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Speaker 2: I need your advice.

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Speaker 1: Are you okay? What happened? Promise it won't be too much.

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Speaker 1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you are on

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Speaker 1: the world. Welcome back to another Bestie segment where we

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Speaker 1: are reading out an anonymous submission from one of our followers.

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Speaker 1: What have you got for us today?

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Speaker 2: I've got an interesting one.

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Speaker 1: Buckle in you, buckle in, Let's do it.

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling completely lost right now. I came out of

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Speaker 3: a three year relationship back in March, and we have

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Speaker 3: a child together who's almost two, and I have an

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Speaker 3: older daughter from a previous relationship. Even though I was

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Speaker 3: the one who ended it, it still feels like my

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Speaker 3: world has fallen apart. I love him deeply, but I

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Speaker 3: know that I can't go back. Lately, I've been struggling

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Speaker 3: with feelings of serious unworthiness, like I'm not deserving of

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Speaker 3: love because I have two children or two different fathers.

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Speaker 3: I don't want to carry this anymore, and I just

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Speaker 3: want to heal from the trauma of my past relationship

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Speaker 3: and become a better mother for my kids and a

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Speaker 3: better version of myself help.

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Speaker 1: Ah, that's tough. There's not a lot of context, is there,

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Speaker 1: Like why the relationship ended, and you know, if you

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Speaker 1: love him deeply, I want to think there's ways you

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Speaker 1: can work it out, but there must have been something

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Speaker 1: that's happened. It's so hard with these best suhbisitions. If

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Speaker 1: there isn't an order context.

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Speaker 2: There's at least like so much we can give based

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Speaker 2: on how we perceive.

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Speaker 1: It, because I have to assume that he's done something

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Speaker 1: really bad.

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Speaker 3: Well, she said, I know I can't go back. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: so for whatever reason, she knows it's not good for her. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's how I take that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, I think this is a really beautiful

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Speaker 1: time for you just to focus on yourself. I think

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Speaker 1: you have to let go of the story of you know,

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Speaker 1: the two fathers, and like shit happens, life happens. There's

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Speaker 1: so many women out there that have different fathers to

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Speaker 1: different children, and that's okay. That doesn't make you any

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Speaker 1: less of a person, make you any less worthy of

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Speaker 1: having love, any less fun, smart, all the beautiful traits

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Speaker 1: about yourself, So don't forget any of those. But if

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Speaker 1: I was ever in your situation, I would definitely be

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Speaker 1: taking a long period of time to just be with myself,

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Speaker 1: focus on my kids, focus on my grief, focus on healing, regulating,

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Speaker 1: and just being rather than getting distracted with another partner

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Speaker 1: and relationship sounds like you need some time. Healing isn't

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Speaker 1: linear either. You don't wake up one day and just

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Speaker 1: over it. Especial relationships, it takes a lot of time

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Speaker 1: because you're grieving someone that's not.

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Speaker 3: Dead, absolutely, and that's a really hard thing in relationships,

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Speaker 3: and especially if you're feeling lost in yourself right now.

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Speaker 3: Usually when that happens, it's because within the relationship dynamic,

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Speaker 3: you lost yourself in the relationship. So now that the

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Speaker 3: relationship isn't there, you don't have any foundation that's holding

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Speaker 3: you up whilst you're grieving this relationship. Because maybe in

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Speaker 3: the relationship it was like, Oh, it wasn't a priority anymore.

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Speaker 3: That person, that man became everything, and then I was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: I'm so excited in the excitement of love and this relationship,

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Speaker 3: or maybe even the challenges in the relationship, that you

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Speaker 3: stop prioritizing the things that were important to you, and

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Speaker 3: when you stop building your life outside of a relationship,

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Speaker 3: it can become really easy to crumble. So I experienced

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Speaker 3: this recently in a long term relationship.

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Speaker 2: That I left.

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Speaker 3: I completely felt like I'd completely lost myself for a

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Speaker 3: good six months after my relationship. And you feel the same.

