1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,400 Speaker 1: My situationship ended up with me before a pilate star. 2 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I was like so fucking sad. Hello, welcome 3 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: back to Just for a Girl. 4 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 2: It feels so good where back in my Women. We're 5 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 2: actually recording in the Nova studios today, and every angle 6 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:22,799 Speaker 2: I look at, I'm seeing. 7 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: Face like, yeah, I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm 8 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: I'm loving it. 9 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 2: I don't love it. It's kind of wigging me out. 10 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:33,879 Speaker 1: I like the photo of myself, that's maybe my if 11 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: I hated the photo. 12 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:36,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't love the photo of myself. Actually, fun 13 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:39,639 Speaker 2: fact Easy he's like Easy, he's pickier than me at photos, 14 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,239 Speaker 2: and Easy didn't like any of any other photo but 15 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:44,280 Speaker 2: that one, so I just had to bite my tongue. 16 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: I don't like, I've got a funny, funny thing about 17 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 1: the angles of my face, Like I look completely different 18 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:52,639 Speaker 1: from both sides of my face, so we need mine. 19 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,760 Speaker 1: That was like bang on the center from the right side. 20 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:57,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't love my set face in that one, 21 00:00:57,680 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 2: but like you can't really see it. 22 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: Make up looks, didn't make up ellie, yeah looks. 23 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:05,680 Speaker 2: But we're back in Melbourne and I cannot tell you, guys, 24 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:08,400 Speaker 2: how good it feels to be home, not in like 25 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:10,480 Speaker 2: a oh my god, you fucking prove it a little 26 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 2: piece of shit, but like it's just like we'd been 27 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,279 Speaker 2: traveling so much and it was like good to finally 28 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 2: come home. A lot unraveled when we're in Bali and 29 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:19,480 Speaker 2: I was like, I just need me home, I need 30 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 2: my car, I need my friends, and I feel. 31 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:25,320 Speaker 1: Like the weather, like the vibes are so yeah in 32 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: Melbourn when the weather gets warm with with that like 33 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:28,559 Speaker 1: first sort of couple of days. 34 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, And we came back like just for the long weekend, 35 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 2: like just in time for the long we can The 36 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 2: weather was good Friday Saturday, like everyone was out, Melbourne 37 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 2: was bustling, like we had the best time on Saturday's cuts. 38 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: I mean, your family. I'm just I'm really grateful that 39 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: I get the opportunity to be away, but I'm so 40 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: fucking happy to be home. 41 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:47,199 Speaker 2: It makes you appreciate homes and like that in my own. 42 00:01:47,120 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 1: Space, love you guys. We didn't have one single argument 43 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: that whole trip. 44 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 2: We're like absolutely right now. Our relationship is. 45 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:57,560 Speaker 1: All Like all my friends were our grand final day 46 00:01:57,560 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 1: and I was like they're like, oh my god, did 47 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: I go with that. I'm like, we didn't fight once, guys. 48 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, And then they always makes it sound like we're 49 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 2: not actually real friends. 50 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: I was just so they just want to make sure 51 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: we like, you know, you'll fight with any friend really 52 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:11,079 Speaker 1: if you go on a holiday together occasionally you'll have 53 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: like a big girl too. So they just wanted to know, like, 54 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: how did you guys go? And I'm like, oh, like 55 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 1: we went amazing, Like we did not argue ones and 56 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: the whole bloody table was like yeah yeah. 57 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 2: Because also like we're kind of teamed up because like 58 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:24,679 Speaker 2: we needed to get out of a few things. And 59 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:26,639 Speaker 2: I was like, easy, you're fucking helping me. 60 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was her. 61 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 2: I was the what's it called the excuse? 62 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:32,919 Speaker 1: Well, yeah, but there's a word. I'm always looking for 63 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:36,760 Speaker 1: words that I never actually they are. But yeah, Sam 64 00:02:36,919 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: used me as her out for a lot of things 65 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:40,079 Speaker 1: in that last. 66 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 2: Oh guys, I just it's too fresh that it's like 67 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:46,919 Speaker 2: it's way too fresh that it's kind of like I 68 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 2: want to respect people's faces, but like things happen way 69 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 2: too quickly, and then I like had time to see 70 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 2: it reflected. I was like, what the fuck am I doing? 71 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 2: Kind of thing I need to get home. I need 72 00:02:55,280 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 2: to be around my people. So like all that Bali 73 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 2: stuff of me going back to bat it's just not happening. 74 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 2: Let's just like put it, yeah, put it right. 75 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:06,359 Speaker 1: That fun chapter has come to an end. Kind of 76 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 1: like one of those I'm trying to pick my words, 77 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 1: very yeah reality kind of hit. I was living in 78 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 1: La La Land, she was, and I was well aware 79 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: that she was living in La La Land. 80 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,160 Speaker 2: And then once all my friends and everything came over, 81 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 2: I was like, fuck, La La Land's not maintainable. 82 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:27,359 Speaker 1: It's my land. That's a good way to put the situation. 83 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 2: So I back home, back around my back on, back home. 84 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 2: But on Saturday, we had a really good day together. 85 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: I had a lot of fun. 86 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 2: I had so much fun. It was a long day easy. 87 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,520 Speaker 2: I started drinking at ten thirty in the morning. 88 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: We have mimosas to start guys. 89 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, we warmed up. Yeah, but we warmed up, and 90 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 2: then like by six I was like, fuck, oh my god, 91 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 2: it's still only six o'clock. And then it was still 92 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:56,080 Speaker 2: a long night from there. 93 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:57,400 Speaker 1: It was a long night from them, but it was 94 00:03:57,440 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: a fun night all the same. I actually had it 95 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 1: like there's yeah, I was tired and exhausted because you're 96 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: being out and drinking that long. Obviously, it was grand 97 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: fine all day. Yeah it's the day we're referring to. Yeah, 98 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 1: but I had fun. Like I was demating the next 99 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 1: morning because I was like, I had a really good 100 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:10,560 Speaker 1: day though. 101 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, we had had a really good day. It was 102 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,120 Speaker 2: so much fun. We're around such good vibes, great people. 103 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 2: And then because you start so early, you kind of 104 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 2: wrap up a bit earlier when you're doing drink when 105 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:22,159 Speaker 2: you're day drinking. So I was home by like twelve thirty, 106 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 2: and like, I still managed to have a really good Sunday. 