Speaker 1: Hi, Hi, it's Monty. It is Mal. This is your podcast,
Speaker 1: Joanne tell.
Speaker 2: I was just thinking about how there are so many
Speaker 2: songs that you could go with Hello by Lionel Richie,
Speaker 2: Hello by Adele?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah? Or do you want to take over?
Speaker 2: No, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 1: You don't give an artist to feedback unless they request it.
Speaker 1: So it's Mel and Monty. Hi. Everyone back by popular demand.
Speaker 1: Is Mel's random fact to kick off the podcast.
Speaker 2: Okay, did you know that cats can get pregnant by
Speaker 2: multiple fathers at once? No, And this is why sometimes
Speaker 2: in a litter of kittens they can all like they
Speaker 2: can look so different. Oh no, way, isn't that unbelievable. Look,
Speaker 2: I'm if I go a bit deep into this, I
Speaker 2: could be wrong, so I shouldn't. But I think it
Speaker 2: has something to do with cats ovulate when they have sex.
Speaker 2: It's not like us. And sometimes there's some mechanism that's
Speaker 2: triggered where the sperm is caught up there for a
Speaker 2: certain amount of time, and they might release multiple eggs
Speaker 2: during that time as well.
Speaker 1: Wow, I fascinating. I had a cat called PC pussy Cat.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I know, And there was always a there
Speaker 1: was a Tom cat who lived down the road. We
Speaker 1: would always hear PC squealing because she would get raped
Speaker 1: by this tom cat, like it happens a lot, because
Speaker 1: they don't there's no other animals besides dolphins. Apparently that
Speaker 1: mate for pleasure. So this poor, my poor cat who
Speaker 1: we got spade. I don't know if that's what you
Speaker 1: call it for a cat, but anyway, it would get
Speaker 1: raped all the time. And a cat's penis is a
Speaker 1: it's like a rated knife, so it's painful.
Speaker 2: I shared that fact. You said that on a podcast once,
Speaker 2: and I googled it and I told everybody I knew
Speaker 2: for I reckon the next three weeks about that because
Speaker 2: I could not believe it. It looks like it has
Speaker 2: little spikes on it. It's the fucking sound that comes
Speaker 2: like that sound of cats squealing.
Speaker 1: It's so awful. I also remember when I was a kid,
Speaker 1: I would have been four because I wasn't in school yet.
Speaker 1: I got two stories with this. We had like a
Speaker 1: thing underneath our stairs, like storage, I guess, but it
Speaker 1: was empty, so my sister and I would play in it,
Speaker 1: and we had a cat, and the cat ran into
Speaker 1: the storage area to have its babies and they just
Speaker 1: kept coming and coming, and you know how they eat,
Speaker 1: like the fucking placenta off them and stuff. I remember
Speaker 1: being like, this is so hectic, and then the runt
Speaker 1: of the liver came out. There's always a runt, and
Speaker 1: this runt was so mangled, like its eye was all
Speaker 1: big and every thing like that. And I just remember
Speaker 1: like being torn between going we should keep this one
Speaker 1: and this is disgusting. I can't hold it. I was
Speaker 1: like four, and then it ended up passing away. I'm sad. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that is sad.
Speaker 2: What a core memory that is.
Speaker 1: I know from four there's always random things like that.
Speaker 1: My other core memory is in the same cubby house.
Speaker 1: Friends came over and they had two daughters similar age
Speaker 1: to me, and we went in the cubby and for
Speaker 1: some reason I made them get naked, but I was
Speaker 1: fully closed. You were that kid. You were, oh my god,
Speaker 1: naughty naughties. We'd play naughty naughties all the time anyway,
Speaker 1: And I remember my mom coming in and then when
Speaker 1: they left, she's like, why did you why were they naked?
Speaker 1: And I remember I was.
Speaker 2: Four.
Speaker 1: I were just curious, so curious, always so curious.
Speaker 2: It's important not to let that die. Curiosity. That's a
Speaker 2: really big sign of intelligence, you know, being curious.
