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Speaker 1: I'm not an expert, but it's programmed that people do

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Speaker 1: appoint tiff has been doing that. What is your update

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Speaker 1: before we get underway with our topic, dujeu.

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Speaker 2: When I recently spoke at an event, I was talking

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Speaker 2: So when it comes to seventy five hard in terms

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Speaker 2: good habits. It got me into a just a nice

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Speaker 2: It's cost me a fortune because now I've gone and

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Speaker 2: bought you know, I bought three kilos of ceremonial grade cackau.

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Speaker 1: I bought three, kid, hang on, let me just wheel

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Speaker 1: that term out. Let me think about that ceremonial grade cocw.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that sounds like a fucking scam right there, I know,

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Speaker 1: Well, then are you not just replacing one kind of

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Speaker 2: It's actually Wittkers, not cabridges, the little wittkers, because they're

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Speaker 1: Intentional living is a lifestyle philosophy where individuals make conscious,

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Speaker 1: the end of the day and I looked at my

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Speaker 1: steps and they were like fuck all, I just wanted

431
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Speaker 1: to and I just went, I can't do that few

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Speaker 1: steps and I just went outside and I late at

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Speaker 1: night I did, you know, I can't remember how many,

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Speaker 1: but it was. It wasn't a million, but it was

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Speaker 1: like four or five thousand additional steps on top just

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Speaker 1: because And whenever I do the thing that I don't

437
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Speaker 1: want to do, but I feel, you know, I have

438
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Speaker 1: this awareness that I'm actually doing something good for my

439
00:27:23,920 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: own resilience and my own kind of development, but there's

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Speaker 1: a jaw. And I mean, we're talking about little silly things,

441
00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 1: but these little silly things add up. It's like, every

442
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Speaker 1: time I walk a flight of stairs here at home,

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Speaker 1: it's contributing to the forty flights a day that I walk,

444
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Speaker 1: and you go forty flights a day time seven days

445
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: is two hundred and eighty flights of stairs that I

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Speaker 1: incidentally walk. And I'm always grateful that I have a

447
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 1: two story house. I'm like, because it's actually better for

448
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 1: my health because I'm doing this thing which is just

449
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:04,680
Speaker 1: a byproduct of living in this environment. And I can't

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Speaker 1: get up here because I can't fly, so I've got

451
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Speaker 1: to use the fucking stairs, you know. So I'll finish

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Speaker 1: these off. So I'll just recap. Am I intentional with one?

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Speaker 1: My lifestyle, my relationships, career, self improvement, skill development? This

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Speaker 1: one is really important? Am I? Am I intentional with

455
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: the optimization of my potential? When I ask one hundred

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Speaker 1: people in a room, how many of you think that

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00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 1: you've absolutely maxed your potential? Nobody puts up their hand

458
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 1: when I say how many of you? Feel like and

459
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: this is not self loathing, but in some ways you

460
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 1: have or are, and maybe not globally, perhaps an area

461
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 1: of your life, but you're wasting potential and every hand

462
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 1: goes hut. And so you know, the question is not

463
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Speaker 1: you know, why do I have these genetics? But rather

464
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Speaker 1: how do I optimize these genetics? Like how do I

465
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Speaker 1: get the most out of what I have? How do

466
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Speaker 1: I get the most out of my fourteen hundred and

467
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:13,960
Speaker 1: forty minutes? How do I get the most out of

468
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 1: this brain that I have? So my IQ is, let's

469
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Speaker 1: wheel in a number. In fact, let's not because I

470
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 1: hate those fucking classifications, but your your intelligence, your intellect

471
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Speaker 1: that you were born with, Your creativity, your default creativity

472
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Speaker 1: that you were born with, is trainable.

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Speaker 2: Right.

