Speaker 1: I'm sure you notice if someone was like quite pregnant.
Speaker 2: I mean, i'd we get them a chair to sit
Speaker 2: down if they were standing there.
Speaker 1: That's nice, Like it looks like it would hurt. Does hurt? Honestly?
Speaker 1: Where's Your Head At? Is a podcast that talks all
Speaker 1: things right. There's a hold on a sec. Let's give
Speaker 1: this a refresh. Hi.
Speaker 2: I'm Anna and I'm Matt, and we are now too
Speaker 2: newlywed not to each other. Just a female and male
Speaker 2: best friend here for the good, the bad, and the
Speaker 2: ugly times.
Speaker 1: And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.
Speaker 2: And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.
Speaker 1: Come get the lowdown.
Speaker 2: This is your male and female perspective.
Speaker 1: So, Matt, where's your head at? Hello? How are you? Matt?
Speaker 2: I'm good, Anna, Welcome to the Gold Coast.
Speaker 1: I know I'm in the Gold Coast. We actually had
Speaker 1: a guest that was meant to be coming on in
Speaker 1: this spot. They cannot come. It was Jessica Power. Were
Speaker 1: going to say her name. Yeah, it's fine, Jessica Power.
Speaker 2: We'll get her on again.
Speaker 1: We will get her on again. We'll try to the
Speaker 1: next time. I'm in the Gold Coast. Or she's in
Speaker 1: Melbourne but her house just got broken into, so she's
Speaker 1: had to cancel last minute.
Speaker 2: We were saying that it's so wild that your house
Speaker 2: gets broken into on just a weekday at like two.
Speaker 1: Pm, in the middle of the day.
Speaker 2: And it happens. And I said that, as I said before,
Speaker 2: my sister in law's house got broken into and they
Speaker 2: stole all her husband's like photography equipment. Like literally you
Speaker 2: went up to put the kids to sleep, came down,
Speaker 2: then raided through. How scary is that.
Speaker 1: It's so violating just to have someone go through your possessions.
Speaker 1: And I feel like Matt is literally a hoarder, not
Speaker 1: a hoarder, but like, okay, I'm going to give an
Speaker 1: example for everyone. So when we record it in the
Speaker 1: Nova studios, you have to sign in and you have
Speaker 1: to take a photo, and they print out the photo
Speaker 1: on this little receipt and that's your sign in.
Speaker 2: And it's got your name and your yeah, and I
Speaker 2: take goofy photos.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And that's the type of person that is saving
Speaker 1: every single photo that he's every taken.
Speaker 2: They're sitting in my car in Melbourne, just all stacked
Speaker 2: up in the glove box there and I'm just like,
Speaker 2: you know, it might be one day I might be like,
Speaker 2: oh look at all these and might turn into some
Speaker 2: sort of ass you.
Speaker 1: Never know, like like you keep things that no one
Speaker 1: else would keep, Like I've benned every single one of mine.
Speaker 1: You've kept every single one of your.
Speaker 2: You know what I did say, I regret not keeping
Speaker 2: the other day. I fucking every time I do it
Speaker 2: now and I go there, it absolutely hurts me. I
Speaker 2: didn't keep all the movie tickets from when Tammy and
Speaker 2: Ip into the movies. We go to the movies sometimes
Speaker 2: literally being twice a day, we go weekly at best.
Speaker 1: What is what is the purpose? Like is it just
Speaker 1: for that one day of your life where you're going
Speaker 1: to go back and reminisce Wow?
Speaker 2: I did having to get some of your TikTok, and
Speaker 2: it was it was like these are priceless than anything.
Speaker 2: And it was like a girl emptied bag and it
Speaker 2: was all like different stuff like that her box sorry,
Speaker 2: and it was all like different stuff, like they had
Speaker 2: like movie tickets in there, like you know how she
Speaker 2: keeps all my love notes. Yes, but you could have
Speaker 2: had like all our tickets for every movie we're being too.
Speaker 2: I do it with the corks. I write the date
Speaker 2: on them and what they were for.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is just a PSA to any burglars.
Speaker 1: Don't rob matts. It's just priceless shit.
Speaker 2: Shit, you're not You're not gonna want There's no value
Speaker 2: to it.
Speaker 1: I mean if they took them from your.
Speaker 2: Oh, I would be fuman. So if you want to
Speaker 2: piss me off stealing.
Speaker 1: No one's going to take like five thousand photos of
Speaker 1: your face and nover checking in.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sure there's more stuff that you'd want
Speaker 2: to steal from my house. It's of price, like what.
Speaker 1: I can't say anyway. I am in gold Host It's
Speaker 1: really nice to be here. It's a lot warmer than Melbourne,
Speaker 1: which is beautiful. I'm literally here for the day. I
Speaker 1: fly in and out, flying in and out.
Speaker 2: Just a real business woman, go get her.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the baby, the baby was like kicking
Speaker 1: me like crazy on the fly. What are we doing? Mum?
