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Speaker 1: On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we are
Speaker 1: excited to welcome DJ Tiger Lily to the studio to
Speaker 1: chat all things music, djaying, pregnancy, and how she met
Speaker 1: the one.
Speaker 2: We'll ask her all about her favorite DJ gigs, what
Speaker 2: she thinks is the worst song request, and which celebrities
Speaker 2: have waowed her and who has disappointed.
Speaker 1: I'm also curious to hear how she plans to balance
Speaker 1: her music career and being a mum. Stay tuned. Where's
Speaker 1: Your Head At is a podcast that talks all things relationships, breakups,
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Speaker 4: Welcome to the studio, Welcome to it for me, Dara,
Speaker 4: Nice to see.
Speaker 1: You, guys, Nice to finally meet you. We followed each
Speaker 1: other on socials for a while, so I feel like
Speaker 1: I got to know you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's really nice to just meet everyone in person,
Speaker 4: I suppose after following online for so long.
Speaker 2: Yeah, established before we think we're at an event together
Speaker 2: once upon a time.
Speaker 4: Yes, potentially. I mean she has DJ all over the country,
Speaker 4: so I'm assuming she's been out.
Speaker 1: A lot of.
Speaker 4: More. But like I said, I'm going to say definitely
Speaker 4: we've met before.
Speaker 3: I don't remember much from that night.
Speaker 1: So also we have to start by thinking, congratulations, thank
Speaker 1: you you are. How how far along are you?
Speaker 4: I've only got seven weeks to go, so like I'm
Speaker 4: about to pop. Wow, you look incredible, thanks, incredible feeling
Speaker 4: SHITZI but you know you just hot at the moment
Speaker 4: in Sydney, as you know, and like being what I
Speaker 4: think I've maybe put on like seven or eight kilograms heavier. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that's a lot.
Speaker 1: It's a lot to lug around when you think about it.
Speaker 4: It is walking up these stairs into this studio. We
Speaker 4: live in a three story house. I avoid leaving the
Speaker 4: middle level because like I just can't. I just pack
Speaker 4: everything into a box and like try and do minimal
Speaker 4: trips up and down because like it's rough that is around. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that's what I tell you. They say that, and then
Speaker 4: you have like your second baby and you've got like
Speaker 4: a toddler and a bag and a pram and the baby.
Speaker 3: Sorry this is your second, No, this.
Speaker 4: Is my first. The first one. They're like, don't carry anything,
Speaker 4: you've got a toddlers. Yeah, you're maybe child. Gotta do
Speaker 4: what you're gotta do. So yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1: Well let's start from the start, because obviously you are
Speaker 1: probably the biggest female DJ that we have in Australia.
Speaker 4: I would say, thanks.
Speaker 1: Yeah, how did you get into this?
Speaker 4: So I've been doing it now for almost thirteen years,
Speaker 4: which is crazy it shows my age. But I did
Speaker 4: start right out of high school. I did a competition
Speaker 4: called Your Shot, and I don't know if you guys
Speaker 4: have heard of it. It's in like Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane
Speaker 4: and now Perth as well. And what they do is
Speaker 4: they get like one hundred or so young kids who
Speaker 4: want to learn how to DJ and give them like
Speaker 4: a six week intensive course. And so I did that
Speaker 4: when I was yeah, straight out of high school. I
Speaker 4: thought I wanted to be a DJ while also studying
Speaker 4: to be a dentist lola, and absolutely loved it and
Speaker 4: ended up coming second in that competition. So thanks, so
Speaker 4: got a residency at like a nightclub in Sydney. It
Speaker 4: used to be called Soho.
Speaker 3: So who what?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 4: Some friends their DJ name is Jemalini. I don't think
Speaker 4: they really DJ much anymore.
Speaker 1: So you're the real.
Speaker 4: Way, yes, because I love the boys absolutely, But it
Speaker 4: is funny, like it's not always the winner. It's kind
Speaker 4: of like the Australian idol effect, right, always the winner
Speaker 4: to do like the long standing career and there have
Speaker 4: been lots of other people in my cohort of your
Speaker 4: shot and then like other years that have maybe not
Speaker 4: even placed, that have done really well. So yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: it's pretty cool. It's a great competition.
Speaker 1: I guess it's like yeah, oh wow. Yeah.
Speaker 4: So if you guys want to join a career.
Speaker 1: Path changed I J.
Speaker 3: I mean I'm pretty good with.
Speaker 4: Everyone thinks they can DJ. Everyone probably can DJ to
Speaker 4: DJ well, I think it is. But DJ is pretty easy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you find that like a lot of people try
Speaker 2: to do it and they get like a DJ.
Speaker 3: I know a lot of my mates have and it's.
Speaker 2: Just they have one and they just think they know
Speaker 2: what they're doing at a party and then the.
Speaker 1: Mixer just goes terribly wrong and you're like we talk.
Speaker 4: About it like in the industry, like the people that
Speaker 4: think their DJ is their personality trait. So like it's like,
Speaker 4: you know, I'm a runner, I'm a swimmer, or I'm
Speaker 4: a DJ, are you or like just at house parties.
Speaker 2: And it was like the person was on the ground
Speaker 2: and they'd be like, is anybody on a nurse Like
Speaker 2: I'm a DJ?
Speaker 4: So long?
Speaker 1: When did you realize that this could be like a
Speaker 1: career path when we be like, you know, let's leave
Speaker 1: the dentistry in the past and let's do this full time.
Speaker 4: So I did one year of dentistry and then change
Speaker 4: to media and communications. I did that. Did you love it?
Speaker 1: I love it?
Speaker 4: A useful degree, but then also like not super useful
Speaker 4: for me. I suppose, Yeah, I don't know, you can
Speaker 4: it wasn't too bad. It was better than dentistry anyway.
Speaker 4: Who thought like I was going to become a dentist,
Speaker 4: Like I think I was really dreaming. After I finished
Speaker 4: my degree, I had like the decision of was I
Speaker 4: going to go and get a job or was I
Speaker 4: going to just keep DJing? And I was working so
Speaker 4: much at that point, like I don't know, like four
Speaker 4: or five gigs a week, like way more than I
Speaker 4: do now, wow, And I was just like, stuff that,
Speaker 4: let's give it a go. So while all my friends
Speaker 4: went off to you know, apply for jobs at different
Speaker 4: law firms or hospitals or finance places, I was like, yeah, cool,
Speaker 4: I'm just going to startup my business.
Speaker 1: So yeah, why not. Good on you for like really
Speaker 1: like giving it a crack and like having the courage
Speaker 1: to do that.
Speaker 4: It was looking back, there were lots of crazy things
Speaker 4: that I did. I was so confident and had so
Speaker 4: much self belief.
Speaker 3: You need that.
Speaker 4: And I thank my younger self because I think as
Speaker 4: you get older, you definitely start to second guess yourself
Speaker 4: a little bit more. So I'm very grateful for my
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 1: See, this is another example the power of manifestation.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, what would you find as your biggest hurdle or
Speaker 2: the biggest challenge being a female because it's.
Speaker 1: A male dominated industry for sure.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it definitely is. I think that's changed as time
Speaker 4: has gone on. So I think at the beginning it
Speaker 4: was people not taking you seriously.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of female DJs now, isn't there.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Yeah, there are quite a few, and it's becoming
Speaker 4: more and more and more, which is awesome. I think
Speaker 4: it was people didn't take you seriously, and because there
Speaker 4: were a few DJs who probably like just we was
Speaker 4: standing there and not really doing anything like with the decks,
Speaker 4: that they probably gave us a bad rep for the
Speaker 4: ones of us that actually like did mix properly. So
Speaker 4: I think that was being taken seriously was the hardest
Speaker 4: thing at the start, and then now in the last
Speaker 4: few years, it's been navigating what it looks like wanting
Speaker 4: to become a mum and wanting to like settle down
Speaker 4: but then also have a career because pre COVID I
Speaker 4: was traveling heaps overseas and you know, it's really difficult
Speaker 4: to maintain that and then also have like a family
Speaker 4: life too. So that's been something interesting to knownavigate and
Speaker 4: I'm still kind of navigating that at the moment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was about to say, how are you navigating that,
Speaker 1: because I mean, you do have such a huge career
Speaker 1: as a DJ, what does that kind of look like.
Speaker 4: Well, it's meant that, like I've definitely taken a step
Speaker 4: back from the international stuff, which I'm not too mad
Speaker 4: about because it is really hard. I like, pretty lonely
Speaker 4: and a bit depressing, even though it looks awesome on
Speaker 4: social media media.
