WEBVTT - We Took A Relationship Compatibility Test 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.759 This podcast was recorded on the land of the Gatigel 0:00:02.759 --> 0:00:04.120 people of the Eura Nation. 0:00:16.720 --> 0:00:18.919 Oh my god, guys, welcome back to another week on 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:22.720 the pub. Wherever you are, whatever you're doing means a 0:00:22.720 --> 0:00:25.080 lot that you're still tuning in with Jad's intros every 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:25.720 week because you know. 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:27.560 What I'd like, Yeah, oh my god, I'd like a 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:30.080 board like you know on live radio, how they have 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:32.280 boards with buttons and you can press. 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:39.800 Like a soundboard. Yes, use with friends to prank call people, 0:00:40.479 --> 0:00:42.640 so they'd be like a soundboard and it would be 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:46.239 all these you know, pre recorded but it's essentially like 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:48.800 there was a man, for example, where did this one 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:51.440 on our friends on our friend's dad, and it was 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:54.600 it was the soundboard was called like my neighbor stole 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:57.120 my newspaper, and it was all these perfect lines being 0:00:57.200 --> 0:00:59.640 like being like, hey, it's your neighbor. And then the 0:00:59.680 --> 0:01:01.480 person go like, yeah, what do you want, Dave, And 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:03.040 you'd be like you'd click a but it and go 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:04.319 why are you stealing my newspaper? 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:05.039 And we had this. 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:06.679 I had a conversation I remember with one of my 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:10.280 friends dads using the soundboard only and he went mentally 0:01:11.240 --> 0:01:13.839 he was like, fuck you Dave, I didn't steal your paper, 0:01:13.880 --> 0:01:16.120 you idiot, like shut up, like and I was like, 0:01:16.120 --> 0:01:22.039 oh my god, like I've created relationship. But yeah, soundboards 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:24.000 are great. That being said, I was like sixteen at 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:25.240 the time, guys, so give me. 0:01:25.200 --> 0:01:27.840 A break anyway. I just I wanted a few buttons 0:01:27.840 --> 0:01:28.840 to press for the intro. 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:32.760 Of the pot. Yeah, mainly you my newspaper, Dave. Yeah, yeah, 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:34.560 any particular ones or you think you'd need. 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:39.840 I like that DJ sound that I just did. 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:41.160 Like like in a sitcom, like fake laughter every time 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:41.480 you made it. 0:01:41.760 --> 0:01:44.600 Yeah that I'd love that. Love fake laughter. I'd love 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:49.080 like a cash noise that'd be good, and like one. 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.480 I'd love one. We should do an episode one day 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:54.440 where I just have the board. I think that would 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:55.400 be really funny. 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:58.000 Wait, so there's no talking, that's just you pressing sound. 0:01:58.040 --> 0:01:59.800 No. No, we're having our usual pot and then you 0:01:59.880 --> 0:02:01.360 might say something and then I might. 0:02:01.240 --> 0:02:03.720 Go, why don't you just do it with your I mean, 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:06.080 we can just put that in the edit when we 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:06.440 do it. 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:09.480 No, but it's what I feel. It needs to be live. 0:02:09.600 --> 0:02:11.440 You need to hear me pressing the button, and everyone 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:13.160 in the room needs to hear it. At that exact time. 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:14.400 That would be magical. 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:18.240 I'm so excited. We'll see if we can make that work. Anyway, guys, 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:21.320 I went out on the weekend for the first time 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:25.000 in a really, really long time, and I got to 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:27.720 tell you, like, as thirty one year old woman, it 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:30.320 was kind of scary. I'm not gonna lie. I'm very 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.720 used to my creature comforts now, you know, Like I 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:35.960 finished the night usually like on the couch, maybe I'm 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:38.440 watching something, I'm eating my food that I like, I'm 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:41.639 scrolling TikTok whatever. That's kind of my routine now. And 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:44.440 I had this idea that going out would be like 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:46.519 I don't know, I think I had rose colored glasses 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:49.560 on of like all my memories of being eighteen and clubbing, 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:51.880 and I thought it was I just thought it was 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:54.400 going to be like that, and it was just so different. 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:57.000 I think that, like the starters, my feet were hurting 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:58.800 by eight pm. 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:00.919 Tell them what time dinner reservation was? 