Speaker 2: Really couldn't light the altitude?
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't think so.
Speaker 2: His ears were popping in the womb.
Speaker 1: Imagine if that's a thing.
Speaker 2: It could be, it could be who would know, who
Speaker 2: would remember.
Speaker 1: Who would report on it? Guys, this is going to
Speaker 1: be a really rogue episode.
Speaker 2: There's nothing planned.
Speaker 1: We wrote some notes, we have some things that we
Speaker 1: want to tell you, guys, but it's obviously we had
Speaker 1: a guess and it's a bit rogue. This morning, I
Speaker 1: literally was so lucky to get on my flight. So
Speaker 1: when to check in, flying Jester, I know immediately asking
Speaker 1: who I was flying with.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I fly obviously a lot. Everyone knows that I
Speaker 2: fly only with Virgin.
Speaker 1: I love Virgin.
Speaker 2: But anyway, well I get the philosophy points. I'm three
Speaker 2: points off platinum secured for another year. That just goes
Speaker 2: to show how much flying I do. I don't wanted
Speaker 2: to drop that in the metal. Well I hopefully they do.
Speaker 2: They send you a little metal. It actually says swear
Speaker 2: a backtack and it's Metrol.
Speaker 1: Now that is something you don't want to get wrong.
Speaker 1: That would really I didn't.
Speaker 2: Put They said you from for everyone you go, and
Speaker 2: it was the only one I considered putting on my bag.
Speaker 2: And I was like, nah, you should. I should brag
Speaker 2: about it.
Speaker 1: I mean, you brag about it anyway. She don't need
Speaker 1: any more reason to remind yourself.
Speaker 2: Yes, But what happened to your flight.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I basically got there an hour before it's domestic,
Speaker 1: went to check in and it was like, it's the
Speaker 1: flight's closed. You can't check in. So I go to
Speaker 1: the service desk.
Speaker 2: It shouldn't close. It shouldn't close closes when boarding starts.
Speaker 1: So what happened was when I got to the service desk,
Speaker 1: they were like, so we had a bigger plane and
Speaker 1: we're downgrading the bigger plane to a smaller plane. And
Speaker 1: then basically some people are getting kicked off the flight.
Speaker 1: The lady beside me, it was her, and to other people,
Speaker 1: they're like, you can have the last ticket to the
Speaker 1: flight that we've booked, and she was like, well, I've
Speaker 1: got to other people. We're not getting separated. And then
Speaker 1: they were like looked at me and they're like do
Speaker 1: you want it? And I was like yes, I'm in ant,
Speaker 1: like I'm flying in this morning out I got the
Speaker 1: last flight. So I'm here this morning thinking I'm the
Speaker 1: luckiest person. I'm like, I'm so lucky. Life is good.
Speaker 1: Four hour delay four hours and it wasn't even okay.
Speaker 1: If it was a four hour delay, I would be
Speaker 1: okay with it if they told me that, but they
Speaker 1: did it in thirty minute increments That kept going, so
Speaker 1: they'd be like, we'll let you know in thirty minutes,
Speaker 1: and then they another thirty minutes had passed and they're like,
Speaker 1: we'll let you know, but stay close by.
Speaker 2: I'm like a dude, I shit, you not, and I'm
Speaker 2: really I said this she on the phone. I said
Speaker 2: you on the phone. Last night, before I go to bed,
Speaker 2: I watch a sitcom everyone before I go to bed.
Speaker 2: I'm in the middle of thirty Rock at the moment.
Speaker 2: For people watching, it's a great show. Watch it the
Speaker 2: thirty Rock. Yeah. The main character, Tina Fey, is dating
Speaker 2: Matt Damon and he's a pilot and he's She's sitting
Speaker 2: on the plane on the tar mat and they keep
Speaker 2: saying half an hour, half an hour, and then she
Speaker 2: goes off and she goes, how long is it? And
Speaker 2: he goes half an hour. She goes, no, don't give
Speaker 2: me that, my boyfriend. He goes, let's a lingo for lingo,
Speaker 2: air lingo. Half an hour is not too long.
Speaker 1: Aviation lingo.
Speaker 2: That's the word, aviation lingo. It's not too long for
Speaker 2: people to get angry, but it's long enough for people
Speaker 2: to wait. So they always say half an hour.
Speaker 1: You could have told me last night.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I filmed that, put it up on the
Speaker 2: Facebook page. It's literally what he said, and you.
Speaker 1: Literally watched that last night. Yeah wow. I mean we
Speaker 1: got here in the end, I mean we have. Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: Jess has had her house broken into, so maybe it
Speaker 1: is a bit of an unlucky day. But who knows.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you who is lucky. People listening to this
Speaker 2: at home, so full of yourself.