Speaker 3: Behind it if people don't realize.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's just meant like, you know, being in
Speaker 4: Australia a lot more, which is fine. I love touring here.
Speaker 4: It's like pretty fun and pretty easy. And then I've
Speaker 4: got my last show next Thursday, and then I'm going
Speaker 4: to take a bit of a break for let's say
Speaker 4: six months or so, like from the touring side of things. Yeah,
Speaker 4: but obviously not paid.
Speaker 1: Because you have your own business.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So yeah, that's kind of what it is hopefully
Speaker 4: going to look like. But I also don't really know.
Speaker 4: We're gonna just be playing everything by year.
Speaker 2: So you said you've done international gigs, what would be
Speaker 2: your favorite or like, biggest international gig I've done Overseas.
Speaker 4: The biggest was a festival in Malaysia which was like
Speaker 4: thirty thousand people, which was pretty nerve wracking. I remember
Speaker 4: looking out of the crowd being like, can I swear? Yeah,
Speaker 4: don't fucking press the wrong button, bitch. You have pressures
Speaker 4: so much writing on this QQ yes and Q takes
Speaker 4: it back to the start of the song, So like,
Speaker 4: don't don't press that was the one button. Anything else
Speaker 4: I could kind of get away with. But if I
Speaker 4: press Q, I would have been stuff. Didn't PRESSQ.
Speaker 3: My way around to DJ.
Speaker 1: Oh that don't even pretend. I'm just.
Speaker 4: I knew this is going to happen, Like I could
Speaker 4: feel it in my bone. You That's what I was
Speaker 4: actually going to say. Okay, So I went to a boat.
Speaker 1: It was a cruise It was like a cruise boat
Speaker 1: party kind of thing. It's the ship. Did you play
Speaker 1: on that?
Speaker 4: I did? Many times.
Speaker 1: I went on it's the ship.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, what that is so random?
Speaker 1: It was so random. Yes, we're fun. It was like
Speaker 1: Singapore to Thailand.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was on that boat.
Speaker 1: I couldn't tell you what.
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe three years in a row. Yeah, it was
Speaker 4: probably on it at a similar time.
Speaker 1: That was like one of the coolest I was me
Speaker 1: and that did the bridge climb last night and.
Speaker 4: We saw like a cruise ship like leaving.
Speaker 1: The port and I was like a boat like that,
Speaker 1: but it was a party boat and that was like
Speaker 1: not I mean, you were kind of getting around it
Speaker 1: a little bit, But how was that?
Speaker 3: Look?
Speaker 4: It was fun.
Speaker 3: How many people are on this boat.
Speaker 4: I know a thousands around.
Speaker 3: The same age A party, yeah and one.
Speaker 4: Did you do the American one?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 4: I did the American one as well when I was
Speaker 4: like twenty four. It was awesome. Now being thirty, oh yeah,
Speaker 4: I now not really my thing. Actually, we were talking
Speaker 4: about doing an Asian run at the end of this
Speaker 4: year and they're like, oh, I do you want to do?
Speaker 4: It's the ship But I was like, not really with
Speaker 4: the baby, yeah, but all off, Yeah.
Speaker 2: Would you party heats when you did the DJing then,
Speaker 2: like would you can stay out or would you go
Speaker 2: there just for work or would you go like party
Speaker 2: on afterwards?
Speaker 4: In the first like eighteen to twenty four, of course absolutely.
Speaker 4: And then I had just one too many things where
Speaker 4: I really stuffed up or made a fool myself, or
Speaker 4: drank too much or did something so idiotic, and yeah,
Speaker 4: I just remember one day being like I've got to
Speaker 4: cut this away. Actually maybe I was like twenty three
Speaker 4: when I kind of cut it away. And you know
Speaker 4: what's the craziest thing. I found that almost instantaneously my
Speaker 4: career trajectory like went like this after like kind of
Speaker 4: cutting away the alcoholic Yeah. Yeah. We always say this
Speaker 4: alcohol is just like so poisonous, such a suppressing, especially.
Speaker 1: In Australian culture like binge. Drinking is just so huge.
Speaker 2: So hard though, like everything you go to it's like drinking.
Speaker 2: Like I don't think I hang out with my mates
Speaker 2: and it's not revolving around alcohol.
Speaker 4: It's been really interesting being pregnant, like because you actually, well,
Speaker 4: I suppose I could drink. I've tried a few SIPs
Speaker 4: of like wine and champagne and it tastes like nail
Speaker 4: polish remover to me. Like my taste buds of obviously change,
Speaker 4: so like I'm just not even trying.
Speaker 1: I don't want to drink male polish remover anymore.
Speaker 4: But like it does really change an event for sure
Speaker 4: or experience.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I rely heavily on alcohol, like you know, to
Speaker 2: break that.
Speaker 4: Honestly I do too. I genuinely do as well. Absolutely,
Speaker 4: like we've got lots of We've got three weddings in
Speaker 4: the next seven weeks, which is crazy, and I know,
Speaker 4: and I'm like free samp like they're my favorite thing.
Speaker 4: I love to just sit on the champagne all day
Speaker 4: and get boozy and then be on the dance floor.
Speaker 4: And it is hard it's for sure, Like I take
Speaker 4: my hat off to people that are sober by choice
Speaker 4: full time.
Speaker 1: You must have met so many celebrities doing what you do.
Speaker 1: Obviously you're DJing before after whatever. Have you ever met
Speaker 1: a rude celebrity.
Speaker 4: I have met a rude one. I'm not going to
Speaker 4: say who it is, but I'll give you some hints.
Speaker 1: Okay, she was.
Speaker 4: Very hot and cold, and she has done the super
Speaker 4: Bowl performance. I was going to go up and have
Speaker 4: a photo with her because she back then this is
Speaker 4: maybe it was a long time ago. Maybe I don't know,
Speaker 4: eight years ago, seven years ago. I was obsessed, like,
Speaker 4: loved everything about her music career aesthetic, still do, but
Speaker 4: was just like this was when she was doing like
Speaker 4: you know, her big touring and stuff as well.
Speaker 1: Great, yeah, well the story we need to reevaluate if
Speaker 1: we still love it.
Speaker 4: I'm assuming. I was like cool, you know. Anyway, I
Speaker 4: wanted to get a photo with this celeb and I
Speaker 4: was really too nervous, which is unlike me because usually
Speaker 4: I'm pretty forthcoming. I was like, you know what, I'm
Speaker 4: too nervous. I'm just going to leave it. One of
Speaker 4: my friends went to get a photo and this celeb
Speaker 4: said absolutely not and left the party. I was like,
Speaker 4: after someone coming up to her and speaking to her
Speaker 4: and asking for a photo. Absolutely security guards around and
Speaker 4: things like that, and she was like not fuck this
Speaker 4: and left And I'm so glad it wasn't me because
Speaker 4: I would have been mortified a very long time to come.
Speaker 4: So you're off, No, I still love her, probably just
Speaker 4: having a shit day. Yeah, we all do, you know,
Speaker 4: you do never know, but yeah, I was really unimpressed
Speaker 4: because you always just hope that they're going to be
Speaker 4: really down to earth. Yeah, and that's always case.
Speaker 1: What do they say, you never meet your celebrity crush
Speaker 1: or something, Yeah, never meet your rid of because you
Speaker 1: never know how they're going to be.
Speaker 4: But like I reckon. In the DJ world, it's different
Speaker 4: because like most DJs are super nerdy and so they're
Speaker 4: just like nerdy guys and girls who kind of hang
Speaker 4: in their bedroom, you know, writing music and mixing and
Speaker 4: stuff like that. So they're less about like the fame
Speaker 4: and the glamour and everything. So everyone's really down to earth.
Speaker 2: Who's the biggest name that you've like played with or
Speaker 2: like environment, like like physically a little bit about a
Speaker 2: gig like play a DJ set with.
Speaker 4: Lots of them. Yeah, yeah, lots of them. I used
Speaker 4: to support Tiesta a lot on like all his victory
Speaker 4: back in Vegas a lot, which was really fun back
Speaker 4: in the fun party days. Not so much anymore. And
Speaker 4: then same with like all the other big guys like
Speaker 4: you know, David Gerda, Martin Garrick's.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's awesome, and they're all.
Speaker 4: Very nice and down to earth, which is epic, Like
Speaker 4: they're all really sweet.