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:03.320 Oh my god. So just for context, it was my 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:07.280 friend's hands. It was a three part day. We did lunch, 0:03:07.520 --> 0:03:09.960 we did dinner, sorry, four part we did dinner, we 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:13.640 did pres and then we also went out clubbing and 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:15.680 so I did all of it. I did the whole day, 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:19.679 went home and went home for like an hour and 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:23.960 a half just to change between lunch and pres But 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:26.320 our dinner reservation wasn't until I think it was eight 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:29.799 forty five pm. However, a lot of us didn't get 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:33.239 to the actual reservation until much later, after a few 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:35.080 of the girls had gone and set up and everything, 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:38.360 so we didn't get there until I think. We also 0:03:38.360 --> 0:03:40.520 couldn't find a park because we didn't realize Bloody Vivid 0:03:40.600 --> 0:03:43.800 was on, so there was really heinoused traffic and all 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:46.960 the parks were taken in the city, so we didn't 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:49.560 get to dinner until like nine thirty nine forty even, 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:54.600 which means that it was a very late dinner service. 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:58.360 I usually eat dinner at five pm, five pm, so 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:00.839 that was a late dinner for me. Mains came out 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:05.960 at I think it was maybe like eleven, maybe even later. 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.440 So I'm not telling us much about what it was 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:11.119 like to go out as a thirty one year old woman. 0:04:11.160 --> 0:04:12.120 You're just telling us what time. 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:14.720 You asked about the dinner reservation, So I'm wrapping that 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:21.599 up anyway. So so firstly, I didn't know people ate 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:24.400 that late, did you. I had no idea people were 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:26.280 in the city eating food that late. 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.599 I kind of knew that eating times for people was 0:04:29.680 --> 0:04:30.239 just different. 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:32.360 Like, well, no, because I've been to You've been. I've 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:35.040 been to Europe, where like nine pm dinner reservation is normal, 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:38.719 but this restaurant was packed at like nine ten eleven still, 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:41.120 like every table was full. It was that was crazy 0:04:41.160 --> 0:04:45.000 to me. Firstly, Secondly, I went when we went out afterwards, 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:48.919 we got there, we actually had a table. However, again, 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.320 because I moved my car, it took me ages to 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:53.440 actually get into the club. It was like one fifteen 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:56.120 at this point, Like that's was it one fifteen? Yet, 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:59.160 that's how late we got into the actual club, one 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:02.920 fifteen am. I used to go out and sometimes I 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:05.800 would be going home by two am, So like that 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:08.120 was a really crazy time for me to be arriving 0:05:08.160 --> 0:05:09.880 at a club as a thirty one year old mother. 0:05:10.279 --> 0:05:12.760 Did that feel like the difference? So like back in 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:15.000 the day, you used to be a bit of a 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:19.520 hood rat club rat, sure, right, and you'd walk up 0:05:19.520 --> 0:05:23.039 to the doors and you'd just be this single, no 0:05:23.160 --> 0:05:26.760 responsibility woman. I'm saying, how did that feel walking into 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:31.320 this environment? And knowing that probably most people they're doing 0:05:31.360 --> 0:05:34.240 that are probably like the old you sort of like 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:38.160 you knows single no, but I'm more so like maybe 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:40.919 like show two kids at home and responsibility in a 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:45.480 different mindset, like how did that like affect your ability 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:47.600 to relax, enjoy or you know, like were you thinking 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:48.880 about it or was it? Kind of like the. 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:50.680 Club we went to was actually a bit of an 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:53.960 older crowd and there are actually plenty of people who 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:56.320 were older than me, So that was surprising because I 0:05:56.360 --> 0:05:59.320 didn't know what to expect from that, and that I liked, 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:01.440 actually felt like right there. I wasn't like, I didn't 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:02.960 feel like the old d I felt like just a 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:04.880 normal person, so that was nice. It wasn't like we 0:06:04.920 --> 0:06:07.480 went to, you know, a teeny bopper club where half 0:06:07.520 --> 0:06:09.839 the people were underage, so that made me feel okay. 