107 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 2: Productive Sunday went to the gym, even though I watched 108 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 2: the gym guys and I literally could taste it to 109 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 2: KILLI in the back of my throat. It was actually foul. 110 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 1: Like I was like when people say you're sweating out alcohol, 111 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 1: you actually like when you have actually are sweating out 112 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: the alcohol. 113 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:38,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was like really pushing myself through, but 114 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 2: I needed to go just like you would. 115 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:43,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was coming out and I stayed up a 116 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 1: little bit later than that. My favorite Sunday is a 117 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 1: day anyway, So I just made some pass to hung 118 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: out with my cat watch. I started watching Sopranos. You 119 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:56,040 Speaker 1: know that is It's obviously it's incredibly well known, very 120 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: highly rated. It's about like the mafia and the mob 121 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 1: in America and stuff. But it's like a six seasons 122 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: not real, but it's on binge. I don't it's not real, 123 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: but it's like based loosely based off like some of 124 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: the actual sort of mob heads in America. And it's 125 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:14,320 Speaker 1: just like it's one of those ones that has like 126 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:16,960 Speaker 1: rotten tomatoes ninety five. Soer like it's going to be 127 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 1: a good it's gonna be good. Yeah, So loving it 128 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:19,560 Speaker 1: so far. 129 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, But like I didn't really have any demons yesterday. 130 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:26,440 Speaker 2: I had a good day. It was nice to regnite 131 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 2: with my housemates, chilling, living, living. But I wish I 132 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:34,279 Speaker 2: could tell you guys so much about I can't. 133 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:36,040 Speaker 1: On another note, I was talking to same about this 134 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:39,839 Speaker 1: in the bathroom just earlier. But there Hurricane Helene. 135 00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 2: Have you heard about that play? I saw Hannah's TikTok 136 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 2: because she's in Florida at the Hannah Oval. She's there, really, 137 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:50,520 Speaker 2: she's at there at the moment with her boyfriend. I 138 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 2: don't know if I'm airing out a laun. 139 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: I think he plays an NFL. NFL she herself an 140 00:05:58,839 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: NFL player. 141 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's over there with him at the moment. And 142 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 2: there was like a video of them picking up crumble cookies. 143 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:06,160 Speaker 2: It was literally like they were going to die in 144 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:06,440 Speaker 2: the car. 145 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: No, it's like this huge, huge hurricane, probably worse than 146 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: what they've had in quite a while. But the problem 147 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 1: is more like the storm surge that comes like following 148 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 1: the hurricane, like as in all the water from the 149 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 1: ocean and stuff due to pressures and winds get pushed 150 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:21,840 Speaker 1: onto land. So people have got like six feet of 151 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: water outside their windows and stuff. And everyone was obviously 152 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 1: being told to evacuate because six feet of water. Like 153 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 1: people are there are actually like the stuff. It's really 154 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: really bad. But a lot of people are in the 155 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 1: evacuation zone. They're like, nah, let's see how we go. 156 00:06:39,080 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 1: It's like, why why risk it? Do you know what 157 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:46,240 Speaker 1: I mean? So I spent maybe three hours he talks 158 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:49,200 Speaker 1: about it yesterday. So sending love and prayers to everyone 159 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 1: in Florida. Ah, it's absolutely terrifying because it's like a 160 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:57,040 Speaker 1: tsunami mixed with a bloody tornado, like it's just like, honestly. 161 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 2: Shit, that's what I don't know. I don't think I would. 162 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 2: I hate to be hurricane. I would freak the funk out. 163 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 2: I don't like storms really actually, that's like kind of 164 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:04,840 Speaker 2: one of my biggest bars. 165 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: Well, what I also didn't realize is the hurricane water 166 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 1: up because obviously a lot of water gets into the house. 167 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: It usually that covers a lot of the bottom layers 168 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: of levels of the houses. But if anything touches that water, 169 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 1: you have to chuck it out because the water is 170 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 1: filled with disease bacteria. Who it goes over the graveyards 171 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: like you've got so all of that water coming into 172 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 1: your house is like so highly just infected with shit. 173 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 1: So it's like you can't disinfect things. That's gonna stick. 174 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 1: So if you just have to chuck out everything that 175 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:36,280 Speaker 1: touches and try not to walk like barefoot or shower 176 00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: like immediately, like it's crazy. So yeah, fuck global warming, brother, 177 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. 178 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. Well, anyway from that, it's time for question of 179 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 2: the week. All right, is he if I went on 180 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 2: a first day and you had to give the guy 181 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 2: a warning about me, what would you warn them about I? 182 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 1: No matter how much you think you're right, you won't 183 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 1: be anymore. Like you're so stubborn. I think that's the 184 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:20,400 Speaker 1: one thing. And it's like, I'm just gonna have to 185 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 1: tell this guy except defeat, you know, save yourself. Just 186 00:08:24,000 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 1: accept defeat, you know, don't about the little things like 187 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: it's not worth it. Yeah, and you want the date 188 00:08:30,160 --> 00:08:32,720 Speaker 1: to go well, so you just accept defeat. 189 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:33,120 Speaker 2: Yeah. 190 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:34,959 Speaker 1: And if she goes, oh, it tastes like this, and 191 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:35,959 Speaker 1: he's like, no, it tastes like this. 192 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 2: No, but what she thinks, what she thinks, like mine 193 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 2: would be for you is prepared to be interrupted. 194 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:47,079 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. 195 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:49,199 Speaker 2: I love you might have been one of like your 196 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:52,319 Speaker 2: worst traits is that you interrupt people. I do like 197 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 2: if you guys have noticed on any of like some 198 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:56,160 Speaker 2: of our ads and stuff and work that we do 199 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:58,559 Speaker 2: together is he is a big talk of because. 200 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 1: Hey, you lost your voice in that feel video. 201 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:04,720 Speaker 2: No, the other Setable video. You literally talked the whole time. 202 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: My brain runs in overdrive and it is a very 203 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:09,719 Speaker 1: bad trade of mine that I need to work on. 204 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: I'm aware I do it sometimes, but sometimes it just 205 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 1: gets really bad and I will work on it. 206 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 2: Hey, self awareness. So like I'm stubborn. I'm probably right, 207 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 2: and even if I will not, That's the thing. A 208 00:09:21,320 --> 00:09:23,959 Speaker 2: lot of the time, I am not with me. When 209 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 2: have you ever been wrong? When have I ever been wrong? 