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Speaker 2: Welcome to our Bestie segment, My girl, this is the

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to our best Advice.

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Speaker 2: We got Ashley and Tianhi your favorite hosts. We have

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Speaker 2: a career dilemma on our hands today from an anonymous missioner.

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Speaker 2: So ashy, one of you got friends.

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Speaker 1: Alrighty, let's go. For the past fourteen years, I've been

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Speaker 1: deeply committed to the same company. I've always been a

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Speaker 1: people focused leader. I'm naturally social and genuinely passionate about

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Speaker 1: my work. For most of that time, I thrived building

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Speaker 1: relationships with clients, supporting staff, and developing a strong personal

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Speaker 1: and professional brand in the market. But the last few

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Speaker 1: years have been very difficult. A company wide restructure, which

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Speaker 1: I am normally a part of as GM, has left

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Speaker 1: me sidelined. While two of my male peers now lead

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Speaker 1: the national operational team, my role has been redirected to

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Speaker 1: focus primarily on new business and marketing efforts. On the surface,

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Speaker 1: it looks like a strategic choice I endorsed me. In reality,

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Speaker 1: I had little influence. The results have been painful to watch.

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Speaker 1: Customers I've nurtured for a decade are unhappy. The brand

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Speaker 1: I worked so hard to build is deteriorating, and talented

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Speaker 1: staff are leaving. My peers are arrogant, their teams are

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Speaker 1: prioritize over mine, and decisions consistently exclude or undervalue my contributions.

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Speaker 1: Their roles are feeled before mine, their voices heard before mine,

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Speaker 1: and the imbalance is impossible to ignore. Despite this, I

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Speaker 1: stay Eight years ago after my ex husband's infidelity, I

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Speaker 1: endured trauma around financial independence. It embedded a fear in

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Speaker 1: me that without my own income, I could be vulnerable. Today,

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Speaker 1: I'm in a much healthier place. I have a wonderful husband,

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Speaker 1: to beautiful daughters, and a strong sense of self. Yet

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Speaker 1: that fear lingers. It stops me from resigning, even when

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Speaker 1: I know my instincts are clear. I should no longer

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Speaker 1: give my best to a company that refuses to respect

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Speaker 1: or value me equally. I was raised to work, to

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Speaker 1: own my own money and to never be dependent. That

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Speaker 1: drive has served me well, but it also keeps me

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Speaker 1: pretty stuck. I don't want to stop working, but I

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Speaker 1: feel paralyzed at the thought of leaving. Without a safety net,

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Speaker 1: whether that's another role I love or my own business

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Speaker 1: built from scratch. My dilemma is this, how do I

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Speaker 1: honor my gut instinct and move on from a company

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Speaker 1: that has stripped me of respect while also honoring the

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Speaker 1: part of me that still clings to the financial independency

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Speaker 1: of my career with courage rather than fear.

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Speaker 2: Help.

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Speaker 1: It's a big one. Now, you just gotta leave. I

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Speaker 1: know it sounds easier than done, but you've answered your

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Speaker 1: own question and this have you've literally said how happy

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Speaker 1: you are? You don't feel respect, you don't feel value,

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Speaker 1: you don't feel heard. If you have a sense of

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Speaker 1: self and self worth, you're out of there. You do

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Speaker 1: not deserve to be treated like that, and you are

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Speaker 1: more than capable. You have so much evidence to go

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Speaker 1: and do this, plus the support of your beautiful husband.

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Speaker 1: I think this is one of those situations like feel

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Speaker 1: the fear and do it anyway. Yes, you've got two

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Speaker 1: hard situations. Choose your hard, yes you, and to continue

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Speaker 1: living this hard that's making you absolutely fucking miserable. Or

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Speaker 1: choose a hard that could open up so many more

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Speaker 1: doors and let actually like spread your wings and fly

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Speaker 1: be free. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, it's so true what you just said. You said,

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Speaker 2: here's my dilemma, Like, how do I follow my intuition?

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Speaker 1: You make a choice?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, following your intuition leaving the company. Both choices that

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Speaker 2: you have to make. Both sides of the coin are scary.

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Speaker 2: You make the leap scary, you stay also scary.

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Speaker 1: Yes, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: But it's like you have to feel willing to cling

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Speaker 2: feel because you know it will be better for you. Like, yes,

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Speaker 2: you may not know all of the steps. You don't

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Speaker 2: And honestly, the best decisions I've ever made have been

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Speaker 2: where I jumped, where I left mine own to five

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Speaker 2: in business. But that's how you learn, that's how you grow.

