1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,801 Speaker 1: Appoche production. 2 00:00:10,561 --> 00:00:11,481 Speaker 2: An easier advice. 3 00:00:12,161 --> 00:00:13,361 Speaker 1: Are you okay what happened? 4 00:00:13,961 --> 00:00:15,321 Speaker 2: Promise it won't be too much? 5 00:00:16,081 --> 00:00:16,641 Speaker 1: Bring it in. 6 00:00:17,921 --> 00:00:25,961 Speaker 2: Welcome to our Bestie segment. Girl, this is the place 7 00:00:26,001 --> 00:00:29,401 Speaker 2: for you. Welcome back to another episode of best the Advice. 8 00:00:29,601 --> 00:00:31,841 Speaker 2: We love Bestie Advice. This is a place you can 9 00:00:31,881 --> 00:00:34,721 Speaker 2: come when you feel unsure about what to do about 10 00:00:34,721 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 2: a situation, a problem, or something that you're dealing with 11 00:00:37,241 --> 00:00:40,361 Speaker 2: where you just have nowhere to turn. This is always 12 00:00:40,361 --> 00:00:41,920 Speaker 2: going to be a safe space. We will always give 13 00:00:41,961 --> 00:00:45,201 Speaker 2: you our most honest bestI advice and what we suggest 14 00:00:45,241 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 2: that you do based on either our personal experiences or 15 00:00:48,441 --> 00:00:50,201 Speaker 2: advice that we would give each other if we were 16 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:50,841 Speaker 2: in that position. 17 00:00:50,921 --> 00:00:53,241 Speaker 1: Yeah, and take it with a grain of salt. Also, of course, 18 00:00:53,521 --> 00:00:55,441 Speaker 1: if you want to bring something in for us to 19 00:00:55,521 --> 00:00:58,801 Speaker 1: give advice on, you can slide into our dms on Instagram, 20 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:01,561 Speaker 1: she rises, or it's in our Facebook forum. But the 21 00:01:01,561 --> 00:01:04,321 Speaker 1: more context you give the better. If there's not enough context, 22 00:01:04,321 --> 00:01:05,881 Speaker 1: it can be hard and we have to kind of 23 00:01:05,921 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 1: assume things. The more details the better, and we'll just 24 00:01:08,561 --> 00:01:10,881 Speaker 1: be super honest as we are with each other, bringing 25 00:01:10,881 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: in our situations every day. 26 00:01:12,241 --> 00:01:15,001 Speaker 2: Every single day. So what have you got for us fabe. 27 00:01:14,761 --> 00:01:16,881 Speaker 1: All right, it is a short one, but let's get 28 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:19,401 Speaker 1: into it. Hey, girls, I love listening to the podcast 29 00:01:19,801 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: Help a Girl Out. Any advice to keep good, healthy friendships. 30 00:01:24,041 --> 00:01:26,121 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm always putting in all the effort 31 00:01:26,121 --> 00:01:28,761 Speaker 1: with friendships and I always feel anxious and I feel 32 00:01:28,881 --> 00:01:31,241 Speaker 1: not a good positive energy back. I feel like I'm 33 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:34,121 Speaker 1: losing friendships as I'm getting older. I love you, girls. 34 00:01:34,961 --> 00:01:36,721 Speaker 2: I think those ones that you mentioned in the end 35 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:39,441 Speaker 2: of like, you're losing friendships. If you are anxious, you're 36 00:01:39,481 --> 00:01:42,081 Speaker 2: not getting that reciprocal energy back. It sounds like they're 37 00:01:42,121 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 2: not meant to be in your life. Because good friendships 38 00:01:44,681 --> 00:01:47,401 Speaker 2: require two people to be in a relationship. So true, right, 39 00:01:47,441 --> 00:01:48,841 Speaker 2: Like when I think of like Ashley and I and 40 00:01:48,841 --> 00:01:52,441 Speaker 2: we are dynamic, we equal give and take. Yeah, we 41 00:01:52,481 --> 00:01:58,001 Speaker 2: equally put as equal as much