210 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 1: With you? Always right? And so am I. 211 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 2: You're literally just doing exactly what you say that I do. 212 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:34,080 Speaker 1: So stubbornness, And yeah, I need to learn to. 213 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 2: Listen. Listening and that Another thing I would be aware 214 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,719 Speaker 2: of is that you always I'm like prepared to just 215 00:09:43,760 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 2: have a teeth running. 216 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:50,040 Speaker 1: Okay, so I do this mm hmm when I've when 217 00:09:50,080 --> 00:09:54,520 Speaker 1: I'm when I'm finished eating, like, yeah, I'll like reset 218 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:56,680 Speaker 1: a draw because I've got to really like, I hold 219 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: a lot of tension in my door, and I hold 220 00:09:58,240 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: it clinched a lot. So I've got some funny thing 221 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,439 Speaker 1: that go on with God. But I think the one 222 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: thing that Sam notices that a lot of other people 223 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:06,800 Speaker 1: like probably don't pick up on unless they know about it, 224 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:09,840 Speaker 1: is that I together and she. 225 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 2: Runs her teeth on a fine thing. Sorry, all right, 226 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 2: go in. 227 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: Let's go all right. So this week, guys, we're going 228 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:19,959 Speaker 1: to be doing some dilemmas. My favorite thing ever is 229 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:22,679 Speaker 1: that even when we don't ask for the dilemmas, we 230 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 1: still seem to get inundated with them, which means we 231 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 1: get to do these episodes whenever we want to. I 232 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: love that you guys just keep sanding them, just always 233 00:10:29,559 --> 00:10:31,679 Speaker 1: keep sending them. We will always get around to it, 234 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 1: and we're gonna do a little dilemma episode this week. 235 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: Help you out with some of life's bigger problems, you know. 236 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 2: All right, let's get straight into two days episode. Hey, girls, 237 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 2: love the podcast, Thank you so much. This dating dilemma 238 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 2: is actually a good one for my guy mates. He's 239 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,800 Speaker 2: struggling to find genuine people on dating apps. No one 240 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 2: ever seems to be interested once he gets to the 241 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 2: point of asking them out. Me and my partner always 242 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:03,599 Speaker 2: try to get people to push him out there and 243 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:06,000 Speaker 2: keep being confident, but he finds a lot of girls 244 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:08,199 Speaker 2: at the moment aren't looking for the same thing or 245 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:10,240 Speaker 2: anything serious, and he's dead at the end of it. 246 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:12,760 Speaker 2: Do we have any advice for the guys and the 247 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 2: dating apps, because I feel like we are really easy 248 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 2: to complain that there's no good men out there, and 249 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 2: there's like no men, no men, no men. But also 250 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:22,760 Speaker 2: sometimes girls can be the problem. 251 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 1: And like, look, there is a lot of good guys 252 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:28,080 Speaker 1: out there. I would say dating apps like Hinge are 253 00:11:28,200 --> 00:11:30,719 Speaker 1: good because they now do have that opportunity where you 254 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 1: can say what type of relationship you're looking for, And 255 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 1: I do think that is helpful for someone me who 256 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:37,920 Speaker 1: is saying for a long term relationship. By seeing on 257 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:40,079 Speaker 1: someone's profile it says they're looking for short term, I'll 258 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 1: usually skip straight over it. Yeah, So be conscious of 259 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:43,559 Speaker 1: things like that. 260 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:47,280 Speaker 2: I think another thing you should be conscious about is 261 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 2: also not talking to them for too long, Like you 262 00:11:50,480 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 2: can really grow, like, drag out a conversation and if 263 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 2: you're interested in the girl, find out if she wants 264 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:58,160 Speaker 2: to grab a drink that week, and that's when you 265 00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:00,240 Speaker 2: know that if she's interested in or not. Don't drag 266 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:02,400 Speaker 2: out conversations for so long. If you want to see 267 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 2: her and you want to meet up with her, hit 268 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:06,800 Speaker 2: it in like the first few couple messages, absolutely, because 269 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:08,640 Speaker 2: then they're like, that's how you know if they're going 270 00:12:08,679 --> 00:12:10,360 Speaker 2: to be genuine or not, instead of like stringing it 271 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 2: out for two weeks and then having the courage to 272 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:13,720 Speaker 2: ask them out for a drink, which. 273 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: Is too long. If it is not asked me out 274 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:18,079 Speaker 1: for drinks, I'd say within the first like day or 275 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 1: two of us, say, matching on a dating app, It's 276 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: like I want to learn things about you in person, 277 00:12:23,600 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: you know, and I'm sure they feel the exact same. 278 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 1: So it's like, hey, matched, Okay, cool, both mutually interested? 279 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:32,080 Speaker 1: What are you doing this weekend? Let's grab a drink here? Done? 280 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 1: Figure it out in person? 281 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:34,599 Speaker 2: Yeah, moving it on. 282 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:37,439 Speaker 1: It gets that weird space of do they want to 283 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: go out with me? Then maybe why haven't they asked? 284 00:12:39,559 --> 00:12:40,679 Speaker 1: Like then they just get it. 285 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 2: Replies become less and then you've just like wasted your time. 286 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 1: You've matched for a reason, they've responded for a reason. 287 00:12:45,920 --> 00:12:47,719 Speaker 1: Organize a date straight out the gate. 288 00:12:47,880 --> 00:12:50,839 Speaker 2: Like my housemate, for example, he she matched with a 289 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:52,600 Speaker 2: guy on Hindred. Two days later I dropped her off 290 00:12:52,640 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 2: at a date. Yeah, Like that's ideal, That's how it 291 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:55,520 Speaker 2: should be. Yeah. 292 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 1: Position, And then it's like you're not learning all those 293 00:12:57,640 --> 00:12:59,960 Speaker 1: little things like where do you work? What's you found? 294 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: Like la la, It's like it gives you more conversation 295 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 1: I find to talk about on that first date, therefore 296 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 1: making you a little bit less nervous. You've just got 297 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:09,000 Speaker 1: a lot more topics to cover. And I think it's 298 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:11,640 Speaker 1: way better that way, So I'd say that's the biggest, 299 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:17,839 Speaker 1: biggest piece of advice we can give you. Dilemma number two. 300 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 1: I'm twenty years old and I've never had any romantic 301 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:23,679 Speaker 1: interaction that slashed attention from boys. I'm not even kidding. 302 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:27,080 Speaker 1: I've never had a boy message me, never been asked out, 303 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 1: never been complimented by a guy. Stop, this is kind 304 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 1: of move. 305 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 2: I know. 306 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:32,319 Speaker 1: We'll help you. 307 00:13:32,600 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 2: We'll fix it. 308 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:36,079 Speaker 1: Yeah, never have my first kiss, never been on a date, 309 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:39,640 Speaker 1: nothing picture eight year old experience. Mine is probably less anyway. 