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Speaker 2: And if you know that you're on fulfilled in this area,

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Speaker 2: you've already answered your own question, like what actually said,

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Speaker 2: you know, you know, you've just got to be willing

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Speaker 2: to build the business from scratch. The business is going

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Speaker 2: to take time. Go get a temp job. Just think

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Speaker 2: about it as a stepping stone. Think about it as

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Speaker 2: a stepping stone. If you leave this job, now get

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Speaker 2: one that doesn't take as much mental time and capacity,

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Speaker 2: but you still get the same equal pay. That'll give

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Speaker 2: you your safety neck back. And then if you want

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Speaker 2: to go build your own business, you can do that

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Speaker 1: There are so many.

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Speaker 2: Options for you. There really is so many options. You

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Speaker 2: just have to be willing to be courageous.

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Speaker 1: That's it, definitely, and we've done it many times. Even

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Speaker 1: you know what too. I think the universe is giving

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Speaker 1: you so many signs and signals and whispers that this

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Speaker 1: isn't right. Few if you don't listen, the universe will

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Speaker 1: make you listen. I can only speak from experience from

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Speaker 1: last year when I was diagnosed with my brain aneurysm.

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Speaker 1: I remember, like months leading up to that, I was

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Speaker 1: crying to Steve on the couch, just random tied during

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Speaker 1: just not happy, Like I don't feel excited to get

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Speaker 1: grateful to have my own active war label, like girl's

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Speaker 1: dream of this. I dropped of this, so I'd like

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Speaker 1: convinced myself out of it, and oh, it's just a

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Speaker 1: the CT scan, You've got a brain aneurysm. And I

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Speaker 1: the universe was like literally shaking me, saying, you have

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Speaker 1: choicey eight you're not happy, What the fuck are you doing?

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Speaker 1: I'm going to force you to slow down and actually

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Speaker 1: reevaluate everything. And I did in that I reckon twenty

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Speaker 1: over to Levi, which I had spent fifteen years building

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Speaker 1: and podcasting, they're not a lot of money in it, Like,

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Speaker 1: obviously you can grow it and it takes a long time,

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Speaker 1: but to leap from what I had to wanting to

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Speaker 1: go full time into podcasts, it's a huge jump. Yes,

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Speaker 1: that's not a safety net. It's like you're going to

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Speaker 1: to really start from the bottom up. But I just knew.

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Speaker 1: I knew that I had to take that plunge because

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Speaker 1: I just wasn't happy and you were clearly not happy

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Speaker 1: where you are, So like you have evidence you're more

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Speaker 2: You got a jump, and you know what the cool

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Speaker 2: thing to pay attention to with this is you're still

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Speaker 2: going to feel like this in three months time. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you're still going to feel like this in six months time.

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Speaker 2: And something that I think of all the time is like,

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Speaker 2: and something that I live by is just rip the

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Speaker 2: bandit off. Yeah, whatever it is that you want, if

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Speaker 2: it's something that you need to stop doing, something you

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Speaker 2: want to start doing, rip the fucking bandit off. Don't

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Speaker 2: wait until New Year's don't wait until your birthday, don't

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Speaker 2: wait until Monday. Like, just cut the bullshit with yourself

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Speaker 2: in the most love way and honor yourself in what

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Speaker 2: you know you need to do right now, because your

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Speaker 2: intuition knows and you know it's there too. And the

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Speaker 2: way that you strengthen your intuition is by listening to

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Speaker 2: it and acting on the pools that it tells you.

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Speaker 2: That's how you get stronger in doing that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, And otherwise your body's going to tell you.

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Speaker 1: Otherwise you'll get sick, you get tired, you get exhausted,

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Speaker 1: you'll be burnt out, you'll feel so un happy and

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Speaker 1: be like, oh my gosh, I don't know why.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know why, and you know it in three

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Speaker 2: gonna be like, well, thank god, oh my.

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Speaker 1: God, yeah you will. You'll look back in hinds I'd

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Speaker 1: be like, gosh, I should have done that a year earlier.

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Speaker 1: Don't be in the same position you aren't this time

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, there's something you don't like in your life. You

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Speaker 2: have the choice to change it.

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Speaker 1: Yes, love that. We hope that helps give us an update.

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Speaker 1: Send us a message when you have quizz Please, I

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Speaker 1: want to I want to hear it. I expect it

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Speaker 1: in at least two weeks time.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, this is your accountability.

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Speaker 1: You're sliding into adding m Please, girls, I'm that girl

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