WEBVTT - #1927 Better Than Yesterday - Harps 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:03.480 Get our champs. So we all want to get better. 0:00:04.000 --> 0:00:06.640 We all want to get better at stuff. We want 0:00:06.720 --> 0:00:09.239 to do better, think better, We want to improve, we 0:00:09.280 --> 0:00:11.360 want to grow, we want to learn, we want to evolve, 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:14.240 we want to adapt. We want to be able to thrive, 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:16.720 not just survive. We want to be the best version 0:00:16.760 --> 0:00:20.080 of us all that stuff we do. And that is 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.639 why many of you listen to me talk. That is 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:24.200 why many of you come for a little bit of 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:26.799 coaching and inspiration and a bit of fun at times. 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:31.680 But I guess the one thing that most humans anyway 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:34.320 have in common is that they would like to be 0:00:35.320 --> 0:00:41.199 in a better situation or circumstance or environment than they 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:45.559 currently are in. And while of course that means different 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:49.960 things and to different people, but we all want to 0:00:50.320 --> 0:00:56.080 get better at something, improve ourselves on some level, grow, learn, evolve, 0:00:56.280 --> 0:01:01.960 get healthier, earn more dollars, be more productive, be more efficient, 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:05.840 be more resilient, Be the person who doesn't lose their 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:08.120 shit all the time, be the calm and the chaos. 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:13.040 Be a better boss or leader, or parent, or partner 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:19.680 or friend or in my case son, role model also friend. 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:24.280 I guess podcast to speak a motivator mentor coach walker 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:30.240 of my own talk. I'm always thinking about how I 0:01:30.240 --> 0:01:33.440 can be better for myself and for others, what I 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:37.160 can do to develop more skill or knowledge or patience 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:41.000 or compassion or empathy or awareness or understanding, or to 0:01:41.080 --> 0:01:45.400 be on a practical level, more productive and more effective 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:50.520 at what I do. And there are a lot of 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:53.240 ideas and a lot of principles which are pretty universal, 0:01:54.000 --> 0:01:59.120 a lot of strategies that we can embrace. And so 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:02.120 today is going to be really just more a little 0:02:02.120 --> 0:02:04.520 bit of a pit stop for you. Like we do 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:08.000 so much on this show, so many conversations about how 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:12.680 people did, stuff, changed, grew, you know, one loss, you know, 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:16.760 peaks and troughs, pitfalls, tears, laughter, joy, you know all 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:20.240 that stuff. And what I want to share with you 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:25.000 today is just ten really fundamental ideas or fundamental questions 0:02:25.040 --> 0:02:29.720 really that you might want to jop down or at 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:33.880 the very least think about lean into. I've got ten 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:37.320 of them. They might not all be relevant or important 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:41.120 for you, but one or two of them might, or 0:02:41.120 --> 0:02:43.320 a bit more. But I'll let you be the judge 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:48.560 of that. So what I'm gonna do is talk about them, 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:52.400 unpack them a little bit, and then you know, so 0:02:52.560 --> 0:03:01.960 much of our outcomes results abilities to transform, be better, 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:05.000 do better, think better, create better. So much of that 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:09.760 is about our willingness to step out of the theory 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:12.720 of a podcast, out of the theory of a workshop, 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.400 or the theory of a book, or the theory of 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:19.240 fucking self help meme or whatever it is, and to 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:22.880 be able to operationalize that idea or that message or 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:26.400 that insight or that science or that wisdom, so that 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:29.519 not only are we tuning into good stuff and we're 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:32.359 hearing good stuff, and we're learning good stuff and listening 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:36.440 to and maybe even remembering good stuff. But more important 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:40.480 than all of that theoretical stuff is we are activating it. 