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Speaker 1: Coming up relatables.

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Speaker 2: That's the issue. I have one that says girl friendships

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Speaker 2: hold one another accountable.

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Speaker 1: Yes they do.

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Speaker 2: Men do not hold each other accountable.

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Speaker 1: Relatable.

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Speaker 2: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka Daddy,

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Speaker 2: and my partner in crime, Addie Clark aka Mummy. And

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Speaker 2: he is Mummy because he's the one you go to

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Speaker 2: when you want to talk about your feelings.

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Speaker 1: And Jake is Daddy because he's hairy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the young I haven't had that one yet.

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Speaker 1: And you guys listening other baddies, and.

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Speaker 2: You guys are the baddies. I was been thinking every

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Speaker 2: time I say Oddie is Mummy because he's the one

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Speaker 2: you go to when you want to talking about your feelings.

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Speaker 2: I was thinking, we've got to break the norm.

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Speaker 1: Break the norm. We've got to break the in a

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Speaker 1: sense of mend stereotype talking about their feelings.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you wouldn't often go to your.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's also because not only are they bad

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Speaker 1: are talking about their feelings, they're also just like not

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Speaker 1: very approachable sometimes and they don't ask. Yeah, they don't

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Speaker 1: ask mums. But we can change that. Mums want to

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Speaker 1: when we're fathers. Yeah, mums want the goss.

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Speaker 2: We got to change.

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Speaker 1: They want to tea Yeah, I think so.

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Speaker 2: I think mums always want all the info. But welcome

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Speaker 2: in to all the bodies and big welcome to all

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Speaker 2: the new badies if you.

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Speaker 1: Know, yeah, all the new ones. We want to say

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Speaker 1: that you are old, you're welcome.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, of course. But straight up we're gonna

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Speaker 2: do I g question.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's kick things off of a bang ag.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. We thought maybe anyone that's new might not want

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Speaker 2: to just like tinker around and get bored and see

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Speaker 2: what we're about. Straight away, we're gonna heat with what

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Speaker 2: we do every week is an ig question.

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Speaker 1: It's kind of like we're going straight to the main

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Speaker 1: and then we're coming back for an entree.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, and who doesn't. Here's my

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Speaker 2: argument is the entree is the best part of the meal,

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Speaker 2: so you may as well get it over and done, like,

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Speaker 2: get the bad stuff over and done with. Right. I'm

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Speaker 2: not saying that what we're about to do is bad,

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Speaker 2: but you know, get the main out of the way,

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Speaker 2: because everyone's so happy when the entrees.

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Speaker 1: It's because you're still hungry after and you're looking forward

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Speaker 1: to more.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, are you happy when the entres come because

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Speaker 2: you're hungry? This is gonna ever so slightly curb that

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Speaker 2: or what's it called herba craving? And then and then me,

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Speaker 2: So maybe entre should always be at star?

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Speaker 1: Is this diminishing the I don't know what the vibe

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Speaker 1: of this podcast is. By putting the main first.

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Speaker 2: We'll let the badies be the judge of that, judge

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Speaker 2: of that. But the question this week was what have

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Speaker 2: you seen girl friendships do really well that boy friendships don't?

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Speaker 2: Kind of different it is, it's a different question that

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Speaker 2: than we would normally ask because these are kind of conversation.

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Speaker 1: Starts, very talkative. Yeah, you kick things off.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I tried to choose some talkative ones, but I

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Speaker 2: also tried to choose them I guess not so talkative.

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Speaker 2: So what have you seen girlfriendships do really well that

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Speaker 2: boyfriendships don't? Trips to the bathroom together? What's so fun

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Speaker 2: about the girls bathroom? Yeah? What's so fun about the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's interesting too, because how men view bathrooms is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a very common. Uh what's it called? The

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Speaker 2: etiquette in men's bathroom is if there's three urinals and

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Speaker 1: But girls two people in the store, I mean, men

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But is the men's bathroom quicker because of urinals

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Speaker 1: Okay, what have you seen girl friendships do really well

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Speaker 1: that guy friendships don't. They meet up for things not

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Speaker 2: Like best's friends will come to our place for dinner

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Speaker 2: which is like, makes the most sense ever. But guys

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Speaker 1: It's funny too. I was having a conversation with one

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know it's funny, is it. Imagine if you

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Speaker 1: A good thing for men to think about and maybe

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Speaker 3: Damn yeah, I walk a swim where it's very sure

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Speaker 3: it's not really an activity because I'll throw and you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, do you think men are kind of maybe naturally

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Speaker 1: I think they can't hold a conversation, is it? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I don't think they can hold a conversation about something

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Speaker 2: But it's funny, Like, so tonight I'm staying at your house,

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Speaker 1: No, it's funny.

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Speaker 2: It's funny because we would be like I just want

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Speaker 2: it's like we can do it, isn't that interesting? I think,

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Speaker 1: I could do it.

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking I could do it with other people. I

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Speaker 2: Do you think it makes the relationship more of a

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking about it too, because men mostly hang out

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Speaker 1: because when you're drunk, you're like, oh, it's talking. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: when you're hungover, you just don't have the mental capacity

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Speaker 1: there are two times men hang out the most, drunk

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Speaker 2: No, it's it's just over two years, it's like bang

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Speaker 1: How do you think that's affected your relationships purely out

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Speaker 2: Well, I would say that it's affected my relationships in

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Speaker 2: a way that I don't actually have any same. It's

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Speaker 1: We gained him together.

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Speaker 2: He lives in Melbourne though it doesn't help, And then

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Speaker 2: I have also gained justin.

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Speaker 1: Is he real.

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Speaker 2: Is he real is the imaginary? Here's the thing with

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Speaker 2: Justin is I quite like him? We get along very well,

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Speaker 2: but like in terms of hanging out one on one,

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Speaker 2: like Justin and I only activity, like purely activity, Like

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't not want to invite him into my house

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Speaker 2: to just like hang out for a bit longer. But

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Speaker 2: there is something stopping me. It's interesting, and I know

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Speaker 2: for a fact he wouldn't feel comfortable to invite, like

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Speaker 2: he would probably think it's embarrassing.

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, shit, guys won't bring that up.

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Speaker 1: No, they don't talk about the highs the lows. They

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Speaker 2: Like I think you could probably script nine of he

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And I think the three male friendships I've maintained,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know what's funny is like it's one step.

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Speaker 2: It's like, you know, you could ask maybe someone just

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Speaker 1: And we don't share good news. No, we don't.

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Speaker 2: I Like, I'm sick of instead of feeling sorry for ourselves,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I think the first step to getting better

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Speaker 2: Yeah and ah, what's something good that's happened to you lately?

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Speaker 1: Where do I go from here?

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Speaker 2: The moment's been and the moment is allowed to go.

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Speaker 1: Oh shit, I'm bad at that. See, men don't do that.

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Speaker 1: Yes they do.

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Speaker 2: Men do not hold each other accountable.

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Speaker 1: Men in accountability isn't a thing.

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Speaker 2: It's not in the vocab.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, fucking hell in that frontal lobe developer never develops.

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Speaker 2: Like we spoke about last week, how we think. I

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Speaker 1: say anything. But that's where you should say, hey, yeah,

438
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Speaker 1: you shouldn't just be looking to have sex with her.