Speaker 1: Do you reckon?
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I know it is. It's one of the
Speaker 2: one of the main signs of a truly intelligent person. Curiosity.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, well yeah, I am very curious, So they
Speaker 1: are super intelligent.
Speaker 2: There you go. Well speaking of something not so intelligent,
Speaker 2: but I am so into Do you remember I think
Speaker 2: it was last year we did a little I'm not
Speaker 2: going to say the word segment, but it was about
Speaker 2: mining inconvenience curses. So someone who's pissed you off and
Speaker 2: you can inconvenience curse them in a way that's not
Speaker 2: going to hurt them, but just fuck with them enough
Speaker 2: to be so annoying. Oh my god, I found a
Speaker 2: whole other list of incredible ones. These are so bad.
Speaker 2: They're so bad. Okay, imagine every time you put on
Speaker 2: a pair of shoes and start walking, they make that
Speaker 2: squeaky doun everywhere. Imagine you're running late, you have to
Speaker 2: walk into somewhere like church where it's dead silent, and
Speaker 2: that it's your shoes make that.
Speaker 1: Sweet no matter what shoes you wear, you know what,
Speaker 1: A pair of mine do that. And I went on
Speaker 1: a school tour to try and get to school, just
Speaker 1: with the principal anyway. One of them was squeaking so
Speaker 1: bad that then I just started to walk on one toe. Yes,
Speaker 1: because I'm like, I can't have this squeak is so embarrassing.
Speaker 2: And it's like, do you acknowledge it?
Speaker 1: No? I know you can't, because who cares? My shoes
Speaker 1: are squeaky.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but see that's where the discomfort would come in,
Speaker 2: because I'd have to acknowledge it.
Speaker 1: One.
Speaker 2: These shoes are pretty squeaky, aren't they. These are the
Speaker 2: shoes I just bought them the other day. Okay. Imagine
Speaker 2: you always felt like you had a hair on your back.
Speaker 2: You know, sometimes there's like you feel like, oh god,
Speaker 2: my back'sit che.
Speaker 1: You meant a hair in your back that you could pluck,
Speaker 1: but not just a loose hair. The itchiness that's too
Speaker 1: far horrible inconvenience. That is like actual torture.
Speaker 2: Oh no, the next one's worse. The next one is
Speaker 2: your worst. The waistband of your pants are always too tight.
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter if you eat, don't eat. Every pair
Speaker 2: of pants, they're always that little bit too tight.
Speaker 1: No, that makes me so as I sit here now
Speaker 1: my pants are that teeny bit too tight, and it's
Speaker 1: all I can focus on. There's nothing more uncomfortable than
Speaker 1: it's horrib tight.
Speaker 2: It's horrible. It's also the feeling of oh feel you
Speaker 2: can feel that little bit of roll coming over. Yes,
Speaker 2: I don't like that.
Speaker 1: Nah.
Speaker 2: Okay, Every condiment that you use for the rest of
Speaker 2: your life spurts out that bit of water first tomato sauce.
Speaker 2: The water does it go on to your food, onto
Speaker 2: your food, and then it's food over for me. I
Speaker 2: could not eat.
Speaker 1: I couldn't eat. That happened the other day. But with
Speaker 1: ice magic? How good is ice magic? We got Alo's like,
Speaker 1: can I get ice magic? So we've got magic.
Speaker 2: I think it's the same.
Speaker 1: I still really appreciate it. But if you don't shake
Speaker 1: it to start with, the oil just comes out so poor.
Speaker 1: Aarlo squirted like a bucket load of oil onto his
Speaker 1: ice cream.
Speaker 2: It's like pre com magic. Addition, that's so true, okay.
Speaker 2: Both sides of the pillow are always warm, you.
Speaker 1: Know when you turn your pillow, refreshing freshness, especially in summer.