Speaker 1: Anyway, I have something to thank you for because I
Speaker 1: don't know if I've spoken about this on the podcast before,
Speaker 1: but I'm like so scared of catching uber's by myself.
Speaker 1: I actually have been to therapy for it, which sounds wild.
Speaker 1: And I was hypnotized to be able to catch an
Speaker 1: uber basically. So it's like me in the car with
Speaker 1: like a random man, it's like terrifies me. I just
Speaker 1: feel very unsafe.
Speaker 2: I know a lot of women that have told me stories,
Speaker 2: even like on the weekend, having caught one, and just
Speaker 2: like the drivers are just some slazy sometimes.
Speaker 1: Some are most of them are lovely. Like It's like
Speaker 1: a couple of bad experiences can just like really trig you.
Speaker 1: But anyway, I obviously knew I was coming up here
Speaker 1: in all week I've been saying to Matt, pick me
Speaker 1: up from the airport, Kee, pick me up from the airport.
Speaker 1: You don't have the car today, but you did get
Speaker 1: an uber to the airport, So I would like to
Speaker 1: thank you and appreciate that. Okay, I do appreciate that
Speaker 1: a lot.
Speaker 2: I was a bit trying to get out of it
Speaker 2: a little bit here.
Speaker 1: And there, but I could tell you where. But I
Speaker 1: was like, please, you know how to ask you for
Speaker 1: a lot as a friend.
Speaker 2: I mean, I catch an uber to the airport pretty
Speaker 2: much every week, so I was but it was fine.
Speaker 2: I got there. Actually you got me a very nice civlak.
Speaker 2: Yet it was very nice. Thank you for that. Random
Speaker 2: it was I've walked past that place every every day
Speaker 2: and I've never really thought anything of it. But it
Speaker 2: was nice.
Speaker 1: That's good. That's good Valentine's Day. Let's talk about it.
Speaker 1: How is your Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2: It was great. So what we what Tammy and I
Speaker 2: did was we we went on a gondola ride, the
Speaker 2: Girl Coast gondoles that you recommended. That was really nice.
Speaker 1: I love those, so it's so romantic. And scenic. Yeah,
Speaker 1: how did you find the music?
Speaker 2: It's quite We called it bluetooth. So I did play
Speaker 2: a Frank Sinatra playlist. It was all lack songs like that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Tammy was showing me like her old house or she
Speaker 2: So they were going through the canals. Did you lean
Speaker 2: on one side too much? It's a yeah, not to
Speaker 2: tell you not to. Well, at one point we're making
Speaker 2: out and Tammy might have thrown a leg over me
Speaker 2: and it literally went like we were we had to
Speaker 2: fall back, so that idea went nowhere in fact that.
Speaker 1: Was imagined then did not make it out just the
Speaker 1: coo tumbles over. That would not be a good valance.
Speaker 2: So we did that. Then we went to a restaurant.
Speaker 2: I had my steak, and then we went up and
Speaker 2: stayed at the Imperial.
Speaker 1: Lovely.
Speaker 2: It was right because all.
Speaker 1: In the same Scendi Imperial. It's cool, it's old with
Speaker 1: Sachi hotel.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's still got all THEI suffering.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I do like it there, it's nice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was good, and then went what do we
Speaker 2: do on the weekend?
Speaker 1: There was your Valentine d First, My Valentine's Day was lovely,
Speaker 1: So we went to Cape Shanks right, yes, and it
Speaker 1: was actually so nice. We went to a winery as well.
Speaker 1: Obviously we Michael had one glass and I didn't drink.
Speaker 1: But it was like this fourteen course lunch. It was
Speaker 1: so beautiful and I feel bad saying this, but obviously
Speaker 1: there are many how many fourteen courses. It was a
Speaker 1: fourteen course lunch, so the first five were like little,
Speaker 1: you know, just like the bite sized pieces. But yeah,
Speaker 1: it was amazing. It was incredible, and they were.
Speaker 2: One of the rest of the ten courses.
Speaker 1: Then and then I'm not gonna take everyone through every course,
Speaker 1: but it was lovely and if you get the chance
Speaker 1: to go to Polperno Polperno Winery, definitely go. It was
Speaker 1: beautiful but it was a really nice cozy day inside. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it looked the rain was pouring down, and I was like,
Speaker 1: this is so romantic because obviously in Melbourne it's seemed
Speaker 1: so warm, so it was like the first like wintery
Speaker 1: kind of feel. But then I felt bad because I
Speaker 1: knew that fifteen minutes down the road you write a wedding,
Speaker 1: and I was.
Speaker 2: Like, we wereally around the corner.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we were fifteen minutes away from each other, which
Speaker 1: is hilarious. But yeah, I was like embracing the rain
Speaker 1: and loving it and then also simultaneously feeling really guilty
Speaker 1: because I knew that you write a wedding and someone's
Speaker 1: wedding was getting rained one.
Speaker 2: There were glimps the son, so we were lucky. There
Speaker 2: was like little bits of sun.