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:45.080 We're doing something with it. And as cheesy as this sounds, 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:50.000 transformation lives in the application of the information, the doing, 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:52.520 not just the knowing. And so many of us are 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:56.320 so knowing, we're so clever, we know so much stuff. 0:03:56.360 --> 0:04:00.640 We've got such a huge kind of bank of theory 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:03.680 just logged away in our little brain or our giant brain. 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:08.920 But also so many of us have really been fucking 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:11.240 around for a very long time and not doing what 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:16.279 we know, certainly not optimizing what we know, certainly not 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:21.200 optimizing our potential or our time, or our genetics, or 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:26.479 our resources or our skills, quite often being held to 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:33.000 ransom by our self doubt or our fear, or our insecurity, 0:04:33.360 --> 0:04:40.320 or our overthinking, chaotic underperforming at times mind and all 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:43.839 of the stories that we tell ourselves about why today's 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:47.000 not the day and we can't do it, and all 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:49.800 of those things. So let's try to step out of 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:53.280 the emotion for a little bit. Let's try to step 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:55.200 out of the emotion of I'm not good enough and 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:57.800 but you don't understand, and it's hard, and it's all 0:04:57.839 --> 0:04:59.839 that shit right, and I get it, and it is 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:04.560 hard at times. But also one two things can be 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:06.560 true at the same time. One, yes, it is true 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:09.520 that some things are hard, too, It's also true that 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:14.720 sometimes we make things hard that are not, and then 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:17.840 eventually it becomes hard not because of the task itself, 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:21.320 but rather the anxiety or the fear or the avoidance 0:05:21.360 --> 0:05:23.880 that we've wrapped around it. So what we want to 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:28.159 try to do is to listen to this stuff objectively. 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:32.240 I ask myself all of these questions, and there are 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:34.320 times when I need to take myself into the room 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:35.960 and mirrors and have a good look at myself and 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:39.040 my behavior and my reactions and my outcomes and my choices, 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:42.600 because you know, I'm just like you. I'm human, I'm flawed. 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:44.360 I have good days and bad days. You have good 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:46.279 days and bad days. You do great shit, you do 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:48.560 dumb shit, You fall down, you get up. You're human. 0:05:49.279 --> 0:05:51.920 But in the middle of all of the trying to 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:56.080 build the best version of ourselves that we can, we 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:59.000 at times need to turn up the strategy and the 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:03.560 logic and the reason and the planning and the accountability, 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:06.280 all of those very practical things and turned down as 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:08.840 much as possible easier said than done, but turned down 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:14.599 the emotion, turned down the fear, and turned down all 0:06:14.680 --> 0:06:18.640 of that internal kind of chaos that stops us from 0:06:18.680 --> 0:06:23.680 doing Alright, here we go. So question one is simply this, 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:28.080 what do I need to get better at? What do I? So? 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:31.440 What do you? What do you need to get better at? 0:06:32.200 --> 0:06:34.680 What is the thing that you are not currently doing well? 0:06:35.120 --> 0:06:38.000 What is the thing that you need to do better 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:41.719 that will improve the quality of your life, the quality 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:50.640 of your experiences, interactions, relationships, health, work, experience, communication, understanding others, 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:54.960 decision making, all of that stuff. What is the stuff 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:58.240 that you need to be better at that is going 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:00.840 to make your life or your life experience or the 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:05.159 experience of others around you. Remember that, what's it like 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.560 being around you? What do you need to get better at? 