Speaker 1: When you think about all or nothing mindset in general,
Speaker 1: it's actually kind of silly. I want you to pretend
Speaker 1: that you're in your kitchen and you accidentally drop a
Speaker 1: plate and that smashes. Are you then going to grab
Speaker 1: all your other plates and then smash them? No, you're not. Hey,
Speaker 1: it's your bestie Brogan. Steph and I am back and
Speaker 1: this episode is probably going to be one of the
Speaker 1: most important ones you may ever listened to on my
Speaker 1: show or listen to in general, because and it's not
Speaker 1: because I am teaching you something revolutionary. I guess waking
Speaker 1: us up a little bit too. Why so many women
Speaker 1: in our lives, including ourselves, struggle with health, fitness, and
Speaker 1: our body image. And if you're new here, you will
Speaker 1: listen to this episode and be like, Wow, Steph has
Speaker 1: done some things. Because I can tell you now my
Speaker 1: health and fitness journey is vast. I've been on both
Speaker 1: ends of the spectrum, you know. I've been from binge
Speaker 1: eating unhealthy life. I literally ate noodle box for breakfast,
Speaker 1: It's horrific. I drank beer every day. I was unhealthy
Speaker 1: and unhappy, and then I went to the other end
Speaker 1: of the spectrum, where I was obsessive. You know, I
Speaker 1: did the bikini competitions. I was eating the chicken and
Speaker 1: the beans, and I completely lost myself. And from that,
Speaker 1: for the last fifteen years, I've been able to say
Speaker 1: that my relationship with food, even my body, has been
Speaker 1: I'm not going to say perfect, but I'm going to
Speaker 1: say balanced and realistic. Because you need to remember, like
Speaker 1: we grew up with magazines lining the aisles. I remember
Speaker 1: at age five being in the checkout line with my
Speaker 1: nan and I looked over and saw magazines and plastered
Speaker 1: across the front covers was titles like lose five kilos
Speaker 1: in two days and zoomed in photos of cell your
Speaker 1: lighte on celebrities, and I remember thinking, do you adults
Speaker 1: like this stuff? Like why are they showing her legs?
Speaker 1: And you know, we lived in a time with the
Speaker 1: Biggest Loser where on national TV we would tune in
Speaker 1: and watch people get weighed and shamed. And the more
Speaker 1: weight you lost, then you become like the winner of
Speaker 1: the Biggest Loser. And you remember sitting at home and
Speaker 1: even like people yelling at the screens, like saying like
Speaker 1: you should have lost more like it's actually insane when
Speaker 1: you look back now to that time we grew up
Speaker 1: in you know, everything was airbrushed and they would fat
Speaker 1: shame celebrities who were literally a size ten. And then
Speaker 1: we sit here as mothers and women or whatever age
Speaker 1: you are now, and we wonder why we have such
Speaker 1: issues with our own health and fitness and our bodies.
Speaker 1: We were, you know, we never had a chance to
Speaker 1: have a healthy relationship with any of those things. Because
Speaker 1: of that. I remember the women in my life weighing
Speaker 1: themselves on the scale every day, and whatever the number
Speaker 1: on the scale said would dictate how they felt that day,
Speaker 1: if they were allowed to enjoy themselves that day, if
Speaker 1: they could feel happy, if they were enough. And I
Speaker 1: write about this a lot in my book Muster in
Speaker 1: My Messy Life, and I write that from childhood me.
Speaker 1: I actually write those chapters as Childhood's steph because I
Speaker 1: remember thinking as a kid, you know, watching my mom
Speaker 1: get on the scales and seeing her frustration with the
Speaker 1: number that apparently wasn't on there. And I remember thinking
Speaker 1: to myself, I wonder what number I'm going to get.
Speaker 1: I hope it's a good one, not one like mom has,
Speaker 1: because it doesn't look very fun. And you hear that,
Speaker 1: and I remember, like when I was writing my book,
Speaker 1: I remember that and thinking of it, and it was
Speaker 1: just wild to think back to. Sometimes we need the
Speaker 1: simplicity of the child, your child brain, to see how
Speaker 1: stupid we do things as adults. And it's fair, like,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm I'm not saying the women in my
Speaker 1: life are stupid whatsoever. I'm saying the pressure that was
Speaker 1: put upon them made them feel like they had to
Speaker 1: jump on this clinical device every day, and that dictated
Speaker 1: their happiness, and that filtered through to me, of course.
Speaker 1: You know, even I remember the women in my life
Speaker 1: like having a big lunch and saying, well, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna have dinner, like better not have dinner, and just
Speaker 1: having that like cycle of self hatred and binge eating,
Speaker 1: and like, I remember that so clearly, and I didn't
Speaker 1: escape that myself, you know. Today and I'm going to
Speaker 1: be giving you the short version of my health and
Speaker 1: fitness journey and then the seven hacks and mindset shifts
Speaker 1: that honestly changed my life with health and fitness and
Speaker 1: allowed me to live the last fifteen years of my
Speaker 1: life going to the gym consistently not hating myself for
Speaker 1: taking days off seeing food as food and not having
Speaker 1: an emotional attachment to it. Sure, like I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: lie I had a had a bag of twelves last
Speaker 1: night because I was stressed, And that's fine. But it's
Speaker 1: not like a cycle of self hatred anymore or guilt.
Speaker 1: Sure I shouldn't do that every day, but it doesn't
Speaker 1: matter if I did it a few times. Like you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, there's not you just kind of
Speaker 1: need to detach yourself a little bit more and also
Speaker 1: realize why we are the way we are. So if
Speaker 1: you're someone who goes out to do a new fitness
Speaker 1: routine or you want to you know, just feel better
Speaker 1: within yourself, because what I really want to say and
Speaker 1: like highlight to you is that this episode isn't about
Speaker 1: me saying this is how you lose twenty five kilos
Speaker 1: or this is how I did this, Like it's about
Speaker 1: actually feeling better within your body and giving yourself permission.
Speaker 1: But also like living a life that where you do
Speaker 1: have the energy to chase after your kids, you do
Speaker 1: have the energy to like get through the day, and
Speaker 1: you feel comfortable in your body no matter what that
Speaker 1: looks like, and how like that is going to be
Speaker 1: different from person to person. But this is just so
Speaker 1: we can then live a healthy system, danable lifestyle, because
Speaker 1: the problem we all have is that we keep thinking
Speaker 1: that life is an eight week challenge, and whenever we
Speaker 1: want to like reset our health, we go so hard
Speaker 1: and then we go home and grime and that's just
Speaker 1: not going to work. And I learned that kind of
Speaker 1: early on, actually, but it's because I go very much
Speaker 1: all or nothing, so that's why I learned this earlier on.