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:12.160 And then the music was good also because it was 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:15.080 obviously catering to the crowd who was there. However, we 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:17.360 got there so late that people were already piling out, 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:20.760 like the club was emptying. It was like winding down. 0:06:20.800 --> 0:06:22.599 People were leaving to go home for the night. So 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:24.719 that was like a bit a little bit sad, but 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:27.360 one thing that really shocked me. Okay, Harry Styles has 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:31.640 recently brought out this song. It's called DJs Don't Dance 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:34.000 no More, They Sit And I when I heard that song, 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:36.200 I was like, that's crazy, Like DJs can't be sitting 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:40.719 that's literally insane. The DJ was sitting the whole time 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:45.280 on a stool, scrolling TikTok the whole time. 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:47.279 How do you know? Like, how do you know? 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:49.680 She was right next to she was right next to 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:52.320 the booth, and we could see over her shoulder and 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:55.039 she was sitting down, not engaging with the audience, not 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:57.840 seeing if anyone was enjoying the music. Mind you, I 0:06:57.880 --> 0:07:01.200 don't think anyone was actually really dancing, and she was 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:04.880 scrolling TikTok. And I was shocked that that song had 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:07.719 some truth to it, and I was like, this is insane. 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:10.119 Like when I used to go out clubbing, the DJ 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:14.200 was the mood setter. He was like, or she was 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:16.320 the reason that everyone in the club was having a 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:18.160 great time. You had to read the room like if 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:20.640 people aren't enjoying this song, switch it up. You got 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:22.760 to be ready to change that song straight away. If 0:07:22.800 --> 0:07:25.160 you're fifteen seconds in and the dance for is clearing 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:26.200 you've put the wrong song on? 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:28.360 Is it even DJing if you just press play and 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:28.720 sit there? 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:29.560 Well, that's what I mean. 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:30.640 Like, I'm like, I can do that. 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:32.840 This is a really imperative role in a club. And 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:34.480 then we've got people who are sitting down on stool 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:36.320 scrolling TikTok. I just found that a little bit, like 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:37.280 that's crazy to me. 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:39.720 I've actually seen that in other professions as well, which 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:44.000 I think is wild to me, especially like a service profession. 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:47.640 So I like herround the gym, no surprise, I'm always 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:49.800 around like personal trainers and stuff. It isn't like we've 0:07:49.800 --> 0:07:52.200 spoken about it, right, So when I'm at the gym, 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:55.840 I always see personal trainers like you're one on one 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:59.200 with someone one you maybe let's say between ninety and 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:01.760 one hundred and five dollars an hour to have your 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:04.200 like attention, like watch my form, tell me what you yeah, 0:08:04.240 --> 0:08:05.400 communicate with me, talk to me. 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:07.960 Whatever it is to kind of like. 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:12.080 Fairly, it's unbelievably yeah. And sometimes I see them and 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:15.040 they're like scrolling social media as well while their client 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:16.720 is like half a meter away from them to being 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:19.640 an exercise, and I'm like surely you can give this 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:21.960 person who's paying you one hundred and thirty bucks an 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:23.480 hour you're undivided to. 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:24.400 Make sure they're doing something right. 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:27.240 One hour. Yeah, you know like that, And because I 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.280 just think to myself, like if my client looked up 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:31.160 and saw me doing that, I'd be so embarrassed, you 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:33.040 know what I mean. Like, but it seems like just 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:35.240 normal now, Like as you said, like there's someone at 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:38.320 a club probably being paid like, you know, coundter bucks 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:39.800 an hour to do this job, and they're just sitting 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:40.600 there nonchalant. 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:41.120 Yeah. 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:43.160 So yeah, I think it's like I see that a 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:45.400 bit now, and it's it's not nice to it's nice 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:45.760 to see. 