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Speaker 1: Hi, guys, welcome back to Just for Girls. It's been

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Speaker 1: a while, but I'm so excited to be back. So

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Speaker 1: you can just hear a little bit more from me.

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Speaker 1: Your dilemmas have been banking up, and I thought, I

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Speaker 1: just have to come on and give you guys my

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Speaker 1: real solid advice and get you guys in some better

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Speaker 1: positions moving forward into twenty twenty six.

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Speaker 2: Because new Year knew me. Guys, come on, this is it.

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Speaker 2: We can do it all.

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Speaker 1: Apparently, twenty twenty six is the Year of the Snake,

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Speaker 1: and the Year of the Snake is all about shedding

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Speaker 1: and starting fresh and new and being.

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Speaker 2: The best version of yourself. So let's fucking go.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna get into some dilemmas and I will give

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Speaker 1: you my best possible advice. I can, Okay, I need

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Speaker 1: some advice. I'm twenty two. Just move to the Gold

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Speaker 1: Coast from Melbourne.

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Speaker 2: Oh fun.

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Speaker 1: Left because I was in a toxic relationship not fun,

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Speaker 1: and thought fuck this and decided to leave.

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Speaker 2: As much as I love my family.

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Speaker 1: I needed to leave because I was sick of being

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Speaker 1: starf trying to avoid all the eggshells on the floor

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Speaker 1: around me down there. So fair However, my dilemma is

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Speaker 1: when it comes to dating. I love older guys same sis,

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Speaker 1: three to four years older than me, as you would

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Speaker 1: think they're more mature, got this shit together and know

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Speaker 1: what they want. I have been up here for nine

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Speaker 1: months and I've seen three guys, all older, but all

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Speaker 1: ending it quick, girl, fucking go you can I just

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Speaker 1: say three guys seeing three guys. I can't even find

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Speaker 1: three guys in ten years that I even think are attractive.

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Speaker 1: So I'm very fucking proud of you. Recently, I met

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Speaker 1: a younger guy, two years younger. We have a lot

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Speaker 1: of things in common, and to be honest, I'm not

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Speaker 1: the most attractive girl, girl, I doubt it. I'm sure

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Speaker 1: you're beautiful, but somehow he liked me. Don't think that way.

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Speaker 1: You're a catch and now he's wanting to see me

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Speaker 1: and everything. But my dilemma is should I give him

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Speaker 1: probably only wants one thing for me, and for me,

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Speaker 1: I really want to find someone for a long time,

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Speaker 1: and not just for a one night thing. What would

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Speaker 1: you do give a younger tall guy I love? Yeah

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Speaker 1: to say, tall tall guy a chance? Or try and

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Speaker 1: find an older guy. If you're interested in this guy

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Speaker 1: and he's like got something about him and you want

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Speaker 1: to see him, fucking see him. Like, just because he

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Speaker 1: may want one thing, that doesn't mean you have to

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Speaker 1: give him that one thing if you don't want to.

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Speaker 1: In saying that, if you meet him, go on a

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Speaker 1: date and want to sleep with him that first night,

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Speaker 1: fucking do it. Who cares? You know, I would just

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Speaker 1: follow with how you feel. If you're interested in this

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Speaker 1: younger guy, absolutely give it a go. There are a

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Speaker 1: lot of guys I know younger than me that are

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Speaker 1: fucking incredible, Like my sister's ex boyfriend.

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Speaker 2: I fucking loved him.

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Speaker 1: Like, I don't think the age should be a thing

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Speaker 1: if you're interested. I mean I tend to only go

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Speaker 1: for older guys or only be interested in guys my

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Speaker 1: that waltzed into my life that I was like, Wow,

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Speaker 1: I really like you, I wouldn't let him being younger

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Speaker 1: prevent me from seeing him. You know, you never really know.

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Speaker 1: And sometimes they're younger and they like kind of worship

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Speaker 1: you because like you're older and like cooler than they are,

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Speaker 1: you know, but I think just give it a go.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure you've been through a lot worse with this

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Speaker 1: toxic relationship. Dustyr knees off. Move on on to the

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Speaker 1: next find a more suitable guy.

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Speaker 2: Next time. You'll figure it out. Girl.

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Speaker 1: Okay number two? Oh my god, I just want to

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Speaker 1: say I read the start of this and I like

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Speaker 1: took it really wrong. The start says, how do I

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Speaker 1: talk to my cousin? And I was thinking, you want

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Speaker 1: to like start like talking to your cousin, like you know,

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Speaker 1: when you'll be like, oh, I'm talking to this guy,

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Speaker 1: and it's like talking to kind of means like anyway,

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Speaker 1: That's not what she meant. Thank fuck. Can I just say,

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Speaker 1: how do I talk to my cousin about this guy?

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Speaker 2: She likes?

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Speaker 1: His friend that I'm seeing has said to me that

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Speaker 1: he was talking badly about her, saying she's a catfish.

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Speaker 1: She's a lot more full on than I thought. That's

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Speaker 1: fucking rude personally by him. She's genuinely head over heels

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Speaker 1: for his birthday. Obviously I had to go and wing woman.

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Speaker 1: But the whole night she was low key just looking

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Speaker 1: by her with his head held so high like he

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Speaker 1: genuinely made me ill.

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Speaker 2: Fuck, you need to tell her, dude.

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Speaker 1: I just want to help with how to tell her

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Speaker 1: he's talking shit but then acting normal to her and

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Speaker 1: making her feel like he's into her.