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Speaker 1: So your friends, you weren't doing hobbies which is built

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean I was like I was still

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Speaker 3: seeing like everybody, but it felt like I remember, there

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Speaker 3: was a period where I felt hard to do other stuff.

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Speaker 3: It was like I felt like every day felt like

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Speaker 3: and my heart was hurting, and then I still had

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Speaker 1: Oh I even post breakup post to him when you're

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Speaker 1: in the sorry post breakup.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, post breakup yeah you know. And so I

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Speaker 3: think that's something that you get to focus on now,

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Speaker 3: is really rebuilding who you are as a woman, Like yeah,

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Speaker 3: like actually said, like focus on this time on you

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Speaker 3: and don't run away from the grief, you know, don't

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Speaker 3: don't run away from the heartbreak and the pain and

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Speaker 3: how much it hurts and how you know, how every

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Speaker 3: day may feel like a slog, you know, especially you've

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Speaker 3: got two children, you're a mom, You've got to the

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Speaker 3: show must go on, you know, So make sure that

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Speaker 3: you're making time to grieve and allow yourself to process

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Speaker 3: what you're feeling. If you feel angry one day, go

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Speaker 3: sit in the car screen. If you feel like you

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Speaker 3: need to cry once the kids go to bed, hit

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Speaker 3: the pillow and cry and listen to beautiful music and

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Speaker 3: allow it to just come through. But then focus this

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Speaker 3: time on rebuilding, Like your main priority now just gets

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Speaker 3: to be about becoming so much better because you have

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Speaker 3: to show up every single day regardless, and the more

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Speaker 3: that you focus on yourself, the stronger you're going to get.

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Speaker 3: I imagine as a parent. I'm not a parent, but

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Speaker 3: I imagine that it would just be easier for you to

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Speaker 3: do that. So focus on the things that will help

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Speaker 3: you get better. If that's consistent movement, if it's making

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Speaker 3: sure that you're going to bed at a certain time,

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Speaker 3: is it, you know, making better habits where you're learning

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Speaker 3: and growing and reading books about how to become better

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Speaker 3: and how to heal from heartbreak and all of those

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Speaker 3: things that is going to help you become so much stronger.

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Speaker 3: And you may not feel it right now, but you'll

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Speaker 3: feel it in three months from now, or you'll feel

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Speaker 3: it in two months from now. It is not a

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Speaker 3: straight and narrow path, and it's going to feel hard

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Speaker 3: for a little bit. But if you can just be

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Speaker 3: a little while, you're going to be okay doing the

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Speaker 3: hard things whilst you're hurting.

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Speaker 1: Must be such a job to go from your partner

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Speaker 1: being your whole life to them being like, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: who the fuck am I what I do with my time?

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Speaker 1: I'm so used to texting them we did this together. Now,

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Speaker 1: even like bathtime routine. My friends that have gone through

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Speaker 1: breakups that have kids, even bathtime routine is so stressful

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Speaker 1: set of hands. It's doing everything by yourself. You're looking dinny,

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Speaker 1: you're doing the bath, you're dealing with tantrums, you're trying

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Speaker 1: of the day and absolutely spend So just be so

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Speaker 1: kind to yourself in this period because you're grieving whilst

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Speaker 1: you're trying to keep your head to float and look

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Speaker 1: after the kids and make sure they're okay, and just know,

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Speaker 1: I think it's going to take a couple of months

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Speaker 1: and settle into your new normal and your new routine,

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Speaker 1: and if you can just find pockets, little pockets for yourself.

