WEBVTT - Gambling Harm in Australia - Part A

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<v Speaker 1>Apogae Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi guys, thank you for tuning into Tennis for Nurses.

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<v Speaker 2>This week's episode around gambling does have some triggering conversations,

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<v Speaker 2>but because there was so much information disseminated by these

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<v Speaker 2>two remarkable women, Kat and Zen, we are going to

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<v Speaker 2>do a Part A and we will then be doing

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<v Speaker 2>a Part B because you need to hear what they

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<v Speaker 2>had to say about gambling and the concerns around gambling

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<v Speaker 2>in Australia. So this week will drop Part A and

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<v Speaker 2>next week will drop Part B. Hi, my name's beck

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<v Speaker 2>Woodbine and welcome to Tenderness for Nurses.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm grateful for the person that I have the opportunity to.

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<v Speaker 3>Be, so I hit it and parked it for Nellie

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<v Speaker 3>four years. We always have free will, we always get

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<v Speaker 3>to choose.

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<v Speaker 1>We are autonomous.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi everyone, thank you for tuning back into Tennis for Nurses.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm actually really excited today to chat with two amazing

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<v Speaker 2>women who are trying to change and bring to light

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<v Speaker 2>the issues around gambling here in Australia. And it's a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of a forgotten addiction. It doesn't get the

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<v Speaker 2>media attention that say alcohol or drugs do. However, the

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<v Speaker 2>impact in Australia is huge with what gambling does to families,

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<v Speaker 2>to people the community, and I really just wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>touch on this form of addiction, just to bring it

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<v Speaker 2>to light a little bit because there's so many people

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<v Speaker 2>that do have issues in this space and I just

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<v Speaker 2>felt it was important that we talk about it as well.

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<v Speaker 1>So good morning Zen, Good morning Kate. How are you both?

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<v Speaker 1>Very well? Thank you So Zen, We'll start with you. Han.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you give us a little bit of background on you,

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<v Speaker 2>what you do, how you help Turning Point and also

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<v Speaker 2>how you help the people that come to you guys.

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<v Speaker 3>So, I am a social worker. I work as counseling

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<v Speaker 3>role at Turning Point. Turning Point is a Melbourne based

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<v Speaker 3>addiction treatment, research and education service which is founded in

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<v Speaker 3>nineteen ninety four. It's now part of Eastern Health and

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<v Speaker 3>covers quite a broad gamut of treatment modalities and programs

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<v Speaker 3>across Melbourne and the Eastern Suburbs. More particularly, we have

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<v Speaker 3>a variety of different services designed to support individuals who

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<v Speaker 3>are seeking help around gambling harm, including kind of online services, websites,

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<v Speaker 3>web chats and also telephone services as well.

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<v Speaker 2>So your background is social work, Yeah, so you've done

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<v Speaker 2>all your study and what made you decide to segue

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<v Speaker 2>into this space.

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<v Speaker 3>I did my initial placement at Turning Point in twenty twenty.

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<v Speaker 3>I had always been interested in alcohol and drug treatment services,

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<v Speaker 3>as I'd studied it in my undergraduate degree as well,

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<v Speaker 3>and during my placement obviously we'd actually did a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of education around gambling harm and Kate we actually watched

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<v Speaker 3>a talk of yours, which in twenty twenty was empowering

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<v Speaker 3>to hear someone talk about gambling in such an honest

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<v Speaker 3>and raw way and also just really challenging this very

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<v Speaker 3>normalized society. Since twenty twenty, it has become something I'm

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<v Speaker 3>very passionate about, and as far as the work we

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<v Speaker 3>do here, it is something that part of me is like,

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<v Speaker 3>I can never see myself doing anything else because it

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<v Speaker 3>is just a really amazing space to work, and in

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<v Speaker 3>the people we work with us so incredibly strong and

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<v Speaker 3>brings so much to the work we.

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<v Speaker 1>Do doing COVID.

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<v Speaker 2>Then, did you with the huge increase in alcohol consumption

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<v Speaker 2>because of COVID, did you guys find that there was

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<v Speaker 2>also then a spike in gambling.

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<v Speaker 3>There was a very decided spiking gambling, particularly with sports betting. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 3>things like the Pokey's. There was a big drop off

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<v Speaker 3>in people attending venues. It's actually been interesting talking to

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<v Speaker 3>clients since COVID where they've said, oh, twenty twenty twenty

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<v Speaker 3>twenty one, particularly in Melbourne, that was great. I couldn't

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<v Speaker 3>go to the pokies. That was the longest period I

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<v Speaker 3>had when I wasn't playing the pokies, and for a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of people that was actually important for them to

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<v Speaker 3>recognize that they could live without going to the venue.

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<v Speaker 3>On the flip side of that, however, we saw a

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<v Speaker 3>very large uptick in particularly younger men on sports betting apps.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was a bit of a double edged sword

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<v Speaker 3>in terms of the harms both reduction and increase that

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<v Speaker 3>we were seeing across a very broad spectrum of the population.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you find that it's more women that do the

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<v Speaker 2>pokies and more men that do the apps or you

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<v Speaker 2>just find it's the board for both.

