WEBVTT - Dilemma Diaries Are Back & So Are We! 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.400 My situationship ended up with me before a pilate star. 0:00:03.560 --> 0:00:13.760 Oh yeah, I was like so fucking sad. Hello, welcome 0:00:13.800 --> 0:00:15.200 back to Just for a Girl. 0:00:15.400 --> 0:00:17.760 It feels so good where back in my Women. We're 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:21.320 actually recording in the Nova studios today, and every angle 0:00:21.400 --> 0:00:22.799 I look at, I'm seeing. 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:26.680 Face like, yeah, I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm 0:00:26.880 --> 0:00:27.560 I'm loving it. 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:30.280 I don't love it. It's kind of wigging me out. 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:33.879 I like the photo of myself, that's maybe my if 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:34.640 I hated the photo. 0:00:34.680 --> 0:00:36.640 Yeah, I don't love the photo of myself. Actually, fun 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:39.639 fact Easy he's like Easy, he's pickier than me at photos, 0:00:39.680 --> 0:00:42.239 and Easy didn't like any of any other photo but 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:44.280 that one, so I just had to bite my tongue. 0:00:45.159 --> 0:00:48.000 I don't like, I've got a funny, funny thing about 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:50.320 the angles of my face, Like I look completely different 0:00:50.320 --> 0:00:52.639 from both sides of my face, so we need mine. 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:55.760 That was like bang on the center from the right side. 0:00:55.960 --> 0:00:57.639 Yeah, I don't love my set face in that one, 0:00:57.680 --> 0:00:58.720 but like you can't really see it. 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:02.080 Make up looks, didn't make up ellie, yeah looks. 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:05.680 But we're back in Melbourne and I cannot tell you, guys, 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:08.400 how good it feels to be home, not in like 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:10.480 a oh my god, you fucking prove it a little 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:13.200 piece of shit, but like it's just like we'd been 0:01:13.280 --> 0:01:15.279 traveling so much and it was like good to finally 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:17.640 come home. A lot unraveled when we're in Bali and 0:01:17.680 --> 0:01:19.480 I was like, I just need me home, I need 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:22.600 my car, I need my friends, and I feel. 0:01:22.400 --> 0:01:25.320 Like the weather, like the vibes are so yeah in 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:27.160 Melbourn when the weather gets warm with with that like 0:01:27.319 --> 0:01:28.559 first sort of couple of days. 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:31.440 Yeah, And we came back like just for the long weekend, 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:33.200 like just in time for the long we can The 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:36.000 weather was good Friday Saturday, like everyone was out, Melbourne 0:01:36.080 --> 0:01:39.080 was bustling, like we had the best time on Saturday's cuts. 0:01:39.240 --> 0:01:41.880 I mean, your family. I'm just I'm really grateful that 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:43.520 I get the opportunity to be away, but I'm so 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:44.560 fucking happy to be home. 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:47.199 It makes you appreciate homes and like that in my own. 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:50.720 Space, love you guys. We didn't have one single argument 0:01:50.960 --> 0:01:51.720 that whole trip. 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:55.480 We're like absolutely right now. Our relationship is. 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:57.560 All Like all my friends were our grand final day 0:01:57.560 --> 0:01:58.960 and I was like they're like, oh my god, did 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:01.280 I go with that. I'm like, we didn't fight once, guys. 0:02:01.520 --> 0:02:03.480 Yeah, And then they always makes it sound like we're 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:04.480 not actually real friends. 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:07.440 I was just so they just want to make sure 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:09.280 we like, you know, you'll fight with any friend really 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:11.079 if you go on a holiday together occasionally you'll have 0:02:11.200 --> 0:02:13.400 like a big girl too. So they just wanted to know, like, 0:02:13.639 --> 0:02:15.120 how did you guys go? And I'm like, oh, like 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:17.560 we went amazing, Like we did not argue ones and 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:19.720 the whole bloody table was like yeah yeah. 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:23.000 Because also like we're kind of teamed up because like 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:24.679 we needed to get out of a few things. And 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:26.639 I was like, easy, you're fucking helping me. 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:27.800 Yeah, I was her. 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:30.840 I was the what's it called the excuse? 0:02:31.080 --> 0:02:32.919 Well, yeah, but there's a word. I'm always looking for 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:36.760 words that I never actually they are. But yeah, Sam 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:39.240 used me as her out for a lot of things 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:40.079 in that last. 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:44.840 Oh guys, I just it's too fresh that it's like 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:46.919 it's way too fresh that it's kind of like I 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:49.639 want to respect people's faces, but like things happen way 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:51.200 too quickly, and then I like had time to see 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:53.160 it reflected. I was like, what the fuck am I doing? 