310 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:41,640 Speaker 1: Although high school, I just thought this was normal and 311 00:13:41,720 --> 00:13:43,960 Speaker 1: I didn't notice all the girls around me getting attention 312 00:13:44,040 --> 00:13:46,760 Speaker 1: because it wasn't happening for me. I never was phased 313 00:13:46,760 --> 00:13:49,720 Speaker 1: by this and genuinely just thought it'll happen when it happens. 314 00:13:49,720 --> 00:13:52,120 Speaker 1: I'm still young, but it didn't let it get to me. 315 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: And now I'm twenty years old. Almost everyone has had 316 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:56,199 Speaker 1: some experience, and I don't know how to find someone. 317 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: I've tried putting myself out there, but it's like I'm 318 00:13:58,280 --> 00:13:59,839 Speaker 1: invisible and no one seems to notice me. 319 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:03,720 Speaker 2: What do I do? Okay, so easy said this before, 320 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 2: and like I've also noticed this on the weekend with 321 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:08,960 Speaker 2: easy and Easy always says like, oh no, like, guys 322 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 2: don't really aren't attracted to me, and guys is like, 323 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:15,320 Speaker 2: you may not recognize the type of people that are 324 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:18,199 Speaker 2: attracted to you because you don't necessarily know what to 325 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 2: look for. So I'm not saying that there's no one 326 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:22,440 Speaker 2: in this whole wide world, which I definitely think that 327 00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 2: you're kind of thinking at the moment. No guys ever 328 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:26,800 Speaker 2: thought I'm pretty, No guys ever complimented me, no guys 329 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 2: ever wanted me, Like there's this guy on the fucking 330 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 2: weekend that was literally obsessed with easy and easy did 331 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 2: not pick up on it once, And I was like, 332 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 2: this fucking bitch, this literally fucking idiot. I'll tell you later. 333 00:14:36,280 --> 00:14:39,640 Speaker 2: But like you, like, girls don't really look for it, 334 00:14:39,760 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 2: and I just think you need to like relinquish control 335 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 2: and like just be open to it. I think now 336 00:14:45,240 --> 00:14:47,280 Speaker 2: you're kind of in the mindset and then the headspaceally 337 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 2: like I'm twenty, this hasn't happened, and you're like build 338 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 2: up a wall and like you've probably become a bit 339 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 2: more resistant to it, and now you don't recognize it 340 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 2: because you've never had it. I think you just need 341 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:59,040 Speaker 2: to really quish control and allow people to come into 342 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 2: your life. Maybe downloaded dating app, get some cute pro 343 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:04,680 Speaker 2: photos and just like seek a little bit of validation 344 00:15:04,800 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 2: from men and just like warm up into it. But 345 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,520 Speaker 2: there's no textbook guide into when you should have things 346 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 2: done by a certain age. 347 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, my like, sorry to my brother, but he's twenty 348 00:15:13,480 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 1: one and he's exactly the same. 349 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 2: You should set them up. 350 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:20,080 Speaker 1: Maybe we should set you, you know, And I think 351 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:21,880 Speaker 1: it stresses me out more than it stresses him out, 352 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:24,000 Speaker 1: because I want him to be happy, but happiness doesn't 353 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 1: come from that. Firstly. Secondly, I think if you're not 354 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 1: on dating apps, honestly, that's gonna be your first place 355 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 1: to start. You know. It gives you even confidence I 356 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: find helps me with seeing all the people match me, 357 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:38,240 Speaker 1: seeing that people think I'm good looking, Like even just 358 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:40,760 Speaker 1: that little bit of confidence I think helps, and you 359 00:15:40,880 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 1: can find someone like mine did. Like, I'm sure there's 360 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:46,200 Speaker 1: so many people out there that experience the exact same 361 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 1: thing as you right now. It just may not be 362 00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 1: the people that are directly around you right now. But 363 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:52,760 Speaker 1: dating apps is a good way to start, good way 364 00:15:52,800 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 1: to get yourself out on dates. I say those singles. 365 00:15:57,640 --> 00:15:59,480 Speaker 1: Me and my friend were saying we should go to 366 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 1: one of those single events, you know that they sometimes 367 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 1: set up where a bunch of single people get together. 368 00:16:03,760 --> 00:16:06,120 Speaker 1: It's like, what's actually the harm in doing something? 369 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:06,480 Speaker 2: Yeah? 370 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 1: Maybe that actually want to be about you like minded 371 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:11,320 Speaker 1: people in the same room that are all probably feeling nervous, 372 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:14,440 Speaker 1: feeling scared. It's like you just have to put yourself 373 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:16,400 Speaker 1: out there. It's not that easy, but I do think 374 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: first step, get with your friends, take a couple of 375 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 1: cute photos, get a dating profile, because even if dates don't. 376 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 2: Flow in little maybe just do something in necessarily used 377 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 2: to doing, like maybe join a different sporting club, or 378 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 2: like join a different gym, join a different gym, join it, 379 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 2: Like if you're at UNI, joined like a UNI group 380 00:16:35,960 --> 00:16:38,280 Speaker 2: that's not part of your friends in the environment that 381 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 2: you're uncomfortable with, because then you're forced to interact with 382 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 2: people that you don't know. And I think it's all 383 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:45,720 Speaker 2: about getting out of your comfort zone. You're fucking twenty, 384 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:49,000 Speaker 2: like twentys and so you're so young. Who cares? I 385 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 2: know so many people at your age. 386 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:52,560 Speaker 1: I haven't had a lot, I haven't had any experience 387 00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 1: at all, Like it's there's people in our direct lives 388 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,200 Speaker 1: that haven't had any experience at your age. So I 389 00:16:57,280 --> 00:16:59,720 Speaker 1: just want you to understand it is completely normal and 390 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:02,720 Speaker 1: you're there is nothing to do with you. It's just, 391 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:05,920 Speaker 1: you know, sometimes situations and the way your life runs 392 00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:07,840 Speaker 1: like you just don't get put in those positions a lot. 393 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 1: So I think, yeah, just put yourself out there on 394 00:17:10,880 --> 00:17:13,120 Speaker 1: the dating apps and see how you go and try. 395 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:15,080 Speaker 1: And yes, it's scary to be the one to maybe 396 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 1: message first or match first, but sometimes that will happen 397 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 1: and everyone has their right person out there for them 398 00:17:21,359 --> 00:17:24,640 Speaker 1: and I sometimes don't feel that way, but there will 399 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:26,040 Speaker 1: be someone out there for me, and there will be 400 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:28,680 Speaker 1: someone out there for you. It works, it always does. 401 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:35,959 Speaker 2: Dilemma number three. Hi, girls, my best friend is quite extroverted, 402 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 2: and I'm more introverted. Lately, I've made an effort to 403 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:41,520 Speaker 2: act more confident as a result, as I'm getting more 404 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:44,720 Speaker 2: attention from boys. I feel like whenever a guy gives 405 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 2: me the slightest bit of attention, she always tries to 406 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 2: make it about her. I went to a party and 407 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:52,080 Speaker 2: spent the whole time talking to this guy. My friend 408 00:17:52,119 --> 00:17:54,640 Speaker 2: sees us talking and spending time together, and then goes 409 00:17:54,680 --> 00:17:57,200 Speaker 2: and takes a selfie with this guy, tells him to 410 00:17:57,240 --> 00:18:00,280 Speaker 2: hold her hands, and uploads it to a Snapchat story. Okay, 411 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 2: they're like fifteen. 