Speaker 1: Speaking of like famous, I don't know if you could
Speaker 1: really classify this one, but you can tell me. Obviously,
Speaker 1: Paris Hilton has become a DJ. What do you think
Speaker 1: of that?
Speaker 4: I actually don't know. Was she good?
Speaker 3: Yeah? She was fine? It was that a lot if
Speaker 3: she was fine? I mean I was pretty pier.
Speaker 2: Buster Rhymes was rapping and he's like, say goodbye to
Speaker 2: Paris Hilton and say hello to DJ Paris Hilton, And
Speaker 2: then she came out and started playing. Was that this
Speaker 2: after show fashion?
Speaker 3: Make him alive? That's pretty cool?
Speaker 4: Cool? I don't know actually, to be honest, like I've
Speaker 4: never seen a play. People hate on her, and because
Speaker 4: it's International Women's Day, let's just pretend that she's amazing
Speaker 4: and she does it all.
Speaker 1: So I don't know, Amen, I don't know, Like I.
Speaker 4: Would hate to say she isn't doing it if she is,
Speaker 4: because like I used to get that and I'd be
Speaker 4: so frustrated, Like I swear I'm actually mixing. It's not
Speaker 4: that difficult. So I kind of think she used to
Speaker 4: date Afrojack, which I think is how she kind of
Speaker 4: got into the GG. When you do gigs, obviously you
Speaker 4: would get a rider, is that right?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 4: What's on your rider at the moment? Nothing, water, coconut water, all.
Speaker 1: The healthy stuff. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Usually it's like a couple bottles of champagne, a couple
Speaker 4: bottles of vodka, a heap of Seltzers coffee, cowls, chewing gum,
Speaker 4: else shoeing gum is a good one. Ear plugs for
Speaker 4: all my guests. So, like when I play, I wear
Speaker 4: ear plugs because like don't want to go deaf. Yeah,
Speaker 4: But when friends and like say I work with like
Speaker 4: photographers and videographers at every gig they rock up, none
Speaker 4: of them have ear plugs. And it's like my pet hate,
Speaker 4: like don't fucking fuck your ears. Yeah, seriously, put some
Speaker 4: ear plugs in, Like some cheapackets of beer plugs and
Speaker 4: then that's kind of it. Nothing too exciting, but like
Speaker 4: the essentials.
Speaker 1: Wow, yeah, my fyance. He was the lead singer in
Speaker 1: a band when he was younger, and he has a
Speaker 1: little bit of hearing loss in one of his ears.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, that the sious because're obviously right whe the
Speaker 2: speakers are well like a.
Speaker 4: Lot of DJs now, I would say most professionals wear
Speaker 4: ear plugs, which is fantastic, but a lot of amateurs don't,
Speaker 4: and even a lot of professionals will wear them in
Speaker 4: the club and then take them out to play. And
Speaker 4: like the booth monitors are right next to you, and
Speaker 4: they are so big and they are so loud, and
Speaker 4: it's even something I've been conscious with with a baby,
Speaker 4: like not that there's any proof around it, but like
Speaker 4: just turning it down making it less loud, yeah, just
Speaker 4: because it is so loud.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so loud. Okay, Well, we are going to talk
Speaker 1: about you kind of navigating being a mom. We're going
Speaker 1: to hear all about your pregnancy. Next.
Speaker 3: Do you want to welcome us back? Then?
Speaker 4: Yeah, welcome back everyone from our We had to take
Speaker 4: some time out of the room.
Speaker 1: That was hard.
Speaker 4: Our asses were slipping off the lounge.
Speaker 2: I was saying that my laptop was slipping off my knee.
Speaker 4: My feet were slipping in my crops and they have
Speaker 4: holes in them.
Speaker 3: So, like, do you want to describe our crocs to everyone?
Speaker 4: Yeah, both, we've both got really cute limited edition crocs.
Speaker 3: We do.
Speaker 1: I should have all mine. I almost did, and that
Speaker 1: was like you told me I didn't.
Speaker 3: I said to wear them you got don't.
Speaker 1: And I would have been matchedly.
Speaker 4: You've got the platform once too, Yeah, exactly, those they're
Speaker 4: so cute. I've got like some cute little decals. I've
Speaker 4: got like DJ t L. I've got like a lightning
Speaker 4: strike and a little disco ball. So the baby's nickname
Speaker 4: is Minni Disco. Oh, it's so cute, disco ball on it.
Speaker 4: The disco ball is my personal favorite me.
Speaker 3: Too, sticking out pretty far. Yeah, it's a.
Speaker 4: Beautiful ability, but like I haven't seemed to knock it
Speaker 4: off yet. It's like the baby bomb. Yeah it is
Speaker 4: DJ disco.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well you know what, I actually assumed that's why
Speaker 2: it was called that.
Speaker 4: Really it actually wasn't. I should dress up as a
Speaker 4: disco ball in this last seven weeks because like.
Speaker 1: That would be very definitely.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, she's like a good idea.
Speaker 1: My brainding managers like, no, does Mini Disco have a
Speaker 1: name yet? But you've decided on.
Speaker 4: So we don't know if it's a boy or a girl.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so you're having a surprise.
Speaker 4: Yeah. My poor husband, he's so devo.
Speaker 3: He's just like he wants to.
Speaker 4: Know, he wants to know.
Speaker 3: Do you want to do a gender reveal?
Speaker 1: Huge, that's gonna be the birthing suite.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but you didn't be obstetrician being like it's a whatever.
Speaker 2: You don't want to have one of those parties and
Speaker 2: at least like pink or blue fireworks.
Speaker 1: Smoke not me, not definitely not me.
Speaker 4: That's fair. Look, my husband works construction, and he always
Speaker 4: said would be really funny to have like one of
Speaker 4: their company's trucks like pump out like smoke from them,
Speaker 4: you know, the trucks have those little.
Speaker 1: Hit a golf all.
Speaker 4: And I'm just like, but like, does anyone really care
Speaker 4: about the gender? Baby? Amazing? So good? We might do
Speaker 4: one post baby went once we found out to share
Speaker 4: with Instagram. I really wanted to do one at a festival,
Speaker 4: like there was meant to be a festival coming up
Speaker 4: this weekend actually, but it had ended up not being
Speaker 4: on and I was maybe gonna do it on stage
Speaker 4: there with like big cannons.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, can you That would have been epic.
Speaker 4: Maybe we do that for the next baby, yeah, I
Speaker 4: promised my husband that will find out the next baby one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because a festival baby, you're probably not gonna do
Speaker 2: it straight away.
Speaker 3: Recovery.
Speaker 4: Everyone just here for so we don't know the gender.
Speaker 4: We have like a heap of boy names and like
Speaker 4: love all the boy names. We have like zero girl names.
Speaker 3: Really run us through some of the boy.
Speaker 4: Names as.
Speaker 3: Why can't you doant?
Speaker 4: He's like, well, it's a big deal what you name
Speaker 4: your baby, especially being on Instagram. Do you know what?
Speaker 3: Trust me?
Speaker 1: Do you know What's stranger though? Is I have a
Speaker 1: huge list of girl names in my notes, but like
Speaker 1: not that many boy.
Speaker 4: Names where the opposite people do tend to find girl
Speaker 4: names easier. But it's just really hard. And we've only
Speaker 4: got like seven weeks or maybe less, like quite likely
Speaker 4: less we need to name this baby.
Speaker 1: So you're seven months out of the nine months? Is
Speaker 1: that right?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Seven? And hang on the pregnancy is ten weeks left,
Speaker 4: ten months and seven weeks least seven weeks.
Speaker 1: Wait, I've always heard that pregnancies last for nine months. Yeah,
Speaker 1: have I been misled?
Speaker 4: You have. It's closer to ten months than nine months,
Speaker 4: and you only figure that out when you feel pregnant,
Speaker 4: because you're like looking at the dates and counting and
Speaker 4: you're like, hang on, so.
Speaker 3: Why is that? Why why do people say nine months?
Speaker 4: Then it say it's like forty weeks? Is that right?
Speaker 4: I think forty weeks.
Speaker 3: They go of weeks, don't Yeah, I think so.
Speaker 4: I'm week thirty three now, yeah, so wow. I think
Speaker 4: they say nine months because you only find out when
Speaker 4: you're pregnant a month in because of the way that
Speaker 4: your period misses and things like that. Right, So maybe
Speaker 4: that's why. I don't know, But yeah, it's closer to
Speaker 4: ten months. And it's been tricked. Yeah, I've been lied to. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well that's just a long time as well.