439
00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:37,720
Speaker 1: She probably really likes you. You should go into that,

440
00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 1: or tell her to be honest and open from the

441
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:41,640
Speaker 1: start that that's what you want, or don't lead her on.

442
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:43,440
Speaker 1: And I've been getting better at saying that because some

443
00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:45,439
Speaker 1: friends still do it here and then I say, and

444
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:47,840
Speaker 1: I still do it in a joking way. I don't

445
00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:50,440
Speaker 1: have the balls to say it outright. I'm scared of confrontation,

446
00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:52,600
Speaker 1: but they do it in a joking way where I'm

447
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:54,560
Speaker 1: like kind of protecting myself, which is wrong.

448
00:21:57,280 --> 00:21:59,800
Speaker 2: To be fair, the first step is to understand that

449
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:01,919
Speaker 2: that's wrong, and then hopefully in the next situation, like

450
00:22:02,320 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 2: you know, instead of being like fuck, like you know,

451
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:09,639
Speaker 2: what's this convernation going to do to me, have the confrontation. Okay,

452
00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 2: On the topic of confrontation, Beth, actually great news to everyone.

453
00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 2: My girlfriend quit a job.

454
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Speaker 1: I saw that. Though we're going to talk about congratulations, I've.

455
00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 2: Been having been before, say what I've been trying, exciting,

456
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 2: long time coming. But so she quit a job the

457
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Speaker 2: other day. The night before she was talking about it

458
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Speaker 2: with like me, her mum and sister, are dad and

459
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Speaker 2: so we were all very on board, supported her. And

460
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:34,800
Speaker 2: then the next day she said she's doing it. She

461
00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,440
Speaker 2: calls me, She's like, I did it. I was like, fuck, yes.

462
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 2: So I went and bought her to buy chocolate and

463
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Speaker 2: some flowers, just like from IgA, like cheap, the thought,

464
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Speaker 2: and I just wanted to give her a look congrats,

465
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Speaker 2: you know, and the flowers from IgA and the d

466
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Speaker 2: buy chocolate. I had to go to the chemist for right,

467
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Speaker 2: And I'm in the chemist and there's a fella in

468
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Speaker 2: the working in the chemist and I have flowers and

469
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Speaker 2: he hears me buying to buy chocolate and you guys

470
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Speaker 2: or someone's in trouble, and you know what was insane

471
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Speaker 2: in my head. I didn't say anything. What I wanted

472
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 2: to say was like, nah, I just love my girlfriend.

473
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:11,400
Speaker 2: But at the same time, I was thinking, like I've

474
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Speaker 2: seen videos of men talking about that happening to them,

475
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:18,199
Speaker 2: but it's never actually happened to me, like I was.

476
00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 2: I'm like so mad at myself for not just being

477
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 2: like you know, oh no, like just like fuck, it

478
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 2: make the situation awkward. Like if I could go back,

479
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,639
Speaker 2: I would make the situation awkward and be like, actually, no,

480
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 2: I'd just love my girlfriend. It's a celebration and just

481
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 2: like straight face, it's like, I'm so upset that I

482
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:40,399
Speaker 2: didn't do that. But yeah, I couldn't believe he said it.

483
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:43,639
Speaker 2: I was like, I didn't say ye for example, like

484
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:46,240
Speaker 2: I didn't I just didn't say anything. But again, I

485
00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 2: wish I like confronted him.

486
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:50,720
Speaker 1: Was just that, and that's what does do because they

487
00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 1: don't know how to deal with confrontation, or because there's

488
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Speaker 1: that in quotes friendship there you feel like you can't

489
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Speaker 1: say anything. You know, I wasn't your friend, m dude,

490
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:00,879
Speaker 1: what's he gonna do?

491
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 2: Fucking hit me? No, and like seriously, it's fucking I

492
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 2: don't know. I was like, Wow, I can't believe that

493
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 2: just happened.

494
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Speaker 1: It was kind of like you said the other day,

495
00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:13,919
Speaker 1: that embarrassment is under explored emotions. Yeah, four men, I

496
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:17,160
Speaker 1: think so was confrontation. There's been yeah, probably right, plenty

497
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 1: of times where Cassie, my girlfriend's a really good at

498
00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:24,239
Speaker 1: confrontation and it makes me terribly uncomfortable. But I do

499
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,560
Speaker 1: think sometimes yeah, there's not a time in a place,

500
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Speaker 1: so they just be the bigger person. But there's definitely

501
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 1: a time and a place, so it's hard.

502
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 2: It's like there's certain situations where you're right, it's like, yes,

503
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:38,120
Speaker 2: confrontation could be needed, and then there's times where it's

504
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:39,399
Speaker 2: like are we bored?

505
00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 1: Okay, dokey, this one I think both genders do. Okay, well,

506
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 1: I know they do. What have you seen girlfriendships do

507
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 1: really well? The guy friendships don't talk about how hot

508
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:54,920
Speaker 1: each other's siblings are.

509
00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 2: Men do that. Men do that. We can tell you

510
00:24:59,880 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 2: for nice hand men do that usually on a joking level.

511
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:03,520
Speaker 1: I actually don't.

512
00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:07,280
Speaker 2: Maybe until recently. Okay, I don't know anyone that's gone

513
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 2: for a sister.

514
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 1: Did we?

515
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 2: But I think very recently one of our old friends did.

516
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:13,199
Speaker 1: Did that? Eventually? I have no idea. He told me,

517
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 1: do you know more than me? See I'm on the

518
00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 1: group anymore?

519
00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 2: Neither over?

520
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:17,719
Speaker 1: Did?

521
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 2: That's a friendship ruiner if it doesn't go well?

522
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:21,880
Speaker 1: Awkward?

523
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 2: Now, what have you seen girl friendships do really well?

524
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 2: The boys don't tell each other we love each other.

525
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:32,320
Speaker 2: Girls do that more often than boys, you think, because

526
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Speaker 2: boys don't.

527
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:35,680
Speaker 1: Do that in a friendship. Do you think love you?

528
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:37,720
Speaker 1: And you know how there's such a difference with love

529
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: you and I love you? Yeah? If is it the

530
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:43,119
Speaker 1: same equivalent for a friendship versus a relationship? Like you

531
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:45,280
Speaker 1: need to say as a friendship, I love you instead

532
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:45,760
Speaker 1: of love you.

533
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 2: I don't know. You can start with love you orgn thing.

534
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 2: I don't even say to my dad steppingstone. Yeah, say

535
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:55,920
Speaker 2: to my parents only say. The only person I say

536
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 2: it to is I say, and Henry.

537
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Speaker 1: If mom and dad got on a big trip, I'll

538
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Speaker 1: occasionally slip it out the mum.

539
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, see I only say it to my parents.

540
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 2: And so I said to my parents like maybe once

541
00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 2: a year, right, and on your death bed, like it's

542
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 2: crazy to say, so, I reckon, I say, like maybe

543
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:23,439
Speaker 2: once a year, and we just I didn't say a

544
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 2: bunch of growing up and by no means do I.

545
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:27,919
Speaker 2: It's not no sort of sob story. But when it

546
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 2: is said, it's a happy moment for both parties. But

547
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 2: you can also tell it's a little bit of like

548
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 2: an awkward moment because it's like, whoa emotional Yeah.