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Speaker 2: I hope this makes sense. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: You literally, sadly just have to sit down and tell

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Speaker 1: her because this comes to a point where boys like

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Speaker 1: this cause like harm do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: And will be one of those fucking cycle situations.

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Speaker 1: It's always the fucking toxic, shitty boys that give you

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Speaker 1: donuts that affect your self esteem the most because you

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Speaker 1: just can't wrap your head around sometimes why they act

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Speaker 1: like that and why they're so on and off and

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Speaker 1: You need to tell her and just sit her down

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Speaker 1: and be like, hey, I need to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: She isn't going to be easy to hear, but I

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Speaker 1: really just feel like you need to hear it, and

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Speaker 1: I'd rather hear it from me. The guy I was

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Speaker 1: seeing said that so and so John, let's call him,

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Speaker 1: said this stuff about you. Obviously, I know that's not true.

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Speaker 1: I don't believe that. I think it's disgusting that he's

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Speaker 1: saying that, but I just wanted to let you know that,

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Speaker 1: so you finish it. And he doesn't deserve to be

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Speaker 1: with you so much better than him. Look at him.

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Speaker 1: He's embarrassing, make him sound like a fucking dick. He

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Speaker 1: clearly is one anyway, so it doesn't matter. But I

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Speaker 1: honestly think you need to buy the bullet. And there's

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Speaker 1: really nothing you can do because I feel like this

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Speaker 1: and it's gonna end up getting firstly shit for her,

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Speaker 1: secondly actually probably quite annoying for you. Not that that's

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Speaker 1: relative or important in this situation, but I just think

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Speaker 1: this boy will be fucking done and out that he

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Speaker 1: lives and you'll have nothing to worry about. But that

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Speaker 1: really fucking does suck. I actually hate when that shit happens.

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Speaker 1: I've had that happen to.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: And finally, I've been with more friend for five years

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Speaker 1: and he's never made me finish. H I love him

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Speaker 1: so much and wouldn't change anything else about our relationship,

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Speaker 1: but this missing thing always on my mind.

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Speaker 2: I would say five years a long time you've been.

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Speaker 1: You're very comfortable with each other, and I would hope

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Speaker 1: that you would be I think you actually need to

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Speaker 1: be like, all right. Firstly, I wondered to see no,

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Speaker 1: or have you been lying and saying that, like, have

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Speaker 1: you been faking it?

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Speaker 2: Fuck?

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Speaker 1: That changes everything If you have been I was about

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Speaker 1: to say, If you haven't been faking it, and he

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Speaker 1: just knows that you haven't, you need to go all right,

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Speaker 1: we need to fucking work this out.

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Speaker 2: You need to buy some fucking stuff to you.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but you need to be like really

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Speaker 1: honest with him and be like, this is important to me.

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Speaker 1: Can we work on this, you know, introducing new things.

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Speaker 1: I don't fucking know, but I'd say that's the best

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Speaker 1: being like I'm sick of not having this happen, Like,

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Speaker 1: can we figure out a way?

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Speaker 2: Can we just like work on it?

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Speaker 1: If you are lying and you've been faking it the

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Speaker 1: whole time, I don't know how to helve you.

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Speaker 2: I think you need to get a new boy friend.

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Speaker 1: Because I don't know how you say, Hey, i've been

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Speaker 1: lying for five years, I never actually have orgasms. Can

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Speaker 1: we work on it? Because he'd be like, why the

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Speaker 1: fuck have you been lying? And I do think that's

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Speaker 1: an issue, not an issue, because it probably starts right

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Speaker 1: at the beginning, you know, and now it's just something

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Speaker 1: that's gone on for so long that you've continued to

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Speaker 1: lie about it because they expect you to be finishing

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Speaker 1: And anyway, I know what you mean. I just want

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Speaker 1: to say, maybe, if that's the case, you need to

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Speaker 1: just throw them in the binning at a new one,

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Speaker 1: because I actually don't know how to help you. But

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Speaker 1: I also just want to let you know that it

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Speaker 1: is so fucking normal, like not having experienced that, it's

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Speaker 1: so fucking normal, and maybe like this guy might not

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Speaker 1: be someone that can make that happen for you, but

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Speaker 1: maybe the next person will be, you know, so don't

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Speaker 1: I also think it can be a lot of pressure.

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Speaker 1: It's like when someone hasn't had their first kiss or

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Speaker 1: it hasn't had sex, and it's like you feel that

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Speaker 1: outside pressure to do those things. Know that it is

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Speaker 1: so fucking normal to have not experienced these things yet

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Speaker 1: and that doesn't mean that you never will. Number two,

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Speaker 1: how important is sex in a relationship? You know what

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Speaker 1: I mean? So it all just depends what you wait,

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Speaker 1: what you lay weight on, and how important it is.

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Speaker 2: But just because it hasn't happen yet doesn't mean it

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Speaker 2: never will.

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Speaker 1: But you may just need to put a little bit

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Speaker 1: more time and effort with your partner that you're comfortable

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Speaker 1: with in trying to make that happen for you.

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Speaker 2: The end, thank you so.

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Speaker 1: Much guys for coming back to Just for Girls and

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Speaker 1: hearing me give you some advice. I can't wait to

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Speaker 1: talk to you again next month and have the best holidays.

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Speaker 1: Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, and a happy New Year. Oh

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Speaker 1: I'm saying that the other day to my friend. She

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Speaker 1: laughed and I go, okay, Santa was like anyway, bye,