WEBVTT - I need more ME time!

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<v Speaker 1>Apo Shape Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am

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<v Speaker 1>I A Bad Mum? Podcast? We constantly asked the same

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<v Speaker 1>question over and over again. We never run out of content.

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<v Speaker 1>It's funny because we've been doing this podcast for how

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<v Speaker 1>many years?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Elsie's now nine, and I think she was three

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<v Speaker 2>and a half when we started. Remember, because when we

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<v Speaker 2>first started, the way that we met was me being

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<v Speaker 2>late to lunch. You asked me why. I was like, because, religiously,

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<v Speaker 2>you're always on time and I'm always late.

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<v Speaker 1>Not in a like why are you low? No, like

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<v Speaker 1>you're asking me like, what happened? What happened?

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<v Speaker 2>And I had nothing. I was just like, my kid

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<v Speaker 2>was being an asshole and I'm late because of my child.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Sorry, And I think you actually called her in

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<v Speaker 1>our and I went, oh, that's funny. I've got this

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<v Speaker 1>idea for podcasts. I think that'd be perfect.

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<v Speaker 2>I just had to find the right person that has

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<v Speaker 2>the same similar mentality to me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's gonna be called am I a bad mummy? Okay

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<v Speaker 1>with that? Yeah, I'm in.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm in.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I a bad mum? For wanting more me time?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I have to say, Katie, tables have turned a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit yeah, I was away a fair bit there

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<v Speaker 2>for a while, like I was planning trips for myself

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<v Speaker 2>and doing things and all the rest. And now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>in the other way where I feel like I haven't

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<v Speaker 2>gone anywhere for so long, and you've been taking trips

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<v Speaker 2>minus children. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, when we first met, and like we first became friends,

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<v Speaker 1>you would say often about going away on your own

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<v Speaker 1>or a girl's trip, even like going for dinner by yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>just gag by yourself. Yeah, And for me it was

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<v Speaker 1>like an alien concept, like we don't have any family

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<v Speaker 1>here minor in the UK. My husband Jay's are in Perth,

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<v Speaker 1>so we've never really had anyone to have the girls

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<v Speaker 1>overnight or look after them, so we've always used babysitters.

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<v Speaker 1>So we've never actually gone at that time, gone for

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<v Speaker 1>a night. No, And we'd never even really thought about it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like, if we're going away somewhere, or if

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<v Speaker 1>we're going on a trip or a holiday or a

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<v Speaker 1>weekend away, we take the kids. We took our kids

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<v Speaker 1>on our honeymoon, mate, Yeah, I know, I min, I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't had a honeymoon. Like I feel like, mate, you

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<v Speaker 1>are honeying out for And I remember at the time

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<v Speaker 1>you saying, because I always thought it was a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of a selfish thing. I used to think, yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>what about the kids, like they need us kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I remember you saying about how good it is

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to have your own time and also

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<v Speaker 1>for the kids to have their own time, and then

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<v Speaker 1>how much you miss each other and how much better

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<v Speaker 1>it is when then you get back and reconnect.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, for both teams.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, over the last few years, taken a leaf out

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<v Speaker 1>of your book when we have done those things.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>Now on the weekend, this is the first time I've

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<v Speaker 1>ever done this. We went to a health retreat. We

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<v Speaker 1>went to Eden Retreat down in Curumbin Valley in the

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<v Speaker 1>mid coast.

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<v Speaker 2>The battery pack recharges.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly, rage, I have never had a better trip away

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<v Speaker 1>than I did Eden Health Retreat. Like, don't even get

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<v Speaker 1>me started on the staff and the service and the like.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a whole other episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, can we mention your reservations to going Remember we

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<v Speaker 2>just had this. You were thinking, oh my gosh, but

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<v Speaker 2>I can't like three was it three or four nights?

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<v Speaker 2>No wine, no sugar, no caffeine, Nope, you were starting

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<v Speaker 2>to go like, should I try and like smuggle it in.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, no, I know you're going to go all in.

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<v Speaker 2>And then the second thing I was concerned about was

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<v Speaker 2>there's no phone reception.

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<v Speaker 1>Rage. Yeah, it's in the valley. There's no Wi Fi,

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<v Speaker 1>no phone reception, which gave me anxiety and the lead

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<v Speaker 1>up because I was like, oh my god, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have to, like all of us do it right. We

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<v Speaker 1>grab our phone. There's an advert comes on on the TV.

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<v Speaker 1>You grab your phone, have a little scroll. If I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in line at the post office, I get my phone

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<v Speaker 1>out and I'm checking emails and stuff. So for me

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<v Speaker 1>it was like, oh my god, I'm going to be

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<v Speaker 1>lost without using my phone. It turned out to be

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<v Speaker 1>the biggest plus of just being there, being present, looking around,

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<v Speaker 1>enjoying nature, and not being able to check your phone,

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<v Speaker 1>not even in the room. In your room, no phones.