549
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 1: Even when, like especially, we're thinking about how they were

550
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:42,400
Speaker 1: brought up. Yeah, we're having the conversations now they didn't

551
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: have the conversations at all.

552
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they didn't, did they?

553
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 1: Okay, this one's good to rear to. Wait, wait, what

554
00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 1: have you seen? Girlfriendships do really well? The guy friendships don't.

555
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: Women's friendships are face to face, and men's fresh men's

556
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 1: friendships are shoulder at the shoulder.

557
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:01,919
Speaker 2: Damn That is so true.

558
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:06,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is so so true. Fuck.

559
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 2: I read a book called Why Men Don't Listen and

560
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 2: Women Can't Read Maps.

561
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:13,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they talk about this.

562
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 2: Look. I don't know how like scientifically proven all of

563
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 2: this is, but apparently apparently it's back. It goes back

564
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 2: to when we were hunter gatherers, men hunters, women gatherers.

565
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 2: The women took care of the children, you know, did

566
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 2: all that thing they did, the gathering. I don't really

567
00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 2: know what it entails, but they would I guess, have

568
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:40,320
Speaker 2: conversations face to face. And then men would be constantly

569
00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 2: like tunnel vision hunting all day, come back tired, look

570
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 2: at the fire, and then they'd sit next to each

571
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,439
Speaker 2: other looking at a fire, shouldered shoulder. They'd never have

572
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 2: a conversation face.

573
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 1: On Well, the equivalent now is gaming. Yeah, like the

574
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: fire is now an Xbox or a TV. Yeah.

575
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you go to your fucking TV.

576
00:27:59,000 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 1: Footy.

577
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 2: Yeah that's what we're watching on there. Yeah, we just

578
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,919
Speaker 2: it's a huge day. I need to sit down and

579
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:15,199
Speaker 2: watch this TV. Yeah crazy, Okay, what have you what

580
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 2: have you seen? Girl friendships do really well that boyfriendships don't.

581
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:22,880
Speaker 2: This is a simple one brunch, not brunch. Not enough

582
00:28:22,920 --> 00:28:26,639
Speaker 2: guys do brunch. We guys don't go to brunch.

583
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: We don't. Are we missing out on something there?

584
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:30,399
Speaker 2: What do you?

585
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: What do you order it? A brunch?

586
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 2: It's like, it's breakfast food at lunch. Brunch. I'm a

587
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:37,239
Speaker 2: mimosa and oh you see what it is? Is what

588
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 2: it is. It's breakfast food at lunch but a little

589
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 2: bit of alcohol.

590
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like brunches are kind of like aesthetic.

591
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're They're kind of instagrammable.

592
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 1: They're very appealing, aren't they.

593
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 2: I'm a jealous of brunches. We can go to one.

594
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 1: We can go to one. Alrighty, guys. Unfortunately I've got

595
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 1: like five left and these conversations are really good. So

596
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 1: what we're going to do is do the rest of

597
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 1: them on Patreon, sorry, guys. And on Patreon it's five

598
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Speaker 1: dollars a month. You get next episode every single week,

599
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 1: every single What's with My Words Today? Every single week,

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Speaker 1: and then you also get the book Club Early Dilemmas

601
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Speaker 1: extra and now you get ig.

602
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 2: Extra and it's going to be in the link of

603
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Speaker 2: the description. But also if you go to patreon dot

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Speaker 2: com Forward Slash Relatable sixty nine that is our link,

605
00:29:26,960 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 2: that's our url.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. I wish if someone looked it up

607
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 1: that way, I could give them a discount. Oh, that

608
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: would be so sick.

609
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,480
Speaker 2: Actually, you get a bit of a discount. Yeah, as

610
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 2: long as you if you make sure you don't do

611
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,239
Speaker 2: it through an Apple app. Yeah, an Apple pay, Apple pay,

612
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 2: yeah it make sure you don't do through Apple pay.

613
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. They get enough about money.

614
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,719
Speaker 2: Okay. That is, if you've been here for just a

615
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 2: matter of weeks, then you'll know about my car update.

616
00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 2: If you've been here for this, this is your first time.

617
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 2: Very quickly, a couple of weeks ago, my car made

618
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 2: a crazy noise and for reference, I drive ahy, and

619
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:07,200
Speaker 2: I gets it's very very small.

620
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 1: Let me make the noise.

621
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 2: That looks pretty close. And so I said to Odi,

622
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 2: I brought the video in the noise, and I said, look,

623
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 2: it's it's become a need, not a want.

624
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 1: I need a new car.

625
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 2: Now. Last week I in I both brought some cars,

626
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 2: all right, and then we asked you guys to tell

627
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 2: me if we should go down the sensible route or

628
00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 2: the fun route. And I haven't even looked at the comments.

629
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:31,960
Speaker 1: Now everyone's commenting, which Baddie one. There's none yet.

630
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 2: Ah, fair enough.

631
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: Everyone just says you need a new car.

632
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 2: I don't think people care what I get. Yeah, So

633
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,080
Speaker 2: now I'm going to give a quick one more quick

634
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:44,400
Speaker 2: backstory on the Jimney situation. Okay, because the situation has

635
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 2: grown developed, slightly, development in the situation since I've known.

636
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't.

637
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:52,720
Speaker 2: Told you there's a development in the Jimney situation.

638
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: There's no way this guy came back.

639
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 2: So I was going to go get a Suzuki Jimney Sierra,

640
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 2: very cool little car. Now it said it was thirteen thousand,

641
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 2: five hundred, one hundred and thirty seven thousand k's. I

642
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 2: go down to Woongong an hour and a half drive.

643
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 2: I get in the car. It says it has two

644
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:11,960
Speaker 2: hundred thousand kilometers. So I was like, that's a crazy difference.

645
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 2: Now to get this car off the market, I paid

646
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,480
Speaker 2: a two hundred dollars deposit and it's a refundable after

647
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 2: I've taken for a test drive, and if I don't

648
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 2: want the car, I get the money back.

649
00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 1: Sweet.

650
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 2: So I was like, let's go.

651
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 1: Now.

652
00:31:23,560 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 2: I went down and then I tried to negotiate him down.

653
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 2: He says no, no, no. He spent a couple of

654
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Speaker 2: days texting me with things and I was like, no, good, like,

655
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:34,080
Speaker 2: don't worry about it. So that was two weeks ago,

656
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 2: like just over two weeks ago. Haven't got my positive back. Really.

657
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:40,920
Speaker 2: I've texted him twice being like.

658
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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, should I just name him?

659
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 2: Hey Pete, Like, I hope you're having that good week.

660
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 2: I hope you had a good week. It'd be like

661
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 2: super nice. I hope a good weekend and stuff. Just

662
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 2: checking on how that refund for like the deposit is,

663
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 2: here's my details. If you've missed him, just airing me.

664
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 2: He's notty and reading them. So I still haven't got

665
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 2: it back, and he still hasn't replied. I've sent two messages,

666
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 2: was like two like two k yeah, yeah, yeah, I'd

667
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 2: be fucked. If it was too care I'd be so mad.

668
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:12,200
Speaker 2: I'd be driving down there and knocking on his door.

