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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on Gaddigle Land, Always was, always

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Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Hey chicks, I'm out and this

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Speaker 1: is Two Boat Chicks, the show that shares life lessons

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Speaker 1: and tips to help make you rich in love? And

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Speaker 1: how's everyone's long weekend? You are? We do from the

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Speaker 1: post long weekend? I know, does everyone have the scaries?

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Speaker 1: Does everyone feel renewed? Did everyone need lots of chocolate?

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Speaker 1: I hope so? I know yield did? Oh? Absolutely? On

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Speaker 1: that note, we are going to be talking about the

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Speaker 1: mini glow ups that improve your week. You chicks know

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Speaker 1: we love cheeky little glow up, cheeky little refresh and

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Speaker 1: so do you chicks. Before we get into that, of course,

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Speaker 1: we have to discuss our obsessions of the week. We're

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Speaker 1: recording this on a Wednesday because of your long weekend vibes.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, we hasn't even happened. I'm like, what

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Speaker 1: am I obsessed with? But I'm gonna throw a tea

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Speaker 1: fifth You're like, so on that though, on the sinking

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Speaker 1: sand of the ship that we are on the sinking

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Speaker 1: sand of the ship, I love it. I feel like

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Speaker 1: the coffee table book is just growing and growing. But

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Speaker 1: My obsession of the week is some very good news

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Speaker 1: I think for everyone in Australia, and it's that the

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Speaker 1: succulent Chinese meal man has been memorialized forever because that

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Speaker 1: speech has been added to Australia's national film and sound archives.

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Speaker 1: Shut up. Yeah, I love him, I know, and he

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Speaker 1: did pass away, but so yeah, what a great opportunity

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Speaker 1: way to remember an Australian icon. For all those who

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Speaker 1: don't recall, there was a very very viral YouTube video

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Speaker 1: that had a man who was wrongly arrested in a bar.

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Speaker 1: They thought he was like the head of some mob, yeah,

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Speaker 1: or like a drug cartel in Australia. And so he's

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Speaker 1: in this like Chinese restaurant. Absolutely peace. I was gonna

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Speaker 1: say that I indulged. Yeah, he absolutely sloshed, as the

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Speaker 1: king he is. And they go in and this like

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Speaker 1: FBI swat team go and get this man and drag

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Speaker 1: him out. And then these cameras are there because they

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Speaker 1: think it's this big operation, but they've got the wrong guy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And so they pull out this older gentleman and he's going,

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Speaker 1: what is the charge? Eating a meal? Eating a succular

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Speaker 1: Chinese meal? And then and then he's just he did

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Speaker 1: say an interview later on, like sixty minutes he was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I started just like being a dickhead. Yes, and he goes, oh,

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Speaker 1: look at the headlock on this one because like the

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Speaker 1: police have him, and then he's going, get your hands

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Speaker 1: off my pinis. It is just so unhinged and so chaotic,

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Speaker 1: and in the interferiors no one had their hand not

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Speaker 1: my penis, no one, no one. No. Yeah, he was

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Speaker 1: just fucking with them because he knew that he had

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Speaker 1: been wrongly arrested. So it was like, what is going on?

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Speaker 1: And I don't know why it was filmed, but I'm

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Speaker 1: so glad it was. Oh and now it's a piece

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Speaker 1: of Australian history, truly an Australian history. I would put

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Speaker 1: that like above the bin chicken. Oh yeah, yeah, wow,

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Speaker 1: We've got so many good iconic like moments out of

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Speaker 1: Australia like that. Yeah, they came bounding out over those

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Speaker 1: twins who are essentially nice. It'll be next seriously like

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Speaker 1: Australian culture so like cooked, it's not even funny like

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Speaker 1: drop bears. I know, like we're so unserious. That's why

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Speaker 1: I'm almany part reak high because I feel like that

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Speaker 1: was one of the only shows I've seen recently actually

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Speaker 1: like tapped into it. Encapture the Esha gabbering, the guy

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Speaker 1: the Rage music video so good. Ten out of ten yea.

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Speaker 1: My obsession of the week is, as you know, I

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Speaker 1: have my peaks and valleys of like at home beauty,

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Speaker 1: and then also the fact that I'm like, I can't

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Speaker 1: to be at home watching Kelly. Yeah, totally. Anyway, I

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Speaker 1: It is such an individual thing because sometimes I feel

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Speaker 1: I always loved that I know you love that there's

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Speaker 1: a time and a place for Cindy Lou. It's true.

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Speaker 1: On that note, let's get into our mini glow ups.

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Speaker 1: So before we get into the episode, I wanted to

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Speaker 1: talk about this really interesting theory that I came across

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Speaker 1: in my research in the resuit, and it's kind of

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Speaker 1: why mini glow ups are really good to put into

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Speaker 1: your week because they restructure your perception and your feeling

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Speaker 1: of the week that you had. And it's called the

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Speaker 1: peak end rule. You're gonna love this. So the peak

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Speaker 1: and rule is a hack to basically have a good

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Speaker 1: week every week, or a good day every day, or

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Speaker 1: that when we look back at an event or an experience,

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Speaker 1: our recollections and opinions are heavily influenced by what happened

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Speaker 1: at its peak intensity and at the end right right.