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<v Speaker 1>There's like one place down at reception where you can

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<v Speaker 1>go and you can check if you really need to.

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<v Speaker 1>So we did that once a day, but otherwise no

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<v Speaker 1>text messages from the kids all day. Sorry, girls, I

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<v Speaker 1>won't have any Wi Fi. I won't have a girl out. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I could literally cry about how amazing. I found

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<v Speaker 1>that weekend and how just good, you know, good food,

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<v Speaker 1>fresh air, nature, everything healthy, can imagine, meditation, all the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of it. We did the whole lot. But what

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<v Speaker 1>I realized is that it was the first trip away.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, when you go on holiday, like you go

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<v Speaker 1>away and it's great and all the rest of it,

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<v Speaker 1>but then you're looking forward to going home. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>such a homebody, we know, right. I loved COVID because

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<v Speaker 1>I loved just being at home. Cleaning covered, yeah, cleane

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<v Speaker 1>cover is just being at home, like I could just

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<v Speaker 1>be home, Like that's me. I didn't want to go home.

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<v Speaker 1>I had been present for three days and all I

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<v Speaker 1>had to do was think about myself. They don't even

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<v Speaker 1>give you your itinery or what's on until the night before

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<v Speaker 1>the day. They don't let you think too far ahead.

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<v Speaker 1>So if on the Friday you want to know what

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing on Sunday, you don't know yet because so yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and we're planners, right with mummas. We plan, we know

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<v Speaker 1>what we're doing. So for it to be taken out

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<v Speaker 1>of my hands and go okay, I just have to

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<v Speaker 1>think about what I'm doing right now. So good isn't

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<v Speaker 1>it which is, you know, lastly, either walking in nature

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<v Speaker 1>or laying under a blanket. It was amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think it is? Or was that made

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<v Speaker 2>you not want to go home? Was it the quietness

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<v Speaker 2>of your mind?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because I'd been super stressed in the lead up,

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<v Speaker 1>Like it couldn't have come at a more perfect time.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think you don't realize how stressed you are

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<v Speaker 1>or how much you need that until you know, either

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<v Speaker 1>you get sick or something happens with your body or

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<v Speaker 1>like and it's like, okay, you need to just stop.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I fully thought I would have even more

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<v Speaker 1>time to worry about my worries or to stress about

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<v Speaker 1>my stress. Yeah, I couldn't check the bank to see

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<v Speaker 1>if anyone had paid me, Like I couldn't, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like that was all great. It was almost light. You're

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<v Speaker 1>in your own little world and the outside world can't

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<v Speaker 1>get you, you know, so nothing that you're normally worried

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<v Speaker 1>about in your day to day life, even like, of

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<v Speaker 1>course I missed my kids, like I love my kids

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<v Speaker 1>despite what we talk about on this podcast, and of

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<v Speaker 1>course I missed them and I was excited to see them,

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<v Speaker 1>but I almost didn't want to go back out into

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<v Speaker 1>the real world again. I was like, this is so nice. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thinking about is me? Yeah for three days? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's.

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<v Speaker 2>The quietness of your mind. Obviously the stress that you

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<v Speaker 2>take on on a day to day basis in the

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<v Speaker 2>role of a mum that you do play, Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's also probably all the other practices that you did

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<v Speaker 2>during the day. So your meditation, your yoga, your larti

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<v Speaker 2>is your breath work. Then if you did any treatments

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<v Speaker 2>that would have helped you know, it's all a part

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<v Speaker 2>of the process.

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<v Speaker 1>And therapy, right, like I think it's good low health

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<v Speaker 1>therapy pulled my eyes out.

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<v Speaker 2>That's great.

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<v Speaker 1>I went in thinking that there was nothing really I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to talk about. Clearly there was there was a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>Ye see what I mean?

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<v Speaker 2>Though, there's how much we park all of that just

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<v Speaker 2>to carry on with the day to day happenings of

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<v Speaker 2>being a mum, you know, being a one, being a parent,

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<v Speaker 2>being a driver everywhere you stress driving because you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to get them to and from safely your work. On

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<v Speaker 2>top of that, imagine a day where you don't have

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<v Speaker 2>to think about like right now, you know what time

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<v Speaker 2>you need to pick your girls?

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<v Speaker 1>Up right, You know where they need to be after school.

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<v Speaker 1>You probably have an idea of what you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>do for dinner tonight. You know that they're going to

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<v Speaker 1>have homework and you're probably going to have to help.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what time bedtime is, and what a wrangle

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<v Speaker 1>that is of trying to get you know, all of

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<v Speaker 1>those things. Imagine not having to do any of those

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<v Speaker 1>for a day, and all you've got to think about

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<v Speaker 1>is whether you as you where you want to go

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<v Speaker 1>or how do you want to go for a walk?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want to go for a message like That's

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<v Speaker 1>all you got to think about. That's all the decision is.