energy, effort, communication, consideration, connection, Right, 42 00:01:58,081 --> 00:02:00,201 Speaker 2: it's equal. We meet each other in the middle. And 43 00:02:00,241 --> 00:02:02,881 Speaker 2: I think any good relationship or friendship has to have 44 00:02:02,961 --> 00:02:05,481 Speaker 2: that where it's I'm in this, you're in and we're 45 00:02:05,521 --> 00:02:08,441 Speaker 2: in it together. And if it's not that, then it's 46 00:02:08,441 --> 00:02:11,081 Speaker 2: something to look at. So if people are dropping off, 47 00:02:11,121 --> 00:02:13,641 Speaker 2: it's probably for a reason, and I know it's easier 48 00:02:13,641 --> 00:02:15,281 Speaker 2: so than done. Like I know that doesn't make it 49 00:02:15,281 --> 00:02:18,561 Speaker 2: any easier, but there's got to come a point where 50 00:02:18,841 --> 00:02:21,321 Speaker 2: you have a conversation with yourself around if it doesn't 51 00:02:21,321 --> 00:02:24,321 Speaker 2: feel reciprocal, I don't want to invest in it exactly. 52 00:02:24,561 --> 00:02:28,641 Speaker 2: You know, you get to have and you deserve relationships 53 00:02:28,721 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 2: and people in your life who genuinely care about you. 54 00:02:31,761 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 1: You put that effort in, They. 55 00:02:32,841 --> 00:02:34,641 Speaker 2: Put the effort in. They want to meet you in 56 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:36,081 Speaker 2: the middle. They want to be a part of the 57 00:02:36,121 --> 00:02:38,081 Speaker 2: friendship just as much as you do. And when you 58 00:02:38,121 --> 00:02:40,201 Speaker 2: meet those people, trust me, you will know. 59 00:02:40,441 --> 00:02:43,881 Speaker 1: And in relationships, whether it's intimate family or people you 60 00:02:43,881 --> 00:02:46,801 Speaker 1: spend time with friendships, it should be exciting and fun 61 00:02:46,881 --> 00:02:48,721 Speaker 1: like it shouldn't ever feel like a chore. If it 62 00:02:48,721 --> 00:02:51,081 Speaker 1: felt like a chore and you're feeling like this, it's 63 00:02:51,081 --> 00:02:53,641 Speaker 1: definitely not your people. And just a reminder that people 64 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:56,041 Speaker 1: come in and out of your life throughout your whole journey. 65 00:02:56,201 --> 00:02:58,481 Speaker 1: Some will stay forever for sure. Like we've spoken before, 66 00:02:58,481 --> 00:03:00,321 Speaker 1: we've both got friendships at over twenty years old, and 67 00:03:00,321 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: they're probably pretty solid for the rest of our lives. 68 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: Who knows, I don't know. I'm married for seventeen years, 69 00:03:05,121 --> 00:03:07,641 Speaker 1: my forever, I hope. So who knows what's gonna happen tomorrow. 70 00:03:07,641 --> 00:03:10,761 Speaker 1: I don't know. But as you get older, I think 71 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:13,241 Speaker 1: your circle does get smaller. And I think if you 72 00:03:13,281 --> 00:03:15,361 Speaker 1: compare older to when you're in your twenties, I know 73 00:03:15,361 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: for myself, I'm thirty six. When I was in my 74 00:03:17,001 --> 00:03:19,361 Speaker 1: early twenties and I had no children, I was friends 75 00:03:19,361 --> 00:03:22,201 Speaker 1: with every time, Dick and Harry, I was socializing all 76 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:25,761 Speaker 1: the times. It was fun, it was adventurous, always doing stuff. 