Speaker 2: Every time you pull your sheets out of the dryer,
Speaker 2: they're still slightly dead.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I risk it when mate, because if I put
Speaker 1: my sheets in the dryer, they all tumble together, even
Speaker 1: if I put it on sheet on the sheep program
Speaker 1: drives me mad. So whenever the cleaner comes, she changes
Speaker 1: my bed sheets as well. And so I love it.
Speaker 1: But it's a double edged sword because I've got bucket
Speaker 1: loads of sheets to wash, and then I have to
Speaker 1: hang them over. I don't have a line, so I
Speaker 1: have to hang them over the dining chairs. I hang
Speaker 1: them everywhere in the house. It makes my brain so clutted,
Speaker 1: and then I get frustrated they're taking so long that
Speaker 1: often I'll fold them damp and I feel like a
Speaker 1: bit of a rebel, like just a tiny bit. And
Speaker 1: I always am like, you're risking a pong here, You're
Speaker 1: risking frisking a palm.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's very reckless of you. It's funny. I've also
Speaker 2: got I'm in the same situation. I've always got sheets
Speaker 2: hanging off my staircase. I hate it always. I hate
Speaker 2: it too.
Speaker 1: Same when people have a pool and towels go over
Speaker 1: the pool fans.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's annoying.
Speaker 1: Or a balcony.
Speaker 2: You know what else is a really great? Like I
Speaker 2: do this a lot with fitted sheets. I put them
Speaker 2: because we've all got fans in our bedrooms. I'll put
Speaker 2: the sheet, hang the sheet sort of over the door
Speaker 2: and not fans there. Yeah, and then that you know
Speaker 2: that usually drives.
Speaker 1: I've just quick started, which is surprising after years of
Speaker 1: doing it, to hang them over doors. I'll hang them
Speaker 1: over all the boys' doors with fan.
Speaker 2: Yes. And also dryer balls.
Speaker 1: Oh what do you know?
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're balls that you can buy that literally you
Speaker 2: put them in the dryer and they as the dryer
Speaker 2: is moving, they're moving and keeping it separate, so it's
Speaker 2: not bunching up.
Speaker 1: Do you reckon it works?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I think it does.
Speaker 1: You all have more strength than a wet sheet, though.
Speaker 2: But it's just the movement like it's almost well, imagine tennis.
Speaker 2: They're like tennis balls. I guess as a tennis ball. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: maybe don't just in case it catches fire. Don't use
Speaker 2: tennis is.
Speaker 1: The tennis ball. But I'm going to try that. I
Speaker 1: just cannot see how that works at all.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, well.
Speaker 1: They do, so they must, But I don't know if
Speaker 1: it would work with sheets. Maybe clothes maybe delicates.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe who's putting delicates in the dryer.
Speaker 1: Every a dryer, oh everything?
Speaker 2: Oh no. The only things I put in the dryer
Speaker 2: are towels, socks, and undies. And even then some undies
Speaker 2: I don't put in.
Speaker 1: Are you joking? Why?
Speaker 2: Because I don't want them like, I like the shape
Speaker 2: they are and everything. I don't want them to you know,
Speaker 2: like stuff shrinks in the dryer.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all my tops have shrunk. Yeah, but I don't
Speaker 1: care enough to hang them out. I know most people
Speaker 1: don't even have a dryer. Ours goes nearly twenty four
Speaker 1: to seven. I don't give a fuck. You got to
Speaker 1: pick your battles, and drying clothes is not one of
Speaker 1: my battles. So don't hassle me about the environment, because
Speaker 1: I'll use a recycled garbage bit when I am using
Speaker 1: my dryer because it's good. The washing that happens in
Speaker 1: my house is a NonStop. It's ridiculous because Odie is
Speaker 1: a four year old can't get two wears out of anything.
Speaker 1: Now boys don't because I sweat in their stuff. So
Speaker 1: I'm constantly washing. But I will dry everything everything. My
Speaker 1: BRA's not in a bag, my undies. My sister doesn't
Speaker 1: dry a single thing. She doesn't even she never turns
Speaker 1: on her dryer, so whenever she's here, I'll hang out
Speaker 1: her dresses and stuff. But I'm like, yeah, everything goes
Speaker 1: in the dryer. And sometimes I bought a new T
Speaker 1: shirt the other day, a mother T shirt. Good God,
Speaker 1: that brand's expensive.