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.600 So anyway, look, I thought i'd really miss clubbing and 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:51.120 i'd be like really excited to do that more like 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:52.760 I don't know. I thought it would maybe re spark 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:56.120 something in me. It didn't. I was so tired. I 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:58.240 was like, no, this is not for me anymore. Like 0:08:58.280 --> 0:09:05.320 I've really outgrown this. Maybe daytime clubbing Europe on a. 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:08.720 Table that could be on a table. 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:10.360 Oh you know, you're dancing on a table. We're having 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:12.200 a good time with your girlfriends. It's sonny, you've got 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:13.200 a drink in your hand. 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:15.520 Dance on the table. Just dance on the floor. 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:17.839 No, the table's part of it. Oh, that's part of 0:09:17.840 --> 0:09:18.160 the fun. 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:20.720 You like eating at the table, not dance. 0:09:20.800 --> 0:09:22.800 You eat and then you stand up, come on, get 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:28.360 with the program. So yeah, basically, what I've deduced is 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:30.560 that part of my life is very much behind me, 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:32.840 and I think I think going out made me realize 0:09:32.840 --> 0:09:33.679 that I'm glad it is. 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:36.520 I'm happy for you because you weren't good the next 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:39.199 day either. You just lay on the couch all day and. 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:40.959 You're making me sound very catch potato we. 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:43.720 Well, as in when you were gone all of Saturday, right, 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:45.440 which is fine, like it have a great you need 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:47.640 a recovery day the next day. I was like, well, 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:49.200 I didn't know i'd be losing you for the next 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:49.679 day as well. 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:53.320 Well you should You were a doorman at a club. 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:54.000 You should have known. 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:56.640 So that was that was great for me. So if 0:09:56.640 --> 0:09:58.360 you're not a fan of the going out thing, that's 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:01.079 that's perfect. Welcome back to land of living. With that, 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:12.920 let's get stuck in. As some of you may know, 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:16.520 Jad and I obviously recently went overseas. Now before we 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:20.400 went overseas, life was a bit chaotic with obviously the 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:22.560 things going on, you know, a few things going on 0:10:22.600 --> 0:10:24.760 with us. We didn't really have much time, i would say, 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:26.880 for each other even on the trip, you know, like 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:29.760 you're kind of just managing, you know, one child each 0:10:29.760 --> 0:10:31.920 at a time, quite separate. We didn't really have much 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:35.480 much us time. Yeah, and so when we got home, 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:37.800 we kind of realized that we, you know, probably been 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:41.960 neglecting each other a little bit, to which our producers 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:43.520 and I thought that it would it was the time 0:10:43.559 --> 0:10:46.720 to strike and make us do a relationship compatibility test, 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:49.560 which is really really kind of him. So yeah, pretty much, 0:10:49.600 --> 0:10:52.640 Jad and I have completed this relationship compatibility test on 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:53.040 our own. 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:55.400 I used to do these in school all the time 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:59.320 with my crushes, really crushes. I put my name in 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:00.680 with them, see if compatible. 0:11:00.720 --> 0:11:02.960 Oh okay, this one's a little bit more detailed. 0:11:04.160 --> 0:11:07.880 Listeners. Yeah, So there was forty questions total, and it 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:13.640 is from the Reconnection Institute and it's the Relationship Satisfaction Scale. 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:14.920 So you can go to the website and you can 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:16.720 do it yourselves and then spring it on your partner 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:18.800 as well and see if you are compatible. But you 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:21.360 do it individually, and then it gives you a score 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:26.000 individually based on if you're compatible or not. So I've 0:11:26.000 --> 0:11:29.400 got Jada and Locke both to do the test separately 0:11:29.440 --> 0:11:35.000 and not share their scores. And I've plucked some questions 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:37.280 from the forty questions today I'm going to put to 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:40.600 you to just discuss between yourselves. 0:11:40.920 --> 0:11:43.640 I'm scared and I actually, I actually dare say that. 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:47.200 I think that's the best part about these, Like I 0:11:47.200 --> 0:11:50.040 don't I don't, you know, let's just say Jad and I. 0:11:50.400 --> 0:11:53.240 You know, hypothetically we get a poor number, or you 0:11:53.280 --> 0:11:54.480 do it with your partner and get a poor number. 