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<v Speaker 3>I would definitely say with the apps we do get

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<v Speaker 3>a larger presentation of younger men the pokeys. I think anecdotally,

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<v Speaker 3>depending on who you speak to, we could say that

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<v Speaker 3>we have maybe seventy thirty sixty forty kind of split

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<v Speaker 3>male female. But yeah, I definitely say for a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of the people we speak to when it comes to

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<v Speaker 3>the pokys, I find that a lot of people I

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<v Speaker 3>speak to myself where they are women that kind of

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<v Speaker 3>thirties through to sixties range, particularly women who are winding

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<v Speaker 3>down careers entering retirement. The pokys have become something that

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<v Speaker 3>stands in and fills in that space. There's also a

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<v Speaker 3>very common theme for a lot of people just around

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<v Speaker 3>having a place where they can escape the stresses of

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<v Speaker 3>day to day life, and the pokeys for some people

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<v Speaker 3>do fill that space, and it can be a sort

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<v Speaker 3>of quite a big release from what's going on in

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<v Speaker 3>the data day for busy working parents and things like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So what is the definition of a gambling addiction?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, there are different ways to define addiction. Generally,

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<v Speaker 3>with gambling addiction, for a lot of people, it is

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<v Speaker 3>when the harm for gambling is starting to impact multiple

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<v Speaker 3>facets of their lives. You know, the most obvious is

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<v Speaker 3>the financial impact, but we can also look at people

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<v Speaker 3>losing relationships, family breakdown. For some people, there can be

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<v Speaker 3>very serious legal and employment consequences. We have clients we've

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<v Speaker 3>worked with who have in some instance has gone to

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<v Speaker 3>the extent where they've stolen money from employers and have

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<v Speaker 3>ended up in prison as a result of that. So

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<v Speaker 3>really it's when the gambling becomes something that is all

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<v Speaker 3>dominating in someone's life, and for a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>that sneaks up on them and it can feel very sudden.

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<v Speaker 3>There can be that steady progression from going to the

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<v Speaker 3>Pokey's once a month with some friends to it being

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<v Speaker 3>a daily ritual of multiple hours and starting to take

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<v Speaker 3>over for their lives.

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<v Speaker 2>Do they tend to always go to the same outlet

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<v Speaker 2>if it's Pokys?

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<v Speaker 3>It's interesting. I think that does very person to person.

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<v Speaker 3>You will have people where they're very much this is

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<v Speaker 3>my venue, this is where I'm going, this is very

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<v Speaker 3>feel comfortable, I know the stuff, I get a free

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<v Speaker 3>cup of tea, which a lot we can say about

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<v Speaker 3>those kind of things. And then for others they will

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<v Speaker 3>find that they're going to different areas of town. For

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<v Speaker 3>whatever reason. A lot of people may feel quite shameful

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<v Speaker 3>being seen repeatedly in the same venue. For others, they

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<v Speaker 3>may have exclusions in place in one venue and therefore

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<v Speaker 3>they decide to go to a different venue. So it

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<v Speaker 3>does vary, but routine and ritual is important for a

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<v Speaker 3>large number of individuals who speak to so there is

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<v Speaker 3>generally some consistency in where they are going to play

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<v Speaker 3>the pokies.

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<v Speaker 2>Why is it you think we don't hear a lot

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<v Speaker 2>about the gambling harm here in Australia. Is it because

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<v Speaker 2>it's such a culture a thing, you know, like I

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<v Speaker 2>hear about it because of what I do. But it's

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<v Speaker 2>sort of something that's really I don't know, it's not

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<v Speaker 2>really discussed.

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<v Speaker 3>It is such a not funny haha, but kind of

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<v Speaker 3>ironic one that and Kate, I'm sure to degree. It's

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<v Speaker 3>this thing that is so drenched into our society and

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<v Speaker 3>is so heavily normalized, and yet we never want to

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<v Speaker 3>be properly acknowledging it. And I think you know, there

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<v Speaker 3>are so many different reasons for that. I mean, we

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<v Speaker 3>can look at the amount governments receive in money from

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<v Speaker 3>Pokey's and from venues from sports spanning advertising things like that.

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<v Speaker 3>I think we as a society want to see ourselves

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<v Speaker 3>as this fun and jove your sports loving culture, but

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<v Speaker 3>we're not really willing to properly investigate what that means yet,

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<v Speaker 3>particularly when it comes to gambling. I'm in my late twenties.

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<v Speaker 3>I have a lot of male friends and colleagues who

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<v Speaker 3>have over the years said that, but they couldn't imagine

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<v Speaker 3>watching sports without gambling. It's just the reality. This is

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<v Speaker 3>what they do, and it's now a kind of lifeline

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<v Speaker 3>for them in terms of connections to other people. It's

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<v Speaker 3>what they talk about, it's what they do, and the

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<v Speaker 3>idea that you could engage in watching sports or even

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<v Speaker 3>going down to the pub without engaging in some level

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<v Speaker 3>of gambling seems quite foreign. So there's the government levels,

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<v Speaker 3>there's the funding and the funding received from governments around that,

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<v Speaker 3>and then there's also the cultural element of just not

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<v Speaker 3>wanting to unpack something difficult, particularly when it's so normalized.

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<v Speaker 1>It's interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>My daughter does intelligence in America and she works for

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<v Speaker 2>a law firm and as part of her work, people

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<v Speaker 2>approach them to research thing on behalf of someone else,

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<v Speaker 2>and she has recently done some research into and I

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<v Speaker 2>used to think it was just nuts.

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<v Speaker 1>You can go.