Speaker 1: It was up and down.
Speaker 2: It was up and up and down stair, but there
Speaker 2: was it was pouring down at some stages while we
Speaker 2: were waiting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, how was the walk down the aisle? Was that outside?
Speaker 2: That was outside? It was sunny for that bit, so
Speaker 2: we got a bit of Yeah, gotta be a something
Speaker 2: like maybe I think it was four o'clock or four
Speaker 2: thirty or something. It's like bang on. There was a
Speaker 2: bit of sun. And so they got everyone to the
Speaker 2: thing real quickly, to the altar aisle or whatever you
Speaker 2: call it, and they they did.
Speaker 1: It and then start raining on them, started.
Speaker 2: Pouring down when we had to do like the grooms
Speaker 2: and entry. Did you watch that video put it? I
Speaker 2: haven't seen it, and we have it with umbrellas clovered
Speaker 2: me straight in the face. Yeah, well it's a long day,
Speaker 2: you know, you're waiting around. It was a groomson that's
Speaker 2: the first time in a greensoon.
Speaker 1: How does it feel to be chosen to the chosen one?
Speaker 2: I mean, it's good. You get all the benefits. This
Speaker 2: is what my grooms and said. You get all the
Speaker 2: benefits of the groom, but no responsibility or nothing.
Speaker 1: You just can just have fun.
Speaker 2: You just have fun. Yes, that was good, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I about to be a bridesmaid next month.
Speaker 1: Who too, Maddie my friend it's her wedding. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: her wedding in March, so very soon. But I just
Speaker 1: feel so bad. And I don't know if it's my
Speaker 1: algorithm a the moment, but I am being like hit
Speaker 1: with how annoying it is when someone one of your
Speaker 1: bridesmaids is pregnant at your wedding. I don't know why.
Speaker 2: It's not spy in your phone, it's just watching you
Speaker 2: and knows everything.
Speaker 1: But I'm starting to feel really bad about it, and
Speaker 1: it has been a bit of a nightmare. Like she
Speaker 1: still doesn't have the bridesmaid's dresses. She's ordered them and
Speaker 1: they I think they're on their way. But obviously it's
Speaker 1: super hard for me because I'm fully growing now, like
Speaker 1: I have a big bump. Would you say big bump?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I said before when you held it for a photo.
Speaker 2: Don't worry, it's not gonna it's the baby's not going
Speaker 2: to fall out to fall out.
Speaker 1: I know it's so weird when you're pregnant. I feel
Speaker 1: like you hold the belly just to show that you're pregnant.
Speaker 1: But I think people can probably well, Like I don't
Speaker 1: need to hold it.
Speaker 2: Had two sublakies at lunch.
Speaker 1: I had ten, but no, in all seriousness, yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: excited to be a bridesmaid, but yeah, I'm just being
Speaker 1: hit with pregnant bridesmaid TikTok, and I'm feeling altered or
Speaker 1: I'll alter it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I find a lot of the bridesmaids stresses these days.
Speaker 2: This is a pure observation from just a guy. Yes,
Speaker 2: is they're just like those silky like that. Yeah, so
Speaker 2: that you could wear that pregnant. I don't know about
Speaker 2: j Justice bottom ship you can.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think the thing is And it's something that
Speaker 1: I didn't really think of. But I feel like directly
Speaker 1: under the boob line, my stomach starting to go out there,
Speaker 1: So everything needs to be like so loose, Like I
Speaker 1: thought that I could have a you know, it's straight
Speaker 1: at the bodice and then go out at the tummy.
Speaker 1: But no, like my tummy is taking up the whole
Speaker 1: torso area now.
Speaker 2: Because you're in the last trimester.
Speaker 1: I am officially in the last trying. I'm six months pregnant.
Speaker 1: You start popping soon, really, like I think I already have. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it doesn't look like you're popping. It's because I'm sitting
Speaker 1: down as well. I think you understanding it's a lot
Speaker 1: more prominent. Yeah, right, but it is funny. Like I
Speaker 1: actually haven't like really said this out loud, but I
Speaker 1: was thinking it the other day. I feel like men
Speaker 1: treat me so weirdly now, not you obviously, and not
Speaker 1: like Michael or people I know, like my dad or brother,
Speaker 1: but like men out and about like if Like the
Speaker 1: other day I was in calls and like this guy
Speaker 1: like he like looks at me in the eye, looks
Speaker 1: down at the bump and then gets People get like awkward,
Speaker 1: Like men get really awkward around me. I feel like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know if I'm just imagining it,
Speaker 1: but I feel like being pregnant, men feel uncomfortable around me.
Speaker 2: What did you do? You mean about the way awkwardly.
Speaker 1: It's not just one guy, but I noticed it specifically
Speaker 1: with him, and I'd already been thinking it, and then
Speaker 1: because he was so obviously awkward and uncomfortable around me,
Speaker 1: I was just thinking it, Like I think they just
Speaker 1: feel strange around a pregnant woman. I don't know if
Speaker 1: that's just how I don't notice.