Speaker 1: But by the end of this episode, you are going
Speaker 1: to learn the mindset shifts and the hacks and the
Speaker 1: permission slips that will honestly change the way you see
Speaker 1: your health and fitness and the way you approach it.
Speaker 1: And it's going to allow you to hopefully put that
Speaker 1: into your own lifestyle and then start feeling better as well.
Speaker 1: But before we get into it, a little life update,
Speaker 1: and this is definitely tied to the topic today. And
Speaker 1: I have just been feeling like really motivated at the
Speaker 1: gym at the moment. And it's not because I feel
Speaker 1: like I got energy per se. If anything, I feel
Speaker 1: like my sleep has gone really bad. Maybe it's the
Speaker 1: late night twelves, but I've been, you know, getting stronger.
Speaker 1: I've been feeling my body better and things like that,
Speaker 1: because although I have been working at consistently for fifteen years,
Speaker 1: when I wrote the book last year, I took time
Speaker 1: off so I could get it done, and I lost
Speaker 1: like five kilos of muscle, which is devastating because as
Speaker 1: we know, that's really hard and it was just a time.
Speaker 1: So you know now that I'm back in my rhythm
Speaker 1: again and I didn't it's actually I actually I am just
Speaker 1: having a bit of a revelation on the show right now.
Speaker 1: If that was Steph before these mindset shifts and things,
Speaker 1: and I had that much time off that I did
Speaker 1: last year, I would have crucified myself and I did,
Speaker 1: and I was just like, cool, I've done this. I've
Speaker 1: taken my time off. Now to get back into it,
Speaker 1: it's just like removing the emotion behind it and sure
Speaker 1: like I'm not going to sit here and pretend that
Speaker 1: everything's perfect and that I feel like I look good
Speaker 1: all the time. Like it's not that it's not because
Speaker 1: it's like a superficial thing where I'm like, oh, look
Speaker 1: I've gotten fits, so I feel good all the time.
Speaker 1: That's definitely not like I'm a female feel like shit
Speaker 1: usually half of the month, and we have those times,
Speaker 1: but it's like I don't sit in it for too
Speaker 1: long and I don't crucify myself anymore, and I don't
Speaker 1: do the whole restriction and then like full just crazy
Speaker 1: cycles I used to do anyway, So I've been feeling
Speaker 1: really good in the gym. I hit another personal bass
Speaker 1: on like leg press the other day, which was all someone.
Speaker 1: I was telling my friend about it, and then she
Speaker 1: said to me, like she confided in me, and she said,
Speaker 1: I really want to get back into the gym, but
Speaker 1: I just get in my head about it. And I
Speaker 1: was like, what do you mean, And of course, like
Speaker 1: I understood, but I was like I wanted to give
Speaker 1: her the floor to kind of dive deeper with me.
Speaker 1: And she said, So the gym we have, the one
Speaker 1: I go to, we used to have a women's section
Speaker 1: and then it got like brought out by some new
Speaker 1: owners and they took the women's section away, which for
Speaker 1: me that was a big deal as well, especially when
Speaker 1: you're doing bloody glop bridges and you got your bum
Speaker 1: in the air. But you know, it took time to
Speaker 1: kind of get used to it again and she expressed
Speaker 1: that yes, since we lost the women's section in the gym,
Speaker 1: she just doesn't feel comfortable to go because she's scared
Speaker 1: of what people will think. And I told her the
Speaker 1: revelation that helped me with my gym anxiety years and
Speaker 1: years ago, when I felt the exact same, but I
Speaker 1: just kind of got to the point where I was like,
Speaker 1: enough's enough. I have to just do this thing for me.
Speaker 1: And I said to her that every single person in
Speaker 1: that gym when you walk through the door, is there
Speaker 1: for the exact same reason, and that is to better themselves.
Speaker 1: They're there to work on themselves. And I want to
Speaker 1: ask you something. When you're at Worse getting your groceries
Speaker 1: for the week and you're going down the aisle, are
Speaker 1: you stressing about what other people there are thinking of
Speaker 1: what's in your trolley? Are you worried that they're like
Speaker 1: judging your shopping cart? And unless it's filled with said
Speaker 1: twirls and that's it, I'm pretty sure the answer is no.
Speaker 1: And that's because you know they're there to do the
Speaker 1: task at hand. It's to get their groceries, it's to
Speaker 1: do their own thing. And you also know that when
Speaker 1: you're there, you're just thinking about what are we having
Speaker 1: for dinner? Or I need to get that snack for
Speaker 1: the kids. You know that they're just worried about their
Speaker 1: own lives and their own things that are going on.
Speaker 1: Is it exact same situation that happens at the gym.
Speaker 1: Every single person in that gym is thinking about what
Speaker 1: they're having for dinner, replying back to that email, and
Speaker 1: usually if they're a gym bro, they're looking in the
Speaker 1: mirror admiring themselves. No one in that gym is looking
Speaker 1: at you and thinking, oh, no, look she's wearing Kmart
Speaker 1: tights and not Lorna Jane like. They're not thinking like that.
Speaker 1: They're worried about and they're caught up in their own lives.
Speaker 1: And as soon as you realize, in the nicest way possible,
Speaker 1: nobody is thinking about you as much as you think
Speaker 1: they are, you will be set free. It really does
Speaker 1: come down to the narrative that we tell ourselves and
Speaker 1: what we essentially believe, even if that narrative is not true.
Speaker 1: And this is going to lead into my first point
Speaker 1: of this episode, in my first mindset shift. But first
Speaker 1: I want to give you a bit of context about
Speaker 1: me and my health and fitness journey, and speaking of narratives,
Speaker 1: I had always grown up feeling like I was just
Speaker 1: not a fitness person. I wasn't sporty. I was an athletic.
Speaker 1: I was a very awkward, scrawny child. I didn't play
Speaker 1: ball sports because I didn't feel confident. I got bullied.
Speaker 1: I was called Stiffanie because I couldn't catch a ball, which,
Speaker 1: to be fair like, in my defense, I had the
Speaker 1: son in my eyes. Okay, so just chill, and I
Speaker 1: just had very little confidence as a kid. I barely
Speaker 1: spoke up. I was very quiet except when I was
Speaker 1: with my friends. I was pretty weird, still weird, and
Speaker 1: I just was not an athletic kind of girl. I
Speaker 1: didn't do any of those types of things. And don't
Speaker 1: hate me straight away, but growing up, I was blessed
Speaker 1: to not have to really worry about the scales and
Speaker 1: what I wait and things like that. Genetically, I was
Speaker 1: very scrawny. As I said, I didn't have to think
Speaker 1: about that, which is you know again, well, maybe I
Speaker 1: could view watching the women in my life stepping on
Speaker 1: the scale more objectively because I had to experience that myself.