Speaker 4: Yeah, telling me.
Speaker 1: Extra few weeks.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So yeah, it is pretty crazy and it's a very
Speaker 4: long time. But surprisingly I still feel good. Like everyone's like,
Speaker 4: are you okay, I'm like yeah, good.
Speaker 1: Well that was my next question. How has your pregnancy been?
Speaker 4: Yeah? It's I've been very lucky, very lucky. But then
Speaker 4: also you know, you do make your own bed, and
Speaker 4: having the right attitude I think helps. Yeah, I was
Speaker 4: pretty I was a zombie in the first three months.
Speaker 4: It kind of felt like someone took out the personality
Speaker 4: chip from my brain. Oh my god, I just was
Speaker 4: so tired. I can't describe it to you. Like you'd
Speaker 4: sleep twelve hours and be sad that you were waking
Speaker 4: up because you just would be so exhausted.
Speaker 2: Your body is working over time to make a human.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like you're building all the stuff. That's like the
Speaker 4: build phase, right the first three months or four months,
Speaker 4: even when you're like really building all the organs and
Speaker 4: everything of the baby.
Speaker 3: So far, crazy crazy. I said that before it's a
Speaker 3: human inside it, I.
Speaker 1: Can't actually can't work. Just like blows my mind.
Speaker 3: Meaning disco moving around.
Speaker 4: You said something, Yeah, constantly, it's an active baby. Like
Speaker 4: we're quite nervous.
Speaker 1: You have this shit.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we have a good good couple friend friend couple
Speaker 4: who are pregnant.
Speaker 3: Sorry pardon me.
Speaker 4: We have some good friends who are pregnant at the
Speaker 4: moment and their baby is like yogurt just chills, doesn't
Speaker 4: move doesn't do much, just is so peaceful and Minnie
Speaker 4: just go. I'll have to like get up often in
Speaker 4: the middle of the night because it's like like wake,
Speaker 4: It's like what's the rave dance? Where like they go
Speaker 4: like that, is this a juicy wiggle?
Speaker 3: No assume if anyone is going to know it.
Speaker 4: Would be me. You know, it's not in the crowd.
Speaker 4: I'm on the stage a while that dance. If anyone
Speaker 4: knows what I'm doing, I don't know what gabbing, gabbery.
Speaker 1: I've never heard of that.
Speaker 4: Gabbering that's Sydney things. No, it's definitely a millennial a
Speaker 4: Sydney millennial thing. Deaf con Sidney millennial thing, right, you
Speaker 4: fully lost us.
Speaker 1: I don't know about it.
Speaker 4: I was I was in the clubs in the days
Speaker 4: of the Juicy Wiggle and what was that again, like
Speaker 4: you know, like the will Sparks kind of yeah, yes, yeah,
Speaker 4: she's got it. I wouldn't expect.
Speaker 3: Anything less, would you, Juicy wiggle.
Speaker 4: I'd give it a go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I give it a go. But I hate to
Speaker 1: admit that because it was like now I look, I'm like,
Speaker 1: don't get the egg.
Speaker 4: I'm not doing it now.
Speaker 2: Rude, rude with a lollipop, just doing it incredible?
Speaker 1: Or should we all guess what the baby gender is
Speaker 1: going to be? Do you have a guess? What do
Speaker 1: you think the gender is going to be?
Speaker 4: So I initially thought it was a girl, and then
Speaker 4: these days they do this three D photos and so
Speaker 4: like the scans. So I've been getting all these photos
Speaker 4: and it looked one hundred like a boy. That's so cool.
Speaker 4: See it would just looks like a dude. And then
Speaker 4: the last photo girl, it's like its face has gone
Speaker 4: super cute and pretty in the last one. So I
Speaker 4: don't know. So you're undecided. I'm still honestly, I'm still
Speaker 4: fifty to fifty. And people are so opinionated and they
Speaker 4: all have really great arguments to why they think it
Speaker 4: is what it is. It's like to give you, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: it feels Matt, you go first for the sake of
Speaker 4: your hair being blue.
Speaker 3: It's going to be a boy.
Speaker 1: I was going to say that to Yeah, it's.
Speaker 3: A little but there's pink lights because I'm looking at her.
Speaker 3: I'm looking at her and I'm trying to, you know,
Speaker 3: take it get trying to take it in.
Speaker 4: Unfortunately, I feel like you're not the type of guys
Speaker 4: in like the guessing pregnancy stage.
Speaker 1: Of your life.
Speaker 3: What makes you say that? Say that just a gut
Speaker 3: for you, try and say away from it.
Speaker 1: I'm going to say a boy just because the like
Speaker 1: super active, like could be into sports.
Speaker 4: Maybe to be honest from like you know all the
Speaker 4: old wives tales that they say, yeah, so next time
Speaker 4: you see a pregnant woman you can make an educated guess.
Speaker 2: Education from ye the what do you call it as
Speaker 2: the stars and all that sort of stuff, because.
Speaker 4: It's all it is the same. It is the same
Speaker 4: as horoscopes. I reckon, thank you, but we love it,
Speaker 4: love it. If you're sick, it's a girl. And if
Speaker 4: you're not sick, it's a boy. So I've been not sick.
Speaker 4: If you if your bump is really like low and
Speaker 4: forward and compact, it's a boy. But if you more
Speaker 4: like put weight on round everywhere, it's a girl. So
Speaker 4: I'm boy again. If you like, I think something to
Speaker 4: do with the types of foods you like, it's a girl.
Speaker 4: And so maybe I think it's like, if you like
Speaker 4: kind of carbiish Swedish things, it's a girl. And if
Speaker 4: it's more fresh it's a boy, so I tick that
Speaker 4: as well. There are all these things that it's all boy.
Speaker 4: Boy boy, oh your hair and nails. Your hair and
Speaker 4: nails are meant to be amazing. Might have been ship house,
Speaker 4: so boy again, boy, I reckon because of that. It's
Speaker 4: probably a girl because it's sucked him mom, Oh my god.
Speaker 4: See that's so exciting. You'll find out in about seven weeks.
Speaker 1: We'll find out seven weeks. Will you be posting the
Speaker 1: baby on socials a little bit? A little bit?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know what the answer is to that, Like,
Speaker 4: we'll navigate it true as we go. I really dislike
Speaker 4: when an influencer has a baby and then the page
Speaker 4: just becomes a baby page, because I want to follow
Speaker 4: you for other stuff, not just baby things. So I
Speaker 4: think we'll definitely like talk about when the baby arrives,
Speaker 4: and I will be posting it, but maybe kind of
Speaker 4: like how we post our dog, Like we post him
Speaker 4: a bit, but not that much. The focus of my
Speaker 4: page is still like my music and my DJing, And
Speaker 4: I love that, yeah, because.
Speaker 3: But then you're taking them on a journey with you,
Speaker 3: your followers, so.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think that's why I want to post
Speaker 4: some stuff, especially when it's like relating to work life
Speaker 4: and to a life, and the content will definitely shift
Speaker 4: to being more life.
Speaker 3: As your life.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, but I.
Speaker 4: Just don't want it to be like here's another photo
Speaker 4: of my baby, Yeah, another one, Like.
Speaker 2: I don't know, some people don't really want to see
Speaker 2: keeps the photos of babies as well.
Speaker 1: I don't. I mean I do, but I mean I
Speaker 1: don't give it to me given.
Speaker 4: I want to consume it all.
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, your baby, yeah, like cute to see
Speaker 2: the baby originally, but then keep flogging a baby. I've
Speaker 2: unfollowed some people from school. They just keep post some
Speaker 2: babies like they're doing like the one month, two months.
Speaker 4: I'll be doing that following me. It's a solid about
Speaker 4: the cards. I am two months old today. I don't care, Like, yeah,
Speaker 4: we're not going to be doing any of that.
Speaker 2: They change their name to the baby's name mother or something,
Speaker 2: they fully changed their grip.
Speaker 4: No. I've like been really consciously thinking about how I'm
Speaker 4: going to like keep my identity as Stara and Tiger
Speaker 4: Lily as well as being a mom. But like I
Speaker 4: found like there's so much negativity around becoming a mom,
Speaker 4: like your life is over. Yeah done. And I'm like,
Speaker 4: I've seen a lot of that and I think it's
Speaker 4: so negative.
Speaker 1: It's like shut up, but you can do it all right,
Speaker 1: Like I think, so you can be a working mom.