474
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Speaker 1: You can improve your creative skills, you can improve your

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Speaker 1: cognitive skills. You can get more out of the brain

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Speaker 1: that you have, You can get more out of the

477
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Speaker 1: body that you have, get you can become you know,

478
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Speaker 1: as a podcaster from episode one of the You Project

479
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Speaker 1: to whatever number this is, I'm better. I'm better, And

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00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 1: I'm not better because I've got more talent or I've

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00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 1: got more potent. I'm better because I use the talent

482
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: and use the potential and I develop skill and all

483
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Speaker 1: of us can do that no matter what our starting

484
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Speaker 1: point is, number whatever, we're up to third last one.

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Speaker 1: Am I intentional with the way that I use my time?

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Speaker 1: Am I intentionally optimizing time management? And I would say

487
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Speaker 1: none of us are like not, Well, that's not true.

488
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 1: I'm sure someone is, you know. And this comes down

489
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Speaker 1: to good busy and bad busy. You know, the busy

490
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Speaker 1: badge of which we speak often. Yep, we're all busy, yep.

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Speaker 1: But are you busy productive and effective? Or are you

492
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Speaker 1: just busy, ineffective, unproductive, spinning the wheels, fucking stagnating, same place.

493
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Speaker 1: You've been busy for the last six months, but you

494
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Speaker 1: look up and you're still in the place that you

495
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: don't want to be. In fact, you haven't moved because

496
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 1: you're busy, but you're not strategic. You're busy, but you're

497
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 1: not productive. You're busy, but you're not effective. So how

498
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 1: do we optimize our time and become more effective with like?

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00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 1: And that goes back to energy. What is the optimal

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Speaker 1: use of my energy in conjunction with the time that

501
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Speaker 1: I have available to me? So the energy management and

502
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 1: the time management. Energy is not an unlimited resource. Time

503
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 1: is not an unlimited resource and every single day. Tip

504
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Speaker 1: I hate to tell you this, but the most time

505
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Speaker 1: that you will ever have in your life moving forward

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00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:46,520
Speaker 1: is this moment. As I say these words, You're never

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Speaker 1: going to have any more hours left in your life

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Speaker 1: than you do in this moment. The clock's counting down.

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Speaker 1: And that's the same for all of us. That's not morbid,

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00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 1: that's life. And then the last one, which I spoke

511
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Speaker 1: about already is and I am I intentional with my

512
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:06,760
Speaker 1: spiritual journey. I think I'd banged on for a long time.

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Speaker 1: There any thoughts, any additions? Co host?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, do you know what? It's really relevant to

515
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 2: how I've been feeling. So it was really nice to

516
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 2: sit back and just digest that as you were talking

517
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Speaker 2: about it, because I just feel like this year, probably

518
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 2: prompted by my energetic state, it's brought along, brought along

519
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 2: a lot of opportunity to reflect. I was going to

520
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 2: ask you how long do you sit and this might

521
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,240
Speaker 2: be a meeting, but how long do you sit in

522
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 2: a place of observation before you decide which trigger to

523
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Speaker 2: pull on your hypothesis of being more intentional? Because I

524
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Speaker 2: don't think I was just gonna say, I find I

525
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Speaker 2: always talk about that history of me being such a

526
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 2: great storyteller, like my reasons, my perception of why I

527
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 2: did things when I was younger was a very strong,

528
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 2: feel good story. So I know that my reasoning can

529
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 2: land in that space before it lands in the space

530
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Speaker 2: that's maybe going to actually push me in the right direction.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, So I think it depends on how big

532
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Speaker 1: the light bulb is for me. If it's like a, yeah,

533
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 1: I should do that, but that's not like a nine

534
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 1: or an eight priority, it's like a it's a three

535
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 1: out of ten awareness that I should do that, but

536
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 1: at the moment, other things need to have my attention

537
00:33:33,320 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: and time. It depends a little bit. I'll give you

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00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 1: an example of something that I became aware of. So

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00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 1: one of the things that I do is I have

540
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,840
Speaker 1: a lot of ideas that I say, like I do

541
00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: do a lot of stuff, you know, like I am

