that I needed.

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Speaker 2: Two am in the morning and we just had a

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Speaker 2: fabulous Roberts and he was kind of similar, Oh my god.

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Speaker 4: Why we run out of time. Yeah, but it's just

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Speaker 4: the hell out of me.

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Speaker 1: That's like, you're men me. It is my mattress. So

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Speaker 1: if something doesn't make my happiness, it's a clear no.

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Speaker 4: I've got fifty two thousand questions for you, and we

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Speaker 4: watch you don't have a few guys on my and

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Speaker 4: we will continue the and I know we're going to

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Speaker 4: wind up. You know what I love most of all

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Speaker 4: is that you're when you thrive, you give to others.

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Speaker 4: And that's the mancha we all need to do in

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Speaker 4: our community over the back fence is give back very

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Speaker 4: yourself the quickly.

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Speaker 2: Because last time, that's.

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Speaker 4: What does she do in the show.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, oh this is this one came from the Buddhist

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Speaker 1: monk as well, he said to me, to you need

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Speaker 1: to learn how to meditate, and I was like, I

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Speaker 1: don't have time. I think they're going for five minutes

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Speaker 1: every day. So he said to me, who do you

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Speaker 1: have a shower with? So I said, it's me and

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Speaker 1: that's my sanctuary. So every morning, including this morning, three

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Speaker 1: drops of labond oil in how ex how it anchors

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Speaker 1: me to Mother Earth, but most importantly it taps into

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Speaker 1: my intuition.

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Speaker 4: It's brilliant.

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Speaker 1: So you get a beautiful light that comes and flows

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Speaker 1: throughout your body, and then at night time you do

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Speaker 1: the same thing gratitude.

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Speaker 4: So what you're saying, don't make excuses. Do it in

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Speaker 4: the shower. There's always a moment in time when you can.

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Speaker 2: I copy you. This morning, I've got some oil and

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Speaker 2: rubbed it in and.

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Speaker 4: Said we've got to do the questions. Here we go. Yes,

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Speaker 4: first question, and I think I've sort of got an

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Speaker 4: idea after listening to you today. But well, if you

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Speaker 4: had the opportunity of saying something to your twenty one

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Speaker 4: year old self, twenty year old self, twenty two year

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Speaker 4: old selvent, what would you like to say to her

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Speaker 4: do it all again?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 4: Because you were so young as I'm listening to him.

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Speaker 4: Thank God, she's answering this question it all again, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, yeah, yeah, absolutely, I would not change a single

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Speaker 1: thing because through the rollercoaster of life, you learn about forgiveness,

809
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: you learn about acceptance, and you learn that each challenge

810
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Speaker 1: becomes a gift to make you a better person.

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Speaker 2: That's beautiful.

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Speaker 4: That's really sorry.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for that is really beautiful. And if you

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Speaker 2: could share a back fence with anybody on planet Earth,

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Speaker 2: who would Besides, I'm.

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Speaker 1: Actually thinking it's going to be the two of you

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Speaker 1: on my podcast a neighbor.

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Speaker 4: I want to learn more.

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Speaker 1: I want to learn more. It's a fun to definitely

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Speaker 1: do that parties last night. It all happens.

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Speaker 4: Well, You're more than welcome.

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Speaker 3: You're part of the tribe.

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Speaker 2: And Bella, I'd like this is I love and you'll love.

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Speaker 1: I can ask you the Ques.

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Speaker 2: Boys will bring the gang over the.

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Speaker 4: I mean, we started the Pocas because we want to

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Speaker 4: inspire others. You are a walking, talking version of that.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for what you do for the Earth, for

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Speaker 4: everyone around you, because you are a giver.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for being here with me today. I trust

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Speaker 1: that you enjoyed listening to yet another powerful story. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: we can forget just how incredible we are as women

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Speaker 1: and how important it is to support each other. I'd

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Speaker 1: love for you to take a moment to review the

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Speaker 1: podcast and help support the show. You can also take

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Speaker 1: a screenshot of this episode and share it across your

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Speaker 1: social media. Be sure to tag me so that I

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Speaker 1: can give you a shout out too. I'm a true

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Speaker 1: believer of women supporting women, and I look forward to

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Speaker 1: connecting with you again soon. Much love, Toy