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00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 2: But it's two on the buck. I was like, what

670
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 2: am I going?

671
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 1: I was this ceedy guy. He was so nice. He

672
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: got me two weeks. Maybe I don't want to give

673
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 1: him the benefit of that's funny though. I know he

674
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:29,720
Speaker 1: stole my money. Yeah, he stole my mom. I have

675
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:34,520
Speaker 1: faith in humanity? Really, man, cards yellows are weasels?

676
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:39,240
Speaker 2: Oh wait, I couldn't like he hasn't even read it. Bro,

677
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 2: Oh my god, let me see what.

678
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 1: We're call him right now? Should we call him? You

679
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: want to connect?

680
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's call him.

681
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 1: You did to connect. Let's call this guy pctice confrontation.

682
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:57,480
Speaker 2: Man, this is not the conversation I wanted. Let's see

683
00:32:57,520 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 2: if I've got.

684
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 1: Back you off, if your struggling, Okay, what are my nervous.

685
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 2: Dude, I'm stressing. Here's the thing is, like, I shouldn't

686
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 2: be stressing because he has my money.

687
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 1: Okay, Let's call this guy. He's not going to pick

688
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: up a leave him a message, though. Leave him a

689
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 1: message has.

690
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 4: Been forwarded to voicemail.

691
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 2: The person you're trying to reach is not available at

692
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 2: the time. Please record your message.

693
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:44,440
Speaker 4: When you have finished recording, you may hang up.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Pete, it's Jake. I came and test drove that

695
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 2: Suzuki Jimney Sierra a couple of weeks back, and you

696
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:55,800
Speaker 2: said i'd get my deposit back if I didn't want

697
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:58,280
Speaker 2: it after the test drive. I was just double checking

698
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 2: on that. Give a call back me. That's fussing. You don't.

699
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 2: He punted me in a voil.

700
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 1: That's crazy, bro, that's you gotta leave a bad e

701
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: mess with the wrong podcaster? Is you got leave?

702
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 2: It was on car sales too, so there's a chance

703
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 2: maybe car sales can help me out here. But it's

704
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:20,959
Speaker 2: trying to buy coming bothered.

705
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 1: You also know the dealership because you went there.

706
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know where it is. Go on Google, so fuck,

707
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 2: I don't want to. I'm opening on service so he

708
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:32,840
Speaker 2: doesn't come through. Oh here, I'll put myself on no

709
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 2: Bluetooth and I'll actually leave my phone on if he

710
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 2: calls me back. I'm not connected to it, but that's

711
00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:42,319
Speaker 2: all right. It'll be funny anyway. Imagine if he calls

712
00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 2: me back. Okay, So that's that's the current update. And

713
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:51,760
Speaker 2: then now my I don't want to like talk about

714
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 2: me for too long on this. But the other day

715
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 2: my dad actually offered so here, my stepmum's selling her car.

716
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:02,160
Speaker 2: She's a nice vehicle. Here's the thing. It's it's honestly,

717
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 2: it's worth about fifty thousand dollars. So he said to me,

718
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 2: he said, look, we we want to keep it in

719
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:08,960
Speaker 2: the family because it is a really nice car. So

720
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:11,560
Speaker 2: if you just you can give me how much you

721
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:13,760
Speaker 2: can give me, and then you can pay it off

722
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:17,239
Speaker 2: over a couple of years. Like however, it's like it's

723
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:19,200
Speaker 2: it's really up to you. And so I was like, wow,

724
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:20,800
Speaker 2: that's generous, Like I wouldn't be able to afford a

725
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 2: car like that otherwise. But I was thinking more about it, right,

726
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 2: and I don't want to do it. You don't want

727
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 2: to do it? No, Oh I don't want. I don't

728
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:31,400
Speaker 2: want to.

729
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,399
Speaker 1: I'm the only reason I.

730
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 2: Would be able to do it is because of my dad,

731
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 2: which is there's no, there's not. It doesn't mean it's

732
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 2: a bad reason to take advantage of it. And like

733
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be taking advantage at all. I would be

734
00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 2: paying it off, just like anyone would be paying off

735
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:48,880
Speaker 2: a car.

736
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:53,240
Speaker 1: But I would prefer.

737
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 2: To spend the money that I can spend on a

738
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,200
Speaker 2: car and own it out right and then not oh,

739
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 2: like fucking you know, thirty thousand dollars extra.

740
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:06,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm going to say no to.

741
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 2: Him, Okay, Yeah, I know that's it. It's like it's

742
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 2: like it's I again, I realized, like how privilege of

743
00:36:12,680 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 2: a situation it is. But I think that I would

744
00:36:16,000 --> 00:36:18,400
Speaker 2: prefer my parents to just like sell it get the money,

745
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 2: and then.

746
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: I guess that's admirable. Yeah kind of.

747
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 2: I'm doing it for me too as well. I don't

748
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 2: want to be in debt, did you, because it's also

749
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 2: a depreciating item.

750
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 1: You booked inspection on another car that's still coming through.

751
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 2: That's the third update waiting for that. So if it's good,

752
00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:32,839
Speaker 2: I'm going to buy that car.

753
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 5: Okay, So Zuoki Vatara, Yeah we went sensible what year

754
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 5: twenty sixteen.

755
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 1: That's pretty good.

756
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:42,479
Speaker 2: Cruise control, Yeah, Bluetooth. I think it doesn't have Apple

757
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 2: Car Play, but I can get it.

758
00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:45,280
Speaker 1: It doesn't have Apple carplation.

759
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:47,279
Speaker 2: I don't know. The best thing about it though, to

760
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 2: me is the cruise control. I haven't had cruise control for.

761
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 1: Like six years. Oh really? Yeah, because when you said that,

762
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 1: I was about to say, welcome to twenty three.

763
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:55,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I haven't had krius control for six

764
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 2: years because I had a really old car.

765
00:36:57,160 --> 00:36:58,800
Speaker 1: Then I got the gets that doesn't have it? My

766
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 1: what gets you? Because my name that much? Not on

767
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:06,719
Speaker 1: the freeway, not even I don't even use that much.

768
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I love, oh my god. The best

769
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 2: thing ever invented.

770
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:13,359
Speaker 1: Manuel. Yes, well, there's some good updates, Matt.

771
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: So I think next week I should actually, if if

772
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 2: all goes well, I should actually be driving that vehicle.

773
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:19,320
Speaker 2: Very good.

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Speaker 1: Already, baddies, Welcome back to Week five of Things that

775
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 1: Aren't Just for Boys. Week five. All right, I want

776
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:36,760
Speaker 1: to start off starting off strong.

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00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 2: Ordering for the table. Okay, I actually have a story

778
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 2: about this, Odie. I I can't speak for you, but

779
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:50,719
Speaker 2: I do think we've spoken about this before. I'm not

780
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 2: a keen orderer, you know how. It's kind of like

781
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,200
Speaker 2: a thing where people say, you know, the man should

782
00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 2: order the food, the man should do this, Nor am I.

783
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 2: I'm not a big I'm not keen on doing the ordering. Also,

784
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 2: I'm very quick to choose what I want. But one

785
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:08,399
Speaker 2: thing I really really liked that Beth does number one

786
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 2: is will often do the ordering, but she goes straight

787
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 2: to all the restaurant's instagrams when we get there and

788
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:18,840
Speaker 2: looks at all the photos of the food that's on

789
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 2: the menu. He knows what to get and then I

790
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:25,800
Speaker 2: have always kind of like given a ship for it.