542
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 1: actually quite productive, but there are other things that I

543
00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 1: say that I'm going to do that I don't do

544
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,920
Speaker 1: or I don't do them in the time. And so

545
00:34:00,480 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 1: this is something that I've had an awareness about and

546
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 1: I'm doing. So I spoke to Melissa not yesterday the

547
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 1: day before about a program, a video program. I think,

548
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:16,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've spoken to you about this,

549
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:21,799
Speaker 1: but I'm designing a video program which will be a

550
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 1: product and it'll be on the site and all of

551
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 1: that and people can buy it. But it's going to

552
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 1: be essentially be one hundred give or take one hundred

553
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 1: short videos about ten eight, ten fifteen minutes that people

554
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 1: can watch and rewatch take notes, So a combination of teaching, lecturing, inspiration, education,

555
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 1: information that people can watch and rewatch take notes, answer

556
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: questions and so on. So it's, you know, kind of

557
00:34:50,120 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 1: almost school, but with me up the front, which is

558
00:34:54,239 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 1: fucking mayhem, of course. So my plan was, I said

559
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 1: to Melissa, I'm going to spend all of October like planning, planning,

560
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 1: what are the areas I'm going to talk about, like

561
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 1: the broad topics and then the specific topics under each

562
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:14,920
Speaker 1: kind of banner, and then I'm going to get clarity

563
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 1: around each of the you know, one hundred or so videos,

564
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 1: and then in November I'm going to record on average

565
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,600
Speaker 1: three or four a day and get them all recorded

566
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:30,960
Speaker 1: in November, right, and then the amc C thing the

567
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:34,800
Speaker 1: fucking kicked in, you know, the anterior mid singulate cortex,

568
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 1: the you know, the just do it. And I finished

569
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 1: talking to Melissa, and then I went, I'm going to

570
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 1: I got off the phone, and then I started planning

571
00:35:45,400 --> 00:35:47,000
Speaker 1: because I was going to do all the planning in

572
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: October and then the execution pulled the trigger and do

573
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:53,319
Speaker 1: all the filming in November. She would edit it as

574
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Speaker 1: we went and we'd hopefully launch it in December as

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00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 1: a program that people and get involved in. Right, And

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00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 1: then I went, why am I It's like, well, two

577
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 1: days ago it was the tenth of September, I'm like,

578
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,400
Speaker 1: what am I going to do for the rest of September?

579
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:14,720
Speaker 1: I'm just going to sit on the edge of my seat,

580
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: swinging my legs, waiting for October to one. October one

581
00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:22,720
Speaker 1: to come. So I've already started. So I've got about

582
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 1: probably six seven pages, you know, just on a word document,

583
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:30,920
Speaker 1: but probably I don't know, two three four thousand words

584
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 1: in already just and I'm so glad I started because

585
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:38,160
Speaker 1: I've got momentum now and I've got more clarity now,

586
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 1: and i know that I'm going to be way ahead

587
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 1: of schedule, so I may or may not, but worst

588
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:47,080
Speaker 1: case scenario I'm going to start filming in December November,

589
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 1: but I think I'll actually start filming in the next

590
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,479
Speaker 1: couple of weeks because we also need to figure out

591
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Speaker 1: how am I going to film it so that you know,

592
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: it's not going to be Hollywood production, but it's got

593
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 1: to be you know, good video, good audio, and it's

594
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,439
Speaker 1: got to be something that you know, so apart from

595
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:07,360
Speaker 1: the content being good, you know all this, all the

596
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: kind of look, feel, function, vibe, you know all that.