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:56.320 I don't know if it's like it's not like a 0:11:56.360 --> 0:11:58.800 final verdict, like if you get a poor number, like 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:00.760 leave your partner, like things I'm going to work. There's 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:02.720 so many other factors that come into place, like with 0:12:03.120 --> 0:12:06.360 a successful relationship. But I do think like going through 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:10.440 the forty questions, it was like really good, like thought starters, 0:12:10.480 --> 0:12:13.199 conversation starters. It even gets you like a little bit 0:12:13.240 --> 0:12:16.240 self reflective, introspective, and like kind of gets you just 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:19.480 like thinking about things perhaps you wouldn't have thought may 0:12:19.480 --> 0:12:21.600 affect your relationship. So I think it was really good 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:25.600 for that. But that being said, I didn't do it 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:27.360 with the thought of, like if I get a poor number, 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:29.400 I'm gonna leave JAD, you know, because like that's I 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:31.680 don't think that's really what it's for. But you're a 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:35.199 weird unit. Yeah. But I say, if you guys are 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:36.600 going to do it, I would say, like you no, 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:39.640 answer honestly as best you can, because you can keep 0:12:39.640 --> 0:12:41.319 it anonymous, you know, like you don't have to tell 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:42.760 your part of your results if. 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:44.040 You don't want, you're only lying to yourself. 0:12:44.160 --> 0:12:49.319 But also I would say, like base it on your 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:52.439 overall relationship, like not how you're feeling in the now, 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:54.600 like if you're in a honeymoon stage or you're going 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:56.480 you're having fights at the moment and things are bad, 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:58.360 like don't maybe don't do the test if you're in 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:00.600 that headspace. But when you're in like a a decent 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:02.920 headspace with your partner and you can know. 0:13:03.200 --> 0:13:05.120 People should be doing it in those moments because like 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:09.160 they're being challenged, they want to know if they're compatible, 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:11.520 do you know what I mean? You wouldn't be doing 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:14.400 a compatibility test if everything was Yeah. 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:16.160 But that's when bias would come in, right, So if 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:18.920 you're if you're asked a question on communication and you 0:13:19.000 --> 0:13:21.800 had to fight an hour earlier, you might answer that 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:24.560 question with a bit more like venom in your answer, 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.800 whereas like if you took overall communication in your relationship, 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:30.040 if you're not thinking negatively about it, then you might 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:31.120 give a more honest answer. 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:31.719 Yeah. 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.000 I get what you're saying, Thank you, Xata, But I 0:13:34.000 --> 0:13:36.000 do agree with Xander in that you're not normally looking 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:39.840 out compatibility tests when you're like having a great time. Yeah, 0:13:39.960 --> 0:13:42.600 you're usually like, I'm not having fun, Let's see if 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:43.199 I'm compatible. 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:45.160 Yeah, but what I'm saying is it's best to probably 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:46.920 not do the test in that headspace. You should do 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:47.880 it in a neutral headspace. 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:51.199 Yes, but who's thinking neutrally when they're not thinking Neutrallly? 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:51.920 Do you know what I mean? 0:13:55.400 --> 0:14:00.160 Honestly, sometimes I get you and Socrates, you know, mixed up. 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:04.480 There's a bit of a crossover modern day. Yeah, but 0:14:04.800 --> 0:14:06.440 I guess. Yeah, you get a score out of one hundred. 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:10.240 Lower it is, you know, as least compatible, less compatible, 0:14:10.280 --> 0:14:14.720 and higher the better. But yeah, let's get stuck. 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:19.280 Question like all the juicy stuff that we're going to 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:20.440 be scared to indulge. 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:22.120 How many times a week do you guys have co 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:25.320 What questions you got for us? 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:27.360 The first one's not that racy. 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:30.280 We're supposed to We're supposed to reveal our score first. 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:34.280 No, at the very end interesting The listener holding on 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:37.680 to the very end of the podcast. 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:38.000 Sucked in, guys, Sorry, listen. 0:14:37.880 --> 0:14:43.120 To all right? Question number one? Can you both find 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:45.400 humor in challenging situations? 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:51.080 Dare I say, well, I want to hear you first. 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:53.400 What I want to hear you first? At every question? 