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<v Speaker 2>Into a roadhouse get fuel or whatever, and there are

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<v Speaker 2>pokeys in these states. I just assumed that they were

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<v Speaker 2>all connected. But these ones that are in these service

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<v Speaker 2>stations and things like that are actually individually owned made

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<v Speaker 2>by a certain person. The people can watch what's happening

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<v Speaker 2>in all the different service stations where people are punting

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<v Speaker 2>or gambling, and if they win, they hit a jackpot

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<v Speaker 2>or something, they'll shut that machine down so they never

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<v Speaker 2>get the win. Oh wow, but they'll take the money,

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<v Speaker 2>but they never get the win. So there has been

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<v Speaker 2>numerous lawsuits against it. But I just assumed that they're

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<v Speaker 2>all connected, but they're not. So these are individually owned

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<v Speaker 2>poky machines. And like she was saying, they're in areas

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<v Speaker 2>where it's low socio and economic areas. It's people low wages,

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<v Speaker 2>low incomes. They're trying to get a couple of extra

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<v Speaker 2>dollars to feed their family whatever. They hit a jackpop

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<v Speaker 2>and never get paid for it. And she was horrified

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<v Speaker 2>when she was reading what's going on. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 2>can't even comprehend that someone would buy and support that

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<v Speaker 2>as a means of an income. I just it blows

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<v Speaker 2>my mind. But when she was looking into it, she

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<v Speaker 2>just could not comprehend it. Whereas they're all linked, aren't

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<v Speaker 2>they to some degree in each the state?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that correct? Do you know, Kate?

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<v Speaker 4>The individual venues, there's a couple of clubs in Canberra

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<v Speaker 4>that own multiple venues, so all of those might be linked,

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<v Speaker 4>but they're not necessarily all interlinked per state.

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<v Speaker 2>But they're not individually owned. No, these are owned by individuals.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>The US regulations around the poke machines and also things

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<v Speaker 3>like sports betting, it they vary so wildly from our

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<v Speaker 3>own regulations. I think the US only introduced sports betting,

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<v Speaker 3>something which is just such a massive part of our

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<v Speaker 3>culture now relatively recently, and they've already seen massive harms

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<v Speaker 3>as a result of that. But it is fascinating seeing

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<v Speaker 3>how different countries manage the pokies, But I think Australia's

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<v Speaker 3>really beating everyone else on those ones.

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<v Speaker 2>So did we develop was the online gambling platforms?

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<v Speaker 1>Are they Australian developed?

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<v Speaker 3>They're not necessarily Australia developed a lot of the online

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<v Speaker 3>sports betting apps are like British companies, like their British

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<v Speaker 3>book making companies, but the US had heavier legislation around

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<v Speaker 3>them for a more extended period of time. Australia has

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<v Speaker 3>always had legislation or regulation around the sports betting apps,

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<v Speaker 3>but they have been here for longer than they have

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<v Speaker 3>been in the US.

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<v Speaker 2>So how much money does the government make from gambling?

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's around twelve billion issue, it could be more.

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<v Speaker 4>That was maybe two years ago, yeah, a year, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>and it increases each year.

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<v Speaker 3>The civilian losses per capita are the largest globally, with

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<v Speaker 3>the bigger losers in the world when it comes to gambling,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's tens of billions of dollars a year that

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<v Speaker 3>Australians are losing in gambling. When you think of yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>you think how small we are.

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<v Speaker 2>Billion dollars Australians are losing a year to gambling.

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<v Speaker 4>It jumped from twenty five billion. Oh my, the last project.

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<v Speaker 4>That's how much harm is happening in Australia from gambling products. Hell,

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<v Speaker 4>then does someone I mean, you've got your phone with

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<v Speaker 4>you all the time. You know, it's hard enough when

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<v Speaker 4>people stop drinking to try and avoid going into a

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<v Speaker 4>bottle shop and it being delivered and that sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 4>But you know, like your phone's with you all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you then stop gambling if you have a

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<v Speaker 2>harmful habit when your phone's with you all the time.

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<v Speaker 3>There are some things that are in place now so

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<v Speaker 3>last year betstop, which is the National Self Exclusion Register

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<v Speaker 3>for online gambling and sports batting was introduced. People can

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<v Speaker 3>register themselves for various periods where they'll be excluded from

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<v Speaker 3>all registered sports betting services in Australia. That means the

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<v Speaker 3>services can't be setting them advertising material, it means they

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<v Speaker 3>can't open accounts. That's one thing that's in place. Tab

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<v Speaker 3>has a program called tab Betcare which is a similar thing,

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<v Speaker 3>so people can do that exclusion. For some people, they

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<v Speaker 3>find it useful to put blockers in place as a

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<v Speaker 3>service called gamban, which is a similar thing. People can't

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<v Speaker 3>access gambling sites then through their phone or laptop. In

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<v Speaker 3>saying that, however, these are services people have to engage

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<v Speaker 3>with themselves, so there has to be that internal motivation.

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<v Speaker 3>People have to be at the point where they are

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<v Speaker 3>ready to take that step, and that's not always an

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<v Speaker 3>easy point for people to come to.

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<v Speaker 1>With any addiction.

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<v Speaker 2>It's really hard, whether it's drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling. To

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<v Speaker 2>get to that point takes a lot of work absolutely

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<v Speaker 2>so then when you're doing all you're counseling and talking

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<v Speaker 2>with people that sort of thing and vicarious trauma can

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<v Speaker 2>have a real.

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<v Speaker 1>Impact on a person.

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<v Speaker 2>How does turning point look after you as a social worker,

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<v Speaker 2>and how do you look after you to make sure

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<v Speaker 2>that you can show up every day and be the

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<v Speaker 2>best version of you to help your clients.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you do that well?