597
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 1: And so I don't know why I was telling you that,

598
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 1: but yeah, one of my things is either do it

599
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,040
Speaker 1: or say you're going to do it, then do it,

600
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:25,120
Speaker 1: or don't say you're going to do it, like it,

601
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:26,799
Speaker 1: just put it on the shelf and say I may

602
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 1: get to that one day, but not now, because I

603
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 1: do have a history of saying I would do shit

604
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,839
Speaker 1: that I don't do. Although I think I'm probably more

605
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:40,440
Speaker 1: productive than the average person because I do follow through

606
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 1: a lot, I have done a lot of shit, but yeah,

607
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 1: that yeah, And also another thing for me is I've

608
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 1: probably been bad at times at prioritizing because like I

609
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 1: had a phone call from a big company yesterday. I'll

610
00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 1: tell you off air, I think I've told you already,

611
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:01,359
Speaker 1: But anyway, they want me to consults on this thing

612
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: which is new and exciting and interesting, and I really

613
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 1: don't have time. And they're like, would you be I

614
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: go yes, I would would you be interested? I'm like, yep,

615
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:16,439
Speaker 1: really I should go no. But anyway, I'll figure it out.

616
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Speaker 2: What what's the common thing that when you've but well,

617
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Speaker 2: I guess even with even with that, it's relevant with

618
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 2: what drove you to say yes, what's behind that? But

619
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Speaker 2: also in these moments where you've sat and made a

620
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 2: shift to be more in purpose and on purpose? Has

621
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:41,440
Speaker 2: it been a recurring theme that is underlying the drive

622
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 2: and the not being on purpose for.

623
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Speaker 1: You a little bit? I think, yeah, that's a really

624
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 1: good question. I think that, And I'm sorry for the

625
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 1: people who have heard this too many times, but because

626
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:02,240
Speaker 1: you know, when I was young, I didn't. I wasn't

627
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 1: particularly and I'm still not. But it's not like, oh, Craig,

628
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,320
Speaker 1: you were futs at you, Wow you are a great

629
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 1: athlet or are your amazing academic, or you know you

630
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 1: had this incredible gift to do that. I didn't have

631
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: any of that. Probably my best gift was communication, Like

632
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:22,480
Speaker 1: if that's a gift. Like I could always string a

633
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,800
Speaker 1: few words together, and you know, if I'm being honest,

634
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:29,319
Speaker 1: bullshit my way in and out of stuff, right and

635
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 1: often bullship my way into trouble. But I think because

636
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 1: I realized young that if I wanted to have an

637
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 1: extraordinary life, and I don't mean in comparison to anyone,

638
00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:46,759
Speaker 1: but you know, to live a good life, to to

639
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,200
Speaker 1: do to have a life that I loved, To have

640
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:52,360
Speaker 1: a career that I loved, to have relationships that were

641
00:39:52,960 --> 00:39:55,799
Speaker 1: you know, better than average, and by that I mean

642
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:59,760
Speaker 1: for the most part healthy, to build a lifestyle and habits,

643
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:04,760
Speaker 1: and you know, then had to be really intentional about

644
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: that because nothing, you know, nothing, While I didn't have

645
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 1: a hard life, there's no sob story, but like I

646
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:16,880
Speaker 1: never just landed on my feet. You know how people

647
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: go they get discovered or something. Well, I was never

648
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,320
Speaker 1: going to get discovered because there's fucking nothing to discover,

649
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: you know. And it's like, you know, it's like I

650
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: would have been waiting for opportunity to knock for fucking

651
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,800
Speaker 1: sixty years, but that motherfucker's not coming to the door.

652
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 1: So you go, oh, well, I should create opportunities because

653
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:41,160
Speaker 1: that's another option. So rather than someone waiting for me,

654
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:45,319
Speaker 1: or sorry, waiting for someone to recognize how awesome I am,

655
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: which is ridiculous, I will make decisions, do work, and

656
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 1: I will create opportunities, and I will fail and I

657
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 1: will win, and I will fall down and I will

658
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 1: get up and I will figure out how to build

659
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 1: whatever it is that I want to. I'll figure out

660
00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 1: how to get in shape. I'll figure out how to

661
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:06,280
Speaker 1: run a company. I'll figure out how to do a podcast.