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:55.240 Kind of thing I need to get home. I need 0:02:55.280 --> 0:02:58.600 to be around my people. So like all that Bali 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:00.880 stuff of me going back to bat it's just not happening. 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:02.720 Let's just like put it, yeah, put it right. 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:06.359 That fun chapter has come to an end. Kind of 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:09.000 like one of those I'm trying to pick my words, 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:13.320 very yeah reality kind of hit. I was living in 0:03:13.440 --> 0:03:17.160 La La Land, she was, and I was well aware 0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:18.400 that she was living in La La Land. 0:03:18.600 --> 0:03:21.160 And then once all my friends and everything came over, 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:23.919 I was like, fuck, La La Land's not maintainable. 0:03:24.400 --> 0:03:27.359 It's my land. That's a good way to put the situation. 0:03:27.600 --> 0:03:31.200 So I back home, back around my back on, back home. 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:35.160 But on Saturday, we had a really good day together. 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:36.360 I had a lot of fun. 0:03:36.440 --> 0:03:38.840 I had so much fun. It was a long day easy. 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:41.520 I started drinking at ten thirty in the morning. 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:43.520 We have mimosas to start guys. 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:47.880 Yeah, we warmed up. Yeah, but we warmed up, and 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:51.400 then like by six I was like, fuck, oh my god, 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:55.160 it's still only six o'clock. And then it was still 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:56.080 a long night from there. 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:57.400 It was a long night from them, but it was 0:03:57.440 --> 0:03:59.000 a fun night all the same. I actually had it 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:01.600 like there's yeah, I was tired and exhausted because you're 0:04:01.600 --> 0:04:03.440 being out and drinking that long. Obviously, it was grand 0:04:03.520 --> 0:04:05.520 fine all day. Yeah it's the day we're referring to. Yeah, 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:07.920 but I had fun. Like I was demating the next 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:10.120 morning because I was like, I had a really good 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:10.560 day though. 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:12.040 Yeah, we had had a really good day. It was 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:15.120 so much fun. We're around such good vibes, great people. 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:17.600 And then because you start so early, you kind of 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:19.560 wrap up a bit earlier when you're doing drink when 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:22.159 you're day drinking. So I was home by like twelve thirty, 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:23.960 and like, I still managed to have a really good Sunday. 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:26.120 Productive Sunday went to the gym, even though I watched 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:27.680 the gym guys and I literally could taste it to 0:04:27.720 --> 0:04:30.200 KILLI in the back of my throat. It was actually foul. 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:32.440 Like I was like when people say you're sweating out alcohol, 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:35.080 you actually like when you have actually are sweating out 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:35.520 the alcohol. 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:38.280 Yeah, And I was like really pushing myself through, but 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:39.640 I needed to go just like you would. 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:43.600 Yeah, it was coming out and I stayed up a 0:04:43.680 --> 0:04:46.760 little bit later than that. My favorite Sunday is a 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:49.320 day anyway, So I just made some pass to hung 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:53.240 out with my cat watch. I started watching Sopranos. You 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:56.040 know that is It's obviously it's incredibly well known, very 0:04:56.160 --> 0:04:58.800 highly rated. It's about like the mafia and the mob 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:02.520 in America and stuff. But it's like a six seasons 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:07.080 not real, but it's on binge. I don't it's not real, 0:05:07.440 --> 0:05:09.400 but it's like based loosely based off like some of 0:05:09.440 --> 0:05:12.800 the actual sort of mob heads in America. And it's 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:14.320 just like it's one of those ones that has like 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:16.960 rotten tomatoes ninety five. Soer like it's going to be 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:19.080 a good it's gonna be good. Yeah, So loving it 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:19.560 so far. 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:23.760 Yeah, But like I didn't really have any demons yesterday. 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.440 I had a good day. It was nice to regnite 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:32.440 with my housemates, chilling, living, living. But I wish I 0:05:32.480 --> 0:05:34.279 could tell you guys so much about I can't. 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:36.040 On another note, I was talking to same about this 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:39.839 in the bathroom just earlier. But there Hurricane Helene. 0:05:40.200 --> 0:05:43.680 Have you heard about that play? I saw Hannah's TikTok 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:47.400 because she's in Florida at the Hannah Oval. She's there, really, 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:50.520 she's at there at the moment with her boyfriend. I 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:52.120 don't know if I'm airing out a laun. 