Speaker 1: Apogee Production.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode about My Bad Mum podcast.
Speaker 2: We constantly asked that question. You know it's not very
Speaker 2: long until the big long summer holiday.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, no, I'm very aware of that, and being
Speaker 3: continually reminded every week, Oh.
Speaker 1: My god, guess what I did the other day.
Speaker 2: Now, you kind of have yourself for me to thank
Speaker 2: for this, because I remember.
Speaker 3: I was waiting. I was waiting for blame. Starting on
Speaker 3: a positive, Yes, I love this even more.
Speaker 2: I booked a trip away kid free perfect. And the
Speaker 2: reason why we talk about this often is that I
Speaker 2: never did that until we would talk about it often
Speaker 2: and you would say, you know, it's so good for
Speaker 2: both you and the kids to have time apart and
Speaker 2: you know, miss each other, but enjoy your own space
Speaker 2: as well.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So the girls are in year eleven next year, they're
Speaker 2: doing things that, honestly, Rach, this is like blowing my mind.
Speaker 2: They're doing things like they're going to be doing a
Speaker 2: course at TAFE. The reason why this has come about
Speaker 2: is they go up to NUSA and they do like
Speaker 2: a hospitality thing for three nights. They learn like all
Speaker 2: aspects of working in a hotel and all that kind
Speaker 2: of stuff, and I was like, oh my god, three nights.
Speaker 2: They're away for three nights.
Speaker 1: What should we do?
Speaker 2: We literally went online and we booked a three night
Speaker 2: stay in Fiji, perfect flights with long points. Also book
Speaker 2: the hotel. It's like book now, pay when you get there,
Speaker 2: which feels like it's free.
Speaker 1: And I was like yes.
Speaker 3: And then the kids are going off to work in
Speaker 3: Nusia and so then I.
Speaker 1: Just mention it to them.
Speaker 3: Don't mention it.
Speaker 1: We already have.
Speaker 4: Me.
Speaker 3: Don't mention it.
Speaker 1: What do you always do that? Why do you always
Speaker 1: have to do that?
Speaker 2: Every time we're going to be away for something, you
Speaker 2: end up going away somewhere. And I was like, because
Speaker 2: we've had twins for fifteen years and so we've never
Speaker 2: been able to do anything.
Speaker 3: Yeah. And also, if we're to recap, you honeymooned with
Speaker 3: your daughters. Yeah, you did a lot in the early
Speaker 3: years pretty much until how old were they before you
Speaker 3: started even attempting this without kids, Like when we started
Speaker 3: this podcast and the girls would have been what like
Speaker 3: ten eleven?
Speaker 2: I reckon it's been the last two years, maybe three.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a lot of catching up to do. You
Speaker 3: a lot of catching up to do.
Speaker 1: For my bad mum for not wanting them to drive.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, we were laughing about this because this
Speaker 3: topic between you and I on the podcast but also
Speaker 3: off the podcast just keeps popping back up and it
Speaker 3: makes things feel surreal and they're not even my daughters.
Speaker 3: And I keep looking at you going is this going
Speaker 3: to be more of a hazard or a hindrance than
Speaker 3: it is going to be of help? Because you have
Speaker 3: got a lot of hard work ahead of you, I.
Speaker 1: Know, And every time you mention it, I'm like, shut up.
Speaker 3: I'm like from you having to teach the kids out
Speaker 3: of drive.
Speaker 2: Also, first step, I don't know if you remember back
Speaker 2: in the day. First step is an online test. Yeah, right,
Speaker 2: So they have to go online they watch a certain
Speaker 2: amount of videos, so you can't actually take the test
Speaker 2: until you've watched all the videos, which is the stuff
Speaker 2: that teaches you, you know, what you can and can't
Speaker 2: do on the roads. Now, Holly was so driven to
Speaker 2: do this, driven love words, that she literally sat there.
Speaker 2: Didn't have to remind her, she just did it, watched
Speaker 2: all the stuff. Yeah, and then she said, ok I'm
Speaker 2: going to take the test, and I was like, okay, great, well,
Speaker 2: all sit here just in case there's something that you're
Speaker 2: not sure about. She was like, yeah, but you know,
Speaker 2: I need to know this stuff. And I was like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: you need to know this stuff. But at least I
Speaker 2: can sit here and explain to you why there's certain
Speaker 2: rules or whatever, and so you're learning as you go.