662
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: I'll figure out how to write, write a book or five,

663
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,239
Speaker 1: you know, I'll figure I'll figure out how to do

664
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 1: radio with no radio training. I'll figure out how to

665
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:20,839
Speaker 1: write for a newspaper with fucking no journalism experience. Like

666
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: all the shit that I've done, and I'm not bragging

667
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,359
Speaker 1: here because for everything that I did well, I did

668
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 1: twenty unwell, Like twenty wins I had, you know, for

669
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:33,759
Speaker 1: every one win, I had twenty failures. And so but

670
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 1: all of the fun things that I have done are

671
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 1: a byproduct of all of the unfun things, the unfun

672
00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: things I did along the way to get there. It's

673
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:50,239
Speaker 1: like that Jimmy Carr quote. Everyone's jealous of what you've

674
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:54,839
Speaker 1: got but nobody's jealous of how you got it right.

675
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:56,759
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying people are jealous of me, they're not.

676
00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 1: But it's like everyone wants to be at the top

677
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 1: of the mountain, but nobody wants to do the fucking climb. Well,

678
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:05,880
Speaker 1: the climb is the best bit, like even when it

679
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:08,240
Speaker 1: doesn't feel like it, Like, the climb is the growth

680
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: and the joy and the learning and the revelation and

681
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 1: the resilience, all the awesome shit. None of the awesome

682
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:16,960
Speaker 1: shit comes at the top of the mountain because the

683
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 1: only way you can go when you're at the top

684
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 1: of the mountain, baby.

685
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 2: Is down in the mountain.

686
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 1: You've got to keep as sending fuck getting to the top,

687
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 1: just keep growing, learning, evolving, because how many people have

688
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:31,080
Speaker 1: you worked with and I work with where they achieve

689
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 1: what they set out to and they go and now

690
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: I'm fulfilled? No one, how many people of you and

691
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:39,680
Speaker 1: I helped get in shape and they go, right, this

692
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:43,240
Speaker 1: is me Now I don't want to change anymore. Oh look, awesome,

693
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,840
Speaker 1: I'm so happy. I'm so content or my food issues

694
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 1: are gone, my body dysmorphia has disappeared. I'm at the

695
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 1: perfect weight, the perfect body composition. I'm happy now it

696
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 1: doesn't happen. It doesn't happen. So now that's not to

697
00:42:58,640 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 1: say what you should be on at your journey of

698
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:04,080
Speaker 1: changing our body. It's just that we when you kind

699
00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: of deconstruct the idea of arriving, you go, actually, we're

700
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:16,239
Speaker 1: always on the journey. Always, even if we do get

701
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:20,040
Speaker 1: to a destination, we're not fucking stopping, you know. So

702
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 1: that's for me, that's the joy.

703
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:26,280
Speaker 2: I'm thinking deep about the purpose thing, and I'm thinking

704
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 2: about how how it's tied, how deeply it's tied into

705
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 2: our identity, and how deeply our perception of purposes driven

706
00:43:37,920 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 2: by that hard shit that keeps us stuck. And I

707
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 2: guess so if I give an example, one of the

708
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 2: things that's always been excuse me, in the back of

709
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 2: my mind around building my own business and doing all

710
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 2: this great stuff was the idea of Okay, like, I

711
00:43:54,200 --> 00:43:57,840
Speaker 2: know I'm helping people. I know I'm making I'm giving

712
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:01,560
Speaker 2: people resources that are hell right, So that's that's great.

713
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 2: But sometimes I go, but I'm not helping. What am

714
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 2: I helping for? Nothing? Like, what's a bigger purpose? Where

715
00:44:10,680 --> 00:44:14,239
Speaker 2: am I really? Where's the big cause? The big, overarching

716
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 2: what does Roll with the Punches and Tiffany Hooks stand for?