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:11.120 So that could be anything in the personal space or 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:14.720 the professional space. It could be physical health, it could 0:07:14.720 --> 0:07:18.520 be mental health. That could be producing outcomes. It could 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:23.760 be persevering. It could be being the solution person, not 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:27.760 the problem person, recognizing the problem, but being all about 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:31.360 the solution. It could be being the person that stops 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:34.680 giving up, the person who finishes stuff, the person who 0:07:35.240 --> 0:07:40.280 sees things through, the person who, as difficult as it is, 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:45.360 chooses to be positive. And no, we can't just magic 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:48.640 up a new emotion. But guess what. When we focus 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:53.400 on things, we shift our focus, We ask different questions, 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:57.280 we tell ourselves a new story. We can start to 0:07:57.320 --> 0:08:00.400 shift our psychology, which means which means we can start 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:03.800 to shift our motion and our physiology around. So question 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:05.440 one is what do you need to get better at? 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:08.760 Don't overthink it, don't complicate it. It doesn't need to 0:08:08.800 --> 0:08:12.240 be too scientific or high level. It might just be 0:08:12.400 --> 0:08:15.800 something really simple, like I need to stop putting shit 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:19.119 in my body. The end, I need to stop putting 0:08:19.120 --> 0:08:21.840 shit in my body. I need to stop waiting for 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:25.960 the right time. I need to stop bullshitting myself about 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:30.200 the destructive things that I do. Whatever it is, acknowledge it, 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:34.160 write it down, and then do something about it. Most importantly, 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:36.760 do something about it. Number two is how much do 0:08:36.800 --> 0:08:39.200 you want it? How much do you want to change 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:43.840 that thing? These are real fundamental questions, right But the 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.880 reason that I ask these real fundamental questions is because 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:49.960 I talk to people, as you know, all the time, 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:53.560 and I have for forty years, and oftentimes people will 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:56.560 tell me what they want to do. But at the 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:59.520 same time, other than the words that are coming out 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:03.200 of their mouth, everything else about them is telling me 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:06.480 that they're not going to do it. Though yeah, I 0:09:06.520 --> 0:09:09.040 want to, yeap, I really want to improve this or 0:09:09.120 --> 0:09:13.640 change that or be healthier. I'd love to, I'd want yep, yep, yep, 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:17.120 But everything about them is like, but I'm not fucking 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:21.440 doing it because I don't want it that much. My 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:24.800 experience is that people love the idea of success, the 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:29.680 idea of living in an amazingly fit, strong, healthy, functional body, 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:32.079 the idea of a dream job, the idea of a 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:38.199 dream situation. But while some people will do what's required, 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:42.240 many people will not. Many people want the top of 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:45.120 the mountain, as I've said to you before, Many people 0:09:45.160 --> 0:09:47.120 want to sit on the top of Everest, but they 0:09:47.120 --> 0:09:49.680 don't want to climb Everest. They want the summit without 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:53.079 the climb. They want the reward without the work. They 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:56.520 want the prize without the effort, all of those fucking metaphors. 