Speaker 1: Apote production.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Am I a Bad
Speaker 2: Mum Podcast? Where we are on the downhead. I was
Speaker 2: going to say slide, I was going to say sledge.
Speaker 2: I was like, lay off, we go.
Speaker 3: You're trying to like bring it into Christmas, so we
Speaker 3: use the sleigh. Speaking of Christmas, Christmas tree ran up
Speaker 3: over the weekend.
Speaker 1: Yours is gone early. Yeah, what's wrong with me? I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 2: I've got it in my mind that it has to
Speaker 2: be first of December.
Speaker 3: I know, But then I have thought about it and
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm going to put it up. When
Speaker 3: you start to stack your weekends up prior to Christmas,
Speaker 3: which is what I was doing, I was sort of
Speaker 3: having a moment of going, oh my gosh, we've got
Speaker 3: lots on coming up, and it seems to be something
Speaker 3: on every day of the weekend.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Might not be the
Speaker 1: whole day.
Speaker 3: I'm sure there'll be hours where we're at home, but
Speaker 3: there was just big things coming up, and I was like, ah,
Speaker 3: just put it up.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: See, I do like putting up the Christmas tree, and
Speaker 2: I like it being like maybe a Sunday afternoon when
Speaker 2: you can have a little drink on the go, put
Speaker 2: some Christmas music on. I also there's a weird OCD
Speaker 2: part of me that gets a bit upset about putting
Speaker 2: up the Christmas decorations because I get a little bit
Speaker 2: frustrated that I have to move some of my other
Speaker 2: stuff that's there on a daily basis and put that
Speaker 2: stuff away because I'm like, well, I like that stuff
Speaker 2: because that's what I've chose to be in my house
Speaker 2: every single day, and then I'm having to replace it
Speaker 2: with the Christmas stuff.
Speaker 3: I actually enjoyed the process this year. Remember back in
Speaker 3: the days where you literally feel like you put the
Speaker 3: tree up and then a bomb here.
Speaker 1: It's because it just goes. It's got shit everywhere.
Speaker 3: There's no organization, there's no color scheme. It's just a
Speaker 3: free for all, and then everyone fights.
Speaker 1: You get to put the star on, we're not there anymore.
Speaker 2: And then they go to bed and you read the CHRISTI.
Speaker 1: I never readid it.
Speaker 3: I'd look at it and go what an I saw
Speaker 3: for like four weeks and then literally Boxing day would
Speaker 3: come and I'd be like.
Speaker 1: Trees coming down. But some day, yeah, I'm a quicker.
Speaker 2: You have to wait too.
Speaker 1: After New Year's I just can't. I can't look at
Speaker 1: it anymore after the presents are gone.
Speaker 2: My memory as a kid was always New Year's Eve
Speaker 2: and you'd do the old lang sine.
Speaker 1: Does anyone still do that? You know that song? No,
Speaker 1: you don't know about the No, never heard it. Oh,
Speaker 1: go and sing it.
Speaker 2: For the sake of old lang signe for I don't
Speaker 2: know the words. It's twelve o'clock, Happy New Year. Everyone
Speaker 2: kisses each other and then you do the old langne.
Speaker 2: I think from memory you link alms. Yeah, you're in
Speaker 2: a circle. This is obviously an English English thing, and
Speaker 2: you sing the old link sign. And so my memory
Speaker 2: as a kid was that song. But the Christmas tree
Speaker 2: was always up.
Speaker 3: Yeah right, my kids don't have that memory because I
Speaker 3: haven't allowed that because boxing dog, I can't.
Speaker 1: Wait to get it down this year. It's so much neater.
Speaker 3: Yeah. And the girls helped me put it up, and
Speaker 3: it was still organized chaos with kids, but at the
Speaker 3: same time just had a little bit more structure to it.
Speaker 2: We put our Christmas tree down on the first of January,
Speaker 2: so first day of the New year, and it's almost
Speaker 2: a bit of a sad day because you know, when
Speaker 2: you hear people and they're like, I got up on
Speaker 2: Newuesday and I went for a run and I started
Speaker 2: the year. How I want the Yeah fresh? And how
Speaker 2: I want the Mine's like a hungover, tired mess, sad,
Speaker 2: feeling unwell taking down Christmas.