77 00:03:26,121 --> 00:03:28,441 Speaker 1: It's just not like that these days. I have two children, 78 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: I have multiple businesses, and I'm way more careful where 79 00:03:31,281 --> 00:03:33,761 Speaker 1: my energy goes. So there has been friends that I 80 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:37,121 Speaker 1: don't feel as aligned with anymore that have We've gone 81 00:03:37,121 --> 00:03:38,801 Speaker 1: off to both have kids and run businesses, and we 82 00:03:38,841 --> 00:03:41,681 Speaker 1: didn't find the time and space to connect anymore. And 83 00:03:41,721 --> 00:03:44,321 Speaker 1: that's happened for a reason and doesn't mean something's bad. 84 00:03:44,401 --> 00:03:46,841 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for it all. But it's led me 85 00:03:46,881 --> 00:03:49,321 Speaker 1: to more connected, aligned friendships to meet me where I'm 86 00:03:49,321 --> 00:03:52,321 Speaker 1: at right now. So if those people are quote unquote 87 00:03:52,401 --> 00:03:55,281 Speaker 1: dropping off, it is for a reason. And there's always 88 00:03:55,321 --> 00:03:57,361 Speaker 1: things that we can look at within or where we 89 00:03:57,401 --> 00:03:59,401 Speaker 1: can clean up our own lane. How do we show 90 00:03:59,441 --> 00:04:01,161 Speaker 1: up in the friendship? Like I know, for me, I 91 00:04:01,201 --> 00:04:03,601 Speaker 1: definitely showed up with a lot of jealousy and a 92 00:04:03,601 --> 00:04:06,281 Speaker 1: lot of anxiousness. And I don't think a lot of 93 00:04:06,281 --> 00:04:08,321 Speaker 1: my past friends could hold that. I didn't know how 94 00:04:08,361 --> 00:04:10,201 Speaker 1: to hold that, and I should never expect them to. 95 00:04:10,801 --> 00:04:13,041 Speaker 1: So now I show up in a different way, and 96 00:04:13,041 --> 00:04:15,841 Speaker 1: I communicate how I'm feeling, and I don't project that 97 00:04:15,921 --> 00:04:18,521 Speaker 1: onto them, or I just show up in a different 98 00:04:18,561 --> 00:04:21,801 Speaker 1: energy that it feels different, wouldn't feel as heavy for 99 00:04:21,841 --> 00:04:24,401 Speaker 1: my friendships. But I also have friendships like Tianna that 100 00:04:24,641 --> 00:04:27,081 Speaker 1: know how to hold anxiousness because they understand where it 101 00:04:27,081 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 1: comes from. So don't take it personally and it doesn't 102 00:04:29,361 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: feel too much for them. So you will meet your 103 00:04:31,561 --> 00:04:34,121 Speaker 1: right people and you'll know if they're dropping off. Just no, 104 00:04:34,241 --> 00:04:36,441 Speaker 1: it's for a reason, and it is so much easier 105 00:04:36,481 --> 00:04:36,801 Speaker 1: than done. 106 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:39,520 Speaker 2: Yes, just so beautifully said. Though, yeah, so beautifully said. 107 00:04:39,521 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 2: And in terms of keeping friendships, when I look at 108 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:45,081 Speaker 2: our friendship, just coming back into the mutual effort and energy, 109 00:04:45,121 --> 00:04:46,921 Speaker 2: like when it comes to us, like we do a 110 00:04:46,921 --> 00:04:49,801 Speaker 2: lot of like preventative stuff, so like I don't know 111 00:04:49,801 --> 00:04:52,521 Speaker 2: how else to say that it is everything that we do. 112 00:04:52,601 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 2: We are overly communicative, we are overly transparent, so transparent 113 00:04:57,601 --> 00:04:59,241 Speaker 2: even from the very moment that we met, there was 114 00:04:59,281 --> 00:05:02,841 Speaker 2: no ego like in our dynamic, like we just were like, hey, hey, hey, 115 00:05:02,921 --> 00:05:04,720 Speaker 2: here's my last story, and then we just like bounced 116 00:05:04,761 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 2: off each each other and it was saved from the 117 00:05:06,561 --> 00:05:08,760 Speaker 2: moment that we kind of met, which was really beautiful. 