Speaker 1: Luckily enough, soon enough, after high school and after my
Speaker 1: boobs came in and all the things, I went into
Speaker 1: my little partying era because growing up we didn't have
Speaker 1: a whole lot of food. There wasn't a whole lot
Speaker 1: there whole what going on. So when I ran and
Speaker 1: I moved out when we're eighteen, like, it was just
Speaker 1: a free for all. I could eat wherever, I could
Speaker 1: eat whatever I wanted within the budget I could have,
Speaker 1: and I did go all out. I was drinking every weekend.
Speaker 1: I was drinking beer, which I don't know how I
Speaker 1: did that, but it was delicious. At the time. I
Speaker 1: ate terribly. I the only I would pretty much only
Speaker 1: have like two meals a day, especially throughout Union things.
Speaker 1: I would have usually macas at about eleven and then
Speaker 1: a really really big dinner that consisted of usually like
Speaker 1: a full foot long stub and like all twelve cookies
Speaker 1: because I worked at Subway, and then you bet I
Speaker 1: did like triple meat and everything, and within one year
Speaker 1: I gained twenty five kilos. Now again, I don't I
Speaker 1: try not to talk about weight because it's not like
Speaker 1: I don't want you guys to focus on the weight here.
Speaker 1: It's just me trying to show you the impact of
Speaker 1: this the help like the eating I was doing, and
Speaker 1: that's what it had done to me within a year.
Speaker 1: Now for me, before this, you know, my weight started
Speaker 1: to kind of move around a little bit where I
Speaker 1: did try every diet under the sun. I did the
Speaker 1: cabbage I did the cabbage soup diet. And again I
Speaker 1: talk about all this in such detail in my book,
Speaker 1: and I even go into the time I ship myself
Speaker 1: at the pub because of skinny tea. Just don't do that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So if you want to, like if I really do
Speaker 1: go into the mindset stuff a lot more in the book,
Speaker 1: but if you want to read the context more and
Speaker 1: I can do a podcast on it. But if you
Speaker 1: want to read my full health and fitness journey, it
Speaker 1: is in the book as well. So, yeah, I lived
Speaker 1: off energy drinks. You know, I was doing multiple jobs,
Speaker 1: I was studying at UNI, all the things. But what
Speaker 1: changed this, I guess volcano of subway cookies was one
Speaker 1: day I was at makeup school. So I just finished
Speaker 1: graduating UNI, and of course naturally I'm onto the next thing.
Speaker 1: So I was at makeup school and someone had taken
Speaker 1: a photo of me, and our teacher would sometimes like
Speaker 1: display our different makeup looks and things on the wall. Anyway,
Speaker 1: she popped the photo of me up on the wall,
Speaker 1: and my friend at the time he was like, oh, look, step,
Speaker 1: you're on the wall. And I walked over and I
Speaker 1: did not recognize the woman in the photo and I
Speaker 1: just realized. I just thought to myself, how did I
Speaker 1: get here? And don't get me wrong, there was signs
Speaker 1: like for me to even walk to make up school,
Speaker 1: I had to put band aids between my thighs to
Speaker 1: stop them rubbing together. I was uncomfortable. I was so lethargic,
Speaker 1: I had headaches, My anxiety was terrible. But for me
Speaker 1: to actually change my ways, which I actually wrote, I
Speaker 1: don't want to go into the story too much because
Speaker 1: it's in the book and it is really good to read.
Speaker 1: I had a man yell at me in the middle
Speaker 1: of a Sydney pub, calling me a fat peak. So
Speaker 1: that was kind of like the day where I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: shit needs to change. And of course I was in
Speaker 1: my twenties. I wanted to just to look hot, I
Speaker 1: wanted to look good. I wasn't just on my journey
Speaker 1: to like feel better. It was definitely the superficial thing
Speaker 1: back then, But I knew I had tried everything before.
Speaker 1: As I said, I did the skinny teas I did
Speaker 1: the cabbage soup, and I was like, I have to
Speaker 1: do something that's going to stick. So I knew that
Speaker 1: whatever I decided to do in terms of this new lifestyle,
Speaker 1: I had to run it through a filter. And that
Speaker 1: filter is what I call my cut the crap criteria.
Speaker 1: And this criteria basically is something that I run through
Speaker 1: every new habit, every new routine to make sure it's
Speaker 1: actually sustainable. So the main question is can I picture
Speaker 1: myself doing this forever? And if the answer is no,
Speaker 1: then you're not doing it because life is not an
Speaker 1: eight week challenge. And from there, I just started moving
Speaker 1: my body three times a week. I got a personal trainer,
Speaker 1: I just stopped eating shit, and honestly, I did lose
Speaker 1: the weight. But the problem is I went too far.
Speaker 1: Then I went into like the bikini comp world, I
Speaker 1: did body building, and then I got so thin and
Speaker 1: underweight that I lost my period for over a year. Now,
Speaker 1: let me tell you, I was up on stage. I
Speaker 1: somehow got into a calendar. All these things I never
Speaker 1: would have dreamed of before. Like that's Steph who had
Speaker 1: band aids on her thighs. Would have never thought we
Speaker 1: could be here. I was in magazines all that stuff.
Speaker 1: But you know what, I was more unhappy than I
Speaker 1: was before because I had no life, There was no balance.
Speaker 1: It was just I was just running myself into the
Speaker 1: ground like a boot camp and there was no joy.