Speaker 2: I don't notice how the women around me. To be fair,
Speaker 2: you're my wife.
Speaker 1: Like, if you saw a pregnant woman, yeah, you don't
Speaker 1: notice it. So it's a hard question to ask you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm sure you can notice if someone was like quite pregnant,
Speaker 1: if they were like popping, if they're like nine months.
Speaker 2: I'm picturing photos like my mom when she was like, no,
Speaker 2: I'm not pregnant with me, Like, yeah, i'd notice that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you're massive, you're popping like out here.
Speaker 1: Yeah. But then like you wouldn't feel uncomfortable around them.
Speaker 2: I mean, i'd probably get them a chair to sit
Speaker 2: down if they were standing there. That's nice, Like it
Speaker 2: looks like it would hurt.
Speaker 1: It does hurt, honestly, Sleeping is not. It Like even
Speaker 1: I have to sleep on the side, and obviously when
Speaker 1: I sleep on the side. There's space between where the
Speaker 1: bump is and the mattress. So it's like really uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: Anyway, were you not let oh, you have to sleep
Speaker 2: on yourself.
Speaker 1: I have pregnancy pillars, but it's just still not the best.
Speaker 2: Speaking of pain, I'm not compared to your pregnancy. I'm
Speaker 2: not trying to compare it. Before anyone dives down.
Speaker 1: My throat, go on, what pain are you in?
Speaker 2: That my cyst has flared up in my my wrist again.
Speaker 2: It's so sore. Years I was on the surgery list,
Speaker 2: the waiting list to get surgery.
Speaker 1: To get it removed.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's so so it's flared up for some reason.
Speaker 2: You know that the old theory was you boust it
Speaker 2: with the They used to bust it with the Bible.
Speaker 2: So I did the other day and it temporarily like Bible.
Speaker 2: I literally did it, and it temporarily felt better, but
Speaker 2: then it went back to hurting like it like you
Speaker 2: know when you ease, when you put pressure on something
Speaker 2: and it eases the pain, and it feels like almost
Speaker 2: not like euphoric, like it feels like oh.
Speaker 1: Yeeah, yeah, it's like the black of bean. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And like I was like that, and then it just
Speaker 2: went back to hurting.
Speaker 1: I actually did notice anything lunch. He's kept flicking it.
Speaker 1: It's like, what are you doing?
Speaker 2: Rest? Did I do it with the edge of my phone?
Speaker 2: Yet you were doing bolt it with the edge of
Speaker 2: my phone to try.
Speaker 1: We wouldn't do that, But I mean, that's just don't
Speaker 1: you have to listen to anything.
Speaker 2: I'm meant to be getting an MRI on Monday, a full
Speaker 2: body one. We're going to find there.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Let's hope that cists just as sist.
Speaker 1: Have you had it?
Speaker 2: Like, Yeah, it's in there, It's definitely there. It's definitely
Speaker 2: the ultra sound. Yeah, it looks like we yack.
Speaker 1: Okay, should we talk about maths? And then heads to
Speaker 1: a voicemail next on This Row episode of Where's Your
Speaker 1: Head at? Okay, Matt the number one question on everyone's lips.
Speaker 1: Have you been watching that?
Speaker 2: Negative?
Speaker 1: No, you've watched some of it.
Speaker 2: I've watched Oh, yeah, watched some of it. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 2: not watching it religiously. I'm not up to date. We
Speaker 2: stucked on the new season of Love Is Blind the
Speaker 2: other day. You've been watching that?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: No, it's background. You put maths instead, But I feel
Speaker 2: like I want to watch.
Speaker 1: Math, you want to watch watch it. Yeah, there's been
Speaker 1: a couple of interesting things that I want to chat
Speaker 1: briefly about when it comes to Math. We had the
Speaker 1: dinner party last night. The first thing is Jackie, one
Speaker 1: of the contestants. Do you know.
Speaker 2: Jackie show me photos?
Speaker 1: The one who they say will give me and just
Speaker 1: the one who they call like crazy eyes. She self
Speaker 1: proclaimed it. Her partner said it yea, you know the
Speaker 1: one yep. So she was doing some serious gas lighting
Speaker 1: on not only her partner but also the cast.
Speaker 2: She went for everyone.
Speaker 1: Well, she was just flat out lying. And I think, like,
Speaker 1: it's interesting when someone's a gas lighter and then they
Speaker 1: go on a show like Maths, because there's a part
Speaker 1: of me that's thinking, like, are you stupid? You're on camera?
Speaker 1: If you're flat out lying, all they're going to do
Speaker 1: is replay the clip, the reality of the clip, right,
Speaker 1: They're going to play what actually happened, So you can't
Speaker 1: gaslight do.