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<v Speaker 1>The only stresses are deciding on whether you should take

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<v Speaker 1>your bathes down so you could have a swim in

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<v Speaker 1>the pool.

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<v Speaker 2>I think also, though, when you're on holidays and you're

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<v Speaker 2>not in let's just call it a bubble of Eden. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>even when you're on holidays, you tend to come back,

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<v Speaker 2>you look forward to coming home, but then you also

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<v Speaker 2>come home feeling like you need another rest, whereas you

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<v Speaker 2>have come off the back of the bubble of Eden,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you're probably feeling recharged, You're feeling relaxed, you're

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<v Speaker 2>feeling like all of your internal systems have had a rest. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because you've eaten food without all the other stuff that

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<v Speaker 2>comes with it. It's got no alcohol, no caffeine.

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<v Speaker 1>It's amazing thing. What you did amazing That first day

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<v Speaker 1>back at work after I got back, I wore active wearing.

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't better wear proper clothes and honestly, rach as

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<v Speaker 1>I drove out of Corumbu Valley and then I saw

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<v Speaker 1>my phone get reception again, I cried.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't want to look at where, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because I don't want to take on real life.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, notification about taking the girls. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>go to ice skating.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's almost Katie though, how do you apply

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<v Speaker 2>the feelings and the practices that you did have in

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<v Speaker 2>Eden into your normal day to day life. Not saying

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<v Speaker 2>you have to like flip your whole entire life, but like,

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<v Speaker 2>how do you apply some of the practices yeah, to

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<v Speaker 2>keep that and maintain that calmness within yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know One of the biggest takeaways, and this

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<v Speaker 1>is for any mum, right, is when we say we

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<v Speaker 1>don't have time. So I haven't meditated because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have time Oh, I haven't sat and just breathed on

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<v Speaker 1>my own because I don't have time.

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<v Speaker 2>Same with journaling.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we have to find time. We do have to

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<v Speaker 1>be going to make it. And even like meditation right,

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<v Speaker 1>which I thought, you know, meditation has to be in

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<v Speaker 1>a place where you can lay down and all the

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<v Speaker 1>rest of it where we know, bums, like, when are

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<v Speaker 1>we ever in a place where we can just sit

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<v Speaker 1>and lay down? Do it in your car? Yeah, do

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<v Speaker 1>it in your car. In the school pickup line, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, not whilst driving.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we're not actually saying that, but yeah, exactly what

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<v Speaker 2>I was going to say. Sit in your car, when

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<v Speaker 2>you're sitting in your car waiting for the kids, put

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<v Speaker 2>it on. Yeah two minutes. Yeah, start with two minutes

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<v Speaker 2>and then get to ten. You'll feel a hell of

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<v Speaker 2>a lot different.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk about what you're grateful for, write it down, write

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<v Speaker 1>it down, journ all the shit out of it. You

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<v Speaker 1>can be grateful for your kids and also think that

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<v Speaker 1>they're being absolute assholes at the same time. Yeah, that's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>That's fine with us. That's what we do.

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<v Speaker 1>So my biggest takeaway is, mums, we need to do

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<v Speaker 1>stuff for ourselves, and we also need to feel not

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<v Speaker 1>guilty about it and go offline, go off grid. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>how many times have you had a day out maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you know races for example, right where you're not with

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<v Speaker 1>your kids, but they're fucking texting you all day and

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<v Speaker 1>you have to get back to them. And then you

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<v Speaker 1>get a phone call because they can't find their shoes

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, yeah, yeah, I do know, and then

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<v Speaker 1>they want uber eats for lunch because they don't like

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<v Speaker 1>what you've left them.

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<v Speaker 2>Too bad or staff one or the other. So anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>investment in self is what we're trying to say. Invest

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<v Speaker 2>in yourself so that others also get the best version

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<v Speaker 2>of you, because if you do not invest in yourself, yep,

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<v Speaker 2>no one does it for you.

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<v Speaker 1>And spend the money on yourself. I heard something funny

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<v Speaker 1>recently where it was like, think about how many like

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<v Speaker 1>cute outfits that you buy your kids, or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the amount of money you spend on your kids and

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<v Speaker 1>what they need, and it's like you need a new bra.

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<v Speaker 2>Just a bar, You need a new bra or a

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<v Speaker 2>pair of nice knickers that might make you feel good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, or go away, infest honestly, go away.

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<v Speaker 2>Then just talking about everything that you've just done over

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<v Speaker 2>the weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, my weekend is absolutely not like that. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to know about you. Let's let's just park at that.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me stay in my mind full, peaceful self,