412 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 1: Surely that's not a friendship. Yeah, that's a girl that 413 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 1: doesn't need it in your life, with. 414 00:18:06,560 --> 00:18:08,359 Speaker 2: The caption new boyfriend. 415 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:09,000 Speaker 1: Fuck. 416 00:18:09,119 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 2: Oh. Another time, I was talking about this guy and 417 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:14,040 Speaker 2: how I've been talking to him, and she tells me 418 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:15,840 Speaker 2: the same thing has happened to her and that I 419 00:18:15,840 --> 00:18:18,639 Speaker 2: shouldn't think anything of it because this guy and his 420 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:20,920 Speaker 2: best friend are talking to her, which I know for 421 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:23,760 Speaker 2: a fact is not true because they have no classes 422 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,919 Speaker 2: together and I've never seen them in a conversation. Am 423 00:18:26,960 --> 00:18:30,240 Speaker 2: I being delusional? Or do these guys not really mean anything? 424 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:33,680 Speaker 2: Should I say something thank you? No, you shouldn't say anything. 425 00:18:33,720 --> 00:18:35,600 Speaker 1: First of all, no, you don't say anything to happen. 426 00:18:35,600 --> 00:18:38,240 Speaker 1: But it's not going to change a girl like There's 427 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 1: girls like that in it, there's girls like that everywhere. 428 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:43,239 Speaker 2: You will always come across girls like that throughout your 429 00:18:43,280 --> 00:18:44,200 Speaker 2: whole entire life. 430 00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:48,040 Speaker 1: You do, luckily seem quite young. So I'm gonna say 431 00:18:48,119 --> 00:18:52,480 Speaker 1: that this friendship won't matter, isn't going to matter very soon. 432 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:54,720 Speaker 1: You know, that's just one of those girls that is 433 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:58,439 Speaker 1: clearly only out there for herself. She probably gets attention 434 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:01,120 Speaker 1: from guys and that's the way she know fuels everything 435 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:05,679 Speaker 1: and feels her confidence. So you know, realize who you are, 436 00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:08,560 Speaker 1: She's not gonna be worth it. Fuck these guys, guys 437 00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:11,280 Speaker 1: will always realize who's acting like that, who's going to 438 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 1: be the better? 439 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 2: Guys are a lot more smarter reading girls than you think. Like, 440 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:16,639 Speaker 2: I know Izzy, and I know this girl that's had 441 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 2: quite a few issues with her high school best friend 442 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:21,960 Speaker 2: and her and like a lot of jealousy when it 443 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:23,639 Speaker 2: comes on too guys and stuff like that, and then 444 00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 2: she's ended up taking out on the girl and she's 445 00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:29,560 Speaker 2: like then felt really shit about herself. Like, guys know that, 446 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 2: Like don't think that guys aren't aware of maybe what 447 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:34,359 Speaker 2: she's doing and it kind of ends up making her 448 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:37,320 Speaker 2: look like a bit of a idiot. But if you 449 00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:39,359 Speaker 2: lush out and bite back, then she has a reason 450 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:41,040 Speaker 2: to have a go at you. So you just got 451 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:42,359 Speaker 2: to like buy your fucking tongue. 452 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:44,920 Speaker 1: Whatever. Let me always just say that the guy that's 453 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:47,160 Speaker 1: right for you will not be interested in your best friend. 454 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know point Blake periods like, So it's. 455 00:19:51,119 --> 00:19:54,080 Speaker 1: Like that's something you know, I tell myself a lot, 456 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,560 Speaker 1: Like when you do have like beautiful best friends, it's 457 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 1: like a lot of times guys will just try their 458 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 1: luck and see which one land. Yeah, it's like the 459 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,040 Speaker 1: guy that's gonna be my guy is gonna want me 460 00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 1: and only me, and they're not gonna entertain anyone else. 461 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:10,440 Speaker 1: So you know, let it ride out. Don't get petty 462 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:12,119 Speaker 1: with it. Like if she's gonna act that way, it 463 00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: makes her look like an idiot. So you know, you'll 464 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:15,920 Speaker 1: come out on top of the long run. 465 00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:18,119 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just won't say anything. It's not worth it. 466 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:25,680 Speaker 1: No, I might like, I just I realize its rude. Though. 467 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:28,159 Speaker 1: It pisses me off that people just go unchecked that 468 00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 1: are fucking around with guys their friend likes, Like it 469 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:33,680 Speaker 1: annoys me. Let's say you do want to say something, 470 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:36,960 Speaker 1: just say it from a place of I feel upset. 471 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 1: I feel hurt, like those I statements upset at her, 472 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:42,840 Speaker 1: Like be like hey girl, like I'm just feeling a 473 00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:46,119 Speaker 1: bit hurt recently. You know, I liked Jack and then 474 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:48,639 Speaker 1: you took a photo with Jack, and that really hurt me. 475 00:20:49,720 --> 00:20:51,600 Speaker 2: I would just respect if you let me just talk 476 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:52,040 Speaker 2: to Jack. 477 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:55,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, say things from an eye, statements always you know 478 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:56,719 Speaker 1: I'm feeling her. 479 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:58,840 Speaker 2: My mum's a teacher and she always says that. 480 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:01,120 Speaker 1: Mum always said it too. Yeah, because they can't. 481 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:02,880 Speaker 2: Argue how you feel. You feel. 482 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, So if you do want to say something, approach 483 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 1: it that way. But to be honest, you're not gonna 484 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:09,000 Speaker 1: lie to you. This girl won't be your friend for 485 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:15,000 Speaker 1: no so you can always just let it go, okay. 486 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:18,200 Speaker 1: Dilemma number four. Recently, I visited my friends up in 487 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 1: Melbourne for a twenty first birthday. These are the same 488 00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 1: friends I'd planned to go to b TV with this year. 489 00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 1: We had booked all the same tickets and everything. Unfortunately, 490 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 1: at the twenty first I had too much to drink 491 00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:30,800 Speaker 1: and potentially we spiked because at the end of the 492 00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,399 Speaker 1: night I was uncontrollably crying and I couldn't feel my legs. 493 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,040 Speaker 2: Fuck, that's so good, that's really scary. 494 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:37,720 Speaker 1: Luckily, my best friend of two years helped me uber home, 495 00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:39,680 Speaker 1: get dressed and call someone to pick me up and 496 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:42,480 Speaker 1: take me home. Just a good friend. I was so 497 00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:45,920 Speaker 1: grateful and everything it seemed fine after until yesterday I 498 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:50,320 Speaker 1: received a text thirty minutes before my shift. Oh no, 499 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:52,560 Speaker 1: same heart would fucking drop. 500 00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:55,280 Speaker 2: I've had that before, and this is the worst fucking feeling. 501 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,520 Speaker 1: Like I got kind of like my situationship like ended 502 00:21:57,560 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 1: up with me before a pilates class. Oh yeah, I 503 00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:06,200 Speaker 1: was like so fucking sad. Yeah, thirty minutes before my 504 00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:08,879 Speaker 1: shift saying that I was uninvited from BTV with the 505 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:09,520 Speaker 1: friend group. 506 00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 2: Oh my god, Okay, way to jump a fucking gun. 507 00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:14,240 Speaker 2: You haven't even had a conversation with me. Maybe catch 508 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:15,960 Speaker 2: up for a coffee with me and talk me through 509 00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:17,240 Speaker 2: this ability. 