Speaker 1: And luckily enough, by that time Ryan and I like,
Speaker 1: we wanted to get married, and we wanted to have babies,
Speaker 1: and luckily for that I stopped it because for once
Speaker 1: my purpose was bigger than myself then just trying to
Speaker 1: look hot. It was to have children. So from there
Speaker 1: I pulled myself out of the spiral. But it took
Speaker 1: a long time, and it definitely isn't the whole story,
Speaker 1: but there was disordered eating involved. There was like you know,
Speaker 1: you know, laxities, all that type of stuff, and it
Speaker 1: was not good. But luckily for my kids, luckily for
Speaker 1: my kids, I stopped doing that. But luckily for me,
Speaker 1: my kids pulled me out of that. And along the way,
Speaker 1: and this is a short version, I had all these
Speaker 1: revelations throughout and also hacks that I realized I was
Speaker 1: making things so much harder for myself, as humans over
Speaker 1: complicate everything, which leads me to my first point. So
Speaker 1: get your notebooks out. These are not hard and these
Speaker 1: are not something that's gonna You can literally implement all
Speaker 1: these things today, but these are the shifts you need
Speaker 1: if you're serious about having a balanced relationship with your
Speaker 1: health and fitness. Number one is the narrative that you
Speaker 1: tell yourself whether you think you can or you can't,
Speaker 1: you're right, I want you to think about. There's a
Speaker 1: narrative we all have, we all carry one around. For me,
Speaker 1: as I said, I always thought I was an athletic.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm just not this person. It's like
Speaker 1: you're saying, I'm just not a runner. And if you
Speaker 1: think you're not that, do you think there's any chance
Speaker 1: at all If someone says to themselves I'm not a runner,
Speaker 1: do you think they're then going to go grab a
Speaker 1: pair of drugs, pull them on and then go for
Speaker 1: a run. No, So therefore they never will be a
Speaker 1: runner because they've already decided they're not. And it's the
Speaker 1: same for people who just think I'm just not a
Speaker 1: fitness person. You're never going to drag your butt into
Speaker 1: the gym and actually do a workout, or maybe go
Speaker 1: for a walk or try something new, because you've already
Speaker 1: decided that this is who you are. For example, I
Speaker 1: have always been terrible at public speaking, like in my
Speaker 1: childhood school. You know, when you're at high school and
Speaker 1: they'd make you do a speech, I would literally be
Speaker 1: sick with anxiety weeks beforehand. I would absolutely dread it.
Speaker 1: And now, obviously I'm talking on a podcast, Obviously I'm
Speaker 1: in a studio by myself, which makes it much easier.
Speaker 1: But you know, even for me at UNI, I would
Speaker 1: have to go to the unibar and scull a jug
Speaker 1: of beer before I would talk in front and do
Speaker 1: a presentation at UNI, like I absolutely hated it. But
Speaker 1: then fast forward until you know my blog and everything
Speaker 1: and I do. I do live television, I do events,
Speaker 1: I do all these things, which yes I do still
Speaker 1: get really really nervous, but I stopped telling myself I
Speaker 1: just can't talk in front of other people. I can't
Speaker 1: do public speaking. Because if I kept telling myself and
Speaker 1: living by that narrative, I never would be doing the
Speaker 1: things I'm doing now. And part of that is I
Speaker 1: had a bigger why, my why, and like my passion behind.
Speaker 1: It drove me to do the thing and stop thinking
Speaker 1: the narrative that wasn't actually true. Another example for me
Speaker 1: is which look, I'm still gonna be honest, I'm terrible
Speaker 1: at math. There's just sometimes there's facts. Okay, no, But seriously,
Speaker 1: with math, I've never been good at it. I would try.
Speaker 1: I did tutoring in high school. I just sucked. But
Speaker 1: for me, I had always thought there'd be no way
Speaker 1: I could run a business because I am bad at math.
Speaker 1: But here I am. I've got staff based Planners, which
Speaker 1: is a huge company, which look, granted, math is not
Speaker 1: my forte. But me thinking I just can't do it
Speaker 1: was not true at all. I'm actually quite good at
Speaker 1: looking at you know, business situations and that with numbers
Speaker 1: like that. But again it's not what I love. Like
Speaker 1: give me marketing, give me content any day, give me
Speaker 1: product design, socials, all that stuff. And even in terms
Speaker 1: of running, I never thought I could be a runner.
Speaker 1: And there was a period of my life where I
Speaker 1: literally got into running. I did that, you know that
Speaker 1: app couch to five K, I did that, and I
Speaker 1: did actually do pretty good. Now like I will randomly run,
Speaker 1: I don't love it still, like I don't want to
Speaker 1: run all the time, But I thought I just could
Speaker 1: not run, because you know, I've got cousins that can
Speaker 1: just like do five k's easily, which for me would
Speaker 1: be a bit of a challenge. But I prove to
Speaker 1: myself that I can do the things I never thought
Speaker 1: I could. If you're constantly telling yourself, I'm lazy, I'm
Speaker 1: just not fit, you're right because you've already made up
Speaker 1: your mind, and your mind is so incredibly powerful. We
Speaker 1: know this. You know, someone might view a situation, like
Speaker 1: an event or something as terrifying, and then the next
Speaker 1: person will view it as I'm so excited for this,
Speaker 1: like I get to do this with my friends or whatever.
Speaker 1: Like we view everything so differently, but it all comes
Speaker 1: down to your mind. We all see the same reality,
Speaker 1: but it's filtered through our brain and through our past
Speaker 1: experiences and our beliefs, and that is where we do
Speaker 1: all have such different opinions and emotions. And that also
Speaker 1: comes down to our self talk. So maybe I'm not
Speaker 1: good at running, or I don't think i'm good at running.
Speaker 1: But if I'm telling myself I'm shit at this, I'm
Speaker 1: shit at that, I'm not going to do the thing.
Speaker 1: So if I just say to myself something like, you know,
Speaker 1: my cardio levels aren't really where I want them to be,
Speaker 1: but I'm working on it. If you're just like talking
Speaker 1: to yourself that a little bit differently and with a
Speaker 1: bit more compassion and love, You're going to feel so
Speaker 1: much more motivated. And next time I want you to
Speaker 1: like really try and pay attention to that and catch
Speaker 1: yourself the next time you hear you're in a dialogue
Speaker 1: saying something negative, and I want you to think, would
Speaker 1: I say that to a friend? And if you wouldn't,
Speaker 1: you should definitely not be saying that to yourself. And
Speaker 1: a little hack with this is because I do know
Speaker 1: self talk can be really hard. We are our own
Speaker 1: worst critics. And what really helped me is when I'm
Speaker 1: getting really hard on myself, I just picture like six
Speaker 1: year old Steff standing in front of me, and I
Speaker 1: ask myself, would I be able to say that to her?
Speaker 1: And you wouldn't, So don't say it to you now
Speaker 1: because she's listening. Speaking of being human and the weird
Speaker 1: things we do, my next rule is don't over complicate it.
Speaker 1: As I said, humans, we overcomplicate everything because we're just
Speaker 1: complex creatures at times. But you can't blame us again.
