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Speaker 1: This is the Fitsy and with Kate Richie podcast. Get involved.

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Speaker 2: Guys, if your parenting style is to lie to your

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Speaker 2: children to get them to do things that you want them.

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Speaker 3: Is that a style or is that just being a parent? O.

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Speaker 1: Look, I don't think every parent does it.

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Speaker 3: Some people don't lie. I've heard about those families with

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Speaker 3: the parents have made the commitment to each other as

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Speaker 3: parents that we simply will not lie.

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Speaker 2: So when a child asks anything, regardless of what it is,

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Speaker 2: and I won't talk about the thing that I'm talking

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Speaker 2: about in my head.

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Speaker 3: There's a few things throughout the year, let just.

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Speaker 1: Be very honest about it. Well I don't.

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Speaker 2: Agree with neither do I. I actually don't agree with that,

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Speaker 2: But I don't mind this story. I think you may

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Speaker 2: have done it in your house. We don't know about you, FITZI.

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Speaker 2: It comes from the UK and it's about a footballer.

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Speaker 2: And now that I'm playing for the men I Hawks

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Speaker 2: on Saturday, every story I bring to the show now

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Speaker 2: will be somehow related to football. There's a guy that

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Speaker 2: plays for Carlile United. He and his wife lovely Abbey.

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Speaker 2: They have two children who are five and three, and

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Speaker 2: he's a lot I would imagine traveling.

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Speaker 1: With the team.

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Speaker 2: And so as far as their birthdays go, they have

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Speaker 2: decided very early on in the kids' lifespan that they're

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Speaker 2: not going to celebrate the kids' birthdays on the day

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Speaker 2: that the children were born.

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Speaker 1: They will just pick a.

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Speaker 2: Date throughout the year that suits them in the calendar

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Speaker 2: and say it's your birthday on Saturday. And because daddy's home,

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Speaker 2: no one is that. The kids are none the wiser,

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Speaker 2: but it does mean that the family can be together

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Speaker 2: to celebrate and they're not calling dad on the show.

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Speaker 4: So does it change every year they pick it early?

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Speaker 1: Well, it changes.

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing the football schedule changes when they put out

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Speaker 2: the whatever it is they put out the schedule.

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Speaker 4: But if they want to, if they want the kids

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Speaker 4: to play footy, this is the thing.

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Speaker 3: What under are they in?

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Speaker 4: What what's your actual birthday?

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Speaker 1: Well that's exactly right.

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Speaker 2: There is going to be a moment, like with any lie,

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Speaker 2: that it comes undone and people are going to start asking,

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Speaker 2: you know, what do you start?

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Speaker 1: It's your star sign.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you can't go from being a cancer to

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Speaker 2: a LEO in a year and have people think that

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Speaker 2: you're saying but.

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Speaker 3: A little bit awkward too when you organize a birthday

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Speaker 3: party for your kid one year in February and the

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Speaker 3: next year you do it in September.

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Speaker 2: Exactly, And you have a pool party one year and

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Speaker 2: the next year you're off to the smell.

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Speaker 3: Birthday was in February. Oh, we just sit down and

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Speaker 3: make it up each year, depending on what fits into

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Speaker 2: Maybe when they're younger. It's it does It's harmless, isn't it.

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Speaker 2: And I think the parents say that they haven't come

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Speaker 2: up against too much backlash because they're actually doing it

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Speaker 2: so that the kids can have the family together, and

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Speaker 2: they see that can also be the desirable outcome for

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Speaker 2: a birthday.

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Speaker 3: We had a bit of an issue last night, and

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Speaker 3: I'm not going to go into details, but I just

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Speaker 3: wanted to throw a bit of a message out there

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Speaker 3: for parents. We all need to be on board with

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Speaker 3: the consistency of laying of lying or or the world

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Speaker 3: that we live in and the fantasies that can be

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Speaker 3: created at certain views of the year, because some kids

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Speaker 3: go to school and say, well, my parents told my

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Speaker 3: mum told me this, and then obviously that can spread

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Speaker 3: and then questions are asked very nervous. I am nervous

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Speaker 4: You finally invited over the biological father of the kids.