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Speaker 1: So for example, like let's say if we were going

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Speaker 1: the rest of that day up to not being a

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Speaker 1: whatever it is, right, But we can also reframe this

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Speaker 1: theory to use it in a positive lens and kind

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Speaker 1: of like hack our weeks essentially, so by strategically placing

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Speaker 1: peaks aka micro glow ups or mini glow ups with

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Speaker 1: But then I'm like then I say to her, But

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Speaker 1: and then on Sunday do something really fun. So that way,

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Speaker 1: different peak than she had. Yeah, exactly, Like the biggest

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Speaker 1: It was a purposeful positive thing that you were like,

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Speaker 1: and my end in a positive lens. And again that's

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Speaker 1: not always going to be the case. Sometimes the moon's

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Speaker 1: just moaning. It's the moon is mooning, You'll be like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: having convos during the week, whether it's like with our

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Speaker 1: of asking the same questions. I have like a rolodex

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Speaker 1: basically a personality trait, which I do that all the time.

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Speaker 1: at least elaborate, like say what you've been busy with,

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Speaker 1: Like we're working on this and this is happening, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Like reframe it to be something a bit more interesting

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Speaker 1: and also something that someone can engage with, which is

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Speaker 1: one of the miniglow ups. Well, that is part of

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Speaker 1: the mini glow up and how to be a good

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Speaker 1: know if it's because that's just something that happens as

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Speaker 1: into combo or if because we spend so much more

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Speaker 1: time now like chatting online and by digital mediums. But

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Speaker 1: there was this really interesting sub stack published by Bella Dane,

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Speaker 1: and the article was titled The Art of Conversation, and

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Speaker 1: modern era. So some of the I'll link the whole

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Speaker 1: can have a read. But some of the key takeaways

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Speaker 1: was published in Stylists and they were talking about chork

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Speaker 1: snacking with a psychologist and she was saying that because

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Speaker 1: you're using short bursts of energy when you're doing chor

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Speaker 1: snacking or like the is it the five five five yes? Five? No,

431
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Speaker 1: five five five five yeah? Yeah, whether you're doing chork

432
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Speaker 1: snacking or the five five five method, you're using those

433
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Speaker 1: short bursts of energy and you're not relying on like

434
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Speaker 1: long term momentum to get stuff done, which is what

435
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 1: happens when, like you know, on a Sunday wordrobe cleaner,

436
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 1: you literally have like one cowboy boot on a sparkly fedora.

437
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Speaker 1: You're reading a letter from a journal that you wrote

438
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Speaker 1: in your password locked diary from when you're eleven, going

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Speaker 1: this is good stuff. Yeah exactly, i'maublish this and like

440
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Speaker 1: surrounded by coat hangers and like clothes that you're like,

441
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: fuck and you like have pulled everything out and you're like, well,

442
00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:08,359
Speaker 1: I have fun looking at everything. Then you gotta put

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Speaker 1: it all away and you're like, what have I done? Yeah,

444
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Speaker 1: and you're like, I have no motivation to do that.

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Speaker 1: It's actually is study. I can't remember what it is,

446
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 1: but we'll have to put in the show netes for something,

447
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:20,560
Speaker 1: and it's it is actually the amount of time you

448
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Speaker 1: have before you lose interest in a deer clutter. Oh

449
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Speaker 1: and fuck me, have I not hit that a billion

450
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Speaker 1: times in my life? No, I'm surprised we don't recognize

451
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Speaker 1: the patten. I like, I feel like the five five

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Speaker 1: five for me since I'm not a morning person. That's

453
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Speaker 1: like when I get home, like that twenty five minute.

454
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Speaker 1: I have a reminder set at seven pm every day

455
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Speaker 1: to like do my mini apartment clean, and I just

456
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Speaker 1: like put things away because when I walk in the

457
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:49,160
Speaker 1: door I'm really like a full shed shoes off, jack

458
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Speaker 1: it off, lay on the couch two minutes. Yeah, you've

459
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Speaker 1: got to do it. Yeah. And then I have like

460
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Speaker 1: the little thing being like do you twenty five minute clean?

461
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Speaker 1: And I'm like easy done, Thanks Maleka, thanks Schmelexa. I

462
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Speaker 1: real queen that one. Yeah she is. We owe her

463
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:07,720
Speaker 1: so much. She's pa. Okay. One of my go to

464
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Speaker 1: mini glow ups to make my week better is to

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Speaker 1: pay off my sleep debt. Ooh yeah. So I just

466
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Speaker 1: think that like whenever I'm having a bad week or

467
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Speaker 1: feeling a bit met like a good night's sleep is

468
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:26,920
Speaker 1: honestly the absolute cure. And I know that seems really

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Speaker 1: really obvious. So I'd heard about sleep debt before, right,

470
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Speaker 1: or like the concepts of sleep debt, but I didn't

471
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Speaker 1: really know what it was or how to calculate her

472
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Speaker 1: or what it really meant. And then recently, because I

473
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Speaker 1: wear an or a ring, they've introduced a new feature

474
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Speaker 1: in there as part of your sleep analytics that is

475
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Speaker 1: your sleep debt, and it calculates like what your sleep

476
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Speaker 1: debt is and puts it in like a I guess,

477
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Speaker 1: a chart of like low, moderate and bad danger danger zone.