0:09:56.600 --> 0:10:01.400 That's what they want. And if you think about it, 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.560 if I've got the skill, and I've got the talent, 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:06.280 and I've got the resources, and I've got a cheer squad, 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:10.000 and I've got all the things I need except the 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:15.199 willingness to fucking do the work no matter what, then 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:22.199 the rest doesn't matter. Without my absolute commitment and willingness 0:10:22.240 --> 0:10:28.600 and courage to do the transformational work, then all the 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:32.199 rest is just superfluous noise, all the cheer squadding, all 0:10:32.240 --> 0:10:35.280 the resources, all the well Craig so this or your 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:38.000 so that, or all the potential or the IQ or 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:42.800 the great genetics or the ability or the opportunities or 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:45.760 all of that stuff is redundant. If the person in 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:48.840 the middle of all of those great resources and things, 0:10:49.520 --> 0:10:54.000 is not willing to do that work that creates better 0:10:55.440 --> 0:11:00.480 that creates growth, that creates improvement, that creates positive ada aptation, 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:06.240 that produces better results on planet you like, there needs 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:09.000 to be And I know this sounds a little bit 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:12.079 motivational speaker, one oh one, I don't mean to. Actually, 0:11:12.320 --> 0:11:14.280 I'm not trying to motivate you. I'm just trying to 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.880 get you to understand that everything comes at a cost. 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:21.920 And yeah, theoretically we know that, but everything and it's 0:11:21.920 --> 0:11:24.720 not always a financial cost. Sometimes it's time and effort 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:28.240 and pain and sacrifice and rolling up the sleeves. And 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:33.000 sometimes it's just repetition, repetition. Sometimes it's falling down and 0:11:33.000 --> 0:11:36.080 fucking up and getting smashed and getting embarrassed and getting 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:37.960 back up and going, I look like a fuck with. 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:40.680 It's okay, though, I'm prepared to look like a fuck with. 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:45.000 I'm prepared to get punched in the metaphoric face fifty 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:49.200 times because this is how fucking much I want to 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:53.960 get better. This is how much I want to learn, improve, grow, evolve, 0:11:54.120 --> 0:11:59.040 build that business, build that body, build that fucking bulletproof mindset. 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:02.680 I am going to do the work right, and this 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:07.839 is the this is the antithesis of the shoulder shruggy brigade. Ah, 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:12.680 I'll see how it works out, Like if you're already 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:14.480 in that look, I'll give it a go and I'll 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:17.480 see how it works out. Either one you need a 0:12:17.520 --> 0:12:21.920 massive shift in story and thinking and approach, or you 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:27.040 need to throw it in. Number three is how much 0:12:27.120 --> 0:12:30.480 will I inconvenience myself? Which goes with number two a bit. 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:36.240 But success, getting better, winning, whatever we want to call it, 0:12:36.400 --> 0:12:40.559 is inconvenient. And we are people who are hardwired for convenience. 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:45.199 We love convenience. We love things to be quick, easy, fast, painless. 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:48.600 We want to get to the you know, the next 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:53.000 floor without walking any stairs. We want the escalator. As 0:12:53.000 --> 0:12:58.280 I've said before with the Mountain analogy, it's just the tragic, tragic. 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:01.199 Maybe that's overdoing, maybe not. Maybe the tragic thing about 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:04.520 twenty twenty five is that we are so addicted to 0:13:04.760 --> 0:13:09.199 convenience that we would rather push a button, We would 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:14.280 rather reach for some junk food that tastes amazing for 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:18.080 twenty thirty fifty sixty seconds or three minutes of five minutes, 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:22.640 but is over the long term killing us. But it's convenient. 