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:57.440 You can't start talking, I want to hear you first. Yeah, well, 0:14:57.840 --> 0:14:59.840 I don't know, I dare say, Like, I'm probably a 0:14:59.840 --> 0:15:02.440 bit more of like a worry wart when it comes 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:07.480 to stuff that Like I don't like surprises. I like everything. 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:11.000 I don't like things being up in the air, like 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:13.520 weighing on my shoulders. I don't like unpredictability, Like right now, 0:15:13.520 --> 0:15:16.120 we're trying to have you know, some things done with 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:18.040 the house that we bought, and we're going back and 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:21.000 forth with solicitors and trades people, and like none of 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:24.960 it's sorted, and I just like, can't my mind can't 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:27.560 be for two minutes because I have all these like 0:15:27.640 --> 0:15:29.360 cogs turning in my head and all these people that 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:31.680 I need to connect and get things done and legal stuff, 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:33.920 and it's all a headache and I can't. Like I'm 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:36.720 not joking about it with Jad, So I guess I 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:40.480 don't know that humor. But that being said, like Chad 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:43.640 and I have always connected through like being silly, sarcastic, 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:46.720 and like I don't know how I would even say, 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:49.200 like teasing each other. Like even I. 0:15:49.160 --> 0:15:53.720 Feel like we do use humor in challenging situations. Well 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:55.960 maybe just I do. And then because I'm laughing, I 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:57.040 think other people laughing. 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:59.400 Give me like an example, like if you're both stressed 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:03.240 stress over something, like, do you kind of come together 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:04.640 in those situations to humor? 0:16:04.680 --> 0:16:06.480 Like is that something that kind of will like ease 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:07.080 that tension. 0:16:07.680 --> 0:16:10.680 Okay, See, maybe we use humor, but only if it's 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:13.160 the situation's not like dire. 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:16.920 Yeah, if we know that, like you know this this 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.040 too shell pass kind of stuff, then yeah we might 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:21.320 we might joke around and muck around with it. But 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:22.200 I used. 0:16:22.080 --> 0:16:24.560 Human to cope with a lot, Like that's just how 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:25.520 I am as a person. 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:28.960 Yeah, Jad does use it to deflect quite a bit, Okay, 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:32.160 very funny. No, No, But for example, like yet, literally 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:36.800 yesterday we joked around. It might have been the day 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.520 before that all of us, like all four people in 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:41.440 the house were like crying throughout the day, Like the 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:43.680 two boys were, you know, crying. At some point, Chad 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:45.960 had cried and I had cried. So like obviously we're 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:48.360 all feeling stuff. And Jad and I had a little 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:50.600 like joke and giggle about that. But whether or not 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:53.960 that's like using humor to like get through really tough times, 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:54.480 I don't know. 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:58.240 I think when things are like really really challenging, maybe not. 0:16:58.440 --> 0:17:02.040 I think we both kind of yeah, maybe we take 0:17:02.080 --> 0:17:04.080 that a bit more seriously. But if it's like kind 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:06.160 of yeah, we both know it's like water under the bridge, 0:17:06.160 --> 0:17:07.720 eventually we might use humor. 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:10.520 Yeah, we do stuff around with each other heaps, so 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:13.320 like we're always mucking around with a part of our lives. 0:17:13.359 --> 0:17:16.000 We're always teasing each other, We're always mucking around. Like 0:17:16.440 --> 0:17:17.200 that's a huge part. 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:18.880 I use a lot of humor when dad died. 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:22.439 Did you want to share, like in what ways? 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:24.679 Well, like I just like making jokes about it. Oh, 0:17:24.840 --> 0:17:28.200 it's not typically a funny situation, Yeah, very much so. 0:17:28.240 --> 0:17:28.960 I did it help. 0:17:29.640 --> 0:17:31.840 It does help me because it's also I think I 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:34.600 learned that from him, So I think that it's like 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:35.640 a way to connect. 0:17:35.880 --> 0:17:36.400 That's nice. 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:39.080 Yeah, and it's probably what he would want, Like I 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:40.920 can hear him in my head laughing at the jokes 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:43.680 that I'm making. Sure, So I think I I think 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:46.720 I use humor maybe more than you do in those 0:17:46.800 --> 0:17:47.840