791
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 1: But I'm just kind of good, you know why. I

792
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 1: don't like ordering pronunciations, Yeah, what's with a what's with

793
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:41,439
Speaker 1: a restaurant? And like, well, wait, where are you going?

794
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:43,439
Speaker 2: That has a hard pronunciations.

795
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 1: Even I went to Toddy's on the weekend. There's a

796
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 1: few passes I can't pronounce a couple other things. I'm like,

797
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:51,239
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is just embarrassing. I don't want to

798
00:38:51,280 --> 00:38:51,400
Speaker 1: do that.

799
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 2: Guy, But you're not even going to get a past

800
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 2: her I did.

801
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 1: On the weekend. What type I can't pronounce?

802
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 2: It?

803
00:38:57,239 --> 00:39:00,160
Speaker 1: Was it lamb rago? No, I tried something different. Oh,

804
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: Cassie was forcing me.

805
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:04,080
Speaker 2: Was it was in it?

806
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 1: She had passed it to my head. It wasn't spaghetti

807
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:12,319
Speaker 1: as well? Not maybe it was. Maybe it was that one.

808
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 1: Maybe it was that wasn't good? It was actually pretty decent.

809
00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 1: I was. I was full after the bread, though, you.

810
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 2: Go there for the bread. Okay.

811
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Speaker 1: Number two?

812
00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:27,399
Speaker 2: Are you thinking what I'm thinking?

813
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 1: I think I got it?

814
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:34,279
Speaker 2: Energy drinks, bang on. Most energy drinks are made for men.

815
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 2: They're all dark marcho, fake ingredients. I don't even know

816
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 2: ninety of things on those cans.

817
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty wild e. That's why Marissa created perfect

818
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:47,839
Speaker 1: healthy and energy drinks. She didn't even have us guys

819
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:48,800
Speaker 1: in mind when making it.

820
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:51,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they actually slap. Did you know that they

821
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:54,000
Speaker 2: are powered by Marcher and the ingredients are all natural?

822
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 2: This apple raspberry best very nice. I'd say I'm more

823
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,440
Speaker 2: of a juicy peach guy at the moment myself. Where

824
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:01,279
Speaker 2: do you pick yours up from?

825
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:01,840
Speaker 1: Oddie?

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00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 4: You know I'm a Coles guy. That's not even a

827
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 4: question me too, all our baddies.

828
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 1: Up next is dilemmas. If you want to get your

829
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Speaker 1: dilemma read the link is in a description or linking

830
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 1: bio on Instagram. Scroll at the bottom. There it is.

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Speaker 1: And as we mentioned before, Patreon gets their exclusive dilemmas,

832
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:26,279
Speaker 1: so there's more of a chance they'll get read over there.

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Speaker 1: My one, I'm trying to describe how I feel about it.

834
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:38,439
Speaker 1: It's a good feeling and I think it's an interesting perspective. Okay,

835
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,279
Speaker 1: because you and I will have a simple solution, but

836
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:43,719
Speaker 1: I think it's an interesting perspective.

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00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, in.

838
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,360
Speaker 1: Capitals, it's not a relationship dilemma.

839
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Speaker 2: Oo.

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Speaker 1: We'd love your thoughts. I'm a twenty five year old

841
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 1: Indian Australian girl. I work as a doctor in Perth

842
00:40:57,200 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 1: and I'm single. I recently moved out of my parents'

843
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:03,480
Speaker 1: house in July and I have never been more grateful

844
00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: for my freedom in brackets. Don't get me wrong, love them,

845
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:08,880
Speaker 1: but I can do things like bring guys who are

846
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: like over to my place because culturally it ain't okay

847
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:15,760
Speaker 1: whilst living with my kind of strict Indian parents.

848
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 2: Ah okay.

849
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:21,200
Speaker 1: I moved and started renting my brother and his partner's

850
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: house with a friend whilst they moved to Melbourne for

851
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,920
Speaker 1: six months. They are coming back in January and they

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00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 1: offered me to continue renting off them. I think it's

853
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:31,799
Speaker 1: kind of weird because I want the option of being

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00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: able to bring guys home. They said they wouldn't really

855
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: care as long as boundaries aren't crossed. Do you think

856
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 1: it would be weird from a male's perspective if I

857
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:42,759
Speaker 1: told a guy I'm seeing and want to bring him

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00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 1: back to my place that I rent off my brother

859
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 1: and his partner. Would it be weirder than my other option,

860
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: which is renting with a different friend and for other people.

861
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. Your advice

862
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,840
Speaker 1: and podcast has really changed my perspective with life and

863
00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 1: relationships and helped me through so much shit. Jake and

864
00:41:58,120 --> 00:41:59,240
Speaker 1: Audi are absolute legends.

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Speaker 2: Thank you very much, very much. I think if you

866
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Speaker 2: want to stay with your brother and his sister, so no, they.

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Speaker 1: She's in the house with one of the person renting

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Speaker 1: off them. They're not in the house, but they're coming back.

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00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 1: Yeah no, but they can keep renting it. Or is

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Speaker 1: that how I took it as she would be alone

871
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 1: in the house, Well, right.

872
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,760
Speaker 2: She's alone in the probably right right now, she's alone

873
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 2: in her brother's house, her brother and his partner, and

874
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 2: they're coming back, and they've said you can stay. And

875
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:31,920
Speaker 2: then she said I assume she said, yeah, what if

876
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 2: I want to bring boys back and stuff? And they

877
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 2: said that makes more sense. They said, well, you know,

878
00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 2: it's not as boundaries like we don't care.

879
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:38,320
Speaker 1: You have a life like you know.

880
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:41,839
Speaker 2: And then he says, she's saying, how would you feel

881
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 2: as a guy if I was to say, you know,

882
00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 2: I live with my brother, I'd be like, that's so normal. Yeah,

883
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 2: I'd be like, what that's so normal to live with?

884
00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 2: It wouldn't matter who you lived with.

885
00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 1: It's funny the mental back and forth you play, though.

886
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, look I can see the men like I would

887
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 2: probably also have those questions. I think I would ask

888
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:10,560
Speaker 2: myself the same thing, But it depends as well, like

889
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 2: how often are you bringing new men home? Because I

890
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 2: think if I was to own a house and my

891
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 2: sister was living there and she was single, I wouldn't

892
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 2: care if every now and then she brought someone back.

893
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 2: But if she was bringing like a bunch, that's when

894
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:30,840
Speaker 2: I would most likely set a boundary and be like,

895
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 2: can we limit.

896
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 1: It a bit?

897
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 2: Actually, don't know how I would feel with you. I

898
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:35,760
Speaker 2: think that's how I would.

899
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:39,759
Speaker 1: Feel, And it sounds like she is very responsible and

900
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: respective of the dude, She's not gonna be bringing back

901
00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: one a new guy every single week. No, I want

902
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:48,040
Speaker 1: to make you feel great about your situation too. The alternative,

903
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: like me back in the day, I'm living with my parents,

904
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 1: I'm a loser, Like come back to my parents' house.