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:25.079 It's right there, and it's high fat, high taste, high salt, 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:29.560 high sugar, high whatever, but it's low nutrition and it's 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:34.040 slowly killing you. And the truth is that sometimes we 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:39.520 just need to be able to grind through the miles 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:45.640 and the minutes and the decisions and the inconvenience of 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:49.880 what's required, because what is required to be awesome is 0:13:50.080 --> 0:13:55.920 almost never convenient. Think about anyone who has become a master, 0:13:56.200 --> 0:14:00.520 and by that I mean very very high level, anything 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:05.320 like a master at business, a master at Brazilian jiu jitsu, 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:12.800 a master at self control, a master at communication, a 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:18.760 master at research and study. All of those people, all 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:21.840 of those people roll up their slaves and got inconvenienced 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:27.120 for a long time. It's one of the prices. Number four, 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.720 Question four. Of all the shit that you want to 0:14:30.760 --> 0:14:33.920 get better at, what's at the top of your list? 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:41.080 What is what is your priority? In other words, right now, 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:44.960 what is the most important thing for you to address 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:49.440 and focus on and pay attention to, what needs to 0:14:49.480 --> 0:14:55.480 have your energy? And how many things? This is a 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:59.760 great question, how many things can you change at once? 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:06.200 My experiences, we might have a few things in mind, 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:11.680 but there's probably one thing, one key thing, which might 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:14.640 involve other things. Like, for example, if your primary focus 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:17.880 is to get physically healthy, well that's going to involve 0:15:18.000 --> 0:15:22.000 other things, isn't it. But your primary focus, your number 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:26.840 one goal for the time being, that's at the top 0:15:26.880 --> 0:15:30.000 of your I need to get better at list is 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:34.320 physical health. Now, of course that's going to involve probably exercise, 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:39.000 probably lifestyle, I'll probably sleep, probably nutrition, and probably a 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:41.960 bit of soap, a bunch of stuff. But it all 0:15:42.080 --> 0:15:46.840 kind of it all kind of melds into the or 0:15:47.640 --> 0:15:52.560 spills into the getting physically better kind of bucket, doesn't it. So? 0:15:53.480 --> 0:15:58.440 And my experience is also that we tend to be 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:02.760 better at focusing on one or two key things. Doesn't 0:16:02.800 --> 0:16:04.880 mean we're not going to have where we're going to 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:07.960 neglect everything else in our life. But when you say 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:10.320 there's ten things I really need to get better at, 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:13.840 and I'm going to do all ten at the same 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.440 time over the next week or month or whatever, the 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:22.040 chances are you'll change nothing. So what's the best investment 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:25.760 of me regarding this thing that I really want to change? 0:16:26.320 --> 0:16:30.040 Where should my attention and time and skill and energy 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:34.800 and resources be based on The thing that's at the 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:39.560 top of my list number five. Question five is how 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:43.440 do I self sabotage. We all sell sabotage. We all 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:47.800 get in our own way. For some people that's avoiding 0:16:47.800 --> 0:16:51.920 shit we should not avoid. For some people it's procrastination, 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:56.120 fucking around. Probably those two things go together. For some 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:58.240 of us, it's lying. We don't want to say that, 0:16:58.320 --> 0:17:00.000 do we. No one wants to think they're a lie. 0:17:01.120 --> 0:17:04.240 We'll lie to ourselves, I think, probably the most, and 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:07.320 then maybe to others periodically. But I'm really talking here 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:14.000 about the self awareness, the self, the self reflection and 0:17:14.040 --> 0:17:16.439 what comes out of that, Like what am I aware of. 0:17:16.560 --> 0:17:20.639 I'm aware that I avoid certain situations, or that I 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:25.360 won't have certain conversations. I'm aware that I bullshit myself 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:31.160 and others about certain things. Self sabotage might also come, 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:34.520 as I spoke about a minute ago, in the form 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:37.359 of