Speaker 1: Mine usually starts on the second.
Speaker 3: I don't need the first to be my day that
Speaker 3: I'm going to be fresh, because I usually know that
Speaker 3: by the end of the night, you've had a late night,
Speaker 3: there's been a few shandies shared, and we'll start.
Speaker 1: On the second.
Speaker 2: Yeah, start on the second, and it's my beth down
Speaker 2: and the third, so.
Speaker 1: We start again.
Speaker 3: Am I a bad mum for not knowing how to
Speaker 3: fire them up?
Speaker 1: It's that time of year where we've got a lot
Speaker 1: of competitions for Elsie coming up.
Speaker 3: You know you enjoy this because you know how like
Speaker 3: non competitive I am as a parent. But yeah, that's
Speaker 3: a lie, a blatant lie.
Speaker 1: But no, so el just go.
Speaker 3: Heaps of athletics going on at the moment, and a
Speaker 3: few weekends ago I had to share the load and
Speaker 3: actually ask Sam to parent as well and take her
Speaker 3: to It was like a full state relay athletic state.
Speaker 1: Like it was a big day and she was competing.
Speaker 3: Now, Elsie's very strong, she's very competitive, you know, she
Speaker 3: likes to win.
Speaker 1: But it's weird. Yeah, so weird.
Speaker 2: I wonder who she gets that from.
Speaker 3: It's weird because when she goes into competition mode, it's
Speaker 3: almost like she shies away, all backs off from wanting
Speaker 3: to be better than others.
Speaker 1: It's just a new thing.
Speaker 2: She was always the kid that was like, I'm going
Speaker 2: to win. I'm going to get first in cross country.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And did I now have this thing where I've got
Speaker 3: Sam on the phone getting angry at me for not
Speaker 3: knowing how he can fire up Elsie because he had
Speaker 3: to do athletics because I was at dance rehearsal for
Speaker 3: the concert, which is like eight till five, And I
Speaker 3: assume that he didn't want to do that part of
Speaker 3: the day because he's not hair and makeup qualified.
Speaker 2: To remember, Jay, my husband had to get the girls
Speaker 2: ready for the dance concept once and he googled how
Speaker 2: to do their hair and ended up finding something on
Speaker 2: Google that said use the vacuum cleaner, you know, the
Speaker 2: like vacuum cleaner when you've got the small.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got the real thin attachment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the thin one, so suck up the hair with
Speaker 2: the vacuum cleaner and have the hairband on the end
Speaker 2: and then just push it.
Speaker 1: He did that, He didn't do that? Yeah? Did it work? Yes?
Speaker 3: No, I would never let someone go to my hair
Speaker 3: with a vacuum cleaner.
Speaker 2: I mean, how hard is it to a ponytail? Anyway,
Speaker 2: It's like he had to do like a French.
Speaker 1: Bloody no disrespect. But he is a dad brain, That's
Speaker 1: all I'm saying.
Speaker 3: So, yeah, I've got Sam on the phone who's messaging me,
Speaker 3: getting angry at me because Elsie's not winning like she
Speaker 3: should be and.
Speaker 1: He doesn't know how to fire her up.
Speaker 3: Do you think that that is like a fair call
Speaker 3: for one parent to message the other and go, I
Speaker 3: don't know how to fire this kid up?
Speaker 1: Why are you looking at me?
Speaker 2: Sometimes I feel like it's okay to not reply because
Speaker 2: I sometimes I got a Texas morning saying Amelia is
Speaker 2: driving me crazy, and I was at the gym and
Speaker 2: I was like, what do you want me to reply
Speaker 2: in that?
Speaker 1: Work it out?
Speaker 2: Work it out, like I know, we need to have
Speaker 2: each other's back.
Speaker 1: And we do. We do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know what you want me to say,
Speaker 2: and I thought to myself, I can either stress myself
Speaker 2: out here and start replying, or I could enjoy what
Speaker 2: I was doing at the gym.
Speaker 3: Yep, So I tried that oestion too and continued enjoying
Speaker 3: myself at the gym. You know what I did, which
Speaker 3: you've just highlighted, is I went into the dive and
Speaker 3: I was stressed because I was at dance rehearsals and.