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<v Speaker 3>Turning point as an organization within this area i'm in,

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<v Speaker 3>there are things put in place in terms of we

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<v Speaker 3>are forced to take breaks after we speak to people,

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<v Speaker 3>so there are ten minutes after every client contact that

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<v Speaker 3>we have that are built into our systems. But there's

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of flexibility in terms of being able to

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<v Speaker 3>take a step out of the office, go for a walk,

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<v Speaker 3>grab a colleague, debrief with them, grab a supervisor debrief

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<v Speaker 3>with them. It's a very jovial atmosphere. That is we're

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<v Speaker 3>encouraged to engage with everyone and prioritize our well being

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<v Speaker 3>in ourselves. If we're in if we're just exhausted, we

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<v Speaker 3>can't take another call. Okay, put yourself into self care,

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<v Speaker 3>do what you need to do. That's absolutely fine. We're

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<v Speaker 3>not being forced to push through and hit KPIs or objectives,

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<v Speaker 3>which is a really nice balance. And we also have

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<v Speaker 3>a really fantastic team of supervisors, including individual supervisors and

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<v Speaker 3>also group supervision, which is done on a monthly basis.

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<v Speaker 3>We also have team meetings with all of the counselors

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<v Speaker 3>so everyone can share systems, issues that need to be addressed,

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<v Speaker 3>things like that. So it's a really collaborative, supportive space

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<v Speaker 3>for myself personally, I'm a big advocate for people that

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<v Speaker 3>can of getting out of the office and just walking

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<v Speaker 3>around for a while. It's been really useful making sure

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<v Speaker 3>I have things in place that I can do every week,

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<v Speaker 3>So routines around meal prepping, exercisings like that that help

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<v Speaker 3>keep me balanced, ensuring that I'm not overloading my workdays,

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<v Speaker 3>but that i still have fun things to look forward to,

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<v Speaker 3>even if it's grabbing a coffee with a colleague during

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<v Speaker 3>the day, just breaking things up, and also just acknowledging

0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:13.360
<v Speaker 3>that we have sick leave and personally, for a reason,

0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:16.400
<v Speaker 3>take that leaf for yourself, look after yourself, prioritize your

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<v Speaker 3>own well being. I've recently come back from ten days

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<v Speaker 3>off so i could spend time with the family and

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<v Speaker 3>it was a really refreshing thing. Yeah, so those little things, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>It's so great to hear that because the work you

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<v Speaker 2>do is so important and we need people like you

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<v Speaker 2>healthy and well so that you can help other people

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<v Speaker 2>in our society. That really do need a hand, then,

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<v Speaker 2>is there, and without breaking any confidentiality or anything like that,

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<v Speaker 2>is there one story that's really stayed with you.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a really good question. I think it's maybe not

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<v Speaker 3>one story, but I think one theme that always stays

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<v Speaker 3>with me that actually I think ties it nicely to

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<v Speaker 3>something I was Kate, I was watching your Rethink Addiction

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<v Speaker 3>talk twenty twenty two when there was something you said

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<v Speaker 3>in that that really links in what was sort of

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<v Speaker 3>this theme, which is when you speak to someone on

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<v Speaker 3>the gambling lines or on the gambling web chats, the

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<v Speaker 3>level of shame that people are experiencing, and that stigma

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<v Speaker 3>can be so overwhelming and so often you'll be speaking

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<v Speaker 3>to people, I think, particularly with some of the blokes,

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<v Speaker 3>we speak to men who would not normally be letting

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<v Speaker 3>themselves cry or feeling emotion to this level and all

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<v Speaker 3>of their barriers are down and there is such a

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<v Speaker 3>level of vulnerability and being able to sit with them

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<v Speaker 3>in that space and hold them and then really emphasizing

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<v Speaker 3>the element of addiction by design, encouraging them to acknowledge

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<v Speaker 3>that this is not a reflection on them. They're not weak,

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<v Speaker 3>there's nothing wrong with them. It's not that they're unable

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<v Speaker 3>to make a change or just unable to stop. It's

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<v Speaker 3>that this is a system which has been designed to

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<v Speaker 3>keep them locked in, and there is a way they

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<v Speaker 3>can break three of this, and there is support for them,

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<v Speaker 3>but really just helping them understand that this is not

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<v Speaker 3>a reflection on them and they are not defined by

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<v Speaker 3>the gambling harm And it is something that always hits

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<v Speaker 3>home with me with the gambling calls and the web chats,

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<v Speaker 3>is just how damaging that stigma and shame is and

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<v Speaker 3>how important it is for us to help people challenge

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<v Speaker 3>that and help them reground themselves and acknowledge that it's

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<v Speaker 3>not them, it's a system and they can move past

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<v Speaker 3>it and they can break out of that system.

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<v Speaker 2>I can firsthand talk about, you know, I had an

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<v Speaker 2>issue with alcohol and the shame I felt around that

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<v Speaker 2>and to this day still feel. You know, I've actually

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<v Speaker 2>literally come from seeing my psychologists to come and talk

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<v Speaker 2>to you guys, because I've recognized it's something I have

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<v Speaker 2>to work through and deal with because at the end

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<v Speaker 2>of the day, it's only society that's putting those boundaries

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<v Speaker 2>on me. I should be feeling really proud, like you

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<v Speaker 2>should Kate that we've worked through things and it'll be

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<v Speaker 2>a work for the rest of our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>I have no doubt. But that's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>That we should be really proud of ourselves for me

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<v Speaker 2>not drinking, Kate not gambling, you know, So instead of

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<v Speaker 2>feeling shame or being shamed, we should be celebrating our successes.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that's something we need to as Australians