Speaker 2: Like I mean, technically kind of feels like it's cheap.
Speaker 3: I feel like it's cheating, yeah, by you helping her.
Speaker 3: But at the same time, how many other people would
Speaker 3: be at home doing the same thing online to get
Speaker 3: their learners.
Speaker 2: And my thing was if I go, oh, no, it's
Speaker 2: actually that answer, I'll be able to explain and then
Speaker 2: she'll remember it anyway, So.
Speaker 1: It's like yeah, I feel like yeah.
Speaker 2: Anyway, she did the test and as she's going through,
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh no, no, I think that's that answer
Speaker 2: her and I corrected her on a few of them,
Speaker 2: and she failed it.
Speaker 3: Do you know what I knew? You were going to
Speaker 3: say that I knew it.
Speaker 1: He failed it because for me, yeah, driving since I
Speaker 1: was seventeen.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because things change, And I think it's also that
Speaker 3: they muddle up the words.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is the question.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, Okay, you take.
Speaker 1: Some medication that makes you feel drowsy?
Speaker 3: Yep, yep, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Do you A.
Speaker 2: Not drive and find another way of getting to your destination? Okay,
Speaker 2: do you be call up your doctor and get some advice?
Speaker 2: Do you see drive anyway? I think that was it.
Speaker 3: It couldn't have been a multiple choice. It definitely wasn't.
Speaker 2: So I did the A, you don't drive and you
Speaker 2: find another way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we got that wrong because.
Speaker 2: It was A and B. It was a you don't drive,
Speaker 2: find another way, and it was also be call your
Speaker 2: doctor no, and get some advice. I was like, if
Speaker 2: you're already feeling drowsy from the medication you're taking, what's
Speaker 2: the point in calling the doctor.
Speaker 3: But we'll also sorry, but what doctor answers your call?
Speaker 3: These days, no one's going to answer your call. Oh
Speaker 3: are you feeling drowsy? Oh did you take some medication?
Speaker 1: Probably don't. Well, I wasn't driving anyway.
Speaker 3: That option A. I took option A. Yeah, that doesn't
Speaker 3: even make sense to me. I would have found it too. Yeah,
Speaker 3: So I definitely did not see that coming as a
Speaker 3: question because I was thinking along the lines of you're
Speaker 3: going to give me like a roundabout because I feel
Speaker 3: like that's where most people fall off the wheels do
Speaker 3: you give way to? Yeah? Like what side do you
Speaker 3: give way if there's oncoming traffic? The roundabout questions got everyone. Yeah,
Speaker 3: people now still a dead set losers on roundabouts because
Speaker 3: they cannot do them properly.
Speaker 2: And one of the questions, and I didn't really know
Speaker 2: the answer to this either. So say you're in a street.
Speaker 2: You can go left, you can go right, or go
Speaker 2: straight ahead? Yeah, Now obviously you give way to your
Speaker 2: right yep, and you're left.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, someone in a turning lane.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that street that's in front of you, that's
Speaker 2: facing you, who gets right away there?
Speaker 3: Well, technically it's on my right hand side, right, and I.
Speaker 1: Just straight in front of you. Yeah, oh yes, So
Speaker 1: take right.
Speaker 3: She's on my right. I'm all right. You're gonna be
Speaker 3: able to gauge where you're going because if she's turning
Speaker 3: and you're turning that way, that's okay. You're going to
Speaker 3: be going at the same time.
Speaker 2: Because I don't know in that situation, it's got right away.
Speaker 2: And I feel like what I do in that situation
Speaker 2: is I hesitate, I look them.
Speaker 3: In the eye or you're trying to have a conversation
Speaker 3: with and.
Speaker 1: I'm like, who's going first, Katie?
Speaker 3: Will you?
Speaker 1: And then I just go and hope for the best.
Speaker 2: If they're dilly dallying and they're not going, I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: that's okay for me to go.
Speaker 1: You're taking too long. I don't care who right away is.
Speaker 3: I'm just going did Holly fail that question too? This
Speaker 3: no category that says hesitate, And there's definitely no category
Speaker 3: that says read or try and have a conversation with
Speaker 3: the person across in the car across from you to
Speaker 3: see what they're thinking of doing and then proceed forward.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And there was definitely no option to say close
Speaker 2: your eyes and hope for the best or dilly.