Speaker 1: We've got the backstory of where we come from with
Speaker 1: you know, the Biggest Loser. We've got the magazines. But
Speaker 1: now we live in a time where there's just endless
Speaker 1: information being thrown at us as soon as you open
Speaker 1: your phone when you're walking past, you know, even when
Speaker 1: you're listening to like things like podcasts but not mine
Speaker 1: because I'm trying to be nice, but you know, there
Speaker 1: is an abundance of information out there, and it makes
Speaker 1: it so overwhelming. You know, we see people on social
Speaker 1: media they're smashing out like celery juice, and then the
Speaker 1: next people are saying just have only eat meat, and
Speaker 1: then the next lot of saying just have veggies. Like
Speaker 1: there's just so much information, and I think, you know,
Speaker 1: it's a double edged sword. Like you know, back when
Speaker 1: we were younger and there was the magazines, there was
Speaker 1: less information, and there was a lot of bad information,
Speaker 1: but there was less, but now there's a lot. Like
Speaker 1: they're both not great when you think about it, but
Speaker 1: now we're just overwhelmed, Like we're chronically overwhelmed, and we
Speaker 1: do get decision fatigue, and I think there's nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with trying all these different things as long as you
Speaker 1: obviously do your own research. But I think we just
Speaker 1: need to simplify a little bit instead of then, you know,
Speaker 1: going out and creating a whole new meal plan and
Speaker 1: you have to prep all this food, why don't you
Speaker 1: just try to start with the most important meal of
Speaker 1: the day and prepping your breakfast and having that ready,
Speaker 1: making sure you've got thirty grams of protein in it, Like,
Speaker 1: just start with one thing. Like healthy eating doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be complex as long as you've got your protein
Speaker 1: and your carbs. And then obviously just disclaim I'm not
Speaker 1: a nutritionist or anything, but you don't have to go
Speaker 1: out and buy all organic food. Like sure, that's great
Speaker 1: if you can afford it, but like we just need
Speaker 1: to go back to basics. Because if you are creating
Speaker 1: a new fitness you know, routine that requires you to
Speaker 1: go to the gym six times a week and eat
Speaker 1: this many meals and track everything, like that's gonna feel
Speaker 1: like a mountain for you. You need to learn to
Speaker 1: walk before you could run, and you need to also
Speaker 1: reduce the resistance and the friction. So if that means
Speaker 1: just focusing on okay, I'm gonna make sure I eat
Speaker 1: my breakfast this week, and also maybe go for a
Speaker 1: five minute walk. Do that even, just do the one thing.
Speaker 1: You know, When I first started this and I was,
Speaker 1: you know, I saw that photo of myself at makeup school,
Speaker 1: I had no idea how to eat healthy, and I did.
Speaker 1: I went down a rabbit hole. I was at the
Speaker 1: bookstore every day. I bought all these healthy recipe books,
Speaker 1: which really helped me. But I ended up going pretty simple.
Speaker 1: Like for dinner, I just started having like a roast
Speaker 1: chicken from Woolies, and I'd have those like heat up
Speaker 1: veggies and that was it, and some rice, and then
Speaker 1: for snacks, I would have like some yogurt with fruit.
Speaker 1: Like I really did make it super basic because I
Speaker 1: knew I had tried everything else in the past and
Speaker 1: it never worked. You know. And if you don't like
Speaker 1: sat like, don't do shit you don't like, don't do
Speaker 1: shit you hate. That's like another whole point in itself.
Speaker 1: If you don't like salad, don't eat the salad, or
Speaker 1: at least try different salads that are a bit more exciting.
Speaker 1: Like for me, I also believe you don't make friends
Speaker 1: with salad, So I will make healthy pizzas, which is
Speaker 1: literally just a pizza base, and I put my own
Speaker 1: toppings on it, and I don't load it up with crap.
Speaker 1: You know. I eat pasta. I eat all these things
Speaker 1: which before I never thought I would be allowed to
Speaker 1: because I thought foods had like good or bad labels
Speaker 1: on them. But they don't. It's like everything in a
Speaker 1: moderation and balance. You know. One thing I'd love to
Speaker 1: do when I'm a bit feeling a bit overloaded and
Speaker 1: I just don't even want to prep lunches is I
Speaker 1: make a lunch like snackplate. So it's like it's literally
Speaker 1: what I used to give the kids when they were
Speaker 1: toddlers pretty much, but I would have some type of
Speaker 1: protein on there, like I could have some salami, some ham,
Speaker 1: something like that. I'd have a bit of cheese. I'd
Speaker 1: have like cucarmbo, some carrots, some dip, and then some
Speaker 1: like crackers or some type of carb. And that was
Speaker 1: my lunch, as long as you make sure you're eating enough,
Speaker 1: of course, but just having things where you can throw
Speaker 1: them together and just eat it, that's that's going to
Speaker 1: be better than you not. You know, you'll run off
Speaker 1: your feet you didn't prep your bloody food that you
Speaker 1: thought you needed to get off Pinterest, and then you're
Speaker 1: running around with the kids and you haven't had time
Speaker 1: to eat and you're starving. In the next minute, you're
Speaker 1: in the MACS drive through, like, this is not right.
Speaker 1: I pack my car. It's better to just start small.
Speaker 1: And just if you followed me for a while, you
Speaker 1: would know. My biggest thing I say is, you know
Speaker 1: everyone is if so obsessed with you know, They're like,
Speaker 1: why do I fall off the bandwagon? I'm like, there
Speaker 1: is no bandwagon, there's just life. You know. You can't
Speaker 1: you can't just go all or nothing all the time.
Speaker 1: And that leads me to my next point, which is
Speaker 1: less is more Now. For years, I tried to strive
Speaker 1: to hit ten k steps. We all hear like ten
Speaker 1: k steps, ten k steps, I you know, the afternoon
Speaker 1: would come by, I would look at my watch, Mapple watch,
Speaker 1: and it would be like I was on like two thousand,
Speaker 1: and you know, the gap was so big I didn't
Speaker 1: even try, so I would never hit my staf count.
Speaker 1: And then one day, this was only maybe five years ago,
Speaker 1: I decided, you know what my step goal now is
Speaker 1: eight thousand steps. Actually no, I even think I did
Speaker 1: six thousand at the start, So once it was six
Speaker 1: thousand and the number was less and it wasn't so overwhelming.
Speaker 1: The afternoon would roll around, I'd look at my watch,
Speaker 1: I'd say two thousand steps, and I'd be like, oh,
Speaker 1: just go for a quick walk, and then I'll be
Speaker 1: nearly there. And then suddenly I'm at four thousand steps.
Speaker 1: Have dinner, do all the things, do a bit of
Speaker 1: cleaningh I've only got five hundred steps to go. Go
Speaker 1: for another little quick walk, and I've hit my goal.
Speaker 1: And I kept doing that, and I kept doing that,
Speaker 1: and then I went to eight thousand steps. One thing
Speaker 1: many people don't realize is the ten kse step rule
Speaker 1: is actually just a number pulled from a marketing campaign.