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<v Speaker 2>work on rather than shaming people for because let's face it,

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<v Speaker 2>we're open about it. There's so many people that aren't

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<v Speaker 2>open about it and are living, you know, these lives

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<v Speaker 2>where they're constantly and turmoil. And you know, you and I,

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<v Speaker 2>for whatever reason, have been able to deal with our

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<v Speaker 2>demons and get to the other side. But I think

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<v Speaker 2>we do need to change the dialogue around shame and

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<v Speaker 2>embarrassment because we're all just humans.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, especially in the gambling space, shame has been weaponized

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<v Speaker 4>by the industry and that's something I didn't understand when

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<v Speaker 4>I was experiencing it. I was like, why can't I

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<v Speaker 4>do this normally like other people? And just as you're

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<v Speaker 4>saying about alcohol, it's a normalized toxin. You know, gambling

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<v Speaker 4>spaces are toxic environments. And we've convinced ourselves that there's

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<v Speaker 4>something wrong with us if we can't engage in it

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<v Speaker 4>in a healthy way, Like it's just craziness when you

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<v Speaker 4>can peel it back and understand, these are industries that

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<v Speaker 4>have designed products and practices that attract and addict human beings.

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<v Speaker 1>And we weren't built for that. No.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I noticed the other day that the pub

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<v Speaker 2>where I live opposite us, the gambling rooms are open

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<v Speaker 2>till four am. The rest of the pub shut down,

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<v Speaker 2>but the gambling rooms are open till four am. So

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<v Speaker 2>what does that tell you? It tells you that it's

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<v Speaker 2>okay to gamble. Are we're going to support you in

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<v Speaker 2>your habit?

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<v Speaker 4>No, it tells you that that's their core business. That

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<v Speaker 4>is their core business. The rest of the facade. All

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<v Speaker 4>they care about is exploiting you financially for as long

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<v Speaker 4>as possible.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, you know what. I have never thought

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<v Speaker 2>of it that way, And you're right, Kate. So if

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<v Speaker 2>you're feeling comfortable, do you mind sharing your story?

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<v Speaker 1>Kate? Sure. I grew up in Sydney in the late nineties.

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<v Speaker 4>I turned eighteen and my boyfriend at the time was

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<v Speaker 4>two years older, so he had kind of entrenched gambling

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<v Speaker 4>habits because Sydney was all I knew and I had

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<v Speaker 4>no idea that I was actually growing up in the

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<v Speaker 4>capital of gambling harm in Australia. New South Wales has

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<v Speaker 4>ninety eight thousand poke machines. There's two hundred thousand in

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<v Speaker 4>the whole of Australia and News of Wells has half

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<v Speaker 4>of them. So wow, every single social space I went

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<v Speaker 4>to as a young person had gambling products, so I

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<v Speaker 4>wanted to spend time with him. He sat me down,

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<v Speaker 4>showed me how to use a poke machine and I

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<v Speaker 4>put twenty dollars in and one that first time. And

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<v Speaker 4>that was the worst thing that could have ever happened,

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<v Speaker 4>because that pathway formed in my brain of you do this,

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<v Speaker 4>this equals money. Then the person came and gave me

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<v Speaker 4>this wad of cash while I was still sitting at

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<v Speaker 4>the machine and said things to me like you're really

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<v Speaker 4>good at this. Wow, just that positive reinforcement and making

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<v Speaker 4>me think like I was lucky or I knew what

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<v Speaker 4>I was doing. And very soon it went from being

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<v Speaker 4>with him to me going before work.

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<v Speaker 1>After work in my lunch break.

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<v Speaker 4>My whole pay packet would go on payday sometimes within

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<v Speaker 4>an hour and I'd be still living at home. So

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<v Speaker 4>thankfully I still had food on the table and lights on.

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<v Speaker 4>But looking back, I could have been facing homelessness at

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<v Speaker 4>that point, very very quickly, because it just absolutely captured

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<v Speaker 4>my mind and my body in a way that I

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<v Speaker 4>had not prepared to know how to navigate. I got

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<v Speaker 4>taught about drugs and alcohol and smoking in school. Nobody

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<v Speaker 4>mentioned gambling harm. Those two words actually didn't even exist

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<v Speaker 4>at that time. It was just gamble responsibly, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>So that continued for about a year, and I'm watching

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<v Speaker 4>my friends go on trips and I had no money

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<v Speaker 4>to do that. I was just working week to week

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<v Speaker 4>and borrowing money off my siblings, off my parents to

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<v Speaker 4>try and get by, and slowly but surely.

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<v Speaker 1>Disconnecting with myself.

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<v Speaker 4>And there's no doubt that these machines are built for addiction,

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<v Speaker 4>and they mentally hijack you. But what I didn't understand

0:25:11.241 --> 0:25:14.160
<v Speaker 4>at that time was it also hijacks your sense of hope.

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<v Speaker 1>So all of the hopes.

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<v Speaker 4>And dreams that I once had for my life were

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<v Speaker 4>now no longer in my view, and all I kept

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<v Speaker 4>thinking about was trying to get it back or I

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<v Speaker 4>couldn't even put my finger on what was driving me,

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<v Speaker 4>But it was actually this desire to have never ever

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<v Speaker 4>sat down and ever engaged with the product. I just

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<v Speaker 4>wanted to go back to when my life was normal,

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<v Speaker 4>and that seemed so so far away. How old were

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<v Speaker 4>you then, Kate, I was eighteen nineteen.