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Speaker 1: She's great, Yeah, this is the thing.

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Speaker 2: They thought it was better for the family, but eventually

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Speaker 2: the kids are going to find out.

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Speaker 3: Name was Gary was a taxi driver. He was on

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Speaker 2: You've done it for the birthday, though, haven't you what.

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Speaker 3: Lied about the birthday?

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Speaker 2: Have you lied about the birthday or just put the

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Speaker 2: party at another time of year.

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Speaker 3: Jack's party is still coming. I mean his birthday was

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Speaker 3: in June, but we're organizing that soon. Yeah, because it's

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Speaker 3: turned into a little bit of we've got to do

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Speaker 2: I think some of the lies are funny, where you say,

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Speaker 2: if you pick your nose.

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Speaker 1: Your finger will fall off.

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Speaker 2: We had an uncle Maury, who had half a finger,

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Speaker 2: and I don't know his lies changed because sometimes he

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Speaker 2: lost his finger because he picked his nose and he

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Speaker 2: got it right up to the knuckle. And then the

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Speaker 2: other story was that the tiger over the side fence

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Speaker 2: bit it off, right, So.

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Speaker 1: So double life, Yeah, pick a lie.

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Speaker 3: Stacking lies.

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Speaker 4: The big one that Met Fitzgerald did to Holly and

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Speaker 4: I for years was we had a local water park

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Speaker 4: water slide park.

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Speaker 3: It was called Splash Down.

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Speaker 4: It only had two slides, the Screamer and the Orbiter.

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Speaker 4: A right, but Dad convinced us that this is.

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Speaker 3: Wet and wild.

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Speaker 1: That you're going to wet and what because wild? Reason

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Speaker 1: was it wild? It was so it was lying.

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Speaker 4: You could see that everyone knew that wett and wild

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Speaker 4: was on the Gold Coast. But Dad convinced us that

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Speaker 4: every week you are so lucky as kids that you

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Speaker 4: get to go to wet and wild.

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Speaker 3: Right. But then I would go to school and.

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Speaker 4: Go, yeah, we went wet wild again on the weekend,

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Speaker 4: and kids would go, how do you afford going up

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Speaker 1: Stop lying?

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Speaker 3: What about when you did lie? My dad would say

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Speaker 3: I know you're lying, and threatened on your forehead and

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Speaker 3: I'd run off to the bathroom to see in the

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Speaker 3: mirror is it written on my forehead? And I do

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Speaker 3: that now with my kids At DMB, he was alive.

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Speaker 2: Let's go to Stephen ridle me, Steve, are you lying

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Speaker 2: to your children?

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Speaker 5: Does it work about certain things? Kate, I would say, yes,

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Speaker 5: they do believe it at a certain age. I've got

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Speaker 5: a couple of stories. One was my sister in law.

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Speaker 5: She would tell her kids that chocolate soft drink chips

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Speaker 5: would be so bad to you that your teeth would

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Speaker 5: fall out, so her kids would never ever have any,

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Speaker 5: and if they went to parties, they would always decline

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Speaker 1: Kids were crazyety attack.

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Speaker 5: Also, when I used to play football, I would get

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Speaker 3: Oh, Steve, that is funny.

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Speaker 1: And guys, you don't want to go there, Yeah, that'll

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Speaker 1: end up backfiring. What about Margaret in Penris? Good morning, Margaret?

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Speaker 1: What do you tell the kids? Good morning?

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Speaker 5: When our children were little, we told them that when

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Speaker 5: they were born, the police came and took their fingerprints,

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Speaker 5: so if they ever did anything wrong, so this would

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Speaker 5: come to our house.