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:58.760 I think he plays an NFL. NFL she herself an 0:05:58.839 --> 0:05:59.520 NFL player. 0:05:59.600 --> 0:06:02.440 Yeah, she's over there with him at the moment. And 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:04.880 there was like a video of them picking up crumble cookies. 0:06:04.920 --> 0:06:06.160 It was literally like they were going to die in 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:06.440 the car. 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:09.560 No, it's like this huge, huge hurricane, probably worse than 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:11.080 what they've had in quite a while. But the problem 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:13.320 is more like the storm surge that comes like following 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.080 the hurricane, like as in all the water from the 0:06:16.200 --> 0:06:19.320 ocean and stuff due to pressures and winds get pushed 0:06:19.360 --> 0:06:21.840 onto land. So people have got like six feet of 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:25.200 water outside their windows and stuff. And everyone was obviously 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:28.600 being told to evacuate because six feet of water. Like 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:32.200 people are there are actually like the stuff. It's really 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:34.320 really bad. But a lot of people are in the 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:38.200 evacuation zone. They're like, nah, let's see how we go. 0:06:39.080 --> 0:06:41.480 It's like, why why risk it? Do you know what 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:46.240 I mean? So I spent maybe three hours he talks 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:49.200 about it yesterday. So sending love and prayers to everyone 0:06:49.400 --> 0:06:53.240 in Florida. Ah, it's absolutely terrifying because it's like a 0:06:53.279 --> 0:06:57.040 tsunami mixed with a bloody tornado, like it's just like, honestly. 0:06:56.960 --> 0:06:59.120 Shit, that's what I don't know. I don't think I would. 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:01.440 I hate to be hurricane. I would freak the funk out. 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:03.960 I don't like storms really actually, that's like kind of 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:04.840 one of my biggest bars. 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:07.880 Well, what I also didn't realize is the hurricane water 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:09.880 up because obviously a lot of water gets into the house. 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:11.800 It usually that covers a lot of the bottom layers 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.720 of levels of the houses. But if anything touches that water, 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:17.640 you have to chuck it out because the water is 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:22.200 filled with disease bacteria. Who it goes over the graveyards 0:07:22.360 --> 0:07:24.640 like you've got so all of that water coming into 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.240 your house is like so highly just infected with shit. 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:31.400 So it's like you can't disinfect things. That's gonna stick. 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:33.400 So if you just have to chuck out everything that 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:36.280 touches and try not to walk like barefoot or shower 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:41.520 like immediately, like it's crazy. So yeah, fuck global warming, brother, 0:07:42.200 --> 0:07:42.760 I'm sorry. 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:48.440 Yeah. Well, anyway from that, it's time for question of 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:57.720 the week. All right, is he if I went on 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:00.480 a first day and you had to give the guy 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:06.120 a warning about me, what would you warn them about I? 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:10.520 No matter how much you think you're right, you won't 0:08:10.560 --> 0:08:17.280 be anymore. Like you're so stubborn. I think that's the 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:20.400 one thing. And it's like, I'm just gonna have to 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:23.880 tell this guy except defeat, you know, save yourself. Just 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:27.120 accept defeat, you know, don't about the little things like 0:08:27.240 --> 0:08:30.080 it's not worth it. Yeah, and you want the date 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:32.720 to go well, so you just accept defeat. 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:33.120 Yeah. 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:34.959 And if she goes, oh, it tastes like this, and 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:35.959 he's like, no, it tastes like this. 0:08:36.120 --> 0:08:40.280 No, but what she thinks, what she thinks, like mine 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:43.360 would be for you is prepared to be interrupted. 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:47.079 I'm so sorry. 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:49.199 I love you might have been one of like your 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:52.319 worst traits is that you interrupt people. I do like 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:54.240 if you guys have noticed on any of like some 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:56.160 of our ads and stuff and work that we do 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:58.559 together is he is a big talk of because. 0:08:58.360 --> 0:09:00.600 Hey, you lost your voice in that feel video. 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:04.720 No, the other Setable video. You literally talked the whole time. 