Speaker 1: You can you know, bring in the bread and have
Speaker 1: the baby and like do what you love, do what
Speaker 1: you love.
Speaker 4: I think it takes a villa, absolutely, but I think
Speaker 4: it's possible.
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you have a good support system around you?
Speaker 1: We do, Yeah, I do.
Speaker 4: Both our parents are in Sydney and this is like
Speaker 4: the first grandkid for both sides. Excited, they're pumped, they're
Speaker 4: ready to rock and roll. My mom's just retired, so
Speaker 4: I'm like, mommy need a hobby that's not your hobby.
Speaker 1: Or maybe it is on that.
Speaker 3: What sort of mum do you reckon? You'll be cool mom,
Speaker 3: A strict mom. Cool.
Speaker 4: I think I'll be cool but strict.
Speaker 2: They can come to you for advice and talk to you,
Speaker 2: but you're going to but.
Speaker 4: Like no bs as well, Like would you ground them? Absolutely?
Speaker 4: Like I reckon, I'll be pretty strict. But like if
Speaker 4: you like work hard, play hard, like have fun and
Speaker 4: live your life, but don't be an asshole like my
Speaker 4: parents with me were very relaxed, and because of that,
Speaker 4: I think I took advantage of the system quite naughty. Yeah,
Speaker 4: talk a while. So I think I would like to
Speaker 4: be like strict but fair, but then also fun and
Speaker 4: show them like, you know, if you're a good person,
Speaker 4: you can have fun. Don't be an asshole. Like we're
Speaker 4: talking about it the other night, like what are we
Speaker 4: going to do when our kid comes home from school
Speaker 4: like puffing on a vape And I'm like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 4: that's stressful. I don't know, but like I would be,
Speaker 4: I'd be gnally about that kind of stuff.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I crack it at that. Yeah, but that's.
Speaker 4: Going to happen, and probably like when they're five years
Speaker 4: old these days, realistically.
Speaker 2: Help go with that sort of stuff like that that
Speaker 2: you've clearly done in your life and then you see them, Well,
Speaker 2: I think you have.
Speaker 4: To be honest and you have to explain, like, you know,
Speaker 4: you can try alcohol and drugs and vapes and things
Speaker 4: like that when you're eighteen or like around that age,
Speaker 4: I suppose, but like you have to understand that they
Speaker 4: are bad for you and there are a lot of
Speaker 4: consequences that come with it. So I think maybe just
Speaker 4: trying to have adult conversations with them that could be
Speaker 4: totally wrong because they're kids and their brain. Sorry, guys,
Speaker 4: what did you mean for lunch? But yeah, like, once again,
Speaker 4: we don't have really any kids in our lives, so
Speaker 4: we're like the test dummies for all our friends on
Speaker 4: how these conversations are going to go. Yeah, so I
Speaker 4: don't know, so exciting, nerve wracking, but exciting.
Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, how are you feeling about giving birth?
Speaker 4: I'm pumped?
Speaker 1: Are you stuff it? I see?
Speaker 4: I love this?
Speaker 3: Are you going.
Speaker 1: Like the Caesar? Neppi dural mat an Effi dural.
Speaker 3: I don't know anything about that. I'm not.
Speaker 4: I'm not. Yeah, I think it's actually cute that you
Speaker 4: said Neppi dural.
Speaker 3: I don't know anything about this sort of stuff.
Speaker 4: You know what, We did birth Class number two last night,
Speaker 4: and we learned all about the empie durals, and I
Speaker 4: was like pretty keen to like, well, I actually still
Speaker 4: am keen for all pain relief. You know, let's get
Speaker 4: over the flow, absolutely stick it straight to see what
Speaker 4: we need. But there are like, once it's in, you
Speaker 4: can't really move, you're.
Speaker 2: On the bed, but vice versa isn't there a point
Speaker 2: where it goes and you can't get it put in.
Speaker 3: You go past yeah, yeah, no return return.
Speaker 4: There is a point of no return, which I'd be
Speaker 4: stoked to hit the point of no return because then
Speaker 4: it's just up top. You've just got to get in
Speaker 4: the game and go for the a few more hours.
Speaker 4: But I've been learning a lot in this birth course
Speaker 4: and it's definitely freaky, but like it's made me super excited.
Speaker 1: What's something interesting that you've learned?
Speaker 4: Okay, So in the movies, when a woman is you know,
Speaker 4: about to push the baby out, and you know, the
Speaker 4: partner's there and everyone's like push and she's like oh,
Speaker 4: and then like the baby comes out.
Speaker 3: Yea.
Speaker 4: So I thought, like the push phase, let's call it
Speaker 4: was like ten minutes or fifteen minutes.
Speaker 3: Even I knew that that's we thought that. No, I
Speaker 3: didn't know it's a lot longer than that. I even
Speaker 3: knew that.
Speaker 4: It's like like average two hours.
Speaker 1: Of course, yeah, I've it was like three minutes or something.
Speaker 4: I thought, yeah, maybe fifteen, maybe thirty.
Speaker 3: Ma what was the thing?
Speaker 1: I thought, No more than ten.
Speaker 2: Contractions keep happening. That goes for ages, and that's where
Speaker 2: you push.
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, but the contractions might happen for twenty four hours.
Speaker 4: I'm talking about right at the end, when you're or
Speaker 4: when the head stops, when the head's like you can.
Speaker 1: See the head, so you're crown You're crowning for two
Speaker 1: hours potentially, so they can see when you're ten centimeters dilated,
Speaker 1: you can see the baby's head.
Speaker 3: That's huge.
Speaker 4: That's when the push phase happens. I know, the terrify aerrafie.
Speaker 4: Let's not remind you Scott was there last night in
Speaker 4: the hospital course like, oh, looking really defeated. But yeah,
Speaker 4: so when they can they can see the baby's head,
Speaker 4: and it can be like average two hours to get
Speaker 4: the babe out. That's why I said.
Speaker 3: Two hours, ten centimeters dialate going like.
Speaker 4: A mill forward, a meal back, millfold of meal back,
Speaker 4: mill forward, mill back. That is terrifying.
Speaker 3: Ship a lot of respect.
Speaker 1: Yeah, women are incredible.
Speaker 4: Women are really we are.
Speaker 3: I don't know how i'd go with you in.
Speaker 4: That, which I haven't been China. I was, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: I would just yeah, it's pretty overwhelming. But I think,
Speaker 4: like anything in life, like if I went in having
Speaker 4: a shitty attitude or being really scared, I don't think
Speaker 4: that would help. So I think just educating myself, getting prepared.
Speaker 4: I've got an amazing obstetrician who I love and trust.
Speaker 4: She's awesome, So hoping that we can just you know,
Speaker 4: give it a go, and like at the end of
Speaker 4: the day, if I have to have a Caesar or
Speaker 4: whatever happens, like just kind of the goal is to
Speaker 4: get me and the baby out healthily.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4: That's it. To not have like too many hang ups
Speaker 4: about like the process or the plan.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I know a lot of people that I've in my
Speaker 2: life around me that they had a plan and completely
Speaker 2: thrown out the window that's coming. Yeah, this all natural one,
Speaker 2: and then as they went into labor, they're like, that's
Speaker 2: not going to happen.
Speaker 4: Well, Like, also, you could get to forty weeks and
Speaker 4: the baby could be like flipped around and you could
Speaker 4: have to just have a caesar, or you could go
Speaker 4: into labor and then the baby could get distressed. And
Speaker 4: I did learn this last night as well. Let's say
Speaker 4: you're laboring in like the ward and the baby's heart
Speaker 4: rate let's say, is going crazy, like not good. They
Speaker 4: can have that baby out in fifteen minutes, So they
Speaker 4: take you down to the surgery rooms. Wow, do all
Speaker 4: the prep and whatever. Cut babies out fifteen minutes. That's crazy,
Speaker 4: Like that's insane. That isn't like that's massive surgery. And
Speaker 4: usually they would take an hour or two to prep
Speaker 4: at least, and they're like, yep, naps.
Speaker 1: See are ready to go, ye out, so yank it out.
Speaker 4: Like that can happen as well, you know. Literally, Yeah,
Speaker 4: saw some photos and videos of last night of emergency emergency.
Speaker 4: It wasn't like an emergency, but it was a C section,
Speaker 4: and like it's pretty hectic surgery. Like I think a
Speaker 4: lot of people think that it's the chill road because.