Speaker 2: It is so even heard of it my mother.
Speaker 1: They do incredible jeans and they do really good like
Speaker 1: vintagey T shirts.
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, And I was like, how much is a
Speaker 2: T shirt?
Speaker 1: Tell me a T shirt? Was like two fifty two sixty.
Speaker 1: They're insane. But I am like, I haven't bought anything
Speaker 1: in so long and all I wear is T shirts,
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna buy one. And I bought it, and
Speaker 1: in my head, I was like, don't ever put this
Speaker 1: in the dryer. First time I washed it, whacked it
Speaker 1: in the dryer, and it's I don't know again, it's reckless.
Speaker 1: Let's blame the ADHD. No, I'm a thrill seeker.
Speaker 2: No, you're lazy. Yeah that sorry, that's true. I'm so
Speaker 2: lazy like that. I'm so I feel like so upset
Speaker 2: for you that you ruined.
Speaker 1: That T shirt ruined. And I handed down Odie's baby
Speaker 1: clothes when he'd finished to a friend and she said,
Speaker 1: I can tell you always every time I put them on,
Speaker 1: because they're gray when they're meant to be white. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Because you don't separate your stuff.
Speaker 1: You never separate never. I feel like you don't have
Speaker 1: to separate on a cold.
Speaker 2: Wash though, Yeah you have, of course you do.
Speaker 1: No, what if you need something and you put a
Speaker 1: white load on and you need the colored top? No,
Speaker 1: why that's so annoying? MS differently, don't we we do? Okay, go,
Speaker 1: let's go back to your ines.
Speaker 2: Okay. Every time you go to sneeze and then you
Speaker 2: lose it, is there nothing worse? Do you look up
Speaker 2: at the sun as a kid, always look up at
Speaker 2: the sun and.
Speaker 1: It will make your sneeze. Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yes, God, every time you get into bed, you forgot
Speaker 2: if you lock the door. Oh yeah, you'd be like
Speaker 2: I wouldn't do the door.
Speaker 1: The only reason we started to lock the doors is
Speaker 1: because there was a big like robbing spree going on,
Speaker 1: so we started to lock the doors. Before that, we
Speaker 1: didn't lock a door. That is I again reckless. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean Sam would check the most nights, but sometimes
Speaker 1: we wouldn't. I think we've locked the main door. Clearly.
Speaker 1: I never do it. Sam checks them every night. But
Speaker 1: like the backsliding doors, and we had a laundry door,
Speaker 1: we wouldn't lock that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I remember you always when we come to your
Speaker 2: place in Elstonwick. Yes, used to leave that fucking side
Speaker 2: door open all the time. If I was there early
Speaker 2: and you weren't there, you'd be like just going.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know why we do. I think I'm
Speaker 1: more trusting of humans than you. Very very extreme and
Speaker 1: unlucky thing to have your house robbed, Like the odds
Speaker 1: of you getting your house robbed a slim and so
Speaker 1: I'll just test fate.
Speaker 2: Listen. I think that's just a lovely that's a lovely
Speaker 2: attitude for you to have.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I know, well when that's the robbery started
Speaker 1: here and they were all teens and they were literally
Speaker 1: nearly going house to house and they wore baler clavers
Speaker 1: and they had a knife, and I'm like, okay, let's
Speaker 1: lock the doors. And then Sam's like, let's lock the
Speaker 1: doors during the day too, So I started that. I've
Speaker 1: got a bit yeah that too. They've eased off, they've
Speaker 1: gone to another town.
Speaker 2: Now it's the violence. I don't want it, like it's
Speaker 2: the I'd be like, take whatever the fuck you want,
Speaker 2: it's the Viact. And then how much is that going
Speaker 2: to mess your kids up?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's I just said we cannot have
Speaker 1: them in our house, purely because the kids will be
Speaker 1: scarred forever. But they weren't breaking and entering. They were
Speaker 1: purely checking what houses were open. And then they were
Speaker 1: just getting the car keys and trying to take people's cars.