Speaker 3: Dally Sorry, why down the are you dilly deallying? Oh? Perfect,
Speaker 3: I'll go then. No. Never.
Speaker 2: I remember recently the traffic lights were like not working.
Speaker 1: I was at a junction.
Speaker 2: I think it was like three lanes, and so I
Speaker 2: was at the traffic lights and there was a guy
Speaker 2: next to me at the traffic lights and they weren't working,
Speaker 2: like you know, and there's like people coming from all
Speaker 2: different directions because this is like an intersection where it's
Speaker 2: everything's going on, And at one point it looked like
Speaker 2: it was quietening down, and I was like, I think
Speaker 2: we're going to get a chance to go here. And
Speaker 2: I looked over it, old mate and he looked at
Speaker 2: me and we both nodded, and then.
Speaker 3: We went we're going to dilly dally together. Good, let's
Speaker 3: go honestly. So, okay, she fails the tests and it's
Speaker 3: my fault. Did she blame you or you blame yourself?
Speaker 3: Well both, bit of both. So then the next time
Speaker 3: she resits it, did she do it by herself?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: Did she pass? Yes?
Speaker 1: Oh shit, you really were the reason.
Speaker 3: Okay, So my next question is who's doing the driving lessons,
Speaker 3: the physical one? Are you taking that or as Jay
Speaker 3: taking them?
Speaker 2: See, this is the thing they're not allowed to learn
Speaker 2: in Jay's car because it's electric.
Speaker 3: Oh.
Speaker 1: I don't know whether it's because it's electric.
Speaker 2: Or whether it's just because this particular car doesn't drive
Speaker 2: like a normal car. So like when you go to
Speaker 2: break you just take your foot off the accelerator.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, right, it's not the same as an
Speaker 3: it's not the same.
Speaker 4: And so car, I like my car, mate, you better
Speaker 4: kiss that baby goodbye between you considering dillydallying being an option,
Speaker 4: and then them and their learners.
Speaker 3: Let's swap cars with Jay. Swap cars. Jay takes your car, Yeah,
Speaker 3: you take. I think you're at.
Speaker 2: More patient because I remember saying to the girls, I
Speaker 2: want you to do some lessons first before you get
Speaker 2: in our car.
Speaker 1: Why no one else's parents make them do that? I said, no, absolutely,
Speaker 1: because I'm not getting it. I'm not going on a
Speaker 1: road with you. They would have to go on an
Speaker 1: actual road, having never driven before.
Speaker 3: I don't agree with that.
Speaker 1: We've got no dual control. I'm going to be totally
Speaker 1: out of control.
Speaker 3: Are you okay? No, I don't think you're okay.
Speaker 2: Polly said, well why though, but why? And I said,
Speaker 2: because I know you so well. You will sit in
Speaker 2: that driver's seat. I'll be in the passenger side, having
Speaker 2: driven since I was seven team and you'll tell me
Speaker 2: that I'm wrong.
Speaker 3: But the whole thing is that I agree with you
Speaker 3: in the sense of going. They should be doing a
Speaker 3: certain few lessons with somebody if you're going on the road,
Speaker 3: especially that has duel controls, before getting in to the traffic.
Speaker 3: I grew up on a farm, so my lessons started
Speaker 3: when I was about seven, driving a five speed manual
Speaker 3: on a farm. Wouldn't advise that this is the right angle,
Speaker 3: but I'm very confident driver.
Speaker 2: I failed my first driving test before I even got
Speaker 2: out the test center. Yeah, they asked me to reverse
Speaker 2: park into a space and I failed. And not only
Speaker 2: did I get over the line, I was so flustered
Speaker 2: that I turned my head quickly around to have a
Speaker 2: look at where I'd cut, and I smashed my head
Speaker 2: on the window. And then he told me that I
Speaker 2: failed before we'd even left the test, and I didn't
Speaker 2: even do the rest of the test. Passed second time,
Speaker 2: and the day I passed, I drove straight into where
Speaker 2: I worked, into the car park and straight into the fence.
Speaker 3: That's the day I passed. Jeez, it is looking so
Speaker 3: positive for your kids.