717
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 2: That matters, that's not commercial, and I don't. I always

718
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 2: feel like i'ven't landed on that. And then I think

719
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:28,280
Speaker 2: about how busy I make myself and how I self

720
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:30,879
Speaker 2: sabotage that never so I look at how hard I work,

721
00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 2: and how I never feel like I actually get any

722
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:37,920
Speaker 2: closer to any of that hard work coming to real fruition.

723
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 2: But then I wrote down, before this idea around, I've

724
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 2: always had this deep sense of no one is looking

725
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 2: after me. I'm the only one, and so I have

726
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:49,319
Speaker 2: to look after me because there's no one else. But

727
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 2: I create that because I pushed them away because I'm

728
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 2: scared of connection and I don't trust anybody. I don't

729
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 2: trust anybody in my personal life or my professional life.

730
00:44:57,920 --> 00:45:02,279
Speaker 2: So it's the yearning to want to be something and

731
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:07,400
Speaker 2: provide something to others. But I'm encasing myself in providing

732
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 2: to me and creating this bullshit story or living or

733
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:14,440
Speaker 2: being captivated by it that I kind of know is there.

734
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 2: I guess that was kind of what drew me too,

735
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 2: that question of you of how long do you sit

736
00:45:19,640 --> 00:45:21,919
Speaker 2: in a space of observation before you figure out how

737
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:23,120
Speaker 2: the fuck do I break this?

738
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 1: Well, I mean you do have that big fuck off

739
00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: sign on your forehead, right, you do do that? Right?

740
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 2: Well.

741
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 1: The one reason that like, I'm going to be blunt

742
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 1: and honest, and some people might recoil with what I'm

743
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 1: about to say, right, this is just true. Fuck it.

744
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: One of the reasons that you trust me and you're

745
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 1: comfortable with me is because I'm not a man that's

746
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: trying to get in your pants. I'm not a man

747
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 1: that wants something from you other than friendship and camaraderie.

748
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:55,360
Speaker 2: Right, And.

749
00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:02,319
Speaker 1: I think that that, you know, because you've had understandably

750
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: you've had shit experiences and you know, and some men

751
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 1: have been pricks and but but all of that, all

752
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 1: of the stuff that you've been through, right, But you know,

753
00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 1: we can't go through life trusting no one, you know.

754
00:46:18,280 --> 00:46:22,239
Speaker 1: And it's at some stage, like you know this is

755
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:25,239
Speaker 1: ironic coming from me, I guess, But you know, it's

756
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,560
Speaker 1: like there are lots of people that I love and

757
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 1: I'm vulnerable with people because I do I open the

758
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 1: door to people and I care about people, and it

759
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 1: might not be in a romantic or sexual relationship. Or whatever.

760
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 1: But I you know, I care about people and trusting.

761
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 1: You know, I've I've had and I won't bore you

762
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:48,320
Speaker 1: with it. I've spoken about, but I've had people very

763
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:50,840
Speaker 1: close to me who have ripped me off, stolen money

764
00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 1: from me, fucked me over in business, people that I

765
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 1: loved and I was very close to, and you know,

766
00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 1: and it's okay, it's like that happens that. But at

767
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:05,319
Speaker 1: the same time, I think back to your question of

768
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:07,800
Speaker 1: what's the thing that I'm doing that I'm just doing

769
00:47:07,880 --> 00:47:11,759
Speaker 1: with no commercial or selfish interest. And I think the

770
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 1: skill that you have, which is to coach, which is

771
00:47:14,280 --> 00:47:18,319
Speaker 1: to inspire and educate people, is you know, do that

772
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:23,840
Speaker 1: for someone for nothing or like I'm you know, I

773
00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:26,719
Speaker 1: help quite a few people and I'm not looking for accolades,

774
00:47:27,880 --> 00:47:29,759
Speaker 1: and you know, you know the stuff that I do

775
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 1: where there's it's just stuff that I do because I

776
00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:34,839
Speaker 1: think that's the right thing to do and that's part

777
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,840
Speaker 1: of a bigger purpose, you know. But I think also

778
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:43,319
Speaker 1: you need to well, okay, I'll keep going. You need

779
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:48,520
Speaker 1: to proactively think about how can I serve, Like, what's

780
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 1: a way that I can serve people that where there

781
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 1: isn't anything in it for me, but I'm doing something

782
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 1: good for one person or two people or the community.