Speaker 1: I'm like, no one's gonna want my mas to see
Speaker 1: X And I'm good luck to you if you get
Speaker 1: into that thing.
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, you know you don't want you don't
Speaker 2: want your stuff to get stolen, but also you don't
Speaker 2: want to be hurt like that. Okay, you get a
Speaker 2: severely itchy asshole every thirty minutes, you know, like you
Speaker 2: just have to you have to scratch. We've all been there.
Speaker 2: We've been there.
Speaker 1: Ross, isn't it? It is the It doesn't happen very often.
Speaker 2: I can't know it does.
Speaker 1: Last time I had an itchy bum but it's uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: I think you the feeling that you get of remembering
Speaker 2: it was when you were a kid.
Speaker 1: Yes, I would have scratched from the bum hole as well, yeah,
Speaker 1: for sure, and you would have sniffed your fingers after time. Okay,
Speaker 1: every day a new key on your keyboard doesn't work
Speaker 1: properly and you have to press it five or six
Speaker 1: times to make it work. Imagine.
Speaker 2: Nah, that would That's the worst of this whole list
Speaker 2: for me. I type so much, and I type so fast. Yes,
Speaker 2: that would kill me.
Speaker 1: It's like when you're on your phone and you're typing
Speaker 1: a text or something and it's not registering it properly,
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? And sometimes there's a
Speaker 1: bit of a glitch on the keyboard. Might want to
Speaker 1: press you know, S, and it keeps doing A instead
Speaker 1: of S, and I'm like, oh, this is driving me mad.
Speaker 2: That happens to me a lot. When I'm writing the
Speaker 2: word for it comes up as fur, as in f
Speaker 2: I R like a tree.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 2: Also, this is something I'll ask you because I'm actually
Speaker 2: getting scared of this. I find when I'm like texting
Speaker 2: someone or even if I'm typing something out for work,
Speaker 2: I read it back and I'm like, what the fuck
Speaker 2: is this that I wrote? It's like every word is
Speaker 2: like wrong, Yeah, what is happening?
Speaker 1: Yeah? That's always been me though, yeah, but don't.
Speaker 2: You don't check. You've just got to decipher what you mean.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you to do Sometimes I'm like, good luck deciphering that.
Speaker 1: But I do check it if I'm not really comfortable
Speaker 1: with the person. Yes, you know what I mean. But
Speaker 1: so often I'll then reread it and have to send
Speaker 1: a text with the right word in it, Like it
Speaker 1: might be a word in the middle like garden, and
Speaker 1: I'll spell that wrong, so then the next text will
Speaker 1: just come through garden.
Speaker 2: You know what we have to do. Someone has to invent,
Speaker 2: always about the inventions, something that stops people being able
Speaker 2: to see that ellipsus of when someone's typing, too much
Speaker 2: pressure on you.
Speaker 1: I was walking along each other day. We were on
Speaker 1: our WhatsApp and I kept it open because I could
Speaker 1: see you were typing. I'm like, I won't close it because
Speaker 1: she's sending something. Took you a long time?
Speaker 2: Though it does, I put a lot of thought into
Speaker 2: it because I always think, oh God, what to be
Speaker 2: careful with how I word things.
Speaker 1: Whatever.
Speaker 2: It's just okay, that's so funny.
Speaker 1: Hey, this is so random. But the other day I
Speaker 1: was at out the waiting for a pilates class, and
Speaker 1: I was sitting out the front of a shop and
Speaker 1: there was a dog shit there, just in the middle
Speaker 1: of the doorway, a dog shit sitting there. And I
Speaker 1: was like, no one's going to go into that shop
Speaker 1: the dogs just shit there. The owner would have seen
Speaker 1: that the dog. It was on like not grass or anything.