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Speaker 1: I don't know about you, but me personally, if I

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Speaker 1: was to ever go through this, I just don't think

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Speaker 1: I would do it without my girlfriends. So if you

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Speaker 1: have close friends around you, like, lean on them, and

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Speaker 1: if you don't, I always guarantee they'd be Facebook forums

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Speaker 1: for like single Moms and the Gorcos or single Moms

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Speaker 1: in Sydney, And there's even an hour I think it's

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Speaker 1: called Peanut or something where you can meet up with

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Speaker 1: other mums that are going through similar things to you

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Speaker 1: and you guys. Yeah, you guys can support each other,

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Speaker 1: reach out to other moms on social media. Like I've

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Speaker 1: made friends on social media before, there's always someone else

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Speaker 1: connect on what you're going through. So I just think

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Speaker 1: make sure you're not doing this alone, because you don't

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Speaker 1: to just vent to and hold space for you just

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Speaker 1: help you breathe again, you know, and get through another day.

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Speaker 1: But just one day at a time, one step at

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Speaker 1: a time. Take any pressure off yourself right now to

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Speaker 1: hit big goals and be okay and be happy, like

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Speaker 1: you just need to get through and allow yourself to

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Speaker 1: have this time of heartbreak. Absolutely, man, it's rough, especially

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Speaker 1: with kids. When you don't have kids, you can really

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Speaker 1: like take the time to greet Yeah, go do the

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Speaker 1: things you want to do and lay in beddled and

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Speaker 1: rottle day for you to be kids, you up, you

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Speaker 1: have to get up. So pockets of time and lots

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Speaker 1: of support, yeah, would be my advice. But yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: not linear, no, And if you do have support or

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Speaker 1: because I don't have kids, so I don't know if

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Speaker 1: what was really helpful for me was doing things that

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Speaker 1: felt really hard, like training, you know, Like yes, way

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Speaker 1: I would lean towards avoidance or things that made me

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Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, if I can channel this pain

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Speaker 1: like the anger even to go do a boxing class.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, So I was like anytime I felt heartbroken

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Speaker 3: I was like fuck you or excuse swearing or anything

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Speaker 3: like that, I'd be like, all right, I'm going for

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Speaker 3: a training session, or I'd be like okay later today

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Speaker 3: when I finished my work of going for a walk,

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Speaker 3: and then I would just I walk out that energy,

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Speaker 3: you know, and like channel it into something that's going

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Speaker 3: to help you build good habits.

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Speaker 1: I really love that.

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Speaker 2: It's been a game changer for me.

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Speaker 1: And like anger boxing be great, just lots of energy

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Speaker 1: waits good emotional dancing and yoga, like we store a

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Speaker 1: lot of emotions in our hips. Doing some intense yoga

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Speaker 1: poses can have big releases. With a girlfriend that's going

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Speaker 1: through immense grief at the moment, she's found like pilates

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Speaker 1: and stretch classes. She cries every session because she's like

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Speaker 1: releasing all these emotions. Yeah, there's lots of different things

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Speaker 1: that you could use that energy for. And once again,

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Speaker 1: when you've got a young child, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: they go to daycare, or you could use YouTube at home. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: yoga at home with Tyala sometimes that's really good. Or

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Speaker 1: the creation at the gym that would go into a

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Speaker 1: park and she's playing on the playground and you're doing

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Speaker 1: a workout from YouTube. You know, there's lots of different

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Speaker 1: options you can do. You make it work, make it work,

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Speaker 1: find a way, and every single day try and do

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Speaker 1: something for you. But if it's just five minutes in

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Speaker 1: the sun, like having sud in your skin, just to

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Speaker 1: relax and take some big breaths. And when the kids

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Speaker 1: self pleasure, whatever you want to do. That's just for you. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: It's just imagine so challenging, so exhausting. Be kind to

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Speaker 1: Don't even say that. You don't even need to say

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Speaker 3: No one's going to judge you in the way that

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Speaker 3: and he'll come in and you'll love your children. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: You know, I think you and I hear hear you

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Speaker 1: say that, I'm like, good on you for walking away

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Speaker 1: And you don't want your kids to see an unhealthy

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Speaker 1: You've shown them that you can walk away like you

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Speaker 2: You know what else? It shows me. It shows me

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and that like you, just because that it didn't

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Speaker 1: I love that we're not made to fall in love

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's not like the one. There's not just one

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Speaker 1: and I hope Steve and I have that as well. Amazing. Great.

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