478
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Speaker 1: But you're even a girl, you're a bad girl. But

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Speaker 1: even if you don't have of like a health ring

480
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Speaker 1: or some sort of tech that tracks your sleep debt

481
00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 1: for you, there is a way that you can do

482
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Speaker 1: it yourself. Essentially, you just calculate how much sleep that

483
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Speaker 1: you need. So usually for most people that would be

484
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Speaker 1: between like seven to nine hours a night. Then multiply

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Speaker 1: that by the period if you're doing it over like

486
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Speaker 1: seven days or two weeks, if you want to get

487
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Speaker 1: like an idea of how much sleep you're actually getting,

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Speaker 1: then at the end of the week or the fortnight,

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Speaker 1: look back on how much you actually slept. So maybe

490
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Speaker 1: every morning, like write down in a notepad or in

491
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Speaker 1: your notesapp how much sleep you actually got that night.

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Speaker 1: Then you would minus how much sleep you actually got

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Speaker 1: from your goal sleep and then that's your sleep debt.

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Speaker 1: So for example, like if you want to sleep nine

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Speaker 1: hours a night, but then you only slept six your

496
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Speaker 1: sleepday is three hours. Yeah, so then you know that

497
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Speaker 1: in the coming days you need to factor in three

498
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Speaker 1: additional hours of sleep to get on top of it.

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Speaker 1: And so that's what I've been trying to do. Even

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Speaker 1: just on the weekends, if I can. So if I

501
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: can see my sleep debt is an hour, then I'll

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Speaker 1: be like, Okay, I'm going to make sure I go

503
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Speaker 1: to bed an hour earlier, or I'm going to set

504
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Speaker 1: my alarm an hour later to factor that in and

505
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 1: actually being more conscious of that. So yeah, like don't

506
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Speaker 1: set an alarm sleep in on weekends, like actually make

507
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Speaker 1: the time to go to bed early, because around forty

508
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Speaker 1: percent of Australians don't get the adequate amount of sleep

509
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Speaker 1: that they actually need, which is a lot, and they

510
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:36,280
Speaker 1: Obviously sleep is like such an individual thing and there's

511
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:39,399
Speaker 1: so many different rituals that can help you with your

512
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Speaker 1: sleep hygiene. But some of the things I feel like

513
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,600
Speaker 1: has helped me because that's been like a focus for

514
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 1: me this year. And you said, just sleepy Gil now

515
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:54,199
Speaker 1: the mornings is like a real princess p that's like,

516
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Speaker 1: I really hate waking up. It doesn't matter how much

517
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Speaker 1: sleep I get, it's just it's the cute as saying

518
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,880
Speaker 1: in the world, it's just how I am. But we

519
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 1: need to prioritize our sleep in the same way that

520
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Speaker 1: we do anything else else routine. Once you start prioritizing

521
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Speaker 1: it and feeling the benefits of it. I think that

522
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Speaker 1: makes it easier and easier to get into more instead

523
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Speaker 1: of prioritizing it more. Because like, for example, this year,

524
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 1: like we've been sleeping, like I've been sleeping without my

525
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,399
Speaker 1: phone in my room, yeah, and been like oh and

526
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 1: I put it on charge and I've like fallen in

527
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Speaker 1: and out of it, But oh my god, like the

528
00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 1: difference it makes actually then keeps it going and keeps

529
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Speaker 1: that momentum. It's like when the fit people and they go, oh,

530
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Speaker 1: I didn't Actually when someone who like never used to

531
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Speaker 1: work out and they like get really into working out,

532
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 1: they go, oh, I realized how good it made me feel.

533
00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:48,880
Speaker 1: And you would get addicted to actually the result of

534
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 1: the feeling rather than the action itself. And like that's

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Speaker 1: how you prioritize things that are good for you, such

536
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: as sleep is like actually focusing on the fact that

537
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 1: you know, you do feel better during the day, you

538
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: do feel more alert, you do actually feel happier and

539
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 1: less like irritable when you have and prioritize your sleep,

540
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 1: and so identifying those things that kind of get you

541
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 1: to that result, I do think helps prioritize it a

542
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: little bit more. Yeah, exactly, And because the quality and

543
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:22,720
Speaker 1: quantity of your sleep is just as important as the consistency,

544
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 1: so aiming to have the same routine every single day. Obviously,

545
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 1: the sleep debt thing is helpful for those nights when

546
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,400
Speaker 1: you have had a shit sleep or you haven't gotten enough,