783
00:47:59,880 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 1: I think I told you about this, Oh yeah, I did.

784
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:07,000
Speaker 1: Like I was talking about how I miss training groups

785
00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,120
Speaker 1: of people, right because I used to do that for

786
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:12,839
Speaker 1: a very long time. I train heaps people outdoors, and

787
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 1: you know, I regularly would have one hundred people in

788
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 1: a group. And I recently spoke to I think I

789
00:48:21,120 --> 00:48:25,920
Speaker 1: told you about the Base Side Council. So I had

790
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 1: an idea, and I don't know where this will go,

791
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 1: but my idea was, what if I just do something

792
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:36,560
Speaker 1: for the community where I just whether it's once or

793
00:48:36,600 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 1: twice a week, whoever wants to come. There's no cost. No,

794
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 1: we're not fucking selling anything. At the end, there's no or.

795
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 1: We're going to get them in. We're going to We're

796
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:47,880
Speaker 1: going to low ball and offer them. We're going to

797
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:49,640
Speaker 1: get them in. Then at the end we're going to

798
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:54,919
Speaker 1: upset like there's nothing. There's literally no sales pitch ever. Right.

799
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: So I rang my friend who until recently was the

800
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:03,320
Speaker 1: mayor of the base Id Council, Hannah, and I asked him, anyway,

801
00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 1: the not very quick version of this is next Monday,

802
00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:10,080
Speaker 1: So we're recording This Thursday. I've got a meeting with

803
00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:14,359
Speaker 1: three people from the council, from three different departments to

804
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:20,919
Speaker 1: talk about what we might do. That is me collaborating

805
00:49:20,960 --> 00:49:24,160
Speaker 1: with the counsel and then with me and I would

806
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 1: and if if possible, I'm going to involve you, if

807
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:31,840
Speaker 1: you want to be involved, I'm going to involve other people,

808
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:35,480
Speaker 1: fitness professionals, health professionals, and nobody's going to make a

809
00:49:35,520 --> 00:49:40,239
Speaker 1: fucking scent, right, We're just going to do something good.

810
00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 1: And I don't know what that's going to look like.

811
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:45,000
Speaker 1: I need to spend some time on the weekend planning

812
00:49:45,400 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 1: because they want me to come to him with something

813
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:51,359
Speaker 1: of a proposal. But I don't know what the fuck

814
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:53,439
Speaker 1: that's going to look like yet. But I just think, look,

815
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 1: I imagine if you know, like a friend of mine, Robin,

816
00:49:56,760 --> 00:50:00,720
Speaker 1: who runs a beautiful, beautiful not for profit called Strength

817
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 1: over Cancer right, and I helped her name that, in

818
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:09,680
Speaker 1: fact I came up with the name. But she's done

819
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:13,480
Speaker 1: like it's she does all this fucking incredible work with

820
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: cancer patients, people going through chemo, people on the cancer journey,

821
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:23,319
Speaker 1: and there's this whole network of trainers and EPs and

822
00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:27,880
Speaker 1: fitness people around Australia that donate their time and skill

823
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 1: to train people who are going through this really hard.

824
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:35,719
Speaker 1: I fucking love that, right. Imagine if just all of

825
00:50:35,800 --> 00:50:40,040
Speaker 1: us people who had, you know, like something to offer,

826
00:50:40,480 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: Like all right, I'm going to give the world two

827
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:46,319
Speaker 1: hours of me a week. Hey, world, here's me two

828
00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:50,359
Speaker 1: hours every week? Ah what's that? One hundred and four

829
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 1: hours a year? Yep? Who's in? How can I help you?

830
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:56,399
Speaker 1: How can I serve you? What can I do for you?