instant gratification. I'll have this piece of I'll have 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:39.840 this piece of cake now, and I'll start tomorrow. I'll 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:42.399 have whatever it is, this beer, this whatever, I'll do 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:46.280 this dumb thing over the weekend because it's my brother's birthday, 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:48.240 so I'm going to go hard for the weekend, but 0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:51.800 then I'm going to start Monday, and from Monday everything 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:54.920 will be amazing. And of course it won't be amazing 0:17:55.000 --> 0:17:57.680 because you've said yourself. You've said that to yourself or 0:17:57.720 --> 0:18:00.800 a version of that story many times, and here you 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:02.840 are and you're still spinning your wheels and you're still 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:04.920 not doing the things that you said you would do 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:11.000 one hundred times before. I guess we also self sabotage, 0:18:11.080 --> 0:18:16.239 or we can also self sabotage by choosing easy, you know, 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:20.800 taking the easy path, taking the path of least resistance. 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:24.480 But let me be clear, if there's a hard way 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:27.400 an easy way to produce the same outcome, I'm taking 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:31.800 the easy way with you. But typically that's not how 0:18:31.840 --> 0:18:35.280 it works. So how do you currently self sabotage? How 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:38.520 do you get in your own way? It might be 0:18:38.560 --> 0:18:40.720 any one of those. It might be that you constantly 0:18:40.800 --> 0:18:43.800 need a round of applause and a cheer squad, an endorsement, 0:18:43.960 --> 0:18:46.399 and a pad on the back, and you need someone 0:18:46.440 --> 0:18:48.760 to tell you that you're amazing and all of those things. 0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:52.520 And while those things are nice, we all love a 0:18:52.560 --> 0:18:54.280 pat on the back, We all love a cheers god, 0:18:54.320 --> 0:18:57.119 we all love accolades. We all love being appreciated and 0:18:57.240 --> 0:19:00.639 valued and seen. We love all of that. But what's 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:06.520 not good is when we're dependent on that, when we 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:09.240 can't do what we need to do unless there are 0:19:09.320 --> 0:19:16.240 ten people standing by clapping. So how do you self sabotage? 0:19:16.359 --> 0:19:20.800 What are you going to do about it? I'm realizing 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:25.960 a couple of these are overlapping, so I'm going to 0:19:26.040 --> 0:19:29.520 skip one or two. I'm going to go maybe my 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:33.320 second last question is what are my results telling me? 0:19:34.240 --> 0:19:36.800 What are my results telling me? You and me, we 0:19:36.880 --> 0:19:40.400 are always producing results. We're always doing stuff and getting 0:19:40.400 --> 0:19:45.280 an outcome. We're producing data, and whatever the result is, 0:19:45.840 --> 0:19:51.320 it's just it's a result. It's objective information. It's not 0:19:51.560 --> 0:19:56.080 an emotion or an opinion. You might do a piece 0:19:56.119 --> 0:19:58.680 of schoolwork. You're hand it in and you get it back, 0:19:58.720 --> 0:20:02.160 You've got eighty percent. That's the result. That's your objective 0:20:02.240 --> 0:20:05.040 piece of information. I got eighty percent, or I got 0:20:05.040 --> 0:20:09.480 fifty percent. Or you might try a little project and 0:20:09.960 --> 0:20:12.679 you want to lose four ks in four weeks. You 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:17.040 do the project, you undertake the new protocol, You change 0:20:17.119 --> 0:20:19.920 some decisions and behaviors and habits for a bit or 0:20:20.720 --> 0:20:23.600 behaviors at least. Probably habits take longer. But in four 0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:28.400 weeks you lost four kilograms. You lost kilogram a week 0:20:28.400 --> 0:20:31.560 on average. That's just data. That doesn't mean anything until 0:20:31.760 --> 0:20:33.960 you give that one kilo per week or that four 0:20:34.040 --> 0:20:37.520 kilos of four weeks kind of outcome. That data, that information, 0:20:38.040 --> 0:20:41.360 you give it meaning, You give it meaning. You might 0:20:41.400 --> 0:20:43.439 go four weeks as a good result. Four weeks is 0:20:43.480 --> 0:20:45.800 not a good result because I wanted to lose six 0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:49.000 or maybe four weeks is a great result because I 0:20:49.040 --> 0:20:51.359 was aiming for half a kilo ish a week and 0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:55.400 I've lost one kilo a week exactly, which is bloody amazing. 