Speaker 3: You're awake, aren't. Well, now, people, you're awake when you're done.
Speaker 1: Yeah most of the time.
Speaker 4: Yeah, unless there's like a reason why you couldn't be awake,
Speaker 4: but yeah, you are awake.
Speaker 1: Have you seen the show One Born Every Minute?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: But I've been told that people watch that, and some
Speaker 4: people said, don't watch that, So I think I'm not
Speaker 4: gonna watch.
Speaker 1: It's literally about like every episode they have maybe like
Speaker 1: three or four people giving birth and they all like
Speaker 1: obviously have their own journey through it, and you see
Speaker 1: like the couple and like they're embracing, and then some
Speaker 1: people are doing it single and like you know, they
Speaker 1: all have these different experiences, and I just find it fascinating. Yeah,
Speaker 1: probably when I'm about to your birth. Maybe not, maybe not,
Speaker 1: But I mean also like super educational, I feel because
Speaker 1: you just I mean, I didn't learn that the baby's
Speaker 1: crowning for two hours. That's new information.
Speaker 4: But well, I had to ask all of myself in
Speaker 4: this class.
Speaker 1: Dr Matdover here.
Speaker 3: You're talking about your husband. He looked defeated. How's he
Speaker 3: going to? I reckon, he'll go in the.
Speaker 4: Room the birthing. Sweet. The reason why he was looking
Speaker 4: defeated last night is he's really like a gaggy, queasy
Speaker 4: type of guy. So even last night, just like talking
Speaker 4: about the epidural and the cesarean and stuff, he was
Speaker 4: feeling a bit shit. So he's going to be either
Speaker 4: passed out on the floor or hooked up to the
Speaker 4: nitrous oxide, just like getting high. But look, it'll be
Speaker 4: interesting to see how he goes. I don't know. I
Speaker 4: think he probably doesn't know either. I reckon, I have
Speaker 4: faith that he'll be really awesome and really supportive when
Speaker 4: it comes to it. But I do think something that
Speaker 4: they've like really persisted on saying time and time again
Speaker 4: in the course is that it's actually really tough for
Speaker 4: the partners because the woman goes into like primal mode,
Speaker 4: let's just say, and it's just doing a thing, and
Speaker 4: the guy or the girl or the partner is just
Speaker 4: seeing their wife or partner just like in this extreme
Speaker 4: discomfort slash pain slash. I don't know, she might be
Speaker 4: like grunting or screaming or totally silent or whatever, and
Speaker 4: they're like, what do we do? So I think it
Speaker 4: can be really hard on the partner, And they've really
Speaker 4: said that a few times, like partners, get yourself ready.
Speaker 1: To Yeah, you need to mentally prepare. How long have
Speaker 1: you and your husband Scott been together for?
Speaker 4: It'll be seven years this year.
Speaker 1: Wow, I know, how did you meet?
Speaker 4: So we actually met at schoolies or bose seventeen, but
Speaker 4: I don't remember that much like an our encounter.
Speaker 2: We sat obviously each other on the booth, don't remember.
Speaker 2: I don't remember much anyway, Remember I did know if
Speaker 2: it was completely you. So you look familiar there about Scott,
Speaker 2: less about us.
Speaker 3: This is a romance.
Speaker 4: So we met at schoolies. He was actually staying in
Speaker 4: the apartment next door to me. My friend was looking
Speaker 4: up with his friend and I couldn't find her. So
Speaker 4: I apparently went into their room and I was like, hey,
Speaker 4: I'm looking for my friend. Where is he? Like where
Speaker 4: is she? And he was like, oh, get out, no
Speaker 4: girls allowed or some shit.
Speaker 1: You got to said that to you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And my cousin was like his best bestie, so
Speaker 4: he knew me as like Mitch's cousin, right, so he
Speaker 4: was like, get out, she's not in here, like, you know,
Speaker 4: fuck off, Just trying to be a good friend. But okay,
Speaker 4: I don't remember that. That's Scott's story, right, But then
Speaker 4: we kind of rekindled and re met a couple of
Speaker 4: years later. So when I was what I must have
Speaker 4: been twenty four, and him and my cousin moved into
Speaker 4: like a sharehouse together in Darling Hurt and obviously I
Speaker 4: had like the hookups for the clubs and the free
Speaker 4: drinks and things like that, so they started coming out
Speaker 4: clubbing heaps with all their guy friends. And I think
Speaker 4: it was probably really bad timing for Scott because he
Speaker 4: just like entered the share house like party time and
Speaker 4: then we met and then it was like his friend.
Speaker 1: But really the fun had just begun.
Speaker 4: It had in a different way. Exactly does Scott travel
Speaker 4: with you when you DJ or is he very much? Never?
Speaker 1: Never?
Speaker 4: The first year, you know, when you're like in that
Speaker 4: love bubble. Yeah, he came to like every gig and
Speaker 4: then it was almost like to the day where he
Speaker 4: was like, all right, I've got this girl, We're awesome.
Speaker 4: I'm never coming to.
Speaker 2: A gig that.
Speaker 4: I have to do this. I am done.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 4: It's actually not very fun like coming as a plus
Speaker 4: one because I get on a plane and then I
Speaker 4: go have some food and then I have a sleep
Speaker 4: and then I wake up at like, let's say midnight.
Speaker 4: And I'm fine to wake up at midnight because I've
Speaker 4: been doing it for years. But like when Scott would
Speaker 4: wake up, he'd be like shivering and feeling sick. You know,
Speaker 4: when you're being pulled out of sleep.
Speaker 1: It's awful. I hate that feelings. Yeah, going to Europe
Speaker 1: House'll never forget it. I was asleep for like an
Speaker 1: hour and I woke.
Speaker 3: Up and I was like sleep.
Speaker 4: Yeah. So he would like be in that stage and
Speaker 4: have to go to the club and then drink vodka
Speaker 4: with like a random promoter who didn't want to talk
Speaker 4: about him, like wanted to talk about me, and there
Speaker 4: I'm working, so I'm not talking to him, and like
Speaker 4: he said this funny story once. This is toward the
Speaker 4: end of the first year. He was like, some guy
Speaker 4: congratulated me for having a job today, and I was like,
Speaker 4: what do you mean? And he goes, okay, So Scott,
Speaker 4: what do you do? And he's in construction. He sells
Speaker 4: like aggregate and gravel and things like that, and the
Speaker 4: guy goes, oh, okay, well, at least you've got a job.
Speaker 4: Scott runs a very successful business. And he so offended
Speaker 4: that he didn't want to, like he couldn't say anything else.
Speaker 3: Like what a weird thing to say that is, Like he.
Speaker 4: Obviously thought, like, oh, you know, I'm a promoter in
Speaker 4: a club and your girlfriend's DJ and you sell gravel. Good. Yeah,
Speaker 4: like you know we're in a club. This is so cool.
Speaker 3: I reckon that promoter right now. It's probably.
Speaker 4: Probably, yeah working for your husband, yeah, probably, So yeah,
Speaker 4: he doesn't come anymore, which that I'm fine with that,
Speaker 4: Like I don't tag along to his work, so that's okay.
Speaker 1: But maybe when Minnie Disco. Yeah, I think so might
Speaker 1: make a return.
Speaker 4: You'll have to, I think so. Yeah, it could be fun.
Speaker 4: I'd like to see him with like the baby on
Speaker 4: like the front pack carriers headphones on the baby, just
Speaker 4: like I love.
Speaker 1: I went to Kings of Leon a few months back
Speaker 1: and there was a baby there and they had like
Speaker 1: the baby headphones, and baby headphones are so cute, like
Speaker 1: literally the smallest baby must have only been like two
Speaker 1: months old.
Speaker 4: Really yeah, and like the parents took it to the show.
Speaker 1: The mom was just like and I was.
Speaker 3: Like, I love that.
Speaker 4: Love seeing goals. Yeah, goal, Yeah, I need to get
Speaker 4: my JBL family to like make some good little headphones. Yes,
Speaker 4: if it's a girl, you'll definitely get them jazzled with
Speaker 4: like diamonds and things on them ones.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that would be so cute, so cute, Like that's
Speaker 1: an Instagram post right, absolutely viral Instagram post a hundred.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I don't know, I like, can a boy wear jazzled headphones?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Probably? You know what, why not he'll look back and
Speaker 4: be like, Mum, this is just so embarrassing.
Speaker 3: Men can wear whatever they want.
Speaker 1: So cool, they can.
Speaker 3: What they want.