Speaker 2: You remember it?
Speaker 1: Like a lie?
Speaker 2: And I was getting roll it.
Speaker 1: I swear to god, it's pretty brazen of people to
Speaker 1: gaslight when you're on TV like you have been recorded.
Speaker 2: But I genuinely believe those people believe that that's what
Speaker 2: they did.
Speaker 1: Sure can't. It's not the truth. It's just a habit
Speaker 1: that they're so used to doing. But it's like she's
Speaker 1: not smart enough to not lie, or she thinks that
Speaker 1: someone can't be bothered to go back and look at
Speaker 1: the table.
Speaker 2: It's a production to do that.
Speaker 1: They will find that tape, don't worry about it. And
Speaker 1: it's funny because she's like a lawyer. She's self proclaimed,
Speaker 1: she's very well educated.
Speaker 2: Apparently it's a lawyer.
Speaker 1: She's apparently a lawyer. Yeah, she's you know, always reading
Speaker 1: self help and like her partner And anyway, I just
Speaker 1: thought it was interesting and I think it's a good
Speaker 1: conversation if you have watched that episode to have and
Speaker 1: just to really see gas lighting unfold and to see
Speaker 1: it for what it is and to see how easily
Speaker 1: someone can lie. And then with her partner, he's sitting
Speaker 1: there going am I going crazy? Am I losing it?
Speaker 1: Like I don't know what's happening, And it's just in
Speaker 1: real time to see it's crazy. So anyway, I've.
Speaker 2: Been with people that gaslight Yeah, oh fucking wire.
Speaker 1: It's so frustrating.
Speaker 2: I got told something though. If you are getting gas
Speaker 2: led by someone or you feel like you are, is
Speaker 2: just state facts to him.
Speaker 1: State the facts.
Speaker 2: State the facts. The fact is that this happened, and
Speaker 2: this happened, and then they can't argue that because you
Speaker 2: know in your mind that's a fact. So you say
Speaker 2: it out aut it and you talent, and if they
Speaker 2: can argue with that, you're like, no, that's the fact
Speaker 2: of what happened. You can't change that.
Speaker 1: People were telling her the facts and she's like, that
Speaker 1: didn't happen. The other thing I wanted to talk about
Speaker 1: Remaths was that they've brought back Elliott, the crazy, nasty, narcissistic,
Speaker 1: annoying groom who reminds me of an ex boyfriend that
Speaker 1: I once had. Literally looks exactly like him every time
Speaker 1: of the TV comes on and he's on the screen
Speaker 1: and my eyes like twitching.
Speaker 2: You tell the one that he was like I need
Speaker 2: this girl and she's not like this, I walk away. Yes,
Speaker 2: I'll see. The biggest red flag about him, and I
Speaker 2: pointed this out to Tammy, was he only had two
Speaker 2: people sitting on his side at the wedding well.
Speaker 3: In the.
Speaker 1: Second wedding, he had zeros.
Speaker 2: That is that is a red flag and that is
Speaker 2: a nasty I've ever seen one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think the thing is so the producers have
Speaker 1: brought back him and also his now ex wife. The
Speaker 1: annoying thing to me is that I personally don't think
Speaker 1: that he deserves a second chance at finding love.
Speaker 2: He walked.
Speaker 1: There was definitely other people like Katie who we would
Speaker 1: have loved to see, you have.
Speaker 2: A second happened to him and what happened to her?
Speaker 1: Katie and him, they're just off the show, but Elliott
Speaker 1: and Lauren. So Lauren and Elliott both got a second chance.
Speaker 1: The most annoying thing about them coming back is the
Speaker 1: producers have done exactly what Elliot has said should have happened.
Speaker 1: So Lauren was like, oh, you want a younger wife
Speaker 1: than me. Essentially, so the producers have literally just given
Speaker 1: him a younger wife. And Elliot said that Lauren should
Speaker 1: have an older husband, and that's exactly what the producers
Speaker 1: had given Did.
Speaker 2: She want an older husband or was that his opinion?
Speaker 1: Well that was his opinion, but she was like open
Speaker 1: to whatever. Wasn't he the same anxious Yeah, but he
Speaker 1: was like wanting someone in her twenties. The new wife
Speaker 1: isn't even in her twenties, but still like it's just
Speaker 1: annoying because it's like they've done exactly what he wanted
Speaker 1: and it's like he doesn't even deserve that.
Speaker 2: But he was getting in argument with everyone, wasn't hearty.
Speaker 2: I saw that when flicked on.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you have much.
Speaker 2: On I turned on channel nine and you know on nine. Now, sorry,
Speaker 2: I know how it's sometimes playing something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, people were calling him out and rightly so he
Speaker 1: just takes no accountability. Nothing bugs me more than people
Speaker 1: who just have no accountability.
Speaker 2: It's like the mass producers find these people and go,
Speaker 2: you're going to make to a TV like the and
Speaker 2: they put them all in this show on that night.