547
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: and knowing where you need to maybe step it up

548
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 1: a little bit to get more, or how you can

549
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,440
Speaker 1: factor that in. But the goal is to go to

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Speaker 1: bed and wake up at the same time every single

551
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Speaker 1: day and to get like an adequate amount in that time. Yeah,

552
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 1: and you don't need to buy a bunch of things

553
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 1: for it. We have an episode that we can link

554
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 1: in the show notes about like how to have a

555
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 1: good sleep and you don't need to like buy a

556
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:58,560
Speaker 1: bunch of things, And honestly, like you probably don't even

557
00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 1: need to go and buy a health track to get

558
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: a good sleep, Like listen to your body and exactly

559
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:08,600
Speaker 1: if you feel tired, you go to bed earlier. Yeah, yeah,

560
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: stop reading your smarty little book on your kindle to bed.

561
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,479
Speaker 1: That one's for me. I'm like, but the enemies just

562
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:18,240
Speaker 1: became lover of sleeps. Just been three hundred pages and

563
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:25,040
Speaker 1: they just dished. Okay, My next one is a ritual

564
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:30,560
Speaker 1: a beautiful moment that I think every girl listening to

565
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 1: this can recognize. And it's the midweek lower Ooh, it's

566
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Speaker 1: the midweek glob aka the fresh start effect, because your

567
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 1: nervous system has been reacting to emails, switching between tasks,

568
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:51,200
Speaker 1: processing social interactions, sitting inside on screens under pressure, and like,

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Speaker 1: I will easily get to like midweek and I'll be like,

570
00:30:54,600 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 1: I feel like a frog. Yeah, you know. But in

571
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 1: my little tappy tappy on my keyboard. For the research

572
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 1: of this episode, I've discovered the midweek glop is actually

573
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 1: good for your nervous system. Oh, it's good for your health.

574
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 1: And so I'm locked in. My motivation is there because

575
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: I'm with you, and I'm like, I can't be fucked

576
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 1: to have the everything share and I don't want to

577
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: shave and do my bakedan and wash my hair. I

578
00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: think I wringe about that seventy two times a week

579
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:28,239
Speaker 1: at least. But the midwek lop is good for your

580
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 1: nervous system because it activates your and bear with me here,

581
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:36,600
Speaker 1: parasympathetic nervous system, which is a division of the autonomic

582
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:40,840
Speaker 1: nervous system that acts as the body's rest and digest

583
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 1: system take a shot every time. I just said system,

584
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 1: which is like calming it down after stress. So it's

585
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 1: like the yeah, pat your bot bot snuggle you in kita. Yes,

586
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 1: that system. So it's activated through certain types of steps

587
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 1: in the glow up ritual like long showers, warm water,

588
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 1: slow skin care and body care. So you're literally activating

589
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: like calm mode to your body through your midweek lower Yeah,

590
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 1: it's like a physical reset, yes, being like okay, brain, yes,

591
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 1: this is the sign It's not about your brain. Yeah,

592
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 1: it's not about your brain, but yet literally it's signaling

593
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 1: to your brain that we're in calm mode through like

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00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 1: warm water, repetitive and gentle actions like shaving, moisturizing, doing

595
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 1: your ten, except for when you have to like dislocate

596
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 1: your shoulder to get the top backbit, don't worry about that.

597
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 1: Won't focus on that bit too much. That's fine. Ah,

598
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 1: But those things in that process, or like washing your

599
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 1: hair and putting your fingers in your hair are all

600
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:51,959
Speaker 1: very like calming rituals, And because it uses rhythmic and

601
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 1: repetitive actions, that's what calms your brain. Because glow ups

602
00:32:56,400 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 1: often also follow a sequence. Oh, it's all coming to

603
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 1: get it out. I've got like the red string being

604
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:07,760
Speaker 1: like and the start is like you was a frog

605
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 1: and yeah, your majesty is exhausted. Yeah, took this and

606
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:15,840
Speaker 1: this and he gave you axisen yes, because they follow

607
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 1: a sequence and off is like often it's like you know, shampoo, condition, exfoliate, shade, tan,

608
00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:26,959
Speaker 1: whatever it is, and repetitiveness and predictability. Those actions are

609
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 1: also known to be calming because they reduce uncertainty, give

610
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: your brain something steady to focus on, and they also

611
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: interrupt racing thoughts, which is the final piece of this

612
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 1: entire puzzle. I'm really taking all the day. I was

613
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 1: having so much hum when I was ready for all

614
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: They're like wow. I literally was like, everything shower isn't

615
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 1: it vanity. It's fixing my brain chemistry. Everything shower isn't vanity.

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00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 1: It's literally fixing your brain and telling your brain like you.

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Speaker 2: Are safe, Yeah you are beautiful, but yeah, so it

618
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 2: interrupts racing thoughts, similar to things like knitting, walking, or

619
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Speaker 2: even cleaning.

