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Speaker 1: Apodjay production.

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Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the

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Speaker 2: land on which we gather today and pay our respects

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Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect

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Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara.

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Speaker 3: This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, and level

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Speaker 3: up together.

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Speaker 1: Let's go deep, let the emotions flow, and find the

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Speaker 1: lessons to Grow and Glow. Nothing is off the table

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Speaker 1: with Grow and Glow, and we're here to be your expander.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the show. Guys. I cannot wait for this episode.

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Speaker 1: I need to hear every detail because I need to

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Speaker 1: put my husband in. Tell us what today's we.

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Speaker 3: Are talking about, Kurtie finally booking in. Gon't get it.

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Speaker 3: I've had such mixed reviews. I've had women who have

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Speaker 3: a messaged me and be like, this is the best

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Speaker 3: decision we ever made, and then other people messaging I

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Speaker 3: think because about age, maybe being like you seem really

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Speaker 3: young to be like doing something like this. How old's

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Speaker 3: Curdy for reference thirty one, Curty thirty one. I'm thirty

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Speaker 3: almost thirty one. Yeah, but I mean we have three kids. Yes,

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Speaker 3: we have very beautiful, beautiful kids. Were so happy, both genders. Yes.

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Speaker 3: And how it kind of like came about was well,

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Speaker 3: actually a year ago. So twelve months ago, Curtie went

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Speaker 3: to the doctors and got a referral to go and

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Speaker 3: do it. He went and got it, but we weren't like, oh,

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Speaker 3: had it sitting there and we kept like pushing it off,

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Speaker 3: pushing it off. And as time went on, more and

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Speaker 3: more it's like we got more and more sure that

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Speaker 3: it was the decision that we wanted to make. And

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Speaker 3: then I was at a girlfriend's house and all of

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Speaker 3: us girls were sitting around chatting and they were like

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Speaker 3: talking about different scares and things that happened, and then

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Speaker 3: they looked at me and they're like, what would you

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Speaker 3: do if you happened to fell pregnant? And I was like, wow,

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Speaker 3: I feel like personally myself in the situation I'm in,

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Speaker 3: if something like that happened, I would kind of just

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Speaker 3: go it's meant to be. But do I want to

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Speaker 1: No, I don't.

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Speaker 3: I am not a good pregnant woman.

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Speaker 1: I'm not a good pregnant woman.

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Speaker 3: I feel so content with three kids. In fact, sometimes

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Speaker 3: in moments, I've been really honest with Ashi about this,

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Speaker 3: it can be really tough to be there to support

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Speaker 3: like two kids at once. In fact, I feel like

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Speaker 3: they feed off the energy and sometimes all three are

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Speaker 3: like that. And then Kurt and I like trying it.

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Speaker 3: I'm like pulling him away from work and you know,

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Speaker 3: There are moments that are tough. There definitely are sit

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Speaker 3: we're so grateful that we've had that choice. But we've

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Speaker 1: Bag to say, it would have been a mixed bag.

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Speaker 3: No, So anyways, we drove in there and he went

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's not anesthetic. It's like a happy gas

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Speaker 3: there's a three step process or something. He's like burning

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Speaker 3: But then Kurt said he was just chatting to him

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Speaker 3: So then Kurt's like, there's this guy, this older guy,

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Speaker 3: Like once he's stat at the needle, apparently he's a

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Speaker 3: little bit painful. And yeah, he came out to me.

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Speaker 3: He seemed like he was so drunk. He's like walking

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Speaker 3: But then again, like I said, he didn't have any

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Speaker 1: Nothing incision was it? Yeah, yeah, okay.

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Speaker 3: Tiny little incision. So I don't know if there's different

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Speaker 3: sperm in the car. The good thing as well these

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Speaker 3: days is if your partner's a bit worried about that,

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Speaker 3: is they actually you have an hour to get it there,

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Speaker 3: so you can do it at home and drive it in.

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Speaker 3: You don't have to do it actually in the waiting room.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, which is good because that was something Kurt was

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Speaker 3: like a bit like ooh about and then if they

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Speaker 3: still have live sperm in that, you don't have to

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Speaker 3: So you wait another month or two, it will eventually stop.

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Speaker 1: Two weeks. It's actually a long.

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Speaker 3: No, yes, three months yeah minimum to go back and

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Speaker 3: start getting the test.

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Speaker 1: Done happening inside.

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Speaker 3: So what happens is it kills all the sperm that's

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Speaker 3: That's a great one for and you're getting ready in

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Speaker 1: Yeah. We mentioned a little while ago, but we have

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Speaker 1: subscribed to our podcast, so you might listen each week,

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Speaker 1: but it really does help support our poty if you

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Speaker 3: I hopefully it's a review if you.

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Speaker 1: Want while you're there. Yeah, and we always love seeing

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we love sharing them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so cool. Thanks guys, We'll see Friday see you then,

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