Speaker 1: I think it's time to go to a voicemail.
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, So we have a hot line hi and
Speaker 3: a mab so I have both kind of a hotline,
Speaker 3: and am I be outshole for you both? So my
Speaker 3: situation is that my sister's pregnant and I'm just not
Speaker 3: sure how supportive I can be.
Speaker 2: I'll give you a bit of backstory.
Speaker 3: So she's twenty three and she told me and my
Speaker 3: mum last night that she's pregnant, which is great news
Speaker 3: for any family. She's always wanted to have kids and
Speaker 3: she's always been good with them, but her actions lately
Speaker 3: have kind of made me question how ready she is.
Speaker 3: If you're my honest opinion, I Joe, she's ready in
Speaker 3: any sense mentally, physically, emotionally, she's just a hot mess.
Speaker 3: She'd off fine from her hospitality job last month, and
Speaker 3: I'll give into the reasons later, but should frequently be
Speaker 3: told off the swearing at customers, vapor limit kitchen and
Speaker 3: missile it shifts. Without knowing this, I asked her she
Speaker 3: was ready to quit vaping, and she said, ooh, not really,
Speaker 3: but I'm sure I'll get there eventually, And personally, I
Speaker 3: feel like that shouldn't be a we'll see how we
Speaker 3: go situation. It should be a I'm going to quit
Speaker 3: for the sake of my child type of deal. But
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess she's working her way there, which
Speaker 3: is better than nothing. But even like when my mum
Speaker 3: got pregnant with the both of us, she was smoking,
Speaker 3: but as soon as she found her she was pregnant,
Speaker 3: she quit cold tarking. And now lastly, the reason why
Speaker 3: she was fired this is a big part. We have
Speaker 3: no idea who the father is. She won't tell us
Speaker 3: and I'm still trying to get the answers from her.
Speaker 3: But I've heard from several sources that she was fired
Speaker 3: for an affair with her head chef. He there's a
Speaker 3: wife and four kids already. Both Mum and I have
Speaker 3: their idea that the baby is his, and I'm terrified
Speaker 3: for that situation to unravel as well. So ultimately I
Speaker 3: feel really stuck. I want to be supportive. I don't
Speaker 3: really think she's ready yet, and the fact that my
Speaker 3: niece or nephew could be born an affair really just
Speaker 3: our taste in my mouth, and I don't want them
Speaker 3: to be brought up in a really hostile environment. So
Speaker 3: how what do I do?
Speaker 1: That is really hard?
Speaker 2: What do you reckon?
Speaker 1: It just is like such a complex situation.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think about it all.
Speaker 1: So that's her brother, Yes, okay, right, There's so much
Speaker 1: to unpack here. I don't even know where to start,
Speaker 1: especially because I am pregnant. I have a lot of thoughts.
Speaker 2: So have you haven't baked, drunk or taken eaten anything.
Speaker 2: There's a list of stuff that I don't even know
Speaker 2: you guys can't eat when you're pregnant.
Speaker 1: You guys people.
Speaker 2: Women? Yeah, yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1: Oh so good.
Speaker 2: There's a list of that stuff, like you can't eat,
Speaker 2: I don't realize.
Speaker 1: When you're pregnant, but it's so funny. You just do
Speaker 1: it because like you care so much and love your baby.
Speaker 1: You just it's not even a second thought.
Speaker 2: I've seen people pregnant and they've already like drinks and that,
Speaker 2: and I've felt uncomfortable. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Lie,
Speaker 2: it makes me feelunmfors You don't need to have a
Speaker 2: drink when you're pregnant, And who am I to judge that?
Speaker 2: Who am I to say that I'm not pregnant, But
Speaker 2: like I just feel like it's nine months.
Speaker 1: Just just suck it up. Just yeah, Look, if someone
Speaker 1: wants to have one drink, sure, I personally don't feel
Speaker 1: comfortable even to have one drink. I think anything more
Speaker 1: than one drink, I think it's getting a bit hairy.
Speaker 1: And I think you really need to really think about
Speaker 1: that and think about the consequences, because there is consequences
Speaker 1: for your baby. Okay, so let's talk about the vaping.
Speaker 1: I think.
Speaker 2: I actually find vaping disgusting, Like every time I've had
Speaker 2: a drag of one, like I just I don't get it.
Speaker 2: I don't get it, Like it makes me feel that
Speaker 2: lightheaded and sick.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a bit icky. And I think like being
Speaker 1: pregnant and vaping is a different level. And I think,
Speaker 1: you know, I think probably her brother could step in
Speaker 1: and say, hey, I really want to help you stop
Speaker 1: vaping because it could affect your unborn child. I think
Speaker 1: that's a really fair thing to say.