510 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:22,119 Speaker 1: Apologize or apologize. Yeah, okay, And if I wanted to 511 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 1: go to BTV, I'd need to find other people to 512 00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:27,639 Speaker 1: go with it because they don't want to babysit me, bitch. 513 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:28,720 Speaker 1: Oh my god. Okay. 514 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 2: Understanding if it has been multiple occurrence, I don't know 515 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,880 Speaker 2: if it has for you. You've only kind of said 516 00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 2: that it's been for the twenty first I understand it. 517 00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:40,920 Speaker 2: If it is an ongoing occurring incident that you behave 518 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,359 Speaker 2: like this, which doesn't sound like it has. I get 519 00:22:43,440 --> 00:22:45,480 Speaker 2: where they do that, and I get that they do that. 520 00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:47,919 Speaker 2: I think I completely get it. If you're it's an 521 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:48,880 Speaker 2: ongoing occurrence. 522 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,160 Speaker 1: I do understand that, but it's also like if they 523 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 1: are your friends, maybe I'm having issues with you drinking. 524 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,680 Speaker 1: Don't say by the way, baby, yes we're your friendship group, 525 00:22:57,760 --> 00:22:59,879 Speaker 1: but you can't come anymore to something you brought to. 526 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 2: Think it's for if it was an ongoing occurrence, we 527 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:05,479 Speaker 2: don't know from the past. I'm just paying devil's advocate here. 528 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,600 Speaker 2: If they had one being like you are doing this 529 00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:11,000 Speaker 2: far too often, you don't like it, they then have 530 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 2: the right to go. Actually, no, you're not allowed to 531 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,080 Speaker 2: come because every single time, for the past six times, 532 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:17,920 Speaker 2: you've behaved like that and I don't want to look 533 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:18,280 Speaker 2: after you, and. 534 00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:20,960 Speaker 1: I understand that, but I think conversations should be hard 535 00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 1: with the person first. So hopefully, hopefully it has in 536 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 1: saying that it seems like it isn't a long ongoing thing, 537 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 1: which in that case is completely unfair. I was shocked 538 00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:35,240 Speaker 1: because the whole night was so out of the ordinary, 539 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 1: and I have been feeling shit about it since it happens. 540 00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 2: There we go. 541 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 1: Text message was super blunt and harsh. I haven't answered it, 542 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:43,159 Speaker 1: even though it's coming from the girl I tell everything 543 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,359 Speaker 1: to and even confided in that night, saying I was 544 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:48,800 Speaker 1: already embarrassed. Okay, that's mean. Yeah, do you think it's 545 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:50,639 Speaker 1: best to let this friendship go and find some other 546 00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 1: people to go to b TV with? I can't get 547 00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: over the fact we won't be spending news together. 548 00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 2: Yes, completely, you're twenty one. 549 00:23:56,840 --> 00:24:00,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, friends seem like everything, Yes, But if they're willing 550 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 1: to drop you like that you want to have a 551 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 1: good night, clearly they're on edge about something. And I 552 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 1: just feel like, even if you apologized and they went, oh, okay, 553 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,760 Speaker 1: sure you can come, like it's their fucking like, they 554 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:13,800 Speaker 1: get it right to say whether you can come or not. 555 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,920 Speaker 1: But I think you're gonna feel unwanted out of place, 556 00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 1: which is not fair. But I'm saying for your new 557 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 1: year's plans, I think it's actually gonna be worth finding 558 00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,360 Speaker 1: something different around a group of people that haven't made 559 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:26,000 Speaker 1: you feel that way. 560 00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:28,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, and you don't even have to go to BTV 561 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,560 Speaker 2: with people that are that close to you. It's such 562 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,520 Speaker 2: a fun environment. You end up getting so close to 563 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:35,520 Speaker 2: people that you didn't necessarily initially think you were that 564 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:37,320 Speaker 2: close with. Like the first year I didn't go with 565 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,240 Speaker 2: girls that I was overly closest and we had the 566 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,280 Speaker 2: best time. Like find a little girl. Group less is more, 567 00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:46,680 Speaker 2: especially in BTV, because three girls, Yeah, that's the best. 568 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 2: That's the most ideal. Three four girls, girls that you 569 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:51,800 Speaker 2: don't even think you're that close with, Like you have 570 00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:52,560 Speaker 2: fun no matter what. 571 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:54,560 Speaker 1: Most of the time at festivals, I've ended up being 572 00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:56,600 Speaker 1: like buddy, like I'll like pick a girl to hang 573 00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:58,159 Speaker 1: out with, and you kind of do everything together with 574 00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,280 Speaker 1: like a girl I'm like not that close with all. Yeah, 575 00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:03,040 Speaker 1: you'll have so much fun. I'd say in regards to 576 00:25:03,080 --> 00:25:07,320 Speaker 1: the response, just be like, hey, sorry to hear you 577 00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,560 Speaker 1: feeling that way. That really upsets me. But no worries, Like, 578 00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: don't give them ammunition to say anything mean back to you, 579 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,480 Speaker 1: because it's a fragile situation. I'd say, if that is 580 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 1: your friend, maybe even give her a call, be like, 581 00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:21,240 Speaker 1: where did this come from? 582 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,320 Speaker 2: I'm defending me, like the girl that drove you home. 583 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:27,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and see how it plays out. But if 584 00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:28,960 Speaker 1: it does work out in the sense that you aren't 585 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:30,960 Speaker 1: going to be going to be TV with them, I 586 00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:32,800 Speaker 1: promise you it won't be for It'll be for the 587 00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,160 Speaker 1: best and you'll have more fun than being around girls 588 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:38,040 Speaker 1: that have made you feel not wanted, because I feel 589 00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,680 Speaker 1: like those always end up being the most challenging times 590 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,240 Speaker 1: where you're just trying to have fun but you just 591 00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:45,160 Speaker 1: don't feel wanted. That's really really hard, and then. 592 00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 2: You end up having a shit time. It's not worth you, 593 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:49,400 Speaker 2: and it's also not worth you groveling at shit. Try 594 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:51,159 Speaker 2: to pull it straight, to try to convince them as 595 00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,320 Speaker 2: to why they want to go with you, Like, fuck off. 596 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,520 Speaker 1: I'll bring my value to someone else. 597 00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I say, I'm going to bring my vibrator. 598 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,159 Speaker 1: Oh my god, she can do that too. 599 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:03,960 Speaker 2: You can fucking have yourself a little. 600 00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: Don't use your vibrator at BTVM kind of dirty and 601 00:26:09,800 --> 00:26:13,320 Speaker 1: the tents don't like It's just I just don't. 602 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:17,439 Speaker 2: I just hey, you're in. 603 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,040 Speaker 1: A small girl group. You can go find a fun 604 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:20,399 Speaker 1: group of guys and you can hang out with them. 605 00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,359 Speaker 1: You never know, you might not need a vibrator in 606 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 1: your tent. 607 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:24,960 Speaker 2: Maybe I hope you don't have sex BTV. 608 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,240 Speaker 1: That's kind of you're going to have sex at festival. 