118 00:05:09,041 --> 00:05:11,121 Speaker 2: And it doesn't always happen that way, but if you do, 119 00:05:11,241 --> 00:05:13,681 Speaker 2: you'll feel it. I think in terms of keeping them, 120 00:05:13,801 --> 00:05:18,561 Speaker 2: any relationship needs check ins and audits and constant prevention 121 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:22,601 Speaker 2: parden hey whatever us that's right. Think about like a relationship, 122 00:05:22,641 --> 00:05:24,921 Speaker 2: like you need constant bids of connection to be able 123 00:05:24,921 --> 00:05:27,761 Speaker 2: to stay plugged into your intimate relationship. Friendships are the same, 124 00:05:27,801 --> 00:05:30,961 Speaker 2: They need the same amount of intentional effort, right, And 125 00:05:31,001 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 2: so I think that's been a big part is making 126 00:05:33,561 --> 00:05:36,881 Speaker 2: sure that you're always being a good friend as well 127 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:39,921 Speaker 2: as wanting a friend, because I think sometimes we always 128 00:05:39,961 --> 00:05:42,160 Speaker 2: get really caught up about wanting to have good people 129 00:05:42,161 --> 00:05:44,841 Speaker 2: in our lives, but are we able to clearly one 130 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:47,121 Speaker 2: hundred percent say that we can be that for somebody else? 131 00:05:48,521 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: So beautifully said clean up your own lane. 132 00:05:50,361 --> 00:05:52,201 Speaker 2: Because in our dynamic, like when I think about this, 133 00:05:52,361 --> 00:05:55,081 Speaker 2: I think I'm never thinking of like myself in this dynamic, 134 00:05:55,121 --> 00:05:56,881 Speaker 2: I'm always thinking about like, Okay, how can I shot 135 00:05:56,961 --> 00:05:58,721 Speaker 2: up for her, happy and supportive of her? How can 136 00:05:58,761 --> 00:06:00,400 Speaker 2: I hold her in this moment? And it kind of 137 00:06:00,401 --> 00:06:02,161 Speaker 2: takes the pressure off me of who I need to be, 138 00:06:02,601 --> 00:06:04,160 Speaker 2: But it just allows me to be a good friend. 139 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:05,921 Speaker 2: And then I feel like you do the same for me, 140 00:06:05,961 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 2: and then we meet each other in the middle. 141 00:06:07,281 --> 00:06:09,281 Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's a similar to Steve and I. That's 142 00:06:09,281 --> 00:06:11,561 Speaker 1: the dynamic that it works when two people It's like 143 00:06:11,561 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 1: I started seeing these quotes aroun when two people are givers, 144 00:06:14,001 --> 00:06:16,561 Speaker 1: it creates magic. It really does. If one's just to 145 00:06:16,601 --> 00:06:18,161 Speaker 1: take her and one's a giver, there's going to be 146 00:06:18,201 --> 00:06:20,841 Speaker 1: resentment built up, and it's never going to feel truly 147 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:23,681 Speaker 1: equal in balance. In balance. And it's not that we're 148 00:06:23,721 --> 00:06:26,081 Speaker 1: always fifty to fifty. Sometimes I might be going through 149 00:06:26,081 --> 00:06:28,481 Speaker 1: something really hard and Tiana's more eighty and I'm more twenty. 150 00:06:28,561 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: So had Steve and I. He's going through a really 151 00:06:30,641 --> 00:06:33,241 Speaker 1: stressful period at the moment he was sick. He's really 152 00:06:33,241 --> 00:06:35,361 Speaker 1: fragile at the moment, he's just having a harder season. 153 00:06:35,801 --> 00:06:38,161 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm more the seventy percent of like 154 00:06:38,201 --> 00:06:40,801 Speaker 1: holding us, holding the family, and trying to lift him 155 00:06:40,841 --> 00:06:42,641 Speaker 1: up and be there for him emotionally because I feel 156 00:06:42,641 --> 00:06:46,241 Speaker 1: pretty good. It's constant communication. The preventable thing is so 157 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:49,681 Speaker 1: important over transparents. Sometimes we'll be so transparent where I'll 158 00:06:49,681 --> 00:06:51,441 Speaker 1: be like, oh, babe, like you don't need to reshow 159 00:06:51,481 --> 00:06:53,401 Speaker 1: me on that I trust. I trust you with