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:07.600 My brain runs in overdrive and it is a very 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:09.719 bad trade of mine that I need to work on. 0:09:09.920 --> 0:09:12.480 I'm aware I do it sometimes, but sometimes it just 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.240 gets really bad and I will work on it. 0:09:15.440 --> 0:09:18.800 Hey, self awareness. So like I'm stubborn. I'm probably right, 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:21.240 and even if I will not, That's the thing. A 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:23.959 lot of the time, I am not with me. When 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:25.800 have you ever been wrong? When have I ever been wrong? 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:27.240 With you? Always right? And so am I. 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.760 You're literally just doing exactly what you say that I do. 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:34.080 So stubbornness, And yeah, I need to learn to. 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:40.840 Listen. Listening and that Another thing I would be aware 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:43.719 of is that you always I'm like prepared to just 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:45.040 have a teeth running. 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:50.040 Okay, so I do this mm hmm when I've when 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:54.520 I'm when I'm finished eating, like, yeah, I'll like reset 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:56.680 a draw because I've got to really like, I hold 0:09:56.679 --> 0:09:58.200 a lot of tension in my door, and I hold 0:09:58.240 --> 0:09:59.920 it clinched a lot. So I've got some funny thing 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:02.439 that go on with God. But I think the one 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:04.280 thing that Sam notices that a lot of other people 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:06.800 like probably don't pick up on unless they know about it, 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:09.840 is that I together and she. 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:13.280 Runs her teeth on a fine thing. Sorry, all right, 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:13.920 go in. 0:10:14.000 --> 0:10:17.520 Let's go all right. So this week, guys, we're going 0:10:17.600 --> 0:10:19.959 to be doing some dilemmas. My favorite thing ever is 0:10:20.040 --> 0:10:22.679 that even when we don't ask for the dilemmas, we 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:25.800 still seem to get inundated with them, which means we 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:27.520 get to do these episodes whenever we want to. I 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:29.480 love that you guys just keep sanding them, just always 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:31.679 keep sending them. We will always get around to it, 0:10:31.760 --> 0:10:34.520 and we're gonna do a little dilemma episode this week. 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:38.040 Help you out with some of life's bigger problems, you know. 0:10:38.280 --> 0:10:46.400 All right, let's get straight into two days episode. Hey, girls, 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:50.800 love the podcast, Thank you so much. This dating dilemma 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:53.520 is actually a good one for my guy mates. He's 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:56.800 struggling to find genuine people on dating apps. No one 0:10:57.120 --> 0:10:59.120 ever seems to be interested once he gets to the 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:01.720 point of asking them out. Me and my partner always 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:03.599 try to get people to push him out there and 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:06.000 keep being confident, but he finds a lot of girls 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.199 at the moment aren't looking for the same thing or 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:10.240 anything serious, and he's dead at the end of it. 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:12.760 Do we have any advice for the guys and the 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:15.800 dating apps, because I feel like we are really easy 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:17.880 to complain that there's no good men out there, and 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:20.720 there's like no men, no men, no men. But also 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:22.760 sometimes girls can be the problem. 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.240 And like, look, there is a lot of good guys 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:28.080 out there. I would say dating apps like Hinge are 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.719 good because they now do have that opportunity where you 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:32.640 can say what type of relationship you're looking for, And 0:11:32.760 --> 0:11:35.360 I do think that is helpful for someone me who 0:11:35.480 --> 0:11:37.920 is saying for a long term relationship. By seeing on 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:40.079 someone's profile it says they're looking for short term, I'll 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:42.920 usually skip straight over it. Yeah, So be conscious of 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:43.559 things like that. 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:47.280 I think another thing you should be conscious about is 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:50.400 also not talking to them for too long, Like you 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:53.360 can really grow, like, drag out a conversation and if 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:56.000 you're interested in the girl, find out if she wants 0:11:56.000 --> 0:11:58.160 to grab a drink that week, and that's when you 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.240 know that if she's interested in or not. Don't drag 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:02.400 out conversations for so long. If you want to see 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:03.840 her and you want to meet up with her, hit 0:12:03.920 --> 0:12:06.800 it in like the first few couple messages, absolutely, because 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:08.640 then they're like, that's how you know if they're going 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:10.360 to be genuine or not, instead of like stringing it 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:12.360 out for two weeks and then having the courage to 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:13.720 ask them out for a drink, which. 