Speaker 1: It was on the pavement literally like on like right
Speaker 1: out front of the shop. And I'm like, that's so awful.
Speaker 1: Now that shop assistant who's going to be inside busy,
Speaker 1: he's going to wait. If somebody's gonna go up and
Speaker 1: go the dog's shit on your front like step there,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have to go and clean it. And then
Speaker 1: they would have had to clean it up. I was like,
Speaker 1: that is so rude. But it was so gross because
Speaker 1: you see dog shit in the wild, but not out
Speaker 1: the front of a like a shop door. I know.
Speaker 2: I feel like that must have been like an unsupervised
Speaker 2: stray dog.
Speaker 1: Well, it's not an area where stray dogs are. It
Speaker 1: definitely belonged to somebody.
Speaker 2: But there's always somewhere that where there's a dog that's
Speaker 2: not on a leash that's warm.
Speaker 1: Yeah. True. But remember when I went to Aubrey and
Speaker 1: I did my stinting aubry of breakfast radio, which was
Speaker 1: like my apprenticeship kind of to get into radio. And
Speaker 1: I lived out the back of Squirt and Rachelle's house
Speaker 1: in basically a shed. Squirt was a pig boner. They
Speaker 1: were sold to the earth. They were beautiful.
Speaker 2: It sounds like wolf creak.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a bit, but I just for some
Speaker 1: reason felt comfortable being at the back of somebody's house.
Speaker 1: But it literally was a shed converted with a bathroom
Speaker 1: and everything. And they had two labradors, these black labradors,
Speaker 1: the big fat things. Anyway, I am so not a
Speaker 1: dog person. Don't say to me you'll love my dog.
Speaker 1: I won't love your dog. I'm not interested in dogs
Speaker 1: at all. These dogs sensed so much that I was
Speaker 1: not interested in them, because I'd open the door and
Speaker 1: they'd run up to me and be like backup, back up,
Speaker 1: back up. Like just couldn't even pat them when I
Speaker 1: came in, and I would have to leave for work
Speaker 1: at five in the morning. Anyway, one day I opened
Speaker 1: the door and there's a big hot steamer just sitting
Speaker 1: on the mat at my front door. One of the
Speaker 1: dogs has basically turned around and done a big finger
Speaker 1: up to me like, fuck you bitch, cop this and
Speaker 1: I've I nearly applauded it. I was like, that's one
Speaker 1: way to get back at me.
Speaker 2: Imagine you hadn't realized stepped in it.
Speaker 1: When you're running late too, like oh, which is always always,
Speaker 1: which is always has the time blindness with ADHD.
Speaker 2: You know, I listened. You should listen to this. Everyone
Speaker 2: should listen to this. But Julia Morris was just on
Speaker 2: Mark Morris.
Speaker 1: I saw a clip. Was it good?
Speaker 2: It was such a great podcast.
Speaker 1: She's so she is one of my favorite humans.
Speaker 2: She is so honest, but so she has this honesty
Speaker 2: that you relate to, but this inner sort of confidence
Speaker 2: in herself. Yes, that is so like for someone who
Speaker 2: might be challenged in She's recently she was talking about
Speaker 2: a recent ADHD diagnosis, but she taught she acknowledges the
Speaker 2: shit part of it because regardless of what everyone says,
Speaker 2: she can make your life shit in some ways. Right,
Speaker 2: But she was also like, I don't know, Like he
Speaker 2: asked her something like you able to look back and
Speaker 2: reflect and you know, be proud of yourself whatever, and
Speaker 2: she's like, yeah, I give myself a pat on the
Speaker 2: back constantly that crip.
Speaker 1: Yeah what alleged you should? Yeah, so you should. Because
Speaker 1: her career was really interesting because she was a comedian,
Speaker 1: worked her ass off, then went over to the UK
Speaker 1: I think it was, and she didn't really have a
Speaker 1: career here, and it wasn't until she came back and
Speaker 1: she was older. Yeah, where she went on that singing
Speaker 1: show and I remember that singing b or whatever it
Speaker 1: was where they were partnered up with a professional singer,
Speaker 1: celebrities to get partnered up, and she was so funny
Speaker 1: on that. I remember going, You're a fucking legend. And
Speaker 1: I feel like from that her career really grew and
Speaker 1: now she's one of the hottest things on Australian TV.