905
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 1: Whereas like a brother's cool. Yeah, it's like you help

906
00:43:58,239 --> 00:43:59,000
Speaker 1: them with his mortgage.

907
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:03,399
Speaker 2: Probably it's like that one I would say when if

908
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 2: you said to someone you're living with your parents, that

909
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 2: a lot of people understand it because of the cost

910
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:10,520
Speaker 2: of living crisis. So they'd say, oh, I understand that,

911
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:12,320
Speaker 2: but they would think little, we'd go back to a

912
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 2: parent's house like they would think that maybe, But as

913
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:20,120
Speaker 2: soon as it's anyone but your parents, people just think,

914
00:44:20,239 --> 00:44:21,560
Speaker 2: like she just lives out at home.

915
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 1: I also think you don't have to justify it or

916
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:27,600
Speaker 1: explain your situation. And if it comes up like he's

917
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 1: the guy you bring over, sees your brother, he's like,

918
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 1: oh that's my brother.

919
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 2: Legit you bring him back?

920
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 1: Yeah?

921
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 2: Maybe as soon as you walking me like, oh, by

922
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:35,879
Speaker 2: the way, I rent my room off my brother. Yeah,

923
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 2: like or like my brother owns his house and I

924
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 2: just pay to live here. Yeah, like you pay to

925
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 2: live there, it's also yours. Yeah, exactly. You have to

926
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 2: think about it like that. It's like a lease, you know,

927
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:45,959
Speaker 2: it's it's also your house.

928
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 1: What if she's bringing home heaps or does just for fun,

929
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,759
Speaker 1: but I still think she's in her right.

930
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:55,360
Speaker 2: Here's what I would say. I would say, as the brother,

931
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 2: this is just me personally. I don't know how he

932
00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 2: feels about it. But if she, I would say, look,

933
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:02,879
Speaker 2: if you want to do that, maybe could you fifty

934
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 2: to fifty? Like you go to their place sometimes they

935
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 2: come here sometimes the car. I would be, yeah, like

936
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 2: you the car, Maybe try and make it so they

937
00:45:12,360 --> 00:45:17,360
Speaker 2: come in late and you're quiet and just there's actually

938
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 2: also I think you need to talk to your brother.

939
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 2: And like you said, as long as there's no boundaries crossed,

940
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 2: but what needs to happen is the boundaries need to

941
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 2: be very clear true. So it's like you can't just

942
00:45:29,520 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 2: assume the boundaries. The boundaries need to be fucking stated.

943
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:36,800
Speaker 1: I guess too. It's always going to be that slight

944
00:45:36,920 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 1: awkwardness between sister she brought home. Wonder when you were

945
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: living together, were you there? Yeah, Yeah, it's this awkward

946
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: that like sisters having sex. I didn't, I didn't hear anything.

947
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:52,799
Speaker 2: I would have left if I heard.

948
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's also the dynamic that's weird.

949
00:45:57,360 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 2: It is a weird dynamic. But at the same time,

950
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:02,279
Speaker 2: it's just like I understand that this is what that's

951
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:06,400
Speaker 2: gonna happen, you know, Yeah, but it hurts you, it doesn't.

952
00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:10,759
Speaker 2: It's just like a weird thing for both parties. Like

953
00:46:11,600 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 2: when I started bringing Beth over because like I was

954
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 2: single for a while while living with Joanna and my

955
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 2: older sister, and then when I started bringing Beth over,

956
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 2: same thing. But then once it's kind of obviously declared

957
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:25,960
Speaker 2: that it's like, no, Beth and I are we're boyfriend

958
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:29,160
Speaker 2: and girlfriend. It becomes a much more normal thing.

959
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 1: Very true.

960
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, so let me try and think Joanna started bringing

961
00:46:34,239 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 2: new men because where we lived it would be very

962
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:43,719
Speaker 2: difficult to hide it as well. She started bringing new men. Nah,

963
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 2: but I wouldn't give a fuck. We won't know why,

964
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:49,800
Speaker 2: because I would just like it would be the funniest

965
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 2: thing to me to bump into them, And it would

966
00:46:51,640 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 2: genuinely be the funniest thing to bump into them. I

967
00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 2: think it would be.

968
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:57,480
Speaker 5: And we sort of knew this dude too, sort of, Yeah,

969
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 5: he was suspect in the end, he was to suspect

970
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 5: that guy, And so it was like so funny to

971
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 5: hear all the stories and then like hear about you bumping.

972
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 1: Into him at the gym or something, and then be

973
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:10,480
Speaker 1: being able to.

974
00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 2: Tell you what he does, like how he treats women,

975
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:16,400
Speaker 2: and you're like, oh, what the fuck?

976
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:21,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so I think you're completely fine and also

977
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: sure twenty five year old doctor, must be must be broken,

978
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 1: must be easy to put you're a doctor twenty five

979
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 1: on the scale of careers at twenty five, Like, when

980
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:34,560
Speaker 1: I think of doctors. I think of fifty year olds.

981
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:36,239
Speaker 1: We're twenty five.

982
00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 2: We're nothing. Yeah, Jesus, very cool, all right, my diama.

983
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:45,800
Speaker 2: My ex and I broke up two years ago. I

984
00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 2: was very unhappy at the end of the relationship. We

985
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:50,520
Speaker 2: weren't communicating well anymore and kept a lot of things

986
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:53,040
Speaker 2: in which most of the time ended up in a

987
00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 2: big argument because one of us was fed up because

988
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:58,319
Speaker 2: of this, I was honestly relieved when we broke up,

989
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:00,359
Speaker 2: even though I was sad, I knew it was better

990
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,359
Speaker 2: that way for both of us. We haven't seen each

991
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:04,960
Speaker 2: other since we broke up. We went to the same college,

992
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 2: but my ex hasn't showed up to the classes we shared,

993
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:11,360
Speaker 2: not even to our graduation. We have been texting on

994
00:48:11,480 --> 00:48:13,360
Speaker 2: and off and live very close to each other, so

995
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:16,719
Speaker 2: I see him out sometimes. I've been doing very well

996
00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 2: these past two years until I recently saw an Instagram

997
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:22,239
Speaker 2: post of him and a girl who I assume is

998
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:24,280
Speaker 2: his new girlfriend or a girl.

999
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:24,760
Speaker 1: He is dating.

1000
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 2: It felt like we were breaking up all over again,

1001
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:29,920
Speaker 2: and the feeling hasn't changed. I don't really know what

1002
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:31,920
Speaker 2: to do about this. I assume that he has a

1003
00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:32,799
Speaker 2: new girlfriend, but.

1004
00:48:32,840 --> 00:48:33,479
Speaker 1: I'm not sure.

1005
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 2: I don't want to text him because I don't want

1006
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:37,600
Speaker 2: to disturb his peace, but I really do miss him.

1007
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:40,120
Speaker 2: He was my first relationship and we were together for

1008
00:48:40,200 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 2: a long time. Is it normal to feel this way?

1009
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 2: And should I do something about it or should I

1010
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:48,680
Speaker 2: just leave it be? Oh, two years ago you broke up.

1011
00:48:49,160 --> 00:48:51,160
Speaker 2: Oh okay, and seeing him in front of him with

1012
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:53,480
Speaker 2: a new girl has brought it back to Just like

1013
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:54,600
Speaker 2: square one.