Speaker 2: I think from a family member that is a supportive way. Yeah,
Speaker 2: in an attacking way, like don't attack her for doing it, yeah,
Speaker 2: and judge her and make her feel bad, because then
Speaker 2: she's going to get on the defense. Just you know,
Speaker 2: talk us through it in a supportive way and say, look,
Speaker 2: let's help.
Speaker 1: I think if you're pregnant and you are smoking or drinking,
Speaker 1: I think that a family member or close friend have
Speaker 1: the right to pull you aside and just say, hey, like,
Speaker 1: what's going on. Do you think that potentially you could
Speaker 1: stop this?
Speaker 2: Or if they go to a sushi train in order
Speaker 2: to shimi.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's like a lesser version of smoking and drinking.
Speaker 1: I think, like a.
Speaker 2: Little bit of I told the other day and I
Speaker 2: thought it was wild.
Speaker 1: Well, you can't. Yeah, I can't eat sashimi. I do
Speaker 1: miss it a lot, but I miss Pate more a
Speaker 1: pathe it's like the better version of Pate.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do love that.
Speaker 1: It's so good. I think that he should always support
Speaker 1: his sister. I think family you always need to be
Speaker 1: there for your family. But I think that you can
Speaker 1: have really constructive conversations with family members where you're not
Speaker 1: always agreeing with everything that they're doing.
Speaker 2: It's just about going about it the right way, like
Speaker 2: I said before, and because I feel like they might
Speaker 2: get defensive and then nothing And.
Speaker 1: She sounds young, like she's in her party phase kind
Speaker 1: of vibe. Let's talk about the affair, because I like,
Speaker 1: it's so much to unpack.
Speaker 2: That's just so that he's he.
Speaker 1: He feels uncomfortable about, fels like it is the head chef.
Speaker 1: He feels like it is the head chef's baby. I
Speaker 1: think at the end of the day, a baby is
Speaker 1: a blessing.
Speaker 2: And doesn't matter where the baby matter.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it doesn't matter who the father is, Like if
Speaker 1: the father isn't going to be in the life, like
Speaker 1: obviously it's not ideal if this guy, the dad is
Speaker 1: married with his own family and it could cause huge
Speaker 1: disruptions and huge conflict. But in the same breath, he
Speaker 1: can still be supportive of her, supportive of his nephew.
Speaker 1: Do you tell I still love them? Because it doesn't
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter like where they came. Like you know
Speaker 1: what I'm trying to say. It doesn't matter how or
Speaker 1: why or when. Like babies are a blessing and that's that.
Speaker 2: Do you reckon? She tells the guy that she's having
Speaker 2: a bit, Well, I guess she got fired, so you
Speaker 2: won't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe that's why she got.
Speaker 2: Chef, he said, chef. He has that control.
Speaker 1: She leaves on me. Oh, it's so hard. What would
Speaker 1: you do if your sister was vay being pregnant.
Speaker 2: I will tell her like, yeah, come on, you think,
Speaker 2: think about somebody else here. It's not about you. It's
Speaker 2: more than you, and there's a child there. Yeah, But
Speaker 2: like I said, you can't judge her or like, yeah,
Speaker 2: attack her for it like it's her body, Like it's
Speaker 2: her body, it's her body. But like you can just
Speaker 2: give her the facts and.
Speaker 1: You can help educate.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah about the side effects that could happen.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I feel very connected to the baby, my baby,
Speaker 1: but maybe she doesn't feel that connected, so maybe it's
Speaker 1: time to like get her into meeting some more mums
Speaker 1: or mums to be. And I don't know, it's really
Speaker 1: it's a shitty situation.
Speaker 2: Like you said, you feel connected, you're in with the man,
Speaker 2: you're married and you're in love with and you're in
Speaker 2: the right time of your life for once, So maybe.
Speaker 1: That's it's a different situation.
Speaker 2: It's a different situation.
Speaker 1: Okay, Matt, that was an intense point. Sorry, this episode
Speaker 1: was a little bit road guys, but it's actually been
Speaker 1: a lot of fun. And I am now gonna head
Speaker 1: back to the airport. Are you going to come with you?
Speaker 2: What are you doing till for the next six hours?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm going to try and get on
Speaker 1: an earlier flight, but I think I'm going to head
Speaker 1: back to the airport if you want to come.
Speaker 2: Hang, I've hung out. Airport's way too much for an hour, sure,
Speaker 2: but we can't even get in the lounge. Can't get
Speaker 2: in the lounge. I don't have a boarding pass. My
Speaker 2: boarding pass tomorrow is from Brisbane.
Speaker 1: Such a lounge nub. Guys, I can't even describe it
Speaker 1: to you. Okay, I think it's home for us to
Speaker 1: wrap up. Lovely to see you. Nice to be in
Speaker 1: your now hometown of the coast.
Speaker 2: Welcome a little bit longer here, thank you.
Speaker 1: Might catch some sun rays before I go back to
Speaker 1: cold Melbourne. Until next time, Bye bye,