Speaker 1: She's the most genuine beautiful woman that you could meet,
Speaker 1: like so gorgeous. There is no ego about her, no
Speaker 1: bullshit about her. She will not put another pair of
Speaker 1: high heels on again. That's why when you see her now,
Speaker 1: she's always got sneakers on. She'll have a beautiful dress
Speaker 1: and sneakers on. She's like, fuck that, I'm not being
Speaker 1: uncomfortable anymore. I just hear loved well.
Speaker 2: The thing that made me think about her was she
Speaker 2: was talking about starting medication for the first time, and
Speaker 2: she said, I just wanted to live my life without
Speaker 2: that constant sense of urgency. And when she said that,
Speaker 2: I thought, God, that is so perfectly she.
Speaker 1: Said, so perfectly said.
Speaker 2: You feel like everything is you feel like you're being
Speaker 2: chased all the time.
Speaker 1: And you can't decide differ from what is actually urgent
Speaker 1: and what isn't. And I need to trial medication again.
Speaker 1: I trialed it and I couldn't find the right dose
Speaker 1: and I just gave up. And I'm like, I've got
Speaker 1: to try it again because I have chronic fatigue. I'm
Speaker 1: really nervous to do it because I just don't want
Speaker 1: to feel strung out and exhausted. I just would just
Speaker 1: go to feel exhausted.
Speaker 2: For some people, it just doesn't work, I know, And
Speaker 2: it's just.
Speaker 1: I just don't respond meant to medication that well. But
Speaker 1: I am going to give it another go because I
Speaker 1: just am sick of the business in my head. And
Speaker 1: that's right, the urgency. And like, even as we're sitting here,
Speaker 1: I'm like, as soon as we're done, I've got to
Speaker 1: go and empty the sink because there's a bit of
Speaker 1: food has accumulated in the sink and I fucking hate that.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, got to do that, got to do this,
Speaker 1: Like I have a checklist of things that I've got
Speaker 1: to do after we record. Not urgent at all, but
Speaker 1: the intensity feels like it's got to be done.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that.
Speaker 1: The time blindness for me is the biggest thing because
Speaker 1: I will be like, Okay, I've got to be here
Speaker 1: in ten minutes and the amount of things that I
Speaker 1: will try and do before that, and then I run
Speaker 1: so late, like even if it's a few minutes late,
Speaker 1: I don't like being late for people. And no, it
Speaker 1: will be like, Okay, I need a coffee before I
Speaker 1: get somewhere somewhere, and I'll have five minutes to get
Speaker 1: to the place, but I still think I can go
Speaker 1: past the coffee shop get a coffee, and then I
Speaker 1: don't enjoy the coffee because I'm so stressed that I'm
Speaker 1: running late. But for me not to get the coffee
Speaker 1: wouldn't even register.
Speaker 2: It's so funny, you know what It's like. It's like
Speaker 2: you know people who have which I'm also a bit
Speaker 2: that weight, like really bad spatial awareness, Like if I'm driving,
Speaker 2: I find it hard to gauge have I got enough
Speaker 2: room to get through these in between these two cars.
Speaker 2: It's like that, like you can never quite gauge how
Speaker 2: long you need for something, yes, and then you're always
Speaker 2: running late and then you look like a flake, or
Speaker 2: you don't give a shit about other people's time, or
Speaker 2: you're fucking always scattered. Yes, you know, yeah, it's yeah,
Speaker 2: and the decision is see, I don't have indecision.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I have the impulsiveness of that when
Speaker 1: I'm like, bang, just get it done.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's full, isn't it odd? Yeah? I don't know
Speaker 1: everyone's But the other day my friend started seeing a
Speaker 1: psych and he's like, everyone's a bit adhd And I said,
Speaker 1: you stop seeing him. That is so fucked up. It's
Speaker 1: so gas lighting when people say that, And it's just like,
Speaker 1: of course, there is a bucketload of us, like all
Speaker 1: of our brains are different. Of course they are, do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's like it's not just
Speaker 1: everyone getting diagnosed. I get it. The people on Instagram
Speaker 1: just going this is this is this? Like that's dangerous.