609 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,840 Speaker 1: You'll have sex in the first night, oh yeah, any 610 00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 1: night after that. And your feet was just far too dirty. 611 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:33,919 Speaker 1: It's disgusting. 612 00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:35,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't get out of my head. 613 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:37,879 Speaker 1: I've just heard the horror stories about like friends and 614 00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:40,480 Speaker 1: their boyfriends like sleeping together and apparently the tent just 615 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: like oh yeah, and there's no airflow, no, and it 616 00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:48,159 Speaker 1: just makes me ill. So I've always just thought first night, 617 00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:52,280 Speaker 1: first night, or nothing, you know, or just way two year. 618 00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:54,960 Speaker 1: It's not that deep. It's really not that deep. Have 619 00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:56,440 Speaker 1: a new US, kids and put yourself to bed with 620 00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:59,000 Speaker 1: your friends. How about that? Stay safe? 621 00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,439 Speaker 2: Hi girls love the pod and I mean desperate need 622 00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:08,840 Speaker 2: for help, Well go the right place. I'm currently finishing 623 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:12,359 Speaker 2: year twelve with all the high school stresses, including my 624 00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,840 Speaker 2: decision not to have a relationship during this year. I 625 00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,399 Speaker 2: have never had a serious relationship, so this idea has 626 00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:20,920 Speaker 2: always been dawting but exciting for me. There's this guy, 627 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,920 Speaker 2: let's call him Paul, who I've always had a thing for. 628 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:28,800 Speaker 2: Good looking full yeah interesting, such an unusual name joke. Yeah, 629 00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:31,639 Speaker 2: good looking. And we've been on and off talking for 630 00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:32,560 Speaker 2: around a year now. 631 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:35,040 Speaker 1: Right, so she's been seeing people, she just hasn't done 632 00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 1: the watah and she's just been talking to him. 633 00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:40,520 Speaker 2: Okay, We've never really talked or given a serious go 634 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,360 Speaker 2: until around three months ago. We've hooked up a few 635 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,880 Speaker 2: times and since we've gotten really closest friends. Friends don't 636 00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:50,760 Speaker 2: hook up. But yeah, personally I don't hook up. 637 00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:53,879 Speaker 1: I mean, well, I think kiss we're taking. I was 638 00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,000 Speaker 1: taking hook up a sex. Okay, we'll go with sex, 639 00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:57,520 Speaker 1: but I think it actually might be kissed. 640 00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,400 Speaker 2: I think it's kiss. From here, it's kiss. His friends 641 00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 2: also don't hold. 642 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:03,439 Speaker 1: I was thinking some people consider hook up like hangout, 643 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,120 Speaker 1: like we hooked up like we hung out. 644 00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:08,680 Speaker 2: No, No one said that, No, No, okay, burgin Mary. 645 00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,080 Speaker 1: My hookups in high school were hanging out. Okay. 646 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:17,320 Speaker 2: Also, so if you think is he's experienced, take that, 647 00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:18,040 Speaker 2: take that back. 648 00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:18,320 Speaker 1: I'm not. 649 00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,080 Speaker 2: We've hooked up a few times and since we've gone 650 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,400 Speaker 2: really close as friends. He needed a place to stay 651 00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 2: one night and I was house sitting. I said, yes, 652 00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:29,240 Speaker 2: as fine, you can come over. As someone who avoids 653 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:31,440 Speaker 2: seeing people, this was a huge deal. 654 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. 655 00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 2: I had only thought of it as friends, as we 656 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:38,120 Speaker 2: hadn't been more than friends in ages. After talking that night, 657 00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,920 Speaker 2: I had changed my perspective on him. We had gotten 658 00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 2: so much closer and had been talking and seeing each 659 00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:45,520 Speaker 2: other for a while. Now he wants a relationship, but 660 00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:47,600 Speaker 2: I don't know what to do. I'm going to school 661 00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:49,560 Speaker 2: as soon and I wanted to wait until after then, 662 00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:51,520 Speaker 2: but obviously this sounds like I would want to get 663 00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 2: with other people, which to him is a make or break. 664 00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,520 Speaker 2: He's one of those guys that's taken majority of my 665 00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:58,000 Speaker 2: firsts Oh so they have. 666 00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,520 Speaker 1: Hooked up, Well yeah, unless it's everything, but. 667 00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:07,120 Speaker 2: The majority of my first meeting my parents, driving around, dates, 668 00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:09,440 Speaker 2: et cetera. So I'm feeling stuck on what to do now. 669 00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:11,480 Speaker 2: I don't want to lead him one because I truly 670 00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:13,320 Speaker 2: like him a lot more than I thought I would. 671 00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:16,320 Speaker 2: But I also don't want a boyfriend on schoolies in Bali, 672 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:17,920 Speaker 2: as I want it to be a girls trip, not 673 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 2: have the stress about what he's doing or being with 674 00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:22,600 Speaker 2: the whole time. I would love some advice and where 675 00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:24,480 Speaker 2: to go and know your point of view on this stitch. 676 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,960 Speaker 1: I'm going to say, don't enter into a relationship unless 677 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:32,720 Speaker 1: you want to. Don't say yes to being boyfriend and 678 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:36,720 Speaker 1: girlfriend unless you want to. Just yeah, no, I just 679 00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:40,400 Speaker 1: more so for the sake of I'm not saying he's 680 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,880 Speaker 1: asking you out before school is because he wants you know, 681 00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,080 Speaker 1: life is easier of you just know that the person 682 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:46,720 Speaker 1: you're seeing is your boyfriend and they're not going to 683 00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:48,720 Speaker 1: do anything, and it's all good and fine. But I 684 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:52,040 Speaker 1: think what's the harmon just waiting that week saying to him, Look, I. 685 00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:54,480 Speaker 2: Have a completely different perspective of you and this. 686 00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:56,000 Speaker 1: I just think, don't say yes to being in a 687 00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,440 Speaker 1: relationship unless you are ready and you really really want it. 688 00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:00,560 Speaker 2: But I don't think he's He hasn't asked her, do 689 00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:03,040 Speaker 2: you want to be my girlfriend? I thought, no, he 690 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:05,040 Speaker 2: hasn't said that. He was like, I don't know because 691 00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:06,680 Speaker 2: I don't want to lead him on. But she's saying 692 00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 2: it could get to the stage or that he's going 693 00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:10,040 Speaker 2: to ask him to be the boyfriend, but. 694 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:11,720 Speaker 1: Well, that would be great, wait till he gets to 695 00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 1: that stage. 696 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 2: I just think you need to like not think so 697 00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:18,600 Speaker 2: much into it and like having a boyfriend. Like if 698 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:20,200 Speaker 2: someone said, oh, I don't want to have a boyfriend 699 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,000 Speaker 2: on school is it kind of hints that you just 700 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:23,360 Speaker 2: like want to hook up with him, That is, you 701 00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,760 Speaker 2: don't like them enough to want to be in a relationship. 