Speaker 1: I think it was in Japan or something years and
Speaker 1: years ago. It's not actually the number you're meant to
Speaker 1: be striving for. Everyone's step goal is technically different for
Speaker 1: your body, just like everyone's you know the foods that
Speaker 1: are best for you, or like you know what top
Speaker 1: of exercise you you should do. Healthy looks different on everybody,
Speaker 1: and your step count isn't going to be universal for
Speaker 1: the rest of the world. So let's just close the
Speaker 1: gap a little bit to make it more feel more achievable.
Speaker 1: Stop aiming for twelve thousand steps, stop aiming for ten,
Speaker 1: Just aim for eight or even six, because you know what,
Speaker 1: if you are doing six thousand steps a day most
Speaker 1: days for the year, that's better than aiming for ten,
Speaker 1: reaching that twice, but always hitting two overall when you
Speaker 1: zoom out, you're doing much better. It's all those small,
Speaker 1: consistent efforts that have the least amount of friction. And
Speaker 1: there's also a study done and it looked over two
Speaker 1: hundred and twenty thousand adults across seventeen studies, and they
Speaker 1: found mortality benefits from walking around seven thousand to eight
Speaker 1: thousand steps a day, and beyond that you keep gaining
Speaker 1: a little bet at tapers off fast. So basically like
Speaker 1: seven thousand, eight thousand steps is where you are getting
Speaker 1: the most benefits anyway, and it tapers off a lot
Speaker 1: after that. So even science says we should just chill
Speaker 1: out a little bit. Yeah, and here's a way you
Speaker 1: can hit your step count goal more consistently. One thing
Speaker 1: that is also good for your digestion is after each meal,
Speaker 1: just do a little five minute walk. It could be
Speaker 1: just you doing housework around the house. It could be
Speaker 1: like jumping on a walking pad, which are awesome, by
Speaker 1: the way, or going for an actual walk and if
Speaker 1: you do that three times a day, or you can
Speaker 1: do like one larger walk even like half an hour,
Speaker 1: and then a smaller one, and you know, doing things
Speaker 1: like you know, parking further away from Woolworths, which I
Speaker 1: actually do because I get I feel like when there's
Speaker 1: too many cars, my brain's like I'm out, I'm not
Speaker 1: reverse parking when everyone's watching me. Stuff that. Doing things
Speaker 1: like that, it all adds up so so fast. So
Speaker 1: just do a little you know, post meal walk, do
Speaker 1: a little brain break walk during your workday, and park
Speaker 1: further away from everywhere you go, and you're going to
Speaker 1: hit your step count so easily. So let's just do
Speaker 1: a little recap on what we've already gone through. We've
Speaker 1: got changing your own narrative, don't overcomplicate it, and less
Speaker 1: is more so they're your first three mindset shifts that
Speaker 1: are really going to help you. Number four is more
Speaker 1: of like a hack, and it's to do with water
Speaker 1: because we all know it's kind of important apparently, so
Speaker 1: I've always struggled to hit my you know, to drink
Speaker 1: like any water in general, I tend to just drink
Speaker 1: ice latte and that's pretty much it. So for me,
Speaker 1: what I love to do as soon as I wake up,
Speaker 1: I'll drink two hundred and fifty meal glass of water,
Speaker 1: which is also really good. It gets you awake, it
Speaker 1: gets your body moving, it gets you out of your
Speaker 1: fasted state. And then what I do is before each meal,
Speaker 1: I'll drink two hundred and fifty sorry, two hundred and
Speaker 1: fifty meters. Well, that is a lot of water. I
Speaker 1: drink two hundred and fifty meal before each meal. So
Speaker 1: even if you did five hundred meal, which is still
Speaker 1: just like a large glass of water, if you did that,
Speaker 1: you know, before each meal. So if you do five
Speaker 1: hundred meals times four, that's two liters, you're done for
Speaker 1: the day. You don't have to think about it again. So, sure,
Speaker 1: you probably will have to pee soon. But if you
Speaker 1: just kind of get into that habit stacking, which is
Speaker 1: where you already have an existing habit, which is eating,
Speaker 1: stack it with drinking a glass of water, and that
Speaker 1: way you're going to hit your water target it and
Speaker 1: you don't really even have to think about it. This
Speaker 1: is just a key example of not over complicating things.
Speaker 1: So don't aim for three leaders of water a day
Speaker 1: if you barely drink anything like me, go for one
Speaker 1: leader and then two leaders, and you will know. I
Speaker 1: think there's a big misconception to about how much water
Speaker 1: we actually need as humans. Again, I'm not like a
Speaker 1: doctor or anything, but you know, there's a lot of
Speaker 1: people on TikTok and they're drinking four leaders of water,
Speaker 1: three leaders of water. But just see, you know, ask
Speaker 1: your doctor what is the best amount for you there
Speaker 1: is you know, let me find it. There's actually like
Speaker 1: a calculation. I'm on Google right now. Let's have a look.
Speaker 1: How much water should you drink per kilo body weight?
Speaker 1: Let's have a look. So a general guideline for daily
Speaker 1: water is thirty to thirty five mil of water per
Speaker 1: kilogram of body weight. There you go. So a seventy
Speaker 1: kilo adult should be drinking two point one to two
Speaker 1: point five liters a day. So there you go. We
Speaker 1: don't need to stress ourselves out every two seconds. And
Speaker 1: if you're someone who hates drinking water, try things like,
Speaker 1: you know, adding some fruit to it. Have like get
Speaker 1: you know those ice cubes, you know those you know
Speaker 1: those aesthetic ones you see on TikTok, Chop up some
Speaker 1: like strawberries and stuff and pop it into some ice cubes.
Speaker 1: And one good thing is to have a drink bottle
Speaker 1: that has a straw. Now, look, I know I should
Speaker 1: be spooking my own SPP drink bottles. The kids once
Speaker 1: have straws, and they are awesome, by the way, But
Speaker 1: having a drink bottle that has a straw, again, that's
Speaker 1: like taking out the steps you need to actually do
Speaker 1: the thing I live by. If it takes more than
Speaker 1: two steps, redesign it. So if you have a straw,
Speaker 1: go for it. You will drink so much more water.
Speaker 1: If you like cold water, put ice in it every time. Next,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be talking about eating more specifically meal planning. Now,
Speaker 1: if you don't have some sort of loose plan or
Speaker 1: at least have one focus, like I said, having the
Speaker 1: breakfast focus, you're going in blind. And it is hard
Speaker 1: for us to actually achieve these changes and even our
Speaker 1: goals if we don't have the little micro steps to
Speaker 1: actually reach them. And life is busy if you don't
Speaker 1: have things ready and prepped or at least things you
Speaker 1: can buy that you can grab ready to go when
Speaker 1: life is busy. It's going to make your goals much harder.
Speaker 1: It is going to make eating healthy stuff much harder.