Speaker 1: We're in quick change, so lots is going on.
Speaker 3: And Grace's always high of emotions if it's anything to
Speaker 3: do with dance in general, so usually her and I
Speaker 3: are trying to kill each other. But I went for
Speaker 3: the dive and I was like, what do you want
Speaker 3: from me right now? How do you suggest I help
Speaker 3: you right now? When you're at athletics. I was like, also, sorry,
Speaker 3: did you not have sixteen years of elite football, all
Speaker 3: skills that.
Speaker 1: You could somehow use to fire your child?
Speaker 2: What did your coach say to you?
Speaker 3: So did you play for the Brisbane Broncos or Australia?
Speaker 3: How did you fire yourself up? Like? Try and use
Speaker 3: that well, make it more child friendly and use that
Speaker 3: to help her teach her show us some skills like,
Speaker 3: that's what she wants to do.
Speaker 1: She wants to learn from you. No text mom. I'll
Speaker 1: text mom and tell her you're not what do you
Speaker 1: want from me?
Speaker 2: I think it's also okay to do. And I actually
Speaker 2: think this is a really good line and this works
Speaker 2: with kids husbands. It might be to go, how can
Speaker 2: I help you in this situation? Yea, what do you
Speaker 2: want me to do? What do you want from me?
Speaker 2: My kids will say, you know, this has happened, or
Speaker 2: my finger is hurting or whatever it might be, and
Speaker 2: I go, Okay, what would you like me to do
Speaker 2: about it? And often they'll go nothing, I just.
Speaker 1: Needed to tell you. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 3: I've actually just of recent started that with the girls
Speaker 3: because I get these big stories and they're like they're long,
Speaker 3: and we know, as mums you got lots to do,
Speaker 3: so you're trying to stay engaged and you're trying to
Speaker 3: stay there with them, and then we get right to
Speaker 3: the end, and then I've missed the point of the
Speaker 3: whole story. So then I get to the end and go, okay,
Speaker 3: so how do you feel about that? And then they
Speaker 3: give me a little bit more of a spell, and
Speaker 3: then I'm like, so, how can I help you, you know,
Speaker 3: push through this or you know, how do I help
Speaker 3: you sort this out? Or like whatever, and they go,
Speaker 3: I don't, I just we know you just listened. Okay, great,
Speaker 3: all right, because.
Speaker 2: Otherwise you get frustrated. We can get frustrated so often
Speaker 2: with like if someone's you know, let's use to hurt
Speaker 2: my finger thing, it's like like, come on, like really
Speaker 2: that's a problem fing a big deal, like you know,
Speaker 2: you know, And that's that's why I end up saying,
Speaker 2: like there's this big drama about what would you like
Speaker 2: me to do in that in this situation, because the
Speaker 2: alternative and what I've done in the past is gone.
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll do this and try this and yeah, this will.
Speaker 2: Happen, and then you get all worked up in stress,
Speaker 2: and what you really want to say is it's fucking
Speaker 2: her finger.
Speaker 1: Come on, suck it up.
Speaker 3: You know. One thing just to wrat this up is
Speaker 3: my nephew is three or three and a half nearly, you.
Speaker 1: Know, like it's three and a half.
Speaker 3: He's just hit that horrible, horrible three and a half
Speaker 3: age which we've all been through or are going through,
Speaker 3: and just on that, like, how can I help you?
Speaker 1: I was a little bit hungover on the weekend, just.
Speaker 3: To tad, and my brother came over with my nephew
Speaker 3: and he had shit his pants and he decided to
Speaker 3: then continue to try and jump all over me.
Speaker 1: And I turned to my brother and was like.
Speaker 3: There's no way that I can help you with this,
Speaker 3: and just handed his son back and was like, this
Speaker 3: is your responsibility.
Speaker 1: Here you go. And he's like, what do you want
Speaker 1: me to do about it? I said, Ah, that is
Speaker 1: not mine. I'm not even going to offer to help.
Speaker 1: That's not mine. I've been there, I've done that. Oh,
Speaker 1: it's your nephew too, take it away.