702 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:28,120 Speaker 2: School is you can be in a relationship and have 703 00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:29,680 Speaker 2: it as you said you wanted it to be a 704 00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,000 Speaker 2: girl's trip. It can still be a girl's trip even 705 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,400 Speaker 2: if you have a boyfriend. You could still have fun, 706 00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:34,640 Speaker 2: You can still go out, you can still have all 707 00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:36,720 Speaker 2: your friends. You've just got a boyfriend at home that 708 00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:38,160 Speaker 2: you just don't want to hook up with other people, 709 00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:40,680 Speaker 2: Like a boyfriend shouldn't interfere with your life the way 710 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:42,320 Speaker 2: that you're making it out that it is going to, 711 00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:44,000 Speaker 2: and it shouldn't inherent in your life. 712 00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:45,640 Speaker 1: You don't want to hook up with anyone else. 713 00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, it benefited you know what I mean. He seems 714 00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:50,600 Speaker 2: to be doing everything nice for you. He seems to 715 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:53,400 Speaker 2: be doing all the right things like I have. There's 716 00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 2: no reason as to why you shouldn't. And you do 717 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:58,680 Speaker 2: say you like him, like, I just don't understand why 718 00:30:58,760 --> 00:30:59,040 Speaker 2: you would. 719 00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:02,040 Speaker 1: I do stand by, Like it's if you say I 720 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:03,960 Speaker 1: want to be single for schools, it's for a reason, 721 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,120 Speaker 1: and it shows that it's because you want something else. 722 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,160 Speaker 1: Whether it does or doesn't, that's what he's going to 723 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,520 Speaker 1: get from it. And I get why he would, Yeah, completely, 724 00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:14,080 Speaker 1: But I also think don't say yes to a relationship 725 00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:15,760 Speaker 1: unless you feel ready. And you like this guy, we 726 00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:17,760 Speaker 1: obviously can't feel how much you like this guy, but 727 00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:20,920 Speaker 1: like if you feel like and also you don't have 728 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,960 Speaker 1: to marry the guy, you know, you can be your boyfriend. 729 00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:26,360 Speaker 2: For a little Yeah, boyfriends aren't that big of a deal. 730 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:30,320 Speaker 2: Relationships should be easy, and relationship should be like a compliment, 731 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,840 Speaker 2: and like compliment your life. He seems like he's a 732 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,360 Speaker 2: really nice guy in your life, so like why wouldn't 733 00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:35,600 Speaker 2: you do? 734 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:37,360 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. We're saying there's no downfall 735 00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:39,760 Speaker 1: to having him be your boyfriend, no, completely, and if 736 00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:41,160 Speaker 1: it's not working out, you end it. 737 00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:43,520 Speaker 2: And if it's a healthy relationship, he can go off 738 00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:45,160 Speaker 2: at schools and do his thing. You can go off 739 00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:47,000 Speaker 2: it at schools and do your thing, and then you 740 00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:48,680 Speaker 2: come back together after a week. It's a week of 741 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:50,720 Speaker 2: fucking schoolies and you're gonna be a fiends with a 742 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,480 Speaker 2: fucking jug in your hand, is going to be drinking 743 00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:53,760 Speaker 2: the girls. Like it's not that big. 744 00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,680 Speaker 1: It's it's like, even if he isn't your boyfriend and 745 00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,080 Speaker 1: you did something or he did something, you're just gonna 746 00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:00,640 Speaker 1: be all the same. You saw like this guy. 747 00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it would just make it more It would 748 00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,760 Speaker 2: actually make it more difficult him not being your boyfriend, 749 00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:07,400 Speaker 2: because it's kind of like, oh, I don't know what 750 00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:09,200 Speaker 2: he's doing, and if you like him enough, you're still 751 00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:10,960 Speaker 2: going to be thinking that even if you're not boyfriend 752 00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:13,400 Speaker 2: and girlfriend at school, he's going to make you. It's 753 00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:14,600 Speaker 2: going to make you more stressed. 754 00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:15,880 Speaker 1: But you can down. 755 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, lock him down. I would be locking him down 756 00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:19,800 Speaker 2: because at the end of the day, if he then 757 00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:21,760 Speaker 2: fucks up, you go, well, you fucking cheated on me 758 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 2: because you're my boyfriend. But then he could do that, 759 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,640 Speaker 2: Oh but we weren't dating and stuff like that, and 760 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:26,440 Speaker 2: that would make you I. 761 00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:28,480 Speaker 1: Just start the relationship off on the wrong foot. He 762 00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 1: clearly seems to like you, and by the looks of it, 763 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,240 Speaker 1: doesn't seem like he wants to be doing anything else 764 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:35,880 Speaker 1: on school is. So I think if it feels right 765 00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:38,280 Speaker 1: and you like the guy, there is absolutely no harm 766 00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,640 Speaker 1: in having a boyfriend, especially on school is. It makes 767 00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:47,440 Speaker 1: no difference period period, per Alright, ew, I'm twenty four. 768 00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:50,960 Speaker 2: I never remind myself, Oh my god, so is he 769 00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:53,000 Speaker 2: and I like pieced ourselves the other night because I 770 00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:55,560 Speaker 2: like shard show this TikTok to her. It was like, 771 00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,960 Speaker 2: some people my age are getting married, some people are 772 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,960 Speaker 2: having babies and I'm volunteering at a duck center in 773 00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:04,800 Speaker 2: Vietnam to feed the ducks, and I'm like, easy, this 774 00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:07,280 Speaker 2: is you, And I like an Alas Dullan's his easy 775 00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:08,960 Speaker 2: age just got engaged when we went. 776 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,080 Speaker 1: To school together, and she's engaged now and I'm like, 777 00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:16,120 Speaker 1: I'm fucking around in Bali. But you know what, that's fine. 778 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:17,840 Speaker 1: It does Actually that weighs on me a little bit. 779 00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:21,280 Speaker 1: I do think it's like that, yeah, but I also 780 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,600 Speaker 1: think I'm twenty four, like so fucking young, do you 781 00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:25,040 Speaker 1: know what I mean? 782 00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:25,720 Speaker 2: Like so young? 783 00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:28,800 Speaker 1: Congratulations to people that are taking those milestone steps at 784 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:32,120 Speaker 1: this age, but that's not the right way to do things, 785 00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:35,200 Speaker 1: as either is mine. You know, there's whatever you want 786 00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,080 Speaker 1: to do. So I kind of need I was doing 787 00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:39,560 Speaker 1: better either, like you're so successful at twenty four. I 788 00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:42,240 Speaker 1: just need to relinquish the fact that I'm not doing 789 00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:44,600 Speaker 1: things a certain way, like I don't need to be. 790 00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:49,520 Speaker 1: I can do it however I want. All right, guys, 791 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,320 Speaker 1: Well that is it for today's episode. Please, as we 792 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,480 Speaker 1: said at the beginning, keep sending through those dilemmas that 793 00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:55,840 Speaker 1: makes life so easy. 794 00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:56,160 Speaker 2: Faust. 795 00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:59,480 Speaker 1: We love hearing about your lives and we will chary 796 00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:09,040 Speaker 1: to you on say, by the puff off