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<v Speaker 2>And did family members know something was wrong or you

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<v Speaker 2>kept it like a secret?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>They just thought I would have spent my paypacket like

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<v Speaker 4>out socializing with my friends or on cloe or something

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<v Speaker 4>like that.

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<v Speaker 1>There was no visible.

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<v Speaker 4>Indication like there is with drinking or drugs, so nobody

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<v Speaker 4>suspected that it was gambling harm and even if they did,

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<v Speaker 4>they wouldn't have known what to do with that information anyway.

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<v Speaker 4>Then miraculously I met my husband, broke up with my boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 4>moved to Canberra. Thought I'd left all of that in Sydney.

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<v Speaker 4>Eighteen months into our marriage. We were twenty three. At

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<v Speaker 4>the time, I was expecting my second child. We were

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<v Speaker 4>building a home and the mother's group that I was

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<v Speaker 4>a part of was going to like the local child center,

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<v Speaker 4>and then they said, oh, look, we won't be able

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<v Speaker 4>to meet here anymore. You're going to have to find

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<v Speaker 4>somewhere else to meet. One of the women said, how

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<v Speaker 4>about we meet at the club. There's like a playground.

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<v Speaker 4>So we went to this playground and as soon as

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<v Speaker 4>I walked in the venue and I heard the machines

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<v Speaker 4>and felt myself just distracted by that familiar lights and sounds,

0:27:12.521 --> 0:27:16.360
<v Speaker 4>and it just kind of haunted me. I obviously didn't

0:27:16.961 --> 0:27:20.640
<v Speaker 4>use them that day. But one day, when I didn't

0:27:20.681 --> 0:27:24.160
<v Speaker 4>have the children with me, I thought, there's money in

0:27:24.201 --> 0:27:26.640
<v Speaker 4>the account to start building the house.

0:27:27.321 --> 0:27:28.801
<v Speaker 1>Remember that time you won.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, you could just spend a little and win more,

0:27:32.521 --> 0:27:36.360
<v Speaker 4>and did it, you know, And that was it. I

0:27:36.400 --> 0:27:41.240
<v Speaker 4>went through thirty thousand dollars in a month, and that

0:27:41.360 --> 0:27:44.801
<v Speaker 4>was the first time I wanted to take my life, and.

0:27:46.120 --> 0:27:50.160
<v Speaker 1>So it was really hard.

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<v Speaker 4>And at that point I came clean to my husband

0:27:54.400 --> 0:27:57.640
<v Speaker 4>and yeah, had I not been pregnant, I wouldn't be

0:27:57.681 --> 0:28:00.321
<v Speaker 4>talking to you right now. I promise you that. And

0:28:01.481 --> 0:28:05.561
<v Speaker 4>then he said, look, look, it's just money. Don't worry

0:28:05.600 --> 0:28:07.840
<v Speaker 4>about it, like, we'll be fine, And he took my

0:28:08.321 --> 0:28:11.880
<v Speaker 4>cards off me for a week. But we had our

0:28:11.880 --> 0:28:14.680
<v Speaker 4>own business and he needed me to do things, you know.

0:28:14.721 --> 0:28:18.640
<v Speaker 4>I was essentially the financial controller of our family, which

0:28:18.801 --> 0:28:25.801
<v Speaker 4>was just a nightmare to navigate. And anyway, that continued

0:28:25.840 --> 0:28:31.081
<v Speaker 4>then for the next decade of me thinking all right,

0:28:31.120 --> 0:28:33.801
<v Speaker 4>you've got to handle on this, it's fine, and then

0:28:34.080 --> 0:28:38.601
<v Speaker 4>have a massive like binge and go through thousands and thousands,

0:28:38.641 --> 0:28:42.641
<v Speaker 4>and then I had another child and had a like

0:28:42.721 --> 0:28:47.001
<v Speaker 4>a forced period of abstinence, and then find the bills

0:28:47.321 --> 0:28:47.921
<v Speaker 4>pile up.

0:28:48.321 --> 0:28:51.200
<v Speaker 1>The stress it had just kept.

0:28:50.961 --> 0:28:54.761
<v Speaker 4>Cycling me around and around, and because I'd never had

0:28:55.001 --> 0:28:58.841
<v Speaker 4>anyone explain it to me, I kept feeling like it

0:28:58.921 --> 0:29:03.601
<v Speaker 4>was my own personal failing. I just was dealing with

0:29:03.641 --> 0:29:05.681
<v Speaker 4>it all on my own. The first time I RNG

0:29:06.201 --> 0:29:09.441
<v Speaker 4>Lifeline back in two thousand and three, I got told.

0:29:10.081 --> 0:29:10.881
<v Speaker 1>Just don't wear shoes.

0:29:10.881 --> 0:29:12.521
<v Speaker 4>If you don't wear shoes, you won't be able to

0:29:12.521 --> 0:29:14.721
<v Speaker 4>get into a venue, so you won't be able to gamble.

0:29:15.161 --> 0:29:15.921
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god.

0:29:16.521 --> 0:29:22.361
<v Speaker 4>And I was like, ah, okay, that's really not helpful.

0:29:22.841 --> 0:29:25.401
<v Speaker 4>I said, I just feel like I need a rehab,

0:29:25.561 --> 0:29:27.761
<v Speaker 4>Like if I was addicted to drugs, there would be

0:29:27.761 --> 0:29:30.921
<v Speaker 4>a rehabit I could go to and I could get support.