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:16.000 Is too long. If it is not asked me out 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:18.079 for drinks, I'd say within the first like day or 0:12:18.120 --> 0:12:20.760 two of us, say, matching on a dating app, It's 0:12:20.800 --> 0:12:23.280 like I want to learn things about you in person, 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:25.560 you know, and I'm sure they feel the exact same. 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:29.160 So it's like, hey, matched, Okay, cool, both mutually interested? 0:12:29.520 --> 0:12:32.080 What are you doing this weekend? Let's grab a drink here? Done? 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:33.280 Figure it out in person? 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:34.599 Yeah, moving it on. 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:37.439 It gets that weird space of do they want to 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:39.400 go out with me? Then maybe why haven't they asked? 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:40.679 Like then they just get it. 0:12:40.800 --> 0:12:43.480 Replies become less and then you've just like wasted your time. 0:12:43.559 --> 0:12:45.600 You've matched for a reason, they've responded for a reason. 0:12:45.920 --> 0:12:47.719 Organize a date straight out the gate. 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:50.839 Like my housemate, for example, he she matched with a 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:52.600 guy on Hindred. Two days later I dropped her off 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:54.800 at a date. Yeah, Like that's ideal, That's how it 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:55.520 should be. Yeah. 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:57.600 Position, And then it's like you're not learning all those 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.960 little things like where do you work? What's you found? 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:03.040 Like la la, It's like it gives you more conversation 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:05.000 I find to talk about on that first date, therefore 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:06.800 making you a little bit less nervous. You've just got 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:09.000 a lot more topics to cover. And I think it's 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.640 way better that way, So I'd say that's the biggest, 0:13:12.040 --> 0:13:17.839 biggest piece of advice we can give you. Dilemma number two. 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:20.800 I'm twenty years old and I've never had any romantic 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:23.679 interaction that slashed attention from boys. I'm not even kidding. 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:27.080 I've never had a boy message me, never been asked out, 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:30.320 never been complimented by a guy. Stop, this is kind 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:30.520 of move. 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:31.520 I know. 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:32.319 We'll help you. 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:33.120 We'll fix it. 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:36.079 Yeah, never have my first kiss, never been on a date, 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:39.640 nothing picture eight year old experience. Mine is probably less anyway. 0:13:39.720 --> 0:13:41.640 Although high school, I just thought this was normal and 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:43.960 I didn't notice all the girls around me getting attention 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:46.760 because it wasn't happening for me. I never was phased 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:49.720 by this and genuinely just thought it'll happen when it happens. 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:52.120 I'm still young, but it didn't let it get to me. 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:54.120 And now I'm twenty years old. Almost everyone has had 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:56.199 some experience, and I don't know how to find someone. 0:13:56.320 --> 0:13:58.280 I've tried putting myself out there, but it's like I'm 0:13:58.280 --> 0:13:59.839 invisible and no one seems to notice me. 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:03.720 What do I do? Okay, so easy said this before, 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:06.480 and like I've also noticed this on the weekend with 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:08.960 easy and Easy always says like, oh no, like, guys 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:11.640 don't really aren't attracted to me, and guys is like, 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:15.320 you may not recognize the type of people that are 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:18.199 attracted to you because you don't necessarily know what to 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:20.600 look for. So I'm not saying that there's no one 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:22.440 in this whole wide world, which I definitely think that 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:24.520 you're kind of thinking at the moment. No guys ever 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:26.800 thought I'm pretty, No guys ever complimented me, no guys 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:29.160 ever wanted me, Like there's this guy on the fucking 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.600 weekend that was literally obsessed with easy and easy did 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:32.920 not pick up on it once, And I was like, 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:36.160 this fucking bitch, this literally fucking idiot. I'll tell you later. 