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Speaker 6: Hello.

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Speaker 3: How good is that is? So? I was telling the stories.

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Speaker 1: It's so, I mean, but it's funny.

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Speaker 3: I had one where the police were actually coming and

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Speaker 3: I knew they were about half half an hour away, Margaret,

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Speaker 3: So I said to the kids, if you don't behave

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Speaker 3: The police are going to come. They're going to march

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Speaker 3: When they actually arrived, they just stood still, mouths open,

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Speaker 3: didn't move for arrest them. Go get them guys, Boys

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Speaker 3: and Blue, take them away.

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't advise it. Guys Jessica in Marsden Park, good morning.

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Speaker 2: Are your lies working.

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Speaker 1: Well so far?

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Speaker 5: We'll wait and see you in a couple of years.

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Speaker 5: But we ourlly is that you get tummy aches and

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Speaker 5: you start vomiting if you have too much birthday cake.

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Speaker 3: Yep, Well they can happen, can happen? You sort of?

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Speaker 4: You sort of want your kids to get crookoff lollies

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Speaker 4: at some stage, don't you, Because I mean I remember

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Speaker 4: eating the Australian equivalent of oreos. Do you know what

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Speaker 4: they were called, the Delta creams?

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Speaker 3: To remember Delta creams?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I knocked off a whole packet of Delta creames.

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Speaker 4: Have not been able to touch one since.

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Speaker 3: Is that interesting? Like when I did fourteen mars Bars

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Speaker 3: that this was.

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Speaker 1: Did you really little mini ones or they weren't no foes?

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Speaker 4: It was only a year ago as well, which was quite.

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Speaker 2: Good morning, Kim in box hell, what lie do you

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Speaker 2: tell your kids?

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Speaker 5: I used to tell them that the remote, the alarm

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Speaker 5: when it was red.

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Speaker 3: So misbehavior.

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Speaker 2: It is so scary though, doesn't it make you like

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Speaker 2: hyper vigilant?

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Speaker 1: And oh my god, the little red light comes on?

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Speaker 1: NaN's what?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, Jess, thank you Jess in Penrith. What's

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Speaker 4: the lie that you've been telling your kids, Jess?

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Speaker 5: I was telling my daughter that when she lies, her

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Speaker 5: nose close red, so I should cover her, not be

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Speaker 5: like my nose throwing red.

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Speaker 7: And then she was.

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Speaker 2: Ready, Actually very cute.

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Speaker 1: I hope you write those things down.

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Speaker 4: It's not bad. That is not bad, because then they

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Speaker 2: See some young people though, do or even adults do.

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Speaker 2: When they lie, they go in red. You know those

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Speaker 2: people that get that rationals. Thank you covering I like

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Speaker 2: my jumper. Adam in Avalon, Good morning, Adam, Good morning Kate,

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Speaker 2: and how are we going?

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Speaker 1: Very well?

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Speaker 7: I'm all embarrassed to be telling you this, but or

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Speaker 7: admitting to it even but when when my kids were little,

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Speaker 7: we actually told them that Christmas.

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Speaker 8: Was a week later, and we told them that reason,

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Speaker 8: so we could go and get everything cheap at the

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Speaker 8: boxing tails. Yes, and and just you know, get everything

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Speaker 8: cheap and boy, the mad rush.

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Speaker 2: You can't do that these days, we like with social

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Speaker 2: media and the news and TV, like people know what's

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Speaker 2: going on out there in the world.

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Speaker 1: You can't keep them in the house and the.

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Speaker 3: Countdown to the morning, like the news is running footage

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Speaker 3: of Santra and the reindeer is going through the sky.

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Speaker 4: Five years of their life that have no idea after that.

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Speaker 4: You're probably struggling.

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Speaker 2: That's okay, Adam. I'm sure you did lots of other

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Speaker 2: lovely parenting then.

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Speaker 7: Probably not forgive me for father.

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