0:29:31.361 --> 0:29:35.960
<v Speaker 4>This woman said, no, there's no rehabs for gambling, and

0:29:36.001 --> 0:29:39.201
<v Speaker 4>if there was, they'd be for men. So that made

0:29:39.201 --> 0:29:42.641
<v Speaker 4>me feel like I was the only woman experiencing this

0:29:43.121 --> 0:29:47.241
<v Speaker 4>and it was just a nightmare. Then a couple of

0:29:47.361 --> 0:29:51.241
<v Speaker 4>years later, a friend of mine saw me gambling when

0:29:51.281 --> 0:29:56.200
<v Speaker 4>we were out socializing, and she confronted me and she said,

0:29:56.761 --> 0:29:58.201
<v Speaker 4>you know, I know this psychologist.

0:29:58.761 --> 0:30:00.841
<v Speaker 1>You could go see the psychologist friend of oz.

0:30:00.921 --> 0:30:03.760
<v Speaker 4>And I went to see this woman and she just

0:30:03.841 --> 0:30:06.841
<v Speaker 4>charged me two hundred dollar an hour and had absolutely

0:30:06.881 --> 0:30:09.801
<v Speaker 4>no insights into what I was going through.

0:30:10.001 --> 0:30:11.961
<v Speaker 1>It just didn't help.

0:30:12.601 --> 0:30:15.841
<v Speaker 4>So when you put your hand up for help and

0:30:15.881 --> 0:30:21.881
<v Speaker 4>it's not met with compassion, understanding you know the right supports,

0:30:22.081 --> 0:30:27.240
<v Speaker 4>you lose hope. So fast forward to twenty twelve. I

0:30:28.321 --> 0:30:32.921
<v Speaker 4>just been Christmas. Christmas is a very intense period for

0:30:33.321 --> 0:30:37.721
<v Speaker 4>people experiencing gambling, harm and all the guilt and everything

0:30:37.801 --> 0:30:41.441
<v Speaker 4>of wanting to make it all all right for my children.

0:30:41.841 --> 0:30:43.641
<v Speaker 1>I found myself.

0:30:43.241 --> 0:30:47.960
<v Speaker 4>In a venue game and just didn't want to be

0:30:48.121 --> 0:30:51.881
<v Speaker 4>here anymore, didn't know how to come home, didn't know

0:30:51.921 --> 0:30:52.760
<v Speaker 4>who to talk to.

0:30:54.081 --> 0:30:55.841
<v Speaker 1>But I was pregnant with.

0:30:55.801 --> 0:31:00.801
<v Speaker 4>Our sixth child, and that's why I'm still here today.

0:31:01.641 --> 0:31:03.881
<v Speaker 1>She kept me here.

0:31:05.201 --> 0:31:10.480
<v Speaker 4>Because at that point I thought everyone's better off without me.

0:31:10.961 --> 0:31:16.401
<v Speaker 4>But I was so grateful to be having her. Each

0:31:16.481 --> 0:31:21.161
<v Speaker 4>one of my children has been like just the greatest

0:31:21.201 --> 0:31:28.921
<v Speaker 4>blessing in amongst the worst hell imaginable. So my husband

0:31:28.921 --> 0:31:32.761
<v Speaker 4>had called like a thousand times trying to find me,

0:31:33.281 --> 0:31:39.641
<v Speaker 4>and they said, please just come home. I think that

0:31:39.801 --> 0:31:44.721
<v Speaker 4>was the moment that he actually saw how much pain

0:31:45.241 --> 0:31:49.961
<v Speaker 4>and isolation I was in. And that's something that's very

0:31:50.001 --> 0:31:57.481
<v Speaker 4>common amongst loved ones, trying to navigate that dynamic between

0:31:57.521 --> 0:32:02.521
<v Speaker 4>somebody who's experiencing gambling harm and them not knowing how

0:32:02.601 --> 0:32:08.041
<v Speaker 4>to navigate it. And he just finally saw my pain

0:32:08.161 --> 0:32:13.961
<v Speaker 4>clearly and said, please, we'll find someone that can help.

0:32:14.721 --> 0:32:18.281
<v Speaker 4>And the next day he drove me to an amazing

0:32:18.801 --> 0:32:21.601
<v Speaker 4>woman who worked for Mission Australia at the time, and

0:32:23.001 --> 0:32:26.761
<v Speaker 4>for the first time I felt seen and heard and

0:32:27.641 --> 0:32:33.801
<v Speaker 4>not judged by what I'd been through and started to

0:32:34.041 --> 0:32:37.720
<v Speaker 4>just build back pieces of me that had been lost

0:32:37.761 --> 0:32:38.641
<v Speaker 4>when I was eighteen.

0:32:40.641 --> 0:32:45.001
<v Speaker 1>Thank you for sharing that. I know that's tough to do.

0:32:46.001 --> 0:32:51.241
<v Speaker 1>Did you have to learn who you are? Oh? Yes?

0:32:52.801 --> 0:32:57.921
<v Speaker 2>And did that yeah take a lot of work and effort. Yes,

0:32:58.921 --> 0:33:00.361
<v Speaker 2>And I suppose you're still on that journey.

0:33:00.441 --> 0:33:05.321
<v Speaker 4>Hey, I feel like I know myself pretty well now,

0:33:05.521 --> 0:33:10.480
<v Speaker 4>but I remember you know you said this focus is

0:33:10.481 --> 0:33:12.761
<v Speaker 4>on self care. I mean, those two words had never

0:33:12.921 --> 0:33:17.000
<v Speaker 4>entered my vocabulary until she said to me, what do

0:33:17.081 --> 0:33:18.481
<v Speaker 4>you do for self care?