Speaker 1: And we are really setting ourselves up for failure there.
Speaker 1: So I do this on a Sunday with my meal
Speaker 1: planning magnet, and look, I eat the same things I like.
Speaker 1: I'm a creature of habit. When I don't have to
Speaker 1: make decisions, I won't like I would choose not to
Speaker 1: make the decisions. So for me, I will eat the
Speaker 1: same breakfast every day. I will eat the same snacks
Speaker 1: every day, because then again there's less resistance. So what
Speaker 1: I want you to do right now, I want you
Speaker 1: to write down three to four healthy snacks. This is
Speaker 1: your homework, three to four. If there's one thing out
Speaker 1: of this episode you do, it's this write down three
Speaker 1: to four healthy snacks. It could be yogurt with you know,
Speaker 1: a scuba protein in it, a bit of fruit. It
Speaker 1: could be cottage cheese on rice cake like whatever you want.
Speaker 1: Just have a little look, see what works for you.
Speaker 1: And then I want you to also write down a
Speaker 1: little list of your go to healthy dinners. You can
Speaker 1: turn to and again this is just going to be
Speaker 1: you know, if you've got backup options, you are really
Speaker 1: going to succeed. What I mean by that is if
Speaker 1: you were wanting to eat better, if you have a
Speaker 1: fridge full of healthy snacks ready to go, pretty sure
Speaker 1: you're going to be able to achieve your protein goals.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. You need to have like
Speaker 1: a safety net for yourself. One thing I love doing
Speaker 1: when I was working out and like finding my seat,
Speaker 1: finding my seat, finding my feet in you know, being
Speaker 1: healthier was again I bought these recipe books and what
Speaker 1: I would do was my little challenge to myself, was
Speaker 1: I wanted to try one new healthy recipe a week.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I hated them, apparently I don't like tofu. Sometimes
Speaker 1: I love them, and I would keep them in my
Speaker 1: meal rotation. So that could be something fun for you
Speaker 1: and the family to try and like, just do one
Speaker 1: new recipe a week. And if you're someone like me,
Speaker 1: like I with dinners more so everything else, I like
Speaker 1: to keep the same, but for dinner, I can be
Speaker 1: a bit funny. Like some days I might think I
Speaker 1: want steak, but I actually don't. So this is why
Speaker 1: when I do my meal prep. I have meal prep components,
Speaker 1: so I'll meal prep the protein because if I prep,
Speaker 1: you know, if I chuck in some chicken breast or
Speaker 1: thigh with some chicken stock in the slow cooker and
Speaker 1: I shred it up, I can use that for sandwiches,
Speaker 1: I can use it for wraps. I can use it
Speaker 1: for stur fries. I use it on top of pizza,
Speaker 1: Like I like to be able to have that flexibility,
Speaker 1: but like the hard bits done so doing things like that.
Speaker 1: You know, my slow cooked Mexican beef is another one
Speaker 1: that we've been cooking forever and it's so easy, and
Speaker 1: we have it on like burritos. We have it on
Speaker 1: like nacho's, like burrito bowls, all that type of stuff.
Speaker 1: And of course if you have a beautiful lunch bag
Speaker 1: like my one from SVP, you can chuck it in there.
Speaker 1: This one is one I really want you to kind
Speaker 1: of try to adapt this next point, and that is
Speaker 1: stop waiting for mondays. We tend to always wait for
Speaker 1: the perfect time to start something, whether that's like a
Speaker 1: business or a new habit or or you know, trying
Speaker 1: something new. In general, we're like, okay, well when I
Speaker 1: do this then I'll start the thing. And it's even
Speaker 1: like a mindset around again. You know, maybe when we
Speaker 1: hit get a promotion, or lose weight or make more money,
Speaker 1: we're like, when I get to this point, I'll be happy.
Speaker 1: But you get there because look, I'm exhibit A. I
Speaker 1: went from feeling crap to them being on stage and
Speaker 1: having what I thought was my dream body, and I've
Speaker 1: felt worse than before. And you always know. It's like
Speaker 1: when you pictro a holiday or something, you kind of
Speaker 1: romanticize it in your head a little bit, and then
Speaker 1: you get there and it's a really dodgy like caravan
Speaker 1: that you thought was like a really nice you know, Airbnb,
Speaker 1: and the guy is actually room sharing with you, and
Speaker 1: it sucks. Yeah, that's kind of what happens. The reality
Speaker 1: is always a little bit different than what you think,
Speaker 1: so you can't rely on waiting for the perfect time
Speaker 1: because there never will be one. And this is the
Speaker 1: same with you know, when people wait for Mondays or
Speaker 1: a new month or a new year to start the thing,
Speaker 1: and then they tend to go all in or nothing,
Speaker 1: which we're not doing anymore as we know. And this
Speaker 1: was probably the biggest thing I adapted when I decided
Speaker 1: to be like, you know, life is not an eight
Speaker 1: week challenge. I just needed to do this properly and sustainably.
Speaker 1: And that was when I Whenever I maybe ate something
Speaker 1: that didn't make me feel so good, or something that
Speaker 1: I didn't really plan to eat, what I used to do,
Speaker 1: I would spiral. I would then go on a huge
Speaker 1: binge eating thing. I would go for days and days,
Speaker 1: and then I'd hate myself and then go back to
Speaker 1: being really, really strict. But what I started doing was
Speaker 1: say I ate said pack of twelves. Instead of crucifying
Speaker 1: myself and hating myself, I would just eat better for
Speaker 1: the next meal. It's the same with days off. I
Speaker 1: might have some days off the gym, but that doesn't
Speaker 1: mean then I hate myself and stop going altogether for
Speaker 1: the rest of the month. I just go to the
Speaker 1: gym the next day. Once you remove you know, like
Speaker 1: the pressure you put upon yourself, it doesn't feel like
Speaker 1: such a big deal anymore. You're like, cool, Okay, I
Speaker 1: had that, I ate that pizza. I did this just oh,
Speaker 1: eat this dinner that I planned to have later. It
Speaker 1: really isn't such a big deal than what we think
Speaker 1: it is. When you think about all or nothing mindset
Speaker 1: in general, it's actually kind of silly. I want you
Speaker 1: to pretend that you're in your kitchen and you accidentally
Speaker 1: drop a plate and that smashes. Are you then going
Speaker 1: to grab all your other plates and then smash them? No,
Speaker 1: you're not, unless you're psychotic. But we're not doing that.
Speaker 1: It's the same when it comes to all or nothing mindset. Now,
Speaker 1: just a little recap before I go on to my
Speaker 1: last point. Now, what we're doing from this so far
Speaker 1: is we're changing our own narrative. We're not telling ourselves
Speaker 1: what we can or can't do anymore. We are the
Speaker 1: person like I am the person that goes to the gym.