1014
00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 1: First love is always hard to get over, no matter what, Yeah,

1015
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: I feel like, even if it's not the best relationship,

1016
00:49:02,640 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 1: it always just holds the weirdest little piece of your heart,

1017
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:07,439
Speaker 1: no matter what it's like the first time you've experienced love.

1018
00:49:07,680 --> 00:49:08,439
Speaker 2: Fuck yeah, dude.

1019
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 1: And just because he's got a new girl, it kind

1020
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:13,759
Speaker 1: of resurface those emotions. And because you haven't got a

1021
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:16,080
Speaker 1: new boyfriend, it's kind of like, I don't know how

1022
00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 1: to feel. I think you obviously know the answer is

1023
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: don't reach out, Like what do you want out of that?

1024
00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:20,759
Speaker 2: Be?

1025
00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:21,920
Speaker 1: Like, hey, is this your girlfriend?

1026
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:26,520
Speaker 2: Like, in my opinion, you've had two years. The only

1027
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:28,440
Speaker 2: reason you're now thinking of real like you've spent two

1028
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 2: years doing what quote you said? Very well? Right, I

1029
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:35,439
Speaker 2: dare say you've maybe thought of reaching out a couple times,

1030
00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:37,080
Speaker 2: but then you've thought, no, it's better that I don't.

1031
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 2: But now you know that he has someone else. That's

1032
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:45,480
Speaker 2: when you're actually considering it. So, in my opinion, all

1033
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 2: things considered, you should not message you.

1034
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:51,759
Speaker 1: I think so too. It's a responsible thing to do.

1035
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:53,040
Speaker 1: And I don't know.

1036
00:49:53,080 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 2: I always like to think a.

1037
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 1: Few steps ahead, like what do you want out of

1038
00:49:56,280 --> 00:49:56,839
Speaker 1: messaging him?

1039
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:57,000
Speaker 2: Him?

1040
00:49:57,800 --> 00:49:58,919
Speaker 1: You're not gonna get anything out.

1041
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:00,200
Speaker 2: Of it, And he asked yourself what you want?

1042
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 1: Yea, what do you actually want? And you'd be like,

1043
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1044
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:04,719
Speaker 2: If he drops everything and says it's get back together,

1045
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 2: is that what you want? Probably not? Probably not, probably

1046
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 2: not at all.

1047
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:10,239
Speaker 1: And I think you know that. I guess the best

1048
00:50:10,280 --> 00:50:12,240
Speaker 1: thing to do is go back a couple of steps

1049
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:14,520
Speaker 1: in your healing journey and be like, what did I

1050
00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:18,120
Speaker 1: do last time to help with this? Yeah? And it's

1051
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:20,360
Speaker 1: just accepting that maybe you're not fully healed, which is

1052
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 1: hard to accept because it's been three years, but also

1053
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:24,720
Speaker 1: well human, we will go through healing at different stages

1054
00:50:25,600 --> 00:50:27,719
Speaker 1: and it's like anything, like you could have been healed

1055
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 1: for a year, but this has resurfaced. The emotions, so

1056
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 1: you need another month to get over it valid as

1057
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:32,640
Speaker 1: simple as that.

1058
00:50:32,960 --> 00:50:33,439
Speaker 2: That's valid.

1059
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 1: It's like fucking when people like relapse or anything like that,

1060
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:38,880
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean all the two years prior was fucking pointless.

1061
00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:40,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you have just gone back a few steps.

1062
00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and now we've got to back get back to

1063
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,399
Speaker 1: the word prior to him getting a new girl.

1064
00:50:44,520 --> 00:50:47,320
Speaker 2: Think of this like a relapse, but don't judge yourself

1065
00:50:47,719 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 2: very hard on it, like, because obviously you aren't relapsing

1066
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 2: on that drugs, your arch or anything like that. But

1067
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:54,440
Speaker 2: I think if you can kind of think of it

1068
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:56,480
Speaker 2: in that way and then yeah, you go through the

1069
00:50:56,560 --> 00:50:57,479
Speaker 2: healing process again.

1070
00:50:57,920 --> 00:50:59,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you got this too. And it's just

1071
00:50:59,880 --> 00:51:02,360
Speaker 1: like it's just a little bit of a stab in

1072
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 1: that special place in your heart because there's always going

1073
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 1: to be there.

1074
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, because for two years you've both been moving on slowly,

1075
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 2: but then the thought of actually moving on, Like maybe

1076
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,400
Speaker 2: the thing that hurts is the fact that he is ready,

1077
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 2: Like there's a good chance you actually don't want to

1078
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:22,239
Speaker 2: be with him, right, you do miss him, obviously, but

1079
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 2: there's a good chance you don't want to be with him.

1080
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 2: And what hurts is the fact that he is ready

1081
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 2: before you're ready, Like, maybe you're not ready yet even

1082
00:51:28,280 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 2: though it's been two years. So like what he said,

1083
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 2: just ask yourself what you want out of messaging him.

1084
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. I also think it's kind of like an instinctual

1085
00:51:36,120 --> 00:51:38,359
Speaker 1: thing that everyone feels in a sense of the first

1086
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:40,239
Speaker 1: person you have sex with, the first person you love,

1087
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:45,440
Speaker 1: Like everything you go through together is so special in

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00:51:45,520 --> 00:51:48,280
Speaker 1: a sense, and like I don't think it means anything,

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00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 1: but it's always going to be there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's kind of instinctual. So he can't help it. Yeah,

1091
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:54,439
Speaker 2: so you're only human, But start healing again.

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00:51:54,480 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: You got it all right?

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00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:04,600
Speaker 2: Badies. So if you're new here, this is the part

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00:52:04,640 --> 00:52:07,279
Speaker 2: of the episode where we read comments from the last

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00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 2: episode or did I read a comment each or two each?

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00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:12,640
Speaker 2: But I have an update. I have a text message

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00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,120
Speaker 2: from Peter who has not given me back by two

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00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:19,759
Speaker 2: hundred dollars yet. He said he texted me, So I

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00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,000
Speaker 2: texted him on Tuesday last week. That was the last

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Speaker 2: time I messaged Jim. Hi, Peter, I hope you're will.

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00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 2: Just wanted to check on my on the status of

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00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:28,839
Speaker 2: my deposit refund. Here are my details again, cheers Jake,

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00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:31,879
Speaker 2: And then there's from then to now, I call him

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00:52:31,920 --> 00:52:34,320
Speaker 2: leave that message that were left? He just he just

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00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 2: texted me.

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00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 1: Oh shit.

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00:52:36,080 --> 00:52:39,919
Speaker 2: He actually initially unsent a message, sleigh mate. I sent

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00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 2: to Phil and sent it to again. Just now.

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Speaker 1: He is just old, mate, I am on it.

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Speaker 2: Oh so like he's acting annoyed.

1111
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: Their finance person is old.

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00:52:49,880 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, why is he texted me like he's annoyed? It's

1113
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:53,239
Speaker 2: two hundred bucks?

1114
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 1: What's it called? Oh, ask a pay or whatever it is? Fuck,

1115
00:52:57,080 --> 00:52:58,359
Speaker 1: it goes through immediately these days.