money, 160 00:06:53,401 --> 00:06:55,561 Speaker 1: and you're like, yeah, but I'm preventing any breakdowns in 161 00:06:55,601 --> 00:06:57,200 Speaker 1: the future that you know exactly what I've done with 162 00:06:57,241 --> 00:06:59,161 Speaker 1: this money. She could spend whatever she wants in our 163 00:06:59,161 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 1: card and I won't even question it. I won't even look. Yeah, 164 00:07:01,401 --> 00:07:03,241 Speaker 1: you know, I trust her that much. But it's like, no, 165 00:07:03,361 --> 00:07:06,001 Speaker 1: I'm preventing this ever happening. To give you any reason 166 00:07:06,001 --> 00:07:07,561 Speaker 1: to never not trust me, I'm putting it here. 167 00:07:07,721 --> 00:07:09,601 Speaker 2: Yeah, there was even something the other night. I think 168 00:07:09,641 --> 00:07:11,201 Speaker 2: I said no to you a couple of times and 169 00:07:11,201 --> 00:07:12,681 Speaker 2: you were, oh, yeah, there's a couple of things that 170 00:07:12,681 --> 00:07:14,161 Speaker 2: you wanted to do. You're like, oh, this and this 171 00:07:14,201 --> 00:07:15,601 Speaker 2: and this, and then tomorrow morning, and then I just 172 00:07:15,641 --> 00:07:17,361 Speaker 2: I wasn't in a good energy. I was like, well, yeah, 173 00:07:17,361 --> 00:07:19,001 Speaker 2: I feel very good right now. And I had said no, 174 00:07:19,161 --> 00:07:21,361 Speaker 2: and then I was like, I'm just going to reassure home. Yeah, 175 00:07:21,441 --> 00:07:24,081 Speaker 2: case like she felt, even in the smallest inkling that like 176 00:07:24,121 --> 00:07:26,001 Speaker 2: I was pulling away for any reason. Yeah, And she 177 00:07:26,041 --> 00:07:27,521 Speaker 2: was like, oh no, baby, you're so fine. I'm like, yeah, 178 00:07:27,561 --> 00:07:29,721 Speaker 2: just over communicating. Yeah, And I was like, always say that. 179 00:07:29,721 --> 00:07:31,561 Speaker 2: That is so beautiful for you to reassure me. Because 180 00:07:31,561 --> 00:07:33,201 Speaker 2: I am an anxious friend. I don't feel like I'm 181 00:07:33,201 --> 00:07:35,561 Speaker 2: that anxious anymore. Actually saying that, I. 182 00:07:35,561 --> 00:07:37,401 Speaker 1: Know you feel past version of me, but. 183 00:07:37,401 --> 00:07:40,681 Speaker 2: I feel when you have secure relationships, you become secure. Yeah. 184 00:07:40,681 --> 00:07:41,081 Speaker 1: That's right. 185 00:07:41,241 --> 00:07:43,161 Speaker 2: I feel safe and connected and you know that that 186 00:07:43,201 --> 00:07:46,641 Speaker 2: person's there and you change attachment style. Yeah, based on 187 00:07:46,881 --> 00:07:47,481 Speaker 2: that who you're with. 188 00:07:47,721 --> 00:07:50,441 Speaker 1: When I say I'm anxious, it doesn't feel congruent anymore. 189 00:07:50,641 --> 00:07:51,201 Speaker 1: That's cool. 190 00:07:51,441 --> 00:07:52,561 Speaker 2: That's very kind like that. 191 00:07:53,001 --> 00:07:54,921 Speaker 1: Anyways, when you send that message, I was like, Wow, 192 00:07:54,961 --> 00:07:56,641 Speaker 1: that's really nice of you to reassure me. And I 193 00:07:56,681 --> 00:07:58,281 Speaker 1: was like, oh, good babe, take care of you like 194 00:07:58,321 --> 00:08:01,001 Speaker 1: you were getting a period, you're tired like a fully Yeah, understood, 195 00:08:01,001 --> 00:08:02,961 Speaker 1: And I'm like, good on you for protecting your energy 196 00:08:03,001 --> 00:08:05,441 Speaker 1: and just being you know, there was nothing on my end, 197 00:08:05,481 --> 00:08:08,401 Speaker 1: but it is. It's that over communicating just to make sure. Yeah, 198 00:08:08,481 --> 00:08:09,201 Speaker 1: it's beautiful. 