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00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:10,400
Speaker 1: It's because your brain and your you yourself, remove yourself

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Speaker 1: from your head and put yourself in your body. And

622
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 1: so like Grace was saying yes, so it's actually this

623
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:23,320
Speaker 1: thing called interroception, and it's basically your awareness of your body,

624
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 1: and it's strongly linked to emotional regulation because when you

625
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 1: shift attention back into your body, your thoughts tend to

626
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 1: quiet down naturally. So that's why they do often recommend,

627
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,840
Speaker 1: like even in therapy and things like that, that if you,

628
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 1: you know, are spiraling, if you're having a lot of

629
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 1: anxious thoughts, if you're like that, like that kind of life,

630
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:47,040
Speaker 1: to have a shower or go for a walk or

631
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 1: have a midweight glower. Yeah, because also not only you're

632
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:57,399
Speaker 1: not sad, but you're hot too. And with that, I'm

633
00:34:57,480 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 1: signed up for happy and hot. M oh fabulous, give

634
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 1: me twenty four of them. I want all of that.

635
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 1: And also then it just was reminding me of that

636
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 1: fact that we love that you are twenty percent hotter

637
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:14,800
Speaker 1: to everyone else, Like everyone else sees you twenty percent

638
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 1: hotter than you think you are, which I was like,

639
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 1: so imagine you do your midwig lab and you're like,

640
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:24,760
Speaker 1: that's good work for me. Add twenty percent hot GST

641
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 1: to that. And then even on the days that you're

642
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 1: like fuck, bit rough, you're still twenty percent hotter than

643
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 1: how rough you think you are the hot tax. Yeah,

644
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 1: the hot tax, but like you don't pay it. Yeah,

645
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:43,520
Speaker 1: you're just hot, You're just reaping the dividends. Yes, And

646
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,399
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear any she about hair life.

647
00:35:45,400 --> 00:35:47,120
Speaker 1: It's not about being hot. When you look good, you

648
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:50,200
Speaker 1: feel good, and that's all that is exactly. That's why

649
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 1: this episode is that it's not all about that. But

650
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 1: come on, don't lie to me, you know, and you

651
00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:00,720
Speaker 1: feel good, you're walking out kicking a door off its hinges.

652
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 1: Because even know if that was English then but how

653
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: like are you like, I'm gonna go home, I'm gonna

654
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 1: wash my hair, do my tin, and I'm gonna wear

655
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 1: something that I really like tomorrow. Yeah, because the midweek,

656
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 1: like everything, shower form, it feels like a chore. But

657
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: we need to reframe it as a ritual. Yes, because

658
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 1: when I do it, I'm like, okay, I've got the

659
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 1: shampoo in, and then I'm shaving my legs really quickly,

660
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:27,439
Speaker 1: and then I'm like doing my cleans at the same

661
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 1: time I'm washing my conditioner out, and it's like, bitch,

662
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 1: slow down, like put on an audio book, put on

663
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 1: Harry Potter. Actually you don't do that, You'll fall asleep

664
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: in the show. Yeah exactly, but like put on a

665
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 1: TV show or something like, really lean into the ritual

666
00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:47,399
Speaker 1: of it and the relaxing nature of it. Yeah, sometimes

667
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 1: they're gonna be like, oh, I can't be bothered, don't worry,

668
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:51,959
Speaker 1: No one's standing there going no, no, go get hot

669
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:53,759
Speaker 1: right now. You don't have to do it if you

670
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:56,960
Speaker 1: don't want to. Yeah, but I was just like, wow,

671
00:36:57,239 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 1: this makes sense and you never regret it. You never

672
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: wake up in the morning going oh no, I washed

673
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 1: my hair and fake tan and exactly moisturized and boohoo. Yeah,

674
00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 1: you wake up and you're like, good job, bitch, good job.

675
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 1: That's why they pee you the big bucked. Yeah. It's

676
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 1: another example of things that future thank you for. Obviously. God,

677
00:37:22,160 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 1: I'm glad I did that. Yes, sa, Yeah, I like that.

678
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 1: It kind of relates to my next mini glow up.

679
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: They're like beauty glowers for instant results. Oh so cheek code. Obviously,

680
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:38,319
Speaker 1: there's a lot of skincare products and things out there

681
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:41,040
Speaker 1: that truly will work their magic over weeks and months.

682
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: But when you're feeling a bit on a Wednesday morning,

683
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear that. I want makeover moment. Yeah,

684
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 1: makeover montage two thousands, rom com MEA's for the Princess

685
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 1: of Genovia. Blow up that I can do on a

686
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: wheen day morning that isn't going to take me forever. Yeah,

687
00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:04,839
Speaker 1: this is going to look different for everybody. But some

688
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:08,360
Speaker 1: easy go tos that I will do when I'm feeling

689
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 1: a bit in the morning is depuffing the eye area.