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00:52:58,360 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 2: What's he working with? Like?

1117
00:52:59,320 --> 00:52:59,640
Speaker 1: Fucking?

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00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:02,799
Speaker 2: I just don't understand why he's acting annoyed. Why isn't

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00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:06,680
Speaker 2: he saying, oh shit, so sorry, mate, Senator, Like he's

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Speaker 2: saying to me the way he said that, the way

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00:53:08,320 --> 00:53:10,239
Speaker 2: I'm reading that, the way he texted it is like,

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00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:12,759
Speaker 2: so let's say asking you guys. Mate. He's saying it

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00:53:12,840 --> 00:53:15,880
Speaker 2: like he's told me three times. Mate, I sent it

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00:53:15,920 --> 00:53:18,840
Speaker 2: to Phil. I just sent it again. He's old. Just

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00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:20,800
Speaker 2: he's old, mate, that's how he's saying it.

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00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 1: You should say, you should be like, he's got twenty

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00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 1: four hours.

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00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 2: I know to kill him in kindness, so appreciate it.

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00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 2: Thank you, fucking It's like you know who Phil is? Yeah?

1130
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:35,279
Speaker 2: What the fuck?

1131
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:41,280
Speaker 1: Alrighty, So I have Spotify comments of last week's episode.

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00:53:42,120 --> 00:53:44,600
Speaker 1: First comment is I remember this name is rad He

1133
00:53:44,920 --> 00:53:48,120
Speaker 1: She's commented before perfect timing. My flight is delayed stuck

1134
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:52,640
Speaker 1: in Switzerland. But at least I have this OO wasn't

1135
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 1: delayed too long?

1136
00:53:54,120 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 4: All right.

1137
00:53:55,320 --> 00:53:59,840
Speaker 2: I have a comment from two weeks ago on YouTube

1138
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:06,439
Speaker 2: from Factual lens. Wrap the car, Wrap the car. They're saying,

1139
00:54:06,600 --> 00:54:08,200
Speaker 2: keep the gets and wrap it.

1140
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 1: We've always wanted to do it. We could keep it.

1141
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:13,120
Speaker 1: We could keep it and then like, but then you're

1142
00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 1: gonna like not get two K back.

1143
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:18,280
Speaker 2: I suppose I could true, or we could.

1144
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: Wrap it and then sell it like a year later,

1145
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:23,719
Speaker 1: six months later when we move comment wrap the car

1146
00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:27,000
Speaker 1: and if we get enough with yes, because they will

1147
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:29,520
Speaker 1: sales say that I've wanted to wrap it before. I

1148
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:32,160
Speaker 1: know so far to be fair, so I, yeah, it's

1149
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:33,680
Speaker 1: only a small car. Won't cost that much. It cost

1150
00:54:33,719 --> 00:54:34,120
Speaker 1: like seven.

1151
00:54:34,280 --> 00:54:36,279
Speaker 2: Sevenndred I don't even know if to cost that much. Yeah,

1152
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:38,400
Speaker 2: it won't be much. No brain made text.

1153
00:54:38,239 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 1: Right off, and I've got one more, Diana said every

1154
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:45,160
Speaker 1: time a new episode is out, automatically makes my day.

1155
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:47,759
Speaker 2: How good?

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00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 1: Thank you, Diana.

1157
00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:50,800
Speaker 2: All Right, last one. This is from a Dilemma's episode.

1158
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 2: We did the first one last week. Now, I would

1159
00:54:53,239 --> 00:54:55,440
Speaker 2: like to preface on the intro of that Dilemmas episode.

1160
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:58,320
Speaker 2: I messed up. Instead of calling you guys the baddies,

1161
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 2: I accidentally called you the babies. Oh yea, right now,

1162
00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:03,160
Speaker 2: Odie gave me ship. The reason they called everyone the

1163
00:55:03,200 --> 00:55:04,799
Speaker 2: babies is because I had just listened to Shits and Gigs,

1164
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:07,480
Speaker 2: and they call their listeners to babies. Someone comments, just

1165
00:55:07,520 --> 00:55:09,840
Speaker 2: subscribe because you listen to SNG, hashtag s and g

1166
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:12,960
Speaker 2: cult baby fuck you. You're welcome to subscriber. I got

1167
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:14,440
Speaker 2: a subscriber. I accidentally messing up.

1168
00:55:14,680 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 1: You mentioned Shits and Gigs all the time we had

1169
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:18,680
Speaker 1: them on our podcast, and we fell in love. We

1170
00:55:18,960 --> 00:55:21,360
Speaker 1: were already in love with them. Yeah, we avid lovers

1171
00:55:21,400 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 1: of them.

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00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:24,759
Speaker 4: Haven't mentioned for a while, apparently because we just got

1173
00:55:24,840 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 4: a new subscriber the we love who hadn't James.

1174
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:30,160
Speaker 1: Alrighty, it is now time for the baddie sign off.

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00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 1: If you want to get called by us, the link

1176
00:55:33,000 --> 00:55:40,400
Speaker 1: will beat in the description. Today we are calling Rosie. Hello, Rosie,

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00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 1: it's jaking out from the Rolatas podcasts.

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00:55:42,160 --> 00:55:44,880
Speaker 2: How's it going good? Thanks? How are you?

1179
00:55:45,239 --> 00:55:47,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're really good. Thank you for picking up. Do

1180
00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:48,760
Speaker 1: you know why we're calling?

1181
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:52,440
Speaker 6: Yes, oh my god, I can't believe.

1182
00:55:53,520 --> 00:55:55,759
Speaker 1: We would like to ask if you could sign off

1183
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 1: the episode please. You can do whatever you like.

1184
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:00,319
Speaker 2: Yes, of course.

1185
00:56:02,280 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 6: I actually wrote something in my notes if you're gonna

1186
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:07,399
Speaker 6: call me, but I probably did.

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00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:10,360
Speaker 2: Yeah. We love and prepared Baddy, we do.

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00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:12,439
Speaker 6: Oh my god.

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00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:12,799
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I just have.

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00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:22,080
Speaker 7: A quote that i've good bye, and it's be grateful,

1192
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 7: be grateful for all of the closed doors details and

1193
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 7: roadblocks that prevent you from the past and places not

1194
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 7: meant to you and lead you to something better.

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00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:34,160
Speaker 1: That's insightful too.

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00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 5: I think.

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00:56:36,719 --> 00:56:40,920
Speaker 6: From my personal experiences and I think that it is

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00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:45,399
Speaker 6: meant to you, will not pass you by, and like, yeah,

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00:56:45,440 --> 00:56:48,399
Speaker 6: it's not meant to you, it will take you somewhere better.

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00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:51,600
Speaker 1: So it's like everything happens for a reason kind of Yeah.

1202
00:56:52,160 --> 00:56:53,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that way of saying it.

1203
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:56,799
Speaker 1: Wells, Yeah you did very well. Thank you very much.

1204
00:56:56,920 --> 00:56:59,200
Speaker 2: Yes, everyone be like Rosie, be a prepared baddie.

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00:56:59,280 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I enjoy the rest of your days.

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00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:04,399
Speaker 7: An amazing day.

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Speaker 1: Bye, what about let go? Thank you for listening. Stay bad,