199 00:08:09,361 --> 00:08:16,841 Speaker 2: I think effort, transparency, openness, comunication, vulnerability, vulnerability. I guarantee, 200 00:08:17,161 --> 00:08:19,881 Speaker 2: if you can lead with more vulnerability, even just one 201 00:08:19,921 --> 00:08:21,961 Speaker 2: percent more than what you're doing right now, in any 202 00:08:22,001 --> 00:08:23,721 Speaker 2: relationship that you have right now, you might get a 203 00:08:23,761 --> 00:08:26,361 Speaker 2: very different response from the people in your life. Yeah. 204 00:08:26,481 --> 00:08:28,961 Speaker 1: I really notice with your friends dropping off, Like, really, 205 00:08:29,001 --> 00:08:32,121 Speaker 1: notice who's there through it all, not just the highlight reel, 206 00:08:32,761 --> 00:08:34,601 Speaker 1: even me getting diagnosed in my brain on us. And 207 00:08:34,641 --> 00:08:36,601 Speaker 1: I was reflecting on this last night because someone asked 208 00:08:36,841 --> 00:08:39,081 Speaker 1: if i'd heard from someone. I said no, I haven't 209 00:08:39,121 --> 00:08:40,761 Speaker 1: heard from her in years, and she was like, oh, 210 00:08:40,881 --> 00:08:43,761 Speaker 1: did you reach out about your brain surgery? I was 211 00:08:43,801 --> 00:08:46,241 Speaker 1: like no, And then I had this big reflection of 212 00:08:46,281 --> 00:08:48,121 Speaker 1: who reached out who didn't, And I was like, it's 213 00:08:48,161 --> 00:08:50,601 Speaker 1: really interesting. I to just sit with it all and 214 00:08:50,601 --> 00:08:52,481 Speaker 1: it's a bit of sadness in there, but it's disappointment, 215 00:08:52,521 --> 00:08:54,041 Speaker 1: a bit of like, oh my gosh, why didn't they 216 00:08:54,081 --> 00:08:56,081 Speaker 1: reach out? And then random people that I haven't heard 217 00:08:56,081 --> 00:08:57,921 Speaker 1: from in years reached out I'm like, oh my gosh, 218 00:08:57,921 --> 00:08:59,761 Speaker 1: can I do anything? Can I send you this? Can 219 00:08:59,801 --> 00:09:00,441 Speaker 1: I drop you off this? 220 00:09:00,521 --> 00:09:01,801 Speaker 2: I was like, wow, Wow, it. 221 00:09:01,761 --> 00:09:04,361 Speaker 1: Was really interesting just to see who's been there through 222 00:09:04,401 --> 00:09:06,961 Speaker 1: like just highlight times or good times and where I 223 00:09:06,961 --> 00:09:09,321 Speaker 1: felt like a friend with benefits and then who's been 224 00:09:09,361 --> 00:09:12,201 Speaker 1: there through all the ups and downs. So I think 225 00:09:12,201 --> 00:09:13,881 Speaker 1: that's something to check in on your friendships as well. 226 00:09:14,001 --> 00:09:15,361 Speaker 2: Yeah, I love to hear it. 227 00:09:15,481 --> 00:09:17,921 Speaker 1: Yeah, so we hope that helps. But seeing you in 228 00:09:17,961 --> 00:09:20,041 Speaker 1: this and also get yourself to a se Risees event 229 00:09:20,161 --> 00:09:23,561 Speaker 1: honestly create solid friendships. This is all of our retreats, 230 00:09:23,601 --> 00:09:25,641 Speaker 1: all of our events are born from what we've created 231 00:09:25,641 --> 00:09:28,001 Speaker 1: within our friendship and we just want that to multiply. 232 00:09:28,401 --> 00:09:30,121 Speaker 2: And you know, the coolest thing about like our in 233 00:09:30,121 --> 00:09:32,401 Speaker 2: person events is that everyone there is looking for the 234 00:09:32,401 --> 00:09:34,801 Speaker 2: same thing. Literally, Like you might even have the story 235 00:09:34,841 --> 00:09:37,241 Speaker 2: that Wow, it's really hard to meet like minded people 236 00:09:37,521 --> 00:09:39,961 Speaker 2: or like people who you genuinely want to spend time with. 237 00:09:40,361 --> 00:09:42,161 Speaker 2: But trust me, if you come here, get the right 238 00:09:42,241 --> 00:09:44,801 Speaker 2: room and abundance about people who want the. 239 00:09:44,721 --> 00:09:46,201 Speaker 1: Same thing, get in the right room, it's like, wow, 240 00:09:46,241 --> 00:09:47,201 Speaker 1: they're here. I just didn't know it. 241 00:09:47,201 --> 00:09:48,401 Speaker 2: A look or you've got to do a show up. 242 00:09:48,441 --> 00:09:50,801 Speaker 1: We don't have anything at the moment, but keep it 243 00:09:50,801 --> 00:09:51,321 Speaker 1: on the mind. 244 00:09:51,961 --> 00:09:53,801 Speaker 2: Will let you know as soon as we do. Yeah, 245 00:09:53,961 --> 00:09:54,881 Speaker 2: thanks for joining us. Guys. 246 00:09:54,921 --> 00:09:56,001 Speaker 1: We'll see in the next episode. 247 00:09:56,041 --> 00:09:56,681 Speaker 2: Bye bye.