690
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so like eye patches that I put in

691
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 1: the fridge, or the like globes that you can run

692
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 1: over your eyes, or even just using spoons, Like that's

693
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 1: what I used to do early times, Like if I

694
00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 1: knew that I'd had like a late night or something,

695
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 1: I just like chuck a couple of spoons in the

696
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:32,720
Speaker 1: freezer and feeling the feeling of it. In my auths.

697
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 1: They also have these things called hangover masks. Yeah, but

698
00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:39,839
Speaker 1: you can get on that amazon in the freezer and

699
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 1: then they're like a sleeve and yeah, they're like a mask,

700
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 1: but it doesn't freeze freeze. It just goes really cool.

701
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:47,640
Speaker 1: Then you put it over your face and it feels

702
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 1: so good. Yeah, it feels so good, and it constricts

703
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 1: the blood vessels around your eyes, which can help reduce

704
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 1: the signs of like dark circles or puffiness. And it

705
00:38:57,480 --> 00:38:59,640
Speaker 1: is just like a splash of cold water on your

706
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: face and instantly wakes you up. So I like to

707
00:39:01,640 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 1: put those on in the morning after I've done my

708
00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 1: skin care and like while I'm doing my hair, and

709
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 1: it like slowly wakes me up. Using a body oil

710
00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 1: or shimmer, I love that we're getting the shimmers back

711
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:18,320
Speaker 1: because we should be moisturizing our bodies every single morning anyway.

712
00:39:18,760 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 1: But I love that there're a moisturize your body this morning. Yeah.

713
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: I didn't use the body shimmer though, because I was

714
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:28,520
Speaker 1: basically head to toe, but yeah I did. If I'm

715
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 1: showing more of the depletage, then I'd be using an oil.

716
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 1: I did a top half fakedin. That's all I did. Clever,

717
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: I said, well, I'm wearing jeans. I'm not gonna worry

718
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:39,919
Speaker 1: about that. That's also another one, just doing the top

719
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:42,400
Speaker 1: half and like a chance fake off to the top half.

720
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: We're good to go. No one needs to see. No

721
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 1: one's gonna know. They can use their imagination exactly what

722
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 1: don or done, or don't or don't. But I do

723
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 1: really love using a body oil. Or one with a

724
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,120
Speaker 1: shimmer in it, and there are so many out there, Like,

725
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 1: it's definitely a trending product at the moment. You know

726
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 1: what I'm really getting into at the moment. Body milks.

727
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so we've seen, you know, the milky tonas

728
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 1: that are trending and going all over Tiki taki, whether

729
00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 1: it's the road one, whether it's the Bubble one, there's heat.

730
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 1: I am loving using the like a milky toner, but

731
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 1: it's just a body milk, and you can get whatever

732
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:26,960
Speaker 1: brand you like. There's the one that I'm using at

733
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: the moment is the one from Banging Body, but you

734
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 1: can use it on your face and your body life hack,

735
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: life heck, because it's formulated with your face in mind first.

736
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 1: But I just use it everywhere. But i'd probably moving forward,

737
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:43,919
Speaker 1: get one that's your body that's maybe like a bigger tub,

738
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 1: so it's a little bit more cost efficient, But I

739
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 1: love it because it soaks in so quickly, whereas with moistures,

740
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:57,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, get in happy. Yeah, I've always love a

741
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:02,160
Speaker 1: body oil, especially in the shower. Yeah, totally. Also face

742
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 1: masks that focus on hydration. So we spoke about the

743
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 1: BioMA one, but I also love like the Loop hydration

744
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: masks and the skin control one that went viral, Like

745
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,320
Speaker 1: if you do want something that you're gonna wear overnight

746
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:17,080
Speaker 1: or for like three hours in the evening, that one

747
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 1: is really good because I do feel like all three

748
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:22,760
Speaker 1: of those products. I do see my skin looking visibly

749
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:25,359
Speaker 1: more hydrated, and I'm like, I want the dopamine hit

750
00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 1: of like it weren't. I'm beautiful, nobody will recognize me, yeah, exactly.

751
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: And also tending to your eyebrows. Oh yeah, like whatever

752
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:38,359
Speaker 1: that is for you. If it's like lamination eyebrows at

753
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:41,360
Speaker 1: home now, I love it. Have a little pot I

754
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:43,960
Speaker 1: just put on the stove. Love, I just give them

755
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:51,360
Speaker 1: a good and the beast was done. It's the brows,

756
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:53,880
Speaker 1: brows or the beast, you know what I love? What

757
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 1: like is not a weekly one but derma planing, and

758
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,080
Speaker 1: I might get into it because I know some people

759
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 1: say you shouldn't do that to yourself, but I always

760
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 1: use like a clean blade, yeah, and always also be

761
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:13,479
Speaker 1: careful because it's sharp, and have cut myself zones. But yeah,

762
00:42:13,520 --> 00:42:17,200
Speaker 1: I love because I'm Italian, I have a fair amount

763
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:19,960
Speaker 1: more peach fuzz than you do, so you know, and

764
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:23,359
Speaker 1: it's also just a whatever you presser personal pres right,

765
00:42:23,719 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 1: But my makeup sits so fucking good When I dermo

766
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:31,879
Speaker 1: plane my skin, it's insane, Like I can absolutely tell

767
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:35,799
Speaker 1: the difference. Yeah, every single time. Yeah, ten out of ten.

