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Speaker 1: Everyone, it's Carly Taylor here for this week's Mojo Monday.

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Speaker 1: I was reading an article recently by a writer named

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Speaker 1: Freyer India, and one line really stood out for me.

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Speaker 1: So she said, it takes courage not to explain everything,

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Speaker 1: to release control and to resist that impulse to turn inwards.

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Speaker 1: So that line really resonated with me because so much

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Speaker 1: of our modern life encourages us to do the opposite.

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Speaker 1: We're constantly told to find the reason, to understand our triggers,

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Speaker 1: to get to the root of every uncomfortable feeling, to

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Speaker 1: solve our emotions. But what if we don't need to

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Speaker 1: explain or solve everything, What if we just need to

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Speaker 1: sit with being human. So in Japanese psychology and especially

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Speaker 1: in Marita therapy, there's this liberating idea that our feelings

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Speaker 1: don't need to be fixed or fully understood. And the

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Speaker 1: most relatable way to explain this in Western terms is

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Speaker 1: that they simply not so simply, but it is kind

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Speaker 1: of a simple term, and it simply need to be accepted.

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Speaker 1: So emotions are part of the natural rhythm of being alive.

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Speaker 1: They rise, they fall, they change, And there's that beautiful

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Speaker 1: word in Japanese psychology called arugamama, which roughly translates to

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Speaker 1: accept life as it is, and the Stoics talked about

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Speaker 1: this as well. They talked about the art of acquiescence,

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Speaker 1: which is to surrender to that to which you cannot control.

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Speaker 1: So that means accepting your sadness as it is, your

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Speaker 1: anxiety as it is, and still live your life, doing

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Speaker 1: what needs to be done while these emotions are still there.

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Speaker 1: So you can cry and still hear the sound of

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Speaker 1: a bird, you can feel anxious and still show up

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Speaker 1: for the people that you love. You can feel uncertain

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Speaker 1: and still take that one small, purposeful step forward. There's

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Speaker 1: a whole world out there that exists beyond you, and

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Speaker 1: that's not to invalidate how you feel at all, but

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Speaker 1: it's to remind you that your emotions are only one

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Speaker 1: part of what is happening right now. Life is ever evolving,

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Speaker 1: ever changing. The sadness, the anxiety, the confusion, They come

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Speaker 1: and they go, and we spend so much time trying

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Speaker 1: to find the answers to every feeling, kidding ourselves that

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Speaker 1: if we just figure it out, will stop feeling this way.

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Speaker 1: But it doesn't work like that, and in the meantime,

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Speaker 1: we use up so much energy trying to understand ourselves,

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Speaker 1: and then we forget to live. So while we're analyzing,

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Speaker 1: life keeps unfolding. The sky changes color, the kettle boils,

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Speaker 1: somebody smiles at us, and we miss it because we're

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Speaker 1: waiting for the day that everything feels okay. So Maria

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Speaker 1: therapy teaches us that feelings can take care of themselves

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Speaker 1: when we take care of our lives, we don't have

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Speaker 1: to wrestle with every emotion. We can act in alignment

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Speaker 1: with our purpose and alignment with our values, and let

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Speaker 1: the rest ebb and flow. And in that same article,

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Speaker 1: Freyer wrote this amazing line. So she said, after a

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Speaker 1: lifetime spent trying to explain themselves, a generation might realize

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Speaker 1: that the only problem they had all along was being human.

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Speaker 1: And maybe that's the whole point. To feel deeply, to

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Speaker 1: not make perfect sense of every emotion and still keep living.

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Speaker 1: So this week, give yourself permission not to have an

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Speaker 1: explanation for everything that you feel, Allow your emotions to

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Speaker 1: come and go. Focus on your purpose in that moment,

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Speaker 1: no matter how small or insignificant it seems. Look up

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Speaker 1: to the sky, look around, see what's right there in

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Speaker 1: front of you and let the world remind you that

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Speaker 1: there's more to life than what you feel inside and

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Speaker 1: you don't need to figure it all out to keep

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Speaker 1: moving forward. So thanks for listening to this week's My

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Speaker 1: Joe Monday, and I will catch you next week. Sea