0:33:18.761 --> 0:33:21.521
<v Speaker 1>I was like, what is that? You know?

0:33:21.641 --> 0:33:27.641
<v Speaker 4>My whole identity was just so confused and shattered from

0:33:28.121 --> 0:33:31.921
<v Speaker 4>trying to operate under a label of am I gambling

0:33:31.921 --> 0:33:32.361
<v Speaker 4>at it?

0:33:32.481 --> 0:33:33.841
<v Speaker 1>I didn't want that label.

0:33:33.921 --> 0:33:38.681
<v Speaker 4>I didn't feel like it resonated, but I knew I

0:33:38.761 --> 0:33:44.041
<v Speaker 4>was addicted. But I didn't understand how to wrestle with that.

0:33:44.801 --> 0:33:50.321
<v Speaker 4>And when I started showing up for myself differently and

0:33:50.401 --> 0:33:54.401
<v Speaker 4>looking at all that was at play, it was so

0:33:55.201 --> 0:33:59.801
<v Speaker 4>unreasonable for me to think that I could operate in

0:33:59.841 --> 0:34:04.801
<v Speaker 4>a normal state when I had just been absolutely coated

0:34:04.801 --> 0:34:10.921
<v Speaker 4>in shame for over a decade, never really been comfortable

0:34:11.041 --> 0:34:15.921
<v Speaker 4>with my humanness. You know, I had thought I've wrecked this.

0:34:16.281 --> 0:34:18.241
<v Speaker 4>I'm not perfect, I'm not the perfect mum, I'm not

0:34:18.281 --> 0:34:22.081
<v Speaker 4>the perfect wife. It's all ruined. Why can't I be

0:34:22.241 --> 0:34:25.401
<v Speaker 4>like the other wives and mums that I know? And

0:34:26.041 --> 0:34:30.561
<v Speaker 4>this realization that my children didn't need me to be perfect,

0:34:30.841 --> 0:34:34.841
<v Speaker 4>they needed me to model how to be human.

0:34:35.281 --> 0:34:39.081
<v Speaker 1>They just needed your doll and just grow through the experience.

0:34:39.201 --> 0:34:39.921
<v Speaker 1>You know like that.

0:34:40.161 --> 0:34:42.881
<v Speaker 4>My twelve year old the morning after I almost didn't

0:34:42.921 --> 0:34:45.761
<v Speaker 4>come home, said Mom, like, where were you?

0:34:45.841 --> 0:34:46.921
<v Speaker 1>No one could find you?

0:34:47.001 --> 0:34:50.001
<v Speaker 4>And I thought, shit, I have to tell him now

0:34:50.401 --> 0:34:53.641
<v Speaker 4>that I've been struggling all this time and I had

0:34:53.681 --> 0:34:58.201
<v Speaker 4>hidden it from everyone. And I said, look, mate, I've

0:34:58.281 --> 0:34:59.761
<v Speaker 4>just made so many mistakes.

0:35:00.201 --> 0:35:03.481
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what to do. And he goes, Mum,

0:35:04.041 --> 0:35:11.601
<v Speaker 1>everyone makes mistas and I just thought, oh my gosh,

0:35:11.721 --> 0:35:15.601
<v Speaker 1>from the mouth of a baby, of course they do.

0:35:15.761 --> 0:35:19.440
<v Speaker 4>Why did I think that I had disqualified myself from

0:35:19.481 --> 0:35:21.321
<v Speaker 4>being worthy?

0:35:21.361 --> 0:35:25.641
<v Speaker 2>You know, because those machines and the way it rewired

0:35:25.681 --> 0:35:30.241
<v Speaker 2>your brain made you think that you weren't worthy exactly.

0:35:31.601 --> 0:35:34.641
<v Speaker 2>And when I looked at the product and how to

0:35:34.721 --> 0:35:38.041
<v Speaker 2>being designed, I was like, oh my gosh, I used

0:35:38.041 --> 0:35:40.001
<v Speaker 2>it exactly how.

0:35:39.761 --> 0:35:43.481
<v Speaker 4>It was designed to be used. From a user standpoint,

0:35:43.521 --> 0:35:51.081
<v Speaker 4>I am the model client absolutely, and this absolute mind

0:35:51.361 --> 0:35:54.321
<v Speaker 4>f of you know, there's all these people that can

0:35:54.401 --> 0:35:56.321
<v Speaker 4>use it properly and you can't.

0:35:57.241 --> 0:36:00.281
<v Speaker 1>But what a lie? But are people using it properly?

0:36:00.681 --> 0:36:04.401
<v Speaker 1>That's exactly right. That's the industry lie that they spin.

0:36:04.881 --> 0:36:08.241
<v Speaker 4>There's all these people that can do this, and there's

0:36:08.401 --> 0:36:09.801
<v Speaker 4>just these few and.

0:36:09.681 --> 0:36:12.041
<v Speaker 1>They labeled them problem gamblers.

0:36:13.001 --> 0:36:17.521
<v Speaker 4>That terminology weaponized that shame and made it an individual

0:36:17.561 --> 0:36:21.441
<v Speaker 4>problem instead of people having a focus on This is

0:36:21.481 --> 0:36:27.121
<v Speaker 4>a really toxic and predatory industry that is absolutely financially

0:36:27.161 --> 0:36:32.081
<v Speaker 4>devastating this nation at an alarming rate, and we've just

0:36:32.201 --> 0:36:34.561
<v Speaker 4>allowed it to be on every corner.