768
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 1: And it also exfoliates your skin. So when you derm

769
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:40,400
Speaker 1: a plane, not only does it kind of get rid

770
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 1: of the peach fuzz, but it you know, gets rid

771
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 1: of the dead layer of skin cells as well. So

772
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:49,839
Speaker 1: that's also why your skin looks so glowy. But make

773
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:52,279
Speaker 1: sure you do research, watch you tutorial, and do not

774
00:42:52,760 --> 00:42:56,960
Speaker 1: come for me if anything happens. Exactly disclaim this is

775
00:42:57,000 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: not financial beauty advice. Yeah, but like I said, all

776
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:06,240
Speaker 1: of these things are really really personal, like derma plaining example,

777
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:12,280
Speaker 1: but like you love doing like a lip tint for example,

778
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,839
Speaker 1: or like your lashes, So like just knowing what those

779
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 1: things are and making them like quick and easy so

780
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 1: that you're like, Okay, I know that probably at some

781
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 1: point in the middle of the week, I'm like, God,

782
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,439
Speaker 1: I can't be fucked. But even if I don't put

783
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 1: any makeup on, I always brush up my eyebrows one

784
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 1: and it instantly makes me feel better. Mine's mine's like

785
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:39,040
Speaker 1: a spritz of a face tand exactly, yeah, yeah, I

786
00:43:39,080 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 1: put the Eco face hand in like a little spray

787
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: bottle and I just sprits my face in that, and

788
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I don't look like a sick Victorian

789
00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 1: child anymore. We're back. We are so bad. We're so bad,

790
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:52,239
Speaker 1: so we need a quick fix, quick fit slot for

791
00:43:52,280 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 1: a quick fix. And I've always said that put that

792
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 1: shit on shirt, put that shit on shirt. I love

793
00:43:57,560 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 1: a placebo. We do. I love a placebo. Okay, My

794
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 1: final one is very quick, but and we did discuss

795
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:07,760
Speaker 1: this earlier in the year, but it's basically my friendly

796
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 1: reminder to put into your miniglow up routine, and it's

797
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 1: to source good news. So dedicate ten minutes, you know,

798
00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 1: per day if you can to just making sure you

799
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:24,400
Speaker 1: also focus on the good in the world. There is

800
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:29,440
Speaker 1: a lot going on, and it is very very easy

801
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 1: to get news burnout and to think, oh my god,

802
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:37,359
Speaker 1: like what the fuck is going on? Yeah, I feel you,

803
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:41,480
Speaker 1: but have time put aside to help prevent you going

804
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:45,520
Speaker 1: down rabbit holes and getting caught in a doom skull trap.

805
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 1: Because social media platforms and algorithms prioritize negative and scare

806
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:56,040
Speaker 1: content like they prioritize that stuff. That's what goes viral,

807
00:44:56,120 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 1: that's what is trending. And a lot of news outlets

808
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 1: will even just write clickbaity articles like that because you're

809
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,879
Speaker 1: more likely to click on it if you're like, oh

810
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:10,120
Speaker 1: my god, is the world ending? I should probably know

811
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 1: about that. So all of these articles have that tone

812
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:18,600
Speaker 1: to them when really that's not the case for that scenario,

813
00:45:18,920 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: you know. And so by really intentionally trying to find

814
00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 1: good news in your day or in your week if

815
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:29,680
Speaker 1: you can, it really does help you kind of just

816
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 1: keep moving, keep tracking. Not saying you need to bury

817
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 1: your head in the sand at all, but you do

818
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 1: need to have a balance of the news that you're

819
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: getting and making sure that you get it from reputable

820
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:45,799
Speaker 1: sources and not just on social media. You can sign

821
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 1: up to newsletters, you know, also buying some fun magazines

822
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:54,759
Speaker 1: like Love a Man, Love Slipping through a mag I

823
00:45:54,760 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 1: love slipping through a mad I'm gonna buy a magazine.

824
00:45:57,200 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 3: I'm going to buy a magazine.

825
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:02,319
Speaker 1: Should we go? Yeah, there's a new agency throat. I'm

826
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:03,000
Speaker 1: gonna get Zoo.

827
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, I'm gonna buy that like that's not

828
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:18,200
Speaker 3: everyone in Australia when that's basically Playboy, the Bogan version

829
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 3: of Playboy magazine.

830
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 1: We love a mag, bring back the Nudi mag, Bring

831
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:24,680
Speaker 1: back the nudy mag. But also I want like a

832
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 1: total girl yeah as well, might pick up like a

833
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 1: Frankie mag. Let's see, we'll have a browse. You're so indy.

834
00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:36,399
Speaker 1: I'm a dolly girl. Yeah, I love dolly girlfriend, love

835
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: it all, bring it back. No, I completely agree with that.