Speaker 1: I get that, But so many of us are late,
Speaker 1: like diagnosed late in life because it was just like, well, no,
Speaker 1: you're not a naughty little boy. And it's like, of course,
Speaker 1: bucket loads of us are getting diagnosed out because we
Speaker 1: know so much more about it. But I'm like, not
Speaker 1: every typical person's brain's wide the same either, Like not
Speaker 1: every neurodivergence brain like you and I ADHD, but our
Speaker 1: ADHD is very different, so different.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1: So that's why it's like you go ADHD. But it's
Speaker 1: like there's so many different.
Speaker 2: It's like different symptoms of the of the one thing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so there might be some core pillars that you've got
Speaker 2: to check, yes, but then how they.
Speaker 1: So different? Yeah, it's the same as autism. Like everyone
Speaker 1: thinks of autism as this line, this spectrum, and it's
Speaker 1: not And that's why everyone goes and well, not that's
Speaker 1: person's not autistic because you know they're very low on
Speaker 1: the spectrum. It's so not correct. And the way we
Speaker 1: need to think of autism is like a circle full
Speaker 1: of all different colors. And you might have some blue,
Speaker 1: some green, some pink, some yellow. Somebody else might have
Speaker 1: more blue and a bit more green, or they might
Speaker 1: have purple like you've but doesn't because you have maybe
Speaker 1: less of the colors. Mean that you're less autism stick.
Speaker 1: It's just drives me wild how little is known about
Speaker 1: neurodivergence and how people are so quick to go, oh,
Speaker 1: he's not autistic or she's not autistic.
Speaker 2: It's because in what it's not what they think in
Speaker 2: their moment.
Speaker 1: No, because they're not possibly visibly autistic where you can
Speaker 1: look and go, Okay, I can see that person's autistic
Speaker 1: has higher needs than somebody else. But it's also like,
Speaker 1: if you don't appear autistic, it doesn't mean that your
Speaker 1: needs don't fluctuate from minute to minute.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's right. It's so funny when you put it
Speaker 2: in that way when you were talk when you just
Speaker 2: gave that is analogy the word I think it is.
Speaker 2: You gave that analogy of different colors sort of in
Speaker 2: a circle or whatever. If it could just be that
Speaker 2: we're all different, neurotypical, neurodiverse, whatever, we're all different, but
Speaker 2: we somehow those colors we connect with each other and
Speaker 2: make up for each other's So maybe you and I together,
Speaker 2: You've got more blue and I've got more pink, but
Speaker 2: I compensate for your lack lack of white, And do
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like that maybe what it
Speaker 2: should be is we're all working together to fit in
Speaker 2: together to make the perfect rainbow.
Speaker 1: Yes, the perfect circle, bravo mal instead of going, oh,
Speaker 1: you didn't have enough blue, you're not autistic, so gas lighting. Also,
Speaker 1: just to correct you, it's not neurodiverse.
Speaker 2: I know I'm never going to get it's my bought
Speaker 2: and brought.
Speaker 1: It's so because I hate when people correct. But all
Speaker 1: of us in neuro diverse, because we're all different, not
Speaker 1: all of us in neuro divergent. That's the difference. Okay,
Speaker 1: you don't bitch. I'm going to say it wrong every time.
Speaker 2: I know it.
Speaker 1: All right, let's get out of here. Thank you so
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Speaker 1: have a list of things. Okay, what have you got
Speaker 1: to talk about? What have you got to talk about?
Speaker 1: We write the list, we get to one thing because
Speaker 1: we just tangent so much. But thank you for listening.
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