0:20:55.520 --> 0:20:59.280 So but the point is that we're always producing results 0:20:59.280 --> 0:21:01.439 in our world. Need to figure out if based on 0:21:01.640 --> 0:21:03.840 the results that I'm getting with whatever it is my 0:21:03.920 --> 0:21:07.200 relationships or my bank balance, or my career or my 0:21:08.000 --> 0:21:11.280 fitness project or my research project or whatever it is 0:21:11.320 --> 0:21:14.919 that I'm doing being and trying to create, are my 0:21:15.080 --> 0:21:19.520 results aligning with what I want to create? Are they 0:21:19.600 --> 0:21:24.200 a positive reflection of my effort and energy and focus 0:21:24.840 --> 0:21:32.399 and choices. Now, this is not to rate ourselves, but 0:21:32.560 --> 0:21:35.760 rather just rate the results. We're not trying to make 0:21:35.800 --> 0:21:38.800 ourselves feel good or feel bad. We're trying to figure 0:21:38.800 --> 0:21:42.400 out what works. So if I do a certain thing 0:21:42.480 --> 0:21:45.320 trying to create a good outcome or a particular outcome, 0:21:46.080 --> 0:21:49.080 and I do the thing and I create the outcome 0:21:49.119 --> 0:21:51.399 I wanted or hopeful, then I go, wow, that is 0:21:51.440 --> 0:21:53.959 a pretty good protocol because I did that thing, I 0:21:54.000 --> 0:21:56.760 created the result I wanted. Or maybe I do that 0:21:56.840 --> 0:21:59.679 thing and I create half of what I wanted, and 0:21:59.680 --> 0:22:02.439 I go, well, look, it's definitely moving in the right direction. 0:22:02.520 --> 0:22:05.080 It's moving the needle. There's some good in there, but 0:22:05.119 --> 0:22:07.800 I probably need to do a little bit of tweaking, 0:22:08.920 --> 0:22:11.600 or it might produce no result or a bad result. 0:22:12.040 --> 0:22:17.880 Either way, we're learning. Either way, you are always producing 0:22:18.600 --> 0:22:23.040 results and outcomes that are for you if you make them. 0:22:23.119 --> 0:22:30.800 They are lessons. This is interesting data that you can 0:22:30.840 --> 0:22:35.440 then reflect upon way up the outcomes with the thing 0:22:35.520 --> 0:22:39.280 that you did. Figure out if that's what you wanted 0:22:39.440 --> 0:22:41.920 or not. If it is what you wanted, great, can 0:22:42.000 --> 0:22:45.240 it be improved upon even further? If it isn't, what 0:22:45.280 --> 0:22:47.520 do you need to change? What happened? Why was it 0:22:47.560 --> 0:22:51.080 a bad plan? Why was it a bad protocol? But nonetheless, 0:22:51.880 --> 0:22:55.600 either way, pay attention to what's happening in your world 0:22:55.760 --> 0:23:00.080 as a result of your choices and behaviors, because in 0:23:00.160 --> 0:23:07.560 those outcomes, in that data is gold is gold. All right, 0:23:08.520 --> 0:23:17.240 let's do let's do let's do this one. What's your 0:23:17.800 --> 0:23:19.919 and you've heard me say this many times some of you, 0:23:20.640 --> 0:23:27.680 what's your post motivation plan? In other words, if I 0:23:27.720 --> 0:23:29.680 inspire you a little bit today, or prompt you a 0:23:29.720 --> 0:23:31.919 little bit today, or you get whatever reason, you go, 0:23:32.000 --> 0:23:34.000 fuck it, I'm going to do it. I'm going to 0:23:34.080 --> 0:23:36.920 do this bit, I'm gonna I'm going to make that decision, 0:23:37.000 --> 0:23:39.920 do that thing, and from today I'm starting. I'm starting, 0:23:41.200 --> 0:23:43.160 and you're a little bit more focused, a little bit 0:23:43.160 --> 0:23:46.320 more inspired, you're a little bit more in the zone. 0:23:46.480 --> 0:23:50.240 And then so you start, and then a week passes 0:23:50.320 --> 0:23:52.960 and now you're not motivated. You still have the same 0:23:53.080 --> 0:23:55.159 need to do that thing, because you're the same person 0:23:55.200 --> 0:23:58.040 with the same issues, but now it's a week later, 0:23:58.240 --> 0:24:02.560 and the feeling that you have at the start, I'm pumped, 0:24:02.600 --> 0:24:04.600 I'm a little bit excited, I'm a bit more focused, 0:24:04.640 --> 0:24:06.639 I'm a bit more motivated. I have a bit of 0:24:06.640 --> 0:24:09.760 self awareness because Craig pointed out this thing that I do. 0:24:09.840 --> 0:24:13.280 I recognize myself in his words, and now I'm fucking 0:24:13.359 --> 0:24:16.240 doing this thing. Go me right, And then we fast 0:24:16.240 --> 0:24:20.920 forward seven days. All of that energy's gone, that emotion's gone, 0:24:20.960 --> 0:24:24.680 that feeling's gone, but the need to change, the need 0:24:24.720 --> 0:24:27.880 to get better, the need to improve, is still there. 0:24:29.359 --> 0:24:32.720 So the ever present question is how do I keep 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:35.800 doing what I need to do when I can't be bothered? 0:24:37.000 --> 0:24:39.959 How do I stay proactive and productive and effective and 0:24:40.560 --> 0:24:46.280 doing what's required without being in the zone, without being 0:24:46.680 --> 0:24:52.760 excited all the time. Because the challenge is that the 0:24:52.880 --> 0:24:56.960 challenge is that you and I are not perpetually motivated 0:24:57.000 --> 0:24:59.320 in the sense that I'm talking about motivation right now. 0:24:59.520 --> 0:25:03.440 We're not perpetually put your teeth in aps. We're not 0:25:03.560 --> 0:25:06.679 perpetually in the zone. We're not perpetually excited. We're not 0:25:06.760 --> 0:25:11.199 perpetually pumping the air where all of it, all of 0:25:11.240 --> 0:25:16.000 the time, where or overtime anyway, We're up and down, 0:25:16.160 --> 0:25:23.280 we're excited, we're scared, we're confident, where competent and incompetent 0:25:23.400 --> 0:25:26.640 depending on what we're doing. But the challenge for us 0:25:26.840 --> 0:25:32.240 is just too hopefully, in general terms, keep moving forward, 0:25:32.720 --> 0:25:38.560 keep taking ground, keep improving, keep learning, keep developing, and 0:25:38.600 --> 0:25:40.760 there will be weeks when we go backwards, but you 0:25:40.800 --> 0:25:43.720 look at the overall month and you go, yeah, the 0:25:43.840 --> 0:25:46.639 second week of this month was shit, but the overall 0:25:46.840 --> 0:25:50.320