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:39.640 But like you, like, girls don't really look for it, 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:42.000 and I just think you need to like relinquish control 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:44.680 and like just be open to it. I think now 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.280 you're kind of in the mindset and then the headspaceally 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:49.680 like I'm twenty, this hasn't happened, and you're like build 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:51.720 up a wall and like you've probably become a bit 0:14:51.760 --> 0:14:54.280 more resistant to it, and now you don't recognize it 0:14:54.320 --> 0:14:56.240 because you've never had it. I think you just need 0:14:56.320 --> 0:14:59.040 to really quish control and allow people to come into 0:14:59.080 --> 0:15:02.080 your life. Maybe downloaded dating app, get some cute pro 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:04.680 photos and just like seek a little bit of validation 0:15:04.800 --> 0:15:06.920 from men and just like warm up into it. But 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:09.520 there's no textbook guide into when you should have things 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:10.520 done by a certain age. 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:13.440 Yeah, my like, sorry to my brother, but he's twenty 0:15:13.480 --> 0:15:14.640 one and he's exactly the same. 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:16.000 You should set them up. 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:20.080 Maybe we should set you, you know, And I think 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:21.880 it stresses me out more than it stresses him out, 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.000 because I want him to be happy, but happiness doesn't 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:27.120 come from that. Firstly. Secondly, I think if you're not 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:30.200 on dating apps, honestly, that's gonna be your first place 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:33.520 to start. You know. It gives you even confidence I 0:15:33.600 --> 0:15:35.760 find helps me with seeing all the people match me, 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:38.240 seeing that people think I'm good looking, Like even just 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:40.760 that little bit of confidence I think helps, and you 0:15:40.880 --> 0:15:43.600 can find someone like mine did. Like, I'm sure there's 0:15:43.760 --> 0:15:46.200 so many people out there that experience the exact same 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:48.120 thing as you right now. It just may not be 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:50.440 the people that are directly around you right now. But 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:52.760 dating apps is a good way to start, good way 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:57.160 to get yourself out on dates. I say those singles. 0:15:57.640 --> 0:15:59.480 Me and my friend were saying we should go to 0:15:59.560 --> 0:16:01.760 one of those single events, you know that they sometimes 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:03.680 set up where a bunch of single people get together. 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:06.120 It's like, what's actually the harm in doing something? 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:06.480 Yeah? 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:09.000 Maybe that actually want to be about you like minded 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:11.320 people in the same room that are all probably feeling nervous, 0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:14.440 feeling scared. It's like you just have to put yourself 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:16.400 out there. It's not that easy, but I do think 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:19.320 first step, get with your friends, take a couple of 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:23.120 cute photos, get a dating profile, because even if dates don't. 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:27.200 Flow in little maybe just do something in necessarily used 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:30.480 to doing, like maybe join a different sporting club, or 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:33.360 like join a different gym, join a different gym, join it, 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:35.760 Like if you're at UNI, joined like a UNI group 0:16:35.960 --> 0:16:38.280 that's not part of your friends in the environment that 0:16:38.280 --> 0:16:40.640 you're uncomfortable with, because then you're forced to interact with 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:42.920 people that you don't know. And I think it's all 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:45.720 about getting out of your comfort zone. You're fucking twenty, 0:16:45.920 --> 0:16:49.000 like twentys and so you're so young. Who cares? I 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:50.360 know so many people at your age. 0:16:50.400 --> 0:16:52.560 I haven't had a lot, I haven't had any experience 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.480 at all, Like it's there's people in our direct lives 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:57.200 that haven't had any experience at your age. So I 0:16:57.280 --> 0:16:59.720 just want you to understand it is completely normal and 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:02.720 you're there is nothing to do with you. It's just, 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:05.920 you know, sometimes situations and the way your life runs 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:07.840 like you just don't get put in those positions a lot. 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:10.800 So I think, yeah, just put yourself out there on 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:13.120 the dating apps and see how you go and try. 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:15.080 And yes, it's scary to be the one to maybe 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:18.240 message first or match first, but sometimes that will happen 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:21.240 and everyone has their right person out there for them 0:17:21.359 --> 0:17:24.640 and I sometimes don't feel that way, but there will 0:17:24.680 --> 0:17:26.040 be someone out there for me, and there will be 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:28.680 someone out there for you. It works, it always does. 0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:35.959