831
00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 1: I don't want a Christmas card, I don't need a

832
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:01,480
Speaker 1: fucking bottle of booze for my birthday. I don't need

833
00:51:01,520 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 1: any backslaps. It's just like, let me help you, because

834
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 1: you need help, that's the reason, you know. So for me,

835
00:51:09,280 --> 00:51:13,400
Speaker 1: I think there are always ways to create connection with

836
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 1: people who need some love, some attention, some kindness and

837
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 1: also very timely that we are recording this on are

838
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 1: You Okay? Day?

839
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:24,440
Speaker 2: You know.

840
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 1: I actually put out a thing on LinkedIn just before,

841
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 1: like sharing the love, and I almost didn't put it

842
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,880
Speaker 1: up because I thought, oh fuck do I put this

843
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:38,680
Speaker 1: on LinkedIn? It's not a very LinkedIn kind of vibe.

844
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,520
Speaker 1: And then I thought, well fuck it. Everyone on LinkedIn.

845
00:51:41,640 --> 00:51:47,160
Speaker 1: Nearly everyone is a human, so fuck it, here we go.

846
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:51,160
Speaker 1: You're all humans. Here's some love. And I know there's

847
00:51:51,160 --> 00:51:54,360
Speaker 1: nothing you know, there's no strategy or there's no business

848
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 1: value in this, but fuck it, here's a cuddle. Here's

849
00:51:57,040 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 1: a cyber cuddle from Harps. I just think that there

850
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:03,840
Speaker 1: might be you know, And as I said to you,

851
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 1: I know I'm over talking. I'm aware of that in

852
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 1: the moment. As I said to you the other day,

853
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:13,560
Speaker 1: at my event in Melbourne, while I love you know,

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Speaker 1: most of the majority of my listeners and the majority

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Speaker 1: of my followers and friends and attendees women female. We

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Speaker 1: had a disproportionate number of blokes. So we normally have

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Speaker 1: ten percent blokes. If that, it was probably thirty, which

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Speaker 1: is fucking amazing. And the amount of dudes that came

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Speaker 1: up to me and gave me a hug and were

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Speaker 1: just like there was just this genuine love and connection.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, it's so good. Let's get through the bullshit.

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Speaker 1: Let's get through the fucking alpha male bravado bullshit, because

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Speaker 1: we're all a bit fucked, we're all a bit sad,

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Speaker 1: we're all a bit unsure, we're all a bit uncertain,

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Speaker 1: we're all a bit anxious. Let's cut through the embarrassment

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Speaker 1: and the ego around it, and let's just fucking lean

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Speaker 1: in and let's just love people like let's just do that.

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Speaker 1: And I know that right now, in a world that's

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Speaker 1: full of so much fucking division and fish shaking and

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Speaker 1: anger and bullshit, I get it. But the only person

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Speaker 1: that I can control or want to control, is me.

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Speaker 1: So every day I just get choosed. I get the

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Speaker 1: opportunity to operate in love. So that's what I'm doing.

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Speaker 1: That's me. I'm a soapbox. I just dropped the mic.

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Speaker 2: Fuck it, I love it. I love it.

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Speaker 1: We do what we can. I'm just hey, I'll see

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Speaker 1: you at the gym at three o'clock. It's one forty one.

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Speaker 1: I'm just going to get my leotard off the clothesline

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Speaker 1: and it's a.

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Speaker 2: Big long neon socks again, they look great, Yep.

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Speaker 1: I'll wear the leg warmers. I'll get my rebox. I'll

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Speaker 1: get my nine eighty four rebox out of the fucking

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Speaker 1: cobwebs and some spandex, a boobtube, a headband, imagine me

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Speaker 1: and a boo tube in a headband.

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Speaker 2: Buck.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, Let's tell you what nobody's concentrating now.

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Speaker 1: Somebody just spat out their breakfast, all right, Thanks Tiff,

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Speaker 1: Thanks everyone, Thanks apps,