836
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 1: We can put a link to some of our like

837
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 1: go to sources of good news in the show notes,

838
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:47,439
Speaker 1: so your chicks can have some inspo on where to start. Yeah.

839
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 1: ABC News has a section on their website for good news.

840
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: There's a good News app, which is a nonprofit based

841
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:56,920
Speaker 1: app that shares stories about positive development. There's also on

842
00:46:57,000 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 1: social media on Instagram, Good Good, Good co which and

843
00:47:00,560 --> 00:47:03,479
Speaker 1: The Daily As has also started rolling out a good

844
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 1: news that happened this week And it's got a little

845
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 1: rhino on the front slide of it that I do enjoy.

846
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:10,880
Speaker 1: That might have just been that one. Maybe there was

847
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,840
Speaker 1: a rhino story. Yeah, but I did enjoy seeing you,

848
00:47:13,960 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 1: Yeah I did, so you know, Yeah, I love that

849
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Speaker 1: because we're also like three to four months into the year,

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Speaker 1: we're getting into it. I think some of the sparkle

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Speaker 1: of New Year, New me has, you know, worn off

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Speaker 1: a little bit. Yeah, and we did ask you chicks,

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Speaker 1: like how you were feeling, Like we're a quarter of

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Speaker 1: the way into the year, how's everyone going, Yeah, hey,

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Speaker 1: go mental health check, mental health check, And only fifteen

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00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 1: percent of your chicks said you were thriving. And the

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Speaker 1: majority of you chicks did say that you were getting by.

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Speaker 1: So I think everybody's yeah, we're the majority of us

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Speaker 1: are doing okay. But I do hope that this episode

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Speaker 1: can help you introduce some of those rituals for having

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Speaker 1: some more joy in your week and things that like,

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Speaker 1: don't you don't have to completely rehaul your life because

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Speaker 1: we're also we're not promoting like toxic positivity here, but

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Speaker 1: it's like, whether you're going through a rough time or

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Speaker 1: you're just feeling weighed down by what's going on in

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Speaker 1: the world, that we need to make time for that,

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Speaker 1: whether it is the new cycle or just the work

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Speaker 1: week or something rough does happen in your life, Like

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Speaker 1: we're all going to go through bad times, but it's

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Speaker 1: so much easier to get through it if we've been

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Speaker 1: prioritizing the good around some of those shitty times as well.

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Speaker 1: So we wanted to wrap the episode by asking you, chicks,

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Speaker 1: the things that you do for your own miniglow ups

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Speaker 1: during the week. Quite a few of you said pilates, makeup,

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Speaker 1: and skincare. Someone said once a month, I do the

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Speaker 1: full body ritual, but the key is a full bottle

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Speaker 1: of wine in the shower. Can I come? Wow? That inappropriate?

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Speaker 1: Would you feel comfortable if I joined you? That is amazing?

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Speaker 1: But also be safe? Yeah, exactly. Make sure you've got

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Speaker 1: one of those grippy pads on the on a movie

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Speaker 1: shower at your bars so you're like, okay. Next one

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Speaker 1: is like having a coffee before the kids wake up,

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Speaker 1: or asked our boyfriends and cats. Yeah, reading books instead

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00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 1: of doom scrowling obviously, love that, beach walks and dancing

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Speaker 1: in the kitchen, keep me sane, love that, Oh that's

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Speaker 1: so cute. Deleting all social media off my phone for

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Speaker 1: a week, cool slagh and eight hours of sleep. M yeah,

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Speaker 1: ten out of ten. I think a lot of these.

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Speaker 1: It's so like, you know, we have moving your body, journaling,

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Speaker 1: touching grass, washing my hair. And it's so so key

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Speaker 1: into me time and just prioritizing the time that you're

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Speaker 1: spending with yourself. Every single one of these is a

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Speaker 1: solo act that is your mini glow up of the week.

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Speaker 1: That it's basically just prioritizing yourself and enjoying spending time

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Speaker 1: with yourself, And like, how often are you actually doing that?

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Speaker 1: Because when we told you, chicks, majority of women spend

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Speaker 1: less than thirty minutes a day on me time, which

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Speaker 1: call me selfish, but that is not enough. No, I

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Speaker 1: need at least two hours about me, men and mem

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Speaker 1: not including anyone else. Yeah, I he's feel like two

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Speaker 1: hours by myself. Your life is your life, and you're

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Speaker 1: not only spending thirty minutes or less of your day

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Speaker 1: on you and I get people have kids, that's like

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Speaker 1: a different story. That's a different story. Of course, put

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Speaker 1: their bedtime earlier, hear me out, If they go to

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Speaker 1: bed at like three pm, you've got the whole line

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Speaker 1: to just enjoy yourself. Well, chicks, That is a wrap

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Speaker 1: for today's episode of two rough Checks. Thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for having us in your ear holes. We love

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Speaker 1: to be here and we'll catch you on Thursday. See

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Speaker 1: you on Thursday. Bane Give you

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Speaker 2: May say