Speaker 4: Scott has a different word about that. Probably he'd be like, no,
Speaker 4: make them black and plain even for a girl needs
Speaker 4: to be cool.
Speaker 3: But he not like your jibs.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah what.
Speaker 1: Accessory.
Speaker 4: Yeah, look, he just isn't about them because he thinks
Speaker 4: I stole the idea from it. That's right, Yeah, that's right, publoke.
Speaker 1: When did you know that Scott was one?
Speaker 4: I think I knew. I really like loved him very quickly. Yeah,
Speaker 4: like I'm talking maybe like six weeks. It's so cute,
Speaker 4: like so fast?
Speaker 3: Did you say it at six weeks?
Speaker 4: No? I waited till like four months and said it
Speaker 4: at four months, and he was going to wait till
Speaker 4: twelve months to say it.
Speaker 3: That no, and he was a very long time.
Speaker 4: He was cut that I said it first because he
Speaker 4: wanted to say it first, and I'm like, well, bitch,
Speaker 4: if you're gonna wait twelve months, then I'm gonna say it.
Speaker 2: Like.
Speaker 4: So, I knew pretty quickly, and we went on like
Speaker 4: maybe three or four dates, and then I went overseas
Speaker 4: for form once for work. Wow, So he came over
Speaker 4: twice to visit me, and then like kind of when
Speaker 4: he left that first time, I was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 4: this is really a thing. And I think when you
Speaker 4: are not physically together in that first period and you're
Speaker 4: forced to talk and communicate as opposed to like, let's
Speaker 4: be real, just like have sex and drink and party.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, constantly hang out with each other in that
Speaker 2: honeymoon stage.
Speaker 4: Yes, exactly. So like the fact that we couldn't do
Speaker 4: that and we really had to talk, I think that
Speaker 4: made a big difference. And then I reckon twelve months
Speaker 4: in was you know, after you've had like the honeymoon
Speaker 4: stages kind of fading and you get into your routine.
Speaker 4: That's when I thought, oh, yeah, like this could definitely
Speaker 4: be a forever thing.
Speaker 3: How did he propose to you?
Speaker 4: It was very romantic. I saw it on Instagram, so
Speaker 4: he nailed it. Oh my gosh. I had no idea
Speaker 4: as well, Like no idea. So we were going on
Speaker 4: like a camping fall drive trip in wa and yeah,
Speaker 4: and we pulled up on a beach in like the
Speaker 4: Pitch Black after like a massive day of travel like
Speaker 4: flying a Perth and then doing like eight hours drive
Speaker 4: down to Esperance, and I had no idea. We woke
Speaker 4: up the next morning, he woke me up at like
Speaker 4: five am.
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, the fuck reason for this?
Speaker 4: And he's like yeah, literally, I was like what. He's like,
Speaker 4: there's a beautiful sunrise. Let's get a drone shot. I'm like,
Speaker 4: we're here for two weeks. Yeah, we've got two weeks.
Speaker 4: And he's like, come on, babe, it's real pretty. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 4: it was very beautiful, like marshmallow sky. Yeah, and he's
Speaker 4: down there. It's also freezing because it's like the South
Speaker 4: of Australia like in March, and he's like, come down,
Speaker 4: come down, put on a cute outfit. Let's like, you know,
Speaker 4: run around the beach together. Surely you knew, and he said,
Speaker 4: put on a cute outfit. Well, no, we do this
Speaker 4: stuff all the time. But he like takes lots of
Speaker 4: my Instagram content for me, so and you know what,
Speaker 4: he's very good at it. So I thought the whole time,
Speaker 4: I was thinking, at least I'm going to get some
Speaker 4: good content. Anyway. I put on this like really colorful
Speaker 4: srong and like kind of like top and he's like, babe,
Speaker 4: like marshmallow skies and white beaches, like don't you have
Speaker 4: like a white cozie or something. I was like, oh yeah,
Speaker 4: but like since when you're a director of what I wear.
Speaker 4: But I was so pissed at this point because I
Speaker 4: was freezing, needed to pee, and he was like, come on,
Speaker 4: we've got to get this shot before like the light
Speaker 4: gets too bright. Okay, so get on my white bikini
Speaker 4: and go down to the beach. And I'm standing there
Speaker 4: and you can see me in like the bits that
Speaker 4: we haven't shared on Instagram. I'm staring up at this drone,
Speaker 4: like glaring at It's funny. We should do a blue fuff.
Speaker 4: Maybe we can do it next here staring up this drone,
Speaker 4: just thinking, are you fucking serious?
Speaker 3: Is he flying the drone?
Speaker 4: He's flying the drone back at the car because he's
Speaker 4: gonna put it on I didn't know this. Oh no,
Speaker 4: actually I did know this. He's going to put it
Speaker 4: on remote circle mode and then he's going to come
Speaker 4: and join me in the in the video.
Speaker 3: How is he going to get it?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, So he'd kind of been practicing that in
Speaker 4: the lead up, like just practicing these drone shots or
Speaker 4: whatever loves the drone. So I'm literally standing there thinking
Speaker 4: my feet and num. I need to peace so badly.
Speaker 4: I didn't sleep very well. Welcome to holidays with Scott
Speaker 4: so fun. And then he goes to me, Tara, turn
Speaker 4: around and act like you're having a good time, and
Speaker 4: I'm like, okay, and you see like showfaces on. I'm like,
Speaker 4: I'm being filmed. I can do this. We're going to
Speaker 4: get an epic cute shot to post on the first
Speaker 4: day of our holidays. And so then he's like, all right,
Speaker 4: walk to all the water, act like you're having fun.
Speaker 4: I'm like, whow having fun? Thinking my feet and numb sucks.
Speaker 4: And then he goes he said turn around, and then
Speaker 4: he's on one knee and he said, will you marry me?
Speaker 4: And I was just like, I still am shocked thinking
Speaker 4: about it now, Like it was amazing. And then he
Speaker 4: opened the box and like had my dream ring in
Speaker 4: the box, which We'd had some discussions about this before,
Speaker 4: and I really didn't think he knew what I wanted,
Speaker 4: and so we've had a few arguments and I'd had
Speaker 4: a few breakdowns about it absolutely, and yeah, then we
Speaker 4: just got drunk and drank champagne and swam all day
Speaker 4: and yeah, it was amazing.
Speaker 3: It was very cute.
Speaker 4: I know, he nailed it, and he also got the
Speaker 4: perfect Instagram post. So so that's like a nailing all round.
Speaker 1: He's just really like, yeap, hit that one on the head,
Speaker 1: you know what.
Speaker 4: He Yeah, the expectation was high, but he like totally
Speaker 4: smashed it out of the park because doing it by
Speaker 4: yourself on holidays while you're four wheel driving in a
Speaker 4: different state, and then also with the emotional like him
Speaker 4: being nervous because he was nervous, like it's a lot
Speaker 4: to think about. Yeah, yeah, so yeah he really he
Speaker 4: did so well.
Speaker 1: And then you guys got married, how recently twelve months ago,
Speaker 1: like exactly, wow, happy one year.
Speaker 4: I had a really unromantic anniversary. I was so tired
Speaker 4: because I worked the night before and then had Harry
Speaker 4: Styles the night before that. We love Harry Style absolutely absolutely,
Speaker 4: and so two nights out for a prego ladies like
Speaker 4: a lot. So it was pretty chill one year anniversary.
Speaker 4: But the wedding was amazing. It was so good. It
Speaker 4: looks beautiful. Thank you the rain.
Speaker 2: Rain.
Speaker 4: That's where Bakley were talking about this. It was the
Speaker 4: wettest week I'm pretty sure on record, like ever in
Speaker 4: March or even maybe ever in Sydney. I've never seen
Speaker 4: it that wet before. We were having like between sixty
Speaker 4: and one hundred meals of rain a day wow in
Speaker 4: like the two weeks leading up to the wedding. And
Speaker 4: it was at parents, Scott's parents property. So we're gonna
Speaker 4: have this beautiful garden wedding, dancing under like a canopy
Speaker 4: of like a million fairy lights, so beautiful, amazing, get
Speaker 4: married down by the lake in the sunshine. None of
Speaker 4: that happened because none of it. No, we had to
Speaker 4: like we got married on the driveway because the ground
Speaker 4: you'd stand on it and you'd sink that far because
Speaker 4: it was so wet. Nah. And it was a black
Speaker 4: tie wedding as well, so all our guests were like
Speaker 4: dressing up. So yeah, we got married on the driveway
Speaker 4: and then had both marquees on the driveway. Lucky they've
Speaker 4: got a gorgeous driveway.