Speaker 1: I am a person that eats healthy. I am a
Speaker 1: healthy person. Once you start saying that to yourself, you
Speaker 1: will believe it because you've got to remember to. Even
Speaker 1: with visualization, the reason why visualization is so effective is
Speaker 1: our brain doesn't know our thoughts versus reality. It literally
Speaker 1: thinks it's the same thing. So if you can even
Speaker 1: visualize yourself, which you take a step further every day,
Speaker 1: visualize yourself carrying out your day as if you're that
Speaker 1: healthy version of yourself, that feels good, that has energy,
Speaker 1: that has balance, that doesn't crucify themselves if they have
Speaker 1: the pizza, and then we're not going to complicate it.
Speaker 1: Just if this week only, as I said, write down
Speaker 1: your little ideas for snacks and have them ready in
Speaker 1: the fridge, or just focus on having your breakfast for
Speaker 1: the day, because if you can start off your day
Speaker 1: with thirty grams of protein, you're honestly off for the
Speaker 1: best start for your brain and for your body, which
Speaker 1: also leads to less is more, aim for less steps,
Speaker 1: aim for less habits. You're trying to do it once.
Speaker 1: We're going to drink our water by having a few
Speaker 1: glasses a day after before or after meals. We're going
Speaker 1: to meal plan flexible meal planning. And we're also going
Speaker 1: to stop waiting for Mondays. And this leads me to
Speaker 1: my last point, which I touched on vaguely before, which
Speaker 1: is don't do shit you hate. Don't do the shit
Speaker 1: you hate. Just because Barbara goes to pilates ten times
Speaker 1: a week doesn't mean you have to do the same thing.
Speaker 1: Look I luckily enough, like for me, I love lifting weights.
Speaker 1: You know, I put my headphones in, I go on
Speaker 1: my own little world and it just really is just
Speaker 1: my me time. But it wasn't like that at the start.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying don't do hard things, because look,
Speaker 1: lifting weights is always going to be hard, but you'd
Speaker 1: get better at it and you get used to the feeling.
Speaker 1: So at the start, look, I remember my first PT session.
Speaker 1: I remember so vividly. She had me doing step ups
Speaker 1: on this tiny, little ant step and I always thought
Speaker 1: I was going to pass out, like I was so
Speaker 1: sick and nauseous, and I remember looking over and the
Speaker 1: granny's over there on their steps that are like five
Speaker 1: times a hard in mind, and they're jumping around and
Speaker 1: I was like, holy shit, this is so hard, but
Speaker 1: I just gave it a good go. And for me,
Speaker 1: like knowledge is power for me. When think about when
Speaker 1: you go into a situation where you don't know what's
Speaker 1: going to happen, you don't know what you're doing, You're
Speaker 1: going to feel anxious. It's like a new job. You
Speaker 1: don't know what you're doing, so it is scary because
Speaker 1: it's the unknown. If you can go and like get
Speaker 1: into the gym, get a personal trainer, do a few sessions,
Speaker 1: and have knowledge, which is going to empower you you
Speaker 1: might find you actually like the gym and you never
Speaker 1: thought you would just spend a bit of time learning
Speaker 1: things like you know, there's AI now and again you
Speaker 1: know it's never going to beat Personal Trainer, like one
Speaker 1: hundred percent recommend Personal Trainer, But if you just want
Speaker 1: to know a little bit of the basics and obviously
Speaker 1: fact check, go on blogs, go on ask CHATIBT, like,
Speaker 1: you know, tell me the basics of like the terminology
Speaker 1: they use of the gym. So maybe if you see
Speaker 1: a PTE, you're scared they're going to say reps and
Speaker 1: things and you don't know what it means do that.
Speaker 1: And there was a time where you know, I forced
Speaker 1: myself to run and I actually didn't like running, and
Speaker 1: then after a while I stopped and now I will
Speaker 1: randomly run again. But I'm not forcing myself to do
Speaker 1: things I hate. I don't even do cardio, guys. I
Speaker 1: just I just make sure I get my steps in
Speaker 1: and I go to the gym and that's it. I
Speaker 1: don't run around. I don't do hit anymore because my
Speaker 1: nervous system can't deal with it. And I forced myself
Speaker 1: to do things like that for such a long time.
Speaker 1: But you don't need to do the things you hate.
Speaker 1: Do the things that will make you grow. And yes
Speaker 1: you'll get muscle pain, but do what you love. And
Speaker 1: if you're not sure if you like it yet, at
Speaker 1: least give yourself the knowledge behind you, even like when
Speaker 1: it comes to setbacks, like I remember when I was
Speaker 1: on my journey and I was losing that the weight
Speaker 1: and things like that. At the start, I actually broke
Speaker 1: my ankle and I was in a moon boot, but
Speaker 1: I didn't let that stop me. And I remember, like,
Speaker 1: just not make give. Like I want you to be
Speaker 1: kind to yourself, but I also don't want you to
Speaker 1: to bullshit yourself as well. Like at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, if you can still do the thing, do
Speaker 1: the thing. I was still doing upper body when I
Speaker 1: had a moon boot on, and again I did it
Speaker 1: again recently a few months ago. I've done that angle
Speaker 1: three times now, which is insane. But I just for
Speaker 1: some reason, when I do that injury, I get really
Speaker 1: motivated in the gym. I don't know why, I think
Speaker 1: because it's like I'm like, yeah, I'm gonna show show
Speaker 1: you ankle that I'm not going to let you stop me,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But yeah, don't do shit
Speaker 1: you hate. Life is too short, but do give things
Speaker 1: a good go. Anyways, Guys, if you want me to
Speaker 1: do like a full in depth health and fitness Journey episode,
Speaker 1: I can do that. I have done it before, and
Speaker 1: I'll give you guys a link to that episode below.
Speaker 1: But if you really want to learn all these things
Speaker 1: like the cut, the crap, my cut, the crap criteria,
Speaker 1: everything like that, and how I got there, it's all
Speaker 1: in my book, Mastering My Messy Life, which you can
Speaker 1: get from your bookstores. You can get it from Amazon,
Speaker 1: and it will just feel like you'll probably just hear
Speaker 1: my voice reading it to you. Really, even my friends
Speaker 1: say that. Anyways, I hope you guys enjoyed it today's
Speaker 1: episode and you will not want to miss next week's
Speaker 1: episode because this is going to be all the weird
Speaker 1: things I do for my brain and my mental health
Speaker 1: that you might not hear in therapy. I will see
Speaker 1: you then, bye,