Speaker 1: It looks beautiful, like no one would even know that
Speaker 1: that wasn't even a plan. Yeah.
Speaker 4: We had an incredible stylist and she is a hard
Speaker 4: as boss arss bitch and she just like boss these
Speaker 4: marquee people around and pissed everyone around to get it
Speaker 4: looking amazing because she knew for me, like I'm a
Speaker 4: really visual person and like the aesthetic was always something
Speaker 4: that was so important to me for it to feel
Speaker 4: like it flowed and the guest had this beautiful visual
Speaker 4: experience all the day and was.
Speaker 3: Really good for Instagram as well.
Speaker 4: But you know what, even if I wasn't on Instagram,
Speaker 4: I reckon I still would have wanted it to be aesthetic. Aesthetic. Absolutely,
Speaker 4: I've always been that type of like even when I
Speaker 4: was like a little girl, I'd have my room a
Speaker 4: certain way and like have different things set up so
Speaker 4: it was spacious and like color coordinated.
Speaker 2: Alays want the photos look good as well, Like you
Speaker 2: look back on it.
Speaker 4: We look very chiseled in the photos. Stress creates weight loss.
Speaker 4: Not for me, organize a wedding in the rain.
Speaker 2: Maybe, who has anyone anyone listening who wants a wedding planned?
Speaker 3: Come talk to me.
Speaker 4: It has to be your wedding because you have to
Speaker 4: be Yeah. So were you in scott trying then to
Speaker 4: have a baby. No, so we only started We started
Speaker 4: trying a couple months after the wedding. Yeah, I had
Speaker 4: a few overseas trips for work and I didn't want
Speaker 4: to be pregnant for them, just because I don't know.
Speaker 4: You never know how you're going to feel, true, So
Speaker 4: we were very lucky. We actually felt pregnant the first
Speaker 4: month we started trying, but then eight weeks later we
Speaker 4: had a miscarriage.
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry to hear.
Speaker 4: It was pretty shitty, yeah, because it was just so
Speaker 4: unexpected and I'm relatively young and healthy, and I don't know,
Speaker 4: I just didn't know anyone that I had a miscarriage.
Speaker 4: I just hadn't thought about it. So it was a
Speaker 4: real shock to the system when it happened. So then
Speaker 4: we thought, well, we'll just try again next month. Everyone
Speaker 4: said give it a few months, this and that, and
Speaker 4: we just thought, well, fuck it, we'll just try.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And so what happened.
Speaker 4: We felt pregnant literally like straight away again, which is
Speaker 4: very lucky.
Speaker 1: So that's amazing.
Speaker 4: We had like, look, obviously it wasn't completely smooth sailing,
Speaker 4: but we had pretty great luck with it because I
Speaker 4: know people try for such a long time. Yeah, And
Speaker 4: the reason why we kind of decided to start trying
Speaker 4: relatively soon after the wedding is we saw lots of
Speaker 4: people struggling to fell pregnant and we thought, well, we've
Speaker 4: got to start trying at some point, right until you
Speaker 4: start trying, you don't actually know whether it's going to work. Yeah,
Speaker 4: So it's pretty it's pretty gnarly, and yeah, it's pretty.
Speaker 1: It's pretty amazing that people are starting to be a
Speaker 1: bit more open about that because I feel like five
Speaker 1: years ago I just thought like you'd have sex ones
Speaker 1: and get pregnant if.
Speaker 3: You didn't wear a condom.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was lied to. Actually really quite difficult to
Speaker 4: get pregnant. It's a process. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And also the fact that so many people have mischaracters
Speaker 1: like thank you for being open about that, because it
Speaker 1: wasn't really spoken about it a taboo.
Speaker 4: Yeah. And you know what, even after our miscarriage, I've
Speaker 4: been really vocal about it. Not I've been like relatively
Speaker 4: vocal about it online, but like in my real life,
Speaker 4: I've been really vocal about it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: It felt good talking about it, like it felt like
Speaker 4: it helped me get over it. Yeah, And so many
Speaker 4: people would be like I had one, I.
Speaker 3: Had two, I had it's a lot more common.
Speaker 4: Yeah. So they say one in four pregnancies, not one
Speaker 4: in four women, So like one in four times that
Speaker 4: a woman could or would fall pregnant will end up
Speaker 4: in a miscarriage, which is like insane.
Speaker 3: That's it's pretty hot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's high.
Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, So, like there's no surprise that so many
Speaker 4: women around me were like me too, me too, me too,
Speaker 4: And it was nice to and it's still nice to
Speaker 4: connect with people over that experience because yeah, you don't
Speaker 4: really you don't think I'm going to be one of
Speaker 4: the become a statistics Yeah, just wasn't even on my radar.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's probably like knowing that you had a miscarriage
Speaker 1: in some ways probably made other people feel more comfortable
Speaker 1: and like more what's the word, like open.
Speaker 4: Just opening, Yeah, like talk about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like feeling like they're not alone, I guess, And
Speaker 1: I think that is like.
Speaker 4: It doesn't make sense, but there's shame in it for sure,
Speaker 4: Like did I do something wrong? Was there something that
Speaker 4: I could have done differently? And I definitely did feel that,
Speaker 4: which is insane because there shouldn't be any shame because
Speaker 4: it's nothing to do with you. Obviously, something wasn't right
Speaker 4: with the baby and like the baby and my body
Speaker 4: knew that, which is amazing, but like there is still
Speaker 4: a lot of shame in like this happened in my body,
Speaker 4: so it's been good to talk about and like I
Speaker 4: think I want other women to be able to feel
Speaker 4: like they can talk about it so it is less
Speaker 4: to do and they don't feel such a sense of shame. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, if you can talk about it's like helping you recover,
Speaker 2: I guess.
Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, Yeah, it'll be interesting to see, like because
Speaker 4: we did fall pregnant so quickly. Again, I say to Scott,
Speaker 4: like I wonder, I don't reckon, I've dealt with all
Speaker 4: the emotions.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was gonna ask you that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I don't know, it'll probably come up at
Speaker 4: some point I reckon.
Speaker 1: Maybe like post Yeah, yeah, that's part of it.
Speaker 4: Might be a bit.
Speaker 3: We've got to think.
Speaker 2: Now you've got disco disco, that's fine. Yeah, I'm looking
Speaker 2: at the discoball and your shoes like, yeah, you know.
Speaker 4: And like you know, I was worried i'd be really
Speaker 4: anxious this whole pregnancy, but I've been super chilly. I
Speaker 4: haven't even thought about it, just because like I don't know,
Speaker 4: just figure, what's the point in forecasting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's still a trauma that you have to
Speaker 1: deal with and like you know, work your way through sometimes,
Speaker 1: like you know, technique to work through our traumas.
Speaker 4: Yeah, things that happened to us, and there's no like
Speaker 4: linear healing. I don't exactly that also how we go,
Speaker 4: but yeah, it's we're very lucky in regards to you know,
Speaker 4: the whole process of pregnancy and fertility and stuff.
Speaker 1: Derek, thank you so much for coming in. I know
Speaker 1: that we've kept you in a hot bar. Why, I like,
Speaker 1: really thank you for being so open. I know you're pregnant,
Speaker 1: so I'm sorry that was saying, are we gonna like
Speaker 1: induce labor in here?
Speaker 4: So let's just all.
Speaker 2: Touch, keep the cameras rolling. It does happen, I'll document
Speaker 2: it play by play. Wait, you're fifteen minutes that you
Speaker 2: reckon it's going to be.
Speaker 4: No, you've got twenty four hours before fifteen minutes. We'll
Speaker 4: keep you. I must get the content.
Speaker 3: Thank you for luck.
Speaker 1: We will all be keeping our eyes peeled.
Speaker 4: We cannot wait to see baby mini disco disco ball
Speaker 4: whatever we're calling it's fine.
Speaker 3: I can't wait to.
Speaker 2: See the influx of baby content on your Instagram.
Speaker 4: I definitely have I'm definitely probably going to be eating
Speaker 4: my words, which posting hard.
Speaker 2: For it.
Speaker 4: Matt's unfollowing and I was like everything.
Speaker 3: I'm going to be all over that this message is stop.
Speaker 4: Please please stope enough. You promise you wouldn't here. Oh
Speaker 4: thanks for having me saying arahn o, thank you, thank you,